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Guidelines For Getting Along With Others While Talking

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“Here are a few tips and principles that will help improve you ability to connect and communicate with another person. Stay open and positive. Don’t label the other person as a poor or bad communicator.  Don’t judge them that only makes things worse.

Assume you are missing the point rather than judging them. Take responsibility for listening better. Blaming them won’t help. If you change what you are doing it might. Stay open.  Assist them in being clearer. With your help you may create better understanding.

Everything depends on your intent as a communicator. Are you seeking to understand or ridicule. If you make judgements and insist they change to suit you it actually inhibits the process. You shut down and it is more difficult for them. Don’t let emotions get in way.

Not Everyone Thinks The Way You Think Or Knows What You Do

Make it easier for the listener.  Help the communicator be clearer if able. Ask simple questions politely to help them clarify their points. Gently and patiently bring it out of them. Elicit it gradually. Take responsibility for making the process go nicely for both of you.

A frame you can adopt to help you is to assume they don’t know any better. They can’t help but do it the way they are doing it. It isn’t their fault and they aren’t bad. It is just the way it is. Imagine helping a small child to do something well. Encourage them along.

The goal in communicating is to build a bridge between parties. It is to learn to speak the other person’s language rather than insisting they speak yours. While it might be nicer if they did it your way be the bigger person and adapt to them. Be flexible. Be a chameleon.

Not Everyone Believes What You Believe Or Acts As You Act …

Change what you are doing so you can get along with more people. If you only have one way of doing something you are limited in the number of people you can influence. If you adapt and help make the process enjoyable you win more friends. Make them feel at ease.

Help them feel comfortable speaking with you and they will want to do it again. Make gentle and direct eye contact. Listen intently and once in a while repeat back to them what they said so they know you are listening. Do the same if you want them to be clearer.

Repeat and ask them what is meant. Always be polite and respectful. Nod and ‘uhhuh’ or say ‘yes’ also once in awhile. Don’t stare. Talk less and listen more but don’t be completely silent looking like you are in trace. Engage, be appealing. Smile, encourage them to talk more.

Remember This And You Will Get Along With A Lot More People

Ask questions but don’t interrogate. Don’t ask so many they feel they are being put to a test. Give them some room to be themselves. Often it is best to sit next to them than opposite them. Or sit t the corner of a table rather than across from each other.

I’ll share more as we continue. For now implement what you learn. Action is the proper fruit of knowledge. Expect to have a nice time. Mentally shower them with love or gratitude or peace. Your outer behavior does reflect your inner behavior, whether it is positive or negative, so keep it positive. Enjoy communicating and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Celebrate with friends today!

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How To Get People To Do What You Want!

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“Are there people in your life getting along with seems impossible? Would you like to help them understand you better? Do you argue more than you want to? Would you like to be more influential? Want to more easily and readily get others to do what you want?  Do you?

The goal of communication is understanding. Most of us think it is only to inform.  We inform each other of our intentions or what is going on. We think, since we  ‘communicated’ or spoke our thought or piece the other should understand and respond appropriately.

Good communication is more than telling the other person what ‘is’. Good communicating involves delivering the message in the manner the intended recipient can understand it. You make certain it is  well understood, clarify it as necessary and listen openly all the while.

Communication’s Biggest Problem – The Illusion It’s Taken Place

If it is not understood the sender must adjust the message until the receiver ‘gets it’. This means being flexible and having more than only one way to speak or communicate ideas. This means communicating the way the receiver is used to getting messages.

It doesn’t mean getting angry, raising our voice, yelling at or name calling the listener ‘stupid’ because the person doesn’t understand. It means attempting to help the receiver understand by being respectful and helpful. This is where the Platinum Rule comes in.

The Golden Rule is marvelous! It should always be applied. ‘Do unto others the way you prefer to have things done unto you.’ That is a guideline for not mistreating others. Think about your preferences and don’t do less for other people. It is a wonderful rule to follow.

The Most Important Thing In Is To Hear What The Other Is Saying

Go The Extra Mile is another fantastic principle that states don’t just do the job but go above and beyond what is called for. Deliver more value than any one else. Blow their socks off by doing more than they expect. This is another wonderful rule to practice daily in all.

The Platinum Rule states ‘Do unto others the way they prefer to be done unto’. In other words do it their way. Do it the way they like. Do it the way they are used to. This is important especially when communicating. Help them understand by speaking their language.

If someone speaks another language than you speak, if you really want understanding, then attempt to speak in their language. They don’t understand yours. Don’t make them try. You speak theirs. You are delivering the message help them understand. Get it. Go first!

Good Communication Means Respecting Yourself And Others

It doesn’t help to raise your voice. It doesn’t help to get frustrated or mad or blame them because they don’t understand the language you are speaking. It doesn’t help to ridicule or give up. It helps if you adjust and attempt to phrase it meaningfully for them.

Speak their language! Adjust and continue. Continue to adjust until you get the desired results. Adjust and continue until they understand. Don’t berate them. Be patient. Allow them their misunderstanding. After all they are trying to understand YOU!

In a few series of upcoming posts we will explore how to better and more easily communicate. If you want friends, co-workers, lovers and even strangers to better and more easily understand you, and get along with you, then it is worth learning to communicate better.

Listen More – Speak Less – Seek To Find Out Their Point Of View

The more you are able to express yourself the more you are apt to get agreement. The more agreement you get the easier and the more people you are able to positively influence. The better the understanding the greater the harmony and the relationships.

Enjoy and delight the opportunity we have to share ideas. Be grateful you have a means to do that. Appreciate that you have people in your life willing to listen and even ‘put up’ with you. Recognize how blessed you are to share with others. Learn, laugh, love and live! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Celebrate friends today!

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Here’ s How You Can Make The Law Of Reciprocity Work For You!

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What is reciprocity? Is is the practice of exchanging things with others for mutual benefit. You and I see it and experience it in action every single day. It works like this. I take you out for lunch and pay. You tell me, next time it is on you. You reciprocate the kindness.

I have a rule which says, Go First! If you want respect from others give them respect first. If you want to be listened to, be willing to and listen to them first. Whatever you want, offer it first, and because of the Law Of Reciprocity you are much more likely to get it back soon.

Get it? That is why people bring gifts to wine and dinner parties. They feel they should. That is why salespeople bring in doughnuts or why companies have candies or treats at trade shows. You take their gift you are more likely to listen or to purchase. It works. So use it.

Life Has  No Menu – You Get Served What You Deserve

Learn to make it work for you to get the good things you want by giving good things to others FIRST! It is the Law Of Attraction at work. Instant karma. What goes around comes around. Practice paying it forward and your world will change in delightful ways!

If you want acceptance and love from your family or friends then you must accept and love them first. The truth is reciprocity works in reverse too. If you resent and dislike others, harbor thoughts or feelings of ill-will, others are more likely to do likewise back to you.

This is important. You get what you  focus on. You get back what you put out there. Perhaps, you want to examine and check your attitude and thoughts about those people close to you. Make sure you are thinking and feeling your best about them. Give them your best.

Life Is A Boomerang – What You Give You Get In Return

You are more apt to gain their co-operation when you need it if you are a likable, lovable, accepting friend or family member. This works with strangers too. Be nice. Light up when you see someone. Compliment them genuinely and your day will become more grand!

Bless people! Bless your family and friends. Wish them well. Give first and you will get back. This is important, Give to Give not to get and your results will be much better. When you are genuine it works wonders. Love, bless, accept others. Be grateful and celebrate everything!’ Rex Sikes

Make it a magical day for you and yours!

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How To Get Along Better With Everyone

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“Would you like to get along better with people? For some that means family, friends, or employers, employees or co-workers and associates. For others it means strangers or people the meet in the coffee shop and supermarket Here is a framework to keep in mind.

To get along with others first notice they are different from you. They are unlike you in nearly every way. They like different things. They do things in ways you don’t like or understand. They have opposite views and understanding. They have different values.

They are not like you at all. The have different political views, religious views and approaches to doing things you may think are insane. They have habits or behaviors that are annoying. Why they are like they are and do what they do is anyone’s guess!

Speak In Such A Way That Others Love To Listen To You

While different in many ways they are also just like you. They have hopes and dreams, people and things they love, fears and worries, anger and sadness. They are people just like you but different. They want to be loved and need security. They want to be care for.

They want to care for others too. They want loyal dependable people around them. Most likely they want some creature comforts. Like you they are doing the best with what they have. Like you they are trying to make their way in the world with an incomplete map.

Just like you they weren’t born with an owner’s manual. They learn by trail and error too. They make mistakes and hold grudges. Do you get it yet? People are more like each other than they are different! We all have the same basic needs and many of the same wants.

Listen In Such A Way That Others Love To Speak To You

How we go about understanding these and fulfilling these differ. What we consider important may differ but otherwise we are mostly alike. We are all trying to make our way in the world. We make rules for ourselves and others. We uphold these and break these rules.

How do you best get along with others? Two ways. Treat others the way you prefer to be treated. AND treat others the way they prefer to be treated. The first is about YOUR mindset. What is good for the goose is good for the gander. If you like it do it for others.

If YOU don’t like it then remember OTHERS may not either. Treat them the way you want to be treated. If you want respect, respect them. If you want love, love them. If you want to be heard, listen to them. Get it? Whatever you want, give first, and you will give it back.

Enter Someone Else’s World And Make Them Feel You Understand

Treat others the way they prefer to be treated means THEY may not want to get it the way you do. They may like their coffee with cream while you like yours black. Give them coffee with cream. Be willing to adjust and tailor your approach to their preferences. Understand?

Give them what they want or need they way THEY want or need it. Do not demand they do things, think things of feel things as you do. Allow them to be themselves with their preferences. Allow them to pursue their dreams as they see fit. Stop judging and start accepting.

Live and let live. You want to be understood and ask that people speak softly. They want to be understood and ask that people speak up. To best communicate with them speak loudly. You may ask that they be a little more quiet. Negotiate  an agreement. Consider this.

Be The Person That Makes Others Feel Special

Some people walk either faster or slower than you do. Walk at their rate. Do it their way. Together you will find a rhythm. The same is true when speaking. Some speak faster others slower. If you are with a fast talker speed up a bit, with a slower one, slow down.

Why is this important to do? You learn to be more flexible and adjust and vary your behaviors. You learn to communicate with more people. Doing this takes you out of your comfort zone but eventually you become more comfortable doing things in a variety of ways.

It will help you learn better that we are the same while different. Whatever color, gender, nationality, religion or political ideology we are pretty  much the same. We want mostly the same things and yet, we go about getting what we want differently. Our values may differ.

Be Known For Your Kindness And Grace

The more mentally and behaviorally flexible you are and the more you can accept others for whom they are and the more successful you can be. The more ways you have to understand people the greater your chances for creating understanding with more people.

Most people are trying to do the best they can with the cards they feel they have been dealt. Many don’t realize it can be different. They only see from their conditioned point of you. If you can get beyond your conditioning you can have greater success with others.

Treat people  the way you want to be treated but also they way they want to be treated. If you cultivate a deep appreciation for others that works wonders too. The more you are grateful the more the world opens up for you. You radiate an energy that attracts others.

Your Greatness Isn’t In What You Have It Is In What You Give

When you are positive and filled with gratitude deep within you can stop telling others how to live. You can allow and accept others for who they are. This gives you immense freedom too. You are free to let them be who they are and you are free to be yourself.

Live, laugh, learn and love. Fill yourself with delight. Be more willing to laugh with people and let hurts and daily jostles roll off of you. Let it all go. Don’t laugh at people but with them. Be grateful. Enjoy everyone. A stranger is merely a friend you haven’t met yet. Have fun. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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The Secret To Getting More Acceptance And Respect From Your Loved Ones

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“Do you want more love and friendship in your life? Is acceptance and respect from family, friends, co-workers and others important to you? Would you like to get along more easily with these important people  Do you want to take your relationship higher?

If your answer is yes to any of the above questions you can have more of what you want. The first step in getting anything or making any change is knowing what you want that is important to you. The second step is being willing to do what it take positively to get it.

That means know what you desire. Believe you can make it happen. Feel good about that. Take action to bring it about. Keep at it until you get it. That is the formula in a nutshell. Now the added critical component. You get back what you put out. This is most important!

What Goes Around Comes Around Do Good And It Will Follow You

If you want love, acceptance and respect you need to give it first. When you give it it can be returned to you. If you say, ‘wait, wait, I already do that!’ and you don’t have the results you want, you have the feedback you need to make the necessary changes, right now.

If you aren’t getting what you want you aren’t putting out what you want to get back. You may think you are BUT you are not. You are putting out something else. That means you NOW have the opportunity to examine what you think you are putting out.

Are you secretly harboring some resentments? Are you freely giving love, acceptance and respect without judgements or labels? Are you withholding in any way? Are you open to taking your relationship to a higher more positive level? Are you connecting well with others?

Some People Create Storms Then Get Mad When It Rains

Much of the time we think we are doing everything we can. Many of us think we are not the problem it is the other person or  life events and circumstances. The opportunity before us is to adjust our thinking, emotions and actions to more successfully get our wants.

Examine your attitudes and beliefs. Examine what you are putting out. Be sure you give love, acceptance and respect without reservation. Wish them well no matter what. Bless them. Forgive them and yourself. Accept them without any judgement.

To assist you affirm it. Decide that you are open and more loving and accepting. Declare it. ‘I love myself. I love my family. I love who they are and how they are. I allow people to be who they are. I accept and respect my family. I easily connect with them. I have a great family.’

Think Good Thoughts – Say Good Words – Do Good Deeds

Use those or create positive similar ones tailored for your specific needs. Ask yourself how you can be more loving and accepting. Wonder what you can do to help them know they are loved and appreciated. Visualize yourself behaving positively with them.

Don’t visualize them changing. Visualize yourself changing and them responding to your changes. Do not try to control or manipulate them to be different. You need to change what you are thinking, feeling and doing. If you attempt to control them that is the problem.

Remember what you resist persists. If you push back you get more push back. If you accept and love and allow instead, you get more back. Don’t expect overnight changes but expect that seeds you plant will grow to fruition as long as you continue to nurture them.

What Goes Around Comes Around – Keep The Circle Positive

Whatever you put out, think about most and how you feel, your energy, is what is returned. Remember birds of a feather flock together. If you aren’t getting what you want that is information you need in order to be able to change it. Get it? You change then it does.

You get back what you put out. Put out unconditional love, acceptance, respect, liking, getting along, delight in each other so that you get that in return. Be grateful for who they are and appreciate them in your life. Celebrate them. Celebrate everything.” Rex Sikes

Make someone you love feel good today.

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How To Feel Love At Anytime

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“Would you like a mental trick that can help you feel better overall? Adopting the right attitude or mindset can make all the difference in the world.  Sometimes, you just want to bask in the glow of ‘all is well’ and feel that the world and others ‘got your back’. Right?

Well, you can. Remember the key always is, ‘If it is to be it is up to me’. That means YOU go first. You think the thoughts. You adopt the mindset. Don’t wait for others. Just begin right away. Begin right now. I always suggest choosing thoughts that support you.

You want ones that uplift you. You want to feel more positive and optimistic. I  want ones I can believe and that are realistic, both plausible and possible because I want to be able to believe they are or can be so. I don’t want airy fairy ones that don’t support me.

To Accept Is To Say Yes To Life In Its Entirety

Here is one for today that you may try on. Think these thoughts, repeat throughout the day. Embrace the concepts and wrap the feelings around you. Remember, the non-conscious mind, or subconscious responds to feelings more than words.

The words are for your conscious understanding and for you to create the feelings. So try this on as you would some wonderful new clothing item you love. Say it. Repeat it until you mean it and believe it. That is how it works. You keep repeating it until you believe it!

Remember, it has been borne out that a lie repeated or heard often enough can or is substituted for the truth. Repetition is how we condition the non-conscious mind. Repetition of the feeling is the most important. Believe the words, feel the feelings. It works!

Love And Accept Yourself Exactly As You Are Past Present Future

Here it is: ‘I am loved by everyone! People appreciate, love and respect me. I am a beautiful person inside and out. Others can see and feel my presence. I radiate acceptance. I am surrounded by love and beautiful people. I am protected by love. I’m loved and I am love.’

‘I can love and appreciate others. I accept and allow others to be who they are. We can easily get along. People allow me to be me. I allow me to be me. I drop and let go of judgements. I accept myself.  I love myself.  It feels wonderful to give and receive love freely.’

You can tailor it to mean the most and feel best for you. As with any affirmation or set of thoughts it is best to pick a topic area and repeat it over and over for awhile. A rule of thumb you hear all the time is AT LEAST 21 days. Repetition is the mother of skill.

Real Change Is Not An Event – Real Change Requires Repetition

In order to make a new habit we have to repeat it enough, over a long enough period of time. 21 days is the shortest time period, according to researchers to begin to form a new habit. So try it out for at least that short while. Longer is even better.

Just pick something that uplifts and supports you in being positive and authentic. You can learn to think anything you’d like to with practice. Choose the best thoughts to think and you will feel better You will transform your experience, yourself and your life.

You can feel loved and loving at anytime. It is up to you. It is in your hands, your heart and your mind. If you can hold it in your head you can hold it in your hands. What you focus on expands. What you think about you become. It happen even quicker when you appreciate all life offers without judgement  and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Make all your moments meaningful!

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What To Do With The Important People In Your Life?

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“Tonight I am at a film festival. It is good to see some old friends. It is good to meet new friends. For the blog today,  I encourage you to catch up with family and friends. Nurture your relationships. Celebrate the people you know. Stop and listen and learn from them.

Take a moment to really connect. Enjoy the people who make up your life. Business, while important, is not that important. I grew up, for the most part, surrounded by filmmakers. Many whose heads were planted firmly planted up the rectal canal.  Vision limited.

I mean no disrespect. However, while film is important people are more important. I know some will disagree. I am writing tonight to remind you to connect and enjoy. Celebrate and love. Make time to savor your family and friends and support each other.

Take The Time To Tell Someone Why They Are Special To You

Take a moment and list out what you appreciate about each of your children, your siblings, your parents, you partners in life, your closest friends. Really think about what makes them special and what you like about them. Appreciate them. Sometime, perhaps, tell them.

Tell them why they are so important to you. Look them in the eye and let them know you care. It is one thing to say ‘I love you’ and it is another to tell them what you like and admire about them and why. Be grateful. Live, laugh, love and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Get in touch with a loved one today!

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You Suck If You Can’t Keep This! You Really Do!

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“Want to ruin a romance fast? What to destroy a business relationship? Are you tired of keeping family and friends around? Want to lose a few? Do this and you will. Many have already? It is simple to drive people away. Harder if you want to keep them.

Do you ever make promises? Do you keep your commitments? Are you known as a trustworthy and reliable person? I am sure you’d like to think so, but are you? Do you stand by your word? Is your word your bond? Is your word law? If not, you absolutely want it to be.

I don’t have to point out how aggravating it is to receive promises from family, friends or businesses and expect them to honor their word only to have them not deliver on it. I don’t have to do that, do I? It sucks, right? Does it make you like them better? I bet not! Right?

People Of Good Character Keep Their Promises – Stay True

Do you feel like believing them the next time? How many times have you been repeatedly burned by the same person or business? What do you ultimately do? Are they gaining any good will from you? Have you cut some off. Have you said, ‘never again!’ Maybe to some, right.

‘My word is my bond. My word is law’. You are only as good a person and reliable as you word is true.  Your promise is your word. It is your commitment. Your word is a contract. You and I make verbal contracts all day long. Do you honor them is the question? Do you?

If you say you will be somewhere or do something, do you? If you promise to deliver then do it. Keep your agreement. If you say Friday you will do it or have it done that is a promise that you will have it done on Friday. If you don’t deliver on Friday your word is not good!

Never Make A Promise You’re Not 100% Committed To Fulfill

You are only as good and as valuable to others as the agreements you keep. Most people, want the people they associate with, in their family, friends, relationships, business and elsewhere to be honest, loyal, trustworthy and reliable or dependable. We value these!

We want to be able to take you at your word and hold you to your it. If we can’t count on you, if we aren’t able to rely on you, if you fail to come through and deliver as you say you will, of what use or value are you to us? No use! Because you betray the trust we place in you.

If you say you will do something. DO IT! That is the honorable thing to do. Your word is your bond. Your word should be law. Your word should actually mean something. If it doesn’t I don’t want much to do with you. I may like you but I can’t count on you. I don’t trust you.

Respect My Time – Match My Effort – Keep Your Word – Be Honest

So I may like you but you aren’t anyone I could recommend to others. Think business. Think networking. Think jobs. Do you want to refer someone to others who you know will let them down. Of course, you don’t! It would bite you in the ass. It would reflect poorly on you.

You may have a family member like this. You love them with your whole heart and soul but you can’t count on them for anything. What to do about them? Nothing. You can’t do anything until they begin to value their commitments, their word and their relationships.

If you state ‘I’ll try to get it done by Friday’ you are wishy-washy and not deserving of the trust of anyone. Yes,I know this is hard-core. The point is your word is your bond. Your word is either 100% valid or not. If it’s only 50% valid or 8o% valid who can rely on you?

You Lose Credibility When You Don’t Keep Your Word 

If you don’t honor your word why should anyone else? Why should anyone trust or rely or think you will deliver? They shouldn’t. We shouldn’t! Yes, I know there are times when you are over extended and you don’t want to commit to anything. It’d be better if you don’t.

Don’t say you will try only to disappoint someone else. Better to not say anything at all. Of course, that is difficult, but if you can’t keep your word don’t act as if you will. Better to pick a time when you know you can and will deliver and give them that date and time.

There are two people in the world most important to keep your word with. The first is YOU! You should always do what you say you will do. Keep your promise to yourself. If you say you are going to clean your desk Monday morning then do it. Keep your word!

A Promise Means Everything Once Broken Sorry Means Nothing

You are worth keeping your word with. You deserve respect. You are worthy of following through on your own promises to yourself. Make intentions. Keep them clear and simple and commit to them. Don’t say you will do things and then not follow through.

That is bad practice. Develop good habits. Make the task bite size if you must but do it. The second person absolutely critical to keep your word with is THE OTHER PERSON. Whomever you give your word to, friend, foe or stranger KEEP IT! Keep your promises.

Don’t be childish. Some people will argue that ‘I said I would do it but I didn’t promise’.  Because they didn’t utter the word promise they think that lets them off the hook. It doesn’t. Your word IS your verbal contract. If you say, ‘I will’ you promised you will. Not maybe but will.

Integrity Is The Most Valued And Respected Quality Of Leadership

Your word is either valuable or worthless to yourself and others. Keep your commitments. Keep your appointments. Be on time. Get  known as a person who delivers. Become known as someone who can be relied on.  Develop that reputation. Treat yourself well!

Because when you do you become a person of great value to others. You become indispensable in business. You stand out from all the rest. Your word is law. You are known to keep it. You are trustworthy. You make yourself indispensable. You are valuable!

Remember your word is gold. Every promise you make is a verbal contract. Keep it with yourself and others. If you can’t keep your word don’t give your word. Build the habit of being reliable. Great things can come about when you truly begin to value your own word! Practice keeping it and succeed! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Fill each moment with fun.

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How To Quickly And Easily Feel Inspired And Motivated Any Time!

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“You want to feel inspired? Would you like to feel more motivated? What can you do to get your dreams easier and more quickly? How can you unleash your own power to go after the career, the love, the life that you want? What is something you can do right now?

The answer is easy and simple. Inspire someone else. Use your words, your feelings and you actions to inspire someone who needs it. Use your words, feelings and actions to motivate someone who feels unmotivated. Put your power and presence into action.

Don’t wait for the right time. Begin sharing what you know today. Begin sharing what you feel from your heart. Help someone else get ahead. It is one of the quickest ways to learn what you need to know. It is one of the fastest ways to move yourself forward, too.

Help Others Achieve Their Dreams And You Will Achieve Yours

When you give of yourself, to help another person in need, you use your personal resources, your knowledge and your experience, your thoughts, words, feelings and actions to come to their aid. You use everything you know and everything you are learning.

You apply all of this to assisting a person in need. You share lovingly, you instruct, you question, you understand and you lead them gently. You might use some tough love and some loving kindness. Everything you use for another you could benefit from yourself.

Because you are helping another it is easier to ‘get’ what you need to do. Your helping them will help you. You will learn much from sharing with them. You will become aware of so many things. You may hear reasons or excuses, complaints or blames and answer those.

We Rise By Lifting Others – Be The Reason Someone Smiles Today

Many may be the same you have in other circumstances. After all, as people we are far more similar, most of the time, than we are actually different. Teaching is one of the best ways to learn what you need to learn. Don’t ‘act like a teacher’ simply share what you know.

Sharing is wonderful. There is no stress or burden if you ask, ‘mind if I share with you something I have recently learned?’ If they answer ‘yes’ they have given your permission to share. Don’t abuse their permission, share, let them decide to do with what you offer.

If they reject it, that is what they do. You still shared. You still had the experience. Whether they understand today or tomorrow isn’t your concern, your part is sharing. You plant a seed then the universe decides if it grows. Allow them latitude to agree or disagree. Let go.

Power Is The Ability To Do Good Things For Others

Simply share. Let them accept or reject. JUST share. When done, you are done. The value for you is in what you did. The value for you is you helped another. You sought to use what you knew to inspire and motivate. You attempted to help another person feel better.

How else might it benefit you. You did something kind for someone. They may reciprocate in the future when you need some uplifting. They may reciprocate in other ways as well. Let them decide whether they respond in this way or not. You didn’t do it for reward.

You did it because you wanted to help another person. You did it because you know by sharing and helping it helps you to learn the lessons you need to know better. It really does. You can be your own best teacher by helping many others one by one. It truly works!

By Learning You Will Teach – By Teaching You Will Learn

Delight in sharing. Have fun. Allow yourself to be great at it or to suck at it. It doesn’t matter when your heart is in the right place. Allow yourself to appreciate the difficulty the other person may have. Appreciate their difficulty in possibly accepting your help.

Appreciate every aspect of this process. Don’t judge. Do not label. Let go of all assumptions and be open to discovering many knew learnings. Be gentle and lead from the heart. It is about connection and trust. It is about well-being and compassion.

It IS about relationship. It is about nurturing and encouraging. Everything about this process can be a blessing. Enjoy it. Delight in it. Let go, allow, and accept. Be free to give and to receive. Stay open and Be sure to celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Thrill yourself today in positive ways.

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It’s Not What You Know But Who You Know That Matters Most

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“I am a  actor and filmmaker.  I am a author, presenter and trainer trainer for personal change, self help, self improvement and professional improvement methodologies.  I travel a lot and get to meet lots of people. I’m fortunate. I love and enjoy both careers.

That said, at the end of the day, or the end of my life, if I am fortunate enough to have time to so ‘so long’, making another movie, or traveling to another location, or presenting another talk will not matter much. The people I have surrounded myself will matter!

Recently, I spent a couple weeks traveling, training, getting more training and learning for me, and meeting film people on potential projects. It was and it is fantastic. While traveling I missed my children. While traveling my mission was to connect with friends.

Cherish All The People In Your Life – They Are There On Purpose

Some of my friends are filmmakers. Some are not. I wanted to reach out, see and sit and talk with all. I got to do some wonderful things. Surfed with one. Dined with many. Got a fabulous tour of a secret hidden talented art space from another. Saw some perform. Talked.

It was and is all amazing. I point this out, not only because I feel blessed but to highlight that it is the people around you who are most important. It isn’r money, the pyramids, the toys we have, the hours spent in career or job, it is the people. Our family, our friends.

Please make sure, to value them and let you know how much you appreciate them. They are truly golden. I think, whether it is true or not, they are all in our lives for a reason. They inspire us, challenge us, motivate us, caution us, love us and we them. We are fortunate.

It May Be Our Last Day – Cherish Family Friends And Strangers

Love, wow, what more can be said. Inspire, motivate, caution, and challenge us whether intentional or not helps us grow. The kite rises against the wind. Sometimes we don’t see eye to eye. Sometimes we may think they don’t have our best interests in their hearts.

Maybe they do, maybe they don’t. Whatever the motives our interactions are moments of blessing that if we are wise can move us all further along in our personal development. There are people I don’t want to be around too. I don’t seek them out.

When in their company I attempt to remember there is something good that can come from this is I remains open and nonjudgmental. That can be difficult but perhaps that IS what it IS all about. If it were all easy we’d already have mastered it. Difficult people are blessings.

Always Make It A Point To Tell Loved Ones You Love Them

They provoke us and we them. We don’t see eye to eye. We might not even like them at all. Still, we can learn, if not directly from them, from the interaction with them, how to be better people ourselves and get along with difficult people. We can learn and evolve.

If we choose to. That is the key. If we decide to see everything and everyone as a blessing and opportunity. If we celebrate being challenged instead of opposing them because we don’t like them and think the worst about them. We are human, we may all tend to.

Still, we have opportunity if and when we become aware. If they are here in our lives for a reason, and I choose to believe they are, whether that is true or not, then there is some mutual benefit to be had. There is some learning and blessing to receive if we are open.

Actions Always Speak Louder Than Words – Talk Can Be Cheap

It is easy to get along with people who are easy to get along with. So the tough ones are truly important to our development. However, this post isn’t only about the tough ones it is about celebrating the people in your life. It is a gentle reminder to appreciate all of them.

When listing things to be grateful for, besides just naming your family and friends, write down why you are grateful. Notate how they are meaningful to you. Write out what you learn and how you are blessed by and from your interactions. How you are richer.

You are richer because of the people who are around you. All of them, the good and not so good. Be thankful. Look deep into each and appreciate and honor their presence in your life. They, nor you, will always be there, at least in this form. Savor and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Today, thank and give thanks for each person you know.

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