Stop Being So Angry! Don’t Lower Your Standards

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“People seem tired and worn out. There is much intolerance, distrust, name calling and hate. We seem to ‘declare war’ on all our problems and others we don’t like. None of it helps to feel better or live better lives. We do much harm to ourselves by being angry.

Some find a temporary relief in putting another person down. Ego may derive some pleasure. It isn’t lasting. It adds not one wit to anything of value. It only seeks to level another or to cause  injury so one can feel they have the upper hand or are justified.

If you are wronged trying to get back at the person who wronged you doesn’t help. Getting really mad doesn’t change the situation. It is only a reaction to it.  Most likely, an over-reaction. It does nothing to change anything. You can’t change things after the fact.

Forgiveness Isn’t Something We Do For Other People …

It is as it is. Accept it. Learn from it and go on. The higher value and benefit would be to use it to become a better person yourself. Use it to gain awareness, understanding, tolerance and acceptance. Use the hurt and injustice to become more loving and compassionate.

Let go of anger and the tendency to fight back. Learn NOT to retaliate. Vow to not hurt yourself and others. Stop! Let go, become aware. Understand that hate only injures the person who hates. Remember the famous quote attributed to the Buddha:

‘Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.’ There is a fake, but meaningful, Buddha quote. ‘Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting it to harm the other person.’

Forgiveness Is Something We Do For Ourselves To Move On

The damage done to you is poorer mental, physical, emotional and spiritual health. It takes its toll on YOU. Let it go! Be free. Accept the hurt and anguish then be done with it. Let it go! To forgive is one of the highest value moves you can make. To forgive IS divine!

To truly forgive ends it for you. The other person may still have to deal with or live with the consequences of their actions but YOU are free once you let go. Why not be desire to free instead of enslaved to negative feelings? Why stoop to the low standards of others?

Why not refuse to play that game at all and live by a higher ideal? You get hooked and hurt when you play at a lower level. Revenge, an eye for an eye, is getting hooked. Instead, be free. Live and be an example of the best not the worst. Most, seem to prefer, to get back.

Sometimes The Hardest Thing And The Right Thing Are The Same

It seems to be a problem for many people living today. They resort to the lowest form of behavior. It is sad. Don’t be a mindless follower and hate back because someone hates you! Be free. Think and act for yourself! Be independent and intelligent! Rise above it.

Determine that you will be a role model. Live from higher values. Take the high road, the road LESS traveled. Raise your consciousness and you may help others raise theirs. Don’t participate in all the negativity! Choose to live free from divisiveness; free from discord.

Become grateful. The disappointment, the hardships, the hate and anger that you might face alone, and from others, CAN be a blessing if you learn to look for it. It can be a valuable lesson you might not otherwise receive. Learn, allow and accept, be open to a new way.

Give Yourself Permission To Feel Anger, Resentment And Pain …

An incredible thing happens when you do. You neurology opens up. You become bigger than the problems. You can actually feel it. That which used to hook you no longer does. You discover you aren’t upset by that which used to really burn you. You get it. It is okay.

You can reframe it. You can find the learning and lesson in it. You can act from inspired thought and feeling instead of react from anger and hostility. You can live at peace and at one with yourself, AND with others. You understand there is value in everything, everyone.

I have shared within these blog pages many ways to let go. I’ve shared how you can live better, live more positively, freer and have more fun. Please go back and look and learn. Study these posts and free yourself from whatever bothers you. Make changes you desire.

… Then Breathe – Relax – Meditate – Let It Go And Move On

Accept the challenges, the obstacles, the negativity without fighting back. The best answer to violence may be a gentle one. We’ve been conditioned to not turn the other cheek, but perhaps, we ought to try it. Great things can happen when one stops fighting everything and starts celebrating everything!” Rex Sikes

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7 thoughts on “Stop Being So Angry! Don’t Lower Your Standards”

  1. Thank you, Rex. I have one thought you may have heard before but it helped me a lot.

    I am totally committed to Dale Carnegie’s: don’t criticise, condemn or complain. I try to be unbelievably kind.

    So it used to be when someone was cruel, mean and evil to me. It hooked me immediately until one of my mentors said, everyone has the right to mistreat you. It doesn’t matter how good you are, they still have their freedom. God, the world, everything around you gives them that right. When I thought about that I realized it was true.

    Now people never ever hook me. I just say they have that right. They may never see me again, I may vanish from their world permanently but I do not get the tiniest bit upset.

    That one thought: they have the right, got rid of the hooking. Thanks again. I really appreciate your time and commitment.

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  2. Hi Rex,

    I’ve become an addict to your blog posts, and the amazing wisdom and deep knowledge you’re sharing here.

    Your posts have become my daily go-to guide to kick start my day. Every day I look forward to reading yet another golden nugget.

    A wise man once said, ” Tell me to what you pay your attention, and I tell you who you are.” You are lighting a jet fire of inspiration under my butt, and for that I say thank you, thank you, thank you.


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