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Expert Reveals: 2 Wealth Increasing Money Strategies

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“I have received numerous requests to discuss money. It is a worthy topic to explore and we will over a few posts. Today, more than ever people are getting rich and going broke. Disparity between the haves and those who have nothing is great. Let’s examine money.

From my teens on I have been fortunate to spend a lot of time around the finest brains, talent and wealthy in the world. I always found a way to get to the people I wanted to study and learn from. I have learned much from many and I willingly share it.

I am not a financial advisor. I can’t advise you in any manner. I  share with you information but you need to seek wise counsel for anything you might do regarding the information you read here. You should want to do this anyway. I can’t give you monetary or legal advice.

You Must Focus On Abundance To Have More Abundance

From the rich, I will share two principles I have learned, today. We will explore more in posts to come. This wisdom is also available from others in other forms you can search and find. I found it valuable to know and to practice. You decide what you do with it.

The first is Pay Yourself First. With each pay check or any money you receive, take a percentage as payment for yourself. Sock it away. Today, the bank gives you nothing in the way of interest and inflation will consume it before long. Find an investment that earns for you.

This is why you need honest and wise professional consultants in the financial arena to help you put your money where it will grow and work for you. Right now, you may mostly work for your money and what you want to do is have your money work for you.

Always Pay Yourself First – That Is What The Rich Do

This is what the rich know and do. Their money works for them and not the other way around. They don’t trade their time for money as the rest do with hourly pay. Their money works whether they do, or whether they sleep or at the beach. Their money always is working.

If they weren’t born rich they built wealth by saving the money they made. They pay themselves first. Then, take a portion and invest it in vehicles that make them more money over time. They re-invest and grow their money.  They seek wise investments that pay them well.

You have to be smart and prudent. Foolish maneuvers can be costly and devastating. The principle is pay yourself first! Save and build your wealth! Invest in those areas that will bring you a continuous return on your investment! Create streams of passive income.

Money Is A Tool – The Love Of Money Is The Root Of All Evil

Active income is what we do to make money. Passive income is our money working for us; it can be real estate, stocks and bonds, certain businesses with low overhead and high profit. The point is to get your money working for you. Research and seek consultation.

The second principle I have already mentioned. Save Your Money! Become a wise and prudent money manager. Most of the wealthy people live below their means. Most wannabes imagine buying everything they have always wanted. These people go broke!

I had a very wealthy friend who bought himself a nice yacht, parked it in the marina. He used it for pleasure, to live on. It was a second home. It was great fun to be on his yacht most anytime. One day he sold it. I was shocked and asked why. His answer surprised me then.

Having More Money Means Having More Positive Choices

‘It’s a money drain’ was his reply. I said, ‘but you can afford it’. He looked me in the eye and said again, ‘It is a money drain’. Whether he came to that conclusion by himself or whether one of his advisors told him to lose it, I don’t know. He got rid of it. It cost too much.

He could have afforded ten more then and now but he didn’t keep the one. Rich people understand money and are friendly with it. They understand how to make it work for them and how to keep it. The like it as a tool to do more things with and to have choices.

The smartest ones don’t let it control them, they control and manage their money. They control their spending. They know in business you want to keep your expenses low, and keep your cash flow and profits high. They pay themselves first and they save and manage money.

You Can Reach And Help More People The More Money You Have

Everyone of the rest of us can learn from the very rich. We can benefit from these principles. Seek ways to take a portion of you income, even if it were only a dollar a week, and sock it away somewhere you get some return. Save, grow it and then invest it.

T. Harv Eker and others call it a Financial Freedom Account. Put your money into an account that you want to grow so that some day you will be financially free. It makes sense does it not? Learn to be wise about money. Be thrifty, cut your expenses and maximize your gains.

These Winning Money Mindset and principles and practices I’ll  continue to share in upcoming posts. If you want to be wealthy be wise! Learn about money and befriend it. You can’t get rich if you hate wealth, the wealthy, or if you are stupid about it.

Money Will Not Buy Happiness – Be Happy First And Enjoy Money

Those who increase their wealth do so because they want it, they feel they deserve it and they do the correct things to build it. There are plenty of wonderful, philanthropic rich people out there. There are also plenty of greedy, cutthroat, rich predators out there.

Money amplifies who you already are. If you are nice to begin with you most likely will be nice with lots of money. If you are a bastard to begin with you’ll be a rich bastard with more money. The goal is to be free of debt and have enough money to live the lifestyle you dream.

The more money you have the more choices you have AND the more you can help and benefit others. I believe the more we have of power, money and influence, the more responsibility we have to help, to share and educate others to have the same.

Save Your Money – Invest Wisely – Learn To Manage Your Money

There is more than enough to go around. Yes, some attempt to hoard it and there are some rotten apples that have made it difficult for others. Still, it is possible to be free and enjoy more of the good life however you define that for yourself. Yes, enjoy the good life!

As we explore money and mindset one thing is clear. Money travels and finds those who like and appreciate it. So be a friend. Money is a tool and nothing more. Be grateful for whatever amount of money you presently have. Celebrate it and welcome it. Learn to do this!

You won’t get richer by focusing on debt and on lack. It you complain and worry about bills you perpetuate the cycle of never having enough. You need to understand the laws of money flow just as you learn about anything else in life. There are principles that work.

Curb Spending – Keep Cash Flow And Profits High – Invest In You

Gratitude is the right attitude. Be grateful and thankful for whatever amount you have. Be thankful that money flows. It circulates and you can capture more of it. Befriend it, befriend the concept. Learn to let go of fears and worries. Pay your bills and learn to do it joyfully.

Whenever I pay a bill, today, I think, ‘thank goodness the universe thinks I am rich’. Because it believes I can pay all these bills. I celebrate them for that reason alone! I didn’t always but I learned it’s better to be joyous and optimistic than a negative pessimist.

So take care of your money. Learn to manage and allocate it wisely. Learn to grow it. Most importantly learn to think as a benevolent wealthy person does. Keep expenses low and return high. There is more than enough to go around. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Your future can be shiny and bright. Live today knowing this!

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Winners Reveal: You Need This Kind Of Faith To Win!

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What is faith? Why do you need it? What do you have faith in? There are so many different rules and beliefs and practices about faith what is necessary? Can you develop it?

Faith is your ability to believe and trust that what you want to make happen, you will. It is the certainty that you can bring it about. It is faith in you and your abilities and resourcefulness.

You can have faith in the universe or god but that is not the faith I am talking about right now. I hope you understand this. You can live and work with one or both. That is entirely your choice.

Skill Comes Of Doing

It is useful and desirable  to have  faith that good things will happen regardless of the evidence. It is powerful to believe that no matter what happens the end result will be good. Things work out.

It is an incredible mindset to not be thrown by whatever present circumstances there are. Everything will work out positively, eventually, is a great attitude. Think, I always land on my feet.

It IS absolutely worthwhile to cultivate these beliefs. It is absolutely worthwhile to be positive and feel positive. When you feel your best everything works better. Your brain is open to all the good around.

The Mind Is As Strong As Its Weakest Think

Life is more wonderful when you think and feel your best. When you feel optimal everything goes better to. You can do more, enjoy more, struggles aren’t so difficult. It is a good head place to be.

This faith, Napoleon Hill called Active Faith. Active faith means you take action. You believe in your purpose, your desired goal, you Definite Chief Aim. Then you act in service of getting it.

The hay doesn’t bail itself! Everyday you do something that brings you closer to your desired future. Small steps or large you keep moving forward knowing that ultimately you will get there.

The More We Do The More We Are Able To Do

You will get there. No matter how many times you may have to change course, you will arrive. You use your imagination and your will power. It is not up to others. It is up to you whether you succeed.

Skill comes from doing. So does faith. The more we do the more we can do. The more we act on our own behalf, the closer we get, the more we believe it is possible. Belief comes from doing, too.

Active faith is not about sitting around wishing for things to be different. It is acting to make them different. YOU make it happen by your thoughts and actions. Your behaviors bring you results.

Believe In Yourself 

You develop active faith through repetition of affirmations and your actions. You become a ‘CAN DO’ person by focusing your mind on what you can do and then doing it. Thoughts and actions.

You develop this faith and make it serve you. You get more of it by using it. It grows through exercise just as muscles do. Everyday affirm you are the kind of person that acts. Be positive!

Affirm it. Affirm that you will accomplish the positive good you want. See yourself with your goal already attained. Visualize the kind of persons you are. See your results as already accomplished.

There Is Something Greater Inside You Than Any Obstacle

Feel your best. Be enthused when you affirm. Feel confident and powerful that what you say is true. Feel great about seeing and having, in your imagination, what you will in reality someday.

Feelings are the most important aspect of this process. Always feel the best you can. Feel convinced. This is the method to develop strong positive beliefs. Everyday affirm it out loud with passion.

Do this daily!  This is how you use correct repetition to develop necessary skill. Everyday see yourself successful. Fill your mind with positive thoughts that YOU CAN do it. Keep your mind filled!

I May Not Be There Yet But I Am Closer Than Yesterday

Everyday take action and do something to make your dream come true. Everyday put on your best, most powerful mindset, and work to make it happen. Will it? That is entirely up to you!

Can it? Absolutely it is possible! Live each day knowing you are fully capable to bring about your intended future. Know that you can learn and acquire whatever resources you need.

You are sufficient to make it happen. Be grateful for the opportunity to learn, to struggle, to grow and develop. Be thankful. Appreciate everything about you and about your circumstances.

The Only Thing Limiting You Is Your Belief That There Are Limits

Tough times make us tougher. Express your gratitude for everything and believe that good things always happen in the end. As you do these things everything begins to come together in positive ways.

You will be more alert to opportunity. You will be more open to helping others and attracting the right people that can assist you. When your mindset is positive you keep moving forward. It feels good and nothing can stop you. Get it? Do it! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Live enthusiastically!

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Expert Reveals: Some People Live A Charmed Life – You Can Too!

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“At times there is a tendency for people who what to make change to do as much as they can, then they stop and check to see if they have made any progress.

They compare where they are to where they want to be. If they come up short they lose faith, doubt, feel bad, give up, or frustrated they try even harder and harder.

Welcome to Part 17 of The Secret To Success And Happiness Few Know And Won’t Tell You. The series continues. Hope you are enjoying it. Feel free to comment. Part 18 tomorrow. Let’s go!

Either way can be an obstacle to becoming and having what you want. There is a nuance, a caveat to living and using the Law of Attraction or, as I prefer to think about it, being a deliberate creator.

Think Positive Be Positive And Positive Things Will Happen

So, I must say this, if you are a regular reader of my blog everything that has come before this post is relevant and applicable and will help you transform your life when you apply it correctly.

Information alone will never transform you. It is the correct application of information that becomes power and potential to change. Nothing less than using the material will bring change.

I want to point out. Some people know nothing of the law of attraction, they have never read a book or have seen a movie. They simply have an incredible life.

I’m Thankful For My Struggle – Through It I Found My Strength

They get what they want and are blessed in many ways. It seems magical, as if they naturally had a midas touch. Whatever they do seems to pay off well.

How is this possible? We will explore in a moment. First understand there is positive and negative, lack and plenty, up and down, thin and fat, fast and slow and other distinctions.

These are ways we divide the world that make sense for us. It is part of living in more than three dimensions. Time, space, and beyond. Some call it duality or polarity. The names don’t matter much.

Train Your Mind To See The Good In Every Situation

We can measure hot and cold, near and far. Our mind compares and contrasts. Realize however hot and cold are different degrees of temperature. Two aspects of the same thing.

Night and day are different aspects of a 24 hour cycle. Positive or negative are two sides of the same coin.  Each of the opposite ends of these are extremes. They may be infinite for all we know.

Some things we are able to measure finitely to the best of our measuring instruments. Size for example gets harder and harder as we move from our world to the subatomic.

Positive Or Negative It Is Your Choice

Opposites are part of the same thing. We divide them into near and far,  up and down to simplify our world. They are one thing. Whenever there is one there is at the very same time the opposite.

Somewhere in this world it is day and night simultaneously. The antarctic is cold while the Sahara hot. These notions are dualities. They are aspects of the same thing. I keep coming back to this point.

They are different sides of the very same coin. When you begin to think positive, negativity also exists. If you try to fight the negativity you only exaggerate it because you put your attention on it.

There Is Always Something To Be Grateful For

Whatever you focus on expands. You get more of what you focus on. The very thing you attempt to eliminate you get more of if you fight it. You become what you predominantly think about.

Understand it and accept it. Embrace it and let it go. It is part of life. There is nothing bad about it. It is what it is. It allows for some things and doesn’t allow for others.

If you focus on not having enough money, and put your attention on lack and debt you get more of the same. To change this you need to put your attention of what you can think, feel and do differently.

Thought Change Leads To Life Change

To succeed you first must feel successful and prosperous to create and attract the people, events and circumstances to make more money. You do it with the focus of your thoughts.

Keep this in mind. When you want something you don’t yet have what is your awareness on? Your attention goes into wanting what isn’t yet yours. You notice the gap, the distance.

You compare the future with now and come up lacking. This brings more of the lacking and comparisons. It doesn’t bring you what you want. It brings you more of not having it, yet. It brings more waiting.

Positive Mind – Positive Vibes – Positive Life

To have what you want to have you must be what you want to have in order to get more of the same. This can be a difficult concept for some to appreciate or it can be quite easily understood.

The law of attraction states you attract more of the same. Whatever you already are is what you attract back. You do not attract something you aren’t. If you want to attract gold you must be gold.

So if you want to be happy you must first become happy then you will attract more of the same. If you want success you must first become successful to get more of the same. Do you understand?

Be The Change You Want To See In The World

The same with wealth, health, and loving relationships. You want a loving partner become one first. You must be it to attract it. If you are not it first you won’t attract it. Like attracts LIKE.

Your first effort of mind must be becoming one with what you want to have. You must think and feel and be it first. You want more love you must BE love first ONLY THEN will you get more back!

The Law of Cause and Effect states if you want it you must cause it. You must be at cause and then you will experience the effects. This means it is not just going to happen for you.

Positive Things Happen To Positive People

It is not going to land in your lap without your involvement. You cause it to happen. You go first. You no one and nothing else but YOU. Most people don’t get this they put it on other sources.

Additionally, it means, combined with the Law of Attraction, everything you are and have right now or don’t have is, and has always been, up to you. You are already a creator and attractor.

You have always been creating and attracting whether you know it or not. You have always already been getting the results of your predominant thoughts. If you don’t like the results change thinking.

Believe It And You Will See It

The Law of Increase indicates that when you plant a seed you will get much more back in return. The fruit will bear many fruit with countless more seeds. You can experience exponential return.

Here’s where it gets really interesting. There are those, as previously mentioned, who without formal knowledge of these principles lived blessed or what appear to be charmed lives.

How is this possible? Why them and not you?  They, for whatever reason, grew up learning or stumbled upon that which works for them. Some people don’t think much they just feel happy.

What You Say Is What You Get

Their frames of mind, previously discussed, support them. They are as intelligent as you or I, but they don’t get caught up in over thinking and analyzing. They are busy enjoying life.

They accept things as they are. They don’t fight to get more or fight to resist lack. They accept what is and celebrate everything. They always seem to have enough.

Whatever they do they succeed at. They have great love and joy in their lives. Why? Because they seem to live filled with gratitude for the present moment.

The Greatest Weapon Against Stress…

They don’t compare with others. They don’t compete with others. They do what they do happily and are glad. What is most important to them is the love in their lives.

Family, friends, enjoyment, enjoying each other is important to them. Celebration and delight is a high priority.  Joy governs their lives. They look for the best and find it. They focus on the good.

Hardships come and go and they handle them and rebound because, first and foremost, they are filled with love, joy, support for each other, community, closeness, and more. They are connected.

… Is Our Ability To Choose One Thought Over Another

Their values, what is important to them, cause them to live blessed lives because they don’t notice the glass half empty. Why? Because they are too busy enjoying whatever is in the glass.

As an analogy you could say they are people who live in the light. Darkness flees from them. When in a dark room you don’t have to fight darkness you simply light a candle. They live in the light.

You could say their vibrations are high vibrations. Because they are living light and high vibrations they attract and create and get more back of the same exponentially. They attract more of who they are.

Talking About Problems Is Our Greatest Addiction …

Yes, they are charmed, but they are doing it! It is from the mindset, the attitude and the heart they live from. It is who they are and what they put their attention on.

It is determined by what they feel is important and they don’t get distracted by what they don’t have. They are the example of being first and doing and having.

They embody it and live it. Others have come to it through study and application. They arrive because they devote themselves to it and they learn and change and adapt on the journey.

… Break The Habit Talk About Your Joys

These latter creators, just like the former ones discussed, recognize that the journey is what is important. They don’t sacrifice the journey for the prize at the end. They enjoy each moment of it.

If you want a blessed life enjoy the journey. It is an adventure. Delight in everything it brings. When it brings joy, delight! When it brings hardship, delight.

You say, wait delighting in hardship is tough, not logical. You would be correct from where you come from. Those who live charmed lives don’t resist challenge  but embrace it and learn from it.

There Is No Time Like The Present – Begin Now

To those who have learned otherwise, all that can be said is, when the student is ready the teacher appears. When one is ready, anything is possible. You are ready when you ARE it.

Those who live it know it, those who don’t live it can’t know it yet. Some day perhaps, if they continue on they will. For now, it is a concept that may be difficult to grasp.

Many abandon a practice or discipline because the concept is difficult or the practice is difficult. All that can be said is, you get what you focus on. If you give up, you gave up.

The Kite Rises Against The Wind – Opposition Is Useful And Good

No harm no foul, that is what you did. If you change your mind later and want to resume, so be it. If not, so be it. Life will be whatever it is for you. You are always creating and attracting. Please realize this.

Making life wonderful starts with us. It begins inside us and no where else. Yes, the world goes on, you are part of it, one with all of it or separate and distinct from it.

Whatever you choose to believe will determine your results. It won’t change many things though. You may not know about or believe in the Law of Gravity but that doesn’t change the effect it has on you.

I Don’t Know The Way But I Will Be There Soon

Gravity effects you and the rest of the world. It operates whether you know about it or not. It operates whether you like it or not. You can’t change the fact that gravity is affecting us.

You will be affected and effected by what you know and don’t know. What you don’t know you don’t know. You don’t even know you don’t know it when you don’t know it. Nor do I. We can’t, can we.

The problem with most people is they think they know. They draw conclusions. Sadly, their ignorance is their undoing. They just keep missing until they don’t. To each their own. It changes nothing.

Promote What You Love Instead Of Bashing What You Hate

Those who have happy lives may continue to do so. Those who don’t may continue to miss out or they may change something and find happiness. Either way the world goes on as it always has.

Our mindset, your mindset, determines what you do and don’t do. What you have and don’t have. If you want more happiness become happy now. It begins with you and ends with you. You start it!

All the practices and approaches shared in these blog pages help you do that. THAT is WHY they are shared here. So you can learn what to do if you don’t know. So you can live a marvelously fulfilled life!

A Negative Mind Will Never Give You A Positive Life

Once you know about it that is a step in the right direction. Nothing will change unless you apply what you learn. To know and not to do is to not know. If it is to be for you it is completely up to you.

No one can do it for you. You make your life as it is, as it has been and as it will be. YOU have always been in charge, even if you didn’t know this, or if you haven’t acted as such. You are responsible.

You are always in charge. It is time to assume the responsibility and live as you want to. Become it! You have to GO FIRST to attract what you want. A great start is with total gratitude and appreciation.

Speak What You Seek – Until You See What You’ve Said

Remember, the old saying, where there is a will you will find a way. You can do this and will if you truly want to. Begin now. Find out what you can begin to really appreciate and fill yourself with true gratitude. Feel it fully. Enjoy it delight in each moment! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Don’t miss today waiting for tomorrow!

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Expert Reveals: How To Stop Failing And Start Succeeding Happily!

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“How is it we make changes to overcome difficulties and move in positive directions? What must we do to eliminate the self doubt and the negative feelings? How do we keep going and changing instead of giving up and quitting. It is actually quite simple.

Welcome to Part 14 of The Secret To Success And Happiness Few Know And Won’t Tell You. The series continues. Hope you are enjoying it. Feel free to comment. Part 15 tomorrow. Let’s go!

We use the very same method we were first programmed by. Instead of less than glorious messages and feelings we now deliberately provide it the positive messages we wish we would have gotten the first time around.

Energy Flows Where Attention Goes

Yes, we can change any thought, feeling or behavior. We can change and learn to get better, positive more successful results in our life. It is simple and most of the time it is easy. It is not easy all the time. It takes application and dedication.

You can’t quit and expect things to be any different. They won’t be. They will be the same as always because your brain will insure you remain consistent. With dedication and perseverance, however, there comes that tipping point you can take advantage of.

There will come that time when the old gives way to the new. Keep going. Yes, you have arrived and you have to keep going! Once you arrive at the tipping point it will get easier and easier because you create momentum for change. Change is easier and faster then.

Whether You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You’re Right

If you have ever changed residences you may have found yourself taking the route back to the old residence shortly after your move. Your brain knew the old way and wants to keep taking it at first, until your brain learns and remembers the new one.

You don’t lose or forget the previous address you just now know to go to the new one instead. You still have a choice which to go to. As you learn new behaviors your choices increase. Your talents and abilities increase. You upgrade yourself and up-level your life.

Why do most people fail? They quit. It is over and done. They make excuses, blame themselves, others and the world. Or they don’t take the first step. THE VERY FIRST STEP  we all need to take to do better and guarantee our success is to take control of our mind.

You Become What You Think About Most Often

This missing first step IS why so many fail to change. Attitude and mindset, what you think and believe, determine what you feel and the kind of actions you take and the type of results you get. It all begins with the appropriate mindset. Most don’t prepare well.

That is why Henry Ford said,  ‘Whether you think you can or you think you can’t you are right!’ Condition your mind for change. Prepare the soil for planting and harvesting the seeds. Get control of your thoughts and feelings. Develop a powerful basis for change.

Positive thinking is not wishful thinking it is powerful thinking. Those who say ‘and this is not positive thinking’ as if thinking positive is a bad thing are wrong! Your mind is the one thing you can control for certain in this life. You either think negative or positive.

You Get What You Focus On

If you don’t like the results you are getting in your life right now realize there will not be any change if you don’t change your thinking. Your brain will insure things remain the same for you to be consistent. You will continue to do what you have always done.

You will get what you have always got! That is the truth. That is the way it is.  You won’t be different unless you think different things. Your life won’t be more positive and better unless you think more positive and better things. Want to change? Change your thinking!

If you want it to be different in the future you must think things differently now. You are where your thoughts brought you tomorrow you will be where your thoughts today take you. Right now you are where you are because of previous, prior thinking.

Whatever You Nurture Is What Tends To Grow

If today’s thoughts are the same as those yesterday and the day before and the day before that, well then, you will get what you have always got. Most of us THINK we think lot’s of different thoughts. Research states we think mostly the same thoughts again and again.

Yes, there is some variation. Life circumstances change, we learn new info and have different discussions BUT we react mostly the same. We think the same things, the same way, we say the same things in different conversations, we don’t change much.

We are habitual, reliable and routine. We think, feel, say, act and do the same things over and over most of the time but we think we are freely thinking and acting differently. We are not. We are on automatic and very robot like. Sad, but it is true. We are automated.

Old Habits Die Hard – But They Do Die

Do you get it yet? If you want things to be different change your thinking. That is the first step. When you change your thinking your feelings will change in alignment to what and how you are thinking. To be truly different you have to think truly different.

If your life isn’t what you want it to be it is because of your thinking and acting it is not the government, the weather, your parent’s fault even if you think it is. Even if they were contributing factors unless you take responsibility and think and do differently it’ll be the same.

If you don’t like the results you have been getting you need to change your thoughts and what you focus on. You need to get your energy and attention moving in a different direction.  You must realize and accept this first in order for change to begin.

You Can Do Anything When You Learn How

Negative thoughts produce negative feelings. Positive thoughts produce positive feelings. Negative thoughts rarely make you feel happy and successful. Positive thoughts can contribute to you feeling happy and successful. It is a choice you have to make.

What do you want more of? To get more of what you want is dictated by where you spend most of your time. If you want to be happy but are mostly negative you will not be happy. Do you understand this? If you want to be happy you must think happy.

You must spend most of your time thinking and feeling and saying and doing that which brings happiness about. It doesn’t work any other way. People think something will happen and then they will be happy. It doesn’t, and if it does occasionally it is temporary only.

If You Always Do What You Always Did …

Lottery winners are happy for a short while but most of them return to the lifestyle prior to winning the lottery. Broke! Why? Because their habits don’t change. They spend as they always did. They think as they did when they weren’t rich.

They return to their conditioning. Temporarily, they got a big bump. Their happiness meter went up with their bank account. Sadly, they both plummet pretty soon. WHY? Because they aren’t in charge of their happiness or wealth. They aren’t in charge of their thinking.

If you want to be different you must think, feel and act different long enough for it to become habit. If you learned successful thinking and money management strategies, learned to feel and live wealthy, then, if you won the lottery you would be better prepared to keep it.

… You Will Always Get What You Always Got

Otherwise, it is likely you’d end up like the rest. The odds are in favor of returning to the previous life style. If mind set doesn’t change you don’t change. If you want to be happier don’t wait to be happy, don’t expect it to come from the outside. Begin now within.

Take hold of your thinking and do what is necessary to get it under control. Take charge. Think positive repeatedly. Read positive books. Surround yourself with positive people and mentors. Chant powerfully, positive, inspiring affirmations. Take action inside!

When you feel in charge and on top of the world, and you feel as if you can accomplish anything because you believe in yourself and your ability to learn whatever is necessary to succeed, then the magic happens. It really does happen, only its not magic.

The Definition Of Insanity Is Doing The Same Thing …

Then you begin to take the right actions that make success much more likely. It is mindset first and feelings follow. Your feelings determine your actions and your actions determine your results. That is the way it is. Repeat after me. Seriously, repeat it.

Mind to feelings. Feelings to actions. Actions to results. That is the cycle. If your mind is positive you get positive feelings and take positive actions which leads to better results. Then you feel good again as you acknowledge the results of your actions.

Feeling good makes you want think positive and feel even better. This cycle spirals upward, do you get it? The more you do the more you can do. You continue to bring about positive thoughts, feelings, actions and results because they add to each other.

… Over and Over Again But Expecting A Different Result

What if you get some not so good results or obstacles? You learn from them, take the feedback, adjust whatever it is you need to, your thoughts, feelings or actions and continue on again, repeating as necessary, until you get what you wanted. You don’t quit.

The opposite side of the spiral up equation is true, too, and you could spiral downward. That is what far too many are already doing. They use the same formula I am proposing but negatively. So they screw themselves up and out of good things.

They have been doing this forever. They can learn to do things differently but they must want to. They must first become aware  and become willing to change. Then they need to do what you and I need to do. Make the changes. Take action and follow through.

The More You Do The More You Can Do

You don’t have to live in the dark side. Walk in the light. Take control of your thoughts and feelings. Take charge and be in control. Stop blaming yourself and start appreciating yourself for all the cool things your brain does for you. It truly is marvelous. Make it a friend!

Beyond beating your heart, circulating your blood, filling your lungs and a myriad of other beneficial things it does for you it helps you win or lose depending on what you  tell it to do. If you aren’t getting the results you want you aren’t speaking the language it does.

I have shared that language in this blog site. Throughout the pages here, search, affirmations, Directed Questions™, visualization, go back through and re-read on Intentional Thinking and becoming a Deliberate Creator. Study this blog site to learn and to change!

Whatever You Want To Do With Ease … 

Learn the brains language and use it. Your subconscious has to ‘get it’ and ‘know’ what you want in order to carry out what you want. You can speak all day to a waiter in a language the waiter doesn’t understand and what is the likelihood you will get what you desire?

Speak your brains language. Positive self talk AND positive feelings is how it understands. It is the FEELINGS you feel most often and the strongest the brain responds to most. You have to begin feeling things, even when you don’t, to signal the brain to respond.

That is the trick to learning control. You have to learn to do it, in some cases, by sheer force of will, in order to begin making it a habit. For example. Motivation comes from doing. You don’t feel like doing something, anything, like cleaning your room, so you never will.

… You Must First Learn To Do With Diligence

You wait and wait but don’t feel like it. However, if you start cleaning your room, even though you don’t feel like it at first, once you begin you are more likely to continue. The motivation comes from beginning the process. Sometimes you don’t feel a certain way.

You wake up feeling dumpy and down. Get up, stand up, chant your powerful affirmations, jump up and down if you have to. Laugh, sing, giggle, do whatever it takes, to change your emotional state from down to up. When you do this YOU ARE IN CHARGE!

You took control, you changed what you were thinking and feeling and doing by chanting your new positive thought affirmations and doing whatever it took to feel good while chanting. THAT is taking charge. The more you do it the more the habit will develop.

If You Really Want To Do Something You Will Find A Way …

You want to develop the habit of being in charge of your thoughts, your feelings and actions. THEN you will get better results. BUT you must first learn to make this a habit. If you do not everything will remain as it is. You won’t be in charge everything else will be.

DO you understand this? The powerful uplifting emotions you generate while chanting the affirmations IS what the brain recognizes most. Then it thinks ‘OH This is what you want, I get it ‘ and it looks for matches. It produces more! Like attracts like.

Get it? You have to initiate and maintain the process until the brain gets it. It learns from extreme emotions negative or positive. If you want more positivity and happiness in your life then you must provide those to your brain to begin with.

… If You Don’t You Will Find An Excuse

There are two dogs fighting inside you? Said the old man. ‘Two dogs live within you and are constantly fighting.’ ‘Which one wins”‘ asked the young boy. ‘Whichever one you feed.’ was the reply. What are you feeding your brain? Positivity or Negativity. YOUR choice!

You must continue the process until the brain gets it. Just like learning to ride a bike, or anything you have learned to do. You use spaced correct repetition through time. You do the correct things repeated over and over long enough until it becomes habit.

If you don’t feel like learning to ride a bike you most probably never will. So you won’t develop the habit of bike riding. To become a  bike rider you must first make yourself feel like doing it, you must put yourself in the mood. You must think you enjoy it or need it to do it.

You Go Wherever Your Thoughts Take You

You may need to pump yourself up at first. You might have to do that military boot camp style ‘HooHAA’ until you do it. Chant, use discipline, get a tough love coach who will get in your face until you do. Think the thoughts ‘I am a fabulous bike rider,’ ‘I love this!’

Because unless you actually eventually get on the bike you will never learn how to do it. You must motivate yourself since it is unlikely anyone else would bother. If you wait to be inspired you will wait forever. YOU take charge if it is something you want.

DO you understand this example? Everything begins and ends with you! Not in a narcissistic egotistical way but in the way that matters if you want better results in your life. If you want to be happier, healthier, wealthier, enjoy more loving relationships and more.

Thoughts Are Things

Affirmations and visualization with powerful positive emotions are the way you program the brain. Repeat and repeat. Keep going and don’t quit. You will get there eventually. How long? Who knows but you will. Enjoy the journey along the way. Attitude is everything!

Enjoy the journey because many wonderful things will become available to you as you progress. Keep your eye on the prize but also notice all the other cool things going on around you as you make your changes. Appreciate everything. Have fun! Enjoy it all!

Align with yourself, be respectful of you and your subconscious. Love all of you even when it seems in conflict. Pat yourself on the back either way. You did whatever you did. If you screwed up so what? Stop the judgements. Carry on positively. Learn to let go.

Drop By Drop The Tub Gets Full – Skill Comes Of Doing

When in conflict seek to communicate and co-operate not fight and negate. Don’t add insult to injury instead create harmony. Work together for a change. Get it? Work together for a change! Great things are in store for those who will. Open your eyes to take it all in.

Your beliefs determine what you see. In order to find and see good things believe they are there. Think, ‘there is so much good all around me, I wonder how soon I can more fully delight and begin to appreciate the incredible opportunities that surround me right now?’ Yes, useDirected Questions™ AND count your blessings. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Don’t Buy Into The Myth Of Self Sabotage!

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“There  is no such thing as self sabotage. The brain only does what it learns to do.  Some one labeled this activity as sabotage but it truly isn’t. It is a blessing not a curse. It just doesn’t seem like one at times.

Welcome to Part 12 of The Secret To Success And Happiness Few Know And Won’t Tell You. The series continues and this post continues from the previous two. Part 13 tomorrow. Let’s go!

Believe me you want the brain to do what it does the way it does it. It has learned  to do all sorts of wonderful things. Positive beneficial things and useless and negative things. The brain learns!

Success Is Not The Key To Happiness …

The brain is a learning machine designed to keep you alive. It takes care of your survival. It creates neural pathways and then runs those neural pathways thus establishing habits so you don’t have to relearn everything again and again.

Those habits are what it learned to do. When you want to change one your brain goes into survival mode. Not full fledged fight or flight necessarily, but for some people the feelings may be intense.

It opposes the change because what it is doing IS what it learned to do. It continues to assert the old habits while you are attempting to add in the new. Because of this conflict you or someone else labels it self-sabotage. Nothing could be further from the truth.

… Happiness Is The Key To Success

It is not trying to sabotage you. It is trying to keep you successfully doing what you have always done. The issue is NOW you have decided what you learned long ago doesn’t serve you and you want to change. YOU are changing the way things worked.

In order to make changes you now want, you need to do the very same things you did when you originally learned the programming you now don’t want. You need to condition your brain in the same fashion as your earlier conditioning  but with positive updates.

How?  By repetition and powerful emotion. Early on you were influenced by others, and by their emotions as well as your own. They gave you suggestions day in and day out. They didn’t consider them suggestions they just talked to you and in front of you.

The Capacity To Learn Is A Gift

You listened, you heard, you heard them over and over and you adopted them. Sometimes, because you were emotional and sometimes because they were. You took on their ways of viewing and approaching the world. We all did it similarly.

Many messages we got were how tough things are, how hard we must work, that some people are lucky while others aren’t etc. We got a variety of self-limiting messages that resulted in our beliefs and attitudes about ourselves and the world.

Some people believe lies.

If you think, ‘I am stupid’, ‘I am not good enough’, I am too fat’, ‘I am useless’, ‘I can’t do it’, ‘I always screw things up’, ‘I am not worthy’, ‘I have to work harder’, ‘The economy prevents me from getting ahead’, ‘If only my parents had taught me better’, ‘I’m not educated’.

The Ability To Learn Is A Skill

Those sample thoughts are all lies. Yet, many people believe them. Why? because they adopted them while growing up. None of them necessarily are true or accurate but they will limit you if you accept them as true. You don’t have to believe them but you do.

That is the conditioning. It is not the mind trying to sabotage you. You could just as easily with just as much or little effort believe, ‘I can do anything I learn to do’, ‘I am capable’, I am worthy’, I am smart’, ‘Nothing can prevent me from reaching my dreams’.

But most people don’t. Why? Because they weren’t conditioned to believe this way growing up. The brain can learn either belief, it doesn’t care or judge. It just accepts them as is. Most people are stuck, not because they have to be, but because they believe the wrong beliefs.

The Willingness To Learn Is A Choice

They believe lies about themselves. They accepted them as gospel and they do nothing about it. They don’t like it necessarily and it may be uncomfortable but they believe that is who they are. They don’t realize they have a choice, UNTIL they realize they have a choice.

Here is the thing. All beliefs are lies. Positive or negative. The question is which do you choose to believe? They are either supportive or unsupportive. Which do you choose to believe? It is your choice.

This is how we go through life. We are born, get conditioned, accept that conditioning, have some experiences that verify that conditioning and lock it in. The Reticular Activating System (RAS) part of the brain is designed to do that. It finds matches.

Believing In Yourself Is The First Key To Success

Its job, beyond helping us survive, is to find a match. You say, ‘I am stupid’ and your brain goes ‘right you are’! ‘AND HERE IS WHY’ and provides you examples of screw-ups and incidents from your past and present that verify it. It looks for examples to prove you right.

Had you said, ‘I am marvelous’ your brain would look for those matches and find them just as readily. Even now you and I can say either and get matches. Most people get more of one type than they other because that is what they are most used to looking for.

Sad isn’t it. We want to change and it seems our own system prevents us. It doesn’t do it for nefarious reasons it does that for our protection and for keeping us consistent. We know who we are, what we believe and value. We will even argue about it.

It Is What We Think We Know That Keeps Us From Learning

We will fight to prove we are stupid, if we say it, and fight to prove we aren’t if someone else calls us that. Well, usually, sometimes we may agree. The point is we don’t have to believe any of these limiting beliefs we just do out of habit. We can be free of them if we choose.

Here is what it comes down to. After years of living with limitations we decide we want to change these. We know if we don’t change we will always do what we always did and continue to get the same old results we have been getting. Right? Unless we change.

That is what the brain is designed to do. To continue to get you the same results again and again reliably. You want it that way. You don’t want to walk through the door one day and into the wall the next. You want to get the same results day and night.

If You Are Not Willing To Learn No One Can Help You

NOW you want different results. So you make up your conscious mind to change. You want to lose weight or gain weight. Stop eating certain foods or begin trying new ones. You want to change your attitude. You want to feel better. You want more money.

Whatever it is you have decided you will change it. You may or may not think it will be hard to change, but sadly, most people go into it thinking it is going to be tough. It doesn’t have to be, but it is BECAUSE old habits die hard. Precisely, what you want. Remember?

You don’t want them to die off easily or the new ones wouldn’t stick either. You want it to be tough in actuality you just don’t want it to be tough for you. Am I right or am I right? You prefer it easy, yes? I understand. So do I.

If You Are Determined To Learn No One Can Stop You

In order for it to be easier you know it may take some time but you should think, ‘I can do this. It will be easy. Easy or not I will do this’. If you think it will be easy, while it may be difficult, it will be easier than if you think, ‘oh my god this is soooooo hard’. Get it? Read it again.

Your mind set determines how you go through or endure anything. Mindset, your attitude, determines 99.9% of your success and how you feel while attaining it. You want to learn to feel good no matter what. It is easier to change when you are feeling good.

If, when you begin to make the change the old habits rear up and you get upset, screw up, drop off, and decide, ‘It is too hard to change, I will never do it.’ You most probably won’t. That is a defeatist attitude for certain. Can’t throw in the towel and expect success.

Winners Have Simply Formed The Habit Of Doing Things … 

If you think, ‘I want to do it but I keep sabotaging myself’ that is as wrong to do as if you punched yourself hard in the face. You are labeling protective, survival processes your brain engages in to insure your success as sabotage. You are insulting your very self.

You are putting up additional opposition to your own ability to learn and grow. Instead of saying,’my brain is wonderful and keeps me alive and consistent’, you are saying ‘my brain is screwing with me. It sabotages me and prevents me’. Your emotions are conflicted.

Your thoughts are negative. You are not helping yourself. You are making excuses for not continuing and blaming yourself at the same time. Some people LOVE LOVE LOVE to blame themselves. They say things like ‘You don’t understand I sabotage myself!’

… Losers Never Do – Be Diligent And Win

‘You don’t understand I am chemically addicted’. ‘You don’t understand…’ as if their problems are the most significant ones in the world. No one has problems they do. They wear these as a badge of honor. They are proud they are unable. They suffer so.

They are good people and guess what? They learned to be that way. They learned to defend their unwillingness to change and blame it on anything and everything. They learned to feel good about feeling bad. It is habit for them. Yes, they can change it. Of course they can.

Tomorrow I’ll share how to change that. I give you some pointers in how you can eliminate self-sabotage for good. So be sure to read the next blog. Share too if you know people who could benefit. In the meantime, learn to be grateful for how you work. You work perfectly even when you don’t like the results you get. Love yourself.

Change Is The Result Of All True Learning

You can learn to change and get different results. So hang in there. But make it easy on yourself by loving yourself and appreciating how you already work. You change easier and more readily through acknowledgement and validation than through negativity and pain. Be grateful and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

How will you make each moment marvelous today?

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Why Change Seems So Difficult And What You Can Do About It

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“Have you found it difficult to make personal or professional changes? Have you struggled to try to change habits? Have you come to the conclusion that making changes is hard?

Welcome to Part 7 of The Secret To Success And Happiness Few Know And Won’t Tell You. We continue on today. I hope you found the first 6 parts valuable. Ready, let’s go. Part 8 tomorrow.

Perhaps, your attempted to get ‘The Secret’ or the ‘Law of Attraction’ to work but you are not satisfied. Have you found it difficult for you but know others for whom it is easy?

Guess what? If it is easy for some it could and should be easy for all. Change does not have to be hard. It does not have to be difficult. It can be anything. Anything at all. Change can be easy.

Standing Is Harder Than Moving

Change can be easy, fun, exciting, smooth and relaxing or it can be tough, terrifying, and require you stick it out for the long haul. Making changes can be and is all things.

You may not want to hear this. Whether change is difficult or easy is completely up to you and nothing else! Your mindset, your attitude, your beliefs determine what it is like and how you will go through it.

It can be all things!  Just know that. You aren’t failing if it is tough. You are simply approaching it as you have learned to do. There is nothing wrong in that. Nothing at all. You learned it was tough.

If You Don’t Like Something Change It

You accepted that for whatever reason, most likely, very early on. Since then, perhaps you have tried and quit, or maybe you avoid having to change much all together. Anything is possible.

If that is the case, the good news is, change can be easy and fun! You can learn to enjoy it too. However, if learning anything new for you is tough and you don’t like it that is what you first must work on.

Learn to like learning. If you don’t like learning new things, eating new foods, learning new games, communicating better with your partner or family, then you should start there.

That will be the subject of another post at another time.

Change is just whatever it is. Your reaction to it is makes all the difference in the world. Easy or hard  it is up to what you think and believe it will be. Expectations shape situations and behaviors.

If You Can’t Change It Change Your Attitude

If you think it will be too hard you are apt to quit. If you think it will be a snap you are likely to proceed without a issue. Your attitude determines what it will be like for you. It always has. IT always has!

If it is tough you need to change your attitude and beliefs about change. The good news is that you can do this. Will it be easy or tough? GUESS WHAT? That is up to you? Get it? DO you GET IT?

You make up your world. You decide what it will be like and how you go through it. You determine whether you attract good things or less than glorious things. It is always up to you! It always has been!

If Life Were Just Easy Where Would All The Adventures Be

It is cyclic. If you think it will be tough it will be thus proving you are right and it is tough. Next attempt you get more of the same. You can break the cycle BUT it may be tough at first. Get it? DO you?

You really need to understand this. AT first it may seem tough. That is what is familiar to you. That is your habitual way of going about things. That is what you have been getting. Get it?

To change it DO something else. Take smaller steps or bites. Do some thing you find enjoyable, easy to do and continue to do, first. Find a partner. Get someone who inspires you to go on.

Drop By Drop The Tub Gets Filled

If you always do what you always did you always get what you always got. Vary it, shake it up, add some fun into the mix. Do anything else that brings enjoyment and optimism to the process.

Decide to be gentle with yourself NO MATTER WHAT. If there are some things that are difficult resign yourself to that being okay for now and understand that will get easier as you move forward.

Think positive about it. Force yourself if you must or have fun chanting out loud positive mantras and affirmations that support you in this. Visualize yourself easily making and adopting change.

You Must Become The Master Of Your Own Thoughts

You can control your thoughts and that is your first most important step. Learn that this is possible. You can control your thoughts and your feelings. You can think and feel predominantly wonderful.

How you think and feel determines how you act and your thoughts, feelings and actions determine the results you get. These three factors determine how you handle life circumstances.

Life is whatever it is. How you respond to it is up to how you learned to in the first place. Everything you do is pretty much the result of what you learned from early age on. It is your conditioning. Habits.

I Can’t Change The Direction Of The Wind …

Because you learned it, you can unlearn it or learn to change it to serve you better. It doesn’t matter whether you remember learning it or not. You can learn most anything at all. You really, truly can!

You can teach an old dog new tricks. It seems harder because the old dog has been doing the old way for a long time and is comfortable with it even if the old dog doesn’t like it. Even if it causes pain.

We opt for the familiar and the comfortable most of the time. It is easier even when we don’t like it. It is usually only when we get really fed up that we then decide to change and be different.

… But I Can Adjust My Sails To Reach My Destination

Still, the old dog can learn new ways. Be loving, patient, understanding, forgiving and accepting and the old dog will do just fine. Treat the old dog with respect and it will learn new ways.

You can dictate how you handle circumstances and not be the victim of them. It is all up to you. The first order of change is controlling your thoughts instead of being a victim of them. This is a must do!

Once you gain mastery over your thinking process everything else tends to fall in line. Life still is what it is but your ability to respond resourcefully grows immeasurably. Seek mental control.

Have Patience All Things Are Difficult Before They Become Easy

Change becomes easier and more fun when you are in charge of your attitude and mindset. Life does as well. Circumstances fall under your control much more than the other way around.

Understand this next important concept well. Understand it and own it. If everything is easy you will never learn to be tough when necessary. There are times that require you to be firm and strong.

There are times when you must be steel willed and persist no matter what. These times, though hard, don’t have to be a problem. Your attitude determines whether these are mountains or mole hills.

Life Doesn’t Become Easier We Become Stronger

If everything  were always easy and it was never tough you might throw in the towel when faced with challenge. You wouldn’t know what to do or how to do it. Skill comes from doing.

By having different forms and sizes of obstacles with differing degrees of difficulty you grow stronger and better equipped to handle anything. Welcome tough times too.

Welcome challenges and you become a victor over them. Life at times is thrilling and ecstatic and delicious, other times not so much. Whatever you get is what is, accept it, celebrate it and keep growing.

The Educated Person Has Learned How To Learn And Change

Discover you can be the master of your fate and the captain of your soul. It begins by taking charge of your thinking. Even if you have never done it before you can succeed at this. Develop certainty.

Even if you tried and failed numerous times, you can succeed if you make it manageable from the beginning. Do little things first. Little things can bring about great change in ways that will surprise you.

Make it a point to be grateful. Find the silver lining, discover the good hidden in the not so good. This a an important ability you want to acquire. You acquire it only by repeatedly doing it correctly.

Simple Joys Make The Greatest Memories

There is always something you can find, though it may be well hidden, so you might have to dig, but DO dig for it!  Master being thankful for where you are and what you have right now.

You will go further faster. Learn to enjoy and delight in all things and you will change beyond belief. The little things add up to great big things SO celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

How delighted will you be today?

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Why You Keep Missing Opportunities And How To Correct That

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“Have you ever felt you were ready but opportunity just passed you by? Someone else booked the gig, got the job, had something nice seemingly land in their lap, but not you. Do you know why that might be? There is an answer and today we’ll look into it.

Welcome to Part 5 of The Secret To Success And Happiness Few Know And Won’t Tell You. We continue on today. I hope you found the first 4 parts valuable. Ready, let’s go. Part 6 tomorrow.

Opportunity abounds. There are plenty all around us but frequently we miss them. Why do you suppose that is?  Perhaps, the truth comes in the statement, ‘when the student is ready the teacher appears’. The same thing could be said about opportunity.

Opportunity abounds but is often disguised, at times, literally and at other times because you don’t know what to look for. Either way you could be missing out. Certainly, you’d want to change that.

Opportunities Are Closer Thank Your Think

Napoleon Hill shared a fascinating story in his first book ‘The Laws Of Success’. It was a rainy day in Pittsburgh, one afternoon when a woman walked into a department store. You know how clerks can be. Either too helpful or not helpful enough.

Most of the clerks looked at the woman and decided she was not a shopper so they busied themselves with straightening shelves and racks. You might have thought as much too about her. She rambled the store aimlessly with no apparent particular purpose.

One young salesman, however, approached the woman. She told him she was not there to buy anything. She was merely looking, since it was raining hard outside. He assured her that was fine. She was welcome in the store and he engaged her in conversation.

Luck Is Where Preparation And Opportunity Meet

As the rain let up he escorted her to the door, helped raise her umbrella and sent her off. Before leaving she asked for his calling card. Time went by and the incident was forgotten by the young salesman. One day he was called into the office and shown a letter.

It was from a woman who wanted a salesman to accompany her to Scotland to take orders for furnishing a mansion.  The ultimate order was for an enormous sum. It was from the woman he was nice to. It was from the richest man in the world, Andrew Carnegie’s, mother.

It resulted in the young man advancing his career handsomely. Hill pointed out the salesman benefited greatly, but might not have, except for the fact that he took the time and was ‘courteous to an old lady who did not look like a ready sale’. No one else had.

The Pessimist Sees Difficulty In The Midst Of Every Opportunity…

Opportunity isn’t always apparent. You make your own by how you move through and act in the world. If you are genuinely nice you attract nice opportunity. THEN the opportunity presents itself, BUT it won’t happen if you try to make the opportunity.

Discovering opportunity works similarly to this. You buy something new, such as a new car. Suddenly, you notice that car everywhere. It happened to me in the last year. I see my model of the car multiple times a day. Prior to my purchase I was only casually aware of them.

Our brain has an area called the Reticular Activating System (RAS). One of its jobs is to find matches in the real world for our internal beliefs and attitudes. It’s why we ‘suddenly’ notice the other cars. Our brain is alerted to what we would otherwise not attend to.

…The Optimist Sees Opportunity In The Midst Of Every Difficulty

This is why some say we ‘attract’ our good fortune, that like things are drawn towards us. It is better stated, as the young salesman discovered, we create our own good fortune by our attitude and our actions. He didn’t prosper by meditating in his room, he acted nicely.

There isn’t anything wrong with meditation. I encourage it, practice it and teach it. Creation is an active process. So is attraction. If you want people attracted to you think and do those things that more readily result in that. Be nice first and others can respond in kind.

The people who experience the most good fortune and luck are not those who typically sit and wait for it to drop in their lap. They go first. They add value to others, they cooperate, work as a team, they are friendly and they are go-getters. They are pleasant to be around.

You Create Your Own Opportunity

A positive attitude gets you further faster than a negative one. If you focus on what isn’t working, what is wrong and negative you get what you focus on. If you focus on the competition and how they outdistance you, you will get back more of the same. Stop that.

You make your own breaks! In order to get ahead, focus on what you can positively do. Focus on solutions. Be genuinely nice and pleasant to be with. Be thoughtful and considerate of others. Maintain a positive ‘can do’ disposition. Be happy and grateful. Enjoy life!

If you aren’t already these things the good news is you can be. That is what this blog is about. I’ve spent decades assisting others to live their dreams. It starts with learning how to run your brain and mind so that it serves you and works for you they way it is intended to.

This Is The Beginning Of Anything You Want

You can transform yourself from less successful to more successful; From not so nice to pretty darn nice; From pessimist to optimist. It is all based on what you think about. What you think about most of the time is what you become and what you end up creating.

What you focus on and think about determines how you feel and behave. You results stem from those feelings and your actions. If you don’t like your current results, if you aren’t getting what you want, you can make positive changes to turn that around. It is simple.

Your current results are based on your previous thinking which stems from your early childhood conditioning. You are operating mostly on old outdated programs and old, chronic, negative thinking patterns and habits. It’s time for a positive working update!

A Simple Hello Could Lead To A Million Things

It is easy and it also requires effort. You will be changing old habits you have had for awhile BUT you can do it if you give yourself the chance to change. Anything is possible when you learn how. An easy first step is look for things to appreciate. Be grateful. Find them now.

Around you in your present life. No matter how few or how many. Take a daily inventory. This is an excellent way to begin. Read through these blog pages there are many suggestions because that is what this blog is about. Learn to be the you YOU want to be.

Fill your mind with positive, inspiring material some each day. Read a page or a chapter from a good inspirational book. I really like ‘Laws of Success’ and ‘Think And Grow Rich’ among others. Start now and soon you will notice a significant change occurring in you.

Every Experience Is An Opportunity To Learn And Grow

Have fun. Explore, and enjoy all of life’s little blessings. You find can find opportunity everywhere once you open yourself up to it. The best way to do that is to celebrate and enjoy more of life right now, this instant. So delight, have fun, enjoy others and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

What will you do with this marvelous new day?

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The Reason Why 95% Of People Fail To Get What They Want

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“Going after and getting what you want requires tenacity. If getting rich was always easy far more people would be rich. Whether you want success in your career, book more gigs, get an ideal job, have more romance and love in your life, be happier or buy that new home, it requires effort.

Welcome to Part 4 of The Secret To Success And Happiness Few Know And Won’t Tell You. We continue on today. I hope you found the first 3 parts valuable. Ready, let’s go. Part 5 tomorrow.

Success in all areas of your life, health, wealth, love, success, prosperity begins first in your mind. You must have the right mindset, attitude and beliefs. You must know you are capable of having what you want even when you aren’t exactly sure how to go about getting it. The results you are after first begin within you.

This Life Of Yours Is 100% Your Responsibility

You must know what you want. It must be worth it to you. You must be passionate about it and obsessed with getting it. It can’t be merely a passing fancy or you won’t last long in going for it. See it as having already happened in your mind. Affirm your ability to get it. Feel you can do it and perform the positive actions to get it.

Keep on working at it. Revise your plan.  Overcome and learn from obstacles and challenges until you arrive. Never give up if it is something you must have. Keep the faith always. This is the way you get what you want. You do not get it wishing and hoping for things to be different. You make it happen. You bring it about. Effort required.

You are always creating everything in your life. Your success and your failure. Your fun moments and your boredom. You never escape not creating what IS at any moment. Your response and your thoughts determine your feelings and your actions. Your mindset determines whether something is good or not good.

Accept Responsibility For Your Thoughts And Actions

You can’t escape this. I even suggest, if you are willing to, explore how what I just said isn’t true. Everything in your world, whether you enjoy it or not is up to you. Without your conscious participation none of it would exist as you know it. While this notion could be very abstract I simply mean you always determine the quality of your life.

Why do 95% not get what they want? Because they come up with excuses and reasons why they are not responsible for the outcomes and results they get. They will blame the world, god, others, the weather, the financial climate, themselves, their past upbringing, and anything else for why they can’t succeed as they want to.

The will consistently try to use these excuses and the stories they make up and tell again and again to explain why things are against them and it isn’t their fault. They have all the reasons, even great reasons why they should have but couldn’t get ahead. Their mindset isn’t supporting their success. It is inhibiting their success.

Be Accountable For The  Results You Get

You won’t succeed attributing your failures to others or things outside yourself. You must marshall your inner and outer resources and align them to go after, and continue to go after, what you want when the going gets tough. Your thoughts and attitude determine how far you will travel. Attitude is everything!

Your inner world must be rich with reasons why you succeed, why you can succeed and why you will continue to succeed. It must not be filled with junk logic and stories of how the world prevents you from reaching your  goals. EVEN if that WERE true it wouldn’t help you be or do or get what you want. Negativity doesn’t serve you.

Listen to coffee klatch conversation and you will hear the blames, the stories, the excuses, all the reasons why IT didn’t happen. IT never happens YOU make it happen. Listen, don’t try to change the person telling the stories it is up to them to learn and change themselves. Don’t argue with them, allow them to be who they are.

Take Ownership Of Your Mistakes

When we want to change and bring new things about; we want to think more positively or create new habits to replace old ones, when WE are making internal changes, these kind of stories and excuses can come up.  They’re part of our early conditioning. We learned them from others and made them our own.

We grew up being told things; we heard others discussing problems; we had our own experiences which we learned from. We soon realized  we may get in trouble if we don’t present the proper reason or excuse for our actions. We grew up learning to attribute certain things to ourselves and other things to others or the environment.

Much of our self attributions are negative. We blame ourselves for being stupid, weak, incapable and other negative things. We are afraid we won’t amount to anything or aren’t worthy. Perhaps, we feel we always have bad luck. That is the old negative chronic mental conditioning rearing its head when we blame ourselves or others.

Once You Take Responsibility For Everything In Your Life…

We blame ourselves, our parents, our teachers, our education or lack of it, the money we had or didn’t in early life, our home environment. Heck, we blame everything. As long as we blame we won’t accomplish because we are too busy finding all the reasons and excuses why we can’t and why we won’t. This is a given.

This is law. I’m not sure it is written anywhere, or if I just made up that it is law but figure it our for yourself. If all of your mental energies are focused on why something is wrong and can’t happen what is the likelihood it will? If you are preoccupied with YOUR personal story about what sucks what is RIGHT that you will find?

Not much right that is certain. In order to get what you want it helps if you take charge and shoulder that responsibility. If you get it or not own up to it. Then, if you wish to continue after it, you do what else you can do to potentially bring it about. When you take responsibility you put yourself in the position of power and control.

… You Can Transform Anything In Your Life

When you blame and excuse and tell all the reasons why you are unable you are a victim. If not in the real sense, you are in the mental sense. You live and think as a victim does, you have no control, no power, no ability to self-determine your present and future moments. Do you want to live without power or self-control?

Don’t look back on the past to make future changes unless your past supports you in that endeavor. Look to your successes to be more successful and not your failures or reasons why things didn’t work out for you before. Put on a positive, productive and powerful mindset and keep it on. That will help you to succeed.

You are not guaranteed success just by having a positive attitude all by itself. It is the beginning step you must have and must keep all the while in order to succeed. It is almost certainly guaranteed that you will not succeed maintaining a negative attitude. You won’t even begin to take action if you don’t think and feel it is possible.

You Are Responsible For Your Own Happiness

Why do 95% fail to reach their goals and dreams. Because they believe bullshit. They believe lies and stories they have been told and they keep telling for a long time. It is self deception. When we tell others our stories it is an attempt to save face and explain how circumstances, not ourselves, prevented us.

If you want to succeed. Get real. Stop the BS. Own up. Shoulder the responsibility, uncomfortable as it may first seem to be, but do it. Be responsible and accountable for your thoughts, feelings, actions and the results you get. Be honest. Be clear about it. Gear up your mind for success. Take control of it. Then success is much more likely.

When your mindset and attitude is right you feel right. When you feel right you do more of those positive actions that help you in your quest. You continue on despite the difficulty. Why? Because YOU are responsible IF you want to get the results. Others aren’t going to do your work for you. Get it? Own your changes! Own your actions!

Make Changes Or Make Excuses It Is Your Choice

Own the results you get favorable or not! Then you are a leader. You lead yourself. You are a commander. You determine what you want and you go after it. Others, if you are wise, can help in the spirit of friendly co-operation. You can assist others in similar fashion. Being in charge of yourself doesn’t put you in charge of others.

It can make you more attractive to others, Others may wish to help you because you are a person of passion, self determination, and inner strength. You are a positive force that others can recognize and respond to. Birds of a feather flock together. You can find yourself aligning with other powerful people to get things done.

So no more excuses. Find you inner champion. Take responsibility for all of your life. If you want more love be more loving. If you want better health engage in healthy practices. Be the change you want to become. Find the good in you and everywhere else. Find the reasons why it is possible, the solutions, and move forward. Look for all the reasons to be grateful right now and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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95% Of All People Won’t Do This But You Must To Succeed

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“From time to time, on numerous occasions, you will experience moments, hours, even days of doubts and fears. You may worry and feel anxiety and  want to quit.

Welcome to Part 2 of The Secret To Success And Happiness Few Know And Won’t Tell You. We continue on today. I hope you found the 1st part valuable. I truly hope so.

If you did please like it or share it with others using the buttons below or your favorite means. Remember, I welcome questions and comments. Let’s continue. Then more in Part 3 tomorrow.

Doubt Kills More Dreams Than Failure Ever Will

It is natural. It is normal. When difficulties or disappointments arise you may want to throw in the towel. You may be afraid you won’t make it, you might doubt you will be successful.

When one joins the military that person knows up front basic will be tough. Even then some are not prepared for how tough. Those who make it through can go on and succeed.

The military doesn’t sell you on how tough it is but on what you accomplish by participating in the program. Most understand service may be incredibly demanding.

If You Are Going To Doubt Anything Doubt Your Limitations

The Military promotes the  end result. You will be disciplined, a patriot, you will help others, fight for freedom. They don’t tell you, although you know, you may loose limbs or life.

What do they want?  They want a few good men and women. Why, because that is all they will get. Better few of quality than many who aren’t. Few who begin any endeavor actually finish the endeavor.

Not everyone makes it through basic training. Still, many do. No matter how tough it is. They go all in. Either they feel they have no alternative but to succeed or it is worth it to them. So they do!

Most Things You Worry About Never Happen

If personal change and transformation is worth it to you you will continue the course no matter what. You will stick with it because you know the end is worth what it takes to get there.

Along the way you will doubt, have fears and worry. You will continue in spite of them. That is what the courageous do. It’s not that they aren’t afraid, they are, but they go on anyway.

Nothing will stop you. So it won’t be all rosy. You’d never learn to manage your worries, doubts and fears if you didn’t have them. That is precisely how you take control by facing them and overcoming.

Worrying Is Like Praying For What You Don’t Want

You prove to yourself you are bigger than your fears and problems. They do not prevent you from progressing and accomplishing your goals or dreams. You manage them and you control them.

Because you face them you become victorious over them. There is no other way. They will not magically disappear. The path will have pitfalls but you will navigate them and emerge the champion.

BUT only if you encounter what would have stopped you before and push through it. Don’t run away even though you may feel like it. If you do at first, come back. Keep going. By returning you will reign.

When You Doubt Your Power You Give Power To Your Doubt

The person who gets back on the horse after falling is the one who learns to ride. Keep coming back, keep going on. It will get easier and easier.

Life is never free from troubles. You get better at handling them. So remember this and determine to carry on no matter what. While you do notice your progress, validate your forward movement. Pat yourself on the back and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Enjoy and discover delight today!

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How To Change Your Limitations Into Opportunities

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“Why do people opt for the less than glorious? Why do the maintain their problems and limitations? Why do they make changing hard work that requires effort? Have you ever considered this?

One of the reasons for this is that people adopt notions, beliefs, frames of minds and attitude that include concepts such as, ‘without pain there is no gain’. Or ‘it isn’t real or worth it unless you work really hard and suffer’.

Or ‘happiness is being unrealistic’, OR ‘you can’t be happy all the time’.  There may be  many reasons or excuses why someone opts to feel bad instead of feeling good. They may not think it is possible or that they deserve it.

Success Is An Attitude A Mindset A Decision A Commitment

They may put all sorts of conditions and requirements on it. They may have an unrealistic view of what it means to be happy or to be a positive thinker. I could go on and on I am sure. If you are a person who embraces some of these you might wish to consider them as things you assume are true but which may not actually be true.

It gets a bit tricky. People tend to defend their beliefs very strongly. They don’t want to believe that they may not be true. We think they are. We cling to them and insist we know what is best and what is right. We each feel as if we have a monopoly on the truth.

Most of us certainly act as if we do.  We don’t BUT we think we do. We are prepared to argue the case strongly to prove others wrong and ourselves correct. Most likely, we already have numerous times. We defend our beliefs even if they border on the ridiculous.

You Can Have Anything If You Give Up The Belief You Can’t

We just hate to be wrong about things. In order to begin to be free and move more freely into a new way of being we have to be willing to allow some room for anything else to be possible. We need to be willing to explore some other options even just a little bit.

Before you get into bed at night you remove your clothing. Perhaps, you put on other bed clothes that are more comfortable. Still, you change. You take off, you remove your clothes. Consider all of your beliefs as articles of clothing. Use your imagination!

Imagine! You can remove your beliefs in the same way. Take them off, fold them up, or hang them up and try some other beliefs on for a time being. Yours are still there where you left them. Don’t worry. You can always get them back whenever you wish, if you must.

As You Believe So You Are

Relax, they are right there.  What is the worst that would happen if you tried on other beliefs? Really, what is the worst thing that could happen if you believed you could always be happy? What if you believed happiness is a choice you can make? What if you make it?

Imagine believing differently for just a little while. What if you could entertain the opposite of limiting beliefs? What if you imagined you can find love, be successful, have all the money you desire, be debt free, own a great car and a beautiful home? Imagine it is all possible.

What if instead of thinking ‘I couldn’t’ or ‘I can’t’, you thought, ‘I could’ or ‘I can’? How might your life be different in a positive way?What if you created space, actually gave yourself some space, to allow for other possibilities? How freeing would it be? Imagine.

Belief Creates The Actual Fact

Can you give yourself permission to belief things differently? What would life be like if you had all the love, health, wealth and success you could find in life? Would you allow it? What if you could be truly happy in spite of any difficulty? Imagine your life differently!

If you could be and believe anything you wanted what might that be? What if you believed the exact opposite of what you already hold to be true? Can you entertain this notion for a little while. What might your life look like, sound like and feel like if you believed things more positively and productively more of the time? Visualize it!

Some people wear their beliefs as tight, clingy clothing. They may be better served to wear a more relaxed, loose fit. If you don’t believe you can get good things without suffering look around and find examples of others who have plenty of good things. You can too!

Always Believe Something Wonderful Is About To Happen

What do you think? Do you think you could believe that? Could you do that? Could you easily replace your beliefs that you have held for a long time with other beliefs? Do you think it would be difficult to do or easy? Because what ever you think you are right.

How you answer, mostly stems from your mindset, your model, your beliefs and attitudes of what is and isn’t possible, what is or isn’t likely, what you can or can’t do easily. If you want your life to change you have to change some things in your life. Really, you must.

Play with this. Notice what it is like to entertain other possibilities. Do you prefer these? If so, adopt them. If not, let them go. Realize any time you try something new on you might not be immediately comfortable. It may take some time to get used to.

To Succeed We Must First Believe We Can

So don’t be too hasty. Sometime, getting comfortable takes a little time. It’s okay. Walk a mile in someone’s shoes. Why a mile? Because it takes some time to get used to. Some people have difficulty falling asleep in a hotel bed, or in a guest room because it isn’t their bed.

They aren’t used to it, it is foreign, unfamiliar and not comfortable. Sometimes, it takes a while to enjoy a new food or beverage. You don’t instantly enjoy it. However, the more you taste it the more it grows on you. Sometimes you need to do it more than once.

So give the new beliefs a little time to discover if they fit. Play with them, live from them. Find out if they serve you better. Enjoy the exploration. Have fun, be gentle and explore your limitations and what it is like to go beyond them into new areas. Do it! Really.

Endless Possibilities Exist Just Beyond Your Belief System

It can be glorious and it can be a little frightening. Whatever it is, is what it is. Whatever it is it is all okay. Celebrate it and you will discover many nuances you might not have otherwise noticed. Find nuances. In fact, celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Enjoy today – Look for good things!

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