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Acceptance, Awareness, Focus, Learning

Do You Understand, Yet, You Can Learn Without Pain?

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“Some lessons in life come from our pain and suffering. We examine or look back on ‘negative’ events and extract learning. If we are wise we realize that in each less than glorious circumstance is a lesson and a seed of equivalent opportunity. It helps us to be aware.

We have growing pains. This is a great thing. It means nothing is wasted. Good or bad there is opportunity and there is learning. We can and will evolve no matter what. Sometimes, some off us keep getting the hard knocks over and over again. Repeated suffering.

It seems we don’t learn the first time. Perhaps, we don’t learn after many times. Some may not seem to learn in this lifetime at all. Yet, it appears the opportunity to awaken to this is there continually. Nature, life, most things are cyclic. What goes around comes around.

Delight And Gratitude Is The Secret – Use The Secret To Transform

Suffering is part of life and returns. Just as night returns, or winter. BUT there is something we also need to know. Something we really need to understand. SO DO THE good times; the day, the warmth of summer. It is never all bad. Good times come around again too!

More importantly, we don’t always have to only learn through hardship and struggle. We can learn through happiness, love, fun and delight. Opportunity exists there too. Everything is always available to us. We only have to look for it and accept it. Grab it!

We will enjoy more of life when we realize we already have it all. Learning can be most enjoyable. We can spend more time in delight. If we begin to appreciate where we are, who we are, what we have and be thankful NOW, we can make the most of our experience.

Play Is The Highest Form Of Research – Explore And Adventure

Open the possibility for the magnificent and you are more apt to find it than if you exclude it. Allow it to be available to you. Most of us have shut that out. Yup, our prior conditioning makes it so. But it can be different. It can be absolutely wonderful. It can be incredible!

Allow it. Accept It. Receive it. Make it happen. Create it! Attract it. Delight! Have fun, Be thankful. Open yourself to discover more. A closed mind won’t discover it. Only open eyes have the possibility of looking around and seeing what is there. Life will change for the best when you celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Each day is completely new. Today, make it so!

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Celebration, Creating The Future, Getting Over The Past, Learning

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Attitude, Conditioning, Confidence, Learning

You Don’t Need To Get All Pumped Up And Motivated!

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“How important is confidence? Is it necessary? What about getting motivated? Do we really need to get pumped up before we get our tasks done? Some people don’t trust motivational gurus or seminars. Sometimes for good reason. So what do we actually need?

Confidence is absolutely important. Competence is also important. WISDOM may be needed more than either in order to discern when to be confident. YOU SHOULD be confident that you can learn to do anything and confident you can do it once you have mastered it.

Both confidence and competence are part of the same set . One without the other is meaningless. I don’t have to be confident I can walk over to the other side of the room and get a book from the shelf, today. I don’t need that because I already AM confident I can.

When You Believe In Yourself Anything Is Possible

WHY? Because I have successfully done so or similarly many times. More than anything one needs to behave as an infant does. The infant doesn’t know any fancy words like confidence or competence. The infant just keeps doing it until a successful habit.

That is how we learned to do everything from birth on. We just did without judgement. We learned to roll over, sit up, balance, crawl, walk, feed ourselves. Imagine where we would be if we had given up anywhere along the line to acquire those abilities.

Imagine what would have been the outcome had we thought ‘this is too hard I can’t continue.’ What if we thought, ‘I’m not good enough to feed myself. I can never do this.’ We didn’t judge or assess how difficult or how long things would take. We simply did until we could.

Don’t Be Pushed By Your Problems Be Led By Your Dreams

Nearing toddle stage the influences around us helped us to not be so tenacious. We learned about ‘failure’ and ‘success’. We learned there were punishments and reasons to not do things. We learned to lie to save face and get away with things. We learn defeat and to feel bad.

Prior to that there was no such thing as defeat.  We just did it until we could do it. We mastered many major skills without thinking about it. We didn’t read books or need to get pumped up. We didn’t whine or complain. We just performed endlessly until we got it.

We were conditioned out of being tenacious and learned to be afraid. We gave away our power. That is what happened back then. We can continue to whine and complain and make excuses about that time. We can blame those who did their part to raise us.

Know That You Can Do It And You Can Become Unstoppable

Here is another way to think about confidence when people say they need confidence. Because some people are confident they don’t have any and will boldly tell you they are certain they have none. The snake is swallowing its own tail. Understand this phenomenon?

Confidence can be no different, in this regard, than worry.  Worry is negatively planing for the future. Some people are certain things won’t work out. They are confident about negative circumstances or certain they lack certain abilities or opportunities. Get it?

You can affirm something in the positive or you can affirm something negative. You can be certain things will work out or that they won’t work out. Confidence that you can is the same as confidence that you can’t. There is no difference in the feeling of certainty.

Follow Your Dreams – Believe In Yourself – Never Give Up

However, one form of confidence results in being able to do something positively while the other results in you positively being unable to do something. Aim your confidence at what you want to do in a positive way. This is where confidence can be most useful.

Be confident, believe that you can learn what to do. You are in the process of discovering, learning, starting out to gain skill in an area. As you gain the skill your confidence in your abilities can go hand in hand. Keep the faith that you can learn and you can master it.

You have mastered many things in life. Some great and productive. Some not so great and burdensome. Because you have done both you can now decide which to master in the future. You can choose to master skills or not. Whatever you decide is precisely what you do!

I Think I Can – I Think I Can – I Think I Can – I Think I Can 

You can live in the past from that conditioning OR you can choose to be different. You can choose to let it go. You can choose to learn again to live as that tenacious child. You start right from where you  are at, in spite, of your conditioning. You can move forward.

When you believe you can do something it does make doing it a bit easier. You want to believe that you can accomplish you goals. It provides extra juice, hope, courage and tenacity for getting the results you want. If you don’t believe in yourself it is tougher.

You may never move if you aren’t confident or certain that you can. You do want to be confident you can get your outcomes. You must have faith, unwavering faith, that you can make happen what you say you will. You win more often when you have a champion mindset.

Keep Going Until You Get There That Is All You Need To Do

That doesn’t mean you need to get all pumped up. You can have a quiet conviction that you can steer your ship through troubled waters if necessary. You can and you will do whatever positive it takes to make your dreams come true. You are certain you can!

Let go of whatever reason ‘why’ you can’t. Look for and wrap yourself in the reasons why you can. No matter how difficult look for solutions not at the problems. Turn your attention to the small, baby steps you can take consistently to move you from here to there.

That’s what the infant did. The infant made small micro muscle movements again and again and again, correcting as necessary, to hone the skills and behaviors of balancing and feeding and whatever was learned at the time. You and I can do that again. Take tiny steps.

Winners Aren’t People Who Never Fail But Ones Who Don’t Quit

Figure out what you want and go for it. Make tiny, positive, daily progressive steps towards accomplishing your goal. If you want to make more money, for example, what do you have to learn? Do some research. Who do you have to call? What do you have to sell?

What are the resources around you? What can you do? If you think nothing, that you can’t do anything, then you aren’t thinking very hard or well. There’s always something positive, small, and not that difficult, you can do to move forward. Explore, think and discover.

Ask yourself, ‘What do I want to accomplish? What step can I take. What can I do?  Break down what you want to accomplish. Chunk it down into small manageable bits. Once you take your first step, repeat the process for the next. Just do one step after the other.

Adjust And Continue – You Can Always Find Or Create A Way

Little progress at a time is better than no progress over time. If you do nothing you will be in the same place days, weeks, months and years from now. Doing a small bit each day will take you further much faster. Begin now. Determine what you want and move on it.

I end each blog with find things to be grateful for. It is repetitious. It is meant to be! I repeat things over and over because these ARE important and it takes repeated exposure to sink it. Anything worth learning and having is worth repeating. Once is never enough.

Find your way. Drop the excuses. Take charge. Live fully. Feel grateful. Manage your thoughts. Be thankful. Choose how you will make it be. Appreciate everything. Take another step. Express gratitude. Inch by inch. Get it? Okay now celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Attitude, Creating The Future, Goals, Learning

Success Strategies For Actors Filmmakers And Everyone Else!

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“Do you have a big dream? Are you driven by something so huge you must do it? Do you feel you have a mission to fulfill? Many people do. Others haven’t a clue. Some don’t know what they want to do. Many just want to get a job and settle down. What do you want?

I love and gravitated to the film community at a very young age because we dream big. We want stardom and an illustrious career. We don’t think about landing a job and settling down.  We want it all. We want top of the line everything! We want to be famous and rich.

As a filmmakers and actor I encourage others to follow their heart. Make your dreams come true. Pursue any career or endeavor. The bigger the dream the more likely you will experience great things. The larger it is the more worthwhile it may be.  But…

The Future Belongs To Those Who Believe In Their Dreams

Some people focus on a dream so large they never move because they think they will fail. These people never start. Fear of failure or even fear of success, stops them. Hey, if you don’t begin you won’t get anywhere. You can’t not move and expect things to get better.

Others pick a tiny goal and don’t move far at all. They tend to remain near to where they are. They play it safe and close to the vest. They don’t venture out for the same reasons. The only difference is they don’t dream large to begin with. They have tiny goals. Little ones.

I suggest you pick a big goal. One that is beyond anything you know. It may seem difficult to reach but not unreachable. It may be  little scary because it is out of your comfort zone. It stretches you. You have to grow to get it. You have to work for it to make it happen.

Go Confidently In The Direction Of Your Dreams

When you think about it you think YES I want this! It is a must have! It is big enough to be meaningful but not so big you give up before you begin. Get it? It should pull you towards it. You should want to pursue it. There is something magnetic about it. It draws you in.

Now consider this: At the end of the day if your ultimate dream didn’t manifest you still got further than if you didn’t pursue anything. If you had your head screwed on straight and you understand this you will have made incredible headway. Get it?

You will have had an incredible adventure all along the way. You will have noticed and experienced things you otherwise wouldn’t. You will have learned and evolved and grown in a variety of ways. All because you dared to go for it but weren’t locked into the outcome.

You Always Live The Life You Imagine You Get What You Focus On

What do I mean? You let it unfold as it does. You don’t micromanage the details. You aren’t a perfectionist. You don’t insist it must be a particular way. You are pleased with the results when they show up instead of being disappointed with how they are or the timing.

You allow it to happen even while YOU are making it happen. You celebrate all of it. If your head isn’t right then you may only feel disappointment that you didn’t get precisely what you wanted. You will miss everything you did get along the way. That would suck.

Don’t miss everything wonderful on the journey because you are too narrowly focused on getting your dream in a particular way. Some people never have romance because they are just too picky. They have too many demands or are so picky that no one can fulfill them.

It Never Gets Any Better – You Get Better – That’s Just How It Is

Some insist their desires be fulfilled a precise way. Hence, they miss their potential partners. Yes, know what you want but but be open to what shows up. Stop managing ALL the details. Allow things and people to show up and surprise you. Don’t insist how it must be.

Get it. Here are some tips for greater success in film or any area. Keep a great attitude. Contribute to others. Be a valued team player people want on their team. Go the extra mile and celebrate everyone’s success. Enjoy people. Chill out and relax. Sleep some.

Don’t look worried. Look like you are having fun. Actually have some fun! Live and let live. Allow people to be who they aren’t. Don’t try to change them to fit you. Get along. Keep working, commit and persist and never let doubts, fears or others tell you what to do.

Nothing Worth Having Ever Comes Easy But It Can Come Easier

First and foremost, attitude, commitment, and being a nice person will get you ahead faster than most anything else. THEN know the business and what the business wants is important. Lastly, know and be good at your craft. Strive to be the best and do your best work.

Remember, you can be the best and no one knows about it so be the good person people talk well about and your reputation will proceed you.  You can be the best that no one likes so while you may be good others prefer to avoid you. It PAYS to be both talented and nice.

Develop a positive stellar reputation for being the best and for being nice and a great collaborator. This will get you the farthest the fastest. Next, those who succeed the swiftest, apart from the occasional lucky breakthrough, work day and night for years.

Success Depends On Your Ability To Make And Keep Friends

The saying in Hollywood is, ‘It takes at least 10 years to be an overnight success’. It takes time and perseverance so don’t quit.  Keep at it and realize it is a blend of great attitude, business savvy and honed craft. These tips work for any career choice. Try them.

Finally, stay grateful. Be grateful for the ups and downs all along the way. Challenges help shape you and build character. Easy times are fun but the important times are the tough times. Learn to appreciate these and stay positive. Enjoy all of the ride. The fun of a roller coaster are the big highs and lows. Celebrate all of it. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

You don’t need a reason to smile today!

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Why You Should Never Ever Quit

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“All things we learn are at first difficult to do. As infants we learned many difficult things prior to learning how to comment on how we were doing. We just did and did and did without quitting. We were learning machines. We didn’t know not to do things until told.

We learned to roll over, crawl, sit up, balance, walk, talk, feed ourselves, use a toilet, read and write, hobbies, sports and passions We learned many useful thing and many not so useful things. Plus, we learned to limit ourselves, to give up our goals and dreams.

We learned to talk ourselves out of trying harder. We learned to give up. We learned the good and the not so good. We learned so many things. We learned supportive habits and non-supportive habits. We were the ultimate winners who learned how to become losers.

Whether You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You Are Right

We went from never giving up to criticizing, blaming and exucsing ourselves and others. We went from never quitting to thinking and talking crap. Instead of remaining great learners we learned if we don’t succeed in three tries we should quit. We learned to give up.

We can change this! We can learn to control our thoughts and feelings. We can reverse the damage, Learning this is similar to learning anything else we have. We repeat the thoughts we want to think over and over again. It takes application and commitment.

We think the supportive thoughts we want to think instead of the non-supportive ones. We focus on our mission and goals positively. Eventually, we learn. Then these positive thoughts become our new habitual  thoughts. We replace negative ones for the positive.

Application Is The Proper Fruit Of Knowledge – Apply It – Do It

It isn’t always easy but it is simple. It is not impossible! This is absolutely doable! Stick with it and you will get better and better. Stay with it and you will eventually master your thinking. Become the master of your own mind! When you do new doors open up.

This is why Napoleon Hill said you can Think And Grow Rich. ‘If you can conceive it and believe it you can achieve it.’ As Earl Nightengale pointed out it is The Strangest Secret. ‘You become what you think about’.  YOU learn you can make things happen. AND you do!

When you take control of your mind back you can ask for and receive almost anything! It is all up to you. You make things happen because you are able to align your thinking, feeling and actions in one direction. You develop laser focus. You become unstoppable.

You stop being a victim and become a victor. You become a champion. You create and amazing future. You discover the incredible positive power you have to accomplish your goals and achieve your dreams. You learned everything else. Now, learn this too! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Learn to have a more beautiful day.

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How To Finally Stop Being A Loser And Become A Winner

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“Some people feel they are losers. They don’t seem to win at anything. They are stuck in a job they don’t like. They haven’t won the money game; there is too little money at the end of the month. They haven’t won in romance, or in much of anything.

They feel stuck. The look at others enviously. They don’t think it is possible for them to make changes and have what they want. They believe others can do it but they can’t. The future is bleak. They just can’t seem to get ahead or even begin to imagine it getting better.

If this is you I have some good news for you.  I have some good news and some not as good news for you. The good news is you can absolutely change it. You can play and you can begin to win. You can free yourself from old conditioning and begin to live your dreams.

Everything In Life Teaches A Lesson You – Be Willing To Learn

The not so good news is this area you want to work on may take a little time. You can absolutely break through! You must be patient and stay committed. You don’t want to fall back into the old bad habits. If you commit you will win! Stay patient and you’ll win!

How do you make the changes? You begin right now, from where you are. You begin by taking baby steps. If the problem is you don’t feel or experience being a winner, or worse, you consider yourself an unlucky person or loser, then baby steps is what is needed.

Begin by taking note of the things you have successfully accomplished. ‘Wait’, you scream. ‘I haven’t and that is the difficulty!’ You have. You have learned and accomplished many things. The problem isn’t that you haven’t. The problem is you think you haven’t.

Perception Is Everything – We See Only What We Believe

Some people THINK they have never successfully accomplished anything. This is perception and a belief issue. Consider this: If you walk then you learned to and accomplished it. If you talk then you learned too and accomplished it. You feed yourself? You bathe?

You read and write? You work in a job? You cash checks? You spend money? Whatever you do you have learned to. Again, you cry, ‘Wait!’ I say ‘STOP’ right there! Remember, I said baby steps.’ If you don’t appreciate this about yourself it is time to start. This is critical!

Yes, you also learned to be lazy, afraid, angry and sad too. You have learned certain mindsets that support you and one’s that don’t support you. It is time to re-condition yourself and learn more of the mindsets that support you. This is one of them. Again, this IS critical!

It Is There You Just Haven’t Noticed It – Perception Is Everything

You have learned many useful things. You have learned some other things too. Everything can be useful depending on the context. In some contexts it won’t be. You have learned so much but you don’t validate it. It goes unrecognized by you. It is time to change this.

You’ve learned to argue and to make up. You’ve learned to listen to others and watch tv. You’ve learned to discount your successes. You’ve learned to think it is possible for others but not for yourself. You’ve learned to feel a victim of your thoughts and feelings.

Back up and take inventory of everything you have learned, because, truthfully, most of the things you think, feel, say and do in life you have learned. Very little is hard wired in by comparison. You need to review and validate those things you have learned to do.

Any Limitation Can Be A Blessing And A Skill You Determine If It Is

You and I, and all people, are learning machines. We’ve learned bad habits and supportive ones. It is time to begin to acknowledge this. Become aware of what you can do and accept it. Begin counting the tiniest things you do as wins. Take baby steps they pay off long term!

The baby steps you took as an infant lead to you walking as much as you have. Those early attempts and failures are what allows you to travel by foot today. Had you given up you might never have learned to be mobile. You learned by doing, not by reading how. You did it.

You did it all by trial and error. Because you persisted you developed the skill. You made it a habit so you don’t even ever have to think about it, as long as everything functions normally. If you can’t or never learned to walk there are other abilities you did learn.

Everything Is An Opportunity If You See It As Such – Believe

Take these baby steps. Re-frame, review, reflect on everything you do, supportive and unsupportive as a learned skill. They truly are! Recognize this fact and realize you learned to do everything you do. If you could learn these you can still learn anything. Apply yourself!

If you determine to do this and you do it CONGRATULATE yourself! Feel good about doing something for yourself. Act in your own best interests for you. Appreciate yourself. Feel good. Take inventory and feel great about it. You have succeeded in learning a great deal.

Our next baby steps will come next post. Meanwhile, celebrate yourself. Think about what you have accomplished in life and realize it is a great deal. Don’t compare yourself to others leave that alone for now. Just look at what YOU HAVE learned and accomplished.

Perception Is Everything – We Get What We Focus On

STOP, don’t look at things that didn’t work out. Look at things that did. Learn to have good taste. Learn to manage your thinking. Learn to develop concentration and focus. Learn to fixate your mind on the positive. You already spent enough time wallowing in the negative.

HEY YOU! You learned to wallow in the negative too! Get it? You have learned to be stuck. You have learned to feel certain less than glorious ways. You CAN absolutely change this! You CAN have the life of your dreams. You CAN learn to!  You can if you will! Do it!

The way you get back on track is once you become aware you are traveling in the wrong direction, that you have gotten off course, you STOP. You stop traveling in the wrong direction! Then begin to head in the correct direction. You turn, navigate, and get back on course.

We Become What We Think About Most – Believing Is Seeing

You must stop the old negative habits and start doing the new. You must repeat the new thoughts and behaviors enough until they become the new reliable, automatic habits. You develop new thought, feeling, speaking and behavior habits that support you.

This entire blog site is dedicated to this, My goal is to assist people to make the breakthroughs they want  in life. That means you, too! If you want it better it can and will be. Apply yourself. Take baby steps and you will inch at first, then crawl, then walk into success.

Become aware! Recognize and turn. Change direction. Recognize and validate your learning. Realize you did and can learn anything. Accept it. Decide now to learn supportive habits and commit to the process. Affirm it. Daily, affirm and apply yourself. Be patient. Do it.

Change May Not Always Be Easy – But It Is Always Possible

Soon you will notice the shifts occurring. You will notice the changes happening. Some tiny, some huge. The old habits will resist at first too. At times it will seem a struggle, get easy, then struggle again. Eventually, you will develop the new habit. It will have been worth it!

So accept, affirm and apply. Apply the new learning to yourself. The sequence is become aware of that you are a learning machine. Accept this about yourself. Validate it. Affirm it. Think: ‘I can learn to do anything I put my mind too’.  Apply yourself to changing,

Appreciate everything about your past and now. You have learned and you will learn. Appreciate the ease and the struggles. All of it helps you evolve to a higher, more positive productive level. You become comfortable being your higher self. All of you is perfect!

Focus Your Energy On Building The New Not Fighting The Old

Enjoy, delight. Have fun. Stay determined. Never quit. Challenges will come and go. Realize this. In your toughest challenge become aware and accept it. Affirm and apply yourself through it. Appreciate yourself and your challenge while encountering it and beyond. You will truly evolve beyond your wildest dreams when you celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Determine the kind of day you want to have and make it happen!

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How To Give Up Old Unproductive Ways And Become New!

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“Life challenges us sometimes. Sometimes it’s snaps and breaks us. It isn’t the size of the problems. It’s not because the challenges are so large, the obstacles so overwhelming, or the problem so insurmountable that we break. It is because we are so rigid.

We are not flexible.  We don’t give and take and roll with the punches. That is why we break. If we were like the tall reed, we would bend this way and that. Because we are rigid stress cracks us. It breaks us.  Sometimes that is just the way it is or the way it was.

Sometimes we break. No use crying about water over the damn. That’s what was. That is what it is.  So get up dust off and move forward again.  Yes, it may be hard but do it anyway. Here’s the lesson:  sometimes you break and sometimes you bend.

A Storm Breaks Trees – It Only Bends Grass

Sometimes you’ll apply the lessons you’ve been learning in maintaining a positive attitude, being happy, staying centered, in a challenging situation and you will surprise yourself. You may have resolved to stay calm and centered during life’s toughest moments.

That’s how it works. It goes from being really hard applying what your learning to easier and easier. Ultimately, you learn to do new things. The old habits give way to the new habits you acquire. Once the new habits take hold it is much different. Until then…

In the midst of turmoil you might find that you’re not as agitated as you would have been in the past. You discover you are  much more centered. Calmer. Perhaps, not as much is you hoped, but more than you might otherwise have been in dealing with a huge issue.

The Reed Bends With The Wind – Stands Straight After The Storm

You stayed calmer than you would have in your past. You remained more centered. That is huge! That is a big awareness. That is good! Whenever you find yourself behaving along the lines of the direction you’re moving toward, celebrate! Acknowledge it! Become aware.

Make a point of treating it as something special! Pat yourself on the back. Give your self a hug. Gift yourself in someway for doing that. Celebrate doing that which you want to be doing more of. Be grateful you did it because you open the door to do it again  more.

When you gift yourself now for behaving as you want to you’ll get more in the future. That which you focus on expands. Be grateful for the little you do now because you’ll do a lot more later! That’s  how you learn! First it seems all up hill, you struggle. Later, you coast.

Baby Steps Are Better Than  No Steps – Keep Moving Forward

You move forward, you grow and evolve, by emphasizing and exaggerating those positive things you do. You put your energy and attention into it so that in the future you will continue to behave in these productive ways. Praise yourself when you notice. Practice!

Acknowledge and appreciate. Feel grateful for any tiny movement in the right direction. Nurture and encourage. One day in the not too distant future you will be doing more of the same positive productive behaviors. Keep at it. Don’t quit. You’ll develop the habit.

You will make it much easier on yourself and move forward more rapidly if you don’t berate yourself for screwing up but instead praise yourself for moving forward. Ignore the mistakes, except to learn from them. Correct and continue. Praise when you do well.

What We Want To Do With Ease We Must First Do With Diligence

Then, soon, you will wire in the new behaviors. Correct repetition over a long enough period of time will become habit. The easier you make it on yourself the more quickly you are able to change. The more you resist the more the old way persists. Stop resisting.

Start nurturing. Start welcoming. Stop worrying. Stop obsessive monitoring. Stop unnecessary commentary. Start acknowledging. Start encouraging. Start affirming.  You will move forward faster and easier. Be thankful. Delight in all and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Be kind to a stranger today.

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How To Quickly And Easily Feel Inspired And Motivated Any Time!

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“You want to feel inspired? Would you like to feel more motivated? What can you do to get your dreams easier and more quickly? How can you unleash your own power to go after the career, the love, the life that you want? What is something you can do right now?

The answer is easy and simple. Inspire someone else. Use your words, your feelings and you actions to inspire someone who needs it. Use your words, feelings and actions to motivate someone who feels unmotivated. Put your power and presence into action.

Don’t wait for the right time. Begin sharing what you know today. Begin sharing what you feel from your heart. Help someone else get ahead. It is one of the quickest ways to learn what you need to know. It is one of the fastest ways to move yourself forward, too.

Help Others Achieve Their Dreams And You Will Achieve Yours

When you give of yourself, to help another person in need, you use your personal resources, your knowledge and your experience, your thoughts, words, feelings and actions to come to their aid. You use everything you know and everything you are learning.

You apply all of this to assisting a person in need. You share lovingly, you instruct, you question, you understand and you lead them gently. You might use some tough love and some loving kindness. Everything you use for another you could benefit from yourself.

Because you are helping another it is easier to ‘get’ what you need to do. Your helping them will help you. You will learn much from sharing with them. You will become aware of so many things. You may hear reasons or excuses, complaints or blames and answer those.

We Rise By Lifting Others – Be The Reason Someone Smiles Today

Many may be the same you have in other circumstances. After all, as people we are far more similar, most of the time, than we are actually different. Teaching is one of the best ways to learn what you need to learn. Don’t ‘act like a teacher’ simply share what you know.

Sharing is wonderful. There is no stress or burden if you ask, ‘mind if I share with you something I have recently learned?’ If they answer ‘yes’ they have given your permission to share. Don’t abuse their permission, share, let them decide to do with what you offer.

If they reject it, that is what they do. You still shared. You still had the experience. Whether they understand today or tomorrow isn’t your concern, your part is sharing. You plant a seed then the universe decides if it grows. Allow them latitude to agree or disagree. Let go.

Power Is The Ability To Do Good Things For Others

Simply share. Let them accept or reject. JUST share. When done, you are done. The value for you is in what you did. The value for you is you helped another. You sought to use what you knew to inspire and motivate. You attempted to help another person feel better.

How else might it benefit you. You did something kind for someone. They may reciprocate in the future when you need some uplifting. They may reciprocate in other ways as well. Let them decide whether they respond in this way or not. You didn’t do it for reward.

You did it because you wanted to help another person. You did it because you know by sharing and helping it helps you to learn the lessons you need to know better. It really does. You can be your own best teacher by helping many others one by one. It truly works!

By Learning You Will Teach – By Teaching You Will Learn

Delight in sharing. Have fun. Allow yourself to be great at it or to suck at it. It doesn’t matter when your heart is in the right place. Allow yourself to appreciate the difficulty the other person may have. Appreciate their difficulty in possibly accepting your help.

Appreciate every aspect of this process. Don’t judge. Do not label. Let go of all assumptions and be open to discovering many knew learnings. Be gentle and lead from the heart. It is about connection and trust. It is about well-being and compassion.

It IS about relationship. It is about nurturing and encouraging. Everything about this process can be a blessing. Enjoy it. Delight in it. Let go, allow, and accept. Be free to give and to receive. Stay open and Be sure to celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Thrill yourself today in positive ways.

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What Do You Want Or Need?

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“I blog because I have been blessed. I live a perfectly flawed life. I have struggled and had it easy. Everything is as it is. During my life I have learned many approaches, principles and practices that have helped me and that have help thousands of people I shared with.

I am an actor, director and producer. I am a speaker and presenter. I am an agent for change and transformation. The blog is an attempt to make valuable information available to readers world wide. I share what I know in hopes readers share it too.

I have written 850+ consecutive blog posts. My hope is that this blog is both inspiring and useful. My hope is that people read it, use what they learn to make positive changes and share it. My goal is to help as many people as possible by spreading the word. So thank you!

Be Thankful For What You Have Right Now – Feel Blessed

Also however, I want to be useful to you, the reader. If I can answer some questions or at the very least refer people to other materials or authors I am happy to. My goal is for this blog to be maximally beneficial.

What can I do to further assist you? Let me know what you want to know about. If I can do it I will. If I don’t know I’ll tell you that and try to find an answer for you. Ask questions or make comments in the comment section and let us go from there. Okay?

Meanwhile, have fun. Continue to read each day. Study and immerse your mind in positive thought. Continue to find blessings and opportunity everywhere. Continue to feel grateful for what you discover. Enjoy. Delight and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Fill your day with gratitude!

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Do This When Your Situation Sucks!

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“A good friend texted me stating he needed some reframes. He spent a trying day, more than 12 hours in the airport, attempting to get to L A, with delays and missed flights. A remarkable man himself I sent him these words. These apply to all of us at anytime.

Learning patience can be a trying experience. As can learning to accept what is IS. Yet, what might you discover about yourself going through this difficult time? Are your thoughts supporting you and the situation or helping to undermine and frustrate you even more?

You decide which it is? Decide what needs to be done that will support you with who you are and who you want to be. Our thoughts about our situation contribute to how we feel. Are they lifting you higher and helping you feel better or not?

This Too Will Pass – But If It Didn’t – What Would You Do

Yes, it is difficult. Yes, the situation can be frustrating. That is what is. How you respond determines how you go through it. Are you contributing to suffering or feeling centered? Breath. Find your center. Take some deep breaths and let go. Allow it. Accept it.

You won’t change it being angry about it. That is as unlikely to change anything as yelling at the weather is for not being to our liking. Create a pause. Look inside and breath. What can you learn about yourself from this? Can you consider it a blessing in disguise?

If is is a blessing then what does it hold for you? Only you can determine that. There are two ways to view this. Positive or negative. Which feels better? Which gets you closer to the real you and the you you are evolving to be? It is your decision.

Inside Every Adversity Is The Seed Of Equivalent Opportunity

What are you focused on? Is it making you feel better or worse? Energy flows where your attention goes. Are you focused on what you want or what you don’t want? If you know what you don’t want then turn and focus on what you do want that makes you feel better.

Everything passes. Change is constant. This too will pass. BUT pretend for a moment it doesn’t. This would be your future forever. Is this what you want? Do you want these thoughts and feelings? Make them what you would want to live with forever. Your choice.

While I may have bias there is no correct answer. There is no correct behavior. There are choices and whichever you make those are your choices. Accept them. I choose based on what I want to create more of for myself, perhaps you may too. Meanwhile, peace and blessings!

Challenges Make Us Stronger – The Kite Rises Against The Wind

If you can find the silver lining you are ahead of the game. If you can find what there is to be grateful for, even inside a difficult situation, you are ahead of the game. Relax, breath, center, let go and feel grateful. What lessons can you learn? Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

How can you have a glorious day?

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