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Creating The Future, Goals, Habit Formation, Well Formed Outcomes

Strategies For Success: Take These 6 Positive Steps To Overcome Disappointment And Get Your Goals!

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“Want to make your career, relationship and life goals come true? Would you like to transform yourself into the person you always knew you could be? Do you want to set goals and take steps to get what you want in life? If yes, then do these things.

I have a number of large consulting and training projects. I am working with corporations, some large and some small businesses. One is a large psychological services facility, another is  consulting for the CEO and the Board Of Directors for a urban building project.

I am working with these as team members and individuals.  Our goal is to develop  an unstoppable success attitude or mindset and leadership abilities. To do this it is important to clarify the purpose of the project leader and the various team members.

What You See And Say And Feel Is What You Get

I help them learn and set Well Formed Outcomes (WFO) to create a daily, weekly, monthly, yearly action plan for moving toward their target purpose while accomplishing numerous smaller goals along the way. It is important to get to the big ones step by step.

All the goals should be in service of the overall purpose, otherwise they can be obstacles and distractions. As my clients work on accomplishing their large goals they achieve the smaller ones that move them forward in the right direction.

They also set individual and personal outcomes too. One of the tools in my tool belt come from Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP). I have been training and teaching NLP (among other things since early 80’s) I shared with them the conditions for WFO.

Stay Positive

We’ll explore WFO in this blog post and subsequent ones. WFO have a set of conditions you must meet in order to make it easiest to get your goals. Each of these conditions help you get clear on what you want and how you can most readily accomplish it.

To practice WFO you want to write out each step to keep track of the answers that come to you. The Outcome should be:

1. Stated in the positive: Speak in terms of what you want. What do you want to include? Do not state what you don’t want or prefer to exclude. Leave that alone. By stating it in the positive you aim at your target. You know where and what you want to get to.

If You Can Conceive It You Can Achieve It

2. Capable of representing in the senses: What will you see, how will you look when you get your outcome? What do you hear, say to yourself and what are others saying? How will you feel? Emotions and positive sensations in your body?

Where? (E.g. you feel your shoulders pull back, your chest move out, you chine raise, your feet firmly planted) when you accomplish your outcome?  Are their smells or tastes too? Write out each of these as detailed as you can. Your evidence is real world based.

3. Possible and achievable: It can’t be outside of a real world possibility. It must be something people CAN actually accomplish in a reasonable amount of time. Most outcomes are possible given a realistic time frame.

Build On Successes

Unfortunately, some people want things too quickly and have unrealistic time frames and expectations. Given the proper amount of time, and correct actions you can accomplish most things See number 5.

4. You specify and have all the necessary resources: Capital, knowledge, equipment, time, people, materials, etc. You assemble what you need in order to make it happen. Determine where you must go, or who else you need to enlist. What’s required?

For Outcomes to be really well formed you should be able to begin your actions and maintain them all on your own. The conclusion should rely on you successfully achieving your goal without relying on anyone else. You can control what you do but not others.

Establish Good Habits

Make sure you outcome is something you alone can pursue. Make certain you can begin working on it, follow through and complete it all on your own. Outside help is fine but should not be the determining factor on whether you get or don’t get your outcomes.

5. Have a deadline date that is realistic: Accomplished by when? Set a reasonable time for accomplishing your outcome. Put it on your calendar and work towards achieving it within that amount of time. The more realistic you are in all of these the easier it is to get it.

6.It is appropriately contextualized and ecological: This means it does not upset the system or apple cart. Your goal should not screw up your life or others. It should fit within your existing lifestyle and relationships. It does not harm anyone. It should be beneficial.

Decide And Act

If it includes others it is win/win. If it requires too many extraneous conditions or is too large of an immediate lifestyle change you may not continue to work on accomplishing your outcome. Don’t try to push a large boulder uphill. Make it manageable and do-able.

For example, if you wanted to exercise more how can you fit it into your existing schedule? What changes might you need to make in order to get to the gym, work out, and not rob you of important time with family, work or whatever?

If it takes time from other important areas in your life how likely would you be to continue? While some may answer, very likely, most people ultimately don’t continue. This is important to realize. You don’t want to bite off more than you can chew.

Limit Distractions – Focus On What You Want

Bit by bit you get there. You take positive, practical, reasonable, well thought out steps toward accomplishing what you want. You identify the end result clearly, what you see, hear and feel, so you know when you have arrived. You know what to expect.

Knowing these and feeling these keeps you motivated and feeling positive. By setting a deadline date you learn to begin and end within a given time, no excuses. You do what you can in the time you are allotted with the resources available.

That is Well Formed Outcomes. You can set them and accomplish more than you ever thought possible.

Consistent And Persistent Action Will Get You There

One more thing. You should know that you already have all the resources within you to accomplish your goals and dreams. However, you may not know this, believe this or recognize them. Still, you do. There are other times you succeeded, no matter how small, when you thought, felt and behaved resourcefully.

Tap into these. Remember, previous accomplishments and challenges when you prevailed. What did you see, hear and say and feel when you were confident and successful? Relive these in your mind, your memories. Get in touch with your feelings of success.

Think of resources as emotional states and abilities. Resources include your ability to learn; to smile, laugh and feel good; to be confident. Your ability to relax or feel peaceful or secure. Your ability to think clearly. Your ability to be playful and have fun.

Look For, Find And Use Your Inner Talents And  Abilities

You are already resourceful in so many ways. Recognize and validate this. Look inside for the best you have. Saying no can be a resource, setting boundaries, getting appropriately angry. Frustration or discontent that leads to positive action can be a resource. Anything CAN be a resource when utilized appropriately.

I’ll share more about WFO in upcoming blogs. I provide you with more details about setting them including questions you can ask to make certain you can most easily achieve the outcomes you set. Remember, what you can conceive and believe you can achieve!

It is an exciting opportunity for each of us to examine how our minds limit us, when we let it, and how to take control of our mind and direct it toward our goals and dreams. Setting WFO means gaining needed clarity in order to more easily get what you want.

Know What You Want – Clarify And Simplify – Make It Happen

It means helping team members clarify their over all purpose in working together. It is important they are all on the same page and that their efforts support each other and contribute to the overall project purpose.

In the same way it is important for a team of rowers to all face the same way, oars in the water, rowing in the same direction at the same time. It is important to get cooperation from members so they work in harmony. They work with each other not against.

The same thing can be said of your conscious and unconscious mind, the left and right hemisphere. The goal is to get them aligned and working together congruently so you can make your goals and dreams happen. Work with yourself not in opposition.

Keep It Simple Sweetheat

The members of the team get home work and exercises that I prescribe and we meet weekly to evaluate and track progress. Well, that’s pretty much it for today. If you enjoy these blogs please use the information to positively transform your own life.

AND please share it with your family and friends, even strangers, so they can changes their lives for the better too. Spread the word and together we can help many more people live their dreams. That is one of mine, to reach and positively influence as many as possible.

Set goals, make them big enough to motivate you with tiny enough baby steps to accomplish them by a deadline date and you will easily achieve much more than you ever imagined possible. Drop by drop the tub gets fill. Get into the practice of setting and getting WFO.

To Know And Not To Do Is Not To Know

The proper use of knowledge is to apply it. Make it a habit. Have fun learning and using WFO daily. While some people think they must have a life transformation explosion, a dramatic major overall, realistically it is the little things you do on a consistent basis that pay exponential dividends. Master this and it will amaze you. All the while live, love laugh, and celebrate everything.” Rex Sikes

Minutes count to. Make all your moments magical!

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Attitude, Confidence, Focus, Relationships

Strategies For Handling Criticism And Cruel Remarks. Do This!

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Strategies to stop letting others hurt you. I got a request for a blog post on this topic. It is a great topic and a great request. I am happy to address it and give you and idea of some of the positive things you can do to change it from being a problem.

Listen to your own heart. Turn your thoughts and attentions to positive thoughts. Focus on your confidence. Make your Mantras ones of worthiness and self love. See yourself ideal. Visualize.

See your self resilient. Some people mentally put a protective colored bubble around themselves. Others just learn to let it roll off them as water off a duck’s back.

The Mind Is As Strong As It’s Weakest Think

You get what you focus on. If you focus on unwanted comments and let them hurt you they will. If you choose to ignore them and not let them bother you they won’t. The choice is yours.

It never hurts to develop a thicker skin so you don’t take what others say too seriously. When someone calls you a name realize it is really more about them than it is about you.

Understand this and rise above being offended or hurt. Stop being a victim. People project. We all do. What they find wrong about you is most likely more about them than it is about you. Know this!

You Get What You Focus On

Decide to be different. Learn how to let it go. Understand it is other people’s projections even when it is well-intended. Say thanks for sharing and move on.

Criticism from friends or foe is an opportunity to examine ourselves and grow. Say thanks. Examine yourself. If it is accurate apply the appropriate action or remedy to make the changes.

If not, let it go. Put everything into perspective as best you can. Consider the source. Be grateful you have friends. Learn to appreciate what you do have.

Energy Flows Where Attention Goes

If a loved one tells you something you didn’t want to hear, it may be well-meaning even if non-supportive. They don’t intend to hurt you. Understand this. They meant to be helpful. Be grateful.

If an enemy, well, why even bother to let it hurt you. What would you expect from an enemy? Let that one go right away. Don’t give it a second thought. It is an enemy.

Whether from friend of or enemy you might just consider it a gift. Often times friends won’t tell you like it is. Someone who doesn’t like you might. Consider this.

The More We Do The More We Can Do

If someone could tell you something about yourself, you didn’t realize, wouldn’t you want them to? What if everyone knew it but you? Wouldn’t you want some one to be honest enough to say it?

‘Hey you got a booger on your lip’ or ‘Your slip is showing.’ As if this last one mattered today when people where their underwear on the outside. But you get the idea, right?

Sometimes feedback can be useful even from an unwanted source, said in an unwanted way. We should want the feedback that helps us grow even if we don’t like getting it. Be open to valuable input.

When People Hurt You Repeatedly Think Of Them As Sandpaper…

Choose to think differently. Decide to learn not to let other’s opinions bother you. First remember, opinions don’t matter. Everyone has one. So what? Don’t fall apart because of one.

Learn to control your thoughts and direct your mind. When negativity comes your way, recognize it and choose to focus on the positive. Direct your mind elsewhere productive and positive.

Do not be a victim of someone else’s crappy behaviors. Don’t allow yourself to suffer because people are stupid, cruel and unkind. Realize they have more to lose by being the way they are.

… They Scratch You And They Hurt You …

If you are a nice person. If you attempt to live well, respect others and don’t succumb to trading poisonous barbs then rise above it all. Feel sorry for the low life’s who can’t. Pity them and move on.

Develop you confidence and self-esteem. Use affirmations, visualizations and condition yourself. Develop your strengths and accept and let go of your weaknesses. Or develop them too.

If you can change something change it. If you can’t accept that you can’t and change something else that you can. Like your attitude. Change your attitude if you can’t change the other things.

… But Later You’ll Be Shining And Polished

In fact, just develop the attitude of a winner, a champion and a victor and you will be less likely to be susceptible to frivolous attempts to hurt you. You’ll be less like to be overly sensitive to well meaning criticism.

Well, there are a few things you can do. There are more. Perhaps, we’ll discuss them another time too. Meanwhile, gratitude works wonders. If you preoccupy yourself with being grateful for everything you are less likely to get hurt.

You can find the silver lining in the dark clouds. Look for the good behind all things. Miracles can happen when you are thankful. You get back more of what you focus on so focus on the best and let go of the rest. Be grateful, truly appreciative and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Feel positive today. It’s a great day to find your best feelings!

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Attitude, Focus, Intentional Thinking, Positive Thinking

This Is Precisely Why Your Life Sucks But You Can Change It!

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“You have tried positive thinking and the law of attraction but it just doesn’t seem to work. Perhaps, you gave up. Career stuck, debt is mounting, you just aren’t all that happy. You know what you want but you aren’t sure you’ll ever get there. Right now sucks.

What to do? How do you get what you want in the future if you don’t like what is going on right now? Well, you absolutely won’t if you throw in the towel are or negative about it. That won’t help at all. However, there is good news. Frankly, great news for you!

The Law Of Attraction or The Law Of Creation, as I like to call it, because actually we are responsible for everything we have and don’t have, always works. Once we accept this we can better work with it. The LOA or LOC means that what you focus on you get.

What You Focus On Expands

If you want money and you don’t have any and you focus on your current debt, dire circumstances, lack of cash then that is what you create and attract more of. Your focus determines what you get. Good or bad, right or wrong, true or not you get what you focus on.

Why? Because your focus determines how you feel. Remember thoughts precede feelings, feelings precede actions, or lack of actions, and actions determine our results. SO our thoughts determine our results. Our thoughts create our results.

We create and attract what we are. Because what we are feeling is what we are. If we feel great we get more back. If we feel crummy we get more back. Stop whining about it and realize that is how it works. You have to face it to work with it. Accept it and use it.

You Get What You Focus On

Stop overthinking EVERYTHING! When you think about what you want, AND that you don’t have it, yet, you are actually keeping it away. You move one step forward then back You are stuck. Let go of present circumstances and focus on what you want.  Enjoy now!

In order to live better today and have a better tomorrow you cannot focus on the gap between then and now. You must focus on all the good right now to get more good now and later. You must focus on the wonderful feelings no matter what the circumstances are.

Do you understand this, yet? It means controlling your thoughts, and your attitude. Direct them to what is right, good, feels great and keep them there. Ignore what you don’t want and prefer to avoid. Stop focusing on the gap, the lack, the dire and the yucky.

You Present Circumstances Are A Result Of Your Thought

Focus on anything and everything that is good and right and bright, no matter how small, and keep your attention there. Lot’s of tiny things add up. Look at the beach. Find them. Find all the reasons why now is wonderful.  Affirm that. Declare that. Be grateful! Enjoy!

Most people tell stories about how things suck. How they got sick, how they went broke, why their kids are out of work and living at home,  what the economy did to them, how their partner causes them pain on and on. They tell downer stories all day long.

What does that tell you? It tells you they are focused on what isn’t working, they are focused on suffering and lack. They repeat the stories again and again to anyone who will listen whether that person is interested or not. People tell and live their stories.

The Present Moment Is For Enjoying

Remember, you become what you think about. What you repeatedly think, feel, and do becomes habit. If you keep doing the same thing over and over you will get the same results. Your life won’t change until you change what you are doing. Repeat the right things!

Build good habits. Condition your mind to automatically think positive thoughts that cause you to feel good. Condition and steel your mind to focus on the good, what is working, what is right and enjoyable about now. Live it and repeat it. Tell these stories!

For gawd sake CHANGE YOUR STORIES and YOU WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE! Start telling stories about how things go well, how things are right, how wonderfully things are working out. Talk about how good things happened are happening and will happen.

Live With The Attitude Of Gratitude

Take your life back for goodness sake. Stop whining, complaining, excusing, bitching, moaning, pissing on the positive and begin to live life as you were meant to. Be the author of your life. Re-write the chapters. Make it a life story about success and happiness.

When you do everything will begin to change for the better. It will take time just as planting a seed and reaping the benefit takes time. SO focus on how wonderful it is in the meantime and by the time everything manifests it will be even better. Enjoy all of the present!

USE NOW to have a marvelous THEN. This is HOW it works. Focus on the incredible and ignore the horrible. Feel wonderful most of the time during your day and you will be creating and attracting more wonderful feelings, moments and all good things.

You Become What You Think About The Most

If you want a wonderful then make it a wonderful now. Only you can do this by managing your thoughts and directing your mind to stay positive. As you do you condition it to work for you in powerful ways.

You create new positive automatic and reliable habits to keep moving forward. You bring about what you think about. Thoughts are things. Live well and you will live well! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Tell positive stories today. It’s a great day to tell great stories!

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Deliberate Creators, Intentional Thinking, Positive Thinking, Responsibility

Don’t Miss This Critical Point Few Realize: You Are Already That!

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“What do you need to move forward? What do  most people need? Did you know that everything you need is within your reach. It is so close to most people, most people miss it. All you need to do to make massive, positive, powerful changes is wake up to it, recognize it, claim it and utilize it. This is a simple, but powerful message.

You are already that which you seek. You already have all the resources within you. You are the divine and simply forgotten. My job is only to remind you. Much of what I share is ancient wisdom handed down through the ages. I assembled what I have delved into, researched, simplified and synthesized for 4 decades.

I am not able to add anything to you, no one can. You can come into your own, realize who you are and the power you have within. All I really do through this blog, workshops, seminars, talks and materials is attempt to remind you. You are truly already that which you seek. You are playing that divine game of hide and seek.

Creating A Life You Love Takes Dedication

Your brain is designed so marvelously. It works, barring neurological damage, perfectly well. We grow up learning and absorbing what we do from those around us. Their learning, experiences and previous conditioning becomes ours through absorption. We learn by listening, modeling and experience.

None of what we learn is true. It isn’t untrue. It just is whatever it is. The best way to think about it is this way; it is either supportive or non-supportive, uplifting or not. It either helps us fulfill ourselves and live the lives we want or it doesn’t. It doesn’t matter whether it is actually true we believe it to be. We believe many false things.

When I and others before me, and around me, say you can take control of your brain, your mind, your thoughts and direct them to get what we want in life we mean it. The incredible creative and transformative power of being in charge of your thinking is amazing and we want you to experience it. You can. You really can.

It Is Fun To Live On Purpose

You don’t need anything added to you, except perhaps reminders, for you to assume control and begin to condition your mind to replace old unsupportive programs with new, updated supportive ones. You use the resources within yourself to exercise your will to accomplish this and your dreams.

It begins within you. Mentors and coaches can help and do but you must realize it is up to you to do it. We can’t do it for you. No coach can win the medal for the athlete. The athlete is the one who performs. It is the same thing here. We can model, guide, show, instruct, correct and remind, we can be a wake up call and that is it.

Everything else is your responsibility. If you want to create all the goodness you can enjoy realize you are already creating everything in your life good and not so good. The first step is your awareness as a creator. The first step is become aware and take full responsibility for EVERYTHING. No blaming or excusing. Time to own up.

Success Is A Deliberate Act

When you realize each moment is what you make it you realize incredible power to determine how you want your moments to be. You decide, is this a supportive or not? Is this bringing me increase or decrease? Is this what I want or don’t want? Then focus on what you want, that which increases enjoyment and is supportive.

You create, attract, manifest, make happen, allow, everything that is in your life right now. You will create, attract, manifest, make happen and allow everything that you have in your life in the next moment and beyond. NO one else is doing it to or for you but you. Remember, you are divine but have forgotten it.

You are made up of everything else there is. You are made of the same star dust as is everything else. You are vibrations, you are energy, atoms assembled as a bag of skin and bone, a carbon based biped but in it all you are the same energy with all that is. You are one and the same. You have the wisdom of the eons within you.

Direct Your Manifesting Powers

You are an expression of all that is and has ever  been. You can believe it or not. It doesn’t matter. Believe what is supportive, positive and leads to your increase. Believe what helps you live your dreams while allowing others to live theirs. Believe what brings you greater happiness, love, success and positivity.

Your power comes from your thoughts, your beliefs and the decisions you make. You either decide to assume responsibility and control or you decide to allow others that responsibility and control. One brings you greater freedom than the other. One allows you to live your bliss the other to suffer more. Still, only you can decide.

My job, a mentor or coaches job, is to be the wake up call, the alarm clock, the voice in the wilderness, the loving family member who nags you into doing it. We invite. I invite you to begin to live an incredible life if you aren’t happy with the life you have so far. If you want better you can have better and allow others the same.

Live Your Truth

So the reminder I invite you to look into each day, with each blog, each talk, each workshop, each daily discussion is to remember how wonderful you are and what an incredible creator you are. You already are. The question is only this, are you creating what you want to have that delights you and brings you more of the same?

If not, then begin now. The power is in your very next decision. Live the life of your dreams by recognizing who you are and what you are capable of. Begin to aim your focus at all that is good, right, working, supportive, positive and up-lifting. Enjoy, appreciate and celebrate whatever you have already created. Acknowledge your strength.

Even if you lacked good taste or judgement or positive know how until now, accept and celebrate. Be thankful you realize you are responsible because that allows you to focus on what you prefer. Manage your thoughts focus on what you want to have. Instead of being a haphazard creator become a deliberate creator.

When You Change Your Focus You Can Change Anything

Include that which is wonderful and focus on that to the exclusion of all else. Allow yourself to use your heart and mind to create the career, love, happiness, success, wealth, health you want to have. Bring about what you think about because you already do. Use good taste and good judgement to make your life blissful.

Fill each moment with delight, appreciation, feeling wonderful, and you will have more of the same. You will create it, attract it because you will be it do it and have it. Remember, who you are. You are responsible. You can deliberately create. That is your future and it begins right now. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Celebrate, Celebrate dance to the music!

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Acceptance, Focus, Intentional Thinking, Responsibility

Transformation Doesn’t Happen Doing Things That Don’t Work

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“How do you get what you want when circumstances seem to run counter to what you want to accomplish? What do you do when faced with real problems? What does it mean to ‘think positive’ and control your thoughts and direct your mind?

This is a follow-up from my last post. I switched posts today to include this response to a question I was asked. I decided to utilize it as my blog for today because the information applies to all areas of life. Be sure to read tomorrow’s blog as well.

Yesterday, I included a quote from Napoleon Hill that said we should get beyond our differences. The question asked was this, ‘How can this be accepted when there is an other that wants the worst for you? I mean real harm and is doing it.’

Socrates Secret Of Change Don’t Fight The Old Focus On The New

I have added some additional information here not included in my original reply. When I say ‘you’ I always mean, you and me.

Circumstances are almost never ideal for what you want to accomplish. The must be changed. You must push through them to get what you want. You decide what you want and focus on getting it.

The reason many don’t succeed is they sit waiting for conditions to be perfect before they try anything. That day rarely arrives. So they wait and they loose out. Wait all you will. Do nothing and nothing is what you get back.

Those who make their way dictate the circumstances. They plant by taking action and preparing the soil. The get it ready, plant the seed, and nurture it to fruition. The do what it takes to get what they want. They make the conditions work for them. They act.

Change Starts In Your Thoughts

You rise above it. You don’t stoop to another lower level. You get what you focus on. If you focus on harm you get harm. If you focus on hate you get hate. People need to focus on what they want to create and ignore what they don’t want.

If someone chased you down the street – run and get safe. THEN stop thinking about that event and create what you want for the future. If you think revenge you only perpetuate the cycle of violence. You must go beyond it.

Circumstances are almost never ideal for what you want to accomplish. The circumstances must be changed. You must push through them to get what you want. You decide what you want and focus on getting it. Circumstances may never be ideal. So?

The reason many don’t succeed  or live happily as they could is they sit waiting for conditions to be perfect before they try anything. That day rarely arrives. So they wait and they lose out. Wait all you will. Do nothing and nothing is what you get back.

Transformation Is Often More About Unlearning Than Learning

Those who make their way dictate the circumstances. They plant by, taking action and, preparing the soil. The get it ready, plant the seed, and nurture it to fruition. They do what it takes to get what they want. They make the conditions work for them. They act.

FACE it in all the thousands of years war has never succeeded. An eye for an eye has never ever succeeded. We still have war and we still have violence. Perhaps, we ought to do as the song says and actually, GIVE peace a chance.

We don’t get better by focusing on what is wrong unless it moves us away from what is wrong so we can focus on what is right. Fear won’t make you safe.  You can be locked behind closed doors completely physically safe and still exist in fear.

Fear can be a signal you need to be safe. But then you need to remove the fear from your mind and your mind from the fear. Otherwise, you can die in fear behind safely locked doors. How is that a better life?

Begin To Be Now What You Will Be Hereafter

You become what you think about. You attract what you are. Success breeds success. Happiness breeds happiness. Poverty breeds poverty. Sickness doesn’t breed health nor well-being. You don’t get well thinking how sick they were

ONLY by becoming what you want to have more of will you get what you want more of. Rise above the low levels, the low standards, the hate and violence. Become someone who doesn’t feed the negative.

Keep in mind the story of the two dogs fighting. The one who wins is the one you feed. Stay positive starve the negative.

Are there threats out there. Sure.  If you wonder why and dwell on it you feed it. If you decide to act safely, sanely, positively and peacefully your life and those of others might be better. If you decide to love others maybe others will too.

Go First

They certainly won’t if you don’t. Someone has to begin it. If you insist the other side starts before you do it will never happen because you still are living in blame and accusation and continuing to create more of the very things you claim to want to end.

Go First! You have to go first and be a trail blazer and an positive role model.  Be a leader and one who inspires others to do the same.

IF you want peace be peaceful. There really is no other way than to become what you want to be. It is BE, then Do those things consistent and congruent with your being and you will HAVE.

Poor, unhappy and the hateful think it is the other way around. If only we have it a certain way, or eliminate certain people or things then we could do those things that would make us be happy, successful, safe or better of.

Be The First

Or they think if they have the right conditions then they will be successful, happy and safe then they can do whatever their heart desires. It doesn’t work either of these to ways. That is why so few are successful, happy and safe. It is BE, DO, HAVE.

Hate mongers do what is consistent with their hate. They behave and act hatefully. So they have more people hate them as a result. It doesn’t end when you do the same thing over and over again hoping for a different result. It hasn’t yet, has it?

It only can end when you break the cycle of doing what you do not want. The problem is hating is working to create more hating. You have to stop hating.

YOU have to stop hating FIRST for the possibility of it to end. If you ultimately want peace being pro war, pro hate, pro intolerance and violent you will never have it.

Be A Powerful Positive Inspiring Leader

You have to stop the cycle of violence and DO anything else in a positive direction. Then there is a greater chance for success.

Consider the rule of reciprocity which means if I do something nice for you, you feel obligated to return the niceness. I take you out for dinner and pay the bill what do you feel like doing in return? Take me out too, right? ‘I got it this time, you bought last time’. right?

Well, if I give you the finger and call you a name what do you feel like doing back to me? Only worse. Only bigger and harder so you teach me a lesson or so I can never again do it to you. Think of all the drivers flipping each other off. Road rage.

It takes two to tango. It takes, or more, to fight. If you don’t engage what is the other left with. If they give you the finger and you don’t get riled and return it what are they left with. It only gets out of control when people feed it, invest in it, engage in it, contribute to it.

Who Do You Lead?  Why, Yourself Of Course

If you don’t react with anger they drive off angry but it doesn’t escalate. SO in order to keep calm someone has to go first. Someone has to behave that way. Someone has to BE calm! Not pour gas on the fire. Disengage, withdraw the energy and put it into positivity.

Be peace, be love, be kindness, be generosity, be open. Be it, do it and you can have it! That IS how it works. Birds of a feather do flock together. Create a conspiracy of love and peace and happiness.

Create a world where there is enough for all (and there already IS enough for all) and more of the world will become nicer and nicer. Be a thought leader. Inspire others to positive action. Be a role model.

In order to get along YOU have to get along. In order to keep hate alive you hate, or do nothing, but worry about it. What you resist persists. Love could conquer all if people would BE more loving.

You Don’t Have To Be Great To Start

Be what you want to have. DO what you are and you will have more of that too. Whatever you are you get more back. We attract what we are. We attract what we are feeling. People respond to us.

If you are unhappy you get more unhappiness back. If you are broke and worried about debt you get more back. If you are happy you get more back. If you are rich you get more back. Whatever you are positive or negative you get back.

IT simply works this way. We have to face this and work with it.

Your results are an indication of what you are creating. What you are creating is a direct reflection of what you are thinking. Thoughts become things. From within to without.  If your outer world is disorganized it is because your inner world is first.

But You Have To Start To Be Great

Our actions speak louder than words and reflect who we are. What we have is an indication of what we think or don’t think. The outer world reflects our thought world. We create what we think about.

Use your thought intentions to create peace. Project love and peace and blessings. It may take some time and enough people but eventually it can work. It will take sometime because war is profitable for those who cause them.

People who can’t wrap their head around how we can have a peaceful world simply continue to perpetuate what we have. Their best options don’t solve anything because they aren’t at a different level where the solution exists. They are fighting fire with fire.

Want to be safe. Create a safe place. Make it safe for everyone. Work for what you want not against what you don’t want. Sadly, many who want safety don’t want it for everyone. They want  fear and chaos because they can profit.

Transformed People Transform People

They want to eliminate the threats rather than have real peace. They want war instead of solutions. We have to say no to these, then let go and turn our attention to creating what we want.

It is never going to happen by accident. It is never going to happen without resolve and commitment. It may take decades and decades. There is always a price to pay for success in anything.

Dedication to the cause. Athletes know the price of a gold medal. We shouldn’t expect anything to be without commitment. When we truly commit we can change ourselves and the world one by one.

You don’t pretend that problems aren’t there but instead of focusing on them you focus on what you want. Note the issue, use it to determine what you want and then focus on getting what you want.

Im Possible

I fell down today leaving my house. In my past I would have complained and bitched. This isn’t the perfect analogy but my point is, steer your thoughts to what you want to be, do and have in the future.

Today, I thought, I want to house with a safe entrance. For the purpose of this example, I could have focused on what is wrong with the house and complained and moaned about it. Instead falling made me think about what I do want. I want a safe entrance to my house.

What we do between now, the issue, and then, the future, is important. For the future to be what we want it to be we need to be it now. Tomorrow is based on today’s thoughts and actions.

We need to focus on what is good and right and working if we want more of that, then. If we focus on what is wrong and not working we will have more of that, then.

Limits Like Fears Are Just Illusions

NOW is the only time we have. What we do in this moment IS important. It determines what will be. BE now what you want the future to be. Accentuate the positive.

Take those positive actions to make it better. Then you can have a more positive future. Yet, too many people get distracted. The look at what they want, then they focus on what is wrong.

Then they remind themselves of what they want and then look at how it hasn’t happened yet. The focus on the gap between then and now and wonder why they have a problem. People stay stuck that way.

They stay stuck because of what they spend their time devoted to. The look at how they don’t have what they want yet and get more of the same in return. They create the absence of what they want.

Our Beliefs Aren’t True We Just Believe They Are

To make it work you have to maintain your predominant focus on what is wanted. You can’t go back and forth and expect to move much. Focus, focus, focus! Positive, negative, positive negative. It will always be negative mostly until it is mostly positive!

We become what we think about most often. We get what we think about day in and day out. If we are wishy washy we stay where we are. That is why more people don’t create better lives or all of us create a better world. We are distracted and wishy washy.

All of the media, the politicians, the religious leaders focus on what is wrong, sinful, bad, and how we don’t have enough, won’t have enough of and how others are out to take our share. They keep us thinking we are broken and there isn’t enough for everyone.

IT is a huge distraction that keeps us from uniting to focus on what we could have if we would aim for it. Stop being distracted. Get clear about what is possible and aim to create it. Stop buying into others agendas and let’s set ones good fore everyone.

Be Willing To Challenge Your Beliefs And Limitations

We need to tip the balance in favor of what we want. Simple enough. If you can’t see how that works THAT is the problem that first needs to be resolved. Become what you want to have in the world FIRST then you will see the way. Celebrate everything now and you can celebrate everything even more in the future. ” Rex Sikes

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Trump This! What America And The World Needs Right Now That You Can Give It

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“Here’s a quote that is critical and timely in our world today. If we made it our business to make the positive changes suggested, our world could and would be a much more enjoyable place.

“No matter what kind of riches you have, if you are not at peace with yourself, your fellow men, and those you work with, you’re not truly rich. You will never be rich until you learn through discipline to be at peace with all people, all races, all creeds.

My audiences have Catholics, Protestants, Jews, Gentiles, people of different colors, people of different races. To me they’re all the same color and religion. I don’t know the difference and I don’t want to know the difference, because in my mind, there is no difference.

I’ve risen above this idea of letting petty things such as racial differences anger me or cause me to feel the least bit out of step with my fellow man. I just won’t let those things happen, though there was a time when they did happen.

One of the curses  of the world that we’re living,  and particularly in this melting pot here in America, is that we haven’t learned how to live with one another.” Napoleon Hill, Your Right To Be Rich.

There really ins’t much else to add. Except, let’s all focus on getting along instead of what separates us. We get what we focus on. We become what we think about. Let’s become peace, love, acceptance, instead of hate and intolerance. Focus on the light not the darkness. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Did You Know Negative Thinkers Use Affirmations Too?

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“You have heard the saying, ‘be careful what you wish for  because you might just get it.’ Have you ever had that experience. You worried, feared or dreaded something coming up and just as you thought it came to pass. Sucks right?

From the dawn of human kind, it seems, and certainly since early recorded history, AND today, neuroscience bears it out, thought precedes action. The predictor of the results we get is our thoughts.

The thought leaders in philosophy, science and religion have known this and promoted it for centuries. The wealthy, the successful and the powerful have known this.

If You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You Are Right

Of course, they don’t want anyone else to know it because the elite wants to remain elite. So they obfuscate it. Still, the truth wins out and we have been able to get it in various forms.

If you don’t use it you don’t know it. You may know about it but that is as far as it goes. What you know about it may be accurate or not. Many people are misinformed. Many people think they know.

IF YOU AREN’T DOING EVERYTHING IT TAKES to make your life more wonderful, your thoughts more positive, to feel your very best then YOU DON’T KNOW IT. You really don’t know it.

You Are Today Where Your Previous Thoughts Brought You

If you aren’t using it to improve yourself daily you are missing incredible opportunities and advantages. In order to feel your very best you need to think positively and do whatever it takes.

If you don’t think that is absolutely true then you prove my point.

If you think you can think just anything or any old way, and it doesn’t matter you are incorrect. What you think absolutely matters and creates effects. Our thoughts affect our body and our health.

What you eat or drink affects your health. Whether you get enough sleep or not affects your health.  Whether you move or exercise or not affects your health. Your thinking greatly affects your health.

You Will Be Tomorrow Where Today’s Thoughts Take You

If you don’t pay attention to what you eat, drink, whether you get enough sleep or exercise my guess is you aren’t in that great of mental, physical, emotional, spiritual shape or well-being.

How could you be in great shape if you let yourself go and don’t take care of yourself? You know your finances would be in terrible shape if you let them go and didn’t pay any attention to them, right?

Your thoughts matter. They may matter more than any of the rest of these things. They dictate what you do regarding these other areas. Your thoughts determine your feelings, your actions and results.

You Cannot Escape The Powerful Results Of Your Thougts

If you want to be able to do anything in this life you must believe it is possible. You must think that you can. You must be willing to try and want to do it in order to actually do it.

If you don’t believe it is worth it, or if it is too difficult and you don’t want to and if you are unwilling to attempt it then you won’t. You won’t even try. Will you? No, You won’t? Unless…

Unless what? What is it that would get you to do something you refuse to do? What would get you to do something you think you can’t do or see no benefit in? Consider this. What would it be?

What would have to occur for you to do it anyway? Think about it! What would have to occur for you to do it regardless? What would get you to start acting in your own best interests? What is it?

The Mind Is As Strong As Its Weakest Think

Whatever it is you just thought it. Whatever it is that would have to occur is what you THINK you need, what is necessary, for you to go ahead and do it. It is what you THINK has to happen. Your thought.

Perhaps, you thought either you would have to want to feel like it in order to act. OR someone would have to force you to act. OR circumstances  would have to get so bad that you finally act.

Don’t you see? Are you able to recognize the thought process here? Can you become aware of what needs to change in order for you to change? Because you won’t until you do! Isn’t that right?

Thoughts Are Things – Choose Wisely

What do your thoughts prevent you from doing? What do your thoughts assist you in doing? It makes a difference, doesn’t it, what you think? The actions you will or won’t take are based on your thoughts, right?

You won’t change unless you wan’t to. You will stay exactly as you are! Won’t you? Because nothing works. It is too hard. You don’t know how. You didn’t get the right info. You weren’t raised this way.

Your parents are to blame, right? No they were conditioned the same as you. They just passed it along they way they got. You will too unless you interrupt and change the process. It is true!

You Get What You Think About Most Often

Positive thinking transforms you from an ‘I can’t’ person to an ‘I can’ person. When you change how you think you change how you feel. Whatever your thoughts are determine your reality. Choose well!

You can have more positive powerful energy. Put yourself in charge of you and manage your thoughts and feelings. Aim for the best and make it the very best. Don’t settle for anything less.

Positive thinking is active. You take control. It isn’t not passive. Your default thinking mode is previous, negative conditioning. Admit it you have negative thought habits. We all do. Change it!

Energy Flows Where Your Attention Goes

That is why we have to take control of our mind and direct it toward the positive. Aim it at what we can do to achieve our goals and dreams. If you don’t run your mind your mind will run you.

As it has been doing. You have been living from your previous, past, prior, negative habitual chronic conditioning. That is why your default thinking mode is less than glorious. It is negative. It is, right?

Once you take control you can replace your habit of negative thinking.  When that is replaced with the habit of thinking positive you begin getting better results. Life becomes far more pleasurable.

How Do You Eat An Elephant? One Bite At A Time

You transform yourself, your mental, emotional and physical health  will improve. You begin making your dreams come true. You are able to to get the results you want. You create the life you want.

You start creating and becoming what you want to be. You begin doing what you want to do. AND you start getting what you want. Money, home, cars, new job, family, friends, career you name it.

You feel you are worthy. You deserve good things. You are more capable to get them for yourself. You can be, do and have anything you want in life. You feel great because you think great!

Whatever You Want To Do With Ease You First Do With Diligence

Keep going until you get them. When you think positively you will persist because you won’t let thoughts prevent you from prevailing. You overcome obstacles and negative circumstances.

You know you can win and you accept that challenges are a part of life. You live and act as a champion, a winner, a victor. You succeed because you know you can and you don’t let anything stop you.

That is what positive thinking is. It is a way of life. You take control, 100% responsibility for yourself and you transform yourself into a person who looks for opportunity and solutions.

If you want to do anything you know you can learn how.

Begin by watching your thoughts. When you become aware of your of a negative thought change it. Deliberately steer or redirect your thinking to positive thoughts. It may take practice at first.

Awareness Is The First Step In Transformation

You will get better in time. Be patient. Find positive thoughts that make you feel good and affirm them. Declare them, repeat them often, out loud with enthusiasm. Stay focused on the positive.

Negative thinkers affirm negative thoughts too. Keep that in mind. An affirmation is any declaration following ‘I am’ or ‘I have’. You can affirm ‘I am rich’ or ‘I am broke’. You can affirm ‘I feel healthy’ or ‘I feel sick’.

Usually negative affirmations are expressed emotionally too. Affirmations work by powerful emotion. If you are angry and frustrated while negatively affirming they are powerful.

A Hammer Can Be Used To Build Or To Tear Down

When you positively affirm you want to do so happily, energetically, enthusiastically, confidently. The more emotion the quicker they work. The more they take hold. Emotions make affirmations work.

What we pay attention to and concentrate on is what we get. So affirm positive thoughts. Repeat them over and over. Manage your thoughts daily until it is a habit to naturally think positive.

Yes, it takes effort. Nothing in this world is free. It comes with a cost. You must pay the price with your energy, time and commitment but the reward is great. When you are willing to pay the price you will begin to reap the great rewards.

Who Is Driving The Bus? Are You In The Driver’s Seat?

Eventually you become competent  in managing and directing your thoughts. Eventually you think positive more frequently than negative. Eventually you learn and acquire a whole new way of being. You reach a tipping point where good things start happening.

Eventually positive thinking becomes an automatic reliable unconscious habit which replaces the old ways with positive, powerful new ways. You become unstoppable!

When you think positive you can be healthier in every area of your life. All of you is affected. You can begin to accomplish more of the great things you want to accomplish. You make your goals and dreams come true. You are happier and healthier. All of this begins by managing your thoughts. It is worth it to think positive, feel grateful and celebrate everything. It really is!” Rex Sikes

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Doubt Kills More Dreams Than Failure

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“When it comes to success; being happy; having the career; the relationship; the family; and the life of your dreams you need to have faith or nothing will happen.

You need to believe in yourself and know that you can make a difference. You must know you can make you dream come true if, you believe you can and, you take action to accomplish it

Doubt Kills More Dreams Than Failure Ever Will!

Failure is an opportunity to learn. All failure is temporary unless you throw in the towel and quit. What kills more dreams than failure? Doubt! It is sad when people doubt themselves instead of trust.

You may not know how, yet, but if you move forward, you will see farther the further you go. Standing here right now you may not be able to see the forest through the trees but it is there.

With your seeds planted in the ground there may not be any evidence that you can see that they will break ground and grow into wonderful strong thriving plants. You must patiently wait and trust.

If You Think You Can Or You ThinkYo Can’t You Are Right

Circumstances around you may be difficult and you aren’t yet able to see your way to the future but don’t give up. Stop, and instead of doubting, decide you will do whatever it takes to get what you want.

You can take whatever positive actions, that benefits you and others, and move forward step by step, bit by bit, getting closer and closer to your goal. Obstacles are only speed bumps.

They may seem insurmountable but they are not. Here is a suggestion for you. Trust yourself! Doubt you will fail. If you are going to doubt put it to work for you. Doubt your problems will last.

Thoughts Are Things – Choose Good Ones

Doubt that anything is too difficult for you to prevail. Doubt that circumstances will get worse. Doubt that you are limited in any way. If you have to doubt anything use good taste. Doubt your doubts.

Make it work for you. Decide you won’t let doubt win. You win! You dictate how things will be. Trust, have faith, believe in yourself and know that when you come from your power you can do anything.

Believe in yourself and believe you will make your dreams come true. Do whatever you need to, to keep the lamp lit that lights you way. Focus on the positive, focus on the CAN DO and do it.

What You Think About Most Often You Become

Never let hard times or old, chronic, habitual conditioning keep you from being, doing or having what you want. Never let a negative thought or doubt rob you of your dreams.

Align your resources and move forward. Steel yourself. Know champions may have doubts from time to time but they push through them. You can too! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Are You Bigger Or Smaller Than Your Problems?

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“This is an critical question. Are you bigger or are you smaller than your problems? If you have big problems it means you are a smaller person by comparison. Do you think you will solve them at that size?

I have written and shared within these pages that what you think about you get. An immutable law of the universe. Whether positive or negative you manifest what you spend most of your time thinking about.

Your brain doesn’t care whether it is positive or negative, good or bad for you, true or false it just provides you with more of the same. Your Reticular Activating System seeks matches inside and outside of you.

Believing Is Seeing

Nothing has any meaning except the meaning we assign it. The world went on prior to the arrival of humans and no one judged days as good or bad, catastrophic or calm and wonderful. Humans make evaluations.

Enter the human enter judgements. Days became good or bad, weather became good or bad. Situations became good or bad large and small. We assigned meaning to these for the first time.

There is no intrinsic meaning without human perception. That is all there is, our perceptions. Our perceptions are formed by our previous past conditioning, our experiences, the beliefs, values and opinions we have formed.  We use these and assign meaning.

Nothing Has Any Meaning Except The Meaning We Assign It

Perceptions are limited by our neurological processes and filters, our five senses. We don’t see the world, situations and events as is, we perceive these only in part. We can’t perceive the entire picture, through our processes and filters. We have limited info to begin with. However limited it doesn’t stop us from making judgements.

The purpose of this blog is to inspire, motivate and show you how else things can be. If we’re going to believe a fiction why not believe one that serves us better and supports us to make positive things happen. Believe the best version you can and make it happen.

Since we have been conditioned and respond from that conditioning automatically whether we want to or not, perhaps, it is time to change our conditioning  to respond automatically in a way we would like to. Then we could begin to get the results we want to get.

If You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You Are Right

I have shared with you the importance of developing a positive CAN DO mindset instead of a negative can’t do one. We become what we think about most often. So become a powerful person of action.

Our thoughts determine our feelings, our feelings our actions or lack of them, our actions or lack of them determine the results we get. Thoughts precede actions.

Can Do helps make more things happen than can’t do. A Can Do person is a person focused on solutions. If you think you can or you think you can’t, you are right. Remember?

You Get What You Focus On

What you focus on is what you get. Are you predominantly focused on what you want or don’t want,? Do you celebrate what you have or focus on what you don’t have?

Do you love life or is it just okay? Are your problems big or small? Think about this for a moment? If your problems are big it means you are a small person. It should be the other way around.

I have discussed living as a winner, a victor, a champion an emperor. Why? Because the mindset of these are dedicated to success and accomplishment. You should be bigger than your problems.

You Attitude Determines Your Altitude

I write of an unstoppable attitude, one of commitment and persistence and often discuss Olympic Athletes as examples. These athletes know the commitment conditioning takes.

They commit, train for 4 years or longer, whether they feel like it or not, for seconds worth of competition. Those who get to compete are world class whether they medal or not.

The attitude, the dedication is wonderful. It is admirable. It is the kind of dedication we should have. Train your brain and your thoughts as an olympic athlete trains their mind and body.

If You Have A Big Problem It Means You Are A Small Person

So here is my question? What size are you? Are you bigger or larger than your problems? Are you in charge or do they dictate how you and life will be?

When you think about them do they loom over you or do you understand that all obstacles are there to learn from, resolve and move on. We grow through our struggles. We evolve.

The kite rises against the wind. Steel is hardened in the fire. Are you a champion or not? Are your problems larger than you or are you larger than the problems?

It Is All A Matter Of Perspective

Stop focusing on the size of your problems. Begin focusing on the size of you! The bigger you are inside you own mind the more easily you can handle things. The more we do the more we can do.

It is time for you to decide, don’t you think? Dedicate yourself to becoming solution focused instead of problem focused. Focus on what you want not lack or problems or what you wish to avoid.

Stop focusing on the problem and begin to focus on your goals and dreams. Take charge and determine you will pay attention to what you decide to pay attention to. You can aim your attention.

Decide Right Now To Be Bigger Than Your Problems

Steel your mind. Adopt the winner, the victor mindset and put your problems into perspective. There is no meaning except the meaning you assign. So assign meaning that works for you and supports you!

It is time to become larger than life and live like an emperor. Live as one who can and does successfully resolve difficulties no matter how difficult. Be the champion, the victor, the emperor.

Most negative people think of problems as overwhelming. Most successful people understand that all problems are simply things we handle on a daily basis. They are no big deal. They can be handled.

Be The Champion Be Unstoppable

They master their problems instead of letting problems master them. You can too. Devote yourself to learning to master your problems, handle them, and you become unstoppable

In an earlier blog I wrote about David and how he rushed and slew Goliath. David didn’t see Goliath as a giant and a massive threat, instead he trusted and declared that this day god would prevail.

Cut your problems down to size. Stop whining about problems and start seeking solutions. Speak only to bless, heal and prosper. What you say is what you get. Focus on solutions. Focus on your goals.

Your Future Depends On Your Decisions Now

The outer results are only a reflection of what is going on in your inner world. What you experience today comes from prior thoughts and conditioning. If you want tomorrow to be different you start your change today. Think differently and your life changes!

Decide you will be bigger than any problem Decide to be the victor, the champion, the emperor. Dictate your results don’t let them dictate you. BE bigger.

Someone once said, ‘the size of the problem doesn’t matter but the size of you does.’ Put your problems into perspective. This is what you can do. You can decide to never let a problem rob you of any success of happiness.

Our Struggles Make Us Stronger Celebrate Them

You are competent and able to handle anything that comes your way. If you don’t know how you can learn how.Your struggles are making you stronger as a result. You are tried and tested by fire. The kite rises against the wind.

Inside every challenge is a learning and an opportunity if you look for them. Live as the victor. Live large. Be the emperor of your life. Know you can handle anything.  AND celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Decide to delight in this day!

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Isn’t It Time To Be The Person You Always Wanted To Be?

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“Isn’t it time to be the person you always wanted to be? Don’t you want the career, the relationship, the life you always hoped you could have? If you want more success and happiness you have to make new decisions.

You must decide, to choose, how you want to think, feel, act and live your life. I shared some ways you can begin to do that in my recent blogs. Here is something else you can do.

Give Yourself Permission To Change For The Better

If you don’t decide now you are living from a past decision. If that is fine with you then carry on. If, however, you wish things were different, you want to get better results, you don’t like your present circumstances, if this is how you think and fee, then you must make a new decision.

You must take the bull by the horns and choose to change things in your life that will enable you to make a difference for yourself. If you don’t decide, someone else chose for you, perhaps recently, perhaps a long time ago when you were very young. Still, someone chose for you. You need to make your own decisions. Don’t live from the past.

If you don’t act in your own best interest now, today, in the present, some other decision, made by some other person, that you adopted is controlling you and your outcomes. If you are okay with that carry on. If not change it now. You are the only one who should be in charge of yourself and your destiny. You need to be in control.

Your Future Does Not Depend On Your Past

Decide to be different. You may say, ‘wait you don’t understand, it is not that easy’. I understand it is not easy and that it COULD be easy. Whatever you think it is what it will be. If you think it is hard, you will be correct. If you think it easy, you will be right then too. Your thoughts make it so. Whatever you focus on expands.

Your thoughts determine what you get. Your thoughts create your feelings. Your feelings  lead to your actions (what you do or what you don’t do) which lead to the results you get. The starting point for all the results is your thoughts. If you don’t like the results you have been getting then you need to change your thoughts. Start now.

Give yourself permission. Make it okay for yourself to think and feel differently. Give yourself permission to see and feel and act differently, to get different, better, positive, powerful results. Give yourself permission to change your life for the better. Give yourself permission to make a new decision. Allow it. Permit it. Accept it.

Your Future Depends On The Decisions You Make Today

Once you do many things change for the better. They will remain the same as long as you remain the same. As long as you act from the past you will continue to get what you have always got. Move into the present, decide now.  Give yourself permission to use and enjoy your present to create a more wonderful future.

Some people never change because they don’t feel it is okay that they do. They remain stuck. You may need to give yourself permission and that is fine. Go ahead. Acknowledge that is is okay for you to move forward. It’s okay to change positively. Allow yourself to be okay with the unknown.  The future is wide open.

You can accomplish many things in the future once you get beyond being stuck. What keeps someone stuck is mostly old chronic conditioning. That’s okay it served you for a time and now it is time to change, let go and move forward in a positive direction of YOUR choosing. Permit yourself to be free of the past and take charge now. When you do it can begin to feel incredible. Enjoy it.

Enjoy feeling positive! Feel good about moving forward. Enjoy realizing this is the beginning. Many new ways of being can open up to you. Isn’t it time to be the person you always wanted to be? Do those things you always wanted to do. Have those things you have always wanted. Isn’t it time for you to begin today? Being right now! Delight and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Another incredible day to delight in.

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