Celebration, Creating The Future, Focus, Habits

Expert Reveals: How To Improve Your Mood And Well Being By Writing

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“Would you like to have better mood levels and experience fewer illnesses? According to a study published in the ‘Journal of Research in Personality’ people who wrote about intensely positive experiences, each day, for three consecutive days got those results.

90 undergraduate students were split into two groups. One group wrote positive experiences, as described, the other group wrote about a control subject. Three months later the positive experience group reported higher levels of well being and fewer illnesses.

If these results are accurate imagine how you might feel if you wrote a little each day. Just the act of cursive writing is a great work out for the brain. Our brains and fingers work together. Typing does not have the same positive effect as writing by hand. It just doesn’t!

Write Down Your Goals And Imagine Achieving Every One

Recording positive experiences or creating a positive future by writing is a great way to exercise the brain. Focus on the positive experiences you want to have more of. The more you focus on these the more your brains help you to produce or have more of them.

Re-writing over and over the same positive phrase helps you wire into your subconscious what it is you want to do or have more of. ‘I am rich and happy’ or ‘September will be a great month for me’ written 100 times every day for a week works wonders.

Most people, old enough, remember black board writing, ‘I will not talk in class’, or some variation. It is more effective when phrased positively. ‘I will be quiet and pay attention’ directs the brain to preferred behavior. Brains accepts positively phrased instructions.

Re-Live Your Positive Experiences And Write Them Down

It knows what to do when instructed to pay attention. It isn’t sure what to do when told not to talk. Not talking doesn’t tell the brain what to do in place of  it. ‘Be quiet and pay attention’ does. It’s more explicit and focused. That’s the kind of instruction you want.

You instruct your brain in what you want rather than what you don’t want. For example, ‘don’t think of a blue elephant’. The brain thinks of one. The word ‘don’t’ isn’t processed. The instruction the brain gets is ‘think of a blue elephant’. That isn’t what you wanted!

Even if the word ‘don’t weren’t received the main element or focal point in the sentence is blue elephant. That is what the brain notices most. The same is true of ‘don’t talk’. You could further specify the instruction to ‘pay attention to the teacher’ or the subject matter.

Writing By Hand Wires It Into The Brain And Helps You Visualize

Then your brain knows what to act on to bring you more of what you DO want. The brain is more efficient when you tell it what to include rather than what to exclude. You get what you focus on. Focus on getting the good things and you will be delightfully surprised.

Write out the exact same affirmation 100 times everyday for a week. Be consistent. Focus while you write. Make it an important ritual. The next week or later do it again or write a different one. If 100 times is too big an effort for you write out 75, 50, 25 or 10.

Anything is better than nothing. You will get back benefits! Yes, you may get back more the more you do but sometimes it isn’t practical. Do whatever you can. The more we do the more we can do. Plus, a little bit goes a long way. Something is better than nothing!

Imagination Is More Important Than Knowledge – Use Yours

Re-writing your goals over again and again works wonders. Re-writing reinforces what you want more of. You may also further clarify your goals and desires during this process. Re-writing the notes you take while learning is extremely powerful and useful!

If you read or attend seminars or listen to audio programs and you take notes, which is a great practice, re-writing them again later a few times, enhances what you learn, makes it more memorable and wires it into your nervous system. You learn more quickly.

Re-write notes every few weeks. Another extremely beneficial practice as you re-write your notes is to re-word them. Put the notes into your own words. As you move forward in life you change. You learn and become more aware and understand more. You grow.

I Become What I Want To Be …

Imagine explaining the concepts you wrote about to another person as you write and re-write them. Imagine teaching someone else. Imagine teaching yourself the material. This helps accelerate and wire in your learning and understanding of the material.

Correct repetition, applied consistently for long enough, creates habits. If you will do these simple things again and again for long enough you will develop some positive success habits and mood enhancers. Your overall well being can increase wonderfully.

Handwriting is Brain Writing! Write out a list of daily successes. Note the little wins or accomplishments you enjoy each day. It is a great practice for feeling better and living more productively. Anything can be a win if you say it is. Declare it and it is so!

… By Consistently Being What I Want To Become – Everyday

You made your bed, claim it. You did the dishes, celebrate it. Write it down. Hooray! Small or large, whatever you did you set out to do, is a success. Keep track, record them in a success journal. It is important to build our track record of wins! Start one today!

These practices work! If you apply them consistently you WILL benefit. If you don’t you will never know. The goal is to make these practices reliable, automatic habits. As you do your thinking, mood and well being improves. You enjoy and delight more!

Write down what you want to accomplish the next day. Make a ‘to do’ list. Keep the list simple and positive. This gives you concrete things you want to accomplish and that you can count as wins as you cross them off your list. You will be more productive and positive.

Drop By Drop The Tub Fills – A Little Bit Makes A Great Difference

Write down what you are grateful for each night prior to sleep. It sets the mind in a good place right before lights out. This practice can help fill you with joy and appreciation. Live, laugh, learn and love. Celebrate everything.” Rex Sikes

Have an amazing day!

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Acceptance, Awareness, Mindset, Overcoming Difficulty

The Secret To Becoming Free Of Problem People And Circumstances!

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“We are faced with difficulties, circumstances and challenging people. Tough times come our way. What are we to do? How can we get through the most trying of times? There is a way. If you are open to it and apply it you can experience wonderful freedom.

Continued from: How To Master Any Problem Person Or Circumstance and Become Free – See Previous Post

Mindset, your attitude, is the most important tool, weapon, piece of the puzzle or secret ingredient. How we approach the world, how we perceive and frame what happens is crucial in how easily and readily we are able to move through those times.

Enlightened warriors use whatever is happening for positive development. They understand that challenges and obstacles are important for our inner and outer progress. They have realized that ‘the kite rises against the wind’ and that difficulties are necessary.

If You Can’t Change It – Change The Way You Think About It

This is the way of the enlightened peaceful warrior. They embrace and accept everything as important for their personal evolution. They know that what you resist persists. They understand the necessity of getting into flow. Acceptance IS what is needed.

Good people in our life are great to have BUT they are not that important in terms of our growth. They are support, they are community, they are part of our mastermind. The are important because of who they are and their connection to us.

The people who help us to grow the most are the ones we want to be around least. They are the asses, the rude, the strangers, neighbors, co-workers who rub us the wrong way. They are all the people we want to avoid. Why are these people important to us?

What You Deny Or Ignore You Delay – What You Resist Persists

Because they provoke us into thoughts and feelings we don’t want to experience. As long as they can bait us by who they are and what they do we will get hooked and reeled in the wrong direction. If we can learn from them and not get hooked we become free.

Pretend the issues is in you NOT in them. They are the catalyst. They are the provocateur. Without them we would not think and feel these things. These people come our way SO THAT we CAN get free. We need to realize they ARE a blessing not a curse. A blessing!

If we can love, forgive, embrace and understand them we can be free of them and get free of the issues inside us. They are the spotlight showing us the way out. They illuminate the areas we need growth. It is not just the people in our life but all problems and obstacles.

What You Face And Accept You Conquer – Let Go And Accept It

Less than glorious circumstances and personal problems are all blessings. If we are wise enough, intelligent enough, open enough, we can realize this and use them for greater freedom and a more wonderful life. Stop burning because of them and welcome  them.

Accept, allow, and understand. This may be true in real life or it may just be a mindset you adopt. Who cares? If you act as if, if you pretend, you can master it. Let go of problem people and circumstances as problems and welcome them as opportunities.

Change you mindset and attitude and beliefs about them and your life will change. Learn from each moment instead of resisting, accusing, excusing, whining, complaining and blaming. Love instead of hate, accept instead of being intolerant, be peaceful and enjoy.

Attitude Determines Your Altitude – Attitude Is Everything

Celebrate the tough times and they are no longer so tough! Take the sting out of the issue. Reduce the length of time it takes to go through difficult times. Perception is everything. Did you ever notice if you hate something, or are bored, or hurting, you endure it longer?

Fun times go by faster don’t they? Actually by clock time nothing changes, but by mental and emotional time everything may. Lessen the suffering by accepting the enemy. Make peace. You may or may not do it on the outside but do it on the inner. Be a peaceful warrior.

From within, change starts. Inside your mind and heart and being make the changes, if you can’t bring yourself to in the outer world. Perhaps, in time, it won’t matter to you either way. Make peace with the enemy. Celebrate all circumstances. Dance with the demons.

Bitter Trials Are Blessings In Disguise – Count Your Blessings

What you resist persists. Energy flows where attention goes. If you put energy into feeling bad about people you encounter or are surrounded by, or less than glorious circumstances, you get back more of the same. Birds of a feather flock together. You attract it.

When you let go, when you celebrate, when you are grateful and appreciate everything you go beyond the problems and issues. You enter an entirely new realm of being. You surpass the ordinary and live within the divine. If you consider it ALL divine you are free!

To change your life you must change what you think, feel and do on a daily basis. If you keep doing the same thing nothing changes. You keep the same issues and problems alive. Stop and make the changes you want to. Live the life you desire. Focus on the positive!

Talk About Your Blessings Not Your Burdens – Blessings Abound

Seek the silver lining. Find the good in all things and all people. Take the higher road. Take the road less traveled. Find ways to re-frame problem people and circumstances as blessings and opportunities. Welcome lessons! Learn, grow, find delight and enjoy!

It is a process. You will grow more and more capable. As you do whatever presents itself as challenging becomes less of a problem and more of an opportunity. Things change. The more you do the more you can do. You develop the skills. Acceptance becomes easier.

Many people make millions in the worst economic climates. Down times CAN be UP times! ‘One man’s meat is another man’s poison’. ‘One person’s floor is another person’s ceiling’. It is whatever we perceive it to be. Get it? Mindset is critical! It’s all about attitude!

What You See And What You Say Is What You Get – Be Positive

Perception is everything. What we believe runs the show. It is all a point of view. It is your point of view. As such it can change, but only you can change it. When you do new worlds open up to you.  You will see and live things differently and gloriously. You will become free.

Problems are there for our own good! Don’t avoid. Accept and allow. Become and enlightened, peaceful warrior. Make awareness and understanding your way. Find the good in all and people and circumstances stop being problems. Recognize how truly blessed you are and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Delight and enjoy!

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Acceptance, Act As If, Opportunity, Overcoming Difficulty

How To Master Any Problem Person Or Circumstance And Become Free Of It!

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“You can pretend anything and master it. Master some basic skills and your life can change for the better. ‘Act as if’ you are already living as you want to live right now. This is the way of the enlightened, peaceful warrior.  Fake it till you make it, some say.

This is part one of a two part post. Be sure to read the next post too.

It isn’t actually faking it, it is pretending fully. That means we think the thoughts and feel the feelings and behave or take the actions as if we already are living as we want to. We pretend, as we did when we were children or as actors do when creating a character.

We live it as fully as possible in our mind and our body. We don’t have to tell anyone else, it isn’t for public consumption, it is the inner reality we create to inspire and motivate and guide us. We align our thoughts and feelings and get congruent with what we want to be.

Live Like You Already Have It – Act As If – Believe – It Is Yours

We live it inside before it becomes reality outside. It is a powerful, positive method of making our dreams and goals come true. It has been said that in order to behave in a new reality we must first be able to conceive of that reality. Add to that what Napoleon Hill said.

He said, ‘If you can conceive it and come to believe it you can achieve it’. The ability to act as if is rehearsal. It is mental, physical and behavioral rehearsal. It signals your brain, your subconscious, that this is what I want more of. I am this, produce more of it.

That is why it is said, regarding the law of attraction, that ‘we don’t attract what we want we attract what we are.’ When we ‘act as if’ we become now what we want to be in the future. We are it, in advance of the actual reality. We CAN pretend anything AND master it.

It Is Already Coming To You – It Is A Done Deal – It Is Yours

Believe ‘this’ is true. Ultimately, it may or may not be BUT if you act as if it is, it can bring you great freedom and transformation. It really will. Why? Because your mindset IS everything! Your attitude determines your altitude. What you believe is what you see and get.

Your thoughts lead! Thought precedes everything. Thoughts precede feelings and actions. It works this way; we have a thought and we feel something. That feeling determines our next thought. It is cyclic. Depending on the first thought we may feel good or bad.

If we feel good we may take action and get some positive results. Even if the results aren’t that great, if we feel positive we at least feel motivated to take action. Whereas, if we feel bad or negative we may not feel motivated or we take the wrong actions.

Act As If It Is Impossible To Fail – Impossible Means I’m Possible

The results you get stem from the thoughts you think. Thinking precedes action. Thoughts become things. What you focus on expands. What you think about you become. You want good results start with good thoughts, then feelings, then actions and habits.

Practice this and your life will radically change for the better. If you want to be more happy, have more love, more peace, more money, or feel more rich, whatever it is you desire, you will attract back more of what you already are. So if you are positive you’ll become more so.

If you are happy you will become happier. If you are sad you will become sadder. If you feel wealthy you will get wealthier but if you are worried you will become more so. This is what the law of attraction states. Like attracts like. What we focus on expands.

Act As If Success Is Inevitable – Act As If You Already Achieved It

To enjoy the best life feel your best. How do you do that? Sing, dance, laugh, skip, do yoga, meditate, relax, take a warm bath, smile, get a massage, hang with ‘groovy positive’ people. Watch, read, or listen to inspirational and motivational material. Take a positive seminar.

Practice gratitude. Keep a journal. What you are thankful for? What people, places, activities, events and things do you appreciate?Create a success journal and record all your daily wins. Tiny or large. You want to do the dishes and you do them; HOORAY YOU WIN!

The better you feel the better you will feel. The more successful you feel the more successful you become. Manage your thoughts, your emotions and your spirit. Feel grateful and life becomes wonderful! Enjoy the big and the small delights. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Enjoy your day!

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Attitude, Mindset, Positive Thinking, Responsibility

The Real Secret To Stop Losing And Becoming A Winner!

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“Believe it or not there is a real art to winning and losing. To lose all you must do is not think and do certain things. In order to win you must think and do certain things AND not think and do other things. Knowing the difference IS what separates winners from losers.

Positive thinking is NOT sitting in front of your garden thinking over and over again, ‘there are no weeds, there are no weeds’. That is not what positive thinking is at all. Any one who tells you it is, is mistaken. They don’t understand what a positive mental attitude is.

Your Life Improves When You Decide To Control Your Thoughts 

Positive thinking is, ‘I can easily weed this garden and make it beautiful. I’m going  to make this garden beautiful.’ Then it is tending to the garden. Then it is weeding and planting and making it beautiful. The weeds don’t prevent you. Nothing stops you.

Positive thinking is developing the correct, or right, mindset to make getting your goals the easiest and swiftest. It isn’t fantasy, sitting in your room , thinking and visualizing ‘money rains down on me’. It is thinking, ‘I can easily and quickly make all the money I need.’

Whether You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You’re Right

‘I have all the resources. I am rich in many ways.’ Then going and doing whatever you need to in order to make the money honestly. Positive thinking means your attitude is in place and your feel positive.  You feel unstoppable and invincible.

You feel you can do it. ‘To enjoy enduring success one must travel a little in advance of the world.’ You are mentally and emotionally prepared and equipped to handle whatever challenges come your way. You are mentally, emotionally and behaviorally resourceful.

Your Mind Is Powerful – Train It To See Good In Every Situation

You thoughts are ‘I can do it’ thoughts. You don’t win a game thinking, ‘crap I am going to lose. I am a loser’. You have a better chance succeeding thinking the thoughts of a champion. Thought leads to feelings and feelings lead to actions. Actions lead to habits.

Habits lead to results. We all have success habits and unsuccessful habits. We want and need to develop more success habits than unsuccessful habits. Success habits are learning and doing, and creating a positive means to accomplish your goal.

Nothing Changes Until You Change – Then Everything Changes

Unsuccessful habits are doubt, fear, worry, procrastination, fanciful thinking, laziness. In order to get to Paris you must take the steps necessary. First and foremost you must believe you can and that you will.  Then you do those things that get you closer and closer.

Never let anyone tell you positive thinking isn’t important. It is vitally important. It is the first step in getting your dreams and desires. You must know what you want and you must know that you can achieve it. If you can conceive it and believe it, it can be yours.

Determine How You Are Going To Live Your Life – Decide Now

It can be yours BECAUSE you make it happen. You are an unstoppable force that gets your goals. Your mind and emotions and behaviors and habits are all aligned to get successful results. Positive thinking IS necessary to win. Never think otherwise.

Those who say it isn’t either don’t understand what it is or have another agenda. It is an inner game, after all. From within to without. Our results begin with our thoughts. Make certain you are thinking powerfully and productively and that you take action.

Don’t Make Excuses – Make Results – Winning Is A Habit

To know and not to do is to not know. To know and not apply the knowledge is fruitless. To get what you want you must take action steps. You can’t sit in your room and teleport yourself to Paris but you can take action steps to actually get there. Think it and DO it!

Your thoughts are powerful. They either move you forward or you let yourself be held back by them. Think powerful, positive thoughts. Develop a winner’s attitude. Have the steel will of a champion. Become a victor. Be grateful and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

The day becomes as you make it!

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Awareness, Creating The Future, Focus, Healthy Choices

Drop The Crap, The Labels, The Diagnoses And Break Free Right Now!

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“You must absolutely understand this! You are not your problems! You are not your diagnosis! You are not the labels you wear! You are bigger than your problems, your diagnosis and your labels. You have been conditioned to accept these BUT YOU ARE NOT THESE!

You are beyond your problems and labels. You are more than the hat you chose to wear and the job that puts money in your wallet. You are more than a son or daughter, sister or brother, mother or father you are more than you can even begin to imagine. Become aware!

You are divine! You are light, love, goodness, and happiness. You are resourcefulness and clever. You are smart and you are wise. You are vibrating energies. You are unlimited, invincible and unstoppable. You are whatever you declare yourself to be. Affirm the positive!

Labels Are For Products Not For People 

Stop declaring your limitations and begin exercising your power to choose. Decide to live without the limitations of labels. Do not own what others say about you or to you. Do not own a diagnosis from a medical or mental practitioner. You can work with it but don’t own it.

It is not your illness. It is not your problem. It is not your limitation unless you accept it as such. You can understand a diagnosis and get assistance with it without owning it or labeling yourself as diseased, or broken. Let go of the labels and create what you want instead.

If you have been labeled by self or others, diagnosed by self or others let these go. Create what you want. Create sound health in mind and body. Practice good healthy mind and body practices. GET the treatment you require without owning the issue.

Never Accept A Negative Label – Stop Labeling – Start Living

Don’t make it yours. What you want to make yours is freedom, life, light, love, passion, enjoyment, positive energy; wealth IN health, mind, body, spirit and emotions. Create the you that you want to be. Never settle for anything less than the very finest. Live large.

Stop affirming problems. Live your dreams. Express your dreams and desires. Align your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in positive powerful ways. Stop allowing the old way to rain on the new way. Take charge. Live as you are meant to.  Live fully! Live, love, laugh!

Enjoy! Free yourself from mental and physical constraints. Look to examples like Hellen Keller, blind, deaf, mute from birth. She didn’t let that stop her. Sean Stevenson had physical challenges but didn’t let that prevent him from become a dynamic force for change.

Address The Actions – Make Positive Changes – Don’t Wear Labels

Create yourself as the person you want to be. Declare it! Affirm it! Make it happen with positive emotional energy. Love yourself. Live in gratitude. Speak only about those things you want to include!  Drop concerns and comments that are less than glorious. Let them go!

Declare your life as you want it to be. Work on YOU daily. There is so much that is good, wonderful and beyond anything you can presently image. You will miss it if you don’t work on yourself. Free yourself up to see the advantages and opportunities. Do it now!

Now is the only time you have. Live right now. Find what there is to appreciate and savor it. Free yourself of labels and move forward with power and awareness. You are the author of your life. What is your book about? Script the life you want NOW and LIVE IT!

Make Your Legacy Life Affirming Laughter, Love, And Learning 

If it isn’t to your liking change it. It is completely up to you. Take charge! Don’t be a victim of past conditioning and chronically bad mental, physical and emotional habits. Become free to discover how incredible you already are! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Have a great day!

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Awareness, Mindset, Responsibility, Self Talk

You Never Succeed By Repeating Your Failures: Change This Today!

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“You want things to be different. You want it to get better.  How do you make the changes? What do you first do?  How do you change habits? How do you gain control over your thoughts? You do it through awareness. Awareness is the first step of the process.

First, you must become aware of the old conditioning, the old negativity, and recognize while you are in the midst of it. If you don’t know when you are engaged in an old, less than glorious, or destructive pattern, you won’t be able to alter it.

Eventually, you will notice when it engages earlier. You will become more aware as it initiates so you can take control and shift it over to the new positive thinking. As you do this you free yourself from the old conditioning and replace it with the new habits you desire.

Your Life Won’t Change Unless You Change What You Do Daily

Awareness. It works like this. If you want to end anger, fear or negative self talk, anything, you change how you respond to it after you notice it. Most people do what they don’t want to and when they realize it feel bad, criticize themselves and feel worse. They shame.

Sadly, that doesn’t work to change it. What you do instead is, after the fact, you celebrate that you noticed you did the old behavior. You pat yourself on the back. You embrace yourself for becoming aware. You stop criticizing the old behavior and appreciate the awareness.

Your changes won’t happen overnight but through time. You didn’t become the age you are overnight. It took time. This won’t take as long but it is a process. Each time, every tim, you notice the  less than glorious thinking or behaviors note it on paper. Keep track.

Awareness Is The First Step To Change – Apply What You Learn

Soon you will notice it while it is going on. You will notice it earlier and earlier. When you accept it and appreciate yourself you train yourself to notice what you want to notice. You are not conflicted, nor divided. You do not perpetuate the old as you had been.

This is the first part of the process. You become aware and you notate each time it occurs. You actually stop and put down a hashmark or some notation that works for you. It requires that you discipline yourself to do this. If you want it enough, you’ll do it.

A powerful way to change your thinking from less than glorious to more glorious is to keep a diary. Keep a diary of every negative thought you think. Whenever you complain or blame jot it down. Whenever you make an excuse jot it down. Keep track!

The Secret Of Success Is In Your Daily Routine And Habits

Keep an on going track of all the negative or less than glorious thoughts you think. Every time you blame god, the universe, the weather, the government, traffic, your boss, spouse, kids, neighbors, dog or alarm clock stop and notate that you are thinking negative.

Stop, then switch it to a positive thought. Change it. Stop complaining. Start accepting responsibility for your life whether directly responsible or not. Assume ALL responsibility. If you want to change your life you have to change what you think and do.

For example, you discover yourself thinking, or saying out loud to yourself or others, ‘it is hard to make money in this economy’, or ‘I’m late because there was too much traffic on the road this morning’, or ‘you can’t be happy all the time’. Any less than glorious statement.

Stop Expecting Things And Others To Change – You Go First

Stop, note it and think or say, ‘it isn’t the economy that determines my wealth it is me. I create the exact amount of money I want.’ or something positive to that effect. ‘I was late because I didn’t get on the road early enough. I was late because I was late.’ Accept it.

You can affirm, ‘I will start earlier’, or ‘I can learn to be on time’, or ‘I accept responsibility for being on time’, or ‘I am always on time’, or ‘if it is to be it is up to me’. What it is that you desire to be is how you phrase your positive declaration. Affirm what you want.

“I can be happy because I choose to be happy. Happiness is a choice’. Switch the old thought out for something positive and more productive. Accept responsibility for everything. When you accept 100% responsibility for EVERYTHING that happens, things change.

Change Brings Opportunity – Opportunity Brings Change

All negative thoughts, excuses, complaints and blames are negative declarations. They are negative affirmations. They keep you stuck in old chronic thinking. All worry is negative planning for the future. Stop! Become aware and change your thinking. Take charge.

When you do you learn a great and powerful lesson to apply everywhere. You learn that if you created your present, less than desirable circumstances, you can uncreate them. You can’t do that if you keep living as a victim of circumstances.

You need to live as a victor. You need to dictate the circumstances and not be governed by them. Champions don’t blame others or the world. They know if they are going to prevail and remain a champion it is completely up to them. Their mindset is a winning mindset.

Awareness Allows You To Get Outside Your Mind And Observe It

You need to manage and control your thoughts and not be run  by old chronic negative conditioning. It is time you put yourself in the driver’s seat of your mind and your life. You can create something new and better. It begins with awareness.

It begins noticing how often you give away your power. You do it each time you make an excuse, ‘the traffic was heavy’, ‘the dog ate my homework’ You usurp your own power and authority by complaining and blaming. Claim it back. Notice when you do it.

Notice how often you do it. Keep track in your diary. Doing this will draw you attention to it. As you notice and catch yourself again and again, AND then shift the negative thought, or talk, to a positive statement, you will slip up less and less. You will transform!

We Do Not See Things As They Are – We See Things As We Are

Fewer and fewer times will you blame and excuse. More and more often you will catch it and shift it to the positive and productive. You will continue to notice sooner and sooner. You keep shifting your attention to the positive until you build a positive new success habit.

Once it is a habit it will work reliably and automatically. You will find yourself thinking more powerfully positive as a result. All of your life can change as you change your thinking. Just as a ripple moves outward and grows bigger and affects more so do your thoughts.

Change your thoughts and your feelings change. With new thought and feeling your actions become positively inspired. As you continue to act more positively you develop new success habits which in turn can lead to new, positive results. Your life improves. Get it?

Being Aware Isn’t The Absence Of Mistakes But Correcting Them

The more you do it the easier it is to do and the better results you get. It begins by developing your awareness of the old triggers and gently, lovingly, replacing them. Accept, allow, adapt and adopt a new way of being.  You appreciate, notate, and shift to the positive.

Awareness grows the more it is exercised. You abilities do so, too. Keep at it. Commit to the process and you will begin to see improvement. Many people give up before they succeed. Stop, be different. Don’t be one of the crowd. Learn to be a victor instead.

Become a champion! It isn’t always easy but it isn’t as hard as people ‘think’ it will be. It is simple to make changes. You plant seeds, nurture them and they grow. One day you reap the benefits. Be glad. Be eager, be excited. Practice gratitude along the way. Appreciate and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

The time is now. Enjoy it!

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Personal Change And Social Change: Can We Have Both? Pt3

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“How do we change ourselves? How do we change the world around us? What are we to do to make a real difference for ourselves and others? This world seems to be in turmoil, perhaps you are too? What can be done?  Become more aware. That is the first step.

Continued From: Personal Change And Social Change: Can We Have Both? PT2

Notice when your thinking holds you back. Pay attention when you think and feel less than glorious about anything. Learn to control your own thought process and aim it positively towards positive change. Become a beacon of light to yourself and others. Transform!

Worrying Does Not Empty Tomorrow Of Its Troubles …

When you feel less than glorious it is an indication, an alert signal, to pay attention to what is going on inside you. Many simply feel bad and then think worse thoughts. These moments are an OPPORTUNITY to change your thoughts not succumb to them.

Throughout this blog I have devoted much discussion to how to do this. Thought leaders new and old have too. Study and apply these principles and practices to take control of your own thinking. Change your thinking and you change your life. Begin now.

If you haven’t already. The key to change is to start changing and not to wait. Don’t try to figure it out in advance. That only delays it. Begin to take positive steps in the direction you want to go. Then keep moving forward bit by bit. This is important to understand.

… Worrying  Empties Today Of Its Strength – End Worry

You  go as far as you can see and when you get there you will see farther. Edison didn’t know how to make a lightbulb until after he succeeded. Until then he tried many different things. He learned from each and kept going because he knew his purpose.

Edison wanted to light the planet with electric light. The Wright Brothers wanted to fly. Ford wanted to make autos affordable. Martin Luther King and Gandhi wanted to unite people. Purpose drives the show. Be clear on the purpose! Believe you can succeed.

Then do whatever you have to positively to make it happen. Never give up. You may fail many times. Difficulty abounds. But keep heading in the direction that you want. Gandhi managed to do it and captured the imagination of two hundred million people.

Change You May Lose Something Good But Gain Something Better

We can do it. We may be out monied, out powered, out everything but if we want it enough we will find a way. Small groups have made an incredible difference. There is an awesome power of one AND an even more awesome power of the many all of one mind.

The experts of the day always say things can’t be done. ‘If man were meant to fly god would have provided wings!’ The public didn’t see any need for electric light when they had oil lamps nor did they want electric horses when they had real live ones.

After succeeding in their endeavors these innovators had to market their ideas to others. The world wasn’t waiting and inviting these changes. They had to be convinced it was a good idea and that they would benefit. Resistance, inertia, always needs to be overcome.

Change – Will It Be Easy – Nope – Worth It – Absolutely – Change

Gandhi united the people’s minds for the cause. It can be done. It can be done with positive thought, positive feelings, energy and positive behavior. We can make profound personal changes and profound world changes when we are convinced we can. Faith! Have faith!

We must believe we can. We must be driven to one day embrace the changes we now want. If we don’t believe it is possible we will never attempt it. If we don’t do anything we won’t influence the results. We will endure whatever results there are. Change is in our hands!

If you want to change the world it begins at home. It begins with you. Then your family, friends, neighborhood, community and more. It starts in one small place, as a ripple does, and radiates outward. YOU can positively influence yourself and your life. Yes, you and I can!

To Light A Million Candles From Just One Yours Must Be Lit First

We all can. We need to come together to do it. We need to create a massive mastermind whose purpose is harmony, love, peace,  and positivity. If that seems daunting we need to change our attitude about it. We attract everything we think and feel.

If we fear, doubt, hate and are negative we get more of the same. To live a different reality we must conceive it, have a vision, and a purpose. We must believe we can and act in accord with our higher positive principles and then we can achieve it. We CAN do it!

It is up to each of us. We need to unite within ourselves and align ourselves congruently to attract and create our dreams. We need to do the same as people. The chaos experienced in the world may be a signal to each of us about what we can do. It can be and is a blessing.

If You Can’t Change It Then Change The Way You Think About It 

As more people wake up a new dawn is possible. It may not happen overnight because evolution takes time. Hopefully, we evolve ourselves into a more loving, peaceful, accepting people and enjoy this amazing world in ways that surpass our present imagination.

How do we change? How do we change the world. Each of use transforms ourself to live the life we can. We transform ourselves to become a powerful force for positive change. We determine to clean up our own act and let our light shine for others to see.

We stop yelling and fighting and trying to convert people to our way of thinking and being. Instead we live wonderfully, peacefully, lovingly and positively and live as an example. We invite but don’t force. We respond and don’t react or attack.

Use Your Smile To Change The World – Everyday An Opportunity

We get busy living the good life and have fun. We stay focused on what is good and what is important. We don’t waste time in frivolous, less than glorious arguments and distractions. We aim our powerful resources like a laser beam toward positive outcomes.

How do we do this? Dream big. Delight in all. Use everything as a learning opportunity. Learn from it. Open up. Accept, allow and receive. Become generous givers and excellent receivers. Follow the golden rule and go the extra mile in helping benefit others.

Consider everything a blessing and opportunity to grow from. Obstacles and challenges are also causes for celebration. The rose plant comes with thorns. Understand the way of the universe. All IS divine.  Be grateful always and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Make this day marvelous for yourself and others.

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Personal Change And Social Change: Can We Have Both? PT2

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“If we want to make a real difference and improve our lives, and the world around us there are positive steps each of us can and must take. We must keep moving forward toward the goals and dreams we set for ourselves. We must set our intentions and keep them.

Continued from Personal Change And Social Change: Can We Have Both Pt1

How do we do this?  We need to identify the problem as best we can. We may not know all the ramifications and elements but we do what we are able. Once you identify it, once you know it, then turn your focus and attention on clarifying what you want. This is important.

We must shift our attention AWAY from what we don’t want because what we focus on we get more of. We attract and create whatever we most pay attention to. Energy flows where attention goes. Withdraw the problem energy and put it into the solutions.

If You Can’t Change The Direction Of The Wind Adjust Your Sails

Utilize what you don’t want to inform you specifically as to what you do want and then endeavor to create what you want. Keep in mind we don’t get what we need we get what we are. If we focus on what we need we will stay in need. We must become what we want, first!

If you want love be loving. If you want wealth feel wealthy. If you want a companion be a good one first. Act as if what you want you already have and already are it. Think the thoughts and feel the feelings and behave as if you are already that which you seek.

You become what you think about most often. If you want to improve the world become part of the solution. Stop shouting about the problems and focus on the solutions. Become peace if you want to end wars. Become tolerant if you want to end intolerance.

A Positive Attitude Changes Everything

You can’t be intolerant of those who are intolerant and expect it to change. Fighting fire with fire and an eye for an eye won’t move you forward positively. Our wars have never actually resolved much, and whatever may have been the benefit came at terrible cost.

We have to stop fighting and start uniting. We need to stop being divided and become harmonious. We need to stop hating and start accepting and loving. We have to be it first to enjoy it sometime in the future. Each of these begins inside each of us.

We can’t expect others to go first we must go first. We must become aware and evolve ourselves and hold ourselves to higher standards. Name calling and acts of violence don’t bring us together, whether it is in your family or between political parties or between countries.

Change Brings Opportunity

We don’t have to know how we’ll solve it we only have to move in the direction of what we want. Clarity will come from your forward movement. If you wait you are reactive. Proactivity is the answer. Each of us who wants a better life and world must begin to change.

We will explore more in part 3. The bottom line is now is the time to begin. Wherever you are NOW is the time. If you want change do not put it off. Begin this instant. Decide who you will be and what kind of life you will lead. In an instant everything can transform.

That is the power of a strong decision. Take charge. Take the initiative and determine to make your life what you want it to be. Begin to think and feel and act as if. Enjoy everything. Delight in everything.

Your Life Is The Result Of The Choices You Make

Decide to be that one person who will help make the world a better place for everyone in it. Be grateful, be loving, be compassionate, be kind. Go the extra mile for others. Practice the golden rule. Put out positive energy and thoughts and good will.

We can change the world bit by bit. We begin by making the area around us a beautiful garden. Weed, nurture and care. Create the kind of haven, garden spot you want to live within. Help make it wonderful. Others can join in too. Celebrate  everything!” Rex Sikes

How might you delightfully surprise yourself today?

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Personal Change And Social Change: Can We Have Both Pt1

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“How do we attract what we want? How do we create it? What can we and must we do to make ourselves, our situations and perhaps, the world much better?  What is it we want? Is there a way to improve not only ourselves but the world? I believe there is.

It begins with a dream. It begins with a purpose. It begins with a vision for a better day. It begins with hope and a positive aim to attract and create. It begins with the hope and the faith that we can be different and enjoy what we desire. It begins with optimism.

That is not to say a problem or difficulties are not the trigger. They may very well be and most often are. We want to rid ourselves, escape and get away from something, and move toward a new way of being. What that something is can be many different things.

Secret To Change – Not Fighting The Old But Building The New

We may want to move from illness to health; from loneliness to companionship; from discord to order; from poverty to riches; from war to peace. I believe the world is an incredible, beautiful, wonderful, abundant place, mostly all good, but there are times.

I believe we can find blessings in all of our strife, in all our problems. We can learn, develop and grow from them. Problems can be the catalyst for great positive change. From chaos stars our born. If you believe one version we are all here due to an explosion. Chaos.

Problems and pain have a purpose. Our neurology signals us when inflamed or injured so we can tend to the issue and not continue to aggravate it. Our emotions signal us when our thinking is out of alignment so we can get back on track and feel better.

Your Life Gets Better By Changing It Not By Chance

It seems when things get tough and disorganized that we are getting signals that we are not operating well and need to make some changes. I tend to believe our society, the world, events and circumstances, for the most part, are a signal too.

What to do? Can we change circumstances? I think we can? We can improve our health, our relationships, our finances, and more. We may not have ultimate control, we may not control the weather, but perhaps we do affect or influence it.

Perhaps, we shouldn’t think in terms of control but of influence. We can control what we can and are better served to let go of what we can’t control. Let’s give up control and think how we positively influence results instead. Be a positive influence to your own self.

The World Is Changed By Your Example Not Your Opinion

We’ll discuss how we do this in the next post. Meanwhile, focus on what you want, and what you already have. Focus on who you already are as well as who you want to become. Find reasons to appreciate right now and delight in yourself and circumstances.

Be grateful for everything small and large. Search deep to discover more things to appreciate and enjoy. Fill your mind, your emotions, your behavior, your being with delighting in what is because when you do you are attracting and creating more of the same.

Enjoy yourself. Understand that there is a way from here to where you want to be. Take one step at a time and enjoy each step along the way. This is how we create more of what we want. We delight and more delight is possible so celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Spread the good feelings around today!

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Stop Sniveling And Play To Win!

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“Sometimes you just have to play to win. That is it! Many brought up today are taught it is important that all are winners. There should always be a win-win outcome. You win they win all is good. Sometimes, though you have to just play so YOU win. Get it?

I’m not suggesting to be ruthless and crush people. Crush the game instead. Crush it! Win it! Do it! Do it for yourself and others! Win it! Go for it! Make it happen.  Have some guts, some balls! Develop whatever takes to win the prize. Don’t stop. Keep at it.

Sometimes it takes strong, intense, passionate desire. It takes back bone and will power and the fortitude to keep going in spite of incredible odds. Quitting must not be an option. Winning must be the only outcome. Sometimes, it requires we force ourselves.

The Price You Pay To Win Is Nothing Once You Have Made It

It is okay that others share the victory. Win-win is good too. I think it is desirable in probably most all situations involving other people. Share the wealth, the victory there is plenty to go around. The universe is abundant. Unless, you don’t believe it is. Then…

Then you have other issues to resolve as well. While you can get rich being stingy and an SOB it isn’t usually worth it for self, family or others. A healthy positive attitude, going the extra mile, treating others well and living an abundant life, with all, is preferable.

It is desirable and just works much better. So transform yourself into someone wonderful, if you don’t think, feel and act it already. AND play too win too. Have fun. If you ever played a board game, or any game  and didn’t care, or let others win, that isn’t much fun.

Winning Isn’t Everything – But Wanting To Is – Play To Win

You have to be in the game, totally. Enjoy the game. It is YOUR game! Play it to win. Play it to get the prize BUT play it and enjoy it. Make each moment worth it! Have fun, delight, and live it. Consider life a game to be enjoyed instead of a burden. Then it can be enjoyed.

Your attitude determines everything! Those who have suffered great loss of freedom, use of body, family, friends, finances and more that have triumphed in their spirit and life will tell you how you go through the tough times IS everything. You need your head on right!

Develop a winning attitude! Develop a winning outlook. Develop a winning, please personality and smile. Develop the ability to focus intently. Develop being unstoppable. Develop being friendly, kind, compassionate and giving. Develop being a great receiver!

Doubt Kills More Dreams Than Failure Ever Will – Play To Win

Develop the ability to appreciate everything and learn from everything. Develop deep gratitude and joyful enthusiasm. If you do these things, your life will become so incredible it will surprise and delight you. Then it will become the new normal. You will live it.

You will live it each day. Develop the awareness to change. Develop the ability to be open. Develop the ability to listen and respond. Develop the ability to develop! Transform. Delight, play to win, help others win, too. AND develop the ability to celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

How  can you share your delight today with family and friends?

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