Category Archives: Self Control

Self Control, Self Improvement, Self Talk, Self-Sabotage

Are You Sabotaging Yourself In This Way?

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“Say to yourself, ‘hello’. Now ask, ‘how are you?’ Do you hear an answer? I bet you do. That voice inside that says ‘hello’ and answers your question is your self-talk voice. Perhaps, one of many. Guess what, you talk to yourself all the time. You argue with yourself.

Self-talk is a continuous stream of thoughts, mental conversations, you have all day in and day out. It is the voice that says, ‘I should talk to Sue,’ then says, ‘I can’t stand Sue.’ Then again says, ‘still I should talk to her.’ It argues both sides. It can be positive or negative.

It is endless. Realize this: whatever dominates your mind determines who and what you are. If your thoughts are mostly negative YOU will be mostly negative and attract and create mostly negative experiences and people to you. Get it? Is you and how you live?

The Mind Is Only As Strong As Your Weakest Think

You are whatever mostly dominates your thinking. Remember, you become what you think about. This is the reason you want and need to monitor and manage your self-talk. What you think about you bring about. If  you are mostly positive you will have a positive life.

You cannot have mostly negative thoughts and live a positive life. You need to change your self-talk and design your mind. You need to take charge of your thinking in order to create your best life ever! If you do nothing, nothing will change. If you keep doing what you have been doing, nothing will change. To change, you must change some of what you are doing. Get it? I hope so. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Living In The Moment, Overcoming Difficulty, Pain, Self Control

How To Get Unhooked When You Get Hooked!

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” How do you stay present? For most of us we are in the past or in the future. We are rarely right here, right now. What can we do when we think a negative thought, feel bad, have a craving, someone injures us verbally, or the world dumps problems on us? What to do?

The best approach is to learn to respond instead of react. Most of use knee jerk react. Someone hurts our feelings and we get mad, sad or try to get revenge. We react instantly to the offense. We are victims because we don’t think we have choice BUT we actually do.

The knack one must learn is to delay the reaction. Similar to delayed gratification. When you want that cookie NOW, delay getting it. Consider having it later. Stop rushing into it. You may wonder how to do this because you haven’t yet been able to. Practice delaying!

You Go Where Your Thoughts Take You – Let Go – Witness – Relax

When you feel bad, have a craving or someone says something that is an affront to you SIT with it. Stop judging it or anything just sit with it. Notice it. Be aware that it occurred. You need to train yourself that it is okay to just be and let it go. Yes, you feel it.

Sit with it. Some suggest sitting for a half an hour. Don’t judge it. Don’t judge yourself. Label nothing. Just feel it and sit with it. Do not indulge it just observe it. Yes, this takes practice if you never have done it but YOU can master it if you will only practice it regularly.

Sit with it for 30 minutes. Why 30? To allow it to dissipate. Simply watch. Slow down the internal feelings and internal self talk. SLOW down. Watch, witness observe. Don’t rush. Take time. After 30 minutes change it. Affirm something else. Do something else.

Skill Comes From Doing – It Gets Easier The More You Do It

Seek the positive. Shift from sitting with it to becoming positive. I am not saying you have to be happy for it but change it from being a problem. Learn to manage your thoughts and emotions and get truly present. You sat with it in the moment. NOW change it productively.

Put off you cravings. Don’t rush. It takes will power but you need to learn how to use your will power. Anything you want to learn to do well may seem impossible at first but with regular correct practice you can master this. It may take 30, 60, 90 days or more but do it.

Negative thoughts and feelings are a part of life. Everyone has them. BUT not everyone is hooked into them. Some have learned how to manage them better. Some learn how to shift from their difficulty to their inner resources. There is nothing wrong with negativity.

Listen And Learn The Lesson – Sit – Wait – Allow – Transform

Negative feelings are alert signals that you are thinking less than glorious thoughts. When you discover this be willing to sit and observe. Sit and transform. Simply recognize the thoughts and feelings for what they are. Don’t judge. Then  change them.

Give it to god, the universe or whatever your personal belief is about a higher power. Surrender it. Give it over. Think, ‘thy will be done’. Let it go and let god. Look for the blessing. Look for the lesson. What can you learn that will benefit you and others from this situation.

If you want to be happy, peaceful, successful and live a wonderful life you need to learn to do new things and transform old ways. You take charge and learn to respond instead of react. Stop being Pavlov’s dog and slobbering every time your bell is rung. Get it? Change it!

If You Really Want To Transform Yourself You’ll Find The Way

Find the lesson and apply the lesson. In order to live successful transform yourself. It isn’t about others or circumstances it is about you. Be the change you want to enjoy. Expect the best, know it may be difficult but that YOU can learn to do this. Condition yourself.

Practice gratitude. Be grateful for the opportunity to change. Be grateful for the lesson in the less than glorious situation. Be grateful you have an opportunity to begin to do things in a new way. Be grateful you are learning to get ‘unhooked’.

Stop reacting, and take charge of your life. It is all a blessing! Delay gratification. Sit with the negative feelings. Stop judging. Let go. Change it at 30 minutes. Do anything else that makes you feel positive and is good for you and others.

If You Don’t Want To Transform Yourself You’ll Find Excuses

Seek to uplift not to harm. Count all as a blessing, a learning and opportunity. Recognize the good about you and your life. Love yourself. Accept yourself. You don’t have to be perfect. Stop being a perfectionist. Live, love, laugh. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Intentional Thinking, Responsibility, Self Control, Time

Rule Your Day

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“Rule your day! YOU rule it. Your day does not rule you. Stop letting your day rule you. Take charge. Rule your time. Stop letting time rule you. Take charge. Stop letting others be in charge of you. Take control of yourself. Get it? Manage your thoughts and your life!

Make time for yourself, important people and activities. Create your day. Live each moment by setting intentions. Keep you commitments to yourself and others.  Follow through. Keep your commitments!  Understand, your word is law. What you declare, so shall it be.

You are a creator. Create and make good things happen. Create what you want. Make it so. Be a champion. Be a victor. Live your mission. Fulfill your purpose. Create your best life ever. Never give up. Persist and you will win. Quitters never win and winners never quit. Be grateful. Delight in all. Celebrate everything! Rex Sikes

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Intentional Thinking, Respond, Self Control, Take Charge

How To Make The Most Of Your Life

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“Part 4 in this series. I create the future I want to manifest. This was an incredible leap forward for me. Instead of living life looking back, I started looking ahead. Instead of letting things happen to me, I decide what I wanted to have happen. I took control of myself!

I took control of my mind, my life and the results I was getting. Instead of driving down the road looking in the rearview mirror, I began to focus on my destination and how pleasantly I could get there. I decided, I shouldn’t ignore the present that would be silly.

I just don’t have to react to it as if I were a Pavlovian dog salivating to a ringing bell. I decided I would celebrate and appreciate the present. To do this I had to think that it was worth it even when it may not seem that way. I’d look for the good within the bad.

Mind Stretch To A New Idea Never Returns To Original Dimension

I made it a point to look for whatever good I could find in whatever was going on and I would accentuate it. If I experienced calamity and problems, I’ d find whatever was good in the situation and accentuate that. Anyone can learn to do this. Even the reader!

Certainly, accentuating the problem or bad feelings didn’t make me think, feel or do any better. Focusing on the good did. I learned I could chose what I paid attention to. Even if my first thought was to find the bad, my second thought became,  ‘what is good about this?’

I learned I could direct my thinking. I found as I did this things changed for me. No, not over night but gradually. I became a different person. I became positive, confident, happy, free, and powerful. Things that would have bothered me no longer did.

Skill To Do Comes From Doing – You Get What You Focus On

I became more flexible. I could adapt more easily. I got much better results than I had. I didn’t try to change the world around me, which is what many people attempt to do. Instead, I changed myself and discovered when I did, the world, somehow responded too.

The coolest thing was and is, even if nothing changed in outer reality, other than me and my relationship to reality, actually everything did change. It’s kind of like nothing changed BUT everything changed. That may be a difficult sentence or concept to grasp right now.

So I’ll share more next time. For now. Focus on the good and the new. Focus on what you are grateful for and appreciate about you, your experience, the people around you, and all circumstances. Mine for the gold and dig for the diamonds. They may be difficult to find at first but keep looking. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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