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Happiness Is Already Yours: Happiness Is Your Birthright!

“All one has to do is reflect on the wisdom of the ancients. Those who suggested we should travel within to find our bliss. Love, peace, and joy aren’t found outside oneself but from within. Happiness is already within you. It doesn’t come from what you acquire.

Plenty of people pursue the wrong things and the wrong thinking. They think a new car, home, shiny toy or even a new relationship will bring them the happiness and satisfaction they now lack. Scores of people prove that is wrong. Things and riches don’t fulfill us.

Ask any number of people who have made it to the top to find themselves still sad and lonely. I had a very successful music producer tell me he ‘lucked’ into become fantastically rich by putting out music he wanted to hear, only to discover his wealth hollow.

Unhappiness Stems Not From Circumstances But Your Thoughts

He said, with all this, ‘I am still me.’ By the way, he wasn’t lucky in getting rich he was smart about it. He knew what he wanted and worked to make it happen. So what was wrong? He put his faith in the results that having those would make him happy and different.

They didn’t. He changed his circumstances without changing himself. From the top he sought to transform himself. That is why he called me. With help he discovered how to go within. He began studying transformation. He meditated. He practiced being fulfilled.

It worked because it is a mental game, a heart game, a game of the spirit. Thinking about it  won’t make you happy. Wanting things to be different doesn’t make you happy. Comparison doesn’t make you happy if you come up filled with envy. Only you make you happy.

Happiness Is Within – It Comes From What You Give Energy To

I am happier in my life for the last number of decades than I was for the first couple. It is me that changed not the circumstances. Although, as I changed my circumstances changed. Life is good as a result of my inner happiness and not the other way around.

When we live ‘at cause’, in charge of our thinking, feeling and behaviors the ‘effect’ is happiness. The results are happiness. Does that mean we never have sad or ho-hum moments. Probably not. All emotions are part of being human. Be glad they are too. It is good.

What it does mean is you spend more time in those moments that uplift and support you and less time in those that bring you down. You are ‘at cause’ and no longer ‘at effect’. Happiness is already yours. This is what so many people and researchers miss!

Life Isn’t About Finding Yourself It’s About Creating Yourself

You were born happy. Consider this. Who was that being prior to any speech or any outer influence? You learned your language, your thoughts, your beliefs, your feelings, behaviors, your paradigms from the outside, from those surrounding you. It was added to you.

Happiness is what’s left within you when you remove all that masks and hides it. Let go, drop all that. Allow yourself to become aware that happiness is already yours and accept it. Learn to become a great receiver and receive all that is already yours. Stop waiting and start living! Begin now by. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

ACT TODAY! Stop suffering! Transform yourself and create your best life ever! Enroll In Mind Design™ Today  Stop struggling! It can be easier. Learn to use the mind you have to get what you want!

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Olympic Champion Speaks Mind On Developing The Winner’s Edge

 

“Olympic Champion Aly Raisman has won 6 Olympic Medals. 3 of them gold.In London in 2012 and in Rio in 2016.  She is considered one of the most accomplished American gymnasts of all time. In her recent 60 Minutes interview shared her important lessons.

Aly dreamed it, saw it, rehearsed it and dedicated herself to it! She authored the book Fierce: How Competing For Myself Changed Everything describing her process. If you’d like to read how Aly put her mind to work for her get her amazing book.

For your convenience I have shared the link.

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Her coach told her she worked too hard to not be an Olympic Champion because she was a little afraid. She decided he was right. She describe what it was like to know she was going to do well. She also emphasized the difference her thinking made on performance.

What You See And What You Say Inside Is What You Get Outside

‘I felt like I was like floating. It felt like it was effortless and I never felt like that before but it was like the best feeling in the world. I learned a valuable lesson that day. In the all around final I was nervous. I doubted myself and I made a mistake. In the floor final I knew I was going to hit the best routine of my life and I did.’

The Mind Is As Strong As Its Weakest Think – Focus – Certainty

Certainty, knowing you are going to do it, comes from right conditioning and right mindset. It comes from daily practice in creating what you want. Hoping, wishes, wanting doesn’t cut it. Fear, doubting and worry don’t help. BUT Certainty does. Knowing does.

When you become certain, when you know you will succeed, you will succeed! She returned to the Olympics and won Silver in the all around in Rio. She says, ‘I finally competed in an all around without any major error. I finally competed for myself and I finally believed in myself. That was such a good feeling it was really empowering for me.” Isn’t this cool You bet it is. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

ACT TODAY! Stop suffering! Transform yourself and create your best life ever! Enroll In Mind Design™ Today  Stop struggling! It can be easier. Learn to use the mind you have to get what you want!

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Whatever Has Your Attention Rules Your Life!

“What you give your attention to determines how you live. It determines how your life goes. It determines whether you get more or end up with less. What you give you attention to rules, dictates, you circumstances, your results, the overall quality of everything!

So what has your attention? What do you give it to? Is it devoted to your goals and dreams and creating your best life ever? Is it devoted to your problems, your fears, your doubts, your debts and your lack. Whatever has you attention occupies your mind and makes it so.

Birds of a feather flock together! You have two choices: increase or decrease. Either you are expanding, growing, thriving, increasing, becoming better or you are shrinking, contracting, losing out, dying. Wherever your attention is determines increase or decrease!

What You Focus On Expands – You Become What You Think About

You need to take hold of your mind and direct it. You need to focus your mind and rule it otherwise it rules you! Is that what you want. Your mind is an incredible servant and a terrible, cruel master. If you want to live well and create you best life ever you must master your attention and ability to focus. Otherwise, expect to remain the same. Perhaps, even worse. But it can be different! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

ACT TODAY! Stop suffering! Transform yourself and create your best life ever! Enroll In Mind Design™ Today  Stop struggling! It can be easier. Learn to use the mind you have to get what you want!

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There Is Nothing To Fear: Trust In This!

“There seem to be a lot of ‘in name only’ Christians these day. People who spout scripture but whose lives don’t follow scripture. Some ‘cherry pick’ passages to put others down, show others the error of their ways, without realizing they, themselves, come up way short!

I will make a bold statement. If you are a true Christian or Jew, if you believe the Bible or Torah is the inspired word of god, THEN you would be well served to act on it. Claim it. Stand on the promises there within. Live as if you have that word in your heart. Act like it.

If nothing else the 23rd Psalm tells you how the true Christian or Jew lives, believes and acts. Take comfort and stand on the words attributed to David, the king and the other authors of the Psalms. I share this incredible promise with you. Take it to heart. Apply it.

Some won’t like what I say next. Others will love it.

You may or may not believe in god, nor must you to read this blog. There are many ways to describe the mysteries of the universe, source, infinite intelligence, divine mind, and more. I am for you deciding on your own, for I will not tell you what you must believe.

Whether or not you are Christian or Jew this Psalm attributed to David is amazing.

‘The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want.’ The author says god is our unfailing and abundant supply. We shall not want for anything. He will take good care of us as a shepherd does his sheep

‘He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters. He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name’s sake.’ God, or the universe, source whatever you choose, takes care of us in all ways; in every way!

‘Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.’ There is nothing to fear. Fear no evil for god is with us. He protects, keeps safe, and comforts us. Nothing can harm us in god. Fear not!

‘Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over.’ Again, god meets all our needs. Even in the presence of enemies we are safe, abundantly all our needs our met. A banquet in presence of enemies. WOW!

‘Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the LORD for ever.’ God’s goodness will always follow me. So think about this. There is nothing to fear. We can come to no harm. Every need is taken care of. We are comforted and loved.

So, what is it with name only christians who are afraid of others, who claim other’s sin is responsible for downfall? Who blame and accuse and deprive others from living happy, healthy lives, and attempt to prevent them from following their dreams. They hate and are afraid.

Why is it that they take money from them, prevent them from having the care and access to resources they need? These same name only christians allocate money to themselves, health benefits for themselves all while depriving others. They don’t live the Word?

There is nothing to fear, hate, or harm. God takes care of us. Rest in god’s word. Claim the promises and live as god intended you to live. Follow Matthew 22:36-40 When a disciple asked Jesus, ‘Master what is the greatest commandment in the law?’

Jesus said unto him, ‘Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.’ Seems fairly direct. Love god. Love your neighbor.

Do you not get this? If you claim to be a Christian it seems you have your work cut out for you. The rest of us would benefit if we followed these words as well. Love and love some more. Stop the hate. Be filled with love. You are safe with nothing to fear. You are well provided for. There is plenty for all. Love god and love others as you love yourself. Treat everyone well. Be kind. Be generous as god is to you. Celebrate everything!”

ACT TODAY! Stop suffering! Transform yourself and create your best life ever! Enroll In Mind Design™ Today  Stop struggling! It can be easier. Learn to use the mind you have to get what you want!

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This One Decision Can Transform Your Life Instantly!

“If you are my reader you’re possibly becoming aware if you want something you must create the desire and passion for it. You must create the energy to get it. You create the momentum by what you do and how you do it. You desire, believe, act and persist. Go for it!

It all begins with a decision. One decision has the power to completely  transform your life and circumstances. Most people never make a powerful decision to create their best life. They settle. They believe what they were taught growing up. Do you?

They follow what they were taught, but they were never taught to develop the mindset and behaviors for success. They were taught, go to school, get a job, get married, have kids and retire with a pension. Not bad if that is what you want, except in today’s world.

You Are Today Where Your Thoughts And Decision Brought You

If you want the best life ever you must create it. You must think yourself successful. The right mindset can make you rich. Just any mindset will keep you broke and in debt. You must decide what you want. Success is only a decision away. Choose! You must choose!

Then you must be willing to do what it takes to create the life you want to enjoy. If you don’t make an active, conscious decision, then you already made one to not succeed. If you want to change your life,  then you must change what you are doing. Decide today! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

ACT TODAY! Stop suffering! Transform yourself and create your best life ever! Enroll In Mind Design™ Today  Stop struggling! It can be easier. Learn to use the mind you have to get what you want!

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Decide: Create The Momentum Cycle For Success!

“Newton’s law: A body at rest tends to remain at rest unless a force acts on it. A body in motions tends to remain in motion unless a force acts on it. You are stuck because you have been stuck. This is the condition most people are in. Inertia keeps them from moving.

If you take action, if you make a powerful decision, you can begin to move forward. If you do what I have suggested in my blog and make a powerful decision, your taking action, creates the energy. That energy you focus on your Definite Chief Aim with white hot desire.

Decision creates movement. Once you are moving forward you continue to move forward. If you do as I have suggested and create this momentum you will remain moving forward. If you cultivate your will and persistence you will continue forward no matter what.

Momentum – The More We Do The More We Can Do

You will develop the habit for forward movement and for keeping it going. You’ll refuse to let anything stop you! Inertia will keep you moving. BUT it will never happen UNLESS, and UNTIL, you decide to make it happen! If you fail to act you, will remain right where you are. It is time to act. Do it today! Act right now. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

ACT TODAY! Stop suffering! Transform yourself and create your best life ever! Enroll In Mind Design™ Today  Stop struggling! It can be easier. Learn to use the mind you have to get what you want!

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How To Live Your Best Life Most Easily

“When it comes to learning there are four phases we go through. The first is Unconscious Incompetence which means you don’t know you don’t know. Before you ever saw someone ride a bike you were not conscious it was possible, and you were incompetent to do it.

Next we become aware. We become Consciously Incompetent. We know we can’t do it and we can’t do it. From here we eventually move into Conscious Competence. We are doing it, albeit imperfectly as neophytes. We talk our way, struggle, though it.

We spend the longest time in Conscious Competence talking our way through it, celebrating the changes or criticizing the frustrations. Most people aren’t very positive learners, having gone through our educational system public and private. We suck.

You Go Where Your Thoughts Take You – So Stay Positive

We suck at learning. We think we should be further along than we are. We want to be perfect right from the start. We pressure ourselves while learning which makes it more difficult. More than that, learning is not just knowing, but successfully doing things.

HOW we go through this phase determines, to a large extent, how soon we get to Unconscious Competence. Unconscious Competence means we make the new behaviors reliable habits that are automatic so we don’t have to think about doing it any longer.

We go through this sequence learning everything  For example,  learning to drive a car. You talk your way through it consciously. One day you find yourself driving while doing other things. You get lost in thought, converse, bop to music, and more, all the while driving.

The More You Do The More You Can Do – Skill Comes Of Doing

If you want to get to Unconscious Competence sooner get out of your own way. Realize the more  fun, discovery, and celebrating of ‘wins’, and even the goofy moments, with joy and enthusiasm, and high vibe, allows you to learn much more quickly. You get it faster.

You learn, not only more quickly but easily, when your attitude is right. Accept there will be plateaus and setbacks on the learning curve and you learn it easier. The more you enjoy the process, the more readily you transform, all while living more fully as you do.

AFTER all, why suspend living your best life presently while you are learning how to do it? The more high vibe and joy you do everything the more your life qualitatively transforms from okay to marvelous. Plus, you become Unconsciously Competent in living your best life ever. It is a marvelous and unprecedented opportunity to live well and live large even while learning how to do it. So celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

ACT TODAY! Stop suffering! Transform yourself and create your best life ever! Enroll In Mind Design™ Today  Stop struggling! It can be easier. Learn to use the mind you have to get what you want!

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Why Most People Fail To Succeed!

“People don’t succeed because they don’t want it enough. They don’t succeed because they don’t believe they can or will. They don’t realize it is ‘they’ who will make it happen. ‘If it is to be it is up to me.’ The saying goes. They don’t act in their own best interests.

People procrastinate. They lack enthusiasm and passion. They don’t believe they deserve it or have what it takes to make it happen.  They are busy doing anything and everything, but what works. They feel busy, but they are not productive. They aren’t moving closer to it.

They are distracted, not focused. Busy doing all sorts of things, but not in pursuing their dream! They let things interrupt and lead them astray. They listen to others who tell them they can’t. The bottom line is, they want it but they don’t want it enough! To have it, you must HAVE TO have it! Most people are wishy washy, hence, most people remain average. Others around them succeed while they do not. What about you? Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

ACT TODAY! Stop suffering! Transform yourself and create your best life ever! Enroll In Mind Design™ Today  Stop struggling! It can be easier. Learn to use the mind you have to get what you want!

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From Right Thinking Comes Right Action And Results

“If you think right, you will take right action. Successful people don’t just act for the sake of acting. Being busy doesn’t mean you are productive. Maintaining the right mindset, leads to right action.  Learn to take right action, while maintaining the right mindset.

Being productive means you do the right things to move you towards accomplishing your goal. Successful people do the right things on a daily basis. They love making things happen. They enjoy taking steps towards creating what they want. Do you?

Whether you want to be happier, be debt free, have more money or enjoy a loving relationship, taking right actions will get you there easier and faster. It begins with developing the right, positive mindset and the right feelings. Everything then comes together.

With The Right MindSet You Can Succeed – It All Begins Within

Right actions come from inside you. You lead yourself. You follow your intuition. You stop doing busy work and take the appropriate steps to make things happen. You create a momentum and a follow through. As you move forward you become clear on what to do.

Right now, perhaps, you don’t know what to do. You don’t even know, what you don’t know. So, work on your mindset.  As you develop the proper mindset you move forward. Go as far as you can see and when you get there you can see farther. That’s how it works.

Take the first step on faith from the right mindset. Your feelings will guide you if you pay attention to them as you develop the right mindset. Everything works together but you have to initiate the process and work it positively and correctly. Then you can begin to understand it and have it all! Begin right now to do the right things that get you closer to accomplishing your goals and dreams. Celebrate everything” Rex Sikes

ACT TODAY! Stop suffering! Transform yourself and create your best life ever! Enroll In Mind Design™ Today  Stop struggling! It can be easier. Learn to use the mind you have to get what you want!

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Who Cares And What And Why About Donald J Trump?

“Why post on Trump? Because he is in a position of power. Because leadership has been expounded on by Napoleon Hill and others. He is, as we all our, subject to examination as a role model and whether he is a good leader or not. Emotions can run high. I attempt to be fair.

There are some things I like about Trump, which I wrote about while he was a candidate, that can be useful to adopt. There are things about Trump which, in the correct context, can be useful. There are things about Trump that would best be avoided, too. Get it?

Napoleon Hill studied 520 of the wealthiest people during his lifetime, plus thousands more. Those successful and not. He shared his findings in numerous books. The most popular, of course, Think And Grow Rich. He wrote much on leadership. He wrote on wealth.

You Can Be Do And Have Anything You Want – Focus 

Near the end of his life he pointed out of the 520 and their families only one person seemed to have a decent, balanced life. The rest had addictions, suicides, mental illness and sickness due to being out of balance in their pursuits. He suggested cultivating peace of mind.

He said there was a point where too much was destructive. Obviously, ‘too much’ or ‘too little’ means different things to different people. He pointed out that children of the uber wealthy were often ‘broken’ because of their lavish, easy, upbringing.

He valued the right mindset, and the right actions, toward wealth. He felt anything not earned could be detrimental, especially big riches. Hill, nor I, am suggesting there is anything wrong with having money. It isn’t money, but the LOVE of money that’s the issue.

Be Careful What You Wish For You Might Just Get It

Greed and power can corrupt. Whether you think our ‘leaders’ and current president is, or isn’t, corrupt is up to your beliefs and values and filters. I don’t want to persuade you one way or another. I prefer to  allow you to study, evaluate and conclude on your own.

Examine, in light of my blogs and works on, effective leadership. Evaluate sincerely those who would be role models for your children. Find right balance. Pursue wealth as a white-hot obsession while remaining true to the principles Hill shares and decency.

Is Trump An Effective Leader Part 1

I prefer a kind world. There is abundance, and the potential for everyone on the planet to live better lives. The question is not, is there enough, but is everyone able to access? There is great disparity today. We have been warned about this for centuries.

Are You A Giver Or A Taker – Are You A Builder Or Destroyer

The Founding Fathers warned that the system we set up in America could easily be perverted if it wasn’t watched carefully and kept free of corruption. The same can be said of ourselves. Examine yourself. Use Hill’s evaluations and decide if you are on the right track.

Are you helpful or hurtful? Are you a good or great or abysmal role model? Do you contribute to the overall well-being of everyone around you or do you not? Are you finding peace or chaos? Are you living in the light, ‘vibing’ high and helping others, or a vampire?

Decide how you want to be, what you want to do and have. You can make your dreams come true. A rising tide floats the entire boat. Not everyone today wants everyone to rise. Do you? Are you a giver or a taker? Are you a builder or a destroyer? Do you help or harm?

Peace Of Mind – Help Others – Love – Peace – Abundance For All

These are important questions? It is just as important to ask about the people we elect, or whom assume leadership roles here or in any country. I prefer a world where everyone can be, do and have whatever they want as long as it doesn’t harm or prevent anyone else from doing likewise. We can build and create this kind of world if we dedicate ourselves to it. We can have this kind of life if we really want to. Discover how! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

ACT TODAY! Stop suffering! Transform yourself and create your best life ever! Enroll In Mind Design™ Today  Stop struggling! It can be easier. Learn to use the mind you have to get what you want!

Horizons photo used with permission of Phil Koch