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Affirmations, Directed Questions™, Intentional Thinking, Visualization

Life Isn’t Difficult Or Complicated When You Do This

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“Have you ever feel life is complicated?  Do you sometimes feel overwhelmed? Do you get discouraged from time to time? If you answer yes, there is something you can do to free yourself from these feelings and move ahead the way you want more easily.

Remember this. Keep it in mind. Focus on it. Practice it moment to moment. You get what you focus on. Taking charge of life first begins by taking charge of your mind. To be successful and happy in life you need to control your thinking and gain the upper hand. You can do it!

It is not complicated. It is not always easy but it is absolutely doable. When you become aware of feeling other than you want examine your thinking. If it is negative shift your thoughts from what you are thinking about to something more positive. Feelings are a sign.

Don’t Limit Yourself – You Can Go As Far As You Think You Can

They let you know when you thinking isn’t useful for you. When you thinking sucks you feel it. Celebrate that you have such a wonderful alarm system. It gets your attention with yucky feelings so you can change them. Sadly, most people have learned to wallow in them.

You don’t have to. That is not what they are intended for. Acknowledge, accept and change them. Steer them to what you prefer instead. Bit by bit. Gradually, if you practice it and do it, you will learn the knack. It will get easier and easier. Just stick with it.

The best way to do this is to practice the positive thoughts in advance when you don’t need them. They will be very effective during practice and then later when you do need them. In doing this you build your habit for thinking positively and powerfully.

Good Things Come To Those Who Act And Make Them Happen

Your habits determine results. It begins with your thoughts, which produce feelings, which in turn produce or further the thoughts you think. If positive, and you feel good, you will have more positive thoughts. If negative, you feel bad and, more negativity results.

Your feelings determine your actions. Your actions determine the results you want. If you want great rewarding results begin with positive and powerful thinking. Get it? Practice positive thoughts, called affirmations, when you don’t need them. Plus, when you do.

Practice asking yourself Directed Questions™, positive questions so worded to direct your thinking easily and effortlessly to what you want, and visualizing positive results. Morning and night and anytime you have a free moment take the time and re-affirm.

Whether You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You’re Right

It will work wonders. If you do this daily soon it will become a practical habit that will help you increase your joy in life and accomplish what you want to accomplish. Remember, you always get what you focus on. You become what you think about most.

If your thoughts most of the time are positive, happy, productive thoughts that is what you get in return. Why? Because you produce it. You make it happen. Your thoughts lead to your feelings which lead to your actions and then the results you get. You evolved you!

Keep this in mind. Life IS simple. You create your experience by your own thinking and feeling patterns. What you believe about yourself and the world is what becomes true for you. Choose the best thoughts and practices and you can make your life marvelous. Do it! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Make your day the best day possible!

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Wake Up Feeling Wonderful: How To Get Out Of The Trances You’re In!

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“People grow up in trance. We are conditioned from birth on. We are conditioned so well that most of us don’t realize the depth of trance we live in and from. We need to wake up and become aware. The question is how? How do we awaken from the trances we are in?

Most of our problems stem from our trances. They come from the conditioning. We have adopted limitations and limiting beliefs that we aren’t even aware are not our own. They were handed to us mostly from well intentioned others and some not well intentioned.

We wander through life not straying far from artificial boundaries that were introduced to us. We made these our own. We think it is who we are and what we are capable of. We clearly don’t know who we are or how much more capable we truly are. We just don’t know.

Wake Up Become Aware  – Live With Awareness

Because most of us live within a comfort zone we don’t venture further. Sometimes we are forced to wake up and for the first time we confront the limits of our thinking. Then we realize these limits aren’t us, they’re imposed on us. At this point we can become free.

If we choose to. If we become aware and work to override our previous conditioning we can awaken to who we are. We can begin to monitor our thoughts and self-talk for when it is supportive and when it is not. We can begin to live free, different and better lives.

To begin to live free of our previous conditioning we need to stop or drop the trance and wake up. We can do this by changing the self-talk from not supportive to supportive. We choose our thoughts and re-condition ourselves though affirmations and visualization.

Drop Old Conditioning – Become Aware And Live Life Differently

We can direct our mind with the artful use of questions. We change ourselves using the same methods we were originally conditioned with. Exposure and repetition. We repeat powerful new thoughts and ideas, declarations or affirmations with loads of good feelings.

It is the feelings combined with the powerful declarations that make it work. Feelings are the drivers. Mere repetition of phrases does little. Combined with enthusiasm and positive feelings the affirmations take hold and do their work. Repeat; repeat correctly!

You develop new habits doing the same positive behavior over and over again, correctly, for a long enough duration. It takes consistency and persistence. It takes time to condition ones body for health and beauty too. Everything takes some time. Be patient and optimistic.

When You Wake Up In The Morning You Simply Wake Up

Self-hypnosis can be helpful too.  Altering brain states is useful. Relaxing and listening to peaceful music while giving yourself positive suggestions is a worthwhile practice. Calm the mind and focus on your suggestions. Visualize and see yourself.

See yourself as you describe yourself in your affirmations. Imagine carrying out your tasks and living your life the way you want to be. Affirming while relaxing is the basis of self suggestion. A good time to do this is when going to bed, before sleep and upon waking up.

You can learn the art of self-suggestion or hypnosis from books and tapes. You want to relax but not fall asleep until you are finished with the process. Then sleep is fine. Meditation is a wonderful way to free yourself of old conditioning and awaken to who you are.

One Moment You Are Asleep Oblivious The Next Moment Awake

In meditation you learn to allow whatever is going on in the mind to go on without getting emotionally attached to it. You look at it as an impartial observer. You witness it without becoming involved in it. Typically, we follow wherever our thoughts take us. They lead.

The goal is to either be free of your thoughts as in meditation OR to choose you thoughts by managing them. In meditation you don’t choose you allow. However, it begins by learning the ability to focus. You might focus on your breath. Whenever distracted you return.

We can pay attention to the rise and fall of our belly. Simply place your awareness there. Whenever you become aware that you are no longer paying attention to your belly you return your attention to it. You will do that again and again. That is the process.

Don’t Wander Through Life Missing It – Wake Up To What Is

The process is learning to return your attention to what you are focused on. In managing your thoughts you do similarly. Whenever you notice you are not thinking positively you change your thoughts from negative to positive. You shift what you are doing. Get it?

In either practice you do it without blame or judgement. Just bring your attention back to the task at hand. Belly or positive thoughts. Eventually, in both you develop the ability to stay with it longer and longer. You condition yourself in positive and beneficial ways.

However, in mediation, you learn later to disengage and simply be the watcher of the thoughts. Imagine sitting near a stream and simply watching leaves float by on the water. Imagine clouds floating by in the sky. Our thoughts float by too. Instead of riding we watch.

You Didn’t Wake Up Today To Be Mediocre – Discover Yourself

Typically, whatever thought we think takes us into a series of other thoughts down the rabbit hole. Instead of traveling with the thoughts and getting emotional with them we watch without judgement. We are simply aware of them. Separate from them.

These methods are all quite simple to do. They each can help us wake up and go beyond what we have known previously. They help us experience other aspects of life we can’t know without having the experience. Give them the opportunity to work for you. Practice.

Affirmations and visualization, self hypnosis or mediation are wonderful processes. I’ll share another that is wonderful. Gratitude. Focus on being and feeling genuine gratitude for who you are. The simple practice of being appreciative is powerfully transformative.

If You Want To Be Happy You Have To Be Happy On Purpose

Be thankful for what you are, what you do, where you are, where you are on your journey and all that you have. Be thankful for what you don’t have yet. Be glad for all of it. Really feel it! Journal it. Celebrate and delight in it. When you do you change. You truly change. Give these methods a chance. You will be surprised. Most importantly, celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Do something positive and new today to enjoy!

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Go Beyond What You Already Know Because The Possibilities Are Endless!

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“Do you feel stuck? Are you dissatisfied with how things are going? Are difficulties getting the best of you? Would you like to make your present conditions better? Do you want a brighter future? If you want tomorrow to be more wonderful you may be at the right place.

Today is all we have but today gives way to tomorrow. What we do this day influences the next. What we do not do today influences the next, as well. Some people never move because they are comfortable in their dissatisfaction. They tolerate a lot. They stand still.

There is a saying based in truth. ‘Standing is harder than moving’. We were made to move. As it is we are far too sedentary. We spend way too much time not moving and many of our medical issues are the result. We can’t stand or stay in one place. Not moving hurts us.  So…

Grab A Pen And Become The Author Of Your Life

If you are dissatisfied you may be at just the right place to put some action into your lifestyle. You may be ready to make a change. This is a great place to be. Dissatisfaction can help move you forward. It can help you get away from your troubles or problems. If so, great!

Be happy things suck enough to get you to do something right now. That’s what happened to me. I had hard turns that got really difficult. One bad thing after another. I tolerated for a long time and then said, ‘wow, you have to make some changes’. I took control.

Everything changed. Are there stills rocks and challenges? You bet there are. The difference is I am different. Rocks are rocks so what. Once, I had hoped, thought, wished, expected that life would be free of all rocks. It doesn’t work that way. We change the rocks remain.

As Long As You Say What You Have You Will Have What You Say

I love my life. If you don’t love yours yet, you can. Decide to take control of yourself. Take control of your thoughts and emotions. It is absolutely worth it! One day you will look back and see what you brought about. You will look back and see how far you came.

Imagine, if three years or one year, or if in six months from now you were to look back and notice how far you had come wouldn’t that be worth it? What if you can see yourself having made many positive changes, would you like what you see? It can be this! It can be better.

Stop, and imagine the life you want to create. See yourself having begun today, as you look back at that moment, when you decide to change yourself and take control. See all the changes to your lifestyle, the money, the love, the leisure, the fulfillment. Notice!

Choose To Smile When Life Frowns – Choose Victory Over Defeat

As you think about that life now, you would notice, your decision to move forward today made all the difference in the world for you. That today you began a positive, productive journey that took you beyond limitations and into your resourcefulness and new heights.

So use your present circumstances to move you forward. Whatever they are. If you want them to be different decide that you will make them different. Decide now you will. This is the first step. Commit to taking the your first steps. It is all good. Make the change today!

Make this change now and you have something wonderful to look forward to and back on. If not, you may miss out on many positive things. Our perceptions form the reality we live within. Our mindset and beliefs determine what we will go for and what we will achieve.

Imagine Your New Life Fully And Completely – Keep Visioning It

What prevents most people from living their dreams is a thought. Don’t let a thought stop you. Instead, stop and take a deep breath and see the bright new future out there waiting for you to make it happen. In your mind take your first steps toward it. Go for it!

Go beyond what you presently know and anything is possible! What you don’t know you don’t know. What you do know often limits you. It provides you the reasons and the excuses for not taking action. Stop! Go beyond both. You’ll discover things you couldn’t otherwise.

That opens everything up for you. The possibilities and potential is endless. Decide to be different. Then congratulate yourself for deciding. Be grateful and practice gratitude for everything. AND keep deciding to be in charge. Do it! Moment to moment.

Today Is Not Just Another Day – It Is A New Opportunity

Live your decision. Be different. Be grateful.  Fill your heart with genuine thankfulness. That will pave the way for more. Discover even the tinest things to be appreciative about. The moment you stop complaining and start celebrating everything changes! It truly does. So celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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2016 Election: Some Mad Some Glad – Do You Care?

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“It was a tough and sad day for many. It was a happy day for others. Some people are scared. Should they be? I don’t believe so. We don’t have to live in fear to desire positive changes. Still, many are fearful. I think we can live courageously in the face of a defeat. Some don’t.

I posted on my FB wall. Grow a pair to those who felt despair. Do I think that is important. YES I do. Don’t give up hope. I get that you are disappointed. You fought the good fight. Keep going if you choose to, or quit but don’t whine and blame and make excuses.

Do I also think, in a different situation, if someone dies, that there should be grieving time. People should grieve and can celebrate a life passed on. I should be sensitive to their loss. They are grieving the loss of an election. Is it the same, no, not really, but still…

Keep Your Thoughts Words And Actions As One

People want to grieve what they think is their dying hope. They fear the worst as a result of the election. They are entitled to. I think there are wiser choices on how to spend time but I do not actually fault them for their choice. People do what they do. Don’t they?

What IS is. Accept it and move on. Moving on may including wanting to change it. To correct what some think is a wrong or a mistake. That is fine with me too. Correct and carry on. Just don’t let results bring you down, don’t think negative, and don’t attack others.

People will do what they will do. They’ll take as much as time as they need. I don’t judge them or begrudge them. I simply point out there are other choices. I do it loudly and provocatively, at times, to get their attention, but I mean no disrespect. I want them to be free.

Imagine What 7 Billion People Could Accomplish …

Trump wins or looses, for me, the world goes on. There will be things I like and don’t like. Hillary wins same point. I will continue to love my life and work for positive change in myself, for others and the world. Every President has done some good things and some bad.

I have agreed with some changes and abhorred others. If people work to get the election result changed and are successful so be it. If they don’t succeed at this so be it. Regardless of the outcome I think now is time to operate from a higher, more positive purpose.

The election is over. We should work together. Yet, some pundits, say we shouldn’t. Do we really want another 8 years of obstruction? Maybe some do. I prefer to think we could all pitch in and work together and get along, but perhaps I am mistaken. A house divided.

… If We All Loved And Respected Each Other

Unless we attempt to work together for the greater good and leave partisan politics behind we will never know. Will we? We lived with 8 years of obstruction and a most disrespected president. He did many things I applauded. He did a number of things I disagreed with.

The world has continued for better or worse. Hasn’t it? Yes, there are still horrible problems globally. There are some pretty awful problems nationally. Instead, of putting our energy into the problems let’s put it into creating solutions. That might help.

My hope is that people are bigger than revenge and an eye for an eye politics. I think the obstructionists traitors. They have a duty, they are paid to work things out. They didn’t. We survived them. Let’s not repeat the same obnoxious, destructive acts and low level thinking.

Physical Change Starts With Mental Change

Let’s rise to a higher standard. Let’s negotiate for the people not the party. Let’s make the country and individual’s lives better. Right there, with that statement, I know there are people who think that will be impossible. But is it? Couldn’t we seek higher ground?

Hey, if you give up all hope, if you pull away from the table, take your marbles and go home and refuse to negotiate any thing then YOU are the problem. You are the problem if you hate the haters. I mean really, some people can’t see the forest for the trees.

They want to end violence and are willing to beat up, injure or kill people who are violent. That, in MY book, IS insane. They want to end hate and prejudice and then hate the people who don’t agree or think as they do. This is not good on any level.

Be The Change You Want To See In The World

Obstruction, anger, hatred, party politics, my side must win at all costs, we must never concede a bargaining chip, are problems and many people live this way.  All or nothing. Only my way is the right way. Agree with me or you aren’t my friend or family member.

Really? I mean REALLY? You put politics over your personal relationships. Really? DO you think your hate and intolerance of people who don’t exactly agree with you will save the world. YOU ARE THE PROBLEM. Get it YOU ARE! A house divided.

You should know by now there are many shades of grey. At least 50, right? So come on let’s hold ourself to a higher standard and drop partisan standoff politics. Let’s drop hating each other and realize it is our ‘right’ to disagree. To pursue happiness as each see fit. C’mon!

A House Divide Can Not Stand

Look, anger or dissatisfaction isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It can be used to right many wrongs. When it is aimed at a love one or a friend, or even a stranger, simply because they hold different views than you do, then your thoughts and behaviors border on dangerous.

We want people of color to be accepted. We want people with different gender preferences and biases to be accepted. We want  equal rights for women and men. We want women to control their destinies and their bodies. We want health care for all. We want…

Oh, except those of you who don’t. Okay, so you don’t. Instead of getting made why not try to love them into agreeing with you. Why not resect the differences. Hey, you know what, maybe you and they don’t really need to convince each other. You don’t need to hate.

If You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You Are Right

Do you? Do you need to hate someone just because they think or vote differently? A house divided can not stand. Consider the law of attraction and new thought philosophy. You get back what you put out. What you focus on expands and becomes magnified.

Whatever we focus on or think about most grows in importance. If we focus on and think mostly about what divides us, how the other side is wrong they what looms before us is intolerance, hatred and negativity. We get back more of the same. Some call it karma.

It makes sense. Jesus said ‘turn the other cheek’. Why, because it is difficult. What you really want to do, and are inclined to do, is hit them back harder. You wan to SMACK ’em! That is karma. Jesus said interrupt it. Rise to a higher level. Offer the other cheek.  Stop!

Every Thought We Put Into The World Affects It

Stop perpetuating the cycle of violence. Don’t mistake this as a political blog understand it as a spiritual blog or one on personal development and self improvement. Create harmony and balance. Work for the greater good. Become more loving and accepting.

Find things to appreciate about the opposition. Look for opportunities. Grow and work together. Eliminate differences by finding more agreement, NOT by eliminating the opposition. Live, love, laugh and join together. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Decide to make your day glorious for others too!

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How To Feel Energized And Alive When You Don’t But You Need To!

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“What do you do when you are feeling exhausted and need to rest? You have so much you need to do and you can’t take a break. Can you manage your energy to get it done? Yes, there are many things you can do and I will share a few. First, rest if you can.

Even a short nap can be refreshing and renewing. Better to catch a few z’s than struggle to keep the lids open. Close your eyes, focus on your breath, allow yourself to drift off. If you are on a deadline, set a timer so you get back up. Catch a few when possible during the day.

A minute or two. Five is better, 20 might be heavenly. Get some rest if you can. If you can’t then learn to manage your physical body. Energy begets energy. How you sit, stand, and move matters. Sit as if you have 5 times more energy. Stand, move as if you had 5x more.

If You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You Are Right

It is always useful to practice in advance of needing things. That is why athletes and sports teams practice and rehearse ahead of matches, bouts, games and meets. Rehearsal helps wire in what you need. So move you body as if you had lots and lots of energy!

Walk, put the look on your face, move your hands and feet as if you had 2x, 5x, 10x even 20x more energy. Jump, shout, dance, sing, laugh. Use you physiology to wake you up. Research has born out YET AGAIN that even adopting a standing power stance works.

I have been teaching this for 40 years. Yoga and other disciplines for centuries. How you stand, sit, and move either energizes or relaxes you. How you breath, how you think does the same. Asanas or postures can energize or relax. Stand with power and confidence.

The More You Do The More You Can Do – Energy Begets Energy

You know what that looks like. Chin up, head back. Chest out. Hands on hips as Superman stands or out stretched. Hold it for a minute or two. Your body responds. It is electro-chemical. It is biological. It is neurologically wired. Learn to use it. It works. It really does. Try it.

Eat food that helps you become alert. A lot of bread and pasta and processed foods, put you into zzzzzz zone. Sugar will get your revved up but then you crash. Soda’s the same. Energy drinks aren’t wise choices. Drink water and eat some protein. Be smart about food.

Drink plenty of water. Stay hydrated. Most of us are dehydrated much of the time. By the time we are thirsty it is too late. Better to drink or sip water every 15 minutes or half an hour. Water keeps our brain and body operating better. After all, we are mostly water.

The More Relaxed The Muscles The More Energy Can Flow

Breath! Get some fresh air. Cooler is more refreshing and wakes us up more than hot. Cool fresh air if possible. Fresh air if nothing else. And breath. Learn some breathing techniques designed to relax and learn those designed to energize. You can learn this.

Just a few deep breaths can work wonders. Talk a walk. Change you location. Look around. Enjoy your surroundings. Take a break. Bend and stretch. Stretch left, right, and back. Gently. Arms over head. Stretch. Get a massage. Massage your feet. Change your shoes.

Little things can make a big difference. Smile more. Laugh. Juggle, dance, skip. Look far off into the horizon, scan it for awhile. Changing your focus and where you are looking works wonders. Sometimes we only look as far away as the computer screen on the desk.

By Thinking Positive Thoughts And Images You Raise Your Energy

Have some tea. Some suggest coffee. Organic coffee and tea and pure water is a better choice than chemically laden commercial brands. If you aren’t allergic bee pollen or honey may give you a boost. Organic raw honey is preferable. It is low glycemic.

Just make certain anything you do doesn’t cause more issues. Take it easy. Check with your medical practitioner to be sure you can engage in some process, exercise or food group. Be safe, smart and be wise. Most important, manage your thinking. This really matters.

If your self talk is all a downer, and about how tired and exhausted you are you will be. What you say is what you get. If your self talk is upbeat and positive you are more apt to be so. Put on some up beat or inspiring music if you need assistance. Attitude is everything.

Feel Alive – Feel Yourself Vibrating – Feel Your Cells Singing

Visualize yourself filled with light, white energizing light. See yourself feeling wonderful and energized going through your day. Notice how you look, sound and move. Bask in the energy. Feel it. Do a chakra energy meditation. Use whatever works for you.

It’s all energy management. Be thankful and filled with gratitude. Express enthusiasm and joy and appreciation for everything. Drop within and feel connected and alive. Notice how good it is to be alive and above ground. Be grateful.  Celebrate everything!’ Rex Sikes

Delight yourself today?

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Habit Formation, Overcoming Difficulty, Responsibility, Visualization

How To Get The Upper Hand On Bad Decisions PT 2

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“We are discussing how to get past chronic prior bad conditioning, habits, and move into positive new ways of being, freer and more resourceful. This blog is continued from the last. I share a couple approaches from the many participants engage in during workshops.

You can take two vantage points. One is you see yourself in your mental movie. You watch as if you are an actor on the movie screen performing the actions. You watch yourself before and after the trigger. You see yourself, the trigger the stop, calm and continue.

You view YOU behaving resourcefully. In this disassociated way of seeing you can act as a movie director would and make your mental movie screen more compelling by playing with the color, size of image, sound and other elements which contribute to your feelings.

We Are What We Repeatedly Do 

The other way is to see what you would be seeing through your own eyes. You don’t see yourself but you see the world around you. You see the other cars and drivers, the  world from your point of view. You see what you see as you do in everyday life looking forward.

Rehearse success from each vantage point. When you watch yourself going through it you would have the feelings a movie audience member would have watching a character go through the circumstances. Do you understand? You can ask questions of me.

Use comments and I’ll answer as best I can. In the other vantage point, looking through your own eyes, you’d feel how you feel actually going through it. Since it is rehearsal you may not feel all of it but you’d feel what it is like to some degree. Feel it fully.

Break Bad Habits And Make Better Ones

In this process you change what happens when you get triggered to react less than gloriously. In the movie screen version you watch yourself stop and then behave differently. In the through your eyes version you experience the trigger, feel it and alter it. Get it?

The instant you become aware that you are feeling or thinking or behaving less than gloriously you must STOP! Pause and choose to behave differently. Behave as you prefer to behave. In repeating the mental exercise again and again you are rehearsing what you WANT.

Stop mentally rehearsing what you do NOT want. That is how you have been living and getting what you don’t want. Focus on what you DO want. Is it difficult to change the old habit? Of course, habits can be  tough to break at first.

Small Daily Improvements Are The Key To Great Results

To break it you bring awareness to the moment; become aware of what sets it off. It may seem difficult to do at first trying to notice the moment prior to reacting less than gloriously. It is likely you will blow through it many times but keep at it.

Eventually, you will notice sooner. You will get quicker at it. Your awareness will increase and you will be able to slip into that gap and divert the energy. No one can say how soon this will happen so you have to commit to sticking with it. Don’t give up keep at it.

Eventually, you will gain the upper hand. Mastery of anything, any skill, talent, behavior takes application, attention and practice. Repeated, correctly over a long enough period of time is how skills are developed. Even getting angry at traffic is a learned response.

Drop By Drop The Tub Fills – Awareness Is The Key To Change

In this process you learn to bring awareness to the trigger prior to being flooded with neuro-chemicals and impulses. As soon as you are aware of the changes you stop and take that deep breath interrupting the pattern you originally learned.

Interrupt it enough. Divert it with useful behavior you’d prefer to engage in and soon you will have developed new habits. It may take a little time so be patient. The more committed your are to learning the new behaviors the easier and quicker they will take hold.

Appreciate the process. I am sharing one of a number of approaches you can utilize to make changes. As always practice gratitude and positivity.  Fill your life with celebration. Enjoy the process because you can make some powerful changes. Enjoy celebration and celebrate everything.” Rex Sikes

What will you do to have a glorious day?

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How To Get The Upper Hand On Bad Decisions

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“Okay, are you ready for some tough love. I know some people won’t like what I am about to say, while others will heartily agree. I think it needs to be said. Some people don’t like to hear things but the bottom line is we don’t know what we don’t know. We can’t.

I may make this two parts. I don’t know, nor can I know, what it is that I don’t know, given my present state of awareness. I can’t connect the dots forward but I can after the fact, go back and see how they lead up to this moment. But I can’t know in advance.

SO whether you want to hear this or not, perhaps you need to. I need to that is for certain. So what is good for the goose is good for the gander, right? I share this because I think it is one of the main reasons people have difficulty in their lives. Ready, here goes.

Good Decisions Come From Experience

If your life is crap it is because you ALREADY, outside of you own awareness, decided it is crap. The decision was made for you, by you, out of old chronic conditioning. Your very own habits determined how you would react. They’ll determine how you react to this blog.

You (we) react before you (we) have any awareness of what was happening. That is how the brain works. It learns to do things and then it does them automatically. Something internal or external triggers a programs and away it goes. It runs on and on.

Until or unless something happens to alter it or stop it, it does what it LEARNED to do.  Habits are wired in. There are good habits and good programs that run a lot of your life. There are other habits many might label less than glorious. Many of these run your life too.

Experience Comes From Bad Decisions – Learn From Everything

For example, getting very mad because traffic is ‘bad’. You don’t have to. Some people don’t, but, you do, (IF you do)  because that is what you’ve always done. Somewhere, at sometime, you reacted that way enough until it became a reliable neural highway in your head.

Chemicals squirt and electric impulses fire off in a particular sequence and voila’ ROAD RAGE! It is reliable. It is automatic. It happens fast. It happens every time. You live with road stress. You’d prefer not to but you haven’t changed it, yet. It is reliable!

If this occurs day and night, to work and back this is NO way to spend your time. It is no way to spend your time in a car. Some people don’t stop there. They recount the story, feeling stressed each time they do, multiple times throughout the day.

You Are Not A Product Of Circumstances But Of Decisions

Some people are worse at this than you are, but many others are far better. They aren’t bothered at all about traffic. They travel to and from places hardly ever getting ruffled for even a little bit. For some others it may be a mild nuisance. Annoying but they let it go.

The only way to change it IS to change it. You have to get inside and make a new decision before the old one fires off.  BUT how on earth can you do that? How do you extinguish the chronic behavior? You have to teach the brain ‘Not That’ but ‘This’ instead.

You have to train your brain to NOT DO THAT but to do this other thing instead. You have to shift from rage to relaxed. HOW? Awareness is the key. Since you can’t stop it before the trigger results in a flood of electro-chemical activity you must catch it.

The Most Important Decision You Make Is To Be In A Good Mood

You must catch it shortly afterwards. The sooner the better. SO you must become sensitized to what sets it off. You must know the trigger. You must know the trigger point. You learn what this is by deciding to change it. That is the first step. You make a decision.

Then you bring awareness to the situation. You begin to plan. ‘When that occurs I’ll do this instead.’ You can really benefit from visualization here. Imagine the situation that sets the sequence off. As you begin to see and feel yourself go into the old behavior, STOP.

Imagine yourself creating a pause. STOP, see yourself take a deep breath. TAKE ONE! Or two or three. Imagine yourself being aware that as it starts you stop it by changing your breathing. Visualize this again and again. You stop, breath and watch yourself shift.

To Change Your Life You Must Change Your Habits

Watch yourself calm down and behave differently. See yourself behave how you want to behave. You stop, calm, and drive normally. You stay calm and relaxed, but attentive and alert to the driving process. You imagine being how you want to be at that moment.

You rehearse the behavior again and again in your mind. There are two perceptual vantage points to take and I have just described one. I’ll describe the other in the next blog. For now you can practice this with any issue you would like to change. Practice on something mild.

It is always wise to choose something that is not to emotionally significant or overpowering at first. Learn the process, get good at it before moving on to more emotionally charged issues. This is wise practice. Take baby steps leading up to bigger change.

Replace Your Negative Thought Habits With Positive Ones

Practice making the changes. Practice your feeling gratitude. Begin and end each day and each practice session looking for this to feel grateful about and express your appreciation for these. Feel it fully and enjoy and delight int he feelings. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Have a glorious day!

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The Second Powerful Way Of Seeing You Must Utilize And Why

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Have you worked with the first way to visualize? I hope so. Get good with it, if you aren’t already. Practice, become deliberate with your imagination. Remember what you can conceive and believe you can achieve. Correct repetition, for long enough, builds skill.

Here is the second important way to visualize. These methods are not in order of importance. We do both of them naturally. When you are able to do these purposefully is when you increase your abilities to perform powerfully and productively. You develop great skill.

You can change how you think and live and what you get in life! Playing with these components strengthens your ability to deliberately use your mind in beneficial and creative ways. The more you do it the more you can do, more easily. You ability grows.

The Subconscious Only Says Yes – Make Sure It Is What You Want

The other way to imagine is to see what you see as you look through your own eyes. If you walked along a beach you wouldn’t see yourself you’d see your surroundings. You might see your hands and body some, but not your face unless you looked in a mirror.

Seeing through your own eyes allows you to feel what you would feel right NOW in that present moment. You may feel things even stronger this way because you are imaging what you see, hear and feel in your body not watching it. The feelings are immediate, now!

Either way you can have powerful feelings. When you look though your own eyes you feel it as if it is happening and how it feels. When you watch yourself on a movie screen it may feel more inspiring and motivating. Do both. Be inspired and feel what it feels like to BE it!

Energy Flows Where Your Attention Goes – Focus Focus Focus

Both of these are great ways to visualize. For example, you want to buy a new house. See the house and imagine yourself in it. See yourself with family and friends. Notice everything about the house in detail. Decor, where things are. Be thorough.

Fantastic. Watch yourself enjoy dinner, party, sleep, whatever you do in the house. Be as detailed and specific as possible and enjoy the good feelings you have as you imagine this. Savor the feelings. Feelings are most important. They send this message to your brain.

Keep the feelings. Amp the feelings. If you feel inspired, motivated, happy, proud, powerful, this is good. You use the mental movie to create the feelings. Your brain gets the feelings and goes ‘Oh, Okay I get it!’ This is an extremely important concept to keep in mind.

Believe In Yourself And Your Ability To Create and Make It Happen

The other way to imagine it is to walk from room to room and see and feel what that is like from your point of  view. Look through your eyes as you did in the beach example. See the people as you would in everyday life. See their faces, hear their voices, feel their touches.

Imagine these people congratulating you on your new purchase. Feel them pat you on the back, shake your hand and hug you. Hear their voices and what they say. FEEL how good it feels to have this home and their congratulations. You did it! You got what you wanted!

Imagine waking up in bed in the new home, eating your meals. Imagine relaxing in the comfort of your home. Enjoy walking the grounds. Park your car in the driveway or garage. Live the experience of being in your new home from your point of view.

To Live In A New Reality You Must First Conceive Of That Reality

Obviously, you don’t just magically make a new house appear. There is a process of acquiring it. The first step is to know what you want and why. This give you the ooomph for all the rest. You make it extremely desirable. Your obsession. What you must have.

You imagine yourself having it. Living it. Being it! This informs your brain. Your brain works on it. You begin to get ideas, intuitions and insights. This is what it means to begin to take inspired action. You must follow through in everyday life. Your brain works for you.

Imagine scouting the house, taking the tour, buying the house, closing on the house, celebrating, moving in, celebrating some more, feeling wonderful, living in the house. Be detailed. Make it vivid. Make it real. Create the process for yourself.

Imagination Is More Important Than Knowledge

Visualize both ways. Affirm it. Declare it with emotion and enthusiasm. Believe it and expect it. Conceive it and believe it! Enjoy creating your future. Feel grateful for what you have! Delight and be thankful! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Live fully this day!

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If You Don’t Do These Few Important Things You Won’t Get What You

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“The principles I have mentioned numerous times in my blog posts are these. What you see is what you get. What you say is what you get. What you feel is what you get. What and who you are is what you get more of. You get what you focus on. It expands. It is yours.

We continue exploring deliberate creation and making your dreams come true in this and upcoming blog posts. Visualizing and affirming your intentions are powerful tools to develop the mindset and inform your subconscious what you want.  From within to without!

You create inside and translate it to the outside through the strong, intense desire to make it happen and by the faith and conviction that you can and will do it. You bring it about through inspired action. You create, make happen and attract the results you want. YOU do it!

Imagine A Bright Future – In Your Mind Now – And It Can Be Yours

First, you make the invisible powerfully visible in your mind. You send strong, intense feelings of this future good you desire to your subconscious by repeated, consistent visualizing. You want your mind movies to really create strong feelings in you. Feelings!

Feelings are the delivery vehicle to your subconscious. Feelings deliver the images. Feelings inform your subconscious ‘I want to create this. Now do it!’ The important key is always put it in present tense. ‘I am this! I have this right now! I am grateful for _________.’

That message and those feelings get the subconscious mind acting on your behalf. Otherwise, it does whatever it’s been doing. You deliberately program your subconscious to create what you want by the strong emotional feeling messages you intentionally send it.

Declare What You Want – Feel As Though You Already Have It

NOW is the only time! The subconscious mind is eternally present. It only knows right now. That is why you put whatever you want in the future into present tense. You have it now! You are it now! It IS your present reality. Not someday, somewhere, but here and now. Get it?

Some day never comes. Now is Now. It will take a while for you to manifest it, but if you do this, and expect it, you can make it happen. Visualization gets the mindset right. Affirmations and Directed Questions™ gets the mindset right. It is right mindset and action!

Affirm and visualize, ‘I am _________’. ‘I have________’.  I am positive. I feel incredible. I have a million dollars. I enjoy being rich. I am a good person. I am a great learner. I am unstoppable. I have a wonderful life. I am loving. I am successful. I have lot’s of energy. I am dynamic.

Act As If You Have It Right Now – It Is Yours – Be Grateful For It

Say it like you mean it. Shout it! Be enthusiastic. Enjoy it. Affirm it! Declare it! Assert it with confidence. When you visualize and affirm it should feel great. If it doesn’t check what you are thinking. Make the changes. If it doesn’t feel right adjust it until it does.

Feelings inform the unconscious and feelings inform you. If everything isn’t exactly lined up you will get a signal. Something will feel off or less than glorious. If you feel bad examine and change the thoughts you were and are thinking. It is your alert or alarm system.

Feelings occur to help us pay attention. If you don’t believe your visualization or affirmations you feelings let you know. If you bit off more than you presently are able to believe is possible you may feel doubtful or less than glorious. Feelings signal you so you can change.

Live Your Future Reality – On The Inside – Now – In Your Present

The goal is to feel good. If you don’t adjust your thoughts until you do. Feel your best, feel excited and enthused while you visualize and affirm. Adjust until you do. When you are in the sweet spot, and are congruent with your thoughts and desires, you feel it. It feels right!

It feels good. When you are feeling good you are thinking good. This is a powerful reason to practice gratefulness. See and affirm what you are happy about. Delight in what you appreciate. Do it as often as you can. Live it. Feel it, BE it. It adds great fuel to your fire! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Make each moment marvelous!

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The First Powerful Way Of Seeing You Must Utilize And Why

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“Do you spend time purposefully visualizing ? If not, it is a practice you will want to embrace. It is so important that you do. Deliberately imagining what you want and how you want it sets your creative mind working  to get it. It opens up your imagination and abilities.

Are you enjoying these posts? I  hope you are. If you have questions please ask them in the comments. If this is your first time visiting and reading, please go back at least a few posts and read from there. We’ll continue on this topic for awhile and return to it frequently.

There a couple ways to imagine things. One is to see yourself in the image as if you were watching yourself in a movie or video. This is a great way to see how you look, move, sound and interact with others. You see yourself where you want to be and with whom.

Whether You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You Are Right

You can be artistic and add vivid color. You can make the size of your mental movie screen larger, much, much bigger, as when you are in a movie theater. You can put it in surround sound or add music. Anything you can do with a TV you can do inside your mind theater.

You can enhance the image and boost your good feelings. You can improve on this movie in your mind so it is even more appealing and makes the feelings stronger. In Neuro Linguistic Programming we call the components you can adjust Submodalities. For example:

Visual: size, shape, color or black and white, hue, tint, light, shadow, location, near or far away and more. Sound: volume, location, timber, tone, pitch, rate (fast or slow) and more. Feelings: touch, rough, smooth, heavy, soft, pressure, a tickle, location in body, and more.

What You Feel Is What You Get – Feelings Are Important

You can vary any and all of these and make any mental experience less intense or more intense. Taste and smells can be important too. Add in anything that makes it more wonderful.  Construct it so it is appealing, inspiring, and motivating for you. Make it incredible!

Make your dreams and goals more desirable, intense and immediate. Movie directors and symphony conductors play with these components.  They utilize them to create feelings in the viewer, or listener; the experiencer. You can too. You don’t have to but you can.

Sports coaches direct players to perform in certain ways.  Be your own coach, your own conductor and director.  Deliberately make the adjustments. Watch your mind movie. Do you like it better? Does it feel stronger? If yes, cool. If not, change it until you do. Get it?

Imagine A Bright Future – In Your Mind Now – And It Can Be Yours

More coming in next post. Take charge. Assume control. Tailor it for the greatest return. Make it wonderful. As you progress you may continue to improve on it. It is your movie make it most appealing. You can always change it back. Just DO IT!

Make it outstanding, lock it in, and visualize it daily! Bless, nurture and encourage yourself as you engage daily. Stick with it through rough spots or times when nothing seems to be improving or happening. You’ll breakthrough as long as you persist. You will!

Delight all along the way. Enjoy it and be grateful. Have fun, practice in the spirit of play. As it has been said, ‘ You can pretend anything and master it.’ Allow yourself to easily grow. Your skills develop faster and you go further when you celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Have a fantastic day!

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