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You Get What You Command! What Are You Worth?

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“I had a great coaching session recently. A client was struggling with pricing their services. My client was not sure what to ask. We reviewed the strengths, weaknesses and merits of what he offered.

It is a good product and could be valued very highly. Still, he felt unsure. The key to pricing is win win. You have to be satisfied with your fees. They must fit for you. You have to be fully congruent.

If you ask too much and don’t believe you are worth it you will not get it. You always radiate and transmit what you believe you are worth. Nor is it good if you ask too little and aren’t happy with it.

Self Worth Comes From One Thing – Thinking You Are Worthy

You must be at home, congruent, aligned with what you put your service value at. Don’t be concerned with the ‘common sense’ market value at first. Get your attitude right first.

Once you get your mindset right we can discuss the market and business principle at another time. FOR NOW manage your thinking. Get your beliefs, your words and feelings into alignment.

Then know and remember the following!

Napoleon Hill shared a wonderful poem from Think And Grow Rich. I share it here too with a few lines he wrote preceding the poem.

I Am Not What Happens To Me I Am What I Choose To Become

‘There is a difference between WISHING for a thing and being READY to receive it. No one is ready for a thing, until he believes he can acquire it.’

‘The state of mind must be BELIEF, not mere hope or wish. Open-mindedness is essential for belief. Closed minds do not inspire faith, courage, and belief.’

‘Remember, no more effort is required to aim high in life, to demand abundance and prosperity, than is required to accept misery and poverty.’

‘A great poet has correctly stated this universal truth through these lines:’

If You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You Are Right

‘I bargained with Life for a penny, And Life would pay no more, However I begged at evening When I counted my scanty store.

For Life is a just employer, He gives you what you ask, But once you have set the wages, Why, you must bear the task.

I worked for a menial’s hire, Only to learn, dismayed, That any wage I had asked of Life, Life would have willingly paid.’

Beautiful! Whatever you ask of life life would have willingly paid! However, sadly, many of us don’t ask much. We don’t ask much or expect much or ourselves either. It could be different for us!

I started off talking about fees because of a wonderful coaching session I had. The truth is it isn’t only about fees it is about what you expect and demand of life. What do you expect in each area of life?

Whatever We Plant In Our Subconscious Minds…

Life will give you whatever you ask of it. More importantly, you will give you whatever you ask of yourself. Again and again thought leaders stress, ask it, declare it, command it. YOU make it so!

You have to believe you are worth it! Whether it is the fees you command in business, or the enjoyment and love you command in life. The respect you get, the fun you have, the leisure you enjoy.

It is all up to you and you mindset. Your attitude. Are you thinking about what you want and speaking that or are you thinking about what you don’t want and complaining and blaming?

… And Nourish With Repetition And Emotion…

Are you creating value for yourself and others? Are you promoting positivity and increase or negativity and decrease? LIFE will give you what you ask of it. What are you worth? What do you believe?

If you aren’t getting everything you want in any area of your life it is time to address your beliefs and change them. Either they support you and what you want or they do not. It truly is either or.

You may need to change some of your beliefs. We all do. Go back through these blog pages. There is so much valuable material for making the changes you want. Put it to use. Study and apply it!

Two lessons today. Ask for what you want and believe you will get it. Make sure you believe it. Make sure everything you think and say supports that you will get it. Speak only to bless, heal and prosper.

… Will One Day Become A Reality

If you don’t believe it that is what you must first work on. Change your beliefs so you do believe it. Here is an easy way to begin doing that. When you become aware of thinking or expressing limitations.

When you find yourself thinking or hear yourself say anything expressed as what you do not want, ‘I don’t want to miss out’. Change it to the opposite. Speak what you do want.

‘I want to be included,’ or ‘I want to make it happen.’  Speak the opposite of any limitation you become aware of. Say the positive opposite statement over and over again. It works when you do it!

What You Can Conceive And Believe You Can Achieve

Assert it, declare it. Say it with energy, enthusiasm and strong emotion. Make the positive statements your affirmations or mantras. Your thoughts determine the results you ultimately get.

If you have weak, negative or penny thoughts that is what you get. SO put a guard before your mind and lips and think and speak only the best, most positive, powerful thoughts you can.

Keep at it. Repeat the new thoughts over and over and over. Eventually, they will take hold and stick. This is one way to change a limiting belief into a positive supportive belief.

Ask And You Shall Receive – Command Ye Me

Keep in mind what Napoleon said: ‘Remember, no more effort is required to aim high in life, to demand abundance and prosperity, than is required to accept misery and poverty.’ Do you believe it?

If not, that is where you start the changes. Be thorough, be rigorous with yourself if you want to get ahead. Don’t beat yourself up but don’t allow yourself to succumb to thinking weakly either.

Think strong, powerful, positive thoughts. Decide you can do this and then do it.  Take charge of your thoughts and your statements. Speak only to bless, heal, prosper and inspire! Also, look around and appreciate and celebrate everything.” Rex Sikes

Delight yourself and someone else today!

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Don’t Be Mislead: Accepting What Is And Doing Nothing Are Not The Same!

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“There is a horrible article going around masquerading as a piece to help people. It is a truly sad and disappointing article. I understand the sentiment behind it but it is destructive, not productive.

The author states don’t dream, don’t try to be successful because you might disappoint yourself and then feel worse than if you just accept where you are at. Don’t try to be different. You don’t need to.

Don’t think positive. Don’t try to achieve. Don’t try to improve your life. If I didn’t know better I’d think this was a disguised letter from the castle telling the feudal serfs to enjoy their life as is. Settle!

Acceptance Is Having Faith That All Is Well Despite Circumstances

Accepting what IS doesn’t mean staying the same until you aren’t. Wanting something different and accepting what IS aren’t mutually exclusive. People can accept themselves and make positive changes.

It is sad. This piece that was shared a lot on social media suggests people accept defeat and accept not doing anything to improve their life or make anything better because they may be disappointed.

How disappointed might they be when they get to the end of their lives and they didn’t do anything they wanted? They simply lived as they did. They didn’t make waves and accepted their lot. Hmmmm?

Accept What Is Let Go Of What Was Have Faith In What Will Be

Enlightened acceptance is not what is proffered by this article at all. The author suggested you not read self improvement books or go to education programs that could benefit you. Because?

That is you trying to improve when you should just accept the way you are. Don’t be inspired or motivated by others who tell you you can change or have more of the good things.

It is accurate. She is correct. You don’t have to read another book or go to a seminar. You don’t have to do anything. After all, it is your choice how you spend your time, energy, and money. You decide.

Accept Who You Are Be Happy With What You Find

You have choice to pursue goals or not. You have a choice to enjoy it or not. You shouldn’t have to feel you need to do more but that is not the same thing as accepting what is. You change because you want it.

One can completely accept and appreciate the present while endeavoring to enjoy more of what life has to offer. If you aren’t expanding and increasing you are shrinking and decreasing.

Which do you want to do? You either fill up a balloon with air or let the air out of it. The same with life. You either enjoy it for all it is and  include more or you do not. Life is for living.

Once You Accept Yourself As You Are Then You Can Change

This author suggested rather than running a race and getting to the finish line it is best not to run the race at all because you might lose and then you’d feel bad about yourself. Poor thing. Awe, you lost.

I find this such sorry thinking. I saw people I know re-post the article. Don’t think you can improve because if you don’t you might be disappointed. WOW! Disappointment and discontent are valuable.

Without either, my guess is we wouldn’t have the wheel, chairs, houses, computers, fancy cars, luxury items or any modern conveniences. We wouldn’t have art or commerce.

Beautiful Thoughts Build A Beautiful Soul

We wanted more and better. We wanted innovation because we were dissatisfied. We strive and we strove to improve our lives  and our conditions because we knew we could improve on what is.

We evolve similarly to how we build muscle. We exercise. We break down the tissue and provide it rest and nutrients so it grows. Without challenge muscle would never grow.

Without dissatisfaction we would only always remain the same. Because of it we innovate. We improve. We get better. Without desire and imagination we would be animals not humans.

As A Snake Sheds Its Skin We Must Shed Our Past Repeatedly

Without yearning and dreaming where would we be? Accepting what is and doing nothing IS NOT the same thing. Accepting what is means be grateful for where you are. Appreciate everything, YES!

That doesn’t mean you must remain the same. That doesn’t mean you can’t improve on what you have. It doesn’t mean you have to but it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t. It is always your choice! YOU decide.

This author’s view is not an enlightened one. It is a message of give up. Let the rich be rich you are better off where you are at, message. Don’t try to be happy you might only be sad in the end.

Don’t Exist – Live – Get Out There And Explore – Thrive

If you never try, you never grow. You will never improve. If you can’t risk anything ever you will remain the same. Many people are stuck, frozen with fear, worried about the future. It is true.

Some are stuck in the past. Re-living past tragedy and never getting over the old wounds. People are stuck in many ways. Some are stuck in ruts and feel like they can’t get ahead no matter what.

Better not do anything was the author’s message. I suggest you not listen to that message. Don’t stay the same if you don’t want to. Accept who and what you are. Celebrate it, enjoy it and enhance it.

Challenge Yourself – Evolve

If you do want a better life you have to risk not having one. BUT you can also manage the risk, take calculated risks. You can do little things to improve. Take tiny steps if you wish. It is valuable to do so.

You can smile more. You can laugh and move more. You can look around and appreciate all the beauty in the world. You can focus on the good things you find and ignore much of what isn’t.

You can do special things for yourself and others that make you feel good. You can enjoy relationships with family and friends. You can enjoy hobbies and recreation. You can delight in the day.

We Were Not Put On The Earth To Remain Stagnant

We can enjoy life. We ought not to feel as if we have to excel or feel pressured to be a success at the expense of enjoying life but one can have fun, feel good and enjoy pursuing lofty goals at the same time.

You can dream and set goals and go after them. Small or large. If you want to dream big, as many do, that is up to you. But if you never dream big you will never know what might be.

‘Might be’ isn’t a guarantee. Success isn’t handed anyone. You make your own. If you intend to be successful and do what it takes you can be. You may not be the first time you try but you can succeed.

Everything Changes – Change Is A Constant

Realize it is all up to you and take responsibility for your own success. Hey, you also get to define what success means to you. It doesn’t have to be others definition it should be your definition.

It is true you need not live the rat race. You need not live to others expectations to be happy. You should live your expectations and your life as you choose to. You do this by intentionally deciding to.

It won’t happen to you. You won’t luck into it. You make it happen. Do you have to read a book or take a seminar? NO but if those help you get what you want then they are resources. Stepping stones.

Drop By Drop The Tub Gets Filled

You determine the person you want to be and the life you want to have. You make it happen from your thoughts to your actions. You and no one else, really. Even though everything is a collaboration.

Together we all help each other in a variety of ways. We don’t live in isolation. The point is YOU set your course and you sail it. You are the captain  of your ship. Go wherever you want to go.

Don’t get to the end of your life and feel you lost out. Enjoy the relationships that are important to you. Be grateful for the love, and friendship. Be grateful for your fun and leisure. Enjoy it all now.

Treat Yourself As If You Were Your Own Best Friend

Continue to improve if that is important to you. Change, grow, expand and increase. Accept what you can’t change, learn from it and let go. Be gentle and kind with yourself and others.

Aspire to live well. Why not? You may only have this one go around, as far as we know. Don’t spend it struggling always, although are struggles are good for us, spend it thriving too. Live well and enjoy.

Find every reason to delight now and later. You can think positive or negative, you choose. You can be rich or poor, you choose. You can have fun or not, you choose. You can love or not, you choose.

It Never Gets Easier You Just Get Better

It is your choice how you live now and live later. I suggest you learn to live fabulously now so you continue to later. If you wait you will accomplish only one thing. You will wait. You won’t get you will wait.

Live in wonder and joy. Live with appreciation and gratitude. Live with passion and enthusiasm. Live with fun and delight. Include smiles and laughter, health and wealth in all areas. It is your life make it what you want it to be! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Find whatever you can most delight in today!

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How Your Struggles Can Help You Succeed

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“Times might be tough. Perhaps, you feel like you aren’t making the progress you had hoped. Maybe, you just want to throw in the towel. Have you ever felt this way? Many do. They let their struggles stop them. When hardship continues they want to bail. Do you?

It is normal because that is what most of us learned to do growing up. It’s our habitual, chronic thinking. We lose sight of what we want when it is hard. We had hoped it would be easier. We can’t see the forest through the trees because we become fixated on problems.

We forget that it always works out for the best in the end. We don’t realize that if it hasn’t worked out yet, then it isn’t the end. We aren’t at the finish line just because we have problems. We may think we are but we have no idea where the actual end is.

We humans are silly creatures.

We decide we want something and then we try to figure out how to make it happen. You can’t know the how until after you succeed at what you want to do. You can experiment and try many different things but you don’t know the path until after you walk it.

Our Thoughts Determine Our Outcomes

As Edison did, the Wright Brothers did and many others.  All brilliant minds and inventors attempt many different things. Still, they can only determine what worked after it worked. Do you get this? It is an important principle. You never know how first. So relax.

You what something and don’t know how to make it happen. You learn what worked once you succeed. When you decide on a goal to pursue, that something you really want, you have to trust you will get it, even though you don’t know how it will happen.

You not only trust, but you believe you will get it. You know you will get it. Why? Because you determine to get it! You decide you won’t quit until you do. That is how you make things happen. You don’t wait for it you take action and get it done. YOU, YOU, YOU!

We Learn By Trail And Error

Even if you don’t know what to do you can take tiny steps in the direction of what you want. You don’t have to know how in order to act. You can do anything at all that moves you forward. You can study, research, connect with others and examine the possibilities.

You can go as far as you can see and when you get there you can see further. You learn as you go. Things work and  they don’t work. You learn by trial and error. There may be detours and obstacles along the route but you persist until you arrive at your destination.

After you get there you can describe how you did it for others. This is a concept that is very useful to understand and embrace. You will figure out the how but you don’t have to know the how how to begin. So begin. Don’t wait. Take positive constructive actions.

Mistakes Are Valuable – Learn From Mistakes

Concentrate on what you want and all the positive reasons why you want it and the how will take care of itself. Be clear and be motivated. Stay the course, act and continue to follow through. Never give up and you will eventually reach your goal.

The next major principle to understand is: Everything always works out for the best in the end. It actually does. Many people look back on trying circumstances, even the worst of their life, and at some point note, it ultimately was a positive defining moment.

The very worst becomes the thing most needed once they can look back and examine the events in their life and connect the dots. You can’t connect the dots until you look back. Hindsight is 20/20. That means you could have had  faith going through it in the first place.

Perception Is Everything

Yes, it is a big ordeal but ultimately it will all work out. Some day you will look back and laugh or appreciate every hardship you went through. So why wait. Begin now to appreciate everything. You are learning and growing through trials. The kite rises against the wind.

It always works out for the best in the end. If you are still struggling then realize you aren’t at the end, yet. This is useful concept to get and embrace. It isn’t over yet. Everything will work out. Trust it! Everything WILL work out. Have faith. It will be good in the end.

What is better to believe? It is terrible and all is lost or you always somehow manage to land on your feet? Choose the beliefs that support you because their are only two kinds. Those that support and those that don’t. Neither may be true, so pick what helps you.

You Go Where Your Thoughts Take You

Silly humans always want guarantees first. How would you ever get one? Who can guarantee anything for you? Will it be hard or easy? Who knows until you attempt it? You can’t know first. You can only do whatever it takes to see it through to a successful conclusion.

How do you know when something is over? Life is a process. That is why you can only look back and connect the dots and you can’t do it looking ahead. You can plan and try and yet most people learn that the plan they start with is never the one they finish with. Get it?

Things change. Keep going. If you are struggling it isn’t over yet. You are in the process of bringing about positive change for yourself. You are in the midst of fighting the good fight. You will prevail if you keep going. Keep your eye on the prize and continue with faith.

Skill Comes Of Doing

There are plenty of people who quit before they would have succeeded because they didn’t realize where they were in the process. They throw in the towel. Napoleon Hill pointed out all defeat is temporary with seeds of learning and opportunity.

The only failure is when you stop trying. He recounted the story about the man who stopped digging three feet from a very rich gold vein. In a nutshell, man buys gold mine, digs, hits gold, vein runs dry. He keeps digging and digging nothing. He stops and sells mine.

The individual who bought it consults with experts and strikes a major vein only three feet form where the first owner stopped. Three feet further! That was the difference between rich and poor. The original owner quit thinking it was over. He lost everything.

Learn New Positive Habits That Support You

Because he quit IT was over. For the new owner it was just the beginning of new riches. That could have been the end of the story except the first owner learned from his defeat. He could have done something stupid. Instead he learned from his defeat.

He could have thrown in the towel to never win at anything or try anything again. Instead, he learned a valuable lesson and determined to make it gain, by selling insurance. He vowed never to accept ‘no’ as an answer. He made millions in the insurance business.

He persevered and never gave up. He learned from his first major loss in the gold business. He built an empire because he learned to stay committed. He stated loosing the gold was the best thing that ever happened to him. That is the winner’s attitude!

The More We Do The More We Are Able To Do

You may be tempted to quit because times are tough. If you realize when times are tough that it isn’t over yet, you can keep going if you want to. You can know inside it will all work out in the end. It always does in some way. Have faith, look for the good and the silver linings.

Look for the good and you will find it. Look for problems you will find those too. Condition your mind. Your willingness to abandon your hope and dreams is your old conditioning, your old thought habits. Develop new habits of thought and action that serve you.

Nothing is gospel. Nothing is true. Nothing is written in stone. It is either useful or not. It is either supportive or not. It is either about increase or decrease. It is either positive or negative. YOU are the deciding factor for what YOU determine it to be.

What You Say Is What You Get

Expect things to work out. If you are struggling right now it isn’t over yet. Keep at it. Commit to seeing it through. Obstacles will give way if you trust, believe yourself and take action. If you give up that will who knows what might be? You will look back to know someday.

Persist and you will land on your feet eventually. Regardless. If you throw in the towel you can learn from it you too. You  might do well like the gentleman in Three Feet From Gold. Realize it is YOU who determines your present and you the future.

It is all in your hands. Since you can’t know the outcome in advance you might as well enjoy the the journey. Keep your eye on the prize. Take action and move forward. Keep the faith. Stay positive. Do no harm to self or others.

If You Think You Can Or Think You Can’t You Are Right

Make it a point to enjoy it no matter how difficult. Condition yourself for success. Learn along the way. Look for the good and celebrate everything! Appreciate your trials and your easy times. That is how you prepare yourself to win! Celebrate EVERYTHING!” Rex Sikes

Smile more today just because you can!

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The Secret: How To Stop Being A Crap Magnet

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“Consider this. What you focus on expands. Energy flows where your attention goes. You become what you think about. Keep this in mind. Birds of a feather flock together. Like attracts like. Why do I point this out?

Because when you focus on your problems you get back more problems. Whether you focus on career or job related problems, relationship issues with family or friends, health issues or wealth issues if you focus on the problem you find, attract and or create more problems. When you focus on crap you get crap back.

When you try to solve your problems you only end up with more problems. You think fixing them will make things better but it won’t because your focus is on what is wrong. If you focus on what is wrong you get more of the same. You do this because of habit. You were brought up to try to fix and solve things.

Success Secret: Don’t Fight The Old Focus On Building the New

It is old, chronic, habitual, mental conditioning that does not serve you well. When you look for and find what is wrong you only end up with more of the same. If your present moment is fill with crap how do you expect to live a wonderful life? How do you expect to feel marvelous? I mean really, why would you expect it to be different?

To feel marvelous and live a wonderful life you must look for and find what is good and what is right about this moment. You must accentuate the positive and nurture it. You look for and find anything and everything to feel grateful about and your life will change. Focus on the good in the present moment!

Consider this. You are on the freeway and traffic is moving quite well. No hangups everything is great. Suddenly, someone cuts you off, gives you the finger, slams on the brakes and screws with your driving. It sucks! THEN what do you do. Right then, you probably get hot, call him an ahole, give the finger back, and swear a bit. Or some version of all this.

What You Say Is What You Get – What You See Is What You Get

BUT what really happens. IT ruins your drive. You focus on and recount to others the ahole on the freeway. You have lost sight of the fact that traffic was moving well and all was good. What looms in your mind is the negative moment. YOU do this because of habit. Your brain has been conditioned and wired that way.

You focus on what was wrong and ignore and forget about all the rest. You miss all the good stuff. It doesn’t even exist anymore to your preoccupied mind. Your physiology changed, you got stressed, angry and then you relive it over again doing the same thing to yourself. Don’t forget the good just because bad happens.

This is just an example but realize your focus, your state of being, your emotions, your energy, your thoughts all change around the problem. They will stay that way as long as you focus on it. So what do most people do. They go from problem to problem in life either complaining or complaining and trying to fix them. It doesn’t work!

Whatever You Focus On You Create

Your focus, your state of being, your emotions, your energy, your thoughts will change around what is right and good too. You will get the good thoughts, feelings and chemicals from within. Whatever you focus on you get more of it back. Happy states of being or turbulent states; what do you want for yourself and your life?

This is precisely why gratitude is so powerful. Look for and find all the good in your present. Find what is right! Find all the good from your past. Stop reliving old wounds. Stop surviving hurts and start thriving. You will discover powerful, positive changes occur for you when you let go of the negative and switch to the positive.

You can do this if you think you can. It is simple. Look around your and find the good no matter how tiny or obscure. Put your attention ofYou won’t if you don’t think you can. It is always up to you and only you. Stop trying to fix everything. You never will anyway. If you don’t think you can do this you won’t. The choice is always yours.

What You Think About You Bring About

Stop trying to fix yourself. Stop looking for what is wrong. Start looking for what is right, what is working, what your strengths, talents, abilities and resources are and focus on these. Be grateful and discover your excellent self. Fall in love with you at the deepest level. Enjoy and delight in you. Find all the good things!

Stop criticizing and blaming yourself. Start loving, feeling grateful for you and enjoy yourself. Focus your attention on what what works in your life. Focus on the positive and value it. Truly value yourself and every aspect of your history. Put your energy and attention onto these. Think these thoughts repeatedly.

The quality of your life is determined by what you focus on. The quality of your life is determined by how you focus your attention on what you focus on? Get that? How you look at yourself and your situations past and present determine how you feel. How you feel determines how much you enjoy life. Stop the negative.

Thoughts Become Things

Stop looking at what is wrong, doesn’t work, disappointments and hurts past and present. Start looking at the good, the new, the right, the positive, what does work. STOP and smell the roses! STOP and see the forest through the trees! Want to live a magnificent life? Stop and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Enjoy today!

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What You Are Missing Is Why You Are Missing Out!

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“What are you missing? What are you missing out on? What are you not noticing? Whatever it is could make an incredible difference in how things go and what kind of life you live? Did you know this?

Often we miss things because of ourselves. We filter things out. Our senses can’t notice everything. We miss things simply because we aren’t paying attention or we just don’t know to.

If we don’t know what other possibilities exist we are missing out because we are not aware. What we are missing, what we don’t know, what we don’t include is why we are missing out.

We miss things because we are distracted by other things. We are looking in the wrong direction or we are captivated by other more shiny things.

We miss things because things are in background and no light is put on them. We might miss things because people deliberately distract us or hide things from us.

The bottom line is we miss a lot. What is it we are currently not paying attention to, that if we were, might make an incredible difference for ourselves and others?

What are you not thinking right now that if you were might make a wonderful positive difference? Where is your attention? What is it on? Are you focused on problems or solutions. Lack of Plenty?

What do you believe and have believed that has limited you from taking action and doing what you want? It doesn’t matter so much why. There are always going to be reasons, valid or not.

We need to  look around and not be so gullible as to believe everything we see, hear, read, or get from any form of media including family and friends. That includes ourselves too.

We need to stay alert, vet things and be watchful. We need to wake up. We need to vet our own thoughts and beliefs if they keep us from living the life we want. We must become aware.

Lot’s of issues going on outside us.  We only need look around. Lots of things happening underneath that most likely we aren’t even able to imagine. It’s time for us to stop blaming and simply wake up.

Lot’s of issues going on inside us. We need to look within. If we see something that needs changing we need to change it. Become aware. Look, notice, see, recognize. Examine and do something.

What kind of thinking has held you back, that if you remove, replace or re-condition yourself, you could move forward in positive ways? What positive, productive possibilities can you replace it with?

If you don’t know, yet, that is okay? At least you might be searching. Perhaps, you didn’t even realize until recently that you could become more aware. Awareness is the first step in change.

If you always do what you always did you will always get what you always got. To do the same thing over and over again and expect different results is, they say, the definition of insanity.

If you want your life to change you must change things in your life. To know what to do, but not do it, is to not really know. Every first step begins with you. Awareness is the first step in understanding.

If you know what you want to change, change it. If you make a mistake correct the mistake. You will learn from it. In actuality, there are no mistakes only attempts we learn from. Learning is experience.

So what positive thoughts are you not thinking, right this moment, that if you were, could make all the difference in the results you get and the kind of life you live? Find out and begin thinking them!

Look around you, look within in. What are you not grateful for because you haven’t thought to include it? Where can you put your attention that allows you to celebrate everything? And do it!” Rex Sikes

Miracles happen everyday in different ways!

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Quickly Go From Sad Or Mad To Glad – Anytime Anywhere!

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“Would you like to learn of of the simplest, easiest and quickest way to go from feeling bad to feeling good, anywhere, anytime and with anyone?  Would you like to be able to transform moments of dissatisfaction into positive and valued moments?

This is absolutely the quickest and easiest way to change your feelings when life seems to suck. You can do many things, go for a walk, listen to music, exercise, get a massage and feel good pretty quickly. This will work wonders with so little effort.

Focus on what you are grateful for. You can do it in your head. No one around you would even know so you can do it on the job! It is absolutely effective and can readily move your from funk into more pleasant places.

Some people aren’t sure what to focus on or write down in their gratitude journal. Some even say they have little or nothing to be grateful for. Here are some samples. Read them over. It is quite simple. ANYTHING and everything can be included.

I even snuck a very personal one that will have great meaning to many people into the samples, see if you can spot it. Have fun!

I am grateful my co-worker noticed my new haircut. – I am grateful for my hairstylist. – I am grateful for the bargain I got on the hairstyle. – I am grateful for the free food samples at the grocers. – I am grateful for the parking spot I got. – I’ grateful for my pets.

I am grateful that gum I liked is coming back in style. – I am grateful the freeway was is easy driving today. – I am grateful I found the shoes I want. – I am grateful the lawnmower worked and I cut the grass. – I am grateful the coffee barista smiled at me.

I am grateful I found a dime on the sidewalk. – I am grateful for my children’s love. – I am grateful for my job. – I am grateful for the roof above my head. – I am grateful I have transportation to and from work. -I am grateful for the time out at the movies this evening.

I’m grateful I got my laundry done. – I am grateful my boss recognized my work. – I am grateful for the money I have right now. I am grateful I am keeping a gratitude journal. – I am grateful for the past mistakes and what I can learn from them.

I am grateful for this moment. – I am grateful for my health and well being. – I am grateful for my upbringing. – I am grateful for all obstacles and challenges. – I am grateful for my feet which have carried me all these years, – I am grateful for my body.

I am grateful for all the opportunities I have had. – I am grateful for my first kiss and the last kiss I just had. – I am grateful for masala dosa. – I am grateful for healthy food. – I am grateful for relaxing at home. – I am grateful for my favorite tv show.

I am grateful for my parents. – I am grateful for my mind and brain. – I am grateful for my blue pen. – I am grateful I have a computer. -I am grateful I have friends. -I am grateful people challenge me. – I am grateful for social media. -I am grateful for clean drinking water.

I am grateful I put my foot down last night and did not give in. – I am grateful I listened and was open to alternatives. – I am grateful they listened to me and accepted my point of view. – I am grateful they listened to me but did not agree.

I am grateful my children are stubborn. – I am glad my daughter says no to me. I know she will say it whenever it is necessary for her to protect her boundaries. -I am grateful my car broke down. Had it not, I wouldn’t have taken the bus and met Irma.

I am grateful things always work out for me. – I am grateful for rejection and disappointment it made me grow stronger. – I am grateful for the unexpected good coming to me. -I am grateful for right where I am in this present moment.

I am grateful my feelings alert me to when I need to shift my attention. – I am grateful for the contrast sadder moments provide me. – I am grateful for my family and friends. I am grateful  got fired. I don’t know  how it will work out but it always does.

I am grateful for all I am learning. –  I am grateful I always land on my feet. – I am grateful blue skies and gray days. – I am grateful for snow and how pretty it is. – I am grateful for tropical warm climate. I am grateful to be grateful. – I am grateful I can feel things.

Get it? Whatever it is, no matter how big or how small, feel grateful. List 25 or more things you feel grateful for in your daily gratitude journal. Begin to actually feel grateful. Feel the emotion of appreciation. Realize how blessed and fortunate you are.

Take inventory. Do it often. Everyday, morning and night. Miracles happen when you appreciate what you have and express your thankfulness. Anything is fair game. Make it a habit to look for, find and express your positive feelings. Anytime, anywhere!

You get more of whatever you focus on. If you are negative and focused on what you don’t have and don’t want you will stay stuck. Begin to really appreciate what you have, no matter how small or how little, and you will get back more of that. Stay positive.

One of the quickest ways you can make a positive change to almost instantly feel better and think better, anytime, anywhere, no matter who you are with is to feel and express genuine gratitude. Focus on what you feel good about and you will begin to feel better!

Whatever you can’t be grateful about is what you are limited by. Seek to include more and more things you can feely be thankful for. Expand your horizons and enjoy more. It is wonderful to find delight in all things. Explore, notice, include, list and feel wonderful!

When you feel better your brain works better. You are able to find solutions to problems more readily and recognize opportunities you might otherwise miss. You are more productive and you attract other positive people, events and circumstances to you.

Imagine having lots and lots of  reasons to feel good and to enjoy life. Be grateful for what you have and you make room to have much, much  more.  Even if you didn’t you’d still be feeling good. Get it? Do it!  The idea is truly to celebrate everything.” Rex Sikes

Find moments to enjoy and celebrate today!

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Strategies For Success: Take These 6 Positive Steps To Overcome Disappointment And Get Your Goals!

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“Want to make your career, relationship and life goals come true? Would you like to transform yourself into the person you always knew you could be? Do you want to set goals and take steps to get what you want in life? If yes, then do these things.

I have a number of large consulting and training projects. I am working with corporations, some large and some small businesses. One is a large psychological services facility, another is  consulting for the CEO and the Board Of Directors for a urban building project.

I am working with these as team members and individuals.  Our goal is to develop  an unstoppable success attitude or mindset and leadership abilities. To do this it is important to clarify the purpose of the project leader and the various team members.

What You See And Say And Feel Is What You Get

I help them learn and set Well Formed Outcomes (WFO) to create a daily, weekly, monthly, yearly action plan for moving toward their target purpose while accomplishing numerous smaller goals along the way. It is important to get to the big ones step by step.

All the goals should be in service of the overall purpose, otherwise they can be obstacles and distractions. As my clients work on accomplishing their large goals they achieve the smaller ones that move them forward in the right direction.

They also set individual and personal outcomes too. One of the tools in my tool belt come from Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP). I have been training and teaching NLP (among other things since early 80’s) I shared with them the conditions for WFO.

Stay Positive

We’ll explore WFO in this blog post and subsequent ones. WFO have a set of conditions you must meet in order to make it easiest to get your goals. Each of these conditions help you get clear on what you want and how you can most readily accomplish it.

To practice WFO you want to write out each step to keep track of the answers that come to you. The Outcome should be:

1. Stated in the positive: Speak in terms of what you want. What do you want to include? Do not state what you don’t want or prefer to exclude. Leave that alone. By stating it in the positive you aim at your target. You know where and what you want to get to.

If You Can Conceive It You Can Achieve It

2. Capable of representing in the senses: What will you see, how will you look when you get your outcome? What do you hear, say to yourself and what are others saying? How will you feel? Emotions and positive sensations in your body?

Where? (E.g. you feel your shoulders pull back, your chest move out, you chine raise, your feet firmly planted) when you accomplish your outcome?  Are their smells or tastes too? Write out each of these as detailed as you can. Your evidence is real world based.

3. Possible and achievable: It can’t be outside of a real world possibility. It must be something people CAN actually accomplish in a reasonable amount of time. Most outcomes are possible given a realistic time frame.

Build On Successes

Unfortunately, some people want things too quickly and have unrealistic time frames and expectations. Given the proper amount of time, and correct actions you can accomplish most things See number 5.

4. You specify and have all the necessary resources: Capital, knowledge, equipment, time, people, materials, etc. You assemble what you need in order to make it happen. Determine where you must go, or who else you need to enlist. What’s required?

For Outcomes to be really well formed you should be able to begin your actions and maintain them all on your own. The conclusion should rely on you successfully achieving your goal without relying on anyone else. You can control what you do but not others.

Establish Good Habits

Make sure you outcome is something you alone can pursue. Make certain you can begin working on it, follow through and complete it all on your own. Outside help is fine but should not be the determining factor on whether you get or don’t get your outcomes.

5. Have a deadline date that is realistic: Accomplished by when? Set a reasonable time for accomplishing your outcome. Put it on your calendar and work towards achieving it within that amount of time. The more realistic you are in all of these the easier it is to get it.

6.It is appropriately contextualized and ecological: This means it does not upset the system or apple cart. Your goal should not screw up your life or others. It should fit within your existing lifestyle and relationships. It does not harm anyone. It should be beneficial.

Decide And Act

If it includes others it is win/win. If it requires too many extraneous conditions or is too large of an immediate lifestyle change you may not continue to work on accomplishing your outcome. Don’t try to push a large boulder uphill. Make it manageable and do-able.

For example, if you wanted to exercise more how can you fit it into your existing schedule? What changes might you need to make in order to get to the gym, work out, and not rob you of important time with family, work or whatever?

If it takes time from other important areas in your life how likely would you be to continue? While some may answer, very likely, most people ultimately don’t continue. This is important to realize. You don’t want to bite off more than you can chew.

Limit Distractions – Focus On What You Want

Bit by bit you get there. You take positive, practical, reasonable, well thought out steps toward accomplishing what you want. You identify the end result clearly, what you see, hear and feel, so you know when you have arrived. You know what to expect.

Knowing these and feeling these keeps you motivated and feeling positive. By setting a deadline date you learn to begin and end within a given time, no excuses. You do what you can in the time you are allotted with the resources available.

That is Well Formed Outcomes. You can set them and accomplish more than you ever thought possible.

Consistent And Persistent Action Will Get You There

One more thing. You should know that you already have all the resources within you to accomplish your goals and dreams. However, you may not know this, believe this or recognize them. Still, you do. There are other times you succeeded, no matter how small, when you thought, felt and behaved resourcefully.

Tap into these. Remember, previous accomplishments and challenges when you prevailed. What did you see, hear and say and feel when you were confident and successful? Relive these in your mind, your memories. Get in touch with your feelings of success.

Think of resources as emotional states and abilities. Resources include your ability to learn; to smile, laugh and feel good; to be confident. Your ability to relax or feel peaceful or secure. Your ability to think clearly. Your ability to be playful and have fun.

Look For, Find And Use Your Inner Talents And  Abilities

You are already resourceful in so many ways. Recognize and validate this. Look inside for the best you have. Saying no can be a resource, setting boundaries, getting appropriately angry. Frustration or discontent that leads to positive action can be a resource. Anything CAN be a resource when utilized appropriately.

I’ll share more about WFO in upcoming blogs. I provide you with more details about setting them including questions you can ask to make certain you can most easily achieve the outcomes you set. Remember, what you can conceive and believe you can achieve!

It is an exciting opportunity for each of us to examine how our minds limit us, when we let it, and how to take control of our mind and direct it toward our goals and dreams. Setting WFO means gaining needed clarity in order to more easily get what you want.

Know What You Want – Clarify And Simplify – Make It Happen

It means helping team members clarify their over all purpose in working together. It is important they are all on the same page and that their efforts support each other and contribute to the overall project purpose.

In the same way it is important for a team of rowers to all face the same way, oars in the water, rowing in the same direction at the same time. It is important to get cooperation from members so they work in harmony. They work with each other not against.

The same thing can be said of your conscious and unconscious mind, the left and right hemisphere. The goal is to get them aligned and working together congruently so you can make your goals and dreams happen. Work with yourself not in opposition.

Keep It Simple Sweetheat

The members of the team get home work and exercises that I prescribe and we meet weekly to evaluate and track progress. Well, that’s pretty much it for today. If you enjoy these blogs please use the information to positively transform your own life.

AND please share it with your family and friends, even strangers, so they can changes their lives for the better too. Spread the word and together we can help many more people live their dreams. That is one of mine, to reach and positively influence as many as possible.

Set goals, make them big enough to motivate you with tiny enough baby steps to accomplish them by a deadline date and you will easily achieve much more than you ever imagined possible. Drop by drop the tub gets fill. Get into the practice of setting and getting WFO.

To Know And Not To Do Is Not To Know

The proper use of knowledge is to apply it. Make it a habit. Have fun learning and using WFO daily. While some people think they must have a life transformation explosion, a dramatic major overall, realistically it is the little things you do on a consistent basis that pay exponential dividends. Master this and it will amaze you. All the while live, love laugh, and celebrate everything.” Rex Sikes

Minutes count to. Make all your moments magical!

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Strategies For Feeling Happy And Well-Being More Of The Time

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Why do we feel bad? Why don’t we just feel good all the time? Is there a way to feel better more often? Should we? Some people say it is unrealistic to try to feel good always. Is it? If it were possible to feel better most of the time wouldn’t you want to?

First, I don’t know. That just seems to be the way of the world. The universe works on contrast and opposites. We have hot and cold, up and down, big and small, good and not good. We have contrast. The good news is we can utilize contrast to our advantage.

Just as night comes and it signals us to sleep and dawn comes and signals us to arise, feelings signal us as to what we are thinking and what is going on with us. They can alert us to issues that require attention and keep us safe.

Dashboard Signals Alert Us To What We Need To Attend To

Thoughts create feelings. Thoughts precede our feelings. Thought is a form of energy, lighter and quicker than feelings. An analogy might be water and molasses.  Emotions are a combination of our physical sensations combined with thought. Lighter and heavier.

Our thoughts seem to be fleeting, sometimes racing. Our feelings tend to linger. We notice the results of our thinking by what and how we are feeling. Good feelings our thoughts are positive. Not so good feelings our thoughts aren’t so positive, they are negative.

Focus is a major reason why we feel less than glorious. What we pay attention to and put energy into determines how we feel. Focus can be habitual and we hardly notice what we are attending to. Focus can be deliberate. Whatever we focus on we get back and more of.

Our Feelings Are Our Signals

We want to be clear about what we focus on. Negative focus, outside of our awareness will run the show. If we don’t realize we are complaining and blaming and focused on problems and negativity we will feel bad without knowing why.

We won’t know what to do about it and so we will tend to do more of the same. It will only get worse. In order to break the cycle we need to become aware and shift our focus to the positive. From can’t do to can do. From unhappy to happy. We get whatever we focus on.

We can monitor our thoughts by monitoring our feelings. Our feelings signal us that we might need to change our thinking if we want to feel better. Just as the results of our life are an indication of our previous thoughts feelings are an indication of our thinking.

We Become What We Most Think About

If we look at our life and don’t like the results we are getting in our present circumstances and we feel less than glorious it is a strong indication we need to change SOMETHING about our thinking. If what we are doing isn’t working we need to change it for the better.

That is great news. It gives us something positive to do. Sadly, most people, when they don’t like the results, end up whining, complaining, blaming and excusing. They drive themselves deeper into bad feelings and poor results. They create a negative cycle.

The wiser, more productive course of action isn’t to complain or to try to fix things in the world but to first fix the thinking that produced the issues in the world. Once our thinking is straighten out we have a better chance to resolve the rest.

We Get What We Focus On

When we are positive, clear headed, stress free we think and feel better. When we think and feel better we are more resourceful and our brains are better problem solvers than when we are stressed out. Literally, our brains shut down more when stressed.

We actually do not think, nor see potential options and advantages as readily as when we are feeling positive. This is especially the case with chronic stress and lingering melancholy or anxiety. To live better we need to make some thinking changes up front.

This is why I emphasize repeatedly the importance of gaining control of your mind and learning how to direct your thoughts. Times will arise when we feel less than glorious and we want to be able to move ourselves gently into better feelings.

Awareness Is The First Step In Positive Change

Whatever is going on, accept it and learn from it. Notice what it is and realize it is part of being human. Your emotions are signaling you something may be out of whack. Hooray, what a marvelous self regulating system we have.

Gently attempt to feel better bit by bit. The goal is not to jump from sad to ecstatic but to move from sad gently towards feeling ecstatic incrementally. Bit by bit. As you learn to do this you condition yourself to move from less than glorious to glorious.

Still, you aren’t yanking yourself from one into the other. It is more important to be able to learn to set direction and follow the course than to leap from one to the other. Allow for slower and steady progress. As you do you might find it easing up more quickly.

If You Aren’t Aware Of It You Are Not Likely To Change It

You don’t have to push it. It will give way as you gently nudge it and simultaneously control and direct your thoughts. So can we or should we feel better or happy all the time? You decide. That is the best answer. If you think you shouldn’t be happy always, why not?

Certainly, you may have reasons. Then also consider this. Happiness is a choice. You choose when and when not to feel happy. It is completely up to you. If you learn how to control your thoughts and feelings you can determine when you will and when you won’t.

First learn how to control and aim your mind so you have that as an option. The more often we feel better the easier more of life is. We think better when we feel better and vice versa. Our mind and body are part of the same system. Our job is to learn to use them well.

Thank Goodness For The Signals We Get

If everyday you engage in conditioning your mind and body pretty soon you would have mind and bodies in pretty good shape. They both need exercise, rest, and proper nutrition. Care for your mind and body and they will serve you well. Better than if you don’t.

The investment in brain and body care pays great dividends all along the way. You can experience better current and long term health. You can think and act more productively to get better results and accomplish your dreams and goals. Yes, there is a cost to taking care.

There is time, energy and effort required. If you let yourself go or never get in mental and physical shape, if you never know well-being, why expect to if you do nothing in order to have it? It comes at a price. The price is your willingness and your follow through.

Energy Flows Where Attention Flows

You can begin small and make great progress. It can astonish you with how doing little things consistently can positively impact everything in your life in big ways. Be sure you do something. If you always do what you always did you always get to remain the same.

Do things that you enjoy. Walk, gardening, working out, meditating, yoga, listening to music. Engage in activities that make you feel happier and more joyful. Read inspiring books, blogs and materials. Listen to inspirational speakers. Hang with positive people.

Select one or two simple positive affirmations and use them as a mantra to think and say over and over throughout the day, when needed and at anytime. Imagine, visualize, your ideal self. Enjoy the feelings that accompany your visualization and savor them.

Drop By Drop The Tub Gets Filled

Visualize your positive goals as if you already have attained them and notice the wonderful feelings. Make a daily gratitude and success list. Feel your appreciation for the people, events and things in life. List your daily successes no matter how tiny.

Journal your positive feelings, your joys, and your desires. Write about what you want as though you already have these. Appreciate what you do each day. Appreciate yourself. Smile more, laugh more, move your body more, skip, sing, dance. Get a massage. Sauna.

Rest, relax, nap, bathe. Take care of yourself. Create a brief positive morning rising ritual and one for winding down and going to sleep. Review your gratitudes and successes. Plan for a positive next day. During the day make it a point to feel your best.

You Eat An Elephant A Bite At A Time

If at times you don’t, stop, take a deep breath, and put your focus onto positive thoughts, your mantra or your visualizations, and keep bringing it back to these until you are able to keep it there. At first it may seem tough but it will get easier and easier the more you do it.

Your brain, your unconscious mind is a servo-mechanism. It is an automated servant. It learns by training. It learned to do what it does when you were younger. Now it is time to train it yourself to do what you want it to do. Condition it for success. It will serve you.

It will serve you well but you must do it. Your early conditioning was not done with your permission or input. Now it is time for you to determine to build positive habits that reliably serve you to live the life you desire to live. Once conditioned positively it will be faithful.

Plan For Success – Be Positive – Expect Unexpected Good

If you want to change your life you need to change some things. If there are two dogs fighting  within you, as the story goes, the one you feed and care for wins. The one you starve won’t. Be wise, take appropriate action and make your life more wonderful. Begin today and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

It is your day. How will you best spend it?

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Strategies For Handling Criticism And Cruel Remarks. Do This!

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Strategies to stop letting others hurt you. I got a request for a blog post on this topic. It is a great topic and a great request. I am happy to address it and give you and idea of some of the positive things you can do to change it from being a problem.

Listen to your own heart. Turn your thoughts and attentions to positive thoughts. Focus on your confidence. Make your Mantras ones of worthiness and self love. See yourself ideal. Visualize.

See your self resilient. Some people mentally put a protective colored bubble around themselves. Others just learn to let it roll off them as water off a duck’s back.

The Mind Is As Strong As It’s Weakest Think

You get what you focus on. If you focus on unwanted comments and let them hurt you they will. If you choose to ignore them and not let them bother you they won’t. The choice is yours.

It never hurts to develop a thicker skin so you don’t take what others say too seriously. When someone calls you a name realize it is really more about them than it is about you.

Understand this and rise above being offended or hurt. Stop being a victim. People project. We all do. What they find wrong about you is most likely more about them than it is about you. Know this!

You Get What You Focus On

Decide to be different. Learn how to let it go. Understand it is other people’s projections even when it is well-intended. Say thanks for sharing and move on.

Criticism from friends or foe is an opportunity to examine ourselves and grow. Say thanks. Examine yourself. If it is accurate apply the appropriate action or remedy to make the changes.

If not, let it go. Put everything into perspective as best you can. Consider the source. Be grateful you have friends. Learn to appreciate what you do have.

Energy Flows Where Attention Goes

If a loved one tells you something you didn’t want to hear, it may be well-meaning even if non-supportive. They don’t intend to hurt you. Understand this. They meant to be helpful. Be grateful.

If an enemy, well, why even bother to let it hurt you. What would you expect from an enemy? Let that one go right away. Don’t give it a second thought. It is an enemy.

Whether from friend of or enemy you might just consider it a gift. Often times friends won’t tell you like it is. Someone who doesn’t like you might. Consider this.

The More We Do The More We Can Do

If someone could tell you something about yourself, you didn’t realize, wouldn’t you want them to? What if everyone knew it but you? Wouldn’t you want some one to be honest enough to say it?

‘Hey you got a booger on your lip’ or ‘Your slip is showing.’ As if this last one mattered today when people where their underwear on the outside. But you get the idea, right?

Sometimes feedback can be useful even from an unwanted source, said in an unwanted way. We should want the feedback that helps us grow even if we don’t like getting it. Be open to valuable input.

When People Hurt You Repeatedly Think Of Them As Sandpaper…

Choose to think differently. Decide to learn not to let other’s opinions bother you. First remember, opinions don’t matter. Everyone has one. So what? Don’t fall apart because of one.

Learn to control your thoughts and direct your mind. When negativity comes your way, recognize it and choose to focus on the positive. Direct your mind elsewhere productive and positive.

Do not be a victim of someone else’s crappy behaviors. Don’t allow yourself to suffer because people are stupid, cruel and unkind. Realize they have more to lose by being the way they are.

… They Scratch You And They Hurt You …

If you are a nice person. If you attempt to live well, respect others and don’t succumb to trading poisonous barbs then rise above it all. Feel sorry for the low life’s who can’t. Pity them and move on.

Develop you confidence and self-esteem. Use affirmations, visualizations and condition yourself. Develop your strengths and accept and let go of your weaknesses. Or develop them too.

If you can change something change it. If you can’t accept that you can’t and change something else that you can. Like your attitude. Change your attitude if you can’t change the other things.

… But Later You’ll Be Shining And Polished

In fact, just develop the attitude of a winner, a champion and a victor and you will be less likely to be susceptible to frivolous attempts to hurt you. You’ll be less like to be overly sensitive to well meaning criticism.

Well, there are a few things you can do. There are more. Perhaps, we’ll discuss them another time too. Meanwhile, gratitude works wonders. If you preoccupy yourself with being grateful for everything you are less likely to get hurt.

You can find the silver lining in the dark clouds. Look for the good behind all things. Miracles can happen when you are thankful. You get back more of what you focus on so focus on the best and let go of the rest. Be grateful, truly appreciative and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Feel positive today. It’s a great day to find your best feelings!

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This Is Precisely Why Your Life Sucks But You Can Change It!

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“You have tried positive thinking and the law of attraction but it just doesn’t seem to work. Perhaps, you gave up. Career stuck, debt is mounting, you just aren’t all that happy. You know what you want but you aren’t sure you’ll ever get there. Right now sucks.

What to do? How do you get what you want in the future if you don’t like what is going on right now? Well, you absolutely won’t if you throw in the towel are or negative about it. That won’t help at all. However, there is good news. Frankly, great news for you!

The Law Of Attraction or The Law Of Creation, as I like to call it, because actually we are responsible for everything we have and don’t have, always works. Once we accept this we can better work with it. The LOA or LOC means that what you focus on you get.

What You Focus On Expands

If you want money and you don’t have any and you focus on your current debt, dire circumstances, lack of cash then that is what you create and attract more of. Your focus determines what you get. Good or bad, right or wrong, true or not you get what you focus on.

Why? Because your focus determines how you feel. Remember thoughts precede feelings, feelings precede actions, or lack of actions, and actions determine our results. SO our thoughts determine our results. Our thoughts create our results.

We create and attract what we are. Because what we are feeling is what we are. If we feel great we get more back. If we feel crummy we get more back. Stop whining about it and realize that is how it works. You have to face it to work with it. Accept it and use it.

You Get What You Focus On

Stop overthinking EVERYTHING! When you think about what you want, AND that you don’t have it, yet, you are actually keeping it away. You move one step forward then back You are stuck. Let go of present circumstances and focus on what you want.  Enjoy now!

In order to live better today and have a better tomorrow you cannot focus on the gap between then and now. You must focus on all the good right now to get more good now and later. You must focus on the wonderful feelings no matter what the circumstances are.

Do you understand this, yet? It means controlling your thoughts, and your attitude. Direct them to what is right, good, feels great and keep them there. Ignore what you don’t want and prefer to avoid. Stop focusing on the gap, the lack, the dire and the yucky.

You Present Circumstances Are A Result Of Your Thought

Focus on anything and everything that is good and right and bright, no matter how small, and keep your attention there. Lot’s of tiny things add up. Look at the beach. Find them. Find all the reasons why now is wonderful.  Affirm that. Declare that. Be grateful! Enjoy!

Most people tell stories about how things suck. How they got sick, how they went broke, why their kids are out of work and living at home,  what the economy did to them, how their partner causes them pain on and on. They tell downer stories all day long.

What does that tell you? It tells you they are focused on what isn’t working, they are focused on suffering and lack. They repeat the stories again and again to anyone who will listen whether that person is interested or not. People tell and live their stories.

The Present Moment Is For Enjoying

Remember, you become what you think about. What you repeatedly think, feel, and do becomes habit. If you keep doing the same thing over and over you will get the same results. Your life won’t change until you change what you are doing. Repeat the right things!

Build good habits. Condition your mind to automatically think positive thoughts that cause you to feel good. Condition and steel your mind to focus on the good, what is working, what is right and enjoyable about now. Live it and repeat it. Tell these stories!

For gawd sake CHANGE YOUR STORIES and YOU WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE! Start telling stories about how things go well, how things are right, how wonderfully things are working out. Talk about how good things happened are happening and will happen.

Live With The Attitude Of Gratitude

Take your life back for goodness sake. Stop whining, complaining, excusing, bitching, moaning, pissing on the positive and begin to live life as you were meant to. Be the author of your life. Re-write the chapters. Make it a life story about success and happiness.

When you do everything will begin to change for the better. It will take time just as planting a seed and reaping the benefit takes time. SO focus on how wonderful it is in the meantime and by the time everything manifests it will be even better. Enjoy all of the present!

USE NOW to have a marvelous THEN. This is HOW it works. Focus on the incredible and ignore the horrible. Feel wonderful most of the time during your day and you will be creating and attracting more wonderful feelings, moments and all good things.

You Become What You Think About The Most

If you want a wonderful then make it a wonderful now. Only you can do this by managing your thoughts and directing your mind to stay positive. As you do you condition it to work for you in powerful ways.

You create new positive automatic and reliable habits to keep moving forward. You bring about what you think about. Thoughts are things. Live well and you will live well! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Tell positive stories today. It’s a great day to tell great stories!

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