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There Is Nothing More Important You Can Do Than Learn To Control Your Thinking!

“The most important thing  you can do is learn how to control your thinking. Everything first begins with thought. Your actions and results originate from your thoughts and feelings. You can’t do anything more important than to learn to manage your thoughts.

From within to without. From inside your head to your hand is how creativity happens. It is how everything happens for us. Sadly, most people never take charge of their thinking so then never take charge of their lives. Napoleon Hill stated most people drift through life.

The secret to success is getting your mindset right. Develop an unshakable, unstoppable attitude that supports you in your positive endeavors. Remember this saying, ‘you get what you practice’. You get better at whatever you do through consistent right practice.

What Consumes Your Mind Controls Your Life – It’s Up To You

Yet, many never practice developing how they think. They remain victims of others, of events, of circumstances. They whine, blame and make excuses. Instead of taking responsibility for the life they have created they think it has happened to them. Lucky or not.

They hope and wish things were different, yet they spend their time in worry, fear and doubt. The hope it gets better but anticipate the worst. This is not a productive way to spend your time, is it? Another secret is to not be smaller than your problems but be to bigger.

Stop trying to avoid and eliminate problems. Instead evolve, work on yourself, make yourself larger than the issues. Become capable of finding solutions and resolving whatever comes your way. Whether you succeed in life or not is completely up to you. It really is!

I’m In Charge Of How I Think And Feel – I Choose To Be Happy

Take 100% responsibility for who you are, what you are doing, where you are in life and what you have. If you want it to be better, decide and determine to make it so. You absolutely can do this. You can begin to make an incredible difference for yourself. Get it?

Grow yourself up. Make yourself a champion. Put faith in you that you can and will do this. You see, it begins with your thoughts and whether you think you can or or you think you can’t. If you think you can’t, you absolutely must begin to learn how you can. Get it?

It isn’t that hard. It can be far easier than you might think it would be. However, nothing will change unless you take charge and make some changes. Practice positive thinking. Practice declaring and affirming who  you want to become and practice being that.

Every Thought We Think Is Creating Our Future – How Is Yours

Live it. Breathe it. Then, you will enjoy it. Your future is in your hands. Magical thinking means you put your faith and hope in outside forces. You hope and pray for things to change but do nothing to actually change. Realize, now YOU can change it all.

Begin today! Don’t wait. Start now. Right where you are. Decide to improve yourself. Decide to fill your mind with positive thoughts. Read inspired, positive books and articles. Affirm, declare, visualize. Listen to inspired audios. Keep a gratitude journal. Do it daily!

Otherwise nothing really changes. Manage you mind. Be the boss of your brain, not its servant. Be larger than your problems. In fact, you have no problems if you consider everything a learning opportunity and a blessing. Live in gratitude and your life improves. Practice thought management. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Fill your moments with joy and happiness today!

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Some Thoughts To Help You Find Your Way

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“Everyday fill your mind with positive and powerful thoughts. Read inspirational material to stay positive, inspired and motivated. You can accomplish your dreams and goals by maintaining the right mindset, right actions and persistence. You can have what you want.

Here are some more wonderful thoughts to keep in mind. Each day affirm your positive desires. Feel the affirmations, don’t just recite words. See yourself already having accomplished what you want. Assume the feelings of what it is like to have reached your goals.

‘The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.’ Alice Walker

‘If you think you can or you think you can’t, you are right.’ Henry Ford

‘The mind is everything. What you think you become.’ Buddha

‘Your circumstances my not be congenial but they will not long remain so if you perceive an ideal and strive to reach it.’ James Allen

‘Are you in earnest? Seize this very minute; what you can do or dream you can do, begin it! Boldness has genius, power and magic in it; only engage and then the mind grows heated; begin and then the work will be completed.’ Goethe

‘Your future begins with your next thought’. Bryant McGill

Enjoy your day. Stop and appreciate all the goodness around you. If you don’t immediately see it, look for it until you find it. It is always there. Be grateful for wherever you are on your journey. Help put a smile on someone else’s lips too. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Make today marvelous!

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If You Don’t Do This No One Will Do It For You!


“Between your ears and throughout your cells you have an intelligence that enables you to live all your dreams. You have destiny fulfilling neurology. The only issue is whether or not you tap into it or not. Most people don’t but you can. You truly can!

Become aware that you are infinitely resourceful. You already have all the resources within you to make any change. Most people just don’t believe this. Even if you didn’t you can easily find them, cultivate them and begin making things happen. It is all within you!

It is all within your power. You just never thought of it this way because of the mixed messages we get all during our formative years. ‘You can do anything’. ‘Go to school, work hard and if you are lucky you might catch a break’. We get all sorts of messages.

Tenacity Isn’t Just The Most Important Thing It Is The Only Thing

These form the foundation of our beliefs. Still, regardless of what we incorporated as our own we have had a myriad of experiences, and each, whether successful or not is, laid down within your cells, you neural pathways and memory banks. All you have to do is remember.

You can remember and access these. If not you can make them up for real. You can create resources and combine resources to make new ones you never thought you’d have. We are amazing creatures we humans but many of us have lost site of that. We live ho-hum.

We don’t have to. You can accomplish and do anything within natural laws. Nothing can stop you if you resolve to do it. You will always find or create away around any obstacle or hardship. You simply have to decide on what you want and then believe you can get it.

When There Is Will – There Is The Way – Go For It – Never Give Up

If you don’t believe it you never will. If you aren’t inspired and motivated to make your like work on all levels you never will. You will eek out your ho-hum existence instead of living life on your terms. Live as a champion, a victor, a wealthy, benevolent leader.

Stop being less than and start being more than. Start being the you you were born to be. Believe and you can accomplish anything you conceive, said Napoleon Hill. His book ‘Think And Grow Rich’ is responsible for more people becoming millionaires than any other.

Don’t wish! Don’t wait! Don’t expect others to do it! You do it! You make it happen. If you really want to you will find or create a way! You will keep going until you do if you want it badly enough. Less than that don’t expect much. Give up or get going. It’s your choice.

Stop Sniveling Start Living – Live As A Champion Live As A Victor

If you don’t go after it nonstop who is going to do that for you? Do it yourself! What are you waiting for? The only time there is to act on your own behalf is now! Do it and make the difference. If you fall get back up. If you ‘fail’ learn from it and go on. Don’t stop! Keep going!

Make it happen. Make it happen or stop whining and complaining and blaming others. Tough love here. YOU can do this! You can live an incredible life. Start now. If you don’t believe it decide you will. I and others have told you how to develop new beliefs so do it.

No excuses and no BS. Take action. You don’t need massive action you just need to take the first step and then follow through with each successive step. Get it? If you aren’t motivated do it anyway. I and others have told you how. Start doing and stop missing out.

If You Don’t Do It For Yourself No One Else Will – You Just Lose Out

As you move forward keep a journal of the insights, the lessons, the goals, the plans, the intuitions, the learning and the things you are grateful for along the way. Everyday do something small or large to move you forward. Start appreciating who you are. Make your dreams come true and start to celebrate everything!”

Don’t just dream. Make your dreams come true!

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Don’t Buy It When The Gurus Say You’re Screwed

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“Have you ever noticed that the self help law of attraction gurus tell you you must focus on what you want and that you attract only what you are. They emphasize the positive and the wanted and tell you to eliminate and ignore what you don’t want and wish to exclude.

Then they turn around and tell you the problem is you and your unwanted beliefs and behaviors and turn your focus from what you want to what you don’t want. The hidden recesses of your unconscious. They tell you it is hard to change and necessary.

I think they should tell it to you like it is. Yes, you learned old programs and were conditioned to believe them over time. You accepted them without realizing it and the are automated and reliable. they work without you having to think about it.

You Have All The Tools And Resources In You To Make Any Change

The brain works as it is designed. Learn, wire in neural pathways and automate it. The brain doesn’t care if the behaviors or thoughts are beneficial or not, good or bad, true or made up. Those aren’t in its pay grade. It only does what it is designed to do.

Keep you alive and help you function day to day. So if you learned to smoke and it became a habit, you smoke. One day you consciously decided to quit. You try but it is difficult. The huge engine of unconscious behaviors and habits run on and on.

As they are supposed to. It is not trying to sabotage you or prevent you from anything. It is doing what it learned to do.  It is working perfectly as it is designed. The only thing you need to do IS TO focus on what you want and nurture that.

Start Where You Are – Use What You Have – Do What You Can

Remember, the story of the two wolves inside you that are fighting. The one that wins is the one you feed. Feed what you want. If you think it will be hard then it will be. If you think it easy it will be. Beliefs are like that. What we belief tends to be the case.

We see from out mindset. We don’t see what is there. We see what we believe to be there. This is another function of the brain and the reticular activating system; to find matches within our experience and within our circumstances to our habitual mindset. The old one!

If you want to find new things you have to change the mind set. Stop thinking you are sabotaging yourself and realize you work perfectly well. You have changed some of your desires and now you want to go after them. Old habits remain but you can replace them.

Stop Doubting Yourself – Put In The Effort To Make It Happen

The easier you think it will be the easier it will be. It most likely won’t happen over night. We should still think realistically. It will happen soon enough as you keep at it. Encourage yourself, nurture yourself, feed yourself the positive, the productive, the joyful.

Leave the sabotage to the gurus selling another reason why you need them. Find your inner strength and happiness. Find your delight and celebration. Yes, there may, and most likely will, be speed bumps. That is all part of the wonderful universe we inhabit. Don’t focus on the speed bumps. Focus on where you want to end up. Celebrate everything.” Rex Sikes

Today think spectacularly!

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It’s Already Here: You Don’t Have To Look Far To Find It!


“You are already complete. Ancient mystics and philosophers have told us this forever. We are missing nothing within. Yes, we think we are but the truth is we already have everything we need or want. In Neuro Linguistic Programing (NLP) we have a tenant that states:

You have all the resources already within you to make any change. Some people don’t believe that but those who do WILL discover the truth of that statement. When we think we are limited in any way, we are. When we think we have everything we need, we actually do.

We’ll uncover those resources, become more creative, more aware and more apt to discover and notice those resources whenever we need them or want them. The Reticular Activation System of our brain finds those matches within and without us. It works this way.

You Are Already That Which You Seek – Accept And Allow It

It works, but only for those who are open to it. If you are closed you don’t know what you miss. It’s no different than standing before a closed door you’ve never stood before; you don’t know what’s on the other side. How could you? You can’t. You don’t have access.

But if the door is open you can see what’s there. You can enter and explore. Being open to possibilities is the same. The more open and available you are, the more you can discover and benefit. Staying open is the trick. Let go of beliefs that don’t support and limit you.

You already have it all. You simply have to learn to accept this. Once you begin to accept it you will begin to experience it. As you experience it, the more you do, the more you will. When you accept and believe there are no limitations you become free.

Be Silent And Listen The Inspiration You Seek Is Within You

The freer you become the more free you become. The easier it is to manifest. The more you manifest the better you get at it. Everything is similar to a muscle. It grows with use. It begins with acceptance. It begins by dropping negativity, doubt and defeat. It begins with trust.

It begins by accepting your true resourceful, abundant nature. It begins by accepting yourself as a creator, and attractor. It begins by claiming your power. It comes with recognizing who you are and what you are able to do. Speak only to bless, heal and prosper.

Stop telling old defeatist stories about lack and defeat. Start telling stories about love, happiness and success. Make it so. You don’t wait for it. YOU do it. Discover who you are. Drop inside and get acquainted with the true you. You are divine. You are incredible.

Be Still – The Answers You Seek Come When You’re Quiet

Accept it and live it. Feel it. Experience it. Remember it. IT is who you already are. Appreciate it. Be grateful. Live it. Savor it. Expand it. Allow it and receive it. Encourage it. Celebrate it. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Let your light shine more today!

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Guidelines For Getting Along With Others While Talking


“Here are a few tips and principles that will help improve you ability to connect and communicate with another person. Stay open and positive. Don’t label the other person as a poor or bad communicator.  Don’t judge them that only makes things worse.

Assume you are missing the point rather than judging them. Take responsibility for listening better. Blaming them won’t help. If you change what you are doing it might. Stay open.  Assist them in being clearer. With your help you may create better understanding.

Everything depends on your intent as a communicator. Are you seeking to understand or ridicule. If you make judgements and insist they change to suit you it actually inhibits the process. You shut down and it is more difficult for them. Don’t let emotions get in way.

Not Everyone Thinks The Way You Think Or Knows What You Do

Make it easier for the listener.  Help the communicator be clearer if able. Ask simple questions politely to help them clarify their points. Gently and patiently bring it out of them. Elicit it gradually. Take responsibility for making the process go nicely for both of you.

A frame you can adopt to help you is to assume they don’t know any better. They can’t help but do it the way they are doing it. It isn’t their fault and they aren’t bad. It is just the way it is. Imagine helping a small child to do something well. Encourage them along.

The goal in communicating is to build a bridge between parties. It is to learn to speak the other person’s language rather than insisting they speak yours. While it might be nicer if they did it your way be the bigger person and adapt to them. Be flexible. Be a chameleon.

Not Everyone Believes What You Believe Or Acts As You Act …

Change what you are doing so you can get along with more people. If you only have one way of doing something you are limited in the number of people you can influence. If you adapt and help make the process enjoyable you win more friends. Make them feel at ease.

Help them feel comfortable speaking with you and they will want to do it again. Make gentle and direct eye contact. Listen intently and once in a while repeat back to them what they said so they know you are listening. Do the same if you want them to be clearer.

Repeat and ask them what is meant. Always be polite and respectful. Nod and ‘uhhuh’ or say ‘yes’ also once in awhile. Don’t stare. Talk less and listen more but don’t be completely silent looking like you are in trace. Engage, be appealing. Smile, encourage them to talk more.

Remember This And You Will Get Along With A Lot More People

Ask questions but don’t interrogate. Don’t ask so many they feel they are being put to a test. Give them some room to be themselves. Often it is best to sit next to them than opposite them. Or sit t the corner of a table rather than across from each other.

I’ll share more as we continue. For now implement what you learn. Action is the proper fruit of knowledge. Expect to have a nice time. Mentally shower them with love or gratitude or peace. Your outer behavior does reflect your inner behavior, whether it is positive or negative, so keep it positive. Enjoy communicating and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Celebrate with friends today!

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Knowing Comes From Doing: The More You Do The More You Can Do!


“To know and not to do is to not know. Anyone who tells you something will or will not work and that person has not done it, truly does not know. Listen to those who have done what you want to and who have started out as you have started out. This is important.

When choosing a mentor of guide it is important the person began like you began. If they came from wealth and you didn’t they shouldn’t be your mentor. If you want to play basketball and they haven’t they shouldn’t be your mentor.  Get it?

Do not listen to people who haven’t done what you want to do if they haven’t done it. Naysayers are plentiful. Don’t even listen to yourself. It is easy to say no. It makes a difference to actually attempt to do something and follow through until it is done.

Thoughts Lead To Feelings Lead To Actions Lead To Results

When I was younger I didn’t think autosuggestions or affirmations worked. They certainly did not for me. I couldn’t get them to try as I might. I’d try and give up. Then I’d try and give up. The same sort of thing many do when wanting to quit smoking. Try and stop trying.

I thought it doesn’t work. Maybe it works for others but not for me. I was either too smart or too stupid to get it to work. I didn’t know how. There was a hidden secret. Others were just better and I not good enough. I had reasons, blames, excuses and complaints.

Other people today will tell you they tried it and it doesn’t work. They are not experts. They are people who gave up. Am I too harsh? Perhaps, or perhaps not harsh enough. Losers complain while winners celebrate. If they can’t succeed no one should succeed.

If You Do Nothing There Will Be No Result – Take Action

Do not let anyone rain on your parade. Not even yourself. Do the thing and you will know. Don’t do the thing and you will never know. To know and not to do is not to know. If you read books to try to change yourself but don’t take the action steps to do it you lose.

You don’t know. Information will not change you. Only applied information correctly, consistently, for long enough will change you. It is always, usually, most difficult in the beginning. Yes, along the way there may be other speed bumps. Over all it gets easier.

With application it gets easier to do. Once you make it a habit, a routine, a daily ritual it is easy to do. You do it because it is your new habit. If you want to your life to change you have to change  some of the things in your life. You cannot continue the same way.

Doing What You Aways Did Will Get You What You Always Got

Do it! Learn to control your thinking. Do it! At one time I thought it impossible. When I was younger I quit many times. When I was older and prepared to face a challenge I committed to it.I stayed with it through easy times and the tough times. I continue to commit.

Challenges arise. I maintain control. I continue to exercise control. If I lose it. I much more quickly regain it. My life is most incredible as a result. I developed mental toughness and gentleness. I did it because at one point there was nothing else for me to do. I mean that!

I had to do it. I felt overwhelmed and lost. Even though I had lots of skills and knowledge and experience I hit a wall. A huge wall and my first thought was ,’I can’t live like this anymore’.  I had to find a way to make what I want consistently occur. I had to be in charge of me.

Resolutions Require Only Words – Results Require Actions

I started back at square one. I began applying what I knew didn’t work. I re-read Napoleon Hill. I did it his way. I did it my way. I used my Directed Questions™ I had developed earlier. I made it my mission to control my thoughts and emotions and get better results.

Eventually, it began working. There were ups and downs. The difference for me this time was I was prepared to face the down times and see it through them. When they got tough I  exclaimed, ‘Bring it on!’ I was determined to be bigger than my problems.

Previously, in my old conditioned life, when times got tough, I’d think, ‘I knew it. This doesn’t work. Why me? ‘ I’d quit. I’d go into negative, depressed, woe is me, worried thinking. I’d worry about what was going on, not going on or what was coming up.

The Result Of The Action Depends On The Quality Of The Action

It sucked. Once I decided ‘no matter what’ I was going to see it through, I saw it through. I continue to do so. Whenever thoughts came up I didn’t like I’d do a trick I’d learned in the 70’s and say ‘cancel’. Later, I replaced it with, ‘No thanks, but thanks for sharing.’

These helped me identify and deal with unwanted thoughts or feelings. Sometimes I had to say it numerous times in succession. I found it easier to say ‘thanks for sharing’ because I didn’t try to fight it. I simply acknowledged it and went on. I didn’t let it interfere.

Regarding circumstances, I’d think, ‘It is what it is.’ However it works out ‘it is what it is’. I respond but not get caught up. I realized whatever I do may or may not work. It will end up how ever it ends up. I still can pursue what I want but I am not married to the result.

Failure Only Happens When You Give Up Trying – Never Quit

The result will be whatever it is. I will have to adjust as necessary. These practices have been so freeing and have helped me move forward. I love my life. I love what I have learned and applied. I love how I have evolved. I love I still am evolving, learning and applying.

Don’t believe me because I say it works. Believe yourself when you make it work. That is the only actual way to know. Many may say many things. People said, we’d never fly or land on the moon. The experts of the day said that. Experts don’t know either. Unless…

Unless they have successfully already done it and leave the door open for other possibilities. Your friends and family may say you are silly for thinking a certain way. Be respectful. Do not be gullible either. Make sure you are getting good, accurate info from each side.

Winners Are Not People Who Never Fail But Who Never Quit

Don’t leap without looking. Don’t invest your time, energy, money or more into schemes. That is not what I am talking about at all. I am talking about developing positive, powerful, personal habits that help you get through life more confidently and joyously.

You can learn anything and master it. The more you do the more you can do. Step by step, you journey. Drop by drop the tub fills. Make the effort. That is what makes the difference. Develop the mind set of a winner and champion. Develop and unbeatable attitude.

Become invincible in your pursuit. Never stop. If you fall get back up. I learned how important it was to continue on. I learned that gratitude made it far easier. When you consider EVERYTHING a blessing you can say ‘bring it on!’ Be grateful for the challenges too. You will do it. Commit to it today. Have fun. Never stop AND Be grateful and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Celebrate today!

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