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Only An Idiot Would Think This!

“It is amazing how many people whine and complain that the world seems against them, but then they do nothing to make any change. They live as a victim rather than as victor. They’d prefer to follow than lead. What about you? Isn’t it time you take charge of you?

Some claim they want to be a better person. They want to improve but then spend most of their time distracted. They want help but then don’t help themselves. Hey, I know, I did this many years of my life. I wanted change but whined. I didn’t know what to do to get it.

Part of being a better person is being a better communicator. Learn how you can be more impactful, get through blocks preventing understanding and connection. Overcome objections, stop getting no’s and start getting more yeses. Important to you? Take action.

… Sometimes People Don’t Need To Be Told What To Do …

Want your kids to try a new food? Want your significant other to treat you nicer, or your customer to buy your product or service?Whatever it is, it is all pretty much the same. It is the sale of an idea to someone you have a relationship with. Get it? It is really a sale!

Watch the webinar I have placed here and learn how to influence with absolute integrity.  Regardless of what you do in life watch this webinar. Learn something. Stretch, get out of your comfort zone. The material in the webinar can revolutionize everything you do.

I repeat, and add, the material in the webinar, when applied, can revolutionize everything you do in your personal and professional relationships. When you know WHY THEY BUY you will be more powerful. This IS what you MUST seek to understand.

,,, They Need Someone Who Listens And Understands Them

Why does your child, your parent, your loved one, your boss, employee, friend, client, customer or stranger do what they do?. Why do they buy? What triggers their decisions? What do they need to say yes? Why do they say no? You need to understand THEM!

Only an idiot would think that ‘why they buy’ is only about ‘sales’. Okay, okay, I know that’s harsh but really, think about this and get it. Sales is an exchange within a relationship. It could be ideas, money time or services or whatever. It is an exchange within a relationship!

It is about how you interact with everyone. Yes, the presentations is skewed a lot toward professional sales but every ‘sales’ involves  A RELATIONSHIP with friend or stranger. The examples demonstrate how powerful you can be communicating with anyone! Get it?

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Don’t miss out on learning something wonderful because you have a particular mental bias. Explore. Then if it isn’t for you, it isn’t for you. BUT it if is you may have just discovered something that will allow you to become more effective in the kitchen, the bedroom and boardroom, or herever you spend your time. You do want that don’t you? Watch ‘why they buy’ you will be glad you did AND be sure to celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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You’ll Lose More Than You Win If You Don’t Know This About Other People!

“Can you quickly and easily create trust, rapport, and gain understanding, while eliminating roadblocks with clients, customers, and important people, in your professional and personal life? Can loved ones, investors, customers, agents, kids and all be influenced?

If yes, then how? This is important. You must get this! If you understand  the importance of the principle I’m sharing it can revolutionize your life and everything you do. I mean that! Alright here is what you, and I, MUST do to succeed wildly! Get this!

You must meet the other person where they’re at! Not where you are. You must speak their language, not just your language! When you communicate with them, HOW they prefer to be communicated with, you win, and so do they. You must be flexible and not limited.

If You Always Do What You Always Did You’ll Get What You Got

You must know MORE than one way of doing things. The difficulty with most sales people and influencers is they sell, and attempt to persuade, how they THINK the other person wants to hear the information. This will have YOU hear ‘NO’, more often than not.

You must adjust FOR them. Do not expect them to adjust for you. You must be adaptable and flexible. You must be smart enough to discover WHY they ACTUALLY buy, and what is important to THEM, and not what you THINK the reasons are. You need to learn theirs!

You need to get curious enough about the other person to do it their way. No one really likes being sold. Do you? If someone is attempting to get you to do something, do you enjoy it? Most probably not, most of the time, BUT, you, and others, enjoy buying things. Get it?

If What You Are Doing Isn’t Working Do Anything Else

If you wanted to sell a Chinese or French speaking only person or client, you’d have to put your presentation into words and terms they understood. You wouldn’t insist they learned your language first, would you? Not if you are smart, but yet, that is what most do.

That is what less than successful people do all the time! They expect others to buy the way they sell. To be successful professionally, or personally, in influencing others, we need to sell the way the other person buys! Get it? Adjust to them, don’t make them adjust to you!

When you learn WHY THEY BUY and adjust your presentation to them, whether it’s you family and friends or professional clients, customers, associates and potential partners, they more easily and readily and completely, can understand the offer you are making.

If It Isn’t Working For Most People They Do It Again Only Louder

When you appeal to why they buy and what is important to them, they can more readily and easily say ‘YES’ to you! Because they can recognize how your offer fits with what is important with them. Get it? You’ll be far more successful when you master this! Seriously!

If you don’t apply this, and continue to do what you have always done, you will continue to hear more ‘nos’ than ‘yeses’. You will fail to convince your family and friends and lose tons of money, leaving it on the table professionally, if you keep doing what isn’t working.

Doing more of that IS the definition of insanity. If you are pleased with the results you get, you can still benefit from learning improved ways of doing things. You can learn, grow and excel even more! If you are unhappy with your results, you must change what you do!

Whether You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You Are Right

In coming blogs I will share with you a powerful system for getting more yeses! I will share with you, some of the secrets, the science and the system for unlocking another person’s buying behavior to skyrocket your results. You will love learning this. I mean it!

I will share with you a webinar that you will want to watch all the way through to the end. It is lengthy, about 90 minutes, so make time for it. I’ll introduce you to a good friend and mentor of mine. You watch and you will get everything you need to, to begin a new way.

I am thrilled to share this information with you. Because, I’ve been doing this for forty years. I realized years ago if I didn’t speak my customers language (and who is my customer? ANYONE I am attempting to influence) I was not respecting them. It was I, who lost.

The Chameleon Is A Wise Creature It Adapts To Its Surroundings

Once I learned what I needed to learn, what I needed to do, and learned my customer’s language, everything changed. I am happy to share this with you. Get it? If you want to improve a lot of different areas of your life this is an important way to begin to do that.

Until next blog consider these thoughts and principles. Plus, be sure to focus on what you are grateful for, and what you enjoy about you and your present life. Keep the faith and know that you will unlock the door and make all sorts of good things happen as you, feel grateful, put on a positive mindset, and take right action. So celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Consider Your Family And Friends

“Just a reminder. Appreciate your family and your friends. Consider yourself blessed. Find a way to celebrate each person important to you. Love more. Laugh more. Share more together. One thing you can never get back is your time. Spend time with those you love.

You are fortunate if someone likes you. You are fortunate if you are loved. Give love freely. Allow others to like and love you. Receive it fully it. Expect the best of them. See the best in them. Respect, value, treasure them. Delight in them. This is just a reminder. Call someone.

Reach out connect. Count your blessings. Express your love and gratitude. Edify and uplift those around you. Smile more. Smile more at strangers, too. Be less afraid. Be more willing to look someone in the eye.  Speak truth directly with compassion and care. Be honest.

It Is Not About Having Time – It Is About Making Time 

Remember, you live in a world of people. Lend a hand. Be able to ask for help. Support others. Allow them to support you. Enjoy it. Enjoy them. Enjoy yourself and your relationships. Make more friends. Keep your family close. Treat them well. Celebrate! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

PS Why the gravestone photo? Because nothing lasts forever. Appreciate what you have, while you have it. Love.

ENJOY!

Stop and smell the roses, today. Take the time to love and enjoy!

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What Can You Do When Someone Shocks Or Disappoints You?

“My recent blog was, what you can do if you shock or disappoint yourself? This one, examines what you can do if someone else, perhaps a loved one or friend, shocks or disappoints you. Guess what? What you do  is really not that much different.

Stop. Take a deep breath. Let go. Sit with it. I know there is a tendency to blame the other person. It is a normal part of our prior conditioning to examine and complain about their behavior. We want to put it on them. Stop. This is an old habit pattern.

It is part of your brain’s ability to look for what is wrong. It looks for matches in our experience and finds what is wrong. Just stop. It won’t be easy. Shift  away from blame and complaining to neutral. Take a deep breath. As long as you blame, you continue in the habit.

Accept What Is Let Go Of What Was Have Faith In What Will Be

In order to get free, explore what happens in you. What were you expecting? What did you hope and want?  This is an opportunity for you to stop reacting and learn how to respond instead. Obviously, there is some trigger, some anchor in you that went off.

Whatever the catalyst, you reacted. Wouldn’t it be much nicer if regardless of the stimulus, you didn’t suck into it? The other does whatever they do and you remain centered, the eye of the hurricane. Examine this instead. What do they do that is a reflection of you?

Their behavior is a mirror of some aspect of you. Something you can let go of and change. Don’t blame yourself. Attempt to be open, available and don’t judge. Don’t judge or label them, what they do, yourself or, what you do as bad or wrong. It just is what it is.

Learn To Accept People For Who The Are – Let Go Stop Judging

Get it? You don’t want to over analyze this, either. You want to examine why you might react as you do. Whatever you find, let it go. Imagine how you can be free and how you would prefer to behave positively in the future. How could you respond differently?

How could you act more productively? How might you be more loving; compassionate? How might you be non-plussed and remain balanced? These thoughts help you to create a more wonderful future. Focus on what you want, not on the issues you have or had.

We’ll continue more the next blog. Meanwhile, find the blessings in your life and in your relationships. Delight in these. Accentuate the goodness. Focus on these blessings. Allow yourself to let gratitude well up inside you. Feel thankful. Celebrate everything!”Rex Sikes

Be easy on yourself today!

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What We Can Learn From The 2017 Academy Awards Show.

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“Did you see the Oscars 2017. I enjoyed it. If you missed it you missed a fun show with lot’s of live happenings. I posted to Facebook my list of lessons from this year’s Oscars. I decided to include it here. While written somewhat in jest I do think we can learn a lot to apply.

Here is what we can learn from the 2017 Academy Awards Show. Learn from the Oscar mishap and apply the learning to our everyday lives. I think the example is ripe with more than just a few practices to embrace. I only list a few. Enjoy and transform your situations.

1. Not everything goes as expected. Get over it. Go on with grace.

2. Surprises and shocks, delights and disappointments are part of it.

3. It is an Academy Award show. It is about glamour, friends, talent, and money. Keep in mind it is an Academy Award Show. It is a show!

4. It is an AWARD show. It’s LIVE – real time. If everything and everyone were included it would last longer. There will be omissions. People complain. Enjoy what is there! Lighten up! It’s the Oscars

5. Not everyone likes or cares for the same things. So what? Enjoy.

6. It is a celebration! Keep that in mind. Criticism is an easy out.

7. Mistakes are mistakes. Remember the positive outcome. Learn.

8. Cut everyone some slack. It is what it is. Have fun. It’s Oscars!

9. Don’t rain on other’s parades. It’s an awards show. Celebrate!

10. Rectify mistakes with integrity. Do the right thing quickly. Don’t hesitate! Be willing to lose if you must. Celebrate others who win.

BONUS LESSON: IT IS AN AWARD SHOW!! It’s purpose is recognition and edification. Are there other reasons for it. Yes, so what! Let people come together to pat each other on the back. Why do I repeat so often? SO we remember to keep it in mind! Laugh!

Well that’s it. Have fun. Enjoy life. Offer credit where credit is due. Acknowledge, recognize and edify others around you. Celebrate your success, but be sure to celebrate the success of others. When disappointed accept it with grace and go on. Walk the talk. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Live, Learn, Love and Laugh!

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Who You Are Speaks Volumes: You Can’t Hide It

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“First impressions are lasting impressions. Are you a friendly, reliable, loyal, honest, trustworthy person that people want to do business with or say yes to? What message do they get fromYOU beyond the message you are attempting to communicate? WHO are you?

It’s important you understand what you are broadcasting to others. Because who you are and what you do is what people meet first; even on the phone. It isn’t only the words you use it is quality of your voice. What does the voice sound like? What impression do we get?

You cannot not communicate. You are communicating always. Speaking or silent  the message YOU is being transmitted. Be aware of who you are and what message your are always offering. How you stand, walk, sit speaks volumes. How you look; the look in your eyes.

The Medium Is The Message – You Can’t Not Communicate

The quality of your voice. The confidence or lack of it when you speak. You can’t hide who you are so you shouldn’t try. You should develop yourself into an awesome person and presence whom people enjoy and want to be around, do things for and say yes to.

More on this later. Simply become aware of what you broadcast day and night. It may surprise you to learn. Are you broadcasting positivity or negativity; friendliness or unfriendliness; WHAT do you broadcast? Who are you? What is important to you? It all goes out!

Everyone picks up something about you. They read signals and interpret or misinterpret. What message are they getting? An easy way to be more likable is to become filled with gratitude and express it freely. Live in appreciation and become so filled it spills over to the others. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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You Must Know This: You Are An Individual But You Aren’t The Only Individual!

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“Hitler’s strategy was divide and conquer. Fortunately, he did not prevail but his method very nearly wrecked civilization as we know it. Allegedly, this country was brought together in the spirit of co-operation and an  ‘all for one and one for all’ spirit. We united.

Today, we are constantly being divided into self interest groups of one. We are individually targeted and marketed to. We no longer have network television where we all watch ‘Gunsmoke’ on Sunday nights (for 20 years) and then talk at the water cooler the next day.

We are splintered and fragmented. Instead of uniting for the common good it seems our representatives fight over what they want with little regard for the people they represent. Protests are more difficult to wage today then they were 30 or 60 years ago.

Without A Sense Of Caring There Is No Sense Of Community

We walk around with our faces in our cell phones. We no longer call a place to reach who is there we call an individual. Most all of us have cell phones. What is my point in this? Is it political? No, we could discuss politics but my point is we are separated, alone, and isolated.

We are brought together by the internet. Social media connects us. Twitter and Facebook and the rest are how we interact. We get our news and entertainment from questionable sources much of the time. It gets harder and harder to unite people for causes.

Oh, it is not over. There still are some but we are less of a community in everyday life. We no longer sit around the family room together watching TV, listening to the radio, telling stories or singing songs. We telecommute or work from home in many cases. Computers!

A Community That Excludes Even One Member Is No Community

We aren’t involved with each other the way we once we. We don’t know our neighbors, our community. John Donne coined, ‘No man is an island’ yet it seems more of us are becoming that. I question at times if that isn’t the great plan. Another form of divide and control.

BUT I said this wasn’t about politics and it isn’t. It is about co-operation. It is about teamwork. It is about the spirit of helping each other, lifting each other up, encouraging each other to move forward and stimulating and enjoying the success of those around us.

We don’t need to compete each other to death. A little competition is good to stimulate. Games are good. It encourages people to excel. However, we need not compete and destroy. We need to compete and grow stronger together. We need to make things better.

Support Each Other And Incredible Things Can Happen

We need to share what we know with others so they too can grow. We can educate and uplift. We can cooperate and thrive. We can go the extra mile and add value to others and help them succeed because then they are likely to want to return the favor to us. Get it?

Reciprocity means I buy you dinner and you feel like you want to buy me dinner. We take turns. We are mutually obligated. That is the way our world works and how it worked for so long. People doing good for each other. Helping each other. We want to give back.

That is why community meetings, dances, church, weddings, funerals were and are important. We unite. We came together to solve problems together or to celebrate lives. Solving problems together means working together toward a common goal. Cooperation.

Come Together – Unite – Hang – Enjoy – Celebrate – Be Together

That is how our political system is supposed to work. Okay, whoops, I slipped that in there, but as an example. We get nowhere obfuscating or obstructing from either side of the isle. We are supposed to be united for the good of all concerned. We aren’t.

We are passed over because of lobbyists and interest groups. Many times favors are granted to the highest bidder. Alright, enough! No more politics but I hope the example is clear. We can’t run our lives or business off the example we see in our government. Its crappy.

It isn’t a good role model any longer. That is what we should be. We should be better role models. We should be more conscientious. We need to care more for each other and a little bit less for ourself. Love yourself. It is critically important but love others too. Keep giving.

Be Around People In Person Who Can Love And Support You

Take time for the people around you. Connect in person. Put the phone away for awhile. YES, I know it is difficult to not take another selfie or text someone something inane. I know it is nearly impossible to abstain. Give it a try for a couple minutes at a time.

Connect in person! Give some attention. Listen to listen and learn not to argue and counterpoint. Listen to discover who the person you are with is and what is important to this person. Allow them to discover you too! Exchange and enjoy! Live and uplift. Share. TALK!

We are niche marketed into splinters. We aren’t exposed to diverse concepts as groups. Let’s not exist only as a person in a house at a computer but let’s be a neighborhood again. Let’s discover a diverse community not just those who are carbon copies of us.

Strangers Are Potential Friends – We Just Haven’t Met Them Yet

Let’s go beyond our limits. Let’s seek to understand outside the box and our narrow sphere of our targeted personal niche. Let’s understand and appreciate others for their different opinions and practices. Let’s become a melting pot again. Let’s connect.

Let’s cooperate. Let’s support and uplift. Let’s learn from everyone and from everywhere. Let’s celebrate the uniqueness of everyone and appreciate all the similarities. We are, people, one species, after all. We are a diverse collection of one species on one globe.

Don’t buy into the goal of the marketers and the media to provide you only what you already like. Expand your horizons. Bridge the gaps. Delight in difference. I’m not saying you can’t have your singular likes, you can, but have others also. There world is vast!

Learn From Everyone – Learn From Everywhere – Be Open – Invite

Go beyond what you know. Expose your mind to new and different ideas. Embrace and delight in all of it. Be receptive. Come out from behind the technology and interact. Face to face rather than face to Facebook. Enjoy, learn, connect and celebrate everyone and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Meet someone new today!

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