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Intentional Thinking, Mindset, Overcoming Difficulty, Responsibility

How To Knock Off The Whiny BS If You Want Happiness And Success

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“What do you do when things go wrong? What happens if you are riding the crest and suddenly discover yourself in the trough? Bad stuff happens how do I get out of it or around it?  What about when everything simply sucks?

These questions I am asked a lot. I will answer these from my perspective. This is how I choose to view my world and my responsibility in it. I learned it from others. from ancient and modern texts and role models. If I can do it you most likely can do it better.

Here is what I think and do. Recently, I was hit by a car. Injured in a hit and run. I got notice that one of my monthly payments was going up a gazillion times at the end of the month. There are numerous ‘crappy things’ going on in multiple ways. The fan has been covered.

Against All Odds And Obstacles You Are Going To Make It

I say, ‘Bring it’. You think you are tough you haven’t met me then. I am bigger than all my problems even when I don’t know how I will solve something I expect it to work out for good in the end. This is my mindset. I take 100% responsibility for all that happens to me.

It is as if I created it. I think the universe is trying to provide me a lesson to learn from by giving me hardships to deal with. Do I actually believe that? NO, not on your life. It is, however a useful frame I adopt and use. It supports me. I don’t BS myself.

If I BS myself it means I put the blame on everything else, which may include me. I blame the weather, the government, the economy, my parents, my kids, anything else outside of me. It is their fault. Well, if that were true then there is probably little I could do to change it.

It Is Kind Of Fun To Do The Impossible

However, if I am the author of it then I must change whatever I am doing that got me the poor results I didn’t want. I must shift something in me. Change my thinking and feeling to be more positive and productive.

In accepting the responsibility for it means I CAN CHAGE IT!

I create everything. The good and the bad. Currently, some bad stuff is going on. Okay, I created it. Why? I don’t know and I don’t care. I do know however, that the kite rises against the wind. We are made stronger through our struggles. I know I will learn something. I will!

In the end it will all be good BECAUSE I declare it so. So what if we have troubles. My troubles may pale in comparison to someone else’s. We all have troubles. Bad things happen to good and bad people. Good things happen to bad and good people.

Pessimists Calculate Odds Optimists Overcome Them

I don’t worry about why or fret and fuss. What is IS. I can either handle it or I can’t. I choose to be able to handle it. I direct my thoughts to what can I find to learn, to be grateful for, and feel blessed by. Something good is out there that I don’t know, yet.

In the end and right now I am blessed regardless of what is going on around me. I am not going to be a victim of circumstances. If I am responsible for the crap I am responsible for cleaning it up. If I am responsible for the good I am responsible for everything.

I made it happen. DO I believe that I somehow engineered the universe, or conspired with the gods. NOPE not for a second BUT it is a useful frame. I did it to me so I can undo it. No blame, no shame, no excuses.  You think your god is tough I’ll show you tough.

Impossible Difficulties Set The Stage For Amazing Miracles

You haven’t met tough yet. No wallow. No victim. Bad things happen, unfortunate things happen get over it. Go on. Because bad things happen it doesn’t mean I have to be unhappy. I choose to be whatever I want to be. I may bend but I won’t break. Fortitude!

I control my thoughts and feelings as best I am able. I steer them to be maximally positive and productive and supportive. When the going gets tough the tough get going. Nothing is bad unless you name it as such. Things just are. What is IS. Stop labeling!

I am challenged in a new way that is all. New things have occurred. Life is going on. At the same time some really wonderful things are going on. I won’t let negativity obscure them. Do you get it? Everything is always up to each of us. We make our life what it is.

The Ability To Triumph Always Begins With You

I don’t call it anything other than challenges or opportunities. I have an opportunity here to learn and discover something new. I have a challenge that presents an opportunity for me to be different and create different results. I use the challenge as an alert signal.

Alert. Alert. Make some positive changes. I am not suggesting when bad things happen you are imagining bad things happening. I am not saying you are waving a magic wand. I’m say pretend you have the power and you did it so you can undo it. That is my point.

Accept responsibility and take charge for making it different. Don’t blame others or yourself. Don’t look for causes or excuses. Just recognize that life offered you a bunch of lemons. What are you now going to do about it? It is all in your hands and up to you!

You Have The Resources Within You To Make Any Change

We either think powerfully and positively or not. Yes, bad things happen. I only call them bad here to acknowledge that. As people we label events. That is a function of out mind of our our mental habits. Whatever you say it is, makes it so. Hence, I declare myself victor.

I call the win in advance. I expect to win. I expect to prevail. Sometimes things are easier sometimes they aren’t as easy. So what. Sometimes it is hot sometimes it is cold. Life is what it is. I am learning to celebrate all of it and discover what to be grateful for.

A champion wants a worthy competitor. If the seas of life are going to be rough so be it. Bring it. Bring the challenge on. I can handle it. I can handle anything. I will be victorious. This is the mindset I use when challenging situations come my way. Opportunity is hiding!

Know There Is Something Inside You Greater Than Any Obstacle

It isn’t very valuable if I only am grateful for the good stuff but can’t find the silver linings. I want to be grateful for everything. That is why I take responsibility for all of it. I can change and manage my thoughts. I am in charge. I determine the outcome. I choose to win.

I choose to be happy all along the way. I choose to find the blessings. I love my life. My life is wonderful when easier or hard. I love me and that I am learning to be a kind and gentle, dedicated, loving taskmaster of me. Get it? Begin Now. Celebrate everything! Rex Sikes

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The Reason You Must Be Tough And Speak With Authority

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“Most people seek and find problems. They don’t think they do but that is what they spend most of their time doing. They put out daily fires. Then they re-live them by talking about the fires of today and from long ago. They keep the issues alive in their minds talking about them. They even seem proud to share them much of the time.

They look for where things are wrong. They look for poverty, lack, frustration, crap and they find it. They seek limitations and what they can’t do and they find them. You can’t move forward always focused on what’s behind you. You must look forward. You must look forward free of what holds you back.

Stop looking at limitation and problems! Reverse the direction. Seek what is good and new. Seek and find what is enjoyable and positive that you can delight in. The brain provides you with either. It is up to you to direct it. The brain’s default is problems and dangers. It evolved this way to protect you in the jungle. It does a great job too!

You Must Focus On The Finish Line To Win Not The Starting Line

It is good at finding what is wrong so you could deal with it if you had to. This is WHY you must take charge of your brain and learn to direct it. You want to move it from operating at default to working for you. It will work perfectly for you when you train it to. It is a wonderful servant but a terrible master. You must master it.

The reason it seems difficult at first to make positive changes or gain control over one’s thoughts and feelings is because it runs by habit automatically. You want it to do that. You want it to be somewhat difficult to change because you want it reliable. You don’t want it  randomly changing all over the place. You want it to be consistent.

So it seems tough at first. It may be a little but you can change it. You must absolutely, positively change your focus from what you currently see, what the ‘reality’ currently is, and focus completely on the reality you want to create. You must focus on, and maintain your concentration on, the future reality as though you already have it.

Refuse To Succumb Emotionally To Negative Events Around You

Don’t talk about what is. Stop. That is what you must no longer do. Talk only about what will be as if it has already happened. Create what you want. Don’t reinforce what you don’t like. Yet, that is what most people do. They discuss what is wrong far more often than what can and will be. That is why what can be never shows up.

Command the future to become your present. Demand it. Declare it. Affirm it with strong emotions. Expect it. Be certain of it. Then you will make it happen. You most likely can’t get to this place over night. It takes work, dedication and persistence. It takes will power. That is why many abandon the pursuit. They don’t develop what it takes.

People will tell them, ‘you can’t do it’. They will read articles that state, if you focus on what you want and don’t get it you will be disappointed. So don’t try it is too hard. There are all sorts of messages from others, and reasons from oneself, why not to attempt it. If you never attempt it you will never know what might have been.

A Journey Of A Thousand Miles Begins With A Single Step

The courageous and the steadfast make it happen. That is the plain truth. Those who go after their goals, in a smart and wise fashion, can and do make them happen. There are plenty of examples of people who get what they want and even exceed their own expectations. Learn from them. Learn from success. You can do it.

Don’t learn from those who haven’t done it and tell you not to. You are listening to the wrong people. Listen to those who try and who win. Stop listening to those who don’t and haven’t. They may mean well, so be polite, but if they are holding you  back, if you are holding yourself back, then what is certain is, you are held back if you listen.

Stop and move forward. How? Do what I have been sharing in these posts. Condition you mind. Learn from successful people. Focus on gratitude and ‘can do’. Do something each day. Exercise your mental muscle as you have to to condition your body. Eventually, the results will begin showing up. It isn’t magic. It is how it works. IT does work!

The Pain You Feel Today Is The Strength You Will Feel Tomorrow

You don’t get in physical shape overnight. It takes time. The same is true with mental toughness and the renewal of your mind. You condition it for success. Remember, the quote I shared from Muhammad Ali, ‘I hated every minute of training, but I said, ‘Don’t quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.’

You must become the authority of your life. You must take charge, be in charge and stay in charge. You must think, and speak and act from authority. Stop being the victim of your own mental processes. Develop the direction  that serves you. Your brain is already serving you well. NOW you have to learn how to aim it positively. That’s all.

Your brain is working perfectly well on default to get keep you focused on what is wrong so you are aware of it. That is marvelous appreciate that. NOW learn to turn your attention from the problem to the solution and what works and what is good. Stop focusing on what is broken, wrong and bad. That is what you must learn. Steer it.

Develop The Mental Strength And Toughness Of A Warrior

Out of control it will run on and on as it always has. Take control and you will discover how powerful your are. If you don’t have enough money stop, shift the focus. Be thankful for the little bit of money you do have! Be grateful you have any money. Be grateful money flows.  Be grateful you can spend that money even if it is on bills.

You are circulating energy. You are making things move. If your attitude sucks, if it is is, ‘woe is me I am  broke, I’ll never have enough, this is awful’ what do you expect to attract and live from. You live from that attitude. That is your reality. Why? Because you go no further. Yes, you wish it different but you don’t demand it.

If on the other hand you begin by emphasizing what you are grateful for, what you have, ‘I have money, I can spend money, it is good to circulate money, I am able to put money toward my bills, money flows to me and I use it as a tool’.  Then you have a much more productive mindset. Speak with authority that which you want.

Whether You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You Are Right

Inside you mind live as if you already have it. Imagine this, see it, feel it and say it once or twice a day. Work your way into it. Concentrate on having wonderful feelings when you imagine and speak what you want your future to include. Imagine this future IS your present reality. Live within that reality, experience this fully in your mind.

‘I am glad I have money. I am glad I can spend money. I am happy to take care of my bills because it means I have money.’ This may seem foreign to you if you have’t done it. If you haven’t and you have been stuck for awhile realize that if you want things to be different in your life you are going to have to do different things.

You can’t do the same things and get different results. You must be different to get different. Be, do and have. Mindset first and actions will follow. Speak with authority. Live from your own strength and power. It will take a little while to develop strong muscles but you will as you work at it. Keep going and don’t give up. Commit.

If You Want Quality Act As If You Already Have It

Know what you want. Imagine it as if you already have it. Feel good and enjoy the marvelous feelings. Believe in yourself and expect to make it happen and never quit. You will make your dreams come true. Enjoy the journey all along the way. Learn from obstacles and keep going. Keep the faith. Feel positive. Plan for success!

You become what you think about most often. What you focus on expands. Energy flows where your attention goes. If it is going to happen it will be up to you. Remember and repeat, ‘If it is going to be it is up to me!’ It truly is. Enjoy making positive and powerful changes. Have fun with it. Delight and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Let your smiles travel miles, today!

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Stop Limiting Yourself! Expand Your Options!

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“It is important to understand this concept.  Don’t chase concepts. Understand the meaning of the words without getting caught in the words. Many people miss out by trying to define terms.

Some people limit themselves by first trying to determine if they are doing it right. If they are enough. If they understand it completely. The limit themselves by not allowing themselves to be enough.

Some try to figure things out before they move. You can’t do that. We’d never fly or have reached the moon if we had to know how to do it before we did it. At first, we could only make the attempt.

You Know More Than You Think You Do – Trust Yourself

In order to be freer and find success or happiness more readily you need to include more not exclude. Well, yes, exclude the extraneous waste of time and those things that prevent you and hold you back.

You need to include more easy options. You want to grease the wheel. Take things lightly up front, not so seriously. You want to begin and not try to figure it out in advance of doing it.

When I say ‘be happy’ some people try to figure out what it means to be happy. They may even claim they don’t know what it is or that they have never been happy. They get caught up in the notion.

Trust Yourself – The Answer Is Yes You Can – You Are Able

Don’t get lost in the word happy. Simply, feel good, or happy.  Do that positive activity that puts a smile on your face. Play with a pet or a child. Spend time with a loved one. Enjoy the moment. It is simple.

Don’t spin wheels deciding whether this is actually happiness or not. Just enjoy the moments. If you love camping or fishing or gardening or hiking do that. It could be you like to exercise, or to relax. Or both.

Go to the movies, listen to music, read good books. Perhaps, you enjoy hanging out with fun friends, going new places, trying new foods and experiences. Do what makes you feel good more often.

Life Is Made Up Of Simple Tiny Moments – Enjoy The Moments

Make quality time for yourself. Treat yourself well. Enjoy life. Smile and laugh more. Spend pleasing time in positive ways. The more time you spend living like this the happier you will be. Automatically!

Don’t get caught up in the word happy at all.  Spend your time enjoying life and the things you think and do. Think wonderful thoughts. Feel good. Love yourself and others. Celebrate!

Any word could be a sticking point for some person. Don’t get snagged by the word. If you can’t immediately love yourself find those things you can appreciate and validate. Forget the word.

Some People Miss The Forest For The Trees – Why Not See Both

Look at any abilities no matter how small. Seek and you shall find. Do not make it a matter that you HAVE TO – LOVE YOURSELF, just enjoy you a little bit more. Take it easy and let go of the meanings.

Positive is another word. Think positive. What does that mean some ask? It means stop thinking negative about what you can’t do. Focus on what you are able to do and do it. Imagine you could.

See, feel, act as if you are doing it. Speak as though you can do it. Don’t think you can’t or that it is too hard or tough. Break it down into tiny bite sized pieces and begin doing it. You can do this.

Life Is So Much Brighter When We Focus On What Matters

Feel good is another. You don’t have to feel bliss and ecstasy. While that may be nice the point is to move in the direction of more pleasant. ‘More better.’ You don’t have to exist in the extremes.

Feel good that is enough. The more you do it the more you will be able to do. Skill grows. Muscles grow through use. People complain that they aren’t enough, don’t have enough, or it is too hard.

They make excuses that they don’t know how, and get caught up in trying to decide if they are doing it right, or fulfilling the extreme definition of the word. Please shut up! Get off it. Keep it simple.

It Is Never Too Late To Be Who You Might Have Been

Do what you can and keep doing it again and again. Live what you want to be more of. Definitions don’t matter. Simply look to spend more time living life more fully. Embrace simple pleasures.

If all you can manage is to squeak out a single pleasant thought or feeling DO IT then REPEAT IT! Soon you will be able to add more to it. Grease the wheel. Prime the pump. Make it happen.

If you don’t attempt it, one thing is certain, nothing will happen. Doubt and fear and procrastination do more to kill dreams than failing at a task ever has. People stop before they start. Be different.

Drop By Drop The Tub Fills – Bite By Bite You Eat The Meal

Don’t be one of them. Resolve to make life the way you wish, want, hope, and dream it to be. Resolve to make it happen, become certain about it by doing a little bit each day. A little can go a long, long way.

Sometimes the smallest efforts make the largest difference. Stop! Don’t worry about being happy, or positive, or peaceful or love. Do those tiny things that make you feel more that way more often.

Do those things more over again. Think those thoughts frequently. As you do you become it more and more. Pretty soon you are it. When you are it you attract and make more of it happen. Get it?

Better To Do Less And Enjoy More – Savor The Simple And Easy

Do it! That is why the practice of gratitude is so powerful. You begin by appreciating anything you currently are or have. Think on those. Think on that. Feel grateful. Take inventory. List them out. Enjoy.

Count your blessings. Feel how good it feels as much as you can. Don’t be bothered by, is it enough? It is! Just start doing it. Delight in it. Speak your blessings. Talk about how you are blessed. Focus.

Think, speak, feel and act only to bless, heal and prosper. Put a guard before your mind and lips and soon enough that will become your predominate thoughts, feelings and way of life. Inch by inch.

Step By Step The Journey Made  Enjoy The Journey It’s All There Is

Never make a problem where one doesn’t exist. Think, ‘I can! This is easy. I enjoy this. I feel good. I think positive, powerful thoughts.  I enjoy life. I am lucky. I am blessed. Things always work out.’

Fill your mind bit by bit with more of the good stuff. Be grateful. Focus on the positive, the ‘can do’. Feel the good feelings little by little more and more often. It all grows with repeated practice. Soon you will notice more and enjoy more. One step at a time! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Start with a smile or a giggle and enjoy it today.

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It Isn’t Enough To Want It! Lot’s Of People Want It: You Must Become It!

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“You know what you want AND you have wanted it a good long time. Still you don’t have it. You can continue to want it and still not get it. Wanting it isn’t enough. It isn’t the answer. There is something else.

Some people try hard to make the Law Of Attraction work. They stick with it awhile then abandon it stating, ‘it doesn’t work’ or more accurately, they ‘couldn’t figure out how to make it work’.

IT always is working but knowing how to work with it is something different. Gravity is always in operation and knowing how to work with it is different if you want to make a airplane take off.

Awareness And Understanding Are The First Steps

Consider this for a moment. Imagine you live in a land where there are no bicycles. Never saw one. They do not exist. One day you pick up a book and you read about bicycling.

It captivates you and you long to ride one. It becomes a deep passion and your read everything you can get your hands on about riding a bike. You imagine doing it. You desire it. You want it.

Still, you have not ever ridden one. Knowing about and wanting to do are not equivalent with having the experience. You know about riding the bike but aren’t riding one.

Your Desire Must Become White Hot – Then You Must Have Faith

It is not a perfect analogy but similarly, some people know all about the Law Of Attraction without ever actually tapping into it. Do you understand this? They want it. They know about it. But they aren’t it.

Remember, we don’t attract what we want. We attract what we are. We attract what we ALREADY are. If you want to be different in the future you must imagine already being different right now.

You must BE it to attract it. You want money you must be wealth first. You want happiness you must be happy first. You want success you must be success first. It begins within you. You become it first.

You Must Become What You Want To Attract

In your mind and in your soul you must already be it. It isn’t a question of whether you will or won’t get it because you already are it. You are that which you seek. That is why you ultimately find it.

As long as it is only a mental fascination you will not easily manifest what you want. This is why some people give up. They are interested but that is as far as they take it. They want but they aren’t it, yet.

Everything in these blog posts is designed and intended for you to discover how to become it. You must make it your study. You must do what it takes and you will unlock it. You must become it!

To Achieve Something You Have Never Achieved Before …

It is as close to you as your breath even when it seems miles away. Remember, you become what you think about most often. What is it you are thinking about? What is your attention on most of the time?

Your feelings are your indicators. How do you feel most of the time? You must feel your best most of your time. How can you feel your best? Turn your attention to what you are grateful for!

Gratitude is the attitude of feeling well-being. When you are grateful for all now you are making room for more. Fill your mind with gratitude and positive thoughts. Enjoy, delight, feel it and be it.

… You Must Become Someone You Have Never Been Before

Act as if you already have that which you want. Feel what it likes to be the person you want to become. Feel what it is like to do and have the good you want in the future, right now. Experience the feelings.

Pretend! The mental work IS feeling work. Feelings drive the show. It isn’t enough to know it intellectually you must become it. Then you attract what you already are. Like only attracts like.

Pretend it inside! You did this as a child. Feel it Fully! Live it! Be It!

It makes perfect sense when you stop to think about it. If gold only attracted gold, and you are lead thinking you want to be gold, you aren’t gold. Feel like gold and you become more like gold.

Become The Rock The River Can’t Wash Away

Get it? Your feelings are what make it work. Your thoughts precede your feelings. You will never feel it unless you think it right in the first place. From thinking comes feeling. From feeling comes action.

From action comes habits. Automatic, reliable actions help you make it happen. From habits come results. From your mind to reality you can make it happen when you become it. Like attracts like.

Act as if. Fill your mind daily. See it, hear, it, feel it, taste it, smell it. Live it over and over, want it so much it becomes burning desire. Feel yourself IT. Know you will have it because you make it happen.

What You Think You Become – What You Feel You Attract

Then you can get it. Then you create it and attract it. Then all aspects of you are aligned to have it. It is about being congruent. Some use the word vibrations. Your vibrations must match what you desire.

That is what it means to be congruent. It is a match. Beyond that it is all oars in the water paddling in the same direction, working together at the same time to get to the same destination. Get it?

Enjoy the process it goes faster. Trust it when you can’t see it and it goes faster. Live it and feel it and it goes faster. How you think, feel act, speak and live determines your successes. Be it! Be gratitude, be love, be kindness, be wealthy, be happy, be love, be delight! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

How much bigger can you smile today?

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It’s Best To Stop Fighting And Surrender To Success

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“Is success a struggle? Do you work hard but feel like you are spinning your wheels? Napoleon Hill wrote ‘Think And Grow Rich’ because he discovered modeling and studying 520 of the world’s wealthiest successful people that it was 99% mental and 1% effort.

With the correct mindset action becomes inspired. With the right attitude and beliefs supporting you, you are able to more effectively plan and work your plan, smartly. Work becomes pleasure. You don’t feel like you are working. You love what you do. Still, you work at it!

He pointed out that first you must know your purpose clearly. It should become a passionate burning desire, and you must absolutely believe you can and will make it happen with certainty. Then you must never give up. Learn from obstacles and persist by will power.

Will Power Is A Muscle – The More You Use It The Stronger It Gets

I want to shift our focus today to will power. There are many things Hill added into the mix that are important. Will power is one many people miss today, or so it seems. I also want to provide you with a way of doing things that helps move your forward with your goals.

When I use the term will power I mean that by an act of will you continue on toward your goal or ultimate purpose. It is you doing it from inner strength and fortitude. When I say control your thoughts and persist through will power I mean keep at it. As I think Hill did.

When negative thoughts arise you can acknowledge the thought, even thank it.  Appreciation goes a long way. Then shift your attention to the opposite, the positive thought, think on what you want instead. Re-focus you attention of what you want to include.

Stop Saying I Wish And I Want And I Hope – Start Saying I Will

Drop what you want to exclude. Don’t fight the negative thoughts. Accept, thank and let go. What you resist persists. Don’t wage battle, instead re-direct your attention. Energy flows where your attention goes. Yes, you may have to re-direct any number of times at first.

Eventually, you train you brain, your subconscious, how to work the way you want it to. It is a conditioning process. It is a training process. Be dedicated. Be committed. Be rigorous. Be persistent. BUT you don’t have to fight yourself. It is better if you don’t.

Be gentle. Be accepting. Be forgiving. Be in favor of you. Be encouraging. Be kind. Be friendly. Pat yourself on the back for whatever you do. Even when you don’t do it as you want. You did it however you did it at the time. There is no blame in that. Accept it.

What You Focus On Expands – You Get What You Focus On

Frustration, anger, blame and self-loathing don’t get you where you want to be faster. In fact those tend to prevent you from changing swiftly and easily. So use will power to carry you through and to stick with it but don’t be hard on yourself. Be committed and gentle.

Strength can be many things besides force. Let go. Learn flexibility. Bend don’t break. Shift your attention away from negative thinking toward positive thinking by focusing on what you want, what you like, what you enjoy, what you are grateful for. Place attention there.

Withdraw your attention from what you don’t like, what feels bad, what you don’t want, what is upsetting, what you want to eliminate or exclude and turn it toward what feels better. Place it on what feels the best. The goal: feel as best you can for as much of your time.

When You Stop Struggling – You Float 

If you have to do it 10 times or 100 times a day so what? In the process you are moving from the less than glorious to the glorious. You are shifting your awareness, your attention, your focus, you energy, your vibrations to something positive and good feelings.

You are training yourself to pay attention and enjoy good thoughts and feelings. Eventually, this will become your default setting. You’ll wire in new neural pathways. The negative processes will re-write into positive ones. You’ll develop new success habits of thought.

From a mindset that is predominantly positive you can then accomplish your purpose. Your mindset and attitude, your thoughts and feelings, your beliefs support you. Your act because it feels right. Your actions become inspired and enjoyable instead of dreaded.

Focus: Start Being Positive About What Is Right

Because your thoughts, feelings and actions align you develop positive habits and begin getting more positive results. You have moved from the less than glorious results into new and glorious ones. You trained yourself into having patterns that support you.

So be gentle. Don’t fight it. Go with the flow. When the water is raging go with the flow. People drown more quickly fighting the current. It exhausts them. Going with the current. You can seek to swim toward shore eventually. Keep going in the right direction.

Get it. Let the current carry you too. Use the momentum you create to keep moving forward easily. Stop resisting, keep persisting. All the while enjoy. Delight, be grateful. Discover what you can presently appreciate. Fill yourself with gratitude and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Delight yourself and others today.

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Adopt The Mindset of Muhammad Ali And Win – After All He Did!

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“Thanks for your concerns. Many have asked how I am doing since I got run down by a car. I am doing fine. I am healing and looking at the bright side. I am fortunate and blessed to only be injured, though that makes it sound worse than it was. Yes, I was struck down.

Yes, I’m good. I was hit from behind. The speed was not great. I was knocked down and my foot got pinned between the car and the road causing some tendon and ligament issues. My knees got scrapped up. The driver backed up and sped off. I am forgiving the person.

Life goes on.  Focus on what’s good. I really appreciate everyone’s concerns. Thanks for the emails, texts and comments expressing your concerns and well wishes! I appreciate reading and hearing them all. Thank you, and thank you!

Attitude Is Everything

Sadly, another great passed from us. Muhammad Ali. I grew up to his escapades, his name change, his protests, his career, his talent, his life, his illness and now his death, as many of us have. What a remarkable person this was. I will end this post with a few quotes.

Read these – repeat these – remember these – keep them alive within you. The words he spoke and the champion he became exemplified what thought leaders have been imploring us to do for centuries. Have purpose, faith, believe in oneself, use your will and keep going!

Attitude – The Little Thing That Makes A Big Difference

‘I am the greatest. I said that before I even knew I was.’

‘I never thought of the possibility of failing, only of the fame and glory I was going to get when I won. I could see it. I could almost feel it. When I proclaimed that I was the greatest of all time, I believed in myself, and I still do.’

‘I hated every minute of training, but I said, ‘Don’t quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.’

‘To be a great champion you must believe you are the best. If you are not, pretend you are.’

Champions aren’t made in the gyms. Champions are made from something they have deep inside them, a desire, a dream, a vision. They have to have the skill and the will. But the will must be stronger than the skill.’

‘It’s the repetition of affirmations that leads to belief. And once that belief becomes a deep conviction things begin to happen.

‘He who is not courageous in life to take risks will accomplish nothing in life.’

‘It isn’t the mountains ahead to climb that wear you out. It is the pebble in your shoe.’

‘It is the lack of faith, people afraid of meeting challenges. I believe in myself.

‘Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they’ve been given than to explore the power they have to change it. Impossible is not a fact. It’s an opinion. Impossible is not a declaration. It’s a dare. Impossible is potential. Impossible is temporary. Impossible is nothing.’

‘The service you do for others is the rent you pay for your rent here on earth.’

Your Attitude Determines Your Altitude

I hope you have enjoyed these. He has many. These are a few of may favorite. He showed us one can make it AND one can go the extra mile. One can be dedicated and compassionate. One can help others too. Take these words to heart. Live, love, laugh, celebrate everything!’ Rex Sikes

Live with a smile.

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The Number 1 Way To Stop Screwing Up And Live Successfully

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“The bottom line if you want your life to be different you need to do different things. That is it. It is all up to you. You can’t do the same crap again and again and expect it to work out differently. You can’t focus on how lousy things are and expect it to be wonderful.

If you want it to be wonderful you must make it wonderful. You must take charge and do it. Think positive, be positive, feel good, take action and practice and create success habits. I know you want me to tell you that you can sit in a chair and wish it well but you can’t.

Okay, you can. I’m the first person to tell you to expect that to work. If you believe it, as the placebo effect and research on beliefs and expectations indicate, it could happen. It could happen now or 50 years from now or not at all. If that is how you want to spend time.

To Master Your Life Control The Mind

Frankly, you are better off pulling yourself up by your own bootstraps and getting it done. If every day you do something positive in your own behalf, toward getting your goals you are that much closer each day. No wondering, you know you are moving.

With each success comes more confidence and more success. Bit by bit you get there and do so pleasantly. In order to do this you can’t live tales of woe and focus on lack and despair. You must change! Become the person you want to be. This is how to start it off.

You must change your mindset. You must change your story. You can’t repeat the same crap over and over. Watch what you say. Speak only to bless, heal and prosper. Live for living well, don’t live an underwhelming life and then report it to everyone near by.

To Master The Mind Control The Tongue

Make it marvelous. Make it an adventure. Make it what you want. Stop the BS and make it glorious. Okay, now I will share a personal moment with you. I was hit by a car today. Hit and run. My body. Not a vehicular accident. I was injured BUT it could have been worse.

There is a lot going on. All I know is that somehow it will all work out. In the long run, and it may not be seen for sometime, something good will come of this. It already has. It will continue. There are worse things in the world. Here is what I have learned in life.

If you focus on the shit you get more of it. Today, while challenging, some people might call it negative, there is lot’s of learning, growing and exploring is occurring. There are opportunities not yet seen. My day played out very different from how it started out.

Guard Your Heart For Everything You Do Flows From It

Okay, so what? Life goes on. Through the years I have learned so many marvelous things and ways to be. I’ll be fine. My foot is in a boot. I am comfortable, but have been unable to do some things I needed to. All of it will be taken care of. I am fine! I will be better soon.

However this resolves is how it resolves.  Meanwhile, I have other important things to focus on and to enjoy. Years ago, less than this would have been a day stopper. What can I say, shit happens. So focus on what you want and stop talking about it.

I only shared this with you to let you know all of us face challenges. I take responsibility for this. Yes, somehow it could have been avoided. A minute later, or sooner any number of things happened simultaneously to bring it about. I was complicit in it too.

Be Vigilant Guard Your Mind Against Negative Thoughts

Now I create healing. I create forgiveness. Did I experience some shock and anger. Yup! Everything will be fine. I got a big signal of what I don’t want and now aim to focus on what I want to create instead. Who knows how it will play out. I know I expect good things.

I am grateful that all is well. That I am alive. That I can write my blog. That I can continue to do many things. I am thrilled actually with what is going on inside me at the moment. I am blessed. We all are. What we all need to do is focus and talk about our blessings.

Leave the politics, the economy, the injustice, the travesties and tragedies alone. Comment on blessings. Speak about good things. Find the good and new. Speak about prospering and how things go well. Leave the trauma drama in the past. Live a new way.

There Are Success Habits And Not Success Habits – Choose Wisely

Yes, there is more to do. Read and re-read my other posts. Still, this is a great way to start. Stop filling your mind with negative chatter and gossip and start filling it with positive words and phrases. And praises. Live well and speak well. Speak well and live well. Get it?

As you do all new possibilities open up. You’ll be so busy enjoying the shit won’t matter all that much. Transform yourself and your life by the renewal of your mind. Take control of your thoughts! Have fun, be thankful. Live with awe and wonder. Enjoy and celebrate everything.” Rex Sikes

Life is short! Delight whenever and as often as you can.

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If You Want To Change But Don’t: This Is What You Must Know And Do

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“Do you know why most people don’t make positive changes and get the life they deserve? They want to, they really want to. Wanting to is not enough. Here is what you need to know and do. Wanting only leads you to where the possibility to change exists. It’s a beginning.

Recently, I shared what holds us back. Automated processes that run on and on, outside of our awareness, that lead to less than glorious feelings. While some think of it as obstructive it is not nefarious. It is not sabotage. That is what our subconscious does.

It runs impersonal, learned processes that are outside of our control, for the most part, unless, we deliberately learn other ones instead. These habits of thought, feeling and action that are triggered by outside and inside events and circumstances. We react.

Today You Are Where Your Thoughts Brought You

One thought leads to another. A thought leads to a feeling. The feeling leads back to another thought of a similar kind. Like attracts like. Birds of a feather flock together. How we feel often, most usually, determines how we act and if we act.

As we engage this process enough, repeatedly, through time they become our habits. We routinely think, feel and act, OR NOT, certain ways, positively or negatively. Either these support us or they do not. These habits determine our results in the world.

If we don’t like the results we are getting it can all be traced back to our thoughts, our beliefs, our mindset and attitudes. This is precisely why, for centuries, thought leaders have emphasized taking control of your mind and learning your power to do so.

Tomorrow You Will Be Where Your Thoughts Take You

We are absolutely capable of making positive changes and learning new habits. More difficult are the evolutionary processes such as fight, flight or freeze but even these can come under some control. We can manage the affects of these more than previously believed.

The processes that govern our results are changeable, manageable and controllable, when you learn how.  Using our perception, our ability to reason, our imagination and will power we can intelligently make changes that serve us powerfully and positively.

Just as you learned any skill, learning to control your thinking and feeling is a skill. It is completely do-able. You are capable. It requires patience, dedication, understanding, perseverance and awareness. Awareness is the first step to change. Awareness comes first!

You Cannot Escape The Consequences Of Your Thoughts

We only change that which we know, are AWARE of, or perceive needs changing. Then we can intelligently REASON and decide that we must actually change. When we CHOOSE to take responsibility for our thinking, for everything in life, we take a major step forward.

Even if it isn’t true that we are responsible for everything in life that happens to us or involves us; even if we haven’t control over all of our circumstances it can benefit us to ‘act as if’ to ‘think as if’ we do. To do this without blaming ourselves or others is powerful.

It organizes our perceptions, helps us marshall our resources. It puts the ball and everything, in our court so we can think and work to make changes if we don’t we live as a victim to happenstance. It is far more beneficial to live powerfully than helplessly without hope.

Life Is 10% What Happens To You And 90% How You Respond To It

When one thinks as a champion victor one feels as a champion victor does. Hence one behaves and can get the results of a champion victor. Sure, there will be obstacles and problems but the champion victor takes care of them along the way. It doesn’t stop the victor!

It doesn’t prevent the victor! Everything is line up, aligned and congruent for moving forward positively. This awareness alone is dynamic and perhaps the most needed change anyone can make. Live as an emperor not hopeless and helpless. Live powerfully!

Take control of the power between your ears to make changes in the results you get. Live effectively. Stop making blames and excuses and start living the way you want to be living. It begins with mindset. It starts with controlling our thought habits so they serve us.

Better To Get Hurt By The Truth Than Comforted By A Lie

When it comes to creation, making things happen, getting goals, manifesting, attraction or vibrating in alignment, whatever words you choose to describe the process, being congruent is crucial. That is why it pays to get rid of all junk thinking and negativity.

Most people think of something they want and their habitual patterns of thoughts leap in stating you can’t afford it, your not good enough, you don’t deserve it. Others can have it but not you. Why bother? You aren’t the type of person who does that, and on and on.

These thoughts use up our creative energy because they operate under threshold much of the time. Just like my thoughts about how the woman in the lap pool was the problem. We must become aware of our routine, habitual, less than glorious thinking.

Still – Nothing – No One  – Can Hurt You – Without Your Permission

Then we can begin to change. Awareness opens the door. Once we become aware there’s an issue we need to address it and take care of it. We need to stop it AND make a better choice.  It is a choice. It is ALWAYS a choice. It is in our control and up to us to be different.

Most people won’t make the choice because they think it too hard. They don’t feel capable. Prior, bad thought habits. This is why it is first crucial to identify that you are not thinking powerfully. This is why it is necessary to point out the negativity again and again.

The message signal value has to be strong and loud enough for the individual to think, whoa, maybe I ought to try to do something differently. The person needs to become aware of what is holding them back. What IS the problem to be solved? Get it?

Be A Product Of Your Decisions Not Of Your Circumstances

If you don’t know there is a problem you won’t do anything to change it. Most people put the blame outside themselves so then they never have to address it. If you take responsibility for everything, everything is up to you. Now, you are in charge.

Once aware you have a choice. I f you choose to be different you will be. It requires will power I won’t kid you. It doesn’t happen over night, although it could potentially. Be prepared to condition yours mind for good mental health as you would your body.

You have to eat right, exercise right, sleep right consistently, repeatedly, long enough over time to get in shape and then to maintain it. The same is true about controlling your thoughts and feelings and taking charge of your mind. Step by step you move.

Everything You Want Is On The Other Side Of Why You Can’t

You condition your body AND your mind bit by bit over time. If someone is obese and doesn’t notice it affecting their health, or blames everything else for the issue then they have no power to change it. We have bought into societal memes, too.

We are told things aren’t our fault. It is genetics, it can’t be helped. It is the environment, our education or lack of it, the parents we have that are responsible. Our upbringing was less than glorious. All sounds plausible hence we buy into it. It is limiting programming.

We’ve been told this since birth. We’ve been misinformed, led astray, For each example one can use to prove the above case ‘true’ one can find counter examples of people who have changed in spite of every possible odd being against them. We are remarkable! We are!

Whether You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You Are Right

Sadly, most of us don’t think we are. We have been conditioned to believe we are not powerful or strong enough. I won’t get into why this may have happened here. Suffice to say our power has been usurped in so many ways. It is time to claim it back. Use it or lose it!

You will be glad you did. Once you begin to notice the results you are able to get with a renewed, transformed mind you’ll wonder what ever took you so long. However, you’ll be too happy celebrating the new changes to regret the time it took. It happens when it happens.

You’ll enjoy glorious new feelings and a positive outlook. All of life becomes marvelous even when, or if, circumstances don’t because you aren’t dictated and controlled by circumstances any longer. Those can and will change too. YOU determine your course.

I Have Failed Over And Over In Life And That Is Why I Succeed

If it is ever going to happen it will be completely up to you and the decision you make. No one can think your thoughts for you. They can provide you with thoughts and programming, as they already have, but they can’t think your thoughts for you. Do you understand this?

It is up to you to decide whether you take your power back or forever continue to act out of how you were previously programmed when you didn’t have a choice. Are you going to live from the beliefs and limitations you learned as a child? I hope not.

Some of those did serve you. Yes, they protected to. They kept you safe and/or they kept you from trying. Or they comforted you when you tried and gave up. Sure, those beliefs served a purpose. To insure you don’t travel too far. To make sure you don’t head the pack.

To Move A Mountain Begin By Carrying Away Small Stones

You decide. Decide now! Do you want to live from chronic, old, prior, limiting, conditioning, most of which you absorbed prior to five years old, OR do you want to begin living as the person you deserve to be? Don’t you want to find the real you hidden in there? Discover you!

There is no better time than now to act. Begin now, start, and learn along the way. When it is completed will you be able to look back and connect the dots. So be courageous, take control of your life by taking control of your mind. DO it Do it now. Awareness first.

Then use your imagination to begin to see, hear and feel the you, you already are within, that you want to be in the real world. Begin to imagine living the life you have always wanted. See, hear and feel yourself ‘act as if’ it is all absolutely real. Stick with it. Stick with it!

People Don’t Lack Strength – They Lack Will

Will power is necessary. Some things, like the Chinese Bamboo plant, don’t show up for quite some time. Stick with it. Be passionate, have faith. Become convinced you can and will do it and you will. You attract and make happen what you ARE – not what you want.

People want all sorts of things they learn to live without. That is from their habitual mindset. Become the change you want to experience and you will have what you desire. You will transform yourself by the renewing of your mind. Get it? You do it! YOU!

“It is a lesson which all history teaches wise persons, to put trust in ideas, and not in circumstances,” said Ralph Waldo Emerson. Don’t give circumstances the power, claim it back. Learn to dictate what the circumstances will be. It begins with controlling your thoughts.

Exercise Your Power And You Release The Power Of Life Energy

Take charge. Focus your mind. Feel the best! How do you feel the best? Think the thoughts that produce those feelings. Put your attention on what you have to be grateful for. Stay focused. Thought leads to feeling and feeling leads back to similar thoughts.

Change your life thought by thought. Step by step. Fill your mind with CAN DO power. Enjoy, delight! Think right and feel WONDERFUL! Keep doing it over and over and before you know it this all becomes your new habits. Your new results.

Practice success until you are successful. Act as if! Be it NOW! and celebrate! When you do this consistently, long enough, everything can and will change for the better because YOU ARE DOING IT! YOU ARE IN CHARGE OF IT! So enjoy life now and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Determine to delight more today?

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A Critical Understanding: What You Are Not Aware Of Holds You Hostage!

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“Whatever is outside of your awareness runs the show. It is what is going on that you don’t pay attention to that determines whether you get what you want or not. So much of our thinking is automatic and below the threshold of consciousness. It governs everything.

When you begin to take control of your thinking you work with what you are aware of. You change the obvious negative thoughts you encounter into positive. You recite affirmations. You do this a few times a day, consistently and over time. Things begin to shift.

You start experiencing success. You become aware of your thinking and your feeling. You begin to notice whether you feel good most of the time or not. Your life changes. The process takes a while just as it takes a while for a plant to grow from seed to bear fruit. It’s all good.

We Are Fortunate To Become Aware Of The Content Of Our Mind

The subconscious works doing what it learned to do from birth onward. It is a storehouse of automatic habits, beliefs, memories and experiences from which we navigate the world. When we decide to change it’s a conscious decision to change the subconscious process.

I have compared this to the rudder steering a large ship in previous posts. We direct the subconscious, we train and condition it through correct repetition of strong emotions, affirmations and visualization. We do this repetitiously to get it to learn what we want it to now do.

While we learn to be different there still are all these habits of thought that continue. Petty thoughts, sometimes about nothing in particular. We don’t think about them we just think them. We barely ever notice them unless the signal value becomes loud enough.

Once Aware – We Can Move From Chaos And Misery To Bliss

These thoughts dictate our experience. They govern our day. Because we don’t notice them we don’t change them. They are chatter. They are mostly less than glorious, maybe neutral, but make up negative commentary or narration about our daily experiences.

I’ll give you an example I hope illuminates. I am in the lap pool doing laps and enjoying. A woman comes in, could have been anyone actually, man or woman. She is new. She stops me to ask how she gets into my lane. I tell her duck under the buoys. This bothers her.

She doesn’t want to get her hair wet. I noticed when she entered the pool she hadn’t showered. This bothered me. I didn’t say anything. Anyway, she does her thing. Soon, she grabs some floats off the pool side which a handicapped man had been using and takes them.

Become Aware Of What You Are Thinking – You Will Recognize …

He points this out to me. I get out of the pool and go get him some more dumbbell floats and give them to him. She appears oblivious. Too concerned with not getting her hair wet apparently. He thanks me and begins his exercise. I return to my lane and she joins me.

She gets into my lane by going around. Now she moves slowly in front of me. She starts a conversation with another woman in the center lane and they walk slowly. In my lane she moves down the middle arms out to both sides. I am becoming annoyed. It goes on.

I am thinking, who does she think she is? Why does she come here and into my lane? I think, if you are going to be here get wet, go all in. How about being aware of others. There were plenty of floats on the rack why did you just pick the ones at the lane? Soon, I notice.

… A Connection Between Your Mood And Your Circumstances

It wasn’t too long before I began to notice myself feeling less than glorious. My attention had shifted from how much I enjoyed the water, the day, my time in there to how dare this interloper come in here and have no regard for anyone. Who does she think she is?

THEN, I realized I was spiraling downward. I wasn’t angry. I was annoyed. I felt less than glorious. I realized my thoughts we running on about something that wasn’t important. I was spending time thinking and reacting to what I didn’t want. I was caught up.

It was the monkey mind running from treetop to treetop chattering at everything below. Do you understand? I wasn’t in charge it was running me. As I became aware of it I went, Whoa! STOP! Think and speak only to bless, heal and prosper. Stop giving this attention.

If You Want To End Negativity Become Aware Of Positive Things

I remembered Jesus saying, forgive them for they know not what they do. Clearly, this woman didn’t and I could forgive. She hadn’t really done anything wrong, it was just whatever she was doing bumped up against how I thought things should be. Rules. Beliefs.

Once I became aware that I was letting my mind drive me into unpleasantness I could shift it. I realized I had spent a good number of minutes experiencing unpleasantness ALL between my own ears. I was looking through my eyes but my discomfort came from within.

The rest of the day I noticed whenever I would think thoughts of things I could not change. If noticed that if someone or something upset me how I wanted to think it again and again. There was a natural tendency to solve it or continue to relive the discomfort.

Awareness Allows Us To Escape The Trap Of Our Daily Lives

It was as if I could play it enough I might be able to feel better  by thinking the right thing to say or do. It was planning for if this might occur in the future. Actually, I was just getting caught in a negative loop that ran endlessly while making me feel worse. INSIGHT!

Let it go. The thoughts returned. I repeatedly had to put them aside and think what I wanted. I learned there’s a lot of automatic BS goes on; about trying to control situations, how people should conform and behave, thoughts about traffic or slow lines. ALL junk thoughts!

Junk thoughts about everyday things. Just petty everyday nuisances that chewed up time and energy.  Most of the time these  thoughts operate outside awareness but use up critical energy. As I became more aware of these I could let them go and shift to the positive.

There Is So Much To Be Grateful And Thankful For That We Miss

Only as I became more aware of the less than glorious chatter, and let it go, I became free. Once aware I could drop them. As long as it ran on below threshold it dictated experience. This is how many of us spend our days. These thoughts lead to stress and discomfort.

Remember, we become what we think about most of the time. I would never have been able to notice them nor alter them and change my experience from less than glorious back to feeling good without all my previous work, on taking charge, to begin with.

We first begin to change the things with the highest signal value, that which we are aware of. Gradually, because of these efforts, we can recognize more of the subtleties that hold us back or keep us stuck. Then we can keep making changes that move us forward.

Change Comes From Doing The Same Things Differently

We TRULY can transform ourselves by the renewing of our minds. It requires dedication and awareness. At an earlier point in my life I’d have been disappointed to discover the monkey mind chatter thinking I should be beyond that. Instead, I now could celebrate.

Anytime, we can find that which frees us up to enjoy more of the wonderful opportunities living provides for us, we can delight. The more we feel wonderful and think wonderfully the more we create a wonderful life. It all works together. Become aware. Delight in all.

Work on becoming free. Take control of your thoughts and feelings it is worth it! Nothing comes close to helping us enjoy the life we live as getting free from past, old, borrowed, chronic, habitual conditioning. No reason to live that way when we can live renewed.

Be Transformed By The Renewing Of Your Mind

Find gratefulness in everything. Enjoy and delight. Don’t let other people or circumstances rain on your parade. Guess what, as I discovered, it wasn’t the woman who was bothering me. IT was MY OWN thought process. My thinking was causing my hell, not her.

I used her as an excuse. Something, someone to blame and to shift the focus from what I was doing to what she was doing. That is how we live much of the time. It IS what causes our suffering. Stop! Notice. Become aware. Change YOUR thoughts. Be positive

Don’t blame outside yourself. It really isn’t about others, events or circumstances. We just typically think it is because that is what we were raised to think. The discomfort doesn’t come from outside us. It comes from within each of us. It’s due to old thought habits. Take responsibility. Take the right thought action to be free. Most importantly, celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

How much more can you smile today?

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What’s A Mody? How To Make It Work For You!

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“Did you know thinking is a electro-chemical process? We are living batteries, self-contained energy sources, that rely on materials from the outside to sustain ourselves. When we think we release impulses and chemicals that produce our emotions.

It is a symbiotic. Nature provides for reciprocal relationships, just as the flower and butterfly, or bee, need each other. Our brain and body work together synchronously and sequentially in more amazing ways than we can fathom.

Instead of thinking we have a mind and a body perhaps we should say we have a mody. We are one bio-bag of incredible processes to say the least. When we think we produce emotions or feelings. Thought precede feeling and actions.

As Soon As You Can Accept The Idea … 

Those feelings then contribute to produce subsequent thoughts. Our INITIAL thoughts produce feelings. THEN those feelings determine what we think next. We cannot separate the two. If we think happy thoughts we get happier. We feel it.

Then we continue to think happy thoughts. Depending on whether we think positively or negatively we can spiral up into greatness and elation or down in to depression and lack of action. Negative thoughts produce negative sequences.

Learning to control our mody isn’t just about positive thinking but about learning to manage our thinking. Learning the act of management is almost more important than the thought itself. This is a crucial piece of understanding.

… That You Can Control Your Thoughts …

Once you learn to manage your thoughts you become more aware of the triggers that produce glorious and not so glorious feelings. You can take charge of the processes and direct them so you feel better, are more productive and happy.

More of the time! This is important because we become what we think about most often. Most people aren’t even aware of most of the thoughts they think during the day because they are on autopilot. They think from chronic, habitual programs.

These run at conscious threshold or below. They may not be horribly negative, but they are not positive or productive. Think of it this way, even if they were completely neutral they would fall into the negative category because they don’t support you.

… You Will Be Able To Create Your Own Happiness

This is a key element to understand. Either your thoughts, your beliefs, your attitude and the resulting emotions or feelings support you OR they do not. You want them to support you. You want to be able to absolutely choose and direct these.

Learning control takes discipline. It takes time. It is simple but not always easy. It is beyond worth it! BUT you only discover that as the process unfolds for you. It is the basis of creating, manifesting or attracting whatever you want.

When your mind and emotions are congruent and work hand in hand you can aim them are your target desires and go after and get them much more easily. When every aspect of you is aligned you are more powerful, efficient and able. You rock!

Life Is Like A Mirror – It Will Smile At You If You Smile At It

How can you tell what you are thinking? What are you feeling? Your feelings indicate, they inform you what kind of thoughts you are thinking. If you feel low energy, frustrated, angry or despair you are thinking negative thoughts. Get it?

It isn’t rocket science. If you feel less than glorious it is an alert signal that you are thinking less than glorious thought. Right then, as soon as you become aware you need to to take control and lead yourself into more glorious thought and feelings.

If you will do this, and you do it consistently and long enough you will develop the habit of control over your thoughts and feelings. Then you will actively be able to better create the life you want. You are already creating everything. You know that?

I’m Not What Happens To Me – I’m What I Choose To Become

All of your results, all of your life, is your doing. It is how you perceive, what you think, feel and act. Sure, things happen from the outside, but you react. Once you learn control you are better equipped to make your life what you want it to be.

Then you create, manifest or attract, whichever word works best for you, the life of your dreams. You aim at it and you bring it about because your thoughts lead to feelings, your feelings lead to actions, your actions become habits and then results.

You are either right now conditioned for success or for failure. Perhaps, you are stuck somewhere in the middle. If you want things to be different you have to change some things. If you want success you need to condition yourself for success.

I Use Memories – I Will Not Let Memories Use Me

Isn’t it time to get your mody going in the direction you want it to? Wouldn’t you like to get more positive consistent results? You can. You can the moment you decide to take charge. Once you do keep at it until you prevail. It doesn’t happen overnight.

It may seem as though nothing happens, just like the Chinese Bamboo plant I wrote about. It may seem that nothing is going on for some time, but then lookout as amazing transformations begin. Seeds take time to grow and to blossom. Hang in there.

There is only failure if you quit. If you throw in the towel. Otherwise, as long as you persist you are still moving forward. Then defeat is only temporary. Keep going. You can and will do it. The easiest way to make it all happen is through gratefulness.

Take Control Of Your Habits – You Take Control Of Your Life

Gratitude. Appreciation. Thankfulness. Enjoy and delight in everything. Love the wonderful moments and the not so great moments. Embrace both. One feels marvelous the other provides lessons. All is good. Once you get that, ALL IS good!

Filll your life enjoying little things. Make each moment special. Live this way and your life magically transforms. Stop comparing and start delighting. Smell the roses. Savor each second. Live with enthusiasm and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

How much more can you smile today?

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