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Positive Thinking Part 4 Stuck? How You Can Change!

September 8, 2014 rexsikes 3 Comments

“People remain the same because of excuses. Call it fear, call it resistance, call it reluctance, call it anything you want to call it but do you know what an excuse really is?

It is a thought!

An excuse is a thought that prevents you and ‘excuses you’ from being accountable and responsible for making positive changes. It is a thought utilized to defend your present circumstances, conditions and mindset. It is a way of giving yourself permission to not do anything at all.

When you have an excuse you are simply using your thoughts to make a case for why you won’t engage in making anything different.

You are making a case for ‘why not’, why you won’t. Sure, some people say they can’t but that is the same as saying they won’t because the end result is the same.

You could be using your thoughts positively, constructively and powerfully. You could be creating the life you want.

The fact is you are already using them powerfully to prevent you. Yes, you may be citing reasons or pointing to others and events which you deem as the ‘real’ cause for why you are ‘NOT’, who and what you want to be, but the bottom line is that YOU, and you alone, are using your mind to limit you and limit your possibilities.

Part 4 How To Change.

What I discovered is this:

I believe that things are easier for me when my attitude is optimum and I feel my very best. I know that when I think positive thoughts and focus on what I can do I feel better. I know that when I feel better I think better and am able to do more, more easily.

Our thoughts and feelings go hand in hand so I want the best of both. When I am thinking great thoughts and having great feelings things not only seem much better but I am much better equipped to ‘tend to the garden’. I function better, it is that simple. I am better.

I understand that WHATEVER I am thinking I am endorsing. If my thoughts are less than glorious and are focused on not having enough, not being enough, or not doing enough the result is I feel less than glorious and not much like doing anything.

I understand that what I currently have in life is due to my thinking and my efforts. If I do not like what is going on currently, then for me to have a better future, I must change or fix something now, in the present. I know I am not going to be able to wish things different, I am going to actually have to make things different.

My thoughts determine how much I am willing to attempt to do this.

In order to make things different and better in my life it is important for me to think and feel and do my very best. I need to be at my optimum. I can’t be half way committed.

It is said, ‘you don’t get uphill thinking down hill thoughts’, and for myself, I have found that to be quite accurate.

The way I get there is to fill my mind each day with positive material. I mentioned reading each day to stimulate and help you focus on the positive and what you can do. I suggested doing no less than at least a page a day, more if you are able. You can listen to positive messages, podcasts, streaming, cds, it is all available online, much of it for free. There is no shortage of positive audio and video available.

See, if you become what you think about most of the time, the key is to be thinking well most of the time. We eat to be healthy we need to ingest the positive, the strong and positive each day and throughout the day. We need be surrounded by it and bathed in it. This helps immensely. Often, when I find myself off track is when I have spent time getting the proper mental nutrition. I cannot emphasize this enough.

It is not a matter of looking at an inspirational poster or platitude once or twice it is making the positive messages the preponderance of what you ingest and pay attention to. It is filling yourself up so positively there is no room for the negative to grab hold and keeping yourself there. It is maintaining this as a habit. Then you find that you get back more and more positive thoughts and feelings and even situations because your overall being and life is positive.

I have a better life because I make it a point to think better thoughts and to feel better and to work smarter and wiser. How I feel better is determined by what I put my attention on. I almost never feel better by criticizing myself, loathing myself or my circumstances or thinking life sucks. I feel better by choosing to think better thoughts. When I pay attention to those things that make me feel better I FEEL BETTER. So it is important to have a great daily diet of positive inspiration.

I think about what I can do and what is possible instead of what I don’t think I could do yet. I think about who I am and what I have right now that I appreciate, that I count as a blessing and that makes me feel good. I look around at this glorious planet to find those things that inspire me that I can aspire to and that helps me feel better. I look at the beauty of nature, people, animals and find myself smiling and in awe. I look to what is decent and good and pure to feel better.

I seek to find whatever is positive and inspiring because that changes how I feel for the best . I place my focus on those thoughts and things. Whenever I notice that focus waning from the optimal I return it to something positive. I keep doing this each day. This is how I live.

I’ll use the analogy of a tightrope, not because you could plummet downward because of a mis-step, although that is not an un-useful analogy to consider. Negative thinking tends to cause people to spiral down. Obviously, if one leans too much to one side they will fall off the tightrope.

I use the analogy because of the fine balance that is required to successfully walk it. When one shifts too much over to one side an adjustment needs to be made to return to the balance point on center. The walker never walks perfectly straight but is constantly making adjustments to stay balanced.

By constantly adjusting balance one moves forward walking on the tightrope. This process never ends. There is not a moment when balance (in this example) is not necessary. It is always about maintaining balance.

The thought of walking a tightrope might scare some. When one learns to walk a tightrope they begin with a rope on the floor or only inches from the floor, not 40 feet in the air. It is difficult or seemingly impossible at first to walk without falling off. It takes relaxed effort to continue.

The novice walker gets better with practice. It becomes a skill and eventually the walker maintains balance while being able to do other things. They might eat, read a book, juggle, lie down on the rope, jump or anything else because they have trained themselves how to. What they learned in the beginning still applies to the new abilities they add in.

The walker developed the habit of finding and maintaining the balance point to successfully walk the tightrope. Now, too, if they wish they can walk higher and higher in the air. The same skill, maintaining balance applies to 40 feet as it does at 4 inches.

The point is, when they began it seemed impossible. Sometime later, they do it with ease. In order to get good at it they had to engage in it. Reading about it wouldn’t make them a tightrope walker. Thinking they could never be one would not make them one either. They had to try it and stay with it. They had to change some things in order to make it possible.

If you want you life to change you have to change some of the things in your life.

The balance point, the center, for me, is feeling and thinking in the most optimum way through most of each day.

It is the place of positivity that I want to be in. It is where my strength and encouragement comes from. When a less than glorious feeling arises I recognize it, I accept that it is there and then I gently return my focus to what I want instead.

I am learning how to allow whatever occurs and to not resist it. Oh yes, I am a novice. I am learning to not fight these moments when they occur because to fight it would be to give energy to it. I prefer not to waste my energy with what I do not want. I would rather put it into what I want and who I want to be.

I find positive thinking a place of power from where I can be more resourceful, more resilient or flexible. I think better, I feel better, I act better, I can do more and life is much more enjoyable when I am positive.

We will continue this next time. I hope you are enjoying and benefiting from what I am sharing. Life can be so much more incredible than I ever thought it could be. It isn’t only about having more, although that is possible, rather it is about making more of what you already have. I do not mean that you settle for less either.

I decided I might only have one shot at this life. It wasn’t always what I wanted or would have hoped for. I lived many years taking whatever came my way as if that was how it was supposed to be. Once I decided I could have a different life, a better life, I start doing those things that helped make it happen. It is still a work in progress.

I discover two things among many I would like to share and leave you with today. Two quotes attributed to J. P. Morgan. I found this to be so true, I invite you to consider these:

‘When you expect things to happen – strangely enough – they do happen.’ J.P. Morgan

As I point out in the above this is accurate whether you expect good things or bad things to happen. I know many of my worst fears came true and then I learned I could make my biggest hopes and dreams come true similarly.

‘Go as far as you can see; when you get there, you’ll be able to see farther.’ J.P. Morgan

I think of it this way. You never know what you can accomplish until you actually begin working at it. So go as far as you can in your thinking, do as much as you are able, never let a thought stop you, go beyond where you are, because when you do you will discover that you can think and see and do more than you first thought. You can surprise yourself.

So surprise yourself today. After all, after today, it will not be here any longer, it will be a memory. Use the days you have to make them what you want them to be.” Rex Sikes

See you next time. Have a great day!

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Why me? Why Should I Go First?

September 6, 2014 rexsikes 3 Comments

One of the quickest ways to begin changing yourself for the better is to adopt The Golden Rule. The Golden Rule states ‘Do to others as you want others to do to you.’ or ‘Treat others the way you want to be treated.’ This REALLY TYRULY means that you treat others as you want them to treat you. That is the simple instruction. It doesn’t mean you give lip service to it or that you intend to do it, it means you actually do it.

If you want to be respected you respect them first. If you want to be listened to you listen to them first. If you want help with the groceries you give them help first. If you want them to stop nagging you you stop nagging them. The list is potentially endless.

Why should we do this? Because it is powerful? Why s this so important and so powerful?

Because it begins with you. No one else. There is no waiting for anything or anyone else. It is up to you!

It is powerful because it starts with your thoughts. It begins with how you think about others and it puts the responsibility squarely on you. If it is going to happen you are going to have to do it. You initiate it and you maintain it. You begin it and you follow through. It isn’t up to how you are treated in return it is what you are able to do all by yourself.

You treat others the way you want to be treated whether or not they ever actually treat you the way you want to be treated.

WOW, that may have stopped a few readers! Your concern is not their actual response your concern is your mind set, your attitude, and your actions. You have to realize that YOU need to be the change you want to see in the world. You need to become fully responsible.

It isn’t about the other person returning anything to you.That would be you manipulating them. That would be you doing something just to get something back and that is selfish.

The idea is to consider how others want to be treated and then to treat them that way because that is the right thing to do. That puts you in the right frame of mind. It also takes you out of your own limitations of thinking and has you expand what you are capable of considering. ‘How might this other person want to be treated? Hmmmmm, How would I prefer to be treated? Oh, okay, so how might I better be able to treat them in that way?” Just taking a moment to consider these questions when facing situations with others, stops you from reacting on autopilot and possibly begin to do new things. It opens you up, it opens your thinking up to be more positive and inclusive.

When you begin to really appreciate the power behind ‘Treat others how you want to be treated’ d o not be concerned with whether they reciprocate. That is not your concern. Just take care of you by doing good for them. Treat them well. You will do so much to transform everything about yourself when you are able to.

When you can adopt this attitude then you have shifted your mind powerfully!

When you realize it is completely up to you to think well and treat others well first, you are not depending on anyone to do anything for you. You aren’t relying on others to change you are relying on yourself. You are making it happen. This is powerful because now you are taking charge. You aren’t relying on circumstances to make a difference or what others do, you are just doing it.

You put yourself in the driver’s seat. You are not a passenger taken wherever someone else takes you. You determine the route, you decide where to go and what to see. This makes an incredible difference for people.

You are also ‘the other person’.

If you treat another person with respect, love, kindness, and appreciation then you should treat yourself the same way. Do not skimp on you either. You are important and deserve the best treatment. Stop getting down on yourself and start lifting yourself up. Inspire yourself and fill yourself with wonderful thoughts and feelings. When you first make it a prime concern to treat others well then you must make it your same concern to treat yourself well. AND when you make it a prime concern to treat yourself well then you must make it your same concern to treat others well.

When you first seek to ‘do to others as you want others to do to you’ you create the opportunity for them to reciprocate. You put your energy and focus into making others feel good (and important and happy) and FOR YOU to think and feel and act the same.

When you think and feel your very best you ARE more of your best. You become more open, happy, confident, upbeat, enjoyable and a person others may want to be around more. When you first treat others well they ARE more apt to want to return to you what you did for them. They are more apt to want to be around you.They are more apt to treat you better.

Some people say you vibrate at a higher level. Okay, I’ll go with that. You vibrate at a higher level. Your energy is more positive. When these things are true you attract others who have a similar energy or vibrational level. You radiate who and what you are positively. When you put this kind of energy out there you attract this kind of energy back. It will happen!

The point is you don’t just do it because you get something back in return you do it to do it! You do it because it is the right thing to do, the smart thing, the wise thing. When you do you will get it back. You may not always get it back from the person you give it to but you will get it back in return.

If you do something nice for someone and they don’t do anything back or they are mean to you THAT is an opportunity for you. Yes, of course it is a challenge and you may be inclined to get hurt or angry but then stop and think, if you were that person how would you want to be treated in this situation? What would YOU want the others to understand about you? If you were being difficult or nasty what do you really wish others would think about you and do for you to help you out?

Take the higher ground as best you can. They may wound you but do not let it fester. Aim high in your thinking. Aim to generate good will in your thoughts. The reason for this is that it isn’t up to the other person what happens it is all in how you respond. When things occur that you don’t want and don’t like what goes on in you that you can change for the better?

If you can learn that it is how YOU respond to life when life goes well or when it goes awry that will be a major learning for you. That will be a true highlight moment!

When you discover that you are able to evolve your thinking and feelings, so that no matter what it is that comes your way you are able to transform the moment, you become free. You are not tied to old negative habitual thoughts, feelings or actions you now have choice. You can chose which way you want to go and my guess is you choose the higher road. You chose that which is best for you and for others too. When life doesn’t dictate how you are to be but you decide then you are free and you are powerful. You are in charge.

When you are in charge you have more responsibility. You are responsible for your thoughts, your feelings and your actions. You are responsible for the results you get. As you take charge and take the high road you get better results too. You attract more positive people and all around and your life improves.

Evolution begins in us. It doesn’t come from the outside it begins within. It is up to each of us and no one else. If you want your life to change for the better you must do it. Now is always the only time we have. We make a decision for what we want the future to be but now is the time we create that future. If you want your life to be better down the road you must act in this moment. If you want to transform this moment you must do something differently that will bring you a positive result.

It begins with your thinking. So ‘Do unto others the way you want them to do unto you’. Guard your thoughts, make them work for you and serve you well instead of being their servant. Everything begins with thought. When you can control your thought you control the results you are able to get.

As I have discussed in precious posts thoughts attract like thoughts. You want to control your thoughts because the first thought you think leads to others of a like nature. If it is negative you will get more negativity. Just as a snow ball traveling down a mountainside can trigger an avalanche so can your fist thought. It takes effort at first to train the mind and your thinking but you can do it. If you are going to have an avalanche at least think positive thoughts. It always matters what you do first. This is why I emphasize going first. Think positive thoughts first! Do for others first! Give First! You will find an incredible world open up to you.

Become the person in charge you will enjoy the change. When you are filled with happiness, love, compassion, understanding, patience, tolerance, acceptance and all sorts of other wonderful qualities you and those around you benefit. You may benefit the most, but you won’t care, because you will be reaping what you have sown. That will be more than enough.” Rex Sikes

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Energy Flows Where You Put Your Attention: What Is Yours On?

September 1, 2014 rexsikes 2 Comments

“It is an easy concept to understand: Energy flows where you put your attention.

Aiming our attention works similarly to aiming a flashlight.

Whatever we aim our flashlight at is illuminated, the area is highlighted, bathed in light. We can see more clearly. The energy goes where you aim it. WHATEVER we put our attention on energy flows to it.

Other ways this has been said are: Whatever we put our focus on expands. Whatever we put out we get back. Whatever we think about we get and become. Whatever available space we have we fill up.

It doesn’t matter what we think or feel, whether we think good or bad thoughts, positive or negative , we get back more of the same. We get back more of what we pay attention to. What we focus on really does expand.

If we want to feel better, think clearer, and have a more wonderful life then we need to put our attention on feeling better and thinking better. We have to place our attention on feeling and thinking better the bulk of each day. What we think about most of the time IS what returns to us. What we think about and hold in our consciousness really does matter.

If we want to feel better we focus on better feelings. We put our energy into thinking better thoughts. The more we concentrate on positive thoughts and feelings, that which we like and enjoy and want more of, we discover more becomes available.

If we want life to be better there is something we can deliberately do to make it better. We must focus on the best to get more of the best.

Some people live life as though things happen to them. They think they have no control. They experience life as a series of lucky or unlucky accidents. Some people live as if they are corks bobbing in the water going wherever the current takes them whether or not they enjoy it. They do not have purpose or direction and may even dislike where they find themselves. They feel lucky when good things happen.

When something comes along they dislike they think about it, worry about it and resist it. They put their energy into what they don’t want. They struggle for control because they do not believe they have any.They fight and resist many things.

Resistance always brings more of the same energy. What you resist persists is a popular saying. It is true for the very reason that energy goes where your attention goes. If you fight anything you are engaged in keeping it active.

For example, It takes two to argue, or two opposing forces. A fight can go on forever because each party keeps it going on. Each person tries to trump the other, beat the other by any means available. They resent and dislike each other. When they are together they argue when alone they think about what they should have said or done to get the upper hand. They focus on what is wrong about the other person and the situation.They relive the argument over and over in their minds. As long as they allow it to continue it will.

If you want something to end you have to stop giving it energy. If you don’t want something stop putting energy into it. Stop thinking about it. Start thinking about what you do want instead.

If you don’t feed your pet, or yourself, you will die. If you stopped watering your plants they would die. When you stop giving energy to your problems your problems will die. Energy goes where your attention goes. Take your attention away from what and the energy will go away.

Put your attention on what you do want and you will give it the energy it needs to grow.

Whatever you feed and take care of can live and prosper.It doesn’t matter what it is, if you nurture it it will grow.

If you take care of weeds they will grow just as flowers will. Whatever you keep putting your energy on will continue to flourish.

It doesn’t matter WHAT you water (flower or weed) it it will grow.

WHICH you water (flower or weed) determines what you enjoy.

Nurture your positive thoughts and feelings. Pour your energy into thinking and being and feeling your very best. Imagine your life the way you want it to be and pour your energy into these images.

Stop worrying about what you don’t and don’t have or what isn’t working. If life crumbles all around you it doesn’t get better by paying attention to or focusing on the crumbling.

I’ll say it again, your life will not get better if you keep focusing on what you don’t like and don’t want. For your life to get better you must focus on what you want to have and keep your attention and energy there.

Focus on what you want to create for yourself. Focus on what you already have that IS wonderful and appreciate it.

Put your energy into making each moment more wonderful . Put your energy into and onto whatever is good, happy, joyous, confident, peaceful, sumptuous, delightful, incredible and more. You encourage these when you do.

You have a choice. That is simple to understand. What you focus on is ultimately your choice and your choice alone.

It may not seem that way BUT it is your choice. It may not be easy at first to choose what you want to focus on but it does get easier once you do it. The more you choose to put your energy into being positive the easier it becomes.

There is another truism I like to repeat. Here it is: ‘The more we do the more we can do.’ Our talents and abilities improve with practice.

SO keep this in mind: You life is a reflection of where you have been putting your energy. It is your creation whether you accept responsibility for creating it or not.

If you don’t like where you are you can change it. Make it a point of taking responsibility for creating your life. Take responsibility for your choices and you can make your life much more wonderful. Decide now where you will put your energy. It may not seem easy at first but it is absolutely worth it.

I repeat, if your life isn’t to your liking you can change it” Rex Sikes

How many wonderful things do you think you can find today to enjoy and celebrate? Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Positive Thinking Part 1 What Doors You Can Open When You Explore?

August 31, 2014 rexsikes 1 Comment

“There are at least two forms of positive thinking that I consider beneficial. In one you target a goal, develop or adopt a success oriented attitude, and go after your goal until you reach it regardless of what hardships you may encounter along the way. In this case, you know exactly what you want and you go get it because you are positive you can. So you pursue it until you succeed. This is a powerful and positive use of your mind, your feelings and abilities.

The other form is maintaining a sense of gratitude and appreciation for everything you experience. You look for and find the good in everything, the very best there is in your past and present and you accentuate it. You fill your everyday moments with the best thoughts you are able to. You choose happy thoughts and thoughts of well being and you expect things to work out well for you regardless of what life has to offer. You remain cheery and optimistic. You feel good and you enjoy life. You feel an overall sense of wellbeing and you wish others the the same. You experience life as glorious. This, too, is a powerful and positive use of your mind, your feelings and abilities.

For me, both forms are important and work hand in hand.

I think of it this way. I want life, overall, to be more pleasant and enjoyable. So whatever I can do to help make it that way I am all for it.

I think of life as a garden and there are many types of gardens. Some grow wild others are well manicured. While I do want it to grow naturally, I realize that you have to ‘tend to it’ to keep it healthy and looking good. In order to have the garden I prefer I must work at it. I must prepare the soil, plant what I want, provide nutrients and water, weed and remove unwanted materials or pests, protect it and manicure it as necessary. I help make it the garden I desire.

This, too, is how I think about positive thinking.

Life goes on. Life is whatever it is. Life everywhere on the planet occurs largely without me doing anything. Days and nights come and go, events happen, some of which I am directly impacted by and others I am not. Life IS whatever it is.

Regarding my life in the world, I will have to ‘tend to things’ to make it more to my liking.

For me, positive thinking isn’t about magic or wishing for things to magically appear while I do nothing at all. Positive thinking requires my active participation to get precisely what I want. Magical thinking puts the power outside of me (or us) onto circumstances or others. I then am not in control (we are not in control) something else is. I prefer to ‘be the captain of my soul and the master of my fate’. Don’t you?

I do not mean to say that I control the world or events or others, rather, I choose how I move through the world regardless of what is going on. I am learning to RESPOND to the world as I DECIDE to respond, rather than to REACT to the world as I have been CONDITIONED to.

I think of positive thinking as being able to choose what I want to think, feel and act instead of operating from ‘no choice’ and prior conditioning. It is not about ignoring negativity. It IS about changing what I don’t like or what I don’t want for something better thereby creating the circumstances (and the conditions) I do want to live with.

It is about being in charge of oneself as much as is possible without dictating to others how they should be or what they should do. It is the ability to go after what I want and to achieve that while celebrating the life I already have.

Years ago I never thought this was possible. I thought we had to live with and accept the cards we were dealt.

What I discovered radically changed my life. My eyes and heart were opened to new ways of being and doing. A transformation within me took place. As I continue to transform inside of me the amazing thing is that the outside of me transforms as well. I have found that life responds to me, too.

It turns out, it always did. It reacted to me as I reacted to it.

I thought life sucked – so it did. Life sucked – so I thought it did.

One gigantic cycle! The more I thought it sucked the more it did suck. The more it sucked the more I agreed that it did. On and on it went.

Then of course, I would wonder, when waxing philosophical on occasion, which came first, life sucking or me thinking it did? Which influenced which?

When I realized we influenced each other was when I decided to do something about it. I decided to act as if I influenced all of life (as an experiment) I would pretend, or I would assume that I had choices I previously never thought I did. I would assume I could influence the world and attract goodness by changing my attitude. I didn’t really believe it possible but I was going to experiment.

You have to open a window, however small, to possibility, in order to begin to try something different. Even though I didn’t fully ‘buy it’ I had to create a space whereby it might be possible. I had to suspend my disbelief as best I could in order to entertain the thought of being different. This is not necessarily easy to do, but I found I could do it just enough.

I decided too immerse myself in a positive world of thoughts regardless of whether any of it was true or whether anything would change of not. If nothing changed I probably wouldn’t be any worse off for attempting it and if it did change for the better then that would be wonderful.

I decided to read positive inspirational material each day, morning and night, for no less than thirty days. I would begin and end each day with at least a page. I actually ended up reading more but I started small with something manageable.

I decided to keep in mind, through each day, this statement to guide me: ‘We become what we think about most of the time’.

I decided I would fill MOST of my time with positive thoughts and materials.

I read and I thought about what I read. I attempted to put into practice what I was learning. I filled my mind. I filled my day, as much as I could, with good thoughts and good feelings. I listened to inspirational audio while driving. I used every moment I could to focus on the positive and what I wanted.

Then it occurred to me, ‘If we become what we think about,’ then I am and I have in my life that which I ALREADY thought about. I am a product of my past way of thinking!!! My present is a result of all I thought or DIDN’T think previously. If I enjoyed it or if I didn’t like it I was responsible for it.

Whew, that was big for me!

Do you get that? If ‘we become what we think about’ I am (WE ARE) already what I (we) have been thinking about previously. My now, my very present circumstances, this moment, is because of my past thoughts and actions. My thinking brought me to where I am.

I am where I am because of what I thought and did. It is ALL a result of my thoughts and actions.

Another alternative is that I somehow haphazardly ended up here because of what I didn’t think or do. Regardless of which it might be, I realized that it was MY thinking, it was ME, who got me to this moment. I was responsible, in every way, for my present moment.

WOW!!! That blew me away.

I got it! I REALLY needed to change my thinking. I had to change what I focused on. There were many things about my life I did not like and certainly wouldn’t choose for myself (if I knew I was doing the choosing).

I decided to accept (at least for the purpose of the experiment) that I was ALREADY responsible for creating my life. I accepted that I AM the creator. It was not a matter of whether I was or was not creating my life. I would just accept it! Even then I was not completely sold but it seemed to make a lot of sense.

If I was the creator and I brought all this about, and I did it without realizing it, maybe I should take deliberate charge of creating what I really DO want.

I no longer had to create what I didn’t want. I no longer had to go on allowing or accepting whatever I was getting I could determine in advance what I was going to get.

Since there was a lot about my life I didn’t like I took responsibility that I was really good at creating or attracting what I DID NOT WANT. WOW, that hit me!!!

I was incredible at getting what I did not want. I was creating it all. I determined all the outcomes. Again, I remind the reader, that I did not know whether this was actually the case or not but I decided to act as if it were. Part of me still didn’t believe it, and another part wanted to stay away from mystical abundance mumbo jumbo.

The only thing I found that I COULD CHANGE was the direction of my attention. I could not stop being a creator or attractor but I could more consciously decide to run and manage the creation process. I decided to focus my attention on creating what I wanted. This was a cataclysmic shake up for me.

I was responsible for the results I had been getting all along I just never thought about it that way. I put it on others, on circumstances on bad luck, on anything and everything OTHER than on me.

I embraced the notion that I TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY for my future results? What if I determined what I would get instead of it letting it being haphazard could that change things?

Change things it did!! IT changed everything the moment I recognized I was responsible and was in charge of the outcomes. EVEN if it is not true, by adopting this mind set, miracles began to occur.

I daily read and filled my mind with positive thoughts. I created some positive AFFIRMATIONS. I thought of these through out the day. Later, I discovered the awesome power of asking DIRECTED QUESTIONS of myself. I have mentioned the power of directing your mind positively through the artful and scientific use of questions at other times in this blog and through the years in my writings and workshops.

I found that by fully immersing myself with powerful positive messages over and over during the day that may moments transformed. Since the moments transformed the days did and the weeks and months and years. Every moment was a choice point and a positive possibility. I could go in either direction. Where I went would be up to me. Sometime, I got caught up and found myself moving into negativity and had to find away to turn around and head back toward focusing on the positive.

I found by taking control and managing the moment I had incredible power. That power is having a choice in how I think and respond, how I feel and act. I discovered I was becoming the captain of my soul and the master of my fate. I found things to begin to feel good about and appreciate that I had not considered before. Many things changed for the better quite quickly and other things took some time but positive changes did occur.

Later on I learned the awesome and incredible power of FEELINGS.” Rex Sikes

More on this next time. We will pick up with feelings and much more. Meanwhile, make today the most wonderful day you can, and then some!

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Train Your Mind – It Works!!! Part 2

August 28, 2014 rexsikes 1 Comment

“… I discovered that the wonderful things don’t come from having more things. It comes from being more wonderful. It comes from having less stress, depression, anxiety, anger, frustration. It comes from taking the bull by the horns and deciding to do something for myself and to keep on doing it no matter what. I decided I would never ever quit or give up. If I had to boot strap it I would, if the going got tough if I had to be tough I would get going. I decided that the end result was worth the price, whatever that price was I had to pay. AND it is! I am getting so much more back than I pay for it is incredible!

Part 2

I have used the analogy of a buffet. You put on your plate what you like and enjoy, that which brings you pleasure and whatever you don’t want or don’t like you leave it on the buffet table. You delight in what is on your plate. You don’t sit there thinking about the food you do not care for. You do not lament that you don’t like brussel sprouts, or broccoli or whatever. I mean, this should make sense to most people I would think. At the buffet you focus on enjoying what you like. You go to get the foods you like not to worry about what you don’t want. You never even give it a second thought.

I have learned to treat myself as if a baby or at best a toddler. I have a pet phrase I have used for decades when conducting seminars and workshops and that is, ‘You don’t punt the baby’. When you have a child learning motor skills, whether learning to walk or feed itself, you nurture and encourage the child, you get all excited and act weird. If the child falls or misses its mouth with a spoon you don’t punt it out of the room and scream at it and shame it, you don’t if you love it. No, you encourage it to continue in the behavior you want the child to learn. When the child does anything close to what you want it to learn you get wildly enthusiastic, goofy even so that the child feels wonderful.

So when I screw up I think of myself as a baby learning anything new and encourage myself instead of criticizing myself. Instead of thinking of myself as stupid or useless and never able to learn, I celebrate the awareness I have that I recognized I was off base, and give myself a pat on the back. Then gently, positively I steer myself back on track. It is much nicer being gentle, loving and kind to me. Hey, I was an expert in self criticism I just decided to stop that and do something better for myself.

See, I am just making my way through this world like anyone else. I decided though at one point that I was going to act as if I were totally in charge of everything that happens to me, whether that is actually the case or not. Did you read that and get it. I decided to act as if I were totally in charge of everything. In control, me and no one else. That means I alone am accountable and responsible for everything good and bad. It means I am the creator, everything I have or don’t have is because of me. (Whether this is actually true or not, I decided I was going to adopt this frame of mind and live as IF IT IS the case).

What happened when I began to live this way is everything changed. It is as if I am actually in charge. I create everything. Good, bad I create it.

Whether this is true or not doesn’t matter to me. Let’s say I am pretending to be in charge. By pretending to be in charge I am making positive choices for myself every moment I can.

Why?

Because I am the person in charge. I am the creator so I need to decide what I want. I need to decided how I want to think and feel. I decided what I want to be, who I am and what I do and have. It is all up to me. Since I AM IN CHARGE I chose the very best.

When things happen I chose how to respond. I determine what I will pay attention to and focus on and feel.

Do you know what? I am a work in process. Sometimes I do better than at other times but, as I have stated, I adjust for it and gently steer back. Yes, I repeated myself because I am attempting to point out, as all my friends and family know, I am not perfect. I am not perfect by any means but now I have choice.

It is absolutely freeing.

Instead of blaming others, I look at what I can adjust about myself to think or feel better about it. I put a guardian at the gate, and make it a point to only think and speak about things that bless, heal and help prosper. I am protective of my thoughts and feelings. I like the positive attitude and the feelings that come from it so I want to preserve these and encourage these. I want more of it.

It wasn’t easy to begin thinking and doing these things but it is easier now. I have trained my mind to find the good in every situation. I have trained my mind to be my own best friend and to act in my own best interests instead of running wild or acting randomly. I have trained my mind.

I like it when I write that or say ‘I have trained my mind’, because at one time I was a victim of my own thoughts and feelings. NOW I have choices. Actually, I may have always had the same choices and others available, but I was unaware of them so I never chose them. Previously, I did not know to exercise my choices. Now I do and now I choose.

I said before that when things go awry and crap happens I don’t have to choose to be unhappy. I can choose to be happy regardless of what is going on. If all of everything around me is crumbling it DOES NOT MEAN that I have to be unhappy about it. It doesn’t mean that at all because I have learned that my real happiness is not related to what happens but rather to who I am. It is who I am not what goes on where my happiness is.

I stay focused on creating what I want, attracting it and manifesting it. Call it what you want, I stay focused on what I want to be and have instead of noticing what isn’t there yet. I learned that if I worry I attract and/or create more worry. Unhappiness attracts more unhappiness. Worrying about not having enough money doesn’t help me have or create more money it only keeps me in a state of poverty. Being dissatisfied only creates less satisfaction.

Instead I focus on what I want. I focus on being happy because happiness creates more happiness. Love attracts more love, gratitude attracts more gratitude, kindness attracts more kindness. I want to fill my life with what I want, I want to become these, feel these and have theses. Success attracts more success, money attracts more money, peace attracts more peace. So I focus on these, am grateful for these and think on these things. We become what we think about.

So even when things are not presently going my way, my training is to stay focuses on what I want to create instead of what I don’t want. I stay focused on what I want to become and do and have instead of what I don’t have. This keeps me in an action phase and provides me with the opportunity to continue to move forward instead of wallowing in being stuck and forlorn.

Maybe, all I am thinking and doing is a fantasy, a lie, a delusion. So what?

If everything I am thinking is a lie, I prefer it this way.

Some people talk about the law of attraction, they say ‘be positive, think what you want and you will attract it, the universe will provide’. That scared me because I used to think ‘well what if I think it and it doesn’t happen then I will only be more disappointed.’ I did, I acutally used to think that.

I used to think, ‘ok I will think be positive, but I don’t want any religious infinite intelligence talk, or god is good talk, I don’t want to go there , I just want to make good things happen for me’. So don’t get metaphysical or magical with me, I don’t want to be surrounded by purple protective bubbles and amulets. I want practical, down to earth, scientific, everyday reality sort of thinking that if I engage in it is sure to happen so I won’t be disappointed.

You know what I found? Magic but not the new agey wacky flavor of the moment magic but real true transformative magic. I found that if I want it to be it is actually up to me. It is up to how I think and how I feel and what I do. It is up to me to create a plan, utilize my resources, partner with others and wish all good things because when I do I create for myself a better way to move through the world.

When I am feeling positive and wishing others well I am attracting positive feeling people who also wish others well. I am resonating with other like minded people who are seeking positive opportunities to create wonderful things in their own lives and the lives of others.

The magic isn’t outer magic it is inner magic. Inner magic relies on oneself to make adjustments in positive ways instead of expecting the world to conform to your wishes. Inner magic is about having control over yourself so that you think and act more clearly and are thus better able to recognize opportunities as they occur. Inner magic is being true to oneself and living positively no matter what occurs around oneself. There is real magic but it isn’t the kind of fairy tale magic we grew up hoping for.

I am no expert. I live my life day to day.

I have more choices available to me now than ever before. Sometimes, I chose wisely and other times I don’t. Whenever, I find myself off track I steer back on and appreciate that I discovered I was off track. IN itself, this is a powerful way for me to live. I am now able to positively self correct instead of negatively beating myself up when off course.

When I am not busy self correcting on the course I am busy enjoying the journey. I am busy appreciating myself and the people around me. I find small and large things to be thankful for throughout the day and that contributes to my overall well being. The journey is no longer a burden but a pleasure. Instead of looking for mistakes, things that are wrong or unjust I look for miracles each day, large or small, to celebrate. Why? Because we get what we focus on. We attract or we create what we think about. Do you get it? If not, some day you will.

We become whatever we think about. What we can conceive and believe we can achieve. Whatever feelings I am feeling today inside of me I am attracting tomorrow. So I fill my mind with what I want for myself and that includes for others. I fill my mind and my being with more happiness, love, peace, acceptance, joy, confidence, competence, talents and abilities, health, wealth, positive power and achievement.

I concentrate on these things. I daydream about them. I make it a point to see them, entertain them in my mind. I talk about them to myself, and I fill my moments with as much that is good and feels good and benefits myself and everyone as I am able. I know more will come tomorrow because of what I am doing today.

I have trained my mind.

No, I am not perfect, nope not at all. Don’t have to be. I am happier, healthier, wealthier all around better off because I feel more joy, acceptance, love, enjoyment and all sorts of marvelous things. Life is grand. I am so happy I decided to train my mind. It is more than worth it, it is ever so valuable. It is absolutely priceless because no matter what effort it takes to train it, you get back so much more, infinitely more!

What I discovered when I decided to train my mind is that it works! It really, truly, actually works.” Rex Sikes

More to come, enjoy the day. Discover what you might do today to begin to find more incredible ways to appreciate each moment. Delight and celebrate.

By the way – as you read these blogs, if they speak to your heart, I hope you will implement what I have been sharing. It is life transformative. Go back and read these blogs again and again.

Fill your mind with positive messages and become inspired. Inspire others too! Share and help others feel better not just because you get back what you put out there but just because… celebrate and enjoy!

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Stay Positive: You Can’t Move Forward Looking Backward

August 27, 2014 rexsikes Leave a comment

“Remember, you can not move forward when your mind is traveling in the opposite direction. It is impossible to travel in both directions at the same time. Pay close attention to which direction your mind is going because that is what you are going to become. ” Rex Sikes

“If you never do anything about getting your goals, or if you quit going after them then don’t expect too much. But if you stick with it, even though it doesn’t appear to be happening right now, if you stick with it you will make it happen. Persist!

Everything has a season. Whatever you plant, grows invisibly and then sprouts later. What is invisible now that can’t be seen is just around currently developing. Everything takes time and there is a time for everything. Always remember this. What you are creating now manifests later. It may not happen when you hope it will but it will happen if you stay with it” Rex Sikes

“Habits are reliable, they are dependable. We do them without thinking. Habits are part of us. Our unconscious mechanism is consistent. We never forget to do a habit. Because of this habits are difficult to break.

Most of the time people think of habits as something negative, and unhealthy. Smoking, eating or drinking to excess, too much TV or computer games and they can be. What this tells you is that your brain doesn’t care if something is positive or negative, good or bad, it will carry it out reliably. It will engage in destructive behavior or positive constructive behavior. What you get just depends on what you cultivate.

Just as the soil doesn’t care if you plant nutritious food or poison your unconscious will deliver whatever has been planted over and over again. We become whatever we think about most of the time.

Whatever fills our mind and occupies our attention over and over is what we get. Our thoughts become things, feelings and behaviors. AGAIN – we become whatever it is we habitually think about.

The good news is we can learn new positive habits. When we do they become reliable and consistent and hard to break.” Rex Sikes

“Since we become what we think about and we get what we focus on fill your mind with the best you are able to each and every moment. Your life will change for the better when you do. Begin and end each day in gratitude and delight. What occupies your mind is what you manifest in your life.” Rex Sikes

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Don’t Let The Past Or The Present Define You – You Are So Much More!

August 26, 2014 rexsikes 2 Comments

Consider this, regardless of how bad it may have been, how difficult you have had it, you have made it through those times. You have! You have come this far in spite of everything attempting to hold you back. Whatever mistakes you may have made, poor decisions, ‘failures’ and disappointments you have had, any tragedies you encountered you still have made it to this moment, to right now. That is incredible because no matter what the odds have been you are here right now, and that is a testament to your ability to persist. Through everything you have stayed in there and made it through.

You may never have thought to do this, but you should pat yourself on the back, congratulate yourself and give yourself a big huge. It is time to celebrate all of this as an accomplishment. It is time to begin to see it differently in your mind’s eye and recognize the seeds of success all along the way. The journey may have been arduous but you have continued on AND you are still taking steps forward.

There is only one thing you need to understand. First, you are strong and you are tenacious. Though you may not have yet realized it you are stubborn enough to succeed at anything you put your mind to. Tough times build character. You have proven yourself tough too. Congratulations!

Second, do not let the past define you. Do not give power to the mistakes of the past. That is behind you. Since you have overcome significant challenges in the past build on that. Recognize this about yourself and BUILD on it.

Don’t let the present moment disappointments define you either. Do not let whatever is going on right now concern you. Instead think about the life you want to have instead. If you could make your greatest dream come true what would that be? What is it that would excite you and make you ecstatic? Picture this in your mind and focus on it.

No matter what is happening now that may be less than glorious, shift your focus to the time ahead. Be open to the possibility that things can get better for you. Be willing to explore a new way of being, and doing, and having.

It takes a mind that is willing to explore possibilities and expand options. Ask yourself what you might think and do differently. If you want things in your life to change you have to change things in your life. What can you begin to think and do differently that can move you in a positive direction? Build on this and realize you can accomplish so much more when you concentrate on the positive resources inside of you.

Our problems are not the problem! It is our thinking about our problems that is the problem. It is what we entertain and what we keep in our mind and how we are focused. Whatever we focus on expands, whatever we focus on is what we get. What we think about is what we become. Do not focus on past or present day limitations instead focus on what you want and how you can and will attain it. Have faith, keep believing and expecting it to get better. It will. Believe it!

Create wonderful thoughts and feelings about the future and imagine having all of it right now. Focus on these thoughts and these feelings. Find things to be grateful about and find the most wonderful good feelings you are able to. Nurture these, promote these. Keep doing this again and again.

Even a small change in the right direction is better than no change at all. If you are really sad it does not mean you have to feel overwhelming joy right now. Right now that may be too big a step. Find out what you can feel that would make you feel a bit better. Maybe that would be feeling anger or frustration or bored. Whatever is a baby step or two away from really sad IS a baby step toward finding that joy. inch yourself there if you must, but you must begin to inch away from the less than glorious feelings. Move yourself ever so slightly in the positive direction.

People talk about the Law of Attraction but the LOA is second to the Law of Vibration. How you are vibrating is what you are attracting. If you are filled with doubt, anxiety, fear and depression you tend to attract more or create more of these in your life. It is a downward spiral. When instead, you are filled with positive, powerful, joyful energy you are more in the right place to go after and get what you want to have.

It isn’t important to me whether it is about ‘vibrations’ at all. Some people find that concept to cosmic. I could care less. It is just words used to describe processes, so why get hung up over the choice of words.

I just understand that when I am feeling optimal I bring my best game to life and when I am not optimal things seem less than glorious. It is a simple concept to understand. Feel good and you get more good feelings, feel bad and you get more bad feelings. You are better off and more productive when feeling good and worse off and less productive when feeling bad. Get it.

Feeling good works better for us than feeling bad. SO find the ways and means to feel better. It is up to you, no one else can do it for you. It is not out of your hands, no cosmic zapper is going to fill you with great things magically. If you want to feel better you have to chose to take control. You have to decide to begin to act in your own best interests even if it is difficult. Start small, the pay off is huge. BUT YOU HAVE TO START. If you don’t you will keep on getting what you have been getting. It is that simple. It is that straightforward.

You want you life to change you have to change some things in your life!!!

Exercise, play, sing, dance, think better, walk, garden, meditate, repeat affirmations (the correct way would be useful) whatever you have to do to begin to feel better and think better more of the time – begin now to do it.

Thoughts and feelings go hand in hand. Your thoughts affect your feelings, you CAN think yourself happier it is true! AND your feelings affect your thoughts – you CAN change your body and activities and discover that you think more positively by how you stand, sit, walk or move. It is true! Let’s forget the chicken egg exploration about thoughts and feelings and just make it a point to do those healthy beneficial things that put us at optimum more of the time. You do want to feel better more of the time, don’t you?

When we feel optimum more of the time we do better more of the time.

Don’t try to bite off more than you can chew just make it a point to feel better a little bit more each day. When you do you will discover amazing things await you. You will think and feel and do better. If you fall off the positivity wagon don’t get all dramatic about it just get back on and proceed from there. Keep it simple, easy, manageable and keep doing it. Take baby steps in the direction of your dreams and keep taking them on a daily basis. Repetition is the mother of skill. Give birth to new habits by doing things that are good for you over and over and over again.

The change will take place inside you before you notice it on the outside. For mot of us the changes are gradual. Be patient, allow it, accept everything in a spirit of gratitude, and keep at it. Have fun, relax about it. It is much more FUN and easy when you let it be that way. So approach it in a light and gentle way.

Look at how you are thinking and feeling and behaving differently and more positively and nurture and encourage and celebrate this. Recognize and validate your positive baby steps!

Think Law of Attraction now. When you do these positive things you ARE vibrating more positively, more powerfully and energetically and so you attract, create or get back more of the same. It increases. Notice it and own your observations. Play with it and stay with it!

Allow yourself to move forward without judging or criticizing. Accept wherever you are along the way and have faith that as you continue to move forward in a positive way you will become more positive and more able. Your abilities will grow. Don’t be impatient. Stick with it and trust. Move forward with your eyes on what you are creating and attracting, not on whatever isn’t working right now. Celebrate all. Celebrate everything and you will get through the now and move into your dreams and make them come true.

Decree your destiny and make it happen. Build the image of what you want. See who you are, the positive powerful you. See what you are doing, behaving, how you are living and feeling wonderful. See what things you have included in your new life. Run these movies in your head. Infuse these images with positive wonderful feelings. It is the combination of the positive movies and positive feelings that work to make your future image come true.

A major point here: We already do this all the time. We think things good or bad and feel good or bad about them. For example, we fear something happening, we feel anxious about it or dread that something bad is going to happen. It does and we feel worse. We try to think positive and we do. As a result we feel a little bit better but then we think about something bad or how something is less than glorious and then we feel bad again. By doing this we create what we don’t want and we perpetuate it because we vacillate back and forth. We get hopeful and then doubt that things will change then feel bad and when things don’t change we think, ‘yup I knew it’. It is a form of self fulfilling prophecy. Our expectations were that it wouldn’t work out anyway. This limited thinking and lack of commitment keeps us where we don’t want to be.

This cycle keeps us in limbo: We think about what we want and feel good for while. Then at some point we begin to doubt that we can get it and we start feeling bad about how we are not getting what we want. We then again think about what we want and feel worse because we feel far away. On another day we feel hopeful and positive and work towards what we want again, but then something happens and we feel feel bad and hopeless. This goes on and on. We are like a ship tossed about on the sea, or a cork bobbing in the water. Instead of being in control and moving toward our destination we get closer and then move further away constantly. We never make any real motion towards accomplishing our goals.

We need to commit to what we want and concentrate on it to the exclusion of all else.

We need to stay focused on it no matter what else may currently be going on. We need to think again and again what we want and not let other thoughts intrude. To be able to do this means we have to take charge of our own thinking and feeling processes. For many people THIS CONEPT will seem most foreign because most of us do not grow up being told we are in charge. Instead we think ‘things happen’ and we have to feel certain ways because of these things happening. We don’t, we just think we do. That is why our problems are not the problem, but how we THINK about our problems IS the problem.

What we think about most often during the day is what we become and what we get. What we think about most of the time is what we become and what we get. Are we mostly positive or mostly negative, 51/49, 60/40, 80/20, 90/10? What we are mostly determines what we get. So decide to tip the balance in your favor. 50/50 keeps us exactly where we are. Move to 80/20 positivity.

You create your life by what you think and feel most of the time. It is a growth process. Just like growing a plant it takes time for it to get strong so be patient with yourself. It is most likely not going to happen over night, but then, who knows? Just remember, this is not a contest, you are simply out to improve your life and your conditions in a positive way so have fun and be positive about it.

Just keep advancing constantly in the direction of your dreams. Thoreau stated, ‘If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours’.

You can make your life anything you want it to be. Go ahead dream big that is fine. Just move forward toward your big dreams steadily. If you chose a big dream and you can’t yet believe you can make it happen, pick something smaller and more likely and go for that first. Better to trick yourself into it than out of it. If you pick something you don’t believe fully and you 50/50 vacillate on it you end up staying stuck. So pick something you can work on and get! Once you have that move on to something else. Create a track record of successes for yourself until you are ready to believe you can make the big one happen. Once you can conceive it AND BELIVE IT you can achieve it!

You can chose to do this. It is your life. You are the co-creator in your life. Ask yourself, “Where do I want to go from here?”

What do you want to be? What do you want to become? What do you want to do? What do you want to have? What is truly important to you? If you could have the perfect life, where you had everything you want and all those around you had what they wanted, (no one is harmed or deprived by you getting your goals) what would it be like? Imagine it, live it in your mind’s eye, improve on the images, tailor the movie, and feel how good it feels to have all this?

THE FEELINGS ARE CRITICAL they drive the entire mechanisms. If you don’t feel like you deserve it, or that you can have it yet, or believe that will get it, you have other work to do first. If when you think about it you feel a huge YES inside and eagerly anticipate it coming to be, and you believe it and know that it will definitely happen, THEN that is for you. As long as everyone else experiences well being too you are on the right track.

Feelings are a signal for us. Our feelings let us know where we need work or what we need to change. Less than glorious feelings are only an indication that something needs to change. It is a way to get our attention so we can get back on track, to feel better and feel more harmonious inside. We want to feel inner harmony with ourselves AND it is important to feel harmony with others as well. So don’t create waves for yourself or others. Use your feelings to guide you back to the positive. Take baby steps back towards feeling good.

Again, this is where you must, and ONLY YOU can, make changes to change things for the better. Take a walk, read inspirational material, talk it out and let it go, work in a garden, dance, if you hurt someone or are feeling guilty do whatever you can to repair the situation or make restitution, own up, sing, celebrate, shift into gratitude and focus on what can be done that is positive. Whatever baby step is necessary to free oneself from the less than glorious feelings and move incrementally toward more positive feelings you must take. You may only inch forward BUT that is valuable, inching forward IS what you want to be able to do.

Better to inch forward than remain stuck. So don’t worry about whether it is enough, just move forward.

So when feel down do something to feel better. If you feel angry or frustrated or guilty or confused there is something you can to do to feel better. Remember, take feelings as an SIGNAL that you can shift something you are thinking about, or focusing on, or doing.

At any moment you can decide to revolutionize your life.

You can ask yourself, ‘What can I do, what could I do, what should I do or what must I do, or what will I do that will move me closer to my dream?’ ‘What is the first step I can take to move me in a powerful positive direction?’ Ask yourself. Consider what small steps you can consistently take that move you closer to achieving your goal.

If it is going to happen it will be up to you and no one else. So you must engage these processes and do the work. I remind you to be gentle, have fun, notice what you notice, play and keep at it.

You have come this far. Perhaps, you went through some hell to get to today. No matter what you have gone through you have succeeded in getting this far. The journey continues and you can decide now where you want to go. Set a positive destination and go towards it. That is what explorers do. Sailors, pilots, vacationers, all decide where they want to go and then they go to it.

You will get there as long as you do not stop short. As long as you continue all along the way you will arrive at your destination. Whether the way there is delightful or not is also up to you. It is your decision. So decide now where you want to go and how you want to get there. Then do it and keep on doing it. Enjoy the adventure and make all your dreams come true.” Rex Sikes

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Persistence is the key to success.

August 25, 2014 rexsikes 8 Comments

“It is the consistent, persistent, daily actions that bring success in all things, you family, your health, your wealth and career, your life. Daily dedication to doing something positive that moves you closer to your goal makes all the difference.

You start with a clearly, well stated ‘burning desire’, the mental images of your ultimate goal. You envision it daily (as often as possible, but at least for sometime in the morning and before going to sleep) and infuse it with positive energy and enthusiasm. You keep at it no matter what. You do not give up! You keep at it until you get it. This IS your daily regime. Your mental nutrition.

Keep your goal alive and in sight. Keep it burning and stay passionate about it. Believe in your heart and know in your mind that you will have it, YOU will ATTAIN it, as long as you never give up. Once you quit it is over, so you must not stop. You keep the faith and keep going no matter what is going on or not going on around you. You do not let present circumstances distract you from getting the end game that you want.

Keep this goal burning hot in your mind each moment. Focus on things to be grateful for and feel good about because when you do you are opening up your mind to discovering greater opportunities, events, situations and people that can help you reach your goal.

Your mind awakens and you can think more clearly and easily about how you will make it happen. You form plans using your creativity, your intuition and you smarts. You may have to adjust the plan as you go along that is just part of the process. Each day you move forward and you make adjustments as necessary but no matter what you keep moving forward toward your ultimate destination.

YOU WILL GET THERE as long as you keep going toward it. No matter how long it takes or how many detours there happen to be you will get there if you just never stop.

Persistence means you keep going even when you may not feel like going.

That is why it is important to find things you appreciate, small and large miracles and good and new discoveries, and the best thoughts and feelings along the way, so that you stay inspired and dedicated.

The person who succeeds is the person who ‘wills’ it to happen not who wishes it to happen. You make all the changes inside of you to be better equipped to handle all those aspects outside you you, the challenges and opportunities that come your way. You make all the changes inside of you to better manage the inside of you so you are optimistic, positive, powerful and committed to your outcome. You won’t do it if you wimp out.

Yes, occasionally someone lucks into it but frankly, most people who ‘make it’, who succeed in their personal or professional lives do so because the go after it relentlessly until they succeed. These people pursue health, wealth and well being because it is the most important thing to them. They don’t let circumstances dictate or prevent them from prevailing. ‘When the going gets tough the tough get going’.

You must stick with it no matter how impossible it seems. Whatever hardship comes your way learn to overcome it. Go through it. You will find a way if you are determined to find a way.

Manage you mind and you emotions. Manage your time and your efforts. You will do it, when you believe you can. As Napoleon Hill stated, ‘If you can conceive it and believe it you can achieve it’. Just don’t stop.

If it is truly worth it and it makes your life better and the lives of those around you better and it does not harm anyone of prevent others from fulfilling themselves, go for it. Get on course, stay the course and find out how to make the journey most delightful. Whether you get closer by leaps and bounds or inch by inch you are getting closer. Stay positive and stay focused. It is completely UP TO YOU! So do it! Just do it!

What can you do today to keep yourself on track? How many marvelous feelings might you discover as you look into finding these within you frequently during this day? How much fun can you stand as you continue to pursue your dream? Hmmmm, I wonder… ” Rex Sikes

Find those special moments in this day and have an incredible one!

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Don’t you want to feel better and better?

August 23, 2014 rexsikes Leave a comment

“It is not the mere repetition of affirmations or positive thoughts that make a difference. To think or say them aloud as if you are repeating the address to a business you want to find has little effect. There are two ways to make them work for you. One is to questions. Put the affirmation in the form of a question. Questions direct your mind to what you pay attention to. Use open ended questions such as, ‘I would how delighted I would be to discover how many things I can find to be thankful for today?’ or ‘In how many different ways am I a powerful, positive, person who can do what I put my mind to?’ Ask, be curious, be sincere and ask the questions anticipating that you will get an answer. It is not a yes or no answer you want, it is what you end up doing and thinking. Ask honestly, ask often and you will be surprised at how these work for you.

The other way is to infuse the affirmation with emotion. When you think or say the positive statement do so with energy, enthusiasm, determination, joy the best feelings you are able to. Feelings drive everything for us. That is why people make statements like, ‘I don’t feel like it’ or ‘It felt right’. We have gotten used to letting our feelings run the show instead of choosing to run our feelings.

The point of making affirmations with energy, or asking ourselves useful positive questions is not to find some pie in the sky magic but to take control of our thoughts and emotions and run our brains and behaviors instead of letting our brains, our thoughts and feelings run us. It is all about taking charge and determining how you want to experience the life you have. It is not about controlling world circumstances or other people or expecting things outside of you to change, rather, it is about controlling and deciding your responses to everything so you can be and enjoy more of what you want.

Once you engage the decision making process for yourself and begin to think and feel positively you are better able to feel the way you want to feel, to do the things you want and need to d,o to get the results you want from your efforts. You begin to create the life you want and the world around you. NOT by magic but as a result of feeling better, thinking better, thinking clearer and working smarter and wiser.

Frankly, it is a choice and a question you can ask yourself, a number of questions. ‘Are you happy with life and where you are? Would you like to feel better? Could life be better? Could you enjoy things more?’ If you answer yes to any of these or variations of these then you might want to ask follow up questions such as, ‘How do I want my life to be? How would I like to feel more often? What do I really want? If I could create my own future what would I be like, what would I be doing, enjoying and having? What can I begin doing right now to start to feel and think better?’

Questions can be endless and you want to ask in order to find ways to think and feel better. It is good to be wise about the questions you ask yourself. ‘If you ask. ‘How come nothing ever goes right? or How can I be so stupid?’ you are not using very good taste or judgement. Ask good questions that lead you to where you want to go. Think and feel positive. Take charge.

The bottom line is either you will or you won’t. If you ask ‘what stops you from making positive decision to take charge of your thoughts and feelings right this moment’ you might get a useful answer. Or you can ask, ‘What can I do this instant and throughout this day and each day that would make me feel better, happier, healthier, more positive and powerful?’ ‘What can I do right now to make my life more of what I want it to?’

Direct your mind, direct you feelings and your life will change. Set the direction a positive one. WHY? Because it is a wiser choice than a negative one. Don’t you think? Ultimately, you are already deciding how you feel and live life but what you think this moment. If you could think and feel any way you wanted what would you chose? If it makes sense, doesn’t hurt anyone and would make things more enjoyable then go for it. Only you can determine when you will begin, what you will do and who you are.

The opportunity exists each moment to transform the moment into something marvelous. You don’t have to go about changing everything many things are incredible just as they are, but there are moments you can enhance and make more delightful when you want to. So what will it be?

Take charge of your thoughts and feelings. It is up to each of us to do it no one can do it for us. If you aren’t already being and feeling and having what you want make it a point to begin now. Or don’t, you can always keep putting it off and waiting for something to come along to change things. If you wait, one thing is certain, you will wait. And wait, and wait. So what positive practice can you implement to day? When will you begin to recognize that you are making decision each moment regarding how you think and feel about things? You are already doing it. Now begin to take charge of the process so that it serves you in better ways and gets you more of what you want. You can transform your life into something much more wonderful, so won’t you?” Rex Sikes

My wish for you is to discover many wonderful things in this wonderful day.

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Train Your Mind – It Works!!! Part 1

August 22, 2014 rexsikes Leave a comment

For some of us it is difficult to believe there is good in everything. Sometimes it seems there is just no good to go around, life is difficult and bad things happen.

I think of it this way. Before humans walked the planet events came and went. Some days were gorgeous some filled with calamity. Whatever happened happened. There was no one to label it, to judge it, to call it good or bad. Things occurred.

Some day I will take another form whatever that may be. I will no longer walk the planet so I won’t be around to comment on whether events are good or bad, right or wrong. They will go on without my commentary or criticism.

Since that is the case why should I waste my time while I am here. Isn’t there a better, a wiser use of my time? Wouldn’t I be better off not digging in despair whether the events are personal or global? Life is short. Life is way, way too short, as far as I am concerned, so I want to find a way to maximize the little time on the globe as best I can.

I decided at one time that if I was going to live on the planet I deserved to live in paradise. Whatever the situation is I wanted it to be paradise. What I found when I told others that many said it was not possible given the world and current state of affairs. They would say things like, ‘well there will always be suffering’. They said many things and I heard from many people through the years and the attitude seemed to be’ life was short, you struggle, try to be happy live a good life, hurt no one and die and hope there is an afterlife and that you may be rewarded’.

I thought this is not the way I want to go through my days. It took me some time, a lot of time actually, but one day I decided to decide how I wanted to think about things. I decided, whether it is accurate or not, that I create my experience. Yes, there is much scientific evidence to prove this to be true. Regardless, of whether it is true or not I decided that I create my experience.

I determined I had created a lot of crap in my life and some good things. I looked at me, my life and it occurred to me that I always got what I wanted and what I thought about.

My worst fears seemed to come true. If I was anxious or depressed about something it was harder to move through the world. If I worried about money I never seemed to have enough. Perhaps, it was a chicken and egg thing, and I wasn’t sure what came first. Did I not have money so I worried about it or because I worried about money I never had any. I wasn’t certain, but I decided not to care.

I decided that I would control my thinking. I would endeavor to think the best about myself, my circumstances, my future, the people around me, my family, friends, and even strangers. I would strive to maintain a positive focus. I would concentrate on finding the good in everything as much as I am able. I would find the best in everything and everyone.

It was not always easy, it still isn’t always easy. Sometimes there are challenges and it seems like I may lose my way. I get sidetracked or off course, caught up and I forget what is important and I get hooked. At some point I realize it is my decision. You know it is kind of like a guilty pleasure, but without the pleasure part. You know, , when you know you shouldn’t be doing something but you do it anyway.

Whatever it is, maybe you shouldn’t have that extra helping but you just have too, or you sneak an extra piece of chocolate. You feel guilty. Maybe, guilty isn’t exactly the right word. It isn’t guilt sometimes it is just that you just know there is a better way of being or thinking or behaving. It is like that, at some point, I become aware that I am off base and I need to get back on. I know it is up to me. Sometimes I don’t feel like correcting myself, but I do it anyway (because I have since learned how to). I course correct.

I have learned that just because things are going on around me that are not to my liking, even if everything is crumbling, I do not have to think negative thoughts, or feel bad or respond as I would have in the past. Oh, that was something else i did a lot of. I used to live in the past aggrandizing the good old days or lamenting what was or what never came to be. I gave that up to.

I decided I need to change what I paid attention to. I realized FINALLY, that the past was over and whether it was good or bad there was nothing I could do about it now. I could enjoy my present or not and I could plan my future or not but I could not do one thing about the past. It was over. SO I set my focus on what I wanted my future to be.

I began to think that where I am today is a result of everything I thought and felt and did or didn’t do in the past. My today is a product of my previous thinking. I am where I am because I created it. It didn’t matter to me, and it still doesn’t whether any of this is true or not. It doesn’t have to be true it really doesn’t. What it is – is useful. It is a frame of mind that I adopted as a choice so as to be able to have more control over what the results are in my life. True or not I don’t care.

So I decided to focus on where I want to be and create that instead. I focus on what I want and stay focused on that regardless of what is going on now. I imagine my future how I want it to be, I imagine I have it all in place, and this is what I concentrate on throughout each day.

In my mind I create the future I want to manifest. This was an incredible leap forward for me. Instead of living life looking back I started looking ahead. Instead of letting things happen to me I began to decide what I wanted to have happen. Instead of driving down the road looking in the rearview mirror I began to focus on my destination and how pleasantly I could get there.

I decided, I shouldn’t ignore the present that would be silly, I just don’t have to react to it as if I were a Pavlovian dog salivating to the ringing bell. I decided I would celebrate and appreciate the present. In order to that I had to think that it was worth it even when it may not seem that way. So I made it a point to look for whatever good I could find in whatever was going on and I would accentuate it.

If I experienced calamity and problems I would find whatever was good in the situation and accentuate that. Certainly, accentuating the problem or bad feelings didn’t make me think, feel or do any better but focusing on what was good did. I learned I could chose what I paid attention to. Even if my first thought was to find the bad my second thought became, ‘ok what is good about this?’ I learned I could direct my thinking.

I found as I did this things changed for me. No, not over night but gradually. What I actually discovered was nothing changed in reality other than me and my relationship to reality and THAT actually did change everything. That may be a difficult sentence or concept to grasp right now but my life transformed.

I learned that whatever was going on I could decide how to feel and think about it. I was the one in charge. Just be cause bad things happened I didn’t have to chose to be unhappy. I lived that way for years, without choice, now I began to exercise my choices. When I became the person who chose what to think and feel yes everything changed for me.

I was clearer in my thinking, I enjoyed each moment more, I found more delight in simple things, I discovered opportunities I might not have otherwise, I felt better, I was open to more things, I met new people and engaged in new activities. It was as if a whole new world opened up.

And guess what, every moment I had to decide to chose. Things came up that would have caused me to feel bad and I chose not to. Some things came up and I found myself feeling bad and thinking less than glorious thoughts but when I realized what I was doing I steered my thinking and feeling back to finding the good, celebrating and appreciating and being positive.

It is a daily duty. Heck, maybe every second I am doing it.

I found it got easier and there were longer periods of time when I felt wonderful. The down times got shorter. I got better at recognizing when I was wallowing or not serving myself well. AND that is incredible!

I had decided to treat myself as God would have me be treated. Okay, I know some will bristol here because of whatever beliefs you may have, but I decided that if there is a God and God wants the best for me why shouldn’t I want the same for myself. I deserve to have all the wonderful things.

I discovered that the wonderful things don’t come from having more things. It comes from being more wonderful. It comes from having less stress, depression, anxiety, anger, frustration. It comes from taking the bull by the horns and deciding to do something for myself and to keep on doing it no matter what. I decided I would never ever quit or give up. If I had to boot strap it I would, if the going got tough if I had to be tough I would get going. I decided that the end result was worth the price, whatever that price was I had to pay. AND it is!

I am getting so much more back than I pay for it is incredible!” Rex Sikes

More on this next time. Meanwhile have a fabulous day!

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