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Mindset Matters: How Not To Turn Mole Hills Into Mountains

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“How we view things often determines how we go through things. If you perceive something as a problem it certainly is. If you can perceive it as an opportunity it can be. Our mindset is powerful. Some would argue problems are problems and nothing changes.

Oh, but it does. You’ve heard the expression, ‘don’t make mountains out of mole hills’. That expression encourages us not to make big things from little things. Sometimes, that is just what we do. We exaggerate our difficulties and make them larger than they are.

The ideal mindset is, ‘I am bigger than any obstacle or challenge’. You are. You certainly are if you believe you are. Our mind is a wonderful resource, that has been conditioned to oppose us, since birth. We need to claim it back and make it work for us, how we want it to.

Perception Right Or Wrong Influences Everything You Do

It works perfectly, doing what it learned to do. It is on channel 7 and we need to change it to channel 2. We simply are watching the wrong programs. We don’t believe we are enough. We think our problems insurmountable. We worry about money. On and on!

Most of the way we learn to think we inherited from others while we were to young to know any better. We didn’t choose our thoughts. NOW, we can. Now we must if we want to be free from chronic old conditioning that limits us and causes us pain.

Anything can be viewed from multiple angles. Our point of view is only one of many. There are differing opinions on everything possible to discuss. Yet, typically, we think our version of reality is the one true version of reality. It isn’t. AND in some ways it is.

Positive Mind – Positive Vibes – Positive Life – It’s A Reflection

If we are locked into it then, yes, it is the only choice we know and act from. It is not the only choice there is. Waking up to other choices means we can begin to think, feel, speak and act differently. We can begin to get different results when we think differently.

When we choose differently we get different outcomes. It is more desirable to be flexible than inflexible. A tall strong reed bends with the wind while those too rigid snap. It is in our best interests to learn to adopt mindsets that serve us and allow us to evolve flexibly.

If you could begin to view all difficulties as opportunities your life would radically improve. If you chose to look at all opportunities as blessings that you chose to help you grow your life would improve beyond belief. Why don’t you do that? Because of prior conditioning.

Facts Matter Not At All – Perception Is Everything – It’s Certainty

You have your reasons and excuses. I have mine. We all do. The fact of the matter is none of them are real. We only think they are. Our points of view, our beliefs are interchangeable only most of don’t think that they are. We don’t think differently is the issue. We can.

We can think differently. However, now it is a choice. We aren’t being unconsciously programmed as we once were. We’re no longer growing up assimilating beliefs, values, reasons, excuses and blames. Now we consciously choose and consciously implement.

It is different now that it is a choice. It is simple but not always easy. We are choosing the program instead of being programmed. Once we do we learn we have amazing strengths we didn’t know we had. There is a huge upside to choosing what to think, today.

Your Life Is What Your Thoughts Make It – Attitude Is Everything

I hope you will. Put on the point of view that everything you experience is your choice and you choose to think of it as a blessing and opportunity. If you have been following my blog for awhile you know that I don’t care whether it is ‘true’ or not. We act as if it is.

It is your mindset, your mental filter. It is your adopted point of view or new belief. You choose it to guide you in thinking and being. You stop viewing problems as obstacles and problems and view them as lessons, blessings and opportunities you choose for your own good.

Pretend you have a higher wisdom that knows better than you what you actually need. Your life is designed to bring you great joy when you evolve to higher, more aware, levels. Each opportunity, whether tough or easy is designed for that purpose. To help you evolve more.

Mindset Is Everything – What You Think You Become 

It is there to serve you, make you a better person and help you to have a better life because of it. If the opportunity were not there you would be missing out on many important things. All of it is to serve you. You deserve the best. Yet, I know some will object.

I am suggesting consciously choosing to imagine how things might be, how they can be. I am suggesting you utilize a different filter to think about problems and issues. The choice to do is yours completely. However, if you always do what you always did…

You will always get what you always got. Nothing will change unless and until you change it. Find the frames that serve you best. Find the mindset that makes you invincible and unstoppable. Find the thoughts that make you feel wonderful and the most joy, most often.

If You Think You Can Or Your Think You Can’t – You Are Right

Choose to make your life what it can be. Don’t settle for less than the best for yourself. Learn to be and stay positive. Become powerful and don’t quit. Make your dreams come true. Transform difficulty into opportunity and become richer in mind, heart and deed. Find gratitude for all events and circumstances. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Become delighted.

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The Real Secret To Stop Losing And Becoming A Winner!

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“Believe it or not there is a real art to winning and losing. To lose all you must do is not think and do certain things. In order to win you must think and do certain things AND not think and do other things. Knowing the difference IS what separates winners from losers.

Positive thinking is NOT sitting in front of your garden thinking over and over again, ‘there are no weeds, there are no weeds’. That is not what positive thinking is at all. Any one who tells you it is, is mistaken. They don’t understand what a positive mental attitude is.

Your Life Improves When You Decide To Control Your Thoughts 

Positive thinking is, ‘I can easily weed this garden and make it beautiful. I’m going  to make this garden beautiful.’ Then it is tending to the garden. Then it is weeding and planting and making it beautiful. The weeds don’t prevent you. Nothing stops you.

Positive thinking is developing the correct, or right, mindset to make getting your goals the easiest and swiftest. It isn’t fantasy, sitting in your room , thinking and visualizing ‘money rains down on me’. It is thinking, ‘I can easily and quickly make all the money I need.’

Whether You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You’re Right

‘I have all the resources. I am rich in many ways.’ Then going and doing whatever you need to in order to make the money honestly. Positive thinking means your attitude is in place and your feel positive.  You feel unstoppable and invincible.

You feel you can do it. ‘To enjoy enduring success one must travel a little in advance of the world.’ You are mentally and emotionally prepared and equipped to handle whatever challenges come your way. You are mentally, emotionally and behaviorally resourceful.

Your Mind Is Powerful – Train It To See Good In Every Situation

You thoughts are ‘I can do it’ thoughts. You don’t win a game thinking, ‘crap I am going to lose. I am a loser’. You have a better chance succeeding thinking the thoughts of a champion. Thought leads to feelings and feelings lead to actions. Actions lead to habits.

Habits lead to results. We all have success habits and unsuccessful habits. We want and need to develop more success habits than unsuccessful habits. Success habits are learning and doing, and creating a positive means to accomplish your goal.

Nothing Changes Until You Change – Then Everything Changes

Unsuccessful habits are doubt, fear, worry, procrastination, fanciful thinking, laziness. In order to get to Paris you must take the steps necessary. First and foremost you must believe you can and that you will.  Then you do those things that get you closer and closer.

Never let anyone tell you positive thinking isn’t important. It is vitally important. It is the first step in getting your dreams and desires. You must know what you want and you must know that you can achieve it. If you can conceive it and believe it, it can be yours.

Determine How You Are Going To Live Your Life – Decide Now

It can be yours BECAUSE you make it happen. You are an unstoppable force that gets your goals. Your mind and emotions and behaviors and habits are all aligned to get successful results. Positive thinking IS necessary to win. Never think otherwise.

Those who say it isn’t either don’t understand what it is or have another agenda. It is an inner game, after all. From within to without. Our results begin with our thoughts. Make certain you are thinking powerfully and productively and that you take action.

Don’t Make Excuses – Make Results – Winning Is A Habit

To know and not to do is to not know. To know and not apply the knowledge is fruitless. To get what you want you must take action steps. You can’t sit in your room and teleport yourself to Paris but you can take action steps to actually get there. Think it and DO it!

Your thoughts are powerful. They either move you forward or you let yourself be held back by them. Think powerful, positive thoughts. Develop a winner’s attitude. Have the steel will of a champion. Become a victor. Be grateful and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

The day becomes as you make it!

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Do You Know How To Stop Suffering And Start Living?

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“Why do many people suffer and feel in pain? Often, it is something we do. If you suffer or are frustrated would you like to learn a new way to be, think and do? Would you like to end most of your suffering and begin to feel much better more often.

Much suffering is caused by how we use our minds. It is what we focus on. We can put an end to lots of personal suffering by changing how we use or mind and what we focus on. We can create new thought habits. There are those who can shut out pain and suffering.

Certain meditators and spiritual practitioners learn to control their focus of attention to such a degree that they can withstand much physical pain. They train so they can also endure mental and emotional pain and overcome it. They gain control, they take charge.

Why Am I Happy – I Feel Grateful Thankful And Blessed Every Day

We use correct repetition. What is correct repetition? It is doing the right thing, the right way, over again. We repeat it. We can practice the piano or a golf swing, for example, correctly or incorrectly. If we want to get good we need to do it the correct way each time.

By using correct repetition, consistently, we engage in the practice for a long enough time to make it a new reliable habit. That is how habits are born or acquired. It takes about a month to begin to form a new habit. 30 days from now you can be wonderfully different!

That is a guideline time for forming new habits. It depends on you. If you do the right thing consistently for a long enough period of time you will wire it in. Once the new habit begins to form it gets easier and easier. You enjoy it more and more! Okay, now, back to the pain.

The Smile On My Face Means I Appreciate My Blessings

Comparison creates pain. We compare ourselves to others; how tall or short; fat or thin we are; how good looking or not good looking; how rich or poor or what kind of things they have that we don’t. We try to keep up with the Jones. We hurt because we compare.

We compare where we are to where we want to be. We decided we want to work with the Law of Attraction, then we compare how fast or slow we got what we are working on. If it is not fast enough we suffer. If we don’t yet have it we complain it isn’t working.

We compare time frames.  We compare where we are today to  how far we have yet to go. If it is a long way off we suffer or get frustrated Most often, what we compare causes our suffering. It can be used it to find out how you are better off. You can us it to feel better too.

A Beautiful Day Begins With A Beautiful Mindset

Compare today to how you were before. Notice how you have evolved. Determine how far you have moved ahead and how blessed you have become. Look back and connect the dots with what you didn’t have to what you now do have. Feel fortunate. Use it wisely.

Make comparison work for you instead of against you. Live, laugh love and celebrate.  Drop painful comparison, let it go. Begin appreciating where you are. Be filled with gratitude for who you are, what you are, how you are, when you are, and where you are.

If you can come to understand that everything is perfect right at this moment you will always feel blessed. Yes, you weren’t brought up believing that, most likely. You were probably brought up to strive to get ahead and complain about circumstances not to your liking.

Every New Day Is An Opportunity To Feel Blessed For All Of It

I was. If you are able to adopt the mindset that everything is perfect then you are always blessed. It doesn’t mean you can’t change it, it means changing it is part of being perfect. Challenges are blessings. It means there is always something good about it right now.

You can find a lesson to learn from, or the seed of an opportunity that might germinate and take hold if you allow it and nurture it. Nothing is over, we are always in a process. We are always right where we are in this process. Let go, accept and enjoy it all.

It is a journey and wherever we are along the way is an exploration and an adventure. Adventures have ups and downs. It is what makes many carnival rides fun. Life can be fun too. Stop suffering by comparing and start living large by accepting.

The Situation Will Ultimately Be To Your Benefit – So Be Happy

The moment you start acting like like is a blessing is the moment it will start to feel like one. Discover the thousands of reasons you have to feel blessed. Choose to feel blessed! Choose to feel happy. Choose to feel exited. Choose to feel grateful and appreciative. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Bring a smile to your lips more often!

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Distraction Can Be Worse Than Negativity

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“The idea is to live in advance of the world. You think and feel, you embody the thoughts and feelings of that future you, right now in your present. For example, you want to be a multi-millionaire. You’re not one yet. How does a multimillionaire think, feel and behave?

You might ask yourself; how does a multi-millionaire get dressed in the morning; what does a multi-millionaire think about while driving to the office or the golf course; how does a multi-millionaire feel driving a car; what would a multi-millionaire do in this situation?

Of course, the idea is, you are that multi-millionaire. How are you thinking, feeling, behaving and having what you want in life? What is your daily life like, your work and your leisure? What does it feel like to pay bills, purchase things, go places you want to go? What’s it like?

Focus On Your Goal Don’t Look In Any Other Direction But Ahead

What’s it like being rich? Get a feel for that. Be rich in mind and body and spirit first and you create and attract wealth to you. From within to without. You ARE it first and THEN you get it. You live it and it becomes reality. That is how it works. Focus on being it first.

What do we do that prevents us? Some people doubt, fear and worry it will never happen. That stops the energy flow. Some live thinking mostly negative thoughts. That keeps one from getting ahead. What you say and see is what you get. Negativity sucks!

What you express on a daily basis, moment to moment, to yourself and others, and imagine in your mind, is what you create. If you are rehashing troubles, difficult times, and the a-hole from the freeway you end up getting back more of the same. We get more of the same.

Don’t Get Sidetracked – Stay On Course – Keep It In Mind

All of this should be obvious. If you read positive, inspirational material, like Hill, Hicks, Wattles, Emmerson, and others then you know energy flows where attention goes. You must vibrate in alignment with your desires. Vibration is important,

You get who you are over and above what you want. Do you understand this. Here is an example. A poor person may want riches but focuses on lack and struggles so that person creates and get more of the same. It is why the rich get richer and poor get poorer.

One reason, at least. Become it and you can have it is the rule. Negativity, doubt, fear, and worry won’t make it happen for you. You get more of the back. There is something else even more of us do that prevents it. Distraction. We are distracted. Pettiness rules.

Stay Focused On What You Want – Don’t Doubt Yourself – Believe

We focus on petty things, issues, gossip, the news, the freeway, the weather, what the neighbors are or aren’t doing. We live our lives with petty concerns. We aren’t living our lives as a multi-millionaire would we are doing what we have always done. So we get that back.

We keep getting what we have been doing all along. In order to get something new and better we have to change things and become new and better. We can’t continue the way we are and expect things to miraculously change. We re-create what is already going on!

We’re not be severely negative. We just aren’t positive most of the time. We aren’t living the future ‘as if’, as if it were right now. We are living now with petty frustrations and ho-hum moments. So we get more ho-hum. We need to fill life with love, laughter and celebration.

Life Is Like A Camera – It Captures Perfectly What You Focus It On

We need to be rich in mind, spirit, heart and wallet. It begins in the mind with who and what we are. If we major in minor things we are only going to get minor things back. We need to ‘BE IT’ to do it and have it. Then THAT becomes our habit and our results improve.

Do you understand this? It may be there is nothing terribly wrong. No major massive negativity. It is just the subtle undercurrent of ‘oh well, same stuff different day’ that keeps us creating the same stuff each day. We need to create differently to create differences.

Gratitude, celebration, delight, enjoyment, fun, a wealthy, healthy mindset, incredible feelings lead to positive inspired actions. Done consistently over time these become habits or lifestyle. Living this way increases the possibilities and opportunities for you.

The Secret To Change – Stop Fighting The Old – Build The New

Your life changes AFTER you change. Make the change and then everything can change. So what would a happy, healthy, multi-millionaire think, feel and do to make life more wonderful? Bring that attitude to everything you do. Bring it to your work, your travel.

Bring it to you problem solving and issues. How would a successful multi-millionaire deal with this? Would it be a big deal or not? Get it? Create the mindset. If everything in your life was glorious and you were absolutely the person you want to be how would you handle it?

What you you think and feel and do as you go through each moment of your day? You’d have a different energy and vitality, that is for certain. You’d have different awarenesses and understandings? This is what you want to embody and embrace. This, IS becoming!

Focus Is Defined As – F allow One Course Until Successful 

You become what you think about most often! Create the ideal you. Live it right this moment. Then, experience how life transforms. Stop the negativity. Put an end to the distractions. Live powerfully and positively. Feel the best you can. Enjoy each moment. Savor it all.  Delight. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Choose to enjoy each moment today!

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Gold Is Hidden In The Dirt But You Won’t Find It If You Never Look

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“When you are troubled and things aren’t going your way do you think and feel you are at your optimum? Most people say no. Sadly, that is accurate. Most people get preoccupied with the issues troubling them. Their attention, focus and energy get drained.

This is why a negative mind state isn’t useful. It is detrimental. You can’t operate at your peak if you aren’t thinking and feeling your best. Most people try to solve the issue by figuring out what to do and by working harder at it and that rarely works well.

It is better to get your mind thinking clearly and your feelings supporting your resourcefulness so you can move forward instead of remaining stuck in one spot trying to work things out. Attitude and energy is far more important in these instances than much else.

Nothing  Can Stop The Person With The Right Mental Attitude

Some people resort to whining, excusing and blaming. They blame themselves, others or outer circumstances, god, the weather, the banks and more. Finding the culprit doesn’t do much.  It may be satisfying for an instant but in the long run solves little or nothing.

Taking responsibility, even when one might not feel it is theirs, gives one incredible power to  begin to make positive changes. One assumes control over self and circumstances. This helps each of us to marshall our resources and apply them thoughtfully as needed.

Otherwise, we waste much time looking in the wrong places for the wrong things. When we look within ourselves we can find a vast treasure house of experiences of all kinds that can help us in any difficult situation. The beginning of positive change is awareness.

Nothing Can Help The Person With The Wrong Mental Attitude

When we take control of our mind and feelings by guarding our thoughts to keep them uplifting and useful we are learning to exercise a powerful gift. The ability to choose how we think and feel in any situation. It isn’t easy to do at first, but then, few things are.

Napoleon Hill wrote, ‘A positive mental attitude is the habit of looking upon all unpleasant circumstances with which one meets as merely opportunities for one to test one’s capacity to rise above them by searching for that ‘seed of  an equivalent benefit’ and putting it to work.’

If we can examine each situation we are in and find the good, find the gold, find the benefit we are accomplishing some important things. One is we are making a habit of finding the good. We are training are mind to work in a particular direction to benefit us. This is great!

A Positive Attitude Is The Seeking What Can Be Accomplished

Second, we are finding the benefit and potentially the learning we can extract from the difficulty. Not only have we trained our mind in a positive beneficial way but we are learning and discovering benefits to apply. We are growing and evolving. We use the benefits.

Plus, we are finding opportunity where few would think to look. Often, the gold is so hidden in the dirt it sin’t obvious unless you look  hard, and sometimes long. In addition, we are getting out of our own way, out of the muck and mire and releasing our energy and feelings.

We can think clearer, and act better when our thinking and feeling is right. We move in inspired ways to take action instead of from worry, fear or doubt. There are many additional benefits to gain from making the effort to adopt a positive mindset.

A Positive Mental Attitude Helps You Do Everything Better

Hill further states, ‘A PMA is the habit of keeping the mind busily engaged in connection with the circumstances  and things one  desires in life, and OFF the things one does not desire’. Focus and concentration is maintained on what we want to be, do and have.

We focus on who we are and want to be not what is lacking or wrong. This gives us the ability to achieve rather than consuming us with the problem. Our energy is focused in what we can and will do as opposed to what we can’t and won’t do. Mindset is everything!

What we ‘don’t want’ IS useful to help us clarify what we do want. Once we totally know what we don’t want we SHIFT and aim our attention on what we want to be, do and have. We focus on what we want to create and not on what holds us back or keeps us down.

All Skill To Think And Do Is Acquired By Repetition And Repetition 

My hope for all my readers, especially those who haven’t yet made use of the opportunity life gives them,  is to learn to take control of their minds. Your mind is a powerful tool that can be focused like a laser to help you get what you want most in life.

It can also be used to screw you up and hold you back until you take control. It is a wonderful servant and a terrible master. Take control. One of the easiest ways is to begin with  the simple awareness of what is already good in your life and focus on that. Appreciate it all.

Sometimes it can be difficult to find, but it is the habit of finding the benefit within the hardship that is important to develop. Find people, and things about them, your world and yourself to be grateful about and emphasize them. Think and feel the gratitude.

We Are What We Repeatedly Do – Success Is A Habit

Make a list. Do it daily. Often! In finding what is already good you open your mind to finding more good now and to creating it later. You build an important habit. You get your mind and feelings supporting you. It can take some time or be nearly instant.

Most things take awhile so keep at it until you break through. Usefully, pretty soon you will notice a shift occurring. It gets better and easier. Then guess what. You will be tested. Something will happen that will provide you the opportunity to test your mettle.

Life just happens that way. Then you either rise or fall. Whichever occurs use it to learn and benefit from. If you fall get up again, as many times as you need to, in order to move ahead. This is how habits and control are formed. You need to use them in tough times.

The Habit Of Persisting Is The Habit Of Victory

If it were never tough you wouldn’t need the abilities. Yet, this is where most people drop out. They exclaim, ‘I was doing everything I should and then things went bad and suck. This stuff doesn’t work.’ IT WORKS you have to learn to apply it where it counts!! Get it?

You need to learn control and use it when times are tough. Don’t buckle. But if you do, get back on top again. Pat yourself on the back for doing whatever you did, be grateful to become aware and have the opportunity to use what you are learning. Then do it! Apply it.

Stay grateful. Keep looking for benefit. Affirm the positive. Focus on who you are that is wonderful already and who you want to become. Stick with it. Enjoy, delight, be strong when necessary. Guard your thoughts and self-talk. Be the author of your own life story. Be the master of your thoughts and feelings. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Decide now to have a most wonderful day!

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To Enjoy Greater Happiness And Success You Must Be A Positive Flexible Thinker

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“What does it mean to be a positive thinker? Seems many people today are under the wrong assumptions. Maintaining a positive mental attitude is one of the top indicators of potential success. Without the right attitude and dedication few get very far.

My recent post discussed the benefits of positive thinking on the brain and the detrimental effects of negative thinking. Today, we realize it is not just a cheery, greeting card, rosy glasses type of facade. It is a potent power that actually changes brain structure.

Some have cautioned people to not think positive because if they do and then they don’t get what they wish for they might be more disappointed than if they hadn’t thought positive about it first. That is negative thinking. Better not do it because it might not work.

Positive Results Never Come From Negative Thoughts

Hogwash at its best. Don’t do anything, don’t think about it, don’t try because if you don’t succeed you’ll be worse off. Better you do nothing than disappoint yourself. How sad is this line of thought. Stay stuck. Rely on psychologists OR WORSE psychiatrists.

A useful definition of positive thinking is this statement by Napoleon Hill.  ‘Flexibility, perhaps, can best be described as the ability to survey and assess a given situation swiftly and react to it on the basis of logic and reason with a minimum of emotion.’

‘By developing flexibility you are prepared to take prompt action in seizing opportunity or problem solving. It can help you become decisive.’ That’s a pretty accurate description of positive thinking. The ability to asses, take right action, for solutions or opportunity.

Believe You Can And You Are Half Way There

Hill maintained, as others have, that you can control your own mind. He felt it imperative that all people learn to do this. He emphasized the ability to direct your mind productively without getting caught up in less than glorious emotions that might drive or influence you.

A PMA is desirable in taking advantage of opportunity and problem solving. One focuses on the advantage or the solution not the problem. The problem helps you define what is needed, then your attention is turned to the solution. It is about what you CAN DO!

Drop the problem. If you are broke, okay you know that, now focus on what you need to do to make money. Stop concentrating on broke and stop complaining about it. Stop thinking about what you can’t do. Move on. Move forward. Stop staying stuck and focused on past.

We Are Shaped By Our Thoughts – We Become What We Think

Think what you can do. Think about what you want. Work to make that happen. Don’t just sit and wish for a change. Be active in bringing change about. That is positive thinking. Positive thinking leads to inspired action because you FEEL like you can do it.

Thoughts lead to feelings – so chose the best thoughts and get the best feelings. Feelings lead to actions. Actions lead to habits when repeated over time. Actions lead to results. If you want great results you begin with great thoughts. THINK and grow rich! Remember!

Hill went on to say, ‘flexibility is the one trait that softens poverty and adorns riches, for it helps you be grateful for your blessings and unabashed by misfortune. It can also help you to make beneficial use of every experience of life, whether pleasant or unpleasant.’

Positive Thoughts And Actions – Produce Positive Results

As Henry Ford said, ‘whether you think you can or you can’t, you are right.’ YOU determine what will be. Think positive and you will get further faster than if you think negative. Your brain will help look for those opportunities and solutions. It is designed to do this.

You grow new neural pathways and develop success habits that support you. It is a win to learn how to control and condition your mind positively. The secret to success is to learn to be successful at managing your thoughts and feelings. Learn this kind of self-control. When you do, the world can be your oyster. Take charge, delight in all, and celebrate everything.” Rex Sikes

How much fun can you stand to have today?

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Creating The Future, Learning, Positive Thinking, Unlimited Power

How To Stay Young, Free And Independent In Mind, Body And Spirit

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Today’ blog is an audio blog. I was interviewed by Lori Dean for airplay on a radio station fall of 2015.  I received the raw mp3 of that discussion a day or two ago. The discussion we had is on how we use our mind’s to be happier and successful.

Lori Dean Interviews Rex Sikes

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How To Use Negative Thinking To Be Happy And Successful

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“Today’s post is a response to a reader’s question. Ramesh asked, ‘You say that what you focus on expands. In EFT, one keeps repeating  “the pain ” and tapping the specific points.

While repeating the word pain aren’t we focusing on it more? Yet people are feeling better. This may not be your subject, yet I feel like taking your views is important for me’.

‘Thanks Ramesh. You raise an excellent question. What you focus on and give your energy to does expand. We become what we think about MOST of the time.

What You Focus On Expands

All of us have negative thoughts from time to time. It is human. All thoughts are human. What is it we are concentrated on most is the question? Are we predominantly positive or negative?

If we thought about pain constantly that is what we would get more of BECAUSE we are constantly focused on it. That is why sometimes while in pain it is difficult. It is hard to feel comfort thinking pain.

Our negative thoughts don’t need to be run from, but controlled. Our negative thoughts and feelings indicate that something may be amiss. It may be an area that requires our attention.

What You Think About You Bring About

For example, we may need to pay our bills. That is the reality. If we think, ‘I have to pay my bills, but I don’t have enough money’ that is what circumstances indicate.

If one stops there and continues to think, ‘I am broke, I have nothing, I will never get ahead, I will go bankrupt, the worse is coming’, then we are continuing to focus on the poverty of our circumstance.

Then it does expands. Energy put into it brings about more of the same. If instead, you think, ‘Okay, bills, money, how can I work to find more money? What positive things can I do to improve my situation, who can I call?’ You are proactively moving to positive.

What You Think About Most Often You Become

‘There is more than enough money in the universe how can I get some more? There is plenty and I can find it. I can be free. I am learning to become richer. What positive steps can I take.’

‘I’m going to do a job search and find something. I can succeed. I am a victor over circumstances. I can make good things happen. I always land on my feet. Good things come to me. I am a powerful creator. I can do this…’

One set of thoughts leads us to spiral down or stay stuck. The other leads to feeling better and positive action. Even the negative thoughts can be freeing. We can use them to move ahead. Consider:

Today You Are Where Your Thoughts Brought You

‘I have no money. I am broke and going to go bankrupt. This sucks. I hate this. I am going to make sure this never ever happens again. I am going to turn this around. Never again!’

‘I hate being without money so I am going to find some honest ways to make sure I will always have plenty. Others have a lot I can have a lot too. There is more than enough to go around…’

We can use the negative thoughts, and the negative feelings of anger or frustration to propel us from the negative stuck, broke place, into a more productive positive place.

Tomorrow You Will Be Where Your Thoughts Take You

BUT only if we don’t throw a pity party and wallow in ‘poor, me I am stuck and life is terrible’. We have to change our focus. Remove it from the less than glorious and focus on the positive, or glorious.

In EFT you focus on the pain while interrupting the pattern or energy flow by tapping . You look for the source of the discomfort and change the energy going to it. You break it up.

BUT first you have to identify what it is you want to break up and release. So you focus on it briefly while you change it. You do not stay focused on it.

You Cannot Escape The Power Of Your Thoughts

You evaluate too. Is this better or worse? You continue the procedure until relieved. Once relived you focus on feeling good. Generally, you may have positive thoughts accompany the taps.

You move your thinking and the statements you make from the pain to the relief you experience. You progress from the less than glorious to relief and then potentially feeling better. Consider:

You were walking and you noticed your foot hurts. You can keep walking and continue feeling the pain and thinking ‘ouch, ouch that hurts, it hurts’ and do nothing. Or you take a look.

What You Hold In Head You Can Some Day Hold In Your Hand

You discover a pebble in your shoe. Your remove it, your foot is a little sore but now that the pebble is gone. You notice as you walk it feels better. Eventually, you forget all about the pebble.

Because you noticed it you removed it. If you keep think about the pebble causing pain, now, it would be odd. It would be foolish and it wouldn’t serve you. Instead, you forget about it.

You walk more comfortably. With the source of discomfort removed all is fine. You can stop there. Or you can think. ‘I am glad I can walk easily. I love walking. I am grateful for my feet.’

Thoughts Lead To Feelings Lead To Actions Lead To Results

‘I am grateful for my body’s ability to signal me. I enjoy moving through the world. All these years my feet have carried me to various places I am so lucky. I am lucky to have healthy feet…’

You could promote more positive feelings. In fact, it is a great thing to do. When off course, or focused in the wrong direction, correct and think better thoughts moving in the right direction.

The trick is to notice what is amiss and correct it. If off course while walking, driving, boating or flying, once you correct and get back on course you no longer think about having been off course.

If You Don’t Like Your Results Change Your Thoughts

While off course it doesn’t serve you to keep thinking ‘I am off course’. It is better to think ‘I am moving back onto course. I am finding my destination and moving to it.’

‘What must I change in order to correct it?’ Then implement the change, get back on course, and focus on where you are headed. Keep your eyes on where you want to go.

We are lucky we have signals that let us know when we are off course. Our feelings indicate when our thinking is less than glorious. This is great! We have signals. Our thoughts determine our feelings.

You Go Where Your Thoughts Take You

Our feelings determine our actions. Our actions determine our results. We never need to fear our thoughts rather we should master them. Take control of your mind and enjoy it!

Make it a point to think positive most of the time. If you notice you aren’t, change it. Put a guard in front of your mind so you think positive thoughts and only speak and express positive thoughts.

Speak only to bless, heal and prosper yourself and others. Your self talk and your conversations with family, friends and strangers. This helps you move forward and get more of what you want.

Positivity May Not Guarantee Success But Negativity Never Does

Occasionally, you will have a negative thought, something triggers a thought from your previous negative conditioning or you have a random stray negative thought for some reason. We all do.

Or perhaps, someone else, or from TV or media you see or hear or brings up some negative thought or thoughts. Okay, that is what happened. Acknowledge it and say or think, ‘no thanks’.

Or ‘thanks, but I prefer to think this instead’ and shift back into positive thinking. The preponderance of your thought and energy is what makes the difference.

The More We Do The More We Are Able To Do

What we entertain further and promote determines how we feel. If we are positive 95% of the time, 80% of the time, 75% 60% 55% 51% we are better off.

At about 50-50% we are in a holding pattern. Not so good not so bad but probably not what we want. We aren’t really progressing and may be keeping tough times locked in, because we are wishy washy.

Equal parts negative and positive. For change to occur we need to move in the direction of mostly positive. For some people they need to get to 50-50 first because they are mostly negative.

Skill Comes From Doing

It is a conditioning process like exercise. The more you do the more you can do. They more focused on the positive the more positive you create and attract. Eventually they move up to 55% then 62%.

Then 75% and on. This is how they make progress in the right direction. Things get better and better. Life may still present difficulty or even very difficult challenges. That is life.

The more positive they become the more they can navigate the difficulty they encounter. The more control they exercise over their thoughts the more control they gain. The better they get at it.

Positive Thinking Like Exercise Is A Conditioning Process

Focus your energy on being mostly positive so you don’t get caught up in the negative. A ‘can do’ person finds solutions much easier and quickly than slipping into being a ‘can’t do’ person.

The more practice you get being ‘can do’ the easier it is to remain one when the going gets tough. I hope I have answered your question. If not please ask again and I will attempt to be more helpful.

You helped me. I thought what will my blog be about today? Then I saw your question. I don’t know how many subscribers ever see comments so I decided to answer your question for the blog today.

Correct Repetition Builds Skill

I have benefited too. Perhaps together, you and I, will have helped others benefit as well. All is good. Best wishes, stay in touch and I hope this helped bring more clarity! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Habit Formation, Intentional Thinking, Living In The Moment, Positive Thinking

Want To Be Happy And Successful? Then You Must Learn This Habit!

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“To do what you have always done is easy. To do what is patterned, routine and habitual is both easy and efficient. That is how it is supposed to work.

Our brain makes habits of things so we don’t have to think through them consciously. Imagine having to relearn to drive every time you got in a car.

Instead, our brain makes habits. It lays down neural pathways. It streamlines. That is HOW our brains work. That is WHAT our brains work to do.

You Are Today Where Your Thoughts Have Brought You

That is why change can seem difficult. Because our lives are run mostly unconsciously. It is estimated we are 95-99 percent creatures of habit. We run most of the time on autopilot.

If we don’t like the results we are getting the good news is we can change our habits. We can create new ones to replace the old. We change, make new habits and overlay them on top of the old habits.

It takes a while to build the new habit. We  need to do it the same way we learned the original one through repetition over time. It takes getting used to the new programs.

Tomorrow You Will Be Where Your Thoughts Take You

Once we do they are as reliable as the old ones we replaced. Have you ever moved from one location to the other? For the first few days or weeks you’d discover yourself going the old way home.

That is what habit replacement is like. The old one, like the old home is still there. Sometimes you find yourself returning to the old way. One day, you no longer do. You simply go to the new address.

That is what it is like, because that IS what it is. You have laid the new habit over the old one and it takes the brain a bit to get used to doing the new one. Eventually it will. Eventually it does. Hooray!

You Cannot Escape The Results Of Your Thoughts

Once it does it is reliable and as automatic as the one it replaced. The issue for many people, what stops them from simply replacing old non-supportive habits for new supportive ones is imagination.

They, or you, can’t yet imagine living with the new habit. You don’t know what that life is like, yet, because you live from the only thing you have ever known. Guess what, that is?  Another habit.

How you think about and view your life. What you think is possible or not is habit for you. The only way to change it is to do what it takes to change it. Think differently, repeatedly, until it takes hold.

If You Always Do What You Always Did…

You must make thinking and imagining positively what you want the new habit. Then you will regularly begin to think the new positive, productive thoughts instead of the limiting old ones.

You do. In order to manifest what you want you must think about it habitually. That is how you have got everything you ever have got. Routine, habitual thinking. You made it happen that way.

So, if you haven’t liked the results you have been getting it means it is time for a change. It requires you to do things differently. You must get rid of the old thinking and think in new ways. That’s it!

…You Always Get What You Always Got

Do things differently, often enough, frequently enough until the new things become reliable, automated habit. It won’t always be easy, you will find yourself going to the old address a number of times.

If you stick with it and persist, no matter how seemingly difficult, you will succeed. With the new thoughts taking hold of what you want, in positive ways, you can begin to create the life you want.

Whenever you discover old, chronic negative thinking you replace it for positive new productive thinking you are taking control of your mind. You are directing your thoughts in a positive fashion.

Repetition Is The Mother Of Skill – Repeat Repeat Repeat

This means you can begin to target what you want, focus on it, and think the thoughts you need to think to make it happen. You think the thoughts of the desired good you want. Imagine it fully.

You think the thoughts needed for you to perform the right actions to make it happen. It won’t land in your lap because you think it, although with new thought, it can seem that way.

You do what is required to succeed. You take action steps because your thoughts and feelings align in such a way to produce new results. You do the thinking and the working. That’s how it works.

The More We Do The More We Can Do

The cool part is it feels really good. You feel yourself going after what you want and getting closer. It is like playing a fun game, you are doing really well and you know you are going to win.

Everything lines up! You do win. Why? Because you played well and eventually you could tell you were going to win. Also, you saw it through to the end and did not quit. You made it happen and enjoyed it.

The same is true of our goals and dreams. With new wonderful thinking , comes new feelings. With new wonderful feelings comes new actions. When these are all lined up come new wonderful results. Enjoy the process. Have fun. Be diligent and persistent.

What We Want To Do With Ease We Must First Do With Diligence

Keep going, don’t quit, see it through to the end. Commit to do this for yourself no matter what. Replace the old negative habits with positive new ones. While you are doing it live in appreciation.

Live in gratitude for being able to replace the old thoughts and make positive changes. Gratitude changes everything. Your energy, your thinking, your feelings are uplifted. You are lighter and at ease!

Begin to imagine the new life by truly enjoying everything about right now and about then. When you can enjoy everything, everything works for you. Live fully in the present and delight totally. The new life will be wonderful so celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Decide to have blessed and wonderful day, today and you will!

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This Is Precisely Why Your Life Sucks But You Can Change It!

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“You have tried positive thinking and the law of attraction but it just doesn’t seem to work. Perhaps, you gave up. Career stuck, debt is mounting, you just aren’t all that happy. You know what you want but you aren’t sure you’ll ever get there. Right now sucks.

What to do? How do you get what you want in the future if you don’t like what is going on right now? Well, you absolutely won’t if you throw in the towel are or negative about it. That won’t help at all. However, there is good news. Frankly, great news for you!

The Law Of Attraction or The Law Of Creation, as I like to call it, because actually we are responsible for everything we have and don’t have, always works. Once we accept this we can better work with it. The LOA or LOC means that what you focus on you get.

What You Focus On Expands

If you want money and you don’t have any and you focus on your current debt, dire circumstances, lack of cash then that is what you create and attract more of. Your focus determines what you get. Good or bad, right or wrong, true or not you get what you focus on.

Why? Because your focus determines how you feel. Remember thoughts precede feelings, feelings precede actions, or lack of actions, and actions determine our results. SO our thoughts determine our results. Our thoughts create our results.

We create and attract what we are. Because what we are feeling is what we are. If we feel great we get more back. If we feel crummy we get more back. Stop whining about it and realize that is how it works. You have to face it to work with it. Accept it and use it.

You Get What You Focus On

Stop overthinking EVERYTHING! When you think about what you want, AND that you don’t have it, yet, you are actually keeping it away. You move one step forward then back You are stuck. Let go of present circumstances and focus on what you want.  Enjoy now!

In order to live better today and have a better tomorrow you cannot focus on the gap between then and now. You must focus on all the good right now to get more good now and later. You must focus on the wonderful feelings no matter what the circumstances are.

Do you understand this, yet? It means controlling your thoughts, and your attitude. Direct them to what is right, good, feels great and keep them there. Ignore what you don’t want and prefer to avoid. Stop focusing on the gap, the lack, the dire and the yucky.

You Present Circumstances Are A Result Of Your Thought

Focus on anything and everything that is good and right and bright, no matter how small, and keep your attention there. Lot’s of tiny things add up. Look at the beach. Find them. Find all the reasons why now is wonderful.  Affirm that. Declare that. Be grateful! Enjoy!

Most people tell stories about how things suck. How they got sick, how they went broke, why their kids are out of work and living at home,  what the economy did to them, how their partner causes them pain on and on. They tell downer stories all day long.

What does that tell you? It tells you they are focused on what isn’t working, they are focused on suffering and lack. They repeat the stories again and again to anyone who will listen whether that person is interested or not. People tell and live their stories.

The Present Moment Is For Enjoying

Remember, you become what you think about. What you repeatedly think, feel, and do becomes habit. If you keep doing the same thing over and over you will get the same results. Your life won’t change until you change what you are doing. Repeat the right things!

Build good habits. Condition your mind to automatically think positive thoughts that cause you to feel good. Condition and steel your mind to focus on the good, what is working, what is right and enjoyable about now. Live it and repeat it. Tell these stories!

For gawd sake CHANGE YOUR STORIES and YOU WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE! Start telling stories about how things go well, how things are right, how wonderfully things are working out. Talk about how good things happened are happening and will happen.

Live With The Attitude Of Gratitude

Take your life back for goodness sake. Stop whining, complaining, excusing, bitching, moaning, pissing on the positive and begin to live life as you were meant to. Be the author of your life. Re-write the chapters. Make it a life story about success and happiness.

When you do everything will begin to change for the better. It will take time just as planting a seed and reaping the benefit takes time. SO focus on how wonderful it is in the meantime and by the time everything manifests it will be even better. Enjoy all of the present!

USE NOW to have a marvelous THEN. This is HOW it works. Focus on the incredible and ignore the horrible. Feel wonderful most of the time during your day and you will be creating and attracting more wonderful feelings, moments and all good things.

You Become What You Think About The Most

If you want a wonderful then make it a wonderful now. Only you can do this by managing your thoughts and directing your mind to stay positive. As you do you condition it to work for you in powerful ways.

You create new positive automatic and reliable habits to keep moving forward. You bring about what you think about. Thoughts are things. Live well and you will live well! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Tell positive stories today. It’s a great day to tell great stories!

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