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What I Learned From Almost Drowning

“A number of years ago while vacationing in the Midwest I almost drowned in Lake Michigan. I had been swimming with friends but not paying attention and got caught far out late in the day. I tried to swim straight back to shore but kept getting pulled further out.

I was exhausting myself struggling against the waves. I realized this and then stopped struggling. I shifted onto my back and floated that way. Once horizontal one is more buoyant than vertical in the water. Fighting the waves, fear and treading water, tired me out. I stopped.

I relaxed and let the water hold me up. Good thing I thought to do this. I learned it while  swimming in the pool as a youngster. You don’t need much energy to just float. So I laid there but was getting carried further out. I needed to rest. Rest I did. Further out I went.

What You Resist Persists – Turn Resistance Into Assistance

Finally, I positioned myself in the water to assess my situation. It was then, from this relaxed place I noticed something I had learned about in a geology class in college. Waves hit the shore at an angle. They don’t line up going straight in. 45 degrees I think I recall.

I watched wave after wave hit the beach. Then it occurred to me to swim along the angle that the waves went in. I did. No longer did I fight against the waves and current. Now they carried me it. It still took quite a while to get back to shore but now I wasn’t fighting.

I was relaxed, calm and new I could make it. I was lifted up on the waves instead of trying to cut through them. Some 30 minutes or so later I was safe ashore. You may take any number of lessons from my experience I share. I will recount a couple I learned right then.

Stop  -Drop It – Go With The Flow –  Let The Current Carry You

I apply them to life as well. When fighting stop and relax. Struggle is exhausting. It doesn’t matter if you are struggling with others, yourself or circumstances the struggle will wear you out. Stop and relax. Let go. Get neutral or buoyant and then go with the flow.

Stop resisting because whatever you resist or struggle against persists. When you collect your resources, your energy and can resume in a resourceful state you will be far more productive. This lesson has saved my life and ass numerous times since.

Perhaps, you can benefit from my experience too. Keep a level head. Don’t let fear get the better of you. Relax, let go and let god. Learn how to be carried to your destination. You don’t have to fight. Give in to gratitude. Be thankful. Live and enjoy each moment. You are blessed more than you know. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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How To Live Free Of Energy Vampires

“Never let wrongdoers spoil you day or your mood. Rise above the fray. Remain untouched while fighting for a better way. Never fall to their level. It only harms you and does little to affect them. Don’t fight fire with fire. Light doesn’t drive out darkness it just is light.

Love instead of hate. Take the higher road. Live stress free. Stop being distracted by news and media. There is far more good than not so good. Don’t get caught up. When you get caught up, distracted or predominantly negative you give away your power.

Power comes from within, not from without. Seek higher self. Seek higher counsel. Seek love and light. Stay optimistic. Keep the faith in what you can positively accomplish to bring good about. Don’t get caught in circumstances, events and energy vampires. Rise above!

Skill Comes Of Doing – The More You Do The More You Can Do

Live, love, laugh and learn from everything. All adversity contains seeds of learning and opportunity. You have to look. One door closes another opens. You decide how you live. You decide what your experience will be. You either react like knee jerk or you respond.

Fill your mind with positive and inspiring material. Hang out with optimistic, positive, good people. Listen to inspiring, motivational audios. Attend workshops where other high vibe people are. Speak only to bless, heal, prosper, inspire and motivate. Create good!

Responding is from choice and from you higher self and from power. So be grateful. Fill yourself with light. Meditate. Let go. Seek peace and joy. Allow peace and light to fill you. Receive. Be thankful. Consider everything a blessing. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Do This When Things Don’t Go Your Way

“Hey, it happens. People let you down. They don’t show up. They may break their promises. Events are cancelled. Less than glorious circumstances occur. People may lie, cheat or steal. What to do it? Most people get angry, frustrated, sad or want revenge. Do you?

It is natural. Especially depending on how and where you were raised. Bad things happen and we get disappointed and mad. We get consumed with negative thoughts. We think how it is unfair, shouldn’t happened or could have been otherwise. We obsess.

If you find yourself doing any of these it is natural. It is reacting from prior past conditioning. It is automatic and habitual. This is what you have done before so you do it again. The circumstances or people may change but the reaction is pretty much the same. Same ole stuff.

You Are Right Now Where Your Thoughts Have Brought You

However, you don’t have to do this again. You can change it. You can decide to be different and choose to respond instead of react. You can be in charge instead of a victim. You CAN change everything in an instant by changing what you choose to think and focus on.

Instantly! You can change the meaning of any event by changing what you think about. That said, learning to choose to think differently may take a little time but if you never start doing it a new way you will always be stuck doing it the old way. Get it? Change it!

It requires awareness. You must become aware you are going down the old pathway and must will yourself to think and feel and act differently. If you think this suck you must change it you something else. If you don’t you will just feel the same old way you always have.

You Will Be Tomorrow Where Your Present Thoughts Take You

You can realize that you don’t know everything and that while things didn’t pan out how you had hoped perhaps there is a lesson or some other good to come of it. Someone lets you down. You can be angry and blame or you can choose to examine why it matters so much.

You can explore how you might feel different. You might look for whatever other good could possibly come from this. After all you determine whether it is a problem or not. If you choose to look at it as a blessing instead then it isn’t a problem. It is your choice.

BUT you exclaim, it doesn’t seem like a choice. It seems like hard work. YUP it is whatever you declare it to be. You will always live from your filters, what you think and tell yourself and what you believe things to be. To change you must change these things.

Learn To Manage Your Thoughts Because You Can’t Escape Them

So yes, it takes some work. Just a getting physically fit takes some work. It is up to you. Stay the same or become new. Your choices, your decisions determine exactly what you get from life’s influences. You either fight it or go with the flow. You either feel bad or good.

Every moment it is your choice. The key to transformation is laying the ground work. Doing what may be difficult long enough until it becomes easy. If you want something  you will find a way to do it. If not you will find excuses and stay the same. What will you do now?

Begin to consider what positive steps you can take to think and feel differently? How might this be beneficial? How good will you feel when you discover the hidden blessing? Where else might you positively put your attention to begin to feel better? Ask yourself!

What We Want To Do With Ease We Must First Do With Diligence

Direct your mind, feelings, words and behaviors. STOP immediately and reframe it. Tell yourself a different story. Manage your self-talk and negative imagining. Stop feeling the victim and choose to be the victor. Look for the positive, the good and emphasize these now!

It is completely up to you. Choose to be different. Choose to think and feel differently. Set the intention. Make the decision. That is the beginning of your transformation. It won’t ever happen unless you do it. Focus on the good. Stop making it a problem. Look for what there is to be grateful for instead. Take positive steps to think and feel better. Consider it a blessing. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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All Big Ideas Are Met With Opposition!

“All big ideas are met with opposition. When Henry Ford first attempted to sell the automobile people protested stating they didn’t need one since they owned a horse. Edison had difficulty selling the public on electric lighting. Go figure, right? Yup.

Big ideas are opposed. Einstein said, ‘great spirits must do violent contention with mediocre minds’. True dat! Right. We have all been opposed by others. Tell your family you want to be a poet, singer or actor. Probably, you were told you’d fail. But it gets worse. Yup.

Much worse. How much more worse? Much, much! Your own big ideas, your dreams, goals, plans and intentions are met with doubt, fear, anxiety and limiting beliefs. You think, it will never happen. I don’t deserve it. Okay for others but not for me. Get it? Right.

You Go Where Your Thoughts Take You

People are great spirits and their conditioned mind is mediocre. Attempt to make a change and your mind resists and puts you in your place. Many people want to do things but don’t feel like actually doing. They procrastinate, excuse or blame. Resistance from within.

In order to move forward you need to re-condition your mind. Your mind doesn’t care which program it runs. It only runs the one it knows. You need to replace that old conditioning with an updated message that states I CAN instead of I can’t. Change your mind.

Replace the old with the new. Condition yourself for success. Stop resisting and begin cooperating with your self. Set yourself on the path and move forward without the battle, the fear,  the hesitation and worry. Time for faith instead of doubt. You can! Yup. YUP!

If You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You Are Right

You may need to learn how. If what you have been doing isn’t working and hasn’t worked then continuing to take that same approach isn’t serving but preventing you. You need to begin to do things and take actions and develop the mindset that works.

Stop failing and start succeeding. Stop fighting with yourself and start living the life you deserve. You can when you know you can. When you believe you can and take right action. When you live intuitively and from your higher self. You can accomplish anything. So start changing. Be happy. Be grateful. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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People Who Can’t Do This Lose Big Time!

“Life is simple. If you are happy, keep going. If you aren’t happy, change something. If you want your life to change you must change some things in your life. You can’t keep doing the same thing over and over and expect to get different results.

You must do things differently. If you don’t know how, learn how. Learn to change your thoughts. When you do your feelings and perceptions change. Learn to change your feelings and your thought and perceptions change. Take action. Do something. different.

Meditate, sing, dance, run, skip, play with a child or a pet. Help someone else. When you help another you are helping yourself too. Read inspiring material. Listen to inspiring audios. Seek the companionship of positive, uplifting people. Listen to upbeat music.

If What You Are Doing Isn’t Working – Do Anything Else Positive

You can reframe any situation. The meaning you assign it is the one you live by. If you don’t like it then change it. Condition yourself to see the good and the positive and the lesson in everything. Find it within adversity. Keep the faith. Be thankful. Practice gratitude.If You only celebrate the good circumstances you don’t know how to celebrate. You must celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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How To Get Unhooked When You Get Hooked!

” How do you stay present? For most of us we are in the past or in the future. We are rarely right here, right now. What can we do when we think a negative thought, feel bad, have a craving, someone injures us verbally, or the world dumps problems on us? What to do?

The best approach is to learn to respond instead of react. Most of use knee jerk react. Someone hurts our feelings and we get mad, sad or try to get revenge. We react instantly to the offense. We are victims because we don’t think we have choice BUT we actually do.

The knack one must learn is to delay the reaction. Similar to delayed gratification. When you want that cookie NOW, delay getting it. Consider having it later. Stop rushing into it. You may wonder how to do this because you haven’t yet been able to. Practice delaying!

You Go Where Your Thoughts Take You – Let Go – Witness – Relax

When you feel bad, have a craving or someone says something that is an affront to you SIT with it. Stop judging it or anything just sit with it. Notice it. Be aware that it occurred. You need to train yourself that it is okay to just be and let it go. Yes, you feel it.

Sit with it. Some suggest sitting for a half an hour. Don’t judge it. Don’t judge yourself. Label nothing. Just feel it and sit with it. Do not indulge it just observe it. Yes, this takes practice if you never have done it but YOU can master it if you will only practice it regularly.

Sit with it for 30 minutes. Why 30? To allow it to dissipate. Simply watch. Slow down the internal feelings and internal self talk. SLOW down. Watch, witness observe. Don’t rush. Take time. After 30 minutes change it. Affirm something else. Do something else.

Skill Comes From Doing – It Gets Easier The More You Do It

Seek the positive. Shift from sitting with it to becoming positive. I am not saying you have to be happy for it but change it from being a problem. Learn to manage your thoughts and emotions and get truly present. You sat with it in the moment. NOW change it productively.

Put off you cravings. Don’t rush. It takes will power but you need to learn how to use your will power. Anything you want to learn to do well may seem impossible at first but with regular correct practice you can master this. It may take 30, 60, 90 days or more but do it.

Negative thoughts and feelings are a part of life. Everyone has them. BUT not everyone is hooked into them. Some have learned how to manage them better. Some learn how to shift from their difficulty to their inner resources. There is nothing wrong with negativity.

Listen And Learn The Lesson – Sit – Wait – Allow – Transform

Negative feelings are alert signals that you are thinking less than glorious thoughts. When you discover this be willing to sit and observe. Sit and transform. Simply recognize the thoughts and feelings for what they are. Don’t judge. Then  change them.

Give it to god, the universe or whatever your personal belief is about a higher power. Surrender it. Give it over. Think, ‘thy will be done’. Let it go and let god. Look for the blessing. Look for the lesson. What can you learn that will benefit you and others from this situation.

If you want to be happy, peaceful, successful and live a wonderful life you need to learn to do new things and transform old ways. You take charge and learn to respond instead of react. Stop being Pavlov’s dog and slobbering every time your bell is rung. Get it? Change it!

If You Really Want To Transform Yourself You’ll Find The Way

Find the lesson and apply the lesson. In order to live successful transform yourself. It isn’t about others or circumstances it is about you. Be the change you want to enjoy. Expect the best, know it may be difficult but that YOU can learn to do this. Condition yourself.

Practice gratitude. Be grateful for the opportunity to change. Be grateful for the lesson in the less than glorious situation. Be grateful you have an opportunity to begin to do things in a new way. Be grateful you are learning to get ‘unhooked’.

Stop reacting, and take charge of your life. It is all a blessing! Delay gratification. Sit with the negative feelings. Stop judging. Let go. Change it at 30 minutes. Do anything else that makes you feel positive and is good for you and others.

If You Don’t Want To Transform Yourself You’ll Find Excuses

Seek to uplift not to harm. Count all as a blessing, a learning and opportunity. Recognize the good about you and your life. Love yourself. Accept yourself. You don’t have to be perfect. Stop being a perfectionist. Live, love, laugh. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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What You Think And Say Greatly Matters

“Each of each of us would benefit greatly to develop the ability to see beyond the present negative circumstances. We need to learn to exercise our ability to not be impacted by less than glorious circumstances. We need to stop judging and become lighthearted.

To the extent we can be nonjudgemental is the degree to which we can triumph over our individual circumstances and move forward more easily creating the life we want. Our perceptions create and shape our reality. We need to stop judging! Become carefree!

When circumstances are negative how does you react? If you react the way you always do then you’re not free. If you can learn to respond instead, and to choose differently, instead of knee jerk react,  then you have possibilities. To do this, stop judging.

What You Say Is What You Get – What You See Is What You Get

Then you become open to numerous, potentially, infinite possibilities. We need to go beyond our judgements, our biases, and be able to hold different views of our circumstances. How we view our circumstances makes them so. When we label, we freeze them.

When we label, we declare what it is. Our thoughts and words have power. They have the power to free us or trap us. If we declare something bad, then it is bad. Get it? Whatever we think or say about it makes it so. However, we can choose to think differently.

When we think differently our perceptions change. If instead of it being a problem we call it an opportunity then we have an opportunity. It is always there. It remains hidden until we declare and affirm that opportunity exists. Our thoughts are important.

You Become What You Think About Most Each Day

How do you wish to go through the world? How do you wish to perceive things that arise in your life? Is it trouble or a new situation? Is it a problem or an opportunity? It is all how you perceive it. Can you learn to suspend judgement and make it work for you?

If we aren’t able to get past our perceptions about circumstances then we are a victim of them and not the victor.  We need to learn how to take charge, manage our mindset and transform our thoughts and hence our circumstances. We become what we think about. We get whatever we focus on. Get it? Learn instead to celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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