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Expert Reveals: For Success You Need To Choose Useful Frames Of Mind!

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“You know what a frame of mind is, right? There are useful frames and not so useful ones. Positive ones and negative ones. Supportive ones and non-supportive frames of mind. Which is yours?

Welcome to Part 16 of The Secret To Success And Happiness Few Know And Won’t Tell You. The series continues. Hope you are enjoying it. Feel free to comment. Part 17 tomorrow. Let’s go!

Choose useful ones. Choose frames that serve you to live better, more joyously, to succeed in you career or job, to increase your wealth, enjoy fabulous health and loving, caring relationships.

You Become What You Think About

We adopted frames of mind, beliefs, attitudes and values from others as we grew up. Some conclusions we came to from our own experience combined with the previously co-opted thoughts.

We think, we think originally most of the time, yet sadly, we think mostly the same things over and over again, most of the time. There is room for new thought and we have some.

Mostly we think, feel, live and act from habits. Some have told you your paradigms keep you trapped. They may, certainly, they could. Some have led you to believe that you can sabotage yourself.

What You Focus On Expands

Some have told you perception is everything. You may or may not believe it is true. Whatever you believe, from previous habit, or from free choice determines how you live, feel and move in the world.

If you believe you paradigms can trap you then most likely they will. If you believe you can sabotage yourself then you will mostly act as if you could. Your perceptions are everything and determine much.

Have you ever seen the face of a friend in a crowd? You look and wow, sure enough, there is your friend. You didn’t expect to see them there, perhaps they weren’t even on your mind.

You Get What You Focus On

You rush to make your way to them, fighting the crowd. When you get up close to say hello you discover it isn’t your friend at all. You saw the face you thought it was, but it wasn’t.

Our mind does that to us. Perception is everything. If you think it is likely you will succeed at something it is more likely that you will. You may not, but it is far likely than if you don’t think it is.

Positive thinking doesn’t guarantee your success. There are other things, up to you, to insure success, but negative thinking certainly doesn’t. You don’t get uphill, easily, thinking down hill thoughts.

Energy Flows Where Attention Goes

So what frames of mind do you use? Do you think you can or do you think you can’t? Henry Ford said you are right either way. It is up to what you believe. You will only go as far as your thoughts take you.

Do you think you are successful or not? Are you happy or not? Are you healthy or not? Are you able to learn or not? Are you smart or stupid? What do you think about yourself?

Are you worthy or not? Do you deserve riches or not? Is the world an abundant place or not? Is there more than enough for everyone or not? Is the world tough or easy to live in?

Success Is A Decision A Commitment A Promise A Mindset

Your attitude, your beliefs, your ‘frame’, your perceptions determine what you will do and not do. They will determine how you feel, and what actions you take or not. They determine how far you go.

Even if you have limiting beliefs and frames you can change them! You change them the same way you learned them in the first place. You hear them or say them over and over again until they take hold.

The more emotion you put into saying them the sooner you will believe them. You condition your mind in this fashion. You fill your mind with what you want to believe instead. You change your focus.

You Can Have Anything – If You Give Up The Belief You Can’t 

You become what you focus on most of the time. Watch and listen, to positive, inspirational, motivational materials. Surround yourself with positive messages you want to believe instead. Immerse!

Think and say and act the way you want to be. Declare it so. Affirm it powerfully! Chant these with intense emotion. Have fun. Be and feel powerful. Determine you will be what you say you will be!

Decide to be it! Keep repeating and doing and it gets easier. It will take some time. It isn’t going to happen over night because you have so many competing distractions and old habits to overcome.

Always Believe Something Wonderful Is About To Happen

YOU WILL SUCCEED IF YOU KEEP AT IT! You won’t if you try it for awhile and quit. Stick with it! Make the changes you want, yours changes. Own it. Live it. Eat it. Drink it. Sleep it. Breath it.

If you want it badly enough you will have it. If you MUST have it you will. If you KNOW inside with certainty YOU CAN DO IT you will do it. Why wouldn’t you? Declare it! Command It. Own Your Decisions!

If you must have it you will make it happen.

Let’s explore what is and what isn’t a useful frame of mind. You might think, ‘I can fly without a plane’. Okay, if that is what you believe the stand on the ground and practice flying up. Don’t get up high to begin with. Stay low and take off safely.

The Only Limits You Have Are The Limits You Believe

I don’t think that is the wisest frame of mind but someone always asks ‘what if I believe I can fly without a plane?’ Duh. Can god create  a rock so big he can’t lift it up? Get it?

Somethings aren’t that useful to ponder. Fun perhaps. Useful frames of mind help you live better, not stupider, nor should they lead you to get hurt. They are USEFUL! I’ll give you another example.

‘I can do anything’. That is a great belief to have. ‘I am confident’. Awesome.  Great, let’s go for a 100 foot high tight rope walk. While I can do anything and I am confident, I don’t know how to walk one.

To Succeed You First Must Believe You Can

I could begin by believing I can learn to walk a tightrope easily. I can believe I can succeed at walking the tightrope no matter how difficult. I am confident with practice I can become accomplished.

I c an even believe I can become the best tightrope walker ever. I want my beliefs to be big and to support my efforts learning to walk a tightrope.

I do not, however, want to attempt walking the tightrope until I clearly know how. The way one learns is by walking the rope on the ground. Then a few inches off the ground, then a few feet.

Believing In Yourself Is The First Secret To Success

One works up to the higher heights after accomplishing the lower ones first. Progress is made inch by inch.  We will get there. Thinking you are the best and the greatest is fine.

Eventually, you want to be able to back it up. You don’t just want to be a bragger. Confidence without actual competence isn’t good. However, in order to begin you may need to develop competence.

Adopt frames of mind that help you be what you want to be and get what you want to get. None of them are true or untrue all the time. Consider them useful templates.

There Is No Truth There Is Only Perception

You use these templates to more readily and easily make changes. These frames are how we perceive ourselves and the world. Use them to your advantage. Don’t let lies prevent you from excelling.

Beliefs change. At one time you believed in monsters under the bed, later you didn’t. You may have believed in certain holiday figures bringing you gifts on those occasions. Now you believe differently.

You have changed beliefs. You can adopt new useful ones that help you live how you want to live. If you are having money trouble and think you are in debt and will never get out, how is that serving you?

We Can Complain Because Rose Bushes Have Thorns …

It serves to keep you broke and in debt. Do you get it? On the other hand IF you say ‘never again, I am done being broke’ you can use that less than glorious circumstance as the impetus for change.

Once you do, you must change your focus from ‘i’m broke and will never’ to ‘I can learn new ways to make money. I can get out of debt. Money flows to me. I find opportunity everywhere I look’.

‘The world is abundant and I deserve money just like everyone else. Money is my friend. I am a great learner. I take action. I can live debt free. I am in charge of my finances’.

… Or We Can Rejoice Because Thorn Bushes Have Roses

‘I learn to manage my money well and make wise investments. I can grow my money. I am rich and live an abundant lifestyle’. Imagine in your mind all this being true. Imagine being rich.

Imagine living how you want, in the house you want, with the cars. You have the career or job you want and all the trappings that come with success. See it, hear, it, feel it, smell it, taste it. Fully imagine it!

Describe it out loud. Write it in your journal. Do this every day. Imagine a friend comes along as says, ‘wow congratulations, you did it! How? What did you do?  Tell me!’

The Happiest People Don’t Have Everything …

Tell him how you did it. Speak it out loud. Journal it. What was the first things you thought? What first steps did you take that led you to where you are today? Describe the process.

Then what did you do? What obstacles did you face and how did you overcome them? Author your success story. See it and write it as you see fit. Imagine the process in your mind’s eye in detail.

As you do this exercise, again and again, you tap into your inner creativity. You locate your inner resources. Your intuition comes to your air. Your brain’s Reticular Activating System (RAS) assists you.

… The Happiest People Make The Best Of Everything

Your RAS looks for matches and evidence from your past. It also scours your present circumstances looking for matches in your outer world to help you create the results in reality.

Put on your best mindset because that is what unleashes the power within you to change. This power if what helps you make happen what you want.

From this powerful, positive thinking and positive emotions comes your ability to align your skills and abilities to act congruently and make your goals happen. You achieve them!

Right Now You’re Looking At The Results Of Your Past Creations …

Your frame of mind determines how far you reach and whether you reach at all. This is critical for you to know. You can change your frames from not supportive to supportive.

You can change from wimpy to powerful; from negative to positive, from lack and decrease to increase and prosperity. You decide how it will be because of your attitude and mindset. You are doing it.

God or no god? One or many? Universe or nature? Random or intelligent? Law Of Attraction or Nothing? Frames of mind. Might they be true. Sure. Might they be false, sure.

… And Right Now How You Feel Is Creating Your Future

All of these concepts are frames of mind, too. Which works best for you? Choose the one that stretches you the most and helps you fulfill your purpose on the planet. Which is most meaningful to you?

Which brings out the best in you and helps you live in harmony and abundantly? For some it will be a personal god for others an infinite intelligence.

For some it will be mystical and magical made for others reasonable or scientific. These are ways of perceiving the universe. Are they the right or only way? Who knows? They are different ways.

If You Continue To Talk About The Drama You Don’t Want …

Some will argue only their way is the right way WHICH is another frame of mind. Some will argue none are correct and everyone who thinks they are, is deluded. Another frame of mind.

My job as author of this blog is not to decide for you, others have already done that. My job is to expose you to life changing opportunity and let you make the decision.

You decide which frame of mind you want to use. Try them on. See if you can leave your comfort zone. Nothing comes from being comfortable but good relaxation and rest. Get out of your comfort.

… You Will Continue To Attract It Into Your Life

Try some new things. Explore. Adventure! Have fun. Attempt seeing the world in new and different ways. Be the person you always wanted to be and notice what that feels like. Awesome, right?

Choose frames of mind that lead to success. A successful person doesn’t doubt oneself. A successful person knows that s/he will make happen whatever is needed at the right time.

S/he will create it or find it or attract it. The successful person never thinks s/he can’t do the impossible s/he just does it. ‘If I want it I make it happen. I will get it or have one. I will find a way’.

Focus All Of Your Energy On Building The New

Imagine living from that frame. Imagine being certain you will succeed because you decide you will. Because you believe in yourself, your thoughts, your feelings and your actions.

Because you believe in yourself you will keep going until you achieve what you set out to do. Obstacles are part of the process NO big deal. Making your fortune is a fun game to play in life. One of many.

What if you had these thoughts? You can. Just because you never did before doesn’t mean you can’t now. It means if you want them YOU must implement them. You must activate them.

When You Fill Your Mind With Positive Thoughts You Will Change

If you want it bad enough you will. If not you will make excuses. Life is great. What if you were grateful for every single thing, good or bad. You learned from challenges and embraced them. Life is good.

You are thankful and appreciative and filled with joy and enthusiasm for each moment of everyday. Life is glorious and you get to experience it with others. Imagine how incredible to feel this way.

What if you felt this way all the time? You can if you believe you can. If you don’t yet it doesn’t mean you can’t ever. Your beliefs determine how far you will go. Adopt useful ones and live from those. Enjoy everything. Learn from it all. Be in charge and make things happen because you decide to. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

It is a wonderful new day don’t you think?

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There’s A Big Difference Between Wishing And Being Ready To Receive It!

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“Napoleon Hill said, ‘There’s a difference between wishing for a thing and being ready to receive it. No one is ready for a thing until he believes he can acquire it. The state of mind must be belief, not mere hope or wish.’

Welcome to Part 15 of The Secret To Success And Happiness Few Know And Won’t Tell You. The series continues. Hope you are enjoying it. Feel free to comment.  Part 16 tomorrow. Let’s go!

You must eventually come to realize you are the true author of your life. No one else is. You determine what it is like now and what it will be like in the future. Whatever is Is going to be according to you. You decide it. You create it. You, YOU, make it happen.

The Brain Is As Strong As Its Weakest Think

Take responsibility and write your life book. Line by line, page by page, chapter by chapter. Be the author of your experience. Responsibility is the critical factor. Assume responsibility for your life and everything that happens to you good or not so good.

Accept that you are the creator of your life. Imagine yourself as the potter and your life the clay. Shape and fashion it into what you want. Make what you want. If you don’t you will always live a life of other’s left overs. If you don’t design it who will? YOU MUST DO IT!

You are the designer, the architect, you draw the blueprints. You  are the engineers, and the plumbers and the electricians and the construction workers who build what you drew. You dream it and bring it into being through your actions.

Conceive It Believe It And You Can Achieve It

I know what you are thinking. You are thinking what if something bad happens to me, did I create it?  The best answer is, whether you actually did or did not, whether it is ordained from on high, or completely random or accidental, act as if you did.

Don’t be a victim of whatever circumstances come your way. Use the good and bad times to learn and grow. Bad times may be more difficult to do that with, at first, maybe always. The key is to learn and grow. Go on in life not letting anything stop or get you down.

What about down times and unhappy times? The same applies. Accept them. Theses are part of life. Learn to accept what is and go through them without getting stuck in them. Day gives way to night and night gives way to day. You will get through them. Trust!

You Get What You Focus On

Allow, learn, grow and move on when appropriate. Learn to be flexible. Learn to look for the silver lining in the dark clouds. Learn to count your blessings when faced with troubling times. There is always a reason to be grateful, no matter what happens.

When you take responsibility for everything you begin to understand that you have choice. You have decisions to make. You are not a victim. You can be a victor. You are ‘at cause’ not ‘at effect’ of the situations. You are in control without being a control freak.

A great leader said, when told that circumstances weren’t the best for his army to win the battle, ‘Circumstances, hell, I make the circumstances. I dictate the circumstances!’ Let this be you. Become aware of your power to choose and to respond.

There Are Two Ways Of Meeting Difficulties …

As you take control of your thoughts and feelings you realize you are in charge. To be in charge means to be responsible. Accept it, and author your life as you want it to unfold. Conceive it, believe it and you can achieve it is what Hill said.

Okay, I will tell you the truth. Are you ready for this? YOU are ALWAYS in charge whether you know it or not. YOU are ALWAY responsible. Your results come from your thoughts, feelings and actions. YOU cannot NOT be in charge. If your results suck …

Then change it. Learn how to be in charge and make things work for you. You must change what you are doing and what you are focused on. Accept the fact that you are in charge and responsible. Great power comes with this realization. GAME CHANGER ALERT!

… You Alter The Difficulties Or You Alter Yourself Meeting Them

For much of my life I was terrific at getting what I didn’t want. I was awesome at it and it was painful. I complained, and whined and moaned and suffered. UNTIL I realized what a powerful creator I already was. THEN it was just a matter of learning good taste.

It was a matter of creating what I wanted instead of what I didn’t want. I had to switch up what I was doing. I had to be real clear about who was in charge and who was responsible for the results I was getting. Once clear, I could move forward getting better results.

Do you understand this critical point? You’re already the author of your life. You’re getting precisely what you’re getting because of your current thoughts, feelings and actions. If you want it different you have to be different. You’re still the author writing differently.

You Are Today Where Your Thoughts Brought You

When it comes to your desires you must want it very badly. You must want it more than anything else. That separates your want, your desire from a mere hope or wish. You must believe you can bring about whatever it is you want to bring about. FAITH!

If you think, ‘I can’t’, or ‘I never could do that’, or ‘yeah, right’, then you have some more work to do. If you react to what is proposed from your old conditioning that is a clue, that if you want to, you have the opportunity to work on developing new beliefs.

Of course, you can choose to keep the ones you have thought so far. Some of them have served you quite well. It is your choice. It is ALWAYS YOUR choice. If you noticed you reacted as you always have then perhaps you want to learn to respond rather than react.

You Will Be Tomorrow Where Your Thoughts Take You

To respond means there is a gap, a choice, a moment when you decide instead of merely act from habitual old chronic conditioning. You are learning to control your thoughts so that you can better respond to situations and events and people.

You are learning to respond in that gap rather than to react from old habit and programming as an robot would. To respond means you pause and respond appropriately with the needs of the situation in mind. To react is a knee jerk. You do whatever you always do.

This brings up the concept of freedom and freedom of choice or will. What choice do you have if you habitually pick the same things 99.9% of the time because you were conditioned to do that growing up. Little to none, right. You always do what you always do.

You Cannot Escape The Power Of Your Thoughts

You are on automatic making choices those who helped program you would have made. You are living out of your previous conditioning. That requires no thought at all because it is habit. You are thinking, feeling and acting from old habit. You’re on automatic.

Don’t you think you deserve to make the choices? You are worthy to make the choices. Don’t you think you at least deserve a shot at making them? I certainly do. By the way to be worthy you have to think you are worthy. Think yourself worthy. You are worthy.

It starts with your thinking, remember. If you don’t feel you deserve it begin to change your thinking so you do. Begin to affirm and assert and declare that you are worthy. You are absolutely worthy and deserving of all good things. You are worthy to learn to choose.

The Choices We Make Determine Our Destiny

I will reduce the percentages. What if 90% of the time you are on automatic? How about 75% of the time? Let’s reduce it further, 50, 40, 10% of the time. Which is acceptable to you and why? At what point does not being able to choose become okay?

At what point does being able to choose more often become okay?Consider that? How much freedom and choice do you want for yourself? How much do you think is reasonable? How much will you claim for yourself?

Whatever your answer is IS what you think it is. You answer is a product of your thoughts. Good or bad, right or wrong, positive or negative, it is your thinking and concluding. I know this is similar to a snake eating its tail. Our thoughts are our thoughts. Be aware!

Your Life Is A Result Of The Choices You Make …

If you don’t like your answers change your thinking. If you like your answers don’t change unless your answers are excuses, blames or whining. Then maybe you should want to change your thinking. You go where your thoughts take you, remember. Thoughts are things.

You can most likely have everything you want in life if you prepare your mind, condition it well, and take the right actions. It begins inside the mind and feelings. Thinking and feeling determine the actions you take. Your actions determine your results.

You don’t have to hurt anyone else. You can co-operate and celebrate with others. You can get what you want and they can too. You can live in a world that works beautifully. You can work in harmony with others. They accomplish their dreams and you yours.

… If You Don’t Like Your Life – Start Making Better Choices

You can discover how abundant and wonderful everything is. This world is absolutely incredible. It is a most marvelous. How you experience it is completely up to you. You either see all the good and the joy, or the human made darkness. It’s whatever you focus on.

It starts within you. It starts with your thoughts and where they lead you. It begins, as Hill said, in the imagination. You first conceive of it. Then you believe you can make it happen and that you will make it happen come what may. You want it and you know you will have it.

Then you take action and you keep going until you achieve it. You start before you are ready. You begin and keep moving forward all the while learning how. You attempt things as Edison did until you get it right, learning all the time. You keep the faith and keep moving.

You Always Have Choice And The Choice Is Always Yours

You are aligned. You are congruent. All of your inner resources working together to accomplish this. Your thoughts and feelings. Your talents and abilities. Your prior experiences provide learning and experience and more necessary for your progress.

Because your inner resources are aligned you are better able to allocate the outer resources necessary to bring it about, the people, the finances, the conditions to make it happen. Keep in mind that birds of a feather flock together. You attract like people and events.

From within to without. Believe it first and you will see it. Your brain will look for examples and matches and evidence for how this is true and how this is possible. If you don’t believe it your brain will do the same work but in the opposite direction.

When You Are In Alignment Circumstances Matter

So get free. Use your brain for the change you want. Gather your resources. Work as a team consciously and unconsciously on the inside and then find the team you work with on the outside. The inner game becomes an outward one at the same time.

What you are already on the inside is reflected and radiated outward every moment. Every atom and every cell of you is a broadcasting station. People can see, hear and feel if you are happy or sad, weak or powerful. You demonstrate who you are always!

Be the author of your life. Be a powerful, positive, deliberate creator who intentionally thinks and designs your life in the wonderful and glorious ways you see fit. Remember, to delight and celebrate and be grateful, and to create a world where you and others all benefit.

Be At Cause – Be One With Your Purpose – Be Relentless

There is plenty for all and all can win. As you do this you attract others who feel and do the same. Together you can create great things. Together we can make the world more wonderful one person at a time.

It is already incredible and we can add to that. Create yourself!  Fill yourself with incredible joyous life, laughter, and love. Enjoy great health and great wealth and everything wonderful. Be grateful, enjoy and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Create the day you want to have!

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Expert Reveals: How To Stop Failing And Start Succeeding Happily!

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“How is it we make changes to overcome difficulties and move in positive directions? What must we do to eliminate the self doubt and the negative feelings? How do we keep going and changing instead of giving up and quitting. It is actually quite simple.

Welcome to Part 14 of The Secret To Success And Happiness Few Know And Won’t Tell You. The series continues. Hope you are enjoying it. Feel free to comment. Part 15 tomorrow. Let’s go!

We use the very same method we were first programmed by. Instead of less than glorious messages and feelings we now deliberately provide it the positive messages we wish we would have gotten the first time around.

Energy Flows Where Attention Goes

Yes, we can change any thought, feeling or behavior. We can change and learn to get better, positive more successful results in our life. It is simple and most of the time it is easy. It is not easy all the time. It takes application and dedication.

You can’t quit and expect things to be any different. They won’t be. They will be the same as always because your brain will insure you remain consistent. With dedication and perseverance, however, there comes that tipping point you can take advantage of.

There will come that time when the old gives way to the new. Keep going. Yes, you have arrived and you have to keep going! Once you arrive at the tipping point it will get easier and easier because you create momentum for change. Change is easier and faster then.

Whether You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You’re Right

If you have ever changed residences you may have found yourself taking the route back to the old residence shortly after your move. Your brain knew the old way and wants to keep taking it at first, until your brain learns and remembers the new one.

You don’t lose or forget the previous address you just now know to go to the new one instead. You still have a choice which to go to. As you learn new behaviors your choices increase. Your talents and abilities increase. You upgrade yourself and up-level your life.

Why do most people fail? They quit. It is over and done. They make excuses, blame themselves, others and the world. Or they don’t take the first step. THE VERY FIRST STEP  we all need to take to do better and guarantee our success is to take control of our mind.

You Become What You Think About Most Often

This missing first step IS why so many fail to change. Attitude and mindset, what you think and believe, determine what you feel and the kind of actions you take and the type of results you get. It all begins with the appropriate mindset. Most don’t prepare well.

That is why Henry Ford said,  ‘Whether you think you can or you think you can’t you are right!’ Condition your mind for change. Prepare the soil for planting and harvesting the seeds. Get control of your thoughts and feelings. Develop a powerful basis for change.

Positive thinking is not wishful thinking it is powerful thinking. Those who say ‘and this is not positive thinking’ as if thinking positive is a bad thing are wrong! Your mind is the one thing you can control for certain in this life. You either think negative or positive.

You Get What You Focus On

If you don’t like the results you are getting in your life right now realize there will not be any change if you don’t change your thinking. Your brain will insure things remain the same for you to be consistent. You will continue to do what you have always done.

You will get what you have always got! That is the truth. That is the way it is.  You won’t be different unless you think different things. Your life won’t be more positive and better unless you think more positive and better things. Want to change? Change your thinking!

If you want it to be different in the future you must think things differently now. You are where your thoughts brought you tomorrow you will be where your thoughts today take you. Right now you are where you are because of previous, prior thinking.

Whatever You Nurture Is What Tends To Grow

If today’s thoughts are the same as those yesterday and the day before and the day before that, well then, you will get what you have always got. Most of us THINK we think lot’s of different thoughts. Research states we think mostly the same thoughts again and again.

Yes, there is some variation. Life circumstances change, we learn new info and have different discussions BUT we react mostly the same. We think the same things, the same way, we say the same things in different conversations, we don’t change much.

We are habitual, reliable and routine. We think, feel, say, act and do the same things over and over most of the time but we think we are freely thinking and acting differently. We are not. We are on automatic and very robot like. Sad, but it is true. We are automated.

Old Habits Die Hard – But They Do Die

Do you get it yet? If you want things to be different change your thinking. That is the first step. When you change your thinking your feelings will change in alignment to what and how you are thinking. To be truly different you have to think truly different.

If your life isn’t what you want it to be it is because of your thinking and acting it is not the government, the weather, your parent’s fault even if you think it is. Even if they were contributing factors unless you take responsibility and think and do differently it’ll be the same.

If you don’t like the results you have been getting you need to change your thoughts and what you focus on. You need to get your energy and attention moving in a different direction.  You must realize and accept this first in order for change to begin.

You Can Do Anything When You Learn How

Negative thoughts produce negative feelings. Positive thoughts produce positive feelings. Negative thoughts rarely make you feel happy and successful. Positive thoughts can contribute to you feeling happy and successful. It is a choice you have to make.

What do you want more of? To get more of what you want is dictated by where you spend most of your time. If you want to be happy but are mostly negative you will not be happy. Do you understand this? If you want to be happy you must think happy.

You must spend most of your time thinking and feeling and saying and doing that which brings happiness about. It doesn’t work any other way. People think something will happen and then they will be happy. It doesn’t, and if it does occasionally it is temporary only.

If You Always Do What You Always Did …

Lottery winners are happy for a short while but most of them return to the lifestyle prior to winning the lottery. Broke! Why? Because their habits don’t change. They spend as they always did. They think as they did when they weren’t rich.

They return to their conditioning. Temporarily, they got a big bump. Their happiness meter went up with their bank account. Sadly, they both plummet pretty soon. WHY? Because they aren’t in charge of their happiness or wealth. They aren’t in charge of their thinking.

If you want to be different you must think, feel and act different long enough for it to become habit. If you learned successful thinking and money management strategies, learned to feel and live wealthy, then, if you won the lottery you would be better prepared to keep it.

… You Will Always Get What You Always Got

Otherwise, it is likely you’d end up like the rest. The odds are in favor of returning to the previous life style. If mind set doesn’t change you don’t change. If you want to be happier don’t wait to be happy, don’t expect it to come from the outside. Begin now within.

Take hold of your thinking and do what is necessary to get it under control. Take charge. Think positive repeatedly. Read positive books. Surround yourself with positive people and mentors. Chant powerfully, positive, inspiring affirmations. Take action inside!

When you feel in charge and on top of the world, and you feel as if you can accomplish anything because you believe in yourself and your ability to learn whatever is necessary to succeed, then the magic happens. It really does happen, only its not magic.

The Definition Of Insanity Is Doing The Same Thing …

Then you begin to take the right actions that make success much more likely. It is mindset first and feelings follow. Your feelings determine your actions and your actions determine your results. That is the way it is. Repeat after me. Seriously, repeat it.

Mind to feelings. Feelings to actions. Actions to results. That is the cycle. If your mind is positive you get positive feelings and take positive actions which leads to better results. Then you feel good again as you acknowledge the results of your actions.

Feeling good makes you want think positive and feel even better. This cycle spirals upward, do you get it? The more you do the more you can do. You continue to bring about positive thoughts, feelings, actions and results because they add to each other.

… Over and Over Again But Expecting A Different Result

What if you get some not so good results or obstacles? You learn from them, take the feedback, adjust whatever it is you need to, your thoughts, feelings or actions and continue on again, repeating as necessary, until you get what you wanted. You don’t quit.

The opposite side of the spiral up equation is true, too, and you could spiral downward. That is what far too many are already doing. They use the same formula I am proposing but negatively. So they screw themselves up and out of good things.

They have been doing this forever. They can learn to do things differently but they must want to. They must first become aware  and become willing to change. Then they need to do what you and I need to do. Make the changes. Take action and follow through.

The More You Do The More You Can Do

You don’t have to live in the dark side. Walk in the light. Take control of your thoughts and feelings. Take charge and be in control. Stop blaming yourself and start appreciating yourself for all the cool things your brain does for you. It truly is marvelous. Make it a friend!

Beyond beating your heart, circulating your blood, filling your lungs and a myriad of other beneficial things it does for you it helps you win or lose depending on what you  tell it to do. If you aren’t getting the results you want you aren’t speaking the language it does.

I have shared that language in this blog site. Throughout the pages here, search, affirmations, Directed Questions™, visualization, go back through and re-read on Intentional Thinking and becoming a Deliberate Creator. Study this blog site to learn and to change!

Whatever You Want To Do With Ease … 

Learn the brains language and use it. Your subconscious has to ‘get it’ and ‘know’ what you want in order to carry out what you want. You can speak all day to a waiter in a language the waiter doesn’t understand and what is the likelihood you will get what you desire?

Speak your brains language. Positive self talk AND positive feelings is how it understands. It is the FEELINGS you feel most often and the strongest the brain responds to most. You have to begin feeling things, even when you don’t, to signal the brain to respond.

That is the trick to learning control. You have to learn to do it, in some cases, by sheer force of will, in order to begin making it a habit. For example. Motivation comes from doing. You don’t feel like doing something, anything, like cleaning your room, so you never will.

… You Must First Learn To Do With Diligence

You wait and wait but don’t feel like it. However, if you start cleaning your room, even though you don’t feel like it at first, once you begin you are more likely to continue. The motivation comes from beginning the process. Sometimes you don’t feel a certain way.

You wake up feeling dumpy and down. Get up, stand up, chant your powerful affirmations, jump up and down if you have to. Laugh, sing, giggle, do whatever it takes, to change your emotional state from down to up. When you do this YOU ARE IN CHARGE!

You took control, you changed what you were thinking and feeling and doing by chanting your new positive thought affirmations and doing whatever it took to feel good while chanting. THAT is taking charge. The more you do it the more the habit will develop.

If You Really Want To Do Something You Will Find A Way …

You want to develop the habit of being in charge of your thoughts, your feelings and actions. THEN you will get better results. BUT you must first learn to make this a habit. If you do not everything will remain as it is. You won’t be in charge everything else will be.

DO you understand this? The powerful uplifting emotions you generate while chanting the affirmations IS what the brain recognizes most. Then it thinks ‘OH This is what you want, I get it ‘ and it looks for matches. It produces more! Like attracts like.

Get it? You have to initiate and maintain the process until the brain gets it. It learns from extreme emotions negative or positive. If you want more positivity and happiness in your life then you must provide those to your brain to begin with.

… If You Don’t You Will Find An Excuse

There are two dogs fighting inside you? Said the old man. ‘Two dogs live within you and are constantly fighting.’ ‘Which one wins”‘ asked the young boy. ‘Whichever one you feed.’ was the reply. What are you feeding your brain? Positivity or Negativity. YOUR choice!

You must continue the process until the brain gets it. Just like learning to ride a bike, or anything you have learned to do. You use spaced correct repetition through time. You do the correct things repeated over and over long enough until it becomes habit.

If you don’t feel like learning to ride a bike you most probably never will. So you won’t develop the habit of bike riding. To become a  bike rider you must first make yourself feel like doing it, you must put yourself in the mood. You must think you enjoy it or need it to do it.

You Go Wherever Your Thoughts Take You

You may need to pump yourself up at first. You might have to do that military boot camp style ‘HooHAA’ until you do it. Chant, use discipline, get a tough love coach who will get in your face until you do. Think the thoughts ‘I am a fabulous bike rider,’ ‘I love this!’

Because unless you actually eventually get on the bike you will never learn how to do it. You must motivate yourself since it is unlikely anyone else would bother. If you wait to be inspired you will wait forever. YOU take charge if it is something you want.

DO you understand this example? Everything begins and ends with you! Not in a narcissistic egotistical way but in the way that matters if you want better results in your life. If you want to be happier, healthier, wealthier, enjoy more loving relationships and more.

Thoughts Are Things

Affirmations and visualization with powerful positive emotions are the way you program the brain. Repeat and repeat. Keep going and don’t quit. You will get there eventually. How long? Who knows but you will. Enjoy the journey along the way. Attitude is everything!

Enjoy the journey because many wonderful things will become available to you as you progress. Keep your eye on the prize but also notice all the other cool things going on around you as you make your changes. Appreciate everything. Have fun! Enjoy it all!

Align with yourself, be respectful of you and your subconscious. Love all of you even when it seems in conflict. Pat yourself on the back either way. You did whatever you did. If you screwed up so what? Stop the judgements. Carry on positively. Learn to let go.

Drop By Drop The Tub Gets Full – Skill Comes Of Doing

When in conflict seek to communicate and co-operate not fight and negate. Don’t add insult to injury instead create harmony. Work together for a change. Get it? Work together for a change! Great things are in store for those who will. Open your eyes to take it all in.

Your beliefs determine what you see. In order to find and see good things believe they are there. Think, ‘there is so much good all around me, I wonder how soon I can more fully delight and begin to appreciate the incredible opportunities that surround me right now?’ Yes, useDirected Questions™ AND count your blessings. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Have a blessed day?

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Expert Reveals You Can Eliminate Self Sabotage Forever!

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“You can learn to eliminate self-sabotage. You  can eliminate it forever. You can free yourself up to make permanent, positive changes. The  first step is to become aware that you must change. From there nearly anything is possible if you believe it is possible.

Welcome to Part 13 of The Secret To Success And Happiness Few Know And Won’t Tell You. The series continues and this post continues from the previous two. Part 14 tomorrow. Let’s go!

Once you become aware that you need to change then you go through a process. It continues until the new change is reliably in place. This takes as long as it takes. It is as easy or hard as it is, or as you think it is. Your mindset determines much of  everything.

When you begin to change you don’t want to set up a contentious, oppositional fight with yourself.  You don’t want to create resistance. You want to align you resourcefulness. You want to be of one mind and congruent, not conflicted.

You Can Do Whatever You Believe You Can Do

This is why what you believe is possible is important. You want to establish a respectful relationship between your brain and your new desire. You want to align you conscious and subconscious minds for the changes and have them work together, not oppose each other.

Both are correct. Your subconscious wants to do what it knows to do and run on and on the patterns it has learned so well. It remains faithful and consistent. Your conscious mind wants new change to get better results and to feel better in life. Both are correct.

You consciously want to replace the old ways with something new. The easiest way is to honor the old. Be grateful. Thank yourself for working  perfectly. Some people want change so much they resent themselves. They think they sabotage themselves, remember.

It Is All A Mind Game – You Play On The Inside

Insulting yourself adds injury not better co-operation. I am describing this as is your subconscious cares. It doesn’t but consider this. Treat it as if it did. Act as if you are trying to gain the cooperation of a friend, make it an ally and not fight with it.

Get used to respecting all of you instead of thinking about yourself as trying to screw things up. Manage you self-talk and images, keep them positive. Think ‘what you want’ not what you don’t want. Understand? Pretend, it is a person you want to work with you!

It is you! And you have learned many things. Your goal is to line them up, all working together, pursuing the same goals and dreams. Think about people in a boat all sitting and facing in the same direction rowing at the same time to get somewhere.

You Have Learned To Do So Many Marvelous Things

It works better when they work together that way then independently at different times creating opposition. Get it? Your goal is to get yourself, your thoughts, your feelings, your actions together on the same page, congruent, cooperating. Together!

Consider that computer hardware can work perfectly well even if the software has a few bugs. You may not get the results you want due to the software but the hardware works as it is supposed to. Your brain works as it is supposed to. Stop complaining.

Acknowledge it works well. Be grateful. Respect it. Love yourself for it. For goodness sake don’t dis it! Be glad. Enjoy, Celebrate. Be thankful old habits die hard and you live consistently. Be thankful your learning lasts and you carry out what you learned to do.

It Is All About Learning To Learn And To Grow And To Change

Be thankful you can learn anything. You have already. You have learned positive and negative, useful and useless things. YOU can learn ANYTHING! Celebrate this. You can learn the new positive change you want to make and have it reliable too! Be happy.

Acknowledge you are a great learner. Accept it. Enjoy it. You have now decided to change. That is cool. Since you have learned well before you can now too. You are a great learner! Do you get the mindset you are adapting. You are getting rid of the old one.

You are creating a new, positive, confident, new one. You are using your thoughts to change your thoughts by thinking good things about what you want instead of the old, chronic, negative habitual thoughts that kept you conflicted. Do you understand this?

Direct Your Mind And Changes – Celebrate Taking Charge

To make the positive changes you now use AUTOSUGGESTION. What the heck is this? Autosuggestion is or are suggestions you give yourself or self-suggestions. You use your own self-talk. You replace the old suggestions with new ones you want to support you.

They may not seem or be true at first. That is okay. The old ones weren’t necessarily true at all. You accepted them as reality so they shaped your reality and determined what you did or didn’t do, what you tried or wouldn’t try. They limited you in particular fasion.

NOW you change the content and decide WHAT you want to believe that will be useful. You monitor and manage your self-talk suggestions to give yourself only the  positive messages you want to replace the old, chronic negative ones you originally learned, with.

Be The Captain Of Your Ship – Pilot It To Where You Want To Go

Why do you use autosuggestion? Remember?  It is because you originally learned from what you were told, and heard and saw around you. Much of your learning was second hand, as well as, first hand. You are replacing that old conditioning with the new.

You override the old message with the new. This is why you do it and this is HOW you do it. You do it through repetition because the messages you originally learned you learned that way. You learn using your emotions. Then it was probably haphazard what you felt.

Now you deliberately utilize the best feelings to wire in the change. The subconscious is driven by the strong feelings you feel. Feelings deliver the message and make the difference. Your thoughts govern your emotions which govern your actions and results.

You Grew Up HowYou Grew Up – Now You Grow Deliberately

Anything you do you have learned to do, nearly 100% of the time, by repeating the activity enough. From crawling, walking, feeding oneself, using the toilet, reading, writing, riding a bike, driving a car, dribbling a basketball, knitting a scarf, using the computer or phone.

Whatever it is , most all human activity, writing, speaking, thinking, spelling, math, anything. To get good at it required practice. Think games. The more fun you have, the better you feel the more you want to play. The more you do the better you get.

Mastery comes from continued correct and improved repetition. It occurs over time. I repeat, most anything you learned you learned by repeating it again and again. To stay good, to maintain your edge you continue to practice. Pro athletes stay pros by practicing.

When You Are In Control You Dictate The Circumstances

They don’t become the best and then quit the process. Once they arrive they continue the process IF they want to stay good. That is how they get better. Consistent, dedication even when the best, to remain the best is required.

There are a rare, few things that one might learn almost instantly. You might dislike a food your first try. You could learn to like it by continuing to sample it. A Phobia may and can occur because of one powerful, intense and significant experience.

It is a unique one time learning event. Most people don’t have true phobias. They may have fears but not genuine phobias, although, some will. All things are learned over time by repetition with a couple possible exceptions. That is the process.

Lead Yourself As The Best Leader In The World Would

You learned to be who you are growing up over time. Understand to change habits it may take some time. Don’t bother about how long it takes because you can begin to make progress right from the starting point. That is good news.

Step by step, bit by bit you will get there. Just keep at it. Be persistent and consistent and you will get there. If it gets tough keep going. When it gets easier keep going. Enjoy the process all the way through. From the moment you start if you decide you can have fun.

If you decide you can have fun changing and growing then you will. How it is will be up to you! That is what is great about changing now. You deliberately get to determine how you want to go through it. You run the show. You make the decisions.

Become A Compassionate Benevolent Leader Of Yourself

You may encounter all sorts of other things, snags, and obstacles but you decide how you want to handle them. In doing this you learn control and how to maintain it. If you accept responsibility for all of it you will guide yourself as needed. It is an amazing process.

You repeat to yourself the new positive suggestions over and over again. You fill your mind with CAN DO thinking instead of Can’t Do thinking. You set your mind straight and develop the winner ‘I can do anything’ attitude ‘when I learn how’!

You keep thinking and repeating these positive mantras. These positive self-suggestions. When times get tough you keep repeating. When you don’t feel like it you keep repeating, You feel the best you can during all of this. You keep going no matter what.

Positively Direct The Changes You Want To Make 

Encourage strong emotions while you do this. Feel excited, feel eager, feel enthused, feel confident, feel powerful, feel angry, whenever you feel powerfully strong emotions that is what signals the brain that your words are important.

It really isn’t the words it is the feeling that accompanies them. You can repeat words listlessly, or apathetically forever without much change or you can change fairly quickly by chanting them out loud powerfully. Intense, positive strong emotions works great.

Your words and feelings and what you see in your mind, what you visualize work together in powerful combination to bring about the new changes. You remain congruent and aligned as you pursue and manage your new changes.

To Enjoy Enduring Success Travel In Advance Of The World

See yourself as already changed. Feel the wonderful feelings you’d feel when you are like that. Make it right now in the present not someday far off. Feel as though you are it and have it this moment! Notice how great it feels. This is how you change.

Stick with it no matter what. Develop the attitude that you can do this no matter what. Athletes continue to workout even when they may not feel like it. They also know that by working out when they don’t feel like it – they will begin to feel like it as they work out.

People wait to feel motivated, You can’t. Motivation doesn’t come from sitting on your butt waiting. Motivation comes through action. Do it and you will feel motivated. Wait for motivation and you will wait and wait. This is why you begin before you are ready.

Drop By Drop The Tub Gets Filled

You start right now no matter what. Begin now to have a wonderful relationship with yourself. Adore your ability to learn and be consistent. Be grateful you can learn and reproduce the behaviors you learn reliably. Appreciate that your brain.

Appreciate your subconscious does what it does. Your subconscious mind doesn’t have a critical filtering ability. It just doesn’t have it. It will learn whatever you teach it good or bad, right or wrong, negative or positive. That is why one can learn to smoke.

If you learned to engage in destructive habits this is why. Your brain doesn’t judge them as that. This is also why you can put an end to them and develop new positive habits instead. The subconscious mind doesn’t judge.

Now Is The Only Time We Have

It just acquires as its own whatever messages you give it with the highest emotional signal value. It learns from signal strength repeated over and over. SO you use the same process to change now deliberately. You are in charge.

Will it go smoothly. Nope, most likely not. Will you feel frustrated and want to quit. Most probably from time to time. Learning to go through this IS PART OF LEARNING how to manage your change now. It is part of learning control and becoming a champion.

When times are tough the tough get going. Hooray. It will be all things. The more you understand this in advance the more likely you will stick with it. How many times might you try and ‘fail’ as many as you do. Just don’t quit. Keep going even if you don’t feel like it.

If You Fall Seven Times Rise Eight

If you throw in and give up rise again. It doesn’t matter how many times you fall as long as you get back up. Make it fun, enjoy the challenges, feel your best and you will make it through, in time. To gain control and self-mastery isn’t easy but it IS WORTH IT.

Be grateful you can change. Be grateful for your history. Be grateful for the opportunity to create a new one. Be grateful for everything and you will move through faster, easier and more powerfully and enjoyably. Life works best when you celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Make each moment delightful!

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Why You Must Learn Patience For Happiness And Success

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“You seem to be doing everything correct but it just isn’t happening fast enough, right? You have worked hard but you aren’t seeing the results you expected. Maybe you are wondering if you ever will.

Welcome to Part 8 of The Secret To Success And Happiness Few Know And Won’t Tell You. We continue on today. I hope you found the first 7 parts valuable. Ready, let’s go. Part 9 tomorrow.

Change can happen in an instant. IT CAN and it does. Most often it requires some time. How much time you might wonder? That is a great question, but useless. How much time does anything require?

Almost everything requires some time. Even microwaving your beverage takes time. It takes an apple tree, to grow from seed to a fruit bearing tree, a good amount of time. Learn to wait well.

Patience Is Not The Ability To Wait …

Change and personal development take some time. Illumination can occur in an instant. You suddenly, ‘get it’, it gels and all comes together. You have a ‘satori’ moment of enlightenment. An ‘aha’!

Instantaneous! Then living from that new awareness and perfecting it requires time. The skills you learn from this blog, many of them, only take a few minutes to learn. Maybe, five minutes at most.

Still, it can take a lifetime to master them. ‘Getting it’, that moment when everything comes together is an exciting moment. Living it can be joyous too. Now you are living the process and that takes time.

… Patience Is How You Act While Waiting

That means you are back living in ‘real’ time. Be patient. Be patient with yourself; be patient in your struggles; be patient with the changes occurring, they will, in time; be patient with others; and life.

Learn to be patient and accept what is. If you ‘got it’ then nurture the awareness and learn to accept and enjoy the process. Time passes more quickly when you are having fun, if you hadn’t noticed.

The more you enjoy all of the journey the more there is to enjoy. Your neurology opens up and you discover more bliss, you allow for more insights and ‘satori’ moments. You get so much more in return.

It Takes 6 Months To Build A Rolls Royce … 

More time presents you with the opportunity to gain experience; to repeat successes and learn what works. From challenges you learn to develop your talents and abilities so that they grow strong.

Just as your muscles grow stronger from opposition and rest so does your ability to be in charge of your own mind. That after all is the goal, take back possession of your own mind so it serves you!

When you mind serves you, instead of it, you discover that all things truly do work together for good. So you are more relaxed while you create and make good things happen. You enjoy all of it. ALL of it.

… It Takes 13 Hours To Build A Toyota

Lighten yourself up. Stop carrying a load of concern about when and if. Give that a rest. Drop it altogether. If you planted seeds the seeds will grow, you will get, eventually, the bountiful harvest. Trust!

There is nothing like trust or faith. It means you hold to it even when there is no visible presence of it. You believe in the invisible. Don’t be mistaken, it isn’t trust in someone or something else. It is in you.

You trust that what is planted will come to fruition. It is your mindset and your attitude. Just as forgiveness isn’t about the person you forgive but about you letting go of the hurt or injustice for self.

Faith Is Taking The First Step When You Can’t See The Entire Way

Faith is for and about you. It is part of being able to control your thoughts and determine what you will think, instead of being plagued by random thoughts and thoughts of doubt and worry.

You decide what to think and feel. Your thinking and feeling becomes deliberate and intentional. As you learn this your life and results will increase positively in so many incredible ways.

It will delight you and surprise you. Ultimately, you will get used to it and it will become your ‘new normal’. You will live from more joy and positivity. You will have up-leveled yourself and your life.

Have Patience All Things Are Difficult Before They Are Easy

Pretty darn cool, if you ask me. You can attract fish using certain bait but you can’t make them bite. You just have to relax and let it happen. Let go of the result and enjoy the process. Relaxxxxxx.

If you dropped your line in the water that is all you can do. Take the analogy and realize if you have done your groundwork and planted seeds you will get back the kind of fruit from the seeds you planted.

If you plant corn you get corn. If you plant nightshade, a poison, you get nightshade. Whatever you plant determines what you get back. It will come about in the length of time it takes to manifest.

Just Because Something Doesn’t Seem To Be Happening Now …

A farmer knows when to plant, when to wait, when to add extra nourishment because environmental conditions change, and when to harvest. The farmer knows you can’t force anything.

Have faith. Trust and be patient. Your efforts will pay off. Enjoy the process. Gratitude is so important because you discover what there is right now to enjoy and appreciate. You can never be too grateful.

Continue with your daily diligence. Continue to gain mastery over your thinking and feeling. Remember, some things require a lifetime to master. Great artists are always improving their artistic talents.

… Doesn’t Mean It Never Will – It Will – Be Patient

They don’t get good and stop improving they continue as long as they live to master their art. The seek to grow and change and evolve. The same applies to learning how to change and transform.

The same applies to health, creating wealth and having happy and loving relationships. You don’t ‘do something’ once and then it is all taken care of. You live a healthy lifestyle in order to remain healthy.

You continue to invest and manage your money to remain wealthy. You continue to improve communication and loving behaviors to have long lasting satisfying relationships with family and lovers.

All Good Things Come To Those Who Wait

Keep heading in the same direction. Keep progressing you will get there. Trust it will happen and enjoy everything along the way. Make it a point to be completely involved and not miss any good thing.

You put your order in with the cosmic waitstaff now wait positively and patient. How you wait is important. How you wait is who you are. Spend your time productively. Enjoy all of life while waiting.

Don’t force. Allow. Do a little each day. Small repetitive action is quite powerful and can bring about great permanent change. Value what you do. Manage how you think and feel. Love life, be grateful and you will find more success and happiness coming your way. Smile more and have fun. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Be happy today for no reason at all. Just be happy!

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Why You Keep Missing Opportunities And How To Correct That

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“Have you ever felt you were ready but opportunity just passed you by? Someone else booked the gig, got the job, had something nice seemingly land in their lap, but not you. Do you know why that might be? There is an answer and today we’ll look into it.

Welcome to Part 5 of The Secret To Success And Happiness Few Know And Won’t Tell You. We continue on today. I hope you found the first 4 parts valuable. Ready, let’s go. Part 6 tomorrow.

Opportunity abounds. There are plenty all around us but frequently we miss them. Why do you suppose that is?  Perhaps, the truth comes in the statement, ‘when the student is ready the teacher appears’. The same thing could be said about opportunity.

Opportunity abounds but is often disguised, at times, literally and at other times because you don’t know what to look for. Either way you could be missing out. Certainly, you’d want to change that.

Opportunities Are Closer Thank Your Think

Napoleon Hill shared a fascinating story in his first book ‘The Laws Of Success’. It was a rainy day in Pittsburgh, one afternoon when a woman walked into a department store. You know how clerks can be. Either too helpful or not helpful enough.

Most of the clerks looked at the woman and decided she was not a shopper so they busied themselves with straightening shelves and racks. You might have thought as much too about her. She rambled the store aimlessly with no apparent particular purpose.

One young salesman, however, approached the woman. She told him she was not there to buy anything. She was merely looking, since it was raining hard outside. He assured her that was fine. She was welcome in the store and he engaged her in conversation.

Luck Is Where Preparation And Opportunity Meet

As the rain let up he escorted her to the door, helped raise her umbrella and sent her off. Before leaving she asked for his calling card. Time went by and the incident was forgotten by the young salesman. One day he was called into the office and shown a letter.

It was from a woman who wanted a salesman to accompany her to Scotland to take orders for furnishing a mansion.  The ultimate order was for an enormous sum. It was from the woman he was nice to. It was from the richest man in the world, Andrew Carnegie’s, mother.

It resulted in the young man advancing his career handsomely. Hill pointed out the salesman benefited greatly, but might not have, except for the fact that he took the time and was ‘courteous to an old lady who did not look like a ready sale’. No one else had.

The Pessimist Sees Difficulty In The Midst Of Every Opportunity…

Opportunity isn’t always apparent. You make your own by how you move through and act in the world. If you are genuinely nice you attract nice opportunity. THEN the opportunity presents itself, BUT it won’t happen if you try to make the opportunity.

Discovering opportunity works similarly to this. You buy something new, such as a new car. Suddenly, you notice that car everywhere. It happened to me in the last year. I see my model of the car multiple times a day. Prior to my purchase I was only casually aware of them.

Our brain has an area called the Reticular Activating System (RAS). One of its jobs is to find matches in the real world for our internal beliefs and attitudes. It’s why we ‘suddenly’ notice the other cars. Our brain is alerted to what we would otherwise not attend to.

…The Optimist Sees Opportunity In The Midst Of Every Difficulty

This is why some say we ‘attract’ our good fortune, that like things are drawn towards us. It is better stated, as the young salesman discovered, we create our own good fortune by our attitude and our actions. He didn’t prosper by meditating in his room, he acted nicely.

There isn’t anything wrong with meditation. I encourage it, practice it and teach it. Creation is an active process. So is attraction. If you want people attracted to you think and do those things that more readily result in that. Be nice first and others can respond in kind.

The people who experience the most good fortune and luck are not those who typically sit and wait for it to drop in their lap. They go first. They add value to others, they cooperate, work as a team, they are friendly and they are go-getters. They are pleasant to be around.

You Create Your Own Opportunity

A positive attitude gets you further faster than a negative one. If you focus on what isn’t working, what is wrong and negative you get what you focus on. If you focus on the competition and how they outdistance you, you will get back more of the same. Stop that.

You make your own breaks! In order to get ahead, focus on what you can positively do. Focus on solutions. Be genuinely nice and pleasant to be with. Be thoughtful and considerate of others. Maintain a positive ‘can do’ disposition. Be happy and grateful. Enjoy life!

If you aren’t already these things the good news is you can be. That is what this blog is about. I’ve spent decades assisting others to live their dreams. It starts with learning how to run your brain and mind so that it serves you and works for you they way it is intended to.

This Is The Beginning Of Anything You Want

You can transform yourself from less successful to more successful; From not so nice to pretty darn nice; From pessimist to optimist. It is all based on what you think about. What you think about most of the time is what you become and what you end up creating.

What you focus on and think about determines how you feel and behave. You results stem from those feelings and your actions. If you don’t like your current results, if you aren’t getting what you want, you can make positive changes to turn that around. It is simple.

Your current results are based on your previous thinking which stems from your early childhood conditioning. You are operating mostly on old outdated programs and old, chronic, negative thinking patterns and habits. It’s time for a positive working update!

A Simple Hello Could Lead To A Million Things

It is easy and it also requires effort. You will be changing old habits you have had for awhile BUT you can do it if you give yourself the chance to change. Anything is possible when you learn how. An easy first step is look for things to appreciate. Be grateful. Find them now.

Around you in your present life. No matter how few or how many. Take a daily inventory. This is an excellent way to begin. Read through these blog pages there are many suggestions because that is what this blog is about. Learn to be the you YOU want to be.

Fill your mind with positive, inspiring material some each day. Read a page or a chapter from a good inspirational book. I really like ‘Laws of Success’ and ‘Think And Grow Rich’ among others. Start now and soon you will notice a significant change occurring in you.

Every Experience Is An Opportunity To Learn And Grow

Have fun. Explore, and enjoy all of life’s little blessings. You find can find opportunity everywhere once you open yourself up to it. The best way to do that is to celebrate and enjoy more of life right now, this instant. So delight, have fun, enjoy others and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

What will you do with this marvelous new day?

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The Reason Why 95% Of People Fail To Get What They Want

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“Going after and getting what you want requires tenacity. If getting rich was always easy far more people would be rich. Whether you want success in your career, book more gigs, get an ideal job, have more romance and love in your life, be happier or buy that new home, it requires effort.

Welcome to Part 4 of The Secret To Success And Happiness Few Know And Won’t Tell You. We continue on today. I hope you found the first 3 parts valuable. Ready, let’s go. Part 5 tomorrow.

Success in all areas of your life, health, wealth, love, success, prosperity begins first in your mind. You must have the right mindset, attitude and beliefs. You must know you are capable of having what you want even when you aren’t exactly sure how to go about getting it. The results you are after first begin within you.

This Life Of Yours Is 100% Your Responsibility

You must know what you want. It must be worth it to you. You must be passionate about it and obsessed with getting it. It can’t be merely a passing fancy or you won’t last long in going for it. See it as having already happened in your mind. Affirm your ability to get it. Feel you can do it and perform the positive actions to get it.

Keep on working at it. Revise your plan.  Overcome and learn from obstacles and challenges until you arrive. Never give up if it is something you must have. Keep the faith always. This is the way you get what you want. You do not get it wishing and hoping for things to be different. You make it happen. You bring it about. Effort required.

You are always creating everything in your life. Your success and your failure. Your fun moments and your boredom. You never escape not creating what IS at any moment. Your response and your thoughts determine your feelings and your actions. Your mindset determines whether something is good or not good.

Accept Responsibility For Your Thoughts And Actions

You can’t escape this. I even suggest, if you are willing to, explore how what I just said isn’t true. Everything in your world, whether you enjoy it or not is up to you. Without your conscious participation none of it would exist as you know it. While this notion could be very abstract I simply mean you always determine the quality of your life.

Why do 95% not get what they want? Because they come up with excuses and reasons why they are not responsible for the outcomes and results they get. They will blame the world, god, others, the weather, the financial climate, themselves, their past upbringing, and anything else for why they can’t succeed as they want to.

The will consistently try to use these excuses and the stories they make up and tell again and again to explain why things are against them and it isn’t their fault. They have all the reasons, even great reasons why they should have but couldn’t get ahead. Their mindset isn’t supporting their success. It is inhibiting their success.

Be Accountable For The  Results You Get

You won’t succeed attributing your failures to others or things outside yourself. You must marshall your inner and outer resources and align them to go after, and continue to go after, what you want when the going gets tough. Your thoughts and attitude determine how far you will travel. Attitude is everything!

Your inner world must be rich with reasons why you succeed, why you can succeed and why you will continue to succeed. It must not be filled with junk logic and stories of how the world prevents you from reaching your  goals. EVEN if that WERE true it wouldn’t help you be or do or get what you want. Negativity doesn’t serve you.

Listen to coffee klatch conversation and you will hear the blames, the stories, the excuses, all the reasons why IT didn’t happen. IT never happens YOU make it happen. Listen, don’t try to change the person telling the stories it is up to them to learn and change themselves. Don’t argue with them, allow them to be who they are.

Take Ownership Of Your Mistakes

When we want to change and bring new things about; we want to think more positively or create new habits to replace old ones, when WE are making internal changes, these kind of stories and excuses can come up.  They’re part of our early conditioning. We learned them from others and made them our own.

We grew up being told things; we heard others discussing problems; we had our own experiences which we learned from. We soon realized  we may get in trouble if we don’t present the proper reason or excuse for our actions. We grew up learning to attribute certain things to ourselves and other things to others or the environment.

Much of our self attributions are negative. We blame ourselves for being stupid, weak, incapable and other negative things. We are afraid we won’t amount to anything or aren’t worthy. Perhaps, we feel we always have bad luck. That is the old negative chronic mental conditioning rearing its head when we blame ourselves or others.

Once You Take Responsibility For Everything In Your Life…

We blame ourselves, our parents, our teachers, our education or lack of it, the money we had or didn’t in early life, our home environment. Heck, we blame everything. As long as we blame we won’t accomplish because we are too busy finding all the reasons and excuses why we can’t and why we won’t. This is a given.

This is law. I’m not sure it is written anywhere, or if I just made up that it is law but figure it our for yourself. If all of your mental energies are focused on why something is wrong and can’t happen what is the likelihood it will? If you are preoccupied with YOUR personal story about what sucks what is RIGHT that you will find?

Not much right that is certain. In order to get what you want it helps if you take charge and shoulder that responsibility. If you get it or not own up to it. Then, if you wish to continue after it, you do what else you can do to potentially bring it about. When you take responsibility you put yourself in the position of power and control.

… You Can Transform Anything In Your Life

When you blame and excuse and tell all the reasons why you are unable you are a victim. If not in the real sense, you are in the mental sense. You live and think as a victim does, you have no control, no power, no ability to self-determine your present and future moments. Do you want to live without power or self-control?

Don’t look back on the past to make future changes unless your past supports you in that endeavor. Look to your successes to be more successful and not your failures or reasons why things didn’t work out for you before. Put on a positive, productive and powerful mindset and keep it on. That will help you to succeed.

You are not guaranteed success just by having a positive attitude all by itself. It is the beginning step you must have and must keep all the while in order to succeed. It is almost certainly guaranteed that you will not succeed maintaining a negative attitude. You won’t even begin to take action if you don’t think and feel it is possible.

You Are Responsible For Your Own Happiness

Why do 95% fail to reach their goals and dreams. Because they believe bullshit. They believe lies and stories they have been told and they keep telling for a long time. It is self deception. When we tell others our stories it is an attempt to save face and explain how circumstances, not ourselves, prevented us.

If you want to succeed. Get real. Stop the BS. Own up. Shoulder the responsibility, uncomfortable as it may first seem to be, but do it. Be responsible and accountable for your thoughts, feelings, actions and the results you get. Be honest. Be clear about it. Gear up your mind for success. Take control of it. Then success is much more likely.

When your mindset and attitude is right you feel right. When you feel right you do more of those positive actions that help you in your quest. You continue on despite the difficulty. Why? Because YOU are responsible IF you want to get the results. Others aren’t going to do your work for you. Get it? Own your changes! Own your actions!

Make Changes Or Make Excuses It Is Your Choice

Own the results you get favorable or not! Then you are a leader. You lead yourself. You are a commander. You determine what you want and you go after it. Others, if you are wise, can help in the spirit of friendly co-operation. You can assist others in similar fashion. Being in charge of yourself doesn’t put you in charge of others.

It can make you more attractive to others, Others may wish to help you because you are a person of passion, self determination, and inner strength. You are a positive force that others can recognize and respond to. Birds of a feather flock together. You can find yourself aligning with other powerful people to get things done.

So no more excuses. Find you inner champion. Take responsibility for all of your life. If you want more love be more loving. If you want better health engage in healthy practices. Be the change you want to become. Find the good in you and everywhere else. Find the reasons why it is possible, the solutions, and move forward. Look for all the reasons to be grateful right now and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Now You Can Unleash The Tremendous Power Of ‘Act As If’ To Make Your Dreams A Reality

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“Would you like to learn a powerful way to get what you want? This is almost as good as letting the genii out of the bottle except that it is for real. There is something you can do to realistically improve your odds of making your dreams come true.

Remember, and this is critical. YOU make your dreams come true by what you think and do. They don’t come to you by wishing or get handed to you on a platter. It is your responsibility to get what you want. YOU determine whether you create it or attract it. YOU!

Napoleon Hill was adamant about visualizing and acting as if you already have your goal accomplished. Acting As If you already are the good you desire can show you the steps and reveal the plan. Hill was big on thinking and equally big on acting or taking action.

Believe Act As If You Already Have It

Other new thought leaders encouraged this practice as well. Heck, even the ancient texts and the Bible refer to it in a variety of obscure ways. It has been adopted by others since. It has been around for centuries because it is tried and true and practical. It works!

Go back to Science Of The Mind and New Thought and you will find the concept already existed. Maxwell Maltz suggested it in Psycho-Cybernetics, as has Neville Goddard,  Troward and Wattles. Many others suggest it too.

Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) popularized Outcome Frames and Act as If (or Fake It Till You Make It) at a time the concept seemed to be sleeping. Act As If is useful because it incorporates so many necessary things for getting your outcome.

Believe And Act As If It Were Impossible To Fail

It engages the whole person. You live it in your mind as though you already have it. You get the feel for it. You imagine living it in your present day at home and work, but without making a big deal of it to others. You don’t want or need the resistance from them.

Rehearsal and practice IS WHAT ALL ATHLETES and ACTORS already know to do. The whole ‘inner game’ is only another version of pointing out that how you use your mind is critical to success with some added research to back the process up.

Mental rehearsal and actual rehearsal have always been promoted. Having the results you want prior to them showing up in everyday life is described in so many disciplines BECAUSE IT IS EXTREMELY EFFECTIVE! It is powerful and eminently applicable.

Act As If What You Do Makes A Difference

Success comes from the positive conditioning of one’s mind. It IS the development of positive, productive habits that automatically support you and assist you in making the changes you want to make. You can success condition in all the important areas of your life.

In Act As If you imagine the end result. You are already that you want to become. You already are doing what you want to do and have what you want to have. Imagine you want a brand new car. Imagine already owning it in your mind.

Get in it. Look out the windshield through your eyes. Feel the seats, smell the new car smell. Listen to the sound of that engine. Be as specific as possible and in as many ways. Imagine family and friends gathered around and what they say to you. Hear them, see them.

Act As If The Future Is Now

Remember, you are looking through your eyes. Your point of view. See, hear and feel as you would in everyday life, not as if you watch yourself in a video on your phone. Although that is good to and you can use it as well. Both work. In this case live it more than watch it.

Imagine driving the car. See your hands on the wheel, feel them grip, feel the speed and the power. Feel how great it feels to own and drive this car. It is yours, you have wanted it and now you have it. Notice everything in vidid detail as you would if it were really yours.

You stop at a light and you see yourself in your car reflected in a store window. How great is that? You look fantastic in your brand new vehicle. What color is it? How many doors? What are the specs? How much did it cost? What did you pay for it? Love it and enjoy it!

Act As If You Are That You Want To Become

Get it? Here is another powerful thing you can do to ‘drive’ this home. Imagine you have had it for a week or two. You love it. It is parked in your garage or outside your home. A friend comes by and asks you how you did it. What did you do to get this brand new car?

How? Describe to him how you got the money together. What you did positively. Tell him the steps. How you went into the dealership after wanting it for so long. Tell your friend what you did to negotiate it. How you bought it. How it felt to drive it off the lot.

Be as descriptive as possible. From start to finish. You wanted it, dreamt about it. Slept and ate the new car. You put together your resources and made it happen. Get as specific as possible. Each time you do this you may add more details.

Act As If You Are Blessed

When you look back a day or later after you already have what you want, you can fill in what you did. What was your plan. How did you go about it. What was the process. This helps make it even more vivid and real for you

The more real, the more you can feel it and live it inside the better it is. This is precisely what you want to do. You want to make this imaginary process feel absolutely real. You want to be able to taste it. It is yours what does that feel like exactly to have your dream?

Spend time visualizing and acting as if. You can imagine driving your new car while you drive your old car. What it would feel like if you already had everything you want. Use you imagination daily. Occupy your thoughts with the reality of having what you want.

If You Want A Quality Act As If You Already Have It

Feel good about how you positively and honestly made it happen. Celebrate it and feel good you accomplished this. As you do your instruct your subconscious mind through the powerful feelings and images to help you make this happen.

When it gets the message it goes to work pulling together your resources to help you bring about. If you can see it in your head you can one day hold it in your hand. ACT AS IF is a powerful positive tool to help YOU make your dreams come true. Understand?

Use it. Vision boards and dream journals help you do the same. You imagine already being there on that vacation, in that new job. To assist you write in your journal how you already have it, what you did and how it feels. That will help you visualize your dream as well.

Act As If You Are Already Happy

Keep a daily diary and log for your goal. Write it in present and past tense. You have it now how did you go about getting it? How does it feel and what did you feel as you made it happen? Use the same vivid detail. This helps those who claim they can’t visualize well.

Walk around work as if you had a few million dollars in the bank. Don’t be a dick about it, don’t brag about it just get a sense of how you would feel and walk and move and think if that were actually the case. Embody it. Feel it. Imagine it to be true.  Understand?

You are filling yourself with being already that which you want to become. You can affirm it, ‘I am rich. I feel fabulous. I have my new car and it is awesome. I have confidence. I have love. I am a positive thinker. I am a powerful creator. I can learn easily’.

Act As If Your Every Desire Were Already Here

Whatever follows ‘I am’ or ‘I have’, etc., are declarations and are positive and powerful in the present tense. Most people use them to get what they don’t want. ‘I am stupid. I have no money. I am broke. I suck.’ Stop that! It works either way. Use it for what you DO want!

Stop getting what you don’t want. Instead, promote what you want in your thoughts, your feelings and your actions. Manage your self-talk and keep it positive. What you say is what you get. What you focus on expands.

If You Don’t Act On Life Life Will Act On You

What you think about most often you become because of the powerful feelings you generate. Use the power of your mind, use the power of ‘Act As If’ to make your dreams come true. When you do this you are harnessing and putting to good use the power of your mind and you desire to achieve your dreams. Then keep going until you arrive. In the meantime, celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Don’t Miss This Critical Point Few Realize: You Are Already That!

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“What do you need to move forward? What do  most people need? Did you know that everything you need is within your reach. It is so close to most people, most people miss it. All you need to do to make massive, positive, powerful changes is wake up to it, recognize it, claim it and utilize it. This is a simple, but powerful message.

You are already that which you seek. You already have all the resources within you. You are the divine and simply forgotten. My job is only to remind you. Much of what I share is ancient wisdom handed down through the ages. I assembled what I have delved into, researched, simplified and synthesized for 4 decades.

I am not able to add anything to you, no one can. You can come into your own, realize who you are and the power you have within. All I really do through this blog, workshops, seminars, talks and materials is attempt to remind you. You are truly already that which you seek. You are playing that divine game of hide and seek.

Creating A Life You Love Takes Dedication

Your brain is designed so marvelously. It works, barring neurological damage, perfectly well. We grow up learning and absorbing what we do from those around us. Their learning, experiences and previous conditioning becomes ours through absorption. We learn by listening, modeling and experience.

None of what we learn is true. It isn’t untrue. It just is whatever it is. The best way to think about it is this way; it is either supportive or non-supportive, uplifting or not. It either helps us fulfill ourselves and live the lives we want or it doesn’t. It doesn’t matter whether it is actually true we believe it to be. We believe many false things.

When I and others before me, and around me, say you can take control of your brain, your mind, your thoughts and direct them to get what we want in life we mean it. The incredible creative and transformative power of being in charge of your thinking is amazing and we want you to experience it. You can. You really can.

It Is Fun To Live On Purpose

You don’t need anything added to you, except perhaps reminders, for you to assume control and begin to condition your mind to replace old unsupportive programs with new, updated supportive ones. You use the resources within yourself to exercise your will to accomplish this and your dreams.

It begins within you. Mentors and coaches can help and do but you must realize it is up to you to do it. We can’t do it for you. No coach can win the medal for the athlete. The athlete is the one who performs. It is the same thing here. We can model, guide, show, instruct, correct and remind, we can be a wake up call and that is it.

Everything else is your responsibility. If you want to create all the goodness you can enjoy realize you are already creating everything in your life good and not so good. The first step is your awareness as a creator. The first step is become aware and take full responsibility for EVERYTHING. No blaming or excusing. Time to own up.

Success Is A Deliberate Act

When you realize each moment is what you make it you realize incredible power to determine how you want your moments to be. You decide, is this a supportive or not? Is this bringing me increase or decrease? Is this what I want or don’t want? Then focus on what you want, that which increases enjoyment and is supportive.

You create, attract, manifest, make happen, allow, everything that is in your life right now. You will create, attract, manifest, make happen and allow everything that you have in your life in the next moment and beyond. NO one else is doing it to or for you but you. Remember, you are divine but have forgotten it.

You are made up of everything else there is. You are made of the same star dust as is everything else. You are vibrations, you are energy, atoms assembled as a bag of skin and bone, a carbon based biped but in it all you are the same energy with all that is. You are one and the same. You have the wisdom of the eons within you.

Direct Your Manifesting Powers

You are an expression of all that is and has ever  been. You can believe it or not. It doesn’t matter. Believe what is supportive, positive and leads to your increase. Believe what helps you live your dreams while allowing others to live theirs. Believe what brings you greater happiness, love, success and positivity.

Your power comes from your thoughts, your beliefs and the decisions you make. You either decide to assume responsibility and control or you decide to allow others that responsibility and control. One brings you greater freedom than the other. One allows you to live your bliss the other to suffer more. Still, only you can decide.

My job, a mentor or coaches job, is to be the wake up call, the alarm clock, the voice in the wilderness, the loving family member who nags you into doing it. We invite. I invite you to begin to live an incredible life if you aren’t happy with the life you have so far. If you want better you can have better and allow others the same.

Live Your Truth

So the reminder I invite you to look into each day, with each blog, each talk, each workshop, each daily discussion is to remember how wonderful you are and what an incredible creator you are. You already are. The question is only this, are you creating what you want to have that delights you and brings you more of the same?

If not, then begin now. The power is in your very next decision. Live the life of your dreams by recognizing who you are and what you are capable of. Begin to aim your focus at all that is good, right, working, supportive, positive and up-lifting. Enjoy, appreciate and celebrate whatever you have already created. Acknowledge your strength.

Even if you lacked good taste or judgement or positive know how until now, accept and celebrate. Be thankful you realize you are responsible because that allows you to focus on what you prefer. Manage your thoughts focus on what you want to have. Instead of being a haphazard creator become a deliberate creator.

When You Change Your Focus You Can Change Anything

Include that which is wonderful and focus on that to the exclusion of all else. Allow yourself to use your heart and mind to create the career, love, happiness, success, wealth, health you want to have. Bring about what you think about because you already do. Use good taste and good judgement to make your life blissful.

Fill each moment with delight, appreciation, feeling wonderful, and you will have more of the same. You will create it, attract it because you will be it do it and have it. Remember, who you are. You are responsible. You can deliberately create. That is your future and it begins right now. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Celebrate, Celebrate dance to the music!

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The 80/20 Rule: Are You Using It For Or Against Yourself?

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“There is a reason why some people get what they want while others don’t. Did you know that? Would you like to know what it is? Better yet, would you like to know how to consistently get what you desire? Read on!

Frankly, the notion of getting is incorrect. It is more accurate to state, people ‘get’ what they make happen. It is true we are able to attract others, even events and circumstances. We attract, either positive or negative. BUT mostly, we create it and make it happen.

It Is More Important To Think In Terms Of What You Create

The Pareto Principle, named for an Italian Economist, is usually explained this way. 80% of productive accomplishment, in a company, is performed by only 20% of the workers. 80% of a company’s profits come from 20% of its customers sales.

80% of your positive results come about if you spend 20% of your time devoted to thinking and feeling your best. This means that most people aren’t spending even 20% of their time, energy or effort being positive, feeling great and making their dreams come true.

If you can’t spend even 20% of your time dedicated to your purpose, dedicated to having a wonderful fulfilling life, why should you expect to ever have one? This is why people believe in magic, the expect something from outside themselves to make it all better.

You Bring About What You Think About Most Of The Time

It doesn’t work that way. The Law Of Attraction, if you choose to believe in that, doesn’t work that way. You will attract negative or positive, whatever you spend the most time being, doing. Like attracts like. What you think most often you become!

If you want to feel great you must put your energy into tipping the scales toward feeling great. If you don’t do at least the minimum why should you expect any change. That is simply silly. Your goal should be to feel good 50, 60, 80% of the time.

Start with whatever you can do. 5% heck even 1% more positive will make a difference. Then work your way up. Increase it bit by bit. Focus on the positive. Focus on what you CAN DO. Focus on gratitude and celebration. It will make an incredible difference.

What You  See, Say, And Feel Is What You Get

Then as you begin to  feel great a greater percent of your time you will make happen what you want to make happen. You will build momentum. If you feel good and are vibrating all that well being you will attract others, events, circumstances and the good you desire.

If your thoughts and feelings are on your dreams and you feel delighted you will make it happen quickly. The issue is that most of people’s 20%, heck most people’s 80% is spent taking care of business, feeding the dogs, picking up poop literally and figuratively.

They are putting out fires, distracted by news and gossip, fighting traffic or their family members, paying bills, worrying about how to make ends meet. In other words they ain’t living large and having fun most of the time. Their time is wasted. They are distracted. Are you?

Speak Only To Heal Bless And Prosper

We get what we predominantly think about and feel back into our lives. If our lives are scattered, ho-hum and so-so that is what we get back. If it is filled with chaos and upheavals that is what returns to us. Why would you ever expect it to be any different than that?

If it is filled with joy, love, confidence and feeling healthy, wealthy and happy then more of the same is immediately ours. Think increase. How can you increase the amount of time you spend focused on all the good things? You can if you really want to.

Where and how we spend the majority of our time, inside our heads, and by what we say to ourselves and others, determines how we feel and  the quality of our results and our life. You want better? Start thinking and feeling better right now. Begin by feeling grateful.

Focus Focus Focus Focus Focus Focus Focus

Find whatever you can enjoy and focus on it. Celebrate whatever you have and more will be added. If you aim yourself well you will find and hit the target. A little goes a long way. Make it a point to maximize what you do. THINK INCREASE. Bit by bit!

You are either increasing or decreasing or remaining the same. Do the little positive things that add up. Up your odds by upping your percentages. If 20% brings good results. Imagine if you were 80% positive what you might be able to bring about. Imagine that!

You, at least, have to be doing 20% to get somewhere better. I think 51/49 or 60/40 or EVEN MORE is the way you want to live BUT you first have to start and then build your way up. You can do this. Get it? Good. Now make it happen! Increase bit by bit, work your way up and you will begin to notice wonderful results beginning to happen. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

It’s your day. Fill it with joy.

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