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You Always Have The Power To Control Your Life

we cant direct the wind

A good book to read is ‘Man’s Search For Meaning’ by Victor Frankl. Mr Frankl survived the horrible conditions of a Nazi concentration camp and yet, he said, no one can ever take away a person’s ability to choose how to feel. He points out what a few already know. YOU always have the power to control your feelings.

You have the power to be in charge and live life victoriously and not to live as a victim. All of us do. Some live this way some others may not.

He states, and he should know, that, ‘Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.’

He also stated, ‘I do not forget any good deed done to me and I do not carry a grudge for a bad one.’ For this man to say this is an incredible testament to the ability to forgive and let go. I previously posted about the power of forgiveness citing someone else as an example. I think this is wonderful. He includes remembering kindnesses.

He says it again a little differently, but he states these from his life experience. ‘Forces beyond your control can take away everything you possess except one thing, your freedom to choose how you will respond to the situation.’

It may be that because of all that he went through he was able to discover his ability to control his thoughts and emotions as he did. The horrible challenge provided him the opportunity to recognize who actually was in charge. Even though circumstances were beyond his control he discovered what he did control and it saved him.

I think for us to do any less with our daily challenges is to not live as we can and as we should. We have such incredible power within! We only need to tap into our own strengths and live with purpose and in charge. We can do this. Difficulty or not we can find our ability to choose.

The final quote I’ll include is, ‘Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.’

we are our choices

I include share these quotes because this was a man who had everything taken away and he survived. He went on to not be a ‘survivor’ but one who thrived. He went on to share his findings with others and to attempt to help others come into their own power.

The reason he could thrive and forgive and love and move forward was because he took 100% responsibility for his response, his reactions, his thoughts, feelings, and actions, not only during the most trying of circumstances but, for his entire life. He understood holding a grudge only hurt him not the object of the grudge. He became aware of a life changing way to live.

He didn’t shift the blame to those outside himself, he placed responsibility squarely on his own shoulders. He spent the rest of his life pointing out that it was this which could made an incredible difference for all humans.

Certainly, it would have been easy to blame his captors, the circumstances, God anyone and everything, but he chose not to. He chose to focus on what he could control. He understood where the true power resides.

Many of us would not blame him or anyone else who is incarcerated and tortured if they complained and hated or threw in the towel. Most of us would accept that is allowed. I don’t post any of this to make any judgements against people going through any difficulty at all. Everyone should still be held in the highest esteem and allowed to be whomever they are without criticism. We should accept all possibilities for how people respond.

u r responsible

Still, Frankl became aware of something greater in him and that was that he was ‘the chooser’. He was the one who decided. He was the one in control and the one with the power and though anything and everything else could be stripped from him no one could take that power from him. That realization alone IS POWER!

Most of us never know the circumstances of a Frankl. Yet, some do suffer immensely. If Victor Frankl and others can come to this conclusion and alter their lives toward the positive we can too.

If we begin to accept our own powers of choice and responsibility then we are able to, as Victor Frankl and others are able to, live our lives more as victors and less as victims, complainers and haters.

There is incredible power and freedom in learning to take 100% responsibility for everything that happens in our experience. I cannot say that I know what this means fully because I have never been tried as he and others have been.

I do know when I take responsibility for EVERYTHING good and not so good in my life, when I face it and not attempt to pass it off onto anyone or anything else something wonderful happens. Some positive changes occur and I find the power and the opportunities to accept it or make it different. Once I accept that it is ALL only in my hands it then is up to me what I do from that moment on. There is immense power and opportunity knowing that you can always choose.

Some people may  feel the need to disagree we me on this. They may think that some things just happen. ‘Bad things happen to good people’, they might say. They may not agree that anyone person is 100% responsible. That is okay.

u have within u whatever u need

What I say in response, is, it doesn’t matter who causes what,  if you ACT AS IF are in charge of your own response to it then you come from the place of a victor. When you assume you are 100% responsible for what and when and how and why and where you respond (even if that isn’t actually true) you are the master of your fate and the captain of your soul. You are in charge.

Even if, in actuality, it ultimately is not accurate that we are in charge of everything, we still would live with so much more incredible power and forcefulness if we acted AS IF we did. It is a mental framework to adopt.

I think Mr. Frankl was onto something and that perception is everything. We see what we believe and what we want to see. We accept our situation either as hopeless and unable to do anything about it or we accept that there is ONE single thing we can control even if we can’t control all else.

We can control our thoughts, our response, our attitude. That right there is incredible power.

happiness depends on quality of your thoughts

What else is the alternative to taking responsibility? That we live as a victim, drifting, without any power or control. That certainly is not how I choose to want to live.

Every single day you and only you can make the decision to be happy. You can decide to have a great day no matter what. Regardless of whatever circumstances arise YOU can CHOOSE how to respond.

You have the power to control your thoughts and determine how things will be. Even when the outer circumstances may remain difficult you can choose how you will go through them. IT is always your choice what you attend to and focus on. WHAT you attend to and focus on determines what your experience is. Life is truly exciting and wonderful!

Enjoy this brief Ted Video of the historic Frankl delivering a talk. It runs about 4 minutes.

Victor Frankl talks on Man’s Search For Meaning

LIve fully today!

 

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Little Things Lead To Big Things! Transform The Moments And Your Life Transforms

when u r thankful for what u have more comes

“When you think more positively you feel more positive feelings. When you feel more positive feelings you think more positive thoughts! When you think great thoughts you feel great! When you feel great you think great! You get back more of what you put into it. It just works this way.

You attract more of the same. ‘Like attracts like’. ‘Birds of a feather flock together’. In fact, you get back more than you put into it. That seems to be the law. Plant a seed, nurture it to fruition and your yield is far more than you planted. It is reciprocal and exponential. You reap far more than you could ever sow.

A major key to having everything you want in life IS to feel wonderful right NOW. Feel the best you are able to. Live with enthusiasm, passion and positivity. Enjoy each moment and fill your day with energy and ecstasy! Celebrate life and everything in it and about it.

As a result youI will have more intense wonderful, good feelings. It is as if the universe will pour into you MORE good things than ever before and in huge quantities, more than you can even imagine.  It will seem almost impossible for you to take it all in! BUT YOU can! Be open and allowing. Receive it!

Just start enjoying EVERY little moment. Embrace the simple pleasures!  FEEL grateful that YOU can experience it now and you will! Create what you want in the future by enjoying this second! Look for and find the good in everything. Discover what is new and delightful.

Deliberately put a smile on your face. Smile more through the day. Laugh more.  Move more, take a walk, exercise, skip, dance, do some yoga, get a massage. Take some ‘me’ time and relax. Take a nap, enjoy a delicious snack. Have a wonderful bath. Gift yourself. Help your body feel better and your mind will feel better. Treat yourself well.

we create what we believe

Help you mind feel better and your body will feel better.Think of everyone and everything you love and delight often throughout the day.

Fill your mind by reading positive materials and books a little each and every single day. Listen to positive inspiring audio or watch DVD’s. You create your own happiness. You bring on your own bliss by your thoughts and actions. It all begins with what YOU input on a regular consistent basis EACH DAY!

SPEAK and THINK good things daily. Make it a point that all your words and conversations only bless, heal or prosper yourself and others. Keep in mind this point; what you say you have IS what you will have!

What you put out (output) is what you get back in! Remember GIGO (garbage in garbage out) works the other way to. (garbage out garbage in).  SO make it a point to live another way instead; Great In, Great Out and Great Out, Great In! Keep the cycle working in your favor  because it is reciprocal and exponential!

Make some time for others, help someone else smile. Think kind and wonderful thoughts of everyone.  Lend a hand. Be more patient and accepting. Inspire and encourage someone else. Appreciate others. Treat others well.

Make marvelous the moments, savor the seconds! EACH DAY ALL DAY!

Simply enjoy and you will get far more enjoyment back. Transform the minutes and you transform the hours. Make the hours marvelous and you make your day magnificent!

Life IS what you make of it! You feel as good as you CHOOSE to feel! Try to live each day of YOUR life 100% with purpose, on purpose!” Rex Sikes

I wonder in how many fascinating ways you can easily amaze and astound yourself today?

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How You Travel The Success Road Determines How You Get There

you are here to expand and become more of yourself

“Always remember that the journey IS part of your destination. How you travel can determine how you are when you get there. You want to arrive at your destination refreshed and prepared to enjoy it fully so make it a point to enjoy and delight in all of it. Each second of each day is a gift. Each gift of each day passes and we can never have them again to live over. It makes the most sense to take full advantage when we can. So live fully. Be present. Live now!

When you have desires and dreams your destination is what you want. But don’t put it off. Do not NOT live incredibly while waiting to make something happen. Don’t sacrifice now for then. The journey and destination are part of the same trip. Enjoy all of it completely.

For example, if  you want to go biking or hiking or skydiving, or scuba diving, it is the journey you really enjoy. When you reach the destination the ride, or the hike, or the dive is over and completed. You feel great but it was the journey that you actually enjoyed. You got to the end of it feeling delighted and exhilarated because of the how you journeyed. That was the fun and the true enjoyment.

Of course, some people are so insistent on getting to their destination they miss everything along the way. That seems a very sad and disappointing way to live. The goal is to live now! Feel marvelous now! The present will give way to the future anyway, so while you are focused on what you want don’t forget what you now have that you can revel in.

you are a living magnet

The idea behind eating a fabulous meal is not to finish it and push away from the table but to savor it while it lasts. You ultimately will complete it. Enjoy it, don’t rush it. Notice it! Celebrate it. Feel how delicious it is and how good it is to be alive.

Yes, your destination IS important.

It is true you focus on getting there and pursue it passionately. You want to reach it that is the point and the reason to have a future dominant purpose. You put your energy into making it happen but  do not wait to live. In order to experience the fullest life, the bliss, the delight, the joy you must live it now. Always enjoy your journey.

If you want to go to Paris that is a destination place. It will take a certain amount of time from wherever you are at. That time can seem short or long depending on how you spend it and what you pay attention to.

Did you, as a child, ever ask an adult, ‘Are we there yet?… are we there?…how much longer?’ We wanted to get home or to our destination so badly it seemed to take forever. Our focus wasn’t on the joy of the journey it was JUST on ‘get me there now! I can’t stand waiting’.

Most of our life is spent journeying. Consider that. Most of our time is spent along the way. Make all of it delightful. Savor the seconds, make marvelous the moments and delight in everything. Know where you are headed and why and enjoy moving towards it.

you are a gift to the world celebrate

During your travels make it a point to experience these in plenty; love, harmony, joy, happiness, bliss, exhilaration, ecstasy, peace, contentment, serenity, relaxation, fun, comfort, confidence, strength, security, passion, pleasure,  acceptance, patience, gratitude, curiosity, wonder, fascination, amazement. Find fun, smile more, laugh more, enjoy your family, friends and even strangers. Feel awesome, incredible, magnificent and every wonderful feeling you can invite and allow. Celebrate!

If the journey gets tough and circumstances are bad keep focus on where you are headed and why. Find the good in the present circumstances and be grateful too for everything you have and can do. Don’t let less than glorious circumstances spoil your travels. Keep the faith, keep moving forward, adjust your route if you must, but don’t give up. You can make. You will make it. BE patient, not anxious.

Pretend for a moment you had such an incredible journey. More wonderful than you could ever imagine or plan. Sheer delight. Top of the world travel excitement. You lived the dream all along the way! BUT you never arrive at the destination. WOULD you care? Probably not. Because you have been and are so absolutely fulfilled you learned that wherever you are IS the destination and you live with joy.

Feeling this way, living from this reality means you are MUCH more likely to get to your destination because every fiber of your being is involved with feeling incredibly wonderful and alive. You are filled with positive, powerful, passionate radiating energy. Imagine what it would be like to live like this because it is entirely possible for you.

So, remember you want to arrive feeling incredible. Make it a point to enjoy the trip, come what may, and you will. Enjoy the journey and enjoy the destination!” Rex Sikes

Where can you put your attention today that will bring you the most delight?

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How To Feel Better, How To Feel Incredible, When You Don’t

u have within u whatever u need

Are their times when you just feel lackluster? You know you could and should feel better but you don’t? Perhaps, you are frustrated, angry, sad, anxious or fearful and want to shake it. Ever feel like that? Maybe you simply feel bored? You could be upset with yourself, others, events or circumstances but whatever it is you just want some relief right? What to do?

I’ll paraphrase a quote attributed to Einstein which states essentially, the solution is never found at the same level that the problem was created. By this it is meant we have to seek elsewhere for the resolution. This is an outstanding point to keep in mind! We rarely, if ever, solve the problem by constantly focusing on it. You have to stop and turn your attention elsewhere.

He did say, and I use it to make this point, ‘…we must realize that we cannot simultaneously plan for war and peace’. We can not focus on two things at once. We are not able to hold two thoughts at one time in our mind. It is not effective to be negative and positive, we need to choose which one to make dominant. If you are feeling less than glorious you won’t feel any better by continuing to focus on it. So you need to move away from those feelings toward something else, but how?

You know the ‘tip of the tongue’ phenomena. You know what you want to say, that person’s name, or that place, that you know YOU know, but can’t summon it up, right now. You can’t recall it for the life of you and the more you try to get it the more it eludes you. YOU cannot force it no matter how hard you try. SO what do you end up having to do? You give up, you forget about it, you go on to something else AND then what happens? Later, it pops into your head!!!

You had to shift your attention away from what you wanted to recall in order to recall it. The same is true with problems and feeling less than glorious. We have to shift our attention and get out of our own way. Focusing on why we feel bad doesn’t bring us good feelings. We have to look outside ourselves or elsewhere and let go.

Let go! Just as we had to give up searching for that name or place. We knew we knew it we just couldn’t access it. SO know that when you ‘let go’ and shift your focus and energy in other directions the answers, and feelings, and thoughts and behaviors you were trying ‘to get’ will ultimately become available to you in positive ways. They actually will when you get out of your own way and allow it!

be happy with what u have whle working for what u want

Many creative geniuses who have struggled to create, solve or invent something and put their energy into it fully, know to take a nap and ‘sleep on it’. Archimedes solved the problem of weighing the king’s crown, by displacement of water while sliding into the bathtub. ‘Eureka!’ he exclaimed and ran off naked to tell the king. The Archimedes Principle indicates that the upward buoyant force that is exerted on a body immersed in a fluid, whether fully or partially submerged, is equal to the weight of the fluid that the body displaces. It took his body getting into the bath for the idea to ‘pop’ into his head.

In order to feel better RELAX! Let go! Shift your focus. Put it on anything other than yourself and your issue in the moment. Distract yourself by doing nice something for someone else. This is a great way to begin to feel better nearly instantly.

Are you able to find things in your life, family, friends, work, play, yourself for which you readily feel grateful? Some people can list hundreds of things right off the top of their head. Others seem to struggle to find a few. If you have difficulty looking at your life and finding all the wonderful reasons to celebrate and be thankful for then you can do a ‘compassionate comparison’.

You can look at all those millions of people who have it rougher and tougher than you have, who have less than you could ever imagine and be thankful you are, at least, better off. I mean really, most of us are well off beyond belief compared to many, MANY others. We have a roof, food, transportation, we have the basic necessities and then some!

When you make this comparison hopefully it does two things. You look into your own life and find a lot more reasons to be grateful. It stimulates your thinking and your sense of appreciation to celebrate what you do have. Your eyes and being open up and you begin to realize you are better off than you may have thought you were. You discover many new things that make you feel better. As you take inventory and celebrate and truly feel grateful your entire persona transforms. Your energy shifts. What you put your attention and focus on expands and you begin to feel even more wonderful. It is incredible!

Second, it helps you to be aware that there are people without access to what you have and it sensitizes you to their plight. It fills you with compassion and the idea that you might help ease some of the suffering of others. You can do many things small and large to assist them. Whatever action you take will be significant.

It is good to focus on helping others and to take the attention off yourself at least once in awhile. When you help others solve their problems frequently you resolve your own. While attempting to make the ‘me’ successful remember the ‘we’ who actually will help you get there. There is not a single person who ever lived who became successful without the help or co-operation of some others. Sadly, some forget this or just don’t care. Please don’t be one of those. Rise above selfishness.

what u put out u get back

You might volunteer, in some way, locally or elsewhere. You might donate whatever you can. You might give a neighbor a ride when needed. You might simply be nicer and more positive in your thoughts and actions to ALL others. Once your awareness is raised that others can benefit from positive actions, perhaps, you can share that awareness with family and friends, even strangers. Transform the world around you AND start by transforming yourself.

Thanksgiving is coming up.  A day when we are suppose to count our blessings and give thanks. Many people do not have homes or family or friends. What could you do to help out? Could you put some food cans in a drive? Could you serve holiday lunch at a shelter? What might you do? There are any number of options available to do. Your generosity is for you to decide.

Helping others is an incredible way to help ourself. It makes us feel good to know we are a benefit to others. It can make us smile and warm our hearts when we see someone else smile.

When you give to others in need, wherever and whenever you find them, it can make you feel fabulous because you did something kind and sincere. You elevate yourself when you lift up others. The Golden Rule applied makes your life more marvelous when you go first and hold others in high esteem in thought, word and action even if they can’t or won’t return the same to you. You give because you want to not because they will like you or return the favor. When you give from your heart everyone benefits in positive ways, and perhaps, you the most.

‘I had the blues because I had no shoes. Until the day I walked the street. I saw a man who had no feet.’ Dennis Waitley

Really do count your blessings daily it will transform your life. Take the time to do this. Once you begin you won’t want to stop. It will make you feel good. Take a daily and nightly inventory. Let your mind return to positive thoughts of gratitude throughout each day. As you do this life will become a real celebration!

Decades ago in my live workshops (and today) I had students make it a practice to find no less than 25 things they were grateful for every night before they went to bed. They could also do it upon arising. There were those who groaned at the initial suggestion. Some would come back into the seminar room the following day or two and exclaim they could not get to 25. But within days miracle of miracles occurred. Without fail all the students would find more than 25 and then ask if they could write down more than the 25 assigned. OF COURSE THEY COULD!

a man sees in the world what he carries in his heart

In my Mind Design programs we practice gratitude, laughter, finding the good and new in each moment, adding novelty by doing routine things, habitual things, in new ways. I encouraged these and many more simple, little things that have a profound effect. We  do contralateral movements known as cross crawling, some breathing and movement exercise, and we dance, we learn to ask and utilize Directed Questions to get better results. The key is to learn to approach everything in a relaxed, carefree, stress free way with positive expectations.

Lives were transformed and continue to be transformed doing little things daily. I share many of these with you in this blog. I hope you will take them to heart.

Everyday you, and only you, can make the decision to be happy and have a great day no matter what  circumstances appear. When you feel good most of the time you begin making happen your dreams, goals and desires. You can easily transform your entire experience when you keep your focus on the positive. Remember the reasons to be thankful. Think well of yourself and others. Expect the best at all times no matter what. Make this a daily practice and you will be amazed.

You begin attracting and getting what you want because you radiate and reflect that kind of positive energy. When you feel marvelous you accept and are able to allow what you want in life to come to you. You more easily recognize opportunity. You attract to yourself quality people, events and circumstances because you make these happen. YOU actually attract quality! When you feel good everything you desire can come into your life.

Feel good right now. That is the goal. Choose to feel great in the present. Today, I’ve mentioned two methods you can do to immediately start to begin feeling better, and to begin feeling good. When you feel good now you open the flood gates of the future! Life is truly exciting and wonderful! Life becomes grand!  ” Rex Sikes

What can you do today to make it incredible for yourself and someone else?

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How To STOP Negative Goal Setting And Be Free

water cant sink a ship

“It has been said that fear and anxiety, worry is negative goal setting. When you worry you are planning to have the very thing you don’t want. STOP! Once you discover yourself doing this STOP IT.

Stop planning for negatives, stop attracting what you don’t want and change it to what you do want. Recognize that you were behaving a certain way, stop it, and begin to behave and think in a new way.

Awareness in the moment is the key. Once you recognize you are acting in less than productive ways you can decide to stop and change it. As long as you are ignorant of the fact there will be no difference. Be thankful when your feel bad because that is a signal you can use to make the change. It is a signal alerting you that you have the opportunity to make a choice.

Either continue to do what you have been doing and keep getting what you do not want OR take charge and make a change right this moment to get what you want to have. You can change in this very instant. Be thankful you recognized the signal.  Be thankful it got your attention, finally!

You can’t eliminate negative thoughts  BUT you can transmute them into positive, productive, powerful thoughts. When you transform your thinking you transform your life. Now is your opportunity.

Whenever you are thinking less than gloriously stop and begin to think about what you are grateful for. Make a list and write down who you love, like and appreciate. Consider when and where you are lucky to have certain people in your life; your family, friends, co-workers, boss, employees. Remember who appreciates you too!

your mind is garden grow flowers or weeds

Take an inventory of the things you do have and the things you do that you feel  glad about. Look around at all the reasons you have to feel thankful. Look for love, peace, harmony, well-being, health, friendship, relaxation, pleasure, confidence. Anything and everything!

Change your focus. Stop worry, fear, anxiety, depression, feeling sorry for yourself and transform it. Steer yourself gently back to feeling better bit by bit.  Focus on what you have and what you want in your life. Imagine the better future. See yourself already in possession of what you want, living the life you dream. Visualize it vividly and often. Feel wonderful as you do. Enjoy theses feelings. Be enthusiastic!

You can’t move forward thinking backward thoughts. You need to place your attention, your concentration and your energy into what you do want and keep it there. You don’t get healthy by thinking unhealthy thoughts. You don’t get rich by thinking how broke you are. You move forward by determining where you want to end up.

Some people may use ‘bad times’ and ‘lack’ to motivate them. They say ‘Never Again!’ or ‘I won’t be poor’, and then they turn their back on the negative. Then they put their energy into creating and moving toward what they do want. They shift their focus from the painful stimulus to the positive prize and go after the prize. They keep their focus consistent. They do not let anything prevent them, no matter what.

The difference between those born to privilege, the silver spooners, and the rest of the population, is that the silver spoon mindset never considers that they can’t, or that they won’t succeed. If they want something they feel entitled to it.  The  born wealthy assume they can and will have it. They don’t doubt or fear not getting it. Yes, they are raised this way! Yes, they may even feel superior and snobby.

don't sit around waiting forwaever

YOU can begin to think this way without being a snob. You can begin to realize if you want anything in this world you deserve it.  You are as much entitled to it as anyone else. We all are! There is a legal, healthy way to make it happen for yourself when you first start believing that YOU can make it happen. Develop a positive, productive, powerful, CAN DO mindset!

As you do these things consistently you form a positive habit. Do these, when you don’t need to do them, so that when you do need them you are prepared. Do these things repeatedly and  you will build a habit that works automatically and reliably for you. Learn to face hard times with a smile knowing you can get through anything you are presented with AND YOU WILL! Become unstoppable.

Appreciate the present! Celebrate everything. Seek to feel wonderful each moment. Set your positive goals and make them happen. The more you do this the easier it becomes and the more time you will spend living this way! You will shift the balance of your thoughts, feelings, behavior and life to the positive. Your life will become so much more wonderful! Enjoy it, delight in it. Start now.

It all begins with thought. It begins with your own personal power and energy. Stop giving attention to what you do not want and give your attention and energy to that which you do. Create and attract what is good for you. ” Rex Sikes

Find fun, humor and laughter whenever and wherever you can today!

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The Power of Thinking Positive! PT 9 How To Tell If You Are On Target

what you do makes a difference - decide

This will be very plain and very simple. The goal of positive thinking is to feel incredible and live the live you deserve and can have. The point of it all is to live joyously and completely. When you are feeling marvelous, your thoughts and feelings are aligned, you feel whole, complete and congruent.

When you are living like this most of the time you are living more stress free, and much more resourcefully. When you are filled with joy and gratitude life is outstanding at all levels. When you live and think and act from this you are able to make your dreams and goals come true. Your life is magical and each moment miraculous!

Continued from: The Power of Thinking Positive! How To Make Your Thoughts Work For You Parts 1-8

The point of taking charge and control of your thoughts is to have a fantastic experience daily, from moment to moment. Each and every moment can be a outstanding!

So here is where the rubber meets the road. You either believe you can be this kind of person, do these kind of things and have a wonderful life or you do not. If you don’t believe it, you could?

Whatever stops you from deciding to make your life awesome are your reasons and excuses and they will remain as long as you allow them to. When you are done with them you will shed them as you do old ill-fitting clothes. You will drop them and no longer think about them but you will rid yourself of that limiting thinking. So what are you waiting for?

what you think about yourself is more important than what others do

Here are the important questions you can ask moment to moment through out each day:

Do you feel great or not? If not do whatever it takes and think whatever it takes to feel better. Steer back to the best feeling you can find at this time. Keep moving incrementally until you work your way up into feeling wonderful. It may take time but you can do it. Take it bit by bit.

Negative feelings are signals that you are off track.  Appreciate these feelings, these signals, because they are letting you know you need to make some adjustments in order to experience well-being. Pain is a signal that something needs attention. Be glad you have these signals and use them to move from the  less than glorious into the glorious.

Are you closer or further away from your goal? If you think about your goal and feel good, you feel eager and excited you are moving toward your goal.  If you feel less than glorious you are moving away from your goal. It is that simple! Either you are or you aren’t and your feelings let you know which is the case.

Make the adjustments you need to again feel wonderful about your goal. Move towards itl only as quickly as you are able to maintain feeling good about it. Begin to feel gratitude, appreciate the now, your present! Focus on what you want to have and not the circumstances you may find yourself in. SHIFT your focus. Move incrementally back on course.  Utilize everything I have been sharing in these blog posts. The goal is to feel good!

Are you on base or off base? Shift back on track. That simple!

everyday u make a choice

Do you want  dog crap or diamonds? Stop wallowing in the negative. Stop spending your time in less than glorious states and places. Move toward the best feeling you can find. Inch by inch make your way to the positive. Make it better bit by bit. The goal is to enjoy your life.

You navigation system, you guidance system, your feedback system is very simple. Either you feel good or you don’t.

When you are feeling good you are vibrating at a higher level, able to attract and create more of what you want. You are moving toward getting what you want and attracting good things to you. You radiate positive energy and resourcefulness.

So through out the day consider, ‘Am I feeling good right now?’ If not do what you have to to feel better.

When you are feeling less than good it is a signal to make whatever changes you need to feel better. Get back on track. Think better thoughts, take a walk, get a massage, treat yourself to something nice that helps you feel better. Do something positive. Enjoy life, enjoy each of your moments!

The more wonderful moments we have the more we spend time feeling good the more life is awesome! Remember,  we get and we become what we think about most often.

Use these indicators to steer yourself back to center.

Consider this: Aim at your target and nothing else.

The goal is to feel wonderful! You deserve to be filled with joy, love, peace, confidence, health, wealth, well-being and all wonderful things.

Make it a point to monitor your feelings and choose to feel wonderful.

When you fire at a target you look to where you want to hit and focus on that. You are not concerned with anything else, anything other than where you want the projectile to land.

The problem with most people is they get distracted by everything except the bullseye and they allow it to interfere with making their dreams come true.

Everything off the target isn’t relevant to what you want to hit. It is a distraction or it is an excuse. When you pay attention to anything other than what you want to hit, or where you want to go,  you are off course and not getting closer to getting what you want. You are actually creating interference between you and what you want.

Do not let any present circumstances dictate how you feel. That is putting you attention off the bullseye. Yes, they may require action but keep your focus on the bullseye, the positive, your goal, and stay feeling wonderful.

choose to be happy

Even though things aren’t going well it doesn’t mean that you must feel less than glorious. That is an old way of being. You can feel glorious even when the shit hits the fan AND when you do you are much more resourceful and able to resolve whatever has ever gone awry. Do not be a victim to circumstances, events, people or your own thinking.

Remember the purpose of thinking positive is to feel wonderful and to live marvelously. The better you feel, the more you enjoy, the more you are able to do and pursue what you love and are passionate about. Find the reasons and the excuses to feel wonderful all of the time. Focus on positive thoughts and feelings.

Use the signals you get to return to feeling marvelous any time you aren’t. Be gentle, and relaxed. Don’t get caught up in criticizing yourself when things aren’t perfect. Let it go and continue moving forward. Ease on down the road. Drop by drop fills the tub. Be patient with yourself you are learning to do new things. Celebrate everything!

Life is a plentiful, abundant, delightful and delicious buffet. Enjoy the delights and blessings and pass over and ignore the rest. It is in your hands. You are the one who decides and who chooses. Don’t waste time thinking about what you don’t like or want. SPEND all of your time thinking about how wonderful things are now and in the future. Think about what you DO want and DO enjoy!

As you do this daily, filling yourself up with wonderful, positive, powerful energy you are becoming more and more of what you want to be. As you steer back to the positive whenever you notice a signal that you may be off track you are building an amazing ability. Through repetition living wonderfully gets easier and easier and you spend more and more time feeling wonderful. You tip the scales in your favor. The goal is to feel good!

All the while you continue to do these things and you stick with it consistently you are creating a reliable automatic habit.

Soon you will be delighted to find yourself naturally living more optimistically and vibrantly. You will surprise yourself with how much fun and ecstasy you can discover. You and your life will be transformed in unbelievably positive ways.

Either you believe it if or you don’t. You either believe you can be this kind of person, do these kind of things and have a wonderful life or you do not. If you don’t believe it, you could?

Whatever stops you from deciding to make your life awesome are your reasons and excuses and they will remain as long as you allow them to. When you are done with them you will shed them as you do old ill-fitting clothes. You will drop them and no longer think about them but you will rid yourself of that limiting thinking.

So what are you waiting for? Make your life grand!” Rex Sikes

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The Power of Thinking Positive! PT 8 How To Get Unstuck

a step in the right direction the future

If you were in a canoe in the middle of a large river or lake and suddenly needed to be on the shore you know that you cannot teleport. You can’t jump that far either. At the same time you know you need to keep an eye on where you are headed. Negative self talk and staring at the canoe bottom won’t get you there any faster.  You have to navigate to where you need to and want to be.

Continued from: The Power of Thinking Positive! How To Make Your Thoughts Work For You Parts 1-7

So you paddle. Each stroke gets you there bit by bit. With consistent effort you get there eventually. The time will go by swifter if you are in a good frame of mind rather than a poor frame of mind. We all know this about the passage of time. The point is you can’t jump, you can’t make that large of a leap. You have to get to the shoreline incrementally. You get closer with each paddle you make.

Sometimes we discover that we are in a funk and we want to feel better.  We want to feel ecstasy but that is too big a leap from where you are at. You have to incrementally move toward ecstasy one paddle at a time.

First, maybe you need to take a walk, calm down, talk it out to dissipate the energy, use some relaxation methods or NLP technique to chill and get some distance. You need to get into neutral and from neutral move forward toward ecstasy. Remember, you move forward one paddle stroke at a time.

For example: Eventually, you  move  from devastation to okay, then from okay to not so bad, then on to feeling better and from better to amused. Then you move from amused to calm well being  and from there toward a subtle happiness. From happiness you move to exhilaration and from there to ecstasy. You do it in steps or stages moving only as fast as you can change from one feeling to the next better one. Don’t rush.

sometimes we need to be shaken up

Some form of this process occurs when left alone. When you don’t actually seem to do anything. This is what can happen anyway given enough time. ‘Time heals all wounds.’ The healing occurs as we move from the one  stuck state bit by bit to other emotional states of being.

We eventually move on and leave the less than glorious feelings behind. This IS what happens when we say time heals all wounds. You begin to get free to behave  in other ways. Actually, you do participate in the process but very, very slowly and mostly outside of consciousness. It just seems as if time is the great healer but,in reality, it is the changes you adopt during the lengthy time frame that are.

To take charge of your feelings means you become aware and recognize where you are at. You acknowledge where you are  and accept it. You allow it, even thank it, because it is a signal. You may not feel total gratitude at first but go through this process enough times and you’ll get better at it.  Through spaced repetition it will become automatic.

Be grateful when you recognize that you are stuck or resisting. It could be your own thoughts and feelings or behaviors that you resist. You could be resisting another person who presents a challenge, or events and circumstances that aren’t to your liking. Whatever it is, once you recognize it or become aware of it in the moment, you then feel thankful that you are moving into freedom to feel and be anything else.

From stuck (which you know you don’t want) you have to choose  what you’d rather feel instead. It should be different than what you are currently feeling and just a little bit better or more positive. If you are depressed anger would be a more positive step because when angry you tend to do things. You are active and engaged when feeling anger.

You choose  baby steps back toward feeling awesome. There are signals that accompany each step. If you take too big a leap and you feel frustrated, or saddened or worse, go back and make a tiny step.

u have within u whatever u need

Do not get caught up in thinking about things too much. Let go. If you can’t easily decide on what the next baby step is then just take a guess. GUESS! Guess whatever feeling state might be more appropriate to move to. Try it

If you get a signal  that what you tried isn’t the right one, guess again. Repeat this until you get the relief. When you do this you learn a great many things and train yourself to be so much more resourceful. I will address more of this later. When you can’t consciously pick a more resourceful state  trust your inner wisdom by taking a guess. Both work! You can be delightfully surprised.

Anytime, ANYTIME,  you encounter negative feelings or feeling stuck or resistance, you course correct. You move back toward neutral and then back toward positive. This is what  a guidance system does, this is what happens in autopilot. This is what you would do if you were driving to another city and you discovered you went off the course. You would turn around and course correct. You navigate back to where you want to end up.

This is what I mean by controlling you emotions. When you take charge of your thinking and feeling you do not force yourself to feel other than you do. What we feel is important and we can feel many things. You do not invalidate your feelings all of them are valuable.

This is an incredible skill to learn and as with all skills you learn by doing. The more you have an opportunity to do this, to repeat it, and you make the correct actions the faster you make it a positive habit.

You learn how to let go and accept whenever it is necessary. You validate all emotions.  Pain is an indicator that something needs attention in the body or the psyche  so that it can be healed and resolved.  We may not like the sensations but the signals are there for very important reasons. The signals are their to get our attention so that we engage in the correct actions to remedy what is wrong.

your best teacher your last mistake

If you hurt yourself of feel ill the signals are their for you to seek attention, stop activity that might further  injure, rest, relax and recover. Pain serves a very useful and important function.

Many people  tend to fight and ignore the signals until the problem is larger than it would have been had they caught it early enough. If we are able to catch the beginning point of the emotion we can prevent what is called ’emotional flooding’ wherein we get saturated with feelings from the chemicals surging inside us.

When the sensations are wonderful we don’t mind so much but if they are painful we don’t like it and resist it. Then we hurt all the more.  Imagine a snowball on the top of a huge mountain. If it rolls down it gathers snow becomes very large and practically unstoppable. The more it travels and the larger it becomes the more momentum it has. It can devastate everything in its path.

In order  to stop the negative feelings we have to  catch the feelings when they are only a tiny snow ball atop the mountain. If we can catch them when we first get the signal we can prevent them from becoming to large.  The opportunity presents itself each time we feel less than glorious. The signal is there for us to pay attention to.

The signal is there from the onset.  What each of us needs to do is learn to recognize it and acknowledge it. Accept it, be grateful we got the signal and then nudge ourselves to feel something a little less ‘bad’. We nudge ourselves toward feeling a little more positive. This is how we can prevent the snowball from crushing the village below. We circumvent the disaster when we learn to do things a new way.

You can do this. It is possible. It gets easier and easier. Trust me you don’t have to find times to do this exercise they will seem to appear all on their own. You simply want to take advantage of them as they occur.You may make mistakes, that is okay. You may have been doing things another way for much of your life. When you begin to learn to do things in a new way there is a learning curve so be gentle with yourself. Whenever you notice yourself thinking or feeling less than glorious give yourself a gentle nudge.

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For more than 20 years in my live seminars I have taught this and other powerful processes that countless students have used with great success. It works. They did it so can you!

Here is some very good news.  If any one human can learn to do anything all the rest can too. While it is true that some may be naturally better than others ANYONE can learn what another person has learned to do.

If you are 4’6 you may not get to play basktetball with the giants but you can become the best 4’6 basketball player to ever hit the courts. You have to know that the potential resides in you. It lies dormant until it is awakened.  You awake it  by determining what you want, defining your goal, and pursuing it passionately.

It doesn’t matter how young or old you are, tall or short, fat or thin, the color of your skin, your nationality, your religion or politics. Within you is great potential! Do not let it go to waste. Do not let anything stop you. Never let a ‘negative’ thought or feeling prevent you from living the life you deserve. Pursue your passions and make your dreams come true.” Rex Sikes

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The Power Of Thinking Positive PT 4 Repetition: What You Need To Understand

we first make our habits then our habits make us

Our world functions repetitively. Day becomes night, seasons come and go, you wake up, follow a routine, work, play, watch the same TV shows and do it all over again and again. Our lives our based on repetition and habit. Repetition by itself can be powerful. You know that you can expect results when you correctly repeat exercises. When you repeatedly practice any skill you get better at it.

Continued from: The Power of Thinking Positive! How To Make Your Thoughts Work For You Parts 1- 3.

Advertisers know that repetition and repeated exposure creates awareness and brand identity. It has been said and demonstrated that ‘a lie repeated long enough and often enough becomes substituted for the truth’. Governments and advertisers have prospered and benefited from propaganda. So a lie constantly stated can become believed and accepted as truth.

An affirmation isn’t a lie it is an accurate statement. It may feel like or seem like a lie because you don’t think it applies to you. It may not be in your thinking or view of yourself or the world to accept it as a fact. So for you it may not seem true. But it can be true for you. It can become your truth!

Advertisers, media, politicians and all governments know (and they have invested billions in researching this area), that if you constantly present a notion, by repetition, to people  many of  they will gradually come to accept it.

Researchers also discovered that people  will usually become more tolerant when repeatedly exposed to other people, other ideas and practices. We become less afraid and more accepting of that which is familiar. We find areas of commonality or overlap and we become more accepting.

We allow more and are more willing to entertain notions the more we see or hear them. This is why radio, TV, magazine, billboard and all media advertising is effective.  It is through repeated exposure that ideas can become more acceptable to us. Do you think all the billions would be spent if it didn’t work?

you are going to be great keep on going

Even fears and phobias can be overcome by the appropriate repeated exposure to what is feared. Systematic Desensitization is a method of safely exposing the person bit by bit to what they fear most. It works.

Studies suggest we tolerate more televised violence when we repeatedly watch violent and horrific shows and news. We become less sensitive to it. Lies become accepted as true, violence becomes less horrible, people and concepts become more familiar when exposed to them enough times. It works.

So when you repeat affirmations over and over again your resistance to these ideas breaks down. Gradually, you begin to accept and believe them. Ultimately, you embrace these new thoughts and begin to operate from them. You make them your own thinking and your new beliefs. You do this by constantly exposing your mind to the positive ideas!

Repetition works and there is a way to make sure it works even better. Advertisers, media, military and governments know that to make this process maximally effective you have to emotionally hook or involve the person. YOUR emotions are the key. YOUR strong emotions are the mechanism that makes this work faster and efficiently.

So while repeating an affirmation such as, ‘everyday in every way I am getting better and better’ lifelessly may transform you, it may take a a very long time. It can work but there is a more effective way to insure success. You do want success don’t you?

To get the most powerful results you pair your affirmation with tremendous positive energy while you think and say them. For affirmations to work the best and the swiftest they need to be repeated with dynamic energy and enthusiasm.  The stronger your feelings the more you reinforce whatever is going on.

you are creating it

Do you understand this process? Your life already works this way. You have unwittingly engaged in this process again and again. Sometimes you got good results, sometimes poor results, sometimes wishy washy results. What you did not get is consistent positive results. You used this process haphazardly and without conscious determined awareness. You having been doing this all along!

Your emotions paired with your thoughts have already programmed you. Your emotions lock in your thinking. Now it is time to take charge and deliberately control what you think and do and what you get back. To use an analogy, your ship has been drifting and now it is time for you take control and steer it to where you want it to go. You choose the destination and you get it there! (The appropriate designation for ship would be to use ‘her’, when referring to the ship. I didn’t).

There is good news! You don’t have to learn to do anything new. You are already doing what works but you have been using it poorly. You have been effectively using this process, without awareness, over and over again to get what you didn’t want. Now, instead, begin using it purposefully to get what you DO want!

All you have to do NOW is begin to make a few adjustments and you can get on track to get what you want. You use what you already do naturally, but you use it in a NEW way.

Now, emphasize the positive most of the time and let go of the negative.  Accentuate the positive and fill yourself up with positive powerful energy. Keep your positivity banks full, more full than the negativity bank.  Go for 70% 80% 90% positive and you will experience great changes.

So what to do?

First, you have to decide that YOU want to make the change and that you will begin. You choose. Then you aim your mind toward what is good and new and delightful. Aim your mind at what you want and focus on that intently. You concentrate your energy and your thinking on the positive and let go of the negative.

you are an abundant divine being

One key to finding the positive energy and enthusiasm is to look at what you are already grateful for in your past and present life. Take an inventory of all that you are thankful for, all that feels good, whatever you have accomplished, anything and everything, and everyone and accentuate it. Do this everyday! Do it morning and at night and re-visit it during the day.

Focus on the sense of thankfulness and stay with the appreciation. Look around you at everything that is good and that uplifts you. Remember, what we focus on expands. We get and become what we think about most often. What we hold in our mind we can some day hold in our hand.

Read inspirational material everyday. Fill your mind with strong positive messages. Make it a habit to feed yourself positive food for thought daily. Commit to reading at least a page. You can do at least one page! Certainly, you can do more if you want. Make the commitment to never go a day without at least reading one page of positive, inspirational, motivational, nutritional messages. You can do this!

Listen to audio programs and watch motivational videos. There is plenty of free material on the internet. Turn your drive time into inspirational and educational time.

If you are typically dour, or unable to find anything, then you may have to  pull yourself up using your own boot straps. Take a walk, and emphatically with powerful determination chant an affirmation. Repeat it while exercising, do jumping jacks or something that gets all of your being, inside and out, moving.  Move vigorously. Remember what the military does to train troops. Find a buddy to partner, if that helps. Share your inspiration and enthusiasm! Put a program of action to work for yourself. Even if all this comes easy for you you can do these things too if you like.

Add delight, enjoyment, enthusiasm, eagerness, positive feelings, happiness, and excitement when you think and repeat your affirmations. Do this morning and night and throughout the day. Sing them, chant them, shout them in your car with a smile. Add uplifting energy to your affirmations. Make each of your moments count. Write them out and put them where you will see them.

I’ll share more next time. One of my favorite thoughts I use as an affirmation is a biblical saying ‘ this is the day the lord has made, rejoice and be glad in it’. It reminds me to be thankful, and to look for the good. I want to begin the day with gratitude and rejoicing. I return to this thought frequently throughout the day and at times when difficulty presents itself.

I think, ‘It is all good. Good things are happening even though I don’t know what they are, yet. Everything always works out for the best. Everything will work out because this is  the day the lord hath made, rejoice and be glad in it.’

when you change the way you look at things

Remember the more you do the more you are able to do. The more you feel good and think positive the more you will make that happen for yourself. The more you will benefit because you take action and start the process. Train yourself to feel good and to look for the good and that is what you will find and have.

If you get off base nudge yourself back to the positive. When you steer yourself back to what you want, when you steer back to the positive you begin to send a clear single powerful message to your unconscious servo mechanism that this is what you want more of.

I repeat: YOU focus on what YOU want. Concentrate on it and fill your mind and being with good thoughts and feelings. If you get off base steer back to the positive. Course correct and get back on course. Always aim at your target and nowhere else!

When you maintain this practice you inform your unconscious servant that this is what you want ALL the time. Program your brain, your mind and being for success. Determine what you want and forgo what you don’t just as when you are at a buffet table. As you do this repeatedly, through time, you are developing positive habits which work automatically.

These are the seeds you  plant. Expect to reap good things when you plant good strong seeds. You WILL reap if YOU first plant them.

This is necessary to understand.  PLANT positive seeds and NURTURE them to fruition. They will grow and flower and you will benefit again and again as they do. EXPECT a great harvest. When the time comes you will REAP even more of the benefits. Actually, you will benefit all along the way. It IS a very enjoyable process once you begin.” Rex Sikes

Enjoy today.  Amaze yourself with what wonderful moments you can discover!

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The Power Of Thinking Positive PT 3 How To Start Getting What You Want!

your only limits

“Quantity is one thing. How much, how often, for how long is necessary to consider, it is important, but quality matters too. It matters a lot! Some people lifelessly repeat an affirmation perhaps thousands of times expecting it to somehow transform them. It usually doesn’t. It may, but rarely. Listless repeating of a phrase is not the correct application of this practice.

It is not the words that make the difference but the energy behind the words. That is the ‘special something’ required that makes it work.

We continue from The Power of Thinking Positive! How To Make Your Thoughts Work For You Parts 1 and 2.

Since we get back whatever we are thinking about and feeling strongly about now is the time to consider choosing what one wants instead of allowing for whatever happens.

When we are angry or fearful we are thinking and feeling powerful thoughts which the unconscious mind receives as a message to deliver more of the same. It gets the energy of the thoughts and feelings.

Instead of letting this negativity go on and on we need to first decide to change it and begin having the life and getting the things we want. This is why we choose to focus on what we want. We shift our attention and our energy.

To make this shift  we chose positive powerful thoughts and ideas to think. We choose to affirm instead of deny. We choose affirmations we want to focus on to direct our attention to those aspects of life we want to include and get for ourselves.

you can become anyone you want to be

It is a means of directing our attention so that we PAY ATTENTION and concentrate on these. Whatever we hold most in our mind most often is what we get and become.

Everything is Energy!

A person should choose an affirmation and put power behind it. It requires energy and enthusiasm when you think and utter the affirmation. Emotion and energy IS what makes the difference! Sadly, these are  what is left out of affirmation training. Yes, I said training because just like exercise or dieting it means adhering to the program.

Energy and enthusiasm is important. Big emotions are what capture the attention of the unconscious (servo-mechanism) mind.

Everything is energy!

When we feel bad we are feeling and endorsing that energy. When we feel good we are feeling and endorsing that energy. Whatever energy we experience most determines what our life is like.

Everything is energy!

Positive Thinking Training – Train your mind to see the good things in everything. When you focus on the positive energy you find more of it.

The military understands how to transform a human’s thinking. They make troops chant, scream, sing what they want to instill in them during all different forms of physical activity, stress, exhilaration and exhaustion. They want their training to stick so that lives are saved.

They train rigorously so that when the troop needs to react without thinking the troop will. If some one yells ‘hit the dirt’ they must without hesitation or thinking about it. Therefore they undergo intense physical, mental and attitudinal training to wire in what is critical to their survival. They want it automatic and reliable.

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Stay with it. Never give up! IT will get easier as you go along. Your skills and abilities increase with practice in time. You will get better and it will get easier. BUT even if it never got any easier you should stay with it. When you make having it a necessity you will get it.

Passion drives everything. When ‘YOU MUST’ is what opens the doors. Wimpy and shallow doesn’t get the prize. Think Olympic contenders and what they do for years to compete for seconds. Their attitude and their training is rigorous. Their attitude and training determines how far they can go. Even if they fail to win the gold they are in the top tier of world class athletes.

Using affirmations and learning to embody the practice can be a whole lot more fun and less stressful than military training, it can be wonderful, but there are take away points to utilize from that style of immersion. Troops undergo intense process, it is highly emotional, and there is little let up during the training.

Keep in mind the military is attempting to break the habitual thinking the troop has when they arrive at camp and instill a new one. Frankly, it is brainwashing. Whether you agree or disagree with the practice or the military is a consideration for a different discussion. I am not agreeing nor disagreeing with it but utilizing aspects to make a point.

Brains could use a good washing from time to time. If you have habitually a bad attitude and aren’t getting the results you want then a change may be in order. If you want to transform and if you want it to be different IT absolutely can be. But there is a price for that change. The price is what you are willing to do to have what you want (legally of course). That does not mean we become what we wish about.

Rather, we become what we obsess about, what we are passionate about, what we feel strongly about. That includes the good feelings and what we fear, loathe and are angry about. We become whatever we hold in our minds strongly with strong feelings. We get back whatever we give the energy to. This is why it is important to realize that positive thinking is a choice.

you are entirely up to you

It means you begin the program and stay with it for however long it takes. If it took 3 months, 1 year, 5 years or longer you stick with it. You decide to dedicate yourself to yourself! You chose to do everything you can to be the person you want to be no matter how long it takes. You don’t dabble or drift, you pursue it and passionately. Passion fuels everything! Passion is the fire and you need the fire!

We will continue next time. For now know that learning to be more positive can be one of the most joyous and delightful journeys you ever take. I use the examples of the military and athlete training as examples of how far people are willing to go to get what they want.

You can train hard for certain just as you can work hard. OR you can learn to be both smart and wise and learn how to enjoy and delight in the process. The art and science of getting what you what you want in life doesn’t need to be arduous or difficult but it is not pie in the sky either.

You can find and have more fun than you every thought possible, you can celebrate and discover all sorts of marvelous feelings and experiences along the way. It can be like a buffet and you can have all the wonderful delicious things too.

It is true you can’t give up along the way to your destination and still expect to get there because you won’t. BUT you can make the journey so incredible, so marvelous that giving up would never ever occur to you. So get everything you deserve to have and start today!” Rex Sikes

Look for good things all around you and enjoy making today marvelous!

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The Power Of Thinking Positive PT 2 How To Stop Getting What You Don’t Want!

we are what we repeatedly do

“Our unconscious mind (the servo mechanism) does not distinguish between good or bad, right or wrong, the wanted or unwanted. It just goes wherever you place your attention. Whatever you focus on it works to create, manifest or attract. It doesn’t care it is simply blindly obedient. Whatever you think about most of the time and feel emotional about you end up getting more of in your life.

This unconscious servant works perfectly and reliably. The results you get in life are due to your attention and feelings. What you focus on is what you get and become.

This point is important as we continue our discussion on Positive Thinking. Continued from: The Power of Thinking Positive! How To Make Your Thoughts Work For You.

When you feel frustrated, angry, disappointed, annoyed, sad, stressed, doubt, afraid, anxious, fearful, any less than glorious feeling you are reinforcing that feeling in your body and your mind.

The unconscious mechanism runs off our feelings. Whatever we experience strongly it works to reinforce, re-create and bring us more of. It is as if this servant thinks, ‘if this is what the human wants, okay let’s give the human more!’

The same is true when we feel happy, joy, bliss, confidence, love, peace, calm, whatever we feel strongly the unconscious mind works to deliver more of. This is why it is important for us to choose what we think about and how we feel.

Every emotion is an important one. You and I will at times experience them all. All emotions are part of being human. Contrast is a part of the human and experience in our universe. There is hot, cold, light, dark, day, night, near, far, fast, slow, tall, short, fat, thin, rough, smooth, black, white, red, green, good, bad, wanted and unwanted, happy, sad, confident, not-confident and many more.

All of these contrasts we notice through our five senses.  In order to notice the difference between these some  form of evaluation is necessary. Some could be noticed without judgement or with judgement.

For example, something could be near or far away. That may not require any feeling about it but one could judge it as either better or worse. Humans label and humans judge. One might feel it is better if it were nearer or if it farther away.

we are our choices

Whatever the distance is JUST IS. The human decides whether it is a good or bad thing. Sometimes this works in the human’s favor and at other times it presents a limitation or difficulty for the human.

Whatever we feel about these constitutes an opinion. We all know what they say about opinions right? We all have them but they do not make anything inherently right or wrong. We just think our opinions matter.

The same is true about emotions. They are all valid. They are all important. We will experience all or most of them during our lifetime. This is a given. Just as when you pick up a stick from the ground you pick up both ends of the stick. So all emotions are part of being human and Positive Thinking IS NOT about ignoring or blocking emotions.

Since we have the potential to feel an emotional range accept that. We shouldn’t fight our emotions we should accept and allow them. Feeling is what being human is all about.

When we have the less than glorious emotions or something that we do not want acknowledge them and then, when ready, move on. We do not have to be stuck there. We do not have to be in a place we don’t want to be, or at least not for very long.

I use the analogy of the buffet. If there are food items you don’t like or don’t want you don’t choose them. If you take something you don’t like and you think, ‘yuk’ you put it down and move onto something else you do like.

If there is a food you spot that you abhor you know you don’t want it so you are free not to have it. You are also free to choose whatever else you do prefer. You do not keep reliving the moment you chose to eat a food you don’t like. You let it go and move on.

In the same way if there is a feeling we don’t want acknowledge it and move on. When we fight the feeling we get stuck in the fighting of it. What we resist persists. SO acknowledge, accept, let go and then turn your back on it and nudge yourself in the direction you want to go.

Yes, gently you turn your back on the unwanted thought or feeling and take a small step toward the ones you do want. Move in increments toward the positive. Take baby steps. Steer back to center as I have mentioned numerous times before.

The key is you. You are either in control or you are not. You either choose what to experience or you don’t. It may seem tough because most of us were not educated that we could do this as we grew up so it seems foreign or difficult. Like any other skill or talent it can be learned. Yes, it can be learned and you can learn it!

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Since the unconscious works to manifest more of whatever we feel strongly the POWER of positive thinking IS in choosing what we want to manifest for ourselves.  It is a choice point for each of us.

Positive thinking is about making a decision in the moment. You make the decision to think better, more productively than you may have been. Positive thinking IS A CHOICE!

Just like the buffet items are choices.  Either you want it or you don’t. If you don’t want it you let it go and decide to enjoy something you do want. You turn your attention to what you like and find delicious. You move on down the line choosing what you want.

This is precisely the same thing we ought to do with out thoughts and feelings!

We choose what we enjoy and find wonderful then we reinforce it. We savor it, bask in it, imbibe it, fill ourselves up with it, spend the bulk of our time there, put our awareness or attention on it and think about it and feel good more of our time than otherwise.

When something comes up that is unwanted, yes, we notice it and gently turn our attention back to what we want as soon as we are able. Sometimes we take longer sometimes we can adjust more quickly. We move on to what we do want and not give another thought to what we don’t want JUST as we do in a buffet line.

We develop the habit of FOCUSING on and CHOOSING what we want.

We develop the habit of SPENDING time with what we want to feel and enjoy.

When something comes up that is less than glorious we develop the habit of NOTICING it and then TURNING OUR ATTENTION back to what we want as soon as possible.

We develop the habit of MOVING BACK TOWARD what we want when we are off track. We steer to center.

We are learning to make new abilities automatic and reliable through repetition.

your thoughts become words

Naturally we end up spending a greater portion of our time  becoming aware, focusing on and thinking positive thoughts and feeling positive feelings as we do this.

The greater proportion of our time devoted to the positive the more we create and attract greater positive results. WE get and we become what we think about most of the time, This is why WHAT WE CHOOSE to focus on is important!

Think pleasure and pain. Which do you want more of? Which do you want to spend most of your day feeling? It seems a no brainer to me, but apparently not everyone thinks the same way.

What we do is reinforce what we want to think, be, do and have.  We reinforce what we want to feel.  We concentrate on that which makes us feel alive, vibrant, confident, positive so that we are more resourceful most of the time.

The key is in reinforcing what we want more of and letting go of that which we don’t want. It is not really a difficult concept for most to understand, yet, many do. We are telling our brain, our mind, the servo mechanism, our being, we want THIS, not that.

We want more of this and less of that. Whenever we steer our feelings and thoughts to what we want we are educating our servant to give us more of the same.  We focus on what we want on the buffet table and ignore or pass over (without much thought at all) that which we do not want.

you are a living magnet

We don’t give any energy to what we don’t want because that would confuse the poor servant and bring us questionable, lackluster results. ‘Attention flows where the energy goes’ so our servant mind gets that THIS, these positive feelings and thoughts, are what we want more of.  We send it a clear, distinct, definite signal. We provide it a clear, concrete, concise message ‘ GIVE ME MORE OF THIS!!!!

We focus on what we ‘can do’ what we can accomplish, we focus on what we want, how to get there, and solutions. We spend our time looking for and finding the best in ourself, others, circumstances and events. When we do this, repeatedly and often, as a lifestyle we begin to make it an automatic, reliable habit.

The unconscious servant, that doesn’t care about what it delivers, delivers to us what we want. We begin getting the results inside ourself that give us the edge when dealing with the outside. We enhance and improve our abilities and become more resourceful. We become more powerful and positive. We can accomplish more incredible things. ‘The more we do the more we can do’.

As Henry Ford said, ‘Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you are right.’ It is totally and completely up to each of us to determine the present and future we want to have. We decide and we determine the results we want to get.  The saying ‘if it is to be it is up to me’ is one to keep in mind.

Another powerful reminder is, ‘You are where your thoughts brought you. You will go where your thoughts take you. You cannot escape the power of your thoughts’.  Soon I will share more on why we energize with positive feelings and why repetition is required.” Rex Sikes

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