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Focus, Intentional Thinking, Overcoming Difficulty, Responsibility

Your Story Holds You Back And Keeps You Down! You Must Do This!

May 27, 2016 rexsikes 4 Comments

“Most people spend most of their time focused on what they do not want. They have poor health, their pocket book suffers, they are in a lackluster job or their relationships are falling apart. These are the things they are focused on. Doom, gloom, boredom and suffering.

They share these stories with family and friends, co-workers and strangers. They tell their stories day in and day out about what isn’t working for them and why. Over and over again they repeat the same sad tales. They know their story. They repeat it often.

They have gotten really good at telling these stories. It’s as if they were rehearsing lines in a play. They got them down. They say things like, ‘You think you have it bad’ and ‘Let me tell you about my boss!’ ‘I can’t believe what my spouse did yesterday’.

You Choose Which Story You Tell – That Is Always Your Decision

‘Do you know what the bank did to me?’ My car, my doctor, my kid, the government. They talk about how things are screwed up. It is as they brag about all that is wrong. They they can’t make ends meet, their health sucks, their job sucks, they can’t get a break. Whatever!

They focus on the bad news, the latest reports, gossip or things they cannot change. They even focus on things that do not involve them. All negative. All distractions. All rob them from the life they could have. Truly, because they are busy repeating these stories.

These are their battle stories. They take pride in their stories of what is wrong. Sometimes, they may laugh as they tale their tales. People get together and commiserate. They share their bad stories with each other. They even try to outdo each other at times.

You Write Your Story From The Choices You Make

The problem is EACH and EVERY time they tell these stories they are reliving the experience. Over and over again the re-live their problems. REMEMBER, you get what you focus on. We become what we think about most often.

So they end up creating the same thing over an over. Energy flows where your attention goes. Their book of life sucks. Each chapter is filled with trauma drama and they wonder why their life doesn’t improve. It can’t They are too busy creating it the same.

They create and attract more of the same problems into their life. Can it be any clearer? What you say is what you get. This is why I emphasize to speak only to bless, heal and prosper yourself and others. If you say it, IT is so! You create your reality.

You Have The Power To Say – This Is Not How The Story Ends

If you want happiness or success or a better life you have to tell a better story. Your story has to be about what you want. You must turn your back on what you don’t want and focus only on what you do want. That is when the change will occur. It will begin right away.

That is when good things can rush in and begin to happen. You must rehearse what you do want and not what you don’t want. Whatever story you tell you are creating more of it! Re-live the experience you want to have more of not what you do not want. Change your story!

It is not about ignoring or blocking what you don’t like. It is about changing the frame and putting it in another perspective. A different perspective. Napoleon Hill said in every difficulty there is a seed of opportunity. Stop focusing on the adversity. Find the opportunity.

The Life You Live Is The Story You Repeatedly Tell

Every situation or circumstance or event in life can be looked at as a positive experience, or at least a positive learning experience or negative. One side can be emphasized more than the other. You must focus on the positive. It isn’t and won’t be easy at first.

Still, you can do it. You can learn to reframe your difficulties. You can find the positive and focus on that and look forward to learning and growing. You can expect good to happen when hope seems lost. Again, not easy, but doable. If you begin to do it and keep doing it.

You must break the habit of focusing on what sucks and emphasize what works and what you can find to be grateful for. Find the good, reframe the bad as a positive learning experience. Find the opportunities and the good. This is the new habit to develop.

Your Past Is Just Another Story – You Can Always Change It

Habits can be hard to break but they are not impossible to break. You overwrite old habits with new ones through correct practice and spaced repetition. Practice at every opportunity. Practice the new way until you get good at it. It isn’t comfortable at first.

It is unfamiliar because you don’t do it. It isn’t your habit yet. Many people don’t like to be uncomfortable but that is where your growth occurs. You won’t change by remaining the same! It will be a struggle because your tendency will be the old habit you are good at.

If you stick with the new one you will eventually master it. The question is do you want to create a new, better, more wonderful reality and get positive results or do you want more of the same old, same old? You must decide and take action if you want it better.

Every Moment You Create Or Attract – Is It What You Want

Practice telling new positive stories about how, though facing some challenging moments, you are finding new opportunities to explore. That good is around the corner even though you can’t yet see it and don’t know what it is. Expect things to work out. Learn and grow.

Discover what there is to be grateful for right now. Share how you are learning and growing and moving forward. Life has presented challenges for you to excel and succeed and you are finding yourself up to the challenge and making things work out for the better.

It is either positive or negative. You thoughts and beliefs and actions either support you and uplift you or they don’t and they drag you down. Which do YOU want more of? Manage your thoughts, your self-talk, your internal images, your feelings. Take charge.

Change Your Thoughts And You Change Your World

Create, vibrate and attract differently. You know what it is you don’t want so turn around and focus on what you do want. Imagine already having it, feel it, see it, say it. Focus on being what you want and feeling that as though it is already accomplished.

Make this your story. Become a can do person instead of a can’t do, troubled, burdened person. Created and attract the good things. Live and rehearse how you are making wonderful things happen. The choice is yours. The decision is yours each moment.

Be grateful, and stick with it. Keep rehearsing the positive and you will become more positive. It will get easier. Keep choosing the positive and choosing will get easier too. You will develop new habits that support you. Live, love laugh. Do it today! Change your story and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Expert Reveals: Your Success Habits And Failure Habits Affect Your Results

May 18, 2016 rexsikes 1 Comment

“Some things we do help us be more successful while some of what we do leads us away from it. We succeed or we fail. There is a way to determine whether what you are doing is working or not. You need to know it and use it to become aware and to evaluate your efforts.

As we discuss money and wealth creation I wanted to point out that the mental practices related to increasing your net worth applies to happiness, love, leisure, career and anything you want in life. You can be, do and have whatever you desire. It is up to you to get it!

It is important, as we move forward with this topic, to understand that each of us has Success Habits. These habits support us. We do those things automatically that move us forward toward success. For example, being on time can be one. Paying oneself first, another.

Set Yourself Apart From The Herd – Practice Success

We also have Failure Habits. These don’t support us. These are things we automatically do that keep us from being successful. Showing up late, for example. Procrastinating. Spending more than we make. These are the habits we need to change to succeed.

If we keep doing what we always did we will always get the same results. We want to eliminate or overwrite the failure habits with more success habits. We need to aim at and focus on what we want and not on what we don’t want or what we want to exclude.

Whenever you encounter a failure habit you have a choice. You need to think, to consider, to ask yourself, ‘Is what I am doing right now supporting me or harming me?’ ‘Does it lead to increase or decrease?’ Will doing this lead to more success or more failure?’

Most People Don’t Have A Willingness To Break Bad Habits …

If your answer is that whatever you are thinking, feeling or doing is harming you, leading to decrease, failure or is negative, then you are at a place where you need to make a decision. Awareness is the first step in change. Now that you are aware of the failure habit – stop it.

Decide to implement a better belief right then. Choose a powerful positive one and repeat it over and over. Keep doing it until you make it your own. If you are feeling less than glorious do something positive to feel a little bit better. You need to act in your behalf.

If your actions are leading to failure you need to take actions that lead to success. If you want your life to change you must change some things in your life. You must take a positive action. For example, you are late make it a habit to be early or on time.

… They Have A Lot Of Excuses And Talk Like Victims – Be Different

Start right now. Begin today. Don’t put anything off. Live with this new awareness; Increase or Decrease; Supportive or Harmful; Success of Failure; Positive or Negative. Choose wisely. The way you change a habit is by introducing and practicing the new one.

We use correct repetition over time to wire it in. Whether it is a thought, feeling or action habit. Whenever you notice yourself off track steer back onto track. Get back on course. Set yourself right. There is so much value in self-correcting alone. It is powerful.

By repeating the correct thought, feeling or action, again and again over time, you create a new neural pathway. You create a new habit. It takes a while but as you develop the new habit the old one weakens and gives way to the new. Create new success habits!

Being Miserable Or Broke Is A Habit – As Is Happiness And Success

Whether you are learning to think more positive, feel better, or exercise more keep this in mind. When it comes to money this applies to paying yourself first and trimming the fat. Develop saving, investing and spending habits that contribute to your success.

If you want to succeed then you must have more success habits and fewer failure habits. Only you can correct the imbalance. Understand that your future results are in what you think, feel and do today? If you want a more wonderful future start right now!

I’ll share more money and wealth principles next time, too. Enjoy the process. Have fun. It is serious but don’t take it too seriously. Nurture and nudge yourself along. Step by step. Encourage yourself. With deliberate practice you will get there. So keep at it!

Your Habits Are Driving Your Performance And Results

Delight in what you do well. Ignore and let go of mistakes after learning from them. Be sure to learn from them. Experience and reflection is a great aspect to learning to do new things. Practice gratitude and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Discover something new and wonderful today!

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Attitude, Habit Formation, Intentional Thinking, Wealth Creation

Expert Reveals: The Way To Wealth – Trim It!

May 17, 2016 rexsikes Leave a comment

“You want to be wealthier. Who doesn’t want more money or freedom? You want to be free from debt and able to live the lifestyle of your choosing? You can be but you must change some things you are currently thinking and doing if you aren’t already financially free.

Last post I mentioned two things you could start doing. Over the next posts I will elaborate on each and add more principles and practices. Remember to PAY yourself first AND CUT spending. Trim the fat. Seriously, if you don’t need it now, go without it now.

I hoarded videos and books. I felt compelled to buy. If I wanted it I got it. I had to discipline myself to say, ‘I can afford it but I don’t want it right now. Another time. Maybe later’. My mindset was not one of ‘I can’t afford this’ but that I am able to AND choose not to have now.

Saving Must Become A Priority – Always Pay Yourself First

Whether, in reality, I could or not I adopted this mindset. Mindset is everything! Your mindset, my mindset, our mindset runs the show. Our beliefs and attitudes, our thoughts are the predominant determining factor of whether we are happy, successful or wealthy.

Save and stop spending. Find out what you don’t need and can go without. I cut cable. After decades of high bills and full packages, I said enough. I didn’t like the bills or how they only continued to creep up. I hated having to always call for another promotion.

This was especially difficult for me. I am an actor, director and producer. My life is film, TV and entertainment. It is even a deduction for me. However, when I think of the tens of thousands of dollars I spent on cable, since the advent of it, I cut it loose.

If You Don’t Manage Your Money You’ll Work For Those Who Do

Difficult yes, but I have not regretted it. The mindset is ‘I have plenty. I can afford these things but I choose otherwise’. I’d rather celebrate saving than moan about spending. It is important to focus on what we want and celebrate than to focus on what we don’t want.

I want to be happy with my bills, as I pointed out in my last post. I don’t want my thinking time consumed by lack, worry or fears. I want most of my day spent thinking positive on what I can do. I want to accomplish those things that move me ahead. Wouldn’t you?

When shopping many people look for bargains and the cheapest. They want the deal, they want to stretch their dollars. Guess what, the rich do too. They look for bargains and cheap deals. Billionaire Mark Cuban said he buys all his toothpaste for a year at a discount.

The First Step To Wealth – Always Spend Less Than You Make

The mindset is different. They aren’t worried about not having enough they are concerned with keeping their money working for them and not wasting it. It isn’t ‘can I afford it?’ Their thoughts are, ‘is it a good bargain or value for my money’?

If they don’t need it they don’t get it. Cut your waste. Trim the fat. Let go of what you do not need. You will be glad you did even if you don’t like it at first. The reason most people are poor is they overspend for what they earn and/or they get into debt.

So curb your spending, manage you money. Most importantly, manage your thoughts and your mindset. Your feelings and actions follow your thoughts. The results you get stem primarily from what you think and believe you can or cannot do. Think the best always!

You Tell Money What To Do Or The Lack Of It Will Manage You

Here is another way to manage your thoughts and think about money. This is an important exercise. Put some money in your wallet. $100.00 dollars or more. Then going on a shopping spree. Don’t actually buy anything. Window shop. Look don’t buy. LOOK only!

Look at items under the price amount in your pocket whether you have 100 or 500. With everything you see that you want, think, ‘I can afford that. I don’t need it right now’. You can! You have the money in your pocket. Choose not to purchase but understand that you could.

If you did that with 10, $100.00 items, you’d have spent $1,000. If you did it with 100 on your shopping spree you’d have spent much more! Understand? Learn to feel wealthy; that you can afford things and you can buy them but YOU CHOOSE not to. Change your habits.

See Yourself Living In Abundance And You’ll Create And Attract It

It is the mindset of the wealthy you want to learn to have. Feel wealthy first and becoming wealthier is much easier. Most people feel lack and live in it. Your thoughts determine where you go and end up. Think and feel wealthy inside and you can create it outside.

Some people look at menus and pick the cheapest fare. They don’t get what they want. They get what they think they should have or can afford. From time to time, as AN exercise, go look at a menu and don’t look at the prices. Don’t look. Get whatever you want.

You don’t have to do this all the time but find out how it feels when you do? Do you end up with sticker shock? What happens? How do you feel? Where you want to get to in your wealth is to be able to afford anything and then choose wisely.

Spend Time Learning To Be A Good Money Manager

Sometimes, it is important to splurge and treat yourself well. After all you deserve it. Don’t break the bank doing it, be smart. Indulge once in a while. Don’t let price be the deciding factor. Don’t make money the issue.

Clear up the money issues. Get what you want. Still, be wise as a wealthy person would be. The point of this exercise is to feel wealthy enough that price is not a consideration. If you do the exercise, be sure to enjoy it. Consider it a treat for yourself. A gift to delight in.

They rich don’t have to get the most expensive item to prove anything either. They don’t have to get the cheapest. They get what they want because that is what they want. They are still are smart about managing their money. This is important to understand!

Spend Time Each Week Managing Your Money – The Wealthy Do It

They save, they manage, they invest, they don’t overspend. They keep costs low and profits high. They allocate. Wise allocation is part of money management we’ll discuss later. Seek to improve your mindset and relationship with money and you will.

Be smart, be grateful. Be thankful you have any money. Be grateful you are alive and can experience things. Be grateful for family, friends and relationships. Be grateful for it all. Be grateful for the opportunity to learn from your struggles. Create balance!

Be grateful you can learn, you can develop yourself and your skills and can change you lifestyle. Be grateful for your past mistakes and successes because each step has brought you here. Appreciate today and be grateful you create your future. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Attitude, Creating The Future, Intentional Thinking, Wealth Creation

Expert Reveals: 2 Wealth Increasing Money Strategies

May 16, 2016 rexsikes 2 Comments

“I have received numerous requests to discuss money. It is a worthy topic to explore and we will over a few posts. Today, more than ever people are getting rich and going broke. Disparity between the haves and those who have nothing is great. Let’s examine money.

From my teens on I have been fortunate to spend a lot of time around the finest brains, talent and wealthy in the world. I always found a way to get to the people I wanted to study and learn from. I have learned much from many and I willingly share it.

I am not a financial advisor. I can’t advise you in any manner. I share with you information but you need to seek wise counsel for anything you might do regarding the information you read here. You should want to do this anyway. I can’t give you monetary or legal advice.

You Must Focus On Abundance To Have More Abundance

From the rich, I will share two principles I have learned, today. We will explore more in posts to come. This wisdom is also available from others in other forms you can search and find. I found it valuable to know and to practice. You decide what you do with it.

The first is Pay Yourself First. With each pay check or any money you receive, take a percentage as payment for yourself. Sock it away. Today, the bank gives you nothing in the way of interest and inflation will consume it before long. Find an investment that earns for you.

This is why you need honest and wise professional consultants in the financial arena to help you put your money where it will grow and work for you. Right now, you may mostly work for your money and what you want to do is have your money work for you.

Always Pay Yourself First – That Is What The Rich Do

This is what the rich know and do. Their money works for them and not the other way around. They don’t trade their time for money as the rest do with hourly pay. Their money works whether they do, or whether they sleep or at the beach. Their money always is working.

If they weren’t born rich they built wealth by saving the money they made. They pay themselves first. Then, take a portion and invest it in vehicles that make them more money over time. They re-invest and grow their money. They seek wise investments that pay them well.

You have to be smart and prudent. Foolish maneuvers can be costly and devastating. The principle is pay yourself first! Save and build your wealth! Invest in those areas that will bring you a continuous return on your investment! Create streams of passive income.

Money Is A Tool – The Love Of Money Is The Root Of All Evil

Active income is what we do to make money. Passive income is our money working for us; it can be real estate, stocks and bonds, certain businesses with low overhead and high profit. The point is to get your money working for you. Research and seek consultation.

The second principle I have already mentioned. Save Your Money! Become a wise and prudent money manager. Most of the wealthy people live below their means. Most wannabes imagine buying everything they have always wanted. These people go broke!

I had a very wealthy friend who bought himself a nice yacht, parked it in the marina. He used it for pleasure, to live on. It was a second home. It was great fun to be on his yacht most anytime. One day he sold it. I was shocked and asked why. His answer surprised me then.

Having More Money Means Having More Positive Choices

‘It’s a money drain’ was his reply. I said, ‘but you can afford it’. He looked me in the eye and said again, ‘It is a money drain’. Whether he came to that conclusion by himself or whether one of his advisors told him to lose it, I don’t know. He got rid of it. It cost too much.

He could have afforded ten more then and now but he didn’t keep the one. Rich people understand money and are friendly with it. They understand how to make it work for them and how to keep it. The like it as a tool to do more things with and to have choices.

The smartest ones don’t let it control them, they control and manage their money. They control their spending. They know in business you want to keep your expenses low, and keep your cash flow and profits high. They pay themselves first and they save and manage money.

You Can Reach And Help More People The More Money You Have

Everyone of the rest of us can learn from the very rich. We can benefit from these principles. Seek ways to take a portion of you income, even if it were only a dollar a week, and sock it away somewhere you get some return. Save, grow it and then invest it.

T. Harv Eker and others call it a Financial Freedom Account. Put your money into an account that you want to grow so that some day you will be financially free. It makes sense does it not? Learn to be wise about money. Be thrifty, cut your expenses and maximize your gains.

These Winning Money Mindset and principles and practices I’ll continue to share in upcoming posts. If you want to be wealthy be wise! Learn about money and befriend it. You can’t get rich if you hate wealth, the wealthy, or if you are stupid about it.

Money Will Not Buy Happiness – Be Happy First And Enjoy Money

Those who increase their wealth do so because they want it, they feel they deserve it and they do the correct things to build it. There are plenty of wonderful, philanthropic rich people out there. There are also plenty of greedy, cutthroat, rich predators out there.

Money amplifies who you already are. If you are nice to begin with you most likely will be nice with lots of money. If you are a bastard to begin with you’ll be a rich bastard with more money. The goal is to be free of debt and have enough money to live the lifestyle you dream.

The more money you have the more choices you have AND the more you can help and benefit others. I believe the more we have of power, money and influence, the more responsibility we have to help, to share and educate others to have the same.

Save Your Money – Invest Wisely – Learn To Manage Your Money

There is more than enough to go around. Yes, some attempt to hoard it and there are some rotten apples that have made it difficult for others. Still, it is possible to be free and enjoy more of the good life however you define that for yourself. Yes, enjoy the good life!

As we explore money and mindset one thing is clear. Money travels and finds those who like and appreciate it. So be a friend. Money is a tool and nothing more. Be grateful for whatever amount of money you presently have. Celebrate it and welcome it. Learn to do this!

You won’t get richer by focusing on debt and on lack. It you complain and worry about bills you perpetuate the cycle of never having enough. You need to understand the laws of money flow just as you learn about anything else in life. There are principles that work.

Curb Spending – Keep Cash Flow And Profits High – Invest In You

Gratitude is the right attitude. Be grateful and thankful for whatever amount you have. Be thankful that money flows. It circulates and you can capture more of it. Befriend it, befriend the concept. Learn to let go of fears and worries. Pay your bills and learn to do it joyfully.

Whenever I pay a bill, today, I think, ‘thank goodness the universe thinks I am rich’. Because it believes I can pay all these bills. I celebrate them for that reason alone! I didn’t always but I learned it’s better to be joyous and optimistic than a negative pessimist.

So take care of your money. Learn to manage and allocate it wisely. Learn to grow it. Most importantly learn to think as a benevolent wealthy person does. Keep expenses low and return high. There is more than enough to go around. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Your future can be shiny and bright. Live today knowing this!

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Attitude, Beliefs, Creating The Future, Intentional Thinking

Winners Reveal: You Need This Kind Of Faith To Win!

May 14, 2016 rexsikes 1 Comment

What is faith? Why do you need it? What do you have faith in? There are so many different rules and beliefs and practices about faith what is necessary? Can you develop it?

Faith is your ability to believe and trust that what you want to make happen, you will. It is the certainty that you can bring it about. It is faith in you and your abilities and resourcefulness.

You can have faith in the universe or god but that is not the faith I am talking about right now. I hope you understand this. You can live and work with one or both. That is entirely your choice.

Skill Comes Of Doing

It is useful and desirable to have faith that good things will happen regardless of the evidence. It is powerful to believe that no matter what happens the end result will be good. Things work out.

It is an incredible mindset to not be thrown by whatever present circumstances there are. Everything will work out positively, eventually, is a great attitude. Think, I always land on my feet.

It IS absolutely worthwhile to cultivate these beliefs. It is absolutely worthwhile to be positive and feel positive. When you feel your best everything works better. Your brain is open to all the good around.

The Mind Is As Strong As Its Weakest Think

Life is more wonderful when you think and feel your best. When you feel optimal everything goes better to. You can do more, enjoy more, struggles aren’t so difficult. It is a good head place to be.

This faith, Napoleon Hill called Active Faith. Active faith means you take action. You believe in your purpose, your desired goal, you Definite Chief Aim. Then you act in service of getting it.

The hay doesn’t bail itself! Everyday you do something that brings you closer to your desired future. Small steps or large you keep moving forward knowing that ultimately you will get there.

The More We Do The More We Are Able To Do

You will get there. No matter how many times you may have to change course, you will arrive. You use your imagination and your will power. It is not up to others. It is up to you whether you succeed.

Skill comes from doing. So does faith. The more we do the more we can do. The more we act on our own behalf, the closer we get, the more we believe it is possible. Belief comes from doing, too.

Active faith is not about sitting around wishing for things to be different. It is acting to make them different. YOU make it happen by your thoughts and actions. Your behaviors bring you results.

Believe In Yourself

You develop active faith through repetition of affirmations and your actions. You become a ‘CAN DO’ person by focusing your mind on what you can do and then doing it. Thoughts and actions.

You develop this faith and make it serve you. You get more of it by using it. It grows through exercise just as muscles do. Everyday affirm you are the kind of person that acts. Be positive!

Affirm it. Affirm that you will accomplish the positive good you want. See yourself with your goal already attained. Visualize the kind of persons you are. See your results as already accomplished.

There Is Something Greater Inside You Than Any Obstacle

Feel your best. Be enthused when you affirm. Feel confident and powerful that what you say is true. Feel great about seeing and having, in your imagination, what you will in reality someday.

Feelings are the most important aspect of this process. Always feel the best you can. Feel convinced. This is the method to develop strong positive beliefs. Everyday affirm it out loud with passion.

Do this daily! This is how you use correct repetition to develop necessary skill. Everyday see yourself successful. Fill your mind with positive thoughts that YOU CAN do it. Keep your mind filled!

I May Not Be There Yet But I Am Closer Than Yesterday

Everyday take action and do something to make your dream come true. Everyday put on your best, most powerful mindset, and work to make it happen. Will it? That is entirely up to you!

Can it? Absolutely it is possible! Live each day knowing you are fully capable to bring about your intended future. Know that you can learn and acquire whatever resources you need.

You are sufficient to make it happen. Be grateful for the opportunity to learn, to struggle, to grow and develop. Be thankful. Appreciate everything about you and about your circumstances.

The Only Thing Limiting You Is Your Belief That There Are Limits

Tough times make us tougher. Express your gratitude for everything and believe that good things always happen in the end. As you do these things everything begins to come together in positive ways.

You will be more alert to opportunity. You will be more open to helping others and attracting the right people that can assist you. When your mindset is positive you keep moving forward. It feels good and nothing can stop you. Get it? Do it! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Live enthusiastically!

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Deliberate Creators, Habit Formation, Intentional Thinking, Persistence

Expert Reveals: The Single Most Critical Factor In Success Conditioning

May 12, 2016 rexsikes Leave a comment

“What makes the difference between success and failure? Is there something we aren’t doing that would change the game? How can we succeed and reach our goals? People have struggles. They try but they abandon their pursuit.

Did you know there was a time in your life when you did anything and everything to succeed? You didn’t stop. You worked until you got there. Giving up was not an option for you. Did you know this? It is true. You worked and continued to work until you achieved.

People asked me, why is repetition important? The reason it is important is that is how you learned as an infant, toddler, child and all the while growing up. As an youngster you worked harder than you ever had and you kept going until you got what you were after.

Mastery Only Comes From Doing It Over Again Correctly

As an infant you repeated movements necessary to roll over, sit up, crawl, walk and feed yourself. The movements that you needed and were successful at you kept. Those not needed, you discarded. You eliminated the unnecessary movements.

Even the unnecessary movements were important. You moved wildly, without control. You had to learn control. You had to learn which got you to your desired goal. In feeding yourself you had to eliminate all those that didn’t get the spoon to your mouth.

You kept doing it, getting food everywhere, all over you. Eventually, through repetition you learned which ones you needed. Then you repeated those. You maintained the correct repetition to succeed. From random and error you made it to your target by doing.

What We Want To Do With Ease We Must First Do With Diligence

You kept doing over and over again until you succeeded. Failure wasn’t an option. You tried to walk and fell. You got up and tried again. You fell. You got up and repeated what you were doing until you did it successfully. Everything you learned to do this in this way.

As a child you learned songs and nursery rhymes by repeating them again and again. You learned you alphabet, and mathematical tables by repeating over and over. You repeatedly practiced printing letters, then cursive. You learned to read by repetition.

Repetition is how you have learned everything. You learned your name and the names of those around you by repeatedly hearing them. You learned to speak by hearing over and over your native language and then babbling and babbling until you could talk.

Skill Comes Of Doing

Your muscles and strength grow by exercise repeated often. You repeat eating a number of times each day and you repeat sleeping and waking each day. The piston in your car engine pumps again and again to take you places. Your heart does the same as do your lungs.

Your cells repair and re-create themselves every so often. Your entire body renews itself through the years. Repetition is the way of the universe. Hot and cold, summer and winter, day and night. Tides come in and go out again and again.

Learn to use repetition to your advantage. We have been trained out of it to. We were conditioned for limiting beliefs in this same way. We adopted poor attitudes in a similar manner. Unfortunately, not everything we were exposed to was positive, useful and supportive.

Self Discipline Begins With The Mastery Of Your Thoughts

We got lots of junk conditioning in there and we will continue to live from that junk unless WE decide to eliminate and change it. If we don’t we run on and on automatically reproducing the habits we learned. We continue to live from our limitations and issues.

We listened passively, as infants and children, as the people around us expressed their worries and their fears. We witnessed their concerns and arguments. We grew up modeling and adopting their issues. These weren’t originally our own but they became our own.

Now we need to wake up to the fact that we can deliberately decide to change these. Only, if we attempt to change can we make a difference. Now, we have to do it consciously, with intention. We apply the very same method we originally were conditioned with.

Mastering Yourself Is True Power

Instead of the passive modeling and conditioning we actively condition ourselves for success. We choose what we want instead and actively install it through correct repetition and powerful emotion. We do it through spaced repetition over time.

We must do it because no one is going to or be able to do it for us. We override the original less than glorious programming for new updated programming of our own choosing. That is how and why it works this way. This is important to understand.

You adopted try and try again, once more, then quit. This was counter to your original instincts which are to continue for as long as it takes to be successful. We learned to want things easy, quick and comfortable. We aren’t as driven as we once were.

Happiness Relies Solely On What You Think

It wasn’t comfortable to try to roll over or sit up and support your body weight but you kept going until you were able to. Crawling took massive effort. Yet you did it. When you walked you fell, but YOU got back up. You didn’t remain down. You kept going.

By comparison we are wimps and wanna bees who won’t put in the effort. We whine and complain and excuse. That doesn’t serve us. If you want something badly enough you will find a way and keep going until you get it. We need to learn perseverance over again.

We need to learn positivity and supportive beliefs and attitudes. We need to acquire commitment and sheer will power. We can and will if we commit to practice and repetition. We can succeed. Athletes do all the time. They have a goal and they go after it relentlessly.

The Price You Pay To Be Great At Something Is Repetition

They workout even when they don’t feel like it. They know motivation comes from doing not by waiting for it. They repeat their mental and physical conditioning exercises. They use correct repetition to become world class. You can be world class too!

It is the mental game for us now. We need to learn the attitudes, the beliefs, the positive thoughts that see us through to the end. We need to exercise our will power, our imagination, our ability to decide. We can do anything once we learn we can do anything.

The first and most important ability you have, that probably no one told you about while growing up, is the ability to control your thoughts and take charge of your mind. Success and happiness starts from within in. It doesn’t come from the outside. This is important!

It Is Repetition Of Affirmations That Leads To Belief …

Learn to control your thinking. Keep at it until you master it. Apply feedback and correction as necessary. You will master it if you keep going. It is good to get a skilled mentor or coach because they can guide you in making corrections. They can keep you on track.

Alone or with a coach you can become a CAN DO person. You can adopt a winner’s attitude and learn what it is like to be a champion in your life. You can learn and evolve yourself into the person you have always wanted to be. You can learn to be, do and have anything.

This is the process. Apply it to whatever you do. Correct repetition for as long as it takes for you to condition yourself with the new thought, feeling and behavioral habits. Once they are habits they are automatic and reliable. It gets easier as you go along.

… Once That Belief Becomes A Deep Conviction Things Happen

The effort is up front. Yes, you must persist. Get used to the idea and stop looking for excuses or magic avenues to change. Be grateful you can change! All the while you effort be grateful and enjoy the process, even when most difficult, and you will excel through it.

Keep your eye on the prize. Athletes persist because the really want to be top in their field. It is important to them. It is a burning desire and they strive to be at the top. If you do too, you will. Enjoy all of it, keep going and you can claim it. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Continued in tomorrow’s post.

The magic of your day begins within you!

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Celebration, Directed Questions™, Intentional Thinking, Overcoming Difficulty

Expert Reveals: Why You Must Vacate Your Comfort Zone!

May 8, 2016 rexsikes 1 Comment

“If you are comfortable lying in bed, it is cozy and warm, plush and easy do you ever want to get up and out? When comfortable it is just that easy to stay as is. What is comfort? For some it is as just described. Everything is wonderful and easy, and warm and good.

Welcome to Part 19 of The Secret To Success And Happiness Few Know And Won’t Tell You. The series continues. Hope you are enjoying it. Feel free to comment. Part 20 tomorrow. Let’s go!

For others it is the familiar. It is the known. It is sameness from moment to moment. Conditions do not vary much. It is reliable and secure. For some it is a place for everything and everything in its place. For some it means the absences of unpleasantness.

Stretch Yourself Beyond What You Know

Most personal development never occurs inside our comfort zone. It seems to mostly only occur when we willingly or are forced to leave or abandon it. Why? I’d say by the description of comfort itself it should be obvious. Learning life lessons seem to come by trials.

It may be that it doesn’t have to be this way but since it seems to operate this way most frequently it seems one should accept it and embrace it. Opportunity when it presents itself, presents itself as it is. We may not get to change how and when and what it comes as.

Embrace change. Embrace hardship. Embrace struggle. Embrace challenge. What? Why? you exclaim. Because when you do you take the sting out of it. It may not be any less difficult but you can wrap your mind around it. If you don’t care it is hard, then it isn’t really.

Stretch Yourself Beyond What You Think Is Possible

It is our struggles against struggles that magnify them. It is the resistance we put up and the fight that prolongs them. I am not saying give up I am suggesting giving in. Go with the flow, when they arise. Don’t dam up the energy. Allow, let go and move on.

I am not suggesting you don’t solve problems or overcome your difficulties. I am suggesting you don’t make an issue of them. Energy flows where you attention goes. Focus on what can be done, focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want or why things exist.

Oliver Wendell Holmes stated, ‘A mind stretched to a new idea can never go back to its original dimension.’ This is very positive news. Once stretched you go further than you would have without being stretched. But stretched implies some pull, some difficulty.

Recognize Your Limits Then Go Beyond Them

To change we must stretch and go beyond what is comfortable. We must get out of our comfort zone. We must leave the known and venture into the unknown. When we do we encounter new experiences and new ways to think and behave. These change us.

This may be why so many people experience massive breakthroughs when finally their back is against the wall. They have no options. Everything is lost or about to be. Once in the gutter their is no way out but up. When all is lost they find their true self and resources.

When everything is stretched to the maximum change occurs. We surpass limitations and boundaries that truly only exist in the mind. Our only limitations are the ones we think we have. Once we are aware and go beyond our limitations anything becomes possible.

A Good Goal Should Be A Stretch For You To Reach It

Focus on solutions. Focus on what you have that you are grateful for. Focus on what you want to create that is better. Transformation can occur in an instant. Like the enlightenment paradox. It can take years of practice to transform in a moment.

However, without the years of dedication that moment would not likely present itself. In other words, plan for a miracle! Expect good things to happen. Seek and you will find them is how the brain works. So look for what is good and what you want more of. Yes!

Some things you can learn in only a few moments but take a life time to master. To get really good in any endeavor requires, time, devoted energy, practice and commitment. If you want your life to change in incredible ways for the best commit to practicing basics.

Go Beyond The Known – Go Beyond Yourself

You don’t have to stay out of your comfort zone all the time. That would be too much all at once. That is what happens when people have their backs against the wall. Instead, practice a little daily vacation from your comfort zone to reap great rewards.

A little goes a long way. Stretch, push your boundaries bit by bit. Remember, drop by drop fills the tub. A little bit can bring about dynamic change, especially when you do a little bit consistently. Less is more. Especially, if that helps you stick with it! Take charge!

Read some positive motivational material each day. A chapter, a page, a paragraph, a line whatever you can manage but commit to it. Your mind will be awakened to new possibility and insights. Obviously, more may be better but do what you can. Stretch!

A Little Bit Goes A Long Way

Use affirmations and Directed Questions™ frequently throughout the day with strong, positive emotion. Direct your mind positively and powerfully to stay on track. Manage your self-talk and what you say to others. Only speak to bless, heal and prosper.

Visualize what you want as if you already have it. Feel the marvelous feelings. Do this once of twice a day for a few minutes but actually do it. If you always do what you always did you always get what you always got. If you want to change you have to change things up.

You must do different things! Pay attention to feeling good and make it a point to feel as best you can each moment. If negative feelings arise notice what you are thinking. Take it as signal to become aware of and change your thoughts. It’s a signal. Use it.

If You Don’t Truly Want It – You’ll Come Up With Excuses

Encourage yourself to feel a bit better whenever down. You don’t have to leap into bliss but nudge yourself towards feeling a bit better instead of wallowing. In doing this you set directions to travel in. You begin to move out of pain and into more positive feelings.

It is up to each of us to initiate our own movement and development. It gets easier the more often we do it. We learn to take charge of our own evolution. When hard times occur, and they will, we are better prepared through daily, regular, practice. Master these basics.

Leave your comfort zone. Stretch yourself. Guess what? Stretching yourself will become more comfortable too. Everything gets easier, and you get better at it, through devoted practice. Be willing to stretch yourself to a new idea and a new way of being! Enjoy it.

If You Truly Want It – You Will Find A Way To Make It Happen

I emphasize gratitude and appreciation for whatever is right now. Good or not so good there is ALWAYS some good you can find in it. Why bother to look? Because you build within yourself a scanning mechanism, the ability to find good when very hidden.

That ability is a game changer! When you can find opportunity and good inside the very not so good your mind is much more under your control and working on you behalf to bring you good things. You move from stuck to unstuck so much more readily and easily.

New worlds open up for you. New thoughts, feelings, actions and results. It is exponential in nature and builds on itself. It begins to make all good, even when it isn’t, so you can do positive things about it. It is a life changer! Discover it for yourself if you haven’t.

Explore – Delight – Adventure – Celebrate

Enjoy, delight, have fun. Don’t take changing too seriously. Stretch yourself. Try new things that bring you joy. Surprise and gift yourself. Allow life to be exquisite. Little moments can be delicious and are important as big ones. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Enjoy another marvelous day!

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Affirmations, Deliberate Creators, Intentional Thinking, Paradigms

Expert Reveals: For Success You Need To Choose Useful Frames Of Mind!

May 4, 2016 rexsikes 1 Comment

“You know what a frame of mind is, right? There are useful frames and not so useful ones. Positive ones and negative ones. Supportive ones and non-supportive frames of mind. Which is yours?

Welcome to Part 16 of The Secret To Success And Happiness Few Know And Won’t Tell You. The series continues. Hope you are enjoying it. Feel free to comment. Part 17 tomorrow. Let’s go!

Choose useful ones. Choose frames that serve you to live better, more joyously, to succeed in you career or job, to increase your wealth, enjoy fabulous health and loving, caring relationships.

You Become What You Think About

We adopted frames of mind, beliefs, attitudes and values from others as we grew up. Some conclusions we came to from our own experience combined with the previously co-opted thoughts.

We think, we think originally most of the time, yet sadly, we think mostly the same things over and over again, most of the time. There is room for new thought and we have some.

Mostly we think, feel, live and act from habits. Some have told you your paradigms keep you trapped. They may, certainly, they could. Some have led you to believe that you can sabotage yourself.

What You Focus On Expands

Some have told you perception is everything. You may or may not believe it is true. Whatever you believe, from previous habit, or from free choice determines how you live, feel and move in the world.

If you believe you paradigms can trap you then most likely they will. If you believe you can sabotage yourself then you will mostly act as if you could. Your perceptions are everything and determine much.

Have you ever seen the face of a friend in a crowd? You look and wow, sure enough, there is your friend. You didn’t expect to see them there, perhaps they weren’t even on your mind.

You Get What You Focus On

You rush to make your way to them, fighting the crowd. When you get up close to say hello you discover it isn’t your friend at all. You saw the face you thought it was, but it wasn’t.

Our mind does that to us. Perception is everything. If you think it is likely you will succeed at something it is more likely that you will. You may not, but it is far likely than if you don’t think it is.

Positive thinking doesn’t guarantee your success. There are other things, up to you, to insure success, but negative thinking certainly doesn’t. You don’t get uphill, easily, thinking down hill thoughts.

Energy Flows Where Attention Goes

So what frames of mind do you use? Do you think you can or do you think you can’t? Henry Ford said you are right either way. It is up to what you believe. You will only go as far as your thoughts take you.

Do you think you are successful or not? Are you happy or not? Are you healthy or not? Are you able to learn or not? Are you smart or stupid? What do you think about yourself?

Are you worthy or not? Do you deserve riches or not? Is the world an abundant place or not? Is there more than enough for everyone or not? Is the world tough or easy to live in?

Success Is A Decision A Commitment A Promise A Mindset

Your attitude, your beliefs, your ‘frame’, your perceptions determine what you will do and not do. They will determine how you feel, and what actions you take or not. They determine how far you go.

Even if you have limiting beliefs and frames you can change them! You change them the same way you learned them in the first place. You hear them or say them over and over again until they take hold.

The more emotion you put into saying them the sooner you will believe them. You condition your mind in this fashion. You fill your mind with what you want to believe instead. You change your focus.

You Can Have Anything – If You Give Up The Belief You Can’t

You become what you focus on most of the time. Watch and listen, to positive, inspirational, motivational materials. Surround yourself with positive messages you want to believe instead. Immerse!

Think and say and act the way you want to be. Declare it so. Affirm it powerfully! Chant these with intense emotion. Have fun. Be and feel powerful. Determine you will be what you say you will be!

Decide to be it! Keep repeating and doing and it gets easier. It will take some time. It isn’t going to happen over night because you have so many competing distractions and old habits to overcome.

Always Believe Something Wonderful Is About To Happen

YOU WILL SUCCEED IF YOU KEEP AT IT! You won’t if you try it for awhile and quit. Stick with it! Make the changes you want, yours changes. Own it. Live it. Eat it. Drink it. Sleep it. Breath it.

If you want it badly enough you will have it. If you MUST have it you will. If you KNOW inside with certainty YOU CAN DO IT you will do it. Why wouldn’t you? Declare it! Command It. Own Your Decisions!

If you must have it you will make it happen.

Let’s explore what is and what isn’t a useful frame of mind. You might think, ‘I can fly without a plane’. Okay, if that is what you believe the stand on the ground and practice flying up. Don’t get up high to begin with. Stay low and take off safely.

The Only Limits You Have Are The Limits You Believe

I don’t think that is the wisest frame of mind but someone always asks ‘what if I believe I can fly without a plane?’ Duh. Can god create a rock so big he can’t lift it up? Get it?

Somethings aren’t that useful to ponder. Fun perhaps. Useful frames of mind help you live better, not stupider, nor should they lead you to get hurt. They are USEFUL! I’ll give you another example.

‘I can do anything’. That is a great belief to have. ‘I am confident’. Awesome. Great, let’s go for a 100 foot high tight rope walk. While I can do anything and I am confident, I don’t know how to walk one.

To Succeed You First Must Believe You Can

I could begin by believing I can learn to walk a tightrope easily. I can believe I can succeed at walking the tightrope no matter how difficult. I am confident with practice I can become accomplished.

I c an even believe I can become the best tightrope walker ever. I want my beliefs to be big and to support my efforts learning to walk a tightrope.

I do not, however, want to attempt walking the tightrope until I clearly know how. The way one learns is by walking the rope on the ground. Then a few inches off the ground, then a few feet.

Believing In Yourself Is The First Secret To Success

One works up to the higher heights after accomplishing the lower ones first. Progress is made inch by inch. We will get there. Thinking you are the best and the greatest is fine.

Eventually, you want to be able to back it up. You don’t just want to be a bragger. Confidence without actual competence isn’t good. However, in order to begin you may need to develop competence.

Adopt frames of mind that help you be what you want to be and get what you want to get. None of them are true or untrue all the time. Consider them useful templates.

There Is No Truth There Is Only Perception

You use these templates to more readily and easily make changes. These frames are how we perceive ourselves and the world. Use them to your advantage. Don’t let lies prevent you from excelling.

Beliefs change. At one time you believed in monsters under the bed, later you didn’t. You may have believed in certain holiday figures bringing you gifts on those occasions. Now you believe differently.

You have changed beliefs. You can adopt new useful ones that help you live how you want to live. If you are having money trouble and think you are in debt and will never get out, how is that serving you?

We Can Complain Because Rose Bushes Have Thorns …

It serves to keep you broke and in debt. Do you get it? On the other hand IF you say ‘never again, I am done being broke’ you can use that less than glorious circumstance as the impetus for change.

Once you do, you must change your focus from ‘i’m broke and will never’ to ‘I can learn new ways to make money. I can get out of debt. Money flows to me. I find opportunity everywhere I look’.

‘The world is abundant and I deserve money just like everyone else. Money is my friend. I am a great learner. I take action. I can live debt free. I am in charge of my finances’.

… Or We Can Rejoice Because Thorn Bushes Have Roses

‘I learn to manage my money well and make wise investments. I can grow my money. I am rich and live an abundant lifestyle’. Imagine in your mind all this being true. Imagine being rich.

Imagine living how you want, in the house you want, with the cars. You have the career or job you want and all the trappings that come with success. See it, hear, it, feel it, smell it, taste it. Fully imagine it!

Describe it out loud. Write it in your journal. Do this every day. Imagine a friend comes along as says, ‘wow congratulations, you did it! How? What did you do? Tell me!’

The Happiest People Don’t Have Everything …

Tell him how you did it. Speak it out loud. Journal it. What was the first things you thought? What first steps did you take that led you to where you are today? Describe the process.

Then what did you do? What obstacles did you face and how did you overcome them? Author your success story. See it and write it as you see fit. Imagine the process in your mind’s eye in detail.

As you do this exercise, again and again, you tap into your inner creativity. You locate your inner resources. Your intuition comes to your air. Your brain’s Reticular Activating System (RAS) assists you.

… The Happiest People Make The Best Of Everything

Your RAS looks for matches and evidence from your past. It also scours your present circumstances looking for matches in your outer world to help you create the results in reality.

Put on your best mindset because that is what unleashes the power within you to change. This power if what helps you make happen what you want.

From this powerful, positive thinking and positive emotions comes your ability to align your skills and abilities to act congruently and make your goals happen. You achieve them!

Right Now You’re Looking At The Results Of Your Past Creations …

Your frame of mind determines how far you reach and whether you reach at all. This is critical for you to know. You can change your frames from not supportive to supportive.

You can change from wimpy to powerful; from negative to positive, from lack and decrease to increase and prosperity. You decide how it will be because of your attitude and mindset. You are doing it.

God or no god? One or many? Universe or nature? Random or intelligent? Law Of Attraction or Nothing? Frames of mind. Might they be true. Sure. Might they be false, sure.

… And Right Now How You Feel Is Creating Your Future

All of these concepts are frames of mind, too. Which works best for you? Choose the one that stretches you the most and helps you fulfill your purpose on the planet. Which is most meaningful to you?

Which brings out the best in you and helps you live in harmony and abundantly? For some it will be a personal god for others an infinite intelligence.

For some it will be mystical and magical made for others reasonable or scientific. These are ways of perceiving the universe. Are they the right or only way? Who knows? They are different ways.

If You Continue To Talk About The Drama You Don’t Want …

Some will argue only their way is the right way WHICH is another frame of mind. Some will argue none are correct and everyone who thinks they are, is deluded. Another frame of mind.

My job as author of this blog is not to decide for you, others have already done that. My job is to expose you to life changing opportunity and let you make the decision.

You decide which frame of mind you want to use. Try them on. See if you can leave your comfort zone. Nothing comes from being comfortable but good relaxation and rest. Get out of your comfort.

… You Will Continue To Attract It Into Your Life

Try some new things. Explore. Adventure! Have fun. Attempt seeing the world in new and different ways. Be the person you always wanted to be and notice what that feels like. Awesome, right?

Choose frames of mind that lead to success. A successful person doesn’t doubt oneself. A successful person knows that s/he will make happen whatever is needed at the right time.

S/he will create it or find it or attract it. The successful person never thinks s/he can’t do the impossible s/he just does it. ‘If I want it I make it happen. I will get it or have one. I will find a way’.

Focus All Of Your Energy On Building The New

Imagine living from that frame. Imagine being certain you will succeed because you decide you will. Because you believe in yourself, your thoughts, your feelings and your actions.

Because you believe in yourself you will keep going until you achieve what you set out to do. Obstacles are part of the process NO big deal. Making your fortune is a fun game to play in life. One of many.

What if you had these thoughts? You can. Just because you never did before doesn’t mean you can’t now. It means if you want them YOU must implement them. You must activate them.

When You Fill Your Mind With Positive Thoughts You Will Change

If you want it bad enough you will. If not you will make excuses. Life is great. What if you were grateful for every single thing, good or bad. You learned from challenges and embraced them. Life is good.

You are thankful and appreciative and filled with joy and enthusiasm for each moment of everyday. Life is glorious and you get to experience it with others. Imagine how incredible to feel this way.

What if you felt this way all the time? You can if you believe you can. If you don’t yet it doesn’t mean you can’t ever. Your beliefs determine how far you will go. Adopt useful ones and live from those. Enjoy everything. Learn from it all. Be in charge and make things happen because you decide to. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

It is a wonderful new day don’t you think?

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Deliberate Creators, Focus, Intentional Thinking, Responsibility

There’s A Big Difference Between Wishing And Being Ready To Receive It!

May 3, 2016 rexsikes 1 Comment

“Napoleon Hill said, ‘There’s a difference between wishing for a thing and being ready to receive it. No one is ready for a thing until he believes he can acquire it. The state of mind must be belief, not mere hope or wish.’

Welcome to Part 15 of The Secret To Success And Happiness Few Know And Won’t Tell You. The series continues. Hope you are enjoying it. Feel free to comment. Part 16 tomorrow. Let’s go!

You must eventually come to realize you are the true author of your life. No one else is. You determine what it is like now and what it will be like in the future. Whatever is Is going to be according to you. You decide it. You create it. You, YOU, make it happen.

The Brain Is As Strong As Its Weakest Think

Take responsibility and write your life book. Line by line, page by page, chapter by chapter. Be the author of your experience. Responsibility is the critical factor. Assume responsibility for your life and everything that happens to you good or not so good.

Accept that you are the creator of your life. Imagine yourself as the potter and your life the clay. Shape and fashion it into what you want. Make what you want. If you don’t you will always live a life of other’s left overs. If you don’t design it who will? YOU MUST DO IT!

You are the designer, the architect, you draw the blueprints. You are the engineers, and the plumbers and the electricians and the construction workers who build what you drew. You dream it and bring it into being through your actions.

Conceive It Believe It And You Can Achieve It

I know what you are thinking. You are thinking what if something bad happens to me, did I create it? The best answer is, whether you actually did or did not, whether it is ordained from on high, or completely random or accidental, act as if you did.

Don’t be a victim of whatever circumstances come your way. Use the good and bad times to learn and grow. Bad times may be more difficult to do that with, at first, maybe always. The key is to learn and grow. Go on in life not letting anything stop or get you down.

What about down times and unhappy times? The same applies. Accept them. Theses are part of life. Learn to accept what is and go through them without getting stuck in them. Day gives way to night and night gives way to day. You will get through them. Trust!

You Get What You Focus On

Allow, learn, grow and move on when appropriate. Learn to be flexible. Learn to look for the silver lining in the dark clouds. Learn to count your blessings when faced with troubling times. There is always a reason to be grateful, no matter what happens.

When you take responsibility for everything you begin to understand that you have choice. You have decisions to make. You are not a victim. You can be a victor. You are ‘at cause’ not ‘at effect’ of the situations. You are in control without being a control freak.

A great leader said, when told that circumstances weren’t the best for his army to win the battle, ‘Circumstances, hell, I make the circumstances. I dictate the circumstances!’ Let this be you. Become aware of your power to choose and to respond.

There Are Two Ways Of Meeting Difficulties …

As you take control of your thoughts and feelings you realize you are in charge. To be in charge means to be responsible. Accept it, and author your life as you want it to unfold. Conceive it, believe it and you can achieve it is what Hill said.

Okay, I will tell you the truth. Are you ready for this? YOU are ALWAYS in charge whether you know it or not. YOU are ALWAY responsible. Your results come from your thoughts, feelings and actions. YOU cannot NOT be in charge. If your results suck …

Then change it. Learn how to be in charge and make things work for you. You must change what you are doing and what you are focused on. Accept the fact that you are in charge and responsible. Great power comes with this realization. GAME CHANGER ALERT!

… You Alter The Difficulties Or You Alter Yourself Meeting Them

For much of my life I was terrific at getting what I didn’t want. I was awesome at it and it was painful. I complained, and whined and moaned and suffered. UNTIL I realized what a powerful creator I already was. THEN it was just a matter of learning good taste.

It was a matter of creating what I wanted instead of what I didn’t want. I had to switch up what I was doing. I had to be real clear about who was in charge and who was responsible for the results I was getting. Once clear, I could move forward getting better results.

Do you understand this critical point? You’re already the author of your life. You’re getting precisely what you’re getting because of your current thoughts, feelings and actions. If you want it different you have to be different. You’re still the author writing differently.

You Are Today Where Your Thoughts Brought You

When it comes to your desires you must want it very badly. You must want it more than anything else. That separates your want, your desire from a mere hope or wish. You must believe you can bring about whatever it is you want to bring about. FAITH!

If you think, ‘I can’t’, or ‘I never could do that’, or ‘yeah, right’, then you have some more work to do. If you react to what is proposed from your old conditioning that is a clue, that if you want to, you have the opportunity to work on developing new beliefs.

Of course, you can choose to keep the ones you have thought so far. Some of them have served you quite well. It is your choice. It is ALWAYS YOUR choice. If you noticed you reacted as you always have then perhaps you want to learn to respond rather than react.

You Will Be Tomorrow Where Your Thoughts Take You

To respond means there is a gap, a choice, a moment when you decide instead of merely act from habitual old chronic conditioning. You are learning to control your thoughts so that you can better respond to situations and events and people.

You are learning to respond in that gap rather than to react from old habit and programming as an robot would. To respond means you pause and respond appropriately with the needs of the situation in mind. To react is a knee jerk. You do whatever you always do.

This brings up the concept of freedom and freedom of choice or will. What choice do you have if you habitually pick the same things 99.9% of the time because you were conditioned to do that growing up. Little to none, right. You always do what you always do.

You Cannot Escape The Power Of Your Thoughts

You are on automatic making choices those who helped program you would have made. You are living out of your previous conditioning. That requires no thought at all because it is habit. You are thinking, feeling and acting from old habit. You’re on automatic.

Don’t you think you deserve to make the choices? You are worthy to make the choices. Don’t you think you at least deserve a shot at making them? I certainly do. By the way to be worthy you have to think you are worthy. Think yourself worthy. You are worthy.

It starts with your thinking, remember. If you don’t feel you deserve it begin to change your thinking so you do. Begin to affirm and assert and declare that you are worthy. You are absolutely worthy and deserving of all good things. You are worthy to learn to choose.

The Choices We Make Determine Our Destiny

I will reduce the percentages. What if 90% of the time you are on automatic? How about 75% of the time? Let’s reduce it further, 50, 40, 10% of the time. Which is acceptable to you and why? At what point does not being able to choose become okay?

At what point does being able to choose more often become okay?Consider that? How much freedom and choice do you want for yourself? How much do you think is reasonable? How much will you claim for yourself?

Whatever your answer is IS what you think it is. You answer is a product of your thoughts. Good or bad, right or wrong, positive or negative, it is your thinking and concluding. I know this is similar to a snake eating its tail. Our thoughts are our thoughts. Be aware!

Your Life Is A Result Of The Choices You Make …

If you don’t like your answers change your thinking. If you like your answers don’t change unless your answers are excuses, blames or whining. Then maybe you should want to change your thinking. You go where your thoughts take you, remember. Thoughts are things.

You can most likely have everything you want in life if you prepare your mind, condition it well, and take the right actions. It begins inside the mind and feelings. Thinking and feeling determine the actions you take. Your actions determine your results.

You don’t have to hurt anyone else. You can co-operate and celebrate with others. You can get what you want and they can too. You can live in a world that works beautifully. You can work in harmony with others. They accomplish their dreams and you yours.

… If You Don’t Like Your Life – Start Making Better Choices

You can discover how abundant and wonderful everything is. This world is absolutely incredible. It is a most marvelous. How you experience it is completely up to you. You either see all the good and the joy, or the human made darkness. It’s whatever you focus on.

It starts within you. It starts with your thoughts and where they lead you. It begins, as Hill said, in the imagination. You first conceive of it. Then you believe you can make it happen and that you will make it happen come what may. You want it and you know you will have it.

Then you take action and you keep going until you achieve it. You start before you are ready. You begin and keep moving forward all the while learning how. You attempt things as Edison did until you get it right, learning all the time. You keep the faith and keep moving.

You Always Have Choice And The Choice Is Always Yours

You are aligned. You are congruent. All of your inner resources working together to accomplish this. Your thoughts and feelings. Your talents and abilities. Your prior experiences provide learning and experience and more necessary for your progress.

Because your inner resources are aligned you are better able to allocate the outer resources necessary to bring it about, the people, the finances, the conditions to make it happen. Keep in mind that birds of a feather flock together. You attract like people and events.

From within to without. Believe it first and you will see it. Your brain will look for examples and matches and evidence for how this is true and how this is possible. If you don’t believe it your brain will do the same work but in the opposite direction.

When You Are In Alignment Circumstances Matter

So get free. Use your brain for the change you want. Gather your resources. Work as a team consciously and unconsciously on the inside and then find the team you work with on the outside. The inner game becomes an outward one at the same time.

What you are already on the inside is reflected and radiated outward every moment. Every atom and every cell of you is a broadcasting station. People can see, hear and feel if you are happy or sad, weak or powerful. You demonstrate who you are always!

Be the author of your life. Be a powerful, positive, deliberate creator who intentionally thinks and designs your life in the wonderful and glorious ways you see fit. Remember, to delight and celebrate and be grateful, and to create a world where you and others all benefit.

Be At Cause – Be One With Your Purpose – Be Relentless

There is plenty for all and all can win. As you do this you attract others who feel and do the same. Together you can create great things. Together we can make the world more wonderful one person at a time.

It is already incredible and we can add to that. Create yourself! Fill yourself with incredible joyous life, laughter, and love. Enjoy great health and great wealth and everything wonderful. Be grateful, enjoy and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Create the day you want to have!

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Attitude, Deliberate Creators, Intentional Thinking, Overcoming Difficulty

Expert Reveals: How To Stop Failing And Start Succeeding Happily!

May 2, 2016 rexsikes 1 Comment

“How is it we make changes to overcome difficulties and move in positive directions? What must we do to eliminate the self doubt and the negative feelings? How do we keep going and changing instead of giving up and quitting. It is actually quite simple.

Welcome to Part 14 of The Secret To Success And Happiness Few Know And Won’t Tell You. The series continues. Hope you are enjoying it. Feel free to comment. Part 15 tomorrow. Let’s go!

We use the very same method we were first programmed by. Instead of less than glorious messages and feelings we now deliberately provide it the positive messages we wish we would have gotten the first time around.

Energy Flows Where Attention Goes

Yes, we can change any thought, feeling or behavior. We can change and learn to get better, positive more successful results in our life. It is simple and most of the time it is easy. It is not easy all the time. It takes application and dedication.

You can’t quit and expect things to be any different. They won’t be. They will be the same as always because your brain will insure you remain consistent. With dedication and perseverance, however, there comes that tipping point you can take advantage of.

There will come that time when the old gives way to the new. Keep going. Yes, you have arrived and you have to keep going! Once you arrive at the tipping point it will get easier and easier because you create momentum for change. Change is easier and faster then.

Whether You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You’re Right

If you have ever changed residences you may have found yourself taking the route back to the old residence shortly after your move. Your brain knew the old way and wants to keep taking it at first, until your brain learns and remembers the new one.

You don’t lose or forget the previous address you just now know to go to the new one instead. You still have a choice which to go to. As you learn new behaviors your choices increase. Your talents and abilities increase. You upgrade yourself and up-level your life.

Why do most people fail? They quit. It is over and done. They make excuses, blame themselves, others and the world. Or they don’t take the first step. THE VERY FIRST STEP we all need to take to do better and guarantee our success is to take control of our mind.

You Become What You Think About Most Often

This missing first step IS why so many fail to change. Attitude and mindset, what you think and believe, determine what you feel and the kind of actions you take and the type of results you get. It all begins with the appropriate mindset. Most don’t prepare well.

That is why Henry Ford said, ‘Whether you think you can or you think you can’t you are right!’ Condition your mind for change. Prepare the soil for planting and harvesting the seeds. Get control of your thoughts and feelings. Develop a powerful basis for change.

Positive thinking is not wishful thinking it is powerful thinking. Those who say ‘and this is not positive thinking’ as if thinking positive is a bad thing are wrong! Your mind is the one thing you can control for certain in this life. You either think negative or positive.

You Get What You Focus On

If you don’t like the results you are getting in your life right now realize there will not be any change if you don’t change your thinking. Your brain will insure things remain the same for you to be consistent. You will continue to do what you have always done.

You will get what you have always got! That is the truth. That is the way it is. You won’t be different unless you think different things. Your life won’t be more positive and better unless you think more positive and better things. Want to change? Change your thinking!

If you want it to be different in the future you must think things differently now. You are where your thoughts brought you tomorrow you will be where your thoughts today take you. Right now you are where you are because of previous, prior thinking.

Whatever You Nurture Is What Tends To Grow

If today’s thoughts are the same as those yesterday and the day before and the day before that, well then, you will get what you have always got. Most of us THINK we think lot’s of different thoughts. Research states we think mostly the same thoughts again and again.

Yes, there is some variation. Life circumstances change, we learn new info and have different discussions BUT we react mostly the same. We think the same things, the same way, we say the same things in different conversations, we don’t change much.

We are habitual, reliable and routine. We think, feel, say, act and do the same things over and over most of the time but we think we are freely thinking and acting differently. We are not. We are on automatic and very robot like. Sad, but it is true. We are automated.

Old Habits Die Hard – But They Do Die

Do you get it yet? If you want things to be different change your thinking. That is the first step. When you change your thinking your feelings will change in alignment to what and how you are thinking. To be truly different you have to think truly different.

If your life isn’t what you want it to be it is because of your thinking and acting it is not the government, the weather, your parent’s fault even if you think it is. Even if they were contributing factors unless you take responsibility and think and do differently it’ll be the same.

If you don’t like the results you have been getting you need to change your thoughts and what you focus on. You need to get your energy and attention moving in a different direction. You must realize and accept this first in order for change to begin.

You Can Do Anything When You Learn How

Negative thoughts produce negative feelings. Positive thoughts produce positive feelings. Negative thoughts rarely make you feel happy and successful. Positive thoughts can contribute to you feeling happy and successful. It is a choice you have to make.

What do you want more of? To get more of what you want is dictated by where you spend most of your time. If you want to be happy but are mostly negative you will not be happy. Do you understand this? If you want to be happy you must think happy.

You must spend most of your time thinking and feeling and saying and doing that which brings happiness about. It doesn’t work any other way. People think something will happen and then they will be happy. It doesn’t, and if it does occasionally it is temporary only.

If You Always Do What You Always Did …

Lottery winners are happy for a short while but most of them return to the lifestyle prior to winning the lottery. Broke! Why? Because their habits don’t change. They spend as they always did. They think as they did when they weren’t rich.

They return to their conditioning. Temporarily, they got a big bump. Their happiness meter went up with their bank account. Sadly, they both plummet pretty soon. WHY? Because they aren’t in charge of their happiness or wealth. They aren’t in charge of their thinking.

If you want to be different you must think, feel and act different long enough for it to become habit. If you learned successful thinking and money management strategies, learned to feel and live wealthy, then, if you won the lottery you would be better prepared to keep it.

… You Will Always Get What You Always Got

Otherwise, it is likely you’d end up like the rest. The odds are in favor of returning to the previous life style. If mind set doesn’t change you don’t change. If you want to be happier don’t wait to be happy, don’t expect it to come from the outside. Begin now within.

Take hold of your thinking and do what is necessary to get it under control. Take charge. Think positive repeatedly. Read positive books. Surround yourself with positive people and mentors. Chant powerfully, positive, inspiring affirmations. Take action inside!

When you feel in charge and on top of the world, and you feel as if you can accomplish anything because you believe in yourself and your ability to learn whatever is necessary to succeed, then the magic happens. It really does happen, only its not magic.

The Definition Of Insanity Is Doing The Same Thing …

Then you begin to take the right actions that make success much more likely. It is mindset first and feelings follow. Your feelings determine your actions and your actions determine your results. That is the way it is. Repeat after me. Seriously, repeat it.

Mind to feelings. Feelings to actions. Actions to results. That is the cycle. If your mind is positive you get positive feelings and take positive actions which leads to better results. Then you feel good again as you acknowledge the results of your actions.

Feeling good makes you want think positive and feel even better. This cycle spirals upward, do you get it? The more you do the more you can do. You continue to bring about positive thoughts, feelings, actions and results because they add to each other.

… Over and Over Again But Expecting A Different Result

What if you get some not so good results or obstacles? You learn from them, take the feedback, adjust whatever it is you need to, your thoughts, feelings or actions and continue on again, repeating as necessary, until you get what you wanted. You don’t quit.

The opposite side of the spiral up equation is true, too, and you could spiral downward. That is what far too many are already doing. They use the same formula I am proposing but negatively. So they screw themselves up and out of good things.

They have been doing this forever. They can learn to do things differently but they must want to. They must first become aware and become willing to change. Then they need to do what you and I need to do. Make the changes. Take action and follow through.

The More You Do The More You Can Do

You don’t have to live in the dark side. Walk in the light. Take control of your thoughts and feelings. Take charge and be in control. Stop blaming yourself and start appreciating yourself for all the cool things your brain does for you. It truly is marvelous. Make it a friend!

Beyond beating your heart, circulating your blood, filling your lungs and a myriad of other beneficial things it does for you it helps you win or lose depending on what you tell it to do. If you aren’t getting the results you want you aren’t speaking the language it does.

I have shared that language in this blog site. Throughout the pages here, search, affirmations, Directed Questions™, visualization, go back through and re-read on Intentional Thinking and becoming a Deliberate Creator. Study this blog site to learn and to change!

Whatever You Want To Do With Ease …

Learn the brains language and use it. Your subconscious has to ‘get it’ and ‘know’ what you want in order to carry out what you want. You can speak all day to a waiter in a language the waiter doesn’t understand and what is the likelihood you will get what you desire?

Speak your brains language. Positive self talk AND positive feelings is how it understands. It is the FEELINGS you feel most often and the strongest the brain responds to most. You have to begin feeling things, even when you don’t, to signal the brain to respond.

That is the trick to learning control. You have to learn to do it, in some cases, by sheer force of will, in order to begin making it a habit. For example. Motivation comes from doing. You don’t feel like doing something, anything, like cleaning your room, so you never will.

… You Must First Learn To Do With Diligence

You wait and wait but don’t feel like it. However, if you start cleaning your room, even though you don’t feel like it at first, once you begin you are more likely to continue. The motivation comes from beginning the process. Sometimes you don’t feel a certain way.

You wake up feeling dumpy and down. Get up, stand up, chant your powerful affirmations, jump up and down if you have to. Laugh, sing, giggle, do whatever it takes, to change your emotional state from down to up. When you do this YOU ARE IN CHARGE!

You took control, you changed what you were thinking and feeling and doing by chanting your new positive thought affirmations and doing whatever it took to feel good while chanting. THAT is taking charge. The more you do it the more the habit will develop.

If You Really Want To Do Something You Will Find A Way …

You want to develop the habit of being in charge of your thoughts, your feelings and actions. THEN you will get better results. BUT you must first learn to make this a habit. If you do not everything will remain as it is. You won’t be in charge everything else will be.

DO you understand this? The powerful uplifting emotions you generate while chanting the affirmations IS what the brain recognizes most. Then it thinks ‘OH This is what you want, I get it ‘ and it looks for matches. It produces more! Like attracts like.

Get it? You have to initiate and maintain the process until the brain gets it. It learns from extreme emotions negative or positive. If you want more positivity and happiness in your life then you must provide those to your brain to begin with.

… If You Don’t You Will Find An Excuse

There are two dogs fighting inside you? Said the old man. ‘Two dogs live within you and are constantly fighting.’ ‘Which one wins”‘ asked the young boy. ‘Whichever one you feed.’ was the reply. What are you feeding your brain? Positivity or Negativity. YOUR choice!

You must continue the process until the brain gets it. Just like learning to ride a bike, or anything you have learned to do. You use spaced correct repetition through time. You do the correct things repeated over and over long enough until it becomes habit.

If you don’t feel like learning to ride a bike you most probably never will. So you won’t develop the habit of bike riding. To become a bike rider you must first make yourself feel like doing it, you must put yourself in the mood. You must think you enjoy it or need it to do it.

You Go Wherever Your Thoughts Take You

You may need to pump yourself up at first. You might have to do that military boot camp style ‘HooHAA’ until you do it. Chant, use discipline, get a tough love coach who will get in your face until you do. Think the thoughts ‘I am a fabulous bike rider,’ ‘I love this!’

Because unless you actually eventually get on the bike you will never learn how to do it. You must motivate yourself since it is unlikely anyone else would bother. If you wait to be inspired you will wait forever. YOU take charge if it is something you want.

DO you understand this example? Everything begins and ends with you! Not in a narcissistic egotistical way but in the way that matters if you want better results in your life. If you want to be happier, healthier, wealthier, enjoy more loving relationships and more.

Thoughts Are Things

Affirmations and visualization with powerful positive emotions are the way you program the brain. Repeat and repeat. Keep going and don’t quit. You will get there eventually. How long? Who knows but you will. Enjoy the journey along the way. Attitude is everything!

Enjoy the journey because many wonderful things will become available to you as you progress. Keep your eye on the prize but also notice all the other cool things going on around you as you make your changes. Appreciate everything. Have fun! Enjoy it all!

Align with yourself, be respectful of you and your subconscious. Love all of you even when it seems in conflict. Pat yourself on the back either way. You did whatever you did. If you screwed up so what? Stop the judgements. Carry on positively. Learn to let go.

Drop By Drop The Tub Gets Full – Skill Comes Of Doing

When in conflict seek to communicate and co-operate not fight and negate. Don’t add insult to injury instead create harmony. Work together for a change. Get it? Work together for a change! Great things are in store for those who will. Open your eyes to take it all in.

Your beliefs determine what you see. In order to find and see good things believe they are there. Think, ‘there is so much good all around me, I wonder how soon I can more fully delight and begin to appreciate the incredible opportunities that surround me right now?’ Yes, useDirected Questions™ AND count your blessings. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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