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Awareness, Creating The Future, Overcoming Difficulty, Self Talk

Put A Guard Dog On Your Lips

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“Speak only to bless, heal and prosper. Don’t waste time or energy or risk creating more of what you don’t want by reliving it over and over by retelling it. Have the sense to let it go. If it sucked, that is what was. Now get over it and get on. Think something else.

Find the good. Learn self control. Direct your thoughts and energy and feelings elsewhere that will bring you the good you want instead of the bad you don’t or didn’t. You learn to control your thinking for so you are able to create what you want more of in life.

What you want more of FOCUS on. What you don’t want stop focusing on it. Let it go. Leave it alone. Think differently about it. Control you thinking, your words, your feelings and your actions. Become the master of them instead of their servant.

Clear Your Mind Of Can’t – Devote Your Mind To I Can

Run your brain don’t be run by it. Determine what you want, and who you want to be and create it. Create yourself to be the person you want to be. Choose wisely, because some aren’t so smart. Decide on the good you want for your future and make it happen. Live it, feel it. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Relax, let go and enjoy today.

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Affirmations, Attitude, Directed Questions™, Overcoming Difficulty

How To Get Through The Tough Negative Times!

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“Choose your thoughts. Pick the most positive, powerful, supportive ones you are able to. First, congratulations on making a decision. You decided to choose to focus on these positive thoughts. Focus on them. Let them be predominant in your mind. Affirm them!

Now, congratulations on choosing. Pat yourself on the back for doing something positive in your own best self interest. Instead of whining, complaining, making excuses and blaming yourself of others you chose to think positive. You elevated your thinking!

Really congratulate yourself. Celebrate for taking care of yourself. Appreciate yourself fully. If not fully, at first, then a little bit. Bit by bit you will come along. Whenever you move yourself positively forward be sure to express gratitude. Gratitude works wonders.

Your Happiness Depends On The Quality Of Your Thoughts

If or when you are tempted to think less than gloriously just – STOP – pause, take a break, do something else, move, shake it up. STOP and take a deep breath. Breathe, take another. Settle, relax. Become aware. Watch the thoughts. JUST watch them. Those thoughts!

They  are not YOUR thoughts they are just thoughts you have been conditioned to think. Those thoughts are old chronic habit thoughts from your past. It doesn’t matter how you came to think them right not, whenever you think those, stop and breathe and watch.

Simply become aware. Breathe. Then you can gently ask questions that lead to positive outcome for all. You want the outcome to be positive for you, and any others if they are involved. Use Directed Questions™ to direct your mind in powerful and positive ways.

Thoughts Are The Energy That Create Your Life – Choose Wisely

Activate your attitude! Choose to be different and think different thoughts. Choose and act positively for the best of everyone. Affirm the positive. Affirm how you can and will be positive and make the best of a less than glorious situation. Realize you can learn to.

You can learn t o do anything if you give yourself time and permission to do so. You can learn if you are open and willing. You can make positive permanent changes at the deepest levels if you allow yourself to AND you take the initiative. You truly can!

Once you stop blaming, whining, excusing and complaining you can do almost anything. You stop getting in your own way and you begin to move in new directions. Once you take responsibility for yourself and your abilities to control your thinking great things can begin.

You Are Confined Only By The Walls You Build Yourself

Tough times occur. That is just the way it is. Sometimes bad things happen. How you repsond determines much. You can react from old conditioning or you can choose to respond from awareness, understanding, positivity and power. It is all your choice!

You can support yourself greatly if you think, ‘I don’t know how this will turn out BUT I know it will always, in the long run, turn out for the best.’ You can think, ‘I have made it through troubles before, I always land on my feet’. Think, ‘I can handle this, watch me!’

Use Directed Questions™ and affirmations. Visualize what you want. Move forward step by step affirming your way. Pat yourself on the back for each bit of progress you make. Remember, don’t blame or excuse yourself. You will learn not to eventually, no worries.

Look To The Bright Side Of Life And Choose To Be Happy

When you set your mind on the outcome you want. Think ‘this or something better is coming my way’ and ‘I don’t know yet how blessed I will be in all this but I am eager and excited to learn what delightful surprises are in store for me’. Focus on what you want.

Focus on that which is good and positive for everyone involved. Encourage and nurture yourself along. Breathe, let go of difficulties, stay positive and celebrate.  Find gratitude and keep that attitude. Open your heart. Open your mind to wonderful, positive possibilities and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

How many different ways can you find to amaze yourself today?

*** We are planning some new things! Soon  A Teleseminar with Rex  What are your questions, what do you want to know, what would you like help with? Use the comment section to let me know. I’ll let you know when, meanwhile, please let me know what you’d like. ***

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Autosuggestion, Creating The Future, Overcoming Difficulty, Rehearsal And Practice

You Become The Role You Play So Choose Wisely!

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“From early on you borrowed the beliefs, values, rules and reasons of others. You made these yours before you could even decide whether you wanted them or not. Your mental programming was set and, experience you had, further supported your adopted mindset.

Of course, it had to support it because, as neuroscience informs us, we live from our programming. Our world view is first fashioned on the inside. THEN what we notice or don’t notice is dependent on that mindset.  It is dependent on our Reticular Activating System.

The RAS finds matches in the outer world and within our experience that matches our predisposition. Thus, we tend to think, feel, act and behave from that previous conditioning. We tend to play out the role we have accepted for ourselves from early on. Actors fulfilling a role.

To Guarantee Success – Act As If – It Is Impossible To Fail

In order to make changes we have to change how we think, feel and act. Manage your thoughts, take control of your thinking, and you will change your life. Your feelings and your behaviors will follow. It begins with thought, everything stems from your thoughts.

Think you are already it.  Act as if you already have it. When you do will feel it and become it. You play the role.  Behave the role, just as an actor does. Think the thoughts of the character and feel the part until you become it.

Act as if you are already a wealthy entrepreneur and you increase the likelihood of becoming one. Act as if you are already happy and you become happier. Act as if you are already successful and you become more successful. It works.  You have to do it to know it!

Live As If You Already Have It – Believe It – And It Can Be Yours

You travel in advance of the world by aiming your thoughts, feelings and behaviors at becoming what it is and who it is you want to become.  Act as if, first and reap the rewards, second. Plant the seeds first and then second you reap the harvest. It works this way. Do it!

Act as if you already have the home, car, money, career, whatever it is you want, feel grateful for already having it and you open the doorways of your own neurology to be more capable of getting it. You put your brain power on the side of making it happen.

Many people don’t act because they are afraid, they worry, they doubt they can’t get it or do it. They hope they might become it but don’t believe they can. When you act as if you engage your subconscious mind in helping you make it your reality.

Act As If You Are Already That Person You Want To Become

You pretend it fully. You act it. You rehearse it. You do what a happy, successful person does and you learn the thoughts, feelings and behaviors while pretending. You go through the motions as you would practicing a golf swing, or piano, or dance step.

When the going gets tough you get what you practice. If you want to be more successful practice being successful already. Rehearse it. Act as if. You can pretend anything and master it, if you are willing to. So take control of your life and the results you get by doing it now.

Feel the good feelings. Feel happy, rich, confident, attractive, persuasive, now. Practice, act as if, you already are any one or all of these traits. Feel grateful, enjoy it. Practice feeling certainty and powerful and positive. Celebrate yourself and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Don’t miss the fun you can have today!

*** We are planning some new things! Soon  A Teleseminar with Rex  What are your questions, what do you want to know, what would you like help with? Use the comment section to let me know. I’ll let you know when, meanwhile, please let me know what you’d like. ***

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Decision, Focus, Mindset, Overcoming Difficulty

Expert Reveals: It’s Easy To Solve Problems And Achieve Goals When Done This Way

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“Are there goals you want to reach but you haven’t been able to? Do you struggle to accomplish things? Perhaps, you are overwhelmed or bit off more than you can chew. Do you face seemingly unsolvable and insurmountable problems?

You still want to make it happen, right? You’d like to resolve your difficulties and reach your goals. You’d like to be successful and happy. This approach is very helpful in getting people over these types of issues. All you have to do is implement it. It works! Do it!

How do you climb Mount Everest? How do you get from one end of a hiking trail to the other? One step at a time. How do you eat an elephant? Bite by bite.  Drop by drop the tub gets filled. Better a little bit than no bit. Do things in smaller increments.

It Always Seems Impossible Until It is Done – If You Want It – Do It

Chunk the task into tinier manageable pieces or bits. Break it down into smaller components, each of which, by itself, is easy to perform or accomplish. Too often, people stop themselves because it feels to big and they don’t know what to do or want to do it.

Small bite size pieces. We cut food into tiny bites for children because it is easier. Do the same for yourself if you have trouble doing anything. You want to clean the house but it is too much. Clean an area of your desk, a drawer, some small part to begin the process.

Often, what you discover, is a sense of satisfaction at this s first accomplishment that you will do a little bit more. Bit by bit you end up getting it done. It is easier to do 5 or 20 minutes a day than an hour or more. Make the tasks manageable and easy. Then you win!

The Secret To Getting Things Done Is To Act – Take Action

When hiking or climbing a mountain experts suggest tell you to look at your feet, or four or five feet ahead on the ground.  Keep your head down and watch your steps. The same recommendation is made for cyclists. Keep your focus on the ground.

Looking off at the peak, a large distance away, can be discouraging and may make the ascent tougher. When you focus on the area just where you are or immediately in front of you, you stop comparing how far you need to go. Just look at what needs to be done now.

If you think the distance is great it’s easy to talk yourself out of it. Don’t defeat yourself. You can walk or bike four or five feet easily. You don’t notice the distance or the height this way. Your focus is on what you can easily do. It may still be arduous but less so.

Where You Focus Your Attention Is Where You Get Results

If your focus is only on each step you need to take you will still make progress at a steady rate. The goal doesn’t change but what you focus on does. Instead of concentrating on the end and length of the journey you concentrate on the smaller components.

How you enjoy the journey often determines how much you enjoy arriving at your destination. Gather up smaller wins along the way to the large one and you will feel better about yourself and about completing tasks. Apply this concept to making things happen in life.

Focus on what can be done in the immediate present. Focus on the tiny steps that you can take right now. You can overcome any problem and any difficulty, any challenge, no matter how big or seemingly insurmountable by chunking it down.

Keep Your Focus Entirely On What You Are Able To Do – Then Do It

Work at it bit by bit. You will get it done. If your kitchen drain is stopped and your faucet drips drops every few seconds, ultimately it could fill and overflow.  Each drop contributes to the overall.  Tiny efforts contribute to the overall effect of accomplishing your goal.

While it may take longer you still can overcome problems and achieve your goals.  The trade off is smaller and longer for not at all. Keep in mind you are making steady progress and winning along the way or you live complaining and worrying about it not getting done.

Take action and keep at it bit b bit, day by day, step-by-step until you reach your dream or solve your problem. Keep at it and get it done. If you quit or give up it won’t happen. Persist with the small, tiny, daily actions. You can accomplish great things. You truly can!

Do Less With More Focus – Action Expresses Your Priorities 

The trickle of a stream eventually becomes a river given the right amount of time. You are an amazingly powerful person. You have incredible resources within you. You can do this if you want to badly enough. Do just enough to keep yourself going forward.

Not too much. Do just enough to maintain the interest and the desire. Easy enough to do but not boring. Make it as interesting as possible. You can create a new habit of of being more productive. As you create the success habit of ‘getting it done’ you feel better.

You may feel relieved about crossing it off your list or resolving an issue. You might feel more inspired and motivated to get others things done once finished with the immediate concern. You feel better about yourself! Your confidence and self esteem increases.

If You Desire It Enough – You Will Take Positive Steps To Have It

Your self image can change from one who doesn’t do to one who can do anything. A little goes a long way! You can make enormous progress taking positive small actions each day. As you complete your tasks, reward yourself. Feel good. Pat yourself on the back. Delight in it. Keep a success journal and write it down. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Have an wonderful day!

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Acceptance, Awareness, Mindset, Overcoming Difficulty

The Secret To Becoming Free Of Problem People And Circumstances!

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“We are faced with difficulties, circumstances and challenging people. Tough times come our way. What are we to do? How can we get through the most trying of times? There is a way. If you are open to it and apply it you can experience wonderful freedom.

Continued from: How To Master Any Problem Person Or Circumstance and Become Free – See Previous Post

Mindset, your attitude, is the most important tool, weapon, piece of the puzzle or secret ingredient. How we approach the world, how we perceive and frame what happens is crucial in how easily and readily we are able to move through those times.

Enlightened warriors use whatever is happening for positive development. They understand that challenges and obstacles are important for our inner and outer progress. They have realized that ‘the kite rises against the wind’ and that difficulties are necessary.

If You Can’t Change It – Change The Way You Think About It

This is the way of the enlightened peaceful warrior. They embrace and accept everything as important for their personal evolution. They know that what you resist persists. They understand the necessity of getting into flow. Acceptance IS what is needed.

Good people in our life are great to have BUT they are not that important in terms of our growth. They are support, they are community, they are part of our mastermind. The are important because of who they are and their connection to us.

The people who help us to grow the most are the ones we want to be around least. They are the asses, the rude, the strangers, neighbors, co-workers who rub us the wrong way. They are all the people we want to avoid. Why are these people important to us?

What You Deny Or Ignore You Delay – What You Resist Persists

Because they provoke us into thoughts and feelings we don’t want to experience. As long as they can bait us by who they are and what they do we will get hooked and reeled in the wrong direction. If we can learn from them and not get hooked we become free.

Pretend the issues is in you NOT in them. They are the catalyst. They are the provocateur. Without them we would not think and feel these things. These people come our way SO THAT we CAN get free. We need to realize they ARE a blessing not a curse. A blessing!

If we can love, forgive, embrace and understand them we can be free of them and get free of the issues inside us. They are the spotlight showing us the way out. They illuminate the areas we need growth. It is not just the people in our life but all problems and obstacles.

What You Face And Accept You Conquer – Let Go And Accept It

Less than glorious circumstances and personal problems are all blessings. If we are wise enough, intelligent enough, open enough, we can realize this and use them for greater freedom and a more wonderful life. Stop burning because of them and welcome  them.

Accept, allow, and understand. This may be true in real life or it may just be a mindset you adopt. Who cares? If you act as if, if you pretend, you can master it. Let go of problem people and circumstances as problems and welcome them as opportunities.

Change you mindset and attitude and beliefs about them and your life will change. Learn from each moment instead of resisting, accusing, excusing, whining, complaining and blaming. Love instead of hate, accept instead of being intolerant, be peaceful and enjoy.

Attitude Determines Your Altitude – Attitude Is Everything

Celebrate the tough times and they are no longer so tough! Take the sting out of the issue. Reduce the length of time it takes to go through difficult times. Perception is everything. Did you ever notice if you hate something, or are bored, or hurting, you endure it longer?

Fun times go by faster don’t they? Actually by clock time nothing changes, but by mental and emotional time everything may. Lessen the suffering by accepting the enemy. Make peace. You may or may not do it on the outside but do it on the inner. Be a peaceful warrior.

From within, change starts. Inside your mind and heart and being make the changes, if you can’t bring yourself to in the outer world. Perhaps, in time, it won’t matter to you either way. Make peace with the enemy. Celebrate all circumstances. Dance with the demons.

Bitter Trials Are Blessings In Disguise – Count Your Blessings

What you resist persists. Energy flows where attention goes. If you put energy into feeling bad about people you encounter or are surrounded by, or less than glorious circumstances, you get back more of the same. Birds of a feather flock together. You attract it.

When you let go, when you celebrate, when you are grateful and appreciate everything you go beyond the problems and issues. You enter an entirely new realm of being. You surpass the ordinary and live within the divine. If you consider it ALL divine you are free!

To change your life you must change what you think, feel and do on a daily basis. If you keep doing the same thing nothing changes. You keep the same issues and problems alive. Stop and make the changes you want to. Live the life you desire. Focus on the positive!

Talk About Your Blessings Not Your Burdens – Blessings Abound

Seek the silver lining. Find the good in all things and all people. Take the higher road. Take the road less traveled. Find ways to re-frame problem people and circumstances as blessings and opportunities. Welcome lessons! Learn, grow, find delight and enjoy!

It is a process. You will grow more and more capable. As you do whatever presents itself as challenging becomes less of a problem and more of an opportunity. Things change. The more you do the more you can do. You develop the skills. Acceptance becomes easier.

Many people make millions in the worst economic climates. Down times CAN be UP times! ‘One man’s meat is another man’s poison’. ‘One person’s floor is another person’s ceiling’. It is whatever we perceive it to be. Get it? Mindset is critical! It’s all about attitude!

What You See And What You Say Is What You Get – Be Positive

Perception is everything. What we believe runs the show. It is all a point of view. It is your point of view. As such it can change, but only you can change it. When you do new worlds open up to you.  You will see and live things differently and gloriously. You will become free.

Problems are there for our own good! Don’t avoid. Accept and allow. Become and enlightened, peaceful warrior. Make awareness and understanding your way. Find the good in all and people and circumstances stop being problems. Recognize how truly blessed you are and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Delight and enjoy!

*** COMING UP – A Teleseminar with Rex  What are your questions, what do you want to know, what would you like help with? Use the comment section to let me know. I’ll let you know when, meanwhile, please let me know what you’d like. ***

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How To Master Any Problem Person Or Circumstance And Become Free Of It!

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“You can pretend anything and master it. Master some basic skills and your life can change for the better. ‘Act as if’ you are already living as you want to live right now. This is the way of the enlightened, peaceful warrior.  Fake it till you make it, some say.

This is part one of a two part post. Be sure to read the next post too.

It isn’t actually faking it, it is pretending fully. That means we think the thoughts and feel the feelings and behave or take the actions as if we already are living as we want to. We pretend, as we did when we were children or as actors do when creating a character.

We live it as fully as possible in our mind and our body. We don’t have to tell anyone else, it isn’t for public consumption, it is the inner reality we create to inspire and motivate and guide us. We align our thoughts and feelings and get congruent with what we want to be.

Live Like You Already Have It – Act As If – Believe – It Is Yours

We live it inside before it becomes reality outside. It is a powerful, positive method of making our dreams and goals come true. It has been said that in order to behave in a new reality we must first be able to conceive of that reality. Add to that what Napoleon Hill said.

He said, ‘If you can conceive it and come to believe it you can achieve it’. The ability to act as if is rehearsal. It is mental, physical and behavioral rehearsal. It signals your brain, your subconscious, that this is what I want more of. I am this, produce more of it.

That is why it is said, regarding the law of attraction, that ‘we don’t attract what we want we attract what we are.’ When we ‘act as if’ we become now what we want to be in the future. We are it, in advance of the actual reality. We CAN pretend anything AND master it.

It Is Already Coming To You – It Is A Done Deal – It Is Yours

Believe ‘this’ is true. Ultimately, it may or may not be BUT if you act as if it is, it can bring you great freedom and transformation. It really will. Why? Because your mindset IS everything! Your attitude determines your altitude. What you believe is what you see and get.

Your thoughts lead! Thought precedes everything. Thoughts precede feelings and actions. It works this way; we have a thought and we feel something. That feeling determines our next thought. It is cyclic. Depending on the first thought we may feel good or bad.

If we feel good we may take action and get some positive results. Even if the results aren’t that great, if we feel positive we at least feel motivated to take action. Whereas, if we feel bad or negative we may not feel motivated or we take the wrong actions.

Act As If It Is Impossible To Fail – Impossible Means I’m Possible

The results you get stem from the thoughts you think. Thinking precedes action. Thoughts become things. What you focus on expands. What you think about you become. You want good results start with good thoughts, then feelings, then actions and habits.

Practice this and your life will radically change for the better. If you want to be more happy, have more love, more peace, more money, or feel more rich, whatever it is you desire, you will attract back more of what you already are. So if you are positive you’ll become more so.

If you are happy you will become happier. If you are sad you will become sadder. If you feel wealthy you will get wealthier but if you are worried you will become more so. This is what the law of attraction states. Like attracts like. What we focus on expands.

Act As If Success Is Inevitable – Act As If You Already Achieved It

To enjoy the best life feel your best. How do you do that? Sing, dance, laugh, skip, do yoga, meditate, relax, take a warm bath, smile, get a massage, hang with ‘groovy positive’ people. Watch, read, or listen to inspirational and motivational material. Take a positive seminar.

Practice gratitude. Keep a journal. What you are thankful for? What people, places, activities, events and things do you appreciate?Create a success journal and record all your daily wins. Tiny or large. You want to do the dishes and you do them; HOORAY YOU WIN!

The better you feel the better you will feel. The more successful you feel the more successful you become. Manage your thoughts, your emotions and your spirit. Feel grateful and life becomes wonderful! Enjoy the big and the small delights. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Enjoy your day!

*** COMING UP – A Teleseminar with Rex  What are your questions, what do you want to know, what would you like help with? Use the comment section to let me know. I’ll let you know when, meanwhile, please let me know what you’d like. ***

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Personal Change And Social Change: Can We Have Both? PT2

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“If we want to make a real difference and improve our lives, and the world around us there are positive steps each of us can and must take. We must keep moving forward toward the goals and dreams we set for ourselves. We must set our intentions and keep them.

Continued from Personal Change And Social Change: Can We Have Both Pt1

How do we do this?  We need to identify the problem as best we can. We may not know all the ramifications and elements but we do what we are able. Once you identify it, once you know it, then turn your focus and attention on clarifying what you want. This is important.

We must shift our attention AWAY from what we don’t want because what we focus on we get more of. We attract and create whatever we most pay attention to. Energy flows where attention goes. Withdraw the problem energy and put it into the solutions.

If You Can’t Change The Direction Of The Wind Adjust Your Sails

Utilize what you don’t want to inform you specifically as to what you do want and then endeavor to create what you want. Keep in mind we don’t get what we need we get what we are. If we focus on what we need we will stay in need. We must become what we want, first!

If you want love be loving. If you want wealth feel wealthy. If you want a companion be a good one first. Act as if what you want you already have and already are it. Think the thoughts and feel the feelings and behave as if you are already that which you seek.

You become what you think about most often. If you want to improve the world become part of the solution. Stop shouting about the problems and focus on the solutions. Become peace if you want to end wars. Become tolerant if you want to end intolerance.

A Positive Attitude Changes Everything

You can’t be intolerant of those who are intolerant and expect it to change. Fighting fire with fire and an eye for an eye won’t move you forward positively. Our wars have never actually resolved much, and whatever may have been the benefit came at terrible cost.

We have to stop fighting and start uniting. We need to stop being divided and become harmonious. We need to stop hating and start accepting and loving. We have to be it first to enjoy it sometime in the future. Each of these begins inside each of us.

We can’t expect others to go first we must go first. We must become aware and evolve ourselves and hold ourselves to higher standards. Name calling and acts of violence don’t bring us together, whether it is in your family or between political parties or between countries.

Change Brings Opportunity

We don’t have to know how we’ll solve it we only have to move in the direction of what we want. Clarity will come from your forward movement. If you wait you are reactive. Proactivity is the answer. Each of us who wants a better life and world must begin to change.

We will explore more in part 3. The bottom line is now is the time to begin. Wherever you are NOW is the time. If you want change do not put it off. Begin this instant. Decide who you will be and what kind of life you will lead. In an instant everything can transform.

That is the power of a strong decision. Take charge. Take the initiative and determine to make your life what you want it to be. Begin to think and feel and act as if. Enjoy everything. Delight in everything.

Your Life Is The Result Of The Choices You Make

Decide to be that one person who will help make the world a better place for everyone in it. Be grateful, be loving, be compassionate, be kind. Go the extra mile for others. Practice the golden rule. Put out positive energy and thoughts and good will.

We can change the world bit by bit. We begin by making the area around us a beautiful garden. Weed, nurture and care. Create the kind of haven, garden spot you want to live within. Help make it wonderful. Others can join in too. Celebrate  everything!” Rex Sikes

How might you delightfully surprise yourself today?

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Personal Change And Social Change: Can We Have Both Pt1

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“How do we attract what we want? How do we create it? What can we and must we do to make ourselves, our situations and perhaps, the world much better?  What is it we want? Is there a way to improve not only ourselves but the world? I believe there is.

It begins with a dream. It begins with a purpose. It begins with a vision for a better day. It begins with hope and a positive aim to attract and create. It begins with the hope and the faith that we can be different and enjoy what we desire. It begins with optimism.

That is not to say a problem or difficulties are not the trigger. They may very well be and most often are. We want to rid ourselves, escape and get away from something, and move toward a new way of being. What that something is can be many different things.

Secret To Change – Not Fighting The Old But Building The New

We may want to move from illness to health; from loneliness to companionship; from discord to order; from poverty to riches; from war to peace. I believe the world is an incredible, beautiful, wonderful, abundant place, mostly all good, but there are times.

I believe we can find blessings in all of our strife, in all our problems. We can learn, develop and grow from them. Problems can be the catalyst for great positive change. From chaos stars our born. If you believe one version we are all here due to an explosion. Chaos.

Problems and pain have a purpose. Our neurology signals us when inflamed or injured so we can tend to the issue and not continue to aggravate it. Our emotions signal us when our thinking is out of alignment so we can get back on track and feel better.

Your Life Gets Better By Changing It Not By Chance

It seems when things get tough and disorganized that we are getting signals that we are not operating well and need to make some changes. I tend to believe our society, the world, events and circumstances, for the most part, are a signal too.

What to do? Can we change circumstances? I think we can? We can improve our health, our relationships, our finances, and more. We may not have ultimate control, we may not control the weather, but perhaps we do affect or influence it.

Perhaps, we shouldn’t think in terms of control but of influence. We can control what we can and are better served to let go of what we can’t control. Let’s give up control and think how we positively influence results instead. Be a positive influence to your own self.

The World Is Changed By Your Example Not Your Opinion

We’ll discuss how we do this in the next post. Meanwhile, focus on what you want, and what you already have. Focus on who you already are as well as who you want to become. Find reasons to appreciate right now and delight in yourself and circumstances.

Be grateful for everything small and large. Search deep to discover more things to appreciate and enjoy. Fill your mind, your emotions, your behavior, your being with delighting in what is because when you do you are attracting and creating more of the same.

Enjoy yourself. Understand that there is a way from here to where you want to be. Take one step at a time and enjoy each step along the way. This is how we create more of what we want. We delight and more delight is possible so celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Spread the good feelings around today!

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Acceptance, Healthy Choices, Mindset, Overcoming Difficulty

Stop Being So Angry! Don’t Lower Your Standards

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“People seem tired and worn out. There is much intolerance, distrust, name calling and hate. We seem to ‘declare war’ on all our problems and others we don’t like. None of it helps to feel better or live better lives. We do much harm to ourselves by being angry.

Some find a temporary relief in putting another person down. Ego may derive some pleasure. It isn’t lasting. It adds not one wit to anything of value. It only seeks to level another or to cause  injury so one can feel they have the upper hand or are justified.

If you are wronged trying to get back at the person who wronged you doesn’t help. Getting really mad doesn’t change the situation. It is only a reaction to it.  Most likely, an over-reaction. It does nothing to change anything. You can’t change things after the fact.

Forgiveness Isn’t Something We Do For Other People …

It is as it is. Accept it. Learn from it and go on. The higher value and benefit would be to use it to become a better person yourself. Use it to gain awareness, understanding, tolerance and acceptance. Use the hurt and injustice to become more loving and compassionate.

Let go of anger and the tendency to fight back. Learn NOT to retaliate. Vow to not hurt yourself and others. Stop! Let go, become aware. Understand that hate only injures the person who hates. Remember the famous quote attributed to the Buddha:

‘Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.’ There is a fake, but meaningful, Buddha quote. ‘Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting it to harm the other person.’

Forgiveness Is Something We Do For Ourselves To Move On

The damage done to you is poorer mental, physical, emotional and spiritual health. It takes its toll on YOU. Let it go! Be free. Accept the hurt and anguish then be done with it. Let it go! To forgive is one of the highest value moves you can make. To forgive IS divine!

To truly forgive ends it for you. The other person may still have to deal with or live with the consequences of their actions but YOU are free once you let go. Why not be desire to free instead of enslaved to negative feelings? Why stoop to the low standards of others?

Why not refuse to play that game at all and live by a higher ideal? You get hooked and hurt when you play at a lower level. Revenge, an eye for an eye, is getting hooked. Instead, be free. Live and be an example of the best not the worst. Most, seem to prefer, to get back.

Sometimes The Hardest Thing And The Right Thing Are The Same

It seems to be a problem for many people living today. They resort to the lowest form of behavior. It is sad. Don’t be a mindless follower and hate back because someone hates you! Be free. Think and act for yourself! Be independent and intelligent! Rise above it.

Determine that you will be a role model. Live from higher values. Take the high road, the road LESS traveled. Raise your consciousness and you may help others raise theirs. Don’t participate in all the negativity! Choose to live free from divisiveness; free from discord.

Become grateful. The disappointment, the hardships, the hate and anger that you might face alone, and from others, CAN be a blessing if you learn to look for it. It can be a valuable lesson you might not otherwise receive. Learn, allow and accept, be open to a new way.

Give Yourself Permission To Feel Anger, Resentment And Pain …

An incredible thing happens when you do. You neurology opens up. You become bigger than the problems. You can actually feel it. That which used to hook you no longer does. You discover you aren’t upset by that which used to really burn you. You get it. It is okay.

You can reframe it. You can find the learning and lesson in it. You can act from inspired thought and feeling instead of react from anger and hostility. You can live at peace and at one with yourself, AND with others. You understand there is value in everything, everyone.

I have shared within these blog pages many ways to let go. I’ve shared how you can live better, live more positively, freer and have more fun. Please go back and look and learn. Study these posts and free yourself from whatever bothers you. Make changes you desire.

… Then Breathe – Relax – Meditate – Let It Go And Move On

Accept the challenges, the obstacles, the negativity without fighting back. The best answer to violence may be a gentle one. We’ve been conditioned to not turn the other cheek, but perhaps, we ought to try it. Great things can happen when one stops fighting everything and starts celebrating everything!” Rex Sikes

How might today delightfully surprise you?

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Attitude, Focus, Habits, Overcoming Difficulty

Problems? You Need To Do This When Your Computer Fails

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“Some people have a lot of difficulty in their daily lives. It seems they just can’t get over some of the speed bumps. Obviously, for some it is worse than others. What to do? Is there anything that can be done to help improve the results they get? Why does this happen?

I have had my share of tough times in life. Perhaps, you too. Depending on your attitude it can really suck. I know that as well. I grew up with people telling me I had a dark cloud following me. It is easy to be sour on life. However, there is the problem. That IS it.

When one sours, gets down, and feels bad they tend to perpetuate the very things they want to avoid and eliminate. Why is this? Because they feel bad, they think they are stuck, they focus on their problems and issues. They hope for change and may even work hard.

We Are What We Repeatedly Do – Excellence Is A Habit

They work hard to change circumstances BUT maintain a poor attitude. It is in the attitude that the problem and the solution exists. A bad attitude is like a weight around one’s neck while swimming in turbulent waters. A good attitude is the life vest that holds one up.

With or without the weight turbulent waters are difficult to navigate. With added weight they may be nearly impossible. Help is needed. BUT help doesn’t come from the outside it comes from within. Sure, someone may assist, but genuine help is within oneself.

No one can do it for you. They can encourage or make demands but it isn’t until ‘the student is  ready that the teacher appears’. That teacher, that guide, that master, that change agent is you. We can only take care of ourselves and make our own changes.

Control Your Thoughts And You Can Control Your Behavior

Certainly, we can help the needy. I believe we should. We can help in many ways. BUT again, genuine change is made by the person who needs to make the change and there is no substitute for that. This is why we must take responsibility. Consider this.

You can give a man a fish. You can show a man how to fish and teach the man. Until that man learns to fish and then goes and fishes he doesn’t truly know how to fish. Only in doing it does the man get the experience and learns to fish for himself.

He may then provide for himself and others. Men, women it is the same. People can show you the way to change but unless you do it nothing changes. You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make the horse drink. Hopefully, the horse gets thirsty enough to do it.

It Is Easier To Change Bad Habits Today Than Tomorrow

Yes, you can perhaps help make the horse thirsty. Still, the horse has to drink, you can’t drink for the horse.  Today, I had to have the hard drive replaced on my laptop. All sort of strange things had been going on. For some time. Crashes, fonts went missing, many issues.

I couldn’t import photos from phone. I was losing documents. Things began to take long times, starting, stopping, processing. I got spinning beach balls and color wheels all the time. It just was not working well at all. I could tell my computer was very troubled.

It would go to sleep and then I’d have a battle waking it up. It shut down on its own frequently. I took it in. They ran diagnostics and a big red FAIL notice popped up within seconds of initiating the diagnostic. The hard drive was bad and needed to be replaced.

Bad Habits Will Ruin You – Good Habits Will Save You

It was replaced because as it were I was not able to work properly or successfully. I could not get the intended results from my efforts. Once replaced I can again work with ease. The results are now good again. It is a true story today and of course, it is a metaphor.

The brain and life and the results one get’s is the same. If you’re not getting the results you want in life there is a problem or issue with the hardware and/or the software. In my metaphor, the hardware they replaced is NOT synonymous with the brain but with mind.

Rarely, is it a physical brain problem. Instead it is a routing problem. We make neural networks or pathways in our brain. These are reliable well traveled high speed highways. Where these go and what they do is the issue. These neural nets are our thought habits.

First We Make Our Habits – Then Our Habits Make Us

We think, feel and behave the same because of habits. These habits are laid out in the brain. Triggers from within or from the environment initiate these patterns and off they go running. They run perfectly well and get results consistently. Good or bad?

That depends on the ‘programming’. For example, a trigger can cause a negative thought which produces electro chemicals resulting in a feeling, which then in turn results in more similar thoughts resulting in more of the same less than glorious feelings. It is cyclic. It loops.

If you think a bad thought you feel bad and then more than likely begin to feel worse as thoughts run on and on. The worse you feel the worse you think. You either then feel like doing nothing or you behave bad too. You actions aren’t inspired by good things.

Believe You Can And You Are Halfway There

You do things that aren’t wise. You may overeat, or drink. You may be frustrated and stressed or get angry a lot. You may work extra hard but produce nothing. You might not be able to sleep. You get desperate and try many things which don’t work. It sucks.

Whatever the behavior might be. Poor thoughts and feelings produce poor behaviors. These in turn become habit. Our habits are either success habits or failure habits. Our habits determine our results which all stems from how we are thinking to being with.

If your not getting the results you want you need to change the programming. You need to update the software or replace it. You replace the negative with the positive to get the better results you want. It is frustrating if the real life programming is out of whack.

Focus – You Can Do This – Believe In Yourself – You Can Do This

This is why I am Implore you to take control of your mind and your feelings.  Learn to control your thoughts, take charge, take responsibility and get your operating system running right. Begin to get the results you want. Only you can do it for yourself.

When the operating system is faulty and doesn’t work properly the results you get are haphazard at best and not so good or terrible at worse.  The thoughts that you think either spiral up into positive feels and results or they spiral down into negatively. It is habitual.

When thoughts are negative and your feeling less than glorious you produce less than glorious results. The crumby results and frustration further make you think and feel worse and get more poor results. It is cyclic and the reason why it seems tough to change.

Train Your Mind To See The Good – Positivity Is A Choice

You have to break the cycle. Drugs and alcohol don’t work. Taking the wrong bad actions don’t improve a bad situation. You have to change your failure habits into success habits and that begins by changing your thinking. Start at the top with your thoughts.

Work on improving your attitude and everything begins to change. Your neural pathways work like dominos. Once triggered all the rest follow. Start with positive thinking so that everything that follows continues from a positive start. Success thoughts to success results.

There is no guarantee that just because you think positive all your efforts will be successful. There is the guarantee that negative thinking will not produce successful results. The benefit to positive thinking is you are more likely to succeed as you stick with it.

If You Want To Change The Fruit – You Have To Change The Roots

If things don’t work out as hoped you adjust your plans and carry on without letting it upset you or get you down. You are better equipped to succeed and more likely to succeed with a positive attitude. Overall, you life can become truly wonderful.

It isn’t a magic pill or wand. It is a real, reliable skill that gives you the power to begin producing the results you want. It is an incredible benefit to think and feel positive most of the time. Your health, mental and physical can improve, just as your work and life can.

Instead of living with faulty programming and getting crappy results you can change all of that. You can create new neural pathways, new habits of thought and feeling that lead to inspired action that become success habits to get you to good results.

To Change The Visible – You First Must Change The Invisible

Just like my computer hard drive you want your brain and mind working properly to help insure that you get the results that you intend to get. Follow the suggestions I have provided in these blog posts and you can begin to really begin to experience the benefits.

You can make your life the life you want. You can become, do and have anything you want in life when you learn how to go after it and make it happen. You can begin to feel good almost instantly by what you pay attention to. What you focus on you get. It expands.

Focus on the good things. Think powerfully and positively. Take charge of your thoughts and learn to control how and what you think. It is amazing when you do! Learn to delight in and enjoy and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

These moments are just for you. How will you spend them today?

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