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Commitment, Responsibility, Take Charge, Trust

You Won’t Succeed If You Can’t Do This!

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“I’d rather tear my hair out than twiddle my thumbs. Completion is the sign of genius. Any fool can start something. It takes one with dedication and commitment, follow through and will to complete what one began.

If you committed to something, someone or yourself, KEEP your commitments. That is how you get back more good stuff from universe. You can’t feel good if you let yourself or others down. You get back what you put out.  You get back is more of the same!

Universe doesn’t care whether you are right or wrong, good or bad, positive or negative, you get back what you are! Now, substitute subconscious for universe and you see it is all the same. It doesn’t matter whether you believe in law of attraction or not. It doesn’t!

A Promise Means Everything – Once Broken It Means Nothing

For every cause there is an effect. Are you at cause or are you at effect? Too many people spend too much wasted time not completing things. Hence, they end up with more things they never finish. You don’t win or get the prize unless you cross the finish line!

Others won’t trust you if you fail to do what you say. You won’t trust yourself much if you don’t complete what you start. It is important you to do things without excuse or blames. Take responsibility for getting it done or not getting it done. Just own up to it all!

Don’t waste people’s time by making excuses. Don’t waste your time with excuses. Own up to your word. The best thought to think is: ‘My word is law! Whatever I say I make happen.’ So never break your word. Keep your word and you will have greater success.

People With Character Keep Their Word – Keep You Word

One reason why people don’t get what they want is because they vacillate between doing and not doing, faith and doubt, wanting and avoiding what they don’t want, positive and negative. We become whatever we think about most. What we think and say, we get.

If you can’t trust yourself, nor can others to keep your word, what value have you? Consider your word, regardless of whether or not you ‘promise’, as an oath. Live with honor and integrity. When you complete what you set out to do you will see you get more rewards that you could imagine! Think, ‘this is a day of completion. thy will be done!’ then go do it. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Acceptance, Letting Go, Resistance, Trust

Stop Resisting Start Assisting Or Remain Stuck: Your Choice

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“Much of anger, intolerance, resentment stems from fear. Fear drives people much more than we think. From fear these other emotions and attitudes arise. We fight, freeze or flee. When confronted and opposed most of us get entrenched. We stay stuck.

We resist. What we resist, persists. When we resist we pour energy into precisely what we do not want. Hence, we get more of what we precisely do not want. That IS being and staying stuck. You must let go of the fear, resentment, anger, negative emotions to be free.

You can sit with it, acknowledge it, stop judging and just be with it, THEN you need to let go and move on to more positive emotions. Don’t blame yourself because that only makes it worse. Let it all go. Shift! Move from the less than glorious to the glorious. Do it!

Do What You Always Did – You Will Get What You Always Got

Let go and let god. Whatever a ‘higher power’ is for you; source, god, infinite intelligence, inner self. Let go and trust. What we resist persists but nothing can resist a nonresistant person. If you don’t push there is nothing to push back against. Water is fluid.

Water works its way around. Become more fluid and stop resisting. When we let go and drop resisting anything becomes possible. Then there is no fight. Withdraw the energy from what you do not want and put the attention and energy on what you do want. Trust you can make what you want to happen, happen.This is how you can become free. Change your focus. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Rapport, Relationships, Trust, Win Win Outcomes

Only An Idiot Would Think This!

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“It is amazing how many people whine and complain that the world seems against them, but then they do nothing to make any change. They live as a victim rather than as victor. They’d prefer to follow than lead. What about you? Isn’t it time you take charge of you?

Some claim they want to be a better person. They want to improve but then spend most of their time distracted. They want help but then don’t help themselves. Hey, I know, I did this many years of my life. I wanted change but whined. I didn’t know what to do to get it.

Part of being a better person is being a better communicator. Learn how you can be more impactful, get through blocks preventing understanding and connection. Overcome objections, stop getting no’s and start getting more yeses. Important to you? Take action.

… Sometimes People Don’t Need To Be Told What To Do …

Want your kids to try a new food? Want your significant other to treat you nicer, or your customer to buy your product or service?Whatever it is, it is all pretty much the same. It is the sale of an idea to someone you have a relationship with. Get it? It is really a sale!

Watch the webinar I have placed here and learn how to influence with absolute integrity.  Regardless of what you do in life watch this webinar. Learn something. Stretch, get out of your comfort zone. The material in the webinar can revolutionize everything you do.

I repeat, and add, the material in the webinar, when applied, can revolutionize everything you do in your personal and professional relationships. When you know WHY THEY BUY you will be more powerful. This IS what you MUST seek to understand.

,,, They Need Someone Who Listens And Understands Them

Why does your child, your parent, your loved one, your boss, employee, friend, client, customer or stranger do what they do?. Why do they buy? What triggers their decisions? What do they need to say yes? Why do they say no? You need to understand THEM!

Only an idiot would think that ‘why they buy’ is only about ‘sales’. Okay, okay, I know that’s harsh but really, think about this and get it. Sales is an exchange within a relationship. It could be ideas, money time or services or whatever. It is an exchange within a relationship!

It is about how you interact with everyone. Yes, the presentations is skewed a lot toward professional sales but every ‘sales’ involves  A RELATIONSHIP with friend or stranger. The examples demonstrate how powerful you can be communicating with anyone! Get it?

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Influence, Rapport, Trust, Values

Here’s The Secret To Stop Getting No And Start Getting Yes!

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“You have a major presentation or sale you have to make and you don’t want to blow it. What should you do? Obviously, you should be prepared. The better prepared you are, the more likely you will do well. Get it? Still, there are some things that are crucial to find out.

The more you learn about your prospect/s, the more you’re able to tailor your presentation to what’s important to them, so THEY get it right away. They understand you more easily because you ARE speaking THEIR language. You present based on what THEY value.

You aren’t forcing your concepts or values on them. You tailor your presentation to YOUR audience of one, or many. You speak their language and provide information to them in the way THEY are most comfortable with, to accept and process it. Get it? Do it THEIR way.

The Platinum Rule Treat Others How They Want To Be Treated

You sell them on yourself, your idea, product or service the way THEY want to be sold, whether they are your child, a friend, stranger or CEO of a major multi-million dollar enterprise. You develop a relationship based on trust because YOU understand THEM. Get it?

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Because of your presentation, they understand you better. Trust and rapport develops more quickly. You sell them the way THEY most WANT TO buy. Get it? This is a game changing concept too few know and put into practice. YOU become more influential right away!

Statistics suggest that most pro salespeople, including parents, and relational partners haven’t learn how to most easily communicate with others. Instead of doing it the way the other prefers, they force their way on the other person and  typically GET more no’s.

Frank Sang My Way – You Do It Their Way And You Both Win

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Communicating, Influence, Integrity, Trust

You Lose If You Aren’t Speaking Their Language They Won’t Understand!

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“Is there something that converts a person’s “no” to a yes? If you could begin to get more yes’s in work and play, with associates, clients, family and friends, would it be worth it to you? Would you want to learn how to increase your ‘sales’ up to 300%? Well?

We need to learn and understand what is important to the people we are attempting to influence so we can sell them our ideas, products and services. This is true whether it is a friend or loved one we are attempting to convince, or a stranger and business associate.

If we have something, that truly meets their needs, but they can buy from anyone else, then we must learn to offer it, in such a way, that it aligns with their values. Then it is important to them. When we understand why they buy, then we can more easily sell.

The Reality Is We Are All In Sales We Sell Our Kids And Strangers

We appeal to what THEY want, not what we need. We need to know what is important to them, what their values are. We must know how to align with their values to deliver our product or service the way they prefer. The Platinum Rule really applies here.

Are you familiar with the Platinum Rule?  It states ‘do to others the way they prefer to have it done’. Do it their way, not your way! When we sell how we think others buy, we lose so much time and money. They buy because of why THEY buy! Their reasons, not ours.

We need to sell. They may need to buy. It comes down to whether they buy from you or from someone else. Bottom line, all things being equal, they will buy from the person they like and trust most and understand the easiest. Get it? Get that and you win more!

Everything In Life Is A Sale Everything You Want Is A Commission

You become more likable when you speak their language. You create rapport and connection when you adjust to them instead of requiring, or forcing, them to adjust to you. No template works for everyone. Learning to be flexible increases your batting average.

The more languages you speak the more people you can easily connect with and influence. They understand you because you can talk to them with words they understand. All of us have our own language. We have our own BUYING language! Learn theirs!

If you only sell from your language you will miss out on lots of people. Get it? AS sales people, or positive influencers, or people helpers who want to assist others in making good decisions, we NEED to learn how to communicate the way others buy. Get it?

Listen And Learn Are You Speaking Your Customer’s Language

We stop pushing our style on them and adapt to theirs, all the while maintaining our integrity. You are still the same person whether you speak English, Greek or Spanish. You still need to remain ethical when you have a wonderfully powerful way to connect with others.

So assuming you are a trustworthy, upright, honest person of the highest integrity, you owe it to yourself to learn how to communicate with maximum, positive effect, so you can maximally, and positively affect your clients, customers and consumers.

Learn why they buy so they can buy what you have! Learn it so you can support them with excellent customer service. Keep them as a source of revenue and referrals for ever!  You want to communicate well for your children, parents, friends and everyone else, too!

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I’ll introduce you to a good friend and mentor of mine. Together we’ll share the secrets, the science and the system for unlocking another person’s buying behavior to skyrocket your closing ration up to 300%. You will love learning this. I mean it. I love it. You will too!

I am thrilled to share this with you. I realized years ago if I didn’t speak the language of my customer, or anyone, I was attempting to influence then I not respecting them. I was losing out! You want deep lasting, trusting, positive connections. Don’t you?

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Learn to become the best. Stop collecting ‘no’s’ start collectin yes’s. Stop losing out on money and start making more. Start adding more value to all the people you communicate with.I’ll share it soon! Stay tuned! Meanwhile Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Responsibility, Right Action, Success, Trust

My Word Is Law. Is Yours? It Had Better Be!

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“My word is law. I, sometimes, wish other people felt the same about their word. When you give your word – keep your word. How can one tell if your word is worth anything? Your word is backed up by your actions. You follow through. You keep your commitments.

My son used to say, ‘I didn’t promise to… because I didn’t use the word promise.’ I attempted to point out that when you say you ARE going to do something, whether or not you use the word. ‘promise’, it is a promise. You agree to act on your word and do what you say.

Keeping your word not only gives you credibility it allows others to rely on you. Your reputation precedes you. If you keep your word AND go the extra mile to provide value to another you do yourself a world of good.  Success comes to those who care about others.

Respect My Time – Match My Effort – Keep Your Word

You aren’t worth doing business with, or even hanging around with, if you can’t be relied upon. If you are always late, or say you will do something but then don’t do it you can’t be counted on. You are abusing other people when you don’t show up on time.

Time can never be gotten back. If you make people wait you are doing them a huge disservice. In the movie business, if you show up on set, at the required hour, you are already late. You should be at least 15 to 30 minutes early. People shouldn’t have to wait on you.

No one cares about your excuses. Don’t blame god, the weather, your kids, the dog, traffic or the economy on why you didn’t do what you said you would do.  No one cares about the reason why you were late. The reason you were late is you didn’t leave early enough.

Always Be Honest – Stay Consistent – Keep Your Word

The reason you’re late is you didn’t care enough for the other person to actually be on time. You didn’t respect the other person enough to keep your word. You were thoughtless and careless. Own up to it. Be responsible and accountable for your actions. No excuses!

If you say you will do something and you don’t or you keep missing deadlines you are abusing people. When you agree to complete something and don’t, you mess up so many things for other people relying on your part in the process. You actually do harm.

Perhaps, you have never considered how much you cost people when you break your word. Now would be the time to start. Make it a point to keep your word and do what you say. Be congruent. Be honest. Be reliable. Be likable and you will get further, faster.

People With Good Character Keep Their Promises 

Develop the reputations for being one that follows through. Develop the reputation of one that helps other people get ahead. When you do, and when you help celebrate their success, they will help celebrate yours. Together, you will independently rise. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Focus, Intentional Thinking, Intuition, Trust

The Giant Step To Success: Why You Must Learn To Trust Your Gut

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“In my last blog I shared with you secrets for getting what you want. Secrets that have been around for thousands of years. Then why are they secrets? Because only a few will apply them. When people do they get results. If they don’t use what is available they miss out.

Secrets hidden in plain sight but missed by most because we aren’t conditioned to make our dreams come true. We are conditioned to go to school, get a job, work for 40 years and retire. People could do that for a number of decades but times have changed.

That is why I share these blogs and these secret principles , methods, approaches and practices. It is with the hope that you will apply these and revolutionize your life so you begin living on your terms. It is time to end being a wage slave and not living your dreams.

Trust Your Intuition – Trust Your Gut – Shhhhhh – Listen And Feel

So — What do you do after you ‘act as if’ you already have what you want. Unless you have gotten the results in the outer world you are in the process of creating, manifesting or attracting what you want. While in the process you continue. You visualize, affirm, and feel it.

You keep doing that. You focus on what you want as though you already have it and you continue to live and operate from that mindset. IN ADDITION and because of the mindset you begin to take inspired action steps. These come to you. Watch and listen.

Your brain works around the clock as you focus on what you want. Your brain assists you in making it happen. It looks for the opportunities for you. Your awareness opens up. What you were blind to before, now you might see. Now you can see. It works!

The More You Trust Your Intuition – The Stronger It Gets

You live it and you take action. Your action is based on your intuition. You must listen to your intuition, you inner voice, your hunches and be prepared to pounce on opportunities as you become aware of them. These may come as flashes of insight, feelings or as thoughts.

These may or may not make sense to you. Perhaps, you get a hunch to dine at a particular restaurant. Follow your hunch. Learn what happens. Expect a blessing. You may not discover anything special or perhaps you run into a long lost friend or meet a new one.

You may not know right away. Still, get in the habit of listening to your inner voice. Your gut feelings. As you do you will discover they are reliable. They just aren’t delivered in a coherent fashion you might wish they were. They come as gifts however they come.

Listen To Your Inner Voice – Question Others – Listen To Yours

You either accept them or you don’t. The more you ignore or reject the less they will occur. You can, as some people have, turned a blind eye and deaf ear to their own inner awareness. If you don’t have the habit of gently listening you need to develop it. Pay attention.

This inner awareness can cause you great benefit if you follow it. How it works no one really knows. It just works. Learn to trust yourself and your hunches. You won’t over night it will take some time but gradually you will get better at it. Use it or lose it!

Who are you listening to? YOURSELF! Your inner wisdom. You have a subconscious knowledge base that parallels any outstanding library in the world. You have collected information, experiences, memories your entire life. Your brain searches these for the answer.

Pay Attention And Trust Your Very First Gut Instincts – Your First

When you focus on what you want you aim your own brain at searching for answers. The brain communicates them to you. It downloads them to your conscious mind but not typically all at once. Ah Ha’s are major downloads. Usually, you get fragments or flashes.

This is why you need to pay attention. Be aware and be still. Shut up and trust. You are in the process of creating something for yourself and you are aligning all of your inner resources and getting these to work together for you to assist you in actually making it happen.

You still need to examine and vet and insure that the hunches or flashes and the opportunities presented you are valid and worthwhile. You want to quickly but thoroughly research each and make sure it is legitimate. This is not the time to be gullible. Never is.

Don’t Shhhh Your Inner Voice – That Is Who You Really Are

Examine and if appropriate, act. Large steps once in awhile is not as effective as small steps each day. Move steadily and slowly toward your goal or outcome and you will get there quicker than the person who leaps only once in a while. Stick with it don’t give up.

Focus on one course or avenue until successful. Don’t try to do to many things at once. Don’t be a jack of all trades but master of none. Get good. Become exceptional at one thing. Follow your passion and your intuition. Too many opportunities can become a limitation.

Once you complete yours or are wildly successful then diversify. Until then follow your one big dream. You can break it into steps that you pursue one at a time as you would climb stairs, each one at a time, to get to the top. The same logic applies. Bit by bit you advance.

You Bring About What You Think About – Practice Gratitude

Work toward your goal. Listen and allow your intuition to guide you. Trust but vet the information. Make adjustments as necessary while maintaining your vision. It all comes together as you do continue the process. Stick with it , never give it. Follow through. Be grateful. You will get there. Stay the course. Have fun. Take it seriously but lightly. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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How To Know What Is Really Important!

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“To get people to do what you want you have to appeal to who they are. People have beliefs and values that are important to them. They have rules and procedures for how to eliminate woes, and  how to best go about living in the world, succeeding and being happy.

They function by principles, rules, evidence and procedures. We may explore each of these in coming blogs but today I want to broach the subject of values. We all have values.  Some we share with others and some unique to the individuals.

Where values are shared there can be rapport. What is important to you and to me may be our bridge that brings us closer together. Unless we are both competing to fulfill those. It really isn’t much different than you like latte’s and I like latte’s. It is similar.

You’ll Find A Way If It Is Important To You If Not You’ll Find Excuse

We share something in agreement. We both agree it is important to be honest, or loyal or tolerant. Yet how we define these and apply them could vary wildly. Many couples vacation together. It is important for them to get away and spend together time.

What is important about that vacation may wildly differ between them. They could be in for a wonderful or rough time depending on what is most important to each. Whether or not they help each other fulfill what is important to them will determine their success.

For example one partner can’t wait to get away and have loads of fun. This person wants to wine and dine and dance. They want to go out and party, see the sights, meet the people and experience a grand and wild time. They can’t wait until they can let loose!

Ask What Is Really Important Then Find A Way To Deliver On That

The other partner can’t wait to get away from the rat race and relax. They want to leave the madness of the city behind. No phones, no pressures, no deadlines, no people to bother with. They just want to sitt by the water and chill out. They want to savor their time away.

Can you imagine these two may have some difficulty? Perhaps, they’d be better taking separate vacations. Many people get there and then argue that it isn’t going well as they had expected. Why? Because their expectations were never really voiced. Imagined, yes.

Had they talked it out upfront it could be much better. All they need to do is ask, what is important to you about this vacation? What do you hope it to be? What do you want to do? Then they will find out they both have separate and different desires and expectations.

Agreement In Likes And Dislikes Is The Beginning Of Rapport

They can then decided whether or not to vacation together OR how to insure that both of their needs and wants are met during the time they are together. They negotiate quiet relaxing times and wild out there party times. Then both can feel fulfilled and get along.

They help each other out by helping each other get what is important and necessary for each. They work together to make sure both are well cared for and not abused or ignored. Get it? Because they know what is important to each they can work together.

To get along easily with another person appeal to what is important to them. Look them in the eye and say, ‘what is important to you?’ What is important to you about this? What does that, or having that do for you or allow you to do? So few people ever ask. We need to.

Friendship Comes From Trust Uplifting And Valuing Each Other 

‘What is important to you about being a parent?’  ‘What is important to you about racing cars?’ ‘What is important to you about going to that school?’ ‘What is important to you about your boyfriend?’ What is important to you? Then listen and accept their answer.

For practice, whatever their answer, repeat it back to them respectfully. Don’t look at them bewildered and exclaim,  ‘WHAAAAT?  FUN?!?!? is important???’ Be respectful. Accept whatever they say. It is what IS important to them. Treat it so!

‘So fun is important? Very cool. What does having fun do for you? Their answer may reveal another value. Let’s say they said confidence. ‘Cool, so when you have fun you feel confident, or you have a sense of confidence.’ It doesn’t have to make sense to you.

Trust Comes From Understanding And Taking Positive Actions

It makes sense to them. Respect and accept that. Listen and let them know you care. You hold them in high regard. You will do whatever you can to help them fulfill their positive values. When you accept, without judging or ridiculing, you create more harmony and rapport.

You help create understanding and trust. You connect more deeply and you are getting to know each other more deeply because you are learning about what they are trying to fulfill in their life. If not their whole life at least in this topic area. It is important to them.

We have some values which permeate all areas of our life. Some might call these Core Values and we have others that are more situational. Our beliefs and rules and procedures and processes similarly can be situational or core. We will explore more later.

It’s Not Just What’s Important To Them It’s How They Fulfill That

For now, remember to ask people what is important to them. Genuinely be interested. Listen and respect their answers. Utilize what they tell you to help them fulfill their wants and needs and you will may benefit them greatly. Use it to build trust and rapport.

Your understanding of what motivates them and what challenges them will grow immensely. It will help you understand your partner in life, your parents or children, friends, co-workers, employers and employees. You will learn a lot about the people in your world.

Enjoy them. Enjoy learning. Delight in all things. Appreciate these tools you have to build bridges. Understanding what makes another person ‘tick’  bring us closer together. It helps eliminate hinderances and misunderstanding.  It allows us create win /win outcomes so we can get along and each feel fulfilled. Celebrate. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Experts Reveal: Why You Win When You Go The Extra Mile

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“Don’t you just love it when someone goes out of their way to help you out or do something nice? I mean sure, sometimes the tendency is to not receive a gift because you don’t want to ‘put someone out’ or you don’t want to feel obligated. Still, it is nice, isn’t it?

Of course, it is. When some one does something for you, you appreciate it. When they do something extra special it is even more important and memorable. It has an impact. Remember, what I said a moment ago about being obligated. It stimulates reciprocity.

You want to return the kindness. If you want more people to say yes and become devoted to you or your business then be willing to provide far more value than you ask for in return. Go the extra mile. Demonstrate your ability to give and you will get far more back.

Go The Extra Mile – Just Like At The Top – It Is Never Crowded

Give first and you will get back! There is a caveat. Give to give not to get back. When you are a genuine giver you will get far more back than you can imagine. Be sincere. Give because you want to provide lot’s of value to those around you. You will get known for it.

Give of your respect. Give your attention. Give you kindness. Give your time. Give your yes. Be generous and provide value first for the other person. When you do people naturally want to, and even feel compelled to, reciprocate. They will return your kindness. Get it?

This is why people bring gifts or food or drink to dinner parties they are invited to. It is why a sales person often bring donuts or coffee to their sales calls. It is why they pick up the tab at a business lunch or meeting. They obligate you. You feel compelled to say yes.

People Of Excellence – Go The Extra Mile – To Do What Is Right

You promise to get the tab next time. Researchers call it The Law Of Reciprocity. When you give first people want to give back. They actually do feel compelled. When someone buys you lunch or a movie ticket, they pay for something, what do you want to do?

Return the favor, right? If someone gives you a ride for free you want to pay for gas. When you give first, they want to return it. If you listen well, if you are focused and attentive, people more readily return the same to you. There is a saying, givers get.

Demonstrate their interests are genuinely in your heart and they will place you in theirs. If you give only to get they will know it. Say yes to them and they will say yes to you! You win more bears with honey. Go the extra mile. Provide fabulous value.

Be The Difference – Don’t Just Be  Ordinary – Be Extraordinary

Be the type of person that exemplifies trust, honesty, loyalty, respect, willingness, acceptance and cooperation. You are the message. Who you are and what you do is far more important than what you say. We will discuss more of ‘who you are’ later.

For now, go the extra mile. Will everyone, always, return your kindness? No, but most will. That makes it even more important. You risk not having anyone return anything. This makes you the bigger person. When people know you are sincere it works in your favor.

Don’t try to manipulate. If you are authentic people will respond far better because most will ‘get it’ at a gut level. We are usually far more perceptive than otherwise. Our gut, our first impressions usually are right. Many people listen to theirs. Be a good person.

Stand  Out And Taller Among The Crowd By Going The Extra Mile

You win in the long run when you go beyond the call of duty. Understand this. You up your batting average. There is no absolute guarantee but you should offer one whenever you can. Get it? You win by helping others win. Make them a priority. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Make it a marvelous day!

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Understanding The Unthinkable When It Happens To You

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“What do you do when ‘bad’ things happen? Is there a correct way to respond? Why do these things happen anyway? Have you ever asked yourself these questions? Tragedy struck close to me today. Someone I love was savagely brutalized. 911 was called. Horrible!

I won’t go into it much. An attack occurred. Cries for help heard. Authorities called. 2 hours later they had still not showed up. I, and others ,we called and did. Another 2 hours went by. Authorities finally showed after repeated calls insisting they get there.

Once they arrived they were surly, agitated the victim more than assisted, and left without word. I and another, accompanied our loved one to the ER. We spent 7 more hours. 6 hours after we arrived and only after repeated phone calls did authorities arrived.

Just When Caterpillar Thought It Is All Over It Became A Butterfly

Physically, emotionally, psychologically, spiritually my dear one was brutalized, left and abandoned by the system, neglected, treated callously by responders who left job undone. Only,  later did they appear after calls to supervisors. Sad, tough day for all involved.

I am fine. Someone else is not. Few will understand what I next say but, I am the eye of the storm. I am calm and centered regardless of what happens. That is how my day is. I know and trust that ultimately good will come of this. It always does. No matter what.

It may not work out to anyone’s satisfaction. It could get worse. I haven’t a clue how it will work out but that isn’t for me to know. I simply trust that it will. I know it has for many and it always has for me. My darkest days turned out to be my greatest blessings.

People Who Truly Care About Each Other Can Make It Work

I am sorry this happened. I’m glad it wasn’t worse. I’m disappointed with the people who are paid to help in crisis. I am happy that finally one benevolent supervisor listened and did his job. One person made some things happen when no one else would. I thanked him!

So positive thoughts and feelings and energy I send when I think of this dear one who was wounded today. I could go on in many different directions about the event, what it means, what could be, what should have been, but none of that is important. None of it.

What’s important is my loved one get love and support and understanding during a terrifically trying time. Besides the physical assault and battery, the feelings of betrayal, fear of dying, shock, anger, justice, revenge, sadness, abandonment all raging at once.

The Best Lessons Are Often Learned In The Worst Of Times

A real shoulder to cry or lean on and an actual ear to listen is what is needed. Love, understanding, patience, compassion, positive kind energy and acceptance is offered. Healing will happen but first there’s some important grieving stages the loved one to go through.

Yet, I know we are blessed. It may not seem like it to some readers. I first and foremost am thankful it wasn’t worse. I am so grateful my dear one is alive. I am so grateful for that! Tough, it may be but we all can get through it. I am truly fine. Someone else is not. BUT can be.

Will be. Eventually no matter how long it takes. Obviously, I prefer soon; as soon as possible. I know many learnings will come from this. Some hard lessons, and others not so difficult, to face. We are all blessed no matter how it turns out. And I do celebrate this.

During Our Darkest Moments We Must Focus To See The Light

Not the act. Not the terrible things that occurred but rather the opportunity to heal, to grow and evolve, to learn and go beyond what we knew. To deepen our relationships and our own spiritual practices. I am deeply thankful for this opportunity. It is all okay!

What is IS. What happened happened.  It’s okay. I can’t change it so how I live with it is important. How each of us affected learns to live with it is important. I stay positive that we all will be better off in the long run. Somewhere in all this there is a truly a silver or gold lining.

There is always light at the end of the tunnel. Sometimes, however, you are so deep into the tunnel you don’t see the light at the other end. Know it is there. Know this too will pass. Keep moving forward and you will find it. Tomorrow will be another day. Be patient.

Life Is 10% What Happens To You And 90% How You Respond

I share this because it is what it is. I share it because while it is an awful ordeal it doesn’t impinge on my spirit or on me or the gladness I feel. 99.5 percent of everything in our life is good. This is one horrible event. We will live on focused on the good 99.5. So yes, I do celebrate everything. We can. You can. All of us can. So go ahead and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Find 1% good and make it 100% good today!

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