If You Had A Million Dollars In Your Pocket But Didn’t Know It? The Millionaire Mindset You Need.

our thoughts are like magnets

A million dollars. I will get to that. But first:

You may notice reoccurring themes as you read these blog posts. That is intentional. The reason for this is that it is through repeated exposure concepts can begin to sink in. Advertisers know that most people do not act because of one ad or one info-mercial but that it takes numerous times before a person becomes ‘brand’ aware or picks up the phone and dials in. It is cited that callers required a minimum of 7 viewings before most people will phone in for the product. So being exposed to an ad, a concept or a principle one time is not enough for most people to understand it and act on it. Advertisers are great at using. The military uses this to great effect too – really great effect.

When you read a self help book, or these blogs, you are best served when you go back and re-read the material over and over again a number of times through the years. This is because you discover more than you did on the first reading. Students of mine go back again and again and listen to my audio programs and discover so much more than they realized when they attended the live program or first purchased the audio version. They call and write me telling how amazed they are that they didn’t hear it while there. They are excited and grateful they now did because they reviewed the material.

The reason you learn and understand more is that you pay attention differently. You have changed during the time you were first exposed to the material and the next time you visited it. You notice things you hadn’t previously and you begin to make sense of concepts that may also previously escaped you. You make new connections with the material.

I used to think that this was ‘a crock’ until I started doing it. Then I was stunned and amazed at all I had missed. I was delighted and  absolutely thrilled to begin to make sense of things in practical ways, that allowed me to apply what I was beginning to understand, that I had not been able to previously. Repeated exposure makes an incredible difference.

Another reason why I revisit the themes and slowly move on introducing new concepts is to allow the concepts to remain in the forefront and the background without adding too much information or too many new ideas all at once. It is important for some ideas to be savored not sampled. So I repeat, some times directly and sometimes indirectly, the concepts and principles and information.

habit creation

Most adults read and learn about things that they are interested in or want to do and accomplish. Many read self-help books and books on success. The point I am making about learning and repetition is true for any learning you wish to undertake. It is critical for those who want to be successful, live happy lives, make more money, have the career that they wish, the home they desire or the mate of their dreams. Whether you want to travel or stay at home, have children or enter a new line of work it is important, when you want to make positive changes in and for yourself, that you understand the process so you can more easily move ahead. When you want to make advancements knowing how makes it that much easier.

If you want to create a wonderful present and future and make your dreams come true all of this applies to you. It applies to you even if you are only interested in learning how to juggle or make a smaller change for yourself.

It is important to understand this next concept. There is a structure that good speakers utilize to deliver good, memorable speeches. This structure in speech giving is ‘tell them what you are going to tell them, tell them, and then tell them again what you told them.

‘Tell them (audience) what you are going to tell them’ pre-exposes the human brain to the concepts and alerts them to what is coming. Then, ‘tell them’ what you want them to know. Then ‘tell them what you told them’ reinforces all that you have told them and reminds them that you delivered what you said you were. It book ends the learning.

For example, (brief possible statements the speaker might say – obviously the speech is more than these brief example phrases. Each phase is more elaborate).

Phase 1: ‘I will tell you these three things, we are going to cover… A, B and C’.

Phase 2: ‘A is apples and apples do… or are…, B is barley and barley does… or is… and C is corn and corn does… or is…. Together apples, barely and corn …’

Phase 3: ‘Now you will remember this morning apples are… barley is… and corn was…. This is why ABC are important, and what you needed to know to be able to do with these in order to make… something better. Now, your future is different because of … and you will always remember apples, barely and corn. Thank you!’

OKAY that is only a very brief skeletal example of what could be said. The reason why speakers utilize this approach is that by providing information in this manner you help the listener learn it, and retain it. Is one time enough for most things? No, repetition is necessary. You provide the information and by repeating it in different ways (during the different phases) you reinforce it. Your car wouldn’t travel very far if the piston only pumped once. Reinforcement through repetition is necessary.

thoughts cycle to thoughts

You have to repeatedly exercise to get results. Once, or a few times is not enough to grow your muscles, stimulate the metabolism and have your body take the shape you want.

Neither is reading an important article or book, listening to learning audios and watching DVD’s or attending a live program.

The first time exposure is like the snowflake on the tip of the top of Mount Everest. It is the tiniest amount, the beginning of the journey. It is a very important first step, a critical step. It is a very tiny necessary one.

The moment you decide to learn to do anything is a great moment for you. It is the moment you are willing to allow yourself to be exposed to things you are not familiar with. Then hopefully you have enough interest to want to continue. After the first exposure you may or may not continue on or it may be sometime before you ever venture this way again.

Whether you do or not depends on numerous factors.

Some of these include what was the experience like, did you enjoy it or not? Was it engaging did it hook you? Did you see your need or reasons to continue? How was the instruction, good, bad, did you like the person or not? Were you there because you actually wanted to be there or needed to be there? How important is the material to you and your circumstances? Did some one make you go? There are many reasons why people do and don’t do things for themselves.

Some of the reasons may be there own or they place it others or the material. They may not like the instructor or the design of the manual. The temperature of the room wasn’t right. They may cite any number of reasons for or against.

The point is some people continue and some don’t. Educators can help expose people to new information and help them continue along but it is not only the educator’s responsibility. The responsibility is on the learner and the person who wants to make the changes. Keep in mind, “You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink’.

An educator could do everything absolutely right and there will still be those who, for whatever reason, choose not to learn from that person. That is okay and the educator shouldn’t be disappointed. Everyone and everything in it’s own time. Not everyone has the same teacher. ‘When the student is ready the teacher appears’. So different people will learn from others.

‘You cannot add anything to an already filled cup’ is a Zen principle and is very true. If someone thinks they know it all or that nothing is relevant or applies to them then you can present information all you want but they will not see it, hear it or do anything with it. Their mind is full, they have their opinions, they aren’t interested in learning. They believe they already know it. Perhaps, they want to demonstrate that they already know something. Anything is possible. Until one is ready to learn no conscious learning occurs. Learning follows genuine curiosity because curiosity opens the door to that possibility.

what you think about you bring about

I am a firm believer that no one actually teaches any one anything. One can present, one can order and structure the material and the experience so the student can best assimilate it. One can provide experiences, challenges and information so that the learner has the best possible opportunity to acquire the necessary learnings but one can not force a person to learn, use and remember if they don’t want to. Learning is what we do as individuals.

You may be taught poorly or well, but it is also true you may learn poorly or well. Learning is up to the individual and not up to the instructor. The instructor responsibility begins with being the best instructor and providing the best learning environment and experience they are able to, and sticking with the learner for as long as the learner allows them to. Learning the material is up to the learner.

When I say someone may be a poor learner I am not speaking of ‘learning disabilities’ (another topic for another time and place). We all learn. Most of us learn what we want to. A child may learn to do a complicated video games because the child enjoys it but suck at history because the child doesn’t care, the instructor is not to the child’s liking, history ‘is boring’ or because the child doesn’t understand the reason ‘why we must learn history’. Nor am I addressing conditions when people are forced to learn though it is true the learner learns the forced lessons. Nor, am I address natural environmental learning or training as in learning that certain foods I ate don’t agree with me or that fire is hot.

We are ALL natural learners barring neurological and physical impairment. We can learn anything. The humans species demonstrates time and time again, anecdotally that we can learn to do anything and to like anything. We do and enjoy some of the most bizarre things. We are natural learners but our experience in our educational facilities with mandated federal and state programs favoring global test results and percentages over actual learning and skill acquisition are less than satisfactory. That is sad. Our educational system emphasizes the wrong things memorization over ability. Socialization over personal betterment. Test results over actual results.

emerson quote we are all inventors

Well on to actual learning and acquisition.

Many people know about the following phases of behavioral acquisition: Unconscious Incompetence to Unconscious Competence. I will briefly cover these for those who don’t or as a refresher.

We begin with Unconscious Incompetence (UI) which means we do not know what we do not know. Prior to being exposed to a bicycle we didn’t know they existed nor did we know we could or couldn’t ride one. We were incompetent at the task, at knowing about it and unconscious of all of it.

Conscious Incompetence is when we realize we aren’t able to do it. We look at someone riding and we know we can’t. We hop on a bike and fall over. We haven’t learned the skills to ride it yet and we know we are not good at it. We can not successfully ride the bike.

Conscious Competence is the phase of learning where we attempt to co-ordinate all that we must to to successfully complete the task. We are aware that it is difficult and we usually talk our way through it. We perform in stilted or labored fashion as we assimilate the physical and mental abilities necessary to successfully perform the task. Another way to think about it – is the training wheels phase. We can do it but not reliably well but we are on the bike.

Unconscious Competence means we have the skill set and are able to do it without walking or talking ourselves through it. We get on a bike and ride to someones’ house without thinking about the process of riding. We no longer have to monitor it and so we don’t. We ride unconsciously while our mind attends to other things, the beauty of the day, the grocery list we need to remember etc. Riding the bike has become a reliable skill and we can do other things while riding. All of the behaviors and mindset necessary to ride have become reliable and a habit.

we are what we repeatedly do

Another example is habit formation. For those who have smoked. Many did not like the first experience of smoking. It was unpleasant and they coughed or gagged their way through it. They kept doing it, for whatever reason, it was cool, you know whatever reason there was. At some point it became a habit. It was not pleasant at first, one had to get through it, talk themselves through it, but then one day after enough repetition and time had past it became a habit. Most habits are acquired in similar fashion. You do it until it becomes a habit until it is reliable. Once reliable —

From this place we may pursue mastery of the skill set. Back to the bike example. We are now able to begin to go through the process again (somewhat modified) as we add in other skills and behaviors to enhance our abilities. We can become a stunt bike rider for example. Each new skill requires the process. While on the road to mastery it is not one steep curve. We progress toward mastery hitting plateaus where our skills seem to level out or even become less reliable for a time period.

This is an important learning time that if we embrace and accept we will go through much more swiftly. We hit plateaus because the unconscious mind takes some time to assemble and incorporate the new learnings and behaviors. While this occurs it sort of temporarily puts some of our abilities on hold. This is where we may clutch or be uncoordinated for a time being, while the unconscious puts it all together. Soon we may proceed again. It is the basis of making the learning and behaviors reliable skills. This too is a life long process. It never occurs once and is done. As long as we endeavor to be better or the best we will engage these processes.

Flow, or the concept of being in the zone is that moment when everything comes together in just the right fashion and you find yourself performing a task effortlessly. Everything is just right and you may surprise yourself with how well it worked and how well you feel about it. It occurs without thought, the unconscious takes over and voila’. Some people become junkies for these moments and it is possible to live life more in the zone or in flow when one learns how.

Obviously, there is so much more that could be discussed. The important points frankly are, learning is solely in the hands of the learner. This is why attitude is so important. The better the attitude one has when learning anything new or practicing a skill, or studying material the easier it is to progress and gain benefit. A key component is learning HOW TO get out of one’s own way and learn more easily, efficiently and swiftly.

repetition of thought Napoleon Hill

Curiosity, enthusiasm, energy, confidence that you can learn it, that you are apt and able to acquire it (not that you are already good at it) are desirable. The ability to remain open and willing. One of the disadvantages about book learning is that people are exposed mentally to concepts without getting actual experience. They see it in their mind, they are pre-exposed but they haven’t actually done it yet. Reading a book about bike riding is very different than actually riding a bike.

Still, when it comes to reading an important self-help book etc you should re-read it many times. If it is being doing a hands on seminar or learning a skill like juggling then reading a book has more value after the life experience. There is a ‘best’ time to read when it comes to learning things. Because we are people, thought, we read whenever we do. That is just how life is and we come to it when we come to it. So….

Realize that you can enhance your knowledge and abilities with supplemental reading and listening and by doing. Revisiting and correct repetition is always valuable. I say correct repetition because one can practice the wrong things, or the right things the wrong way.

If a person reads a book prior attending a seminar on how to ride a bike, chances are, as the instructor brings up points the novice bike rider book reader may have the tendency to think, ‘yep, I know that already’. Why do they think this? Because they read about it. Can they ride the bike yet? Nope, but they know ALL ABOUT bike riding.

This is a form of closure in the brain. It isn’t the curiosity and wonder of a child who is wide eyed and thinks ‘wow this is marvelous, I want to be able to do that’. The two attitudes are very different, significantly different and get different results for the people who hold them. Being open is an incredible place to be when learning and when being with a ‘teacher’. If when someone says something, you agree or disagree with it first thing, chances are you are not open. You have judged immediately based on what YOU know. It hasn’t even sunk in yet.

This is why mystics and gurus have such a tough time with devotees. Okay, I wrote that tongue in cheek, but it is also true. A learner filled with their own knowledge is difficult to overcome. This is why it is never about teaching but about learning. Yes, if you are a teacher you have a responsibility and should strive to be the best, but the same is true when you are a learner.

As I have pointed out in my blog posts here we frequently misidentify the source of our difficulties. We put responsibility outside ourselves on others, circumstances and events. We blame the poor or the rich, the government or lack of it, our spouse, significant other, children, parents, bosses, co-workers or friends, even strangers for our feelings, talents, abilities, problems. We put the cause of everything on everything outside us and never where it usually belongs which is squarely on our own shoulders. The buck always stops elsewhere. That is one of the reasons why we have difficulties.

i never lose I win or I learn

We are not broken, we are not psychologically impaired, (except in truly rare cases, although the APA, and the AMA would like us to believe we need their help MORE than we actually do require – but this is another whole discussion for another time and place). We are resourceful people with all sorts of discovered and undiscovered talents and abilities who probably for the most part have not considered ourselves as such. Learn to look inside and find your hidden treasures!

If you had a million dollars in your own pocket and didn’t know it you might still live as a pauper.

That is how most of us go through life. Because we put the blame for the good and the bad outside of ourselves we never get to discover how truly remarkable and beyond capable we are to make a change for ourselves. We are the creators and the transformer of our lives but we don’t know it so we live from what others have dictated. We live up to or below the expectations of others without realizing that it is ourselves who need to set the path and make good things happen.

We live as victims and survivors. A survivor is someone who made it through a tremendously difficult time period whatever that may have been. OKAY it is past now you have survived move on. I hate to be harsh or sound cruel but to call yourself a survivor is like moving to a new home but carrying around all your belongs on your back all your days. Imagine the weight that would be if you bagged up all your furniture and everything and had to take it with you where ever you go. Stop it. You survived that means you made it through it.

NOW live as a victor because you made it through it. Adopt a new powerful mind set and recognize your incredible strength and tenacity for having prevailed. Instead of keeping surviving alive become alive with an incredible rise in energy to make your present and future incredible!

Leaners need to take charge of their learning and remaining open may be a difficult experience. Someone said ‘ we don’t listen to listen we listen to comment’ and that is frequently what those do while learning. Either they comment on how the information is something they already know or that they don’t know, or that it is just like someone else’s information, or that it is not relevant or applicable, or that it is too difficult or too easy and on and on and on and on. The mind does whatever it does unless you take charge of it.

success is the sum of small efforts repeated day in and day out

Recognizing when you shut down, close off, IS an important moment to recognize. When you shut down is when you limit or prevent the flow of new information which may be critical. It could occur in a classroom, reading a blog or a book, arguing with someone important to you, or outside in an urban war zone. If you shut down and freeze the flow of what you may need in a critical moment, you leave yourself open to many possible pitfalls. The worst of which is when your safety depends on it, otherwise, you can pull your head from the rectal canal an apologize to the person you fought with, and you can go back and re-read the material. There are times when things matter more than other times but the skill required in each case is the same skill.

Learning to remain open is an important talent an ability we all can do much better learning to acquire.

Life presents opportunities each instant. We are either open or not open. Easy enough. We can bring our awareness to those moments and endeavor to remain open. Yes, we will close down, but the repeated act of trying to remain open is the beginning of new positive habit formation. You will be consciously competent for a while. The very same thing applies to living as a victor and taking charge of your life. Yes, for awhile the process will seem cumbersome. So did riding a bike for a while.

Anything we learned took some time and effort. Swimming, cooking, knitting, playing a sport, a game, fixing a car, computer, doing math, reading, writing, walking and feeding oneself. Everything is acquired through a process and we can either understand and embrace the process and make it easier on ourselves or we can resist it. Choice is ours.

Some people have little experience in making deliberate choices for themselves and they defer mostly to others. This is another area people may want to gain some experience utilizing awareness. When do you give your choice or your power away?

i choose success...

Through all of our learning the nicer we can be, the less we blame others or try to take from others, the further along we get. Learning how to co-operate and be a team player, learning how to empathize and to add value to others are are very good abilities to work on. Unlike, some greedy, horrible, uber rich people who care for no one but only seek to amass more, we ought to strive to find peace and happiness and well being for all. I believe that the more power you have the more responsibility you have The more power you have the more other people are in your care. The more good you can and should do.

Look, it rains on the good and the bad the poor and the rich. Good people suffer while bad people prosper and vice versa. The reason many powerful people, who are not very good people, continue to be unlikable and uncaring people, aside from that may be how they were when they began, is that they have a massed a fortune. They most likely did so utilizing the very principles I have been sharing all along because the principles work and are no respecter of persons. That means anyone can use them for success. (yes, some were born to it etc).

Some have great success and yet they are not likable or caring people. Once they got their wealth and power they changed, not for the better, but changed because now that they had everything they decided they needed to keep it. They cling to it. IT is more important that any person. They feared they will lose IT or others will take it away so they try to prevent others from succeeding so they can’t take away some piece of their pie. If they can remain further ahead and farther away it is unlikely anyone can take it from them. SO they oppress others to try to remain safe.

I think that is a sad way to live and many of them are unhappy, fearful, and unhealthy. Since we can’t take it with us we ought to enjoy it while we have it. Many don’t actually enjoy it they just need to have it and it has cost them dearly too. Their thoughts destroy them.

Thinking makes it so. We become what we think about.

An important point to note. The successful wealthy people, good or bad, generous or selfish, self made or born to it, those who have had wealth a long while, most all of them feel and believe that they are entitled to it and that they deserve it. This is important. Many of the rest of us don’t. That is a crucial difference in mind set and attitude. They are entitled. They deserve it.

Some of the rest of us waste time whining, complaining, criticizing the wealthy stating they were lucky, or born with a silver spoon. We may be resentful or envious non of this helps us. That is putting the focus outside of us on others or circumstances. What we think about is what we get. If we waste time on others wishing bad befalls them or being resentful we are not spending time making our life better. We need to focus on creating what we want!

It is important to note that WHEN you feel entitled to it and YOU FEEL you deserve it that you will be successful in acquiring it much more so than if you do not have this attitude.

Attitude is everything! What sets most people apart – the successful from those who are not yet successful – is mind set. It is the attitude. If you have the attitude that you are destined to win you are much more likely to as long as you spend the time preparing to win. It is not magical thinking. It is not about wishing something into existence. The rich feel that money comes to them or that they deserve and because they feel this way and absolutely believe it they are able to organize their thoughts and efforts around getting it much more easily. It is MIND over matter.

you can if you think you can

Mind over matter is the concept but not as most people consider it. They think magic, telepathy, telekinesis.

It is the mind, the thoughts, that precede actions, which are all targeted toward acquiring wealth (the matter) just as a laser beam is targeted. Their mind and actions their being is aligned and congruent in pursuit of what is most important to them. They deserve it so they know they will have! They deserve it so they know that they can get it. They are entitled to it so they can get more of it. WHY? BECAUSE that is just the kind of person they are! ONE who is entitled to have and to spend money. THIS IS a powerful mindset let us not make any mistake about that. This type of mind set positively and constructively managed and aimed could serve anyone of us well. Attitude makes all the difference.

The fact of the matter is you and I and they all deserve it. There is plenty. We are all legally entitled to it. If you don’t feel worthy or that you can have it then that is something to become aware of and change if you wish. By the way I do not equate having lots of money with being a success or happy or good. However, our society seems to think that money is a measure of success. I don’t but I do utilize the concept.

I think one can be happy and successful without money as well as one can be with money. I also think one can have untold wealth and be a failure as a human being, as a parent as someone’s child, or anything else. Attitude is everything! We can have a powerful mindset without having to be greedy or selfish. We can have everything we want and allow others to do the same or even help them get theirs too.

BUT the winner mindset is key. It is committed, it believes, it feels entitled, it is passionate, it has burning desire, it won’t quit or be defeated or ever give up, it is consistent, persistent yet adaptable and flexible. It stays the course and does whatever is necessary (legally and ethically) to get to the destination. IF one is extra wise one makes sure they enjoy the journey along the way. If you know the wonderful destination point you are going to ultimately end up you may as well have a great time getting there!

The important thing is wealth and success comes in the form of love, family, friendship, relationships, happiness, joy, peace, health and well being, fun, activities doing what you want, when and with whom. Freedom to enjoy and pursue whatever you wish. Money may be a part of success but certainly only a limited part. Money is not evil and anyone can want any amount they wish. People may be evil or corrupted or kind and generous. So I think it is important to be the kind of person who is a kind and generous success. After all we all live together on this planet.

doubt your limitations

Before, I leave you this day, know that repetition builds skill. The right kind of repetition done correctly builds skill.

Revisiting and returning to materials you have read, listened to, watched or participated in is valuable because it gives you more chances to open up and take it in. You understand it differently at different times. So go back and read again and again. You will make new connections and have new insights and awareness.

Keep the pursuit alive in you. Learn to open up to those things that benefit you. Learn to remain open with others and make it a point to live as a victor. BUT be a nice victor. Strive to be the kind of person who leaves people better off than when you found them.

There is plenty in this world to enjoy and to be grateful for. Enjoy it all, you deserve it.

The hoarders can’t get it all so be of good cheer and focus on the positive future we can create not on present difficulties.

Keep the faith, know that you deserve all good things and inside you is more incredible talent or ability than you may yet be aware of. You have much more than million dollars hidden in your pocket but you need to go find it. So go look for it and discover it! ‘Seek and ye shall find’.

You have learned so many things useful and useless. You do realize that, don’t you.

design your life

So put your ability to learn to work for you. You are already a remarkable learner now just aim it in a very useful direction.

Inside you you are truly wealthy. You have so much more going on for you than you have ever realized. You current and perpetual thinking may be have kept you blind to who you actually are, what you are truly capable of and all the talents, resources and abilities within you. You have all this wealth inside but have given yourself none of the credit. You need to visit your inner bank and discover what is there. You have much more than a million dollars inside you.

You can make your dreams come true. You can make more money, you can be rich inside and outside! You can have the future you want and the life you want and be the person you always wanted to become. You are already rich within and you are a learner so learn to do what you want in order to have what you want.

Learn to discover your hidden talents, abilities and resources that are inside you ready to be awakened. Learn to manage your thoughts, control your thoughts and determine your future. Learn to finally get the kind of results you have always wanted and longed for. Learn that you are already creator and begin to create what you want rather than what you don;t want.  You are a magnet so draw to yourself what you want rather than what you don’t want. Start getting the results you have always wanted because ONLY YOU can make it so.

You are a victor when you apply certain principles and laws in certain ways you transform and get what you want more easily. SO start living as a victor. Live with courage, confidence, faith, and power. Make your life what you want it to be.

Come back again and again. Revisit your learning and you will go further than you can presently imagine. Hold in your mind good, positive thoughts and you will transform your experience. Keep going and never quit and you will be so amazed at the journey you create for yourself. It will more than WOW you. And then share all good things with others too.

Let’s make each of our own lives incredible and together create a garden paradise, I mean why not. Let’s make this world wonderful!

Oooops who closed down right there?

If you don’t think we can certainly we never will. ‘Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you are right’.

You see, it really does begin with our thoughts. It begins with YOUR thoughts. Each of us responsible for what we do between our ears. What we do between our ears is create our outer circumstances. SO decide to make both the very best.” Rex Sikes

More tomorrow. Have a delicious day!

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Successful People Know These Laws Why Don’t You PT 2

be master of your fate not slave of your problems

“For you to get a different life in the future you must first be able to conceive of that different better future life. You need to take this important  step toward creating all that you want.

You must FIRST create it on the inside in order to have it on the outside. You create it on the inside now to have it on the outside at another date in the future because, honestly, things just take some time. There is a season for everything.

Shortly, I will discuss exactly how this works, how to create what you want on the inside and what you must do to bring it about in reality

If you want you life to change you have to change some things in your life. If you want a kick ass successful future YOU have to conceive it, create it, bring it to life inside you right NOW in order to accomplish it or bring it about in the future. That is just how it is…

Part 2  Continued from Successful People Know These Laws Why Don’t You

That means you must know what you want. You must be able to imagine that. You must have a purpose, a target, an incredible desire that you want to go after and create.

You have to set your mental machinery in motion and aim it at your future goals. IF you do not know what you want you will drift. You will live without purpose. You will succeed at not succeeding.

Having a definite and major purpose is crucial to your success. Successful people are driven to fulfill their purpose, their reason for being on the planet.  You must know what you are meant to do.

Further more,  Napoleon Hill said, ‘you must believe it’ in order to achieve it. Not only must you be able to conceive your future happening and imagine it as you want it but you must believe that you will be able to bring it into being. That it is yours and that it belongs to you. This future IS your destiny.

If you don’t think something is likely or possible you are not even going to try. So you must believe and know that what you want IS something you can have and will bring about.

visualize and believe

You must believe it is yours. You must see it in your mind and believe you will have it. You must expect it to come to pass. Those who enjoy great success never give in to doubt but know they can have anything and everything they want. It is conviction, and a determined attitude.

Will Smith is alleged to have said, “I was always an A-list movie star in my head. You just didn’t know it’. This is precisely what Napoleon Hill meant. The future you want must first exist inside you and you must know it is meant for you and that you will have it, for you to eventually enjoy it.

Those who succeed have this kind of mind set. Whether they were brought up with it or they acquired it on their own through life experience most of those who win definitely expect to win. Their belief in themselves and their abilities to have what they want IS a major reason for their success.

They stay focused on what they want and they do not let challenges or obstacles distract them from making it happen. They keep on going until they get what they seek. They do not quit.

All through my blog I have been discussing how we go about creating this mind set and these behaviors for ourselves. I will continue to give precise steps, procedures, exercises you can do to develop these attributes and characteristics as we proceed in the blog.

There are principles and laws we have to employ in order to become the people we want to become and for us to have what we want in the future.

when u want to succeed as much as you want to breath

The successful people are just like you and me but their attitude may be significantly different. We think you must work hard to get ahead. They understand it is not hard work that gets them ahead but working smarter.  Clearly, no one is suggesting that you don’t work toward getting what you want, you must, but it isn’t the work that makes it happen as much as it is what you think and how you think.

Napoleon Hill named his book, Think and Grow Rich because that is what happens. He did not mean you meditate in your room and money will pour from the heavens. He meant the way you use your brain, your mind, you imagination determines your attitudes and feelings, your faith and the opportunities you create. He knew that when you want something passionately and will not stop where most people would, but keep going that ultimately you will prevail.

You literally think yourself to success since everything begins with thought and since we become what we think about most of the time.

How well one uses their mind determines the success one can attain.

So you decide on what you want.

You create it now in order to have it then. You picture it for yourself, you write down your future story that you want told, you create it, tailor it, enhance it, see it, live it inside your head day and night, you spend the bulk of your time there creating what it is you desire the most (while enjoying this present as I have mentioned many times).

Know you purpose!

Understand your responsibility!

whatever we plant in our subconscious

You need to understand that you are ALREADY a creator. You have been doing it all along whether or not you have been getting results you intended. You either create what you want, what you don’t want or you create the drifting.

There is no escaping our responsibility in how our lives turn out from moment to moment. People try to shift the responsibility or the blame onto others and circumstances but what we have and don’t have is completely and solely up to each of us alone.

What we need to know and do to get what we want is to shoulder that responsibility and become 100% accountable for what we have or don’t. No more escaping, blaming or accusing. We accept it all without judgement. This is the starting place.

We need to understand that the creative act utilizes all of our mind. The conscious mind sets the course, determines the destination and chooses the end results you want to have. We figure out our purpose and what we want with our conscious mind. We use our conscious mind to instruct and inform the unconscious mind.

Our unconscious mind carries it out.  The unconscious mind is the servo mechanism that runs day and night while you sleep. Consciously, you determine what you want to create. Unconsciously, you manifest it.

I am

Both parts of the mind work together. The conscious mind is like you as the captain of a ship at the wheel. You are in charge. You decide where you want to go.

The unconscious mind is like the rudder, the ship and the power source. You consciously determine where you want to go and steer the ship in that direction using the wheel. The wheel is connected to the the rudder which turns the boat in the direction you want.

The unconscious mind is the vehicle you use to take you there. It works on and on without stopping, it operates under it’s own power. It runs on automatic, it makes the habits and produces the results you want BUT it needs to be told what to do.

For most people, the situation is like this. Most people have been informing their unconscious mind all along what to do without realizing their responsibility in the process. They get unwanted and unintended results and cannot figure out why. They are frustrated, and unhappy a good deal of time, or life is okay but not as good as it could be. For some it is downright unpleasant. The sad fact is that these people do not realize they are making it all happen that way. They don’t realize they are the source of their displeasure. They would change it if they knew how but they don’t.

We bring about the results in our life by our thinking and what we think about most of the time through the day, each day, for weeks and months and years. What we hold in our mind, in our attention, what we focus on is what we get and become whether we realize it or not and whether we wan’t it or don’t.

dont be afraid

We become what we think about. The truth is we are always creating because the energy flows where our attention goes.

If we are focused on lack, difficulty, fears and worry we create or we attract more of the same. This is why positive thinking is a critical skill to develop. This is why it is important to understand the laws and principles that govern the process and our part it in all of it.

When we recognize the important role we play in determining how our life goes we can then seek to make it how we want it to be instead of settling for what we caused in the past.

This is important to understand. It is important to act on this information if you want your life to change for the better.

In order to get the results you desire you must communicate clearly and with precision to your unconscious mind so that your unconscious mind knows exactly what to do to bring it about.

You put an end to haphazard and unintended results when you are able to do this.

I will paraphrase the biblical parable of sowing seeds. Some seeds fall on rock and die from the sun, some on harder earth and are eaten by birds and insects, while others fall in fertile, prepared soil and take root and grow.

While seeds can grow without humans it takes the right conditions for some to sprout.  Many die. When humans plant seeds we work to insure the conditions are maximal for optimal growth. There are things we do to bring about the right conditions.

all that we are arises with our thoughts

When we plant seeds of creation in our unconscious minds, because the unconscious mind could care less what it grows, we must make sure certain positive conditions are met in order to meet with success and get the results we intend to get. The unconscious mind will grow positive or negative seeds because it doesn’t care. SO we must TAKE CARE to plant ONLY positive seeds if that is what we want returned.

We have to take care and actually do things to make it work for us the way we want. We need to instruct the unconscious mind deliberately and with precision. I have been and will keep returning to this very critical point.

As discussed in previous posts, drifting means not knowing where one is going or changing direction continuously. It means not having a firm fixed destination and a plan for getting there.

Since your unconscious works by precise laws it is important that you give it the precise information you want it to carry out. Plus, you need to provide this information in the manner the unconscious mind is accustomed to getting it.

You need to learn to speak the language of the unconscious mind. For example,  as a native speaker of the language you speak you may have misunderstanding even when communicating with someone who speaks your same language.

BUT you will have no idea what someone is communicating to you if they speak a different language than yours and that is all they use to communicate with you. So speaking the same language is critical.

big goals get beig results

The same applies to creating what you want and getting those results. You must communicate with your unconscious mind in the language it uses so it can be clear about your instructions and then carry them out.

Poor instructions, misunderstood instructions or no instructions gets you different results than those you intend. Perhaps, this is already the case for you. Now would be the time to change  it don’t you think? If you do not like what you have been creating so far you can change this. Now it is time to create what you want.

Creation is governed by laws on the inside just as we are governed by laws on the outside. As we learn and understand these laws we are able to do incredible things for ourselves.

In nearly all of my posts I have attempted to reinforce this very important fact that we need to know in order to get what we want.

REMEMBER: Our unconscious mind does not make a distinction between wanted or unwanted, good or bad, or right or wrong for you, it just goes where your energy consistently flows. What you focus on is what it attracts and creates.

Whatever you think about most, day and night is what you bring about. If you drift you get certain results. If you are negative mostly, you get certain results. If you are half negative and half positive you get certain results. If you are positive you get certain results.

If you focus on lack or poverty or how things are difficult or impossible, if you are filled with worry or fear you get certain results. Your unconscious mind doesn’t care! It gives you back what you fill it with. Wanted or unwanted is what it returns.

THAT is precisely what a servo mechanism does. It returns to you whatever you program it to do without a consideration for you or judgement. IT simply does what it does.

your mind is a garden grow flowers or weeds

You may, or may not, want to hear this but the bottom line IS whatever results you are experiencing right now in your life IS because of what you have been feeding your unconscious mind. It is not up to anyone else nor is it up to circumstances it is all up to you.

THAT can suck or it can be incredible news!!! When I recognized this and accepted it IT was an incredible moment. AT the very moment when you finally get that you are creating everything good and bad it means that you can NOW, in that instant, begin to take charge and get the results you have always wanted to have.

When you recognize your role as creator you then step into your power you can change and transform things.

This is the very first step. Recognize your power.

Once you recognize there is a power  such as gravity or electricity, you can then harness it and master it. You can harness and master your creative abilities to have anything you want within reason. This is not magic or fantasy.

You can create the positive you you have always wanted to become. You can feel better and do wonderful things with your life. You can have everything you want and deserve.

Remember these phrases and repeat it to yourself:  ‘If it is to be it is up to me. We get what we think about most of the time.’ Repeat it over and over and think about it. Think deeply about it. Realize you need to take charge of your thinking process if it is to be…,” Rex Sikes

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Successful People Know These Laws – Why Don’t You?


There are laws that govern the universe and our experience of  it. Humans have discovered these laws and collected them. They explain how things work and they work independent of whether we know them, understand them, believe in them, or appreciate them. It is just the way things are.

For example, there is the law or GRAVITY. We may like it or not,  we may believe in it or not, but we still are subject to it. I am not going into why there is gravity or the motion of the planets, that isn’t part of this discussion.

You know about gravity and how it affects us. If you are in a tree and fall out you fall down not up. No matter what we think about gravity that will be the case. Plain enough to understand, I hope.

There is the law of LIFT (See Newton’s Laws)  which allows us to overcome the effects of gravity so  a plane can take off. Lift depends on other factors, speed and resistance but when those conditions are right the plane can take off and fly, however, the plane is still always subject to the law of gravity. It will fall to the earth when there are certain conditions.  Again, simple enough I hope.

All of the material to make and fly a plane have always existed. Do you realize that? Everything has always been here.

tesla law of universe enrgy frequency vibration

We live in a closed system and there is the principle that energy, hence matter, can neither be created or destroyed. All energy is transformed. Everything has always been and will always be, just perhaps, in a different form.

SO all the metals, the plastics, the rubber, the leather, the glass, other synthetics, we use all existed in their raw state eons ago. We could have made and flown planes thousands of years ago had we known how.

There has been nothing created during this time that did not exist previously. It has always been here. Nothing fell to earth from outside that contributed to our being able to build a plane and fly it. (Some do think differently about this, but I am not going there).

While it is true  that we combined elements to create new combinations of materials (transformations) that came about when we learned how to be able to do that, everything that is available today existed long, long ago in one form or another.

We have always had everything we have ever needed even when we didn’t recognize it or know how to utilize it. Sadly, it is true, that if you are not aware that certain things or conditions exist, then for all practical intents and purposes they don’t exist for you!

EVEN when in fact, they ARE present. It is only you, the human, that is not yet able to take advantage of them and they remain hidden. They remain hidden until the human becomes aware.

If  a rich relative died and left you the world’s classiest most expensive, desirable car but you didn’t know about it you wouldn’t act as the owner of that wonderful vehicle.

You would only act whatever you thought your current state was at the time. Even though it belongs to you and technically is in your possession, IF you don’t know about it you don’t act or utilize it as an owner.

You may even sit around hoping for a better car not knowing you are already in possession of the best car. You can be complaining about your financial condition while sitting on a potential heap of cash.

happiness depends on quality of your thoughts

We only can conceive of that which we able to perceive. If we don’t know it exists as a possibility, if we are unable to conceive of it, if we are unaware, then we function as if it doesn’t exit. Awareness determines how far we may go. Awareness determines our vision.

Electricity  has always been with us. Once we understood we could harness it’s power we began to utilize it and control it. Once we better understood gravity and lift we could work with them.

Once our ‘know how ‘changed we learned to do many things. It may be that it took time for our brains to evolve to be better equipped at thinking, still, the point remains, we must know about it to utilize it.

We could have always utilized gravity and electricity from the beginning of time, all the materials were available in one form or another, but we did not know we could so we did not know how to either.

As our knowledge changed and we learned and understood more we accomplished new things and we transformed our world. We improved conditions in many ways. We made changes in housing, travel, food, communication and improved our overall well fare.

Everything was always present we just didn’t know what to do with it. I understand some people may have to really think and investigate to grasp this concept more easily but DO think about this. Consider what it means.

if you can imagine it you can achieve it

For a long time we attempted to fly. We tried flapping our arms like birds do their wings, we dove off cliffs trying to soar, only to plummet due to gravity. Later, we discovered we could utilize lighter than air gases and rise into the clouds. Eventually we were able to build engines to give us enough power and combined that power with properly designed wings which gave us lift against the wind. We defeated gravity for a little while.

Actually, we didn’t defeat it we worked with it because without gravity there wouldn’t be lift. The plane rises against the resistance. Once we learned these principles and better understood them we were able to create and do things, we could have always made happen, but didn’t, until the time when we were able.

Consider this as much as possible. Everything we needed to fly has always been available to us. The materials, the laws that govern flight have been with us all along. From the earliest of times we always could have flown but we didn’t until we realized how to use principles and materials to our advantage! I find this amazing to think about!

We have harnessed water power, wind power, electrical power, nuclear power because we learned about the laws that govern us and how to use them to bring about changes.

Once you understand the laws you can master them!

Prior to this understanding we go about however we go about. True or actual change in our life occurs only when the change in our consciousness occurs. It begins with awareness, it begins with our thoughts.

life is what you create

We seek answers or solutions, we look to find the means to accomplish something and once we begin looking we are more apt to find. Some people just never look they merely accept whatever is.

Consider that eons before the chair came about anyone could have built a chair. At some point someone did. Somewhere in human consciousness someone decided, someone thought, there was another way to sit other than on the ground.

Sure, maybe at first they piled some stones, or some sticks, but somewhere along the way the idea evolved in someone’s mind and they actually pictured a chair. They designed it in their head and they made it with their hands.

It didn’t exist until someone thought it into existence. The thought preceded the physical reality.  People do and behave  only what they know and imagine as possible.  If you can’t conceive of a new reality you will never have that new reality or behave that new reality.

I’ll repeat that a bit differently. In order to exist in a new reality you must first be able to conceive of that new reality.

For humans to have a chair or an airplane they first had to conceive of it in their minds. The idea had to be there. They had to discover and recognize certain principles and ideas in order to bring in to being the desired outcomes. If they don’t think or know something is possible or potentially available they will never strive to bring it about.

In order for new things to be brought into existence we must FIRST be able to conceive of them. All human creations begin with thought.

thoughts become things

Yes, it is accurate to state that some things are brought about accidentally while looking for or to do something else. There are surprise discoveries. (White Out, Velcro and other innovations apparently occurred accidentally while people were searching for something else).

For us to benefit from these amazing moments when there have been surprise discoveries people still need to be able to recognize  the opportunity that has just been given them. They need to recognize and SEIZE the opportunity.

If they discarded the different (accidental) results because it was not what they intended, without considering other possible uses for it, then the new innovation would never have occurred. This probably happens more frequently than it does not.

Sometimes discoveries have laid dormant until another time when we evolved more, learned more, and our information changed.  Then we were (finally) able to recognize ‘that something’ (that had been there all that while but remained under utilized) as an opportunity or a new benefit.  Until that ‘aha’ moment it existed in an unused form.

Until that ‘aha’ moment even though it all existed we were blind to it. We couldn’t see it or recognize it UNTIL the moment when we could. In that moment, the opportunity for transformation arrived!

act as if you already have it

We are only aware of what we are aware of at any given time. This is why some people never seem to get ahead while others rocket past them.

Those who succeed in life or career are able to recognize and utilize the opportunities, the materials, the information that others are still blind to. Everyone has access equally but only some are aware of it. It exists for all but only a few utilize it.

Notice it is the ability to recognize and UTILIZE the opportunities.

The First point is to be able to conceive of it. You must have the originating thoughts. The second point that is critical is we must act on this information. (I’ll discuss this further in upcoming posts).

Some people know they want a better future and hope or wish for it. They know what they could or should do to make things better but they just don’t do anything. In order to get the success and the results you want YOU must be ACTIVE in bringing it about.

Napoleon Hill said very accurately, ‘Whatever the mind can conceive and you can believe, you can achieve’. I find this a remarkable, beautiful, simple and and complex concept all at once.

In order for us to achieve something we must first be able to conceive of it.

can-do-it2 - cants to cans drams to plans

If we can think it, see it in our mind’s eye and speak it, we can have it.

What we can hold in our head we can hold in our hand. The picture first exists in the artist’s head prior to the canvas.

This is so true! Architects, engineers and others know that they create in the inner space, put it on paper and then countless others work to make it a reality in the physical environment. It ALL begins on the inside.

Those who succeed understand this. Those who don’t think it originates outside of them. They think circumstances or others dictate how life is for them. They don’t run their minds or their lives they let others run those.

This is the difference between someone who is a victor and one who is a  victim. It is the mind set or one’s own thinking that determines which they will be. . This can be the difference between you and someone who is a great success. It sure was for me.

In order to succeed we have to be self determining. We need to use what we have available to make what we want happen. It all begins inside of us. The successful either know this or have had that accidental discovery.

If we aren’t able to conceive of it then how on earth might we achieve it? We won’t unless we accidentally do it just as our other accidental discoveries. Even then,  we must recognize the opportunity OR we will still miss it.

whatever we plant in our subconscious

We  must be able to conceive of it to achieve it. Then, we must be able to act on it or it will just remain a piece of information. It will be an awareness with no action behind it.

We think it into being  but not as in science fiction or fantasy tales. We don’t rub a lamp or hope that it will happen for us.

We think it and then we work to accomplish it.

The successful people know and apply the laws of success. The successful people get the laws working for them. This is the big difference between those who accomplish much and those who accomplish little.

It all begins first with our thoughts. This is one of the reasons Henry Ford said, ‘If you think you can or you think you can’t you are right.’

For you to get a different result or outcome you need to FIRST be able to conceive of that different future result.

For you to get a different life in the future you must first be able to conceive of that different better future life. You need to take the FIRST step toward creating the future you want.

You must FIRST create it on the inside in order to have it on the outside. You create it on the inside now to have it on the outside at another date in the future because, honestly, things just take some time. Successful people never use time as an excuse for not making things happen.

If you want you life to change you have to change some things in your life. . If you want a kick ass successful future YOU have to conceive it, create it, bring it to life inside you right NOW in order to accomplish it or bring it about in the future. That is just how it is.

Those who enjoy enduring success travel a little bit in advance of the world. They see it in their mind’s eye, they plan ahead, knowing that it will be a reality sometime soon.


They understand that they have the power to create. They realize it begins with their dominant thoughts and that what they focus on most of the time is critical to their success. They don’t waste their thoughts or their time.

They know they must be positive and precise to create the same kind of results. They know if they are wishy washy they will get wishy washy results.

They take being a creator very seriously and understand the incredible opportunity and responsibility one has as a creator. They live as the captain of their ship, they live life victoriously. Others may not embrace these notions but people who are succeeding most definitely do.

Okay we’ll end here for today. More in Part 2 tomorrow. There is much more incredible material to cover and I’ll continue to share great ways to begin creating what you want.

Don’t miss out. Stick with reading the blog and putting into practice the ideas shared. You can get outstanding results! You can create an amazing life and future for yourself. ” Rex Sikes

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3 Easy Things You Must Do To Succeed!

energy goes where attention goes

Perhaps, you have notice that I am suggesting a three pronged approach to getting what you want. One prong is filling your mind with quality positive inspirational material daily. To read, listen, watch material that stimulates you and inspires you toward feeling and thinking better.

This prong includes practicing gratitude and looking for the positive, the good and the new in your daily life and validating these. It means finding the very best thoughts and feelings you can enjoy and promoting more of these as much as you are able through out each moment.

The second prong is actually the most important. It is what you do. It is deciding what you want, writing it down and focusing on it day in and day out. It is infusing this with energy and acting as if it is already the case. It means staying focused on what you want no matter what the current situation may be like.

dream is goal w deadline

It is believing you are going to make it happen no matter what. It is using dynamically energized repetition of thought. This is where you lay claim to your future and your keep your thoughts on having this (acting as you already have it in your mind) and reciting what you wrote down day and night. Visualizing the goal in your mind as though you already made it happen.

How we get what we want and become what we want to be is by doing not the mental work and not by the reading and listening.  The reading and listening, the first prong, keeps us inspired and positively charged and enthusiastic.

It is through the mental and verbal repetition of your your goal, through the repeated envisioning of what you want that brings it about. You make it happen by focusing the power of your mind. When you spend the time mentally and physically doing what it takes to get what you want you will manifest those results.

I have mentioned that whenever you discover that you are off course you bring your mind gently back to the positive thoughts you are repeating daily. You stay focused on what you want to create and off what you don’t yet have. Ignore the lack or current results and stay focused on what you will have in the future. Keep your mind targeted on what you want.

I have suggested finding and feeling grateful as much as possible through out the day. I told you about looking for and validating what is good and new. In previous posts I have discussed going first and positively thinking about others they way you want them to think about you.

past present future

Each of these pieces are part of the whole and the whole is much greater than the sum of its parts. As you do each of these things you will change.

I suggest reading and listening as a good starting place to begin to move forward but it is what you do with what you learn that transforms you. So remember, if you want to get different results you have to do different things. You have to make these positive practices daily practice so that they become a habit.

I mentioned that you visualize clearly what you want and charge it with emotions, feel good about it, shout about it, sing it, dance it, get excited about it so that your unconscious mind (the servo mechanism) works to manifest what you want.

The servo mechanism carries out whatever is emotionally charged whether positive or negative, wanted or unwanted. Whatever is predominant in your mind and being is what you manifest. If your thoughts are primarily negative or doubtful or defeatist that is what you end up creating for yourself. The servo mechanism doesn’t care what it creates. It only creates what you you give it to create.

positive mind, vibes, life

If you think powerful positive thoughts, if you have a goal that you want more than anything else, something that you must have, and you see it clearly and feel good about it, joyful, happy, determined, and confident then you will manifest it because that is what you keep predominantly in your mind. If you are sometimes positive and sometimes negative you are stuck without much forward movement.

You will travel in whatever direction you are currently embracing. If you want to change you have to change what you are doing. You have to change direction and commit to keep on moving in the new direction.

Some people wonder why it is necessary to do this. Some think it too hard. I say, if you don’t like the result you have in your life you have to do something else to get the results you desire. That is just the way it is. Call it a law. You get back what you put out there. You become what you predominantly think about. You get what you go after.

If you don’t have a purpose, or a target, if you are not committed to the direction you want to travel in you will get haphazard results. You will end up wherever you end up. Liken it to being a drift in a boat. You will go wherever the current takes you.

But if your boat is powered and your course is set, then no matter what the elements do to prevent you, at least you are headed toward the destination you want.

ambition and action 2 steps to success

You have to go after what you want repeatedly and stick with it until you get it. That is the law. That is just the way it is. You create what you want using your own power through your own volition and dedication.

It is your choice. Either you do it or you don’t. Whatever you choose is what you get. It is up to you and no one else what you do or what you don’t do to have the ideal life you want to have.

Actions are important however, I am not suggesting working more or working harder at your job or your career. That is not what I am suggesting at all. I am suggesting you work to govern your thoughts and make them work for you. Take charge of your thoughts and your feelings so your actions are in harmony with what you want for yourself. It is working smarter not working harder.

The third prong is belief. It is your faith in yourself and your abilities. When you take charge of your thoughts and energize your feelings and repeat this daily at least twice a day (more is better) you find that you begin to believe even more strongly that you can have this. If you don’t believe it at first (discussed in previous posts) you can develop the belief necessary by the practice or repeating over and over again that you can and will have it.

gratitude magic

A goal is a dream with a plan and deadline. When you know what you want and by when, and you take claim of it in your mind and see yourself as if already in possession of it, and you feel fully emotionally charged about that, you are sending powerful messages to your unconscious that this IS yours. As you do these things you will come to believe in it even more. The more YOU are convinced of it the closer you are to making it happen.

Because of media in our culture we know that a lie repeated often enough is substituted as the truth.The military uses this in training troops. You keep telling yourself the same thing over and over again in a super charged way until you believe it. When you believe you deserve it and that you can get it AND when you believe it is yours, it IS yours.

‘What we can conceive and believe we can achieve’, said Napoleon Hill. ‘Whether you think you can or you think you can’t you are right’, stated Henry Ford. ‘You become what you think about most of the time’, stated Earl Nightengale. You can be and do and have whatever you want when you believe you can.

Positive thinking means maintain a preponderance of positive thoughts and feeling throughout the day. It does not mean emotionless recitation of platitudes. It means becoming what you want to be. Is it work, yes, but it is worth it.

repetition is the mother of skill

Think of it as boot camp for your mind. You engage in a training to learn a skill that will reliably transform your life when you apply it.

Start today and commit to the direction you want to move in. Commit to the destination you want and never give up until you arrive.

Make the journey wonderful along the way by finding good and new things each moment and filling your moments with appreciation. Think the highest positive thoughts about everyone.

When you do this you up your vibrations. You up your vibratory rate and you attract like energy. You attract positive people who can help you and you find yourself open to more events and situations that benefit you. Your life transforms and new doors open up to you. Yes, it is a great deal! On top of it life becomes more and more amazing every day!” Rex Sikes

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We Get What We Are Focused On – Are You Focused On Success, Or Not?


I am a fan of what I call Power Thinking.

Power Thinking means you take control of the mechanism between your ears and use it to create what you want. You already have been using it but not deliberately or in your own best interests. Most of us just use it quite sloppily and we need to use it with precision instead. When we control our thinking we have power.

People drift because they don’t know what they want. Or half the time the are focused on what they want and then the other half they are focused on what they don’t want. This is like saying, ‘I want to go to NYC’ and moving in that direction only to say ‘actually I want to go to L A’ and moving back toward L A only to say ‘nope NYC’ and then ‘L A’ then NYC and LA then NYC and then L A. Face it none of us would get very far and it might be very frustrating.

This is why we must determine what we must have, what is really important for us in life and have a deadline for when we want it. We focus on what we want in spite of all odds and we keep the faith that we will make it happen. We stick with it. determined to see it through and we will. Sometimes sooner than the deadline sometimes after the deadline but if we don’t stop until we have it our success is guaranteed…’

I absolutely know that if I want a glorious future I must make my present glorious. That is positive thinking. That relies on powerful thinking.

Magical thinking is hoping that in the future, some how, circumstances will change and everything will be better. Magical thinking is putting the power outside of us and into or onto someone or something else for change to occur. I don’t believe in that magic, I believe in me.

If I want a glorious future it begins right now. It begins with what I pay attention to and nurture. I know if I want to be healthy in body I am more likely to experience well being now and in my future when I eat right and maintain healthy habits. If I fill my body with junk and toxins I may have more problems and difficulty. I believe in maintaining nutritious and healthy mental habits too.

they can because they think they can

Whatever we feed grows. I want to feed myself the healthiest food and healthiest mental food I am able. This is how I am preparing for the future.

When I eat well I expect to be healthier and sure enough I see some results. The same applies to my mental menu. I choose the finest, the healthiest thoughts to ingest, digest and benefit from. I liken my mental regime to maintaining a healthy lifestyle of proper diet and exercise. If you want good physical health you make it happen by what you do. The same applies to our mental and spiritual well being.

Simple enough? Here is an example, consider the tightrope walker.

The tightrope walker is better served by paying attention to what needs to be done and where the walker wants to go. I believe the walker gains confidence in the abilities learned and maintains an attitude of ‘I can’ walk the tightrope.

While falling is a possibility I do not believe the walker would walk out on the rope if the mind was filled with thoughts and fears of walking. The walker maintains a positive focus when on the tightrope just as we should do in life. The positive focus helps us do whatever we need to do to get wherever we want to go.

tightrope walker

Surely, wonderful things can and do occur as do the less than glorious. These may go on anyway without my involvement because life happens. I know this. I have decided to design my life and not be bothered with what I am not able to control. I take responsibility for me.

If you are focused on what you want at least you know where you want to go and what you want to have. If that is what you think about,  and see or pay attention to mostly then you have a target to go after. Knowing where you want to arrive at means you can make and work a plan to get there. Knowing when you want to get there is most useful too.

If you think about what you want and then sometimes think you will never have it, you have returned to thinking about lack and you are drifting. You are headed out in both directions and you can’t get to both places at the same time.  You are NYC, L A, NYC… you are doing and undoing. You must be targeted and consistent.

Can we be 100% positive 100% of the time? I don’t know. I live by the statement ‘we get and we become what we think about MOST of the time’. So what are you thinking about most of the time?

What do we mean by most? if it is positive 51 / negative 49 probably you are stuck. If you are  90 / 10 you are probably well on your way with a wonderful life. Do you get it? Where is your thinking MOST of the time?

The good news is you begin by monitoring it. You think positive and then notice you are not so you adjust and return to positive. You steer back to center and the more you think positive and return to positive you develop the habit. Your ration improves by practice (positive repetition) through time. You get better at positive thinking by doing it repeatedly, duh!!!

So results manifest later, down the road. You are creating in darkness and can not see what is out there yet,  but you have initiated the process. NOW is the time to stay with it no matter what. This is why there is so much talk in religious text about faith and maintaining your faith.

change what is going on within you

Keep the faith while the planted seeds grow. In time, and no one knows how much time, the seeds you planted will be ready for harvest. Then you will be delighted but not surprised. You will not be surprised because you expected this day to come. You declared it so and you helped it come into being. You knew you would get there because you stuck with getting there. No matter what came up to take you off course you corrected and continued to move toward it.

Positive thinking is about knowing what you want and where you want to go in life.

The first step in thinking positive is to set a definite well defined goal that is extremely  important to you.  It should be a goal you are passionate about and want more than anything.

Once you have this goal you are passionate about you  develop and maintain the mindset, the attitude, and the abilities to go after that goal to accomplish it. By staying focused on the positive you are able to get what you want with greater ease, in spite of all challenges or disappointments along the way.

As I have repeated emphasized: Positive thinking means staying the course through all hardships that may arise and never quitting.  You maintain positive thoughts to set a frame of mind to better be able to navigate life. It means keeping your mind set healthy so that you feel well enough and strong enough to handle any challenge. Staying positive is about having a powerful attitude.

winners never quit

When you think positive you feel better. When you feel better you more apt to do better. Positive thinking IS about creating and accomplishing what it is you want.

When you are positive about getting your goal you know it is possible and you expect it to happen. Once you expect it to happen, you know it will happen, you align you thoughts and feelings and actions

Positive thinking IS about finding a mindset that serves you well and helps you to feel better. The higher quality your thoughts the better you feel. The better you feel the more you can do” Rex SIkes

Make this day incredible!

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Rich Successful People Make This Decision – When Will You?

forget why it wont believe why it will

“I realized I really needed to change my thinking and what I focused on. I now realized and accepted  that I was already responsible for creating my life. I am, was and will always be a creator.

It was no longer a matter of whether I was or was not creating my life I now decided that I was. This decision put me in a place of power. This decision allowed me to declare myself the victor. From this power position I could begin solving my problems and start getting different results!

I clearly recognize my part in creating what I did not want in my life. I began to understand how my thoughts and feelings, my beliefs and attitudes, my actions and lack of them brought about my circumstances good and not so good.

I understood that when I worried and anticipated problems I made life less than glorious. I could see how I caused my own difficulties and got in my own way. I could look back and see how I was responsible for everything I had and did not have.  All of it was because of me.

I saw how I drifted and had not created any master plan for my career or my life.

determined to help yourself

I loved the past and longed for the good old times but knew nothing about the future. I meditated a lot and wanted to be present, whatever that might be, so I did not bother to plan where I wanted to go or what I wanted to do. Like a cork bobbing on the water I went wherever the current went. I had no actual purpose.

Because I had only hopes and no actual plan for how I wanted the future to unfold I dealt with whatever came my way as I had to. I didn’t know any better way to think or be. Sometimes I was lucky mostly I was not.

When I had money problems I never thought I would resolve them easily I only focused on how I did not have enough at the time. I lived in a poverty consciousness wishing I’d strike it rich but mostly knowing I would not. I was not that lucky.

When I decided to master my fate and place myself in the position of creating what I wanted I recognized that I had been creating what I wanted or what I didn’t want all along!

It became super obvious that it wasn’t a matter of doing anything different really. It wasn’t a matter of becoming or adding anything different to me because I had always been a creator. I already was a creator! I just had really bad taste. I just didn’t know how to get the results I wanted to get yet.

if you want a different result make a different choice

WOW that hit me. I already was a powerful creator AND I was just really good at creating and attracting what I DID NOT WANT. WOW, I mean I was incredible at getting what I did not want. I knew I wanted to change this.

These powerful insights brought me to realize that I COULD change was the direction of my attention. I couldn’t stop the ship on the sea but I could aim it where I wanted to go from this moment on. I now knew that could not stop being a creator or powerful attractor but that I could MORE consciously decide to run and manage the creation process.

I could focus on what I wanted and ignore what I didn’t want! I could create a plan for the future and work that plan. YES! It meant I had to change the way I had been doing things! It meant I had to take control of my attention it and focus it in a different way! IT meant if it was going to be any different now and in the future I had to make it different. If I wanted my life to change I HAD TO CHANGE things in my life.

stop waiting and go out and make them happen

Once I understood that I was responsible for producing whatever I thought about most of the time I decided to think better thoughts. I made it a point to think in positive ways that served me better and brought me the results I wanted to have.

I let go of the past and focused on making the present and the future delightful and wonderful. I focused on abundance and prosperity instead of on lacking resources. I took control of my thinking processes and whenever I found myself slipping into old unproductive ways I steered my thinking back toward the positive.

I began to completely focus on what I wanted and not on what I didn’t. I focused on what I could be, what I could feel and what I could do rather than what I couldn’t. It made all the difference in the world. My life instantly began to transform as a result of making that decision.

Here is a key piece to understand. I made that decision not only once and for all on that day and hour but I continue to make it each and every moment.

to bring it into your life imagine it already there

Life is a process it is not a static thing. Learning to take control of our life and our thinking processes is not something that is static either. It is fluid and dynamic it. We have learned to think in patterned and habitual ways. We have automated ways of being that must be changed if we are going to live differently.

I realized I initiated a process of learning new ways to be and to create new positive habits. This meant sometimes there might be ups and downs, results may come faster or slower at times. Anything was possible yet I was ready willing and able to do whatever it took to master my new learnings and make my new habits serve me. I am still willing and I do whatever it takes to maintain it.

Rich people know how to make their money work for them. They may work hard at first but they get their money working for them so they don’t have to work so hard. In this way they can enjoy what their money brings them.

The rich and successful create, they build and they believe they that deserve the best so they get it. They are action and future oriented. They aim at the target they want and they go after getting it, They keep the positive end result that they want in their minds and don’t worry about what else might not be. They are focused on what they want. You and I can be too!

I adopted this analogy and found it to be an accurate example of the journey I was on. I may have to work hard to manage my thinking process at first but, ultimately, I would make it my servant and get it to work for me instead of against me. I deserve the best as do you!

This is the process I am in and am happy to report it is amazingly more simple than one might think it could be.

what u feel now is what u attract

Sure it has taken effort. No, it is not instantaneously an all perfect, over and done with event it is a process.

Through all of it I have recognized that if I want it to life to be different or better that I need to change some things I am doing to make it better. It is always only up to me!

I learned the power and necessity of staying focused on what I want and not on the present circumstances regardless of what they are. I look not to the present results but to what I am creating in my mind.

I now know that the focus needs to be on the inside with what I want to create and not on the outside present results. What comes about in the real world does so by the act of creating it and NOT by looking at what isn’t present yet and feeling disappointed.

It requires conviction and faith to know that, no matter what may be going on, the good things you are creating are set in motion and coming your way even if you are unable to see any evidence of it yet. This IS because we get what we focus on. What we focus on really does expand.

persistent get it consistent keep it

I continue to learn this each day. I stay focused on being thankful and I continue to learn the importance of perseverance, gratitude and enthusiasm.

I have learned that whatever you say you have is what you have. I have learned if you can hold it in your head you can hold it in your hand. Whatever you focus on you do become.

I am so delighted I discovered this for myself I can’t even adequately express it. Life has become a more marvelous adventure than I could have ever hoped for. I live by the mottos ‘if it is to be it is up to me’, and ‘we become what we think about most of the time’.

I feel so grateful I recognized this for myself. It has made all the difference in the world. So I wanted to share it.” Rex Sikes

May you find all the smiles you can today!

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Why Successful People Win and Why You Don’t – What You Need To Start Doing

losers visualize penalities winners rewards

“The question for you now is will you take finally take responsibility for creating the results you want instead of living as if someone else is in charge of them? Will you take control of your own brain?

Well, what will it be? I had to make this decision. What about you?

Once you decide to start to shift your dominant thought balance to the positive then everything changes. You need to keep focused and maintain it. Your life will change for the better because most of your thoughts are better.

The quality of your life is determined by the quality of your thinking. Wherever you spend most of your time, there you are. Good or bad, positive or negative what your experience is like is completely up to you! Successful and happy people already know and do this.

failure is success in progress

When you finally take control everything does change but it still may take time. How quickly or slowly no one can predict.

I repeat myself, because through repetition we learn and we acquire habits. This is why re-reading is valuable but reading won’t change you. It can stimulate your thinking but it is by what you do that will change you. Success in all areas of your life can be yours.

You WILL have to stick with it awhile. It won’t happen overnight, at least, most probably, it won’t. So stop expecting it to happen fast and expect to be in there a while.

Still, expect it to happen sooner because you are organizing and focusing your energies to make it happen and  still be realistic about it. Everything in its season. Be patient and enjoy the journey.

The point I am attempting to make is yes, expect good, swift, positive results but at the same time plan to stick with it. In order to get and keep the results you want you are changing your life, re-organizing your thoughts, you aren’t dabbling. If you try it and stop you won’t get any further than you get when you quit. If you stay the course your results can be astounding!

success requires mindset

You have to keep the faith and maintain the practice for as long as it takes.  No matter how long it takes  you will go through it better and faster when you know you that you are able  to and you do what you need to.  It will take much longer if you fight it, hate it, mope about it  or cave into it. Again, be patient and enjoy the journey.

As for challenges and obstacles know this: ALL defeat is only temporary when you know that you will ultimately win. Resistance is what makes the kite soar and the airplane rise. Without resistance we wouldn’t grow or develop.

There is a reason for everything even if we don’t understand it. There is hot and cold, night and day, good and bad (judgements) rough and smooth, push and pull. Life is made up of opposites too. So don’t let difficulty concern you.

Sometimes the successful people loose all the money and assets. It is a tough time BUT because of their attitude they know they can build it again. After all they did it before now they may just have to do it again. Attitude IS everything. It matters. Those that fail are those who give up and quit.

garbage in out good decisions

It is time to stop being victim and become the victor. Live with confidence and the ability to learn to make successful changes and you will live powerfully.

Successful people stick with it. They don’t dabble and give up. They set their sights, aim at the target and go for it. They pursue success and they get. So much of it is mind set. They feel they deserve it, they feel success and good things belong to them, they believe they have everything it takes to make things happen. Attitude is everything!

They know their abilities and what they need to do to make things happen. They also know who to align with to create things together that they can do easier when partnered up. (more about this at another time).

There was that moment when finally I realized it was time for me to become the creator of my experience and to assume responsibility for ALL of it not just part of it. I accepted responsibility for the tough times, the easy times, the failures and the successes. Whether it is ultimately true or not I decided to accept responsibility for everything in my life and for the entire path of my life.


It doesn’t matter if this is the way things actually are or aren’t the decision brought me new found power and energy. I discovered that if I acted as if everything that I did or happened to me was a result of me and my thoughts I would make sure I would NOW focus on what I wanted.

No longer would I spend time or energy worrying about what I didn’t have or didn’t want I would steer my mind to what I could do and could accomplish. In my new decision came incredible power and control. I opened a powerful positive doorway and stepped through it.

I also recognized, just like the rich, the powerful, the happy and the successful people that I deserved all the great things in life. I recognize that there is plenty for all, and that I could use my mind and abilities to make my life what I always wanted it to be. I no longer had to live in lack or happiness poverty I could be rich in all ways.

never give up time will pass anyway

AND THAT that blew me away!

It is amazing. An entire new wonderful journey began and I find blessings in every day, come what may. After all it isn’t what happens to us but how we react or respond to what happens to us. As creator of my life if something less than glorious occurs I look for the good in it and how to make the situation better.

I have been training my mind to look for and find the good in everything. I concern myself with solutions rather than the problems and I find I have far fewer problems. There is much more joy, happiness and delight as a result.

If I can do this, and I mean this sincerely, if I am able to do this, ANYONE can!!! Certainly, you can! When it occurs to you that YOU can make your life so much more incredible than you can imagine right now, perhaps then you will do it. It is all up to you and the decision you make.

If you decide not to decide and put it off, or you decide not to, that is fine it is your decision. Things will be as they already are. However, should you decide to take control of your life, your thinking and your feelings, when you change your thoughts your life can change.

If you want your life to change you much change things in your life.”  Rex Sikes

Celebrate this day you have! May you delight and enjoy!

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