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I Own This Planet! What Say You?

“I own this planet. It is my planet. It is my world. It is my life. It doesn’t happen to me I happen to it. I am not a victim of life. I am life. Life conforms to me and my thinking. I don’t a accept circumstances. I dictate the circumstances. I make things happen. I am a creator.

I am not a pauper I am a rich person. I own this planet. It is my garden paradise. I act like an owner not a guest. It is mine.  Life is mine to declare what I want and to make it what I want. Stop living as if you need permission. Stop accepting circumstance and make them.

Live fully! Stop acting like you don’t belong. This planet belongs to you. We are all co-owners. Take care of it and treat it, and what you want, as if you do own it, because you do. Stop wimping around, begging for crumbs. You own paradise and, yet, live as a pauper.

What You Focus On Expands – You Get What You Think About

Stop that victim mentality! Live with authority. Declare your power. Realize and recognize your power comes from within you not from without. You determine how you shall live and what you will or won’t have. You don’t have to deprive anyone to have everything you want.

There is enough for all. Declare your power. Declare your authority. Assist others in finding and declaring theirs. Stop thinking about dividing a pie and think about creating more than enough pies for everyone! Stop living poorly and live rich and abundantly!

Create what you want. Live it! Make it happen. If you don’t know how, learn how. Design your mind! Create your best life ever. I am here to help. Read the blogs. Watch my videos. Enroll in my programs. Invest in yourself. Live the live you deserve to live.

Thoughts Become Things – What You Think About You Get

Stop waiting and start living fully. Overcome your limitations and blocks and sky rocket your results. If you aren’t living for yourself, your best life ever, then you are living some sort of life for someone else. STOP! Start living large! Now is the time. Do it now! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Have You Been A Wimp? Here’s How To Stop!


“Many people live as wimps. I’m sorry to say that but it is true. They have accepted victim roles and live not from their power but from excuses and reasons why they aren’t what they could be nor have what they want. That thinking will never get you anywhere.

It is tough love time. You are the only person who can change you. You are the only one who can take charge and make your life different. No one else can. If you don’t learn to live life by your terms, you will live life by anyone and everyone else’s terms. Get it?

Unless you are locked in a jail or tied to a chair you are the person in charge of your eating habits. You have control over coming and going. You decide what to do. It is not a perfect example but you follow it don’t you? You make the decisions about your life.

Visualize Your Success Then Take Action Focus On What You Want

You are the only person in charge of your eating and drinking habits. Yes, other may have made recommendations but you are the person with control whether or not you exercise it. You determine how much television you watch. You decide how much water you drink.

You are in charge of how much exercise you take. You decide what you want to do and what you want to resist. You are in charge of what you do and what you don’t do. My point is, act like it. Get it? Recognize your power and chose to use it. Put yourself in charge.

You already are in charge whether you live like it or not. It is time to realize this. If you want to make a change then make it. Stop excusing yourself, blaming yourself, others or the world and get to it. Make the positive good things you want to happen actually happen.

Dream Big – Set Goals – Take Action – You Get What You Focus On

Apply yourself. Take control of your thinking. Decide you can and go after it. Become a thought champion. Then act like one. Pursue your goals. If you want to lose weight do whatever positive actions it requires. Drink more water. Eat a little healthier. Move more.

Nothing will change unless you change first. Change your thinking. Change what you think about. Change how you think. Focus on the good you want. Focus on the positive. Focus on what you can do and do it. Step by step. Inch toward your goal. Move closer and closer.

You will do it if you want it badly enough and if you believe you can. Mindset is 95-99% of what you need to make things happen. Then a little bit of inspired action and you can be well on your way. Claim control. Be in charge. No more excuses. Be wimpy no more. Do it!

Your Future Depends On What You Do Today

Start living life on your terms. Start living your dreams. Make it happen. As you do you will get more excited. You will feel proud and more positive. With each obstacle you get past you will feel more exhilarated. With each step you get closer. Do it! Keep at it!

The more you manifest the more you can manifest. You learn the ropes. It gets easier as you practice. With each goal you get you can set bigger and larger goals. You graduate into it. So get to it! Make it happen. Claim your life back. Have a blast.  Celebrate everything.” Rex Sikes

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What The Patriots’ Super Bowl Win Means For You


“Did you see that Super Bowl Game? Was that amazing or what? Yes, I know some fans are very disappointed but still you have to admit that was one heck of an incredible game AND upset. Tom Brady, 39 years old, broke all records! WOW! What a way to go! A SUPER bowl!

It was incredible! The Boston Patriots prove it ain’t over until it is over. Keep playing until you can’t. Play your very best. You might just win. If not you will have done your best. You can be proud of that. The Patriots’ win demonstrates commitment and perseverance.

Tom Brady, called too old, even ‘long in the tooth’ played an incredible game. The Patriots came back from a 25 point deficit to win over the Atlanta Falcons. It proves you are never too old, never too young, never too anything, to not do your best and go for it.

Winners Aren’t Those Who Never Fail – Winners Just Never Quit

Wherever you are, whatever your age, nationality, religion, gender, whatever preferences you have, don’t matter. You can accomplish whatever you want. Have the will to win. Believe you can. Work hard to make it happen. Never give up! Do your best. Act like a champion.

Both teams were top of their game this past year. The best teams played off. Only one can take the trophy but both deserve kudos for playing hard and well and doing their best. You do too when you do your best. Never give up. Never give in. Keep at it and prevail.

Take this as a lesson. You can accomplish great things when your heart and mind are in on it. Steel your will. Dedicate yourself. Believe in you and do your best. It ain’t over until it is over. You never ever fail unless you quit too early. Keep going. Keep learning. Keep doing.

Champions Keep Playing Until They Get It Right – Never Quit

Be glad that you can play the game. Enjoy the challenges. The tougher the competition the more the game is thrilling. Accept challenge and obstacle but don’t let it detour you. ‘When the going gets tough, the tough get going’, said coach Lombardi. It applies.

Who do you think had more mind power going for them as the Patriots narrowed the lead. They must think ‘we are gaining on them’ while the Falcons might think ‘oh no they are catching up’. Frankly, I don’t know what they either thought but I can guess.

Focus on what you want to make happen not on what you don’t want. Speak only about that which you want to make happen. Think and visualize what you want to happen. Get it? Fill your mind with the results you want then go for them. While you do, celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Find a way to have more fun. Enjoy yourself!

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You Don’t Need To Get All Pumped Up And Motivated!


“How important is confidence? Is it necessary? What about getting motivated? Do we really need to get pumped up before we get our tasks done? Some people don’t trust motivational gurus or seminars. Sometimes for good reason. So what do we actually need?

Confidence is absolutely important. Competence is also important. WISDOM may be needed more than either in order to discern when to be confident. YOU SHOULD be confident that you can learn to do anything and confident you can do it once you have mastered it.

Both confidence and competence are part of the same set . One without the other is meaningless. I don’t have to be confident I can walk over to the other side of the room and get a book from the shelf, today. I don’t need that because I already AM confident I can.

When You Believe In Yourself Anything Is Possible

WHY? Because I have successfully done so or similarly many times. More than anything one needs to behave as an infant does. The infant doesn’t know any fancy words like confidence or competence. The infant just keeps doing it until a successful habit.

That is how we learned to do everything from birth on. We just did without judgement. We learned to roll over, sit up, balance, crawl, walk, feed ourselves. Imagine where we would be if we had given up anywhere along the line to acquire those abilities.

Imagine what would have been the outcome had we thought ‘this is too hard I can’t continue.’ What if we thought, ‘I’m not good enough to feed myself. I can never do this.’ We didn’t judge or assess how difficult or how long things would take. We simply did until we could.

Don’t Be Pushed By Your Problems Be Led By Your Dreams

Nearing toddle stage the influences around us helped us to not be so tenacious. We learned about ‘failure’ and ‘success’. We learned there were punishments and reasons to not do things. We learned to lie to save face and get away with things. We learn defeat and to feel bad.

Prior to that there was no such thing as defeat.  We just did it until we could do it. We mastered many major skills without thinking about it. We didn’t read books or need to get pumped up. We didn’t whine or complain. We just performed endlessly until we got it.

We were conditioned out of being tenacious and learned to be afraid. We gave away our power. That is what happened back then. We can continue to whine and complain and make excuses about that time. We can blame those who did their part to raise us.

Know That You Can Do It And You Can Become Unstoppable

Here is another way to think about confidence when people say they need confidence. Because some people are confident they don’t have any and will boldly tell you they are certain they have none. The snake is swallowing its own tail. Understand this phenomenon?

Confidence can be no different, in this regard, than worry.  Worry is negatively planing for the future. Some people are certain things won’t work out. They are confident about negative circumstances or certain they lack certain abilities or opportunities. Get it?

You can affirm something in the positive or you can affirm something negative. You can be certain things will work out or that they won’t work out. Confidence that you can is the same as confidence that you can’t. There is no difference in the feeling of certainty.

Follow Your Dreams – Believe In Yourself – Never Give Up

However, one form of confidence results in being able to do something positively while the other results in you positively being unable to do something. Aim your confidence at what you want to do in a positive way. This is where confidence can be most useful.

Be confident, believe that you can learn what to do. You are in the process of discovering, learning, starting out to gain skill in an area. As you gain the skill your confidence in your abilities can go hand in hand. Keep the faith that you can learn and you can master it.

You have mastered many things in life. Some great and productive. Some not so great and burdensome. Because you have done both you can now decide which to master in the future. You can choose to master skills or not. Whatever you decide is precisely what you do!

I Think I Can – I Think I Can – I Think I Can – I Think I Can 

You can live in the past from that conditioning OR you can choose to be different. You can choose to let it go. You can choose to learn again to live as that tenacious child. You start right from where you  are at, in spite, of your conditioning. You can move forward.

When you believe you can do something it does make doing it a bit easier. You want to believe that you can accomplish you goals. It provides extra juice, hope, courage and tenacity for getting the results you want. If you don’t believe in yourself it is tougher.

You may never move if you aren’t confident or certain that you can. You do want to be confident you can get your outcomes. You must have faith, unwavering faith, that you can make happen what you say you will. You win more often when you have a champion mindset.

Keep Going Until You Get There That Is All You Need To Do

That doesn’t mean you need to get all pumped up. You can have a quiet conviction that you can steer your ship through troubled waters if necessary. You can and you will do whatever positive it takes to make your dreams come true. You are certain you can!

Let go of whatever reason ‘why’ you can’t. Look for and wrap yourself in the reasons why you can. No matter how difficult look for solutions not at the problems. Turn your attention to the small, baby steps you can take consistently to move you from here to there.

That’s what the infant did. The infant made small micro muscle movements again and again and again, correcting as necessary, to hone the skills and behaviors of balancing and feeding and whatever was learned at the time. You and I can do that again. Take tiny steps.

Winners Aren’t People Who Never Fail But Ones Who Don’t Quit

Figure out what you want and go for it. Make tiny, positive, daily progressive steps towards accomplishing your goal. If you want to make more money, for example, what do you have to learn? Do some research. Who do you have to call? What do you have to sell?

What are the resources around you? What can you do? If you think nothing, that you can’t do anything, then you aren’t thinking very hard or well. There’s always something positive, small, and not that difficult, you can do to move forward. Explore, think and discover.

Ask yourself, ‘What do I want to accomplish? What step can I take. What can I do?  Break down what you want to accomplish. Chunk it down into small manageable bits. Once you take your first step, repeat the process for the next. Just do one step after the other.

Adjust And Continue – You Can Always Find Or Create A Way

Little progress at a time is better than no progress over time. If you do nothing you will be in the same place days, weeks, months and years from now. Doing a small bit each day will take you further much faster. Begin now. Determine what you want and move on it.

I end each blog with find things to be grateful for. It is repetitious. It is meant to be! I repeat things over and over because these ARE important and it takes repeated exposure to sink it. Anything worth learning and having is worth repeating. Once is never enough.

Find your way. Drop the excuses. Take charge. Live fully. Feel grateful. Manage your thoughts. Be thankful. Choose how you will make it be. Appreciate everything. Take another step. Express gratitude. Inch by inch. Get it? Okay now celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Reflections On Another 9/11


“You aren’t born a patriot or a christian or a jew. You are made a patriot, christian, jew, or muslim. Every country, each culture indoctrinates the youth. We are inculcated from birth and raised to be a product of the minds and environment around us.

We aren’t born Americans or Italians or Spaniards or Africans. We are  born people of a planet whose inhabitants have subdivided and drawn imaginary boundaries or borders, whom have institutionalized and nationalized its citizenry. All nations have.

I am not an American. I am not pro-american. I am not a flag waver or a reciter of pledges. I am not anti-american either. I am a human who lives in a particular area on the planet and who must, to some degree, to get along successfully adhere to its practices and rules.

Don’t Ruin A Good Today By Thinking About A Bad Yesterday

I do. AND I understand each group of people have theirs as well. None are correct or true. All have good points and all are flawed. We live in a nationalized world. If we want to engage in commerce we must play by the rules of the areas we are born into.

We can buck the system, reject the system, leave the system for another system but we can’t really be free of the system and live within the civilized world. We may rise above the system and be free in mind and spirit. We are still required to cooperate.Citizens we are.

We can be free in our hearts and soar high in our minds even while tethered to the land we walk on. So, likewise, we can be free of the political indoctrination while playing the game of citizen. We don’t have to live conditioned to jump because we are told we are to.

Forget What Hurt You But Remember What It Taught You

Songs, symbols all have the meaning we give it. Ours and others write their history as they deem it. None of this in intrinsic to us. Our flag, their flag, our anthem, their anthem; we all pledge allegiance to different lands, different rules, different ways of being.

What we have in common is we all do it. All nations do it. We are meaning makers. We are egocentric, we think what we do is important, even more important than what someone else or some other country does. We are all pretty similar in this regard.

I am at times proud of the country I live in. At other times I am ashamed. I don’t believe my country is any better than any other because we say it is. That is the folly of the zealot. Some countries seem more humane than others while others are less so.

Moving On Is Only For Those Brave Enough To Do So – Is That You

Some do good and bad things just as the people who populate any area are capable of. I am not in favor of institutionalized bigotry or discrimination. We are all the same species living within imaginary borders none of which appear on the actual planet. Classified!

Borders only exist on maps and human made globes. Territories are negotiated between people. We all have the same blood, breathe the same air, require food to sustain us, live in the same atmosphere and circle the sun together. We are all riding on the same spaceship!

Race, nationality, religion are all human made. They are distinctions to categorize and divide, designed to separate for political reasons. Groupings that don’t really matter except to those who engineered and adhere to the groupings. Designed for them used against us.

Awareness Is The First Step To Change Understanding The Second

It began with bands and tribes. Long ago humans notice and accentuated differences. They included and excluded based on economics and survival. Marriages and dowries exchanged for power and resources. People, separated, some by ‘blue blood’.

Those deemed born better than others. The haves and the have nots. The castle crowd and the peons. All of it is arbitrary and artificial. Concepts which are strained as we move forward in the 21st century. People fight to preserve the status quo. Vested interests.

Others seek to dismantle it. Some simply to move beyond such distinctions and celebrate our togetherness as people on one planet. We are a large group of fleas on the back of a dog. Not really much more than that. Except, this group can promote life or destroy it all.

Let Go Of The Past And Embrace Everything That Awaits You

We have evolved our technologies beyond our prudent and wise use of them. We are capable of doing great harm because we haven’t learned how to live and get along peacefully yet. We have not evolved ourselves as far or rapidly as our technology. We must.

We would do well to live with greater awareness of self and others. We would be wise to understand we are ALL in it together. We are all fighting for the same things in various ways. Enemies, like strangers, are just friends we haven’t made yet. We could, you know.

Perhaps, we aren’t ‘there yet’ as a species. We are still too concerned with power and control. We seek domination. We compete. We must be the top Alpha dog or we are nothing. Silly humans, we so miss the point. We live in potential paradise.

Life Provides You With Every Opportunity To Learn And To Evolve

Yet, we create most of the problems. Yes, weather and tectonics provide some. All the rest are human made problems we could most probably avoid. Some day perhaps we will. Until then, perhaps we ought to attempt to avoid them. Learn to get along. Become aware.

I think we would be better served deciding what we want that is good for all instead of for just a few. We would be better served building what we want instead of tearing down what we don’t. We focus on the wrong things too often. Let’s focus on the positive.

People celebrate wars and acts of terror. They say never forget but all that remembering hasn’t prevented anything, yet. Perhaps, we should forget and instead focus on the good that came from horrible acts. Promote what we want. Remember that and let go of all else.

I don’t celebrate a tragedy, nor an attack, nor the blame of whom may be responsible. All of that I would prefer to forget. People die everyday. People are attacked every day. People are blamed everyday. Horrible acts happen everyday all around the world.

Learn To Make Better Choices – The Decision Is Yours

I let go of death and destruction. I am not interested in the politics of 9/11 or other dates of destruction. I do remember that people were lost, sadly, tragically, needlessly. I celebrate the lives of those who left us because life is a celebration. We should remember them.

What I celebrate is people coming together to help those in a time of need. People responding bravely and selflessly to assist, rescue and recover others with no thought of the cost to themselves. These people didn’t have to but they did because they cared. 

I celebrate those who helped and got sick and died because they gave of themselves. I celebrate bonding and coming together for the good of each other. When calamity hits people tend to help each other. This is what we need to promote more of. Help each other!

What You Focus On Expands – You Get What You Focus On

Give, be generous. Stop the ‘me against them mentality’ and create a ‘we’ mentality. We are all in it together. We are on this rock until we aren’t. I repeat, we are all in it together. Let’s act like it. Let’s come together. Let celebrate our differences and embrace each other.

The world is filled with far more good people than bad. There are far more good acts than bad acts every day. This is what I choose to focus on and remember. This is what I choose to perpetuate. Life affirming, kindness and generosity toward others, selfless giving and a sense of hope. Peace, love, kindness, charity and goodwill. Be grateful for one another delight in each other. Then celebrate everything.” Rex Sikes

Today, find ways to delight yourself and others!

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Strategies For Handling Criticism And Cruel Remarks. Do This!

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Strategies to stop letting others hurt you. I got a request for a blog post on this topic. It is a great topic and a great request. I am happy to address it and give you and idea of some of the positive things you can do to change it from being a problem.

Listen to your own heart. Turn your thoughts and attentions to positive thoughts. Focus on your confidence. Make your Mantras ones of worthiness and self love. See yourself ideal. Visualize.

See your self resilient. Some people mentally put a protective colored bubble around themselves. Others just learn to let it roll off them as water off a duck’s back.

The Mind Is As Strong As It’s Weakest Think

You get what you focus on. If you focus on unwanted comments and let them hurt you they will. If you choose to ignore them and not let them bother you they won’t. The choice is yours.

It never hurts to develop a thicker skin so you don’t take what others say too seriously. When someone calls you a name realize it is really more about them than it is about you.

Understand this and rise above being offended or hurt. Stop being a victim. People project. We all do. What they find wrong about you is most likely more about them than it is about you. Know this!

You Get What You Focus On

Decide to be different. Learn how to let it go. Understand it is other people’s projections even when it is well-intended. Say thanks for sharing and move on.

Criticism from friends or foe is an opportunity to examine ourselves and grow. Say thanks. Examine yourself. If it is accurate apply the appropriate action or remedy to make the changes.

If not, let it go. Put everything into perspective as best you can. Consider the source. Be grateful you have friends. Learn to appreciate what you do have.

Energy Flows Where Attention Goes

If a loved one tells you something you didn’t want to hear, it may be well-meaning even if non-supportive. They don’t intend to hurt you. Understand this. They meant to be helpful. Be grateful.

If an enemy, well, why even bother to let it hurt you. What would you expect from an enemy? Let that one go right away. Don’t give it a second thought. It is an enemy.

Whether from friend of or enemy you might just consider it a gift. Often times friends won’t tell you like it is. Someone who doesn’t like you might. Consider this.

The More We Do The More We Can Do

If someone could tell you something about yourself, you didn’t realize, wouldn’t you want them to? What if everyone knew it but you? Wouldn’t you want some one to be honest enough to say it?

‘Hey you got a booger on your lip’ or ‘Your slip is showing.’ As if this last one mattered today when people where their underwear on the outside. But you get the idea, right?

Sometimes feedback can be useful even from an unwanted source, said in an unwanted way. We should want the feedback that helps us grow even if we don’t like getting it. Be open to valuable input.

When People Hurt You Repeatedly Think Of Them As Sandpaper…

Choose to think differently. Decide to learn not to let other’s opinions bother you. First remember, opinions don’t matter. Everyone has one. So what? Don’t fall apart because of one.

Learn to control your thoughts and direct your mind. When negativity comes your way, recognize it and choose to focus on the positive. Direct your mind elsewhere productive and positive.

Do not be a victim of someone else’s crappy behaviors. Don’t allow yourself to suffer because people are stupid, cruel and unkind. Realize they have more to lose by being the way they are.

… They Scratch You And They Hurt You …

If you are a nice person. If you attempt to live well, respect others and don’t succumb to trading poisonous barbs then rise above it all. Feel sorry for the low life’s who can’t. Pity them and move on.

Develop you confidence and self-esteem. Use affirmations, visualizations and condition yourself. Develop your strengths and accept and let go of your weaknesses. Or develop them too.

If you can change something change it. If you can’t accept that you can’t and change something else that you can. Like your attitude. Change your attitude if you can’t change the other things.

… But Later You’ll Be Shining And Polished

In fact, just develop the attitude of a winner, a champion and a victor and you will be less likely to be susceptible to frivolous attempts to hurt you. You’ll be less like to be overly sensitive to well meaning criticism.

Well, there are a few things you can do. There are more. Perhaps, we’ll discuss them another time too. Meanwhile, gratitude works wonders. If you preoccupy yourself with being grateful for everything you are less likely to get hurt.

You can find the silver lining in the dark clouds. Look for the good behind all things. Miracles can happen when you are thankful. You get back more of what you focus on so focus on the best and let go of the rest. Be grateful, truly appreciative and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Feel positive today. It’s a great day to find your best feelings!

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Trump For President – Yes or No? What Makes ‘The Donald’ Trump The Rest?

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“He is rich, he is rude and arrogant. It doesn’t matter whether you are for him or against him, like him or not.  Perhaps, he has some attributes you don’t like and some that you do. It is worth taking a look at him to understand his success and his appeal and the behaviors that many don’t like nor appreciate. There are many things. Let’s briefly explore a few that make Trump, trump.

Donal Trump, presidential candidate, does not play by the rules. He makes them. When people ask him what his plan is at most he says, ‘we have a plan, it will work. We will make it work’. He says this because this IS how he thinks. This IS how a successful person thinks. He may or may not know ‘how’ he just knows it will happen because that is what he wants. He intends it to work. He’ll do it.

If it doesn’t work out he will find another way. This thinking works for him, but this is not what we want to hear from our candidates. It is, however, the thinking of the truly successful. ‘I will have a team and put them on it and we will make it happen’. Carnegie, Edison, Ford, major CEO’s, nice people or not, have a success mindset. They ‘know’ it will work! For them, the plan follows the intent.

You Are Where Your Thoughts Take You

People can ask, ‘what if it won’t or what if people don’t like it?’ He says, ‘they will, they will like it, they will come to like it. they will see’. He believes this. He knows this! He may not know politics or behave like a typical politician. He may or may not make a good presidential candidate or leader but he does exemplify the mindset necessary to succeed. He, himself is convinced and acts convinced. Completely!

There are rich people who are wonderful people and there are rich people who are awful. Money is an amplifier for the kind of person you are. The Bible says, ‘the LOVE of money is the root of all evil.’ It is not money that is evil. It’s been said, ‘…absolute power corrupts absolutely.’ There is the good and the not so good. There are those who exemplify the admirable and that which isn’t.

Trump is from wealth. He grew up in it. He inherited it. He has lived it for decades. He is surrounded by it. He oozes it. He made and lost money and is still apparently at the top of his game. He is a billionaire, a developer, a media darling, he is someone you may ‘love to hate’. He’s been in the public eye, as a person of wealth, for a long time. He thinks and acts different from most other candidates.

Attitude Is A Little Thing That Makes A Big Difference

For the very reasons mentioned above he IS different from the other candidates. You can tell from his body language. He is confident, used to getting his way, able to bulldoze over anyone, yet, has a sense of humor. Watch his body language. Trump is comfortable with himself, his position, his wealth. He is exudes power and dominance even while attacked by other candidates. He is secure!

Cruz and Rubio while wealthy in their own right, are not as comfortable nor confident as Trump. He baits them and stands centered, planted, hands in pockets, a condescending look on his face. He is nonplussed. They look at him and look TO him. He does’t bother to look at them. They seem so weak by comparison. Bush was completely out of his league. He knows he is in charge of the room!

Again, I am not suggesting Trump would be a good President or that he should even be President. I am simply pointing out the differences. What gives Trump the edge? Cruz and Rubio are pretty confident in their own right, on their own, but are no match for Trump on the same stage. He knows it, they know it, and it is painful to watch. Trump isn’t a politician he is a dominant force!

If You Really Want Something You Will Find A Way

There may be a host of other qualities and characteristics voters want in a candidate but Trump is comfortable being Trump. He is used to being  in the spotlight, being outlandish and extravagant in all regards. He is used to being rich, and used to being a celebrity. He is media savvy. These could make him a great choice or a horrible one. Trump knows something the others don’t from experience.

Whether he can run the country or not remains to be seen but one thing is for certain. He has been running the media show so far. He has been running the debates. When have you ever seen such chaos before as people attempt to assert themselves against the lead candidate. I am not suggesting you like him, or be like him. Be yourself. Be your best self. Come into your own strengths.

Why do I mention ‘the Donald’ here? He has characteristics you may not want to have and he has some it would be beneficial to have. He didn’t get this far in the election or life without something going on inside. It is a mental game, after all. From within to without. No it doesn’t have to be pretty. The results you create stem from what you have going on in your thoughts and feelings.

Success Is A Matter Of Correct Habits

Like it or not he has ‘attitude’. He knows he is a force to reckon with. He knows how to play the game and he makes you play his. He seems to believe he is right, better, or a better choice, good for the country, and unstoppable. Whether he is or would be remains to be seen but he has attitude. That sets him apart in a very big way. Kings, queens and lords think differently from the subjects they rule.

Some create some really incredible things some create discord. Trump has something going on on the inside whether or not like it or agree with him. If we want to be a success we need to make sure we have something going on inside. Thoughts come first. Our thoughts lead to feelings. Our feelings lead to our actions. Our actions to results. If you want stellar results start with stellar thoughts.

Some people unite others some divide. Not all rich people or successful people are likable but YOU could be. You don’t have to be abrasive to get to the top. Notice however, those at the top are are different. They believe in themselves. They act certain. They know! They expect good results from to come from their actions. You can know this too. Control your thoughts, don’t let them control you.

The Brain Is As Strong As Its Weakest Think

Do you think Trump could stand the waves of attacks warranted and unwarranted if he wasn’t steeled in his thinking. If he wasn’t in control or in charge of his thoughts or what others think of him you’d see different responses. Look at the behaviors of Bush, Cruz and Rubio when they engage with him. Very different. Trump is a champion boxer taunting his opponents. He knows he will win!

He calls his opponent out and names the round. His attitude – he is unbeatable. Personally, if he lost, I don’t think it would bother him much. I don’t know, but he seems unflappable. Trump may even be a narcissist. That isn’t a good and YOU don’t have to be. The quickest way to the top may not be the nicest. You don’t have to not be nice to get ahead BUT the easiest way to the top is through being nice.

By working with others you succeed! There are lot’s of examples of wonderful people who are powerful. Make it a point to begin by being the best inside and you will be the best. Be nice, loving and kind inside and you will radiate it outside. Be a success in your mind and you can be a success in your life and you business. Take charge of your attitude. Think winner and you can be a winner.

Even, if I am totally wrong, you must agree that it has to be better to think ‘I am a winner’ than thinking consistently that you are a loser. So step up the game inside you. Be the boss of you. I suggest being a benevolent one, but a boss none the less. Keep your promises to yourself and others. Trump didn’t make it on his own, even if he tells you that. Others helped. With Trump it began with his dad.

A Rising Tide Floats The Whole Boat And All Those In It

It takes collaborating and negotiating to get ahead. Even the worst examples of the most successful need others to get ahead. They may not acknowledge them or give them the credit they are due, but they would not have made it without collaborations and partnerships. So model and adopt the finest qualities and characteristics and leave the not so nice ones alone. Find the best and leave the worst.

One of the finest books to read and re-read is ‘Think And Grow Rich’ by Napoleon Hill. In it he discusses the need for having certainty, being unstoppable, making your dreams come true AND how it is easier and more likely when you cultivate a winning personality, add value to others and go the extra mile first. Your wealth and your value will be determined by how many people you help in life.

Celebrate and co-operate with those around you. Read the book, if you haven’t. Re-read it if you have! You can be, do and have anything you want. If you can conceive it and believe it you can achieve it because we become what we think about day in and day out. You attitude does determine your altitude! Become unstoppable. This blog post isn’t really about Trump or the candidates. It isn’t meant to be political. It is all about you, me and who we become. Be the best you, you can be! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Delight each moment just because!

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Follow The Recipe For Success!

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“You know what you want and you really hope you get it. How come you are struggling so much? What isn’t working? What must you do to get ahead? Do you know? If you aren’t sure that is part of why you may be having a rough time. The answer is not working harder.

The answer IS work smarter. Success is a science, a formula, a system. If you follow it, as you do a recipe, you will be successful. Most people don’t do what is required.  They don’t learn the formula.  They try to do it on their own.  In a nutshell:

If you know what you want it must be more than a wish or a hope. It may start that way but it needs to be much more. It needs to become what Hill said, is a ‘white hot burning desire’. It should become your passion, your obsession. From there it becomes applied faith.

If You Really Want To Do Something You Will Find A Way

What is applied faith? It is the certainty that you will accomplish your definite purpose or goal. It is that inner knowing, that feeling that you are on the path and nothing can prevent you. Faith applied means you take action. You take the initiative and do what you must.

You work your plan and because you know one day you will arrive you never give up. Success begins with thought on the inside. It becomes a feeling. You feel successful. You act successful. You take action and you keep at it. Then, you become successful.

Sadly, many people wish, hope, want and desire but they never take the steps that make it happen. For most it is because their attitude is not correct. They don’t have a positive mental attitude to see them through. They believe their negative programming.

They listen to other people discourage them. They look to present conditions and circumstances instead of keeping their eye, their mind, their heart where they are headed to. They get distracted. They are hasty and it doesn’t happen fast enough, so they quit.

If You Don’t Want To Do Something You Will Find An Excuse

There are numerous reasons why people don’t make it. There is only one reason why people do succeed. That one reason is: they keep at it until they do succeed. They let nothing prevent them. Why? Because in their mind they are already a success!

I leave you with this poem:

“You can do as much as you think you can, But you’ll never accomplish more; If you’re afraid of yourself, young man, There’s little for you in store. For failure comes from the inside first, It’s there if we only knew it, And you can win, though you face the worst, If you feel that you’re going to do it.”  Edgar A. Guest  From A Heap o’ Livin’. The Reilly & Lee Co.

You Are Where Your Thoughts Take You

You can absolutely DO whatever you put your mind to. That is what Hill proved when he modeled 500 of the most successful people of his time. That is the result for those who have applied his philosophy fully. His works are responsible for millions of people from all walks of life becoming the success they want to be. You can too! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Be thankful for this day!

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Attitude Determines Your Altitude! The Importance Of Mindset.

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“What is your mindset? How is your attitude? Are you a victim or a victor? The difference is in how and what you think. What are your predominant thoughts? Henry Ford said, ‘whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you are right.’ Someone else said, ‘your attitude determines your altitude’. So, do you have a champion’s attitude or not?

Here are some thoughts you may wish to incorporate to develop and maintain that winning mindset. These are just samples. Tailor them or create one’s that work for you. The key to making affirmations work is to state them emphatically with loads of positive emotion. Have fun, be enthusiastic and fill your mind and being with positive powerful thoughts. Repeat these frequently throughout each day.

What You Say Is What You Get

I always move forward to success. I burn my ship. I leave no way out. I remain dedicated. I am passionate. I am faithful. I am always convinced, faithful and expectant even when there is no evidence of progress. Even when it seems the tides are against me and nothing is working, I remain true.

I intensify my desire for making my dreams come true. While waiting I make progress every day. I take action.  I am steadfast. I know I will prevail. I make progress during the journey. I enjoy and celebrate every moment. My thoughts and my feelings are aligned. I am congruent in my desires.

My concentration, my focus, my energy, is singular and on my purpose. I want being and doing and having what I want to be dominant in my conscious and unconscious mind. I want to learn each second how to be more positive, powerful, and purposeful. I am accepting, allowing and receptive. I am magnificent!

What You Say Is What You Get

I go after what I want fully. No way out. No excuses. No doubts or fears, but positive in every atom, ever cell, every fiber of my being. I want to believe in myself and discover that I am truly an emperor inside and out. I am a winner and a champion. I am a victor. I will never allow myself to be a victim of others, circumstances, events, or my own thinking.

I will be triumphant. I will win, conquer and evolve. I will succeed in ways currently beyond the limits of my imagination and discover myself delighted along the way.  I will celebrate and be grateful for everything always. Whatever IS is! I will look at the good within, and find it. I will celebrate because that IS what is in the moment.

What I cannot yet see is all the unexpected good coming my way. Goodness comes to me. I always land on my feet. I always win even in ways I don’t completely understand. Adversity has always been my friend even when I didn’t embrace it. There is always something marvelous to find. Seek and I will find it. Knock and it will be opened. I do and it is! I will keep an open mind and an open heart.

 Affirm Yourself – Declare What Is – Make It Happen – And So It Is

Remember to  ask.  Seek and continue to knock until you have the response from the universe you seek. Put your order in. Claim it. Wait for it as you do a meal in a cafe. Behind the scenes everything is being prepared. They are making a dish from your orders. They will deliver it. You only need to enjoy the time waiting. It is coming! It is yours!” Rex Sikes

Today is my day!

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The Secret To Success Few Realize: Actor’s Improv Training

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“Among other things I am an actor. Since I was three. I love it. As an actor there are many forms of training. Scene work, theater or on camera, commercials, audition, and improv. Believe me, there are many other approaches to this art and craft too. I mention this because there is an important concept I hope you will grasp.

The art of improv means spontaneous, extemporaneous, think on your feet, (comedic as is popularized by clubs  but there is also dramatic improv) acting entertainment. So let’s deal with what most people might know. The improv club. You go, have a few drinks or food and watch people respond to audience requests.

Topics blended together in unique ways, chosen out of a hat, so to speak. Actors then work together to entertain. A rule of improv, an important rule, in order to advance the premise and the scene is to say ‘Yes’ to whatever is offered. Say ‘yes’ and you have forward progress. Say no and the scene stops.

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A lot of training goes into getting talent to go for the ‘yes’ right out of the gate. It keeps the ball rolling as long as the actors say ‘yes’. This is not uttered verbally, necessarily, while it can be, it is a concept.

A principle for good improv. Whatever is offered you you accept it, say yes to it, and add to it. Steer it. Your partner respond likewise. Together you keep it moving.

I am quote, a wonderful current talent, Tina Fey, who posted, back in 2011 her ‘4 Rules Of Innovation’ from her book ‘Bossypants’. ‘The first rule of improvisation is to AGREE. Saying “no” grinds invention, innovation  (and improv) to a screeching halt.

‘Obviously in real life you’re not always going to agree with what everyone says. But saying YES reminds you to respect what your partner has created and to start from an open-minded place. Start with a YES and see where that takes you.’

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‘The second rule of improv is to not only say YES, say YES, AND. In improv, you agree and then add something of your own. If your partner starts with, “I can’t believe it’s so hot in here,” and you just say “Yeah…” the skit has stalled. But if you respond with, “What did you expect? We’re in hell!” things keep moving forward.’

I’ll let you go find the other two rules, but I will nutshell it for you by briefly quoting her again. ‘Whatever the problem be part of the solution.’ and ‘there are no mistakes only opportunities. The next big laugh is around the corner.’  I love this and it fits so well with the philosophy and approaches I have been sharing in my blog.

I was reminded of this listening to friend and Casting Director, and expert, Amy Jo Berman implore actors to get improv training so that when things get switched up on them at an audition; when the sides (pages of script) are changed on them moments prior to going before the casting director, they are prepared, they are skilled, well trained talent and able to say ‘yes’. Nothing throws them!

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I want to thank Tina and Amy for such great insight. I want to thank all those from ancient texts to modern day authors who have said the same thing, forever, in so many inspiring ways.

What we need to do is hear the message and then act on it. This is another reason why repetition is so necessary. Too often we miss what is really important!

As an actor in life we need to accept and affirm what is handed to us. Say ‘yes’ and add to it. Don’t let it stop there. We can steer it, just don’t resist it. Direct the energies in productive ways.

See it all the way through to the conclusion. Let go of preconceived notions of how things should be and go with the flow. Create some flow. Allow it to become better. Attitude is everything. Have fun and learn!

The more you practice these life skills the better you get at it, just as actors do practicing and rehearsing their craft. If you do it, repeat it, again and again, correctly, the logical outgrowth is you get better at it. You develop reliable, habitual skills. You evolve new neural pathways that serve you better.

Yes I Can

‘Start with a yes and see where that takes you’. Get in the habit of affirming life, of co-operating with others. moving forward, and adding value to all.

Keep moving it forward in positive ways. SO when life or someone throws you a curve ball you step in to bat. You aren’t thrown by changes.

Step up to the plate when life switches things up. Go for the run. Say ‘yes’ and move forward. Opportunity exists and the next big one is around the corner. Remember that! Set you attitude right and you can be, do and have anything. Live, love, laugh and say ‘yes’ to life! Celebrate! Rex Sikes

Enjoy each day more than the last!

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