Category Archives: Acceptance

Why You Need To Play More!

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“Life can sometimes get the better of us. We worry about things we can and those things we cannot change. We worry about the world, the environment, the economy, our kids, others, our debts and more. We spend too much time and energy on the downside. Sad but true.

Look at Facebook or the news. More good things actually happen than bad things, yet most of what we see in media are the bad things. True, some are good, most are not so good. There isn’t anything wrong with being well informed. However, here is the issue:

Are these robbing you of your vital energy and life force? Are these distracting you, depleting your energy and joy in life? We should all enjoy life much more. Instead we worry, fear, death and taxes. Don’t you want to live better than this? I absolutely do. We all can!

Realize You Never Get The Same Moment Twice – Live Fully Now

Consider this: Kids learn more through play than anything else while growing up. During play they have fun, pretend, role play and plan for the future. It is all fun and games but during it all they are learning. Sadly, in schools today, the amount of play is reduced.

Now days kids play video games. They don’t have to use their imagination as they once did. We need to return to some basic principles. Play and exercise your mind. Become playful as you once were. YOU were! Learn and grow through play again! Enjoy it!

Live fully, have fun, feel abundance and enjoy all life offers. It is far too short to work, sweat, fret, fear and depart. Let’s spend more time playing and having fun, enjoying and loving the people important to us, and delighting in all good things. Spend time living fully!

Enjoy This Moment For This Moment Is Your Life 

Focus on these. Stop focusing on the downside. Create what you want more of. Focus on the blessings you have and you’ll have more. Live free. Live full. Feel blessed and you will be more blessed. When you feel great, filled with life and energy, you radiate it.

Vibrate high. Seek always to vibrate at your highest. Focus on the good, the beauty around you, in all areas. Allow yourself to be filled with positive, delightful energy because when you do you create and attract more. Like flowers to bees you become more attractive.

Feel grateful. Appreciate everything. Imagine, whether true or not, you chose this life to live and everything that comes your way is by your choice. Challenges are there to help you evolve and be better. Everything is your choice and everything is your design.

The More You Celebrate Life The More Life You Have To Celebrate

All of it is a blessing. It doesn’t matter if that is true or not. Adopt the mental framework so you take hold of every precious moment and live it to the fullest. Exude life. Exude joy and thankfulness. Discover your bliss. Life is easier when you do! Live in love! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Play! Then play some more today! Have fun!

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Do This To Start Your Day Out Right!

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“How’d you like to wake up each day feeling fine? Would you like to make your day more delightful and productive? You can, you know. You can program yourself to have good days. If you make waking up wonderfully a habit, the rest of your day most likely will follow suit.

The easiest way is to create a positive morning ritual. In other posts I have shared many of the morning things you can do to get your day going right. In this post I’d like to elaborate on another. Are your ready to make a difference in your day?  Alright, then.

When you get up, when you arise in the morning, first thing, set your thoughts. Make a promise, a commitment to yourself. Set the direction for your day. I wake up and first thing I think, as I have shared before, are positive, wonderful thoughts. I think:

Fill Your Day With Good Thoughts  And Happy Moments

‘I love my life! I allow and accept and receive all the gifts the universe has for me! Something magical is going to happen for me today!’ That is my opening thought! ‘Yes, it’s great to be awake in this world! What exciting things will I discover today!’

This sets the frame for my day. Get it? I love that I have another day. Do I think the universe gifts me as some grandmother does? Heck, I don’t know, but if I find a penny I am thrilled. It is a gift. There are so many things around us that are gifts.

I want to discover and appreciate as many as I can. I want to celebrate these. Someone buys coffee, it is a gift. Someone smiles at me, it is a gift. I go into acceptance mode. I used to be in denial mode now I accept. Someone would pay me a compliment and I’s refuse it.

Why Life Offers Tough Moments Don’t Say – Why Me – Say – Try Me

I’d say, ‘it is nothing’. Thank them and sheepishly deflect it. Now, bring it! That is a gift. I allow myself to be open, as much as possible, to accept and label ALL things gifts. Some might be tough lessons. That’s okay it is a gift. Today is a gift!

I also like to gift the world and other people as much as possible through words and actions. At the end of the day I can look back and feel grateful for all the good and new, delightful gifts I discovered. I look forward to more tomorrow.  The day is a bookended.

It begins and ends with gratitude. In between is discovery and appreciation. I’ll share more next post on setting intentions. How you start the day tends to determine how the rest of it goes. If you want more good days begin at the beginning.

Attitude Is Everything – Attitude Determines Your Altitude

Start by remembering to make a positive declarations, as I pointed out above, first thing. Power up your first thoughts. It may take a while to actually make it your first thoughts but through daily practice and repetition you’ll get there. Step by step.

Some people don’t like getting up. You can bet their thoughts aren’t ‘Oh boy, this is exciting!’ This is why they need to make the change. While still in bed they need to adjust their thinking. You CAN do this. Anyone can learn. You absolutely can! So begin right away!

With daily practice you will soon overcome the inertia of old habits. The good news is we can learn and develop new ones that serve and support us much, much better. Begin this practice and in a short while it can transform not only your day but your life. Think positive and feel better. Be grateful and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Enjoy this day!

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Why Meditation? Why Let Go? Why This, Why That?

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“Why meditation? Why let go? Why be a witness or an observer? Why practice this awareness? Why develop this habit? Why watch your thoughts or your breath? Why learn control over your thoughts, feelings and behaviors? What is this all about or for?

When you are able to remain calm and centered in the midst of the most trying circumstances you will know exactly why you developed this habit. Learning in this manner allows you to de-stress and live in the world confidently and positively. You’re freer and enjoy more.

Why gratitude and appreciation for things you already have? Why gratitude for things you don’t have yet? Why gratitude for challenges and problems and difficult people and disappointment? Why be thankful for ‘bad’ things? Why not just be negative and sad?

No Meditation No Life – Know Meditation Know Life

When you are grateful for anything and everything you freer. If everything is a blessing you are centered and calm. You are able to respond resourcefully and rise to the occasion with clear focused thought. You know it will work out no matter what. You know it.

You know you will accept whatever is good or bad, yet be able to get through it. You know that ultimately good will prevail and you can move forward. You let go and drop worry and anxiety, anger and frustration, sadness and helplessness. You are free and are strong.

You can act to change the situation but you do so from a centered place. You can act and move with heart and compassion. You are better equipped for any situation than when hot headed or ego driven. Stress has consequences. You can’t think or behave well.

Life Begins Where And When The Fear Ends – Live Courageously

From a centered place where you can let go, forgive and forget you can move forward more easily. When you can celebrate everything there is everything to celebrate. You discover all that you want and need you have. You discover opportunity and abundance. Get it?

You make it so. Whatever you think or say is what it is or will be. Free yourself from judgements. Recognize what is is. Allow it. Only speak or declare what you want. If you call it a problem it is a problem. If you call it a blessing then it is. You decide what things are. You do!

Life is your creation. You are involved in making it whatever it is each moment. You may not be aware of this but it is true. Your life is a reflection of your thoughts. It is your projection. When you can see that you can drop that and live authentically. Live in peace and freedom, You can love and be loved. You can laugh and celebrate more. In fact, you CAN celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Enjoy the day!

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What To Do To Begin Changing Your Life For The Better 2

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‘Do you realize anxiety is negative planning? You can learn to let it go. Focus on what you want instead of what you don’t want. Plan what you want not what you don’t. People think, ‘I don’t want to be anxious’  OR ‘I should lessen my anxiety.’ ‘I don’t want to worry.’

Consider what you just thought or said. What’s the last thought in your mind? Well, what is it? It is a thought about being anxious. If I say don’t think about a blue elephant what’s left in your mind? If I say I want to lessen my thoughts of a blue elephant, what’s the thought?

The last left in mind is STILL a blue elephant. Get it? I said don’t think about a blue elephant or I don’t want to think about a blue elephant and what remains in the mind IS the blue elephant or anxious thoughts. What you want to do is decide what you DO want.

You Get What You Focus On So Focus On What You Want

Think about what you want and even why you want it. Phrase it positively! ‘I want to be calm and peaceful. I want to focus on my breathing.’  There are the reasons why you want these. If you say, ‘so I am not upset’, what is left in the mind? Upset? Why do you want it?

Stop thinking upset! What is the POSITIVE benefit? Whenever I use the word ‘don’t’ as in, ‘don’t get mad’ I’m going to get mad because for me to understand what it means to ‘don’t’ or ‘not to get mad’  I have to imagine getting mad first? I have to picture it inside.

So I end up getting the very thing I don’t want. Get it? It is the same with the elephant. WHAT DO YOU WANT?  ‘I want to feel calm so I can freely express myself. I want to feel calm and be happy. I want to feel calm and find things to delight in.’ Focus on the positive benefit.

You Are Never Too Old Or Too Young To Set A New Goal Or Dream

‘I want to…’ It is okay to KNOW what you don’t want, or what you want to avoid or eliminate,  BUT your focus MUST BE on what YOU DO WANT! So you can say ‘I AM CALM. I AM CENTERED.  I AM FOCUSED ON MY BREATHING.’ This is useful and accurate.

You can also say, ‘I am learning to be calm. I am learning to be centered. I am learning to focus on my breathing. I am in the process of learning to become calm’, etc. This is true too. You are in the process of learning to be calm, or whatever your end goal is.

Whichever is easiest for you to accept and believe first. Either, you are calm or you are learning to be calm or even you are in the process of learning to be calm. Get it? It is quite simple. You want to be able to accept and believe that what you say is accurate and true.

Focus On Good Thoughts And Good Things Will Happen – Feel It

More next blog but here is the most important piece! CHANT IT. SING IT. DANCE IT! Add all the very best emotions and feeling to it that you can. Make yourself feel good and enthused about it.  Feel happy and joyful and enthused as you say ‘I am learning to be calm.’

Always encourage positive feelings and emotions. Look for anything and everything to feel good and glad about. The more you do the more you enhance your ability to find good things. The more we do the more we can do. Be grateful! Enjoy and celebrate everything!”

Have a magnificent day!

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What To Do To Begin Changing Your Life For The Better 1

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“People ask me what they might do to begin transforming their mind and their life? It is simpler than you think it is. The only limitations that truly exist, exit in our thoughts or ways of thinking. One of the best things you can do is fill your mind with positive thoughts.

I suggest you read my blog. Go to the very first one and read a little bit each day. Read 30 minutes, or 5 minutes. Read thirty pages or 1 page. Everyday read and make a study of what you read. Revisit and re-read. Immerse yourself for as much time as possible. Journal.

If you can’t read a page a day read a paragraph. Read a single sentence. Just build a consistent habit. Remember ‘the proper fruit of knowledge is action’. Take one small action step each day toward what you want. One tiny baby step is all that is necessary to move.

Relax – Let Go – Simply Remain A Witness – Allow Accept Enjoy 

Decide to read daily and commit to it. That is good. Determine to meditate for a few moments. Just watch your thoughts and do nothing. Be an observer and not a participant. Don’t judge. Allow all to run their course. Allow your thoughts to go by as leaves on water.

You can choose to focus on your breathing. Put your attention on just your breath. Whether you choose to focus on thoughts or breath if your attention strays; fine THAT IS WHAT IT IS ALL ABOUT. When you notice you strayed bring you attention back.

Refocus your attention on your thoughts or breath gently without judgement. You WILL develop your concentration and your ability to notice and return easily. Go ahead and give it a go.  Spend a couple minutes. Even two or three to begin. Gradually increase the time.

Breathe In – Breathe Out – Let It Be – Remain Aware And At Ease

Build up until you can do five or seven. Later you can always do more. NEVER bite off more than you can chew. BABY Steps. 1% is more than plenty. Spend quality time rather than quantity time. Less can be more. Watch your thoughts and your breath. Merely observe.

Watch your wandering without judgement. Watch your return without judgement.  The key is to allow what is without any form of  judgement. Allow the process but let go of the judging.  You only LEARN to do this by doing it. This is HOW we begin. Bit by bit.

If you judged, fine you judged. That is what IS. You simply watch your breath. You forget or get distracted by other thoughts. You get upset and judge. Somewhere in all this you return attention to your breath. It may happen over and over. It’s ok. That’s how  you learn. Repeat.

Correct Repetition For Long Enough Time Becomes Habit And Skill

JUDGE THE HELL OUT OF IT if you wish. Just don’t quit. Eventually you will learn to ease up on the judgement without attacking it directly. Just allow it. Then be done with it at some point. Get it? Gentle, easy, is the way. The process is the point. You learn by doing.

Practice gratitude. Feel grateful. Delight in everything. As you increase your awareness and move forward acknowledge it. Pat yourself on the back. Be happy. Feel good. Good feelings will move you forward more swiftly. Look for things to feel good about. Seek and you will find. Celebrate everything!’ Rex Sikes

Delight and enjoy your day!

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It’s Already Here: You Don’t Have To Look Far To Find It!

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“You are already complete. Ancient mystics and philosophers have told us this forever. We are missing nothing within. Yes, we think we are but the truth is we already have everything we need or want. In Neuro Linguistic Programing (NLP) we have a tenant that states:

You have all the resources already within you to make any change. Some people don’t believe that but those who do WILL discover the truth of that statement. When we think we are limited in any way, we are. When we think we have everything we need, we actually do.

We’ll uncover those resources, become more creative, more aware and more apt to discover and notice those resources whenever we need them or want them. The Reticular Activation System of our brain finds those matches within and without us. It works this way.

You Are Already That Which You Seek – Accept And Allow It

It works, but only for those who are open to it. If you are closed you don’t know what you miss. It’s no different than standing before a closed door you’ve never stood before; you don’t know what’s on the other side. How could you? You can’t. You don’t have access.

But if the door is open you can see what’s there. You can enter and explore. Being open to possibilities is the same. The more open and available you are, the more you can discover and benefit. Staying open is the trick. Let go of beliefs that don’t support and limit you.

You already have it all. You simply have to learn to accept this. Once you begin to accept it you will begin to experience it. As you experience it, the more you do, the more you will. When you accept and believe there are no limitations you become free.

Be Silent And Listen The Inspiration You Seek Is Within You

The freer you become the more free you become. The easier it is to manifest. The more you manifest the better you get at it. Everything is similar to a muscle. It grows with use. It begins with acceptance. It begins by dropping negativity, doubt and defeat. It begins with trust.

It begins by accepting your true resourceful, abundant nature. It begins by accepting yourself as a creator, and attractor. It begins by claiming your power. It comes with recognizing who you are and what you are able to do. Speak only to bless, heal and prosper.

Stop telling old defeatist stories about lack and defeat. Start telling stories about love, happiness and success. Make it so. You don’t wait for it. YOU do it. Discover who you are. Drop inside and get acquainted with the true you. You are divine. You are incredible.

Be Still – The Answers You Seek Come When You’re Quiet

Accept it and live it. Feel it. Experience it. Remember it. IT is who you already are. Appreciate it. Be grateful. Live it. Savor it. Expand it. Allow it and receive it. Encourage it. Celebrate it. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Let your light shine more today!

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How To Know What Is Really Important!

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“To get people to do what you want you have to appeal to who they are. People have beliefs and values that are important to them. They have rules and procedures for how to eliminate woes, and  how to best go about living in the world, succeeding and being happy.

They function by principles, rules, evidence and procedures. We may explore each of these in coming blogs but today I want to broach the subject of values. We all have values.  Some we share with others and some unique to the individuals.

Where values are shared there can be rapport. What is important to you and to me may be our bridge that brings us closer together. Unless we are both competing to fulfill those. It really isn’t much different than you like latte’s and I like latte’s. It is similar.

You’ll Find A Way If It Is Important To You If Not You’ll Find Excuse

We share something in agreement. We both agree it is important to be honest, or loyal or tolerant. Yet how we define these and apply them could vary wildly. Many couples vacation together. It is important for them to get away and spend together time.

What is important about that vacation may wildly differ between them. They could be in for a wonderful or rough time depending on what is most important to each. Whether or not they help each other fulfill what is important to them will determine their success.

For example one partner can’t wait to get away and have loads of fun. This person wants to wine and dine and dance. They want to go out and party, see the sights, meet the people and experience a grand and wild time. They can’t wait until they can let loose!

Ask What Is Really Important Then Find A Way To Deliver On That

The other partner can’t wait to get away from the rat race and relax. They want to leave the madness of the city behind. No phones, no pressures, no deadlines, no people to bother with. They just want to sitt by the water and chill out. They want to savor their time away.

Can you imagine these two may have some difficulty? Perhaps, they’d be better taking separate vacations. Many people get there and then argue that it isn’t going well as they had expected. Why? Because their expectations were never really voiced. Imagined, yes.

Had they talked it out upfront it could be much better. All they need to do is ask, what is important to you about this vacation? What do you hope it to be? What do you want to do? Then they will find out they both have separate and different desires and expectations.

Agreement In Likes And Dislikes Is The Beginning Of Rapport

They can then decided whether or not to vacation together OR how to insure that both of their needs and wants are met during the time they are together. They negotiate quiet relaxing times and wild out there party times. Then both can feel fulfilled and get along.

They help each other out by helping each other get what is important and necessary for each. They work together to make sure both are well cared for and not abused or ignored. Get it? Because they know what is important to each they can work together.

To get along easily with another person appeal to what is important to them. Look them in the eye and say, ‘what is important to you?’ What is important to you about this? What does that, or having that do for you or allow you to do? So few people ever ask. We need to.

Friendship Comes From Trust Uplifting And Valuing Each Other 

‘What is important to you about being a parent?’  ‘What is important to you about racing cars?’ ‘What is important to you about going to that school?’ ‘What is important to you about your boyfriend?’ What is important to you? Then listen and accept their answer.

For practice, whatever their answer, repeat it back to them respectfully. Don’t look at them bewildered and exclaim,  ‘WHAAAAT?  FUN?!?!? is important???’ Be respectful. Accept whatever they say. It is what IS important to them. Treat it so!

‘So fun is important? Very cool. What does having fun do for you? Their answer may reveal another value. Let’s say they said confidence. ‘Cool, so when you have fun you feel confident, or you have a sense of confidence.’ It doesn’t have to make sense to you.

Trust Comes From Understanding And Taking Positive Actions

It makes sense to them. Respect and accept that. Listen and let them know you care. You hold them in high regard. You will do whatever you can to help them fulfill their positive values. When you accept, without judging or ridiculing, you create more harmony and rapport.

You help create understanding and trust. You connect more deeply and you are getting to know each other more deeply because you are learning about what they are trying to fulfill in their life. If not their whole life at least in this topic area. It is important to them.

We have some values which permeate all areas of our life. Some might call these Core Values and we have others that are more situational. Our beliefs and rules and procedures and processes similarly can be situational or core. We will explore more later.

It’s Not Just What’s Important To Them It’s How They Fulfill That

For now, remember to ask people what is important to them. Genuinely be interested. Listen and respect their answers. Utilize what they tell you to help them fulfill their wants and needs and you will may benefit them greatly. Use it to build trust and rapport.

Your understanding of what motivates them and what challenges them will grow immensely. It will help you understand your partner in life, your parents or children, friends, co-workers, employers and employees. You will learn a lot about the people in your world.

Enjoy them. Enjoy learning. Delight in all things. Appreciate these tools you have to build bridges. Understanding what makes another person ‘tick’  bring us closer together. It helps eliminate hinderances and misunderstanding.  It allows us create win /win outcomes so we can get along and each feel fulfilled. Celebrate. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Smile more today!

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