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You Need To Be In Charge Of Your Life! Are You?

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“The bottom line in personal change work is to realize who is driving your car. Are you the driver or someone else? If you don’t take control of your own mind and thinking process, and learn to control it, then someone else, from your past, is driving for you.

You are living and thinking and acting from previous old conditioning. You are living out old habitual life scripts reliably day in and day out. You only truly become free when you decide to take full responsibility for yourself. You become free when you take charge.

Re-condition your mind to be your servant instead of your master. Put it to work for you. Align your resources both inner and outer. Claim you life back. Assert your ability to be in charge and hold yourself accountable. This is where your freedom comes from!

When You Master Your Mind You Master Everything

No excuses, no blames, no whining or complaints. You own up to everything. If you are late it is because YOU are late. It is not because of traffic or weather or anything else. YOU could have left earlier but you didn’t. YOU are the reason YOU are late.

No harm no foul. Better luck next time if you are allowed another opportunity. Next time make sure you aren’t late. Make sure you are on time. This is how you learn and evolve. This is how you get your life back deliberately. You own up to it. You act in charge. You are!

Be fearless. Be certain. Be courageous and expect good to come your way. Enjoy and delight. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Have a day filled with smiles!

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Stop Reliving Nightmares And Start Live Your Dreams

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“Would you like more time? How about better times? Would you like to be happier and healthier? How would you like to make more money? Would you like that? Would you like to take your time back and spend it with loved ones and on leisure and fun activities?

Then there is one thing you must absolutely do. You must let go of the past. It is done and gone. It is water over the dam. The milk is already spilt. The deal is done. The loved one passed and gone. How many times have you heard, ‘you can’t bring them back’.

‘Don’t cry over spilt make.’ ‘What is done is done and you cannot change it’. For example, someone stole your car. Totaled it. You get paid. Criminal is caught and convicted. Right? It sucked. There is nothing you can do about the past. You cannot change it. Right?

The Way To Get Over The Past – Leave It Behind You

Imagine the event happened. The car stolen and totaled. The criminal is not caught and you are not paid. It didn’t change anything did it. The car being stolen is the same event. With the first one you probably feel a little better than the second  but what is different?

The only difference is what you think about it. How you feel. Different outcomes but the event is the same. You feel differently because you think something should or shouldn’t happen. Your thoughts, beliefs and expectations, your rules determine it.

Right? Am I right? The car is gone and you can’t change that. Gone forever. The convict sentenced or not and you are paid or not. You can’t change that, although maybe. You might not think the payment or the sentence fair. So what makes the events different?

You Can’t Start The Next Chapter If You Keep Re-reading The Last

Your thoughts. Bottom line what or how you think about the situation determines whether you feel it is just or unjust. Whether you get over it more easily or not. YOU determine YOUR present and future by WHAT YOU THINK about the PAST! Get it? I hope.

The pain you feel is caused by your own thinking. You may say, no it is caused but the result. You don’t like the result. Okay. Then what are you doing with the result? Are you thinking about it? How do you feel? It is your reaction to the result that determines it all. Doesn’t it?

Alright, in this post I will not tell you how to make more money BUT I will tell you that if you get your time back you have the opportunity to be happier, healthier and wealthier. Hope you are okay with this. Plenty of opportunity to discuss making money again later.

Grudges Are A Waste Of Perfect Happiness – Get Over It

People waste an enormous amount of time complaining about things they can’t change. The whine and blame and feel hurt and bad about things they can do nothing about. Still they can’t go back and change history. They’d be better off using their time in better fashion.

Don’t you think? Turn from the history you don’t like and promise to make your present and future better. Stop whining and crying over milk spilled  and learn to carry the milk better. Do whatever it takes so you are happier and healthier and wealthier than in the past.

Grieve when grieving is appropriate for as long as necessary. Mourn the loss. Celebrate a life. Eventually, move on. Two lives needn’t end because one transitioned.  The same is true regarding your major upsets and upheavals and disappointment and horrendous events.

Realize Your Past Is Just A Story – Begin To Tell A New Story

Get past them. You cannot change the historical moment but YOU can change how you think and feel about them. Yes, you may have to learn to do that, if you don’t know how, but you can learn anything, just as you learned to crawl, walk, speak, read and write if you have.

You can change your response to disappointment. Consider this. Some are very hot about these recent election results. It is true others have been hot in the past about other election results. Whatever was on election night and come what may, is what is.

How can you best spend your time? Is it feeling angry, hateful, vengeful? Is it reading one more article that the election was stolen or rigged or whatever? Some people do what to feel indignation I get that. They want to point out all that is wrong and crooked.

The Choice Is Always Yours And Yours Alone – No One Else’s

Still, it changes next to nothing if it changes anything at all. I am not saying don’t fight for change. Don’t try to do better next time. Do work to improve. Yes. Make a difference. I am not saying that. I am saying there are ways to use your time more constructively too.

Stop whining and blaming and start feeling hopeful and optimistic. Learn from the event and determine what positive things to do that may make a difference in the future. Do you understand what I am saying? You can proactively seek to make it better now and later?

Or you stay stuck in reacting to defeat and disappointment. Which gets you further along. I believe it is moving forward positively. It feels better and accomplishes more. Some only feel good when they feel bad. That is true too. Some want to suffer horrendously.

Breathe Out – Breathe In – Move – Repeat – Step By Step 

I don’t and if you don’t then learn to nip it. Decide if this is a positive use of your time. Think, Does this help me evolve positively? Does this help me be happier and healthier and wealthier? OR does it take me down into a spiral of despair? Which do you want? DECIDE!

Get it. every second is a moment you can decide. You are deciding by default if you aren’t consciously deciding. You are doing what you habitually do. You don’t get new results doing things the old way that didn’t work previously. Still some thing they will. They won’t.

How do you want to spend you time? Creating wealth or complaining about being broke? Getting healthier or complaining about your infirmities? Getting happier or focusing on negativity and what is wrong with you and the world? Well, which do you prefer?

If You Wait Until You Are Ready You’ll Wait The Rest Of Your Life

It is pretty cut and dry. You are either building a house or you are not. Get it? You are either building something positive or you aren’t. If you aren’t and you prefer to be then decide to do it and stick with your decision. Stop spending time doing what you don’t want.

Stop reacting to the woes of the world helplessly and start living positively. Stop wasting your time on things you cannot change. Stop wasting time feeling bad when you could be feeling good. Perhaps, this is why many people only live okay lives and aren’t fulfilled.

The spend more time crying over the milk spilt than drinking fresh new milk. Stop, do anything else than feel bad about things you can’t change. Take charge, take control and decide to spend your time wisely feeling wonderful, doing wonderful things and celebrate! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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2016 Election: Some Mad Some Glad – Do You Care?

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“It was a tough and sad day for many. It was a happy day for others. Some people are scared. Should they be? I don’t believe so. We don’t have to live in fear to desire positive changes. Still, many are fearful. I think we can live courageously in the face of a defeat. Some don’t.

I posted on my FB wall. Grow a pair to those who felt despair. Do I think that is important. YES I do. Don’t give up hope. I get that you are disappointed. You fought the good fight. Keep going if you choose to, or quit but don’t whine and blame and make excuses.

Do I also think, in a different situation, if someone dies, that there should be grieving time. People should grieve and can celebrate a life passed on. I should be sensitive to their loss. They are grieving the loss of an election. Is it the same, no, not really, but still…

Keep Your Thoughts Words And Actions As One

People want to grieve what they think is their dying hope. They fear the worst as a result of the election. They are entitled to. I think there are wiser choices on how to spend time but I do not actually fault them for their choice. People do what they do. Don’t they?

What IS is. Accept it and move on. Moving on may including wanting to change it. To correct what some think is a wrong or a mistake. That is fine with me too. Correct and carry on. Just don’t let results bring you down, don’t think negative, and don’t attack others.

People will do what they will do. They’ll take as much as time as they need. I don’t judge them or begrudge them. I simply point out there are other choices. I do it loudly and provocatively, at times, to get their attention, but I mean no disrespect. I want them to be free.

Imagine What 7 Billion People Could Accomplish …

Trump wins or looses, for me, the world goes on. There will be things I like and don’t like. Hillary wins same point. I will continue to love my life and work for positive change in myself, for others and the world. Every President has done some good things and some bad.

I have agreed with some changes and abhorred others. If people work to get the election result changed and are successful so be it. If they don’t succeed at this so be it. Regardless of the outcome I think now is time to operate from a higher, more positive purpose.

The election is over. We should work together. Yet, some pundits, say we shouldn’t. Do we really want another 8 years of obstruction? Maybe some do. I prefer to think we could all pitch in and work together and get along, but perhaps I am mistaken. A house divided.

… If We All Loved And Respected Each Other

Unless we attempt to work together for the greater good and leave partisan politics behind we will never know. Will we? We lived with 8 years of obstruction and a most disrespected president. He did many things I applauded. He did a number of things I disagreed with.

The world has continued for better or worse. Hasn’t it? Yes, there are still horrible problems globally. There are some pretty awful problems nationally. Instead, of putting our energy into the problems let’s put it into creating solutions. That might help.

My hope is that people are bigger than revenge and an eye for an eye politics. I think the obstructionists traitors. They have a duty, they are paid to work things out. They didn’t. We survived them. Let’s not repeat the same obnoxious, destructive acts and low level thinking.

Physical Change Starts With Mental Change

Let’s rise to a higher standard. Let’s negotiate for the people not the party. Let’s make the country and individual’s lives better. Right there, with that statement, I know there are people who think that will be impossible. But is it? Couldn’t we seek higher ground?

Hey, if you give up all hope, if you pull away from the table, take your marbles and go home and refuse to negotiate any thing then YOU are the problem. You are the problem if you hate the haters. I mean really, some people can’t see the forest for the trees.

They want to end violence and are willing to beat up, injure or kill people who are violent. That, in MY book, IS insane. They want to end hate and prejudice and then hate the people who don’t agree or think as they do. This is not good on any level.

Be The Change You Want To See In The World

Obstruction, anger, hatred, party politics, my side must win at all costs, we must never concede a bargaining chip, are problems and many people live this way.  All or nothing. Only my way is the right way. Agree with me or you aren’t my friend or family member.

Really? I mean REALLY? You put politics over your personal relationships. Really? DO you think your hate and intolerance of people who don’t exactly agree with you will save the world. YOU ARE THE PROBLEM. Get it YOU ARE! A house divided.

You should know by now there are many shades of grey. At least 50, right? So come on let’s hold ourself to a higher standard and drop partisan standoff politics. Let’s drop hating each other and realize it is our ‘right’ to disagree. To pursue happiness as each see fit. C’mon!

A House Divide Can Not Stand

Look, anger or dissatisfaction isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It can be used to right many wrongs. When it is aimed at a love one or a friend, or even a stranger, simply because they hold different views than you do, then your thoughts and behaviors border on dangerous.

We want people of color to be accepted. We want people with different gender preferences and biases to be accepted. We want  equal rights for women and men. We want women to control their destinies and their bodies. We want health care for all. We want…

Oh, except those of you who don’t. Okay, so you don’t. Instead of getting made why not try to love them into agreeing with you. Why not resect the differences. Hey, you know what, maybe you and they don’t really need to convince each other. You don’t need to hate.

If You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You Are Right

Do you? Do you need to hate someone just because they think or vote differently? A house divided can not stand. Consider the law of attraction and new thought philosophy. You get back what you put out. What you focus on expands and becomes magnified.

Whatever we focus on or think about most grows in importance. If we focus on and think mostly about what divides us, how the other side is wrong they what looms before us is intolerance, hatred and negativity. We get back more of the same. Some call it karma.

It makes sense. Jesus said ‘turn the other cheek’. Why, because it is difficult. What you really want to do, and are inclined to do, is hit them back harder. You wan to SMACK ’em! That is karma. Jesus said interrupt it. Rise to a higher level. Offer the other cheek.  Stop!

Every Thought We Put Into The World Affects It

Stop perpetuating the cycle of violence. Don’t mistake this as a political blog understand it as a spiritual blog or one on personal development and self improvement. Create harmony and balance. Work for the greater good. Become more loving and accepting.

Find things to appreciate about the opposition. Look for opportunities. Grow and work together. Eliminate differences by finding more agreement, NOT by eliminating the opposition. Live, love, laugh and join together. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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2016 Election Results: What We Can Learn From A Trump Win And Accomplish In The Future

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“I venture an opinion why Trump won the election from a collective consciousness position. There is a simple reason I hope we all could learn and benefit greatly from. Whether you are for or not for Trump is not my concern. This isn’t about politics. Truly, it isn’t political.

It isn’t meant to be political. It is an analysis of our behaviors and our thinking processes from the standpoint of creating, manifesting and the Law Of Attraction. In this I share New Thought and ancient wisdom and practice. We get what we put out there. We create.

Following this line of thinking that thoughts become things; that what you think about you bring about; that we become what we think about most often and that what we put out there comes back to us, let’s make a possible observation. I’ll keep it simple.

Most People Think About What They Don’t Want …

Some people wanted Donald Trump to win. Some people wanted Hillary Clinton to win. Some wanted other candidates. Some wanted neither to win. Some didn’t care and didn’t participate. Some wanted Trump to lose more than they cared he win. Same with Hillary.

Let’s look at some of these. Some people wanted Trump to lose MORE THAN they wanted Hillary to win. They focused mostly on what they did not want. Their energy went into Trump must loose. They wanted to stop Trump. Their concern wasn’t Hillary.

Trump people were very, very, pro Trump. They wanted him to win. As for Hillary some people were very pro Hillary. Some because they wanted her she was the best choice and they were hopeful. Others because we must stop Trump. Prevent Trump from winning.

… Then Wonder Why It Keeps Showing Up Over And Over Again

Many were divided about Hillary. They were unsure. Some totally convinced but a lot chose her as the better of two bad choices. Not totally convinced but she was the only alternative to Trump. Some wanted Bernie and were upset. They didn’t want Hillary at all.

Some flat out didn’t want Hillary. Then there were those who wanted Hillary to lose more than they wanted Trump to win. Then there were those who didn’t care. Then there were third party voters. Then there were those who never showed up to vote.

Think tipping point. You get what you focus on. Where is the preponderance of the energy flowing? Where is more attention given to which candidate most of the time? From the beginning I think we’d agree it was Donald Trump. Good or bad. Right or not.

Create What You Want – Attract What You Want – Stay Focused

If you want Trump you are focused on Trump. If you don’t want Trump you are focused on Trump. Same is true regarding Hillary. However, if you aren’t certain about Hillary you aren’t focused on Hillary. If you don’t care about either, neither matters much.

However, one might argue even a little caring about one candidate over the other provides more energy toward that candidate. Yes, perhaps. I think one can agree that Trump was the most focused on. Trump was everyone’s focal point. Trump was a lightning rod.

New Thought philosophy, which arose in ancient times, suggests we bring about what we think about. That means you can manifest what you absolutely want and desire most. It also means you bring about what you want to avoid and exclude. You get what you don’t want.

You Are Destined To Become The Person You Decide To Be

If you aren’t aimed totally on what you want you get what you fear or worry about most by default. This is an critical to understand. If your mind drifts and isn’t focused you still get results but they are probably undesirable much of the time and ok at other times.

Drifting is where many, if not most, people, live. However, I’ll save that point for another post. I have discussed it much in these pages. Check out other posts. Returning to my premise. Donald Trump caught and kept everyone’s attention whether one liked him or not.

All the energy was focused on Donald from the start. He got the media points, he got the attention. He made news daily. Positive and negative. How he was embraced or rejected is based on our perceptions of who he is. We make those assessments.

You Attract To Your Life Whatever You Give Energy And Focus On

Regardless of whether you wanted him or didn’t you could not escape him if you had anything to do with media. Many people loved him. Many people hated him. He trumped every GOP candidate and DEM candidate in the media every single day. He was news!

People were scared. He was in everyone’s attention and limelight. Hillary paled by comparison. More people, positively or negatively, focused on Trump than on her. Whether you liked her or not she just didn’t carry the charismatic lightning rod weight as he did.

He was fresh and new. A maverick. An outsider. A celebrity known to be extravagant and eccentric. Hillary had been first lady, Secretary of State, a career politician. Trump was sexy she was not. I do not mean in the traditional sense I mean as a product or candidate.

Whether You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You’re Right

Think about it from a brain stand point.  Many of us are aware that the brain doesn’t process negative language. ‘Don’t think about an elephant’ results in thinking about and picturing an elephant. ‘I don’t want X to win’ results in thinking about and imaging X winning.

This is why we create or attract what we don’t want. We keep imagining it over and over. Consider this. What is the most important part of this sentence? ‘I don’t want Trump to win.’ What is the focal point? Trump winning! That is where all the energy is!

I think the Bernie movement succeeded as much as it did because of the many pro Bernie people. They created momentum and energy around what they wanted. It is more important to keep in mind what we are going for than what we want to rid ourselves of. Learn this.

See It In Your Mind And One Day You Can Hold It In Your Hand

It’s important to know what you want to change to remove pain, suffering and injustice. Notice it. Determine what needs to change then focus on what you want in its place. What do you want instead of the pain and injustice. Where do you put energy? Where’s it go?

Keep your eye on the solution not the problem. Focus on the prize and the win. Not the loss. Yes, part of knowing what you want to bring about comes from knowing what you don’t want any longer. If you have a pebble in your shoe, remove it, and walk on comfortably.

Focus on where you want to arrive at. Stop recalling the pain of the pebble. Put more energy into what you want than what you don’t want. My point about the election is massive energy went to Trump. Less went toward Hillary. Trump can’t win becomes Trump win!

You Get What You Focus On – Energy Flows Where Attention Goes

Perhaps, we can learn about this for our personal lives as well as elections. Focus on what you want to create rather than fighting what you prefer not to have. Build rather than tear down. Create and manifest the good you desire. Put your energies into that!

Aim and focus on your positive goals. You have a far better chance succeeding if you aim at what you want than if you aim at what you don’t! Why, because you WILL get what you don’t want. Energy flows where your attention goes. This is critical to understand.

Whether you are happy or sad at the outcome. That is what we got. NOW how we think, feel and behave is critical. What do we want now that these two men hold office? What kind of future and world do we want? How can we put our energies into positive changes?

Take Charge Of Your Thoughts And You Take Charge Of Your Life

If we fear the worst we attract the worst. If we put our energy into positive change, at the very least, we have the chance and the opportunity for creating and attracting positive change. Stay focused, stay optimistic, stay positive. Put energy into positive good.

Leaving the election results for the moment, what do you want for yourself? Discover what positive good that is and focus on it. No excuses, no blaming anything. Work to make it happen. Develop an ‘I can learn to do it’ attitude and you will. Make it happen. I CAN DO it!

Focus on what you want to include and you can have it. Stop focusing on what you worry about, fear, or wish to exclude. Withdraw the energy. Put energy into accomplishing your goals. You can do it. We can do it. As an individual or as a nation we can create.

Our Life Our Present Our Future Are What Our Thoughts Make It

We always are. The question is what are we focused on? Are we focused on co-operation, abundance, positivity, success, accomplishment, fairness, generosity, rising together or otherwise. We will bring about that which we focus on most and most often.

The election is monumental energy. More energy surrounded Trump than surrounded Hillary. There was more momentum. Whether the outcome is good or not good we shall see. Simply realize WE did this. We manifested this. Some people say we get what we deserve.

This means do we feel we are worthy of the best. If not we need to make some inner changes to be certain we do. Why ever settle for less? Unless, of course, you don’t think we deserve the best. You do, I do. As individuals and as citizens of any nation we deserve the best.

There Are No Limitations You Can Dream Anything Is Possible

Don’t scream and yell and blame and accuse. Learn and decide to make happen what you want to make happen for yourself in the future. Learn to do the same with our representatives where ever you live. This election serves as an example. Manage your thoughts!

I hope this hasn’t upset you too much. The election is a hot bed of emotions for many. Many got upset with me for social media posts encouraging people to accept what is and move on. I get it. I might be upset with me too had I been the recipient of that message.

Learn the principles. Put them into practice and benefit. Remember we create our own dreams and nightmares. We either attract and create what we fear most and don’t want or we attract and create what we most want to enjoy. It is a mental decision. It is a choice!

Creation Begins With A Thought That Is Transformed Into Reality

Our thoughts, our perceptions create our reality. Think what do you want to make happen! Be grateful for your ability to do this and then LEARN how to do this. Learn to manage and control your thinking so you get more of the positive results you want. It is incredible!

If you don’t vote you get what others decide for you. If you don’t manage your thinking you get what others decide for you. Take control of your future by learning how to live powerfully in the present. Be happy, be grateful and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Decide to make your day glorious no matter what!

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Do This Accountability Exercise With An Accountability Partner

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You have the opportunity to hold each other accountable. Get together as frequently as possible. In person, preferably, but Skype or phone works too. Your time together will be spent taking turns telling your future success stories and NOTHING ELSE.

No needs, no wants, no excuses, no ‘I have to’.  No ‘I am trying to’. Just tell your future success story. Describe your life and what you are doing as a successful, happy, rich, complete person. Share in as much detail as possible. This is ‘act as if’ in practice. Tell it like it is!

Divide your sharing time equally. Your partner can ask you questions about how you did it; how it feels to have done it; what you did first; second, third; what it feels like to ride in your fabulous new luxury car; how it felt when you first got in it and drove it home. Get it?

To Enjoy Enduring Success You Must In Advance Of The World

Well, do you? Tell the future story as if it already happened. Share past future success. You already did it! You already made it happen! Recount it with enthusiasm. Your partner’s job is to enthusiastically support you in sharing and clarifying every adding detail.

Make it rich and fun. Each time you get together you can share the exact same story or elaborate and add more detail. Live that future inside you right now and get used to telling it. Live your future story as if it is presently happening. Share it again and again.

Talk about it. Live it. Make it real. Then actually make it happen! From within to without. Thought are things. What you think about you bring about. What you say is what you get! Add voice to your thought power. Share your successes today.

Live Your Dreams For The Future As If They Are Happening Now

Be sure to find a good partner. Hold each other to the task. Repeat this exercise as frequently as you possible. The more you enjoy, feel grateful and engage in the exercise the sooner your subconscious gets it.

IMPORTANT NOTE: From the very moment you get together online, or in person, you need you act as if you are already living that successful lifetime. Discuss from the future vantage point your successes and accomplishments. Imagine it fully as possible.

You might say something such as,  ‘My day is going great. I just had three multi-million deals come through. It is so fabulous!’ Or ‘I just opened up a string of laundromats.’ ‘ I’m so excited my renewable energy resource company just launched to great fanfare,’

What You Say Is What You Get – What YouSee is What You Get

‘l just made a fortune in my stocks.’ or ‘I just  flipped 6 houses.’ You relate success stories related to your purpose and your dreams. Share positive stories and happenings as if these had really happened. Discuss and share with enthusiasm and passion.

You cannot talk from lack or need! No, no, no, no, no!  You speak only from prosperity and happiness, future wealth and well-being. You are not allowed to discuss present problems. NONE allowed! No difficulties! No struggles! Nothing to solve! Get it? It all works!

You are a wealthy, prosperous, happy, successful person meeting another wealthy, prosperous, happy, successful person. Together you share and enjoy your positive, happy, successes. You recount and celebrate the good times. You share only the wins! Get it?

If You Can Conceive It And Believe It You Can Achieve It

‘To enjoy enduring success one must travel a little in advance of the world.’ First you dream it, see it, imagine it, then you create it and enjoy it. From within to without. What you think about you bring about. If you can see it in your mind you can hold it in your hand.

Do it. Do it now. Tell and live your stories. ‘What the mind can conceive and believe it can achieve’. Feel the fabulous feelings of accomplishment. Enjoy the sensations. Live them. Embrace them. Amplify them. Delight in them and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

How much delight can you have today?

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How To End Clutter And Feel Fantastic!

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“What surrounds you? Does environment affect you? What message are you sending to others AND to the universe with your home, car, office space? Are you aware of how your space can affect you? How’d you like to make some profound personal changes?

My desk, my car and much of my house, historically, looked like Einstein’s desk. I lived with clutter, in clutter and was comfortable. I pile things around me, and while I might search for things, I know they are right there in that pile. I was comfortable. Truly, felt good.

Having or keeping things simple and clean had always been difficult. My mother’s desk and back office space was worse than Einstein’s. Of course, the office the public saw was quite different. I did learn that public and private could be two very different things.

Control Your Clutter Or Clutter Will Control You

BUT are they? Is there leakage? There is an adage which seems to be true, relevant and profound  ‘How you do anything is how you do everything’. Think about that for a second. Reflect on how you show up for tasks. Any task. How you do one thing is how you do all things.

I could see that there was clutter to my thinking, as well. From my thinking to my performing I was, often, random and haphazard. When it came to goal setting and future planning I couldn’t see past the messy present. My dreams obscured by the ‘now’ circumstances.

It occurred to me that I sacrificed a lot all of my life in exchange for being comfortable. SoI began to change things. I decided I needed to begin to manage my thoughts. I wanted to get control over my thinking process. I didn’t want to be smarter I wanted more power.

Being Organized Is Being In Control – Take Charge Of Your Life

I wanted to affect my circumstance in positive ways. I want to live a fulfilled, incredible life not simply tolerating situations and being ‘okay’ with being comfortable. I wanted to make my dreams come true while evolving myself. I want to feel wonderful much more.

As I began to improve my thinking and future planning I began to become less comfortable with clutter. I still didn’t want to straighten up or clean or make things better, especially, if it was all up to me. I was still more comfortable with clutter than changing it. At first!

Gradually, however, I became and continue to become less accepting of it. As the within changes I notice I want the outside to change as well. I want it nice, neat, simple, clean, elegant and sleek. More and more I find myself desiring simplicity and organization.

The Secret To Getting Organized Is You – You Make The Difference

I learned to begin with baby steps. Clean or organize a small area first. That resulted in feeling good. I accomplished something. Then gradually I’d add more or clean other areas. I made it a point to feel good, congratulate myself, when I put things back in their place.

I found, if I went crazy on it, I burnt out. I later have learned I can do more than I think I can. I have also learned that it isn’t as bad as I think it is IF I ONLY BEGIN. Mostly, I would talk myself out of it opting to feel comfortable instead. I feel far better taking action.

I feel better getting things done and congratulating myself, than procrastinating and feeling bad about me and my space when I  do nothing. Want your life to change then you must change some things you’re doing. Take action, bit by bit. Drop by drop the tub fills.

You Are Either Growing And Evolving Or Withering And Fading

I was never dirty, but I was messy. I still have things to change about this but I am in the process. This is an important point. We are all in the process of something. We are either in the process of making our dreams come true or our nightmares. Which do you do most?

I am not suggesting YOU have to be a neat freak. In fact, being too anal about things isn’t desirable either. For me, the principle is balance. As my internal awareness changes I find I want my outer world to reflect that positivity as well. Other things matter too.

It depends on the size and nature of your dreams and goals. The bigger they are the more minor changes may be necessary. I think it is all cool. It is wonderful. It is evolution, adjust and adapt. I think it also works a little bit in reverse. It is a mirror. As within so without.

If You Can Conceive It And Believe It You Can Achieve It 

As without so within. I do think, the latter, is far more limited than the former notion. Our thoughts create our world. However, Bucky Fuller did say, ‘environment is more powerful than willpower’. Who and what we surround ourselves with exerts force over us.

I choose to think and believe that while true, I am the author of my life and circumstances. I agree with this. Habit of thought is a powerful force. If we are around people or in environments that are less than glorious, most of the time, it will affect us. It does.

Still, I think and believe that I am the master of my fate and I will determine my future. Interestingly enough, as my thoughts changed, so did my relationship to the environment and whom I choose to be around or whom I want around me. It all does matter.

You Must Train Yourself To Be Organized – It Is A Habit You Make

I think how we think about it matters. I don’t think, I want less clutter. That emphasizes the clutter. I want more organization. I want more elegance. I don’t want to eliminate negative friends I want more positive friends. I want healthy, happy, wealthy ones.

I want people who aim high, who think big and make things happen to be my primary influencers. I want people who inspire and motivate me to surround me and affect my thinking and feeling. So I began to move toward what I DO want. What is it I want to include?

I look for what I want to invite into my life. For me, it makes an incredible difference. It has, it does and it will continue to. I feel so wonderful and I love my life. Is everything perfect? No. I don’t want it to be perfect. Are their challenges and lessons?  You bet!

Manage Your Thoughts Happiness Health Wealth And Your Space

I love it! Bring it! I learn and evolve and grow and adjust. I encounter my own rules and boundaries and get to flex them or learn that I need to. It is all good. Life is grand! Some things gradually evolve into new, different positive things while others transform instantly.

It has been and is an incredible adventure. I have learned to accept what is and to adjust and make changes. Some things are great as they are. Other things are ‘mo better’ when altered. Mostly, I have learned to appreciate myself and my life. I love myself and my life.

I have learned that gratitude is incredible and to celebrate everything. I have learned that even when I don’t do any of this, and I rag or nag on myself, that I can celebrate that too. I did what I did at the time. That is what IS or what WAS. Everything is ripe for learning and growing, so truly, we can celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

If you were to look today, what wonderful things can you discover?

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Ask Yourself This!!

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Today, I’d like you to ask yourself an important question. Take your time to really carefully answer. I mean it. Ready, here goes: What if you took all the time and energy you spent complaining, making excuses, blaming and talking yourself out of things…

… and instead talked yourself into getting things done and then actually did them?

Life would be different, wouldn’t it? It’d be okay, right, if that is true? It probably would be better than okay because all your energy and thought would be lined up to concentrate on your goal. Go ahead and start making it different. Start affirming you can instead of can’t. Start spending your time wisely. Celebrate everything? Rex Sikes

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The Problem Is Lies Lies Lies Then More Lies And Excuses

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“What is wrong in the world today? What is wrong in families? What is wrong in business? It seems everyone wants to pass the buck. No one wants to take responsibility. Politicians lie and blame each other. So do families, corporations and we blame each other on Facebook.

There is so much lost, wasted time focused on what is wrong, who is wrong, why they are wrong,  and what they did that screwed it up. It is never ‘my fault’ it is always someone else’s fault. Seems ‘the buck never stops here, at ‘me’. We need to rethink what is occurring.

We need to own up. ‘Man’ up. We need to use those balls for good reason. We need to be accountable. Be responsible. We need to act with integrity and steel will. Enough with the reasons, the excuses, the pointing fingers. Time to say, ‘what happens is always up to me.’

Do What Is Right – Not  What Is Easy – Act With Integrity

I wrote about keeping your word. Your word should be enough. People should know you are a person of integrity and that you always follow through on what you say you will do. Why did I write about that? Because it is an important topic especially at this time.

Politicians make promises but it appears we have become so jaded we don’t expect them to actually carry the promises out. In fact, we say, ‘all politicians lie and can’t be trusted’. WOW that is a sad state of affairs. Why do we even tolerate that for a second? But we do.

I believe all politicians should be held accountable for the representations they make, on or off camera, in ads and elsewhere. There should be consequences for misleading. We should have zero tolerance for lying. The same applies to our fellow man and woman.

Integrity Is Measured By Conduct Not By Promises – Talk Is Cheap

We should be held to our word. No excuses. No complaints. No cop-outs, blames or whines allowed. We should all be accountable and responsible. We should hold ourselves to a higher standard not a lessor one. We should walk the high road, less traveled. Few do.

We should keep our verbal contracts. We should operate with integrity. We should be honest and forthright. We should go the extra mile. Do what few others do! That would sets us apart in this day and age. You want to be valued and deemed worthy?

Then make yourself valuable and worthy. Stay positive. Be optimistic. Be responsible and be accountable. Be true to who you are and be true to the word you give. Don’t play politics. Let go of blaming others and the world. End the excuses and complaints.

Integrity Is When What You Say And What You Do Are Aligned

Start owning up. Start taking action. Start making good things happen for you and others. Develop the reputation for honesty, integrity, loyalty and great service. Help others. Be generous. Give of yourself. Help make the world better. If you do, you too will get back.

What goes around comes around. You will find yourself attracting a higher caliber of people. The right people will flock to you. What you sow you will reap. You will begin attracting better people, events and circumstances. Your life will improve when you improve on you.

It works that way. Be glad. Be happy. Become filled with gratitude. You will delight more and discover more. When your word is law you will find the Red Sea parting for you. Not because of luck but because of your will and your attitude. You become unstoppable!

People Of Good Character Keep Their Promises – Keep Your Word

When you have backbone and will and followthrough. When you take action. When you believe in yourself enough to keep your commitments you become invincible. Your word becomes THE law. You begin to change things. You rock your world! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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You Suck If You Can’t Keep This! You Really Do!

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“Want to ruin a romance fast? What to destroy a business relationship? Are you tired of keeping family and friends around? Want to lose a few? Do this and you will. Many have already? It is simple to drive people away. Harder if you want to keep them.

Do you ever make promises? Do you keep your commitments? Are you known as a trustworthy and reliable person? I am sure you’d like to think so, but are you? Do you stand by your word? Is your word your bond? Is your word law? If not, you absolutely want it to be.

I don’t have to point out how aggravating it is to receive promises from family, friends or businesses and expect them to honor their word only to have them not deliver on it. I don’t have to do that, do I? It sucks, right? Does it make you like them better? I bet not! Right?

People Of Good Character Keep Their Promises – Stay True

Do you feel like believing them the next time? How many times have you been repeatedly burned by the same person or business? What do you ultimately do? Are they gaining any good will from you? Have you cut some off. Have you said, ‘never again!’ Maybe to some, right.

‘My word is my bond. My word is law’. You are only as good a person and reliable as you word is true.  Your promise is your word. It is your commitment. Your word is a contract. You and I make verbal contracts all day long. Do you honor them is the question? Do you?

If you say you will be somewhere or do something, do you? If you promise to deliver then do it. Keep your agreement. If you say Friday you will do it or have it done that is a promise that you will have it done on Friday. If you don’t deliver on Friday your word is not good!

Never Make A Promise You’re Not 100% Committed To Fulfill

You are only as good and as valuable to others as the agreements you keep. Most people, want the people they associate with, in their family, friends, relationships, business and elsewhere to be honest, loyal, trustworthy and reliable or dependable. We value these!

We want to be able to take you at your word and hold you to your it. If we can’t count on you, if we aren’t able to rely on you, if you fail to come through and deliver as you say you will, of what use or value are you to us? No use! Because you betray the trust we place in you.

If you say you will do something. DO IT! That is the honorable thing to do. Your word is your bond. Your word should be law. Your word should actually mean something. If it doesn’t I don’t want much to do with you. I may like you but I can’t count on you. I don’t trust you.

Respect My Time – Match My Effort – Keep Your Word – Be Honest

So I may like you but you aren’t anyone I could recommend to others. Think business. Think networking. Think jobs. Do you want to refer someone to others who you know will let them down. Of course, you don’t! It would bite you in the ass. It would reflect poorly on you.

You may have a family member like this. You love them with your whole heart and soul but you can’t count on them for anything. What to do about them? Nothing. You can’t do anything until they begin to value their commitments, their word and their relationships.

If you state ‘I’ll try to get it done by Friday’ you are wishy-washy and not deserving of the trust of anyone. Yes,I know this is hard-core. The point is your word is your bond. Your word is either 100% valid or not. If it’s only 50% valid or 8o% valid who can rely on you?

You Lose Credibility When You Don’t Keep Your Word 

If you don’t honor your word why should anyone else? Why should anyone trust or rely or think you will deliver? They shouldn’t. We shouldn’t! Yes, I know there are times when you are over extended and you don’t want to commit to anything. It’d be better if you don’t.

Don’t say you will try only to disappoint someone else. Better to not say anything at all. Of course, that is difficult, but if you can’t keep your word don’t act as if you will. Better to pick a time when you know you can and will deliver and give them that date and time.

There are two people in the world most important to keep your word with. The first is YOU! You should always do what you say you will do. Keep your promise to yourself. If you say you are going to clean your desk Monday morning then do it. Keep your word!

A Promise Means Everything Once Broken Sorry Means Nothing

You are worth keeping your word with. You deserve respect. You are worthy of following through on your own promises to yourself. Make intentions. Keep them clear and simple and commit to them. Don’t say you will do things and then not follow through.

That is bad practice. Develop good habits. Make the task bite size if you must but do it. The second person absolutely critical to keep your word with is THE OTHER PERSON. Whomever you give your word to, friend, foe or stranger KEEP IT! Keep your promises.

Don’t be childish. Some people will argue that ‘I said I would do it but I didn’t promise’.  Because they didn’t utter the word promise they think that lets them off the hook. It doesn’t. Your word IS your verbal contract. If you say, ‘I will’ you promised you will. Not maybe but will.

Integrity Is The Most Valued And Respected Quality Of Leadership

Your word is either valuable or worthless to yourself and others. Keep your commitments. Keep your appointments. Be on time. Get  known as a person who delivers. Become known as someone who can be relied on.  Develop that reputation. Treat yourself well!

Because when you do you become a person of great value to others. You become indispensable in business. You stand out from all the rest. Your word is law. You are known to keep it. You are trustworthy. You make yourself indispensable. You are valuable!

Remember your word is gold. Every promise you make is a verbal contract. Keep it with yourself and others. If you can’t keep your word don’t give your word. Build the habit of being reliable. Great things can come about when you truly begin to value your own word! Practice keeping it and succeed! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Mindset Matters: How Not To Turn Mole Hills Into Mountains

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“How we view things often determines how we go through things. If you perceive something as a problem it certainly is. If you can perceive it as an opportunity it can be. Our mindset is powerful. Some would argue problems are problems and nothing changes.

Oh, but it does. You’ve heard the expression, ‘don’t make mountains out of mole hills’. That expression encourages us not to make big things from little things. Sometimes, that is just what we do. We exaggerate our difficulties and make them larger than they are.

The ideal mindset is, ‘I am bigger than any obstacle or challenge’. You are. You certainly are if you believe you are. Our mind is a wonderful resource, that has been conditioned to oppose us, since birth. We need to claim it back and make it work for us, how we want it to.

Perception Right Or Wrong Influences Everything You Do

It works perfectly, doing what it learned to do. It is on channel 7 and we need to change it to channel 2. We simply are watching the wrong programs. We don’t believe we are enough. We think our problems insurmountable. We worry about money. On and on!

Most of the way we learn to think we inherited from others while we were to young to know any better. We didn’t choose our thoughts. NOW, we can. Now we must if we want to be free from chronic old conditioning that limits us and causes us pain.

Anything can be viewed from multiple angles. Our point of view is only one of many. There are differing opinions on everything possible to discuss. Yet, typically, we think our version of reality is the one true version of reality. It isn’t. AND in some ways it is.

Positive Mind – Positive Vibes – Positive Life – It’s A Reflection

If we are locked into it then, yes, it is the only choice we know and act from. It is not the only choice there is. Waking up to other choices means we can begin to think, feel, speak and act differently. We can begin to get different results when we think differently.

When we choose differently we get different outcomes. It is more desirable to be flexible than inflexible. A tall strong reed bends with the wind while those too rigid snap. It is in our best interests to learn to adopt mindsets that serve us and allow us to evolve flexibly.

If you could begin to view all difficulties as opportunities your life would radically improve. If you chose to look at all opportunities as blessings that you chose to help you grow your life would improve beyond belief. Why don’t you do that? Because of prior conditioning.

Facts Matter Not At All – Perception Is Everything – It’s Certainty

You have your reasons and excuses. I have mine. We all do. The fact of the matter is none of them are real. We only think they are. Our points of view, our beliefs are interchangeable only most of don’t think that they are. We don’t think differently is the issue. We can.

We can think differently. However, now it is a choice. We aren’t being unconsciously programmed as we once were. We’re no longer growing up assimilating beliefs, values, reasons, excuses and blames. Now we consciously choose and consciously implement.

It is different now that it is a choice. It is simple but not always easy. We are choosing the program instead of being programmed. Once we do we learn we have amazing strengths we didn’t know we had. There is a huge upside to choosing what to think, today.

Your Life Is What Your Thoughts Make It – Attitude Is Everything

I hope you will. Put on the point of view that everything you experience is your choice and you choose to think of it as a blessing and opportunity. If you have been following my blog for awhile you know that I don’t care whether it is ‘true’ or not. We act as if it is.

It is your mindset, your mental filter. It is your adopted point of view or new belief. You choose it to guide you in thinking and being. You stop viewing problems as obstacles and problems and view them as lessons, blessings and opportunities you choose for your own good.

Pretend you have a higher wisdom that knows better than you what you actually need. Your life is designed to bring you great joy when you evolve to higher, more aware, levels. Each opportunity, whether tough or easy is designed for that purpose. To help you evolve more.

Mindset Is Everything – What You Think You Become 

It is there to serve you, make you a better person and help you to have a better life because of it. If the opportunity were not there you would be missing out on many important things. All of it is to serve you. You deserve the best. Yet, I know some will object.

I am suggesting consciously choosing to imagine how things might be, how they can be. I am suggesting you utilize a different filter to think about problems and issues. The choice to do is yours completely. However, if you always do what you always did…

You will always get what you always got. Nothing will change unless and until you change it. Find the frames that serve you best. Find the mindset that makes you invincible and unstoppable. Find the thoughts that make you feel wonderful and the most joy, most often.

If You Think You Can Or Your Think You Can’t – You Are Right

Choose to make your life what it can be. Don’t settle for less than the best for yourself. Learn to be and stay positive. Become powerful and don’t quit. Make your dreams come true. Transform difficulty into opportunity and become richer in mind, heart and deed. Find gratitude for all events and circumstances. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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