Category Archives: Awareness

Why You Must Learn To Be Centered And Stay Open

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“Do you ever feel stuck? Have you been confused and are not sure which way to turn? You seek answers but only seem more confused by the answers you get and aren’t sure what to do? Doesn’t this suck? Would you prefer to be free? Would you like to change?

There are times when we are hyper-resistant to what is going on. We resist what is. We could remain open. We could remain open and discover what Is actually there. Instead we project what we think is there. We judge. Our judgements stem from our conditioned mind.

We ask others for answers and then run those through our pre-existing filters and biases. We don’t like what the answers seem to be or we’re stuck and unable to decide. We fear making the wrong decision. Often, we vacillate and just spin wheels for a long time.

Nothing Is As Painful As Being Stuck Where You Don’t Belong

We aren’t available to what IS because we are too busy running around in our minds. We actually need to stop. We need to pause so we can decelerate. We need to take a breath and open up so we can actually notice what IS and free up from unproductive thinking.

Opening up and staying open may seem to be a difficult but it is eminently do-able but we have to practice it. We have to practice returning to center. We have to practice shifting. We have to practice opening up and experience what it is like.

Most of us didn’t grow up learning this. All of us were conditioned from birth on by the thoughts, actions, feelings, the preferences and prejudices of those around us. Most of our conditioning occurred before age 3 and was locked in by age 7. This is what we live from.

Fear Worry Regret – Will Consume You For As Long As You Let It

We can change it but only if we determine to change it. We can change it but only if we become aware that it needs to be changed. For many, crises and major downfalls are the precipitating ‘events’ or circumstances that lead to transformation. We CAN change!

Once we learn to open up and actually become present we can make better choices. Our resources are freed up. We aren’t engaged in ‘monkey minded thinking’ flitting from this possibility to that. We need to stop thinking at least momentarily and gather our energy.

If we stay open we can potentially discover more of what is going on, without judgement, and be there honestly in the moment. If we assume anything at all we miss the moment. We miss if we are in our heads evaluating what is going on. We miss so much anyway.

Be Present To Whatever Is Unfolding Right Now – Here And Now

This is why learning to develop focus and concentration is important. This is why learning to control and manage our thoughts and feelings is important so we can shift when necessary. So we can place our energy and attention where it is most useful. we can BE!

Instead of repeating chronic, habitual thoughts and behaviors we can learn new ones that serve us better. In the present we are more free to choose than from our conditioned past. This is why it is useful to focus on a candle, or on our breath. To learn how we become free.

The process to learn is to be able to return our attention when it strays. I have described this numerous times in these blog pages. We learn to come back to our center. We learn how to return to now, the present, instead of going off into past or future thoughts. NOW!

Realize This – The Present Moment Is All You Have – Drop In

Become aware of now. Stop the distractions. Then we can find our true essence, our true feelings, our true being. From this authentic place we can act free from the constraints of our habitual thinking. We can think freely and productively. We can decide.

This ability is developed  through time and devoted attention. It is developed by dedication and practice. It is a process. You can do it and discover how beneficial it is. It is harder to describe than to experience. Once you find your center you know where to return to.

Meditate. Let go. Observe without labeling. At first, you will discover glimpses. Seconds of awareness. As you progress you will discover longer moments. Spend time in the gap between thoughts and words. Notice this space and enjoy it. Ancient people knew this!

Live In The Present – Find Eternity In Each Moment – Be Here Now

Become aware. It is freeing. Read through my recent and past blogs for what and how to practice. Then engage. Doing makes it real. Thought translates into results. Don’t just be informed. Use the information for transformation.  AND ALWAYS live with gratitude and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Now Is the time. Here is the place. Celebrate it!

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Expert Reveals: You Must Develop Singular Focus Now!

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“A few decades ago a large part of my personal development programs was to help people to multitask. People needed to be able to do more than one thing simultaneously. Today, people need to be able to concentrate and learn to do just one thing at a time.

Ideally, people can be successful at both, using either ability at the appropriate times. However, in this millennial age of distraction people seem unable to focus.  Many, especially children, but even adults, wear official labels stating they can’t concentrate.

They can, if not all, most can, focus and do quite well given the opportunity. Today, I’d like to focus on learning how to better concentrate and simplify life. Much benefit can be experienced when you let go, slow down and live simply.  Let’s explore, okay?

The Thing About Meditation Is You Become More And More You

Meditation has been available for eons. Some practice it. There are various types and even various descriptions about what meditation is or what it is not. I’ll use the loosest definition right now for our purposes. Concentration; reflection; contemplation; observation.

It is described as a training of the mind for benefit. I agree. I am only going to share one aspect of it today that is vital to learn and not discuss all the potential benefits and aspects. Concentration or focus is what people need to learn to do more of. To be single-minded.

Today, people eat and talk and are on their phones or media all day. Music, sounds or images are played in the background almost everywhere we go. Few people enjoy just being alone with themselves while eating, traveling or walking or whatever!

I Meditate So My Mind Cannot Complicate My Life

They must always be engaged or distracted by social media or some electronic toy or by other people.  This does not promote health or well-being. It is important to shut it off and relax. It is important mentally, physically and spiritually to let it all go for awhile.

Get yourself a candle or battery operated tea lamp flame and place it before you. Sit comfortably and relax. Breath and simply look at the flame. Focus you attention on the flame. Do nothing else. Breath. Whenever you notice yourself thinking something else stop.

Gently, return your attention to the flame. This may occur many times and that it is okay. The purpose IS to learn to return your attention to the flame without judgement or exasperation. Simply gaze at the flame. Allow your mind to quiet. It will eventually.

In Meditation You Develop Powerful Muscles Of Calm And Insight

Yes, you have to train it. It is used to NOT doing this. It will jump around all over the place. This is what it has always been doing unless you trained it. It will require some time and patience. It is not exciting, it may be boring. That is okay. Great benefit can come!

Take your time. Slow down. Spend at least 5 minutes. Go for 10 or 20. Do it when you won’t be distracted or interrupted. Turn off your cell phone. Make it a pleasant, comfortable, sacred time. This is time for you to do something wonderful for yourself. This is for you!

Soften the lights, turn them down. Quiet your environment. If you use a lit candle make sure it is safe and won’t catch anything on fire if you left it unattended. You shouldn’t and won’t of course. Just be smart about it. Enjoy this time. Let go, relax, de-stress and be. Enjoy.

Starve Your Distractions Feed Your Focus – Know Thyself

Do it each day. Once a day is fine. Twice is good, too. Unwind, let go and concentrate. Focus your attention. At other times of the day shut off your phone. Just sit with nature. Observe and listen to what is occurring. Be with it. Let it fill your awareness. Be present.

Enjoy being here and now. Live in the moment every once and awhile. Eat your food and simply eat. No media. No books. No conversation. Be silent. Just enjoy. Savor your food and the experience. Live here and now. Attend to right NOW.

Go for a walk and just notice how it feels. The temperature, the movement, your feet on the earth. Feel it rather than think about it. Listen to the sounds. See what you see. Simply notice. The tendency will be to name and label what you notice. Okay, just let it go. Just be.

To A Mind That Is Still The Whole Universe Surrenders

Simply walk and enjoy the walk. Let go of everything and just BE the experience you are having as you are having it. Let go of thoughts as they occur. Watch those come and go to instead of entertaining them. Stay present, when your mind goes elsewhere return it gently.

Whenever, you find yourself visiting the past or the future return your attention to here and now. When washing dishes just wash the dishes. Focus on what you are doing. Train and control your mind. Take time to focus. Take time to relax. Live differently for awhile.

Find moments in each day to escape into the present. Find moments to unwind and appreciate the moment you are living. Be aware, be peaceful, be what is right now. Listen and observe without judging. Yes, it is not easy at first but in time it can become easier and easier.

Meditate Because Some Questions Can’t Be Answered  By Google

Many people today train their bodies. They go to the gym to get fit. True, many still do not. Those who train realize at some level, for some benefit, it is important to do. They wouldn’t do it without benefits, right. Others, don’t see the benefit so they don’t.

Training your mind to serve you, instead of you serving it, is important, even more important. Take the time to learn to control your thought processes. Eventually, you will realize you are not your thoughts. Thoughts are something YOU have not what you are.

Most thoughts are not even yours. They stem from the conditioning we grew up with. Most of ‘our’ thoughts are actually those we learned to have from other people. Wouldn’t you like to learn to think for yourself rather than from prior, old, chronic conditioning?

The Quieter You Become The More You Can Hear

You can. You can learn to control your thoughts and you can learn to let go and go beyond your thoughts. For now, start simply. Focus. Concentrate on the flame. There are other forms of meditation I will share from time to time. For now practice this. Do it repeatedly.

Build the habit and the benefits will please you. Stop and enjoy life as it unfolds. Live more in the present. Become aware. Live more simply and enjoyable. Be grateful for right now. Be appreciative for what you have in this moment too. Live with awareness and delight. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Discover yourself today!

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Reflections On Another 9/11

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“You aren’t born a patriot or a christian or a jew. You are made a patriot, christian, jew, or muslim. Every country, each culture indoctrinates the youth. We are inculcated from birth and raised to be a product of the minds and environment around us.

We aren’t born Americans or Italians or Spaniards or Africans. We are  born people of a planet whose inhabitants have subdivided and drawn imaginary boundaries or borders, whom have institutionalized and nationalized its citizenry. All nations have.

I am not an American. I am not pro-american. I am not a flag waver or a reciter of pledges. I am not anti-american either. I am a human who lives in a particular area on the planet and who must, to some degree, to get along successfully adhere to its practices and rules.

Don’t Ruin A Good Today By Thinking About A Bad Yesterday

I do. AND I understand each group of people have theirs as well. None are correct or true. All have good points and all are flawed. We live in a nationalized world. If we want to engage in commerce we must play by the rules of the areas we are born into.

We can buck the system, reject the system, leave the system for another system but we can’t really be free of the system and live within the civilized world. We may rise above the system and be free in mind and spirit. We are still required to cooperate.Citizens we are.

We can be free in our hearts and soar high in our minds even while tethered to the land we walk on. So, likewise, we can be free of the political indoctrination while playing the game of citizen. We don’t have to live conditioned to jump because we are told we are to.

Forget What Hurt You But Remember What It Taught You

Songs, symbols all have the meaning we give it. Ours and others write their history as they deem it. None of this in intrinsic to us. Our flag, their flag, our anthem, their anthem; we all pledge allegiance to different lands, different rules, different ways of being.

What we have in common is we all do it. All nations do it. We are meaning makers. We are egocentric, we think what we do is important, even more important than what someone else or some other country does. We are all pretty similar in this regard.

I am at times proud of the country I live in. At other times I am ashamed. I don’t believe my country is any better than any other because we say it is. That is the folly of the zealot. Some countries seem more humane than others while others are less so.

Moving On Is Only For Those Brave Enough To Do So – Is That You

Some do good and bad things just as the people who populate any area are capable of. I am not in favor of institutionalized bigotry or discrimination. We are all the same species living within imaginary borders none of which appear on the actual planet. Classified!

Borders only exist on maps and human made globes. Territories are negotiated between people. We all have the same blood, breathe the same air, require food to sustain us, live in the same atmosphere and circle the sun together. We are all riding on the same spaceship!

Race, nationality, religion are all human made. They are distinctions to categorize and divide, designed to separate for political reasons. Groupings that don’t really matter except to those who engineered and adhere to the groupings. Designed for them used against us.

Awareness Is The First Step To Change Understanding The Second

It began with bands and tribes. Long ago humans notice and accentuated differences. They included and excluded based on economics and survival. Marriages and dowries exchanged for power and resources. People, separated, some by ‘blue blood’.

Those deemed born better than others. The haves and the have nots. The castle crowd and the peons. All of it is arbitrary and artificial. Concepts which are strained as we move forward in the 21st century. People fight to preserve the status quo. Vested interests.

Others seek to dismantle it. Some simply to move beyond such distinctions and celebrate our togetherness as people on one planet. We are a large group of fleas on the back of a dog. Not really much more than that. Except, this group can promote life or destroy it all.

Let Go Of The Past And Embrace Everything That Awaits You

We have evolved our technologies beyond our prudent and wise use of them. We are capable of doing great harm because we haven’t learned how to live and get along peacefully yet. We have not evolved ourselves as far or rapidly as our technology. We must.

We would do well to live with greater awareness of self and others. We would be wise to understand we are ALL in it together. We are all fighting for the same things in various ways. Enemies, like strangers, are just friends we haven’t made yet. We could, you know.

Perhaps, we aren’t ‘there yet’ as a species. We are still too concerned with power and control. We seek domination. We compete. We must be the top Alpha dog or we are nothing. Silly humans, we so miss the point. We live in potential paradise.

Life Provides You With Every Opportunity To Learn And To Evolve

Yet, we create most of the problems. Yes, weather and tectonics provide some. All the rest are human made problems we could most probably avoid. Some day perhaps we will. Until then, perhaps we ought to attempt to avoid them. Learn to get along. Become aware.

I think we would be better served deciding what we want that is good for all instead of for just a few. We would be better served building what we want instead of tearing down what we don’t. We focus on the wrong things too often. Let’s focus on the positive.

People celebrate wars and acts of terror. They say never forget but all that remembering hasn’t prevented anything, yet. Perhaps, we should forget and instead focus on the good that came from horrible acts. Promote what we want. Remember that and let go of all else.

I don’t celebrate a tragedy, nor an attack, nor the blame of whom may be responsible. All of that I would prefer to forget. People die everyday. People are attacked every day. People are blamed everyday. Horrible acts happen everyday all around the world.

Learn To Make Better Choices – The Decision Is Yours

I let go of death and destruction. I am not interested in the politics of 9/11 or other dates of destruction. I do remember that people were lost, sadly, tragically, needlessly. I celebrate the lives of those who left us because life is a celebration. We should remember them.

What I celebrate is people coming together to help those in a time of need. People responding bravely and selflessly to assist, rescue and recover others with no thought of the cost to themselves. These people didn’t have to but they did because they cared. 

I celebrate those who helped and got sick and died because they gave of themselves. I celebrate bonding and coming together for the good of each other. When calamity hits people tend to help each other. This is what we need to promote more of. Help each other!

What You Focus On Expands – You Get What You Focus On

Give, be generous. Stop the ‘me against them mentality’ and create a ‘we’ mentality. We are all in it together. We are on this rock until we aren’t. I repeat, we are all in it together. Let’s act like it. Let’s come together. Let celebrate our differences and embrace each other.

The world is filled with far more good people than bad. There are far more good acts than bad acts every day. This is what I choose to focus on and remember. This is what I choose to perpetuate. Life affirming, kindness and generosity toward others, selfless giving and a sense of hope. Peace, love, kindness, charity and goodwill. Be grateful for one another delight in each other. Then celebrate everything.” Rex Sikes

Today, find ways to delight yourself and others!

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Those Who Belittle Positive Thinking Want To Think Positively But Can’t!

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“Because I write this blog and teach seminars and workshops, speak and keynote. I frequently get questions from those wanting to know if the law of attraction or positive thinking works. Sometimes, I get comments from people telling me how neither can work.

It is both sad and fascinating listening or reading their negative thoughts about thinking positive. Many people suffer because they don’t hear what they are thinking and saying. Many people THINK they think positive when they do not. Most of us are like this.

They say and think things such as, ‘it can’t work.’  ‘If it did everyone would be rich’.  ‘I tried it but got nowhere.’ ‘You are blaming the poor for being poor if you say they are responsible for their results.’  On and on. I wonder sometimes, do they not really hear themselves?

Whether You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You Are Right

I wonder IF and WHEN they could actually hear what they are expressing, if they would simply stop, and pay attention to what they are claiming. If they became a bit more aware might they not want to change their thinking to be more useful.

If you don’t want to think positive or you think the Law Of Attraction is crap so be it.  BUT why go out of your way to tell me or others? What is the point?  I know they are not attempting to rain on someone’s parade and they mean no disrespect.

Usually, they are really hoping for an answer that will transform their life. They protest loudly hoping someone will convince them otherwise. Not everyone of them do this, of course. There are those disappointed ones who want company for their misery. Still…

A Change In Awareness Leads To A Change In Perception

I believe, if they would just change their thinking, instead of expecting someone to answer with the right answer, they would be further ahead. I think that many desperately want to be proven wrong on the inside or they wouldn’t make such an issue of it.

Sometimes they write a message like,  ‘you are so unrealistic. you have no idea how hard it is.’ Or ‘You have no idea what I endure.’ Or ‘everybody would be successful if they did what you say’. I do agree with this whole heartedly and most, sadly, don’t do what I say.

Sometimes, I think some tough love is in order. I want to say, ‘Wait let me get out my violin. You have had it tough. You don’t think it would work. Keep doing whatever you are doing then if you think you found the way. Keep on going. No worries.’ Live and let live.

If You Always Do What You Always Did You’ll Get What You Got

Or in the words of Doctor Phil, ‘how’s that working for you?’ Obviously, it isn’t. So they launch into a tirade sometimes.  Sometimes, they are just afraid. Sometimes, they really are asking for the solution. However,  you wouldn’t know it by their actions.

People want change and, yet, are afraid to change. They want their cake and to eat it, too. I understand that, so do I. What I found works for me and countless others so I share it so you can make it work too. If you don’t want to, if you have your own way and path, go for it.

Share your way if it works well. That is fine. We can all get to where we want to get to, successfully, without trampling on others. I like it when every one wins. Yes, I’m aware every one winning isn’t the competitive way of predatory capitalism. It really is not.

Insanity Is Doing The Same Thing And Expecting Different Results

There does’t have to be a loser in this. Everyone can win. There IS enough for everyone to have. Sadly, in the world, it is not distributed for everyone to have. There are those who keep more than their fair share and restrict access for others. Yes, it sucks. It really sucks.

That doesn’t mean, positive thinking and the Law Of Attraction don’t work. It means there are changes we need to make and can work toward. We can positively change the world, person by person, as we focus on solutions to overcome the difficulties people face.

We won’t get their throwing in the towel. We CAN make lots of change being angry and hateful but that won’t necessarily bring us what we want. It might just bring us a whole lot of what we don’t want and what got us into these messes in the first place.

Birds Of A Feather Flock Together – Like Does Attract Like

We might be better off being clear about what we want to do that brings about positive change for ourselves and the world. Be clear and know what we want that takes us further along without harm, without discord and hate. If we want peace, being peaceful is first.

We don’t get peace bullying others. It doesn’t come from hate and name calling. It doesn’t come from limiting other’s access and depleting their resources to benefit us. It doesn’t come from thinking it is hopeless and impossible. It comes from peace!

Our thoughts and our actions determine what we get back. I never claim positive thinking or the Law Of Attraction is magical. I claim it is practical and based in the principle of cause and effect. I am not saying karma will get you either, as some people think it.

Thoughts Lead To Feelings – Feelings Lead To Behaviors

I am saying if we want a  better life for ourselves AND for others then we must do those things that more easily and readily bring it about. Our thoughts and feelings and behaviors ARE important. That is why I share what I share. Yes, others may not agree.

I believe if you want more good put good out there. If you want kindness returned to you be kind first. If you want a happier life manage your thoughts and your feelings. Be happy first. Be filled with gratitude. Live and enjoy. Then you WILL know it! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

What will you do today to make it marvelous?

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Put A Guard Dog On Your Lips

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“Speak only to bless, heal and prosper. Don’t waste time or energy or risk creating more of what you don’t want by reliving it over and over by retelling it. Have the sense to let it go. If it sucked, that is what was. Now get over it and get on. Think something else.

Find the good. Learn self control. Direct your thoughts and energy and feelings elsewhere that will bring you the good you want instead of the bad you don’t or didn’t. You learn to control your thinking for so you are able to create what you want more of in life.

What you want more of FOCUS on. What you don’t want stop focusing on it. Let it go. Leave it alone. Think differently about it. Control you thinking, your words, your feelings and your actions. Become the master of them instead of their servant.

Clear Your Mind Of Can’t – Devote Your Mind To I Can

Run your brain don’t be run by it. Determine what you want, and who you want to be and create it. Create yourself to be the person you want to be. Choose wisely, because some aren’t so smart. Decide on the good you want for your future and make it happen. Live it, feel it. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Relax, let go and enjoy today.

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Cultivate Patience

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“People hate to wait. Don’t you? I have, that is for sure. What I have learned however is how you wait is important. You can burn or you can enjoy. If you can’t do anything about it you can learn to respond differently. Some people get bent all out of shape.

They say wisdom is knowing the difference between those things you can change and those you can’t. If you can’t change it; chill. You can’t do anything about it. Huffing and puffing won’t help. It will only agitate you and create more stress. You’ll  stress out others too.

Relax and let go. If you are stuck in traffic you ARE stuck in traffic. That is what is. Use it to say affirmations, relax, focus on the positive. Instead, most people focus on how they will be late and how that is bad. Yes, it may be but you can’t change it right now.

Patience Is About How You Behave While You Wait

Use your time productively instead of destructively. Relax, enjoy and go with the flow. Deal with the results when it is time. Don’t worry and fret in advance. You won’t change it that way either. In fact. you may only attract and create more  turbulence. Learn to wait! Patience IS a virtue. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

How will you celebrate this day?

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Focus On The Present To Create The Future

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“Would you like to enjoy life much more? Would you prefer life be more like a graduation party and less like a pity party? It can be if you do some simple things. The first thing you must do is decide to take charge of your life and run it instead of being run by events.

It is your life. Imagine you created it all just for yourself. All the good and all the bad you designed it just for you. Whether it is true or not isn’t the point. It is a useful frame of mind to adopt that can make a difference in how much enjoyment you experience.

If you are doing it to you and for your benefit then whatever happens is good. Right? Good AND bad. Okay, we have discussed this before. It bears repeating. Everything can be a blessing. Most people miss this. In fact, most people miss most things.

Celebrate What You Want To See More Of

They live as if wearing blinders. You need to see. You need to sensitize yourself and become more aware. Really, you do. We all do. Begin to put your attention on all the wonderful things that happen to you and around you. Celebrate all of them. There are many!

Big moments and little moments. Those that happen to you and those that happen for others. Celebrate all of them. Notice all the good around you. DO you realize there is more good in the world than bad? There are more good weather days than inclement days.

That is just the way it is. Media has sensitized us to all that is wrong, not only near us, but around the globe, day in and day out. Stop! This is insane. There are things that are bad and wrong that DO need to be righted AND yet, there is a  lot of good all around the globe.

What You Focus On Expands – Celebrate The Goodness

There is more than most people realize, notice or appreciate. Appreciate it and enjoy it. Celebrate your wins and others too. When you can celebrate other people’s wins and success and happiness you open the door to create and attract more for yourself.

Genuine delight in others good fortune is a tremendous boon for the soul. Count your blessings. Find the good in each moment. Be happy in all things. Delight and enjoy! Savor it. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Each moment is special; treasure this day!

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Your Wins Count Count Your Wins

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“Have you ever noticed that some people just seem successful. They are confident and things go right for them. It seems things come naturally and easily for them. They just ‘got it’! What they actually have is a winner’s attitude. They believe they ARE successful.

Another fantastic practice I have suggested is to keep a Success Diary. Record your daily wins. Write them down. Take inventory. Record and reward yourself for each win. Remember them. Wins   can be anything, small or large. You count wins you decide to do.

It is based on intentions. You set an intention to do something for the day. When you complete it you count it as a win. For example, you decide make your bed. Once you make it notate it. You decide to clean your office or the kitchen and you do. That is a win! Congrats!

Winners Don’t Do Different Things But They Do Things Differently

Whatever you intend to do and follow through on is a win. Pat yourself on the back for the follow through and note it. Most people don’t value the things they do that they say they will. They don’t make anything about it special. Yes, you want to. Celebrate!

Build a history of winning. Keep track of the successes you have each day. Intend to do 3, then 5, then 10 or more. Add to it gradually. It is a great way to increase you success ratio and feel good at the same time. Success breeds success. Success breeds success attitude!

If you can be successful in this you can be successful in other important areas too. Build successful completion as a habit that supports you. The more you succeed the more competent you become. Competence breeds confidence.

Losers Say They’ll It Do But Don’t Winners Do It Without Saying

Then success breeds more success. It is cyclic! Keep feeling good about being successful and keep writing it in your daily journal. You can later add larger tasks. You can have weekly or monthly goals too. It is all good. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Make each moment magnificent today!

*** We are planning some new things! Soon  A Teleseminar with Rex  What are your questions, what do you want to know, what would you like help with? Use the comment section to let me know. I’ll let you know when, meanwhile, please let me know what you’d like. ***

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Boys And Girls Man Up!

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Who is responsible for your life? You are, right? At least, most of ud would say that we are. We may own up to it,  and yet, frankly, a lot of people, maybe even us, blame others and circumstances, and just about anything and everything, when things don’t go as they want.

We point to anything other than ourselves. Sometimes, we do blame ourselves; like when we think we are an idiot or something worse. Apart from that, mostly we blame everything outside ourself. I am not suggesting we should blame ourselves, nope, not at all.

I am suggesting taking responsibility for ourselves, our reactions, and our responses when things go awry. Whomever or whatever is the cause of it. Take responsibility for making the best of a bad situation. Instead of blaming and whining do something positive.

Your Life Changes When You Take Complete Responsibility For It

Take action. Correct the wrong. Work to make it better. Take charge of yourself. Be a role model. No one likes a whiner, a blamer or one who hides behind excuses. Stop blaming the freeway for when you are late, or your alarm clock. It isn’t others’s responsibility.

It is your responsibility to be on time so adjust accordingly. Apply the same thought to anything else that may happens. If you want to take credit for the wins you have to take credit for the losses. Instead of wallowing, which some might do, take action. Think positive and act!

What kind of day will you make it?

*** We are planning some new things! Soon  A Teleseminar with Rex  What are your questions, what do you want to know, what would you like help with? Use the comment section to let me know. I’ll let you know when, meanwhile, please let me know what you’d like. ***

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The Secret To Becoming Free Of Problem People And Circumstances!

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“We are faced with difficulties, circumstances and challenging people. Tough times come our way. What are we to do? How can we get through the most trying of times? There is a way. If you are open to it and apply it you can experience wonderful freedom.

Continued from: How To Master Any Problem Person Or Circumstance and Become Free – See Previous Post

Mindset, your attitude, is the most important tool, weapon, piece of the puzzle or secret ingredient. How we approach the world, how we perceive and frame what happens is crucial in how easily and readily we are able to move through those times.

Enlightened warriors use whatever is happening for positive development. They understand that challenges and obstacles are important for our inner and outer progress. They have realized that ‘the kite rises against the wind’ and that difficulties are necessary.

If You Can’t Change It – Change The Way You Think About It

This is the way of the enlightened peaceful warrior. They embrace and accept everything as important for their personal evolution. They know that what you resist persists. They understand the necessity of getting into flow. Acceptance IS what is needed.

Good people in our life are great to have BUT they are not that important in terms of our growth. They are support, they are community, they are part of our mastermind. The are important because of who they are and their connection to us.

The people who help us to grow the most are the ones we want to be around least. They are the asses, the rude, the strangers, neighbors, co-workers who rub us the wrong way. They are all the people we want to avoid. Why are these people important to us?

What You Deny Or Ignore You Delay – What You Resist Persists

Because they provoke us into thoughts and feelings we don’t want to experience. As long as they can bait us by who they are and what they do we will get hooked and reeled in the wrong direction. If we can learn from them and not get hooked we become free.

Pretend the issues is in you NOT in them. They are the catalyst. They are the provocateur. Without them we would not think and feel these things. These people come our way SO THAT we CAN get free. We need to realize they ARE a blessing not a curse. A blessing!

If we can love, forgive, embrace and understand them we can be free of them and get free of the issues inside us. They are the spotlight showing us the way out. They illuminate the areas we need growth. It is not just the people in our life but all problems and obstacles.

What You Face And Accept You Conquer – Let Go And Accept It

Less than glorious circumstances and personal problems are all blessings. If we are wise enough, intelligent enough, open enough, we can realize this and use them for greater freedom and a more wonderful life. Stop burning because of them and welcome  them.

Accept, allow, and understand. This may be true in real life or it may just be a mindset you adopt. Who cares? If you act as if, if you pretend, you can master it. Let go of problem people and circumstances as problems and welcome them as opportunities.

Change you mindset and attitude and beliefs about them and your life will change. Learn from each moment instead of resisting, accusing, excusing, whining, complaining and blaming. Love instead of hate, accept instead of being intolerant, be peaceful and enjoy.

Attitude Determines Your Altitude – Attitude Is Everything

Celebrate the tough times and they are no longer so tough! Take the sting out of the issue. Reduce the length of time it takes to go through difficult times. Perception is everything. Did you ever notice if you hate something, or are bored, or hurting, you endure it longer?

Fun times go by faster don’t they? Actually by clock time nothing changes, but by mental and emotional time everything may. Lessen the suffering by accepting the enemy. Make peace. You may or may not do it on the outside but do it on the inner. Be a peaceful warrior.

From within, change starts. Inside your mind and heart and being make the changes, if you can’t bring yourself to in the outer world. Perhaps, in time, it won’t matter to you either way. Make peace with the enemy. Celebrate all circumstances. Dance with the demons.

Bitter Trials Are Blessings In Disguise – Count Your Blessings

What you resist persists. Energy flows where attention goes. If you put energy into feeling bad about people you encounter or are surrounded by, or less than glorious circumstances, you get back more of the same. Birds of a feather flock together. You attract it.

When you let go, when you celebrate, when you are grateful and appreciate everything you go beyond the problems and issues. You enter an entirely new realm of being. You surpass the ordinary and live within the divine. If you consider it ALL divine you are free!

To change your life you must change what you think, feel and do on a daily basis. If you keep doing the same thing nothing changes. You keep the same issues and problems alive. Stop and make the changes you want to. Live the life you desire. Focus on the positive!

Talk About Your Blessings Not Your Burdens – Blessings Abound

Seek the silver lining. Find the good in all things and all people. Take the higher road. Take the road less traveled. Find ways to re-frame problem people and circumstances as blessings and opportunities. Welcome lessons! Learn, grow, find delight and enjoy!

It is a process. You will grow more and more capable. As you do whatever presents itself as challenging becomes less of a problem and more of an opportunity. Things change. The more you do the more you can do. You develop the skills. Acceptance becomes easier.

Many people make millions in the worst economic climates. Down times CAN be UP times! ‘One man’s meat is another man’s poison’. ‘One person’s floor is another person’s ceiling’. It is whatever we perceive it to be. Get it? Mindset is critical! It’s all about attitude!

What You See And What You Say Is What You Get – Be Positive

Perception is everything. What we believe runs the show. It is all a point of view. It is your point of view. As such it can change, but only you can change it. When you do new worlds open up to you.  You will see and live things differently and gloriously. You will become free.

Problems are there for our own good! Don’t avoid. Accept and allow. Become and enlightened, peaceful warrior. Make awareness and understanding your way. Find the good in all and people and circumstances stop being problems. Recognize how truly blessed you are and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Delight and enjoy!

*** COMING UP – A Teleseminar with Rex  What are your questions, what do you want to know, what would you like help with? Use the comment section to let me know. I’ll let you know when, meanwhile, please let me know what you’d like. ***

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