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Blessings, Celebration, Focus, Opportunity

Experts Reveal: You Are Missing Out And You Don’t Even Know It!

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“You don’t know what you don’t know! You can’t know what you miss and do not notice. It is obscured from your view. If you can’t see it you won’t have seen it. I hope you get this important point. Many people walk around with blinders on. Actual blinders of perception.

Research points out that your (our) Reticular Activating System (RAS) looks for matches in your experience and your history that mirrors your internal world. As within so without. Whatever you focus on is what you get. Whatever you don’t focus on you miss.

This is an incredible point to understand. There are opportunities all around you. Opportunities exist all the time. People all over the world are taking advantage of opportunities YOU do not see. Opportunities you CANNOT see. Opportunities you keep missing!

What You See And Hear Depends On The Kind Of Person You Are

You are missing opportunities day and night. In every aspect of your life. Your thinking determines what you are able to notice. How open minded or closed minded you are determines what you will discover and entertain. Most of us are closed minded in many ways.

One of the ways is conscious and is based on our previous conditioning and conclusions we come to as a result. We see this in the political and religious arenas a lot. Both sides believe they are right and have a monopoly on the truth and correct action.

Another way is simply by not paying attention. We are hooked into what is going on around us by what we think about going on inside us. We are focused on problems, debts, and  issues that occupy our thoughts and our time. We focus on lack and limitations.

If Our Perceptual Doors Were Cleansed Everything Would Appear

Both of these ways means we obviously will miss out on what else might be there. The first because we refuse to accept that there is any value elsewhere. The second because our focus narrows down and spotlights problems. We literally shut off peripheral seeing.

The last way I will cover in this post are our distractions. We are distracted and do not focus on what we want. We wish and hope some but mostly pay attention to daily life needs, the internet news, taking selfies, and doing things that don’t add up to very much.

It isn’t that we shouldn’t do them but we forgo putting our energy into where it counts most. We need to focus on what we want and make it a burning desire to the exclusion of everything else. We do this until our brain grabs it and runs with it. When it does voila’!

Be Thankful For What You Have And You’ll End Up Having  More

Our subconscious, our RAS, looks for matches that are most important to us. It looks for opportunities. You begin to notice them as you do other models of cars, just like the one you bought. I bought a PT Cruiser. I rarely noticed them until I did. Now I see dozens daily.

You don’t know what you don’t know. You aren’t aware of what limits you that you aren’t able to see. The best to do is focus on what you want so you are able to recognize opportunities to help you make that happen. You have to open and focus your mind.

Stop missing out all the good stuff. Start taking advantage of everything that exists out there for you. If you think the world is limited you will find plenty of limitations. If you think it is abundant and filled with all sorts of incredible things you will find that too.

Every Man Takes His Own Limits As The Limits Of The World

Your world is actually what you make it. What you think it to be OR what you don’t think is to be! Of course, what you don’t think you won’t know you aren’t thinking it. It is a loop for certain. Think the thoughts that bring you the best. Think the best thoughts!

This is HOW it works. If you think, ‘nah can’t be right’. YOU will be correct in that. For YOU it won’t be right. IT will not work until YOU change your thoughts from how it can’t to thoughts of how it can. Whether you think you can or can’t you are right. Get it?

It is simple and straightforward. Either your thoughts serve you or they do not. Choose to think and focus more on ones that serve and support you and you will find more opportunities and resources. It actually works that way. Open up! Get your brain working for you!

The Eyes See Only What The Mind Is Prepared To Comprehend

Gratitude is another way you find opportunity. Count your blessings and you will find more blessings to count. You will find things you didn’t recognize or realize were blessings and benefits. They are there. You just missed them by being caught up in other things. Stop. Become grateful. Your world will change in incredible, mind blowing ways. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Celebrate each moment today!

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Knowing Comes From Doing: The More You Do The More You Can Do!

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“To know and not to do is to not know. Anyone who tells you something will or will not work and that person has not done it, truly does not know. Listen to those who have done what you want to and who have started out as you have started out. This is important.

When choosing a mentor of guide it is important the person began like you began. If they came from wealth and you didn’t they shouldn’t be your mentor. If you want to play basketball and they haven’t they shouldn’t be your mentor.  Get it?

Do not listen to people who haven’t done what you want to do if they haven’t done it. Naysayers are plentiful. Don’t even listen to yourself. It is easy to say no. It makes a difference to actually attempt to do something and follow through until it is done.

Thoughts Lead To Feelings Lead To Actions Lead To Results

When I was younger I didn’t think autosuggestions or affirmations worked. They certainly did not for me. I couldn’t get them to try as I might. I’d try and give up. Then I’d try and give up. The same sort of thing many do when wanting to quit smoking. Try and stop trying.

I thought it doesn’t work. Maybe it works for others but not for me. I was either too smart or too stupid to get it to work. I didn’t know how. There was a hidden secret. Others were just better and I not good enough. I had reasons, blames, excuses and complaints.

Other people today will tell you they tried it and it doesn’t work. They are not experts. They are people who gave up. Am I too harsh? Perhaps, or perhaps not harsh enough. Losers complain while winners celebrate. If they can’t succeed no one should succeed.

If You Do Nothing There Will Be No Result – Take Action

Do not let anyone rain on your parade. Not even yourself. Do the thing and you will know. Don’t do the thing and you will never know. To know and not to do is not to know. If you read books to try to change yourself but don’t take the action steps to do it you lose.

You don’t know. Information will not change you. Only applied information correctly, consistently, for long enough will change you. It is always, usually, most difficult in the beginning. Yes, along the way there may be other speed bumps. Over all it gets easier.

With application it gets easier to do. Once you make it a habit, a routine, a daily ritual it is easy to do. You do it because it is your new habit. If you want to your life to change you have to change  some of the things in your life. You cannot continue the same way.

Doing What You Aways Did Will Get You What You Always Got

Do it! Learn to control your thinking. Do it! At one time I thought it impossible. When I was younger I quit many times. When I was older and prepared to face a challenge I committed to it.I stayed with it through easy times and the tough times. I continue to commit.

Challenges arise. I maintain control. I continue to exercise control. If I lose it. I much more quickly regain it. My life is most incredible as a result. I developed mental toughness and gentleness. I did it because at one point there was nothing else for me to do. I mean that!

I had to do it. I felt overwhelmed and lost. Even though I had lots of skills and knowledge and experience I hit a wall. A huge wall and my first thought was ,’I can’t live like this anymore’.  I had to find a way to make what I want consistently occur. I had to be in charge of me.

Resolutions Require Only Words – Results Require Actions

I started back at square one. I began applying what I knew didn’t work. I re-read Napoleon Hill. I did it his way. I did it my way. I used my Directed Questions™ I had developed earlier. I made it my mission to control my thoughts and emotions and get better results.

Eventually, it began working. There were ups and downs. The difference for me this time was I was prepared to face the down times and see it through them. When they got tough I  exclaimed, ‘Bring it on!’ I was determined to be bigger than my problems.

Previously, in my old conditioned life, when times got tough, I’d think, ‘I knew it. This doesn’t work. Why me? ‘ I’d quit. I’d go into negative, depressed, woe is me, worried thinking. I’d worry about what was going on, not going on or what was coming up.

The Result Of The Action Depends On The Quality Of The Action

It sucked. Once I decided ‘no matter what’ I was going to see it through, I saw it through. I continue to do so. Whenever thoughts came up I didn’t like I’d do a trick I’d learned in the 70’s and say ‘cancel’. Later, I replaced it with, ‘No thanks, but thanks for sharing.’

These helped me identify and deal with unwanted thoughts or feelings. Sometimes I had to say it numerous times in succession. I found it easier to say ‘thanks for sharing’ because I didn’t try to fight it. I simply acknowledged it and went on. I didn’t let it interfere.

Regarding circumstances, I’d think, ‘It is what it is.’ However it works out ‘it is what it is’. I respond but not get caught up. I realized whatever I do may or may not work. It will end up how ever it ends up. I still can pursue what I want but I am not married to the result.

Failure Only Happens When You Give Up Trying – Never Quit

The result will be whatever it is. I will have to adjust as necessary. These practices have been so freeing and have helped me move forward. I love my life. I love what I have learned and applied. I love how I have evolved. I love I still am evolving, learning and applying.

Don’t believe me because I say it works. Believe yourself when you make it work. That is the only actual way to know. Many may say many things. People said, we’d never fly or land on the moon. The experts of the day said that. Experts don’t know either. Unless…

Unless they have successfully already done it and leave the door open for other possibilities. Your friends and family may say you are silly for thinking a certain way. Be respectful. Do not be gullible either. Make sure you are getting good, accurate info from each side.

Winners Are Not People Who Never Fail But Who Never Quit

Don’t leap without looking. Don’t invest your time, energy, money or more into schemes. That is not what I am talking about at all. I am talking about developing positive, powerful, personal habits that help you get through life more confidently and joyously.

You can learn anything and master it. The more you do the more you can do. Step by step, you journey. Drop by drop the tub fills. Make the effort. That is what makes the difference. Develop the mind set of a winner and champion. Develop and unbeatable attitude.

Become invincible in your pursuit. Never stop. If you fall get back up. I learned how important it was to continue on. I learned that gratitude made it far easier. When you consider EVERYTHING a blessing you can say ‘bring it on!’ Be grateful for the challenges too. You will do it. Commit to it today. Have fun. Never stop AND Be grateful and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Celebrate today!

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How To Have Fewer Problems And More Joys

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“In my last post I pointed out that agitation is good. After all it is a part of life. It benefits us and we can use it that way. I pointed out you don’t need to seek it nor should you avoid it. Rather, embrace it and be thankful for the opportunity to grow and develop.

Be bigger than your problems and challenges. Learn to speak of them differently. Consider them situations rather than obstacles, problems or challenges. If you say, ‘there is a challenge’ you are affirming it as something challenging.

Please understand this. It is always as you think and say it is! Perception is everything. If it is a difficulty in your mind and you say as much, you keep locking it in. You keep on perpetuating it. Instead, reframe it as, a situation or an opportunity, or even a blessing.

Be Careful What You Plant You May Have To Eat It One Day

Say, ‘a situation has come up’. ‘There is a new opportunity before me’. There are many variations you can use. Remember your attitude determines your altitude. If you label something a problem it is one, at least in your mind, at least for you. Get it? Do you?

Stop calling things as troubles or bad events. Come to see them as opportunities with benefits that may not be obvious yet. Speak only to bless, heal and prosper. Speak and focus only on what you want and not what you don’t want. Speak how you want the future to be.

Stop affirming troubles and start affirming all the good in life. It will work out. Eventually, it will so begin now to affirm that. You don’t know how yet, but trust that it will. The more you focus on the issue as a problem the more you attract problem thinking and problems.

Thoughts And Words Are Seeds – Be Careful What You Plant

Remember, you get what you focus on. That is why reframing, letting go, embracing the opportunity and celebrating with gratitude is transformative. Let go of it being a problem and embrace it as a situation or circumstances that contains a seed of opportunity.

The benefit will be revealed as you successfully negotiate it. As you stay open to possibilities and affirm the good around you  you are more likely to see the possibilities. The more gratitude and celebratory you are the more of these good things you get back.

The more you will find. I have discussed in other posts this ability of your brain. The Reticular Activating System (RAS) looks for matches in your experience for what you hold in your mind. What you think and say, determines much of what you find in the outer world.

What You Say Is What You Get – You Create Your Reality

What you are focused on, what is important to you, you begin noticing. It was always there you just couldn’t and didn’t see it. Like when you spot other model cars like the one you just bought. Birds of a feather flock together.

The energy you put into it is the energy returned to you. I prefer positive energy returning to me. How about you? Energy flows where your attention goes. If it goes into trouble then troubles remain or return. If it goes into blessings then you get that back.

Consider feeling blessed no matter what happens. It is what it IS. We never have enough information to know what it truly is or what it all means. Therefore, consider yourself blessed and have faith, trust that ultimately everything all works out for greater good. It does!

What Precisely Are You Affirming Only Create What You Want To

Be optimistic. Even if the ‘difficulties’ remain a while you are better equipped to navigate ‘troubled waters’ with a positive, optimistic attitude. A negative attitude isn’t going to help you. A defeated attitude doesn’t provide benefit. A poor attitude gets poor results.

A champion’s attitude will see you through. Feel blessed. If you learn how to feel blessed no matter what occurs, NO MATTER WHAT, you are transformed. Life becomes incredible. It is you who will have changed. When you change the circumstances don’t really matter.

You matter! Please understand this. It is up to you! Gratitude and feeling blessed is the difference that makes the difference. From within to without. From above so below. Live in deep appreciation for everything and every moment is blissful. You will find a profound, deep inner joy. That is why I remind each of us, everyday, to celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Enjoy today!

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You Need To Get Agitated Or You Wouldn’t: Discover Why!

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“There is a response to challenges and disturbance that can make everything okay and much better. Few people embrace this notion because we aren’t raised to do this. We are raised to try to figure out what is wrong and  fix it. We focus on the wrong aspects of it.

We are raised to avoid problems. We are conditioned to blame, to look for fault when they arise. We complain, whine, fret, worry, get angry, depressed, hate, accuse, fight or flee when the occur. We become miserable and miserable to be around. We get agitated.

Agitation is good. We use agitation to clean our clothes. The water, clothes and soap are agitated to remove the dirt. As water is heated up the atoms and molecules are agitated. Water bubbles and boils. Our food cooks the same way. From a big bang order occurred.

Challenges Make Life Interesting – Never Run From A Challenge

Out of chaos stars are born. Troubled circumstances and problems are avoided by us. That seems natural because we want it easy. Yet, the kite rises against the wind. We sail our boats the same way. Turbines agitate the water to power crafts through the sea.

When challenge and trouble appear embrace it. There is opportunity to learn and to grow. Celebrate that tough time instead of trying to avoid it. If you can learn to do this you will have breakthroughs. You will move through the troubles faster because you won’t resist.

What you resist persists. What you let go of drops away. You don’t have to do a happy dance with the ‘what’ of the problem, the specifics or particulars of the situation. If you don’t want to, don’t. Instead celebrate the opportunity to learn and grow.

Overcoming Challenges Makes Life Meaningful – Be Grateful

Your muscles grow because of the resistance added weight provides. The tissues break down and repair. Then they grow in size. Without the challenge or resistance your muscles would not grow. We develop through challenges. Can we develop without them?

Yes, we can. Yes, we do. We develop both ways. When crisis occurs it is an opportunity to be grateful. Yes, take care of the issue and problem solve. The manner in which you do it is important. The more you embrace, accept and celebrate the crisis the more you benefit.

Keep in mind the saying, ‘it is always darkest before the dawn’. Accept that your challenges are good. Imagine they were placed there for a purpose. Whether true of or not, this mindset can make a big difference in how much you learn and how quickly they resolve.

I Am Stronger Than This Challenge And It Makes Me Even Stronger

In the Bible, the tiny David, rushed toward, his problem, the giant and slew him, declaring this day ‘god will be victorious’. That is the mindset of a champion and one you and I can cultivate. Challenges are met head on with faith that you will be the victor. Decide to win.

Don’t avoid. Don’t look for them but when they come realize you are bigger than your problems. Don’t allow them to be bigger than you. They are lessons waiting to be learned. There is hidden benefit within so stay open to finding it. Appreciate the opportunity to grow.

Gratitude works wonders. Be thankful. Stay convinced you will prevail. Keep the faith. Don’t give up. It is easier to do all this when you are appreciating the situation instead of fighting with it or complaining about it. Accept it. Celebrate it! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Enjoy the new day!

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Wake Up Feeling Wonderful: How To Get Out Of The Trances You’re In!

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“People grow up in trance. We are conditioned from birth on. We are conditioned so well that most of us don’t realize the depth of trance we live in and from. We need to wake up and become aware. The question is how? How do we awaken from the trances we are in?

Most of our problems stem from our trances. They come from the conditioning. We have adopted limitations and limiting beliefs that we aren’t even aware are not our own. They were handed to us mostly from well intentioned others and some not well intentioned.

We wander through life not straying far from artificial boundaries that were introduced to us. We made these our own. We think it is who we are and what we are capable of. We clearly don’t know who we are or how much more capable we truly are. We just don’t know.

Wake Up Become Aware  – Live With Awareness

Because most of us live within a comfort zone we don’t venture further. Sometimes we are forced to wake up and for the first time we confront the limits of our thinking. Then we realize these limits aren’t us, they’re imposed on us. At this point we can become free.

If we choose to. If we become aware and work to override our previous conditioning we can awaken to who we are. We can begin to monitor our thoughts and self-talk for when it is supportive and when it is not. We can begin to live free, different and better lives.

To begin to live free of our previous conditioning we need to stop or drop the trance and wake up. We can do this by changing the self-talk from not supportive to supportive. We choose our thoughts and re-condition ourselves though affirmations and visualization.

Drop Old Conditioning – Become Aware And Live Life Differently

We can direct our mind with the artful use of questions. We change ourselves using the same methods we were originally conditioned with. Exposure and repetition. We repeat powerful new thoughts and ideas, declarations or affirmations with loads of good feelings.

It is the feelings combined with the powerful declarations that make it work. Feelings are the drivers. Mere repetition of phrases does little. Combined with enthusiasm and positive feelings the affirmations take hold and do their work. Repeat; repeat correctly!

You develop new habits doing the same positive behavior over and over again, correctly, for a long enough duration. It takes consistency and persistence. It takes time to condition ones body for health and beauty too. Everything takes some time. Be patient and optimistic.

When You Wake Up In The Morning You Simply Wake Up

Self-hypnosis can be helpful too.  Altering brain states is useful. Relaxing and listening to peaceful music while giving yourself positive suggestions is a worthwhile practice. Calm the mind and focus on your suggestions. Visualize and see yourself.

See yourself as you describe yourself in your affirmations. Imagine carrying out your tasks and living your life the way you want to be. Affirming while relaxing is the basis of self suggestion. A good time to do this is when going to bed, before sleep and upon waking up.

You can learn the art of self-suggestion or hypnosis from books and tapes. You want to relax but not fall asleep until you are finished with the process. Then sleep is fine. Meditation is a wonderful way to free yourself of old conditioning and awaken to who you are.

One Moment You Are Asleep Oblivious The Next Moment Awake

In meditation you learn to allow whatever is going on in the mind to go on without getting emotionally attached to it. You look at it as an impartial observer. You witness it without becoming involved in it. Typically, we follow wherever our thoughts take us. They lead.

The goal is to either be free of your thoughts as in meditation OR to choose you thoughts by managing them. In meditation you don’t choose you allow. However, it begins by learning the ability to focus. You might focus on your breath. Whenever distracted you return.

We can pay attention to the rise and fall of our belly. Simply place your awareness there. Whenever you become aware that you are no longer paying attention to your belly you return your attention to it. You will do that again and again. That is the process.

Don’t Wander Through Life Missing It – Wake Up To What Is

The process is learning to return your attention to what you are focused on. In managing your thoughts you do similarly. Whenever you notice you are not thinking positively you change your thoughts from negative to positive. You shift what you are doing. Get it?

In either practice you do it without blame or judgement. Just bring your attention back to the task at hand. Belly or positive thoughts. Eventually, in both you develop the ability to stay with it longer and longer. You condition yourself in positive and beneficial ways.

However, in mediation, you learn later to disengage and simply be the watcher of the thoughts. Imagine sitting near a stream and simply watching leaves float by on the water. Imagine clouds floating by in the sky. Our thoughts float by too. Instead of riding we watch.

You Didn’t Wake Up Today To Be Mediocre – Discover Yourself

Typically, whatever thought we think takes us into a series of other thoughts down the rabbit hole. Instead of traveling with the thoughts and getting emotional with them we watch without judgement. We are simply aware of them. Separate from them.

These methods are all quite simple to do. They each can help us wake up and go beyond what we have known previously. They help us experience other aspects of life we can’t know without having the experience. Give them the opportunity to work for you. Practice.

Affirmations and visualization, self hypnosis or mediation are wonderful processes. I’ll share another that is wonderful. Gratitude. Focus on being and feeling genuine gratitude for who you are. The simple practice of being appreciative is powerfully transformative.

If You Want To Be Happy You Have To Be Happy On Purpose

Be thankful for what you are, what you do, where you are, where you are on your journey and all that you have. Be thankful for what you don’t have yet. Be glad for all of it. Really feel it! Journal it. Celebrate and delight in it. When you do you change. You truly change. Give these methods a chance. You will be surprised. Most importantly, celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Do something positive and new today to enjoy!

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How To Experience The Joy Peace And Success You Want

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“If you aren’t living as you want? If you aren’t experiencing the joy, and peace you would like to, that you deserve to; if you aren’t making your dreams come true and creating the success you want then you need to begin right now.  Stop waiting. Start having!

You are already that which you seek. Are you aware of this? You already have what you want and need? All you have to do is claim it! You do that by declaration. You have the ability to install powerful thoughts and beliefs in your mind any time you decide to.

Choose to focus on supportive thoughts, beliefs, ideas, behaviors and feelings. It is that simple. You have the power to control your mind. Let me repeat: you are already that which you seek. You already have everything you need or want. Simply claim it! Choose!

You Have The Power To Create The Life You Want To Live

It boils down to simple, stark choices. Similar to day and night you have supportive or not supportive. There is positive or negative. Strong or weak. Victor or victim. Champion or loser. Choose which you prefer. Focus on the one you want. Stay focused on it. FOCUS!

Most people do an unsuccessful mix of both. The reason they don’t get what they want is they take one step forward and one step back. They get mostly what they don’t want because they aren’t focused exclusively on what they DO want. Their thoughts are lopsided.

The balance isn’t in their favor. They think weak, non-supportive, loser, victim, negative, thoughts much or most of the time. They get caught up in excuses, blaming, complaining and worrying. Occasionally, they get hopeful and positive. That isn’t enough!

Visualize What You Want – Live Into It As If You Already Have It

When 80% of your time or better is focused on what you want, feeling good, and  thinking like a champion you make things happen. Even 55%, 60% 70% is better than 50-50. The more think positive and have positive feelings and actions you get more positive results.

Begin today. Make a choice and commit. It isn’t difficult. It can be fun. You can make it an adventure. Discover how much fun and positivity you can create for yourself. Become curious how much you life can change when you focus on these in this way. It can be magnificent!

Find reasons to enjoy everything. Be grateful. Remember you already have within you the ability to chose what to focus on. Shift away from the less than glorious. Choose to be different. You HAVE the power to control your thinking. Your life will be more than you can imagine when you are thankful and celebrate everything. ” Rex Sikes

It is only 24 hours. You can make the most of them!

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Do You Understand, Yet, You Can Learn Without Pain?

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“Some lessons in life come from our pain and suffering. We examine or look back on ‘negative’ events and extract learning. If we are wise we realize that in each less than glorious circumstance is a lesson and a seed of equivalent opportunity. It helps us to be aware.

We have growing pains. This is a great thing. It means nothing is wasted. Good or bad there is opportunity and there is learning. We can and will evolve no matter what. Sometimes, some off us keep getting the hard knocks over and over again. Repeated suffering.

It seems we don’t learn the first time. Perhaps, we don’t learn after many times. Some may not seem to learn in this lifetime at all. Yet, it appears the opportunity to awaken to this is there continually. Nature, life, most things are cyclic. What goes around comes around.

Delight And Gratitude Is The Secret – Use The Secret To Transform

Suffering is part of life and returns. Just as night returns, or winter. BUT there is something we also need to know. Something we really need to understand. SO DO THE good times; the day, the warmth of summer. It is never all bad. Good times come around again too!

More importantly, we don’t always have to only learn through hardship and struggle. We can learn through happiness, love, fun and delight. Opportunity exists there too. Everything is always available to us. We only have to look for it and accept it. Grab it!

We will enjoy more of life when we realize we already have it all. Learning can be most enjoyable. We can spend more time in delight. If we begin to appreciate where we are, who we are, what we have and be thankful NOW, we can make the most of our experience.

Play Is The Highest Form Of Research – Explore And Adventure

Open the possibility for the magnificent and you are more apt to find it than if you exclude it. Allow it to be available to you. Most of us have shut that out. Yup, our prior conditioning makes it so. But it can be different. It can be absolutely wonderful. It can be incredible!

Allow it. Accept It. Receive it. Make it happen. Create it! Attract it. Delight! Have fun, Be thankful. Open yourself to discover more. A closed mind won’t discover it. Only open eyes have the possibility of looking around and seeing what is there. Life will change for the best when you celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Each day is completely new. Today, make it so!

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More Crap? I Don’t Need This! How Can I Handle More Crap?

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“The events of yesterday has kept us busy. A lot is going on revolving around it. That is normal but it is easy to forget that lots of other things are going on too. 99.5 % of what happens in life is good. That is worth remembering. Focus on the good. Be grateful. Enjoy it!

Today, while working dealing with the event things I needed to get some holiday food shopping done. I did some banking and drove to a grocery store. Went in, came out, tried to drive away. I didn’t get as far as the exit driveway when I realized I had a flat tire. I pulled over.

It was snowing some. The parking lot very busy. I drove the car over to a side lane, out of the way as much as I could get and put on the emergency flashers. My first thoughts were along the lines of ‘crap, I don’t need this.’ It was very brief and I laughed. Then I realized.

Life Is Like A Camera Lens Focus Only On What Is Important

Of course, I don’t, but perhaps I do. Who can actually say what is needed? Perhaps, this is exactly what is needed. I don’t know. I then thought, ‘okay bring it. I can handle this. It doesn’t matter what is going on, where I might need to be, the holidays, nothing. It is okay.’

‘I am bigger than my problems. Bring it on. Thank you’. Whatever is going on will work out for good. Now, a flat isn’t that big of a deal but in my past, I have been pretty aggravated over getting one. I called for a tow. Normally, a lengthy on the phone process was short today.

I was told a truck would be there within an hour. That was good. Normally, they tell me 45 minutes unless there are other circumstances. I sat in the car for about 20 minutes feeling grateful and knowing some good ultimately will come of this. Watching snow.

Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff – It Is All Small Stuff

I got out. Went back into the store, told them, that car with the flashers on is mine, I am waiting for a tow, incase someone complained. My phone rings. The tow truck arrived and is at my car. Less than 20 minutes later I am on the road. Donut spare on the car.

I call the tire company from the road and tell them. They say they can’t promise anything but will try to work me in. Bring the car by. I attempt to notify others and it occurs to me I can drop the tire and have it fixed and later return with the car for them to put it on.

We do. I chat with gentleman at repair store. I leave, go home. Unload groceries. I had just bought set of four within the month. Actually, I bought eight within eleven months. I’d had trouble with the other brand of tires and just replaced them all. The store closed.

Life Can Be Hard Sometimes We Make It Harder Than It Actually Is

They still have the tire. I am mobile. I got a call with a bad news good news which do you want first. Turns out tire can’t be repaired. They don’t have one in stock BUT they can get one and the tire will be replaced for free. Good deal. Tomorrow my tire should be fixed.

Meanwhile, I am mobile and they don’t have my car over night. So what is good? Who knows? Why did it happen? Who knows? I don’t care. What does it mean? Again, don’t have a clue? BUT it is okay. AND I didn’t lose it. I was calm, centered and actually grateful.

Everything seemed to happen much more quickly than normal. Was that because I was and am grateful? I don’t know. People are faced with difficulties all day long. We had a pretty big ‘not so glorious experience’ yesterday. How would I rate this one? Not so bad, really.

Dreams Can Come True – Expect The Best – Say What You Want

In contrast, very minor. However, in my past this might have been the straw that breaks the camel’s back. Even though the event isn’t a big deal, it’s a flat, I may have stressed about it and complained about it and been mad about it. You know what I mean, right?

Today, I could laugh and it didn’t get to me. Yesterday, while serious and not what anyone might call a good thing was a good thing. How? I don’t know fully, yet? Already, however I am seeing evidences of how it is. It has been an amazing couple of days. And 99.5% is good.

Attitude does make an incredible difference. I am not suggesting I never stress out. I am sharing with you my responses over the past two days.  Life is good. I love my life. Shit happens. I still love my life. The more I do the better it gets. Shit may still happen. It is all okay.

Happiness Is A Decision – You Get To Choose Each Moment

I continue learn and realize to it isn’t about what happens. It is all about how I respond to what happens and how I take charge of myself. I can be in charge of me but I can’t control the externals. I don’t actually want to anyway. The more I am grateful the better it is.

The externals will be whatever they will be. My creation, my attraction, predestined or haphazardly random. It will be as it will be. I have learned it is what it is. However, I can adjust and continue. I can call the moment whatever I want. What I say IS what I get.

If I call it bad then it is. If I call it good then it is. Others may or may not agree, but for me, it is what I say it is. I am not making rules for others either. Their declarations determine their experiences. If I can share anything, a learning, it is be grateful. Love it all. Embrace it.

Live Simply – Dream Big – Be Grateful – Give Love – Laugh Lots

Everything does change with gratitude. It doesn’t mean magically you get a new tire. Perhaps, it does. I mean yes, maybe it does sometimes or all the times. You decide. I know living with gratitude for everything is transformational. It changes ME! I determine my experience. I love my life. 99.5% is good. That is where I choose to focus. You can too. Let’s celebrate everything! Rex Sikes

Create a blessed day for yourself!

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Understanding The Unthinkable When It Happens To You

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“What do you do when ‘bad’ things happen? Is there a correct way to respond? Why do these things happen anyway? Have you ever asked yourself these questions? Tragedy struck close to me today. Someone I love was savagely brutalized. 911 was called. Horrible!

I won’t go into it much. An attack occurred. Cries for help heard. Authorities called. 2 hours later they had still not showed up. I, and others ,we called and did. Another 2 hours went by. Authorities finally showed after repeated calls insisting they get there.

Once they arrived they were surly, agitated the victim more than assisted, and left without word. I and another, accompanied our loved one to the ER. We spent 7 more hours. 6 hours after we arrived and only after repeated phone calls did authorities arrived.

Just When Caterpillar Thought It Is All Over It Became A Butterfly

Physically, emotionally, psychologically, spiritually my dear one was brutalized, left and abandoned by the system, neglected, treated callously by responders who left job undone. Only,  later did they appear after calls to supervisors. Sad, tough day for all involved.

I am fine. Someone else is not. Few will understand what I next say but, I am the eye of the storm. I am calm and centered regardless of what happens. That is how my day is. I know and trust that ultimately good will come of this. It always does. No matter what.

It may not work out to anyone’s satisfaction. It could get worse. I haven’t a clue how it will work out but that isn’t for me to know. I simply trust that it will. I know it has for many and it always has for me. My darkest days turned out to be my greatest blessings.

People Who Truly Care About Each Other Can Make It Work

I am sorry this happened. I’m glad it wasn’t worse. I’m disappointed with the people who are paid to help in crisis. I am happy that finally one benevolent supervisor listened and did his job. One person made some things happen when no one else would. I thanked him!

So positive thoughts and feelings and energy I send when I think of this dear one who was wounded today. I could go on in many different directions about the event, what it means, what could be, what should have been, but none of that is important. None of it.

What’s important is my loved one get love and support and understanding during a terrifically trying time. Besides the physical assault and battery, the feelings of betrayal, fear of dying, shock, anger, justice, revenge, sadness, abandonment all raging at once.

The Best Lessons Are Often Learned In The Worst Of Times

A real shoulder to cry or lean on and an actual ear to listen is what is needed. Love, understanding, patience, compassion, positive kind energy and acceptance is offered. Healing will happen but first there’s some important grieving stages the loved one to go through.

Yet, I know we are blessed. It may not seem like it to some readers. I first and foremost am thankful it wasn’t worse. I am so grateful my dear one is alive. I am so grateful for that! Tough, it may be but we all can get through it. I am truly fine. Someone else is not. BUT can be.

Will be. Eventually no matter how long it takes. Obviously, I prefer soon; as soon as possible. I know many learnings will come from this. Some hard lessons, and others not so difficult, to face. We are all blessed no matter how it turns out. And I do celebrate this.

During Our Darkest Moments We Must Focus To See The Light

Not the act. Not the terrible things that occurred but rather the opportunity to heal, to grow and evolve, to learn and go beyond what we knew. To deepen our relationships and our own spiritual practices. I am deeply thankful for this opportunity. It is all okay!

What is IS. What happened happened.  It’s okay. I can’t change it so how I live with it is important. How each of us affected learns to live with it is important. I stay positive that we all will be better off in the long run. Somewhere in all this there is a truly a silver or gold lining.

There is always light at the end of the tunnel. Sometimes, however, you are so deep into the tunnel you don’t see the light at the other end. Know it is there. Know this too will pass. Keep moving forward and you will find it. Tomorrow will be another day. Be patient.

Life Is 10% What Happens To You And 90% How You Respond

I share this because it is what it is. I share it because while it is an awful ordeal it doesn’t impinge on my spirit or on me or the gladness I feel. 99.5 percent of everything in our life is good. This is one horrible event. We will live on focused on the good 99.5. So yes, I do celebrate everything. We can. You can. All of us can. So go ahead and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Find 1% good and make it 100% good today!

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What Victor Hugo Knew And Why It Is Important For You!

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“Do you plan your day or do you just let it unfold? Some people prepare and make lists. Others wait to see what happens. There is good reason to make plans for your day. Just as you make plans for travel you want to make plans for each day. Check out this quote.

‘He who every morning plans the transaction of the day and follows out that plan, carries a thread that will guide him through the maze of the most busy life.  But where no plan is laid, where the disposal of time is surrendered merely to the chance of incidence, chaos will soon reign.’  Victor Hugo

Set intentions for your day. Commit to making those happen. Each day there is something you can do that will make you feel good. Perhaps, it is making your bed, clearing the dishes, taking the dog out. Some domestic task you can determine to get done and do it.

Our Intentions Create Our Reality – Set Intentions – Keep Them

You also have professional or job related intentions you can set. Make that sales call, keep that appointment, turn in your reports, get your deadline work done on time. Whatever it is you can set the intention and carry it out. Each day do a task you can be proud of.

There are mental mindset intentions you can set and keep. Resolve to repeat your affirmations 2x a day. Or choose to do it a 3 or 5x. Resolve to stay positive; look on the bright side of a troublesome situation. Commit to inspirational reading for 20 minutes.

Health intentions. Make it a point to eat healthy. No processed food. Commit to walking for 20 minutes 2x a day or 1 hour. Commit to reducing the number of cigarettes you smoke by 1. Commit to exercises for 5 minutes. Commit to drinking more pure water.

Live Less From Old Habits And More From New Intended Habits

Relationship intentions you can set include saying I love you and looking into the eyes of your family members or partner. Doing something special the other person wants. Calling a friend. Helping a co-worker. Smiling and nicely treating a stranger or someone elderly.

Financial intentions include paying yourself first when you get your paycheck Put 20% aside for yourself. Stop buying expensive coffee. Save that money and invest it later. Begin to learn to manage your money. Investigate investments. Donate to a worthy cause.

There is always something small you can do in the different areas of your life. Take a look and find small things you can do daily. Make these habits by repeating them for 90 days. SMALL THINGS you will do consistently for long enough to become habit. Then switch.

Everything That Happens Begins With An Intention – Notice This

At the end of the day celebrate what you did. Make a big deal about it no matter how small or insignificant the task seems to be. What is important is you planned to do it. You decided and committed. You kept your commitment. You did it! Be grateful and celebrate!

When it comes to weekly, monthly, yearly goals or your big giant dream you can work in a similar manner. Set an intention for making some aspect of it happen. Complete a portion of what is needed each day. Even a small bit is better than no bit. Inch your way forward.

As long as you are progressing toward creating what you want by taking actual action steps you are doing it. You are in the process of manifesting your dreams and creating your future. You are taking charge. You don’t have to try to do everything at once. Bit by bit.

Another Name For Intention Is Decision Decide To Do It And Do It

As you grow accustomed to doing and successfully completing what you commit to you might add some more. You’ll know when it’s right. Never bite off more than you can chew. Keep it interesting and stretch yourself a bit. Stay a bit hungry. Don’t be too comfortable.

Lastly, make a commitment to write down 25 things you feel grateful for in the different areas of your life. Promise to look for what is good and new. Feel really thankful for what you already have. Intend to focus on appreciation at least 3x during the day. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Discover how incredible you are today!

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