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Acceptance, Attitude, Patience, Self Talk

How To Get Better Or Good At Anything

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“Would you like to get better at what you’re doing? Any skill, whether it’s piano playing, cooking, a sport, talking with others, attracting a mate, negotiating a career, managing your own mind and controlling your thoughts. You can.  It isn’t that difficult really.

How would you like to get better at  taking charge of your feelings and making your dreams come true? Would you like that? When you know how to do it there may be many things you would like to improve. Imagine all your dreams coming true. Nice, huh. Okay.

Here is how you improve any skill.  Imagine a juggler. Imagine this person is learning to juggle and keep a number of objects in the air. Imagine that this juggler every time an object drops and isn’t caught or juggled but hits the floor, THIS juggler slaps his or her face HARD!

Repetition Is The Mother Of Skill – Skills You Develop

Whenever this juggle makes a mistake, large or small, this juggler insults or criticize himself and makes himself feel horribly bad. The juggler thinks to himself, out loud or silently, ‘I suck! I’ll never make it. I can’t do this. I’m a loser. I’m horrible! This sucks. Crap’

She thinks, ‘I screwed up again. I’ll never learn. What a klutz. This is hard. Shit! F’n balls are too slippery.  It’s too cold in here. I can’t juggle when it’s cold. Too many distractions I cant concentrate. I give up.” Do you think this person would be a good juggler anytime soon?

Most likely not. Yet that is what many people do when it comes to taking charge of their own lives, controlling their finances, meeting the person of their dreams, losing weight, feeling confident, doing anything or making any change. They criticize themselves.

Mastering Yourself Is True Power – Know Thyself

They’re hard on themselves. They abuse themselves. They punish themselves. They shame themselves. Then wonder why they don’t make any changes. You can’t punish you yourself and expect to gain skills and talents and abilities and positive attitudes and well-being.

You are going to feel bad, negative and awful. Feeling awful isn’t going to make you better anytime soon. What do YOU do when YOU make a mistake? What could you do instead that would help you learn and improve and move you forward with the skills?

Accept the mistake!  Allow it. Forgive yourself and move on gently. You redo it, again. If you screw up again you, again, gently move on. Don’t punish yourself. Instead  encourage yourself. Think, ‘better luck next time’. Enjoy practice. Keep the faith. Expect the best!

If You Develop Just One Skill Make It The Ability To Focus

Think, ‘that’s alright. Good for you! That’s the spirit. Keep the at it! Good job! You’re moving forward.’ You encourage. You don’t have to go overboard with the praise but you pat yourself on the back for whatever you did. Accept whatever you did without criticism.

Don’t expect to be perfect right out of the gate. You won’t be. Understand there is a learning curve and accept that you’re not perfect. Accept that you’re not God. Accept that you don’t know how to do it, yet, but that you will improve in time.

With time and patience; with correct repetition and encouragement you’ll get better and better. You could be a world-class champion if you give yourself permission to go that far and become one. AND if you  aren’t too hard on yourself and allow yourself to get good.

Simple Consistent Good Habits Lead To A Life Of Blissful Blessings

Even those who are the best at things have bad days. You can bet they didn’t get to be the best by wallowing in pity and shame, hate, anger and frustration. They worked hard, it’s true. They had to develop their mindset and their feelings.

They had to make sure their feelings were in check. They had to take the appropriate actions. They did all that and you can too! It is far better to pat yourself on the back for something attempted and not perfect then shame and blame yourself for trying.

Books are made better in the second edition. That’s why there ARE second editions.  You have second chance. You have opportunities to repeat. You get to do over your practice to get better. Repetition is what builds habits.

You Can Develop Any Habit You Deem Desirable Or Necessary

Correct repetition over the appropriate amount of time is what builds positive skill. Attitude also helps build skill. You can’t be negative and expect positive results. You must get your mind working for you instead of against you. Manage your mind!

The right mindset says ‘I can do this. I am learning. I’m a beginner. I can get better through practice. I enjoy this. I love this! This is fun! I’m so glad I do this.’ The right mindset nurtures oneself and one’s abilities. You correct and continue. You move forward positively.

Allow yourself permission to fail because all success is built on failure. Don’t fear failing. Don’t try not to make mistakes. Accept them! That IS how you learn and grow. You adjust. You make corrections. You repeat. In doing so you build positive habits.

Excellence Is Not An Exception It Is A Prevailing Attitude

All masters were once disasters.  All top pros were once rank amateurs. Everyone starts from the same place. Zero, zip! We begin, we practice, We improve. Mastery is a process not a one time event. Don’t let a bad attitude prevent you from being your best. Excel!

You can develop any skill, any talent, any ability. You can manage your thoughts and your emotions. You can take control of your mind. You can make your dreams come true if you will only allow yourself to do so. Give yourself permission to fail. It is okay, it truly is!

Take the sting out of failure by stopping trying to not fail. If you are focused on, ‘not failing’ guess what you are more likely to do. Don’t avoid it. Accept it, embrace it and move beyond it. You’ll go further faster when you do. Let go of having to be perfect.

We Are What We Repeatedly Do – Positive Or Negative

Give yourself permission to succeed. Love yourself through it all. Be patient. Be thankful you can do anything at all! Be thankful you have the opportunity to screw up. Not everyone does. Not everyone can do what you are learning to do. Be glad you are able to!

Everyone who succeeds was once a novice. Be thankful you can as well as you can. Be grateful in all things. The right attitude is like grease to the wheel. It accelerates everything. You can get better the more you relax yourself and let it happen. Yes, commit to practice but make it positive practice. That’s why I tell you always celebrate everything.” Rex Sikes

Discover today and bask in it!

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Acceptance, Awareness, Flow, Focus

Expert Reveals: You Must Develop Singular Focus Now!

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“A few decades ago a large part of my personal development programs was to help people to multitask. People needed to be able to do more than one thing simultaneously. Today, people need to be able to concentrate and learn to do just one thing at a time.

Ideally, people can be successful at both, using either ability at the appropriate times. However, in this millennial age of distraction people seem unable to focus.  Many, especially children, but even adults, wear official labels stating they can’t concentrate.

They can, if not all, most can, focus and do quite well given the opportunity. Today, I’d like to focus on learning how to better concentrate and simplify life. Much benefit can be experienced when you let go, slow down and live simply.  Let’s explore, okay?

The Thing About Meditation Is You Become More And More You

Meditation has been available for eons. Some practice it. There are various types and even various descriptions about what meditation is or what it is not. I’ll use the loosest definition right now for our purposes. Concentration; reflection; contemplation; observation.

It is described as a training of the mind for benefit. I agree. I am only going to share one aspect of it today that is vital to learn and not discuss all the potential benefits and aspects. Concentration or focus is what people need to learn to do more of. To be single-minded.

Today, people eat and talk and are on their phones or media all day. Music, sounds or images are played in the background almost everywhere we go. Few people enjoy just being alone with themselves while eating, traveling or walking or whatever!

I Meditate So My Mind Cannot Complicate My Life

They must always be engaged or distracted by social media or some electronic toy or by other people.  This does not promote health or well-being. It is important to shut it off and relax. It is important mentally, physically and spiritually to let it all go for awhile.

Get yourself a candle or battery operated tea lamp flame and place it before you. Sit comfortably and relax. Breath and simply look at the flame. Focus you attention on the flame. Do nothing else. Breath. Whenever you notice yourself thinking something else stop.

Gently, return your attention to the flame. This may occur many times and that it is okay. The purpose IS to learn to return your attention to the flame without judgement or exasperation. Simply gaze at the flame. Allow your mind to quiet. It will eventually.

In Meditation You Develop Powerful Muscles Of Calm And Insight

Yes, you have to train it. It is used to NOT doing this. It will jump around all over the place. This is what it has always been doing unless you trained it. It will require some time and patience. It is not exciting, it may be boring. That is okay. Great benefit can come!

Take your time. Slow down. Spend at least 5 minutes. Go for 10 or 20. Do it when you won’t be distracted or interrupted. Turn off your cell phone. Make it a pleasant, comfortable, sacred time. This is time for you to do something wonderful for yourself. This is for you!

Soften the lights, turn them down. Quiet your environment. If you use a lit candle make sure it is safe and won’t catch anything on fire if you left it unattended. You shouldn’t and won’t of course. Just be smart about it. Enjoy this time. Let go, relax, de-stress and be. Enjoy.

Starve Your Distractions Feed Your Focus – Know Thyself

Do it each day. Once a day is fine. Twice is good, too. Unwind, let go and concentrate. Focus your attention. At other times of the day shut off your phone. Just sit with nature. Observe and listen to what is occurring. Be with it. Let it fill your awareness. Be present.

Enjoy being here and now. Live in the moment every once and awhile. Eat your food and simply eat. No media. No books. No conversation. Be silent. Just enjoy. Savor your food and the experience. Live here and now. Attend to right NOW.

Go for a walk and just notice how it feels. The temperature, the movement, your feet on the earth. Feel it rather than think about it. Listen to the sounds. See what you see. Simply notice. The tendency will be to name and label what you notice. Okay, just let it go. Just be.

To A Mind That Is Still The Whole Universe Surrenders

Simply walk and enjoy the walk. Let go of everything and just BE the experience you are having as you are having it. Let go of thoughts as they occur. Watch those come and go to instead of entertaining them. Stay present, when your mind goes elsewhere return it gently.

Whenever, you find yourself visiting the past or the future return your attention to here and now. When washing dishes just wash the dishes. Focus on what you are doing. Train and control your mind. Take time to focus. Take time to relax. Live differently for awhile.

Find moments in each day to escape into the present. Find moments to unwind and appreciate the moment you are living. Be aware, be peaceful, be what is right now. Listen and observe without judging. Yes, it is not easy at first but in time it can become easier and easier.

Meditate Because Some Questions Can’t Be Answered  By Google

Many people today train their bodies. They go to the gym to get fit. True, many still do not. Those who train realize at some level, for some benefit, it is important to do. They wouldn’t do it without benefits, right. Others, don’t see the benefit so they don’t.

Training your mind to serve you, instead of you serving it, is important, even more important. Take the time to learn to control your thought processes. Eventually, you will realize you are not your thoughts. Thoughts are something YOU have not what you are.

Most thoughts are not even yours. They stem from the conditioning we grew up with. Most of ‘our’ thoughts are actually those we learned to have from other people. Wouldn’t you like to learn to think for yourself rather than from prior, old, chronic conditioning?

The Quieter You Become The More You Can Hear

You can. You can learn to control your thoughts and you can learn to let go and go beyond your thoughts. For now, start simply. Focus. Concentrate on the flame. There are other forms of meditation I will share from time to time. For now practice this. Do it repeatedly.

Build the habit and the benefits will please you. Stop and enjoy life as it unfolds. Live more in the present. Become aware. Live more simply and enjoyable. Be grateful for right now. Be appreciative for what you have in this moment too. Live with awareness and delight. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Discover yourself today!

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Why I Insist You Take The 24 Hour Opportunity Challenge!

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“Why do I insist you take the 24 hour opportunity challenge? Because mindset is everything. If you don’t believe it you can prove it to yourself. If you are honest and daring, committed to learning the difference and willing to play all out. If yes, go get some contrast.

If you aren’t familiar with Adam Markel’s 24 Hour Opportunity Challenge go and read the previous blog. Adam is the author of the new book ‘Pivot: The Art And Science Of  Reinventing Your Career And Life’. Alright, are you now ready to begin. Okay, get contrast!

For 24 hours think nothing but crappy, lousy, defeating, negative thoughts. Think how much you suck, the world sucks, everyone sucks. Nothing ever works out for you, you are a loser and won’t ever get ahead. Think these legitimately and fully commit.

Are you in? Are you going to do it? I wouldn’t but that is just me. Most people already think a lot like this. If they aren’t downright negative their thinking  is lackluster and mediocre. They aren’t thinking powerfully positive they ho-hum through life.

A Positive Attitude Gives You Power Over Your Circumstances

So if you want you can go ahead and experiment. Or you can examine your own thoughts and determine whether each one you are aware of is negative or positive. Does the thought support you or defeat you? Does it make you more powerful or weaker?

Do you feel more confident or less confident? Do you feel more happy or less happy, even angry or sad? Which is it? Either you are negative or positive? Where do you spend most of your thinking time; in ‘I can’t’ or ‘I can.’? Are you feeling energetic or tired?

Are you feeling on top of the world or as if the world is on top of you? Are you taking responsibility and moving forward and making progress with your dreams and goals or are you blaming others and the world and making excuses for why you haven’t or can’t yet?

A Negative Thinker Sees A Difficulty In Every Opportunity

Well, which is it? Mindset is everything! How you look out into the world determines largely what you find, what you feel and what you experience. It isn’t magical it is just what it is. If you feel like things suck well then they probably do for you. For you, not for everyone.

Another person may feel in charge and on top of things. What we think determines how we feel. How we feel from that thought determines what thoughts we think next. Each thought and feeling leads to another. It is cyclic. Either spiraling down or rising up.

Which is more predominant in your daily life? It it positivity and optimism, good feelings and fun? Are you filled with ‘I can do it’ and then you take action or is it otherwise? If it IS OTHERWISE the great news is you can change it. It may take some work but you can do it.

A Positive Thinker Sees An Opportunity In Every Difficulty

That is why the opportunity challenge is such a great vehicle. Look for opportunity. Set your mind on it. Refuse to consider anything else. See everything as an opportunity for something, for growth or learning or moving ahead or relaxing and chilling. Opportunity!

Instead of whining and complaining that you aren’t getting the breaks, perhaps you could make your own, if you only thought more powerfully and positively. Perhaps, you’d be more creative and imaginative and find new ways you haven’t yet considered?

Wouldn’t that be cool? Of course it would! But you have to dive in to get the benefit. No dipping the toes. You must fully immerse yourself! Okay, okay, if you want to run through the sprinkler first and get a little wet, fine. Try it out. Put it into practice. Implement!

Train Your Mind To See The Good In Every Situation

Learn to control your attention and energy. Learn to concentrate and focus your mind like a powerful laser beam. Make your mind do what you want it to instead of you being bothered by it. Use your backbone. Develop some iron will. Stop being wimpy.

Invest in yourself. Take the challenge. Set your mind on the positive and find out what is there for you. Don’t stop at one day. Keep going. Develop a powerful new unstoppable attitude. Live life fully. Take charge of yourself and live as a champion does. Have fun!

I bet if you really do this you will discover something incredible. I bet you will have insights and learning and all sorts of fascinating moments. Only you can convince yourself it is worthwhile so take the plunge. Dive in and reap the rewards and benefits!

Focus On What You Can Change Your Atititude –  Mindset –  Energy

Be enthused. feel delighted. Look around at all the incredible opportunity there is to discover. Look and listen. Feel it! Find the good in all things. Find the opportunities that once were hidden. You can do this! Feel grateful, be appreciative and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Discover delight in all you do!

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Take The 24 Hour Opportunity Challenge!

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“Recently, Adam Markel, CEO and owner of the personal and business success training company, New Peaks, and author of the fantastic new book ‘Pivot: The Art And Science Of Reinventing Your Career And Life’ issued a challenge. I heard it. I accepted it.

You can too! I happened to be there when he mentioned it. I love it. It is a powerful, positive challenge, in line with all good thinking practices. He is passionate and dedicated to helping people transform their careers and their lives.

Adam walks his talk. He issued the challenge. I share it here so you can too. It is simple, absolutely simple. Whether it is easy remains to be seen. Regardless, the benefits can be huge. I hope you will join us and the others who already have begun.

The Bigger The Challenge – The Bigger The Opportunity

For 24 hours focus on opportunity. Think: There are no problems. Be: peaceful and calm. For 24 hours maintain your focus on this thought, this mantra: ‘I only see opportunities’. Remind yourself again and again. There you have it. Will you accept the challenge?

‘I see opportunities in everything. I see opportunities everywhere’. Notice the opportunities in everything. Look for the opportunity not the problem. Whatever occurs, steer your mind to how there is opportunity right there for you. If you go astray, gently return.

The challenge is to maintain this positive frame no matter what happens. Don’t look at or for the problem. Look at or for the opportunity. Can you imagine the opportunity in doing this? Not yet? Well, perhaps you will after you take the challenge.

Your Big Opportunity May Be Right Where You Are Right Now

Give it a try for 24 hours. One day. That isn’t too much to ask. Control and manage your thoughts for 24 hours. You can do it. It will be fun, illuminating and who knows what positive good you will discover? Are you up for the challenge. If so, do it! And then…

I suggest you do it again. Then again. ‘I only see opportunities’. Remind yourself. That is your mantra for 24 hours. Put a guard before your mind and thoughts, your eyes, your ears and your lips. There ARE NO problems only opportunities. ‘I see opportunity’.

It Is Not A Problem – It Is An Opportunity To Make A Change

Live and breath and speak only opportunity. For 24 hours you are not allowed to whine, complain, blame or discuss problems. Keep vigilant. If others are talking problems don’t join them. Don’t get sucked into gossip and other issues. Stay the course.

Do it. It can be life changing. While you are at it, read his new book, ‘Pivot’. You will be glad you did both. You may delight and surprise yourself by how powerful this process is. Take the challenge, have fun, learn a lot and enjoy! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

How many ways can you discover to delight yourself and others!

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How To Get What You Want: The Law Of Attraction Or Neuroscience Which Is It?

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“It doesn’t matter whether you believe the Law Of Attraction to be real or not real. Simply consider it a working principle, like gravity. Whether you accept it or not doesn’t matter. Gravity doesn’t rely on you accepting it for the consequences of it to be real.

I don’t think the Law Of Attraction is some magical law that makes the outer world bend to your will. I think of it as The Law Of Cause And Effect. For every cause there is an effect. The notion of like attracts like is simple, birds of a feather flock together.

I don’t make a big, magical, mystical deal about it. I don’t make a big deal over gravity either. I don’t believe or disbelieve in gravity, I accept it as what is. Perhaps, that IS believing, but I go about my day and let gravity do its thing. It will whether I care or not.

Whether You Think You Can Or Think You Can’t You Are Right

Some may prefer to think of the Law Of Attraction as neuroscience seems to regard it. It is a matter of your perceptions and what you believe. Our outlook, our frame of mind, our neurological filters govern what we experience as reality.

Our brain and senses govern our connection with ‘out there’. This is what connects us to the ‘outer world’. Without our consciousness we don’t experience the outer world. Yes, it may actually exist if we don’t, but who can actually say. Einstein preferred to think it does.

Still, if you are in a coma, you may NOT experience the world as we know it. You may but not remember it, you may experience other things or you may not at all. I don’t think the jury is in on that one yet. Prior to human consciousness no one determines a day good or bad.

Birds Of A Feather Flock Together

No one complained about the weather. That takes weather and a human AND a purpose. If you plan to plant and the weather destroys your seeds one might consider this NOT a good thing. Because you wanted to plant and now you can’t it sucks. That is what humans do.

Humans add a judgement to what is. They add the value. They make it one up or one down when the reality is IT just IS. So people do the same with ‘faith’, and with ‘science’. We judge everything! We judge everything from our own limited perceptual maps and filters.

We, according to ‘neuroscience’, KNOW that we can’t KNOW everything but we act as if we do. We often act as if we ARE the authority and as if what we THINK is the case, is the case. It most probably isn’t but that doesn’t matter to us. We think it is.

Awareness Is Needed For You To Deliberately Change

So neuroscience is all about your neural pathways and perceptions and consciousness or awareness. It looks at our how awareness has evolved through time. Philosophy and religion do too. All of it is our best guesses about the nature of things.

I believe that we have an opportunity to get our brain and mind to work for us instead of seemingly against us. I believe our brain and mind IS important in how we experience the world and the results we get or don’t. I believe it does matter what we think and do.

Without human thought none of our human creations would exist. Thought created this world as we know it, good and bad. None of our buildings, roads, electronics would exist without thought and the ability to carry out plans. These exist because of thinking.

Thought Or Mental Action Precedes All Action 

Thought is a powerful creative force. Some people are free because of their thoughts some are imprisoned. Literally and figuratively. How we go through our daily life is dependent on the daily thoughts we think. Our results stem from our mindset and attitude.

Our feelings and actions, our habits are dependent on what we are thinking. Good thoughts lead to good feelings which lead to good actions and good habits. This pathway leads to good results. Are the results guaranteed? Nope, but they are more likely than not.

If you work at it and never give up you are bound to get further than the person who thinks they can’t or won’t. If you start and keep going  you are bound to get further than the person who never starts regardless of whether you know what your are doing or not.

You Reap What You Sow – What Have You Planted

It’s has everything to do with self alignment. You think and then you do and get back according to your thoughts and actions. Cause and effect, the Law Of Attraction or neuroscience, or pseudoscience you act and reactions occur. You shove and someone shoves back.

Get it?  You don’t have to make it mystical. You can see it happen everyday. You can see thought bring about results in action each moment. All you have to do is look and listen. Watch the people who whine and complain and what they think is preventing them.

Regardless of their answers or assignment of cause, the bottom line is, if they are complaining about not getting, they aren’t getting. It isn’t benefiting them to complain IS IT? Blaming not planting on the weather still means not planting. Until you plant nothing happens.

Don’t Expect Corn If You Plant Beans – You Reap What You Sow

YOU have to do it regardless of what you THINK prevents you. Obviously, I mean this to be about getting the good you desire for yourself and others in honest and legitimate ways. A conscience is still a good thing. More people need to use it.

Your thoughts affect how you  feel and the results you are able to get. It’s not magic but seemingly magical. So whether you believe you connect with the Universe or the Law Of Attraction bestows things on you or that your brain is doing it all doesn’t matter.

Just get your mindset straight and working for you. Think and grow rich as Napoleon Hill said. Think and create. Think and attract. Think and make your good thoughts happen because you are the principle thinker and architect of those thoughts. Do it. No one else will.

You Can Plant Flowers Or Weeds Which Are You Planting

Find or attract like minded people who are interested in making the same thing happen as you are and work together in harmony and precision. That is loosely the basis of a mastermind group. Birds of a feather flock together whether they are thoughts or birds.

Like minded people accomplished great things in this world in spite of experts and others, and their parents, telling them they couldn’t and that they would fail. They triumphed in spite of hardship, bad weather, raging seas, opposing forces and armies.

Most succeeded because they believed they would and because they felt they must. They thought straight into it. They acted their way forward. They let nothing stop them. Whether they believed in god or not they did it. You can too. You can make it happen.

To Get More Good You Must Think More Good And Do More Good

You don’t have to believe the Law Of Attraction is real or not. You don’t have to accept neuroscience. Make it happen because you believe you can make it happen. Then work to do it. If you believe in your purpose and in yourself you can bring it into being.

You can enlist the aid of others if necessary. Most things need others sweat or finances. People need people to move things along. Be nice. Go first if you want others to join you. Treat them well and be a person they can like, trust and be loyal to. Live high standards.

Think your way to success. Aim your thoughts. Manage them and your emotions and you can prevail. Be the Law Of Attraction in action and draw all good things unto you. Believe you can. Believe you can find or create away around any obstacle. Then you will.

Your Thoughts Make It So – Perception Is Everything

Attitude IS everything. Enjoy life to the fullest. Have fun. delight. Make it delicious. All work and no play, you know! Stop and smell the roses. Share your delights with loved ones and others. Be generous not stingy. Feel thankful and blessed and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Delight in this day!

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Confession Is Good For The Soul

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Yesterday I began with a confession. I continue today. I bottomed out at 25 and had to change or die. That was what I felt my options were. Then I made a decision. I committed. Some people have to have enough pain before they rise up. I know I sure did in my past.

Others just excel from the start.  It doesn’t matter. Everything is all good. Everything is a blessing especially if you can look at things that way. Challenges make us stronger. There is much to learn. Mindset is the difference that makes a difference. It is the edge we need to win.

You change your mindset to win! That is the starting place. Change the thinking and you change the feelings. As a result your actions improve, you replace the old chronic habits with new successful ones and you begin to get better results. Then you maintain it!

Live As If You Would Die Tomorrow Learn As If You Live Forever

My life, in retrospect has been perfect. It is perfect and it will be perfect. Perfect is what you make it! It IS what it is. Happiness inside first, as an attitude can see you through many tough times. I learned to be happy is a choice you have to make. You really have to choose.

I did. I finally decided to be happy no matter what. You Can Too

I could learn to be happy, healthy and wealthy. I could learn to be anything I desired to be as long as I would commit, put in the effort and not stop trying until I succeeded, OR, at least until I was proficient and then continued to improve. It is a decision. A choice.

I had no special skills or strengths. I floundered, drifted, was okay at something, better at others, and sucked at some. Average, I was average. I wasn’t special in any way. Most of my life I felt unlucky. Still, I managed. If I can you, or anyone else, can too.

If I Asked People What They Wanted They’d Say Faster Horses

I share this because if there is any reader out there doubting, feeling insecure, afraid, forlorn, angry at the world, self, others or god, you too can make it different. It may not be easy at first, but it is quite simple. You decide, you commit to yourself, to learn to be different,

You chose to learn how to control your thoughts, the thoughts that make you feel bad, and learn how to replace them with good thoughts, better thoughts that make you feel better. You understand that change starts within and moves to the outside.

Most of us think something from the outside will save us or help us. We think if the circumstances are right or if we get the right things then all will be better. WE HAVE IT BACKWARDS! It is mindset first that affects everything else and the results we get.

Attitude Is A Little Thing That Makes A Big Difference

Happiness is a choice that you can make. We choose to be happy, we choose to think better and we begin making adjustments from where we are at. We begin before we are ready and before we know how. We start right, here right now with what we have.

And with what we don’t have. We simply begin as we are this moment. Nothing more, nothing less. Now, this instant, is when the time is right and you are perfect for it. If you wait or delay hoping to get some extra knowledge you will only succeed in delaying it.

Change begins the moment we decide and commit to being different. Think, ‘I can learn to be happy. I can learn to decide to be happy. I can choose to be happy each moment. I am able to learn. I can do positive things for myself. I can chose to do what I want’.

Change Is Inevitable Progress Is Optional – ChooseAnd Commit

‘I am a creator. I created problems I can create solutions. I am powerful. I am positive. I am a learner and a doer. I can do positive helpful things for myself and others. I can find enjoyment where I didn’t know it existed. I am grateful I can walk.

‘I am grateful I can speak.’ Keep on expressing your gratitude. Think of the many reasons you have to be grateful. The people, things and circumstances in your life. Affirm them and feel grateful. Acknowledge your abilities and resources. Affirm them.

Repeat the positive mantras, like those above, again and again. Chant them with strong positive feelings. Make them count. Feeling are the secret to making it all work. The better you feel the more readily you create and attract. It works amazingly well!

Because When You Stop And Look Around This Life Is Amazing

Keep doing it. You may have some  great days, you will. You may have some not so great days, you will. Through all of it keep up the practice. Read positive inspiring books, listen to audios, find positive, uplifting people to hang around with. Fill your mind!

Fill your mind, heart,and soul with the positive, the good, the possible as much as you can during your waking hours. Practice seeing yourself as you want to be in your imagination. If you aren’t too good at it at first, hang in there. You’ll get better with practice.

You probably can’t juggle either if you haven’t tried. You can master both. You can become a great visualizer through practice. Enjoy building your skills and transforming your life. Have fun, delight, express your gratitude and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Today is another day to enjoy!

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How To Get Through The Tough Negative Times!

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“Choose your thoughts. Pick the most positive, powerful, supportive ones you are able to. First, congratulations on making a decision. You decided to choose to focus on these positive thoughts. Focus on them. Let them be predominant in your mind. Affirm them!

Now, congratulations on choosing. Pat yourself on the back for doing something positive in your own best self interest. Instead of whining, complaining, making excuses and blaming yourself of others you chose to think positive. You elevated your thinking!

Really congratulate yourself. Celebrate for taking care of yourself. Appreciate yourself fully. If not fully, at first, then a little bit. Bit by bit you will come along. Whenever you move yourself positively forward be sure to express gratitude. Gratitude works wonders.

Your Happiness Depends On The Quality Of Your Thoughts

If or when you are tempted to think less than gloriously just – STOP – pause, take a break, do something else, move, shake it up. STOP and take a deep breath. Breathe, take another. Settle, relax. Become aware. Watch the thoughts. JUST watch them. Those thoughts!

They  are not YOUR thoughts they are just thoughts you have been conditioned to think. Those thoughts are old chronic habit thoughts from your past. It doesn’t matter how you came to think them right not, whenever you think those, stop and breathe and watch.

Simply become aware. Breathe. Then you can gently ask questions that lead to positive outcome for all. You want the outcome to be positive for you, and any others if they are involved. Use Directed Questions™ to direct your mind in powerful and positive ways.

Thoughts Are The Energy That Create Your Life – Choose Wisely

Activate your attitude! Choose to be different and think different thoughts. Choose and act positively for the best of everyone. Affirm the positive. Affirm how you can and will be positive and make the best of a less than glorious situation. Realize you can learn to.

You can learn t o do anything if you give yourself time and permission to do so. You can learn if you are open and willing. You can make positive permanent changes at the deepest levels if you allow yourself to AND you take the initiative. You truly can!

Once you stop blaming, whining, excusing and complaining you can do almost anything. You stop getting in your own way and you begin to move in new directions. Once you take responsibility for yourself and your abilities to control your thinking great things can begin.

You Are Confined Only By The Walls You Build Yourself

Tough times occur. That is just the way it is. Sometimes bad things happen. How you repsond determines much. You can react from old conditioning or you can choose to respond from awareness, understanding, positivity and power. It is all your choice!

You can support yourself greatly if you think, ‘I don’t know how this will turn out BUT I know it will always, in the long run, turn out for the best.’ You can think, ‘I have made it through troubles before, I always land on my feet’. Think, ‘I can handle this, watch me!’

Use Directed Questions™ and affirmations. Visualize what you want. Move forward step by step affirming your way. Pat yourself on the back for each bit of progress you make. Remember, don’t blame or excuse yourself. You will learn not to eventually, no worries.

Look To The Bright Side Of Life And Choose To Be Happy

When you set your mind on the outcome you want. Think ‘this or something better is coming my way’ and ‘I don’t know yet how blessed I will be in all this but I am eager and excited to learn what delightful surprises are in store for me’. Focus on what you want.

Focus on that which is good and positive for everyone involved. Encourage and nurture yourself along. Breathe, let go of difficulties, stay positive and celebrate.  Find gratitude and keep that attitude. Open your heart. Open your mind to wonderful, positive possibilities and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

How many different ways can you find to amaze yourself today?

*** We are planning some new things! Soon  A Teleseminar with Rex  What are your questions, what do you want to know, what would you like help with? Use the comment section to let me know. I’ll let you know when, meanwhile, please let me know what you’d like. ***

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Attitude, Celebration, Creating The Future, Responsibility

What You Think At Work Determines Your Future

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“Is your work exhilarating and fun? Are you happy to go there each day? Are you thrilled with your bosses and coworkers? Do you feel blessed being able to do the work you do? Do you feel you are contributing and helping others in your job? Is it fulfilling you?

Sadly, and unfortunately, for many people, the answer is no. They aren’t exhilarated, thrilled or eager to go to work. Most can’t wait to get home and many find their job dreary and their coworkers and bosses annoying at the very least. Not everyone, but many. Many do.

It is sad and it is unfortunate. If you aren’t one of those people who ‘hate’ their jobs or long for a better one, consider yourself lucky and blessed.  For many people just having a job is a reason to celebrate. However, that is not the point of this post.

A Negative Thinker Sees A Difficulty In Every Opportunity

The point of this post is you may spent 40 hours, or even more, if full time on the job. Part time could cap at 39 obviously. How you spend that time, your thoughts and feelings, are a critical influence on your ability to easily create the future you want. It can help or hinder.

Remember, the goal is to manage your thoughts and feelings. To think and feel the very best. You need to do so because the predominant thoughts in your mind is what you tend to create. You can’t not create so the questions is what are you creating?

On top of the job hours there are the off hours spent worrying about or fretting over the job. People think about their job, talk about it, gossip about the coworkers and all the other possibilities. That means even more time spent possibly negative thinking.

A Positive Thinker Sees An Opportunity In Every Difficulty

How do you expect to create a positive future if so much time is devoted to negative thinking? This is why I remind again and again that every moment is a moment to celebrate and feel blessed no matter what is going on. Horrible circumstance? It could be worse.

Find the silver lining, the good in all situations. Look for it. Seek it, dig deep if you have to. Don’t give into negativity or succumb to living a lackluster life. Change your destiny. Think positive. Find the good. Find what there is to appreciate and appreciate it. Feel grateful!

Find the 1% that is good that you appreciate and celebrate the 1% one hundred per cent! Create what you want to have in your future! Use challenges and frustrations to propel you further. Don’t be limited by them. Triumph over them. Be bigger than your problems.

Positive Thoughts Generate Positive Feelings And Experiences 

Your job can be your catalyst for greatness. Most of the successful CEO’s and top achievers in our world had menial, low paying jobs they hated. They started at the bottom as everyone else does but they were determined not to stay there. The made it out.

You can too! Use the hours in the day to think positive. We become what we think about. We get what we focus on. Like attracts like. Get more of what you want by becoming what you want first. Don’t wait. Develop the mindset and the feelings. Act as If! GO FIRST!

Be happy, feel rich and successful. Love life. Imagine everything is wonderful. Visualize and affirm. Direct your mind positively and powerfully. Learn from the difficult times and celebrate them. Enjoy the easy times and celebrate them. In fact, feel grateful and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

How many different ways can you find to amaze yourself today?

*** We are planning some new things! Soon  A Teleseminar with Rex  What are your questions, what do you want to know, what would you like help with? Use the comment section to let me know. I’ll let you know when, meanwhile, please let me know what you’d like. ***

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No One Else But You Can Do This!

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“Sometimes others can help us. Finding the right coaches and mentors is invaluable. Learning and training is important. We benefit from support and assistance, but there is one thing only YOU can do.

Living up to your potential is completely up to you. It is in your hands alone. Only you can make the decision to do it. If you haven’t decided to live up to your best yet, you can bet you aren’t. True dat!

The Best Thing You Can Do –  Is Be The Best At Being You

Decide to be the best you possible. Commit to yourself.  There is only one you. Why not live it to the fullest? You deserve to.  Determine what your life and your future will be like. Then do it!

Never underestimate yourself. Never underestimate what you are capable of and what you can accomplish. If you can conceive it and believe it you can achieve it. You can! Always remember this!

You May Have To Go Through The Worst  – To Get To The Best

Doing great is a choice. Most people, sadly, live ho-hum, mediocre lives. You don’t have to. You can live the kind of life you want to live if you determine to do it. Never ever settle for less than your best.

Be the best you and make your dreams come true. Never count yourself out, but rather, count yourself in. Focus on the positive about yourself and nurture it. Learn, excel succeed and enjoy!

Are You Being The Best Or The Worst That Has Happened To You

Be grateful. ALL of life is a blessing, the good times and the bad. You may not yet realize that, but it is true! Find the good in everything and in everyone, including yourself. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Have fun, delight, discover and enjoy!

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Celebration, Creating The Future, Focus, Habits

Expert Reveals: How To Improve Your Mood And Well Being By Writing

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“Would you like to have better mood levels and experience fewer illnesses? According to a study published in the ‘Journal of Research in Personality’ people who wrote about intensely positive experiences, each day, for three consecutive days got those results.

90 undergraduate students were split into two groups. One group wrote positive experiences, as described, the other group wrote about a control subject. Three months later the positive experience group reported higher levels of well being and fewer illnesses.

If these results are accurate imagine how you might feel if you wrote a little each day. Just the act of cursive writing is a great work out for the brain. Our brains and fingers work together. Typing does not have the same positive effect as writing by hand. It just doesn’t!

Write Down Your Goals And Imagine Achieving Every One

Recording positive experiences or creating a positive future by writing is a great way to exercise the brain. Focus on the positive experiences you want to have more of. The more you focus on these the more your brains help you to produce or have more of them.

Re-writing over and over the same positive phrase helps you wire into your subconscious what it is you want to do or have more of. ‘I am rich and happy’ or ‘September will be a great month for me’ written 100 times every day for a week works wonders.

Most people, old enough, remember black board writing, ‘I will not talk in class’, or some variation. It is more effective when phrased positively. ‘I will be quiet and pay attention’ directs the brain to preferred behavior. Brains accepts positively phrased instructions.

Re-Live Your Positive Experiences And Write Them Down

It knows what to do when instructed to pay attention. It isn’t sure what to do when told not to talk. Not talking doesn’t tell the brain what to do in place of  it. ‘Be quiet and pay attention’ does. It’s more explicit and focused. That’s the kind of instruction you want.

You instruct your brain in what you want rather than what you don’t want. For example, ‘don’t think of a blue elephant’. The brain thinks of one. The word ‘don’t’ isn’t processed. The instruction the brain gets is ‘think of a blue elephant’. That isn’t what you wanted!

Even if the word ‘don’t weren’t received the main element or focal point in the sentence is blue elephant. That is what the brain notices most. The same is true of ‘don’t talk’. You could further specify the instruction to ‘pay attention to the teacher’ or the subject matter.

Writing By Hand Wires It Into The Brain And Helps You Visualize

Then your brain knows what to act on to bring you more of what you DO want. The brain is more efficient when you tell it what to include rather than what to exclude. You get what you focus on. Focus on getting the good things and you will be delightfully surprised.

Write out the exact same affirmation 100 times everyday for a week. Be consistent. Focus while you write. Make it an important ritual. The next week or later do it again or write a different one. If 100 times is too big an effort for you write out 75, 50, 25 or 10.

Anything is better than nothing. You will get back benefits! Yes, you may get back more the more you do but sometimes it isn’t practical. Do whatever you can. The more we do the more we can do. Plus, a little bit goes a long way. Something is better than nothing!

Imagination Is More Important Than Knowledge – Use Yours

Re-writing your goals over again and again works wonders. Re-writing reinforces what you want more of. You may also further clarify your goals and desires during this process. Re-writing the notes you take while learning is extremely powerful and useful!

If you read or attend seminars or listen to audio programs and you take notes, which is a great practice, re-writing them again later a few times, enhances what you learn, makes it more memorable and wires it into your nervous system. You learn more quickly.

Re-write notes every few weeks. Another extremely beneficial practice as you re-write your notes is to re-word them. Put the notes into your own words. As you move forward in life you change. You learn and become more aware and understand more. You grow.

I Become What I Want To Be …

Imagine explaining the concepts you wrote about to another person as you write and re-write them. Imagine teaching someone else. Imagine teaching yourself the material. This helps accelerate and wire in your learning and understanding of the material.

Correct repetition, applied consistently for long enough, creates habits. If you will do these simple things again and again for long enough you will develop some positive success habits and mood enhancers. Your overall well being can increase wonderfully.

Handwriting is Brain Writing! Write out a list of daily successes. Note the little wins or accomplishments you enjoy each day. It is a great practice for feeling better and living more productively. Anything can be a win if you say it is. Declare it and it is so!

… By Consistently Being What I Want To Become – Everyday

You made your bed, claim it. You did the dishes, celebrate it. Write it down. Hooray! Small or large, whatever you did you set out to do, is a success. Keep track, record them in a success journal. It is important to build our track record of wins! Start one today!

These practices work! If you apply them consistently you WILL benefit. If you don’t you will never know. The goal is to make these practices reliable, automatic habits. As you do your thinking, mood and well being improves. You enjoy and delight more!

Write down what you want to accomplish the next day. Make a ‘to do’ list. Keep the list simple and positive. This gives you concrete things you want to accomplish and that you can count as wins as you cross them off your list. You will be more productive and positive.

Drop By Drop The Tub Fills – A Little Bit Makes A Great Difference

Write down what you are grateful for each night prior to sleep. It sets the mind in a good place right before lights out. This practice can help fill you with joy and appreciation. Live, laugh, learn and love. Celebrate everything.” Rex Sikes

Have an amazing day!

*** COMING UP – A Teleseminar with Rex  What are your questions, what do you want to know, what would you like help with? Use the comment section to let me know. I’ll let you know when, meanwhile, please let me know what you’d like. ***

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