Category Archives: Focus

“What Can You Do When You Shock Or Disappoint Yourself?

“What do you do when you shock or disappoint yourself? You plan for the best but somehow you behave the opposite. You argue when you try everything not to. You break a commitment. You hurt  a loved when and didn’t mean to. What to do? What can you do?

You stop. Take a deep breath. Let go and release. Do your best not to blame yourself or others. Don’t make excuses. Sit with it and reflect. You may not have an answer but somewhere there is some old conditioning rearing its head. It happens to us all. It really does.

Despite your best intentions and efforts you behaved counter to what you wanted to. You wanted a nice evening and it all went to hell. You hoped to enjoy the weekend but it became a disaster. It takes two to tango and you were party to it. What gives?

One’s Best Success Often Comes After One’s Worst Disaster

Some old habits die hard. Sometimes, crap happens. Life hands you lemons. That is just the way it is. I wouldn’t write too much into it. I would however, wonder what I might release to be different. I would really let go and just sit with it as much as possible without judging.

I wouldn’t discard it or be flippant in regard to it. I’d assume everything happens for a reason so that I can learn to be a better person. That somewhere I may have been harboring resentments, or issues, or ‘whatever’ that needed to come out. AND they did.

They may have come out when least expected. Bad timing, perhaps. What I am trying to get at is, crap happens. Don’t invest in it. Don’t judge or blame yourself or others. Don’t regret. Make corrections and apologies if you are able to. Don’t over analyze. Just be.

The Kite Rises Highest Against The Wind – Learn To Soar

It is what it is. What can you learn from it? How can you transform because of or in spite of it? How can you grow and evolve to be an even better person? Use it to learn how to be better now and in the future. There is no ultimate answer that I know of. It just is.

Find the blessing. Find the silver lining. That doesn’t mean you excuse your behavior if you were at fault, or if you did harm. It means learn, grow. Own up. Take 100% responsibility for your thoughts and actions. Don’t deny. Don’t ignore. But don’t wallow.

Don’t pity. Don’t berate. Don’t hate yourself. Forgive, love and accept that you are human and sometimes screw up. That’s what humans do. We are not perfect. We all make mistakes. Accept that you will continue to make mistakes, hopefully not the same ones.

There Is No Failure – Only Feedback – Don’t Beat Yourself Up

Mistakes are opportunities to get feedback, make corrections, adjust and improve. If you let someone down or violated their trust, if they allow you to make amends, then perhaps, you can. They may or may not forgive you. That’s up to them. You can forgive yourself.

You can forgive them. It doesn’t matter whether they know it or not. Forgive them for yourself, so you can let go if you harbor any ill will. Recognize that tomorrow will be another day. Who knows what it will bring. You fell down. Get up, dust off. Move forward.

Expect the best again. Don’t lose hope. Don’t give up because of an event. Stay the course. Get back on track. Shift away from the less than glorious and to the positive and productive. Focus what you want to create. Now, you know better what you want. Don’t you?

You’re Not A Finished Product – You Are A Work In Process

You know you didn’t want the ‘incident’. What is it you want instead? Phrase it in the positive. What good do you want? Focus on bringing that about even if you aren’t yet sure how. You know what you don’t want to happen. Now, turn your attention to what you do want.

Stop focusing on the event. You don’t want to give it energy and recreate it. You want to create something else. Put your energy and attention on what you do wish to create. For example, you had a fight but you want to get along. Don’t think about the fighting.

Imagine all the ways you can get along, all the wonderful, nice things, you can do to create rapport, trust and understanding. See yourself, feel yourself, behaving in loving way. Program your mind for what you want to include and leave what you don’t want, alone.

Be Thankful Even During The Trials – Celebrate Everything

I think this is how we remedy a bad situation. We look at it realistically. We sit with it a bit. We learn what we want, instead. We forgive and let it go. We put into practice making what we want a reality. From within to without. Our thoughts create our reality.

We celebrate the opportunity. Consider everything a blessing. We move forward. We choose to feel the best we can about what was a less than glorious situation. We transform ourselves by the renewing of our minds. I don’t have all the answers, but I hope this helps. From our learning we can celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Amaze yourself today!

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Audio Blog: Success Tips You Can Use!

“Perhaps, you didn’t know I am a director, producer and an actor. I have a Inet radio show/podcast Rex Sikes’ Movie Beat. Two years ago I canceled a show because my guest had to cancel last minute. I decided to share success tips anyone can use to get ahead.

I posted it here a while back but have decided to re-post it because it is useful. New readers may not have looked back into the history of the blog yet, and discovered all that here within these pages. It was extemporaneous, off the cuff: like a live FB video. Spontaneous.

I encourage readers to re-read. Make a study of these blogs and the valuable inspirational materials you read and listen to. When you go back and review, at another time, you will find things you missed. Old things take on new meaning. It is a valuable use of your time!

What We Hope To Do With Ease We Must First Do With Diligence

Study. Practice and you will grow. Enjoy listening to the podcast. Use the link below. FYI: Prior to getting into the material I do discuss the Movie Beat show upcoming guest and more. So hang in there. a couple minutes. Whether you are a filmmaker or not there is much here to learn from. You can use the information to change your life and get your goals. Enjoy and celebrate everything! Rex Sikes

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Use what you know, apply it, to make your day wonderful!

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Never Let Yesterday Use Up Too Much Of Today

“Why do some people, perhaps you, seem to never get ahead? What is one of the biggest difficulties people face that prevents them from getting what they want? Where is it that most people put their attention? How come it doesn’t work the way you hope it will?

“Never let yesterday use up too much of today.”  Will Rogers said that and it is great advice. You cannot move forward looking back. You can’t drive your car forward looking only in the rearview mirror. Yet, that is what many people do. They try to get ahead looking back.

Be here now. Come to this moment. Live in the present, the here and now. Let go of what was. Honor it. Respect it. Learn from it. Forgive it. Make reparations if necessary and you are able to.  Accept it and then let it go. Drop it. Don’t let the past define you. Stop judging.

The More Grateful You Are The More Present You Become 

You are more than your past conditioning and experiences. Whatever your past was it is gone. Unless you continue to keep it alive.  Some of it was good. Maybe, some of it not so good. That is okay. Bring your attention to now. Let go of any, ‘if I had only…’

Stop living with regret. Stop living with shame. Stop being a survivor and start living fully. Cut the ties that bind and put your attention on this day. This moment, Right here. Right now. When you free yourself of looking back your energy is available to transform now.

Your now energy is available to look forward and create what you want  from this moment on. Look at what you can be grateful for right now. Celebrate your past as prior learning and lessons. Begin to celebrate now for all that is available to you. Be here and now.

Be Present In All Things Be Thankful For All Things – Live Now

Count your blessings. Be thankful. List your wins. List everything you appreciate. It can be small or large. It can be specific or vague. Just begin taking inventory of what you can be grateful for right this instant. Focus on these and notice how good it feels. Start living. Live fully. Find all the good Find the new. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Make this moment magnificent and magical!

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Important Things To Do When Feeling Blue

“Remember, the tide goes out and comes back in. The cold becomes warm. To everything, there is a season. Thought and feeling management is based on creating supportive habits. Sometimes a break is nice. I tend to push through things. Sometimes, just allow.

Sometimes the contrast between feeling like it and not feeling like it can provide us with important insight and learning. Allow and surrender without giving up or giving in. Let go of how you think it should be and explore how it could be. Stop labeling and judging.

Look for tiny blessings that put a smile on your lips. Enjoy and delight. Morning comes. Whatever you focus on expands. Energy flows where attention goes. Attitude is everything. Where can you put your attention and focus that supports you? Find love, peace.

Listen To The Silence – It Speaks – Slow Down – Just Listen

What can you find that uplifts you? Look around. When blue, when stressed, when angry our focus constricts. Open it back up. Relax, breathe, move. Create some space. Step back a bit. Allow, let go. Stop and breathe. Breathe and focus on your breath. Listen. Listen.

Sigh. Hum. Sing. Breathe. Move. Walk. Notice, what else is around? Look around. Wonder, really wonder, what can you begin to explore and notice that is good and new? Go to nature. Sit. Imbibe. Listen, really listen. Look at the space. The empty spaces between things.

Do you realize there is more space than matter? Look at the space between branches and leaves. Between trees. Listen to the space between the notes in a song. Listen to the space between words. Create silence, listen to the space between your thoughts.

Silence Isn’t Empty – It Is Full Of Answers – Be Still And Know

Step back create some distance between you and the issue. Look at things from other angles, other perspectives. Lie down and look at the clouds. Look at the space between the clouds. Listen to a babbling brook; the sounds and silences in nature. Just listen.

Look for silver linings. Look for the good. Seek the good, however small. Seek what is new and different. Find anything to appreciate. Anything at all. ANYTHING! Large or small. Put your attention on the people, places, things, events, situations you are grateful for.

This changes everything. Keep the focus on what you are thankful for. That is where your energy will flow. That will change everything. It may start small, hardly noticable, or it may come in a flood. However it does, allow it. Celebrate it. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Suspend labeling and judgements today. Just be!

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How To Choose To Be At Peace No Matter What is Going On

“Want some positive relief? Want to feel good today? There are things you can do. Claim control over your own mental attitude. Claim control over your feelings. Stop being a victim of either. Put yourself in charge. Realize now is all you have. Claim your power.

Make the decision that no person, no current event, no situation, no place or thing can annoy you or irritate you. Decide you will remain at peace. Be the eye of the storm. Remain calm and centered no matter what. Decide not to focus on the crap. Focus on the good.

Focus on being enough. Focus on feeling fine. Focus on enjoying the moment. Look for the silver linings. Look for what is good and new that you can appreciate and enjoy. Seek to discover the opportunities surrounding you. From chaos stars are born!

You Get What You Focus On – Thoughts Become Things

Decide to delight. Remember you get what you focus on. Delight, enjoy, be enthused, excited. Fill yourself with good feelings. Happiness is not a destination it is now. Live well. Feel well. Smile more! Wear a big smile. Live from the heart. Think happy thoughts. Giggle and laugh. Move more. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Feel marvelous for no reason!

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Can You Answer These Questions?

“Ernest Holmes insisted that our ‘outward life is a result of the subjective state of our thoughts.’ Others have insisted the same since before recorded history. We create our reality. Quantum Physics seems to suggest the same. Is it true? Seems to be.

Look at all the buildings and traffic around you. This all first started inside some people’s heads. Architects and engineers made blueprints and then carried out the plans to make it so. What we think is critical to what we create. We live from the inside out.

Keep that in mind!  Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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What Is Critical You Learn From The Cold Or Flu

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“A few blogs ago I shared what we could learn from having the cold or flu. One of the main points is, when things don’t feel right we notice it. It may be painful, but this is a good thing. Our body signals us that something is amiss and needs attending to. We need healing.

If we didn’t feel bad we might never know to take care of it. So it is good that painful symptoms get our attention. The issue, however, is to not focus on the symptoms and the pains, but on feeling well. I pointed out I learned to focus on feeling blessed and what was good.

By shifting away from the negative, or less than glorious or painful current physical events, and to positive or more healthy feelings, I could find in me, I began to feel better and heal more rapidly. The better my attitude is, the more my health swiftly improves.

Energy Flows Where Attention Goes – Your Thoughts Begin It

It isn’t easy to shift focus. It takes practice and conditioning. That is why I recommend daily practice. Find the good. Find the delightful and the new. Find the blessings. Shift away from the negative, the hurtful, the destructive to the positive and the productive. Get it?

Over time we develop the habit of shifting our attention. Remember our energy flows where our attention goes. After a long enough duration of daily practice it becomes automatic. Be thankful for problems and obstacles. They help you strengthen the habit.

Shift when things are personally painful. When you are sick. When you feel overwhelmed by bills. When you feel lonely or underserving of love, kindness or abundance; shift from less than productive, less than glorious, negative, painful thoughts and feelings to the positive.

Your Emotions Amplify Your Thoughts – Stop Feeding The Weeds

Stop focusing on what is. Don’t deny it. Acknowledge it. It is a symptom. Focus on what you want instead. Put your attention on what you want. Get it? Create what you want!! Don’t get caught up in what is wrong. STOP and focus on what is right! Promote that.

The same can be said about current affairs, the political climate, the economy, wars and the world at large. Don’t focus on the wrongs. Notice, these are symptoms. Something must change. Don’t deny. Shift attention from the wrongs to what the rights can and must be.

Attend to what you want to build. Don’t focus on debt. Focus on making money. Don’t focus on war. Focus on creating peace. Don’t focus on illness. Focus on promoting health. Don’t focus on restrictions. Focus on ensuring freedom. BUILD what you want.

Reclaim Your Time Attention Energy And Feelings From Negativity

Be glad you can! Be glad you can find good. There is still always more right than there is wrong, but sometimes our perceptions get screwed up. Focus on the blessings. Focus on the fact that you can create change! Even if you don’t know how yet, you can do it.

Be grateful personally and for the world. Find the silver linings. Find the hidden gems. Seek to uncover treasures buried deep. You can miss them if you don’t look for them. Find what there is to be thankful and be thankful. You can! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Marvelous is this moment!

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