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How To Manifest And Get It All From The Universe

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“Do you want to live the good life? Do you want more money? Would you like more passion and romance? How about more family connection? How would you like the career of your dreams? Want more leisure time? Want to know how to attract good things?

If you want it you can have it. Thought leaders from the dawn of time have been explicitly and implicitly telling us how we can. There has been lots of misunderstanding, even attempts to obfuscate the methods. It is all here in the pages of my blog. I share with you how.

Within these pages, if you study these, you’ll learn to create and attract what you want. I recommend reading and re-reading my posts. Do more than that because reading is not enough. You MUST take action. If you don’t do what you are told you wont’ benefit.

If You Can See It In You Mind – You Can Hold It In Your Hand

Knowing is not enough. Reading one more blog or book won’t help.  I have been sharing a series of posts recently each with action steps. You create and attract by taking action. You don’t expect your bed to be made or your food to spontaneous appear do you? I bet you don’t.

You make your bed or your food. You make your dreams come true as well. You attract people to you by the kind of person you are. If you are nice, kind, appealing , friendly you attract others and/or are attracted to others for various reasons. This is important to get.

You don’t get anything for nothing. You must have some skin in the game. You transfer money to the grocer to purchase goods. There is a medium of exchange. You hand over cash, check or credit which is money or energy and take the groceries. Exchange. You exchange.

Take Charge Of Your Life – Make What You Want Happen

One form of energy for another is exchanged. I say energy because everything is energy, after all. If you don’t pay you don’t get. If you rob you pay in a different fashion with time, if you are caught. Or perhaps in other ‘karmic’ ways. Bottom line there is action exchange.

To manifest and attract you must follow the formula as laid out. Know what you want. Clarify and focus. Concentrate and become passionate about it. Desire it positively and strongly. Take action to get it and don’t give up. Put your energies into making it happen.

You affirm, visualize, act as if to organize your mental, emotional and physical, even spiritual resources, to align yourself so you are aimed at making it happen. You are congruent inside and out. You are of one accord. You are driven by purpose. You are a ‘go-getter’.

Energy Flows Where Your Attention Goes – Attitude Is Everything

YOU make it happen. It doesn’t happen for you by magic. You transform yourself into someone who gets their goals AS IF by magic. It can seem magical and to an extent it actually is. Still, you aren’t locked in a cave waving a wand and goods appear. Get it?

When you are congruently aligned and dedicated to making your purpose happen you vibrate differently. Your energies are alive and enthused. Because of this you also attract. You attract people and events and circumstances. People more than events. Here is why.

You become attuned to opportunities. Your RAS finds you positive opportunity because you have tuned it to look for these. You find circumstances and events you might have otherwise missed because your personal radar is sensitized to discover these. It seems magical.

Right Now – This Moment – How You Feel Is Creating Your Future

It is magical in that your entire being is seeking positive experiences. You raise your positivity energy, your attitude and outlook are positive and others of like mind and energy are attracted to you as moths are to a flame. You evolve yourself into an attracting energy.

You manifest by creating and attracting. You engage in both. Now the last step. YOU step aside. You get out of the way. You allow it to happen. You open up to receive it all. Many people screw up getting because they never finish pursuing. They keep pushing. Pushing!

You pay the grocer and then you receive the goods. You don’t force your money on the grocer. You give it. You put an order in at a restaurant and then you expectantly wait for your food to come. You don’t worry or micro-manage. You wait and allow them to bring it.

Who You Become Is The Person You Decide To Be – It Is Up To You

The attitude is one of expectancy. You attract and then you make room for it to happen. You do and then you allow the results. You work or play during the day and you sleep at night. You let go and rest. You eat and allow your body to process it. It will do it.

You aren’t giving up. You aren’t quitting. You are expecting. You know it is coming. You aren’t worried or fearful or anxious. You don’t fret. You are confident. You know and are certain and you allow it. Some people give and give and give and give. Have you noticed?

Some of them aren’t very good at allowing you to give to them. They are not good receivers. In order to get from the universe you make it happen and you let it happen. You are both a good giver and receiver. You allow the energies to exchange. It is a two way street.

Life Never Asked You To Struggle It Is Responding To Your  Mood

Some readers may be poor givers. They don’t start or go after their dreams. They wait and wish. Others may push and push but don’t relax into trusting and allowing it. You must do both. Attitude is everything. Trusting and being certain. Action and Rest. Both!

There are rhythms and cycles. Day into night. Tides come and go. Seasons change. We sow and reap at different times. Learning to go with the flow means you do or don’t do depending on what cycle you are in. You go with it. You trust it. You allow it. Because you made it.

You did the work now you reap the results. Trust. Attitude is everything! Allow. If you did the work allow the results. If you didn’t do the work then you need to do it to get the rewards. Once you have done it let it happen. You are not quitting you are adjusting.

We Receive What We Expect To Receive – Trust And Allow

Accept the results and if they aren’t to your liking adjust. Also, be open that the results may blow you away and be beyond anything you imagined. You can be delightfully surprised. Allow for it. Don’t be a tight ass about manifesting. Create some space for surprises.

Gratitude is marvelous. If you did nothing but were genuinely happy and thankful, feeling blessed about everything your life you’d amaze yourself. It would be magnificent. Even if it weren’t you wouldn’t care because you are too filled with bliss feeling glad about it. Right?

Gratitude Is The Open Doorway To Overflowing Abundance 

True, genuine, heart-felt appreciation for your challenges and struggles and for whatever you have and for whomever is in your life, difficult or easy, changes everything into potential, positive benefit. Your life would be exquisitely filled with all manner of good things. You’d be in heaven on earth. Try it on. Do it. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Allow yourself a lot of delight today!

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This Is How You Start Winning And Become A Real Winner!

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“How do you win at the game of life? Do you know? How do you win the money game? How do you begin to feel more like a winner and less like a loser? Are there secrets to making it different for yourself? Yes, there are methods to begin winning and to transform yourself.

This post continues the series. Be sure to read each in order beginning with ‘Do You Know The Critical First Step In Making Positive Permanent Changes’. Winning is an inside game. Our outer reality follows from our inner reality. What we think we become.

Our thoughts actually do determine our reality and the results we get. It works this way. Our thoughts precede our feelings and determine how we feel. How we feel depends on the thought we think. If we feel great it is because we think great positive thoughts.

Whether You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You Are Right

If we feel poorly it is because our thoughts suck. They are negative or critical of ourselves, others or the world. Then how we feel from the first thoughts loops around and helps determine the next thoughts we think. If negative we get more negative. Bad to bad.

It spirals down or up depending on our thinking. Our feelings determine what we do. We either feel good or not so good. We either feel motivated or not. Loops again. Spirals more. Our feelings lead to our behaviors. Our behaviors lead to the results we get.

Most people don’t feel like winners because of this sequence. They run a negative less than glorious cycle. There is another aspect to all of this, I didn’t mention. It is the story we tell ourselves. This story is also part of our habitual conditioning whether positive or negative.

Our Thoughts Lead to Feelings Lead To Behaviors Lead To Results

People have a story they tell. That story is why they aren’t a winner. It’s historical in nature. It’s perceived history. They  cherry picked examples to support their hypothesis of why they are or aren’t a winner; lucky in love; able to get ahead; or whatever it is.

This story is chronic. They speak it to themselves and to others. It stems from the Reticular Activating System (RAS) finding matches for their beliefs. We have discussed this aspect many times in previous posts. The brain finds examples for what we believe,

It doesn’t matter whether it is positive or negative the brain finds matches. If we think we are a loser our brain will support us in making that so. It will find examples to provide us with more reasons why that is the case. It would do otherwise if we felt we are a winner.

We Become What We Think About Most Often

The brain works to prove the human right. The subconscious supports the conscious in this manner. Whatever we think our brain says, ‘yup, you’re right!’. So losers tell why they are loser stories and winners tell why they are winner stories. This is HOW it works.

If you want to end being or feeling like a loser you need to collect more wins. How do you do that if you don’t know how to win and historically you feel as though you always lose? Here is how. Return to baby steps from my most recent preceding post.

Take baby steps. Realize you are a learner and you learned to do most everything. You learned to feel and think this way. Since you did you can learn to think and feel a different way. You will recondition yourself to think and feel and behave more successfully.

Winners Aren’t People Who Never Fail But Ones Who Never Quit

Consider yourself a learner is part of the process I already covered. Now add this next step. Find things to consider wins. If you made your bed this morning you are a winner.  If you washed your dishes today you did something and won. Acknowledge and validate.

You took an action and followed through. Celebrate and appreciate. That is a win. That is an accomplishment. Each thing you did that you wanted or needed to do that you followed through on can be considered a win. Yes, this is a tiny piece. A baby step. A method.

It is a means and method to begin re-coding for your brain. You haven’t felt like a winner well now it is time you did. Start small and build up. Begin with intentions and follow through. Create a list of 3 to 5 things you will do today. Each day set your intentions.

To Be  A Winner You Must Plan, Prepare And Expect To Win

Then do them. They can be really small. Such as, today I intend to make my bed; clean my desk; drive safely to work or school; greet my associates with a smile; confidently order coffee from the barista. Then do these. At the end of day check off your list.

Consider each one you accomplished a win. Do the same or others the next day. Find things you intend to do and follow through. Celebrate each one you do. Appreciate yourself and pat yourself on the back. Gift yourself is a small, healthy, positive way. Hooray!

Each day decide to do something. Go to store. Buy bread. Cook Dinner. Wash plates. Make the bed and consider them wins. While this may not seem significant, at first, it is. You are recoding or reeducating yourself as to what winning means. Understand?

Education Isn’t Learning Facts But Training The Mind To Think

Your definition of winning and the stories you tell have prevented  you from feeling like a winner. We want to give you that feeling and numerous examples so you learn to feel like you can and do win. You need to feel that what you do matters and moves you forward.

Each day you, and I, engage in countless mindless tasks we had to learn to do. We do them so well,  unconsciously, we never consider them as significant or as wins or as positive. They are! Because you can do these you can learn to do anything you need to. You can!

You can learn to make your dreams come true. Get it?  Don’t let any excuse stop you. Find a way to move beyond what stops you. Begin with baby steps to help you reframe and redirect your thoughts. Affirm or ask Directed Questions™ for new ways of thinking.

Winners Never Make Excuses – They Make Results

When you think differently (positive) you will feel differently (positive) . As you feel differently (positive) you will take positive action steps and behave more positive. The results you start getting will be positive too. This is how you begin to change yourself.

This is how you begin to change your circumstances and evolve yourself into the person you want to be. You think you are a winner more frequently, you feel more like a winner, you behave more like a winner and begin to get winner results so you tell a new story.

Your story leads to more thinking, feeling and behaving and getting results which adds to your story. Soon you think, feel and act like a winner because you already are. You have reconditioned yourself to be a winner and to follow through on what you say you will do.

Believe In Your Ability To Succeed And The More Likely You Will

What began as baby steps gradually gets a bit larger. Never bite off more than you can chew. Keep it simple and easy and gradually challenge yourself. Keep the winner feeling. The more you think and feel like a winner the more you will actually begin to win.

Birds of a feather flock together. You attract other winners to you because you are one of them. Your attitude determines you altitude! How you approach tasks and opportunity can change for the positive because you have. Your RAS looks for positive matches.

It looks for opportunities. You become more aware of them so you can take advantage of them. You trained and conditioned yourself for success. YOU did it so you can pat yourself on the back. It wasn’t luck. No on else could do it for you. You had to so count it as a win!

Success Belongs To Those Who Dare To Achieve It – Begin Today

Mental success conditioning works as long as you apply yourself and continue the process. It isn’t a magic bullet. It is a sound, scientific, systematic approach to being, doing and having what you want in life. It is a method for a healthy attitude and outlook like exercise.

Just as exercise and proper nutrition requires follow through and dedication mental conditioning does too.  Start small, gradually increase. Go slow and be patient. Set intentions and keep them. Acknowledge and celebrate when you do. Repeat daily. Feel grateful and express gratitude. You can do this! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Smile more and enjoy your day!

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First Awareness, Then Acceptance Now Affirm It!

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What is the best way to begin to make changes? Simple. Decide to. Decide that you are beginning the PROCESS of changing your life for the better. Recognize or realize or accept that it is a process you initiate. To be in a process, is not unlike being in or on the river.

Wherever you find yourself on the river that is where you are. That is, from, where you begin. A process means ongoing as a river is. Go with the flow. Put your boat in. Let it take you to where you want to go. Paddle in the same direction. Don’t fight it. Go with it! Allow!

Don’t resist. Don’t try to go upstream. Let go and go with the current. You decided you want to make a change or begin making changes. Accept that you are beginning the process. Enjoy it. Don’t try to do to much or figure out the ‘hows’ yet. Just begin.

What You See Is What You Get

A great way to begin is to read some positive or inspirational material each day. Morning is a great time of day. When you start your day begin with a positive, inspired, optimistic, motivated mindset. Read Napoleon Hill, Wallace Wattles, or others.

Read for as long or as much as you can. Try for a half hour; too much, cut it down. Make a point to read even if it is only a page a day. Do it every day. Just as you eat each day to feed your body read to feed your mind. Think about what you read. Reflect on it. Practice it!

Study success. Study happiness. Learn from others. Find positive mentors and role models. Be wise about choosing mentors. I’ll share more in another post. Learn from those who do and have and are what you want to beWHO BEGAN as you did. Study their approach.

What You Say Is What You Get

Begin reading. Remember, our first step. Clarify what you want. I assume you already have done this or you are in the process. This is the 3rd post in a series. If you haven’t read the previous two please go back and read those first. Then return here. Clarify your purpose.

Know what you want. Specify it. Keep it in mind. Read and fill your mind with positive thoughts about your goal. Feel good about it. Think about it often during the day and affirm, ‘I can begin now to change my life.’ ‘I am in the process of making my dreams come true’.

You can substitute your actual dream for ‘my dreams’. ‘I am in the process of creating more happiness in my life’. ‘I am beginning the process of taking control of my money and becoming financially free.’ ‘I am learning to be smart about managing my money’.

What You Feel Is What You Get

‘I am in the process of learning to communicate better so I can connect with people and enjoy more lasting friendships’. ‘I am beginning to attract the right person into my life’. ‘I am deciding to be more open and tolerant of other people’s views.’ Whatever it is.

‘Even if I don’t know how I can begin to take tiny baby steps that move me forward to what I want’. Get it? You declare it. You make statements about how you are beginning the process of making the changes you want. Affirming is a great way to begin.

Up your energy and vibrational levels and affirm with enthusiasm. Why affirmations don’t work for some people is primarily two fold. One reason is they recite meaningless phrases with no emotional power behind them. The words aren’t what your brain responds to.

What You Think About You Become

Rote repetition doesn’t impact our brains or our being. We must emotionalize it.  We must use enjoyment, enthusiasm and power. Chant and declare what you affirm. Do it  loud, clear, with fun, energy and optimism! Think military boot camp. They chant a lot.

In armed services boot camps they chant as if their life depended on it because it does. They chant to wire in important concepts and habits. They do it for different purposes than we do; it works just the same. Our purposes are not so much survival based but could be.

Chant your affirmations. Shout them out with joy, Have fun and delight in doing them and mean it. Commit to these. Make them short, to the point, positive and energized. This makes the process work faster. Your brain learns from exaggerated examples!

What You Focus On Expands

Don’t be subtle. Your brain doesn’t learn by subtle. Be subtle only when surrounded by others at home or work and when you don’t want to draw attention to yourself. Otherwise GO FOR IT! Declare them and mean it. Believe it! Know it. Convince yourself completely!

By doing this you create new neural pathways and new positive habits. Enjoy the process! The other primary reason is people don’t believe them. They make too large a statement and then resist it. The declare ‘I can make 100 million this year’. It is too big a leap.

Certainly, it could be possible. BUT it is not that likely they will make that kind of money if they never have. Could they, yes. Is it possible, yes! Is it plausible or likely? Not so much. IT COULD happen, but usually a goal too big makes people doubt they will be successful.

What You Think About You Bring About

If you have never made big money before start with smaller sums. Make them big enough to stretch you but not so big as to seem impossible. Your goal should stretch and challenge you and maybe make you a little afraid but not too much. I will explain. Stretch!

You want to choose something that takes you out of your comfort zone. Something you do have to work at. Something that would exhilarate you when you make it happen. BUT, not something you don’t believe you could do and will do. You need to believe you can.

You want to eventually feel certain, not only you can, but that you will. When you choose something you feel certain you can make happen; and believe that you will; and you absolutely want to have it; then you have found your sweet spot. Then it IS likely you will.

If You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You Are Right

Get it? You want to believe YOU WILL do it. This will be reinforced by your affirmations, too. You will come to believe it more if you don’t at first. Still, choose something you CAN believe. Those people who don’t, since they don’t truly believe they can, usually give up.

It isn’t that the process doesn’t work. It is that they didn’t choose wisely. Start smaller. Get some wins. Prove to yourself you can do it. Prove you can make it happen and gather wins Then increase the size of your wants and make those happen too. Experience matters!

For those people, since it is outside the sweet spot, they don’t feel good when they think about their goals and affirm them. Instead they doubt or feel concerned. They hope it will happen. They don’t feel they will absolutely make it happen. The mindset is different!

Believing Is Seeing – Perception Is Everything

It isn’t a winner, ‘I CAN DO ANYTHING’ mindset. It is a ‘gee I hope I do this right and get what I want some day, but it probably won’t work and then I’ll be worse off than before’ mindset. Do you understand? Those people are defeated before they begin.

They abandon the affirmations because it doesn’t feel right or good when they affirm. The give up and then state, ‘I tried affirmations and they don’t work.’ You are beginning a process. Accept you are a beginner. Take baby steps. Fill your mind with positive thoughts.

Implement these practices. Use positive affirmations powerfully. This, is and area  where my Directed Questions™ is absolutely beneficial to use. I will share more about this later. For now, read, affirm and imagine already having what you want in the future.

Live The Future You Want Right Now As If It Is Already Yours

Affirm, declare, command and own. Own your future. YOU make it happen. You create and you attract. Enjoy learning to do this. Enjoy the process. Be grateful and express your gratitude freely. Make a list daily. Feel appreciation for everything! That makes you feel better all around. Plus, you’ll feel more positive. Enjoy everything and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Feel thrilled. Feel Delighted. Feel enthusiastic. Feel Fully Alive!

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Once I Become Aware Now What Do I Do?

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“Awareness is the first step in transformation. Acceptance is the second. That means you accept right where you are. You drop, let go or turn your back on self criticism and judgement. You accept or allow yourself to be precisely who you are right now. Accept you!

This is 2nd in a series of posts. Be sure to read previous post if you haven’t. Then continue with this one. Feel free to dip and dive into all the other posts. By reading and rereading you will gain great value. Experience revisited is how we learn and develop skill. Enjoy!

‘Okay, I am not where I want to be.’ Yet, that IS what is. No use crying over spilt milk. Accept it and move on. Accept that you may not be perfect, that you aren’t further ahead yet, that you have character flaws and that you might not, yet, know how to change. Accept it.

Be Yourself – Accept Yourself – Love Yourself – Be Grateful 

Whatever it is accept. Love yourself in spite of it. Better yet, love yourself because of it. You are you. You can’t be further ahead of you than you are. So stop judgements and assessing and relax into yourself. Embrace yourself as you are. Congratulate yourself!

Congratulate yourself for being you. Congratulate yourself for what you noticed. Pat yourself on the back. You don’t know what you don’t know. You are who you are up to this point. Be grateful you are able to recognize this about yourself right now. Celebrate you!

Change becomes easier when you don’t resist or fight anything. You may still want to move ahead and end up in another place but appreciate where you are right now. Really, truly, be grateful. If you will, you will open up incredible doorways to greater opportunity.

Accept Your Past Without Regrets – Learn From It – Accept It

Don’t fight yourself. Don’t blame or excuse. Don’t whine or complain. You are who you are, you have done what you have done and now you are here in this moment, aware and willing to make changes. Accept, allow, let go and delight in all of it. Truly celebrate you!

As for making the changes you want to make, accept that you can do it. Accept that you may want or need some help along the way. Accept that not everything happens according to your time line. Accept challenges and obstacles as life’s learning lessons. Learn!

If you felt or feel stuck, accept it. You may be stuck and don’t yet know what to do. That is okay. Don’t push it. You don’t have to know what to do right now. You don’t need to know how you will change. Later, you will know all that.  For now, simply enjoy being aware.

Accept Where You Are Here And Now You Can’t Be Anywhere Else

Realize that each of us becomes aware, or wakes up, or sees a potentially different life for ourselves in our own time. Whenever or wherever that is IS when it is. Accept the timing of the universe instead of fighting with it. Do you understand this? You will in time.

Accept that you awaken when you awaken. Accept and utilize everything. Don’t be dismissive or wallow. Get it? When you become aware that you want to move forward differently, and you accept where you are at, YOU CAN BEGIN to move forward; From here!

You don’t blame and excuse yourself, which further causes you to remain stuck. You let go and become open to new possibilities. Okay, you think, ‘but I still don’t know what to do’. Well, you begin from where you are. Your first steps are from here and now.

Accept The Universe’s Time Frame – Everything Has A Season

You can’t begin from elsewhere. You can’t be other than who you are right now.  So you begin from here and now. Take a deep breath. Decide to begin to live differently. Commit to living more positively. Determine to be more optimistic and enjoy life more. Choose!

You will find great power comes from making an important decision. Decide what you want and then commit to making it happen. HOW you make it happen will become clear as you move along. First things first. Become aware. Accept. Decide what you want and commit.

Know where you want to end up then you can plan your route. Determine to make happen what you want to make happen and never give up. Travel as far as you can see and when you get to that place you will be able to see farther. Get it? First things first,

Some People Are Ready To Change – Some People Aren’t – Decide

How is not the question to ask now. You will discover how. WHY? Is a much more important question. List out all the reasons you want what you want. Notice what you want and what you don’t want. Re-state it in the positive. Think ‘This is WHY I will make this happen’.

Create as big list of positive ‘whys’ as you can.  Know WHY you want what you want. What will having that do for you? How will your life improve when you have this? See it, hear it, feel it, smell it , taster it. If your why’s are big enough there is no question you will go after it.

If you are wishy washy about your why’s you probably won’t get very far. Know what you want and why! If you absolutely must have it then commit to making it happen. Do whatever honest, legitimate, positive things you need to do to bring it about. Make it happen!

Accept that you are able to do this. Accept that anything you might need you can find, make or learn to do. Accept your decision and enjoy it. You want life to be better now go ahead and make it better. Feel good about your decision to improve yourself. Feel glad.

Your Life Is 100% Your Responsibility – Do You Understand This

Ultimately, you will make a plan for getting what you want. But that is not the first step. Many people never go after their goals because they make a big mistake. They  think  they need to know how first. You don’t BUT YOU DO need know what you want and why you do.

You are at the beginning. Be delighted! You became aware enough to initiate some changes. Delight in yourself. Delight in your new awareness.  Delight in your decision. Enjoy the process of getting your goals. AND celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Skip, sing, do a little happy dance today.

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What To Do With The Important People In Your Life?

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“Tonight I am at a film festival. It is good to see some old friends. It is good to meet new friends. For the blog today,  I encourage you to catch up with family and friends. Nurture your relationships. Celebrate the people you know. Stop and listen and learn from them.

Take a moment to really connect. Enjoy the people who make up your life. Business, while important, is not that important. I grew up, for the most part, surrounded by filmmakers. Many whose heads were planted firmly planted up the rectal canal.  Vision limited.

I mean no disrespect. However, while film is important people are more important. I know some will disagree. I am writing tonight to remind you to connect and enjoy. Celebrate and love. Make time to savor your family and friends and support each other.

Take The Time To Tell Someone Why They Are Special To You

Take a moment and list out what you appreciate about each of your children, your siblings, your parents, you partners in life, your closest friends. Really think about what makes them special and what you like about them. Appreciate them. Sometime, perhaps, tell them.

Tell them why they are so important to you. Look them in the eye and let them know you care. It is one thing to say ‘I love you’ and it is another to tell them what you like and admire about them and why. Be grateful. Live, laugh, love and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Get in touch with a loved one today!

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How To Give Up Old Unproductive Ways And Become New!

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“Life challenges us sometimes. Sometimes it’s snaps and breaks us. It isn’t the size of the problems. It’s not because the challenges are so large, the obstacles so overwhelming, or the problem so insurmountable that we break. It is because we are so rigid.

We are not flexible.  We don’t give and take and roll with the punches. That is why we break. If we were like the tall reed, we would bend this way and that. Because we are rigid stress cracks us. It breaks us.  Sometimes that is just the way it is or the way it was.

Sometimes we break. No use crying about water over the damn. That’s what was. That is what it is.  So get up dust off and move forward again.  Yes, it may be hard but do it anyway. Here’s the lesson:  sometimes you break and sometimes you bend.

A Storm Breaks Trees – It Only Bends Grass

Sometimes you’ll apply the lessons you’ve been learning in maintaining a positive attitude, being happy, staying centered, in a challenging situation and you will surprise yourself. You may have resolved to stay calm and centered during life’s toughest moments.

That’s how it works. It goes from being really hard applying what your learning to easier and easier. Ultimately, you learn to do new things. The old habits give way to the new habits you acquire. Once the new habits take hold it is much different. Until then…

In the midst of turmoil you might find that you’re not as agitated as you would have been in the past. You discover you are  much more centered. Calmer. Perhaps, not as much is you hoped, but more than you might otherwise have been in dealing with a huge issue.

The Reed Bends With The Wind – Stands Straight After The Storm

You stayed calmer than you would have in your past. You remained more centered. That is huge! That is a big awareness. That is good! Whenever you find yourself behaving along the lines of the direction you’re moving toward, celebrate! Acknowledge it! Become aware.

Make a point of treating it as something special! Pat yourself on the back. Give your self a hug. Gift yourself in someway for doing that. Celebrate doing that which you want to be doing more of. Be grateful you did it because you open the door to do it again  more.

When you gift yourself now for behaving as you want to you’ll get more in the future. That which you focus on expands. Be grateful for the little you do now because you’ll do a lot more later! That’s  how you learn! First it seems all up hill, you struggle. Later, you coast.

Baby Steps Are Better Than  No Steps – Keep Moving Forward

You move forward, you grow and evolve, by emphasizing and exaggerating those positive things you do. You put your energy and attention into it so that in the future you will continue to behave in these productive ways. Praise yourself when you notice. Practice!

Acknowledge and appreciate. Feel grateful for any tiny movement in the right direction. Nurture and encourage. One day in the not too distant future you will be doing more of the same positive productive behaviors. Keep at it. Don’t quit. You’ll develop the habit.

You will make it much easier on yourself and move forward more rapidly if you don’t berate yourself for screwing up but instead praise yourself for moving forward. Ignore the mistakes, except to learn from them. Correct and continue. Praise when you do well.

What We Want To Do With Ease We Must First Do With Diligence

Then, soon, you will wire in the new behaviors. Correct repetition over a long enough period of time will become habit. The easier you make it on yourself the more quickly you are able to change. The more you resist the more the old way persists. Stop resisting.

Start nurturing. Start welcoming. Stop worrying. Stop obsessive monitoring. Stop unnecessary commentary. Start acknowledging. Start encouraging. Start affirming.  You will move forward faster and easier. Be thankful. Delight in all and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Be kind to a stranger today.

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Acceptance, Attitude, Faith, Patience

To Get What You Want Learn To Accept The Timing Of The Universe

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“You can’t push a rope. You can’t be two places at once. You can’t turn back the clock. You can’t advance the clock. You can’t step into the same river twice. You can’t hurry mother nature. Accept it. Give in. Go with the flow. Stop insisting the flow goes with you.

The universe has its own time. When you plant a seed you have to wait until it germinates, breaks the soil, and bears fruit. That is the natural progression of things. Plant, wait and harvest. When it rains you wait for it to stop. When it doesn’t rain you wait for it to start.

An aspect of manifesting what you want is being open and ready to receive. Receive what is there for you. Be willing for it to arrive however it arrives. Be willing to receive it WHEN it shows up. In the mean time wait expectantly and enthusiastically. Don’t force when.

Trust That You Will Have Everything You Need When You Need It

When it happens is when it happens. Where you are is where you are. You don’t know what you don’t know. You are in the right place right now whether or not you realize it. Most don’t, or won’t. Hence, they miss opportunities that are plentiful and immediate.

Right here, right now, is incredible opportunity. How and when and where it shows up for you is determined by you, and your thoughts and attitude. Do your part and wait. How you wait determines how long you wait. Let go and enjoy. Be patient. Allow.

I love the freeway mediation I have described numerous times in these blog pages. You are right there in the middle of traffic. It does whatever it does. You either go with it or you resist it. Whichever you do determines the kind of experience you have.

Trust The Timing Of Your Life – Trust The Timing Of The Universe

Pleasant or unpleasant it is all up to you. Act. Wait. Enjoy! I’m not suggesting you do nothing while waiting. I am suggesting ‘how’ you wait determines what and when you get what you are seeking. Let go of your agenda and be open to a greater one. Do you get it?

Celebrate the universe. Celebrate that everything happens when it happens. Yes, work to make it happen but let go of the outcome. Let go of how it shows up. Pursue and be ready to receive. Commit 100% and know it will happen. How and when no one really knows.

It just will! Certainty, trust, faith, optimism, positivity all work together. Gratitude for what you have been through, what you have and what you will have is important. Living in appreciation opens doors for more. It opens your mind and heart  to receive. So receive. Delight in all. Be thankful. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

How delighted can you be today?

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Acceptance, Conditioning, Focus, Getting Over The Past

Don’t Believe A Single Word! Stop Believing The Lies!

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“What is it you think about yourself? Any reader here have some pretty negative personal self talk? Do you criticize and rag on yourself? Are you especially tough on you? I know I was. For most people we are harder on ourselves than on others.

That is a good thing. Probably why people can stand to be around us. Of course, sadly, some people are not. They are just as tough on others as they are on themselves. That causes more problems for certain. Hey, listen, lighten up, I am serious, lighten up.

Nearly everything, every negative, not supportive thing you tell yourself is based in prior past chronic ‘less than glorious’ conditioning you, and I, got from the time we were born. By seven  it was set, locked in.  We gonegative messages from others.

Be Careful Who You Pretend To Be You Might Forget Who You Are

The other day I heard a mother tell her young son that he asked stupid questions and was stupid. I was shocked yet I hear this come from others all the time. Sad! I don’t think she was trying to program him or make him feel bad but that came out of her mouth.

What do you suppose he felt? How many times do you think he has to hear this before he internalizes it? My guess is not too often AND he probably hears it a lot. Yes, we need to be careful what we say to kids. YES! We need to be careful what we say to anyone!

Just as important we need to recognize that much of our self criticism is learned or adopted from others and is not true about ourselves. It is misinformation. We have been misinformed about who we are and what we are capable of.  Put this crap to rest!

Stop Believing The Negative Lies You Tell Yourself – Stop Today

Recently, a dear friend told me something about me, many years ago, that made me feel incredibly good. This person whispered something to me. I instantly felt great! Wow, really I thought. Then I had a moment of, ‘gosh, I wish I had known this back then!’.

I wished I had believed it back then. I have been told this same thing a few times by others. Their perception of me ‘back then’ differed from my perception most of my ‘back then’ life. I wish I had grown up believing some version of what my friends shared with me.

Instead I believed a far less than glorious thought. I didn’t accept or think of myself anywhere close to what friends shared. How might my life have been different had I? OKAY no point crying over spilt milk. Right? What is IS. What was, WAS.  I just point it out.

Create Yourself – BePositive Affirm What You Want And Truly Are

Had my self talk been more positive things may have been different. I believed something about me others didn’t. I limited myself in ways I might not have. We all do this. We all have stories of who we are, what we are like, what we aren’t, what we can and can’t do.

Stop telling old tired, negative, non-supportive stories of why you are broken or can’t do it and start telling stories to yourself of how you are good enough and can do things. You do deserve the best as does everyone. I am not suggesting you become an egomaniac.

I am suggesting that much of your self criticism is just not true! Just as not everything others say about us is true. If is isn’t discard it. If it is useful, constructive, positive feedback take it under consideration. Don’t believe a word of the crap you tell yourself. Stop that now!

If You Know What You Want And Believe In Yourself You Can Do It

Learn to think and talk to yourself in positive terms. Learn to inspire and motivate yourself. Realize you are or you can be a good, even great person. You are resourceful in ways you might not yet recognize because you never believed this about yourself.

Start telling the story of the person you want to be. Start acting ‘as if’ and affirming it. Start believing positive thoughts about yourself. You ARE attractive. You ARE capable. You CAN learn to do anything  if and when you apply yourself. You CAN and YOU WILL be confident.

You are in the process of redefining and asserting yourself. You are dropping the past negativity. You are letting go of less than glorious conditioning. You are taking charge of your thoughts, feelings and actions to create supportive habits. You get positive great results.

Attitude Is Everything – Attitude Determines Your Altitude

Stop believing the lies and start discovering your own truths! Live free from the negative self talk we spend much of our lives suffering through. Drop it like a hot potato. Seek to live from a higher place, a positive, an accepting, loving, kind, encouraging place.

If you are going to be tough on yourself be tough as a champion is. Realize it is up to you to make things happen and that you can find away if only you will look and act. Don’t stop yourself from evolving into a better person or pursuing your dreams because of lies.

Stop believing those lies and free yourself up to become the awesome person you already are. Discover how cool you truly are! Become even more so by continuing to improve on it. We either are growing or dying just like a plant is. Keep growing. Evolve. Do it!

If You Hate It When Others Tell Lies Then Stop Lying To Yourself

Live, love, laugh and celebrate yourself. Tell yourself positive things. I am not suggesting you tell historical lies to others. I am suggestion you discover the positive truth about yourself and reinforce that to yourself and others. Appreciate yourself and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Today, recognize and believe in your greatness!

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Acceptance, Blessings, Focus, Gratitude, Learning

Do This When Your Situation Sucks!

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“A good friend texted me stating he needed some reframes. He spent a trying day, more than 12 hours in the airport, attempting to get to L A, with delays and missed flights. A remarkable man himself I sent him these words. These apply to all of us at anytime.

Learning patience can be a trying experience. As can learning to accept what is IS. Yet, what might you discover about yourself going through this difficult time? Are your thoughts supporting you and the situation or helping to undermine and frustrate you even more?

You decide which it is? Decide what needs to be done that will support you with who you are and who you want to be. Our thoughts about our situation contribute to how we feel. Are they lifting you higher and helping you feel better or not?

This Too Will Pass – But If It Didn’t – What Would You Do

Yes, it is difficult. Yes, the situation can be frustrating. That is what is. How you respond determines how you go through it. Are you contributing to suffering or feeling centered? Breath. Find your center. Take some deep breaths and let go. Allow it. Accept it.

You won’t change it being angry about it. That is as unlikely to change anything as yelling at the weather is for not being to our liking. Create a pause. Look inside and breath. What can you learn about yourself from this? Can you consider it a blessing in disguise?

If is is a blessing then what does it hold for you? Only you can determine that. There are two ways to view this. Positive or negative. Which feels better? Which gets you closer to the real you and the you you are evolving to be? It is your decision.

Inside Every Adversity Is The Seed Of Equivalent Opportunity

What are you focused on? Is it making you feel better or worse? Energy flows where your attention goes. Are you focused on what you want or what you don’t want? If you know what you don’t want then turn and focus on what you do want that makes you feel better.

Everything passes. Change is constant. This too will pass. BUT pretend for a moment it doesn’t. This would be your future forever. Is this what you want? Do you want these thoughts and feelings? Make them what you would want to live with forever. Your choice.

While I may have bias there is no correct answer. There is no correct behavior. There are choices and whichever you make those are your choices. Accept them. I choose based on what I want to create more of for myself, perhaps you may too. Meanwhile, peace and blessings!

Challenges Make Us Stronger – The Kite Rises Against The Wind

If you can find the silver lining you are ahead of the game. If you can find what there is to be grateful for, even inside a difficult situation, you are ahead of the game. Relax, breath, center, let go and feel grateful. What lessons can you learn? Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

How can you have a glorious day?

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Acceptance, Awareness, Choice, Conditioning

Your Suffering Is All In Your Head But You Can Change It

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“Buddha said  all suffering is due to thought. All suffering stems from not being present. The mind is conditioned to go backwards and forwards, to go anywhere but right here and now in the present. We have been conditioned from birth to not be present.

To be here now is to be totally present in the moment. Drop into the moment and be fulfilled in ways the mind can never know. It is beyond the mind. If you must think it is best to think the positive and focus on what you want to create and build. Stop negativity.

You can learn to gain control over your thoughts and feelings. You can be in charge. In learning control you can will learn how to still the mind. You learn how to focus, to concentrate, on what you want and to let go of what you do not want. Drop what you don’t want.

What You Resist Persists – What You Befriend You Transcend

People are concerned about what will be.  They fear or negatively anticipate, they worry, about the future.  They feel regret, shame, anger and guilt about the past. The past and the future keep us from the present moment. The worry or the shame locks us up negatively.

Try this on.  Go for a walk and noticed how your feet contact the earth. Put all your awareness and attention on your feet.  Feel the contact. Notice it. Notice the rate of your movement. Feel your legs moving, your arm swinging,  your body moving through space.

Feel the wind or lack of it. Feel the elements. Do nothing but feel. Attempt to be still. Quiet the voice, the sound track in your head. Whenever you notice you are not feeling, gently return your attention to your walking and continue to notice. Become  aware.

Do Not Identify With Your Thoughts – Stop Being Possessed 

On another walk focus on your feelings. Add observation. Observe your surrounding. See what you see. Notice.  Look at the space between the trees and the plants and the grass. Notice everything. Objects and the empty space between them. Simply look.

Focus on noticing and looking during a walk. On another walk  listen to the emptiness, the silence, the gaps in the sound. The gaps between thoughts. Notice sounds simultaneously occur. Listen for the silences between the sounds. Concentrate on hearing nothing.

During another walk simply walk. Feel, observe and listen. Be as present as possible. None of these walks, these exercises, need be rushed. Take your time. Indulge yourself. Go slowly. Be present. Go slowly. Do a little each day. Make it a ritual practice. A sacred art.

You Are Not Your Thoughts – You Are The Thinker Of Thoughts

In the present moment notice everything that is. Draw your attention to being in the moment. Notice when your mind goes elsewhere and gently bring it back to the present walk. The ancients called  it the monkey mind centuries ago because it jumps around.

You can’t suppress the monkey mind. It is a conditioned part of you but you can transcend it. You can go beyond it and simply watch it. You gain control by returning each time you stray. You learn to focus and shift your attention and keep it in one place. Be the watcher.

Learn to control your thoughts so your thinking can be more positive than negative. Learn to control your thinking so you can be more present, in the here and now. When you can control your thoughts, and you can be positive more than negative great things can begin.

Negative Thoughts Stick Around Because We Believe Them – Stop

Stay positive. You will think and feel better. During your practice stay aware. Notice when you are positive and when you aren’t. When your thoughts stray from positive gently return them. Don’t resist. Don’t push. Don’t  fight. Be patient, positive and gentle.

To do so requires awareness. Another exercise to do. Bring your attention to the moment. Let go of your past and future. Let go of the thoughts and simply watch them as if they were leaves on stream going by. Notice which are positive and which are negative.

We are so much more than our thoughts. People think they are their thoughts. They are controlled by their thoughts. Their thoughts torment them. YOU are the thinker. YOU should be in charge. We aren’t our thoughts. Discover who you are. Realize who you are.

Awareness Is The First Step In Positive Permanent Change

Learn to be present. Allow distractions to move on by. Stay in the present.  Learn to sit without thinking. Just sit and observe and listen and feel without thinking, without judging, without the describing. Be here now for there is nowhere else to be. Go with the flow.

Watch the white clouds as they drift in the sky. Listen to the gaps between words, between musical notes. Simply be. When you are here and now you are positive. When you are here and now you can be truly grateful. You can, in this moment, celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Delight in your discoveries today.

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