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| The Secret | How To Get The Positive Results You Want & Make Your Dreams Come True Part 2

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any idea plan repetition of thought Napoleon Hill

“You must focus and remain focused on WHAT YOU WANT in order to engage your unconscious mind (the servo-mechanism)  to work on it for you

You must  provide a clear image to the unconscious so it knows what you want it to do. This is why the power and focus of your conscious mind matters. You deliver the right message to your unconscious and then your unconscious works for you on what you want it to work on.

Your unconscious mind is already working. It IS always working but if you are not getting the results you want to get it is because you have not provided clear instructions for it to carry out.

If you aren’t getting the results you want it is because you are not sending it the clear message of what you want. It IS currently producing what you have been sending it. This is important to understand and act on if you want your life to change for the best…

Part 2

In order for your unconscious mind to work on what you want you have to give it  a clear, definite picture and clear instructions of your ‘burning desire’. This is what you need to do every single day.

Stay focused and passionate about your goal, repeat what you wrote down out loud with lot’s of positive energy and enthusiasm at least twice a day. Adopt the attitude of expectation, believe you are going to get it.

If at first you find it difficult to believe 100% stick with the practice, there will come a time when you do fully believe it. This is important. Believe you will get it and you can get it. Believe that you won’t make it happen and it is nearly 100% certain you won’t.

You must remain constant and not waiver.

If one day you are focused on what you want and the next moment you are thinking about what you don’t want and then again back to what you want you, then what you don’t want you are sending confusing mixed messages. It is just as if you are commanding a pet dog to,”Stay, come here, stay, come here, don’t come, come, stay.”  You can’t flip flop and get good, quick results.

You will get to the prize faster by staying on target with what you want and being definite about it. You will get to your destination when you think and feel and act in alignment with getting there. Do not lett the past or present things throw you off course. Stay strong, be of one mind.

what holds u back is who u think u are not

For example, you may not have money to pay your bills.

When you worry about and think about how you don’t have the money and impending consequences does not help you get the money you want or need. You have to adopt a mental position of ‘whatever happens I will be okay, things always work out for me’ instead of worrying. This comes about with practice too!

Worry will only bring more worry. From a more confident, optimistic mindset you are more resourceful and have a better frame of mind to figure out how to get what you need.

The results you get back, how you feel, and your life and your being is filled with whatever predominantly occupies your mind most of the time each day.

In order to meet life’s challenges as you need to be thinking confidently and not frazzled, worried or frantic. Think about it. I will say it again: The results you get back, how you feel, and your life and your being is filled with whatever predominantly occupies your mind most of the time each day.

You become what you think about.

we are what we repeatedly do

I hope you get it.

Keep in mind that I am sharing with you a life changing process. It is a process. The word process defined means ‘a series of actions or steps taken in order to achieve a particular end’. It functions through time. It  is not an over night, instantaneous, magic pill but a method. For some, you will see results more quickly, for others it may take longer, regardless it will take some time.

Changing your life is not a competition so don’t be concerned with the time it takes be concerned with being dedicated to the process.

What may be difficult at first becomes easier the more you do it. You may have learned to eat by yourself, walk, ride a bike, read and write, drive a care, play a sport and countless other things that seemed difficult at first. So hang in there and you will get better and eventually master this process too. Just stick with it and never stop and you will make it happen.

repetition of affirmations lead to belief

You must be clear about you want and focused on it. You must concentrate on it over and over again and only on it. You must remain faithful to your goal and the results you want. You must ignore what you don’t want and favor what you do want.

You may include all the incredible things, small and large, from your present and accentuate these. You must keep going and not quit in order to get what you want. When you do these things you will discover your life changing along the way, but remember, it may not be evident at first.

Keep this in mind: what do you want? Do you want the results (your dreams/goal) in the future or  do you what you have now? Whatever you focus on is what you will get more of. It is your decision. If you want your life to change for the better you are learning what you can do to make that happen. It is up to you to do it.” Rex Sikes

*I suggest you go back and read through these blogs again and again. You will discover things you missed when you read it the first time. What you missed was there all along but the person who goes back to read again has already been altered by life along the way.

You are not exactly the same person you were yesterday, a week ago, a month or years. You are changing. When you read something later you may bring a new awareness to it because you have new life experiences since the last time you visited. You understand things differently the second, third and forth time you read the same material. So Read, re-read, and implement. It is not the reading that will change you but what you put into practice from your new understandings.

Have a wonderful day! Imagine how much more marvelous you can make it.

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Are You Waiting For Paradise? What Are You Waiting For? PT 1

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when you arise think of the privilege

“Past, Present or Future. People say, ‘live now’, not in the past or the future. ‘Now IS the only time you have’. I agree. I have learned you can not live in the past. I certainly used to. I preferred what came before to what is and what may be. I longed for the good old days. I mourned their passing. Until one day I realized for myself that it was true no amount of wishing would bring anything back. People I missed and reconnected with had moved on, only I hadn’t.

I believe part of the reason I so adored the past was that I was not ever taught about goals. My present was okay at best, so I tolerated it. Even when it was pretty bad I didn’t think there was much I could do about it. I had been encouraged to do whatever I wanted as long as I got a job and worked to make money but no one ever truly educated me in how to set goals and work in a disciplined fashion. I did not know how to make plans or how to get my goals. I was one of the most undisciplined people I know.

Life was about dealing with whatever happened. Whatever didn’t happen didn’t. I thought much of it was the result of others or circumstances. If someone else got something I wanted in life that was because luck was on their side. I was just unlucky. I had no say in what happened to me. Career success just a matter of the right breaks. I had no clue how to make my own breaks or move forward. Clueless, is how I lived much of my life.

I became a meditator and began to appreciate the now much more. I began to focus so much on ‘this moment’ that I paid no attention to what was down the road. I knew the past was over, my beloved past was not available. NOW is all I had. So I lived moment to moment without respecting the needs coming down the road very well. I had no future I had only now.

This was not that different from living in the past actually. I lived in the past with no regard for the future, living in the present was essentially the same. It was just more immediate in where I put my attention. It was not about friends or times long ago but about about those things right now. Basically, I traded one outlook for a similar outlook only I did not realize this at the time. I got the same shirt only in a different color.

I literally had to train my mind to begin to look into the future.

dream is goal w deadline

We all have to learn how to do this but for some of us it may happen earlier on as they grow up. As an adult, I had to being to force myself to consider where I was and what I wanted that would improve on my lot and my life. I could no longer leave it to chance. I had to actually decide what I want and work to make it happen.

For some readers, they may think, ‘well duh?’ Yes, it is true. I had to turn my attention from the now to the then. I had to decide what I want, what goals i wanted to set, and when I wanted it, the deadline. I learned that it wasn’t enough to want something you needed a delivery date. If you bought a pair of shoes online you want to know when you expect them to show up. You would never think to make the purchase with an ‘anytime in the future’ date of delivery.

Of course prior to this moment, I always wanted things to happen for me but I didn’t expect to get them. I wanted them, yes but I only hoped to get them. They were wants, yes, but not what I must absolutely have and go after to get. They fell into the category of, ‘it would be great to have these’ but ‘how come I don’t have them’.

Back to the shoe purchase analogy. You find what you want, you make the purchase, you get a delivery date and you expect to get it when and as promised.

I didn’t fully appreciate that if I wanted certain things I would have to make them happen. I looked at my shortcomings, my lack of knowledge and experience and resigned myself to the fact that I just didn’t know how to get what I hoped to have.

After years of aimless living I came to an understanding that if anything was going to change I had to change what I was thinking and doing, or what I was NOT thinking and NOT doing. It was not just a matter of what I was doing it was also what I was leaving out that was critical.

It became very clear that I was most like a cork that bobbed along in the water, moving wherever the current took me, longing for the past distant shores, or even enjoying the present surroundings, but with no destination in mind, nor power to get there. I had to change something, I had to change this thinking. I had to embrace new thinking if this was at all possible.

I wrote down what I wanted and began to review it throughout each day numerous times. I have described this method in previous blogs. I filled my mind with what I wanted to occur in the future and imagined myself already living as though it was mine.

Back to the shoes again: I had to select what I wanted for myself. I had to make a decision. Once I knew what I wanted I put in the order. From the moment I knew what I wanted I imagined what it would be like having it. People often visualize what they will look like wearing the new shoes. They may see others making a big deal about their choice and how cool it is. They visualize in their minds, right now, what it is like to live wearing the shoes even though the purchased shoes haven’t physically arrived yet. Do you understand what I mean by I imagined myself living as though it was mine?

desire back by faith

I steered my mind to the positive and chanted affirmations energetically, passionately. I took charge and made it a point to do something each day in service of the future I wanted. I made the future important to me!

NOW, it would be very easy, for some of us, to be so focused on what we want to make happen that we sacrifice our present for a later date. Fortunately, I came to the realization that this would not be a very good thing.

What I realized, early on, was that my present was a result of my past thoughts.

The lack of consistent plans and goals and positive thoughts resulted in where I was, aimlessly floating. My present was a result of my previous thinking or lack of thinking. Could it be that our future is dependent on the thoughts we think today?

I realized, then, that my current thoughts determined and created my future experience. Whatever I was currently thinking and not thinking about is what I would get in return. My future is dependent on where my mind is right now.

energy goes where attention goes

It became obvious to me that if I wanted a different sort of future it would depend on what I did right this moment.

WOW that hit me like a ton of bricks. My future is dependent on what I am thinking and feeling right now! Right this moment we are creating our futures! More next time.” Rex Sikes

Make today the finest day you have ever had. I mean, why not?

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Here is The Secret: How To Get The Positive Results You Want And Make Your Dreams Come True Part 1

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repetition of thought Napoleon Hill

The key, the trick, the most powerful thing you can do is focus on where you want to be and not what is going on around you. If what you are experiencing is less than glorious you need to ignore that and focus on the positive results you do want. As captain of your ship you need to be clear on your destination and not concerned with how difficult the journey may be.

Focus on the results you want to get in your future and not what you do not have at the moment. Even if things are crumbling around you you must stay focused on what you want and when you want it.

It may be the hardest thing you have to do but you must do it.

I repeat: You get and you become what you think about. If you are focused on what is wrong, what you don’t have, the lack of funds, whatever the problem is, you do not help yourself overcome these. You are focused on what you don’t want and your mind and being is filled with all the problems. The result is that you end up getting more of what you do not want. Certainly, you are not going to get what you want by concentrating on and worrying about what you don’t want.

Remember the planting seeds analogy I have used. If you plant wheat you will not get corn. If you plant peas you won’t get carrots. You get what you plant. As for the results in your life you get what you plant. If you spent all your time planting wheat but wanting corn we’d think you were crazy. You can’t get the results you want focused on what you don’t have. BUT if you focused on the corn you wanted AND you plant corn you are going to get corn as long as you take care to nurture it properly.

we reap what we sow choose carefully

Yes, it may be difficult to stay focused on the positive but you stay focused you must. You must steer your ship back on course when you get off track. You must focus on the results and the deadline you want and not on what or where you came from or the difficulties. You can’t move forward looking backwards.

You won’t move forward being focused on where you are right now. You get more of what you focus on. If you want to move forward focus on where you want to be AND on making sure you do move inch by inch in that direction.

What you MAY focus on from the present are all the good things.

When you focus on what you are grateful for and all the things you enjoy right now in this moment, and from your past, you open the door to get more of these. Concentrate on feeling grateful, filled with joy, peace, love and happiness these are great to focus on!

Concentrating on confidence and what you are able to accomplish is fantastic!

Thinking highly of others and treating them the way you want to be treated brings you better relationships and connections with others who may be of help to you too as you move along. Keep in mind no one ever succeeds alone. SO think the best of yourself and others.

Create the you and the life and world you want to live in and focus on these. Bring all the wonderful memories and moments from your present along with you. That is a great thing to do. Keep the positive while creating more positive!

REMEMBER: Stay focused on the positive results you want to have and not the shabby results you may currently experience.

Fill your dreams and goals with positively charged energy.

I’ve suggested writing what you want to have down and then looking at it through the day. Read it out loud to yourself with fully charged energy and confidence at least twice a day.  Do this every day without fail.

The results you get in the future are based on what you are doing now just as where you are today is a result of the thoughts and actions you took in your past. Stay with your goal, fill your being with it. In your mind see it and enjoy it. Act as if you are already living it. Do this often each day. Keep doing it every day, every week.

When you plant a seed it takes time and you do not see the results right away. YOU HAVE TO KEEP THE FAITH. This may be the most difficult part of the process. It may be hard to hang in there when there is no evidence that you should but you should. YOU MUST stick with it if you want to get the results you intend to get.

Stick with it, stay with your positive practice and it will pay off. It won’t happen if you quit. You won’t succeed if you don’t do the work. If you are not committed, if you slack on your practice or if you are wishy washy with your focus you aren’t going to see it come to pass. The odds are against you.

The only thing that will bring about the positive change you desire are the changes you make.

think to success

Reading about it won’t make a difference. It may inspire you but you have to implement what you learn. You can read about a wonderful meal and desire it but that is not the same as eating the beautiful meal. You must eat and digest on a daily basis (a number of times during the day) to stay healthy. Put into practice what you have read about and learned.

You must focus and remain focused on WHAT YOU WANT in order to engage your unconscious mind to work on it for you (the servo mechanism).

You must  provide a clear image to the unconscious so it knows what you want it to do. This is why the power and focus of your conscious mind matters. You must deliver the right message to your unconscious mind – then your unconscious works on what you want it to work on.

Remember, your unconscious mind is already working. It IS always working!  If you aren’t getting the results you want to get it – it is because you have not provided clear instructions for it to carry out. It doesn’t know what YOU want – it only works on what you have already been giving it.

I repeat: If you aren’t getting the results you want – it is because you are not sending it the clear message of what you DO want. It IS currently producing and carrying out actions from what you have been sending it. You are where your thoughts have brought you. You will go where your thoughts take you.

This is important to understand and act on if you want your life to change for the best.

This is why it is so important to decide what you want for yourself. You must decide on your most important goal. Napoleon Hill called it ‘your definite chief purpose’ and you must concentrate on making it come to pass.

You stay focused on positive thoughts and fill your mind and being with positive thoughts and feelings. You can not let the present get you down you must persevere even when the going seems impossible. Keep what you want, your goal, in mind at all times. This is how you end up getting what you truly want.

I will share more in the next post. Meanwhile enjoy and make your life wonderful.” Rex Sikes

Have a wonderful day! Make it really special!

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Make Today A Celebration!

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start your day with gratitude

“Make today a celebration. Find all the magical moments. Seek out all the little things you can put your attention on and enjoy.

gratitude magnet

Find the numerous reasons why today is wonderful. Look for all the fun and delight and amazement that you can discover.

its a gppd day to have a good day

What about this moment is good? What about this moment is new? What are you grateful for? Who are the special people in your life you appreciate? What are your special talents and abilities you are thankful to have?

gratitude magic

What if you could find more blessings today than you ever thought you could? Perhaps, you will if you will really try. Make it a point to make this day special by collecting special moments. Look for and find what makes you feel marvelous.

go without complaining

What makes you feel inspired? Who would you like to help put a smile on their lips? The more you look the more you will be able to find. Begin right now. Do it today!  Then do it tomorrow too. Aim high and keep going.” Rex Sikes

How many wonderful things will you discover about yourself, your life and others this day? Celebrate & delight!

See you next time. Have a great day!

 

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Positive Thinking Part 3 What Is Your Excuse?

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your mind is a garden grow flowers or weeds

… ” I daily read and filled my mind with positive thoughts. I created some positive AFFIRMATIONS. I thought of these through out the day. Later, I discovered the awesome power of asking DIRECTED QUESTIONS of myself. I have mentioned the power of directing your mind positively through the artful and scientific use of questions at other times in this blog and through the years in my writings and workshops.”

Later on I learned the, even more, awesome and incredible power of FEELINGS.

Part 3

It works like this: the mind (our conscious mind) determines the direction (good or bad) the feelings we have drive us there. Whatever we think and feel we end up magnifying. Our feelings drive everything. Our feelings are what help create our results based on our thinking. I will explore this concept more int depth as we continue.

If we worry and are fearful or anxious, angry, hateful or depressed our thoughts and feelings are paired powerfully. It makes if difficult to get free of either and we usually end up with more of the same. UNLESS sometimes, something occurs to shake us awake and we make a decision to be different. Sometimes it is a cataclysmic event in our life and we decide we must move in a different direction.

The same applies when we are positive and confident, joyous, open and powerful, delighted and living with gratitude. Our feelings and thoughts are powerfully paired. It is difficult to shake a person from this way of being, yet sometimes, cataclysmic events shake us and we find ourselves falling into despair. This is possible, yes.

Both negativity and positivity as habits are difficult to break and that is why we operate as we do. Whichever we are predominantly determines what we see, feel, hear, do and get. Positivity or negativity is the filter we use to label our life experiences. It is as  if we have rosy colored glasses or blue tinted lenses with which we see and experience the world.

Our habitual frame of mind determines how we experience life; whether we are mostly happy or not or mostly getting what we want or not. Our mind set, our attitude,  influences everything.

Being positive or negative – each is easy and each is difficult.

Frankly, as creatures of habit, we do whatever we have done.

Whatever we are accustomed to, whatever is most familiar and most comfortable  to us is what we continue to do.

Whatever we have done we keep doing. We proliferate it most of the time. This is why we stay pretty much as we are and experience living the life as we do.

It is either great or it sucks or it is okay. 

We are creatures comfortable with consistency.

Change is difficult for many of us because it means doing things other than how we have been doing them.

I mean consider this, WE like short cuts.  We state that the best way is the shortest way, ‘a straight line between two points’, yet nothing is ever actually straight in life, still that is what we want.

We want it quick, easy, fast, effortless, timeless, we want it perfect, yesterday, low cost, convenient and high quality without ever having to life a finger. We grew up thinking these things. We were influenced by  media, parents and peers. We have adopted many beliefs about ourself and the world from others.

Well, it is true, isn’t it? Who do you know who says, ‘I want to work and work hard to get what I got? If it takes forever so what? Bring on the effort and the delays I can handle anything?’

Yes, people parrot the phrase, ‘no pain. no gain’ but not because they prefer it. They only mean ‘crap, it is going to take some effort and that is painful’. They think that is the way things are, (like death and taxes) there is no choice, you can’t do anything about it and that is how it is. They put up with it.

Face it, most of us want it to be easy. Especially, those brought up in recent decades. We like fast, convenient, tasty food even when it isn’t the best choice for us because we are USED TO having it.

AT the very same time we want change!!! We want changes!!!

BUT WE DON’T WANT TO CHANGE.

This is a huge issue for people. It is a big issue in the corporate world too. In this way people and corporations (run by people) share some practices in common.

The company takes forever to decide to implement a new protocol (they call this procrastination ‘research’) and they may utilize facilitators (within the company or from without)  to help things change BUT NOT TOO MUCH.

Change IS desired but not too much change.

Don’t shake the apple tree because as inefficient and ineffective as it presently is it is preferable to the unknown future and possible consequences.

‘We have always done it this way’. The known, while uncomfortable, IS frequently  preferable to the discomfort of the unknown future.

People and companies tend to remain the same.

They don’t really want to change NOR do they want to have to work at it. They don’t want to put in any effort to make it happen? It will be too arduous, to costly (energy wise or otherwise)  to maintain the new way of being.

Excuses, excuses, excuses!

People remain the same because of excuses. Call it fear, call it resistance, call it reluctance, call it anything you want to call it but do you know what an excuse really is?

It is a thought!

An excuse is a thought that prevents you and ‘excuses you’ from being accountable and responsible for making positive changes.

It is a thought utilized to defend your present circumstances, conditions and mindset. It is a way of giving yourself permission to not do anything at all.

When you have an excuse you are simply using your thoughts to make a case for why you won’t engage in making anything different.

You are making a case for ‘why not’, why you won’t. Sure, some people say they can’t but that is the same as saying they won’t because  the end result is the same.

You could be using your thoughts positively, constructively and powerfully. Ooops you are already using them powerfully to prevent you. Yes, you may be citing reasons or pointing to others and events which you deem as  the ‘real’ cause for why you are ‘NOT’,  but the bottom line is that YOU, alone, are using your mind to limit you and limit your possibilities.

Okay, again. YOU could be using your thoughts positively, constructively and powerfully to make desired changes and open the doors to wonderful new ways of being and having that, MAY AT FIRST seem uncomfortable for you, but you aren’t yet.

Yes, anything new may be uncomfortable at first.

When you buy a new pair of shoes you may have to ‘break them in’ and get used to wearing them, so they fit right. Once they are comfortable you barely notice them at all, unless something changes, you get a pebble in them, or they break, then your attention again goes to the shoes.  The point is once the new shoes are comfortable and fit, you don’t ever think about them or the process of breaking the shoes in.

Okay, you understand that example?

When people learn a new skill typically they are not great from the get go. They are awkward . It is difficult or even uncomfortable at first. The reason for this is because it IS NEW. You never did it before. The learning curve may be steep. Almost anything we do for the very first time is not our best.

Our best comes from doing it again and again correctly over time. We get better that is what progress means. We improve as we go along.

So what if it seems a little unfamiliar at first? So what if it is difficult or uncomfortable why should that stop you?

As you read that previous question did you think to yourself, ‘right lets keep going’ or did you come up with an excuse? Did you mutter, ‘Ya right, easy for you to say’ blah blah blah…

I say, don’t let a thought prevent you from acting in your own best interests.

You see, if fear of the unknown stops you it can stop you whether the change you want to implement is negative OR positive.  The same fear mechanism drives the show.

Some people don’t do anything unless the results are guaranteed. That is just another excuse. You can’t move forward unless you are certain the pay off will be what you want.

If you feel uncertain, or fearful, or can’t see the payoff then maybe you just don’t do anything. That is best way to stay exactly as you are. It seems that is what most people want. They want change but they really want to stay as they are. They don’t want to have to change anything.

Do you get it?  We want change but not really. We don’t want to give up our comfort. We don’t want to have to work for it. We do not want to shake up our current situation. Maybe, we are better off just as we are? they think. Then they find all the reasons to justify staying the same.

My guess is that you have done this countless numbers of times over countless numbers of things. Is it possible I am correct? I bet I am because I sure have done this.

We’ll discuss more next time.

Right now concentrate on those things that you enjoy about yourself and others, Take time to stop and smell the roses and really be grateful. Look for what is good about your life and what you want more of. Focus on finding delight. Continue to practice gratefulness and make your list each evening.

Pause to think throughout each day, how wonderful today is. Think this is the perfect day no matter what is going on. Keep your thoughts positive. Steer to center whenever you discover yourself off course. Enjoy it. Take time to enjoy it. DO this repeatedly.” Rex Sikes

Make it simply marvelous for yourself and others today!

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Life Is About Creating Yourself

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life is about creating yourself

“You have the opportunity to make your life what you want it to be. You can become anything you want to become. It is all up to you and no one else. It is up to you to create the ‘you’ you want to be. You may not have realized it but it is your decision, it IS within your control and it is your responsibility.

Some people live as if they have no choice, no power and as if life is whatever comes along. They live haphazardly. They accept whatever life offers but they don’t like it. They wish it were otherwise.

If you want it to be different the fact of the matter is you can make it different. It is completely up to you.

Take charge, make the decision to be the person you have always wanted to be.

Take control of your thoughts because when you do you will take control of your feelings too. Take charge of your feelings and you will take charge of your thoughts. It works both ways. When you align your thoughts and feelings your actions come into harmony with your purpose and your desire.

I am in charge and I am choosing

When your thoughts, feelings and actions are in harmony with your purpose you begin to powerfully create. You become like a targeted laser beam. Then you live with power, with confidence, with purpose and you can achieve whatever you put your mind to. You go after your goals with full commitment. Nothing stops you. You keep going until you accomplish what you set out to do.

When you are congruent in mind and body, when your thoughts and feelings are aligned, your energy is directed and not wasted.

You can clearly imagine the ‘you’ you have always wanted to be. You can see the life you want to enjoy in your mind. When who you are, or who you want to become and what you want in life are crystal clear and concise in your mind then you are able accomplish it. Then all your energy is freed up and focused on what you want.

When you are focus in this manner all your energies are concentrated on bringing it into being. You are not divided. You are whole. YOu are congruent. You are complete.

Your focus is established. You are determined.  You believe in what you want to accomplish and your abilities to accomplish it. You have complete faith that sometime soon this will be!

With this mind set you are able to persevere. You are better equipped to deal with challenges and never give up. You recognize difficulties as opportunities to get feedback. You learn from tough times and mistakes because your entire being is in ‘go’ mode and you are moving forward to making your dream come true.

forget why it wont believe why it will

Most people live tossed about in many directions. They are happy one moment and worried the next. They are determined one day and fearful and exhausted a few days later. They do not understand that if they want to make something happen they need to manage their thoughts and their emotions. If they want to make something happen then they need to make it happen. It will come about by the power of your will.

It may take some time to bring your thoughts, feelings and actions  under your direction but it is absolutely worth it. If you aren’t running the show the question is who is?

I liken the mind to breaking a wild horse.

The horse is beautiful and powerful and runs wild doing whatever it wants. To break a horse is to train it and give it purpose. The purpose you have for it. (Whether in life this is a good thing to do to an animal is not part of this discussion. My point is about the practice of training the horse). You teach it and you correct it. You repeat it and in time the animal learns what you want it to do. You carry this process out until the horse is dependable. It takes some time and some effort but when the training is complete you reap the rewards.

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It is true for us too when we bring our thoughts and feelings under control. We spend time in training to be able to do what we want to do. We get the training to be able to carry out the goals and purpose of the training.

We train ourselves to go after what we want. We train ourselves to carry out the actions necessary to get the results we want.YES, it takes some effort at first but when once trained all that energy is the aimed at accomplishing our goal.

Train your mind, harness your spirit and make your life what you want. Create yourself!”

Rex Sikes

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Learn to Wait and Wait Well! Then You Will Get It!

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“It is said, that ‘Patience is not the ability to wait, but the the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting’. (Joyce Meyer). How true that is.

When we begin to create a new life and future for ourselves by keeping focused on positive thoughts and feelings things inside us begin to change. They do! But they may not change fast enough or we may not see indications of these changes right away. We set a goal and work towards it but the outcome is not readily apparent.

This is understandable. When you plant a seed it takes time to grow. It grows in the invisible darkness underground for quite some time before it breaks through the ground and reaches toward the sun. Farmers know that there is a time for planting and a time for harvesting. You don’t plant Monday and harvest Tuesday. Seeds sown take time to grow.

So it is with all good things. We focus our attention consciously on what we want, we maintain it positively and infuse it with positive wonderful feelings and we wait.

It may seem like nothing is happening out there in the real world. Our inner world is transforming but we don’t see the results yet.

Well, they will come in time as long as you remain true. As long as you remain committed and continue to focus your life will change and you will eventually see the positive results come to be. SO maintain a positive attitude.

It takes time for the artist to conceive of the painting and complete it. However long that process is (or isn’t) it still takes some time. Nothing is instant. A building is still made brick by brick. Can you imagine how long it must have seemed to lay the track and create the East West railroad in the U.S.? Can you imagine the hardships endured to make that railroad a reality? It certainly wasn’t easy and it didn’t happen over night.

‘For everything there is a season’. It takes time so hang in there.

We become what we think about most of the time. We are today where our thoughts have brought us. We will be tomorrow where our thoughts take us. If you can see it in your head you can hold it in your hand.

And it takes time.

That is why the quote I cited in the very beginning is so relevant.  Patience is not the ability to wait, but the the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting’.

We always have to wait but how we wait matters.

We need to keep the faith and believe it will happen and not lose site of what we are positively creating. We must keep going even when it does not appear that anything is happening or changing. We stay focused on the positive images and feelings. We know there will come a time when we will harvest the seeds we planted. These seeds are currently growing.

‘Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.’ Faith is knowing that the invisible processes are taking place. Faith is knowing they are taking place even when we can see them. Faith is knowing that somehow it will all work out okay even when there is no reason to actually think that it will. In other words we can’t see what we can’t see yet.

We live by faith that the processes we initiated will continue to grow and come to fruition. We live by faith that we will accomplish our goals no matter what. We will go after and get what we want even if it appears that nothing is changing. We will stick with it no matter how many obstacles or challenges rise up in front of us to prevent us from reaching.

We need to believe and know that we will.

That is attitude! That is a positive determined attitude!! ‘If you can conceive it and believe it you can achieve it’.

You can’t let circumstances get you down. Even if everything is presently crumbling around you stay focused on what you want to make happen for yourself. Do not give in to the temptation to give up or feel bad. Stay strong, stay positive and feel your best. You will come through it but you must know that you will.

You can’t look back, you can’t look at the difficulty you must look ahead to what will be. You must stay focused on the future you want to create for yourself.

This is why we train our minds to remain positive so that no matter what occurs we live with the very best positive attitude. Attitude is everything.

It doesn’t matter what you don’t have you stay focused on what you want. Let’s say you want a brand new car, just as an example. Give yourself permission to want it and to have it. Accept that it is going to be yours because you deserve it. Imagine yourself driving it, see it, notice how good it feels to be in the driver’s seat your hands on the wheel. Smell it, hear what you are saying to yourself and thinking as your drive around in it. See it in your driveway. Imagine living with it. Doesn’t it look and feel great?

NOW it doesn’t matter if you don’t have money or a job, and have mounds of debt. None of that matters. NONE of it!!!

YOU focus on WHAT –  YOU –  WANT.

You keep the images alive and the feelings great because even if things currently suck (to use a scientific term) you still are entitled to get your dream car. I hope this makes sense. Many people will think ‘wow things suck so I will never be able to get my dream car’. That is not the attitude to have.

You have to keep the faith. You have to stay focused and not waiver. Believe that no matter what some day you will have the car you want. Feel great about having the car! Enjoy and savor these feelings. Keep it alive and stay passionate about it.

What you are doing is waiting well.

You have set your mind on course, in a direction, and you are traveling in that direction no matter which way the wind blows. When you keep the focus and the energy on what you want you are literally telling yourself ‘figure out how to make this happen’.

That servo-mechanism I mentioned in previous posts takes over and works at getting it. Your brain works on making a plan finding the opportunities to earn the car. Most probably it isn’t going to be magically given to you but by staying focused on your goal and not giving in to negative feelings or thoughts you optimize your chances to figure out how to get it in the future.

It takes time. However long it takes is what it takes. So…

If you have to wait, and you will, you might as well wait well.

I repeat: You have to keep the faith. You have to stay focused and not waiver. Believe that no matter what some day you will have the car you want.You can’t look back, you can’t look at the difficulty you must look ahead to what will be. You must stay focused on the future you want to create for yourself. Feel great about having the car! Enjoy and savor these feelings.

I used the example of a car to try to provide you with something you could easily imagine – a possession. It could be anything you want for yourself.

We become what we think about most of the time. We are today where our thoughts have brought us. We will be tomorrow where our thoughts take us. If you can see it in your head you can hold it in your hand. And it takes time.

Be patient! You will make it happen!” Rex Sikes

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Positive Thinking Part 2 What’s In Your Garden?

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The garden doesn’t care what you plant. It does not make a difference to the soil whether you plant flowers or weeds, food or poison. Once planted the seeds grow.

Nature will take care of the growth if you don’t tend to the garden. Left alone it will grow. Wild weeds will arise that can take hold and overwhelm the flowers and food. The garden left alone and wild may not produce the garden you hoped for.

When one tends to the garden the weeds are removed and the garden is manicured both for health and beauty. This garden can become what you intend it to be, what you imagined it to be.

Some people  just throw seeds on the soil, hoping they come up and that nature will do the rest. Sometimes, that is how it works. Some people throw seeds around without much thought as to how it will turn out. They let whatever will be, be. You can do this too, perhaps you have.

Some people make plans. They imagine the garden they want to have. They know where it will be, what size it will be, how it will look. They know what will grow in the garden. You can do this too, perhaps you have done.

If you have no plan or no idea, if you give no thought to what the garden will look and be like, it will be whatever it is. You will end up with whatever you end up with. You may be surprised or disappointed because it is not up to you.

There is another way.

Since it is your garden you can decide how you want it to look and what kind of garden you want it to be. You decide where you want the plants and what kind. You may landscape it any number of ways. Perhaps, you include a bench or a pond. What kind of garden do you see?

It is in your mind the garden first originates. Once you see it in your mind you might draw it on paper. Some people do this. Architects and engineers work this way. They see a room or a building or highway in their mind, they envision it and then draw it out according to the specifications. You can do this too.

You plan and design the garden. You prepare the soil,  sow the seeds and you take care of it. You cultivate the garden and help it grow so that it will become what you intend it to be. You take care of it. You do not leave it to chance. You do not leave it alone.

Remember, everything begins as a thought. Everything in the human world, created by humans, first originated in the mind before it  became became physical reality. There is a translation process from the head to the hand. The thought reality IS transformed into a physical reality. You first think it and then ultimately you craft it or you carry it out.

What is interesting to note is that the mind, just like soil, does not care what is planted!

Let’s back step slightly. In my previous post I likened attention to a flashlight. Your conscious mind IS the mind with volition. You direct your attention consciously, with purpose. You choose where to aim the flashlight with you conscious mind.

Your unconscious mind or your subconscious mind (some people like the phrase ‘other than conscious mind’ is the garden. It is the like the soil. It doesn’t matter what is planted in the subconscious mind. It doesn’t care what seeds are sown.

The subconscious is as a ‘servo mechanism’ which is just like it sounds – a servant mechanism that carries out functions regardless of what you consciously choose. It beats your heart, fills your lungs, digests your food, circulates your blood, regulates your body functions with none OR very little participation from you consciously. Imagine what life would be like if we had to remember to beat our heart or breath?

The unconscious mind carries out functions and habits with no regard as to whether they are positive or negative, good or bad. If you learned to smoke you will smoke it doesn’t matter to the unconscious mind although consciously you may decide you wish to quit. It doesn’t matter if the habit is over eating, drinking, chewing your nails, picking your nose in public; any habit good or bad this servo mechanism carries it out reliably.

It is claimed that we mostly function at the unconscious level all of the time in everything plus we have a portion of awareness for conscious thought and determination. We are creatures of habit, have an order for how we shower, what we wash first, we get dressed the same way each day, we eat food the same way, we take the same route to work, unless otherwise necessary, we  get angry the same way, get happy predictably in the same way, most of everything we do we can do without much conscious thought.

Try to change a habit and you know how difficult that may be. That is because the servant mechanism works reliably not haphazardly. It is completely 100% dependable no matter what, except it the rarest of circumstance. It works 24 hours a day 7 days a week non-stop, And it does not care. Frankly, it doesn’t care about you. All it cares about is keeping on keeping on. Survival. It functions to keep you alive and it will carry out whatever it has learned to carry out.

We tend to personify our unconscious processes, we tend to think of these as another human within ourself, or as an ‘it’, or an ego or an id. We try to imagine it many different ways and all of our analogies may be partly accurate and partly wrong.

I am using the notion of the soil and of the servant mechanism because they are useful to demonstrate the principles being discussed. Your unconscious mind is like a computer (another poor analogy but useful) in that it will run whatever  programs you put into it just as your computer will.

Whatever they programs are designed to do ‘it’ (the computer) will do.

If the programs were designed to destroy the world or build a ferris wheel or design a garden that is what it would do without conscience. It’s only function is to carry out the programs. It has no choice.

In the very same way this aspect of you will return to you negative or positive thoughts, feelings and behaviors with no regard for you whatsoever. It will do so reliably over and over again just as it beats your heart.

If you program it with less than glorious material that is what it will give back to you.  So this is why I have used the analogy of a garden and the seeds.

It does not care whether you plant good or bad thoughts, positive or negative. Whatever is planted IS what will grow.

Negative thoughts will produce negative thoughts, feelings, actions and negative results. It will not magically result in positive thoughts. You would not expect to get acorns if you planted peas, would you? You wouldn’t harvest corn if you planted wheat. You get back whatever you plant. You plant rice you get rice You plant poison you get poison. You will not get something else.

Don’t you find it odd that people do one thing yet expect different results?

Actually, it is a bit sad. People hope for something different yet they continue to do the very thing that insures they will remain the same. You get what you plant.

The popular definition of insanity IS doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results. It would indeed seem to be insane if you said ‘I planted acorns and I am going to get celery when I harvest’.

This next point is critical to keep in mind.

Typically, the seed will become a plant that can produce many other plants and countless numbers of seeds. Rex, you speak the obvious you may be thinking and yes that is true. Still, it is important to understand.

One apple tree may produce hundreds of apples. One tree could produce thousands of apples during its life time and hundreds of thousands of seeds.  Some of these seeds  become other apple trees. These trees, in turn, produce more offspring that produce more seeds and other offspring. The potential return is enormous off of just one single seed that grows.

Talk about a Return On Investment (ROI). One seed can produce a tree that can create a potential forest of apple trees.

Thinking and thoughts work in the very same manner.

Thoughts return more of the same kind of thoughts which continue ad infinitum. One of the ways our memories and minds works is by associations. For example,  I say the word ‘dog’ what comes to mind. Stop, think about it.

DOG.

From that one word  you can generate an image of many different types of dogs or many different images of different dogs or even the same dog.

You may have a number of experiences with dogs that you remember as you consider ‘dog’.  Experiences from your recent past or from long ago.

Watch now how this will change.

What happens when I say ‘ BAD DOG!!!’ Examine what happens in your mind.

Are you aware of your image changing? Did it bring up different images of dogs, or maybe a specific dog? Or specific instances. Again memories from long ago or recently could be recalled? What happened for you in considering this?

Alright how about you consider ‘wet dog’.

Again, same or different dog, same or different memories, same or different times?

How many dogs, different dogs and different memories and different times and places and people and situations might you have recalled just thinking about what I asked you to think about?

All I gave you were three different words yet these words trigger associations or memories of many other examples.

I gave them to you in a particular order too. Maybe it depends on however I give them to you. Perhaps order has relevance. I gave you dog, bad, and wet. I could add COLD, or HOT or FUN.  What happens?

If you thought about any of the memories or associations or thoughts you came up with perhaps you ended up of thinking about other pets, or people or places or times too. Anything is possible.

The point is nothing exists in isolation. Thoughts return other similar thoughts. These in turn may lead to other similar thoughts. The possible connections could be endless. From one thought many more may follow. Like thoughts produce or attract like thoughts.

Negative thoughts return more negative thoughts!

Your enjoyment of the garden is determined by what kind of garden you create. How you think about it and feel depends on what you planted.

It all boils down to what you are planting.

What kind of garden do you want to have? What is it you want to harvest?  What do you want more of? What do you want your life and your experience of life to be like? WHAT DO YOU WANT?

Positive thoughts return more positive thoughts. The potential return is enormous. Like thoughts produce or attract like thoughts.

The soil of our mind is already returning whatever it is we have planted.

If what you have planted in the past resulted in weeds or poison it is time to decide to change what you are planting. Unless of course, that is what you want for yourself. But, most of us have much better taste than that, we just aren’t sure how to make it different.

So we do the same things over and over (we do the things we know to do or think we are supposed to do) thinking we will get different results. We won’t, but we keep trying. It as if we keep banging our head against the wall trying to get out of the room because the door is locked. IT  doesn’t work.

The results you are presently getting getting are a result of what you thought and felt in your past. The results you get in days to come will be the result of what you thought in your past and in your present.

If you do not change something in your thinking nothing will change. If you want your life to change you have to change things in your life.

IF you have negative results it is because you were planting negative seeds.

So what does it mean to plant seeds. How do you plant a thought? We will continue this discussion as we move into other posts. For now, if you don’t like the results you are getting you need to decide to change that. You will have to do things differently to get different results. Some people just don’t know how to change, or what to change but they still want to.

We will continue to examine what you can do to get what you want. You will learn how to plant positive thoughts to get positive results.

I have shared with you a small portion of how the subconscious mind works. It is the servant that carries out orders. You might wonder where these orders come from or how you ended up doing (or thinking and feeling) whatever it is you do, in the way you do it, whether you want to or not. Carrying out orders IS the domain of the subconscious mind.

CHOICE is the domain of the conscious mind.

We will discuss these further and how you can make positive powerful changes in posts to come.

In the meantime look to the positive, find what is good and new, what delights you and what you have in your life that you appreciate. Count your blessings. Enjoy your day!” Rex Sikes

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Energy Flows Where You Put Your Attention: What Is Yours On?

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“It is an easy concept to understand: Energy flows where you put your attention.

Aiming our attention works similarly to aiming a flashlight.

Whatever we aim our flashlight at is illuminated, the area is highlighted, bathed in light. We can see more clearly. The energy goes where you aim it. WHATEVER we put our attention on energy flows to it.

Other ways this has been said are: Whatever we put our focus on expands. Whatever we put out we get back. Whatever we think about we get and become. Whatever available space we have we fill up.

It doesn’t matter what we think or feel, whether we think good or bad thoughts,  positive or negative , we get back more of the same. We get back more of what we pay attention to. What we focus on really does expand.

If we want to feel better, think clearer, and have a more wonderful life then we need to put our attention on feeling better and thinking better. We have to place our attention on feeling and thinking better the bulk of each day. What we think about most of the time IS what returns to us. What we think about and hold in our consciousness really does matter.

If we want to feel better we focus on better feelings. We put our energy into thinking better thoughts. The more we concentrate on positive thoughts and feelings, that which we like and enjoy and want more of, we discover more becomes available.

If we want life to be better there is something we can deliberately do to make it better. We must focus on the best to get more of the best.

Some people live life as though things happen to them. They think they have no control. They experience life as a series of lucky or unlucky accidents.  Some people live as if they are corks bobbing in the water going wherever the current takes them whether or not they enjoy it. They do not have purpose or direction and may even dislike where they find themselves. They feel lucky when good things happen.

When something comes along they dislike they think about it, worry about it and resist it. They put their energy into what they don’t want. They struggle for control because they do not believe they have any.They fight and resist many things.

Resistance always brings more of the same energy. What you resist persists is a popular saying. It is true for the very reason that  energy goes where your attention goes. If you fight anything you are engaged in keeping it active.

For example, It takes two to argue, or two opposing forces. A fight can go on forever because each party keeps it going on. Each person tries to trump the other, beat the other by any means available.  They resent and dislike each other.  When they are  together they argue when alone they think about what they should have said or done to get the upper hand. They focus on what is wrong about the other person and the situation.They relive the argument over and over in their minds. As long as they allow it to continue it will.

If you want something to end you have to stop giving it energy. If you don’t want something stop putting energy into it. Stop thinking about it. Start thinking about what you do want instead.

If you don’t feed your pet, or yourself, you will die. If you stopped watering your plants they would die. When you stop giving energy to your problems your problems will die. Energy goes where your attention goes. Take your attention away from what and the energy will go away.

Put your attention on what you do want and you will give it the energy it needs to grow.

Whatever you feed and take care of can live and prosper.It doesn’t matter what it is, if you nurture it it will grow.

If you take care of weeds they will grow just as flowers will. Whatever you keep putting your energy on will continue to flourish.

It doesn’t matter WHAT you water (flower or weed)  it it will grow.

WHICH you water (flower or weed) determines what you enjoy.

Nurture your positive thoughts and feelings. Pour your energy into thinking and being and feeling your very best. Imagine your life the way you want it to be and pour your energy into these images.

Stop worrying about what you don’t and don’t have or what isn’t working. If life crumbles all around you it doesn’t get better by paying attention to or focusing on the crumbling.

I’ll say it again, your life will not get better if you keep focusing on what you don’t like and don’t want. For your life to get better you must focus on what you want to have and keep your attention and energy there.

Focus on what you want to create for yourself. Focus on what you already have that IS wonderful and appreciate it.

Put your energy into making each moment more wonderful . Put your energy into and onto whatever is good,  happy, joyous, confident, peaceful, sumptuous, delightful, incredible and more. You encourage these when you do.

You have a choice. That is simple to understand. What you focus on is ultimately your choice and your choice alone.

It may not seem that way BUT it is your choice.  It may not be easy at first to choose what you want to focus on but it does get easier once you do it. The more you choose to put your energy into being positive  the easier it becomes.

There is another truism I like to repeat. Here it is: ‘The more we do  the more we can do.’ Our talents and abilities improve with practice.

SO keep this in mind: You life is a reflection of where you have been putting your energy.  It is your creation whether you accept responsibility for creating it or not.

If you don’t like where you are you can change it. Make it a point of taking responsibility for creating your life. Take responsibility for your choices and you can make your life much more wonderful. Decide now where you will put your energy. It may not seem easy at first but it is absolutely worth it.

I repeat, if your life isn’t to your liking you can change it” Rex Sikes

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What Is This About And Why. What! There Is More?

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In my previous post I asked: Can we live a life worth having? Can we love and enjoy being loved? If we have only one go around then why not find the way to enjoy it and others as best we are able? Can we create a wonderful life and a wonderful world for everyone?

These are questions I find important that we ask ourselves and the purpose of this blog is to help us ask questions that bring us more wonderful results and answers.

I wanted to continue to explore some concepts.

Some people are concerned about problems and issues for themselves and the world.

With so much access to so many difficulties people face in the world, war, poverty, starvation, discrimination, hatred, territorial mentality, them against us, I felt it was time for me to put out there a vehicle, this blog, as a reminder for me, and those who might follow it, to help make the world a more glorious place for all. We can become the change we want to be in the world. We can one do that by one. If we each take responsibility  we may change the world but only when we actually try. If we do nothing it will remain the same.

I don’t believe we won’t end war by declaring more war. We won’t end poverty, destitution, poor health, disease or starvation either, or any problem by declaring war on it. That is a tired out useless, political metaphor that has not served us well at all.

We can focus on positive solutions that include, rather than exclude, that clarify rather than obfuscate, and that create more well being and harmony for all when we seek harmony and well being for all.

We will never end problems of not having enough by focusing on not having enough.

We will end these problems when we seek to have all people having plenty.

So much of the world’s issues are political in nature. wWe have wars over resources for profit we always have had these. We have border issues who should be in and who should be kept out. We have some rich people who have it all and others  who have nothing. The rich claim the poor want to take it from them.  The poor claim the rich are holding them down. We have people who hate other people because of their skin color, their religion, their politics,  their gender biases. We have people who hate people because of who they love.

There is lot’s going on. It has been going on forever.

I don’t think the world will ever change when we fight these things the way we have been fighting them.

We give energy to the problem and don’t give much to the solution. Television pundits and legislators spew hate and intolerance. The big and the little voices on the internet point out someone else who is to blame. It is always someone else doing something wrong that is a problem for everyone else. They should be stopped, locked up or shot. It seems the solutions proffered, for the most part, come from hostility, scarcity thinking, fear, and retribution. It is them against us.

The focus is always on the other person, the other nation, the other one who is causing all the bad, or evil and how they need to be severely dealt with. We have war on poverty, drugs, illiteracy, homelessness, the list is endless AND what have we ever solved.

Are we richer, better off, healthier, do more people have homes, use less drugs, read more books? It doesn’t seem to be the case. We still have right against left accusing each other of overspending, underspending, grift, self interest, fraud, cover-ups and more. Frankly, it is not bound to end anytime soon.

Some people think we need a unifying event. A world calamity, aliens revealed before we all come together as the single species we are and work together for the benefit of all. I am not sure even that would help as most likely we would declare war on the aliens too.

So what do I think might help? I am not sure what the answers are that would please anyone. I don’t think you can provide a single answer. I do think that we have tried big dramatic things with little or no results. I am not sure any of us are ultimately better off for any war the world’s people have engaged in, though I am certain you will find proponents for each of them.

I don’t think declaring war and doing what we have done, threatening, drawing lines in the sand, getting tough, you know we need tough love or tougher approaches, has worked very well either.

Certainly, in some cases we are better off in some ways for some attempts while in other cases, in other ways we are worse off because of some attempts. It is never clear cut, it is never absolutely one way or the other. This kind of thinking seems to be part of the problem.

‘There is a knat problem here hall out the bazookas and blast them.’ Not only do we use overkill, but the saying ‘if you only have a hammer you treat everything as a nail’ seems to apply to many of us and to many of those in power. We try the same approach on everyone and everything.

My approach is a bit different. I believe we are better served inching our way toward what we want and making positive incremental changes good for most everyone that to try caustic dramatic measures that leave damage in its wake.

Who the heck would  come up with a  term like ‘collateral damage’ EXCEPT to make it  palatable and acceptable. It isn’t in any case.

So why am I a proponent for positive thinking. I thought you would never ask and I might never get around to it.

Here is why:

When you make your life incredible and fill it with joy and love and peace and harmony you are too busy having a good time to wish others ill will. When you live from fulness and abundance you don’t have to horde or fear that someone else may get your share.

When you manifest your dreams and discover the joys of this world and you wish the same for others the world becomes a better place because the people in it wish well for all.

If you can be positive others can be too.

Let me make a base argument here if I may. If I am having incredible sex with someone I am not trying to prevent anyone else in the building from doing the same at the same time. It is only when someone else has something we want that it becomes an problem.

If every atom of your being is radiating with light and love and fulfillment you won’t be causing anyone else any trouble.

It seems much of this world, the issues, can be boiled down to this simplistic way to think – I don’t have what they have and I want theirs so I will take it OR someone is after what I have and I won’t let them take it.

I mean really isn’t that the bottom line.  We want their land, food, water, oil, money, resources or whatever because then we will be better off or we fear that someone is after what we have and will rob us of it. Whether we are robbed at gun point or through social welfare someone will take from us what we think is ours.

The neighbor has a better car, boat, house, husband or wife and we feel bad. Their kids are smarter or better looking and we feel bad. It we compare all the time in a one up one down fashion we are bound to not feel well much of the time. There will always be those who have more. SO WHAT?

No matter how many times it is pointed out you can not take it with you we still act as what we have is actually ours.

Maybe we would be far better off world wide if we realized we are on borrowed time and all these ‘things’ we only get to enjoy temporarily. They do not belong to us.

Maybe, instead of acting as if we are entitled to anything we should act as temporary stewards and protectors of all these things.

I am all for people having as much wealth as they can accumulate. I do think the world is abundant but I don’t find hording all the wealth a good thing. I think it is important to realize we are all in this together.

People claim they worked hard for their money. True, some have. Still, no one makes it alone. If you worked hard to manufacture and advertise widgits and you made a fortune you did not do it alone. Scores of people helped all along the way from idea to consumer. Everyone is partly responsible for your success. To think otherwise is RCV vision. RCV stands for rectal canal vision or it means you have your head up…

We are all in it together. Some play harder than others, some seem not to be in the game hardly at all, but we are all here together. Seems to me we ought to figure out BY THIS TIME how to get along and play nice.

To exclude anyone for any reason seems wrong to me. We hear the tales of old of pillaging and raping and killing villagers to get the spoils and we still do this today in other lands, in our own lands and neighborhoods and to our environment. We horde and scar and waste.

Why might this be? I think greed and fear. If you are afraid there won’t be enough to survive or thrive or WHATEVER you act differently than when you know there is plenty. When you are physically starving you may take drastic measures to insure your survival AND I UNDERSTAND THAT. That makes a lot of sense. Your survival mechanism kicks in and you may do anything you might otherwise not do.

Fight or Flight in the jungle, the real jungle or the urban jungle makes sense. Predatory beasts seeking food might eat you. So you either flee if you can or you fight to survive. You do whatever you think will maximize your chances.

The problem is we live in a world where there IS actually enough for everyone even though our populations have swelled, yet, political forces have prevented people from having access to food, clean water, energy, territory, resources, money you name it. The greedy have divided up the world. You wouldn’t do that unless you were just basically greedy or you feared their would not be enough for you. Yes, yes, some want world domination I am sure.

The bottom line is much of the accumulation comes from fear in some form.  If you aren’t afraid and you know everything is plentiful you don’t have to act as you have been acting.

It may seem trivial to state the obvious, these people do these horrible things because they either think they have to or because they think it is enjoyable. Yes, I reduced it to a couple choices, I know,

When you think about it people are fighting for what they believe is scare. How would most of us know if anything is actually scares. You have direct experience with it. The poor person starving in some country because their government won’t let them eat or produce food has direct access.  The rest of us only hear about it. BUT because we hear about it we may think that is true everywhere. We may over generalize and think food stocks are scare in many places. We may then start to horde because of the impending zombie apocalypse and create fall out shelters and arm ourselves so that if our neighbors needs some food we can shoot them too.

The problem as I see it is things, thinking get exaggerated and blow into fears. I suspect some people want us to be afraid for their own purposes, or divided and at odds about anything, doesn’t matter what we argue about, just that we argue.

It’s just that if we think the other person is the enemy, then we will never unite, never come together or collaborate, we will never be cohesive and accomplish anything. Maybe, it doesn’t require anyone orchestrating this at all, maybe it is just what we end up doing all on our own because of our thinking.

So I believe our thinking needs adjustment more than the real world out there needs adjustment. OR said differently, I believe that if we think better, smarter, wiser, more optimistically we will get better results because we may find better methods for improving our world than all those we have tried unsuccessfully so far.

I am a proponent for thinking that  the more power you have the more responsibility you have. I think we should be accountable for our actions and want to create a better place for all. I think we should seek to find ways to make more pies instead of dividing up the ones we have. There is plenty for everyone but not in the minds of all. In some minds, and they may be very poor or very rich, they seem to think that there is not enough, or that they must fight to get everything they can. See you can be very rich and have a very poor mentality.

People who are carving up the world and the lives of others aren’t operating from the highest intentions, the most positive frames of mind. They aren’t thinking what is good for the goose IS ALSO good for the gander so lets spread it around. IT IS precisely the mindset that IS the issue. It is how we think and what we think that makes all the difference.

Do any of us think we would be facing many of the problems we do if everyone had embraced the ‘Do unto others as you would have others do unto you’ philosophy? Would we have any of these issues if we all adopted the love your brother, turn the cheek, forgive and take care of the least of these… ?

My guess is we would not. Hey, I am not spouting religion here I am making a point. If we all had a better positive mind set and philosophy might not we all be better off? Would we have violated the planet and each other if we loved and cared for the planet and each other? I think not.

Still, someone is bound to be saying right now, ‘wow yeah, fer sure, but not everyone thinks like that, there will always be self centered greedy asses, there will always be poor people, there will always be problems…’ and yes there will be. The fact that there is opposition to our thinking doesn’t mean we shouldn’t think it.

What it means to me is that  I am responsible to me.

I want to have the best life and best of everything possible.

I want everything I can lay claim to but not at the point of depriving others what they too could have. If we ever got down to the ‘last cookie scenario’ I’d like to think I would be willing to share it with whomever is huddling in the bunker with me. If it were my kids they would absolutely get it. I would go without.

As many parents I love my kids I want the best for them. In a situation such as that they would get my share of the cookie. Yes, I also understand the notion of putting on you breathing mask first in the plane as it plummets before helping your child, so that you might actually BE ABLE TO help your child.

Nothing is cut and dried. I certainly don’t have an ultimate answer. I do not propose to solve any of the world’s problems. What I hope to do is inspire people to be kinder and gentler to themselves and more accepting of others and circumstances.

We haven’t yet actually embraced the notion that all the people on this planet ARE exactly the equivalent of a group of people in a life boat on the ocean. We haven’t have, have we? We are though, traveling through space on a vehicle too vast to realize we are all in it (on it) together. We are all, every single one of us, traveling in the exact same direction at the very same time.

We are all in the boat, whether at sea or in space.

Doesn’t it make sense that at some point in time we will have to figure out how to best get along and distribute our resources to maximize our time alive.

The key for me, AND BELIEVE ME, I know and understand the limitations of examples and analogies, they serve a useful purpose but they never address all the counter points that could be brought up, they are imperfect vehicles, as I am, the key for me is to be nicer to self and others while we have the opportunity.

Maybe, just maybe, one by one we will change the world. Maybe we won’t. We never will if we do nothing that is guaranteed.  So I think things do go better with positivity. I do think we are better off when we think about what we may do to make our life and the lives of others better.  I think we would all best be served by wanting to make sure the planet was better off. It is simple, instead of taking always, we gave something first.

If everyone decided to always leave another person better off than when we encountered the person we would be mutually benefiting each other in win/win ways. I am all for starting small, doing things we can do a little bit each day.

Some people on January 1 join a gym with the intention of working out and getting healthy. They have every intention, but then life, appointments, family or other things take precedence. Unused gym memberships is a multi-million dollar business. They get caught up or they over do at the start and they are sore and have to take off time to recover or it is just too much on their plate and so they stop.

It would be better if they found some small exercise they could do at home, work or the office, even the car that they could repeat through each day of the week, then to do nothing at all. They would make progress more slowly it is true, but much more quickly than no progress at all.

Yes, for me it is ALL ABOUT mind set. Everything begins with a thought. Every human invention or endeavor is the result of some one and others thinking about it, conceiving it and bringing it to be.

Napoleon Hill said, ‘If you can conceive it and believe it you can achieve it’

I don’t think our issue is as much being able to conceive it as one might think. I think plenty of us can conceive of a more loving, kind, peaceful world where all get along and have plenty.

Still, I am sure there a countless numbers who can not imagine it. If you can’t imagine it how could you ever bring it about. You couldn’t because you wouldn’t even know it as possible. So yes, some can conceive it, others can’t.

I think the bigger opportunity for us is believing it. You see, there are those who can’t conceive it and hence don’t even entertain believing it because it is outside their awareness. Never enters their minds.

THEN, there are those who can and DO conceive of it and dream of a better world but just can’t bring themselves to believe it is possible. It is beyond their ability to believe it.

Finally, there are those who can conceive of it and who are able to believe it. They believe there can be a better world. Fewer in number though, I am sure.

If we think getting everyone to conceive and believe it IS impossible it certainly will be.

If we focus on what we don’t have and where the trouble is that isn’t going to help.

So the question is: What do we do, what can we do to get more people on the same positive page each day?

What actions can we individually take, and together take, that will result in more of us able to conceive of a better world, and believe that we can create it no matter what opposition we face?

What can I do to make the world a better place today?

What can I do to make another’s life better?

What can I do today to make my life better?

I started with the world and brought it back to WHAT CAN I DO.

I think the questions we ask IS the starting place.

Good positive questions can help us find answers.  We have to begin.

We have to ask wise and useful questions – a better class of questions to guide us toward what we ultimately want.

It is easy to say no, to claim never, and to do nothing. It is another thing to stay open to possibility. I don’t think we change the world all at once, people have tried through various means. They are still trying and we are still being inundated by their attempts.

While terrible things occur, there are wonderful things occurring too.

The world is smaller today because of media and we have immediate access to all the woes of the world 24/7. Now, more than ever. In the past are were influenced by  bad news much more slowly as it traveled by word of mouth over great distances. Later newspapers informed groups of people eventually becoming a faster news source. Then radio, then television, now all of those plus the internet. impinge on us daily.

We can’t escape bad news. It is on TV, streaming, internet, Facebook, twitter, you name it is spreads virally like wild fire. Nothing travels as fast as bad news. Still, there is good news in the world. We should remember that. Actually, maybe we should focus on that more than the bad news. Have you considered that? Maybe the world ISN’T as bad as we are lead to believe.

As I have mentioned, it is not about ignoring that which needs changing, but it is about becoming more intelligent how we go about changing it.

One of the things we need to do is to determine what we want to pay attention to and what we want to be influenced by. I don’t isolate myself from news, some people do, but I aim my mind at finding the best I can in a bad situation. I spend most of my time seeking out the cool wonderful things to pay attention to and appreciate rather than the bad things. I want more good stuff and less bad stuff AND I want the bad stuff to get resolved in positive ways.

What to do? For me, I decided, the least I could do was get my own house in order. Get my positive mind set on. I think if I can discover that the world is an incredible place with enough for everyone maybe someone else can too.

It all begins with a thought and it all begins with me. It is up to each of us to recognize that. So while I asked those questions earlier from what can I do to improve the world to what can I do to improve me the actual effective order is from smaller to larger, from local to global. Take care of your own home first, then neighborhood,  the community and so on.

What started out yesterday, as a short statement to say hope you enjoy the blog, it is not written expertly, morphed into this longer post about why the blog.

The purpose of this blog is to spread a little joy and possibility thinking each and everyday.

Hopefully, some will read something I share and then and recognize something good about themselves that they may have forgotten. Perhaps, someone will find more things to appreciate and be grateful for. Maybe someone will aim toward something higher, or set an important goal and take steps toward attaining it.

The blog hopefully, will help the reader recognize the good things that make the reader a valuable person. I hope it will provide for each of us a thought or inspiration  that may wake us up to a new positive possibilities in us and around us.

I hope it becomes food for  us to make ourselves, others and the world around us just a little bit more wonderful each day. We can do it bite by bite.” Rex Sikes

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