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What Can You Do When Someone Shocks Or Disappoints You?

“My recent blog was, what you can do if you shock or disappoint yourself? This one, examines what you can do if someone else, perhaps a loved one or friend, shocks or disappoints you. Guess what? What you do  is really not that much different.

Stop. Take a deep breath. Let go. Sit with it. I know there is a tendency to blame the other person. It is a normal part of our prior conditioning to examine and complain about their behavior. We want to put it on them. Stop. This is an old habit pattern.

It is part of your brain’s ability to look for what is wrong. It looks for matches in our experience and finds what is wrong. Just stop. It won’t be easy. Shift  away from blame and complaining to neutral. Take a deep breath. As long as you blame, you continue in the habit.

Accept What Is Let Go Of What Was Have Faith In What Will Be

In order to get free, explore what happens in you. What were you expecting? What did you hope and want?  This is an opportunity for you to stop reacting and learn how to respond instead. Obviously, there is some trigger, some anchor in you that went off.

Whatever the catalyst, you reacted. Wouldn’t it be much nicer if regardless of the stimulus, you didn’t suck into it? The other does whatever they do and you remain centered, the eye of the hurricane. Examine this instead. What do they do that is a reflection of you?

Their behavior is a mirror of some aspect of you. Something you can let go of and change. Don’t blame yourself. Attempt to be open, available and don’t judge. Don’t judge or label them, what they do, yourself or, what you do as bad or wrong. It just is what it is.

Learn To Accept People For Who The Are – Let Go Stop Judging

Get it? You don’t want to over analyze this, either. You want to examine why you might react as you do. Whatever you find, let it go. Imagine how you can be free and how you would prefer to behave positively in the future. How could you respond differently?

How could you act more productively? How might you be more loving; compassionate? How might you be non-plussed and remain balanced? These thoughts help you to create a more wonderful future. Focus on what you want, not on the issues you have or had.

We’ll continue more the next blog. Meanwhile, find the blessings in your life and in your relationships. Delight in these. Accentuate the goodness. Focus on these blessings. Allow yourself to let gratitude well up inside you. Feel thankful. Celebrate everything!”Rex Sikes

Be easy on yourself today!

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“What Can You Do When You Shock Or Disappoint Yourself?

“What do you do when you shock or disappoint yourself? You plan for the best but somehow you behave the opposite. You argue when you try everything not to. You break a commitment. You hurt  a loved when and didn’t mean to. What to do? What can you do?

You stop. Take a deep breath. Let go and release. Do your best not to blame yourself or others. Don’t make excuses. Sit with it and reflect. You may not have an answer but somewhere there is some old conditioning rearing its head. It happens to us all. It really does.

Despite your best intentions and efforts you behaved counter to what you wanted to. You wanted a nice evening and it all went to hell. You hoped to enjoy the weekend but it became a disaster. It takes two to tango and you were party to it. What gives?

One’s Best Success Often Comes After One’s Worst Disaster

Some old habits die hard. Sometimes, crap happens. Life hands you lemons. That is just the way it is. I wouldn’t write too much into it. I would however, wonder what I might release to be different. I would really let go and just sit with it as much as possible without judging.

I wouldn’t discard it or be flippant in regard to it. I’d assume everything happens for a reason so that I can learn to be a better person. That somewhere I may have been harboring resentments, or issues, or ‘whatever’ that needed to come out. AND they did.

They may have come out when least expected. Bad timing, perhaps. What I am trying to get at is, crap happens. Don’t invest in it. Don’t judge or blame yourself or others. Don’t regret. Make corrections and apologies if you are able to. Don’t over analyze. Just be.

The Kite Rises Highest Against The Wind – Learn To Soar

It is what it is. What can you learn from it? How can you transform because of or in spite of it? How can you grow and evolve to be an even better person? Use it to learn how to be better now and in the future. There is no ultimate answer that I know of. It just is.

Find the blessing. Find the silver lining. That doesn’t mean you excuse your behavior if you were at fault, or if you did harm. It means learn, grow. Own up. Take 100% responsibility for your thoughts and actions. Don’t deny. Don’t ignore. But don’t wallow.

Don’t pity. Don’t berate. Don’t hate yourself. Forgive, love and accept that you are human and sometimes screw up. That’s what humans do. We are not perfect. We all make mistakes. Accept that you will continue to make mistakes, hopefully not the same ones.

There Is No Failure – Only Feedback – Don’t Beat Yourself Up

Mistakes are opportunities to get feedback, make corrections, adjust and improve. If you let someone down or violated their trust, if they allow you to make amends, then perhaps, you can. They may or may not forgive you. That’s up to them. You can forgive yourself.

You can forgive them. It doesn’t matter whether they know it or not. Forgive them for yourself, so you can let go if you harbor any ill will. Recognize that tomorrow will be another day. Who knows what it will bring. You fell down. Get up, dust off. Move forward.

Expect the best again. Don’t lose hope. Don’t give up because of an event. Stay the course. Get back on track. Shift away from the less than glorious and to the positive and productive. Focus what you want to create. Now, you know better what you want. Don’t you?

You’re Not A Finished Product – You Are A Work In Process

You know you didn’t want the ‘incident’. What is it you want instead? Phrase it in the positive. What good do you want? Focus on bringing that about even if you aren’t yet sure how. You know what you don’t want to happen. Now, turn your attention to what you do want.

Stop focusing on the event. You don’t want to give it energy and recreate it. You want to create something else. Put your energy and attention on what you do wish to create. For example, you had a fight but you want to get along. Don’t think about the fighting.

Imagine all the ways you can get along, all the wonderful, nice things, you can do to create rapport, trust and understanding. See yourself, feel yourself, behaving in loving way. Program your mind for what you want to include and leave what you don’t want, alone.

Be Thankful Even During The Trials – Celebrate Everything

I think this is how we remedy a bad situation. We look at it realistically. We sit with it a bit. We learn what we want, instead. We forgive and let it go. We put into practice making what we want a reality. From within to without. Our thoughts create our reality.

We celebrate the opportunity. Consider everything a blessing. We move forward. We choose to feel the best we can about what was a less than glorious situation. We transform ourselves by the renewing of our minds. I don’t have all the answers, but I hope this helps. From our learning we can celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Amaze yourself today!

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You Should Treat Yourself To Some Unconditional Love

“A good habit is to put on positive, inspirational and motivational audios whenever you are driving. It is a great opportunity to feel great, drive safe and learn something of value. Use your time wisely. I hope you enjoyed my audio blog in the last post.

If you haven’t yet listened, be sure to take some time. Today, why not focus on giving to yourself unconditionally. Gift yourself. Accept yourself. Shower yourself with love. Unconditional love. Feel it. Embrace it. You deserve it. If you don’t feel you do, you need it.

Forgive yourself, if you feel you must. Most people have conditions and limits on their love. We don’t have to, but we do. We grew up and learned to behave in certain ways. We learned to feel certain ways about ourselves. We believe ourselves to be certain ways.

Love Is The Absence Of Judgement – Unconditional Love Gives

It is time to let go of that previous conditioning. The way to do it is to treat yourself in loving ways. Be gentle. Be kind. Be open to who you are, and what you think and do, without judgement. Let go of your judgements. Most of them came from other people, anyway.

You are not your thoughts. You are not necessarily who you think you are. In reality you are awesome! You are a resourceful, intelligent, capable, powerful person. You may not have thought so but you are. You are a being of light and goodness. Accept it.

Let your light shine. Reveal yourself to yourself. Allow, accept, and receive yourself. Treat yourself special today. Do something nice for you. Think nice thoughts about yourself. Take yourself out for a good time, a special treat. Go first class if you are able. Treat yourself well.

The Measure Of Love Is To Love Without Measure  Unconditionally

Be glad. Be thankful you are who you are. Enjoy and feel lucky to be you.  Appreciate all of your experiences in shaping you. You have come a long way no matter how old or young. You are a person of great value. Love yourself without limitations. Celebrate yourself. Be filled with gratitude. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Find out how wonderful you are today!

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How To Choose To Be At Peace No Matter What is Going On

“Want some positive relief? Want to feel good today? There are things you can do. Claim control over your own mental attitude. Claim control over your feelings. Stop being a victim of either. Put yourself in charge. Realize now is all you have. Claim your power.

Make the decision that no person, no current event, no situation, no place or thing can annoy you or irritate you. Decide you will remain at peace. Be the eye of the storm. Remain calm and centered no matter what. Decide not to focus on the crap. Focus on the good.

Focus on being enough. Focus on feeling fine. Focus on enjoying the moment. Look for the silver linings. Look for what is good and new that you can appreciate and enjoy. Seek to discover the opportunities surrounding you. From chaos stars are born!

You Get What You Focus On – Thoughts Become Things

Decide to delight. Remember you get what you focus on. Delight, enjoy, be enthused, excited. Fill yourself with good feelings. Happiness is not a destination it is now. Live well. Feel well. Smile more! Wear a big smile. Live from the heart. Think happy thoughts. Giggle and laugh. Move more. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Feel marvelous for no reason!

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Why You Need To Play More!

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“Life can sometimes get the better of us. We worry about things we can and those things we cannot change. We worry about the world, the environment, the economy, our kids, others, our debts and more. We spend too much time and energy on the downside. Sad but true.

Look at Facebook or the news. More good things actually happen than bad things, yet most of what we see in media are the bad things. True, some are good, most are not so good. There isn’t anything wrong with being well informed. However, here is the issue:

Are these robbing you of your vital energy and life force? Are these distracting you, depleting your energy and joy in life? We should all enjoy life much more. Instead we worry, fear, death and taxes. Don’t you want to live better than this? I absolutely do. We all can!

Realize You Never Get The Same Moment Twice – Live Fully Now

Consider this: Kids learn more through play than anything else while growing up. During play they have fun, pretend, role play and plan for the future. It is all fun and games but during it all they are learning. Sadly, in schools today, the amount of play is reduced.

Now days kids play video games. They don’t have to use their imagination as they once did. We need to return to some basic principles. Play and exercise your mind. Become playful as you once were. YOU were! Learn and grow through play again! Enjoy it!

Live fully, have fun, feel abundance and enjoy all life offers. It is far too short to work, sweat, fret, fear and depart. Let’s spend more time playing and having fun, enjoying and loving the people important to us, and delighting in all good things. Spend time living fully!

Enjoy This Moment For This Moment Is Your Life 

Focus on these. Stop focusing on the downside. Create what you want more of. Focus on the blessings you have and you’ll have more. Live free. Live full. Feel blessed and you will be more blessed. When you feel great, filled with life and energy, you radiate it.

Vibrate high. Seek always to vibrate at your highest. Focus on the good, the beauty around you, in all areas. Allow yourself to be filled with positive, delightful energy because when you do you create and attract more. Like flowers to bees you become more attractive.

Feel grateful. Appreciate everything. Imagine, whether true or not, you chose this life to live and everything that comes your way is by your choice. Challenges are there to help you evolve and be better. Everything is your choice and everything is your design.

The More You Celebrate Life The More Life You Have To Celebrate

All of it is a blessing. It doesn’t matter if that is true or not. Adopt the mental framework so you take hold of every precious moment and live it to the fullest. Exude life. Exude joy and thankfulness. Discover your bliss. Life is easier when you do! Live in love! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Play! Then play some more today! Have fun!

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Do This To Start Your Day Out Right!

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“How’d you like to wake up each day feeling fine? Would you like to make your day more delightful and productive? You can, you know. You can program yourself to have good days. If you make waking up wonderfully a habit, the rest of your day most likely will follow suit.

The easiest way is to create a positive morning ritual. In other posts I have shared many of the morning things you can do to get your day going right. In this post I’d like to elaborate on another. Are your ready to make a difference in your day?  Alright, then.

When you get up, when you arise in the morning, first thing, set your thoughts. Make a promise, a commitment to yourself. Set the direction for your day. I wake up and first thing I think, as I have shared before, are positive, wonderful thoughts. I think:

Fill Your Day With Good Thoughts  And Happy Moments

‘I love my life! I allow and accept and receive all the gifts the universe has for me! Something magical is going to happen for me today!’ That is my opening thought! ‘Yes, it’s great to be awake in this world! What exciting things will I discover today!’

This sets the frame for my day. Get it? I love that I have another day. Do I think the universe gifts me as some grandmother does? Heck, I don’t know, but if I find a penny I am thrilled. It is a gift. There are so many things around us that are gifts.

I want to discover and appreciate as many as I can. I want to celebrate these. Someone buys coffee, it is a gift. Someone smiles at me, it is a gift. I go into acceptance mode. I used to be in denial mode now I accept. Someone would pay me a compliment and I’s refuse it.

Why Life Offers Tough Moments Don’t Say – Why Me – Say – Try Me

I’d say, ‘it is nothing’. Thank them and sheepishly deflect it. Now, bring it! That is a gift. I allow myself to be open, as much as possible, to accept and label ALL things gifts. Some might be tough lessons. That’s okay it is a gift. Today is a gift!

I also like to gift the world and other people as much as possible through words and actions. At the end of the day I can look back and feel grateful for all the good and new, delightful gifts I discovered. I look forward to more tomorrow.  The day is a bookended.

It begins and ends with gratitude. In between is discovery and appreciation. I’ll share more next post on setting intentions. How you start the day tends to determine how the rest of it goes. If you want more good days begin at the beginning.

Attitude Is Everything – Attitude Determines Your Altitude

Start by remembering to make a positive declarations, as I pointed out above, first thing. Power up your first thoughts. It may take a while to actually make it your first thoughts but through daily practice and repetition you’ll get there. Step by step.

Some people don’t like getting up. You can bet their thoughts aren’t ‘Oh boy, this is exciting!’ This is why they need to make the change. While still in bed they need to adjust their thinking. You CAN do this. Anyone can learn. You absolutely can! So begin right away!

With daily practice you will soon overcome the inertia of old habits. The good news is we can learn and develop new ones that serve and support us much, much better. Begin this practice and in a short while it can transform not only your day but your life. Think positive and feel better. Be grateful and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Enjoy this day!

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Why Meditation? Why Let Go? Why This, Why That?

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“Why meditation? Why let go? Why be a witness or an observer? Why practice this awareness? Why develop this habit? Why watch your thoughts or your breath? Why learn control over your thoughts, feelings and behaviors? What is this all about or for?

When you are able to remain calm and centered in the midst of the most trying circumstances you will know exactly why you developed this habit. Learning in this manner allows you to de-stress and live in the world confidently and positively. You’re freer and enjoy more.

Why gratitude and appreciation for things you already have? Why gratitude for things you don’t have yet? Why gratitude for challenges and problems and difficult people and disappointment? Why be thankful for ‘bad’ things? Why not just be negative and sad?

No Meditation No Life – Know Meditation Know Life

When you are grateful for anything and everything you freer. If everything is a blessing you are centered and calm. You are able to respond resourcefully and rise to the occasion with clear focused thought. You know it will work out no matter what. You know it.

You know you will accept whatever is good or bad, yet be able to get through it. You know that ultimately good will prevail and you can move forward. You let go and drop worry and anxiety, anger and frustration, sadness and helplessness. You are free and are strong.

You can act to change the situation but you do so from a centered place. You can act and move with heart and compassion. You are better equipped for any situation than when hot headed or ego driven. Stress has consequences. You can’t think or behave well.

Life Begins Where And When The Fear Ends – Live Courageously

From a centered place where you can let go, forgive and forget you can move forward more easily. When you can celebrate everything there is everything to celebrate. You discover all that you want and need you have. You discover opportunity and abundance. Get it?

You make it so. Whatever you think or say is what it is or will be. Free yourself from judgements. Recognize what is is. Allow it. Only speak or declare what you want. If you call it a problem it is a problem. If you call it a blessing then it is. You decide what things are. You do!

Life is your creation. You are involved in making it whatever it is each moment. You may not be aware of this but it is true. Your life is a reflection of your thoughts. It is your projection. When you can see that you can drop that and live authentically. Live in peace and freedom, You can love and be loved. You can laugh and celebrate more. In fact, you CAN celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Enjoy the day!

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