“Questions divide the world and help you to focus. You can direct your mind to what you want it to search for and find by using a question. Hopefully, you did the exercise from yesterday. If not, stop now, and read or re-read the previous post. Then continue on.
First question, did you answer what you wanted or didn’t want? Did you say ‘I want to be rich’ or ‘I don’t want to be broke’? It matters. Which words do you focus on in each question? Either rich or broke, right? If you are focused on broke you ‘ain’t gonna git rich!’ Git it?
Knowing what you don’t want is important to help you clarify what you do want. You focus must be on what you do want. If you said, ‘I don’t want to be broke’. Then the next step is Okay, what do you want? If you can’t answer that is a problem.
Learn To Ask Yourself Better Questions
If you come back with another, ‘I don’t want so many bills’ then you are still focused on what you don’t want. OKAY then write out all the ‘I DON’T WANTS and get them out of your system. Then with each shift your attention to your wants.
I don’t want to be broke – may become – I want to be rich. I don’t want bills – may become – I want all my bills paid for easily. I don’t want to be fat – may become – I want to be my ideal weight. I don’t want a smoker – may become – I want someone health conscious.
Get it? What you focus on is what you get. If you have been primarily focused on what you don’t want that is what you will keep getting, creating or attracting. We become what we think about most often. What do you put your time, energy and attention into most often?
Questions Direct The Mind
The second question is why do you want it? Answering this will clarify what is important to you. It will shed light on the needs behind your goals and dreams. You may discover there are other productive ways to get what you want more easily and readily.
Sometimes these needs and wants are called our values. We want to feel important or significant. We want freedom or fun. We want to be relaxed or at ease or feel peace. We want to feel accomplished or creative. These are drivers behind the goal we are trying to fulfill.
We may fulfill these through what we want or in discovering other positive ways. YOU may find your wants changing during this process of self discovery. That is absolutely okay. Get clear about what you want, what is important to you and what stops you.
Stop Asking Why You Are Stupid Or Unlucky Or Broke
The third is WHY DON”T YOU HAVE IT? Your answer is the story, the reason, the excuse, the blames for why you aren’t making what you want happen. It is okay, we all have them. Just consider it. Why don’t you have what you want right now?
This answer, this story, this reason, this excuse is the WHY you don’t have it that you tell yourself over again and again. Your time, energy and attention is going into why it doesn’t happen or what is preventing and stopping you. Do you understand this? It is all focus!
You put more credence on the reasons why you don’t have it than you put energy into making it happen. Consider that. STOP! For goodness sake. STOP and actually consider this, Energy flows where your focus goes.
Learn To Ask Yourself Better Questions
If you think, ‘I am broke because … You ain’t gonna get rich thinking broke and why you are. You aren’t going to create, attract and make happen what you want if your concentrated attention is on why you don’t have it. You are reinforcing not having and not getting it.
If you want to get it you will have to change your story. You must do things differently! You have to come up with all the reasons WHY you CAN HAVE IT – right NOW! You should write out a new story that reflects what you want to have. Be detailed and take your time.
What you say is what you get. What you say is based on your mental images and feelings. When you think to yourself or tell others the same story you perpetuate it. You keep it active. If you aren’t getting what you want, yet, then you must withdraw your energy.
You Get What You Focus On – You Become What You Think About
You must change what you talk about.Construct the story you want to live out. You are the author of your life, write the pages and chapters to be what you want. Remember, what you say is what you get. Choose and use your words wisely. Focus on what you want.
Focus on the good things in your life. Put your energy into what is good and what is right. Focus on solutions and on being champion and victor. Focus on using your resourcefulness to make changes within yourself that result in changes in your outer world.
If you did these exercises honestly and thoroughly you will have gotten some valuable information for yourself to put into practice. If you blame others and make them responsible you have missed the point. If you blame others that is your excuse and gets you nowhere.
Ask Questions That Direct Your Mind In Useful Positive Ways
Each of us has to take responsibility for making our life the good life we want. Blaming others and circumstances is not the solution to getting what you want. Taking responsibility taking positive, inspired action steps that benefit you and everyone else will help you.
Blaming excuses you from getting your dreams by putting the responsibility on others or circumstances but doesn’t get you closer. Determining what you must think, feel and do will. Developing the habits that get you where you want to go will. Results begin within.
The results you get are directly tied to your thinking. So change your thinking. Change your story. Keep this in mind. You get what you focus on. You become what you think about. Once you know what you want and why you don’t have it put your attention elsewhere.
Get Clear About What You Want And Why You Want It
Put your attention on why you do have it! Imagine yourself to be the kind of positive person who does have it. What are you like? What do you think and feel and do? What does it feel like to be living the dream? Imagine all the good things.
During this process you may have discovered many beneficial things. Some may sting, some may be freeing. I encourage you to visit this again and again in coming weeks and months. Some people do it all their lives. It can be a valuable process to do on your wants.
Meanwhile, find ways to be thankful and appreciative for your new awarenesses. Be grateful for whatever you have come to understand. Learn from it. If you got better insight into these areas be happy. Learn from it. Extract the lessons. Apply the information.
To Know And Not To Do – Is To Not Know – Take Action
Apply the information to make your life and those lives around you a little easier and better. Enjoy this adventure and all of your journey. When you do you are truly blessed because you recognize each step and each obstacle IS a blessing. WOW! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes
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