Why Don’t People, Including You, Change When They Want To?


“You try to change? You want to lose weight, gain weight, get out of debt, spend less money, Yet, you don’t. You try to make more money, feel happier, stop yelling at kids,  or quit smoking but you haven’t. What’s up with this? Why don’t people change if they want to?

The short answer is: They haven’t decided to. They want to but haven’t made the decision. That is one heck of a major reason. They hope to, wish to, and want to really, really, badly, BUT they haven’t actually said, ‘I will change’.  YOU haven’t committed to it, either.

Instead they try different things. All of which don’t work, according to them. They make excuses, they blame others. They tell themselves, ‘it will be hard’. They say things like, ‘I don’t know how.’ They blame god, the world, the economy, even themselves.

Unsuccessful People Make Decisions Based On What Sucks Now

‘I can’t change’. ‘I’ve tried everything.’ UH, NO, YOU HAVEN’T. You may think you have tried everything, but you haven’t. May seems like it, but nope. You’re not  doing the right things. You keep doing the same things over and over wishing and hoping it would be different.

That’s part of the problem. You have to do something ACTUALLY different! You have to say you will and then you have to commit to it. You have been putting it off. Fearing it. Resisting it. Worrying about it. You have been programming yourself to fail again! STOP THIS!

STOP the Insanity! You need to program yourself to succeed. You need to quit failing and start succeeding. As Henry Ford stated, ‘Whether you think you can’t or you think you can. You are right’. You’ve lied about why you can’t change. Now, lie about why you can.

Successful People Decide Based On Where They Want To Be

You have to decide you will. Commit to it. Affirm that commitment each and every day, every hour and every minute, if need be. Commit and persist. Believe you can do it. Affirm that you can do it. Decide it will be easier than you imagine, even though, it may be tough.

It requires as much effort and action as it requires. You don’t take a bazooka after a gnat when a flyswatter will do. Still, you must do whatever it takes. You must keep doing it until you make it a new habit and master it. You must engage your mind power. You must!

You must make your thoughts and feelings work for you instead of the way you typically use them. You must take charge and decide that you are larger than any problem you could possibly have. YOU are in charge. You will do it. You will make it happen. You – You – You!

There Is Power In Making The Decision To Do Something Positive

Stop doing the old things the old ways. Stop doing the old habits. Make some new ones. Create thought, feeling and action habits that serve you. Weed the garden. Stop feeding the weeds. Feed only what you want to grow. Speak only that which promotes growth.

Align your thoughts, feelings, words and actions. Focus your attention powerfully on what you want to create and do it. The more you do the more you can do. Break it into manageable steps at first. Chunk it down. Step by step, but do it. You can learn to do anything.

Appreciate that you want to change. Appreciate what you want to change because something about it served you. Right or wrong there was something in the behavior for you. Now change and appreciate you have decided it is time. Appreciate your efforts. Be glad!

You Have The Power To Change Your Life At Any Moment

Appreciate your progress. Each day feel blessed and thankful for the effort, the progress, the slip-ups and mistakes, the return to progress and for your persistence. Feel blessed you are alive and able to take this on. Stop whining and start winning. Make it a game. Have fun. Enjoy it. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

It is your day. How are you going to spend it?

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One thought on “Why Don’t People, Including You, Change When They Want To?”

  1. I just changed. My income immediately trippled. I was having trouble with my clients paying for my services. I was mad and blaiming them. The moment I realized it was my fault and decided to change me. I could see in my imagination a simple motion of my hand that would make all the difference. I by faith tried the new simple movement of my hand that came from my imagination and my income trippled immediately. I now have 100% payment for my serveces instead of 30% all I had to do was stop blaiming my clients and blame myself. At that moment my immagination began working came up with a movement of my right hand from out to in. By faith I tried this action and now I am enjoying 100% payment for my services. That’s how what you are talking about works. Everytime I blame myself and engage my sinthetic and creative imaginations the answers come. I always corageously try the ideas they usually seem sound and do wondrous changes. Keep on Rex love your creative writing you are helping so many.

    On Mon, Feb 27, 2017 at 12:43 AM, Rex Sikes’ Daily Inspiration and Gratitude wrote:

    > rexsikes posted: ” “You try to change? You want to lose weight, gain > weight, get out of debt, spend less money, Yet, you don’t. You try to make > more money, feel happier, stop yelling at kids, or quit smoking but you > haven’t. What’s up with this? Why don’t people change” >

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