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How To Get Unhooked When You Get Hooked!

” How do you stay present? For most of us we are in the past or in the future. We are rarely right here, right now. What can we do when we think a negative thought, feel bad, have a craving, someone injures us verbally, or the world dumps problems on us? What to do?

The best approach is to learn to respond instead of react. Most of use knee jerk react. Someone hurts our feelings and we get mad, sad or try to get revenge. We react instantly to the offense. We are victims because we don’t think we have choice BUT we actually do.

The knack one must learn is to delay the reaction. Similar to delayed gratification. When you want that cookie NOW, delay getting it. Consider having it later. Stop rushing into it. You may wonder how to do this because you haven’t yet been able to. Practice delaying!

You Go Where Your Thoughts Take You – Let Go – Witness – Relax

When you feel bad, have a craving or someone says something that is an affront to you SIT with it. Stop judging it or anything just sit with it. Notice it. Be aware that it occurred. You need to train yourself that it is okay to just be and let it go. Yes, you feel it.

Sit with it. Some suggest sitting for a half an hour. Don’t judge it. Don’t judge yourself. Label nothing. Just feel it and sit with it. Do not indulge it just observe it. Yes, this takes practice if you never have done it but YOU can master it if you will only practice it regularly.

Sit with it for 30 minutes. Why 30? To allow it to dissipate. Simply watch. Slow down the internal feelings and internal self talk. SLOW down. Watch, witness observe. Don’t rush. Take time. After 30 minutes change it. Affirm something else. Do something else.

Skill Comes From Doing – It Gets Easier The More You Do It

Seek the positive. Shift from sitting with it to becoming positive. I am not saying you have to be happy for it but change it from being a problem. Learn to manage your thoughts and emotions and get truly present. You sat with it in the moment. NOW change it productively.

Put off you cravings. Don’t rush. It takes will power but you need to learn how to use your will power. Anything you want to learn to do well may seem impossible at first but with regular correct practice you can master this. It may take 30, 60, 90 days or more but do it.

Negative thoughts and feelings are a part of life. Everyone has them. BUT not everyone is hooked into them. Some have learned how to manage them better. Some learn how to shift from their difficulty to their inner resources. There is nothing wrong with negativity.

Listen And Learn The Lesson – Sit – Wait – Allow – Transform

Negative feelings are alert signals that you are thinking less than glorious thoughts. When you discover this be willing to sit and observe. Sit and transform. Simply recognize the thoughts and feelings for what they are. Don’t judge. Then  change them.

Give it to god, the universe or whatever your personal belief is about a higher power. Surrender it. Give it over. Think, ‘thy will be done’. Let it go and let god. Look for the blessing. Look for the lesson. What can you learn that will benefit you and others from this situation.

If you want to be happy, peaceful, successful and live a wonderful life you need to learn to do new things and transform old ways. You take charge and learn to respond instead of react. Stop being Pavlov’s dog and slobbering every time your bell is rung. Get it? Change it!

If You Really Want To Transform Yourself You’ll Find The Way

Find the lesson and apply the lesson. In order to live successful transform yourself. It isn’t about others or circumstances it is about you. Be the change you want to enjoy. Expect the best, know it may be difficult but that YOU can learn to do this. Condition yourself.

Practice gratitude. Be grateful for the opportunity to change. Be grateful for the lesson in the less than glorious situation. Be grateful you have an opportunity to begin to do things in a new way. Be grateful you are learning to get ‘unhooked’.

Stop reacting, and take charge of your life. It is all a blessing! Delay gratification. Sit with the negative feelings. Stop judging. Let go. Change it at 30 minutes. Do anything else that makes you feel positive and is good for you and others.

If You Don’t Want To Transform Yourself You’ll Find Excuses

Seek to uplift not to harm. Count all as a blessing, a learning and opportunity. Recognize the good about you and your life. Love yourself. Accept yourself. You don’t have to be perfect. Stop being a perfectionist. Live, love, laugh. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Learn From Pain It Teaches You

“There are many forms of pain and discomfort; Mental or psychic; Emotional; Physical and Spiritual . Through the ages people have questioned whether or not there is an advantage to pain. What is the purpose? We are told it is a way to stop and care for ourselves.

Still, we don’t want it. We do anything to avoid it or escape from it. I can’t tell you what to do about your pain or what it means to you or for you. It is highly individual. I am not qualified to provide medical advice. I can share what I have discovered for myself.

This may be meaningful for you. I don’t like pain anymore than the next person. I’ve learned more on how to welcome it and embrace it. I have learned how to utilize it and go through it. What I discovered, and continue to, is that pain is a signal and a great teacher.

If Everything Were Perfect You Would Never Learn Anything

Pain lets us know there is something amiss in our body, mind, heart and spirit. It signals us so we can address whatever is not right. We get that, most of us do, anyway, when it comes to physical pain. Most of us miss it when it is mental, emotional or spiritual pain.

These forms of pain show up in many ways; regret, anguish, negative thinking, laziness or procrastination, apathy, melancholy, depression, anxiety, anger, loneliness and more. These seem harder to identify as signals but they are signals, none the less.

People, myself included, give in or wallow in these forms of pain. We want out. We want to escape but we accept and live with it. Instead of recognizing these signals that a change is needed or that there is a lesson for us, we succumb to the pain as if there’ s no alternative.

If You Are Not Learning And Changing You Are Not Growing

There is an alternative. Stop. Breathe. Shift your thinking. Focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want. It isn’t always easy but it gets easier the more you do it. You train yourself to move away from what you don’t want and towards what you do want. It IS training!

You train yourself to act instead of giving in. It is a conditioning. You  replace an old habit with a new productive supportive one. You learn to recognize the less than glorious signals, for what they are and, then stop, breathe and shift your thinking to what it is you want.

When your thinking shifts your feelings can follow. Another way you can alter your feelings and thinking is through physical activity. Change your breathing, work in a garden, take a walk, sing, dance, meditate. Do something that changes your state for the better.

Learn To Listen In Silence To Your Inner Wisdom And Voice

Many people use drugs and alcohol to escape. You don’t need to do that. You can change your physiology, your activity level and shift your thinking and emotions without drugs. You can positively influence yourself to grow and evolve and transform wonderfully.

Another method is to embrace the pain. Stay with it and go through it. Ask what lessons and beliefs are hidden within? What is it trying to get you to learn? Some of use get the same events, circumstances, people, and pains in our life over and over. There is a message here.

What do you need to learn so you can become free of these repetitive patterns? Explore and discover. You can shift and manage the pain while asking the same questions and learn from it. Be still! Listen to your inner voice. You may have been loud for too long.

Be Still And Know – In Every Obstacle Is The Seed Of Opportunity

You have to become still because you haven’t listened to yourself. You’ll need to re-learn how to. When you accept and celebrate and are grateful for the lessons and the pain you may find yourself becoming free of them. As you learn, you let go of the old.

Gratitude and appreciation are so powerfully transformative! They open the doorways to vast treasures within yourself and without. Express your thankfulness for everything good and not so good. Feel blessed by everything that comes your way. Then you ARE free!

Accept. Let go. Be thankful. Stop. Breathe and shift. Move, dance, sing, Allow. Embrace. Explore. Reflect. Discover. Feel blessed. Express it. Journal it. State it. Declare it. Affirm It. Visualize it. Dream it, Imagine it. Celebrate it. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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What You Can Do When You Are Suffering And In Pain

“Today, I suffered from some extreme nerve pain in my back, hip and all the way down my left leg. It is so intense I thought to go to urgent care to get some meds to sleep and help manage the pain. Then, I realized, I was not the pain. I am bigger than any obstacle.

I am not the thoughts but the thinker of the thoughts. This pain is here for me as a blessing to remedy what is out of alignment. It is a signal to me. BUT I am not the pain. Whatever anyone else choses is completely fine. This is my choice not a recommendation.

Use your own judgement. This is not medical advice. I went to the doctor who treated me and he said ‘Keep moving. Don’t sit.’ Standing and walking are nearly impossible. Sitting and lying down unbearable. It has made for a partly difficult day. Very intense.

Focus On The Goal Not On The Obstacle 

It nearly got the better of me. Then, I stopped and breathed and decided. I made a new choice. I determined to stop paying attention to the problem, the pain, and instead, focus on what feels good about my body in this moment. I decided to focus on what I want!

I focused on what felt the best rather than what felt the worst. I scan my body for where I feel the best, the most comfortable, and pay attention to that. Recently, I went on a grueling hike and engaged in some intense activities and used this principle to see me through.

I had to focus on where my body felt good while most of it was racked with pain. I focused on the beauty of the journey and where I was in nature instead of my physical limitations. I took my mind from suffering repeatedly and put it on more useful and delightful things.

Whatever You Focus On Expands And Grows Larger

It is all energy. Energy flows where attention goes. Attention goes where energy flows. I shifted where I placed my attention and allowed the energy of feeling good to take the place of feeling not so good. It is a moment to moment process at times. Still, I got relief!

Shifting from the pain requires me to stop and breath through it occasionally but I am managing. I’ll see the doctor again tomorrow for further treatment. When I determined the pain was a blessing rather than a problem I discovered much relief. NO, I am not ‘cured’.

The principle is to focus on what I am able to do. What I can do. Remove attention from the limitation and the ‘can’t’. Place attention on what I want, what I can do, and on that which moves me forward and gets me closer to my goal. Place the energy where it counts!

What You Focus On Is What You Get – You Create The Results

I’m not cured but I am moving forward, and learning I am not the pain. I am not the thoughts or feelings. I am the one beyond; who thinks the thoughts and feels the feelings. I can act in spite of mood, negative thinking or pain. I can focus my mind on what I want.

The mind is a tool and I am its master. It does not run me. I run my mind. Yes, I am sitting back, while typing this. Normally, an intensely painful position to be in. Still, I want to write this post and that means I go through it. I will be fine. I am fine. I AM! I am blessed.

I wanted to share. This is not about me, even while I share an experience. It’s about how to manage thoughts and take control of our thinking process to begin getting the results we want to get. It is learning to be bigger than problems and obstacles. Because we are.

If You Say You Have You Will Always Have What You Say

Sometime ago, I challenged my problems. I yelled, ‘bring it on’ and there has been no shortage of opportunity to learn and grow. Some repeated lessons, which I discussed recently. It is all good. I was and am happy to be able to shout, ‘bring it!’. They no longer detour me.

Problems, pain, negative thoughts and attitudes are all part of life. Someone once said, as children we aren’t responsible for the conditioning and negative programming we ended up with. As adults, however, we are 100% responsible for changing it.

This blog, my mission, is about this very point. You and I can change our old conditioning and create new powerful, positive, supportive conditioning that empowers us to get the results we want and deserve to get. We can make what we want happen. We truly can!

Change The Story You Keep Telling Yourself And Change Your Life

Your life can and will change! This is why I write this blog. I want you to know you can live life by your own design and on your own terms. There are things you can do, practices you can apply, principles you can adopt, habits you can create that will transform you!

When you do these your life will change for the better. Gratitude and attitude are a massive part of it. Inspiration and encouragement another massive part. Take control of your thoughts and feelings. Read and listen to positive messages. Visualize and affirm. Meditate and reflect. Create positive powerful daily rituals that serve you.  Be grateful and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

PS If you are touched by this message please ‘like it’ and share it!

*** THIS could be the opportunity for you. Coaching is a $1 billion a year (and growing) industry. Discover whether you should get in on this trend when you download Christy Whitman’s free e-book, Everything You Need to Know About Becoming a Successful Life Coach. You’ll also get access to her new 5-part online coaching workshop.

Click the link below to get free ebook.

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Full Disclosure: I do not earn anything if you explore the link. If you do end up buying something that interests you there, I get some kind of a little thank-you referral. It does not  cost you anything extra when that happens. It absolutely does not cost you anything to look at the site. I would not recommend anything to you I did not think was worthwhile. I would not recommend anything to you that I do not approve of.  You have my personal word it is a solid recommendation.

ENJOY!

Celebrate no matter what!

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