Category Archives: Relationships

Why It Is Important To Give And Get Recognition

what u put out u get back

“In my recent post I pointed out that RAVE (my acronym for Recognize Appreciate Validate Excellence) is a wonderfully powerful and important gift for people and for yourself. When we get RAVEd we can feel important, confident, respected, liked, loved or any number of positive wonderful feelings.

That moment of recognition can be a life long positive memory and resource the re-ignites all those incredible feelings whenever remembered. That is good reason to be certain to provide this experience to people important to you in life and business. It becomes a gift that keeps on giving. It may become a highlight and cherished memory for them.

There is another powerful reason for giving recognition, appreciation and validation to others. Creating positive experiences for others not only benefits them but benefits you. Remember the notion of what goes around comes around. You benefit whenever you do something wonderful for another person.

What you put out there comes back to you. I do not mean that because you recognize others that others will recognize you. They might. They most probably will but that is not what is meant. It is like a smile. When you smile nicely at another person you are more apt to get one back OR you just feel good for helping to make someone else feel good.

When you give positive energy out with no expectation of getting anything in return; when you commit an act of kindness simply for being kind; when you treat someone else marvelously just because you wanted to be nice you are benefiting yourself. You get to feel good about it.

You feel good because you made others feel wonderful. Both parties feel good. If there were nothing else that alone IS enough reason. Still, there may be something else. There may be that positive energy you generate for others DOES come back to you in any variety of ways.

This is the point of the Golden Rule. Treat others exceptionally well, shower them with positive regard, love and friendship. Validate and celebrate another person’s success without envy or resentment and you benefit.

Put into motion positive thoughts and feelings. Even if they never know about it YOU transform yourself. You become a better person.It changes you!  AND even if there is no return you STILL become a better person because of it.

You become a better person because you go first. You create something wonderful. There is no waiting, no whining, no blaming there is only great thoughts and feelings being generated. You become what you think about most of the time.

You can improve yourself by helping others mentally in your thoughts and in realty by your actions. Both work and both are important. Fill your life with gratitude, validation, positivity, happiness, joy, feeling marvelous, and you are more healthy and wealthy. From this mindset you can create anything you want.

You want more love. BE MORE Loving! You want better friendships BE A BETTER FRIEND. You want more money DEVELOP A RICH MINDSET. You want to feel better THINK BETTER. Thought precede actions and actions precede results.

You want better results? Begin with how you think and feel. Put the very best positive energy to work for you and for others. Create a marvelous world to be part of! Imagine how incredible your life will be when you make this an automatic, reliable habit.” Rex Sikes

Celebrate today!

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How To Feel Better Almost Instantly!

how can i help others olve their problems and acheive their dreams

“Would you like to feel better? Would you like to feel proud? How would you like to enjoy the feelings that what you do matters? Wouldn’t this be nice? It doesn’t take much to feel significant and productive. Here is how:

Help someone else who is down and out. Whether the person or persons are emotionally or financially troubled do something to help ease their burden. Help put a smile on their lips or a song in their heart. Any genuine act of kindness, no matter how large or small can mean more than you can imagine to a person in need.

Pay it forward. Little acts or kindness randomly spread throughout the day can help you to feel inspired and delighted. Sometimes, it is as easy as lighting up, smiling genuinely and listening intently when greeting another person. If you want to feel better help someone else feel better.

It might surprise you how good you feel when thinking and feeling and moving with care and compassion. Even the mental activity of showering the other person with peace and love can be meaningful. Bath them in positivity and enjoy their presence. Take a moment and truly listen. Help a child or play with one. Smile at everyone!

It’s easy to feel good when your goal is to help others feel good. As they light up you will too. Whenever you are down and need a lift give someone else a lift and you will benefit! Aim to understand, accept, allow, inspire, motivate, and assist others. Delight in doing good!” Rex Sikes

Have a great day!

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Are You A Winner? Find Out Now!

i choose

“These questions should be easy to answer for each of us but for too many these are difficult questions. Can you answer each? The answers you give are important and determine how far you get and how easy or difficult that will be. Who are you? What do you want more than anything else in the world? What price would you pay to have what you want?

The clearer you are and the better you answer each of these the more easily you can make your goals and dreams come true. Do you think of yourself as a person who can accomplish anything you want? Certainly, you ought to. Look to your inner resources and recognize yourself as one who has the power to make your dream come true. Decide you can work by yourself and co-operatively with others to make it happen.

If you don’t know how or feel yourself resourceful enough at this moment you can learn to. You are capable, positive and powerful. You can learn to make any change you want so take the opportunity. Make it a priority. Since we become what we think about all day long make certain that what you think about is worthwhile and positive. Too many waste their time occupied with unimportant tasks or behaviors that don’t get them anywhere.

Decide what you want in clear compelling detail. Those who succeed most readily are driven by what it is they want and need to accomplish. They know precisely what their dream is and what they would pay to make it happen. In researching 500 of the wealthiest doers in America Napoleon Hill stated you can attain your  Dominant Chief Aim when it is backed up by a passionate burning desire, and kept in your mind day and night.

Hill stated you must devote yourself to making it happen and believe, have faith, and expect to create it without giving up. He found those who anticipated success were far more likely to attain it. They persisted in spite of the odds. They understood success exacted a high price and only those willing to pay it were ultimately successful. They didn’t lose sight of their destination when things got tough. They changed their plans as necessary but not their goals. They kept going!

What they did stemmed from the kind of person they were. People who succeeded were positive, optimistic and unstoppable. They believed in themselves, had the right attitude and were convinced they would succeed. They focused on what they wanted not the obstacles before them. They were leaders leading themselves forward. They were in charge 100% responsible. They were flexible, they were learners and they kept going forward toward their goal.

Most people wish rather than plan. They hope for better days instead of intending to have them.  We don’t have the ability to wish things into being but we are able to command them. Hill pointed out that most of our success stemmed from 99% what we did in our heads and 1% from the actions we took. If our mental attitude and beliefs were aligned then our actions were too and we did the right things to bring about success.

Many work hard, efforting a lot, but their minds are not prepared for success. Success favors the prepared mind. Most people’s attitudes are defeatist so they end up spinning their wheels and not getting very far. They whine, blame circumstances and hope to get ahead instead of taking 100% responsibility and intending to get ahead come what may. Challenges are part of the process.

There is a reason why Hill titled his book THINK And Grow Rich. He did not call it Work Hard And Grow Rich. People have it backwards. THINK right and you do the RIGHT hard work AND that makes all the difference. Think wrong and you spend your life on the hamster treadmill. It isn’t the amount of effort that makes a difference it is knowing the RIGHT effort.

Your dream has to be more important than anything else! You must think on it day and night and believe in YOUR ability to make it happen. You must devote yourself to becoming the kind of person who can accomplish what you set your heart to accomplish. When you seek to learn how and to help others get ahead while you get ahead you can have anything you desire.

There is a formula to make it all work. Those who become successful aren’t only those born to it. Those who succeed in life first succeed in learning how to transform themselves into becoming the kind of person who is able to make their dreams come true. We first learn how to think right in order to create the success we desire. We manage our thoughts, feelings and behaviors. How we succeed is by becoming the type of person WHO succeeds. You can do this!  ” Rex Sikes

Delight in this day for no reason at all! Simply delight!

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Realize, Recognize, Remember and Awaken!

dream it and do it

“People have thanked me and I appreciate that. People have subscribed to and shared these posts and, again, thanks so much. That really helps! Some people asked why I do it. Why have I blogged these 250 plus daily consecutive posts. The reason is we all need a little daily inspiration and some daily gratitude to start our day. I wanted to be able to contribute to others in this fashion.

I also wanted to help people to remember that they can be, do and have anything they want. It is true we can make the seemingly miraculous happen. So daily I write to help others and myself think about it and remember that we are capable of so many positive things when we take charge. Each day I hope more of us awaken to the realization that anything is possible when we put out mind to it.

There are ways of being and living joyously that many of us have not experienced because we have not tried it yet, or perhaps we didn’t even know it was possible given our past history. I write to encourage people to give it a try, to sample the good things life has to offer, and to enjoy more of life. When we can help each other move forward and be happier and healthier and wealthier we are improving our world by enriching our people. I feel so blessed I want to share it.

When we each take 100% responsibility for our life we can make our life whatever we want it to be. That means we take responsibility for all the bad and all the good. We can debate whether or not this concept is accurate or not but that misses the point. WHEN the buck stops with you and no one else you take a position of power and of leadership. You call the shots. You no longer are at the effects of the world but you are at cause.

From this position you determine where you want to end up and how you want to travel. You decide what to do and and how to feel if there are challenges or detours. It is up to you how you will face them, overcome them and persist to your destination. The decisions are all yours. When you are the person in charge life becomes more meaningful and more exciting. It becomes thrilling because you become aware of the incredible responsibility you have to make it wonderful for yourself AND others.

With  power comes great responsibility. When you have power you need to protect those who have less. They are in your care. We are can-do people and we help others do likewise. A million candles can light off of one candle. The only requirement is that first candle be lit. Light your candle. Take charge of your life. Inspire others to do the same.

Why do I do it? I write to help each of us realize, recognize, remember or awaken to who we are and to what we can accomplish when we believe that we can.” Rex Sikes

Have fun today! Discover!

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Who You Are Is More Important Than What You Do!

let your first thought be thank you

“Who are you? As the author of your life this is an important question?  What legacy will you leave? What will people say about you after you are gone? How will you be remembered? What are they saying today?

Be happy. Life is not about the things we accumulate.  After all, we can’t take them with us. Life is about who we become. If everything we pursued in life never happened, we never arrived, we never obtained, we would be left with only who we are. So who are you?

Who we are is all we have. Who we are is what others know us by. Are you a positive person or not? Are you loving, kind, joyful,  compassionate, peaceful? Are you proactive or reactive? Are you confident, inspiring, playful, tender? Who are you?

People think they need to be successful to be happy but the truth is you need to be happy in order to be successful. From who we are arises everything else. What you think about you bring about. What kind of thoughts do you think mostly? What kind of thinker are you?

Realize you have plenty to be happy about. Express gratitude for what you have. Give thanks.  Appreciate others and appreciate yourself. Appreciate everything because ‘what you thank about you bring about’. What are you grateful for? Who do you appreciate?

You just can’t be negative and happy and grateful at the same time. So practice gratefulness. Live and appreciate everything! When you live in thankfulness you are a positive and inspiring and joyful person. What do you spend most of your time thinking about?

Whatever you appreciate you make room for more. Are you a grateful person? Who you are determines where you go and what you get? Even if you got everything you wanted it could be taken away and you’d be left with you. SO who are you?” Rex Sikes

Enjoy this marvelous day!

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Would You Like Less Stress And More Love?

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“Would you like to eliminate fear and anxiety? Would you like to experience greater well being? How would you like  to enjoy better mental and physical health? Here is a way to have this and more!

There is mounting evidence that when we apply the Golden Rule and the notion of ‘pay it forward’ not only do others benefit but  we derive great benefit in too. It helps improve our own health and well-being.  It does wonders for our psyche and out body.

When we willingly and willfully project the best thoughts, feelings, words and actions toward others we relieve stress and reduce fear and worry. This is an  important first step for many. We promote well being outside to others and it works inside us too.

Instead of experiencing the harmful mental and physical effects that anger, hostility and resentment, fear, worry and worse create in us we experience the effects of more peace, love and joy. How is that for a trade off? Here is something important to realize.

Not only do others need our positive energy but we too need to learn to treat ourselves, EVERYONE, with kindness, forgiveness, love and total acceptance too. What is good for the goose is good for the gander AND vice versa. We can learn to love ourselves more.

Someone suggested this sometime ago and thought it was worth sharing. It is well worth applying and practicing. Whomever it was called it a ‘love experiment’. That works for me. This person suggested that we masquerade as the Christ-figure. Yep, act like Jesus for at least a week.

No, don’t try to walk on water or turn it into wine. Instead, bring love into every aspect of your life. I think this is marvelous! Of course, it is your secret, you don’t tell anyone what you are pretending. You simply think and act from the same heart space and BE more loving!

Start out the day by bathing others in mental ‘I love you’s’. Include your family and friends, co-workers, associates and even strangers. I think it is important to include yourself! Monitor your thoughts, words and actions to be certain you are acting of out genuine love.

It may sound silly but imagine how wonderful it would be to feel this way each day and night. Not only will others benefit but you will benefit. You will feel better and better. You’ ll let go more of what isn’t needed or wanted and love, accept and enjoy instead.

If all you ever felt was the joy of loving without conditions imagine how you might live. You have nothing to lose if you try it for a week. You might find you want to do it longer.” Rex Sikes

Have a marvelous day!

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How To Treat Important People In Your Life!

your thoughts become words

“Consider the people in your life. If there is something positive you wanted to tell someone, tell them. Invest in your important people. Invest in your relationships. Realize how fortunate you are to have them in your life. What would life be like without them?

If you need to repair or work out issues between you decide how you can improve the situation so it leaves you both better off. Explore how you can better communicate and spend time together. Forgive those you need to and ask for the forgiveness you need. Better to forgive and forget than poison oneself with a grudge.

Practice the Golden Rule.  It is a powerful way to change yourself. When you seek to first offer the best to others without reserve, without judgement you elevate yourself. What you send out you get back. Hold others in the highest possible esteem and you raise your own. Practice compassion and understanding. Go First!

Help others. Help them in thought and word and deed. Bless, heal and prosper in all that you do. Share it forward and do good things just for the sake of doing good things. Help make others happy, peaceful and successful and you will enjoy the same. Like attracts like. You plant positive seeds when you ‘pay it forward’.

Spend time with and put your family first. Let them know how much you care and that you are lucky to have them. They care about you even if you don’t think they do. Strengthen your ties to these people closest to you. Tell them you love and appreciate them. Actions speak louder than words. Then do the same with your friends.

Take some time to meet new people who can help open new opportunities for you, and you them, whether it is social or business. Whether you meet in a gym, a party, the office or on a bus you never know who you might meet that will impact your life in positive ways or you theirs. Seek people who uplift you and inspire you. Birds of a feather flock together. Find good, positive, caring, successful friends.

Separate yourself or spend less time with those who drain you or bring you down.  Make sure you aren’t just avoiding those who challenge you to be better or offer honest feedback. Sometimes people have important things we should hear and pay attention to.

Cut out those who only take from you and give you nothing in return. Some people are energy vampires who suck energy, emotions, money, time and well being from others. If you can’t avoid certain people, don’t buy into complaining or whining, yours or theirs. Stay positively focused. Concentrate on the good.

Help a stranger. Do something nice. It can be an individual you smile at, share a laugh with, or contribute to in some way. You might open a door for someone or volunteer at a hospital or for a children’s center or a shelter. Giving to and helping others not only benefits them it benefits you. The world is better off when we assist each other.

Surround yourself with your loved and cherished family. Hang out with old and new friends that make you feel incredible. Help them feel incredible, be there for each other. Accept them without judging. Let them be totally who they are without conditions.

Seek the best together and enjoy each other the most. Make every person you keep around someone you choose to keep around. Love them. Add value to them and value them beyond anything else. Realize how lucky you are! Enjoy your important people” Rex Sikes

Today, spend time with someone you love? Have a great day!

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