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“What Can You Do When You Shock Or Disappoint Yourself?

“What do you do when you shock or disappoint yourself? You plan for the best but somehow you behave the opposite. You argue when you try everything not to. You break a commitment. You hurt  a loved when and didn’t mean to. What to do? What can you do?

You stop. Take a deep breath. Let go and release. Do your best not to blame yourself or others. Don’t make excuses. Sit with it and reflect. You may not have an answer but somewhere there is some old conditioning rearing its head. It happens to us all. It really does.

Despite your best intentions and efforts you behaved counter to what you wanted to. You wanted a nice evening and it all went to hell. You hoped to enjoy the weekend but it became a disaster. It takes two to tango and you were party to it. What gives?

One’s Best Success Often Comes After One’s Worst Disaster

Some old habits die hard. Sometimes, crap happens. Life hands you lemons. That is just the way it is. I wouldn’t write too much into it. I would however, wonder what I might release to be different. I would really let go and just sit with it as much as possible without judging.

I wouldn’t discard it or be flippant in regard to it. I’d assume everything happens for a reason so that I can learn to be a better person. That somewhere I may have been harboring resentments, or issues, or ‘whatever’ that needed to come out. AND they did.

They may have come out when least expected. Bad timing, perhaps. What I am trying to get at is, crap happens. Don’t invest in it. Don’t judge or blame yourself or others. Don’t regret. Make corrections and apologies if you are able to. Don’t over analyze. Just be.

The Kite Rises Highest Against The Wind – Learn To Soar

It is what it is. What can you learn from it? How can you transform because of or in spite of it? How can you grow and evolve to be an even better person? Use it to learn how to be better now and in the future. There is no ultimate answer that I know of. It just is.

Find the blessing. Find the silver lining. That doesn’t mean you excuse your behavior if you were at fault, or if you did harm. It means learn, grow. Own up. Take 100% responsibility for your thoughts and actions. Don’t deny. Don’t ignore. But don’t wallow.

Don’t pity. Don’t berate. Don’t hate yourself. Forgive, love and accept that you are human and sometimes screw up. That’s what humans do. We are not perfect. We all make mistakes. Accept that you will continue to make mistakes, hopefully not the same ones.

There Is No Failure – Only Feedback – Don’t Beat Yourself Up

Mistakes are opportunities to get feedback, make corrections, adjust and improve. If you let someone down or violated their trust, if they allow you to make amends, then perhaps, you can. They may or may not forgive you. That’s up to them. You can forgive yourself.

You can forgive them. It doesn’t matter whether they know it or not. Forgive them for yourself, so you can let go if you harbor any ill will. Recognize that tomorrow will be another day. Who knows what it will bring. You fell down. Get up, dust off. Move forward.

Expect the best again. Don’t lose hope. Don’t give up because of an event. Stay the course. Get back on track. Shift away from the less than glorious and to the positive and productive. Focus what you want to create. Now, you know better what you want. Don’t you?

You’re Not A Finished Product – You Are A Work In Process

You know you didn’t want the ‘incident’. What is it you want instead? Phrase it in the positive. What good do you want? Focus on bringing that about even if you aren’t yet sure how. You know what you don’t want to happen. Now, turn your attention to what you do want.

Stop focusing on the event. You don’t want to give it energy and recreate it. You want to create something else. Put your energy and attention on what you do wish to create. For example, you had a fight but you want to get along. Don’t think about the fighting.

Imagine all the ways you can get along, all the wonderful, nice things, you can do to create rapport, trust and understanding. See yourself, feel yourself, behaving in loving way. Program your mind for what you want to include and leave what you don’t want, alone.

Be Thankful Even During The Trials – Celebrate Everything

I think this is how we remedy a bad situation. We look at it realistically. We sit with it a bit. We learn what we want, instead. We forgive and let it go. We put into practice making what we want a reality. From within to without. Our thoughts create our reality.

We celebrate the opportunity. Consider everything a blessing. We move forward. We choose to feel the best we can about what was a less than glorious situation. We transform ourselves by the renewing of our minds. I don’t have all the answers, but I hope this helps. From our learning we can celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Amaze yourself today!

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You Are Stupid If You Keep Doing This! Stop It!

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“Haven’t you suffered long enough? Aren’t you tired with the way things are? If everything is great, then great! However, if you want it to be different but can’t yet figure out how to do it I have good news for you. You can live life on your own terms and make it so.

How? You have to switch your thinking from non-supportive to supportive. You need to develop supportive habits and replace old ones that haven’t worked well for you. Yes, it will take some work. It may not happen over night but you can do it. The time has come.

Begin by replacing your poverty thinking. I don’t just mean lack thinking about money although that is a good place to correct now too. Begin by steering your thoughts away from ‘I can’t’ and asking yourself, ‘why things suck’ to ‘I can’ and ‘I can improve this.’

A Negative Thought Will Never Give You A Positive Life

Move from poverty thinking to prosperity thinking. I don’t mean wishing or rubbing a magic lamp. I mean thinking that you are able to learn to make a difference. You can change your situation. If you don’t know how you can and will learn how. Begin right here. I can!

Then repeat these thoughts. Whenever you find yourself thinking otherwise, stop, take a deep breath or two and start changing to more productive thinking. As you do you will develop an awareness of when you automatically go negative. Eventually you’ll cease it.

You will begin to eliminate the negative and begin to think positive supportive thoughts. Face it, no one does much by thinking, ‘I can’t do it. It won’t work. Nothing ever works out right for me. I don’t have enough money.’ It just doesn’t help you unless it propels you to fix it.

Train Your Mind To See The Good In Every Situation – Be Positive

If you don’t fix it you are being stupid. You are living as a victim of your own conditioned thinking instead of taking charge and changing your life for the better. Why do I say you are stupid? Because YOU can do something about it but don’t. Get it?

Tough Love! It’s time to switch from less than glorious thinking to glorious thinking. Time to start thinking, feeling and acting better. When you do you get better results. It is all up to you. Don’t wait. Start now. Develop powerful productive positivel habits that serve you to live the life you want. Be grateful you can. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Fill your mind with positive thoughts today!

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Do This One Thing And Claim Greater Power And Control!

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“Many people do not want to face the fact that everything we do is by choice. Though science estimates we are 99.5% or better unconsciously automated by thinking, feeling and behavioral habits, we acquired while growing  up, we still have some ability to choose.

Mostly, we have the ability to choose to change our habits and neurologically rewire our thinking, feeling and behaving. That is where we find our power. When we replace the conditioning we acquired while growing up we become free. Yup, truly free!

We recondition ourselves with supportive thoughts, feelings and behaviors that serve us better than the old ones. Some people don’t believe this is possible and remain a victim of their conditioning. Others step forward and decide to do whatever it takes to change.

Think And Speak Positive And Positive Things Will Happen

The point is we still have some choice left in us. That tiny portion of conscious choice is an incredible gift. Because of it we can determine to accomplish many incredibly things. Therefore, it is important we use it wisely, productively and positively. Aim it for good results!

One important exercise in awareness and developing positive control and power is to begin to listen to what you say. Listen and make changes. Do not say anything that you do not want to become true for you. Whether you think this is a possibility or not.

Adopt the mental frame that it is. Imagine your words are powerful and even magical. Whatever you say will manifest. Therefore, pretend anything you say comes true AND do not say anything you don’t want to come true. Only speak what you want to manifest.

Talk More About Your Blessings Than You Do About Your Burdens

Choose your words. Choose what you say to yourself silently and out loud to others. Become aware that you can choose to rephrase and even rethink it. Don’t allow yourself to speak anything other than what you choose. When you choose you exercise your power.

Do it. Try it on. Listen and become aware. Speak only to bless, heal and prosper. Put a positive watchdog or guard before your lips. If you utter something that isn’t what you want go ahead, change it or re-speak it. Do this for at 30 days consistently. Be rigorous.

A couple things will happen. You will become so much more aware of your automated thoughts and things you say. You will notice how NOT positive you are. You will notice how what you say supports what you don’t have or the problems that repeatedly occur.

Speak Victory Not Defeat – What You Say Is What You Get

You will notice things changing for the better. You will notice yourself speaking in a more targeted and productive way. You will get clearer on what you want. You will become more positive and potentially more productive. Everything can change! Stick with it.

My hope for you is you discover you true power and your true self. You can and will. I hope you will stay with it and make it a life long habit. If you do you will discover things you never realized possible. Happy journey. Have fun. Be thankful and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Delight yourself today!  Discover something new today.

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What To Do To Begin Changing Your Life For The Better 1

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“People ask me what they might do to begin transforming their mind and their life? It is simpler than you think it is. The only limitations that truly exist, exit in our thoughts or ways of thinking. One of the best things you can do is fill your mind with positive thoughts.

I suggest you read my blog. Go to the very first one and read a little bit each day. Read 30 minutes, or 5 minutes. Read thirty pages or 1 page. Everyday read and make a study of what you read. Revisit and re-read. Immerse yourself for as much time as possible. Journal.

If you can’t read a page a day read a paragraph. Read a single sentence. Just build a consistent habit. Remember ‘the proper fruit of knowledge is action’. Take one small action step each day toward what you want. One tiny baby step is all that is necessary to move.

Relax – Let Go – Simply Remain A Witness – Allow Accept Enjoy 

Decide to read daily and commit to it. That is good. Determine to meditate for a few moments. Just watch your thoughts and do nothing. Be an observer and not a participant. Don’t judge. Allow all to run their course. Allow your thoughts to go by as leaves on water.

You can choose to focus on your breathing. Put your attention on just your breath. Whether you choose to focus on thoughts or breath if your attention strays; fine THAT IS WHAT IT IS ALL ABOUT. When you notice you strayed bring you attention back.

Refocus your attention on your thoughts or breath gently without judgement. You WILL develop your concentration and your ability to notice and return easily. Go ahead and give it a go.  Spend a couple minutes. Even two or three to begin. Gradually increase the time.

Breathe In – Breathe Out – Let It Be – Remain Aware And At Ease

Build up until you can do five or seven. Later you can always do more. NEVER bite off more than you can chew. BABY Steps. 1% is more than plenty. Spend quality time rather than quantity time. Less can be more. Watch your thoughts and your breath. Merely observe.

Watch your wandering without judgement. Watch your return without judgement.  The key is to allow what is without any form of  judgement. Allow the process but let go of the judging.  You only LEARN to do this by doing it. This is HOW we begin. Bit by bit.

If you judged, fine you judged. That is what IS. You simply watch your breath. You forget or get distracted by other thoughts. You get upset and judge. Somewhere in all this you return attention to your breath. It may happen over and over. It’s ok. That’s how  you learn. Repeat.

Correct Repetition For Long Enough Time Becomes Habit And Skill

JUDGE THE HELL OUT OF IT if you wish. Just don’t quit. Eventually you will learn to ease up on the judgement without attacking it directly. Just allow it. Then be done with it at some point. Get it? Gentle, easy, is the way. The process is the point. You learn by doing.

Practice gratitude. Feel grateful. Delight in everything. As you increase your awareness and move forward acknowledge it. Pat yourself on the back. Be happy. Feel good. Good feelings will move you forward more swiftly. Look for things to feel good about. Seek and you will find. Celebrate everything!’ Rex Sikes

Delight and enjoy your day!

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How To Experience The Joy Peace And Success You Want

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“If you aren’t living as you want? If you aren’t experiencing the joy, and peace you would like to, that you deserve to; if you aren’t making your dreams come true and creating the success you want then you need to begin right now.  Stop waiting. Start having!

You are already that which you seek. Are you aware of this? You already have what you want and need? All you have to do is claim it! You do that by declaration. You have the ability to install powerful thoughts and beliefs in your mind any time you decide to.

Choose to focus on supportive thoughts, beliefs, ideas, behaviors and feelings. It is that simple. You have the power to control your mind. Let me repeat: you are already that which you seek. You already have everything you need or want. Simply claim it! Choose!

You Have The Power To Create The Life You Want To Live

It boils down to simple, stark choices. Similar to day and night you have supportive or not supportive. There is positive or negative. Strong or weak. Victor or victim. Champion or loser. Choose which you prefer. Focus on the one you want. Stay focused on it. FOCUS!

Most people do an unsuccessful mix of both. The reason they don’t get what they want is they take one step forward and one step back. They get mostly what they don’t want because they aren’t focused exclusively on what they DO want. Their thoughts are lopsided.

The balance isn’t in their favor. They think weak, non-supportive, loser, victim, negative, thoughts much or most of the time. They get caught up in excuses, blaming, complaining and worrying. Occasionally, they get hopeful and positive. That isn’t enough!

Visualize What You Want – Live Into It As If You Already Have It

When 80% of your time or better is focused on what you want, feeling good, and  thinking like a champion you make things happen. Even 55%, 60% 70% is better than 50-50. The more think positive and have positive feelings and actions you get more positive results.

Begin today. Make a choice and commit. It isn’t difficult. It can be fun. You can make it an adventure. Discover how much fun and positivity you can create for yourself. Become curious how much you life can change when you focus on these in this way. It can be magnificent!

Find reasons to enjoy everything. Be grateful. Remember you already have within you the ability to chose what to focus on. Shift away from the less than glorious. Choose to be different. You HAVE the power to control your thinking. Your life will be more than you can imagine when you are thankful and celebrate everything. ” Rex Sikes

It is only 24 hours. You can make the most of them!

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Law Of Attraction Simplified Enough For Dummies

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“We are either drawing to us or pushing away. Either we attract or we repel. Those are the two possibilities. Consider magnets. Either the pull together or they push apart. This is the law of attraction. What you need to know is which you are doing at any given moment.

A plant is either growing or it is dying. Which are you doing most of the time. Are you attracting what you want or repelling it? Are you creating what you want or creating what you don’t want. These are hard questions for many people because few will take responsibility.

Instead they blame others or the circumstances. The reality is you determine how you handle the circumstances. You determine what you do or don’t do to bring about what you want or what you don’t want. You are either working with or working against. Get it?

The Person You Are Destined To Become Is Who You Decide To Be

If you claim you aren’t doing anything but letting the cards fall where they may then you aren’t doing anything in your favor. You are actually working against yourself. Instead of shaping your destiny you are willing to drift. So if you don’t get what you want, so be it.

Either you are positive or negative. Which is it? Whatever you are most of the time determines the overall quality of your existence. This IS important to understand especially if you want things to get better. You can’t continue on as you have and expect it different.

It will remain the same. You decide what it is going to be. You are either on or off. Make a decision how you will think and how you will live. Decide what you want and how you want it to be. Then decide to make it happen. Go after it. Do something that helps you.

To Live The Greatest Life You Must Become A Leader Within You

Take the bull by the horns. Don’t wait and don’t expect things to change. YOU change them. You do it. You make it happen. You work to make it different. You begin controlling your thoughts and feelings and behaviors. It is all up to you and not anyone else.

In an upcoming post I’ll share why this is important from a quantum physics point of view. Meanwhile, what is important is that you run your own brain and life. A wonderful way to begin is with gratitude. Feel grateful for whatever, how little or how much you have. Express it. Really feel it. Delight and enjoy! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Be the reason someone else smiles today!

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Don’t Be A Moron You Can’t Fly Like Superman! Unless, Of Course You Can!

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“Reality is our making. We create reality. Our perceptions, and beliefs, and neurological filters determine what we notice, pay attention to and miss. What we believe makes it so. Whether we think we can or we think we can’t we are correct. Said Henry Ford.

Does that mean we can fly like Superman? My first answer is no we cannot violate the laws of physics. Unless of course we can. So my second answer would be perhaps we can. Who knows? Just because no one has isn’t a good answer. Tell that to Roger Banniseter.

He broke the 4 minute mile record. Tell that to Edison or the Wright Brothers when people told them they were insane for trying. There are plenty of reason why we might be able to fly even if we have never yet done it. I honestly don’t know if it is possible or not.

You Create Your Own Reality – Thoughts Become Things

I do know this. It took Edison 10,000 attempts to get the light bulb right. If you go to a roof top and jump off trying to fly you may only get one attempt. Makes it hard to prove your theorem that way. Start on the sidewalk and attempt to rise up. That is smarter; wiser.

It might take 10,000 trials. Personally, I’m not that interest. So I haven’t tried but a few times in my young life. It doesn’t mean it is impossible even if we think it is. Our thoughts prevent us more than reality from behaving in our own best interests. Really, they do.

For example. You need to make more sales but you let fear prevent you from walking over and talking to the client. The same is true of meeting new people and friends at parties. Some people hug the walls and the bar or buffet table. Consider this next example.

Create The Highest Grandest Vision Possible For Your Life

The number one fear of most people is public speaking. SPEAKING TO STRANGERS!!! People you don’t know and are probably never going to see ever again. People fear that. WOW! I’d be more afraid of speaking in front of my family who loves me than strangers.

Yet, people fear public speaking. THAT is THOUGHTS preventing someone from acting. I guess it all depends on how much you want it. If I told you I’d give you 5 million dollars to give a speech before  10,000 people would you do it? Would it be worth it to try?

If you answer yes, then for goodness sakes why not just do it anyway? I mean come on now! If the reward is large enough then you will do it means there is nothing actually there to be afraid of. You are only stopping yourself from acting because you think poorly.

You Become What You Believe – Thoughts Create Reality

You think thoughts that prevent you and weaken you instead of ones that make you strong and support you. THAT really is all that is going on. You think thoughts that make you feel scared or bad or depressed and so you do not do good things for yourself. I say wow!

I get it though. I have been there and done that too. We all have or at least most of us have over something. Still, we can learn that we don’t have to let our thoughts prevent us. We can think better, stronger more powerful thoughts and become invincible. Powerful.

What you don’t believe that? See, right there IS the issue. If YOU don’t believe it SO WHAT? Big f’n deal. Who died and made you god. What kind of authority are you? Are you an expert in this. I think not since you can’t even do it. Maybe, then you ought to give it a try.

What We See And Find Depends On What We Look For

Don’t let a mental packet of energy prevent you from being more of who you are. Stop letting your thoughts keep you down, insecure, broke and unhappy. Stop worrying and start living. For goodness sake! Consider this next thought very carefully. It may push buttons.

Right now. This moment. Wealth, enormous, incredible wealth and abundance are available to you. Right now massive wealth and power are available to you. You can choose to feel worthy or not. You can choose to accept this. You can choose to accept the best.

You can feel as if you deserve it. I mean, why not? If you answer with why not THAT is your limiting belief or beliefs. Right there! Your answer is what prevents you. Get it? It was automatic. It came right up. I proposed it and you thought, ‘nah. nope’. Not true or whatever.

You Create Your Thoughts – Your Thoughts Create Your Reality

That’s the issue. Consider this. WHAT is the very WORST THING THAT COULD, WOULD, EVER, EVER, EVER HAPPEN if you were to believe 100% that massive wealth, abundance and power were yours right now? How would your life suck? Well,? How would it?

Again, if you have an answer, THAT is the issue for you to resolve. You can, you know. WHAT?  You don’t believe that either? See how persnickety those limiting beliefs can be. Hey, there’s nothing wrong with them. They are just there to keep you the same ole reliable you.

They come up to keep you consistent. Still, you can change them if you want to. See for me, I don’t have to fly like Superman in the air but I want to live like a king on the earth. I want to feel my best and be my best. I want to do and have things. I want my thoughts great!

Hey Wake Up – It Is You Thinking Those Thoughts – Wake Up

I want my thoughts and feelings to serve me. I feel better believing I deserve riches and that I can work for and attain them because there is plenty to go around MORE THAN I like thinking about lack and how things suck and why I’d never amount to anything.

I call it good taste. I choose my thoughts. You can too. Actually, we all have each and every moment. Every moment a we encounter an opportunity we either think positive and take it or think negative and pass it up. Every second we have choices about how we feel.

We don’t live as if we have choice BUT WE HAVE CHOICE. What now, another negative limiting belief poking its head up? Tame it for goodness sake. Choose how you are going to spend your time. It is completely up to you. Pain or pleasure. Negative or Positive.

No One Is Forcing Or Choosing For You – You  Are Choosing

Which is it? You are either growing or dying. Good taste in my book is opting to live to the fullest. Choose your thoughts. Deliberately put your attention on good things. Be thankful. Be grateful. Be filled with thoughts of I CAN instead of I can’t. CHOOSE! Be wise! Be smart. Make your life the life you want! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Make someone feel good today. You!

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Can We Correct What Is Wrong In The World?

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“My real world is filled with joy and peace and all good things. Blessing and love. I’m determined to create what I want by focusing on what is good and right; by correcting the wrong peacefully and positively. I believe in adding value to others and going further.

I think it important to go the extra mile and deliver more than you promise. I believe it best to help others when you can instead of judging others. We are humans and in many ways we have been conditioned to hate, to divide, to be intolerant and negative.

We can rise above our intolerance and our hate. We can stop tearing down and disenfranchising others who are not like us. We can learn to accept and to invite. We can welcome and include. We can help and assist. Why? Because I am for life not against it.

Go The Extra Mile – It Is Never Crowded – Make A Difference

I am for wealth not against it. I am for all people not against them. I am for love and creativity. I am for imagination and going beyond what is wrong. I am for god’s way, or the universe’s way above and beyond the human’s way. I am all for higher purpose and kindness.

We can do great things when we unite and work as a team. We can positively change the world for the better or we can fight and worry and fear and hate and kill each other. I opt for peace, love and positivity. I think we do more good when we create and include.

When we spend our time tearing down, resisting, fighting or opposing what we don’t want we are too focused on what we don’t want and not focused enough on what we would rather have. It is important to be clear about what we want. This is critical. We must!

You Can Start Right From Where You Are At

To build something better we need a blueprint. We need to know what we are going to build not just what we don’t want. However, knowing what we don’t like can help us get more specific about what we do want. Then we need to focus on that. I mean, really focus on it.

We all need to grow up a bit and stop complaining and whining about how things are. We need to realize when things are not to our liking we have an opportunity to create something different. We should think as creators and artists and enjoy the process.

We can make things better. How incredible is that? Instead of it being a burden it could be our joy. Let’s take responsibility for creating the world we want to inhabit instead of yelling at all the wrongdoers and wrong ideas. Let’s create with joy and delight.

No Act Of Kindness No Matter How Small Is Ever Wasted

Let’s find a way to be grateful for the ‘wrongs’ in the world because they help us know what we want. They allow us to focus and plan to make something better. They allow us to become creative and work together to improve the world. I say celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Have a beautiful day.

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How To End Clutter And Feel Fantastic!

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“What surrounds you? Does environment affect you? What message are you sending to others AND to the universe with your home, car, office space? Are you aware of how your space can affect you? How’d you like to make some profound personal changes?

My desk, my car and much of my house, historically, looked like Einstein’s desk. I lived with clutter, in clutter and was comfortable. I pile things around me, and while I might search for things, I know they are right there in that pile. I was comfortable. Truly, felt good.

Having or keeping things simple and clean had always been difficult. My mother’s desk and back office space was worse than Einstein’s. Of course, the office the public saw was quite different. I did learn that public and private could be two very different things.

Control Your Clutter Or Clutter Will Control You

BUT are they? Is there leakage? There is an adage which seems to be true, relevant and profound  ‘How you do anything is how you do everything’. Think about that for a second. Reflect on how you show up for tasks. Any task. How you do one thing is how you do all things.

I could see that there was clutter to my thinking, as well. From my thinking to my performing I was, often, random and haphazard. When it came to goal setting and future planning I couldn’t see past the messy present. My dreams obscured by the ‘now’ circumstances.

It occurred to me that I sacrificed a lot all of my life in exchange for being comfortable. SoI began to change things. I decided I needed to begin to manage my thoughts. I wanted to get control over my thinking process. I didn’t want to be smarter I wanted more power.

Being Organized Is Being In Control – Take Charge Of Your Life

I wanted to affect my circumstance in positive ways. I want to live a fulfilled, incredible life not simply tolerating situations and being ‘okay’ with being comfortable. I wanted to make my dreams come true while evolving myself. I want to feel wonderful much more.

As I began to improve my thinking and future planning I began to become less comfortable with clutter. I still didn’t want to straighten up or clean or make things better, especially, if it was all up to me. I was still more comfortable with clutter than changing it. At first!

Gradually, however, I became and continue to become less accepting of it. As the within changes I notice I want the outside to change as well. I want it nice, neat, simple, clean, elegant and sleek. More and more I find myself desiring simplicity and organization.

The Secret To Getting Organized Is You – You Make The Difference

I learned to begin with baby steps. Clean or organize a small area first. That resulted in feeling good. I accomplished something. Then gradually I’d add more or clean other areas. I made it a point to feel good, congratulate myself, when I put things back in their place.

I found, if I went crazy on it, I burnt out. I later have learned I can do more than I think I can. I have also learned that it isn’t as bad as I think it is IF I ONLY BEGIN. Mostly, I would talk myself out of it opting to feel comfortable instead. I feel far better taking action.

I feel better getting things done and congratulating myself, than procrastinating and feeling bad about me and my space when I  do nothing. Want your life to change then you must change some things you’re doing. Take action, bit by bit. Drop by drop the tub fills.

You Are Either Growing And Evolving Or Withering And Fading

I was never dirty, but I was messy. I still have things to change about this but I am in the process. This is an important point. We are all in the process of something. We are either in the process of making our dreams come true or our nightmares. Which do you do most?

I am not suggesting YOU have to be a neat freak. In fact, being too anal about things isn’t desirable either. For me, the principle is balance. As my internal awareness changes I find I want my outer world to reflect that positivity as well. Other things matter too.

It depends on the size and nature of your dreams and goals. The bigger they are the more minor changes may be necessary. I think it is all cool. It is wonderful. It is evolution, adjust and adapt. I think it also works a little bit in reverse. It is a mirror. As within so without.

If You Can Conceive It And Believe It You Can Achieve It 

As without so within. I do think, the latter, is far more limited than the former notion. Our thoughts create our world. However, Bucky Fuller did say, ‘environment is more powerful than willpower’. Who and what we surround ourselves with exerts force over us.

I choose to think and believe that while true, I am the author of my life and circumstances. I agree with this. Habit of thought is a powerful force. If we are around people or in environments that are less than glorious, most of the time, it will affect us. It does.

Still, I think and believe that I am the master of my fate and I will determine my future. Interestingly enough, as my thoughts changed, so did my relationship to the environment and whom I choose to be around or whom I want around me. It all does matter.

You Must Train Yourself To Be Organized – It Is A Habit You Make

I think how we think about it matters. I don’t think, I want less clutter. That emphasizes the clutter. I want more organization. I want more elegance. I don’t want to eliminate negative friends I want more positive friends. I want healthy, happy, wealthy ones.

I want people who aim high, who think big and make things happen to be my primary influencers. I want people who inspire and motivate me to surround me and affect my thinking and feeling. So I began to move toward what I DO want. What is it I want to include?

I look for what I want to invite into my life. For me, it makes an incredible difference. It has, it does and it will continue to. I feel so wonderful and I love my life. Is everything perfect? No. I don’t want it to be perfect. Are their challenges and lessons?  You bet!

Manage Your Thoughts Happiness Health Wealth And Your Space

I love it! Bring it! I learn and evolve and grow and adjust. I encounter my own rules and boundaries and get to flex them or learn that I need to. It is all good. Life is grand! Some things gradually evolve into new, different positive things while others transform instantly.

It has been and is an incredible adventure. I have learned to accept what is and to adjust and make changes. Some things are great as they are. Other things are ‘mo better’ when altered. Mostly, I have learned to appreciate myself and my life. I love myself and my life.

I have learned that gratitude is incredible and to celebrate everything. I have learned that even when I don’t do any of this, and I rag or nag on myself, that I can celebrate that too. I did what I did at the time. That is what IS or what WAS. Everything is ripe for learning and growing, so truly, we can celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

If you were to look today, what wonderful things can you discover?

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Stop Believing Lies

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“Why do you believe lies? Why do any of us? Isn’t that fascinating? We are frequently misled? Why is that? Would it surprise you to hear me say I don’t care. Would it surprise you to hear me say I haven’t a clue. Why, in this case may be a pointless question.

Here is WHY. Hahahah! Everything is a lie. Anything we tell ourselves is most likely a lie. Why? Because much of it we adopted from others growing up. We believed what we were told. There is nothing stating emphatically that what they told us was accurate.

We have no actual way of knowing. Everything is really a matter of perception. We can’t know everything. We don’t know what we don’t know. We only have a fragment of what is occurring and that sliver we are aware of is just that, a sliver, not all of it.

What You Say Is What You Get – What You Focus On You Get

Bottom line. We believed what others have said. We believe conclusions we have drawn. All of which could be subject to many different points of view or interpretations which we NEVER consider.  We fail to think from varying different perspectives.

Normally, we think habitually.  The same as we always have. So most of what we tell ourselves good or bad is not accurate. Why believe any of it? Heck, I don’t know. What I do think we need to do is  develop some taste in choosing what to accept and reject.

I say reject foregone conclusions of failure. Stop limiting yourself by believing you can’t. Put an end to unsupportive thinking. Start believing, because you choose to, that success is a possibility. Believe you are worthy and can learn to do anything you commit to.

Affirmations Are Ongoing – Only Affirm What You Actually Want

Believe you can make things happen. Think that and work at that. Heck, why not? You choose what you want to believe. Henry Ford said, ‘whether you think you can or you think you can’t you are right.’ Choose to believe and accept that which serves you and helps you.

Choose those beliefs that move you forward and help you get what you want. No, I am not saying, ‘Believe you can fly by flapping your arms’. However, we do travel by air because people thought air travel was possible. They went to great lengths to make it happen.

They didn’t know how to fly until after they did it successfully. Once they flew they improved on it. All trial and error. They faced great opposition from those who thought they were crazy. Even their own family. Today, we fly because they believed they could and would!

Stop Creating More Problems – Stop Focusing On Problems

Recently, why flying over mountains I had this thought ‘Thank you Orville and Wilbur. I’m up here because you didn’t give up.’ It was an odd thought. Still, I felt quite grateful. I have flown lots for decades. Still, recently, I felt gratitude to two bicycle makers. Thank you!

Stop believing BS that doesn’t serve you. Stop believing thoughts that make you feel bad about yourself. If you did something wrong, feeling guilty or shame or remorse may be appropriate. Pledging to not ever do it again may be the right thing to do. Be accountable.

Take responsibility. It is the right thing to do. I’m not discussing at this level. I’m talking about feeling positive and optimistic that, if you commit to learning to make something happen, that you can do it, given enough time, materials, proper thinking and  attitude.

Create Solutions By Focusing On Solutions Create What You Want

You can learn to do it! You can enlist people or resources to help you. Don’t give up on yourself because of negative thoughts. Stop the negative thinking. Manage your thoughts. Control them. Choose to think positive and  discover the power to control your destiny.

Napoleon Hill said, ‘if you can conceive it and believe it you can achieve it.’ The point of the book can be summed up in the title, ‘THINK and grow rich’. How we use our thinking apparatus, how we think and what we think, is within our control. Discover this!

Most people don’t believe it. Therefore, they never learn to control it. They miss out on all the good that comes from running your own brain. Stop believing you can’t and start believing you can! Your beliefs either support you or they don’t. Choose ones that support.

Affirm What You Want – Stop Affirming What You Don’t Want

That is Hill’s premise. You can choose your thoughts and you can make great things happen when you think you can. Perception is everything. The glass has water in it. You decide whether it is half empty or half full. Decide the same about your abilities and your life. Either you can or you can’t. YOU Decide. It is up to you! Celebrate everything.” Rex Sikes

Imagine good coming to you today! I mean, why not?

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