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It’s Best To Stop Fighting And Surrender To Success

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“Is success a struggle? Do you work hard but feel like you are spinning your wheels? Napoleon Hill wrote ‘Think And Grow Rich’ because he discovered modeling and studying 520 of the world’s wealthiest successful people that it was 99% mental and 1% effort.

With the correct mindset action becomes inspired. With the right attitude and beliefs supporting you, you are able to more effectively plan and work your plan, smartly. Work becomes pleasure. You don’t feel like you are working. You love what you do. Still, you work at it!

He pointed out that first you must know your purpose clearly. It should become a passionate burning desire, and you must absolutely believe you can and will make it happen with certainty. Then you must never give up. Learn from obstacles and persist by will power.

Will Power Is A Muscle – The More You Use It The Stronger It Gets

I want to shift our focus today to will power. There are many things Hill added into the mix that are important. Will power is one many people miss today, or so it seems. I also want to provide you with a way of doing things that helps move your forward with your goals.

When I use the term will power I mean that by an act of will you continue on toward your goal or ultimate purpose. It is you doing it from inner strength and fortitude. When I say control your thoughts and persist through will power I mean keep at it. As I think Hill did.

When negative thoughts arise you can acknowledge the thought, even thank it.  Appreciation goes a long way. Then shift your attention to the opposite, the positive thought, think on what you want instead. Re-focus you attention of what you want to include.

Stop Saying I Wish And I Want And I Hope – Start Saying I Will

Drop what you want to exclude. Don’t fight the negative thoughts. Accept, thank and let go. What you resist persists. Don’t wage battle, instead re-direct your attention. Energy flows where your attention goes. Yes, you may have to re-direct any number of times at first.

Eventually, you train you brain, your subconscious, how to work the way you want it to. It is a conditioning process. It is a training process. Be dedicated. Be committed. Be rigorous. Be persistent. BUT you don’t have to fight yourself. It is better if you don’t.

Be gentle. Be accepting. Be forgiving. Be in favor of you. Be encouraging. Be kind. Be friendly. Pat yourself on the back for whatever you do. Even when you don’t do it as you want. You did it however you did it at the time. There is no blame in that. Accept it.

What You Focus On Expands – You Get What You Focus On

Frustration, anger, blame and self-loathing don’t get you where you want to be faster. In fact those tend to prevent you from changing swiftly and easily. So use will power to carry you through and to stick with it but don’t be hard on yourself. Be committed and gentle.

Strength can be many things besides force. Let go. Learn flexibility. Bend don’t break. Shift your attention away from negative thinking toward positive thinking by focusing on what you want, what you like, what you enjoy, what you are grateful for. Place attention there.

Withdraw your attention from what you don’t like, what feels bad, what you don’t want, what is upsetting, what you want to eliminate or exclude and turn it toward what feels better. Place it on what feels the best. The goal: feel as best you can for as much of your time.

When You Stop Struggling – You Float 

If you have to do it 10 times or 100 times a day so what? In the process you are moving from the less than glorious to the glorious. You are shifting your awareness, your attention, your focus, you energy, your vibrations to something positive and good feelings.

You are training yourself to pay attention and enjoy good thoughts and feelings. Eventually, this will become your default setting. You’ll wire in new neural pathways. The negative processes will re-write into positive ones. You’ll develop new success habits of thought.

From a mindset that is predominantly positive you can then accomplish your purpose. Your mindset and attitude, your thoughts and feelings, your beliefs support you. Your act because it feels right. Your actions become inspired and enjoyable instead of dreaded.

Focus: Start Being Positive About What Is Right

Because your thoughts, feelings and actions align you develop positive habits and begin getting more positive results. You have moved from the less than glorious results into new and glorious ones. You trained yourself into having patterns that support you.

So be gentle. Don’t fight it. Go with the flow. When the water is raging go with the flow. People drown more quickly fighting the current. It exhausts them. Going with the current. You can seek to swim toward shore eventually. Keep going in the right direction.

Get it. Let the current carry you too. Use the momentum you create to keep moving forward easily. Stop resisting, keep persisting. All the while enjoy. Delight, be grateful. Discover what you can presently appreciate. Fill yourself with gratitude and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Delight yourself and others today.

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A Critical Understanding: What You Are Not Aware Of Holds You Hostage!

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“Whatever is outside of your awareness runs the show. It is what is going on that you don’t pay attention to that determines whether you get what you want or not. So much of our thinking is automatic and below the threshold of consciousness. It governs everything.

When you begin to take control of your thinking you work with what you are aware of. You change the obvious negative thoughts you encounter into positive. You recite affirmations. You do this a few times a day, consistently and over time. Things begin to shift.

You start experiencing success. You become aware of your thinking and your feeling. You begin to notice whether you feel good most of the time or not. Your life changes. The process takes a while just as it takes a while for a plant to grow from seed to bear fruit. It’s all good.

We Are Fortunate To Become Aware Of The Content Of Our Mind

The subconscious works doing what it learned to do from birth onward. It is a storehouse of automatic habits, beliefs, memories and experiences from which we navigate the world. When we decide to change it’s a conscious decision to change the subconscious process.

I have compared this to the rudder steering a large ship in previous posts. We direct the subconscious, we train and condition it through correct repetition of strong emotions, affirmations and visualization. We do this repetitiously to get it to learn what we want it to now do.

While we learn to be different there still are all these habits of thought that continue. Petty thoughts, sometimes about nothing in particular. We don’t think about them we just think them. We barely ever notice them unless the signal value becomes loud enough.

Once Aware – We Can Move From Chaos And Misery To Bliss

These thoughts dictate our experience. They govern our day. Because we don’t notice them we don’t change them. They are chatter. They are mostly less than glorious, maybe neutral, but make up negative commentary or narration about our daily experiences.

I’ll give you an example I hope illuminates. I am in the lap pool doing laps and enjoying. A woman comes in, could have been anyone actually, man or woman. She is new. She stops me to ask how she gets into my lane. I tell her duck under the buoys. This bothers her.

She doesn’t want to get her hair wet. I noticed when she entered the pool she hadn’t showered. This bothered me. I didn’t say anything. Anyway, she does her thing. Soon, she grabs some floats off the pool side which a handicapped man had been using and takes them.

Become Aware Of What You Are Thinking – You Will Recognize …

He points this out to me. I get out of the pool and go get him some more dumbbell floats and give them to him. She appears oblivious. Too concerned with not getting her hair wet apparently. He thanks me and begins his exercise. I return to my lane and she joins me.

She gets into my lane by going around. Now she moves slowly in front of me. She starts a conversation with another woman in the center lane and they walk slowly. In my lane she moves down the middle arms out to both sides. I am becoming annoyed. It goes on.

I am thinking, who does she think she is? Why does she come here and into my lane? I think, if you are going to be here get wet, go all in. How about being aware of others. There were plenty of floats on the rack why did you just pick the ones at the lane? Soon, I notice.

… A Connection Between Your Mood And Your Circumstances

It wasn’t too long before I began to notice myself feeling less than glorious. My attention had shifted from how much I enjoyed the water, the day, my time in there to how dare this interloper come in here and have no regard for anyone. Who does she think she is?

THEN, I realized I was spiraling downward. I wasn’t angry. I was annoyed. I felt less than glorious. I realized my thoughts we running on about something that wasn’t important. I was spending time thinking and reacting to what I didn’t want. I was caught up.

It was the monkey mind running from treetop to treetop chattering at everything below. Do you understand? I wasn’t in charge it was running me. As I became aware of it I went, Whoa! STOP! Think and speak only to bless, heal and prosper. Stop giving this attention.

If You Want To End Negativity Become Aware Of Positive Things

I remembered Jesus saying, forgive them for they know not what they do. Clearly, this woman didn’t and I could forgive. She hadn’t really done anything wrong, it was just whatever she was doing bumped up against how I thought things should be. Rules. Beliefs.

Once I became aware that I was letting my mind drive me into unpleasantness I could shift it. I realized I had spent a good number of minutes experiencing unpleasantness ALL between my own ears. I was looking through my eyes but my discomfort came from within.

The rest of the day I noticed whenever I would think thoughts of things I could not change. If noticed that if someone or something upset me how I wanted to think it again and again. There was a natural tendency to solve it or continue to relive the discomfort.

Awareness Allows Us To Escape The Trap Of Our Daily Lives

It was as if I could play it enough I might be able to feel better  by thinking the right thing to say or do. It was planning for if this might occur in the future. Actually, I was just getting caught in a negative loop that ran endlessly while making me feel worse. INSIGHT!

Let it go. The thoughts returned. I repeatedly had to put them aside and think what I wanted. I learned there’s a lot of automatic BS goes on; about trying to control situations, how people should conform and behave, thoughts about traffic or slow lines. ALL junk thoughts!

Junk thoughts about everyday things. Just petty everyday nuisances that chewed up time and energy.  Most of the time these  thoughts operate outside awareness but use up critical energy. As I became more aware of these I could let them go and shift to the positive.

There Is So Much To Be Grateful And Thankful For That We Miss

Only as I became more aware of the less than glorious chatter, and let it go, I became free. Once aware I could drop them. As long as it ran on below threshold it dictated experience. This is how many of us spend our days. These thoughts lead to stress and discomfort.

Remember, we become what we think about most of the time. I would never have been able to notice them nor alter them and change my experience from less than glorious back to feeling good without all my previous work, on taking charge, to begin with.

We first begin to change the things with the highest signal value, that which we are aware of. Gradually, because of these efforts, we can recognize more of the subtleties that hold us back or keep us stuck. Then we can keep making changes that move us forward.

Change Comes From Doing The Same Things Differently

We TRULY can transform ourselves by the renewing of our minds. It requires dedication and awareness. At an earlier point in my life I’d have been disappointed to discover the monkey mind chatter thinking I should be beyond that. Instead, I now could celebrate.

Anytime, we can find that which frees us up to enjoy more of the wonderful opportunities living provides for us, we can delight. The more we feel wonderful and think wonderfully the more we create a wonderful life. It all works together. Become aware. Delight in all.

Work on becoming free. Take control of your thoughts and feelings it is worth it! Nothing comes close to helping us enjoy the life we live as getting free from past, old, borrowed, chronic, habitual conditioning. No reason to live that way when we can live renewed.

Be Transformed By The Renewing Of Your Mind

Find gratefulness in everything. Enjoy and delight. Don’t let other people or circumstances rain on your parade. Guess what, as I discovered, it wasn’t the woman who was bothering me. IT was MY OWN thought process. My thinking was causing my hell, not her.

I used her as an excuse. Something, someone to blame and to shift the focus from what I was doing to what she was doing. That is how we live much of the time. It IS what causes our suffering. Stop! Notice. Become aware. Change YOUR thoughts. Be positive

Don’t blame outside yourself. It really isn’t about others, events or circumstances. We just typically think it is because that is what we were raised to think. The discomfort doesn’t come from outside us. It comes from within each of us. It’s due to old thought habits. Take responsibility. Take the right thought action to be free. Most importantly, celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

How much more can you smile today?

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What’s A Mody? How To Make It Work For You!

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“Did you know thinking is a electro-chemical process? We are living batteries, self-contained energy sources, that rely on materials from the outside to sustain ourselves. When we think we release impulses and chemicals that produce our emotions.

It is a symbiotic. Nature provides for reciprocal relationships, just as the flower and butterfly, or bee, need each other. Our brain and body work together synchronously and sequentially in more amazing ways than we can fathom.

Instead of thinking we have a mind and a body perhaps we should say we have a mody. We are one bio-bag of incredible processes to say the least. When we think we produce emotions or feelings. Thought precede feeling and actions.

As Soon As You Can Accept The Idea … 

Those feelings then contribute to produce subsequent thoughts. Our INITIAL thoughts produce feelings. THEN those feelings determine what we think next. We cannot separate the two. If we think happy thoughts we get happier. We feel it.

Then we continue to think happy thoughts. Depending on whether we think positively or negatively we can spiral up into greatness and elation or down in to depression and lack of action. Negative thoughts produce negative sequences.

Learning to control our mody isn’t just about positive thinking but about learning to manage our thinking. Learning the act of management is almost more important than the thought itself. This is a crucial piece of understanding.

… That You Can Control Your Thoughts …

Once you learn to manage your thoughts you become more aware of the triggers that produce glorious and not so glorious feelings. You can take charge of the processes and direct them so you feel better, are more productive and happy.

More of the time! This is important because we become what we think about most often. Most people aren’t even aware of most of the thoughts they think during the day because they are on autopilot. They think from chronic, habitual programs.

These run at conscious threshold or below. They may not be horribly negative, but they are not positive or productive. Think of it this way, even if they were completely neutral they would fall into the negative category because they don’t support you.

… You Will Be Able To Create Your Own Happiness

This is a key element to understand. Either your thoughts, your beliefs, your attitude and the resulting emotions or feelings support you OR they do not. You want them to support you. You want to be able to absolutely choose and direct these.

Learning control takes discipline. It takes time. It is simple but not always easy. It is beyond worth it! BUT you only discover that as the process unfolds for you. It is the basis of creating, manifesting or attracting whatever you want.

When your mind and emotions are congruent and work hand in hand you can aim them are your target desires and go after and get them much more easily. When every aspect of you is aligned you are more powerful, efficient and able. You rock!

Life Is Like A Mirror – It Will Smile At You If You Smile At It

How can you tell what you are thinking? What are you feeling? Your feelings indicate, they inform you what kind of thoughts you are thinking. If you feel low energy, frustrated, angry or despair you are thinking negative thoughts. Get it?

It isn’t rocket science. If you feel less than glorious it is an alert signal that you are thinking less than glorious thought. Right then, as soon as you become aware you need to to take control and lead yourself into more glorious thought and feelings.

If you will do this, and you do it consistently and long enough you will develop the habit of control over your thoughts and feelings. Then you will actively be able to better create the life you want. You are already creating everything. You know that?

I’m Not What Happens To Me – I’m What I Choose To Become

All of your results, all of your life, is your doing. It is how you perceive, what you think, feel and act. Sure, things happen from the outside, but you react. Once you learn control you are better equipped to make your life what you want it to be.

Then you create, manifest or attract, whichever word works best for you, the life of your dreams. You aim at it and you bring it about because your thoughts lead to feelings, your feelings lead to actions, your actions become habits and then results.

You are either right now conditioned for success or for failure. Perhaps, you are stuck somewhere in the middle. If you want things to be different you have to change some things. If you want success you need to condition yourself for success.

I Use Memories – I Will Not Let Memories Use Me

Isn’t it time to get your mody going in the direction you want it to? Wouldn’t you like to get more positive consistent results? You can. You can the moment you decide to take charge. Once you do keep at it until you prevail. It doesn’t happen overnight.

It may seem as though nothing happens, just like the Chinese Bamboo plant I wrote about. It may seem that nothing is going on for some time, but then lookout as amazing transformations begin. Seeds take time to grow and to blossom. Hang in there.

There is only failure if you quit. If you throw in the towel. Otherwise, as long as you persist you are still moving forward. Then defeat is only temporary. Keep going. You can and will do it. The easiest way to make it all happen is through gratefulness.

Take Control Of Your Habits – You Take Control Of Your Life

Gratitude. Appreciation. Thankfulness. Enjoy and delight in everything. Love the wonderful moments and the not so great moments. Embrace both. One feels marvelous the other provides lessons. All is good. Once you get that, ALL IS good!

Filll your life enjoying little things. Make each moment special. Live this way and your life magically transforms. Stop comparing and start delighting. Smell the roses. Savor each second. Live with enthusiasm and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

How much more can you smile today?

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Expert Reveals: Your Success Habits And Failure Habits Affect Your Results

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“Some things we do help us be more successful while some of what we do leads us away from it. We succeed or we fail. There is a way to determine whether what you are doing is working or not. You need to know it and use it to become aware and to evaluate your efforts.

As we discuss money and wealth creation I wanted to point out that the mental practices related to increasing your net worth applies to happiness, love, leisure, career and anything you want in life. You can be, do and have whatever you desire. It is up to you to get it!

It is important, as we move forward with this topic, to understand that each of us has Success Habits. These habits support us. We do those things automatically that move us forward toward success. For example, being on time can be one. Paying oneself first, another.

Set Yourself Apart From The Herd – Practice Success

We also have Failure Habits. These don’t support us. These are things we automatically do that keep us from being successful. Showing up late, for example. Procrastinating. Spending more than we make. These are the habits we need to change to succeed.

If we keep doing what we always did we will always get the same results. We want to eliminate or overwrite the failure habits with more success habits. We need to aim at and focus on what we want and not on what we don’t want or what we want to exclude.

Whenever you encounter a failure habit you have a choice. You need to think, to consider, to ask yourself, ‘Is what I am doing right now supporting me or harming me?’ ‘Does it lead to increase or decrease?’ Will doing this lead to more success or more failure?’

Most People Don’t Have A Willingness To Break Bad Habits …

If your answer is that whatever you are thinking, feeling or doing is harming you, leading to decrease, failure or is negative, then you are at a place where you need to make a decision. Awareness is the first step in change. Now that you are aware of the failure habit – stop it.

Decide to implement a better belief right then. Choose a powerful positive one and repeat it over and over. Keep doing it until you make it your own. If you are feeling less than glorious do something positive to feel a little bit better. You need to act in your behalf.

If your actions are leading to failure you need to take actions that lead to success. If you want your life to change you must change some things in your life. You must take a positive action. For example, you are late make it a habit to be early or on time.

… They Have A Lot Of Excuses And Talk Like Victims – Be Different

Start right now. Begin today. Don’t put anything off. Live with this new awareness; Increase or Decrease; Supportive or Harmful; Success of Failure; Positive or Negative. Choose wisely. The way you change a habit is by introducing and practicing the new one.

We use correct repetition over time to wire it in. Whether it is a thought, feeling or action habit. Whenever you notice yourself off track steer back onto track. Get back on course. Set yourself right. There is so much value in self-correcting alone. It is powerful.

By repeating the correct thought, feeling or action, again and again over time, you create a new neural pathway. You create a new habit. It takes a while but as you develop the new habit the old one weakens and gives way to the new. Create new success habits!

Being Miserable Or Broke Is A Habit – As Is Happiness And Success

Whether you are learning to think more positive,  feel better, or exercise more keep this in mind. When it comes to money this applies to paying yourself first and trimming the fat. Develop saving, investing and spending habits that contribute to your success.

If you want to succeed then you must have more success habits and fewer failure habits. Only you can correct the imbalance. Understand that your future results are in what you think, feel and do today? If you want a more wonderful future start right now!

I’ll share more money and wealth principles next time, too. Enjoy the process. Have fun. It is serious but don’t take it too seriously. Nurture and nudge yourself along. Step by step. Encourage yourself. With deliberate practice you will get there. So keep at it!

Your Habits Are Driving Your Performance And Results

Delight in what you do well. Ignore and let go of mistakes after learning from them. Be sure to learn from them. Experience and reflection is a great aspect to learning to do new things. Practice gratitude and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Discover something new and wonderful today!

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The Secret To Getting Consistent Positive Results: It Is How You Do It!

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Repetition is critical. It is HOW we learn and acquire skill. From birth on it is THE process we engage to learn anything. Did you know it must be a very special type of repetition if you want to move ahead?

Is not just repetition that is important. It is correct repetition. What is correct repetition and why? It is doing it the right way. You can repeat practicing mistakes and learn errors instead of the right way.

You can practice a golf swing incorrectly and hamper your ability to play. Practice correctly from the beginning as much as possible. You do it and make adjustments to correct as you go along. Feedback.

Correct Repetition Is The Mother Of Skill

You never fail. You just get plenty of feedback. If you are open to it you make the adjustments to move forward correctly. If you aren’t open to it you are destined to practice your mistakes.

Whatever we practice or rehearse in life we get back. If we practice a bad golf swing the results we get are a bad golf swing. The result is most likely a bad score. This is why correct repetition is important.

Some people spend a lot of money on books and private coaching to learn to swing the golf club correctly. Athletes train and have a coach or a team to help them correctly exercise and perform.

There Is No Such Thing As Failure Only Feedback

When it comes to your life and the consistent results you want to get what is it worth to you? If you want success, the best health and wealth and happiness what are you willing to commit to?

How much time, energy and/or money will you devote to you and to getting your career, your relationships and your life in order. Certainly, you should be able to devote a few minutes each day.

If we practice crappy, negative thinking the results we get back are crappy negative results. If we focus on lack and poverty and problems, because we rehearse these, they stick around.

Whatever We Plant And Nurture We Will Harvest

We make habits of whatever we practice and rehearse in thought, feeling and behavior. We wire in neural pathways. Because of this we find ourselves behaving the same over and over again.

If you want to change, get better results and have only good habits, you have to practice and rehearse only what you want more of. You must take charge and take control. There is no other way.

If you think you can or you think you can’t you are right. It is all up to you. If you do or don’t. Only you will benefit.  Only you will lose out. If you want to change begin today. Do it right.

Don’t Like The Results You’re Getting – Change What You’re Doing

Use what you learn in these pages. Study and apply it. Ask questions. Consider getting some personal coaching. Learn and do whatever it takes to bring you the good you want for yourself and others. Don’t miss out. Commit. Do what you can. Begin right from the start. You’ll enjoy getting positive results. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Power up your day positively!

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Expert Reveals: You Have Been Hypnotized And Lied To – Wake Up!

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“Consider this: there is what you know. There is what you know you know. There is what you know you don’t know. THEN, there is all the rest. There is everything you ACTUALLY don’t…

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Expert Reveals: You Have Been Hypnotized And Lied To – Wake Up!

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“Consider this: there is what you know. There is what you know you know. There is what you know, you, don’t know. THEN, there is all the rest. There is everything you ACTUALLY don’t know, AND you don’t know, you don’t know it. That, we are completely clueless of.

Today, we take a break from our series to include this blog post on awareness and conditioning. Enjoy. We will return to and conclude our series shortly.

What we actually know is a very tiny sliver or piece.  A little larger portion is what we know we don’t know. Then, there is everything else we couldn’t possibly know, that we don’t know. ON top of that we are limited by what we think or don’t think.

Awareness Is Like The Sun When It Shines On Things They Grow

Our only limitations exist in our mind. In what we think we can or can NOT do. What we believe is possible for us, or not, versus what we believe is possible, or not, for others. Sometimes we think we could do it but no one else could, and vice versa.

One reason for this is we are expert hypnotists. Most people have hypnotized themselves into deluded limitations and act as if those are real.  They regularly hypnotize and suck in people around them too, to believe limiting things.

People are expert at hypnosis because they have been hypnotized (or conditioned) since birth. What they are not is elegant with it. They are not purposed or directed, rather they are like monkeys with machine guns. They just spray everywhere.

The First Step Toward Change Is Awareness

They simply spray the world with their limited thinking, believing all the while, they are correct about their beliefs. They believe they know what actual reality is. They think their circumstances are real. They experience those as the ‘real world’ but those aren’t.

They don’t know that it isn’t. They act as if the drama and the illusions they create for themselves are real. The dramas are hypnotized delusions that are not real, but they think they are. They buy into the drama and the troubles and the crap. The live as victims.

They don’t know their true power because from the beginning they were never told. They were told to be a worker bee, to work for 40 years, retire and die. They weren’t told they have choice and can determine their destiny. They weren’t given any clues to their power.

The Second Step Toward Change Is Acceptance

The brain works this way. What you look for you CAN find. If you seek it you will find it or evidence of it. It is, as you THINK it will be. What you say ordains it. You state it, assert it, declare it, and in doing so you create it in your results.

People operate unconsciously from habits given birth from the time they were born. Mostly, old habits that die hard. People operate from these believing they have choice. They may have SOME choice, but very little do they actually realize. Realization is the key.

We don’t experience much choice unless we work consciously to develop it. The first step is to develop awareness for what we do not know versus everything we do know and think we are correct about. It is a delicate game to become aware that you are aware.

As Our Awareness Grows We Grow And Transform

Change is not futile, it is eminently possible  but it means overcoming habits which die hard. Most people won’t change and will continue to live from their previously conditioned programming because they don’t know it could  be different for them.

They just don’t know it could be any different. Many won’t because they think it is too tough. If it is uncomfortable they won’t change unless forced. They won’t willingly leave their comfort zone to make a difference in their lives for themselves or others. Both reasons are why they  remain the same.

Both reasons come from our conditioning. 99.9% of us are run by automatic habits. 1/10 of 1% of us is conscious choice. The engine that drives our ‘everything’ is our unconscious, automated, habitual thoughts and behaviors run by our subconscious mind and is not easily subjected to our conscious control.

I Am And I Have Are Powerful Words …

Imagine a huge ship. The ship and the power source are 99.9%. The rudder that steers the massive vehicle is that 1/10 of 1%. That tiny little rudder is small by comparison to the rest of that huge machine.

It is what determines where the ship goes. It is small but it determines our direction. The rudder is our conscious awareness. The unconscious is the power that gets us there.

We have enormous power at our disposal, yet most people never realize that. Because they were conditioned to be the worker bee they never learn to harness and direct their full power.

They don’t steer the ship they only go where it goes. They aren’t in control. They lives are determined by the 99.9% that is automatic. They don’t use the 1% that they could.

Consider our ability to choose. Think of it this way. Imagine tying to get out of a huge prison through a tiny tunnel you make with a spoon. There is a lot of effort dedicated to break through or out.

It takes massive work and commitment. You really must want it or you will never keep going. To get free you can’t quit. You work and work and work!

… What You Put After I Am And I Have Shapes Your Reality

Outside the tunnel, on the other side, the area enlarges, it opens up. You are free. You are outside of the prison. Anything and everything is now available. You can enjoy and go anywhere.

Yet, many will return to where they were most comfortable and familiar. True for some, right? They got used to being within the walls so they get caught again.

However, the more you change the more change you can make. Once you recognize and become aware of that which binds you and imprisons  you you can work to be free.

You can do what necessary to get free. When you are finally FREE from the bondage; because YOU DECIDED to do something about it, the easier it is to continue making changes.

NOW changing becomes even easier! Once you get begin to change you can apply what you learned to make even more changes. You get exponential returns on your efforts once you begin the process.

Few people initiate the needed process to improve their lives but you can be one who does. You can break free from your prior limiting conditioning.

When You Have Think You Exhausted All Possibilities You Haven’t

To flee a burning house one needs to know it is burning. If one is not aware, one is not aware. If one smells smoke, realizes their is danger and acts to one can get to safety.

There are constraints on analogy but I assume you get what I mean. If one never notices the signal, doesn’t know there is danger, they may perish instead.

Once we are aware that we have reason to change, or need to change, we need to become aware that we CAN change. Some people realize they must change but don’t know they can change.

So they remain stuck. We need to realize change IS possible for us. Once we become aware that we CAN change, WE need to do something TO instigate that change.

We need to act in a manner that eventually brings us our desired results. Furthermore, we must CONTINUE to act in like manner until we get the intended results.

Eventually, we overcome our prior habits and learn new and better ones. We exchange the old for some good, new and better ones. Once free, we may realize we had been hypnotized.

Imagination Is More Important Than Knowledge

The first thing we need to change is our habitual thinking. We can get free of it if we want. If we realize we have choice. Mentors and coaches have told us this is possible for centuries.

We either begin to believe it or we don’t. If we don’t we remain the same. Some people hear and still don’t understand. The teacher appears when the student is ready.

The choice remains ours even when we don’t realize it is OUR choice. As some mystic once said, ‘everyone sleeps, everyone awakens but at different times’. Noone better than another.

People just sleeping and wake up at different times. So we need not judge those who remain the same. Take care of your self first. Let others be who they are.

Once we begin to wake up and realize we were sleeping we discover that our limitations are only dreams that had bound us. We can become aware of what is possible.

The more we explore what is possible the more we good we can discover. The more we seek the more we find. The brain, our Reticular Activating System (RAS) works this way, remember?

You Can’t Start The Next Chapter Of Your Life …

Once awake and making positive changes we can readily continue because the process gets easier the more we do it.  We have learned HOW to change. Skill comes of doing.

The more we do the more we can do. At first it seems tough. It may even seem impossible. That is the inertia we must overcome in the beginning. The tendency to do nothing, to resist.

Once we start keep at it until the new changes are wired in. It takes a minimum of 21 days repeated practice to make or break a habit. That is the bare minimum.

If your goal is to be free you will continue until you make the new thoughts and behaviors habit. Keep going and don’t quit. You will if you absolutely want it. If not, you’ll find excuses.

The goal is to overcome useless, chronic, negative, habitual thinking, feeling and actions that get you less than desirable results and exchange them for powerful, positive new automated thinking.

Exchange those for powerful, positive feeling and actions that enable you to be, do and have anything you want in life. In order to change you need to first know you must change.

… If You Keep Re-Reading The Last One

Exercise your choices and make decisions that serve and support you. Begin now by looking for and finding anything and everything you can feel grateful for. Acknowledge each of these.

Feel each fully and enjoy. Find everything you can to appreciate daily. Create a list. Add to it each day. Focus on your gratitude. As you do new worlds will open up.

Find lessons in challenges and obstacles, and in your hurts and woes, that  you didn’t previously realize were there. You will if you look. That is the job of the RAS.

Find positive reasons to keep going in spite of difficulty. As you do you will discover many other opportunities to be free and happier you didn’t know we available to you. Things open up!

You will gradually lighten up. These positive changes create more momentum so that changing positively becomes easier and easier. You’ll discover so much you never knew was wonderful within you.

You’ll discover it around you too. Focus on the good you will find so much more. This is because what we focus on actually expands. We discover and include more!

Your Life Gets Better By Change Not By Chance<

Enjoy, delight, savor. Bask, bathe and linger. Allow yourself to experience the goodness and the power of making positive choices. Your ship has always been taking you places, whether you wanted to go or not. Now, it is time to take charge and determine where you want to travel in life. You have choices. Choose wisely! Be thankful for all, celebrate everything.” Rex Sikes

It is another glorious day!

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Why You Keep Missing Opportunities And How To Correct That

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“Have you ever felt you were ready but opportunity just passed you by? Someone else booked the gig, got the job, had something nice seemingly land in their lap, but not you. Do you know why that might be? There is an answer and today we’ll look into it.

Welcome to Part 5 of The Secret To Success And Happiness Few Know And Won’t Tell You. We continue on today. I hope you found the first 4 parts valuable. Ready, let’s go. Part 6 tomorrow.

Opportunity abounds. There are plenty all around us but frequently we miss them. Why do you suppose that is?  Perhaps, the truth comes in the statement, ‘when the student is ready the teacher appears’. The same thing could be said about opportunity.

Opportunity abounds but is often disguised, at times, literally and at other times because you don’t know what to look for. Either way you could be missing out. Certainly, you’d want to change that.

Opportunities Are Closer Thank Your Think

Napoleon Hill shared a fascinating story in his first book ‘The Laws Of Success’. It was a rainy day in Pittsburgh, one afternoon when a woman walked into a department store. You know how clerks can be. Either too helpful or not helpful enough.

Most of the clerks looked at the woman and decided she was not a shopper so they busied themselves with straightening shelves and racks. You might have thought as much too about her. She rambled the store aimlessly with no apparent particular purpose.

One young salesman, however, approached the woman. She told him she was not there to buy anything. She was merely looking, since it was raining hard outside. He assured her that was fine. She was welcome in the store and he engaged her in conversation.

Luck Is Where Preparation And Opportunity Meet

As the rain let up he escorted her to the door, helped raise her umbrella and sent her off. Before leaving she asked for his calling card. Time went by and the incident was forgotten by the young salesman. One day he was called into the office and shown a letter.

It was from a woman who wanted a salesman to accompany her to Scotland to take orders for furnishing a mansion.  The ultimate order was for an enormous sum. It was from the woman he was nice to. It was from the richest man in the world, Andrew Carnegie’s, mother.

It resulted in the young man advancing his career handsomely. Hill pointed out the salesman benefited greatly, but might not have, except for the fact that he took the time and was ‘courteous to an old lady who did not look like a ready sale’. No one else had.

The Pessimist Sees Difficulty In The Midst Of Every Opportunity…

Opportunity isn’t always apparent. You make your own by how you move through and act in the world. If you are genuinely nice you attract nice opportunity. THEN the opportunity presents itself, BUT it won’t happen if you try to make the opportunity.

Discovering opportunity works similarly to this. You buy something new, such as a new car. Suddenly, you notice that car everywhere. It happened to me in the last year. I see my model of the car multiple times a day. Prior to my purchase I was only casually aware of them.

Our brain has an area called the Reticular Activating System (RAS). One of its jobs is to find matches in the real world for our internal beliefs and attitudes. It’s why we ‘suddenly’ notice the other cars. Our brain is alerted to what we would otherwise not attend to.

…The Optimist Sees Opportunity In The Midst Of Every Difficulty

This is why some say we ‘attract’ our good fortune, that like things are drawn towards us. It is better stated, as the young salesman discovered, we create our own good fortune by our attitude and our actions. He didn’t prosper by meditating in his room, he acted nicely.

There isn’t anything wrong with meditation. I encourage it, practice it and teach it. Creation is an active process. So is attraction. If you want people attracted to you think and do those things that more readily result in that. Be nice first and others can respond in kind.

The people who experience the most good fortune and luck are not those who typically sit and wait for it to drop in their lap. They go first. They add value to others, they cooperate, work as a team, they are friendly and they are go-getters. They are pleasant to be around.

You Create Your Own Opportunity

A positive attitude gets you further faster than a negative one. If you focus on what isn’t working, what is wrong and negative you get what you focus on. If you focus on the competition and how they outdistance you, you will get back more of the same. Stop that.

You make your own breaks! In order to get ahead, focus on what you can positively do. Focus on solutions. Be genuinely nice and pleasant to be with. Be thoughtful and considerate of others. Maintain a positive ‘can do’ disposition. Be happy and grateful. Enjoy life!

If you aren’t already these things the good news is you can be. That is what this blog is about. I’ve spent decades assisting others to live their dreams. It starts with learning how to run your brain and mind so that it serves you and works for you they way it is intended to.

This Is The Beginning Of Anything You Want

You can transform yourself from less successful to more successful; From not so nice to pretty darn nice; From pessimist to optimist. It is all based on what you think about. What you think about most of the time is what you become and what you end up creating.

What you focus on and think about determines how you feel and behave. You results stem from those feelings and your actions. If you don’t like your current results, if you aren’t getting what you want, you can make positive changes to turn that around. It is simple.

Your current results are based on your previous thinking which stems from your early childhood conditioning. You are operating mostly on old outdated programs and old, chronic, negative thinking patterns and habits. It’s time for a positive working update!

A Simple Hello Could Lead To A Million Things

It is easy and it also requires effort. You will be changing old habits you have had for awhile BUT you can do it if you give yourself the chance to change. Anything is possible when you learn how. An easy first step is look for things to appreciate. Be grateful. Find them now.

Around you in your present life. No matter how few or how many. Take a daily inventory. This is an excellent way to begin. Read through these blog pages there are many suggestions because that is what this blog is about. Learn to be the you YOU want to be.

Fill your mind with positive, inspiring material some each day. Read a page or a chapter from a good inspirational book. I really like ‘Laws of Success’ and ‘Think And Grow Rich’ among others. Start now and soon you will notice a significant change occurring in you.

Every Experience Is An Opportunity To Learn And Grow

Have fun. Explore, and enjoy all of life’s little blessings. You find can find opportunity everywhere once you open yourself up to it. The best way to do that is to celebrate and enjoy more of life right now, this instant. So delight, have fun, enjoy others and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

What will you do with this marvelous new day?

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It Is Time To Create Your Own Success Story

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“It is the end of the work week. Relax a bit and enjoy! Savor the free time you have. Enjoy. Smell the roses. Let go of any stress and simply be in the moment! Breath! Take this time for yourself. Think, ‘Yes!’

There are lot’s more great posts coming up.  I’ll provide more on asking the right questions for setting and getting Well Formed Outcomes and on establishing your worth as promised.

I’ll give you more useful information, principles and practices you can apply! Remember, to know and not to do is not to know. The proper fruit of knowledge is action.

Immediately Apply Whatever You Learn Within 24 Hours

Take some positive action step within 24 hours. That is the very best, and most sure fire, way to begin to incorporate your new learning and behaviors. It is critical to act quickly.

Most people, don’t. Never let 24 hours go by on your first action step without implementing it. Most people, if they don’t  act within 24, or 48, or even 72 hours, they never will. It is sad for them.

It was a nice piece of information but nothing changes. They learned about something but missed the opportunity to transform their life. That is how it works. So today. Take these actions. You will be glad.

For today, look back over your week and track you successes. Acknowledge those things that you did that you consider a success. Anything can qualify. Remember as many as you can. Start now.

Celebrate Celebrate Dance To  The Music

You took the dog for a walk. You did the dishes without being asked. You picked your socks up off the floor. Large or small take inventory and give yourself some credit. Take stock and deliver some praise.

We improve when we track our efforts. So look for your successes, note them, write them down so you can appreciate them and build on them. Feel your successes. Keep a daily success log or journal.

Play to win the inner mind game. Develop the attitude of success by counting more things as successes each day. Take the wins. Feel the wins. Really, make it a point to feel good about these.

Drop By Drop The Tub Fills

Look around at what you are grateful for and feel it. Express it. Thoughts are things!  Our words are more energized thoughts. Say it, because what you say is what you get. Write it down too!

Enjoy and celebrate all the people you hold dear, the things you have, and the events you delight in. Look at your present circumstances and find all the good to be grateful about.

Have a fun, easy going time reflecting on how good things are. Notice what is going right. Find what is working. Look at all the things you have to be thankful for. AND be thankful!

Big Things Happen One Day At A Time – What Will You Do Today

Look at how successful you have been and enjoy all of it. Emphasize and accentuate the positive. Feel it. Really feel it. Notice how good it feels to feel good! Do this daily. Wash, rinse and repeat; and repeat!

As you do this you condition your mind for success and celebration. You make it a habit to find the positive and enjoy it. You make feeling good a habit too. This will make an incredible difference.

Take baby steps or actions towards your goals. Keep a journal of your daily successes.  The things you do that move you forward in the different areas of your life. You can track the weeks and months.

You Are More Accomplished Than You Realize

You can notice your consistent improvement over time. You provide yourself with the proof, the evidence you are moving forward and doing things on your own behalf. Track your wins. Keep a record.

Reward yourself. Give yourself an immediate treat for taking actions, for keeping your journal, or for looking for the positive. When you do something to move forward treat yourself well.

A reward is a positive reinforcement, a motivator. It can be anything. Get a massage, read a book, spend time alone or with family, buy yourself something nice, splurge a little. Enjoy gifting you.

It Is Time To Create Your Success Story

Reinforce your successes! Feel good. As you do you build momentum. You want momentum. Remember, the law is, a body at rest tends to stay at rest; a body in motion tends to stay in motion.

Inertia is difficult to overcome. The tendency is to remain as is. With effort you overcome it. Once you get moving the tendency is to stay moving. That is Newton’s law. Keep on moving. Reinforce it.

You will get further doing one or two small things consistently than not doing lots of bigger things. A little bit can go a long way. You can be delighted and surprise yourself how far ahead you move when you do a little positive bit each day. Take action now and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Have a marvelous day!

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If You Don’t Start Moving You Will Always Be Right There Where You Are!

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“Some people never begin. The wish and want and hope for change but they do nothing at all to bring it about. Is this you? You can make positive changes easily. Would you like to learn how? If you do these simple things you can get a tremendous amount of transformation.

Obviously, in order to begin you must choose to begin. it Starts with your decision, your commitment to make your life more wonderful and grand. If you truly want this then beginning is easier. You just start doing some things you haven’t been doing.

If you want your life to change you must change things in your life. You can’t continue along the same old pathway expecting to get somewhere new. You have to start the new path. So you begin right from where you are. Right now, right here, is where it starts.

Want Your Life To Change? Change Things In Your Life

‘As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives.’ Henry David Thoreau

The reason we want to gain control of our thinking is so those negative thoughts that prevent us no longer take hold. Begin small, find a positive thought, one you agree with and want more of, and make it a mantra. Someone posted, they use, ‘this is easy’.

I like, ‘I can learn to do anything’. or ‘I am far more powerful than I presently realize’. And repeat those day and night whenever you can. Repetition is how the brain learns. Repetition with powerful emotions. So enjoy chanting this out loud.

Drop By Drop The Tub Fills

Shout them, feel great when you say them. DO one every morning and night and inbetween for at least thirty day. Find some supportive inspiring reading material or listening material and partake daily. Drop by drop the tub gets filled.

You can be surprised but how incredible a difference even a little bit of positive control makes. It is all about learning to create new positive habits to replace the old ones we no longer want. Does it take some effort.

Yup, and it is worth it. Affirm, declare, chant your mantra with wild enthusiasm. Make yourself feel good. Jump up and down, skip, sing, yell out loud. Learn that you control how you feel too. Relax, repeat them first thing in morning and last thing at night.

Nothing Great Was Ever Achieved Without Enthusiasm

Create a gratitude journal and list between 10 and 25 things you are grateful for right now, each day. Add a success journal and list those things you do each day that you consider a success. Those things you accomplish that move you forward and make you feel good.

If you do these things and do them regularly, in time the new pathway will become a well worn reliable path. You will have automatic positive new habits that serve you. You will find more delight and enjoyment in you and your life. So begin today!

Appreciate that you are deciding in your favor. That is a reason to celebrate, feel grateful and count as a success. Chose to be a winner and a victor. Chose to be a ‘CAN Do’ person, commit to it and persist in doing your daily diligence. Above all Celebrate everything! Rex Sikes

This day was made just for you!

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