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| The Secret | How To Get The Positive Results You Want & Make Your Dreams Come True Part 2

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any idea plan repetition of thought Napoleon Hill

“You must focus and remain focused on WHAT YOU WANT in order to engage your unconscious mind (the servo-mechanism)  to work on it for you

You must  provide a clear image to the unconscious so it knows what you want it to do. This is why the power and focus of your conscious mind matters. You deliver the right message to your unconscious and then your unconscious works for you on what you want it to work on.

Your unconscious mind is already working. It IS always working but if you are not getting the results you want to get it is because you have not provided clear instructions for it to carry out.

If you aren’t getting the results you want it is because you are not sending it the clear message of what you want. It IS currently producing what you have been sending it. This is important to understand and act on if you want your life to change for the best…

Part 2

In order for your unconscious mind to work on what you want you have to give it  a clear, definite picture and clear instructions of your ‘burning desire’. This is what you need to do every single day.

Stay focused and passionate about your goal, repeat what you wrote down out loud with lot’s of positive energy and enthusiasm at least twice a day. Adopt the attitude of expectation, believe you are going to get it.

If at first you find it difficult to believe 100% stick with the practice, there will come a time when you do fully believe it. This is important. Believe you will get it and you can get it. Believe that you won’t make it happen and it is nearly 100% certain you won’t.

You must remain constant and not waiver.

If one day you are focused on what you want and the next moment you are thinking about what you don’t want and then again back to what you want you, then what you don’t want you are sending confusing mixed messages. It is just as if you are commanding a pet dog to,”Stay, come here, stay, come here, don’t come, come, stay.”  You can’t flip flop and get good, quick results.

You will get to the prize faster by staying on target with what you want and being definite about it. You will get to your destination when you think and feel and act in alignment with getting there. Do not lett the past or present things throw you off course. Stay strong, be of one mind.

what holds u back is who u think u are not

For example, you may not have money to pay your bills.

When you worry about and think about how you don’t have the money and impending consequences does not help you get the money you want or need. You have to adopt a mental position of ‘whatever happens I will be okay, things always work out for me’ instead of worrying. This comes about with practice too!

Worry will only bring more worry. From a more confident, optimistic mindset you are more resourceful and have a better frame of mind to figure out how to get what you need.

The results you get back, how you feel, and your life and your being is filled with whatever predominantly occupies your mind most of the time each day.

In order to meet life’s challenges as you need to be thinking confidently and not frazzled, worried or frantic. Think about it. I will say it again: The results you get back, how you feel, and your life and your being is filled with whatever predominantly occupies your mind most of the time each day.

You become what you think about.

we are what we repeatedly do

I hope you get it.

Keep in mind that I am sharing with you a life changing process. It is a process. The word process defined means ‘a series of actions or steps taken in order to achieve a particular end’. It functions through time. It  is not an over night, instantaneous, magic pill but a method. For some, you will see results more quickly, for others it may take longer, regardless it will take some time.

Changing your life is not a competition so don’t be concerned with the time it takes be concerned with being dedicated to the process.

What may be difficult at first becomes easier the more you do it. You may have learned to eat by yourself, walk, ride a bike, read and write, drive a care, play a sport and countless other things that seemed difficult at first. So hang in there and you will get better and eventually master this process too. Just stick with it and never stop and you will make it happen.

repetition of affirmations lead to belief

You must be clear about you want and focused on it. You must concentrate on it over and over again and only on it. You must remain faithful to your goal and the results you want. You must ignore what you don’t want and favor what you do want.

You may include all the incredible things, small and large, from your present and accentuate these. You must keep going and not quit in order to get what you want. When you do these things you will discover your life changing along the way, but remember, it may not be evident at first.

Keep this in mind: what do you want? Do you want the results (your dreams/goal) in the future or  do you what you have now? Whatever you focus on is what you will get more of. It is your decision. If you want your life to change for the better you are learning what you can do to make that happen. It is up to you to do it.” Rex Sikes

*I suggest you go back and read through these blogs again and again. You will discover things you missed when you read it the first time. What you missed was there all along but the person who goes back to read again has already been altered by life along the way.

You are not exactly the same person you were yesterday, a week ago, a month or years. You are changing. When you read something later you may bring a new awareness to it because you have new life experiences since the last time you visited. You understand things differently the second, third and forth time you read the same material. So Read, re-read, and implement. It is not the reading that will change you but what you put into practice from your new understandings.

Have a wonderful day! Imagine how much more marvelous you can make it.

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Are You Waiting For Paradise? What Are You Waiting For? PT 1

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when you arise think of the privilege

“Past, Present or Future. People say, ‘live now’, not in the past or the future. ‘Now IS the only time you have’. I agree. I have learned you can not live in the past. I certainly used to. I preferred what came before to what is and what may be. I longed for the good old days. I mourned their passing. Until one day I realized for myself that it was true no amount of wishing would bring anything back. People I missed and reconnected with had moved on, only I hadn’t.

I believe part of the reason I so adored the past was that I was not ever taught about goals. My present was okay at best, so I tolerated it. Even when it was pretty bad I didn’t think there was much I could do about it. I had been encouraged to do whatever I wanted as long as I got a job and worked to make money but no one ever truly educated me in how to set goals and work in a disciplined fashion. I did not know how to make plans or how to get my goals. I was one of the most undisciplined people I know.

Life was about dealing with whatever happened. Whatever didn’t happen didn’t. I thought much of it was the result of others or circumstances. If someone else got something I wanted in life that was because luck was on their side. I was just unlucky. I had no say in what happened to me. Career success just a matter of the right breaks. I had no clue how to make my own breaks or move forward. Clueless, is how I lived much of my life.

I became a meditator and began to appreciate the now much more. I began to focus so much on ‘this moment’ that I paid no attention to what was down the road. I knew the past was over, my beloved past was not available. NOW is all I had. So I lived moment to moment without respecting the needs coming down the road very well. I had no future I had only now.

This was not that different from living in the past actually. I lived in the past with no regard for the future, living in the present was essentially the same. It was just more immediate in where I put my attention. It was not about friends or times long ago but about about those things right now. Basically, I traded one outlook for a similar outlook only I did not realize this at the time. I got the same shirt only in a different color.

I literally had to train my mind to begin to look into the future.

dream is goal w deadline

We all have to learn how to do this but for some of us it may happen earlier on as they grow up. As an adult, I had to being to force myself to consider where I was and what I wanted that would improve on my lot and my life. I could no longer leave it to chance. I had to actually decide what I want and work to make it happen.

For some readers, they may think, ‘well duh?’ Yes, it is true. I had to turn my attention from the now to the then. I had to decide what I want, what goals i wanted to set, and when I wanted it, the deadline. I learned that it wasn’t enough to want something you needed a delivery date. If you bought a pair of shoes online you want to know when you expect them to show up. You would never think to make the purchase with an ‘anytime in the future’ date of delivery.

Of course prior to this moment, I always wanted things to happen for me but I didn’t expect to get them. I wanted them, yes but I only hoped to get them. They were wants, yes, but not what I must absolutely have and go after to get. They fell into the category of, ‘it would be great to have these’ but ‘how come I don’t have them’.

Back to the shoe purchase analogy. You find what you want, you make the purchase, you get a delivery date and you expect to get it when and as promised.

I didn’t fully appreciate that if I wanted certain things I would have to make them happen. I looked at my shortcomings, my lack of knowledge and experience and resigned myself to the fact that I just didn’t know how to get what I hoped to have.

After years of aimless living I came to an understanding that if anything was going to change I had to change what I was thinking and doing, or what I was NOT thinking and NOT doing. It was not just a matter of what I was doing it was also what I was leaving out that was critical.

It became very clear that I was most like a cork that bobbed along in the water, moving wherever the current took me, longing for the past distant shores, or even enjoying the present surroundings, but with no destination in mind, nor power to get there. I had to change something, I had to change this thinking. I had to embrace new thinking if this was at all possible.

I wrote down what I wanted and began to review it throughout each day numerous times. I have described this method in previous blogs. I filled my mind with what I wanted to occur in the future and imagined myself already living as though it was mine.

Back to the shoes again: I had to select what I wanted for myself. I had to make a decision. Once I knew what I wanted I put in the order. From the moment I knew what I wanted I imagined what it would be like having it. People often visualize what they will look like wearing the new shoes. They may see others making a big deal about their choice and how cool it is. They visualize in their minds, right now, what it is like to live wearing the shoes even though the purchased shoes haven’t physically arrived yet. Do you understand what I mean by I imagined myself living as though it was mine?

desire back by faith

I steered my mind to the positive and chanted affirmations energetically, passionately. I took charge and made it a point to do something each day in service of the future I wanted. I made the future important to me!

NOW, it would be very easy, for some of us, to be so focused on what we want to make happen that we sacrifice our present for a later date. Fortunately, I came to the realization that this would not be a very good thing.

What I realized, early on, was that my present was a result of my past thoughts.

The lack of consistent plans and goals and positive thoughts resulted in where I was, aimlessly floating. My present was a result of my previous thinking or lack of thinking. Could it be that our future is dependent on the thoughts we think today?

I realized, then, that my current thoughts determined and created my future experience. Whatever I was currently thinking and not thinking about is what I would get in return. My future is dependent on where my mind is right now.

energy goes where attention goes

It became obvious to me that if I wanted a different sort of future it would depend on what I did right this moment.

WOW that hit me like a ton of bricks. My future is dependent on what I am thinking and feeling right now! Right this moment we are creating our futures! More next time.” Rex Sikes

Make today the finest day you have ever had. I mean, why not?

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Your Life Can Be Incredible! Did You Know It Can Begin This Weekend?

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life is an echo

“It is the weekend! How can you make today and tomorrow special for yourself? What can you do that you will enjoy?Take a break, be sure to relax and do something to make you feel special.

Yes, after the work week we sometimes have to catch up on other important things and then spend the entire weekend working too. I have done it we all have. This weekend discover taking a little time for yourself to feel wonderful. Gift yourself with time for you and the people you love.

Spend time with your family and friends. Treat yourself and those you care about extra special for no reason at all. Celebrate who is in your life and what you are grateful for. Do something wonderful for someone else. Go somewhere that would be really fun. Explore, adventure, discover!

Life is really no more than moments. Moment to moment we live our day. When all is said and done we evaluate our day, even our lives, by how many moments we think are positive, fun and worthwhile. So should make sure that each day we create special moments for ourselves, family and friends. Take a moment to include the good, the new, the amazing, the wonderful.

positive mind, vibes, life

Don’t just spend life working and striving and doing what must be done. Sure, that may be important but relaxing, enjoying, delighting, and celebrating is important to. There is a reason why the phrase, ‘Stop and Smell the Roses’ exists. So stop and smell the roses today and tomorrow.

Make it a practice, a habit to treat yourself wonderfully. Appreciate yourself for your talents and strengths. Then extend that appreciation to those around you and then to those circumstances you enjoy. Spend an hour or more just for you.

Don’t blow off what you need to complete but find a way to incorporate celebration and relaxation into your day. Work hard then play hard or play hard and then work hard whichever works for you. Just make it a point to make it a special time.

Perhaps, you can do something you have been wanting to do for awhile. Go someplace special you’d like to see, Take along someone you care about or just spend time quietly with them at home. Gift yourself in some way, give yourself a treat. Reward yourself for creating a special time today.

Refresh and renew your mind, your body, your spirit. Immerse yourself in the incredible. Dive into the delightful. Amaze yourself with something astounding. Service your soul.

Remember to make this weekend a retreat. If only for a little while, do it. Do it lightly, stress free, comfortably, and easily. No pressure, no stress, no reasons why you must, just do it for the sake of doing something different and enjoyable.

cabin and boat dock sunset

Just do anything marvelous and safe that will put a smile on your face and make you feel better. It can be small or large whatever works for you.

You could have a special beverage, a snack, go for a walk, take a bath, have a bonfire, a cookout, invite friends over, go to a play, a movie, some music. Go to the park, the beach, read a book, take a nap, buy yourself a little something you want and enjoy. Do something with you children or your parents, visit someone who can’t get out, take them somewhere nice if you and they are able.

Anything at all that makes you moments special.

Collect wonderful positive moments and memories! Then collect more. Each day is an opportunity for more marvelous moments and miracles. Create a space for yourself each day to savor.

Just start today. Commit to making it more satisfying, desirable and relaxing. Commit to nourishing yourself and having time alone and/or with loved ones. Treat yourself well.

It is a two way street. What you send out comes back. Send out the best and get the best in return. It will positively surprise you when you live life this way. Think the best, feel the best, act the best and you will have the best.

When you take time for yourself to enjoy, appreciate and delight you create space for more wonderful moments and miracles. You create them, you attract them, and they come along and simply surprise you because you made more room for unexpected blessings to come your way.

This you can do. The question is will you? Will you take the time to treat yourself well today?” Rex Sikes

My wish for you is a fabulous fun filled day with those you care about!

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Here is The Secret: How To Get The Positive Results You Want And Make Your Dreams Come True Part 1

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repetition of thought Napoleon Hill

The key, the trick, the most powerful thing you can do is focus on where you want to be and not what is going on around you. If what you are experiencing is less than glorious you need to ignore that and focus on the positive results you do want. As captain of your ship you need to be clear on your destination and not concerned with how difficult the journey may be.

Focus on the results you want to get in your future and not what you do not have at the moment. Even if things are crumbling around you you must stay focused on what you want and when you want it.

It may be the hardest thing you have to do but you must do it.

I repeat: You get and you become what you think about. If you are focused on what is wrong, what you don’t have, the lack of funds, whatever the problem is, you do not help yourself overcome these. You are focused on what you don’t want and your mind and being is filled with all the problems. The result is that you end up getting more of what you do not want. Certainly, you are not going to get what you want by concentrating on and worrying about what you don’t want.

Remember the planting seeds analogy I have used. If you plant wheat you will not get corn. If you plant peas you won’t get carrots. You get what you plant. As for the results in your life you get what you plant. If you spent all your time planting wheat but wanting corn we’d think you were crazy. You can’t get the results you want focused on what you don’t have. BUT if you focused on the corn you wanted AND you plant corn you are going to get corn as long as you take care to nurture it properly.

we reap what we sow choose carefully

Yes, it may be difficult to stay focused on the positive but you stay focused you must. You must steer your ship back on course when you get off track. You must focus on the results and the deadline you want and not on what or where you came from or the difficulties. You can’t move forward looking backwards.

You won’t move forward being focused on where you are right now. You get more of what you focus on. If you want to move forward focus on where you want to be AND on making sure you do move inch by inch in that direction.

What you MAY focus on from the present are all the good things.

When you focus on what you are grateful for and all the things you enjoy right now in this moment, and from your past, you open the door to get more of these. Concentrate on feeling grateful, filled with joy, peace, love and happiness these are great to focus on!

Concentrating on confidence and what you are able to accomplish is fantastic!

Thinking highly of others and treating them the way you want to be treated brings you better relationships and connections with others who may be of help to you too as you move along. Keep in mind no one ever succeeds alone. SO think the best of yourself and others.

Create the you and the life and world you want to live in and focus on these. Bring all the wonderful memories and moments from your present along with you. That is a great thing to do. Keep the positive while creating more positive!

REMEMBER: Stay focused on the positive results you want to have and not the shabby results you may currently experience.

Fill your dreams and goals with positively charged energy.

I’ve suggested writing what you want to have down and then looking at it through the day. Read it out loud to yourself with fully charged energy and confidence at least twice a day.  Do this every day without fail.

The results you get in the future are based on what you are doing now just as where you are today is a result of the thoughts and actions you took in your past. Stay with your goal, fill your being with it. In your mind see it and enjoy it. Act as if you are already living it. Do this often each day. Keep doing it every day, every week.

When you plant a seed it takes time and you do not see the results right away. YOU HAVE TO KEEP THE FAITH. This may be the most difficult part of the process. It may be hard to hang in there when there is no evidence that you should but you should. YOU MUST stick with it if you want to get the results you intend to get.

Stick with it, stay with your positive practice and it will pay off. It won’t happen if you quit. You won’t succeed if you don’t do the work. If you are not committed, if you slack on your practice or if you are wishy washy with your focus you aren’t going to see it come to pass. The odds are against you.

The only thing that will bring about the positive change you desire are the changes you make.

think to success

Reading about it won’t make a difference. It may inspire you but you have to implement what you learn. You can read about a wonderful meal and desire it but that is not the same as eating the beautiful meal. You must eat and digest on a daily basis (a number of times during the day) to stay healthy. Put into practice what you have read about and learned.

You must focus and remain focused on WHAT YOU WANT in order to engage your unconscious mind to work on it for you (the servo mechanism).

You must  provide a clear image to the unconscious so it knows what you want it to do. This is why the power and focus of your conscious mind matters. You must deliver the right message to your unconscious mind – then your unconscious works on what you want it to work on.

Remember, your unconscious mind is already working. It IS always working!  If you aren’t getting the results you want to get it – it is because you have not provided clear instructions for it to carry out. It doesn’t know what YOU want – it only works on what you have already been giving it.

I repeat: If you aren’t getting the results you want – it is because you are not sending it the clear message of what you DO want. It IS currently producing and carrying out actions from what you have been sending it. You are where your thoughts have brought you. You will go where your thoughts take you.

This is important to understand and act on if you want your life to change for the best.

This is why it is so important to decide what you want for yourself. You must decide on your most important goal. Napoleon Hill called it ‘your definite chief purpose’ and you must concentrate on making it come to pass.

You stay focused on positive thoughts and fill your mind and being with positive thoughts and feelings. You can not let the present get you down you must persevere even when the going seems impossible. Keep what you want, your goal, in mind at all times. This is how you end up getting what you truly want.

I will share more in the next post. Meanwhile enjoy and make your life wonderful.” Rex Sikes

Have a wonderful day! Make it really special!

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The Secret: It’s The Little Things You Do That Transform Your Life!

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when you arise think of the privilege

“What can you do to make today the best day ever? I think feeling grateful is one of the most powerful things you can do and feel. Start and end your day with appreciation and your being is transformed.

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Fill your day with love and peace and delight so much so that everyone feels it when they are near you.

colorful waterfall

Look around you and notice how beautiful the world is.

remind yourself that you are amazing

Believe in yourself. Give yourself credit. Know that you deserve the best.

just because soemthing isn't happening

Have faith. Keep the faith. Know that you can make your dreams come true.

stay positive

Think the best, the strongest, the highest thoughts about yourself, others and situations.

These are some simple things you can do moment to moment to make a real difference for yourself. Make these habits and you will enjoy everything so much more.” Rex Sikes

Create for yourself a remarkable day!

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Make Today A Celebration!

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start your day with gratitude

“Make today a celebration. Find all the magical moments. Seek out all the little things you can put your attention on and enjoy.

gratitude magnet

Find the numerous reasons why today is wonderful. Look for all the fun and delight and amazement that you can discover.

its a gppd day to have a good day

What about this moment is good? What about this moment is new? What are you grateful for? Who are the special people in your life you appreciate? What are your special talents and abilities you are thankful to have?

gratitude magic

What if you could find more blessings today than you ever thought you could? Perhaps, you will if you will really try. Make it a point to make this day special by collecting special moments. Look for and find what makes you feel marvelous.

go without complaining

What makes you feel inspired? Who would you like to help put a smile on their lips? The more you look the more you will be able to find. Begin right now. Do it today!  Then do it tomorrow too. Aim high and keep going.” Rex Sikes

How many wonderful things will you discover about yourself, your life and others this day? Celebrate & delight!

See you next time. Have a great day!

 

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Positive Thinking Part 3 What Is Your Excuse?

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your mind is a garden grow flowers or weeds

… ” I daily read and filled my mind with positive thoughts. I created some positive AFFIRMATIONS. I thought of these through out the day. Later, I discovered the awesome power of asking DIRECTED QUESTIONS of myself. I have mentioned the power of directing your mind positively through the artful and scientific use of questions at other times in this blog and through the years in my writings and workshops.”

Later on I learned the, even more, awesome and incredible power of FEELINGS.

Part 3

It works like this: the mind (our conscious mind) determines the direction (good or bad) the feelings we have drive us there. Whatever we think and feel we end up magnifying. Our feelings drive everything. Our feelings are what help create our results based on our thinking. I will explore this concept more int depth as we continue.

If we worry and are fearful or anxious, angry, hateful or depressed our thoughts and feelings are paired powerfully. It makes if difficult to get free of either and we usually end up with more of the same. UNLESS sometimes, something occurs to shake us awake and we make a decision to be different. Sometimes it is a cataclysmic event in our life and we decide we must move in a different direction.

The same applies when we are positive and confident, joyous, open and powerful, delighted and living with gratitude. Our feelings and thoughts are powerfully paired. It is difficult to shake a person from this way of being, yet sometimes, cataclysmic events shake us and we find ourselves falling into despair. This is possible, yes.

Both negativity and positivity as habits are difficult to break and that is why we operate as we do. Whichever we are predominantly determines what we see, feel, hear, do and get. Positivity or negativity is the filter we use to label our life experiences. It is as  if we have rosy colored glasses or blue tinted lenses with which we see and experience the world.

Our habitual frame of mind determines how we experience life; whether we are mostly happy or not or mostly getting what we want or not. Our mind set, our attitude,  influences everything.

Being positive or negative – each is easy and each is difficult.

Frankly, as creatures of habit, we do whatever we have done.

Whatever we are accustomed to, whatever is most familiar and most comfortable  to us is what we continue to do.

Whatever we have done we keep doing. We proliferate it most of the time. This is why we stay pretty much as we are and experience living the life as we do.

It is either great or it sucks or it is okay. 

We are creatures comfortable with consistency.

Change is difficult for many of us because it means doing things other than how we have been doing them.

I mean consider this, WE like short cuts.  We state that the best way is the shortest way, ‘a straight line between two points’, yet nothing is ever actually straight in life, still that is what we want.

We want it quick, easy, fast, effortless, timeless, we want it perfect, yesterday, low cost, convenient and high quality without ever having to life a finger. We grew up thinking these things. We were influenced by  media, parents and peers. We have adopted many beliefs about ourself and the world from others.

Well, it is true, isn’t it? Who do you know who says, ‘I want to work and work hard to get what I got? If it takes forever so what? Bring on the effort and the delays I can handle anything?’

Yes, people parrot the phrase, ‘no pain. no gain’ but not because they prefer it. They only mean ‘crap, it is going to take some effort and that is painful’. They think that is the way things are, (like death and taxes) there is no choice, you can’t do anything about it and that is how it is. They put up with it.

Face it, most of us want it to be easy. Especially, those brought up in recent decades. We like fast, convenient, tasty food even when it isn’t the best choice for us because we are USED TO having it.

AT the very same time we want change!!! We want changes!!!

BUT WE DON’T WANT TO CHANGE.

This is a huge issue for people. It is a big issue in the corporate world too. In this way people and corporations (run by people) share some practices in common.

The company takes forever to decide to implement a new protocol (they call this procrastination ‘research’) and they may utilize facilitators (within the company or from without)  to help things change BUT NOT TOO MUCH.

Change IS desired but not too much change.

Don’t shake the apple tree because as inefficient and ineffective as it presently is it is preferable to the unknown future and possible consequences.

‘We have always done it this way’. The known, while uncomfortable, IS frequently  preferable to the discomfort of the unknown future.

People and companies tend to remain the same.

They don’t really want to change NOR do they want to have to work at it. They don’t want to put in any effort to make it happen? It will be too arduous, to costly (energy wise or otherwise)  to maintain the new way of being.

Excuses, excuses, excuses!

People remain the same because of excuses. Call it fear, call it resistance, call it reluctance, call it anything you want to call it but do you know what an excuse really is?

It is a thought!

An excuse is a thought that prevents you and ‘excuses you’ from being accountable and responsible for making positive changes.

It is a thought utilized to defend your present circumstances, conditions and mindset. It is a way of giving yourself permission to not do anything at all.

When you have an excuse you are simply using your thoughts to make a case for why you won’t engage in making anything different.

You are making a case for ‘why not’, why you won’t. Sure, some people say they can’t but that is the same as saying they won’t because  the end result is the same.

You could be using your thoughts positively, constructively and powerfully. Ooops you are already using them powerfully to prevent you. Yes, you may be citing reasons or pointing to others and events which you deem as  the ‘real’ cause for why you are ‘NOT’,  but the bottom line is that YOU, alone, are using your mind to limit you and limit your possibilities.

Okay, again. YOU could be using your thoughts positively, constructively and powerfully to make desired changes and open the doors to wonderful new ways of being and having that, MAY AT FIRST seem uncomfortable for you, but you aren’t yet.

Yes, anything new may be uncomfortable at first.

When you buy a new pair of shoes you may have to ‘break them in’ and get used to wearing them, so they fit right. Once they are comfortable you barely notice them at all, unless something changes, you get a pebble in them, or they break, then your attention again goes to the shoes.  The point is once the new shoes are comfortable and fit, you don’t ever think about them or the process of breaking the shoes in.

Okay, you understand that example?

When people learn a new skill typically they are not great from the get go. They are awkward . It is difficult or even uncomfortable at first. The reason for this is because it IS NEW. You never did it before. The learning curve may be steep. Almost anything we do for the very first time is not our best.

Our best comes from doing it again and again correctly over time. We get better that is what progress means. We improve as we go along.

So what if it seems a little unfamiliar at first? So what if it is difficult or uncomfortable why should that stop you?

As you read that previous question did you think to yourself, ‘right lets keep going’ or did you come up with an excuse? Did you mutter, ‘Ya right, easy for you to say’ blah blah blah…

I say, don’t let a thought prevent you from acting in your own best interests.

You see, if fear of the unknown stops you it can stop you whether the change you want to implement is negative OR positive.  The same fear mechanism drives the show.

Some people don’t do anything unless the results are guaranteed. That is just another excuse. You can’t move forward unless you are certain the pay off will be what you want.

If you feel uncertain, or fearful, or can’t see the payoff then maybe you just don’t do anything. That is best way to stay exactly as you are. It seems that is what most people want. They want change but they really want to stay as they are. They don’t want to have to change anything.

Do you get it?  We want change but not really. We don’t want to give up our comfort. We don’t want to have to work for it. We do not want to shake up our current situation. Maybe, we are better off just as we are? they think. Then they find all the reasons to justify staying the same.

My guess is that you have done this countless numbers of times over countless numbers of things. Is it possible I am correct? I bet I am because I sure have done this.

We’ll discuss more next time.

Right now concentrate on those things that you enjoy about yourself and others, Take time to stop and smell the roses and really be grateful. Look for what is good about your life and what you want more of. Focus on finding delight. Continue to practice gratefulness and make your list each evening.

Pause to think throughout each day, how wonderful today is. Think this is the perfect day no matter what is going on. Keep your thoughts positive. Steer to center whenever you discover yourself off course. Enjoy it. Take time to enjoy it. DO this repeatedly.” Rex Sikes

Make it simply marvelous for yourself and others today!

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Why me? Why Should I Go First?

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One of the quickest ways to begin changing yourself for the better is to adopt The Golden Rule. The Golden Rule states ‘Do to others as you want others to do to you.’  or ‘Treat others the way you want to be treated.’ This REALLY TYRULY means that you treat others as you want them to treat you. That is the simple instruction. It doesn’t mean you give lip service to it or that you intend to do it, it means you actually do it.

If you want to be respected you respect them first. If you want to be listened to you listen to them first. If you want help with the groceries you give them help first. If you want them to stop nagging you you stop nagging them. The list is potentially endless.

Why should we do this? Because it is powerful? Why s this so important and so powerful?

Because it begins with you. No one else. There is no waiting for anything or anyone else. It is up to you!

It is powerful because it starts with your thoughts. It begins with how you think about others and it puts the responsibility squarely on you. If it is going to happen you are going to have to do it. You initiate it and you maintain it. You begin it and you follow through. It isn’t up to how you are treated in return it is what you are able to do all by yourself.

You treat others the way you want to be treated whether or not they ever actually treat you the way you want to be treated.

WOW, that may have stopped a few readers! Your concern is not their actual response your concern is your mind set, your attitude, and your actions. You have to realize that YOU need to be the change you want to see in the world. You need to become fully responsible.

It isn’t about the other person returning anything to you.That would be you manipulating them. That would be you doing something just to get something back and that is selfish.

The idea is to consider how others want to be treated and then to treat them that way because that is the right thing to do. That puts you in the right frame of mind. It also takes you out of your own limitations of thinking and has you expand what you are capable of considering. ‘How might this other person want to be treated? Hmmmmm, How would I prefer to be treated? Oh, okay, so how might I better be able to treat them in that way?”  Just taking a moment to consider these questions when facing situations with others, stops you from reacting on autopilot and possibly begin to do new things. It opens you up, it opens your thinking up to be more positive and inclusive.

When you begin to really appreciate the power behind ‘Treat others how you want to be treated’ d o not be concerned with whether they reciprocate. That is not your concern. Just take care of you by doing good for them. Treat them well. You will do so much to transform everything about yourself when you are able to.

When you can adopt this attitude then you have shifted your mind powerfully!

When you realize it is completely up to you to think well and treat others well first, you are not depending on anyone to do anything for you. You aren’t relying on others to change you are relying on yourself. You are making it happen. This is powerful because now you are taking charge. You aren’t relying on circumstances to make a difference or what others do, you are just doing it.

You put yourself in the driver’s seat. You are not a passenger taken wherever someone else takes you. You determine the route, you decide where to go and what to see. This makes an incredible difference for people.

You are also ‘the other person’.

If you treat another person with respect, love, kindness, and appreciation then you should treat yourself the same way. Do not skimp on you either. You are important and deserve the best treatment. Stop getting down on yourself and start lifting yourself up. Inspire yourself and fill yourself with wonderful thoughts and feelings. When you first make it a prime concern to treat others well then you must make it your same concern to treat yourself well. AND when you make it a prime concern to treat yourself well then you must make it your same concern to treat others well.

When you first seek to ‘do to others as you want others to do to you’ you create the opportunity for them to reciprocate. You put your energy and focus into making others feel good (and important and happy) and FOR YOU to think and feel and act the same.

When you think and feel your very best you ARE more of your best. You become more open, happy, confident, upbeat, enjoyable and a person others may want to be around more. When you first treat others well they ARE more apt to want to return to you what you did for them. They are more apt to want to be around you.They are more apt to treat you better.

Some people say you vibrate at a higher level. Okay, I’ll go with that. You vibrate at a higher level. Your energy is more positive. When these things are true you attract others who have a similar energy or vibrational level. You radiate who and what you are positively. When you put this kind of energy out there you attract this kind of energy back. It will happen!

The point is you don’t just do it because you get something back in return you do it to do it! You do it because it is the right thing to do, the smart thing, the wise thing. When you do you will get it back. You may not always get it back from the person you give it to but you will get it back in return.

If you do something nice for someone and they don’t do anything back or they are mean to you THAT is an opportunity for you. Yes, of course it is a challenge and you may be inclined to get hurt or angry but then stop and think, if you were that person how would you want to be treated in this situation? What would YOU want the others to understand about you? If you were being difficult or nasty what do you really wish others would think about you and do for you to help you out?

Take the higher ground as best you can. They may wound you but do not let it fester. Aim high in your thinking. Aim to generate good will in your thoughts. The reason for this is that it isn’t up to the other person what happens it is all in how you respond. When things occur that you don’t want and don’t like what goes on in you that you can change for the better?

If you can learn that it is how YOU respond to life when life goes well or when it goes awry that will be a major learning for you. That will be a true highlight moment!

When you discover that you are able to evolve your thinking and feelings, so that no matter what it is that comes your way you are able to transform the moment, you become free. You are not tied to old negative habitual thoughts, feelings or actions you now have choice. You can chose which way you want to go and my guess is you choose the higher road. You chose that which is best for you and for others too. When life doesn’t dictate how you are to be but you decide then you are free and you are powerful. You are in charge.

When you are in charge you have more responsibility. You are responsible for your thoughts, your feelings and your actions. You are responsible for the results you get. As you take charge and take the high road you get better results too. You attract more positive people and all around and  your life improves.

Evolution begins in us. It doesn’t come from the outside it begins within. It is up to each of us and no one else. If you want your life to change for the better you must do it. Now is always the only time we have. We make a decision for what we want the future to be but now is the time we create that future. If you want your life to be better down the road you must act in this moment. If you want to transform this moment you must do something differently that will bring you a positive result.

It begins with your thinking. So ‘Do unto others the way you want them to do unto you’. Guard your thoughts, make them work for you and serve you well instead of being their servant. Everything begins with thought. When you can control your thought you control the results you are able to get.

As I have discussed in precious posts thoughts attract like thoughts. You want to control your thoughts because the first thought you think leads to others of a like nature. If it is negative you will get more negativity. Just as a snow ball traveling down a mountainside can trigger an avalanche so can your fist thought. It takes effort at first to train the mind and your thinking but you can do it. If you are going to have an avalanche at least think positive thoughts. It always matters what you do first. This is why I emphasize going first. Think positive thoughts first! Do for others first! Give First!  You will find an incredible world open up to you.

Become the person in charge you will enjoy the change. When you are filled with happiness, love, compassion, understanding, patience, tolerance, acceptance and all sorts of other wonderful qualities you and those around you benefit. You may benefit the most, but you won’t care, because you will be reaping what you have sown. That will be more than enough.” Rex Sikes

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Life Is About Creating Yourself

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“You have the opportunity to make your life what you want it to be. You can become anything you want to become. It is all up to you and no one else. It is up to you to create the ‘you’ you want to be. You may not have realized it but it is your decision, it IS within your control and it is your responsibility.

Some people live as if they have no choice, no power and as if life is whatever comes along. They live haphazardly. They accept whatever life offers but they don’t like it. They wish it were otherwise.

If you want it to be different the fact of the matter is you can make it different. It is completely up to you.

Take charge, make the decision to be the person you have always wanted to be.

Take control of your thoughts because when you do you will take control of your feelings too. Take charge of your feelings and you will take charge of your thoughts. It works both ways. When you align your thoughts and feelings your actions come into harmony with your purpose and your desire.

I am in charge and I am choosing

When your thoughts, feelings and actions are in harmony with your purpose you begin to powerfully create. You become like a targeted laser beam. Then you live with power, with confidence, with purpose and you can achieve whatever you put your mind to. You go after your goals with full commitment. Nothing stops you. You keep going until you accomplish what you set out to do.

When you are congruent in mind and body, when your thoughts and feelings are aligned, your energy is directed and not wasted.

You can clearly imagine the ‘you’ you have always wanted to be. You can see the life you want to enjoy in your mind. When who you are, or who you want to become and what you want in life are crystal clear and concise in your mind then you are able accomplish it. Then all your energy is freed up and focused on what you want.

When you are focus in this manner all your energies are concentrated on bringing it into being. You are not divided. You are whole. YOu are congruent. You are complete.

Your focus is established. You are determined.  You believe in what you want to accomplish and your abilities to accomplish it. You have complete faith that sometime soon this will be!

With this mind set you are able to persevere. You are better equipped to deal with challenges and never give up. You recognize difficulties as opportunities to get feedback. You learn from tough times and mistakes because your entire being is in ‘go’ mode and you are moving forward to making your dream come true.

forget why it wont believe why it will

Most people live tossed about in many directions. They are happy one moment and worried the next. They are determined one day and fearful and exhausted a few days later. They do not understand that if they want to make something happen they need to manage their thoughts and their emotions. If they want to make something happen then they need to make it happen. It will come about by the power of your will.

It may take some time to bring your thoughts, feelings and actions  under your direction but it is absolutely worth it. If you aren’t running the show the question is who is?

I liken the mind to breaking a wild horse.

The horse is beautiful and powerful and runs wild doing whatever it wants. To break a horse is to train it and give it purpose. The purpose you have for it. (Whether in life this is a good thing to do to an animal is not part of this discussion. My point is about the practice of training the horse). You teach it and you correct it. You repeat it and in time the animal learns what you want it to do. You carry this process out until the horse is dependable. It takes some time and some effort but when the training is complete you reap the rewards.

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It is true for us too when we bring our thoughts and feelings under control. We spend time in training to be able to do what we want to do. We get the training to be able to carry out the goals and purpose of the training.

We train ourselves to go after what we want. We train ourselves to carry out the actions necessary to get the results we want.YES, it takes some effort at first but when once trained all that energy is the aimed at accomplishing our goal.

Train your mind, harness your spirit and make your life what you want. Create yourself!”

Rex Sikes

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Learn to Wait and Wait Well! Then You Will Get It!

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“It is said, that ‘Patience is not the ability to wait, but the the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting’. (Joyce Meyer). How true that is.

When we begin to create a new life and future for ourselves by keeping focused on positive thoughts and feelings things inside us begin to change. They do! But they may not change fast enough or we may not see indications of these changes right away. We set a goal and work towards it but the outcome is not readily apparent.

This is understandable. When you plant a seed it takes time to grow. It grows in the invisible darkness underground for quite some time before it breaks through the ground and reaches toward the sun. Farmers know that there is a time for planting and a time for harvesting. You don’t plant Monday and harvest Tuesday. Seeds sown take time to grow.

So it is with all good things. We focus our attention consciously on what we want, we maintain it positively and infuse it with positive wonderful feelings and we wait.

It may seem like nothing is happening out there in the real world. Our inner world is transforming but we don’t see the results yet.

Well, they will come in time as long as you remain true. As long as you remain committed and continue to focus your life will change and you will eventually see the positive results come to be. SO maintain a positive attitude.

It takes time for the artist to conceive of the painting and complete it. However long that process is (or isn’t) it still takes some time. Nothing is instant. A building is still made brick by brick. Can you imagine how long it must have seemed to lay the track and create the East West railroad in the U.S.? Can you imagine the hardships endured to make that railroad a reality? It certainly wasn’t easy and it didn’t happen over night.

‘For everything there is a season’. It takes time so hang in there.

We become what we think about most of the time. We are today where our thoughts have brought us. We will be tomorrow where our thoughts take us. If you can see it in your head you can hold it in your hand.

And it takes time.

That is why the quote I cited in the very beginning is so relevant.  Patience is not the ability to wait, but the the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting’.

We always have to wait but how we wait matters.

We need to keep the faith and believe it will happen and not lose site of what we are positively creating. We must keep going even when it does not appear that anything is happening or changing. We stay focused on the positive images and feelings. We know there will come a time when we will harvest the seeds we planted. These seeds are currently growing.

‘Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.’ Faith is knowing that the invisible processes are taking place. Faith is knowing they are taking place even when we can see them. Faith is knowing that somehow it will all work out okay even when there is no reason to actually think that it will. In other words we can’t see what we can’t see yet.

We live by faith that the processes we initiated will continue to grow and come to fruition. We live by faith that we will accomplish our goals no matter what. We will go after and get what we want even if it appears that nothing is changing. We will stick with it no matter how many obstacles or challenges rise up in front of us to prevent us from reaching.

We need to believe and know that we will.

That is attitude! That is a positive determined attitude!! ‘If you can conceive it and believe it you can achieve it’.

You can’t let circumstances get you down. Even if everything is presently crumbling around you stay focused on what you want to make happen for yourself. Do not give in to the temptation to give up or feel bad. Stay strong, stay positive and feel your best. You will come through it but you must know that you will.

You can’t look back, you can’t look at the difficulty you must look ahead to what will be. You must stay focused on the future you want to create for yourself.

This is why we train our minds to remain positive so that no matter what occurs we live with the very best positive attitude. Attitude is everything.

It doesn’t matter what you don’t have you stay focused on what you want. Let’s say you want a brand new car, just as an example. Give yourself permission to want it and to have it. Accept that it is going to be yours because you deserve it. Imagine yourself driving it, see it, notice how good it feels to be in the driver’s seat your hands on the wheel. Smell it, hear what you are saying to yourself and thinking as your drive around in it. See it in your driveway. Imagine living with it. Doesn’t it look and feel great?

NOW it doesn’t matter if you don’t have money or a job, and have mounds of debt. None of that matters. NONE of it!!!

YOU focus on WHAT –  YOU –  WANT.

You keep the images alive and the feelings great because even if things currently suck (to use a scientific term) you still are entitled to get your dream car. I hope this makes sense. Many people will think ‘wow things suck so I will never be able to get my dream car’. That is not the attitude to have.

You have to keep the faith. You have to stay focused and not waiver. Believe that no matter what some day you will have the car you want. Feel great about having the car! Enjoy and savor these feelings. Keep it alive and stay passionate about it.

What you are doing is waiting well.

You have set your mind on course, in a direction, and you are traveling in that direction no matter which way the wind blows. When you keep the focus and the energy on what you want you are literally telling yourself ‘figure out how to make this happen’.

That servo-mechanism I mentioned in previous posts takes over and works at getting it. Your brain works on making a plan finding the opportunities to earn the car. Most probably it isn’t going to be magically given to you but by staying focused on your goal and not giving in to negative feelings or thoughts you optimize your chances to figure out how to get it in the future.

It takes time. However long it takes is what it takes. So…

If you have to wait, and you will, you might as well wait well.

I repeat: You have to keep the faith. You have to stay focused and not waiver. Believe that no matter what some day you will have the car you want.You can’t look back, you can’t look at the difficulty you must look ahead to what will be. You must stay focused on the future you want to create for yourself. Feel great about having the car! Enjoy and savor these feelings.

I used the example of a car to try to provide you with something you could easily imagine – a possession. It could be anything you want for yourself.

We become what we think about most of the time. We are today where our thoughts have brought us. We will be tomorrow where our thoughts take us. If you can see it in your head you can hold it in your hand. And it takes time.

Be patient! You will make it happen!” Rex Sikes

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