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Important Things To Do When Feeling Blue

“Remember, the tide goes out and comes back in. The cold becomes warm. To everything, there is a season. Thought and feeling management is based on creating supportive habits. Sometimes a break is nice. I tend to push through things. Sometimes, just allow.

Sometimes the contrast between feeling like it and not feeling like it can provide us with important insight and learning. Allow and surrender without giving up or giving in. Let go of how you think it should be and explore how it could be. Stop labeling and judging.

Look for tiny blessings that put a smile on your lips. Enjoy and delight. Morning comes. Whatever you focus on expands. Energy flows where attention goes. Attitude is everything. Where can you put your attention and focus that supports you? Find love, peace.

Listen To The Silence – It Speaks – Slow Down – Just Listen

What can you find that uplifts you? Look around. When blue, when stressed, when angry our focus constricts. Open it back up. Relax, breathe, move. Create some space. Step back a bit. Allow, let go. Stop and breathe. Breathe and focus on your breath. Listen. Listen.

Sigh. Hum. Sing. Breathe. Move. Walk. Notice, what else is around? Look around. Wonder, really wonder, what can you begin to explore and notice that is good and new? Go to nature. Sit. Imbibe. Listen, really listen. Look at the space. The empty spaces between things.

Do you realize there is more space than matter? Look at the space between branches and leaves. Between trees. Listen to the space between the notes in a song. Listen to the space between words. Create silence, listen to the space between your thoughts.

Silence Isn’t Empty – It Is Full Of Answers – Be Still And Know

Step back create some distance between you and the issue. Look at things from other angles, other perspectives. Lie down and look at the clouds. Look at the space between the clouds. Listen to a babbling brook; the sounds and silences in nature. Just listen.

Look for silver linings. Look for the good. Seek the good, however small. Seek what is new and different. Find anything to appreciate. Anything at all. ANYTHING! Large or small. Put your attention on the people, places, things, events, situations you are grateful for.

This changes everything. Keep the focus on what you are thankful for. That is where your energy will flow. That will change everything. It may start small, hardly noticable, or it may come in a flood. However it does, allow it. Celebrate it. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Suspend labeling and judgements today. Just be!

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What Is Critical You Learn From The Cold Or Flu

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“A few blogs ago I shared what we could learn from having the cold or flu. One of the main points is, when things don’t feel right we notice it. It may be painful, but this is a good thing. Our body signals us that something is amiss and needs attending to. We need healing.

If we didn’t feel bad we might never know to take care of it. So it is good that painful symptoms get our attention. The issue, however, is to not focus on the symptoms and the pains, but on feeling well. I pointed out I learned to focus on feeling blessed and what was good.

By shifting away from the negative, or less than glorious or painful current physical events, and to positive or more healthy feelings, I could find in me, I began to feel better and heal more rapidly. The better my attitude is, the more my health swiftly improves.

Energy Flows Where Attention Goes – Your Thoughts Begin It

It isn’t easy to shift focus. It takes practice and conditioning. That is why I recommend daily practice. Find the good. Find the delightful and the new. Find the blessings. Shift away from the negative, the hurtful, the destructive to the positive and the productive. Get it?

Over time we develop the habit of shifting our attention. Remember our energy flows where our attention goes. After a long enough duration of daily practice it becomes automatic. Be thankful for problems and obstacles. They help you strengthen the habit.

Shift when things are personally painful. When you are sick. When you feel overwhelmed by bills. When you feel lonely or underserving of love, kindness or abundance; shift from less than productive, less than glorious, negative, painful thoughts and feelings to the positive.

Your Emotions Amplify Your Thoughts – Stop Feeding The Weeds

Stop focusing on what is. Don’t deny it. Acknowledge it. It is a symptom. Focus on what you want instead. Put your attention on what you want. Get it? Create what you want!! Don’t get caught up in what is wrong. STOP and focus on what is right! Promote that.

The same can be said about current affairs, the political climate, the economy, wars and the world at large. Don’t focus on the wrongs. Notice, these are symptoms. Something must change. Don’t deny. Shift attention from the wrongs to what the rights can and must be.

Attend to what you want to build. Don’t focus on debt. Focus on making money. Don’t focus on war. Focus on creating peace. Don’t focus on illness. Focus on promoting health. Don’t focus on restrictions. Focus on ensuring freedom. BUILD what you want.

Reclaim Your Time Attention Energy And Feelings From Negativity

Be glad you can! Be glad you can find good. There is still always more right than there is wrong, but sometimes our perceptions get screwed up. Focus on the blessings. Focus on the fact that you can create change! Even if you don’t know how yet, you can do it.

Be grateful personally and for the world. Find the silver linings. Find the hidden gems. Seek to uncover treasures buried deep. You can miss them if you don’t look for them. Find what there is to be thankful and be thankful. You can! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Marvelous is this moment!

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What I Learned From The Cold And Flu That You Can Too

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“What happens to most of us when we get a cold or flu? We get symptoms, body aches and pains. It can be an uncomfortable time. Bottom line, we hurt. What actually is happening during this time is our body is fighting the infection, working to heal.

My household got sick. It is plenty tough for each person. I noticed something I have noticed each time I have been ill in my life. Our thoughts, mine sure did, focus on what is wrong. We pay attention to what isn’t right. It is certainly natural because it is not the norm.

For many of us, we not only focus on what is wrong but we talk about it. When asked, we tell others we don’t feel good. Some people can get very descriptive. This only focuses attention on it all the more. Again, we become aware of what feels different from normal.

Let Go Of Negativity – Focus On The Good – What’s Not Wrong

It isn’t wrong. Get that out of your head if you are thinking that. Pain is a signal the body needs to, or is, attending to some things. So, if you find your thoughts going to ‘woe is me’ don’t feel bad or guilty about it. However, I’d like to point something out.

For the most part, a cold or flu is over within a few weeks. Ultimately, you will feel better soon. Some strains, nowadays seem to endure much longer but the bottom line is you will get well. You are in the process of getting well while you are suffering. This is important.

I noticed my thoughts tend to go to what is wrong too. This time, each time, I noticed that occurring I shifted to what feels good or right. What I can do as opposed to what is wrong or what I can’t do. I emphasize the things I can do and am grateful for. It works, too!

What You Say Is What You Get – Affirm What You Want

I can breathe. I can sit. I can move. I can speak. I can think. I can see. I can hear. I can feel. I can sleep. I can eat. I am alive. I can plan. I am able to rest. I can read. I can watch movies. I can listen to audios. There is so much I am so lucky I can do each day. I am blessed now!

It does work wonders. I am not saying I have no discomfort, but it is  an important learning point we can all benefit from. Many things in life can be wrong or uncomfortable. We can, and do, have challenges each day. These draw our attention away from normal.

If we focus on them, they don’t get any better. If we focus on how and why our relationship is broken, how lonely we are, how much debt we have, how much we aren’t where we should be, how we aren’t enough or undeserving, or how much life sucks, guess what?

When You Focus On The Good – The Good Gets Better

We continue to perpetuate it. Ultimately, it might get better. Things usually do in time but we keep it going with what and how we think about it. It is natural, it is painful. Our attention is drawn to it, just like when we get ill. Perhaps, similarly, it is a way for us to heal.

Perhaps, the challenges, the disappointments, and the less than glorious feelings are there because within we are attempting to heal, to correct, to get over these and move forward, but our thoughts keep us locked in, at least temporarily, but it seems as if forever.

What we focus on we get more of. Illness is a prime time to learn to shift focus. I am not saying it is easy at first. As with any skill you get good at eventually, it takes practice and conditioning. Still, it is an opportunity to learn to grow and make things better for oneself.

Focus On The Good – Let Go Of The Bad – Life Is Too Short Not To

Gratitude works wonders in all cases. That shift of focus can be miraculous. When challenged look for the positive, the good, that which you are able to do, feel grateful for and enjoy. Emphasize these as much as possible. As within, so without. Focus.

It makes a difference for ourselves in our personal experience. I believe it can also make a difference in our social, political, economic areas as well. If we can draw our attention to what feels good, and is working, we can better find solutions. We can help changes occur.

Exercise: Find all that is right, and good, in the photo at the top. Meanwhile, drink plenty of water.  When ill, stay hydrated. It is also a great time to get rest. It is a break in normal activities. If you can appreciate that too, you are further ahead. Appreciate anything and everything you can. It works wonders. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Delight in this day!

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If You Aren’t Right Here You Are Missing Out

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“Some people struggle and worry and never seem to get ahead of the curve. They hope and wish and fret to no avail. They miss most of their life because they are too caught up. They try but can’t secure the future nor repair the past. They need to stop and get present.

Some people think that focusing on the present is like being in a barrel on the ocean drifting wherever the current takes you. For me, focusing on the present is like being in a sailboat and navigating whatever the universe presents. Life is what life is right now.

Some people want to escape what is. Don’t. Whether you face choppy, windblown waters or calm sunny seas you accept what is. You adjust and go with the flow.  You don’t give in. You don’t give up. You do whatever is necessary or enjoyable IN the moment.

The Art Of Life Is To Live In The Present – Be Here Now

You keep your destination in mind as you attend to what is currently going on. You know where you want to go yet you live right now. You enjoy the present moment. You enjoy the journey as it unfolds. You accept and overcome the obstacles as part of the journey.

It is what IS. You enjoy the fun, exciting moments. The calm moments.  The boring moments. Whatever IS is what IS.  You accept wherever you are in the moment. You allow and embrace it. It is your blessing. There truly is nothing else but right now. Breathe it in.

Your mind tries to escape into thoughts of past or future. Those don’t exist now. You exist now. Live in the present and become aware. This moment is all you have. Live in it. Live it fully. Stay with right now. Bring your attention to here. Allow now to be all it is.

Past Might Be A Nice Place To Visit But Not A Good Place To Stay

I repeat. The past is gone except for what your entertain in your mind. The future has yet to unfold even if you spend all your time welcoming it or worrying about it. It isn’t here yet. Fully appreciate what is going on now! Be grateful for all of it. Live in full gratitude.

Be grateful for the obstacles and challenges. Be grateful for every experience; event; thing and person; for all of it is a gift to you. You are alive. You get to experience this present moment. Others do not. You are blessed to have this moment, whatever the moment is.

When you are filled with gratitude and appreciation for what it IS, for whatever IS, then you are free. Then you are free to transform your self and the world around you. It isn’t even that you are doing it. You keep what you want, your destination, in mind, and allow it.

The Present Moment Is All We Have – Concentrate On Now

You make it happen by doing right now what it takes to bring it about. Your focus is on this step in the journey. When it is time to take the next step you do. Step by step you get where you are headed. Enjoy right now. Be present. Don’t miss it. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Enjoy Now!

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Keep The Faith During Turbulent Times

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“Times can be difficult. You or your family may endure hardship. Your neighborhood or city may be going though troubled times. Your country or the world. It can be environmental, financial, societal, or political. There are all manner of challenges and obstacles. It is true.

Whatever your burden; whatever your political persuasion; whatever your religious persuasion; whatever you  fears and concerns for the moment are, keep this in mind; THIS TOO will pass! Perhaps, not as quickly or in the manner you want, but it will.

Be patient, stay clam, fight the good fight civilly (in other words don’t give up because times may be tough) and allow for yourself to be pleasantly surprise. Don’t rain on other people’s parade to save your own. Help each other all be better off. Work as a team to improve.

Just Breathe – Have Faith Everything Will Work Out For The Best

If disappointed, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and continue to persevere. Always remember the pendulum swings both ways. Time is the great leveler and the great healer. Optimism and hope and love and peace are better than negativity, fear, hate and war. Forgive.

Build something better. Don’t lose hope. Keep the faith. Nothing lasts forever. The kite rises highest against the wind. Our challenges, obstacles and problems teach us lessons if we are open. They make us better and stronger. We develop muscle and strength. We win!

If we stop worrying and learn from these tough lessons we will be able to accomplish more of what we want in the future. Live and let live. Learn and grow. Laugh off the difficulties and be larger than the problems facing you! Keep the faith! A better day truly is ahead!

Let Go A Little And Just Let Life Happen – Relax And Have Faith

Focus on the good you want to bring about. Stop concentrating on what is wrong. Look at the solutions and work to make those happen. Appreciate what you already have right now. Never give in or lose faith. Focus on reason to be grateful and glad. Persevere.

Positive thinking IS NOT thinking ‘there are no weeds, there are no weeds.’  It is the systematic application of strong productive thoughts to resolve any difficulty and move ahead. Think the best so you feel the best. You are more resourceful at the top of your game.

This is why you want to learn to manage your thoughts and feelings You want to have control of your thinking, your mind, any time,  but especially in tough times. In order to be able to do that you need to practice and practice to build the skill. Make it a habit. Only you can.

If Things Haven’t Worked Out Yet – It Is Not Yet The End

Then when the going is tough you are prepared. Without opposition you don’t grow strong. Welcome difficulty for how it can make you a better person if you learn while going through it. Practice gratitude and positive thinking. Focus on the good. Focus on all you can appreciate. It makes a real difference when you celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Have a marvelous day!

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The Universe Abhors Desperate People Just Like You!

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“Have you ever dated a person who was needy, desperate and clingy. It really isn’t much fun is it? They may tend to be doubtful, fearful, always checking asking, ‘you love me right?’ Sadly, their insecurity and need to be needed or wanted often drives us or others away.

Have you ever known or been with any one like that? Have YOU ever been like that? I mention this because that same uncomfortableness occurs with the Law Of Attraction (LOA). Consider this; your neediness is actually keeping what you want away. It prevents you.

Sometimes we want something so bad; a relational partner; a career; fame; fortune; a better job; to get out of debt; a new car; that we don’t get it precisely because we DO need it. It may seem counterintuitive, but we actually push away what we want to attract.

Change Your Thoughts And You Change You And The World

That’s why I started this blog post with a provocative title and dating question. If it makes you uncomfortable to be with a person who is desperate, perhaps, it makes the universe uncomfortable as well. For demonstrating my point I personify the universe AS an example.

I don’t think it is the universe or god not letting you have it because you want it but that your energy, instead of attracting and creating it, actually holds it at bay. Neediness tends to repel people. So, perhaps, it is the same with anything we desperately want. Get it?

The idea is to focus on what you want. Desire it intently. Want it badly as a preference but don’t need it. Be able to be okay without it. Be happy if it shows up or doesn’t. When you are feeling that way, vibrating that way, it has a better chance of coming to you. Get it?

Don’t Believe Everything You Think – Choose Thoughts Wisely 

Don’t we get annoyed with demanding, inpatient, petulant people who demand it must be this way and now? Aren’t we put off by people who are needy, clingy and desperate? Worriers bother us. So become a champion attractor and creator instead. Resolve to do it.

Know what you want. Want it. Learn to be totally and completely happy whether or not it shows up. How? This IS the art of learning to manifest what you want by being grateful. Be happy with what you already have. All of it! The good and not so good. Find the blessings!

Focus on the good in everything. Find the positive side to your troubles, challenges, situations and bothersome people. Live with zest, zeal, passion and enthusiasm. Be thankful for all of it. When you are you have a different quality about you. You vibrate differently.

Happiness Doesn’t Bring Gratitude – Gratitude Brings Happiness

You are happy and fun filled. You exude good feelings and positive thoughts and expectations. You know things will ultimately work out for the best no matter what. You have faith. You believe. You are certain. You take action and work to make your dreams come true.

You live qualitatively different right now! In doing so you open up your own neurology to take better advantage of opportunity you might otherwise miss. I’ve discussed this many times before. The brain’s job is to find matches with what we already believe. It works.

You can transform your life when you start living as a victor instead of a victim. Stop losing out and start winning by adopting that winning feeling first. You have to believe you are going to win in order to actually win. Once you do you open up grand doorways.

How You Vibrate Is What The Universe Echoes Back To You

The Secret is to live with passion. Be grateful. Delight in the tiniest moments. Make your problems mole hills and reframe them as lessons and opportunities. Put fear and doubt and need into the past. Be thrilled. Be excited. Be thankful. Be expressive AND celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Find more reasons to celebrate each moment!

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The Giver’s Paradox

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“If you want to increase your wealth, affluence, happiness and all goodness in your life practice giving for giving sake. Give to give! Don’t give to get. Give because you want to help and you are compassionate, kind, caring, thoughtful and sensitive. Give to give.

Think of others first and give. You don’t have to do it all the time. You don’t have to give away the farm. You don’t go into debt giving. You simply experiment and learn the true joy and blessings of giving. It is easy. Tip the doorman, the barista, your waiter a bit more. More.

Be generous instead of stingy. Someone said, if you get caught up in ‘should I give this much?’  Go ahead and give it. Err, on the side of too  much rather than on too little or the exact amount. Be generous and joyous. If you resent or regret any of it you are not giving joyously.

Cheerful Givers Don’t Count The Cost Of What They Give

Treat someone. Buy dinner. Pay for a movie. Devote some time. Hang out. Help them with a chore or situation. It doesn’t have to be just cash you give. You can give your time, energy,  effort, attention, companionship, respect, and money. The point is you give.

If you are giving to get something in return you are missing the blessing. You need to give without expecting anything back. You need to give without keeping score. You give because you want to. You don’t need thanks. You want to give. Here is a personal story.

I gave someone money for groceries once.  A few hundred dollars. It was a gift or a loan. I wasn’t sure how I wanted to treat it. I knew they needed a helping hand and I could help out. Well, later the people didn’t even remember what I had done. Details don’t matter.

Blessed Are Those Who Give Without Remembering – Give Freely

Suffice to say it is all good. They didn’t remember and never said thanks. I didn’t want to point it out. I hoped they’d remember. They didn’t. I started getting bugged by it. Get it? My good deed actually had a lot of strings attached. Still, I never reminded them.

That wasn’t the point. The point was I was trying to be a good guy but I also had a bunch of unconscious conditions attached. When the conditions weren’t met I began to feel resentful. What does resent have to do with generously giving? Get it? It was my issue not theirs.

That kind of giving may be better than not giving at all but it isn’t in the spirit of letting go and giving simply to give. Once you give, you give! You don’t set conditions or terms on it. You don’t take it back You let them do what they want with it. Don’t decided for them.

What Goes Around Comes Around – Give Without Conditions

My parents often had conditions. They’d say, ‘we’re going to gave you this but we don’t want you to spend it or to touch it.’ Or.  ‘you can only use it for this’; their particular reason. I hated that. I liked receiving it but felt obligated in ways I didn’t want to be obligated.

When you give simply to give, with no expectations or strings, you are truly blessed. Don’t look for the blessing. Give and let go. That is the trick. It is as tricky as enlightenment. Seek enlightenment with everything you have but if you want enlightenment it eludes you.

It only comes when you ultimately give up seeking it. This is true of many things. Let love go and you find it. When you don’t have needs you are rich. When you have needs you can’t seem to make ends meet. If you give to get you get nothing much back at all.

You Get Back What You Put Out – Celebrate And Enjoy

If you are happy with who you are and what you have your life can be truly incredible. Plus, you get more! It is an amazing paradox but one that affects us all. Let go. Give freely and you end up getting more back. Be delighted! Celebrate everything!”

Today, is all we truly have. Live fully today!

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