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Attitude, Celebration, Focus, Habits

You Day Depends On This! But Are You Doing It?

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“How do you feel during your day? How does it go for you? Are you happy, energized, positive and productive or much less than you’d like to be. Would you like to maximize your day? Would you like to  feel better and get more done? How you start it determines all.

From the moment you wake up your day is set. How you wake up is determined by how you go to sleep. Your closing moments of the day impact the opening moments of your day. If you don’t know this it is time to learn. Make some changes and enjoy your day more.

Go to sleep relaxed and peaceful. Do not go to bed disturbed or angry. Take time to let go, forgive, relax and shift your focus and your energy. Review your day for the positive, happy moments. Preview your next day. Set intentions, determine to delight and enjoy it.

Awake Feeling Blessed And Grateful – Filled With Enthusiasm

Your last thoughts are important. Find love, peace, and appreciation. Focus on gratitude and that which delights you. Focus you energy on love and thankfulness. Make your gratitude list. Pick a positive word or mantra to gently and quietly recite or think on as you drift off.

Allow yourself to go to sleep feeling wonderful. Close your day well and the next one can open well. You will sleep and dream better as you learn to do these things and make them habits. Closing and opening rituals help ensure you maximize each moment.

Upon awakening your first thoughts set the tone for the day. If you wake up thinking, ‘wow, today is going to be wonderful’ you day goes much different than, ‘crap I have to get up. I hate going to work’. Realize you first thought is important. It makes a difference.

Vow To Live Each Moment Fully – Commit To Your Excellence

This is why closing out your day well is critical. You want to wake up thinking and feeling your finest. You can close or open your day with positive statements or affirmations. You can visualize how you want things to go. You can visualize your goals. Meditation works well.

Wake up thinking positive thoughts. Stretch, get out the kinks, breathe and get centered. Take a moment to feel balanced. Stand up, and recite your affirmations with enthusiasm. Set your positive intentions for the day. Feel grateful and think on these things.

What you eat and drink has an impact. If you eat something fresh, alive and nutritional you feel better than eating something processed filled with sugar, salt, preservatives and chemicals. Choose wisely. Get your body going with good energy.

Can’t Sleep – Lie There And Imagine Perfect Positive Scenarios

Your mind and body determine how you feel. Make habits of those things that make you feel and operate at your best. Don’t wake up thinking, ‘crap the weather sucks’ or ‘I have to face traffic now.’ Control your first thoughts! Choose wonderful first thoughts!

How you do one thing is how you do everything. You are a reflection of your habits. If you want a wonderful day realize it depends on you and what you think and do. It isn’t haphazard. It doesn’t depend on others or the world as most people think. It depends on you.

Find you positive purpose and positive energy and focus on these throughout the day. If things come up that would have disturbed you learn to let these go to. You can handle anything with the right mindset and feelings of resourcefulness. Practice, practice, practice.

At Sleep – Let Go Forgive – Feel Peaceful – Thankful – Positive

You’ll do better if you begin and end your day better. The bookends help determine how you go through the middle. As you practice and set rituals and habits you will notice how much more enjoyment you can and will have. Be thankful. Delight in it and learn to celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Discover today how resourceful you are!

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Attitude, Creating The Future, Focus, Intentional Thinking

Declare: I Am And Become It!

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“I am’ is a spoken word. I am is the image you see. I am are the feelings you feel. I am is a combination of your pictures your words and your feelings. I am makes the declaration powerful. As a man thinks in his heart so shall he be.

A negative thought is any thought that isn’t positive. It doesn’t have to be strongly negative it can just be one of the daily din of thoughts that rule our lives moment to moment. The petty annoyances and aggravations.  Not the major ones. Just NOT positive IS negative.

It  can be the dislike for doing certain tasks. It is the grumbling . We cannot excel when we have a low current of negative energy ruling everything we do. We must move into feeling wonderful and celebratory. We must feel good most of the time. Atlas 80/20.

When You Blame You Give Up Your Power To Change – Feel It

Feel great. Decide what you want and how you want to live. Decide who you are. Decide what you will become. Determine to be it, to do it, and to have it. Declare it. Decide it is yours and there is no question about it. Master your mind. Think intentionally!

Strong emotions drive everything. When we are upset and angry we are creating less than glorious circumstances from our raging energy. Change it. Stop it. Create from your positive energy things you want. Be your future you right now. Live the future here today!

When we feel joy mostly, and not just ok, things begin to transform! Be filled with joy and enthusiasm. Get exited and become eager for good things to happen. Declare, ‘unexpected good always comes my way!’ See it! Feel it. Anticipate it! Delight in it! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Feel it fully!

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Creating The Future, Focus, Gratitude, Intentional Thinking

Make Something Of Yourself For The Whole World!

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Today, for no special reason at all I share some very cool quotes of made by a very cool person. Wallace Wattles. Take these to heart and  may they affect and influence you in positive ways to pursue and fulfill your dreams and goals. Keep going. Don’t quit.

‘The very best thing you can do for the whole world is to make the most of yourself.’ Wallace Wattles

‘You can begin to be great today in your own home, in your store or office, on the street, everywhere; you can begin to make yourself known as great; and you can do this by doing everything you do in a great way.’ Wallace Wattles

‘The grateful mind is constantly fixed upon the best. Therefore it tends to become the best. It takes the form or character of the best and will receive the best.’ Wallace Wattles

The More We Do The More We Can Do – Develop Excellent Habits

Well, there you have it. My hope is you keep these short phrases in mind for yourself. Let them guide you to your own personal glory. May you make incredible things happen for yourself, your family and loved ones, for friends and strangers. Enjoy much and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

How delighted will you be today?

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Attitude, Celebration, Deliberate Creators, Focus

I Receive Miracles In My Life Because I Expect Miracles!

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“My home is Los Angeles. Hollywood. The Beach. I am an actor, producer, director. I spend much time elsewhere raising my kids as a divorced dad. I wanted to be with them as they grew up. My home is L A. This city is where my heart is. It is my power place. I own it.

This is important, WHY? Because when I am here the streets open up and a ride the waves of traffic getting to and from wherever I need to with little hassle. I get premium parking spaces in front of the venues. I meet and greet the right important people for me.

I create what I want. I am energized and I am magic. Everything works out. Everything is wonderful. I share this, WHY? Because so many of my friends here are burned out. They are tired of the grind. They hate the city and the accompanying troubles. Bad attitude!

You Can Be Your Own Best Friend Or Worst Enemy – Decide

My feeling is you get what you focus on. You create what you want. If you affirm it sucks, it absolutely will. If you affirm it is wonderful, it will be that too. Our mind and hearts set the frame for how we go through each day. We determine what we see and what we find.

If you are set to find opportunity, good fortune, wealth, health and happiness you find it more readily than if you hate each moment and whine and complain. Opportunity is always all around you. Can YOU see it? What is your attitude? That determines everything.

When everything IS a blessing in your mind and heart THEN everything IS a blessing in reality too. I don’t care whether you do or don’t believe in any of this. My world is incredible. My town rocks and opens up for me. My world is as I declare it to be!

The Best Way To Predict Your Future Is To Create Your Future

My word is law! I ordered salad for lunch today. I was polite about the order. Shortly, thereafter I got my salad. It was delicious. This same principle applies to making your life and yourself what you want it to be. Order and receive. Be grateful for what you get.

If you didn’t get what you ordered, correct and continue. No big deal. No fuss. Adjust and move forward. Make your life and dreams come true. The secret is YOU! Your attitude. Your mindset. Your thoughts and feelings and what you expect to find and receive.

If you think crap you receive crap. If you expect miracles you get miracles. Everything can be a miracle if you are open about it. Be thankful. Feel blessed. Stop overthinking everything. Do not overthink my words. Place your order and expect it. That’s it!

Create Your Future From Your Future Not From Your Past

Stop, drop the crap, enjoy and celebrate everything. That is when you release your power to create and receive. How do you manifest more miracles in your life? Stop blaming, making excuses and whining. Take responsibility and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

How many ways can you find  to fill your day with gratitude!

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Affirmations, Choice, Conditioning, Focus

End The B S Here And Now!

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“Has anyone ever provided you with the wrong or false information? You didn’t realize that it was inaccurate of false so you acted on it as if it were true. Perhaps, it was directions to an address  you followed and ended up at the wrong place. Perhaps, you got the wrong name?

Someone told you something about another person you acted on or believed. Later, you learned it was completely untrue. It was a lie! We all have believed gossip at times, right? People have provided you falsehoods that you believed were reliable but they weren’t.

What did you do when you learned the ‘truth’? Besides being upset or getting even what did you do when you learned the correct information? Once the lie was exposed as a lie did you continue to believe it? Some will, perhaps. Did you? Did you change your mind?

Stupid Is Knowing And Seeing The Truth – Still Believing The Lies

Did you change your thinking about the person? Did you correct and go to the right address? Did you make a shift of some kind? Did you carry the lie around for years once you knew it was a lie or did you drop it? Perhaps, you vowed to never believe the person who lied.

Perhaps, you later learned THAT person also believed the lie and spread it. Believing it to be accurate or true they shared it, they repeated it. Perhaps, later they learned it was a mistake, too. Lies are lies after all. Sometimes difficult to tell. Silly, sometimes to blame.

Why then, do you continue to believe the lies told to you about the world, money, love, and you? My recent blog was about our early conditioning and learning to free ourselves up from the limitations we inadvertently grew up with. We adopted other’s beliefs.

Give Yourself The Chance To Discover Who You Really Are

If you don’t like it when others lie to you STOP lying to yourself. Stop perpetuating negative myths about yourself and the world. Stop it! Stop It ! Stop It! Get really tired of it and DROP IT! Quit. Say, ‘that is enough!’ and start living free of those lies. Stop believing limitations.

We co-opted other’s versions of what IS; of what is true. Much it is unreliable. Much of it is negative, can’t do it thinking. Much of it is how the world or you is broken somehow. Much of it is how conditions suck and are difficult and touch. There isn’t enough!

We are running out. Money is hard to earn. Only the greedy get rich. You must postpone happiness. It is better to do without than to live well.  Love is difficult to find. You aren’t good enough. The myriad of B.S. that surrounds us and fills us IS endless. (redundancy intact)

Life’s Challenges Are There To Help You Discover Yourself

Yet, we believe it. Some never realize they have been lied to. Albeit not always intentionally were we lied to but the result is the same. We grew up adopting the limited mindset of others. Others propagated the untruths purposefully or unintentionally.

Some won’t wake up or refuse to wake up to this. That is okay, let them sleep. Others realize they have been lied to and get angry but do nothing about it. Others rage against the world and the lie tellers and never get over the hurt. Others notice it, wake up and let it go.

Some tell themselves more positive, useful, lies that help them live the life they want. The bottom line is every statement of thought or belief is incomplete. The ultimate is unknown. You can’t know what you don’t know, yet. Forget ultimate truth and live from useful lies.

You Can Affirm The Positive Or The Negative – It Is Your Choice

Affirm those positive thoughts that move you further ahead in life and help bring you the people, activities and things you want. Believe those things that help you and help you help others. Believe those lies that free you up, make you nicer, kinder, and more loving.

Stop affirming the negative lies you believed for so long in the past. Start believing the world is a wonderful place and you are a wonderful person. Believe you can do anything when you learn how. You can learn anything because in your life you already have.

You learned to roll over, sit up, balance, crawl, walk, feed yourself, bathroom habits, walk, read and write, work with numbers, play games, tell lies, tell ‘truths’ communicate with others, work, love, hate, feel good, feel bad, you have learned so very much.

The Privilege Of A Lifetime Is To Become Who Your Truly Are

You are wired to learn. SO learn something new. Learn something useful. Learn how to make you life grand. Learn to think positive, feel wonderful, live joyously, succeed elegantly and do whatever good things you want. You can learn to do it. Give yourself permission.

If you must give yourself permission to do it. DO so! Allow yourself to succeed and make money. Allow yourself to be happy and rich. Allow yourself to have incredible family relationships, sexual relationships and friendships. Live to the fullest. You deserve to!

AND YOU CAN! You absolutely can learn how. You can learnt o stop the lies! Stop listening to the ones you have been telling yourself. Quit accepting those. Put them to rest. Drop the negativity, the excuses, the blaming, the winning, the ‘I can’t’ the ‘It’s too hard’ stuff.

Stop Believing Other’s Lies About You And About The World

End the ‘economy sucks’ thinking. Get with the program. Most of the really rich didn’t inherit it. They made it. You can too. Most of the happy people have lived through incredible hardship and pain. Life is whatever it is. Accept it. Determine to make your life what you want.

Stop buying into B.S. and start living your own truth. Affirm thoughts that make you powerful, positive, confident, loving, kind, cooperative, generous, supportive, committed, dedicated, playful, fun, honest, loyal, dynamic, charismatic, attractive, and more.

Live the good life because you can. For no other reason than that. Live large and enjoy life. Stop being petty and limiting yourself.Stop being stingy with life and good feelings. You deserve all the good things there are in existence. Tap into it. Free yourself up.

Life Isn’t About Finding Yourself – Life Is About Creating Yourself

Live in appreciation. Live with gratitude. Open the doors to blessings. Challenges only make you stronger if you realize everything is a blessing. Be thankful! Stop being a wimp. Start being a champion. Live, love, laugh and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

How many ways can you find  to fill your day with gratitude!

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Acceptance, Conditioning, Focus, Getting Over The Past

Don’t Believe A Single Word! Stop Believing The Lies!

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“What is it you think about yourself? Any reader here have some pretty negative personal self talk? Do you criticize and rag on yourself? Are you especially tough on you? I know I was. For most people we are harder on ourselves than on others.

That is a good thing. Probably why people can stand to be around us. Of course, sadly, some people are not. They are just as tough on others as they are on themselves. That causes more problems for certain. Hey, listen, lighten up, I am serious, lighten up.

Nearly everything, every negative, not supportive thing you tell yourself is based in prior past chronic ‘less than glorious’ conditioning you, and I, got from the time we were born. By seven  it was set, locked in.  We gonegative messages from others.

Be Careful Who You Pretend To Be You Might Forget Who You Are

The other day I heard a mother tell her young son that he asked stupid questions and was stupid. I was shocked yet I hear this come from others all the time. Sad! I don’t think she was trying to program him or make him feel bad but that came out of her mouth.

What do you suppose he felt? How many times do you think he has to hear this before he internalizes it? My guess is not too often AND he probably hears it a lot. Yes, we need to be careful what we say to kids. YES! We need to be careful what we say to anyone!

Just as important we need to recognize that much of our self criticism is learned or adopted from others and is not true about ourselves. It is misinformation. We have been misinformed about who we are and what we are capable of.  Put this crap to rest!

Stop Believing The Negative Lies You Tell Yourself – Stop Today

Recently, a dear friend told me something about me, many years ago, that made me feel incredibly good. This person whispered something to me. I instantly felt great! Wow, really I thought. Then I had a moment of, ‘gosh, I wish I had known this back then!’.

I wished I had believed it back then. I have been told this same thing a few times by others. Their perception of me ‘back then’ differed from my perception most of my ‘back then’ life. I wish I had grown up believing some version of what my friends shared with me.

Instead I believed a far less than glorious thought. I didn’t accept or think of myself anywhere close to what friends shared. How might my life have been different had I? OKAY no point crying over spilt milk. Right? What is IS. What was, WAS.  I just point it out.

Create Yourself – BePositive Affirm What You Want And Truly Are

Had my self talk been more positive things may have been different. I believed something about me others didn’t. I limited myself in ways I might not have. We all do this. We all have stories of who we are, what we are like, what we aren’t, what we can and can’t do.

Stop telling old tired, negative, non-supportive stories of why you are broken or can’t do it and start telling stories to yourself of how you are good enough and can do things. You do deserve the best as does everyone. I am not suggesting you become an egomaniac.

I am suggesting that much of your self criticism is just not true! Just as not everything others say about us is true. If is isn’t discard it. If it is useful, constructive, positive feedback take it under consideration. Don’t believe a word of the crap you tell yourself. Stop that now!

If You Know What You Want And Believe In Yourself You Can Do It

Learn to think and talk to yourself in positive terms. Learn to inspire and motivate yourself. Realize you are or you can be a good, even great person. You are resourceful in ways you might not yet recognize because you never believed this about yourself.

Start telling the story of the person you want to be. Start acting ‘as if’ and affirming it. Start believing positive thoughts about yourself. You ARE attractive. You ARE capable. You CAN learn to do anything  if and when you apply yourself. You CAN and YOU WILL be confident.

You are in the process of redefining and asserting yourself. You are dropping the past negativity. You are letting go of less than glorious conditioning. You are taking charge of your thoughts, feelings and actions to create supportive habits. You get positive great results.

Attitude Is Everything – Attitude Determines Your Altitude

Stop believing the lies and start discovering your own truths! Live free from the negative self talk we spend much of our lives suffering through. Drop it like a hot potato. Seek to live from a higher place, a positive, an accepting, loving, kind, encouraging place.

If you are going to be tough on yourself be tough as a champion is. Realize it is up to you to make things happen and that you can find away if only you will look and act. Don’t stop yourself from evolving into a better person or pursuing your dreams because of lies.

Stop believing those lies and free yourself up to become the awesome person you already are. Discover how cool you truly are! Become even more so by continuing to improve on it. We either are growing or dying just like a plant is. Keep growing. Evolve. Do it!

If You Hate It When Others Tell Lies Then Stop Lying To Yourself

Live, love, laugh and celebrate yourself. Tell yourself positive things. I am not suggesting you tell historical lies to others. I am suggestion you discover the positive truth about yourself and reinforce that to yourself and others. Appreciate yourself and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Today, recognize and believe in your greatness!

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Focus, Mindset, Responsibility, Success

Stop Stopping Yourself And Start Making Your Dreams Come True

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“You have a goal or a dream, right? Do you have something that is important you want to make happen. When you accomplish it or attain it you will feel more fulfilled and more complete. It would make you feel really good. Is that correct? Let me ask you this?

What are you waiting for? Why don’t you have it already? Take a moment and really reflect on these questions. Why don’t you already have what you want? Think about and list all the reasons. What you need? what holds you back? Everything you can think of.

Now realize this. Whatever your answer is your mind. That is the ‘reason’, the ‘excuse’ you don’t have it. Legitimate or not that is your conditioned mind coming up with the whys and the why nots regarding your dream. None are really legitimate. All are excuses.

Action Is The Proper Fruit Of Knowledge – Take Action

Don’t criticize yourself now, or me, just understand this. If you really wanted it why don’t you have it, yet? If your answer points outside yourself to circumstances or others or if it points to you those answers are your mental self talk about it.

That is what you ‘think’ the reasons are. Whether they actually are or not is anyone’s guess. Let’s pretend for a second they are not valid. All are B.S. From that frame what do you need to ask yourself to begin getting what you want? What questions do you need to ask?

How about these? What is one thing, large or small, and no matter how small, that I can begin doing today that would get me closer to making my dream come true? What is one action I can take each day that will help me realize my dream sooner?

He Who Waits – Waits 

Who do I have to call, ask or visit? What must I do? What do I need to stop doing in order to begin getting what I want? Examine your  thinking and find baby steps you can take in the right direction that helps you start bringing it about. Then take those small steps.

Whatever you have been waiting for, or whatever your reasons have been, have only delayed you from enjoying your dreams and goals now. Begin to ask yourself those questions and take those small actions, no matter how small, that move you forward. Do it today!

Do something positive today. Take positive, constructive action. Then celebrate. Be grateful. Pat yourself on the back for having ahead and waiting no longer. Continue to ask questions and find those tiny behaviors that move you forward. Action helps!

If You Want To Make Your Dreams Come True Start Now

Waiting does nothing for you. Take those small positive actions now. Ultimately, you will find other things you can do. If you ask of yourself enough, you can find the right people to assist you, and everything you will need AS you move forward. Don’t  worry about how just begin. Don’t delay. While you move celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

It is your day how will you celebrate it?

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Acceptance, Blessings, Focus, Gratitude, Learning

Do This When Your Situation Sucks!

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“A good friend texted me stating he needed some reframes. He spent a trying day, more than 12 hours in the airport, attempting to get to L A, with delays and missed flights. A remarkable man himself I sent him these words. These apply to all of us at anytime.

Learning patience can be a trying experience. As can learning to accept what is IS. Yet, what might you discover about yourself going through this difficult time? Are your thoughts supporting you and the situation or helping to undermine and frustrate you even more?

You decide which it is? Decide what needs to be done that will support you with who you are and who you want to be. Our thoughts about our situation contribute to how we feel. Are they lifting you higher and helping you feel better or not?

This Too Will Pass – But If It Didn’t – What Would You Do

Yes, it is difficult. Yes, the situation can be frustrating. That is what is. How you respond determines how you go through it. Are you contributing to suffering or feeling centered? Breath. Find your center. Take some deep breaths and let go. Allow it. Accept it.

You won’t change it being angry about it. That is as unlikely to change anything as yelling at the weather is for not being to our liking. Create a pause. Look inside and breath. What can you learn about yourself from this? Can you consider it a blessing in disguise?

If is is a blessing then what does it hold for you? Only you can determine that. There are two ways to view this. Positive or negative. Which feels better? Which gets you closer to the real you and the you you are evolving to be? It is your decision.

Inside Every Adversity Is The Seed Of Equivalent Opportunity

What are you focused on? Is it making you feel better or worse? Energy flows where your attention goes. Are you focused on what you want or what you don’t want? If you know what you don’t want then turn and focus on what you do want that makes you feel better.

Everything passes. Change is constant. This too will pass. BUT pretend for a moment it doesn’t. This would be your future forever. Is this what you want? Do you want these thoughts and feelings? Make them what you would want to live with forever. Your choice.

While I may have bias there is no correct answer. There is no correct behavior. There are choices and whichever you make those are your choices. Accept them. I choose based on what I want to create more of for myself, perhaps you may too. Meanwhile, peace and blessings!

Challenges Make Us Stronger – The Kite Rises Against The Wind

If you can find the silver lining you are ahead of the game. If you can find what there is to be grateful for, even inside a difficult situation, you are ahead of the game. Relax, breath, center, let go and feel grateful. What lessons can you learn? Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

How can you have a glorious day?

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Decision, Emotions, Energy, Focus

Why You Should Never Make Decisions While Angry!

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“There is a legitimate reason why one is told ‘breath’ when one is out of sorts. Breath! Take a deep breath. Slow down. Take a pause. When things are going south and one is getting upset remember to breath. It has a calming effect, it relaxes the body and the mind. Breath!

Breath and get centered. What is your center? Your center of gravity. For men, we tend to walk around as if it is high in the chest. It isn’t it is in the pelvis. Women more naturally rest in their center of gravity. This too helps the body and mind to settle. Return to center.

Breath, get centered, relax and let go. Forgive yourself, others, or the circumstances. Focus on something else. Literally, turn your attention away. It is easier to do once you create a pause, a break and get centered. Breath for as long as you need to to get calm.

Never Make Permanent Decisions On Temporary Feelings

There is an inner center as well. You can find it when you calm, let go and feel balanced. You can find your inner core. Your gut, the ‘hara’ from which your energy emanates. Your ‘Chi’ flows. Find your inner center. Find your place of energy and balance. Inside and outside.

When centered and calm you think clearer and act clearer. The mind settles and stops racing. You make better decisions. It is suggested one never decided anything, especially something important, when frustrated, heated, sad or angry. Not the time. Be positive and calm.

Nothing good comes from decisions made in haste; nor actions taken because one is hotheaded or angry. Settle down, cool down, find your center so you can think clearly, assess the situation and stay open to incoming information necessary to decide. Get it?

Each Moment Is A New Beginning Take A Deep Breath Begin Again

To remain open is critical. When we are frustrated or  raging we do not have the presence of mind to make good decisions. Therefore never make them while heated. Okay. Relax, let go, calm down, stay open, listen, gather information, assess it and then decide.

Take time to enjoy! Find something right now.  Find many things to celebrate and appreciate. Find reasons to delight and be glad. Have fun. Savor it. Take your time. Let your mind wander and discover how many different reasons you have to be thankful! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Delight in your day.

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Why You Must Learn To Be Centered And Stay Open

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“Do you ever feel stuck? Have you been confused and are not sure which way to turn? You seek answers but only seem more confused by the answers you get and aren’t sure what to do? Doesn’t this suck? Would you prefer to be free? Would you like to change?

There are times when we are hyper-resistant to what is going on. We resist what is. We could remain open. We could remain open and discover what Is actually there. Instead we project what we think is there. We judge. Our judgements stem from our conditioned mind.

We ask others for answers and then run those through our pre-existing filters and biases. We don’t like what the answers seem to be or we’re stuck and unable to decide. We fear making the wrong decision. Often, we vacillate and just spin wheels for a long time.

Nothing Is As Painful As Being Stuck Where You Don’t Belong

We aren’t available to what IS because we are too busy running around in our minds. We actually need to stop. We need to pause so we can decelerate. We need to take a breath and open up so we can actually notice what IS and free up from unproductive thinking.

Opening up and staying open may seem to be a difficult but it is eminently do-able but we have to practice it. We have to practice returning to center. We have to practice shifting. We have to practice opening up and experience what it is like.

Most of us didn’t grow up learning this. All of us were conditioned from birth on by the thoughts, actions, feelings, the preferences and prejudices of those around us. Most of our conditioning occurred before age 3 and was locked in by age 7. This is what we live from.

Fear Worry Regret – Will Consume You For As Long As You Let It

We can change it but only if we determine to change it. We can change it but only if we become aware that it needs to be changed. For many, crises and major downfalls are the precipitating ‘events’ or circumstances that lead to transformation. We CAN change!

Once we learn to open up and actually become present we can make better choices. Our resources are freed up. We aren’t engaged in ‘monkey minded thinking’ flitting from this possibility to that. We need to stop thinking at least momentarily and gather our energy.

If we stay open we can potentially discover more of what is going on, without judgement, and be there honestly in the moment. If we assume anything at all we miss the moment. We miss if we are in our heads evaluating what is going on. We miss so much anyway.

Be Present To Whatever Is Unfolding Right Now – Here And Now

This is why learning to develop focus and concentration is important. This is why learning to control and manage our thoughts and feelings is important so we can shift when necessary. So we can place our energy and attention where it is most useful. we can BE!

Instead of repeating chronic, habitual thoughts and behaviors we can learn new ones that serve us better. In the present we are more free to choose than from our conditioned past. This is why it is useful to focus on a candle, or on our breath. To learn how we become free.

The process to learn is to be able to return our attention when it strays. I have described this numerous times in these blog pages. We learn to come back to our center. We learn how to return to now, the present, instead of going off into past or future thoughts. NOW!

Realize This – The Present Moment Is All You Have – Drop In

Become aware of now. Stop the distractions. Then we can find our true essence, our true feelings, our true being. From this authentic place we can act free from the constraints of our habitual thinking. We can think freely and productively. We can decide.

This ability is developed  through time and devoted attention. It is developed by dedication and practice. It is a process. You can do it and discover how beneficial it is. It is harder to describe than to experience. Once you find your center you know where to return to.

Meditate. Let go. Observe without labeling. At first, you will discover glimpses. Seconds of awareness. As you progress you will discover longer moments. Spend time in the gap between thoughts and words. Notice this space and enjoy it. Ancient people knew this!

Live In The Present – Find Eternity In Each Moment – Be Here Now

Become aware. It is freeing. Read through my recent and past blogs for what and how to practice. Then engage. Doing makes it real. Thought translates into results. Don’t just be informed. Use the information for transformation.  AND ALWAYS live with gratitude and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Now Is the time. Here is the place. Celebrate it!

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