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This Couldn’t Be More Clear But I Bet You Missed It: Please Don’t

“I’d like to point something out that should be obvious but sometimes it is not. I am an actor and filmmaker. I wear many hats. I’ve spent most of my life speaking on personal transformation, enlightenment, NLP, whole brain learning and the Law Of Attraction.

I shouldn’t have to refer to acting or filmmaking in every post, for actors or filmmakers to understand the principles and approaches I share can be applied to them. They can use these personally and to advance their careers. These principles apply to all of us to use.

Whatever walk of life you are in, or from, you can use these materials to make it better for yourself and others. BUT, I get it. Sometimes, we are so focused on ourself, or career, we limit the opportunities around us. We don’t see clearly. We only see ‘IT’.

Be Present – Be Playful – Be Divine – Live Fully – Enjoy Life

When I was a young actor in Hollywood I hated weekends and holidays because I couldn’t pursue my career or craft. Most all my friends were ‘in the business.’ I didn’t have time for fun and frivolity, even relationships were dependent on career choices and moves.

The bottom line is my life was so ‘movie business’ I didn’t have much of a life. That isn’t what life is about. Life is way too short to be so preoccupied, that we haven’t time for anything else. I want to share something, again, with you Napoleon Hill said. I paraphrase.

He stated he had modeled 520 of the then richest people in the world. He knew them, spent time in their homes, knew their families and out of all 520, he stated, only one was happy! The rest were obsessed, families in chaos, kids screwed up. They were messes!

Playing Builds Brain Pathways For Creativity Flexibility And More

Some killed themselves, others turned to drugs and alcohol. Why? Because they weren’t balanced. They were greedy. They quested money to the exclusion of everything else. He points out, if you want it you can get it, but be careful of what or how much you want.

Hill said he suffered similar consequences. He wanted things money could bring him. Ultimately, he realized, and reported nearer the end of his life that peace, happiness, relationships were more important. He said, get rich that is fine, but don’t be so greedy it ruins you.

The same is true about actors, artists, lawyers, bankers, educators, laborers and people from every walk. Live a little. Love a lot. Laugh and have good times. Enjoy life as it is happening. Don’t put it off. Pursue your careers and passions but don’t get lost or fanatical.

Life Is Better When You Are Smiling And Laughing

Take time to enjoy each other. To notice how beautiful this world actually is. Travel. It doesn’t have to be far, or cost a lot. Take a walk. Go for a ride. See something that inspires you. Fall in love. Share good times with others. Have fun. Relax, too. Enjoy tiny moments.

Remember, living makes you a better artist. The director Elia Kazan said, if you want to be a better actor or director, you need to live more and experience as much as you can. You can’t only focus on your craft. You need to bring in things from the outside.

Much of the innovation in the world comes from outside the field of inquiry. For example, when Edison attempted making the light bulb, after a while, his insights came from how charcoal is made; coals smoldering under dirt. He realized, he needed a vacuum tube.

Have A Sweet Tongue Dirty Mind Playful Heart And Loving Soul

Frequently, people puzzling over problems take breaks, naps and illumination occurs to them, in the same way you remember a name or bit of information, by giving up trying to recall it. Later, it pops in. Cross pollination; ideas coming from multiple sources, melding.

Relax. Let go. Sing, dance, make love. Laugh, skip, explore. Talk over a beverage or a picnic. Spend time doing other things. Have hobbies and other interests. Make more friends and acquaintances. Volunteer somewhere. Help someone else.  Enjoy the silence.

Enjoy the sun. Bask in the rain. These posts are meant to encourage, inspire, inform, motivate, give practical tips or suggestions you can easily implement. They are for everyone! Anyone can utilize the information. If you don’t use it, it is only info. If you apply, it can be life changing! Use what you learn to make life sumptuous. Live and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

ENJOY!

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Consider Your Family And Friends

“Just a reminder. Appreciate your family and your friends. Consider yourself blessed. Find a way to celebrate each person important to you. Love more. Laugh more. Share more together. One thing you can never get back is your time. Spend time with those you love.

You are fortunate if someone likes you. You are fortunate if you are loved. Give love freely. Allow others to like and love you. Receive it fully it. Expect the best of them. See the best in them. Respect, value, treasure them. Delight in them. This is just a reminder. Call someone.

Reach out connect. Count your blessings. Express your love and gratitude. Edify and uplift those around you. Smile more. Smile more at strangers, too. Be less afraid. Be more willing to look someone in the eye.  Speak truth directly with compassion and care. Be honest.

It Is Not About Having Time – It Is About Making Time 

Remember, you live in a world of people. Lend a hand. Be able to ask for help. Support others. Allow them to support you. Enjoy it. Enjoy them. Enjoy yourself and your relationships. Make more friends. Keep your family close. Treat them well. Celebrate! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

PS Why the gravestone photo? Because nothing lasts forever. Appreciate what you have, while you have it. Love.

ENJOY!

Stop and smell the roses, today. Take the time to love and enjoy!

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Who You Are Behind Who You Are?

“The point of personal and collective evolution is to discover appreciation for who we are beyond our birth identity. The end goal, if one can say there is such a thing, is for self-appreciation; to value who we are, what we are, what we are capable of. We are priceless.

Yet, the game of divine hide and seek, has us pretending to be powerless, pauper victims of events and circumstances. How beautifully, we have hidden who we actually are. The path of enlightenment is letting go of the facade and accepting the reality.

The reality is we are ONE.  We are immense. We are unconditional love and acceptance. We are not separate. We are one, disguised as many, playing a wonderful game. We have hidden and obscured the truth from ourselves, so we might one day, again, discover it.

Embrace Who You Actually Are – Celebrate And Appreciate You

The journey begins when we realize we already have everything we think we need. We already are it. We lack nothing. We need nothing. We are all of it. We are source and we are source energy and power. We are creation and we are light and love. Denying it is our pain.

We feel separate, alone, worried, fearful, needy when we live in the ‘game identity’ believing that to be who we are. We are not that. When we drop pretending to be less than source and begin to appreciate who we are, we awaken to what is and to who is.

You and I are magnificent. We are one. We are the infinite. When we live as if we are, then we are. This isn’t about ego. This is about letting go of ego. Drop the charade and accept and love ourselves unconditionally for the beauty that we are. We are love. We are one

To Discover Who You Are –  Let Go Of Who You Think You Are

We are freedom. We are joy. We are all incredible good things. We are priceless! It is time to begin treating ourselves as such. Be grateful. Be thankful. Be delighted. Live, love, laugh, and accept yourself unconditionally. Transform and transcend. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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How To Share Transformation With Loved Ones

Have you ever noticed that some of the people closest to you rain the most on your parade? They just don’t get where you are at. They may be very negative and think you are weird. They don’t get your new attitude or practices. They think you have lost it! Right?

Have you anyone like that in your life? You have transformed and experienced tremendous growth and feel on top of the world, moving forward, but some around you want to hold you back. Well, guess what. Most people don’t like change. They want to keep you!

They like or love you and if you change then what?  They want the same ole person they’ve always known. Can’t blame them really, our brains work to keep us the same too. Remember, your inner thermostat always works to keep it at the setting. People do too.

To Be Loved Be Willing To Love And Accept Others As They Are

Sad, but true. That is just the way it is.  We have changed and probably want to share with them and have them celebrate with us. What to do? When we try they get weird and tell us we are not the same person. They may say it nicely or not. What to do? Right?

First forgive them. Let it go. No matter how difficult it seems, let it go. Accept them as they are. You have changed they may or may not have. Allow them to be them and let it go. As for sharing your new found delights keep some things in mind. No one likes pushy.

We have an opportunity to help people who may be in need of what we know that can transform their lives. Isn’t that awesome? You want to share it. Just remember, not everyone wants to hear it or is ready to hear it. You heard it when you were ready, and not before.

You can’t Correct Your Mistakes By Pointing Out Other’s Mistakes

When the disciple is ready the master appears. You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink. Our only responsibility is to lead. Be an example. Walk the talk.  When they are ready then maybe they will seek out what you have. Otherwise, let them be.

When they are ready they will find their path. Meanwhile love them. Bless them. Encourage them. Inspire them. Motivate them, but do not be evangelical. Don’t try to convert or convince. Don’t insist, don’t beg or complain. Let them be who they are.

Prepare a banquet and those who are hungry enough will come. Those who don’t, don’t. Those who come to the banquet may sample and enjoy certain things but not enjoy everything. Some won’t try much, but will eat the foods they already like.

Accept People As They Are Not How You Want Them To Be

Some will explore. Some will skimp. Some will feast. Some will eat and run. Others may stick around for awhile. IT is all good. Whatever it is, it is. Don’t make people conform to you. Allow them to be who they are each moment. Learn to accept. Learn to not be bothered.

Let your light shine. Don’t talk a lot about it to people who aren’t ready to listen. Let your light do your talking, instead. That is more than enough. Be known by your fruits and actions rather than your convincing words. Lead by example. Let your love be an example.

Don’t try to sell or persuade people into being different, but invite them. Then it is up to them whether or not they accept the invitation. Sometimes, if you don’t say anything about your changes they get curious and pester you. They really get curious.

Some Things Are A Mystery Not To Be Solved But To Be Enjoyed

They want you to reveal what you are doing that works and why what they’re doing doesn’t. Wait for the invitation, the request to explain. Then keep it simple and be brief. Don’t overload them with information and procedures. Let them extract it from you bit by bit.

When they are ready to explore more fully they will and you will have been a supportive person standing by with encouragement not someone nagging them to be different from who they presently are. Accept them.  Love them. Allow them to be as they are.

Forgive them. Forgive yourself, and accept what is as it is. It is all a blessing. Live fully and then like moths to the flame, people will want to know what you have that makes the difference. Yes, you can help them. Share it. Don’t push it. Celebrate Everything!” Rex Sikes

Allow and let go today!

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How To Overcome Shock And Disappointment

“Letting go means dropping it. Don’t seek revenge. Seek to solve and uplift. Consider that every thing happens for a reason and this happened to serve you. It happened so you could get free. Whether ultimately, this is true doesn’t matter. It is a reframe you can use.

Consider it a blessing. An opportunity to learn from and evolve. Be thankful it happened to bring your awareness to what you might change. Accept yourself and your situation as what is. It is what it is. You either embrace it or resist it. What you resist persists.

Find the silver lining. And ask yourself are you capable of giving out some unconditional love? My guess is, an eruption or disruption stems from boundary violations, expectations, restrictions and limitations and not because we are loving unconditionally.

When You Let Go You Create Space For Something Better

When my daughter, my first, was born. I fed her. Held her. I changed her. I bathed her. She couldn’t say thanks. She couldn’t return anything. I did it because I knew it helped her feel good and met her needs. I loved being able to serve her. I remember her birth.

My first thoughts were how blessed and lucky I am. I was given this incredible gift, I thought, ‘I want to love you and accept you as much when you are 16 and telling everyone what an asshole your dad is, as I do right this moment.’ I was head over heels in love. I still am.

As an infant if she cried all night, I held her and decided I was there for the long haul. This was my opportunity. I loved being a dad. So what about when she was 16? It was much harder than I thought it would be because I now expected her to act in certain ways.

You Only Lose What You Cling To – Stop Clinging And Let Go 

I loved her even more but found I placed conditions or expectations on her all the while she was growing up. I did the same with my son. I didn’t realize this was occurring until something upset the apple cart. My goal has always been to get back to unconditional love.

So whenever crap happened I had a yard stick when I became aware of my old habits and programming. Was I behaving in loving ways or exasperating the situation? Was I judging or allowing? Was I labeling or loving? Sometimes, I wasn’t loving. I had to accept and let go.

My desire, my goal, is to remember always, my children are gifts to me. Regardless of what they do or don’t do, give or don’t give, they are incredible blessings in my life that I am thankful for. It isn’t about what they do or don’t. It is about me being blessed and aware of it.

Train Yourself To Find The Blessing In Everything 

Sometimes, my personal agenda causes other people pain. If I am aware, I do what I can to correct it. When I am not aware, I find I blame others. I really don’t want to do that, but sometimes I do. I prefer to take 100% responsibility and change myself instead.

It can be painful to encounter ourselves. We make mistakes. I still do. Whenever possible forgive. Ask for forgiveness, accept, embrace, and make amends. When not, forgive, ask for forgiveness, accept, embrace and learn from mistakes. Let go and improve yourself.

A few blog posts back I suggested showering yourself with unconditional love. I suggest you do that again and again. Also, do it for your loved ones, your friends, even strangers and enemies. It makes a big difference in how you go through the world. Find silver linings. Look at everything as a blessing and all of it can be. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Be easy on yourself today!

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You Should Treat Yourself To Some Unconditional Love

“A good habit is to put on positive, inspirational and motivational audios whenever you are driving. It is a great opportunity to feel great, drive safe and learn something of value. Use your time wisely. I hope you enjoyed my audio blog in the last post.

If you haven’t yet listened, be sure to take some time. Today, why not focus on giving to yourself unconditionally. Gift yourself. Accept yourself. Shower yourself with love. Unconditional love. Feel it. Embrace it. You deserve it. If you don’t feel you do, you need it.

Forgive yourself, if you feel you must. Most people have conditions and limits on their love. We don’t have to, but we do. We grew up and learned to behave in certain ways. We learned to feel certain ways about ourselves. We believe ourselves to be certain ways.

Love Is The Absence Of Judgement – Unconditional Love Gives

It is time to let go of that previous conditioning. The way to do it is to treat yourself in loving ways. Be gentle. Be kind. Be open to who you are, and what you think and do, without judgement. Let go of your judgements. Most of them came from other people, anyway.

You are not your thoughts. You are not necessarily who you think you are. In reality you are awesome! You are a resourceful, intelligent, capable, powerful person. You may not have thought so but you are. You are a being of light and goodness. Accept it.

Let your light shine. Reveal yourself to yourself. Allow, accept, and receive yourself. Treat yourself special today. Do something nice for you. Think nice thoughts about yourself. Take yourself out for a good time, a special treat. Go first class if you are able. Treat yourself well.

The Measure Of Love Is To Love Without Measure  Unconditionally

Be glad. Be thankful you are who you are. Enjoy and feel lucky to be you.  Appreciate all of your experiences in shaping you. You have come a long way no matter how old or young. You are a person of great value. Love yourself without limitations. Celebrate yourself. Be filled with gratitude. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Find out how wonderful you are today!

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Understanding The Unthinkable When It Happens To You

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“What do you do when ‘bad’ things happen? Is there a correct way to respond? Why do these things happen anyway? Have you ever asked yourself these questions? Tragedy struck close to me today. Someone I love was savagely brutalized. 911 was called. Horrible!

I won’t go into it much. An attack occurred. Cries for help heard. Authorities called. 2 hours later they had still not showed up. I, and others ,we called and did. Another 2 hours went by. Authorities finally showed after repeated calls insisting they get there.

Once they arrived they were surly, agitated the victim more than assisted, and left without word. I and another, accompanied our loved one to the ER. We spent 7 more hours. 6 hours after we arrived and only after repeated phone calls did authorities arrived.

Just When Caterpillar Thought It Is All Over It Became A Butterfly

Physically, emotionally, psychologically, spiritually my dear one was brutalized, left and abandoned by the system, neglected, treated callously by responders who left job undone. Only,  later did they appear after calls to supervisors. Sad, tough day for all involved.

I am fine. Someone else is not. Few will understand what I next say but, I am the eye of the storm. I am calm and centered regardless of what happens. That is how my day is. I know and trust that ultimately good will come of this. It always does. No matter what.

It may not work out to anyone’s satisfaction. It could get worse. I haven’t a clue how it will work out but that isn’t for me to know. I simply trust that it will. I know it has for many and it always has for me. My darkest days turned out to be my greatest blessings.

People Who Truly Care About Each Other Can Make It Work

I am sorry this happened. I’m glad it wasn’t worse. I’m disappointed with the people who are paid to help in crisis. I am happy that finally one benevolent supervisor listened and did his job. One person made some things happen when no one else would. I thanked him!

So positive thoughts and feelings and energy I send when I think of this dear one who was wounded today. I could go on in many different directions about the event, what it means, what could be, what should have been, but none of that is important. None of it.

What’s important is my loved one get love and support and understanding during a terrifically trying time. Besides the physical assault and battery, the feelings of betrayal, fear of dying, shock, anger, justice, revenge, sadness, abandonment all raging at once.

The Best Lessons Are Often Learned In The Worst Of Times

A real shoulder to cry or lean on and an actual ear to listen is what is needed. Love, understanding, patience, compassion, positive kind energy and acceptance is offered. Healing will happen but first there’s some important grieving stages the loved one to go through.

Yet, I know we are blessed. It may not seem like it to some readers. I first and foremost am thankful it wasn’t worse. I am so grateful my dear one is alive. I am so grateful for that! Tough, it may be but we all can get through it. I am truly fine. Someone else is not. BUT can be.

Will be. Eventually no matter how long it takes. Obviously, I prefer soon; as soon as possible. I know many learnings will come from this. Some hard lessons, and others not so difficult, to face. We are all blessed no matter how it turns out. And I do celebrate this.

During Our Darkest Moments We Must Focus To See The Light

Not the act. Not the terrible things that occurred but rather the opportunity to heal, to grow and evolve, to learn and go beyond what we knew. To deepen our relationships and our own spiritual practices. I am deeply thankful for this opportunity. It is all okay!

What is IS. What happened happened.  It’s okay. I can’t change it so how I live with it is important. How each of us affected learns to live with it is important. I stay positive that we all will be better off in the long run. Somewhere in all this there is a truly a silver or gold lining.

There is always light at the end of the tunnel. Sometimes, however, you are so deep into the tunnel you don’t see the light at the other end. Know it is there. Know this too will pass. Keep moving forward and you will find it. Tomorrow will be another day. Be patient.

Life Is 10% What Happens To You And 90% How You Respond

I share this because it is what it is. I share it because while it is an awful ordeal it doesn’t impinge on my spirit or on me or the gladness I feel. 99.5 percent of everything in our life is good. This is one horrible event. We will live on focused on the good 99.5. So yes, I do celebrate everything. We can. You can. All of us can. So go ahead and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Find 1% good and make it 100% good today!

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