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Acceptance, Forgiveness, Gratitude, Learning

What To Do When You Really Disappoint Yourself!

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“Have you ever let yourself down? Have you ever disappointed yourself? Have you ever done the exact opposite of what you intended to do? Did you ever say, ‘I won’t do that’, only to then do it. I sure have. Countless times. Sometimes, too often.

So what to do when you behave less than gloriously or even badly. You can accept it. Accept that you aren’t perfect. Accept that there are times when you don’t do as you intend. Accept, forgive and love yourself anyway. You aren’t perfect stop pretending to be. Let it go!

Far too often we are harsh on ourselves because we think we should be further along than we actually are. You can see this a lot watching people learn a new sport or activity. They get frustrated because they think it should be easier than it is. They loose patience. I have.

Accept What Is – Let Go Of What Was – Accept All – Allow All

Have you ever done this? I do it all the time. Own it. Live up to it. We take golf swings, throw basketballs, play music on an instrument and get mad when we don’t perform correctly. Knock it off. Stop thinking  you are better than you are. Accept mistakes. Laugh it off instead.

We want to be perfect. We expect perfection even if we think we are a loser. There is no end to how we can criticize and blame ourselves. We will rag on ourselves coming and going if we could. Right? It is time to learn a new way of being don’t you think? You can, you know.

So accept. Let go. Forgive, truly and love yourself even though you aren’t perfect. Love yourself. Then learn. Extract the lesson from the situation. What could you have done differently that would have been more resourceful, productive, beneficial, co-operative? Ask.

Accept The Rainy Days Accept The Storms They Are Part Of Life

Ask of yourself and listen silently for the answer. Examine and reflect. Don’t judge. Stop criticizing. Listen to what you might have thought, felt, said, or acted differently that may have made a difference. Learn from this. Decide to not do the old behavior again.

Intend to be the new way. You may and it might take many practice attempts or slip ups until you finally ‘get it’ and do it or live it. Do you understand this? Repetition is the mother of skill. You made the old way a habit, now you need to be patient while you make a new one.

New habits can take time. So be prepared to love yourself through it. Accept yourself. Keep moving forward as best you are able. You can critique your behavior but don’t criticize yourself for screwing up. You do what you do in the situation and perhaps next time do better.

You Don’t Need To Be Accepted By Others – Accept Yourself

Take the pressure off yourself. This doesn’t give you license to do the old behavior, especially if it involves others, but it gives you permission to be human. Humans make mistakes. Humans don’t always do everything perfectly. It is okay! You did what you did.

If it involves others and you need to apologize do so. Own up. Take responsibility. Learn to communicate more effectively. Build bridges instead of burning them down. I have burned some bridges and in most cases it only hurt me more. Respect others and respect you.

Some times you examine the situation and discover there was nothing you could have done that would have made any difference. You can’t change the physicality of it. Then accept it. If you can change your response to it change your response!

Mistakes Are Part Of Life If You Don’t Make Them You Don’t Learn

When you can’t change an event change your response. Instead of trying to change other people change yourself. You are in the driver’s seat of your mind and your life not in charge of world events or other people’s minds and lives. Let go of trying to control things.

Accept that the ‘crappy event’ was a blessing to learn and evolve from. It may take time to see how but allow for it. I have done things long ago and not so long ago that I may be ashamed of. I have hurt people with my words or provoked others unnecessarily.

I have given the finger to unsuspecting drivers on the road. We all have things we aren’t proud of or that we sometimes do that surprise us. Even when everything is going exceptionally well. Don’t let one act ruin the record of good days. It is like quitting smoking.

Welcome Challenges Every Situation Is An Opportunity To Learn

If you slip up and have a cigarette don’t stop quitting because you had one. Stay quitting. Okay, you slipped up. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and go on. Keep to the program. Get it. Some people abandon everything because of one mistake or slip up. Don’t.

Do stay the course. Keep growing and evolving and living and laughing. Get back on track when derailed. Forgive yourself, forgive others, allow it to be. Accept it as opportunity. You don’t have to know all the answers or the ‘whys’ and reasons.

You may want to but most of everything is a big mystery. Why, heck I don’t know, simply because. Why is what we learned to ask as a child and we keep doing it. The answers aren’t much better as we get older. It just IS! Accept what is. Learn to go with the flow. Allow.

Keep Going Don’t Quit Just Because You Made A Mistake – Persist

Give and receive. Receive grace. receive joy. Receive love. Receive forgiveness. Receive peace. Receive awareness. Give these and more in return. Learn to be grateful. It hurts when things go wrong, or the apple cart is upset, but get over it. Take your time if you need.

Learn that if you love and accept and respect yourself. If you allow and accept what is. You can do the same for others. Whether they return it or not you can still do it. In many cases they won’t return it.

What if you changed for the better yet the rest of the world remain the same? How would you enjoy it? It would be completely up to you then wouldn’t it? It would, right. Everyone else is the same but you chance. Guess what, that is how it already is. You transform.

Forgiveness Is Something You Do For Yourself To Forgive Is Divine

Don’t concern yourself with other people’s personal evolution. Live and let live. When you disappoint yourself imagine you counsel a young person you love. What loving, kind words would you say? What might the child like to hear? What might the child need?

Okay, live and lough and laugh. Feel gratitude even when things go awry. I am always reminded of Jesus, whether you believe it or not, the story is he asked forgiveness for his tormentors while he was in torment. He didn’t wait until all was good, he did it while suffering.

Whether true or a story I think it is a great example. Forgive others and forgive yourself even while in the midst of turmoil. Even when nothing changes in the circumstances. Forgiveness isn’t FOR the other person, it is for YOU. It is for your transformation.

Love Yourself For Who You Are – Friend Yourself – You Deserve To

Transform. You aren’t perfect. You may never be. Accept the good and the not so good as you do the day and the night. Judgement is what makes something acceptable and unacceptable. Yes, there are ways we treat others that may be either. Know which is which.

Live with imperfection. Enjoy being human. Don’t expect to be superhuman or perfect. Don’t live in delusion. Life CAN be great and YOU CAN make your dreams come true THAT isn’t fantasy. Utopia or utopian like perfection is deluded. You can live enlightened.

Be enlightened while the world is as it is. So give yourself room to make mistakes and to correct them. Accept yourself for not being perfect. be grateful for the opportunity to learn, change, correct and continue on. Be thankful for all and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Make the most of each moment!

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How To Get Better Or Good At Anything

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“Would you like to get better at what you’re doing? Any skill, whether it’s piano playing, cooking, a sport, talking with others, attracting a mate, negotiating a career, managing your own mind and controlling your thoughts. You can.  It isn’t that difficult really.

How would you like to get better at  taking charge of your feelings and making your dreams come true? Would you like that? When you know how to do it there may be many things you would like to improve. Imagine all your dreams coming true. Nice, huh. Okay.

Here is how you improve any skill.  Imagine a juggler. Imagine this person is learning to juggle and keep a number of objects in the air. Imagine that this juggler every time an object drops and isn’t caught or juggled but hits the floor, THIS juggler slaps his or her face HARD!

Repetition Is The Mother Of Skill – Skills You Develop

Whenever this juggle makes a mistake, large or small, this juggler insults or criticize himself and makes himself feel horribly bad. The juggler thinks to himself, out loud or silently, ‘I suck! I’ll never make it. I can’t do this. I’m a loser. I’m horrible! This sucks. Crap’

She thinks, ‘I screwed up again. I’ll never learn. What a klutz. This is hard. Shit! F’n balls are too slippery.  It’s too cold in here. I can’t juggle when it’s cold. Too many distractions I cant concentrate. I give up.” Do you think this person would be a good juggler anytime soon?

Most likely not. Yet that is what many people do when it comes to taking charge of their own lives, controlling their finances, meeting the person of their dreams, losing weight, feeling confident, doing anything or making any change. They criticize themselves.

Mastering Yourself Is True Power – Know Thyself

They’re hard on themselves. They abuse themselves. They punish themselves. They shame themselves. Then wonder why they don’t make any changes. You can’t punish you yourself and expect to gain skills and talents and abilities and positive attitudes and well-being.

You are going to feel bad, negative and awful. Feeling awful isn’t going to make you better anytime soon. What do YOU do when YOU make a mistake? What could you do instead that would help you learn and improve and move you forward with the skills?

Accept the mistake!  Allow it. Forgive yourself and move on gently. You redo it, again. If you screw up again you, again, gently move on. Don’t punish yourself. Instead  encourage yourself. Think, ‘better luck next time’. Enjoy practice. Keep the faith. Expect the best!

If You Develop Just One Skill Make It The Ability To Focus

Think, ‘that’s alright. Good for you! That’s the spirit. Keep the at it! Good job! You’re moving forward.’ You encourage. You don’t have to go overboard with the praise but you pat yourself on the back for whatever you did. Accept whatever you did without criticism.

Don’t expect to be perfect right out of the gate. You won’t be. Understand there is a learning curve and accept that you’re not perfect. Accept that you’re not God. Accept that you don’t know how to do it, yet, but that you will improve in time.

With time and patience; with correct repetition and encouragement you’ll get better and better. You could be a world-class champion if you give yourself permission to go that far and become one. AND if you  aren’t too hard on yourself and allow yourself to get good.

Simple Consistent Good Habits Lead To A Life Of Blissful Blessings

Even those who are the best at things have bad days. You can bet they didn’t get to be the best by wallowing in pity and shame, hate, anger and frustration. They worked hard, it’s true. They had to develop their mindset and their feelings.

They had to make sure their feelings were in check. They had to take the appropriate actions. They did all that and you can too! It is far better to pat yourself on the back for something attempted and not perfect then shame and blame yourself for trying.

Books are made better in the second edition. That’s why there ARE second editions.  You have second chance. You have opportunities to repeat. You get to do over your practice to get better. Repetition is what builds habits.

You Can Develop Any Habit You Deem Desirable Or Necessary

Correct repetition over the appropriate amount of time is what builds positive skill. Attitude also helps build skill. You can’t be negative and expect positive results. You must get your mind working for you instead of against you. Manage your mind!

The right mindset says ‘I can do this. I am learning. I’m a beginner. I can get better through practice. I enjoy this. I love this! This is fun! I’m so glad I do this.’ The right mindset nurtures oneself and one’s abilities. You correct and continue. You move forward positively.

Allow yourself permission to fail because all success is built on failure. Don’t fear failing. Don’t try not to make mistakes. Accept them! That IS how you learn and grow. You adjust. You make corrections. You repeat. In doing so you build positive habits.

Excellence Is Not An Exception It Is A Prevailing Attitude

All masters were once disasters.  All top pros were once rank amateurs. Everyone starts from the same place. Zero, zip! We begin, we practice, We improve. Mastery is a process not a one time event. Don’t let a bad attitude prevent you from being your best. Excel!

You can develop any skill, any talent, any ability. You can manage your thoughts and your emotions. You can take control of your mind. You can make your dreams come true if you will only allow yourself to do so. Give yourself permission to fail. It is okay, it truly is!

Take the sting out of failure by stopping trying to not fail. If you are focused on, ‘not failing’ guess what you are more likely to do. Don’t avoid it. Accept it, embrace it and move beyond it. You’ll go further faster when you do. Let go of having to be perfect.

We Are What We Repeatedly Do – Positive Or Negative

Give yourself permission to succeed. Love yourself through it all. Be patient. Be thankful you can do anything at all! Be thankful you have the opportunity to screw up. Not everyone does. Not everyone can do what you are learning to do. Be glad you are able to!

Everyone who succeeds was once a novice. Be thankful you can as well as you can. Be grateful in all things. The right attitude is like grease to the wheel. It accelerates everything. You can get better the more you relax yourself and let it happen. Yes, commit to practice but make it positive practice. That’s why I tell you always celebrate everything.” Rex Sikes

Discover today and bask in it!

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Expert Reveals: You Must Develop Singular Focus Now!

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“A few decades ago a large part of my personal development programs was to help people to multitask. People needed to be able to do more than one thing simultaneously. Today, people need to be able to concentrate and learn to do just one thing at a time.

Ideally, people can be successful at both, using either ability at the appropriate times. However, in this millennial age of distraction people seem unable to focus.  Many, especially children, but even adults, wear official labels stating they can’t concentrate.

They can, if not all, most can, focus and do quite well given the opportunity. Today, I’d like to focus on learning how to better concentrate and simplify life. Much benefit can be experienced when you let go, slow down and live simply.  Let’s explore, okay?

The Thing About Meditation Is You Become More And More You

Meditation has been available for eons. Some practice it. There are various types and even various descriptions about what meditation is or what it is not. I’ll use the loosest definition right now for our purposes. Concentration; reflection; contemplation; observation.

It is described as a training of the mind for benefit. I agree. I am only going to share one aspect of it today that is vital to learn and not discuss all the potential benefits and aspects. Concentration or focus is what people need to learn to do more of. To be single-minded.

Today, people eat and talk and are on their phones or media all day. Music, sounds or images are played in the background almost everywhere we go. Few people enjoy just being alone with themselves while eating, traveling or walking or whatever!

I Meditate So My Mind Cannot Complicate My Life

They must always be engaged or distracted by social media or some electronic toy or by other people.  This does not promote health or well-being. It is important to shut it off and relax. It is important mentally, physically and spiritually to let it all go for awhile.

Get yourself a candle or battery operated tea lamp flame and place it before you. Sit comfortably and relax. Breath and simply look at the flame. Focus you attention on the flame. Do nothing else. Breath. Whenever you notice yourself thinking something else stop.

Gently, return your attention to the flame. This may occur many times and that it is okay. The purpose IS to learn to return your attention to the flame without judgement or exasperation. Simply gaze at the flame. Allow your mind to quiet. It will eventually.

In Meditation You Develop Powerful Muscles Of Calm And Insight

Yes, you have to train it. It is used to NOT doing this. It will jump around all over the place. This is what it has always been doing unless you trained it. It will require some time and patience. It is not exciting, it may be boring. That is okay. Great benefit can come!

Take your time. Slow down. Spend at least 5 minutes. Go for 10 or 20. Do it when you won’t be distracted or interrupted. Turn off your cell phone. Make it a pleasant, comfortable, sacred time. This is time for you to do something wonderful for yourself. This is for you!

Soften the lights, turn them down. Quiet your environment. If you use a lit candle make sure it is safe and won’t catch anything on fire if you left it unattended. You shouldn’t and won’t of course. Just be smart about it. Enjoy this time. Let go, relax, de-stress and be. Enjoy.

Starve Your Distractions Feed Your Focus – Know Thyself

Do it each day. Once a day is fine. Twice is good, too. Unwind, let go and concentrate. Focus your attention. At other times of the day shut off your phone. Just sit with nature. Observe and listen to what is occurring. Be with it. Let it fill your awareness. Be present.

Enjoy being here and now. Live in the moment every once and awhile. Eat your food and simply eat. No media. No books. No conversation. Be silent. Just enjoy. Savor your food and the experience. Live here and now. Attend to right NOW.

Go for a walk and just notice how it feels. The temperature, the movement, your feet on the earth. Feel it rather than think about it. Listen to the sounds. See what you see. Simply notice. The tendency will be to name and label what you notice. Okay, just let it go. Just be.

To A Mind That Is Still The Whole Universe Surrenders

Simply walk and enjoy the walk. Let go of everything and just BE the experience you are having as you are having it. Let go of thoughts as they occur. Watch those come and go to instead of entertaining them. Stay present, when your mind goes elsewhere return it gently.

Whenever, you find yourself visiting the past or the future return your attention to here and now. When washing dishes just wash the dishes. Focus on what you are doing. Train and control your mind. Take time to focus. Take time to relax. Live differently for awhile.

Find moments in each day to escape into the present. Find moments to unwind and appreciate the moment you are living. Be aware, be peaceful, be what is right now. Listen and observe without judging. Yes, it is not easy at first but in time it can become easier and easier.

Meditate Because Some Questions Can’t Be Answered  By Google

Many people today train their bodies. They go to the gym to get fit. True, many still do not. Those who train realize at some level, for some benefit, it is important to do. They wouldn’t do it without benefits, right. Others, don’t see the benefit so they don’t.

Training your mind to serve you, instead of you serving it, is important, even more important. Take the time to learn to control your thought processes. Eventually, you will realize you are not your thoughts. Thoughts are something YOU have not what you are.

Most thoughts are not even yours. They stem from the conditioning we grew up with. Most of ‘our’ thoughts are actually those we learned to have from other people. Wouldn’t you like to learn to think for yourself rather than from prior, old, chronic conditioning?

The Quieter You Become The More You Can Hear

You can. You can learn to control your thoughts and you can learn to let go and go beyond your thoughts. For now, start simply. Focus. Concentrate on the flame. There are other forms of meditation I will share from time to time. For now practice this. Do it repeatedly.

Build the habit and the benefits will please you. Stop and enjoy life as it unfolds. Live more in the present. Become aware. Live more simply and enjoyable. Be grateful for right now. Be appreciative for what you have in this moment too. Live with awareness and delight. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Acceptance, Choice, Curiosity, Responsibility

How To Stop Fighting With Others And Yourself

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“I was in 7th or 8th grade and called to fight by another classmate. That meant waiting until after school and meeting up and ‘duking it out’. He was my size but tougher. I thought I was pretty tough but basically was a wimp and afraid. I never really wanted to fight.

After school he and his ‘gang’ gathered. I walked out with my friends. Soon two opposing camps faced each other hurling insults. His supporters razzing me and cheering him on, mind doing likewise. We were about to fight. He called me names and taunted.

In a moment, that seemed very long, I had a lucid awareness. I look at this other kid. We had been friends once. We liked each other. Now, I don’t remember what the fight about, but it was likely over a girl. I looked at him angry at me, calling me names. I saw his friends.

There Are Only Two Options – Make Progress Or Make Excuses

They were calling me names. I looked around. My friends were calling he and them names. We were squared off and I went somewhere else momentarily. I thought, he thinks, I am an ass. I think he is an ass. His friends think I am an ass. My friends think he is.

We all think the same thing about each other. We are two opposing sides. We are angry and yelling at each other. Each side, each potential fighter thinks he is correct. What if they are right? What if I am right? What difference does any of this make? Why are we mad?

He is correct. I am an ass at times. I can be, I know that. I don’t want to admit that. I’m not very proud of it. Typically, if you call me on my crap I’ll get angry and defend myself, at least verbally. I will attack you back BUT not this time. Something happened! An awareness!

You Don’t Stop A Fight By Fighting – You Stop By Stopping To Fight

I couldn’t find a reason to fight. It was insane. We both are caught up in disliking each other. Our gangs don’t know anything about anything. They are just sheep following and supporting us. WOW, what is going on? I knew right then there was no ultimate truth.

At least not in this name calling. We were both right! We were both also wrong about each other. We were just yelling opinions and none of any of us actually in touch with anything accurate or real. We were all just acting out some insane hatred for each other.

I came back to hear the taunts and name calling. I said, ‘hey I don’t want to fight with you’. I wasn’t afraid. I just discovered I had NO reason not to like him, I had no reason to fight. He swung at me I swung back and punched right into his fist. He cried out in pain!

When You Stop Fighting The Way Things Are Magic Can Happen

He fell to the ground, crying and rolling around. Later, we learn he broke some fingers. It was over. He writhed on the ground, I stood there stunned and secretly glad it hadn’t gone any further. I was heralded as victor by my gang. Of course, his didn’t think so.

But they didn’t argue. He was on the ground and I stood over him. None of any of this mattered. I swung, I don’t know why. Instinct, I assume. I knew, however, I didn’t want to fight and was not going to. We left the scene. I thought about the event for quite some time.

I realized, so often, we choose a side and then defend it no matter what. We have a position or a stance and we maintain it or try to, regardless. We hurt loved ones, friends and strangers  by wanting to be right. We look for or hang with those who think as we do.

If You Can’t Change It – Change The Way You Think About It

We are not tolerant of other views or people, except rarely, or unless we learn to accept and embrace difference. We have to learn to be okay with differences. We can’t ignore them but we don’t have to fear or hate or exclude them either. We can learn to let go and allow.

There is too much hate and discord. Violence has never ever solved anything. Might doesn’t make right. More often it only makes more enemies. No one likes a bully whether on the schoolyard or in the pulpit. Still, people cheer their ‘team’. They follow as lemmings do.

Thinking and feeling seem in short supply. We need to accurately assess and not be so opinionated. We need to not be ruled by opinions; our own or others. We need to be able to be curious, open, accepting and tolerant of those and that which differs from us.

Letting Go Doesn’t Mean Giving Up But Rather Acceptance

We need to listen more and stop shouting. We need to listen actively and hear what others say and not just wait our turn to speak. HEARING and LISTENING are not the same thing. We need to understand. First comes awareness then comes understanding.

We need to be more peaceful not more fearful. Making others fear us does’t make us stronger or better. We only create more enemies. We need to think peace and then act it. We need to feel more compassion and less intolerance. Seek to elevate not to bring down.

We need to stop creating problems and enemies. We need to create more friends. We need to become responsible and realize it is up to each of us. It is up to you and me to live peacefully. We must overcome our conditioning and habits and prejudices. We can!

Time Doesn’t Heal Everything But Acceptance Can – Use Time Well

Together we can accomplish more than we are capable of as individuals. Yes, there is power in numbers. Mobs rule. Let’s create and be part of friendly, loving mobs. Instead of sinking to the lowest common denominator lets seek to rise to the highest.

Let’s not lower our standards but raise them; not to exclude but to include more. Lets expect the best of ourselves, then actually do it, Let’s not just  talk and wish it happens. Let’s be determined to be the change we want to see in the world. Determine to be the change!

It starts within each of us. Live well and help others do the same. Be grateful, find the good in each person and all circumstances. Live, love, laugh! Be filled with compassion. Spread it and share it all around. Delight in differences and diversity! Celebrate everything.”

Delight in today!

*** We are planning some new things! Soon  A Teleseminar with Rex  What are your questions, what do you want to know, what would you like help with? Use the comment section to let me know. I’ll let you know when, meanwhile, please let me know what you’d like. ***

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Without You: It Just Is Not The Same And Here’s Why

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“What is sad in our world is there are actors who don’t act; dancers who don’t dance; writers who don’t write;  poets who don’t do their poetry; musicians who don’t play music; athletes who give up and people who do not pursue their passions and dreams.

Don’t quit. Live your dream. Make it happen. Life is too short not to indulge your talents and abilities, your imagination and creativity in some fashion. Live your art, your craft, your skill. Share it with others, share with the world. We need you! You inspire the rest.

Bring   more positive passion into your life.  Bring more imagination. Bring more creativity. Bring more of yourself. It is who you are! Bring play, bring delight, bring joy.  Live your life and fill your hearts desire . Feel your dream . Live your dream.

To Practice Any Art No Matter How Well Makes Your Soul Grow

Even if you do it only as hobby, do it. It needn’t be a career unless you feel it must. Use your time well. Don’t give up. Do what you want to to accomplish. Achieve, and succeed. Live large! Feel fulfilled in joy and delight. There is satisfaction in creation and completion.

You, your talents, are a necessary part of everything. Share. Lift your voice up. Even if not one single other person cares, you do. You matter. Your passions matter. Your art, your performance, your ability matters, as does your sharing of it. Share yourself! Live it.

Don’t put your light under a basket, let everyone see it. It is the people who imagine, who create, who pursue ideas who lead all the rest. Each of us has something to offer. Seek it inside yourself and bring it forth. Explore it, discover it, adventure and share!

You Were Not Born To Just Pay Bills And Die – Share Your Passion

All the world benefits from good people doing good things. Let your light shine! Play, create, dream, imagine, build, delight and enjoy. Be glad for your passion. Appreciate yourself and your abilities. If they are raw and underdeveloped take time and develop them.

The world needs you. You are here for a purpose. There is a reason whether you know it or not and whether you understand it or not. You are a valuable part of all it. You really are! We really do need you! Share yourself! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Explore, adventure, discover and delight today!

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The Secret To Becoming Free Of Problem People And Circumstances!

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“We are faced with difficulties, circumstances and challenging people. Tough times come our way. What are we to do? How can we get through the most trying of times? There is a way. If you are open to it and apply it you can experience wonderful freedom.

Continued from: How To Master Any Problem Person Or Circumstance and Become Free – See Previous Post

Mindset, your attitude, is the most important tool, weapon, piece of the puzzle or secret ingredient. How we approach the world, how we perceive and frame what happens is crucial in how easily and readily we are able to move through those times.

Enlightened warriors use whatever is happening for positive development. They understand that challenges and obstacles are important for our inner and outer progress. They have realized that ‘the kite rises against the wind’ and that difficulties are necessary.

If You Can’t Change It – Change The Way You Think About It

This is the way of the enlightened peaceful warrior. They embrace and accept everything as important for their personal evolution. They know that what you resist persists. They understand the necessity of getting into flow. Acceptance IS what is needed.

Good people in our life are great to have BUT they are not that important in terms of our growth. They are support, they are community, they are part of our mastermind. The are important because of who they are and their connection to us.

The people who help us to grow the most are the ones we want to be around least. They are the asses, the rude, the strangers, neighbors, co-workers who rub us the wrong way. They are all the people we want to avoid. Why are these people important to us?

What You Deny Or Ignore You Delay – What You Resist Persists

Because they provoke us into thoughts and feelings we don’t want to experience. As long as they can bait us by who they are and what they do we will get hooked and reeled in the wrong direction. If we can learn from them and not get hooked we become free.

Pretend the issues is in you NOT in them. They are the catalyst. They are the provocateur. Without them we would not think and feel these things. These people come our way SO THAT we CAN get free. We need to realize they ARE a blessing not a curse. A blessing!

If we can love, forgive, embrace and understand them we can be free of them and get free of the issues inside us. They are the spotlight showing us the way out. They illuminate the areas we need growth. It is not just the people in our life but all problems and obstacles.

What You Face And Accept You Conquer – Let Go And Accept It

Less than glorious circumstances and personal problems are all blessings. If we are wise enough, intelligent enough, open enough, we can realize this and use them for greater freedom and a more wonderful life. Stop burning because of them and welcome  them.

Accept, allow, and understand. This may be true in real life or it may just be a mindset you adopt. Who cares? If you act as if, if you pretend, you can master it. Let go of problem people and circumstances as problems and welcome them as opportunities.

Change you mindset and attitude and beliefs about them and your life will change. Learn from each moment instead of resisting, accusing, excusing, whining, complaining and blaming. Love instead of hate, accept instead of being intolerant, be peaceful and enjoy.

Attitude Determines Your Altitude – Attitude Is Everything

Celebrate the tough times and they are no longer so tough! Take the sting out of the issue. Reduce the length of time it takes to go through difficult times. Perception is everything. Did you ever notice if you hate something, or are bored, or hurting, you endure it longer?

Fun times go by faster don’t they? Actually by clock time nothing changes, but by mental and emotional time everything may. Lessen the suffering by accepting the enemy. Make peace. You may or may not do it on the outside but do it on the inner. Be a peaceful warrior.

From within, change starts. Inside your mind and heart and being make the changes, if you can’t bring yourself to in the outer world. Perhaps, in time, it won’t matter to you either way. Make peace with the enemy. Celebrate all circumstances. Dance with the demons.

Bitter Trials Are Blessings In Disguise – Count Your Blessings

What you resist persists. Energy flows where attention goes. If you put energy into feeling bad about people you encounter or are surrounded by, or less than glorious circumstances, you get back more of the same. Birds of a feather flock together. You attract it.

When you let go, when you celebrate, when you are grateful and appreciate everything you go beyond the problems and issues. You enter an entirely new realm of being. You surpass the ordinary and live within the divine. If you consider it ALL divine you are free!

To change your life you must change what you think, feel and do on a daily basis. If you keep doing the same thing nothing changes. You keep the same issues and problems alive. Stop and make the changes you want to. Live the life you desire. Focus on the positive!

Talk About Your Blessings Not Your Burdens – Blessings Abound

Seek the silver lining. Find the good in all things and all people. Take the higher road. Take the road less traveled. Find ways to re-frame problem people and circumstances as blessings and opportunities. Welcome lessons! Learn, grow, find delight and enjoy!

It is a process. You will grow more and more capable. As you do whatever presents itself as challenging becomes less of a problem and more of an opportunity. Things change. The more you do the more you can do. You develop the skills. Acceptance becomes easier.

Many people make millions in the worst economic climates. Down times CAN be UP times! ‘One man’s meat is another man’s poison’. ‘One person’s floor is another person’s ceiling’. It is whatever we perceive it to be. Get it? Mindset is critical! It’s all about attitude!

What You See And What You Say Is What You Get – Be Positive

Perception is everything. What we believe runs the show. It is all a point of view. It is your point of view. As such it can change, but only you can change it. When you do new worlds open up to you.  You will see and live things differently and gloriously. You will become free.

Problems are there for our own good! Don’t avoid. Accept and allow. Become and enlightened, peaceful warrior. Make awareness and understanding your way. Find the good in all and people and circumstances stop being problems. Recognize how truly blessed you are and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Delight and enjoy!

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How To Master Any Problem Person Or Circumstance And Become Free Of It!

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“You can pretend anything and master it. Master some basic skills and your life can change for the better. ‘Act as if’ you are already living as you want to live right now. This is the way of the enlightened, peaceful warrior.  Fake it till you make it, some say.

This is part one of a two part post. Be sure to read the next post too.

It isn’t actually faking it, it is pretending fully. That means we think the thoughts and feel the feelings and behave or take the actions as if we already are living as we want to. We pretend, as we did when we were children or as actors do when creating a character.

We live it as fully as possible in our mind and our body. We don’t have to tell anyone else, it isn’t for public consumption, it is the inner reality we create to inspire and motivate and guide us. We align our thoughts and feelings and get congruent with what we want to be.

Live Like You Already Have It – Act As If – Believe – It Is Yours

We live it inside before it becomes reality outside. It is a powerful, positive method of making our dreams and goals come true. It has been said that in order to behave in a new reality we must first be able to conceive of that reality. Add to that what Napoleon Hill said.

He said, ‘If you can conceive it and come to believe it you can achieve it’. The ability to act as if is rehearsal. It is mental, physical and behavioral rehearsal. It signals your brain, your subconscious, that this is what I want more of. I am this, produce more of it.

That is why it is said, regarding the law of attraction, that ‘we don’t attract what we want we attract what we are.’ When we ‘act as if’ we become now what we want to be in the future. We are it, in advance of the actual reality. We CAN pretend anything AND master it.

It Is Already Coming To You – It Is A Done Deal – It Is Yours

Believe ‘this’ is true. Ultimately, it may or may not be BUT if you act as if it is, it can bring you great freedom and transformation. It really will. Why? Because your mindset IS everything! Your attitude determines your altitude. What you believe is what you see and get.

Your thoughts lead! Thought precedes everything. Thoughts precede feelings and actions. It works this way; we have a thought and we feel something. That feeling determines our next thought. It is cyclic. Depending on the first thought we may feel good or bad.

If we feel good we may take action and get some positive results. Even if the results aren’t that great, if we feel positive we at least feel motivated to take action. Whereas, if we feel bad or negative we may not feel motivated or we take the wrong actions.

Act As If It Is Impossible To Fail – Impossible Means I’m Possible

The results you get stem from the thoughts you think. Thinking precedes action. Thoughts become things. What you focus on expands. What you think about you become. You want good results start with good thoughts, then feelings, then actions and habits.

Practice this and your life will radically change for the better. If you want to be more happy, have more love, more peace, more money, or feel more rich, whatever it is you desire, you will attract back more of what you already are. So if you are positive you’ll become more so.

If you are happy you will become happier. If you are sad you will become sadder. If you feel wealthy you will get wealthier but if you are worried you will become more so. This is what the law of attraction states. Like attracts like. What we focus on expands.

Act As If Success Is Inevitable – Act As If You Already Achieved It

To enjoy the best life feel your best. How do you do that? Sing, dance, laugh, skip, do yoga, meditate, relax, take a warm bath, smile, get a massage, hang with ‘groovy positive’ people. Watch, read, or listen to inspirational and motivational material. Take a positive seminar.

Practice gratitude. Keep a journal. What you are thankful for? What people, places, activities, events and things do you appreciate?Create a success journal and record all your daily wins. Tiny or large. You want to do the dishes and you do them; HOORAY YOU WIN!

The better you feel the better you will feel. The more successful you feel the more successful you become. Manage your thoughts, your emotions and your spirit. Feel grateful and life becomes wonderful! Enjoy the big and the small delights. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Enjoy your day!

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Personal Change And Social Change: Can We Have Both Pt1

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“How do we attract what we want? How do we create it? What can we and must we do to make ourselves, our situations and perhaps, the world much better?  What is it we want? Is there a way to improve not only ourselves but the world? I believe there is.

It begins with a dream. It begins with a purpose. It begins with a vision for a better day. It begins with hope and a positive aim to attract and create. It begins with the hope and the faith that we can be different and enjoy what we desire. It begins with optimism.

That is not to say a problem or difficulties are not the trigger. They may very well be and most often are. We want to rid ourselves, escape and get away from something, and move toward a new way of being. What that something is can be many different things.

Secret To Change – Not Fighting The Old But Building The New

We may want to move from illness to health; from loneliness to companionship; from discord to order; from poverty to riches; from war to peace. I believe the world is an incredible, beautiful, wonderful, abundant place, mostly all good, but there are times.

I believe we can find blessings in all of our strife, in all our problems. We can learn, develop and grow from them. Problems can be the catalyst for great positive change. From chaos stars our born. If you believe one version we are all here due to an explosion. Chaos.

Problems and pain have a purpose. Our neurology signals us when inflamed or injured so we can tend to the issue and not continue to aggravate it. Our emotions signal us when our thinking is out of alignment so we can get back on track and feel better.

Your Life Gets Better By Changing It Not By Chance

It seems when things get tough and disorganized that we are getting signals that we are not operating well and need to make some changes. I tend to believe our society, the world, events and circumstances, for the most part, are a signal too.

What to do? Can we change circumstances? I think we can? We can improve our health, our relationships, our finances, and more. We may not have ultimate control, we may not control the weather, but perhaps we do affect or influence it.

Perhaps, we shouldn’t think in terms of control but of influence. We can control what we can and are better served to let go of what we can’t control. Let’s give up control and think how we positively influence results instead. Be a positive influence to your own self.

The World Is Changed By Your Example Not Your Opinion

We’ll discuss how we do this in the next post. Meanwhile, focus on what you want, and what you already have. Focus on who you already are as well as who you want to become. Find reasons to appreciate right now and delight in yourself and circumstances.

Be grateful for everything small and large. Search deep to discover more things to appreciate and enjoy. Fill your mind, your emotions, your behavior, your being with delighting in what is because when you do you are attracting and creating more of the same.

Enjoy yourself. Understand that there is a way from here to where you want to be. Take one step at a time and enjoy each step along the way. This is how we create more of what we want. We delight and more delight is possible so celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Spread the good feelings around today!

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Stop Being So Angry! Don’t Lower Your Standards

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“People seem tired and worn out. There is much intolerance, distrust, name calling and hate. We seem to ‘declare war’ on all our problems and others we don’t like. None of it helps to feel better or live better lives. We do much harm to ourselves by being angry.

Some find a temporary relief in putting another person down. Ego may derive some pleasure. It isn’t lasting. It adds not one wit to anything of value. It only seeks to level another or to cause  injury so one can feel they have the upper hand or are justified.

If you are wronged trying to get back at the person who wronged you doesn’t help. Getting really mad doesn’t change the situation. It is only a reaction to it.  Most likely, an over-reaction. It does nothing to change anything. You can’t change things after the fact.

Forgiveness Isn’t Something We Do For Other People …

It is as it is. Accept it. Learn from it and go on. The higher value and benefit would be to use it to become a better person yourself. Use it to gain awareness, understanding, tolerance and acceptance. Use the hurt and injustice to become more loving and compassionate.

Let go of anger and the tendency to fight back. Learn NOT to retaliate. Vow to not hurt yourself and others. Stop! Let go, become aware. Understand that hate only injures the person who hates. Remember the famous quote attributed to the Buddha:

‘Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.’ There is a fake, but meaningful, Buddha quote. ‘Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting it to harm the other person.’

Forgiveness Is Something We Do For Ourselves To Move On

The damage done to you is poorer mental, physical, emotional and spiritual health. It takes its toll on YOU. Let it go! Be free. Accept the hurt and anguish then be done with it. Let it go! To forgive is one of the highest value moves you can make. To forgive IS divine!

To truly forgive ends it for you. The other person may still have to deal with or live with the consequences of their actions but YOU are free once you let go. Why not be desire to free instead of enslaved to negative feelings? Why stoop to the low standards of others?

Why not refuse to play that game at all and live by a higher ideal? You get hooked and hurt when you play at a lower level. Revenge, an eye for an eye, is getting hooked. Instead, be free. Live and be an example of the best not the worst. Most, seem to prefer, to get back.

Sometimes The Hardest Thing And The Right Thing Are The Same

It seems to be a problem for many people living today. They resort to the lowest form of behavior. It is sad. Don’t be a mindless follower and hate back because someone hates you! Be free. Think and act for yourself! Be independent and intelligent! Rise above it.

Determine that you will be a role model. Live from higher values. Take the high road, the road LESS traveled. Raise your consciousness and you may help others raise theirs. Don’t participate in all the negativity! Choose to live free from divisiveness; free from discord.

Become grateful. The disappointment, the hardships, the hate and anger that you might face alone, and from others, CAN be a blessing if you learn to look for it. It can be a valuable lesson you might not otherwise receive. Learn, allow and accept, be open to a new way.

Give Yourself Permission To Feel Anger, Resentment And Pain …

An incredible thing happens when you do. You neurology opens up. You become bigger than the problems. You can actually feel it. That which used to hook you no longer does. You discover you aren’t upset by that which used to really burn you. You get it. It is okay.

You can reframe it. You can find the learning and lesson in it. You can act from inspired thought and feeling instead of react from anger and hostility. You can live at peace and at one with yourself, AND with others. You understand there is value in everything, everyone.

I have shared within these blog pages many ways to let go. I’ve shared how you can live better, live more positively, freer and have more fun. Please go back and look and learn. Study these posts and free yourself from whatever bothers you. Make changes you desire.

… Then Breathe – Relax – Meditate – Let It Go And Move On

Accept the challenges, the obstacles, the negativity without fighting back. The best answer to violence may be a gentle one. We’ve been conditioned to not turn the other cheek, but perhaps, we ought to try it. Great things can happen when one stops fighting everything and starts celebrating everything!” Rex Sikes

How might today delightfully surprise you?

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Do This Today And Make A Big Difference!

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“Hopefully, at different times in your life, all is good. Everything seems to work like magic. Everything fits and flows. It is the good life and you are happy and feel blessed. Sure, there are other times but there are also some really fabulous good times. Yes,? You have?

I hope so. Today’s blog comes to you a bit later than usual. For that I apologize. BUT I am not sorry. What I mean is, my goal is to get you the blog everyday. Early enough too, for some readers to begin their day reading it. Depending where in the world people live, of course.

Anyway, today be kind to yourself. Be kind to others. Make it a special day and treat yourself and enjoy resting, and taking care of you while compassionate for others. Make it sweet, slow and significant.  Bask in leisure and love and life, today.

If You Can’t Say Something Nice About Yourself – Practice

Take time to stop and smell the roses. This is as important as the daily pursuit of your goals. Consider it this way. Each day you eat, play, and sleep. Taking time for yourself to enjoy and rest should be part of each day. Even ‘the creator’ rested after creating.

Don’t wait for the weekend, rest a bit each day. Play a little each day. Make everyday a great day! Put life into your day don’t just spend it working for a living. Savor the seconds and embrace them. Each day! Now as to why I am not sorry.

Because I took care of myself, too. I slept in. It was much needed. I spent the past week celebrating with others, hanging out with like minded positive people, feeding and nurturing and working on myself. Spending time brainstorming business opportunities.

Be Good To Yourself Be True To Yourself And Love Who You Are

I invested in myself, spent money doing programs I desired to do. I met new mentors, coaches, trainers and people I like to spend time around and learn from too. I dedicated the week to me and my growth. I always enjoy learning and going to positive seminars.

It was a wild week packed with joy, business, play, positive people and energy, travel, eating hotel food and foods I normally don’t eat, and little sleep. SO I slept in. I apologize but I don’t regret nor feel sorry for taking care of myself and delighting myself.

I want to remind you to do likewise, today and everyday. Gift yourself and remember to be thankful. Be a great giver and a great receiver. Allowing yourself to receive is an important part of our development and moving forward. Be an excellent receiver!

A Thankful Receiver Bears A Plentiful Harvest

Also, please remember it doesn’t matter where you are in the journey. It doesn’t matter the obstacles or the ease at which you progress. You are moving forward, as long as you move along, even if just a little bit. A little bit of change can produce huge results!

Whether your a new initiate to personal progress or advanced remember to treat yourself, AND others, kindly, with love, respect and appreciation. You are always right where you are in the journey and that is reason to celebrate. So do it. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Use today to delight yourself and loved ones even more!

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