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Awareness, Choice, Conditioning, Focus

Never Let Circumstances Bring You Down – Learn To Live Triumphantly

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“Have you ever been on a roll and then excrement hits the fan? What’s up with that? Have you wondered, ‘WTF?’ You are riding high and then something comes along and levels the field or worse. It might suck, right? What if it didn’t have to? What would that be like?

Yesterday was a very different day from Monday’s blissful day. Some might say, the day presented some challenges. Certainly, there were numerous situations. For the purposes of illustration I’ll call them challenges. Still, the days WAS blissful and wonderful. One example.

Everywhere I drove during rush hour was jammed up. Each road I took, for the span over an hour, was a dead end, no outlet road, and detours to nowhere. It was amazing. I never before experienced anything quite like this. It was a twilight zone like.

Words Are Seeds – Be Careful What You Plant

I drove around trying to get out of a certain section that bounded a freeway and had construction, road and building, all around. After driving and trying each turn only to find it ultimately blocked I found one back road open! Hooray! Except it was closed by an accident!

There was no getting around it. I backed up, tried going back the way I came, to look for other avenues of escape. Finally, I found a way out. Once I got out I turned onto a major road which went up and over a bridge. As I got onto the bridge all traffic stopped. I was stuck.

I couldn’t go forward or turn back around. A truck broke down on the bridge shutting it down to one lane. Traffic was slowly merging right to go around. It was a good long while. I had never seen the traffic this congested, in this area, as far back as I can remember.

All That We Are Is The Result Of Our Thoughts

It was a different sort of busy driving day. After about an hour I managed to drive on into much more heavier bumper to bumper traffic. In my teen years in L A I’d have had road rage to the max. It was pretty tempting yesterday to let go and get angry about it.

Fortunately, I had the presence of mind to realize getting upset wouldn’t have changed the situations. I’d be stuck in traffic and mad, instead of stuck in traffic. Plus, as I have often pointed out, traffic is a fantastic place to learn to surrender and let go. So walk the talk, Rex.

I relax, and let go. I decided to assume I had created all this JUST especially for me. This is my mental construct, my fantasy. I wanted to discover, IF I had engineered this, or god or universe or whatever, why, what lesson might I take from it? Multiple lessons o’plenty!

Change Your Thinking And You Change Your Life

I examined and reflected. I gleaned insights for myself that I think are useful. Most importantly, the trite aphorism comes to mind, when life gives you lemons make lemonade. How do you make the best of a bad situation? If you label it bad to begin with, it’s tougher.

It is better not to label it anything at all. Don’t call it a problem or a challenge or an obstacle. It just is. Why start one down? It is what it is. The less we label the better off we are sometimes. Perhaps, we call it a situation or an opportunity. Yes, call it an opportunity.

Some think I must be mad. An opportunity! I can almost here them exclaim it. What are you outta your mind? Yes, I absolutely hope so. I hope I am out of the conditioning that says, if you have a hammer you treat everything as a nail. Problems do not make you feel good.

Thoughts Create Your Reality – Choose Your Thoughts Wisely

Opportunity may make you feel good. So it is an opportunity to relax, let go, enjoy sitting still, reflect, people watch, take a breather, learn from the situation. It IS whatever you decide it is. You determine whether it is good or bad. It is ALWAYS  YOUR choice.

Whether others agree isn’t the point. You can find plenty for whom misery loves company. You can band together and complain long and hard and it won’t change anything except your emotional state for the worse. Fewer will choose to look at it as a blessing. Yet, it is.

IF YOU decide it is. Everything IS as it is. You decide whether it is a blessing or not. As for me, I prefer that there are more blessings and opportunities than problems and obstacles. I want my blessing ration high so I declare more things blessings than otherwise.

Once You Become Aware Of How Powerful Your Thoughts Are …

You want to learn mental control? You want to be more resourceful?You want to live a better life? THEN live blessed and filled with gratitude! Enjoy everything. I point this out, this happening yesterday for a reason.  Some think, well it’s easy if your life is easy.

Some think, positive thinking is wearing rose tinted glasses. Some think, easy for you to say if you don’t have any challenges or face everyday constraints like the rest of us. I do, you do, we all do. Few lived charmed lives and aren’t touch by hurt or despair. Few, maybe.

Most everyone has to live with the day to day situations. Ups and downs, highs and lows, goods and bads. Most people have grown up learning to complain about circumstances and to long or wish for other circumstances. There are preferences and habits.

… You’ll Realize Everything In Your Life Is How You Allow It To Be

Habit has most people whining and complaining, excusing and blaming. Stop living your life dictated by circumstances. Instead dictate how you respond to the circumstances. Be larger than the problems. Call them anything but problems. Call them opportunities.

Practice this correctly long enough and you can get pretty good at it. Get good at letting go, living well and enjoying all events and circumstances as much as possible. Then as speed bumps occur you can find yourself at ease instead of getting bent out of shape.

You change habits with awareness and understanding. You change habits through correct repetition. You change habits by willpower and persistence. You change  by being committed to changing no matter what. As you change, what is difficult at first, becomes easier.

You Create Your Own Reality For Goodness Sake Have Good Taste

Awareness is the key. Whenever you realize you are thinking or feeling less than glorious make a purposeful, deliberate move to shift from the not glorious to the more glorious. Shift from negative to positive. Deliberately, with intention, as often as necessary.

Sometimes, you just have to do it a lot, over and over again. Other times it is easier. Just as with my two blog posts, sometimes it is wonderful sometime’s it ain’t. HOWEVER, it will always be whatever you make it. It will always be whatever you declare it to be.

You either affirm it as a problem or affirm it as a blessing. The choice is yours. The decision is yours. Learn to make new decisions and consider more and more in your life blessings and you will create, attract and re-frame more things as blessings.

What You Think Is What You Get – What You Say Is What You Get

You and your life will become richer and more blessed. The trade off is marvelous. It is! It can be beyond glorious. You only find out, however, by putting these principles into action. To know and not do is to not know. You life becomes glorious WHEN you take action!

Enjoy and delight more. Get hooked into trauma drama and crap less, regardless of what is occurring. Refuse to name things as problems but look at them as opportunities to discover cool things and they will be. It ain’t over till the fat lady sings! It is never done.

What you SAY is what YOU GET! Say what you want it to be and it will be that! YOU ARE THE AUTHORITY – you are responsible. No one else is. Make your life the life you want! Delight in everything. Enjoy everything. Feel blessed more often and you will be. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Have a day filled with blessings!

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Blessings, Celebration, Expectations, Focus

Beer Film Editing Parents And Breakfast

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“Who can say when anything actually begins. I could point back to a week ago or many years ago. I’ll start with editing a feature film. I just love synchronicity and life’s little blessings. You never know when or how but you can always expect to be pleasantly surprised.

Over a week ago I contacted my film editor to meet with me. We chose today. An early coffee shop meeting to discuss his vision for the film he is editing. He has been cataloging footage and reading and re-reading the script. I love his ideas. It was a wonderful.

Let me back track. I had been out of town for the past four days. A very good friend of mind was celebrating her birthday with her parents and friends on Sunday. I haven’t seen her parents in 20 years and some of the friends in about 5. I wasn’t sure I’d be able to go.

You Can Always Find Something Good Without Looking For It

She had the celebration for Sunday from 3 to 7. The conference I was at was to let out at 5pm on Sunday. Then I had a two hour drive back. If it was still going I might be able to stop by at the end. I did want to meet back up with her parents.

Fortunately, the conference ended early. I got back about 6 called and was told where they were. A wonderful Beirgarten I had never been to. I met up with her parents, our old friends, some new ones I did not know and spent a couple wonderful hours with them.

This morning I went to meet the editor. I texted my friend told her I enjoyed seeing her parents. Wished I could say good bye and tell them to have a safe trip home. Meeting the editor he said the coffee shop he picked wouldn’t open for another hour. There was another.

Synchronicity: The Universe Telling You – You Are Getting Warmer

Just up the street. We had to go around the block because we were south of the restaurant on a one way street. We went around, found another coffee shop and stopped to pull in there. However, it was metered parking, change only, and I didn’t want the hassle.

We pulled around and headed back to his first suggestion. They had a parking lot. We got the last empty spot. Went in and had some wonderful food and good conversation about the feature film. Over coffee our conversation turned to positive expectations.

We discussed how sometimes we miss good things because we are focused on the not so good. Suddenly as I was talking I realized I was looking right at my friend and her parents. They were in the same shop. She faced me but hadn’t seen me, yet, either. WOW! Cool!

Everything You Need Comes At A Perfect Time – It Always Does

I went over and said hi and they were as surprised as I was. We had ten or so minutes of very pleasant conversation and marveled at how fortunate we were to meet up again, since we had wished to. My friend mentioned she had looked for my car upon arriving.

It was from habit. Often we meet at a lake of for food and she seeks to find where I am parked. She stated she realized she was looking for my car when she should have been looking for her parent’s car. Anyway, we got to see each other again and send off well wishes.

It was a wonderful surprise. I returned to the table and told my editor friend about the Biergarten and this fortuitous meeting today. Oddly, he had been to the Biergarten a day earlier for the very first time. We both discovered a great new place to hang. Hmmmm….

Live – Learn – Love – Laugh – Celebrate Everything – You Are Blessed

The universe provides. I don’t care to believe or not believe in anything. Everyone chooses their own beliefs and rationale.I just enjoy it. I simply know good things come to those who expect good things to come to them. We get what we focus on.

Life is filled with blessings. There were countless decisions made by the 3 parties, my friend, my editor and me. Yet, we all ended up at the same place, at the same time, out of hundreds of possibilities. Coincidence, luck, serendipity, fate, whatever, it is good. I enjoyed.

I think the more we are grateful and they more we feel blessed in the little things the more room we make for more of them. This is a simple story about part of my day. I felt like sharing. I’m not sure why, but, perhaps, it will resonate with some readers. I hope you enjoy.

Expect A Miracle – Allow It To Happen – Then Celebrate Again

Meanwhile, find your blessings and the magical moments. Enjoy and savor them. Have fun, delight and expect more each day. In fact, expect a miracle. After all, why not? Keep the faith. Who knows when it might happen. May be a while, or not. Enjoy and in the meantime, celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Have a blessed day today!

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Awareness, Focus, Responsibility, Well Formed Outcomes

Do You Know The 3 Power Questions For Clarity And Goal Getting?

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“Questions divide the world and help you to focus. You can direct your mind to what you want it to search for and find by using a question. Hopefully, you did the exercise from yesterday. If not, stop now, and read or re-read the previous post. Then continue on.

First question, did you answer what you wanted or didn’t want? Did you say ‘I want to be rich’ or ‘I don’t want to be broke’? It matters. Which words do you focus on in each question? Either rich or broke, right? If you are focused on broke you ‘ain’t gonna git rich!’ Git it?

Knowing what you don’t want is important to help you clarify what you do want. You focus must be on what you do want. If you said, ‘I don’t want to be broke’. Then the next step is Okay, what do you want? If you can’t answer that is a problem.

Learn To Ask Yourself Better Questions 

If you come back with another, ‘I don’t want so many bills’ then you are still focused on what you don’t want. OKAY then write out all the ‘I DON’T WANTS and get them out of your system. Then with each shift your attention to your wants.

I don’t want to be broke – may become – I want to be rich. I don’t want bills – may become – I want all my bills paid for easily. I don’t want to be fat – may become – I want to be my ideal weight. I don’t want a smoker – may become – I want someone health conscious.

Get it? What you focus on is what you get. If you have been primarily focused on what you don’t want that is what you will keep getting, creating or attracting. We become what we think about most often. What do you put your time, energy and attention into most often?

Questions Direct The Mind

The second question is why do you want it? Answering this will clarify what is important to you. It will shed light on the needs behind your goals and dreams. You may discover there are other productive ways to get what you want more easily and readily.

Sometimes these needs and wants are called our values. We want to feel important or significant. We want freedom or fun. We want to be relaxed or at ease or feel peace. We want to feel accomplished or creative. These are drivers behind the goal we are trying to fulfill.

We may fulfill these through what we want or in discovering other positive ways. YOU may find your wants changing during this process of self discovery. That is absolutely okay. Get clear about what you want, what is important to you and what stops you.

Stop Asking Why You Are Stupid Or Unlucky Or Broke

The third is WHY DON”T YOU HAVE IT? Your answer is the story, the reason, the excuse, the blames for why you aren’t making what you want happen. It is okay, we all have them. Just consider it. Why don’t you have what you want right now?

This answer, this story, this reason, this excuse is the WHY you don’t have it that you tell yourself over again and again. Your time, energy and attention is going into why it doesn’t happen or what is preventing and stopping you. Do you understand this? It is all focus!

You put more credence on the reasons why you don’t have it than you put energy into making it happen. Consider that. STOP! For goodness sake. STOP and actually consider this, Energy flows where your focus goes.

Learn To Ask Yourself Better Questions 

If you think, ‘I am broke because … You ain’t gonna get rich thinking broke and why you are. You aren’t going to create, attract and make happen what you want if your concentrated attention is on why you don’t have it. You are reinforcing not having and not getting it.

If you want to get it you will have to change your story. You must do things differently! You have to come up with all the reasons WHY you CAN HAVE IT – right NOW! You should write out a new story that reflects what you want to have. Be detailed and take your time.

What you say is what you get. What you say is based on your mental images and feelings. When you think to yourself or tell others the same story you perpetuate it. You keep it active. If you aren’t getting what you want, yet, then you must withdraw your energy.

You Get What You Focus On – You Become What You Think About

You must change what you talk about.Construct the story you want to live out. You are the author of your life, write the pages and chapters to be what you want. Remember, what you say is what you get. Choose and use your words wisely. Focus on what you want.

Focus on the good things in your life. Put your energy into what is good and what is right. Focus on solutions and on being  champion and victor. Focus on using your resourcefulness to make changes within yourself that result in changes in your outer world.

If you did these exercises honestly and thoroughly you will have gotten some valuable information for yourself to put into practice. If you blame others and make them responsible you have missed the point. If you blame others that is your excuse and gets you nowhere.

Ask Questions That Direct Your Mind In Useful Positive Ways

Each of us has to take responsibility for making our life the good life we want. Blaming others and circumstances is not the solution to getting what you want. Taking responsibility taking positive, inspired action steps that benefit you and everyone else will help you.

Blaming excuses you from getting your dreams by putting the responsibility on others or circumstances but doesn’t get you closer. Determining what you must think, feel and do will. Developing the habits that get you where you want to go will. Results begin within.

The results you get are directly tied to your thinking. So change your thinking. Change your story. Keep this in mind. You get what you focus on. You become what you think about. Once you know what you want and why you don’t have it put your attention elsewhere.

Get Clear About What You Want And Why You Want It

Put your attention on why you do have it! Imagine yourself to be the kind of positive person who does have it. What are you like? What do you think and feel and do? What does it feel like to be living the dream? Imagine all the good things.

During this process you may have discovered many beneficial things. Some may sting, some may be freeing. I encourage you to visit this again and again in coming weeks and months. Some people do it all their lives. It can be a valuable process to do on your wants.

Meanwhile, find ways to be thankful and appreciative for your new awarenesses. Be grateful for whatever you have come to understand. Learn from it. If you got better insight into these areas be happy. Learn from it. Extract the lessons. Apply the information.

To Know And Not To Do – Is To Not Know – Take Action

Apply the information to make your life and those lives around you a little easier and better. Enjoy this adventure and all of your journey. When you do you are truly blessed because you recognize each step and each obstacle IS a blessing. WOW! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Have a blessed day!

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Awareness, Creating The Future, Focus, Well Formed Outcomes

3 Power Questions To Get You What You Don’t Yet Have

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“You could be living your goals and dreams right now! You do have dreams and goals, right? Perhaps, you want that perfect career or job.  Maybe you want to be rich and famous. You want the ‘right’ relationship with a partner or with your family.

You want a lifestyle that allows you to do what you want when you want it. Right? What do you want? Specify it. Elaborate. Be detailed. What are you focused on? Describe your desire. Write it down. Take your time. What do you want?  This is the first question.

STOP! Don’t read on until you answer the question.

Okay, if you did what is asked of you, proceed. Many people gloss over actually doing anything. They think if they just have the right information and know enough it will change them. It won’t. Applying the information is how you change. You must do in order to know.

Why do you want it? Variations on this question are – what will having it do for you or allow you to feel and do? Why is it important to you? Why must you have that? If you say it makes me feel good then ask why do you want to feel good? What does that do for you?

Keep asking the question. Be diligent. Specific. Elaborate. Take your time. STOP and answer thoroughly. What will being rich do for you? Why is being rich important? Ask until you can get no further. Push yourself through to discover the important WHY behind your want.

STOP! Don’t read on until you answer the question.

Why don’t you have it? WHY do YOU NOT have your DREAMS right now? Why don’t you have it yet? You know what you want but you don’t have it? Write down why not. Be specific. Elaborate. Be detailed. Take your time. DO IT! Don’t read on until you do.

I MEAN STOP! Don’t read on until you answer the question.

I know some of you blew past anyway.

Three simple, yet, powerful questions. If you genuinely ask these of yourself it will reveal much and you will learn a lot. Specify what you want. Discover why you must have it, how it is important to you. Then answer, why you don’t have it, yet. Your answers are important.

This IS a process of self discovery. Important things can come up for you and shed light on what is going on. You can discover much that is illuminating and helpful for moving forward. It can refresh you as each new day can if you allow it to. Increase your awareness. Enjoy.

Sit with your answers. Think about them. Go back over each and be absolutely diligent and honest. Next blog post I’ll share more on this process and what these questions and answers can do for you. In the meantime, reflect, learn, appreciate yourself and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Make your day AND someone else’s day marvelous!

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Acceptance, Attitude, Blessings, Gratitude

Do You Deserve Success? What If You Don’t? Do This!

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“You deserve success. You deserve to feel successful BUT what if you feel like you don’t? Probably, no amount of trying to think you do, will convince you. You’d just end up struggling to feel worthy, which you are, but you still don’t feel like it. Right?

So, you imagine having what you want; a new relationship, more money in the bank, a wonderful career;  a brand new car or home, or a piano, or weight loss or weight gain; but when you do imagine it you don’t feel glorious.  You feel stuck. Right?

You have less than glorious feelings. Something is off. Something is not right. You doubt you will get it or you feel ‘not so good’ while thinking about it. This is a signal that you aren’t in alignment with what you want. You won’t get what you want feeling that.

Never Judge Yourself By Your Ability To Please Another

You will only get more of THAT. So what to do? You want it, but… Here is what you do. Have you ever given a gift to someone? When you did what did you do? You bought or made it and then you gave it to the person. When they received it what did they do? Said thanks.

Whether or not they deserved it you still gave it, right? They took it. Right? Have you ever been given a gift? What did you do? You took it. Didn’t you? Whether or not you deserved it, you still received it. So you both gave and received gifts and deserving wasn’t an issue.

DROP the notion of being worthy or deserving. You don’t have to be to get a gift. You don’t have to be deserving to find a dollar on the sidewalk. You don’t have to be deserving to notice something that makes you smile. You don’t have to be deserving to be delighted.

You Don’t Have To Please Others To Be Worthy – Love Yourself

You just accept it. You just notice it. You just say thanks. When it comes to your goals and your dreams, no matter what you have been told in the past, no matter what you believe, you don’t have to deserve it. You only have to allow it. You only have to receive it.

Say thanks and go on. Let the universe, yourself and others gift you without qualifications. Allow yourself to be open and receptive. Delight in freeing yourself of the unnecessary burden of worthiness. Those are artificial conditions we learned to have from birth on.

All that is comes from other peoples rules and conclusions we drew from experiences. It isn’t reality. Worthiness is an arbitrary concept. You had to be good to get a cookie. You had to get an A to please your parents. You were made to jump through hoops.

You Are Worthy Just By Being Who You Are – Universe Loves You

Not bad in itself but the messages we got might be that, unless we were good enough, worked hard enough, did the correct things, pleased the right people, developed ourselves, were smart enough, rich enough, good looking enough etc. only then could we get what we wanted.

I am here to tell you that is a load of crap. You and I may have bought into that but it is time to drop it and let it go. It is time to receive and not be concerned with anything else. It is time to shine and feel glorious for being who you are. It is time to accept abundance.

Drop unnecessary baggage. When you arrive at your destination you put your luggage down. You do not keep carrying it with you. Give yourself a rest! Accept who you are and drop all else. Receive what there is to receive. Enjoy and delight in all.

Close Your Eyes – Clear Your Heart – Let Go – Accept Yourself

So there isn’t any misunderstanding. This doesn’t mean you don’t do your work or take part in being responsible. It means you drop the beliefs and reasons for not being, doing or having. You let them go. You live accepting and including instead of excluding and dismissing.

Allow yourself to simply want what you want. It is OKAY to have wants. Be grateful for all there is. Enjoy life unfettered. Stop trying to make yourself feel worth it. Say thanks for the gifts. Appreciate and keep moving forward. Celebrate. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Smile today and enjoy!

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Do You Know How To Stop Suffering And Start Living?

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“Why do many people suffer and feel in pain? Often, it is something we do. If you suffer or are frustrated would you like to learn a new way to be, think and do? Would you like to end most of your suffering and begin to feel much better more often.

Much suffering is caused by how we use our minds. It is what we focus on. We can put an end to lots of personal suffering by changing how we use or mind and what we focus on. We can create new thought habits. There are those who can shut out pain and suffering.

Certain meditators and spiritual practitioners learn to control their focus of attention to such a degree that they can withstand much physical pain. They train so they can also endure mental and emotional pain and overcome it. They gain control, they take charge.

Why Am I Happy – I Feel Grateful Thankful And Blessed Every Day

We use correct repetition. What is correct repetition? It is doing the right thing, the right way, over again. We repeat it. We can practice the piano or a golf swing, for example, correctly or incorrectly. If we want to get good we need to do it the correct way each time.

By using correct repetition, consistently, we engage in the practice for a long enough time to make it a new reliable habit. That is how habits are born or acquired. It takes about a month to begin to form a new habit. 30 days from now you can be wonderfully different!

That is a guideline time for forming new habits. It depends on you. If you do the right thing consistently for a long enough period of time you will wire it in. Once the new habit begins to form it gets easier and easier. You enjoy it more and more! Okay, now, back to the pain.

The Smile On My Face Means I Appreciate My Blessings

Comparison creates pain. We compare ourselves to others; how tall or short; fat or thin we are; how good looking or not good looking; how rich or poor or what kind of things they have that we don’t. We try to keep up with the Jones. We hurt because we compare.

We compare where we are to where we want to be. We decided we want to work with the Law of Attraction, then we compare how fast or slow we got what we are working on. If it is not fast enough we suffer. If we don’t yet have it we complain it isn’t working.

We compare time frames.  We compare where we are today to  how far we have yet to go. If it is a long way off we suffer or get frustrated Most often, what we compare causes our suffering. It can be used it to find out how you are better off. You can us it to feel better too.

A Beautiful Day Begins With A Beautiful Mindset

Compare today to how you were before. Notice how you have evolved. Determine how far you have moved ahead and how blessed you have become. Look back and connect the dots with what you didn’t have to what you now do have. Feel fortunate. Use it wisely.

Make comparison work for you instead of against you. Live, laugh love and celebrate.  Drop painful comparison, let it go. Begin appreciating where you are. Be filled with gratitude for who you are, what you are, how you are, when you are, and where you are.

If you can come to understand that everything is perfect right at this moment you will always feel blessed. Yes, you weren’t brought up believing that, most likely. You were probably brought up to strive to get ahead and complain about circumstances not to your liking.

Every New Day Is An Opportunity To Feel Blessed For All Of It

I was. If you are able to adopt the mindset that everything is perfect then you are always blessed. It doesn’t mean you can’t change it, it means changing it is part of being perfect. Challenges are blessings. It means there is always something good about it right now.

You can find a lesson to learn from, or the seed of an opportunity that might germinate and take hold if you allow it and nurture it. Nothing is over, we are always in a process. We are always right where we are in this process. Let go, accept and enjoy it all.

It is a journey and wherever we are along the way is an exploration and an adventure. Adventures have ups and downs. It is what makes many carnival rides fun. Life can be fun too. Stop suffering by comparing and start living large by accepting.

The Situation Will Ultimately Be To Your Benefit – So Be Happy

The moment you start acting like like is a blessing is the moment it will start to feel like one. Discover the thousands of reasons you have to feel blessed. Choose to feel blessed! Choose to feel happy. Choose to feel exited. Choose to feel grateful and appreciative. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Bring a smile to your lips more often!

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Stop Limiting Yourself! Expand Your Options!

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“It is important to understand this concept.  Don’t chase concepts. Understand the meaning of the words without getting caught in the words. Many people miss out by trying to define terms.

Some people limit themselves by first trying to determine if they are doing it right. If they are enough. If they understand it completely. The limit themselves by not allowing themselves to be enough.

Some try to figure things out before they move. You can’t do that. We’d never fly or have reached the moon if we had to know how to do it before we did it. At first, we could only make the attempt.

You Know More Than You Think You Do – Trust Yourself

In order to be freer and find success or happiness more readily you need to include more not exclude. Well, yes, exclude the extraneous waste of time and those things that prevent you and hold you back.

You need to include more easy options. You want to grease the wheel. Take things lightly up front, not so seriously. You want to begin and not try to figure it out in advance of doing it.

When I say ‘be happy’ some people try to figure out what it means to be happy. They may even claim they don’t know what it is or that they have never been happy. They get caught up in the notion.

Trust Yourself – The Answer Is Yes You Can – You Are Able

Don’t get lost in the word happy. Simply, feel good, or happy.  Do that positive activity that puts a smile on your face. Play with a pet or a child. Spend time with a loved one. Enjoy the moment. It is simple.

Don’t spin wheels deciding whether this is actually happiness or not. Just enjoy the moments. If you love camping or fishing or gardening or hiking do that. It could be you like to exercise, or to relax. Or both.

Go to the movies, listen to music, read good books. Perhaps, you enjoy hanging out with fun friends, going new places, trying new foods and experiences. Do what makes you feel good more often.

Life Is Made Up Of Simple Tiny Moments – Enjoy The Moments

Make quality time for yourself. Treat yourself well. Enjoy life. Smile and laugh more. Spend pleasing time in positive ways. The more time you spend living like this the happier you will be. Automatically!

Don’t get caught up in the word happy at all.  Spend your time enjoying life and the things you think and do. Think wonderful thoughts. Feel good. Love yourself and others. Celebrate!

Any word could be a sticking point for some person. Don’t get snagged by the word. If you can’t immediately love yourself find those things you can appreciate and validate. Forget the word.

Some People Miss The Forest For The Trees – Why Not See Both

Look at any abilities no matter how small. Seek and you shall find. Do not make it a matter that you HAVE TO – LOVE YOURSELF, just enjoy you a little bit more. Take it easy and let go of the meanings.

Positive is another word. Think positive. What does that mean some ask? It means stop thinking negative about what you can’t do. Focus on what you are able to do and do it. Imagine you could.

See, feel, act as if you are doing it. Speak as though you can do it. Don’t think you can’t or that it is too hard or tough. Break it down into tiny bite sized pieces and begin doing it. You can do this.

Life Is So Much Brighter When We Focus On What Matters

Feel good is another. You don’t have to feel bliss and ecstasy. While that may be nice the point is to move in the direction of more pleasant. ‘More better.’ You don’t have to exist in the extremes.

Feel good that is enough. The more you do it the more you will be able to do. Skill grows. Muscles grow through use. People complain that they aren’t enough, don’t have enough, or it is too hard.

They make excuses that they don’t know how, and get caught up in trying to decide if they are doing it right, or fulfilling the extreme definition of the word. Please shut up! Get off it. Keep it simple.

It Is Never Too Late To Be Who You Might Have Been

Do what you can and keep doing it again and again. Live what you want to be more of. Definitions don’t matter. Simply look to spend more time living life more fully. Embrace simple pleasures.

If all you can manage is to squeak out a single pleasant thought or feeling DO IT then REPEAT IT! Soon you will be able to add more to it. Grease the wheel. Prime the pump. Make it happen.

If you don’t attempt it, one thing is certain, nothing will happen. Doubt and fear and procrastination do more to kill dreams than failing at a task ever has. People stop before they start. Be different.

Drop By Drop The Tub Fills – Bite By Bite You Eat The Meal

Don’t be one of them. Resolve to make life the way you wish, want, hope, and dream it to be. Resolve to make it happen, become certain about it by doing a little bit each day. A little can go a long, long way.

Sometimes the smallest efforts make the largest difference. Stop! Don’t worry about being happy, or positive, or peaceful or love. Do those tiny things that make you feel more that way more often.

Do those things more over again. Think those thoughts frequently. As you do you become it more and more. Pretty soon you are it. When you are it you attract and make more of it happen. Get it?

Better To Do Less And Enjoy More – Savor The Simple And Easy

Do it! That is why the practice of gratitude is so powerful. You begin by appreciating anything you currently are or have. Think on those. Think on that. Feel grateful. Take inventory. List them out. Enjoy.

Count your blessings. Feel how good it feels as much as you can. Don’t be bothered by, is it enough? It is! Just start doing it. Delight in it. Speak your blessings. Talk about how you are blessed. Focus.

Think, speak, feel and act only to bless, heal and prosper. Put a guard before your mind and lips and soon enough that will become your predominate thoughts, feelings and way of life. Inch by inch.

Step By Step The Journey Made  Enjoy The Journey It’s All There Is

Never make a problem where one doesn’t exist. Think, ‘I can! This is easy. I enjoy this. I feel good. I think positive, powerful thoughts.  I enjoy life. I am lucky. I am blessed. Things always work out.’

Fill your mind bit by bit with more of the good stuff. Be grateful. Focus on the positive, the ‘can do’. Feel the good feelings little by little more and more often. It all grows with repeated practice. Soon you will notice more and enjoy more. One step at a time! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Start with a smile or a giggle and enjoy it today.

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Warning! If You Neglect This You May Pay Dearly

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There is a final step. It is a critical aspect of your personal development and your ability to easily change and transform yourself and your life. It should not be ignored at any time. It is as important as all the rest. Be sure to well attend to it

Welcome to Part 21 of The Secret To Success And Happiness Few Know And Won’t Tell You. 21 is the final part of this series. Hope you enjoy it. Feel free to comment. Alright, let’s go!

Your health. Take care of your health. Your body and mind are part of the same system and both require care. Your body responds to your thoughts or you wouldn’t blush when embarrassed, or your heart quicken when you meet a potential mate.  Your pupils dilate too.

Negativity Is A Thief That Steals Happiness And Well Being

Negative thoughts adversely affect our health. Positive thoughts positively impact our health. We cannot escape the consequences of our thoughts. Our health and well-being impacts our ability to think. Both influence each other. You can’t have one without the other.

The cost of neglecting your physical and mental health is greater than the cost in dollars. Negativity takes a huge toll on your body and your ability to function optimally. Neglecting your body, or your mind has a massive downside. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF NOW!

Once you feel down and out it is more difficult to break the hold of negative thoughts than when happy and energetic. It can absolutely be accomplished, but many people won’t feel like it. They may not have the energy to make the needed changes BUT they can!

You Eat An Elephant Bite By Bite

Bit by bit do things that bring the body and mind more energy. Go for a walk. Work in the garden. Gardening is sage advice, because we connect with the earth, we get our hands dirty, we are preoccupied and concentrated on life in the garden. It works wonders!

We can change our physiology. Throw our shoulders back, put our chest out, our chin forward and sit, stand and move as if we felt confident, positive and powerful. We can get down and roll around and play as a little child would. We can move our body differently!

Stuck implies no movement and the same, frozen. In order to break free we need to move and change things up. We can do almost anything and bring about some positive results. If you always do what you always did you always get what you always got. Get it?

You Can’t Live  A Positive Life With A Negative Mind

If you can’t leap into things, at least, inch your way into them. Both ways are effective and can bring dynamic results. The point is you must do something. Start early, before it is too late is a wise approach. Prepare before it is required and you will be well served.

Shake it up. Vary it. Stretch a little. Do some light yoga, breathing, any form of exercise. If you are low energy, do that which brings energy to you. Move and gradually increase the variety and/or the intensity of your movement. Walk, skip, run, dance. Breath, laugh!

If wound up, relax. Slow down. Breath. Take a bath. Get a massage, a steam or a sauna. Listen to some soothing sounds or music. Turn off the electronics, eliminate distractions,  Get outside. Garden. Take a walk, enjoy the surroundings. Quietly, sit or lie down out there.

Natural Forces Within Us Are The True Healers Of Disease

The issue for many people today is where their attention is. Often it is too self focused. We are narcissists. Change the focus. Help another person. Stop thinking about yourself and your problems and assist someone else. Look around you and find the good in the world.

Change of focus and change of what we are doing and how we are doing it IS how we bring about change in ourselves as needed. We can’t do what we always did and expect it will be different. We need to change things in order to have life change. Vary your routines!

Enjoy the simple pleasures. Fill your life with gratitude and thankfulness for what you already can do, for how you are blessed right now. Appreciate your body and your mind for how they work, with or without impairments. We are luckier than we think, usually.

We Are What We Repeatedly Do …

Eat well. The proper nutrition is important for your body as it is for your mind. Quit living on junk and get some good food. Good water. Cut out the bad foods and drinks as much as possible. Think at least 80/20 rule. Health is mental and physical. Pay attention to both.

If mostly you are well nourished, 80, a guilty pleasure, 20,  now and then is okay. Mental nutrition is important too. Read and fill your mind with healthy thoughts most of the time. Take care to think the best and be exposed to the best thinking. Eliminate the worst.

Eliminate the negative thinking and the distractions. Stay focused on the positive and feeling good. Include those things that make you think and feel better that are wise and good for you and exclude, as best you are able, that which is not. Mind and body work together.

… Excellence Therefore Is Not An Act But A  Habit

Get decent exercise and enough rest. Drink plenty of good, clean, pure water. Smile and laugh more. Have fun. Don’t make personal change and transformation harder make it fun and easier. Lighten up, let go, drop your cares and troubles, and live. Be as a child!

Read more, listen to music, listen to nature, listen to each other, communicate with loved ones, enjoy your family and friends. We live in boxes that are artificially lit, with microwaves, and radio waves and wifi and electric ambient sounds and noises, get away from it.

Change your routines from time to time. Take different ways home, or to work. You’ll see different things. Eat some foods you have never tried. Brush your teeth with the opposite hand. Vacation someplace new. Sleep with your head at the foot of the bed.

He Who Enjoys Good Health Is Rich Though He Knows It Not

Have fun doing and learning new things. Take some classes. Try different genres of books, music or movies. Take a spinning class or a ballroom or swing class. Make moments fun by meeting, new interesting people. Meditate or do something spiritual or natural.

Have I said, spend more time outdoors? Be freer, simpler, gentler. You have work time and rest time. Learn to manage both well. The more positive your thoughts the healthier all aspects of your life can be. The healthier you are the more positive your thoughts can be.

Prioritize your relationships. Cross things off your bucket list. You only live once don’t put everything off for another time, live now. Make it a point to not let the day to day troubles and distractions and negativity run the show. Don’t be controlled by circumstances.

Sometime You Just Have To Unplug And Disconnect

Determine how you want your life to be. Claim it back. Access your power. See it and say how it shall be. Declare it and make it so. Live as a champion and and emperor, not as a victim or a pauper. Decide to live a glorious life and make it that way minute by minute.

Fun, passion, delight. Movement and rest. Listening to music can arouse you and make you feel vibrantly alive or calm, quiet and serene. Both are important as night and day are important. Your body and mind cooperate as one. There is no separation in reality.

Live simple in a complex world. Enjoy all. Stop judging and complaining. Begin praising and encouraging. Look for and find good in all and you will develop that ability to always find the good even when well hidden. Delight in yourself, others and circumstances.

Variety Is The Spice Of Life

Live whole. Free yourself up to enjoy what is available to you and you will always discover more you didn’t notice at first. Linger in the goodness. Bask and bathe. Take a daily inventory of all the good things; the things you appreciate and your successes. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Make your day count for something wonderful!

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Expert Reveals: How To Easily Handle Your Problems And Woes

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“How do we get more of the good life? Is there any principle or practice we can immediately apply to help make things better? Absolutely there is! This one practice can help take your life from not so good to so much better, quickly, you will want to do it now.

Welcome to Part 18 of The Secret To Success And Happiness Few Know And Won’t Tell You. The series continues. Hope you are enjoying it. Feel free to comment. Part 19 tomorrow. Let’s go!

In the original 1925 version of ‘The Laws Of Success’, Napoleon Hill re-publishes an address by Major C A Bach to graduating military officers. You’ll find it in the chapter on Initiative and Leadership.

Of course, the entire essay, and the entire book are a most worthy and recommended read. I encourage you to locate and secure a copy for yourself. Today, I quote one line, from this wonderful essay.

Energy Flows Where Attention Goes

The Major stated, ‘Make light of your troubles, belittle your trials and you will help vitally to build up within your organization an esprit whose value in time of stress cannot be measured’.

There are many critical and relevant points made by Hill and Bach that can benefit all of us. One of the reasons Hill includes Bach’s words is because to be successful one must learn how to lead.

Before leading others, however, one must learn how to lead oneself. This is the most crucial understanding of this chapter in the book. Lead yourself well, be exemplary and others will gravitate to you.

You Get What You Focus On

Learn the power of self-initiation: how to begin, follow through and complete things, without being asked. Master both principles and you become more successful by becoming valuable to others.

All excellent points for certain. I point out this one sentence because I think the thought is critical when applied. It is a potent reminder on how to use your energy and why.

‘Make light of your troubles, belittle your trials…’ In other words, don’t take anything too seriously. is an important reminder! Do not focus on your problems.

Whatever You Think About Most You Become

Do not focus on your problems or exaggerate them, in your mind, to yourself OR to others. There are benefits that come with learning this practice. Great benefits too.

He stated, make light and belittle your problems and you will build up an esprit with your organization (or yourself) whose value is immeasurable in times of stress. Valuable now and valuable then.

When you learn and make this practice a habit then no matter what may come your way, in times of stress you are prepared. You are used to handling problems and seeing your way through them.

What You Say Is What You Get

Monitor your thoughts and self talk about problems. Be on guard what you think and say to yourself AND to those around you. ‘Make light and belittle’.

Why? Because you minimize their power in your mind. You shrink them down by not giving them energy. You put them in their proper perspective. No matter how large it is NO BIG DEAL.

Most people talk to anyone and everyone about their daily woes. They recount them to their family, to their co-workers, to the people they encounter during the day. They love the drama.

Make Light Of Your Troubles – Belittle Your Trials

Perhaps, they love the attention and probably the (feigned) sympathy it brings them. Beyond that they are comfortable doing it. They are acting out of habit. The habit is focusing on problems.

Energy flows where attention goes. What you focus on expands. What you think about you become. STOP talking about your problems. Put an end to your problems withdraw the energy.

Suck the oxygen out of them and let them die. Put your attention on that which better, more positively serves you. Notice however, he didn’t say ignore, he said make light and belittle. Perspective!

Skill To Do Comes From Doing

You can handle them. You are bigger then them. They are insignificant compared to you. Troubles come and troubles go. What is important are your blessings.

Adopt this attitude and mindset. Watch your talk. Only speak to bless, heal and prosper yourself and others. What you SAY is what you get.

What you assert, declare, focus on and repeat is what you get. So only say what you want. As long as you say what you have you will always have as you say. Your thoughts and words matter!

You Go Where Your Thoughts Take You

You are the author of your experience. You emphasize what is important every moment. You describe the situations, you add the detail when you speak. So monitor your mouth!

Only author what you want to include in your life. Focus on what you want. Do not focus on what you do not want. Put the energy into your blessings. Exaggerate the good minimize the bad. Get it?

Focus on all that you enjoy and delight in. Put your focus on who you are and not into the problems whether larger or small. Be the changes you want to include in your life. Be grateful and enjoy!

Decide What You Want – Determine How You Want It To Be

When you are able to make light and belittle you demonstrate to yourself and others you are in charge of yourself, your thoughts, your feelings, your behaviors, your problems, and your results.

You are the one calling the shots not the issues. You don’t allow circumstances to control you. You are not a cork bobbing helplessly in the water you act from a place of power and volition.

Speak only to bless, heal and prosper. Build things up, increase what is good, right and wonderful. Decrease what is not. Stop getting hooked by distractions. Learn from problems and challenges.

Speak Only To Bless Heal And Prosper

You grow strong through resistance. Instead of talking about how wrong things are, embrace problems for their potential to add to your development.  Talk about how right things are.

Keep your focus on the positive. Focus on what is good right now. Focus on what you appreciate. Focus on that which you want to create, make happen or attract. Stay tuned to the wonderful!

What you think about you bring about. Staying focused this way  will bring about the results you desire so much quicker than wandering off into your woes. You might amaze yourself how quickly it works.

Increase Or Decrease – Your Choice – You Decide

Distraction lead us astray and wastes valuable time. So if you are a complainer. STOP! Don’t beat yourself up. Just STOP complaining and start finding the good to accentuate. Accentuate the positive!

If you go hiking and you inadvertently leave the path, just gently nudge yourself back onto the trail without more complaining. Accept what was, and decide now what will be.

Then enjoy the present moment by looking for and finding all the good things to fill your moments and your mind with. Think, speak and accentuate those. Make it a habit! You and your life will positively transform when you celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

It is another magical and mysterious day!

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Expert Reveals: Some People Live A Charmed Life – You Can Too!

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“At times there is a tendency for people who what to make change to do as much as they can, then they stop and check to see if they have made any progress.

They compare where they are to where they want to be. If they come up short they lose faith, doubt, feel bad, give up, or frustrated they try even harder and harder.

Welcome to Part 17 of The Secret To Success And Happiness Few Know And Won’t Tell You. The series continues. Hope you are enjoying it. Feel free to comment. Part 18 tomorrow. Let’s go!

Either way can be an obstacle to becoming and having what you want. There is a nuance, a caveat to living and using the Law of Attraction or, as I prefer to think about it, being a deliberate creator.

Think Positive Be Positive And Positive Things Will Happen

So, I must say this, if you are a regular reader of my blog everything that has come before this post is relevant and applicable and will help you transform your life when you apply it correctly.

Information alone will never transform you. It is the correct application of information that becomes power and potential to change. Nothing less than using the material will bring change.

I want to point out. Some people know nothing of the law of attraction, they have never read a book or have seen a movie. They simply have an incredible life.

I’m Thankful For My Struggle – Through It I Found My Strength

They get what they want and are blessed in many ways. It seems magical, as if they naturally had a midas touch. Whatever they do seems to pay off well.

How is this possible? We will explore in a moment. First understand there is positive and negative, lack and plenty, up and down, thin and fat, fast and slow and other distinctions.

These are ways we divide the world that make sense for us. It is part of living in more than three dimensions. Time, space, and beyond. Some call it duality or polarity. The names don’t matter much.

Train Your Mind To See The Good In Every Situation

We can measure hot and cold, near and far. Our mind compares and contrasts. Realize however hot and cold are different degrees of temperature. Two aspects of the same thing.

Night and day are different aspects of a 24 hour cycle. Positive or negative are two sides of the same coin.  Each of the opposite ends of these are extremes. They may be infinite for all we know.

Some things we are able to measure finitely to the best of our measuring instruments. Size for example gets harder and harder as we move from our world to the subatomic.

Positive Or Negative It Is Your Choice

Opposites are part of the same thing. We divide them into near and far,  up and down to simplify our world. They are one thing. Whenever there is one there is at the very same time the opposite.

Somewhere in this world it is day and night simultaneously. The antarctic is cold while the Sahara hot. These notions are dualities. They are aspects of the same thing. I keep coming back to this point.

They are different sides of the very same coin. When you begin to think positive, negativity also exists. If you try to fight the negativity you only exaggerate it because you put your attention on it.

There Is Always Something To Be Grateful For

Whatever you focus on expands. You get more of what you focus on. The very thing you attempt to eliminate you get more of if you fight it. You become what you predominantly think about.

Understand it and accept it. Embrace it and let it go. It is part of life. There is nothing bad about it. It is what it is. It allows for some things and doesn’t allow for others.

If you focus on not having enough money, and put your attention on lack and debt you get more of the same. To change this you need to put your attention of what you can think, feel and do differently.

Thought Change Leads To Life Change

To succeed you first must feel successful and prosperous to create and attract the people, events and circumstances to make more money. You do it with the focus of your thoughts.

Keep this in mind. When you want something you don’t yet have what is your awareness on? Your attention goes into wanting what isn’t yet yours. You notice the gap, the distance.

You compare the future with now and come up lacking. This brings more of the lacking and comparisons. It doesn’t bring you what you want. It brings you more of not having it, yet. It brings more waiting.

Positive Mind – Positive Vibes – Positive Life

To have what you want to have you must be what you want to have in order to get more of the same. This can be a difficult concept for some to appreciate or it can be quite easily understood.

The law of attraction states you attract more of the same. Whatever you already are is what you attract back. You do not attract something you aren’t. If you want to attract gold you must be gold.

So if you want to be happy you must first become happy then you will attract more of the same. If you want success you must first become successful to get more of the same. Do you understand?

Be The Change You Want To See In The World

The same with wealth, health, and loving relationships. You want a loving partner become one first. You must be it to attract it. If you are not it first you won’t attract it. Like attracts LIKE.

Your first effort of mind must be becoming one with what you want to have. You must think and feel and be it first. You want more love you must BE love first ONLY THEN will you get more back!

The Law of Cause and Effect states if you want it you must cause it. You must be at cause and then you will experience the effects. This means it is not just going to happen for you.

Positive Things Happen To Positive People

It is not going to land in your lap without your involvement. You cause it to happen. You go first. You no one and nothing else but YOU. Most people don’t get this they put it on other sources.

Additionally, it means, combined with the Law of Attraction, everything you are and have right now or don’t have is, and has always been, up to you. You are already a creator and attractor.

You have always been creating and attracting whether you know it or not. You have always already been getting the results of your predominant thoughts. If you don’t like the results change thinking.

Believe It And You Will See It

The Law of Increase indicates that when you plant a seed you will get much more back in return. The fruit will bear many fruit with countless more seeds. You can experience exponential return.

Here’s where it gets really interesting. There are those, as previously mentioned, who without formal knowledge of these principles lived blessed or what appear to be charmed lives.

How is this possible? Why them and not you?  They, for whatever reason, grew up learning or stumbled upon that which works for them. Some people don’t think much they just feel happy.

What You Say Is What You Get

Their frames of mind, previously discussed, support them. They are as intelligent as you or I, but they don’t get caught up in over thinking and analyzing. They are busy enjoying life.

They accept things as they are. They don’t fight to get more or fight to resist lack. They accept what is and celebrate everything. They always seem to have enough.

Whatever they do they succeed at. They have great love and joy in their lives. Why? Because they seem to live filled with gratitude for the present moment.

The Greatest Weapon Against Stress…

They don’t compare with others. They don’t compete with others. They do what they do happily and are glad. What is most important to them is the love in their lives.

Family, friends, enjoyment, enjoying each other is important to them. Celebration and delight is a high priority.  Joy governs their lives. They look for the best and find it. They focus on the good.

Hardships come and go and they handle them and rebound because, first and foremost, they are filled with love, joy, support for each other, community, closeness, and more. They are connected.

… Is Our Ability To Choose One Thought Over Another

Their values, what is important to them, cause them to live blessed lives because they don’t notice the glass half empty. Why? Because they are too busy enjoying whatever is in the glass.

As an analogy you could say they are people who live in the light. Darkness flees from them. When in a dark room you don’t have to fight darkness you simply light a candle. They live in the light.

You could say their vibrations are high vibrations. Because they are living light and high vibrations they attract and create and get more back of the same exponentially. They attract more of who they are.

Talking About Problems Is Our Greatest Addiction …

Yes, they are charmed, but they are doing it! It is from the mindset, the attitude and the heart they live from. It is who they are and what they put their attention on.

It is determined by what they feel is important and they don’t get distracted by what they don’t have. They are the example of being first and doing and having.

They embody it and live it. Others have come to it through study and application. They arrive because they devote themselves to it and they learn and change and adapt on the journey.

… Break The Habit Talk About Your Joys

These latter creators, just like the former ones discussed, recognize that the journey is what is important. They don’t sacrifice the journey for the prize at the end. They enjoy each moment of it.

If you want a blessed life enjoy the journey. It is an adventure. Delight in everything it brings. When it brings joy, delight! When it brings hardship, delight.

You say, wait delighting in hardship is tough, not logical. You would be correct from where you come from. Those who live charmed lives don’t resist challenge  but embrace it and learn from it.

There Is No Time Like The Present – Begin Now

To those who have learned otherwise, all that can be said is, when the student is ready the teacher appears. When one is ready, anything is possible. You are ready when you ARE it.

Those who live it know it, those who don’t live it can’t know it yet. Some day perhaps, if they continue on they will. For now, it is a concept that may be difficult to grasp.

Many abandon a practice or discipline because the concept is difficult or the practice is difficult. All that can be said is, you get what you focus on. If you give up, you gave up.

The Kite Rises Against The Wind – Opposition Is Useful And Good

No harm no foul, that is what you did. If you change your mind later and want to resume, so be it. If not, so be it. Life will be whatever it is for you. You are always creating and attracting. Please realize this.

Making life wonderful starts with us. It begins inside us and no where else. Yes, the world goes on, you are part of it, one with all of it or separate and distinct from it.

Whatever you choose to believe will determine your results. It won’t change many things though. You may not know about or believe in the Law of Gravity but that doesn’t change the effect it has on you.

I Don’t Know The Way But I Will Be There Soon

Gravity effects you and the rest of the world. It operates whether you know about it or not. It operates whether you like it or not. You can’t change the fact that gravity is affecting us.

You will be affected and effected by what you know and don’t know. What you don’t know you don’t know. You don’t even know you don’t know it when you don’t know it. Nor do I. We can’t, can we.

The problem with most people is they think they know. They draw conclusions. Sadly, their ignorance is their undoing. They just keep missing until they don’t. To each their own. It changes nothing.

Promote What You Love Instead Of Bashing What You Hate

Those who have happy lives may continue to do so. Those who don’t may continue to miss out or they may change something and find happiness. Either way the world goes on as it always has.

Our mindset, your mindset, determines what you do and don’t do. What you have and don’t have. If you want more happiness become happy now. It begins with you and ends with you. You start it!

All the practices and approaches shared in these blog pages help you do that. THAT is WHY they are shared here. So you can learn what to do if you don’t know. So you can live a marvelously fulfilled life!

A Negative Mind Will Never Give You A Positive Life

Once you know about it that is a step in the right direction. Nothing will change unless you apply what you learn. To know and not to do is to not know. If it is to be for you it is completely up to you.

No one can do it for you. You make your life as it is, as it has been and as it will be. YOU have always been in charge, even if you didn’t know this, or if you haven’t acted as such. You are responsible.

You are always in charge. It is time to assume the responsibility and live as you want to. Become it! You have to GO FIRST to attract what you want. A great start is with total gratitude and appreciation.

Speak What You Seek – Until You See What You’ve Said

Remember, the old saying, where there is a will you will find a way. You can do this and will if you truly want to. Begin now. Find out what you can begin to really appreciate and fill yourself with true gratitude. Feel it fully. Enjoy it delight in each moment! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Don’t miss today waiting for tomorrow!

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