Stick With It, You Can Do It! Never Give Up

unguarded thoughts - buddha

Keep going no matter what. Never give up. Giving up is easy. Going on may be tough but it is only by persevering that you will make your dreams come true. ‘Quitters never win and winners never quit’, as the saying goes. Just keep going! Hang in there and keep the faith.

Keep your mind in check. Stay positive and maintain your focus. Believe with all your heart you will prevail. Never let obstacles or challenges derail you. Stick with the plan. Keep on going. You only fail when you finally stop trying. We can learn from any challenge and any obstacle. So stay with it and you WILL get through it.

good judgement comes from experience

All defeat is only temporary. It may not seem that but it is. Remember the saying, ‘This too will pass.’ IT WILL, it really will. No matter how tough it is rise up. You deserve the best there is so you must keep going in order to make that happen. Sometimes we have to fall to learn how to get back up and keep going. We make mistakes to gain wisdom and experience. Everything can be useful to learn from so make the most of every experience, every moment.

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Keep moving forward. Being stuck means you stop, that there is no movement. Don’t get stuck, keep moving toward your goals and dreams bit by bit. Consider this, whether true or not, use this thought to inspire you: You are creating everything, your wishes and wants, your dreams and desires, your present and your future. You are creating your obstacles and challenges too. You create these to learn important lessons from and to evolve. Even if it is not true keep it in mind and act as if it were true to guide you.

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EVERYTHING is a blessing, every moment there is something to be thankful for. In every challenge is a seed for opportunity and a lesson to be discovered. So be thankful and enjoy! Celebrate and find what is good and new each moment. Make every second count. Live with passion, joy and delight. When you do each moment can transform. Find the little magical moments and collect them. You will transform.

never give up

It may be tough but that is just the way it is, for now. Concentrate on what you want and why you want it. Celebrate all the good things you presently can find and ignore the rest. If it doesn’t make you stronger or happier or bring you closer to your goal let it go. Know that if you stay with it you can have what you want if you give up it stops the moment you do.

Never let a thought stop you from getting what you deserve. Make your life wonderful everyday! If you are really challenged help someone else. Put a smile on your lips and help put a smile on yours. In helping others will will move forward faster. It makes us feel good when we do and it helps move all of us forward together, even if just a little bit. Helping others is a great way to transform yourself and help transform the world. Live, love, laugh and enjoy!” Rex Sikes

Make today count. Enjoy it, celebrate it and delight in it!

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How To Stop Screwing Up and How To Start Getting What You Want Most In Life

change what is going on within you

“This is the method for you to begin creating what you want the most in life.

Determine what you want that you must have! What is it you want that you are totally passionate about? What were you born to do? What is your ultimate chief purpose in life? What trips your trigger? See it in your mind’s eye. See it as detailed as possible. Use all of the senses. See it in full color, a movie, sights and sounds, feelings tastes and smells. Make it a complete sensory experience.

Write it down in detail with a deadline date. It is said there are no unrealistic goals only unrealistic deadlines. What is a realistic timeframe for you to get everything you desire? Put down the date.

Think about all of this in your mind as though you already have it. Your deadline came to pass you got everything you wanted what is it like to be living this dream now? How does it feel? What do you look, sound and feel like? What do you say to yourself? What are others saying about you? Immerse yourself in this ‘future, present’ reality where you are and have and are doing every thing you wanted. Savor it.

Do this daily imagine it fully and vividly. Plus, read what you wrote down. Be excited about it, enthusiastic. Be as a little kid waiting on holiday gifts. You know fully the gifts are coming and you just can’t wait. You are so eager, Live with passion and enthusiasm and confidence it making your future come true.

Focus on what you want, see it clearly in your mind’s eye.  Focus on WHY you want it. Think about and list all the positive reasons you must have this come to pass. Explore how you and others will be better as a result. Remember your future can come to pass more swiftly if you do no harm and others benefit as a result of you making your dreams come true. When they win AND you win then everyone can help each other. It is said, ‘you can have anything you want in life when you help others get what they want in life’. Remember this. Apply the Golden Rule.

Focus on what want and why you want it instead of on HOW you are going to get it and you will be much happier. The how will come along even though you can’t yet see it. The how will come about as a result of your thinking about it and concentrating about it day and night. You hold the positive image in your mind and charge it with your positive energy and feelings and as you do your whole being is filled with it. Plans and notions, insights and intuitions will begin to come your way. Take notice.

Practice present day gratitude and thankfulness. Appreciate what you have, where you have been. Be thankful for all of life’s challenges, lessons and opportunities. Celebrate all the positive and what you do have. Focus on abundance and not on lack. Focus on manifesting your dreams not problems or issues in the present.

Even if everything crumbles around you stay focused on what it is you want.

Do not get caught up in how you can’t yet see how you will do it. No one knows how they will do anything until after the complete it. So focus on what and why. Concentrate on all the happy, joyous, wonderful moments and not on how and you WILL manifest what you want.

im a product of my decisions

You get what you expect in life. Expect good things!  Even if you can’t see them or can’t yet see how you will have them, expect good things and you will get good things. Expect the worst, because crap is happening around you, and you will get more of what you expect.

Stay focused and do not give up. Expect it and you will have it. The future belongs to you. You create the future with your present thoughts so think the very best.

I have shared many different aspects of creating your future and what you may wish to do. I have discussed what to do if you have any difficulty. Go back and re-visit and re-read frequently. You can do this! You can make all your dreams come true. Have faith and have faith in yourself. More Next Time!” Rex Sikes

In how many different ways do you suppose you can you discover yourself delighting in today that put a smile on your lips?

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Are You Waiting For Paradise? What Are You Waiting For? Part 4 The Secret to The Secret.

change your attitude and it will change your life

“The real secret to getting what you want in life IS to make the most of this moment, delight fully in the now, and you get more of it as you go along. Know where you are headed and enjoy the travels and all of it will be a blessing.

I have mentioned previously that the way ‘THE SECRET’ and the LAW OF ATTRACTION works is by association. Our brains work this way too. The principle that like attracts like explains why we get back what we put out.

Our brain works by associations. One thought will trigger a similar thoughts (or memory) so WHAT we think about is important.

One thought leads to another similar thought which leads to another and so on. What we pay attention to IS critical. What we fill ourselves up with, and concentrate on, most of the time is what we get and what we become. We do get back in return what we put out.

Some people attempt positive thinking. They read The Secret, and they give it a try for awhile and then quit exclaiming that it did not work for them.


What I have learned is how you make the secret work. Here it is in  a nutshell and  have discussed this through the course of many posts you may wish to visit OR re-visit.

You have to positively and energetically stay charged and focused on the future you want to make for yourself. You cannot be 50/50 believing that you will get it and then doubting that.  Doing that will only keep you stuck. Yes, we all have to conquer this. THIS IS AN IMPORTANT piece to learning how to be in control.

You stay focused on what you want to have not what you currently don’t have. If you want wealth you must focus on wealth creation and abundance not on the lack of funds currently in your bank account. You do not get rich focused on poverty. You do not get peace focused on war.

You must tip the scale in favor of what you want and put all your energy into it. Sure, it will be difficult at times but anything truly worth having comes at a cost. EVERYTHING COSTS.

if you don't someone else

If you want it badly enough then you will pay the price. You can’t skimp, negotiate, bargain, cut corners, cheat, or lower the cost of getting your future as you want it. YOU have to pay the price. If you are prepared to do so then there will be no stopping you.

The cost for creating your future, as you want it, is sticking with it and not giving up. It means persevering no matter how challenging. The only time one absolutely fails in ANYTHING is when they give up and quit otherwise all defeat is only temporary. Nothing is permanent until you quit.

So if you want to get the future you want – you decide on it, occupy your thoughts and feelings with it. You stay passionate and positively and energetically charged about it. You keep the faith, believe you will make it happen and expect to. Never give up no matter what difficulty you encounter and adjust back on course whenever necessary.

Be flexible and adaptable when you may have to change plants but keep going after the goal. Appreciate and validate where you have been and what you have. Focus on the very best thoughts and feelings you have and nurture these. Avoid the negative and the defeatist thinking. Stay on track and have fund. Celebrate everything today and you make room for more tomorrow.

What does this all mean?

It means you control your attention and your feelings and make these your servants. You make your thoughts and feelings and actions work for you instead of you working for them. You become the master of your soul and your fate. You determine what will be and you continue faithfully until you get it.

grow the habit

You need to maintain the most positive frame of mind and stay focused on your destination, even when things around you are crumbling, without wavering. OF course, you will waver, you are a human but you need to get yourself back on course as soon as you are able. We become what we think about MOST of the time.

So focus on all the good in the future. Focus on all the good from the past. Focus on all the good in your present. Train your mind to see the good in every situation. Keep the faith even when you can’t yet see how the good will manifest. Find the good in the present difficulty, and seek out what lesson, what benefit you might derive from the challenge?

When you can appreciate everything you become the winner.

You are the victor and you are on your way to claiming the future prize. There is no failure along the way, difficulties yes, some may be tremendous, but in each you can find a seed of positive opportunity if you look for it. Train your mind to look for the good in every situation and with every person. Fill your heart and mind with gratitude.

When we are filled with the very best positive thoughts and energy right now in this moment we are creating the future. We are creating the future if our minds are filled with worry, fear, complaints, anger, doubts and depression. We get back in return what we predominantly hold in our minds and feel in our bodies.

This is how you make the Law Of Attraction and the Secret, work for you.

positive mind, vibes, life

We attract like thoughts and energy as we move along.

If you want the best you have to think and feel the best.

The present IS for us to enjoy along the way to getting what we want. We should not sacrifice the present for the future. The present, this moment right now, may be all we ACTUALLY have – but it will become the future. SO it is important to know what you want and to live the way you want so you maintain all the goodness from now to then.

Create the future you want to have by making the present what you want to have. The only way to do this is to begin to appreciate what you have, where you are and where you are going. Enjoy it, celebrate it and more will come your way! More the next time” Rex Sikes

What will you do right now to make the most of this moment? What can you find to celebrate and enjoy? Have a fabulous day!


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Are You Waiting For Paradise? What Are You Waiting For? Part 3 The Past

past present future

WOW! Then the past became clear to me.

Everything I had ever done or thought, successfully or not, was a pathway to this moment. In retrospect, every decision could be seen to have brought me to this present moment right here. Whether it actually is a charted pathway to now or simply haphazard doesn’t matter it is the meaning we assign to it. I don’t care to debate the reality of the past. In the light of this new understanding I could look back and see how events in my life worked or did not work to bring me to this moment.

THIS AWARENESS brought another awareness. No matter what I may have suffered, lost, or didn’t take advantage of all of it was valuable to who I am today. No matter how I failed or succeeded, no matter what I was unlucky in or was lucky in all of it were stepping stones on the pathway.

EVERYTHING from my past good and bad I could appreciate in some fashion because it was part of the road to this realization. I could celebrate successes and failures, great times and tragedies and learn from all.

some things fall apart so things come together

My thinking underwent profound changes. Life altering realizations flooded me. Some changes in thinking were instantaneous while others came about over many weeks and many years. Most came about because I immersed myself in positive and inspirational material and made a commitment to find the best thoughts to think daily. The insights came about because I was changing myself. I was working at it and gaining new understandings as a result of my efforts.

My life changed when I decided to be in charge of my thinking and feelings. I decided to choose the best thoughts and the best feelings I could find each day. I decided to stop leaving things to chance and to stop living like a victim to anything. No longer would I be like that bobbing cork.

I would fill every moment I could with the best that I could find. It might not always be the most glorious but it would be the best I could do at the moment. I would do this without criticizing myself for the job I was doing. After all, I was no expert, I was learning to do this and learning to stay focused so I should treat myself with respect and love and gentleness while in this process. I was a neophyte, a beginner, a child in the school of self improvement.

I learned that progress is quicker without trying to manage it or critique it. We evolve faster when we give ourself permission to make mistakes and accept them as a natural part of growing. Every baker has burned a loaf of bread at times. Why should I think I won’t somewhere screw up? Accept it and go on without making a big deal out of it. Relax, do the work, and let go. I moved slow and steady. I nurture myself along as if an toddler. It is better while learning to praise than to punish.

attitude difference between ordeal and adventure

I learned to nurture change gently. It was extremely difficult at times and exceptionally easy at other times. Challenges came along. They always do. When I realized difficulties were opportunities to grow even stronger through adversity I embraced them. I encountered difficult people and when I could I would think of the Golden Rule and apply it I did. This became very important because I DO want to get back what I put out – so I want it to be the very best. I want to attract the best people to gather around me.

I learned life is too short to suffer, whine, complain and be annoyed by people and circumstances. I realized this is my life AND I want to make it what I want it to be. I use the Garden Of Eden analogy. According to my version of this Biblical story we were meant to live in paradise.

We were designed for and meant to live in paradise but because of our actions (our thoughts) we don’t. Still paradise was intended for us.

Heaven and hell exist inside us. We make our life whatever it is by what we choose to pay attention to. Very little suffering actually comes from the outside of us (but there are physical realities). Most of our suffering is a result of how we react to circumstances and people and our very own thoughts and feelings. In many ways, exactly how much we suffer is up to us. We know that people may respond very differently to similar circumstances. One persons floor is another person’s ceiling.

SO I decided to stop focusing on reasons I suffer and to begin making my life a return to paradise.

But why wait? Paradise shouldn’t be a far off possibility but immediate pleasure. If I want to live in paradise then I have to begin living it right now. This is why it is important to make the present as remarkable as it can be.

We make the present incredible when we appreciating everything. EVERYTHING! We accept we allow and we learn from everything. We forgive and truly forgive. We appreciate all from the past, we decide to live as champions not merely as survivors.

If you are reading this today then you have been succeeding along. You have been doing extremely well even if you don’t think so yet. You are here and that is a testimony to your strength. For some, they have demonstrated amazing strength others may have had it easier. No matter, you are here today reading this because you have succeeded in getting here. That is worth noting for yourself.

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Accept the past, heal the past, appreciate where it has brought you. No matter what the journey was like before you are right here.

What tomorrow is like you will determine today.

If your present isn’t everything you want it to be you NOW have the chance to make it so. You can begin to make your present unbelievably wonderful while creating a more marvelous future.

It is time to stop being a victim, if that is how you have lived, and start being a victor.

There is the saying ‘if it is to be it is up to me’ and that is the truth. It is up to each of us. When I realized this (and the other realizations I mentioned) my life began to transform.

I am still a work in progress. I am not complete and not perfect. Perfection is not a goal anyway. I don’t want anything perfect. I am what and who I am. I have been learning I can enjoy that. I can celebrate and become even more awesome. Nothing is lacking and nothing is complete all at the very same time. Yes, I still experience challenges and need to look for the hidden opportunities but life is so much better today!! It can be for you too if it is not already.

think continually about what you want

The past and present and future all simultaneously co-habit this moment, oddly enough.

Learn to appreciate where you have been. Validate the journey you have traveled. Celebrate where you are at this moment as you move into the future. You will arrive at the destination you have chosen for yourself. Stay positive, stay optimistic, expect the best, keep focused on what you want and all that is wonderful. Each day do the little things you can to make each moment miraculous and your life will transform in ways you can’t even begin to imagine. Yes, your life will transform because YOU will be the one transforming it.

There is no reason to wait for paradise. Begin enjoying it right now. This world is your garden. Plant and nurture the wonderful things you want to have more of.

Everything begins with the thought you think. Choose your thoughts wisely. Plant good seeds. Celebrate the process and embrace the miraculous. I’ll share more later! Meanwhile, enjoy!” Rex Sikes

It is your day to make marvelous? What are you going to do about it?


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Are You Waiting For Paradise? What Are You Waiting For? PT 2

train your mind to see good

“This was a huge awakening for me. Tomorrow is a result of what we do today or what we don’t do today. We get back what we put out there. If we want different results we have to do things differently and it all begins with what and how we think. In order to have a different future I had to think different thoughts about it.

What this meant was I could no longer continue going along has I had been. I needed to take charge gain control. I knew it may not be easy but it seemed simple enough. If my thoughts are producing the results I am getting and I don’t like these results I must change my thoughts.

I could no longer live as I had, my habitual way of thinking and behaving had to be shaken up or wakened up. I could no longer afford to be a passenger  on the ship of life I had to become the captain. I had to set a destination, chart the course, and keep on course come what may. If I was going to have a different future it was dependent completely on me.

I began by creating what I wanted and focusing on that.  I set my goal I wrote down my definite chief purpose. I have discussed this process in my posts. The point is I determined what I wanted most in life and then I kept it in mind day and night.

I noticed, however, that  my attention was not always on what I wanted. At times I was thinking about what was going on right then in the current situation. I was paying attention to circumstances that were  UNLIKE those I wanted in my future.

I noticed sometimes my attention turned to problems or situations that I deemed might prevent my intended future from manifesting. Instead of being focused on the prize I was focusing on the obstacles.

I found myself going back and forth and realized that this process was not unlike what I already had been doing. It was really no different.

What I was doing was the same as I had been doing all along.

we are what we repeatedly do

In my past I had hoped for things but didn’t really think I could make them happen.

NOW I wanted things for the future and planned to get them but found myself noticing all the reasons and disappointments that made them unlikely. One moment I was positive the next moment I was not. One moment I was certain I was getting my goals the next moment I doubted it. One instant I imagined being wealthy later I saw the present mountains of bills and no cash to pay them.

It was just like bobbing along as cork on the currents. I was drifting wherever the currents went.

Isn’t it fascinating to notice that often we think we are doing something different when in reality we are doing the very same thing. This is like changing the color you paint the house.  The color is different but the act of painting is the same. This is why people say if you keep doing the same thing but expect different results it is insanity.

The change must be real not cosmetic. If I wanted things to be different I was going to have to develop new habits for myself.

It became clear that if I was going to make a difference for myself in my life and for my future I had to take charge of my thinking. I had to focus on what I wanted and keep it positive no matter what was going on right now. I had to do this even if I had to boot strap it. I could no longer drift along.

Boot strap it I did. I learned some things along the way too. I discovered the power of purposeful questions (Directed Questions) which I have mentioned in previous posts.

I discovered that I needed to hone my ability to return to center. I have used the example of driving down a lane in your car and the micro adjustments we have to make steering, on an ongoing basis, just to continue straight. I have used the examples of a ship or a rocket course correcting continuously in order to arrive at their intended destination.

just because soemthing isn't happening

So it became very clear to me that I had to choose my destination and set my course.  If I wanted to arrive at my destination I had to maintain my course no matter what. I could not succumb to drifting or to giving up. I had to keep doing no matter what was going on in the present.  No matter how treacherous the journey was presently, or how difficult it would become I would keep going. That was my commitment.

If you want to make you future happen you have to concentrate on it to the exclusion of all else. It should become your passion and your obsession.

When you choose your destination you have to concentrate on getting there and not all the distractions, obstacles, detours and side trips. YOU have to remain clear and intent on getting where you set out to get to. You must be of one mind and not tossed about.

You must act with purpose and determination and keep going until you get what goal.

I am in charge and I am choosing

THEN it hit me again. Yes, I could travel to my destination BUT HOW I traveled might be important too. I could travel with such determination that I missed everything along the way. That did not seem worthwhile, nor was it what I wanted. After all I wanted to enjoy life much more. That is why I made these changes.

If it was going to be just painful having a new future it would be unlikely I would stick with it. How then might I increase my odds of sticking with it.

Plenty of people through the century have talked about enjoying life along the way. Going back to a previous point in a post, people have stated you should enjoy the present. Smell the roses and ‘Be here now’.

The point is to not procrastinate and save all the good feelings for later of for some after life. It seemed the journey was an important part of arriving at the destination.

be happy with what u have whle working for what u want

Then I realized HOW the present and future serviced each other.

In order to arrive at my destination happily and with energy to enjoy it I had to like to journey along the way as well.

NOW I understood how the present was important.

Yes, savor the present, the good, the great, the grand. Appreciate the little things be filled with gratitude. Enjoy now and think the best positive thoughts now. Enjoy everything, learn from everything because this moment becomes the next.

Yes, I could make the journey as pleasant as possible.  We continue next time.” Rex Sikes

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| The Secret | How To Get The Positive Results You Want & Make Your Dreams Come True Part 2

any idea plan repetition of thought Napoleon Hill

“You must focus and remain focused on WHAT YOU WANT in order to engage your unconscious mind (the servo-mechanism)  to work on it for you

You must  provide a clear image to the unconscious so it knows what you want it to do. This is why the power and focus of your conscious mind matters. You deliver the right message to your unconscious and then your unconscious works for you on what you want it to work on.

Your unconscious mind is already working. It IS always working but if you are not getting the results you want to get it is because you have not provided clear instructions for it to carry out.

If you aren’t getting the results you want it is because you are not sending it the clear message of what you want. It IS currently producing what you have been sending it. This is important to understand and act on if you want your life to change for the best…

Part 2

In order for your unconscious mind to work on what you want you have to give it  a clear, definite picture and clear instructions of your ‘burning desire’. This is what you need to do every single day.

Stay focused and passionate about your goal, repeat what you wrote down out loud with lot’s of positive energy and enthusiasm at least twice a day. Adopt the attitude of expectation, believe you are going to get it.

If at first you find it difficult to believe 100% stick with the practice, there will come a time when you do fully believe it. This is important. Believe you will get it and you can get it. Believe that you won’t make it happen and it is nearly 100% certain you won’t.

You must remain constant and not waiver.

If one day you are focused on what you want and the next moment you are thinking about what you don’t want and then again back to what you want you, then what you don’t want you are sending confusing mixed messages. It is just as if you are commanding a pet dog to,”Stay, come here, stay, come here, don’t come, come, stay.”  You can’t flip flop and get good, quick results.

You will get to the prize faster by staying on target with what you want and being definite about it. You will get to your destination when you think and feel and act in alignment with getting there. Do not lett the past or present things throw you off course. Stay strong, be of one mind.

what holds u back is who u think u are not

For example, you may not have money to pay your bills.

When you worry about and think about how you don’t have the money and impending consequences does not help you get the money you want or need. You have to adopt a mental position of ‘whatever happens I will be okay, things always work out for me’ instead of worrying. This comes about with practice too!

Worry will only bring more worry. From a more confident, optimistic mindset you are more resourceful and have a better frame of mind to figure out how to get what you need.

The results you get back, how you feel, and your life and your being is filled with whatever predominantly occupies your mind most of the time each day.

In order to meet life’s challenges as you need to be thinking confidently and not frazzled, worried or frantic. Think about it. I will say it again: The results you get back, how you feel, and your life and your being is filled with whatever predominantly occupies your mind most of the time each day.

You become what you think about.

we are what we repeatedly do

I hope you get it.

Keep in mind that I am sharing with you a life changing process. It is a process. The word process defined means ‘a series of actions or steps taken in order to achieve a particular end’. It functions through time. It  is not an over night, instantaneous, magic pill but a method. For some, you will see results more quickly, for others it may take longer, regardless it will take some time.

Changing your life is not a competition so don’t be concerned with the time it takes be concerned with being dedicated to the process.

What may be difficult at first becomes easier the more you do it. You may have learned to eat by yourself, walk, ride a bike, read and write, drive a care, play a sport and countless other things that seemed difficult at first. So hang in there and you will get better and eventually master this process too. Just stick with it and never stop and you will make it happen.

repetition of affirmations lead to belief

You must be clear about you want and focused on it. You must concentrate on it over and over again and only on it. You must remain faithful to your goal and the results you want. You must ignore what you don’t want and favor what you do want.

You may include all the incredible things, small and large, from your present and accentuate these. You must keep going and not quit in order to get what you want. When you do these things you will discover your life changing along the way, but remember, it may not be evident at first.

Keep this in mind: what do you want? Do you want the results (your dreams/goal) in the future or  do you what you have now? Whatever you focus on is what you will get more of. It is your decision. If you want your life to change for the better you are learning what you can do to make that happen. It is up to you to do it.” Rex Sikes

*I suggest you go back and read through these blogs again and again. You will discover things you missed when you read it the first time. What you missed was there all along but the person who goes back to read again has already been altered by life along the way.

You are not exactly the same person you were yesterday, a week ago, a month or years. You are changing. When you read something later you may bring a new awareness to it because you have new life experiences since the last time you visited. You understand things differently the second, third and forth time you read the same material. So Read, re-read, and implement. It is not the reading that will change you but what you put into practice from your new understandings.

Have a wonderful day! Imagine how much more marvelous you can make it.

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Are You Waiting For Paradise? What Are You Waiting For? PT 1

when you arise think of the privilege

“Past, Present or Future. People say, ‘live now’, not in the past or the future. ‘Now IS the only time you have’. I agree. I have learned you can not live in the past. I certainly used to. I preferred what came before to what is and what may be. I longed for the good old days. I mourned their passing. Until one day I realized for myself that it was true no amount of wishing would bring anything back. People I missed and reconnected with had moved on, only I hadn’t.

I believe part of the reason I so adored the past was that I was not ever taught about goals. My present was okay at best, so I tolerated it. Even when it was pretty bad I didn’t think there was much I could do about it. I had been encouraged to do whatever I wanted as long as I got a job and worked to make money but no one ever truly educated me in how to set goals and work in a disciplined fashion. I did not know how to make plans or how to get my goals. I was one of the most undisciplined people I know.

Life was about dealing with whatever happened. Whatever didn’t happen didn’t. I thought much of it was the result of others or circumstances. If someone else got something I wanted in life that was because luck was on their side. I was just unlucky. I had no say in what happened to me. Career success just a matter of the right breaks. I had no clue how to make my own breaks or move forward. Clueless, is how I lived much of my life.

I became a meditator and began to appreciate the now much more. I began to focus so much on ‘this moment’ that I paid no attention to what was down the road. I knew the past was over, my beloved past was not available. NOW is all I had. So I lived moment to moment without respecting the needs coming down the road very well. I had no future I had only now.

This was not that different from living in the past actually. I lived in the past with no regard for the future, living in the present was essentially the same. It was just more immediate in where I put my attention. It was not about friends or times long ago but about about those things right now. Basically, I traded one outlook for a similar outlook only I did not realize this at the time. I got the same shirt only in a different color.

I literally had to train my mind to begin to look into the future.

dream is goal w deadline

We all have to learn how to do this but for some of us it may happen earlier on as they grow up. As an adult, I had to being to force myself to consider where I was and what I wanted that would improve on my lot and my life. I could no longer leave it to chance. I had to actually decide what I want and work to make it happen.

For some readers, they may think, ‘well duh?’ Yes, it is true. I had to turn my attention from the now to the then. I had to decide what I want, what goals i wanted to set, and when I wanted it, the deadline. I learned that it wasn’t enough to want something you needed a delivery date. If you bought a pair of shoes online you want to know when you expect them to show up. You would never think to make the purchase with an ‘anytime in the future’ date of delivery.

Of course prior to this moment, I always wanted things to happen for me but I didn’t expect to get them. I wanted them, yes but I only hoped to get them. They were wants, yes, but not what I must absolutely have and go after to get. They fell into the category of, ‘it would be great to have these’ but ‘how come I don’t have them’.

Back to the shoe purchase analogy. You find what you want, you make the purchase, you get a delivery date and you expect to get it when and as promised.

I didn’t fully appreciate that if I wanted certain things I would have to make them happen. I looked at my shortcomings, my lack of knowledge and experience and resigned myself to the fact that I just didn’t know how to get what I hoped to have.

After years of aimless living I came to an understanding that if anything was going to change I had to change what I was thinking and doing, or what I was NOT thinking and NOT doing. It was not just a matter of what I was doing it was also what I was leaving out that was critical.

It became very clear that I was most like a cork that bobbed along in the water, moving wherever the current took me, longing for the past distant shores, or even enjoying the present surroundings, but with no destination in mind, nor power to get there. I had to change something, I had to change this thinking. I had to embrace new thinking if this was at all possible.

I wrote down what I wanted and began to review it throughout each day numerous times. I have described this method in previous blogs. I filled my mind with what I wanted to occur in the future and imagined myself already living as though it was mine.

Back to the shoes again: I had to select what I wanted for myself. I had to make a decision. Once I knew what I wanted I put in the order. From the moment I knew what I wanted I imagined what it would be like having it. People often visualize what they will look like wearing the new shoes. They may see others making a big deal about their choice and how cool it is. They visualize in their minds, right now, what it is like to live wearing the shoes even though the purchased shoes haven’t physically arrived yet. Do you understand what I mean by I imagined myself living as though it was mine?

desire back by faith

I steered my mind to the positive and chanted affirmations energetically, passionately. I took charge and made it a point to do something each day in service of the future I wanted. I made the future important to me!

NOW, it would be very easy, for some of us, to be so focused on what we want to make happen that we sacrifice our present for a later date. Fortunately, I came to the realization that this would not be a very good thing.

What I realized, early on, was that my present was a result of my past thoughts.

The lack of consistent plans and goals and positive thoughts resulted in where I was, aimlessly floating. My present was a result of my previous thinking or lack of thinking. Could it be that our future is dependent on the thoughts we think today?

I realized, then, that my current thoughts determined and created my future experience. Whatever I was currently thinking and not thinking about is what I would get in return. My future is dependent on where my mind is right now.

energy goes where attention goes

It became obvious to me that if I wanted a different sort of future it would depend on what I did right this moment.

WOW that hit me like a ton of bricks. My future is dependent on what I am thinking and feeling right now! Right this moment we are creating our futures! More next time.” Rex Sikes

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