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Happiness Is Already Yours: Happiness Is Your Birthright!

“All one has to do is reflect on the wisdom of the ancients. Those who suggested we should travel within to find our bliss. Love, peace, and joy aren’t found outside oneself but from within. Happiness is already within you. It doesn’t come from what you acquire.

Plenty of people pursue the wrong things and the wrong thinking. They think a new car, home, shiny toy or even a new relationship will bring them the happiness and satisfaction they now lack. Scores of people prove that is wrong. Things and riches don’t fulfill us.

Ask any number of people who have made it to the top to find themselves still sad and lonely. I had a very successful music producer tell me he ‘lucked’ into become fantastically rich by putting out music he wanted to hear, only to discover his wealth hollow.

Unhappiness Stems Not From Circumstances But Your Thoughts

He said, with all this, ‘I am still me.’ By the way, he wasn’t lucky in getting rich he was smart about it. He knew what he wanted and worked to make it happen. So what was wrong? He put his faith in the results that having those would make him happy and different.

They didn’t. He changed his circumstances without changing himself. From the top he sought to transform himself. That is why he called me. With help he discovered how to go within. He began studying transformation. He meditated. He practiced being fulfilled.

It worked because it is a mental game, a heart game, a game of the spirit. Thinking about it  won’t make you happy. Wanting things to be different doesn’t make you happy. Comparison doesn’t make you happy if you come up filled with envy. Only you make you happy.

Happiness Is Within – It Comes From What You Give Energy To

I am happier in my life for the last number of decades than I was for the first couple. It is me that changed not the circumstances. Although, as I changed my circumstances changed. Life is good as a result of my inner happiness and not the other way around.

When we live ‘at cause’, in charge of our thinking, feeling and behaviors the ‘effect’ is happiness. The results are happiness. Does that mean we never have sad or ho-hum moments. Probably not. All emotions are part of being human. Be glad they are too. It is good.

What it does mean is you spend more time in those moments that uplift and support you and less time in those that bring you down. You are ‘at cause’ and no longer ‘at effect’. Happiness is already yours. This is what so many people and researchers miss!

Life Isn’t About Finding Yourself It’s About Creating Yourself

You were born happy. Consider this. Who was that being prior to any speech or any outer influence? You learned your language, your thoughts, your beliefs, your feelings, behaviors, your paradigms from the outside, from those surrounding you. It was added to you.

Happiness is what’s left within you when you remove all that masks and hides it. Let go, drop all that. Allow yourself to become aware that happiness is already yours and accept it. Learn to become a great receiver and receive all that is already yours. Stop waiting and start living! Begin now by. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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What Will You Do? The Future Is In Your Hands

“‘The chains of habit are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken’. This quote has been ascribed to many through the centuries and has been repeated by Warren Buffet, one of the wealthiest men alive. It is worth paying attention to.

He says, ‘what matters most is the kind of person you are’.  So be sure to develop the best habits. Habits will rule you. Make sure you choose wisely those that rule you. Don’t be a servant to habits that hold you back, keep you down, negative, broke and unhappy.

Habits are formed, not at all at once, but gradually through repeated conditioning. Most of our habits evolve without us being aware they are evolving.  Unless we remain alert and aware there is a great possibility you will discover yourself with numerous ‘bad’ habits.

Repetition Is The Mother Of Skill – Skill Comes Of Doing

“You can transform yourself into the person you want to be, but you have to decide early,” says Buffet. At any age you can transform yourself by the decisions you make. When you decide to let go of the ‘bad’ habits and make good ones, you can and you will. It takes will!

Through the same process habits were formed, you will make new ones, but this time with awareness and choice. You will use repetition of behavior, correct behavior, consistently, for long enough, until the new habit, the new neural pathways, takes hold.

This requires dedication, will-power, awareness, correction and persistence. You must persist until the new ones lock in. You can’t dabble. You can’t do some today and then next week, then two days and then a month later. It can’t be random engagement. Get it?

Start Where You Are With What You Have –  Begin Today

You persist daily and see it through to the end. It may be frustrating but it is worth it. Only 2% of people ever do enough to master their mindset, feelings and behaviors to get the results they want that translate into great wealth or happiness! Most remain victims.

98% remain victims to their habitual thinking of lack, worry, fear and negativity. They remain victims to their feelings of inadequacy, loneliness, sadness and worthlessness. They remain victims to inaction, poor decision and procrastination. Time to stop it now!

You can change yourself from loser to winner, from victim to victor, when you repeatedly apply positive principles and practices long enough to make them positive, powerful, and reliable success habits. If you want to badly enough you will find a way!

You Go Where Your Thoughts Take You – You Can’t Escape It

If you don’t you will find excuses. 98% do! 98% find excuses and blame others and outside circumstances. They are not in charge of their success. The default to failure through bad habits. So, what will you decide to do? The future is in your hands! The choice is yours right now. Transform yourself. Begin today. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Stop Reacting From The Past! Learn To Respond Instead

“Currently, neuroscience points out that our feelings and emotions, come on, affect us, and last only 90 seconds. The actual feeling subsides. We, however, have been conditioned to entertain it for as long as we do. The good news is, ‘this too will pass,’ is valid!

It has always been the case only recently confirmed by science. I point that out because some people see to need that extra validation. The point is your feelings come and go and without your involvement. Your involvement keeps them longer.

This is true of positive and negative feelings. If you were to stop and think about it you’d realize how accurate this is. That said, if you will allow yourself to let go and simply sit with the feelings you will come to notice this. You will feel them and then watch and feel them go.

Observe – Witness – Become Aware – This Too Will Pass – It Does

Take 20 or 30 minutes. Do not react to the feeling. Simply watch it. Sit and breath and let it be. Yes, it is more difficult when you first start than as you progress, so be patient and kind to yourself. Give yourself the time to change. You will as you stick with it. Get it?

Simply notice. Stop, breathe don’t get hooked! Allow, watch and allow to go. Let go. Every moment becomes a new moment. Every breath is new. So let the feeling be and let it ebb away. Acknowledge and be grateful you can observe. Observe that ‘this to will pass’.

Everything is a blessing. Even the not so good times. We just have coded them as troublesome. We react that way from past conditioning. This is an opportunity to get free and to learn how to respond. Don’t deny or suppress anything . Acknowledge and be grateful. Everything passes. Let it become new. Let go and allow. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Don’t Get Sucked In Or Distracted By Nefarious Forces

“Something very important to notice. Bad news is rare. That is why it is reported. It is the exception to the good that goes on. Bad news sells. People buy it. Bad news sells for this reason. People love gossip and road kill. It is a rating game. Still, bad news is rare!

Bad news is the manipulation of your mind whether intentional or not. If you think bad news is real then you have been drinking the sugary flavored drink. Good news abounds but no one reports the good news because it is common. It doesn’t sell. Bad news does.

There is a volcano. It makes the news. WHY? Because  it doesn’t happen all the time. It is rare by comparison. Get it? The less something happens the higher the signal value. So media looks for all the bad news it can find because it means ratings and more profits.

The Mind Is As Strong As Its Weakest Think – Learn To Think Well

That is the business they are in. Selling bad news. Actually, selling commercial products. How can you tell you’ve been brainwashed? You buy all the bad news and the breath, hair, body products, designer logo clothing and goods. People are walking billboards.

People are walking commercials for corporations and the news media. We wear it and we share it. We gossip about it and brag about it. Still, all the bad news pushed on us pales by all the unreported good news! Still, we’re influenced and feel bad.

We watch or read the news and then think everything is bad.  Advertising convinces us we are stinky, foul, flakey, humans in need of more products to eliminate our ‘humaness’ so we buy the ‘right’ clothing and advertise their brands for them as walking billboards!

Learn To Vet And Verify – Seek Accurate Information – End Gossip

News influences us to be worried, angry, intolerant and scared. We give in. Because news and advertising is relentless in all forms of media, music, movies, TV, cable, streaming, books, magazines, online social media, clothing, food products we succumb to its influence.

We can’t escape it.  It is repeated endlessly 24/7. There is no escape from it any more than there is escape from all the microwaves and radio waves and gamma waves in the atmosphere. We are in it. We can limit it but can’t shut it out. The onslaught surrounds us.

We are influenced by the pessimistic thoughts and speech of others. Family, friends, strangers all influence us. We get caught up. We must realize it is not as it appears. The picture being painted is for profit and power. We willingly buy into it. We give our minds away.

We’re Surrounded By Forces That Attempt To Disable Us – Notice

We buy into it because we have grown up in it. As a fish doesn’t notice the water, we don’t notice the propaganda. We do live in an Orwellian world. We are facing some difficult times in the U.S. and around the globe. We must become aware of the influence on us.

If we don’t become aware of our own past conditioning, and the ongoing inculcation, we will be the worse off. We need to wake up. Some will and some never will. Some will believe, no matter what, the lies being told. It’s easier to convince a stump than some people.

They’ll believe the advertising, the news, the political agendas. Some will tune out and become apathetic because of the onslaught. Since, we are overwhelmed continuously we need to claim our minds back. Then we won’t be as susceptible as we’ve been. We may wake up.

Become Aware – Your Energy Flows Where Your Attention Goes

Because of the chaos, confusion and distraction from what we could and should, be paying attention to some will tune out, give up and do nothing. They will become apathetic. They’ll refuse to notice. They are unaware of the consequence. They’ll miss and lose out.

Then, only those who believe the news will act. They’ll support choices that go against their own interests because they’re being conditioned to do so every minute of the day. Make sure you don’t go numb from this all mind-numbing. Claim your mind back!

Become conscious. Stay alert. Be aware. It may seem we are all going to hell in a handbasket. It may seem as if nothing good happens. Still, more good still happens than bad. Good can and will still prevail if we commit to making it so. Transform yourself. Love yourself.

You Are Where Your Thoughts Have Brought You – Be Aware

Love others. Help others. We all need to row in the same direction, together at the same time, to get ahead. We don’t win by not playing or by hurting the other team. Rise to a higher standard. Live from that standard. Be alert. Work to remain free in mind, body and spirit.

Stop buying into bad news and advertising! Recognize that there are changes that need to be made and help make them! Help make the world better. Don’t give up. Keep the faith. Remain optimistic in the face of opposition. Seek the truth. Look for accurate information.

Vet your sources. Pay attention to all the good, the blessings, the kind acts, the people who help each other. Pay attention to the loving, the generous, the kind and the peaceful. Be accepting. Never give up your freedom to think and choose for yourself. Become whatever you want to be, do or have. Make good happen! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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How To Get Along With Others

“A lot of us have friction with family and friends. Many get into unwanted and unnecessary, even terrible, arguments. Would you like to know how to get along better? Nothing will change unless you do something different from what you’re currently doing. Get it?

You may or may not like the answer BUT it works! It actually works great but there is a caveat. It doesn’t work if you don’t implement it. If you want your life to change you must change some of the things you are thinking and doing in your life! You must put this to use!

Getting along begins with you! You must go first. You make the effort. Never expect the other to go first. They follow your lead if they are willing. This way you put an end to your unrealistic expectations and you are in control of yourself.

Respect People’s Feelings It Could Mean Everything To Them

You can only be in charge of you. The mistake people make is thinking they can control others. If they don’t think it, somehow they still attempt it. Let go of control. Let go of manipulation. Be the kind of person people naturally want to get a long with.

Just the other day I was at a gathering. There were a couple of people there who were in support groups. An older gentleman and a younger woman. Both were absolutely delightful. At one point the young woman shared an exciting new group she discovered

She very gladly told this gentleman during the discussion. He immediately dismissed her comment by stating, ‘I don’t like that group. It does nothing for me.’ I remained silent as I was not party to the conversation and merely overheard a portion of it.

Control Your Emotions And Your Mouth And Respect Others

However, I could see the young woman take the ‘hit’ immediately. I felt for her. She is enthused. She is eager to share. She made an exciting new discovery for herself and this gentleman squashed it no sooner than she spoke it. I get that he did not intend to. Still, he did.

He was not aware of what he did nor how it affected her. He was just being himself. My point? Be sensitive. Be aware. You win more bears with honey than with vinegar. He could’ve simply said, ‘marvelous you found a group you enjoy.’ He didn’t have to express his opinion.

But that is what WE do. We express opinions. We even do it when others aren’t interested or when they are looking for some support. There is nothing wrong in having an opinion as long as one realizes, that is all it is. An opinion is not gospel. It is not a fact. It’s opinion!

Listen With Your Heart And Your Ears – Accept And Respect 

People argue opinions as facts on social media all the time. They unfriend people who they get upset and disagree with. That’s their choice. My point? Don’t go there. Stop creating friction. Learn tolerance. Learn patience. Learn how to support others. Be kind.

We cannot change their minds. Hence, the truism, ‘you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make the horse drink’. Yes, you can influence others and they may change their OWN mind, but you can’t change it for them. Instead of attempting control, be nice.

BE caring. Be supportive. Be kind. Be the kind of listener you hope to get at times. Stop inflicting your opinions and you will get further, faster, with some people. An author friend, opened his book with a very powerful statement. I read it in my teens or early twenties.

Speak Only To Bless Heal Prosper Inspire Motivate And Transform

‘You can please 50% of the people 50% of the time. The other 50% you will never please. So, you might as well learn to please yourself.’ I include it to say, know the odds of your influence. The percentages may not be correct, that isn’t the point. Stop trying to control others.

Be the change you want to see in others and the world. Be accepting. No, I am not saying accept hatred and violence. You know better than that. I am saying, in the course of normal conversation with family, friends and even strangers, have integrity and be respectful.

Be thankful and appreciative. Say ‘how wonderful’ and ‘how marvelous’ instead of raining on their parade. Attempt to not correct them but allow others to find their own way. Some people want to be happy sharing good news without being one upped or dissed. Get it? If you are grateful for your family and friends, and the opportunity to share, approach them differently. Be kind and giving. Be receptive. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Thinking It Is A Problem Is The Problem!

“When you say, ‘this is a problem’, guess what? It is! When you say, ‘I have a problem’, you do! You ARE affirming the problem.  Get it? It is really only a situation, an event, another person, but you are looking at it and declaring it AS a problem. It is whatever you declare it to be.

In reality, it is neither good nor bad. You know the saying, ‘one man’s meat is another’s poison’. ‘One person’s ceiling is another person’s floor.’ It is just a set of conditions, or circumstances, that you choose to view in a particular way. You react to it as you learned to react.

It is nothing until you declare it as something. Your judgment, your naming it, is A problem that makes it THE problem. Perception is everything. What you say IS WHAT YOU GET! Stop labeling events as troublesome or problems! Just stop doing it! STOP! Get it?

What You Say Is What You Get – Thinking Makes It So

Outer circumstances are just elements in play. It is inside you, that you determine how you react, respond, review and feel about them. You translate if from situation to problem. You could translate it into an opportunity, but most likely won’t. You’ll do what you always do.

Until, you learn a better way, you will continue to make things problems! Until you stop! Thinking it is a problem IS the problem! Once you stop labeling the situations, and the thoughts and feelings associated with it, you are free to make better choices!

There are a number of things you can do to transform yourself, and your situations. BUT the very first step is to become aware of what you’re already doing. If you aren’t aware of how your thoughts and behaviors limit you, you won’t change them. You must notice!

You Are Where Your Thoughts Take You – Speak To Only To Bless 

First, become aware of what is going on. Then STOP what you are doing. Learn to do something else; anything else! Learn to change yourself, and what you normally do, in the moment by doing something different than  what you automatically do. Get it?

If you keep doing the same thing again and again, you keep perpetuating those issues. Only you can stop it. That is good news. Only you can stop it when you first become aware of your habits. So, become aware. Get grateful.

Be happy when you recognize yourself engaging in  the behaviors you want to change. That IS THE FIRST STEP. Noticing. Recognizing. From there you can begin the process of changing. You can’t if you are blind to what needs to change. So be glad. Really glad.  THEN celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Every Now And Then I Tell The F’ing Mirror Off!

“Recently I wrote: Do you realize every thought you think, every experience you have, each and every relationship, every ‘thing’ and everything in your life is a reflection of what goes on inside you? It is all a mirror to what is within you.” If you read it you know this.

Every now and then I have told the mirror off. I have let loose on another person, screamed at circumstances, or wailed on myself. I have, it is true. I have blamed the mirror, accused the mirror, resented the mirror, hated the mirror, you name it, I probably did it.

My point? We are human. We have feelings. Sometimes, these get ‘the better of us’ as the saying goes. We succumb, we let loose, we unleash. You know what? It is okay. It is human. Don’t get down on yourself for it. Why beat yourself up for beating yourself up?

Awareness Doesn’t Stop You From Making Mistakes …

If you harmed another with your words, you can ask for forgiveness or make amends. If that person is no longer living you can resolve it within yourself. My point? Take it easy on yourself for being human. We all mess up. We all stumbled and fell while learning to walk.

Okay, you got angry. You said things you meant or didn’t mean. Now you feel ashamed, embarrassed, hurt, angry or whatever. Notice it. Realize you may not want to feel this way again. Notice it. Forgive yourself. Accept that you are a human. Let the rest go. Move on.

Move on once you have actually let it go. When you release it you can be free of it. If you stuff it down and suppress it you will face it again sometime. What we resist, persists. So take a deep breath and drop it. Shrug your shoulders and release it. Feel free of it. Let go.

… Awareness Allows You To Learn From Mistakes 

Allow yourself the ability to ‘f’ things up. As long as we live we will make mistakes. Just attempt not to keep making the same ones. Make new mistakes instead. It is okay to be human because that is what you are. Most of us try to be perfect. We aren’t. Or, perhaps…

We are perfectly imperfect. We are beautiful with all of our flaws. Each ‘f’ed up time is a blessing and opportunity to let go. Challenges are blessings. The mirrors are blessings. Our mistakes are blessings. Everything is a blessing. When we can see that we are truly free. So, be glad. Be grateful. Learn to celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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