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What To Do When You Are Stuck In A Bad Story You Keep Repeating PT 2

“In my recent post I asked, what is a fact and what isn’t? I asked where could you put your attention when things aren’t going right, so you can unlock positive, productive possibilities? Today, I’ll  elaborate on how you can make positive and powerful changes.

There are times when you feel down and beaten. Do not let yourself get too far down. It is important to take control, in spite of circumstances and do whatever you can to feel better. To feel your best. Negative thinking produces negative feelings and it loops.

You can spiral down or spiral up. It is always your choice. It may not seem like it is. You may have learned to feel helpless or that things are hopeless but you aren’t and they are not. That is only prior negative conditioning and it can be changed. Seek to change it.

You Are Not The Product Of Circumstances But Of Your Decisions

Do whatever positive things you can to feel better. Take a walk. Work in the garden or on some physical project. Exercise, do yoga, get a massage. Run, sing, jump. Hang in nature for awhile. RECLAIM YOUR POWER and feel as best as you are able to.

Even just a little better is a step in the right direction. Keep taking steps in the direction of feeling your best and you will eventually get there. Keep the faith when all seems hopeless. It is hard at first, especially, if you haven’t yet conditioned yourself to do this. You can!

So where else might you put your attention that would be more productive and feel better. Think and speak only to bless, heal and prosper. What story do you want to perpetuate? The habitual negative, limited one, or the one with positive possibilities?

Joy Is A Decision – Happiness Is A Choice – Decide To Live Well

You aren’t aware of what you aren’t aware of. You can’t be. But you can begin to become aware of the other possibilities that are available to you by shifting your attention. How might things be otherwise than how you think they are? Consider  this.

You may think you have the gospel version and that is because of your prior, chronic, limited, negative conditioning. You are locked in a thought habit. You think you know how it is because this is how you operate. Do something this time. Change what you think.

It is your choice! Energy flows where your attention goes. WHAT DO YOU WANT TO CREATE? Ask yourself? HOW DO YOU WANT TO BE FEELING? What questions do you need to ask and where do you need to put your attention to do this? Then ask and then do!

Stop Reinforcing Negative Habits – Reinforce Positive Habits

Since you don’t know what you don’t know, STOP being limited by what you think you do know. Be willing to explore what else might be there you just haven’t considered yet. Explore. Search your inner resources. Make it a point to feel your best in spite of the obstacles.

Focus on gratitude. Focus on the little you have because when you do it expands. You can grow it. You can amplify the good or the bad it is your choice. How do you want to live? What do you want to feel like? It is always your decision and you determine the outcome.

The results you get are based on what you choose to focus on. Do you want to feel restricted, limited, and less than glorious or do you want to feel positive, powerful and unlimited. Either one depends on how you choose to use your mind. Start making positive changes.

Don’t Miss The Obvious Because Of The Obvious – Become Aware

DECIDE NOW to STOP REINFORCING NEGATIVE PATTERNS and scenarios. STOP living as a victim. Stop perpetuating your own limiting myths and start telling new stories. Start focusing on the good. Start living as a victor. Take charge!

When you take charge, when you deliberately focus your mind on the positive, when you live in gratitude for anything and everything, everything begins to change. You can make it all different. You can start living how you deserve to be living. DO IT! AND celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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What To Do When You Are Stuck In A Bad Story You Keep Repeating

“What is a fact and what isn’t? I spoke with someone who described a situation and said, ‘that is the way it is.’ They let me know  they weren’t expressing, ‘it is what it is’, but that their version of reality was the only version. They felt circumstances couldn’t be changed.

They (I use they to obscure the individual and gender) felt they knew how everything was and would play out. I reminded them to be careful what story they were telling and repeating to self and others. After all, this is how we interact. We describe our history; our day.

Be sensitive to what you continue to perpetuate and to what you want to create. Put a guard before your thoughts and words. SPEAK ONLY to bless, heal and prosper. SPEAK ONLY the version you want to perpetuate. Speak the truth in advance of it happening. Declare!

Most People Miss The Obvious – Because Of The Obvious

Let the rest go. For example, when you think, ‘I don’t have enough money. I can’t do it. I will never find real love. Business sucks. With this economy I will never succeed. I am so unlucky’ or any other limiting thought variation, ask yourself a question or two.

‘What am I not noticing right now, that I could be seeing, had I another level of awareness? What am I missing that I could soon begin to notice? What else might I pay attention to that I haven’t yet? How might things be otherwise than how I think they are?’

‘What am I not seeing, not noticing or considering, that’d make a difference? Where else can I put my attention that would be more productive? Consider this: you are simply reacting the way you typically react because of your prior, chronic, conditioning. Get it?

Become Alert – Become Aware – There Are Infinite Possibilities

You aren’t noticing what you don’t notice, hence you accept your version as the only version. I am not trying to get you to doubt yourself. I am trying to get you to doubt your limiting version. It is only a mental creation, as is anything else. You can believe it or not.

As Henry Ford stated, ‘whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you are right.’ In other words, you don’t know, what you don’t know. There are many other possible avenues for you to pursue than you realize. It is important to be open to other versions. Get it, yet?

‘In how many different ways might I discover I am truly loved and can find an ideal mate?’ May be a question to consider. ‘How quickly can I discover that I have always had enough money, even when it didn’t seem like it, Things always work out and I land on my feet.’

Recognize When You Are Stuck In Your Own Loop And Change It

‘There are businesses all around me. Some do better, some worse. How soon might I be delighted, to begin, to discover the many different ways I can improve my  business success? ‘In how many different ways have things always worked out positively for me?’

EVEN IF I DIDN’T NOTICE IT YET! Awareness is an ongoing process. We can’t consider everything. We typically consider what we are used to considering. There are many things outside our present awareness we could consider instead. This is important!

More in the next blog. Now ask yourself, what can you feel grateful for? Discover your many blessings you haven’t fully validated, yet. Put your attention on the good. Fill your mind with what you have that IS working. Suspend putting attention on anything less than glorious. Begin now to celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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‘How Come I’m So Stupid?’ Ever Thought That?

Would you like to learn to manage your thoughts and feelings, or would you rather ask “how come I am so stupid?” Who would ask that and why? Yet, people do all the time. They ask themselves terrible questions which don’t make them feel very good.

Your brain doesn’t care what you ask it. It doesn’t judge. It doesn’t even know how to judge or make discriminations. It just does what it is told. Well, actually, it just REALLY does what it has been conditioned to do. Yup, conditioning is automatic and reliable.

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That is why we think, feel and do things we don’t want to. That is why we feel stupid, unloved, and worthless. That is why we procrastinate or ‘sabotage’ our efforts. We don’t really sabotage we just do what we were programmed to do, until we change it, that is.

Your Attitude Determines Your Altitude 

And change it you must, if you want it get ahead. If you want to be happier, healthier, wealthier and wiser, even sexier and a whole lot more fun, then you must change your mental conditioning. You must re-program or re-condition yourself. You have to learn new habits.

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While learning to take control of your thinking, practice gratitude. Fill your mind and being with thankfulness. It is one of the quickest and easiest ways to make permanent, positive, changes. Fill yourself up with appreciation. Put your attention on everything you are and can be grateful for. Focus on these continuously. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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What The Question ‘What Do You Want?’ Does For You

Asking what do you want clarifies your thinking. It re-focuses you. It puts your attention on what you want and what you want to include. It takes your energy from what you don’t want and wish to exclude and re-focuses it. Get it? It shifts you from powerless to powerful.

It helps put you back in the driver’s seat and in charge of your own life. You can use it whenever you have a limiting thought, feeling or behavior. You can use it regarding events, circumstances and others. Let’s say the bank refuses your loan. Ask ‘What do I want?’

Of course you want the loan, but why? What are you attempting to accomplish? What is the larger goal? What are you wanting to feel? There may be other ways of legitimately getting the outcome or the money, without the loan or going through the bank. Understand?

Energy Flows Where Your Attention Goes – Focus And Flow

It allows you to have a next step. You don’t have to know how it works out, but by asking ‘what do I want’ you focus your attention and energy on what is truly important. From there you may get other insights and ideas, flashes of intuition, if you listen.

When arguing with a loved one, remember to ask, ‘is this what I want? WHAT do I want?’ You can decide, ‘No. I want to get along. I want both of us to feel loved. I want to communicate with each other better. What do I want? I want to get along!’ That can change you!

When you go back to what you want and what is important to you, it focuses the energy on THAT instead of the argument. Get it? You refocus. You determine what is important to you and you seek to make that happen for both parties. YOU change the situation.

You Get What You Focus On – What You Focus On Expands

You shift things by making your internal adjustments. You don’t blame, whine, accuse, excuse yourself or the other, instead look for the positive, good you can focus on, that changes you and helps improve the situation for both of you. Get it? You shift and change it.

It gives you the means to get out of being stuck in non-productive, even repetitive, mental and behavioral loops. If you keep doing the same thing, hoping for different results, that IS the definition of insanity. If you want change, you must make changes. Get it?

It is up to you. Re-focus your energy. What do you want? Clarify and determine what is positive and supportive that will help you get what you want. What is it that is good for you and for others? Focus on making these changes along the way. Are you getting this?

Your Mind Is Powerful – Fill It With Positivity – And You’ll Change

Most likely, you will need to ask it, or do it, more than once. Trust me! You will. You can ask moment to moment. Every time you engage in a new behavior you can ask. When driving to work, how do you want it to go? You could think, ‘I want a safe, enjoyable drive’.

Listen to your answers. What do you want from your meal? ‘I want my body, mind and spirit to easily process this wonderful meal and fill me up nutritionally’. Or. ‘I want to maintain my ideal weight’ so you adjust what you eat and how much. Get it? Use the question.

Use it to guide you moment to moment. In any situation alone, or with others you can ask. Clarify, then move forward, once you have. This question, and the others I gave you, can be a real game changer when you routinely apply them to your life. So don’t stay the same.

Direct Your Mind Where You Want To Travel – It Will Take You

Especially, if you don’t want to. If you want to grow and evolve and make positive changes, using these questions can move you ahead more easily and quickly. So too, can practicing gratitude and understanding that each of life’s many moments are blessings. So celebrate everything!: Rex Sikes

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What Do You Want?

“Are you thinking and feeling and acting positive, or not? It’s important to consider. You want to be. Here is the next crucial question you ask, to move you closer to getting what you want. ‘What do I want?’ You can ask this moment to moment.

‘Is this what I want?’ You ask this repeatedly. Whatever happens, whatever results you get, whatever thoughts, feelings and actions you make, question yourself and ask, ‘Is this what I want?’ or ‘what do I want?’ Clarify what you want by asking ‘what do I want?’

Get it? Make certain you are moving in a positive direction. Each moment you can ask, ‘is this what I want?’ If it isn’t, ask, ‘what DO I want?’ Use it to change your thoughts, feelings and behaviors. Direct yourself continuously to the positive good you DO want. Get it?

Direct Your Mind Positively – Ask Questions To Clarify Your Wants

If you aren’t getting what you want, stop. Stop spending your time re-creating what you don’t want. Change it! Move in the direction of getting what you do want. If you think, ‘I can’t do this’ is that what you want to think? NO! Think instead, ‘I can learn to do this.’

Get it? ‘I can look for someone who can assist me in learning how to do this. I can learn to make it happen alone or with coaching. I can begin to do this. I can begin to move forward and make it happen.’ Affirm and visualize what you want to happen. Direct YOUR mind!

This question is important. It is so powerful! It stops you. If you aren’t getting what you want, why would you ever continue? Right? It illuminates the chronic, conditioned, habitual thoughts, feelings and behaviors so you can become aware and change. It illuminates!

Whether You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You Are Right

It brings attention to your answers, which are your thoughts, beliefs and limiting beliefs. Whenever you discover you are limiting yourself, excusing, blaming, or whining, too, you can stop. Then begin to change them. If you don’t want that belief, what one do you want?

Get it? Are you with me? Is it making sense? Watch this!  You must ask it frequently. ‘Am I getting what I want? What do I want?’ I am providing some variations, but the point remains the same. Stop doing what you don’t want. Change it to what you want! GET IT?

Develop the habit of being your own best, positive, supportive friend who helps you move towards your goals and dreams. Realize at  any moment you, and your behaviors, thoughts and feelings are either positive, supportive and moving you closer to your goals OR not!

We’re Living And Growing Or Withering And Dying – Choose

Get it?  I really hope you will. I am driving home an important point. You determine the success and happiness you will experience by how you think about things AND the questions you ask yourself. You always have been, even if you didn’t know or assume responsibility.

You have been creating everything all along by what you think and do. Time to take charge and decide how you want things to be, instead of haphazardly creating things, as you have in the past. Sometimes you got good results. Sometimes you got unwanted ones.

Now you can direct your thinking and feeling and actions to ensure you create AND attract only that which you DO want. GET IT? I hope so. ‘What am I grateful for?’  is another excellent question! Ask it a lot. Emphasize gratitude and feeling blessed. Direct your mind. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Success And Happiness Is Determined By How You Think!

“In recent blogs, I taught and I encouraged you to ask, ‘does this support me? Is this supportive or non-supportive?’ A very important consideration. Something either supports and uplifts you, or it does not. I snuck in another question, too. Perhaps, you noticed it.

If something is not supportive, ‘what can I change; what thought, feeling or behavior?’ If you discover your thoughts aren’t supporting you, then you should, you must change them, to supportive ones that help get you the results you want. Awareness, then shifting, is key!

If you do something that makes you feel bad, you want to change it to something that makes you feel good. Realize, you should have a conscience too. You ought to do what is best for you and everyone involved. I am never suggesting you do anything to harm anyone.

Whether You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You’re Right

That includes you and others. Be sensitive and be good to all. Another consideration, prior to getting into the next question I share, is this question? Is it positive or negative? If something is negative and doesn’t support you, change it? Focus on the positive.

You get what you focus on. You want a better life? You don’t get one by focusing on negativity, what is wrong or lacking. You make your life better by focusing on those positive thoughts, feelings and actions you can take, to get you positive and better results. Get it?

The point of these questions I am sharing, is to bring your awareness to the moment. Is what is going positive or negative? Does it support you or not? What change can you make to your thinking, feeling or behaving that will shift it from negative to positive and supportive?

Change Your Mindset And You Change Your Life – Be Positive

More next time. For now keep focused and keep asking. Stay tuned to what you are grateful for. This combination of gratitude and positivity, with questions that direct  you into being and feeling supportive, is unstoppable. Make it your new habit. Master it. It is amazing. Celebrate everything! Rex Sikes

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You Must Stop First Before You Move On!

What can you ask yourself that makes an incredible difference and sets you in the right direction to create, and attract, your goals and dreams? I  provided two answers in my recent blog. Now I’ll share with you some more powerful suggestions to utilize daily.

Questions direct the mind. In order for them to direct your mind in a positive way YOU actually have to STOP and then ask the question. Do this whenever you notice yourself thinking, feeling or behaving in less than positive, glorious, good ways. Stop and ask.

It isn’t about getting an answer. Forget about seeking the answer. It’s ALL about asking the right question. It’s all about directing your mind. It’s all about becoming aware of whether you’re moving closer or farther away from what you want, while taking right action.

Change Your Mindset And You Change Your Life

You have to stop asking negative questions. Stop asking, ‘why things don’t work out?’ Stop asking ‘why you can never get ahead, or are broke, or unlucky in life and love’! Stop asking questions that cause you to feel worse. Do you get it? You really need to shift mindset.

Ask ones that cause you to become positive, powerful and change! I gave you two last time. Use them. I’ll share one or two more. For now, ask the positive questions that direct your mind in powerful and positive ways. Spiral up into positivity, not down into negativity!

Not everything is positive or supportive. We react to ‘hot buttons and triggers. We’re conditioned; habitual. The only way you break free and transform yourself is to become aware. You have to notice when you are caught up and acting from old, chronic programs.

You Won’t Change And Make Progress Without Making Decisions

You must stop. Take a break, a pause, a breath and then start the new program. Think of driving your car, When you realize you are moving in the wrong direction, you stop, and turn around. Get it? You discontinue traveling in the old way. You stop, and shift or turn.

You begin moving in the direction you want to be traveling in. Same thing with training your mind to work for you instead of against you. You must become aware. Awareness is the  doorway to change. You must BECOME AWARE, notice what isn’t working, and change it.

Change it to something that works better. Think, feel, and act better by asking yourself the questions I have been sharing with you. You stop and DECIDE to be, do and have things differently, YOU make A decision and follow through with it! That is how you TRANSFORM!

Distance Yourself From Negativity And Beautiful Things Happen

In my upcoming blogs I share other powerful questions you can ask to make an incredible difference for you. Stay reading. Keep using the material I have shared with you. Practice gratitude. Stay feeling appreciative and blessed by all of it. Be thankful. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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