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Beliefs, Conditioning, Creating The Future, Responsibility

Whether Or Not You Realize It You Are Doing This To Your Self!

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“What do you want? That is an important question. Some want money, stardom, love, fun, family, excitement, simplicity, relaxation and more. Some want better toys and things. Some want to connect deeply with another person. Others want to find their purpose.

Science indicates more and more that what goes on in our outer world, that which we call reality, is actually a reflection of our inner world. Our brains interpret trillions of bits of data that come into us through our senses. We assimilate and draw conclusions.

Our data is run through perceptual filters and then filtered again based on our beliefs, values, conditioning and experiences. We make all sorts of inner transforms and computations outside of of conscious awareness and create a personal map of reality.

Your Inner World Reflects Your Outer World

This map is individual and shared. It is agreed upon outside of awareness. It becomes a governing by consensus. We share a ‘common reality’ or map while we have an ‘individual map’. These can wildly differ while agreeing at the same time. This is amazing.

We are map makers and meaning makers. We assign value to a representation of reality, that we create, because we don’t actually experience reality EXCEPT through our neurological filters. We are steps removed from it. We only know our filtered, created reality.

Our ‘reality’ is a projection. A version of what’s ‘out there’ or ‘in here’ because by filtering data we leave things out. We aren’t even aware it is missing. It is deleted. We either never received it because it was filtered OR we are unaware of it because it is out of our awareness.

To Change The Outer World – You Must Change The Inner World

We distort things. A good example of this is Van Gough paintings. They are a creative distortion of what is ‘out there’. This is a talent. Plus, we generalize. We can recognize many different forms of chairs without having to learn each every time. We are talented.

Our filters limit us but they are also the basis of our creativity and genius. We have to work with what we have, don’t we?  So though neurological transforms we create a map of reality, a representation, or better yet a re-representation, of what is out there. It is a map.

According to science, AND mystics, religious leaders and philosophers we don’t really have much to do with reality. We only know re-representations of it. It is just as if we have an actual road map of our entire life and universe. Our brains map our reality.

The Map Is Not The Territory – The Map Is The Map

Hence, we draw conclusions, make rules, form beliefs, all on limited bits of filtered information which is missing elements and distorted. We don’t have the whole truth in its entirety! We have a map put together of snippets of this and that. Our map is incomplete!

Remember maps you hold in your hand? Now days we have GPS. It is the same. It is a detailed representation of the roadways so we can navigate. It doesn’t contain everything you see along the road. It can’t. It is a representation of what is there. It is smaller and limited.

Our maps are smaller and limited than what is actually ‘out there’. They are incomplete. We live in a microcosm. We don’t have a complete picture. We couldn’t. The map by definition IS smaller than what it portrays. We have an incomplete road map of our universe.

Remember You Operate From The Map Not From Reality

We may have many maps and share many similar maps. To the degree that we share and understand each other’s maps is the degree to which we have rapport. We can understand where the other person is ‘coming from’. We have elements in common.

We see through the glass dimly. We impose our inner reality, our map, on the outer reality, We use the lessor to define the greater and miss many important things. There are no limitations in reality. The limitations exist in our map. Limitations exist in our thinking.

That is why Henry Ford could correctly say, ‘Whether you think you can or you think you can’t you are correct’. If we want things to be different for us we need to make better maps. We need to stop limited thinking and think better. The outer reflects the inner.

Make A Better Map – Create What You Want – Say Yes To Life

I repeat. The outer is a reflection of the inner because the inner is all we actually have. We mistakenly think we are dealing with the outer but at all times we are dealing with our re-representation of what we think is going on based on our neurological filtering. Whew!

So to the point. Life, out there, mirrors our thoughts. We create the reality we live in either consciously or non-consciously. The sooner we realize this and take responsibility for it the sooner we can begin to have more of what we want to have. We can become deliberate.

Instead of haphazard creation based on prior faulty conditioning we can choose consciously what we deliberately intend to experience and we can take inspired action steps to bring that new reality about. AS you keep your thoughts positive you create a positive life.

Limitations Don’t Exist In Reality – Limitations Exist In The Map

You create new experiences because you brain looks for these opportunities you otherwise miss. You get what you focus on. If you are focused on problems you are apt to miss positive opportunities as they present because the opportunities aren’t in your awareness.

They aren’t in your map. If the location you want to travel to isn’t on your map how would you get there? Life mirrors thought. If you keep your thoughts positive you create a more positive life. You create more positive experiences. You notice more! You experience more!

Say yes to life and life will say yes to you! You get back what you put out. What you think about you become. Get it? Be grateful and enjoy all of it and all of it can transform in wildly wonderful ways. YOU are doing it! You are changing your map! Understand? Do you?

As Within So Without – As Above So Below – You Create Reality

Take charge of your life by taking control of your inner thoughts and representations. Say yes to life. Delight and enjoy and you will discover more to delight and enjoyment. Think and feel abundance and you will experience more abundance. YOU are doing it! Create what you want. Be grateful. Have fun. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Make today delightful!

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Conditioning, Mindset, Persistence, Responsibility

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“My philosophy honed from over 40 years of training, and the rest of the years of my own life, is go ahead and dip your toes in the crap pool but dive into the wonderful, incredible pool. Immerse yourself in the goodness by keeping yourself focused on positive feelings.

Does this mean we are never angry, fearful, doubtful or sad? Absolutely not. It means we feel what is going on. We allow it. Accept it and then move on. We acknowledge difficulties but we don’t get caught in them. We don’t wallow in our problems.

Too many people bask in the crap when they could, read that again, they COULD bask in all the wonderfulness life offers. They do it because they were conditioned to do it. They really don’t know, or have any better way to think or behave. It is all they know and do.

You Can Do Anything You Set Your Mind To It Takes Perseverance

I am for being a mental warrior, a champion. Bring discipline to your mind and feelings so you can discover what is possible when you do. If you don’t do it you won’t know. AND what you don’t know and have no experience in YOU don’t know and have no experience in.

That doesn’t mean you will never know only that you don’t know how it could be different right now in your present. In order to know and experience the difference you must do something different. You do understand this, right? If you do not know YOU DO NOT KNOW.

You cannot keep doing things exactly the same way and expect things to change or be different.  If you always do what you always did you DO ALWAYS get what you ALWAYS GOT. That is how it works. This isn’t rocket science it is quite simple and easy to grasp.

Will It Be Easy – Nope – Will It Be Worth It – Absolutely

You keep doing things over and over again that you may not want to because habits are reliable. They work automatically. They are neural pathways of behaviors that you learned through repetition over time. They are well practiced and rehearsed. They are habits!

This may include negative thinking and limiting beliefs, feeling sad or anxious, or biting your nails, twisting your hair or smoking. Each habit is developed either by repeated exposure or repeated practice. For something to become a habit you have to do it over and over.

You may not have considered it practice to smoke but each time you sucked on a cigarette you were practicing the habit, and developing the habit of smoking. Same is true about biting your nails, feeling bad or thinking you are worthless. You did it enough times to master it.

Focus – You Can Do This – Repetition Is The Mother Of Skill

You learned a skill that resulted in less than glorious thoughts feelings and behaviors. Get it? It actually is a learned behavior as is any skill you have ever learned. Walking, talking, reading, writing, and each and everything that you do well. Those are habits too.

There is the opportunity to change each of less than glorious habits. Since you learned them to begin with you can learn to replace them. It takes focus, dedication and perseverance. Many people try quitting smoking many times using many methods.  Right?

Because they haven’t quit yet doesn’t mean they can’t quit. Unless they decide it is impossible and keep doing it. You can do anything you decide you can do. To change, first decide you are bigger than the challenge facing you. Second, cut the problem down to size.

You Get What You Focus On – If You Dream It You Can Do It

Approach it with successive baby steps. You are bigger than your problem and you break it into tiny manageable bits. It is like climbing a ladder to the top. You go up one wrung at a time. You eat and elephant bite by bite. You travel one step after the other.

Some people have never learned to do this. If you haven’t yet then this is your starting place. You need to first learn how to think powerfully and positively. Learn to manage and control your thoughts and feelings. Everything is easier after you learn this.

Master your thoughts and feelings and your challenges become more easily dealt with. You transform yourself into a person of solutions instead of a person who has problems. Is it easy? No, not always. Some days it is harder than others. BUT It is simple.

Instead Of Why You Can’t Give Yourself Reasons Why You Can

It is not complicated. You can do each piece. Are push ups easy when you start doing them at first? Nope. Do your muscles get sore? Yep. The same is true of mental conditioning. You will have good days and bad days. Get over that. That is what life is, sunshine and rain.

You can have far more better days, feeling better than ever before when you apply yourself and learn how. It can be incredibly amazing but you won’t know until you actually do it. If you begin and quit you won’t know. You have to succeed to know what success is all about.

If you are like some people, you will claim you tried it, but IT doesn’t work. You assume because you gave it a shot, but didn’t continue, that you know all about it and how it doesn’t work. The brutal truth is you didn’t do it long enough or well enough to succeed at it.

What The Mind Of Man Can Conceive And Believe It Can Achieve

That is not to blame you. That is to get you to take responsibility for what you do. Hey, if you don’t like snails after you ate a few, you are allowed to say, ‘I don’t like snails. I tried them and I don’t enjoy eating them.’ Okay, just own up to what you did and what you don’t do.

Perhaps, you didn’t try all the possible variations until you found one you did enjoy, but you did try them and didn’t like them. Saying ‘I don’t like them’ is not the same as saying ‘snails are horrible’ or ‘nobody should eat snails because they are bad’. Do you get this?

Yet this is what many people do. They give something a shot and then conclude there is something wrong or not valuable because they weren’t able to make it work for them. You must hang in there. It isn’t that IT works it is that YOU work. You make the difference.

Start Where You Are – Use What You Have – Do What You Can

Don’t say, ‘I did a bicep curl a couple times and nothing happened. Bicep curls are foolish. Any one who does them is wasting their time.’ That may be your opinion but who cares. Opinions don’t matter much when it comes to reality. However, they help shape the reality.

Opinions shape your experience. It is likely you may not know the benefits of bicep curls or snails because your opinions may prevent you from ever trying them again. SO YOU WILL NEVER EVER KNOW and if you are okay with that so am I. Just own it.

Don’t blame others or circumstances or make excuses or whine. Own that it is not for you after a couple of non-successful attempts. Admit that you don’t know if it works or not. Maybe it does maybe it doesn’t but YOU are not willing to find out. THAT at least is honest!

Action Is The Proper Fruit Of Knowledge – Talk Is Cheap – Do It

Be honest with yourself and others. If you do things that others have done for centuries, that have worked for the people who have made it work, it is likely, ultimately, it will work for you too. Figuring out how to make it work seems more important than giving up.

But that is just how I think about it. Make it work. Find or create a way. Develop your power and your mental toughness and positivity to the point where you can make, create and attract what you do want. Make it so. That is the choice you have. Do it or don’t do it.

If you decide to do it realize you are not an expert to begin with. You need to have realistic time expectations. Everything takes time. An oak tree takes time to grow. It takes time to get good at baseball, playing a piano, becoming a chef or chess player or a swimmer.

Only You Can Change Your Life – No One Can Do It For You

Yes, you can get some experience early on but to become proficient, to become a master, takes time. Learning to control your thoughts and feelings and behaviors after however many years of not doing this, will take some time. Everything takes SOME time, doesn’t it?

It may surprise you how quickly things can begin to shift for you, especially if you do a little bit daily. BUT expect to be in for the long haul. If you commit to ‘I will do whatever it takes for as long as it takes’ you are well on your way IF you really mean it.

That is why people who bottom out often become great successes. They have no other choice. It is either move upward or stay on the bottom. Once they decide they hate the bottom and won’t accept being there any longer they move to get what they want.

Change  I Can’t Into I Can – Pretty Soon You’ll Say – I Did

You can too. I hope you don’t have to bottom out to do so, but if you think about it as if you have no other choice but to succeed, then you can. It is either I do this or… If you are 1000% committed and there is no stopping you YOU will succeed.

Now let me tell you about a man whose story I was recently introduced to. You know that an Iron Man Triathlon is one of the most grueling forms of self punishing competition there is. You swim for miles. Bike for miles. Run for miles. It is brutal on the body.

Some who attempt don’t finish. Some do one so they can say they have. Can you imagine how you must feel doing one of those? If you make it, it must be elating. If you make it I image it must hurt too. I have never done one so I can’t say. I can imagine, however.

A Positive Attitude Gives You Power Over Your Circumstances

From reports I have heard some people suffer a lot. They do, however, consider it worth it. Some, in spite of the pain and hardship decide to do another one. Can you imagine that? All the training. The sweat, blood, tears. Then the competition. Let’s do it again! Huh?

James Lawrence, The Iron Cowboy, has done a few. He decided to do 50 Iron Man competitions. That is a heck of a lot of triathlons, wouldn’t you say? 50 and he completed 50! Isn’t that amazing? That is truly being dedicated. WOW, can you imagine that?

NOT ONLY did he complete 50 competitions he did it in 50 days AND  in 50 states! Do you understand this? 50 of the toughest competitions mankind has in 50 consecutive days in 50 STATES. That meant do the ironman and travel. That meant no recovery time.

Do It – Be Brave Take Risks – There’s No Substitute For Experience

That meant do it, finish, travel to next competition and do it again the very next day. Then do it again and again. He completed all 50 in spite of the fact that every expert, athlete, doctor and triathlon competitor said it was impossible. They all said not doable. NOPE!

Not only not doable but lunacy to think it possible. Right? They told us the 4 minute mile was impossible. They said, we would never fly or reach the moon. Who said it exactly? Why the experts of the day, of course. The authorities. Those in the know. All said NOPE!

Mr. Lawrence was told he could not succeed! BUT HE DID! He holds the records. The most Iron Mans in a year. He first did 30 in eleven countries. That was 2012. In 2015 this 36 year old swam 2.4 miles, biked 112 miles and ran 26.2 miles each and every day for 50 days.

Positive Attitude Changes Everything You Get What You Focus On

My point? He is born into the same world you and I are the same way. The difference between you and me and him is he decided he would do it then he set out to accomplish it. He didn’t think magically it would be attracted to him. He created the challenge.

He met the challenge with no other talents other than being human and committed. You and I COULD do likewise. Perhaps, we could even surpass his record if we would only try. Even if we didn’t reach 50 we would do more than we might have because we had a goal.

Because we were committed to going further than we ever had before. If one can do it, others can. After the 4 minute mile was broken numerous people did it within months of the record being set. Since then it has constantly been broken again and again.

Whether You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t – You’re Right

That is because once something is done by one person others begin to believe it is possible. If you believe something is possible you are well on your way to achieving it. If you don’t believe it possible you won’t ever personally know because you won’t attempt it.

Or you will give up after awhile stating , ‘I knew it couldn’t be done’. Don’t let your own thoughts prevent you from being the best you you can be. Learn to take control of your thoughts and emotions and behaviors and make the world your oyster.

Find out what you can do when you put energy into it. This is how you evolve yourself. This is how you overcome adversity and defeat. YOU meet it head on realizing YOU are bigger than any challenge. Develop the champion mindset and don’t let anything stop you and you will be triumphant. Do it. Celebrate it! Then celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Go Beyond What You Already Know Because The Possibilities Are Endless!

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“Do you feel stuck? Are you dissatisfied with how things are going? Are difficulties getting the best of you? Would you like to make your present conditions better? Do you want a brighter future? If you want tomorrow to be more wonderful you may be at the right place.

Today is all we have but today gives way to tomorrow. What we do this day influences the next. What we do not do today influences the next, as well. Some people never move because they are comfortable in their dissatisfaction. They tolerate a lot. They stand still.

There is a saying based in truth. ‘Standing is harder than moving’. We were made to move. As it is we are far too sedentary. We spend way too much time not moving and many of our medical issues are the result. We can’t stand or stay in one place. Not moving hurts us.  So…

Grab A Pen And Become The Author Of Your Life

If you are dissatisfied you may be at just the right place to put some action into your lifestyle. You may be ready to make a change. This is a great place to be. Dissatisfaction can help move you forward. It can help you get away from your troubles or problems. If so, great!

Be happy things suck enough to get you to do something right now. That’s what happened to me. I had hard turns that got really difficult. One bad thing after another. I tolerated for a long time and then said, ‘wow, you have to make some changes’. I took control.

Everything changed. Are there stills rocks and challenges? You bet there are. The difference is I am different. Rocks are rocks so what. Once, I had hoped, thought, wished, expected that life would be free of all rocks. It doesn’t work that way. We change the rocks remain.

As Long As You Say What You Have You Will Have What You Say

I love my life. If you don’t love yours yet, you can. Decide to take control of yourself. Take control of your thoughts and emotions. It is absolutely worth it! One day you will look back and see what you brought about. You will look back and see how far you came.

Imagine, if three years or one year, or if in six months from now you were to look back and notice how far you had come wouldn’t that be worth it? What if you can see yourself having made many positive changes, would you like what you see? It can be this! It can be better.

Stop, and imagine the life you want to create. See yourself having begun today, as you look back at that moment, when you decide to change yourself and take control. See all the changes to your lifestyle, the money, the love, the leisure, the fulfillment. Notice!

Choose To Smile When Life Frowns – Choose Victory Over Defeat

As you think about that life now, you would notice, your decision to move forward today made all the difference in the world for you. That today you began a positive, productive journey that took you beyond limitations and into your resourcefulness and new heights.

So use your present circumstances to move you forward. Whatever they are. If you want them to be different decide that you will make them different. Decide now you will. This is the first step. Commit to taking the your first steps. It is all good. Make the change today!

Make this change now and you have something wonderful to look forward to and back on. If not, you may miss out on many positive things. Our perceptions form the reality we live within. Our mindset and beliefs determine what we will go for and what we will achieve.

Imagine Your New Life Fully And Completely – Keep Visioning It

What prevents most people from living their dreams is a thought. Don’t let a thought stop you. Instead, stop and take a deep breath and see the bright new future out there waiting for you to make it happen. In your mind take your first steps toward it. Go for it!

Go beyond what you presently know and anything is possible! What you don’t know you don’t know. What you do know often limits you. It provides you the reasons and the excuses for not taking action. Stop! Go beyond both. You’ll discover things you couldn’t otherwise.

That opens everything up for you. The possibilities and potential is endless. Decide to be different. Then congratulate yourself for deciding. Be grateful and practice gratitude for everything. AND keep deciding to be in charge. Do it! Moment to moment.

Today Is Not Just Another Day – It Is A New Opportunity

Live your decision. Be different. Be grateful.  Fill your heart with genuine thankfulness. That will pave the way for more. Discover even the tinest things to be appreciative about. The moment you stop complaining and start celebrating everything changes! It truly does. So celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Law Of Attraction Simplified Enough For Dummies

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“We are either drawing to us or pushing away. Either we attract or we repel. Those are the two possibilities. Consider magnets. Either the pull together or they push apart. This is the law of attraction. What you need to know is which you are doing at any given moment.

A plant is either growing or it is dying. Which are you doing most of the time. Are you attracting what you want or repelling it? Are you creating what you want or creating what you don’t want. These are hard questions for many people because few will take responsibility.

Instead they blame others or the circumstances. The reality is you determine how you handle the circumstances. You determine what you do or don’t do to bring about what you want or what you don’t want. You are either working with or working against. Get it?

The Person You Are Destined To Become Is Who You Decide To Be

If you claim you aren’t doing anything but letting the cards fall where they may then you aren’t doing anything in your favor. You are actually working against yourself. Instead of shaping your destiny you are willing to drift. So if you don’t get what you want, so be it.

Either you are positive or negative. Which is it? Whatever you are most of the time determines the overall quality of your existence. This IS important to understand especially if you want things to get better. You can’t continue on as you have and expect it different.

It will remain the same. You decide what it is going to be. You are either on or off. Make a decision how you will think and how you will live. Decide what you want and how you want it to be. Then decide to make it happen. Go after it. Do something that helps you.

To Live The Greatest Life You Must Become A Leader Within You

Take the bull by the horns. Don’t wait and don’t expect things to change. YOU change them. You do it. You make it happen. You work to make it different. You begin controlling your thoughts and feelings and behaviors. It is all up to you and not anyone else.

In an upcoming post I’ll share why this is important from a quantum physics point of view. Meanwhile, what is important is that you run your own brain and life. A wonderful way to begin is with gratitude. Feel grateful for whatever, how little or how much you have. Express it. Really feel it. Delight and enjoy! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Be the reason someone else smiles today!

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Attitude, Creating The Future, Goals, Learning

Success Strategies For Actors Filmmakers And Everyone Else!

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“Do you have a big dream? Are you driven by something so huge you must do it? Do you feel you have a mission to fulfill? Many people do. Others haven’t a clue. Some don’t know what they want to do. Many just want to get a job and settle down. What do you want?

I love and gravitated to the film community at a very young age because we dream big. We want stardom and an illustrious career. We don’t think about landing a job and settling down.  We want it all. We want top of the line everything! We want to be famous and rich.

As a filmmakers and actor I encourage others to follow their heart. Make your dreams come true. Pursue any career or endeavor. The bigger the dream the more likely you will experience great things. The larger it is the more worthwhile it may be.  But…

The Future Belongs To Those Who Believe In Their Dreams

Some people focus on a dream so large they never move because they think they will fail. These people never start. Fear of failure or even fear of success, stops them. Hey, if you don’t begin you won’t get anywhere. You can’t not move and expect things to get better.

Others pick a tiny goal and don’t move far at all. They tend to remain near to where they are. They play it safe and close to the vest. They don’t venture out for the same reasons. The only difference is they don’t dream large to begin with. They have tiny goals. Little ones.

I suggest you pick a big goal. One that is beyond anything you know. It may seem difficult to reach but not unreachable. It may be  little scary because it is out of your comfort zone. It stretches you. You have to grow to get it. You have to work for it to make it happen.

Go Confidently In The Direction Of Your Dreams

When you think about it you think YES I want this! It is a must have! It is big enough to be meaningful but not so big you give up before you begin. Get it? It should pull you towards it. You should want to pursue it. There is something magnetic about it. It draws you in.

Now consider this: At the end of the day if your ultimate dream didn’t manifest you still got further than if you didn’t pursue anything. If you had your head screwed on straight and you understand this you will have made incredible headway. Get it?

You will have had an incredible adventure all along the way. You will have noticed and experienced things you otherwise wouldn’t. You will have learned and evolved and grown in a variety of ways. All because you dared to go for it but weren’t locked into the outcome.

You Always Live The Life You Imagine You Get What You Focus On

What do I mean? You let it unfold as it does. You don’t micromanage the details. You aren’t a perfectionist. You don’t insist it must be a particular way. You are pleased with the results when they show up instead of being disappointed with how they are or the timing.

You allow it to happen even while YOU are making it happen. You celebrate all of it. If your head isn’t right then you may only feel disappointment that you didn’t get precisely what you wanted. You will miss everything you did get along the way. That would suck.

Don’t miss everything wonderful on the journey because you are too narrowly focused on getting your dream in a particular way. Some people never have romance because they are just too picky. They have too many demands or are so picky that no one can fulfill them.

It Never Gets Any Better – You Get Better – That’s Just How It Is

Some insist their desires be fulfilled a precise way. Hence, they miss their potential partners. Yes, know what you want but but be open to what shows up. Stop managing ALL the details. Allow things and people to show up and surprise you. Don’t insist how it must be.

Get it. Here are some tips for greater success in film or any area. Keep a great attitude. Contribute to others. Be a valued team player people want on their team. Go the extra mile and celebrate everyone’s success. Enjoy people. Chill out and relax. Sleep some.

Don’t look worried. Look like you are having fun. Actually have some fun! Live and let live. Allow people to be who they aren’t. Don’t try to change them to fit you. Get along. Keep working, commit and persist and never let doubts, fears or others tell you what to do.

Nothing Worth Having Ever Comes Easy But It Can Come Easier

First and foremost, attitude, commitment, and being a nice person will get you ahead faster than most anything else. THEN know the business and what the business wants is important. Lastly, know and be good at your craft. Strive to be the best and do your best work.

Remember, you can be the best and no one knows about it so be the good person people talk well about and your reputation will proceed you.  You can be the best that no one likes so while you may be good others prefer to avoid you. It PAYS to be both talented and nice.

Develop a positive stellar reputation for being the best and for being nice and a great collaborator. This will get you the farthest the fastest. Next, those who succeed the swiftest, apart from the occasional lucky breakthrough, work day and night for years.

Success Depends On Your Ability To Make And Keep Friends

The saying in Hollywood is, ‘It takes at least 10 years to be an overnight success’. It takes time and perseverance so don’t quit.  Keep at it and realize it is a blend of great attitude, business savvy and honed craft. These tips work for any career choice. Try them.

Finally, stay grateful. Be grateful for the ups and downs all along the way. Challenges help shape you and build character. Easy times are fun but the important times are the tough times. Learn to appreciate these and stay positive. Enjoy all of the ride. The fun of a roller coaster are the big highs and lows. Celebrate all of it. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

You don’t need a reason to smile today!

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Do A Body Good Now And Then

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“Remember, to maintain a healthy body and a healthy mind. A lot of what I write is about the incredible power we all have to manage our thoughts and control our mind. It is just as important to house that mind/brain inside a healthy body. Make sure you take care of it.

Get plenty of rest. Sleep. Eat well. Eat healthy. I prefer organic but whether you care for the label or not attempt to limit processed foods and eat nutritious whole foods. Fresh vegetables and fruits. The finest quality meats (if you indulge). Don’t skimp on your food.

Fast food today is really not fast, cheap or food. Avoid food substitutes. Drink plenty of pure fresh water. Stay well hydrated. A rule of thumb advocated by many is to divide you weight in half and convert half to ounces. Drink that amount during your waking hours.

Taking Care Of Yourself Is The Best Selfish Thing You Can Do

For example: A 200 lb man should drink 100 ounces of water during his waking hours. If your urine is bright yellow you aren’t drinking enough. If it is clear you are drinking too much water. Pale yellow tint is about right. Stay well hydrated you will have more energy.

You will also loose more weight or maintain you weight more easily. Get plenty of exercise. You choose but move your body. Walking is excellent for overall well being. You will increase your stamina and become more fit but not more muscular. Stretch, become flexible.

Consider your mail delivery person. If they walk they may be trim but they rarely become muscular. Walking an hour a day or more is desirable. Stand when you can. If you sit a lot attempt to get up every 20 minutes or so. Don’t sit for long periods. Breathe. Breathe.

Today Do One Thing To Take Care Of You – Do It Again Tomorrow

Take breathes. Get fresh air. Take a pause to breathe. If you work on computer a lot take an eye break about every 20 minutes too. Look as far off as you can. Look all the way out the window or across the room. Shift your focus to the distance. Rest your eyes. Relax.

Smile more. Laugh more. Have fun taking care of yourself. Approach it lovingly. Gift yourself when you do things in your best interest. Not all the time but every so often reward yourself for accomplishing something you set out to do. Enjoy the reward.

Love and appreciate your body and you mind. Appreciate yourself for taking care of you. Assist your body in taking care of you by maintaining a positive mindset and a lit inner light or spirit. Have fun. Play games. Skip, sing, dance, play music.  Do yoga. This is the key!

You Can Get Old Pretty Young If You Don’t Take Care Of Yourself

Be grateful to your body, mind and spirit. Love your body, mind and spirit. Edify and uplift it. Too many people think and make negative comments about what they do not like. Start liking everything. Start validating your body, your mind, your emotions and your spirit.

When you do you will begin to notice changes. These may be subtle at first. Remember, what you put out comes back. It goes around. Your body, mind, emotions and spirit will be more responsive to you when you appreciate, love and validate. You get what you focus on.

Love yourself. Enjoy yourself. Feel inspiried. Read inspirational material. Share and inspire others. Immerse yourself in healthy mind and body practices. Surround yourself with joy. Relax, take a bath, let go. Be stress and carefree. Celebrate! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Accept no imitations. Be authentic.

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The Surest Signal You Are Ready For A Change

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“The surest signal you are ready to change is discomfort. Why discomfort? You might ask. Well, when you are feeling uncomfortable  you seek to feel comfortable again. Don’t you? Yes, you do. Humans try to maintain comfort at nearly all costs.

When you are outside of your zone if feels UNcomfortable.  What is really going on is your subconscious, while trying to preserve your comfort, is telling you that you need to change something. Your feelings are the signal, they are clues, you need to make a change.

When you are comfortable there isn’t any resistance. When you are growing or pushing the envelop there is some push back. If everything is cushy, then, suddenly uncomfortable, or you feel negative or sad, or angry, you are getting a message to change.

Your Heart Knows Things Your Mind Cant Explain

If everything were okay you wouldn’t feel discomfort. Would you? You’d feel as if everything was fine. So then discomfort IS the signal that something is amiss! Stop fighting the signal. Accept it. Seek to change the cause of the signal. Correct that and continue.

This is wonderful. The good news is you have a system that signals you when you need to make a change. Learn to recognize when you are being signaled. You are being called to action. Your non-conscious self is alerting you so you can make adjustments.

Hooray, celebrate you no longer have to be stuck the way you are. You get a message delivered from your self that you need to change some things. The discomfort is alerting you so you CAN change your thinking because your thoughts determines how you feel.

Trust Your Gut It Knows What Your Head Hasn’t Figured Out

Change your thinking and your feeling and your actions change. Change your thinking for the better and get better results. That is how it works. Challenge, discomfort, struggle is really an opportunity to be and do thing differently. Do you understand?

If you always do what you always did you will always get what you always got. You wouldn’t grow and evolve. Think of struggle and challenge and pain as growth spurts. Those can be uncomfortable but it IS because you are growing and evolving. Embrace change.

Embrace the discomfort and you will go through it more quickly. Accept it. Allow it. Learn whatever lesson is there for you to learn. Be glad. Feel blessed. Express gratitude. When you do you are bigger than your problems and can manage them more readily. You evolve quicker. So celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

How much delight can you create today?

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How To Get Along Better With Everyone

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“Would you like to get along better with people? For some that means family, friends, or employers, employees or co-workers and associates. For others it means strangers or people the meet in the coffee shop and supermarket Here is a framework to keep in mind.

To get along with others first notice they are different from you. They are unlike you in nearly every way. They like different things. They do things in ways you don’t like or understand. They have opposite views and understanding. They have different values.

They are not like you at all. The have different political views, religious views and approaches to doing things you may think are insane. They have habits or behaviors that are annoying. Why they are like they are and do what they do is anyone’s guess!

Speak In Such A Way That Others Love To Listen To You

While different in many ways they are also just like you. They have hopes and dreams, people and things they love, fears and worries, anger and sadness. They are people just like you but different. They want to be loved and need security. They want to be care for.

They want to care for others too. They want loyal dependable people around them. Most likely they want some creature comforts. Like you they are doing the best with what they have. Like you they are trying to make their way in the world with an incomplete map.

Just like you they weren’t born with an owner’s manual. They learn by trail and error too. They make mistakes and hold grudges. Do you get it yet? People are more like each other than they are different! We all have the same basic needs and many of the same wants.

Listen In Such A Way That Others Love To Speak To You

How we go about understanding these and fulfilling these differ. What we consider important may differ but otherwise we are mostly alike. We are all trying to make our way in the world. We make rules for ourselves and others. We uphold these and break these rules.

How do you best get along with others? Two ways. Treat others the way you prefer to be treated. AND treat others the way they prefer to be treated. The first is about YOUR mindset. What is good for the goose is good for the gander. If you like it do it for others.

If YOU don’t like it then remember OTHERS may not either. Treat them the way you want to be treated. If you want respect, respect them. If you want love, love them. If you want to be heard, listen to them. Get it? Whatever you want, give first, and you will give it back.

Enter Someone Else’s World And Make Them Feel You Understand

Treat others the way they prefer to be treated means THEY may not want to get it the way you do. They may like their coffee with cream while you like yours black. Give them coffee with cream. Be willing to adjust and tailor your approach to their preferences. Understand?

Give them what they want or need they way THEY want or need it. Do not demand they do things, think things of feel things as you do. Allow them to be themselves with their preferences. Allow them to pursue their dreams as they see fit. Stop judging and start accepting.

Live and let live. You want to be understood and ask that people speak softly. They want to be understood and ask that people speak up. To best communicate with them speak loudly. You may ask that they be a little more quiet. Negotiate  an agreement. Consider this.

Be The Person That Makes Others Feel Special

Some people walk either faster or slower than you do. Walk at their rate. Do it their way. Together you will find a rhythm. The same is true when speaking. Some speak faster others slower. If you are with a fast talker speed up a bit, with a slower one, slow down.

Why is this important to do? You learn to be more flexible and adjust and vary your behaviors. You learn to communicate with more people. Doing this takes you out of your comfort zone but eventually you become more comfortable doing things in a variety of ways.

It will help you learn better that we are the same while different. Whatever color, gender, nationality, religion or political ideology we are pretty  much the same. We want mostly the same things and yet, we go about getting what we want differently. Our values may differ.

Be Known For Your Kindness And Grace

The more mentally and behaviorally flexible you are and the more you can accept others for whom they are and the more successful you can be. The more ways you have to understand people the greater your chances for creating understanding with more people.

Most people are trying to do the best they can with the cards they feel they have been dealt. Many don’t realize it can be different. They only see from their conditioned point of you. If you can get beyond your conditioning you can have greater success with others.

Treat people  the way you want to be treated but also they way they want to be treated. If you cultivate a deep appreciation for others that works wonders too. The more you are grateful the more the world opens up for you. You radiate an energy that attracts others.

Your Greatness Isn’t In What You Have It Is In What You Give

When you are positive and filled with gratitude deep within you can stop telling others how to live. You can allow and accept others for who they are. This gives you immense freedom too. You are free to let them be who they are and you are free to be yourself.

Live, laugh, learn and love. Fill yourself with delight. Be more willing to laugh with people and let hurts and daily jostles roll off of you. Let it all go. Don’t laugh at people but with them. Be grateful. Enjoy everyone. A stranger is merely a friend you haven’t met yet. Have fun. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Have a  good today.

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The Secret To Getting More Acceptance And Respect From Your Loved Ones

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“Do you want more love and friendship in your life? Is acceptance and respect from family, friends, co-workers and others important to you? Would you like to get along more easily with these important people  Do you want to take your relationship higher?

If your answer is yes to any of the above questions you can have more of what you want. The first step in getting anything or making any change is knowing what you want that is important to you. The second step is being willing to do what it take positively to get it.

That means know what you desire. Believe you can make it happen. Feel good about that. Take action to bring it about. Keep at it until you get it. That is the formula in a nutshell. Now the added critical component. You get back what you put out. This is most important!

What Goes Around Comes Around Do Good And It Will Follow You

If you want love, acceptance and respect you need to give it first. When you give it it can be returned to you. If you say, ‘wait, wait, I already do that!’ and you don’t have the results you want, you have the feedback you need to make the necessary changes, right now.

If you aren’t getting what you want you aren’t putting out what you want to get back. You may think you are BUT you are not. You are putting out something else. That means you NOW have the opportunity to examine what you think you are putting out.

Are you secretly harboring some resentments? Are you freely giving love, acceptance and respect without judgements or labels? Are you withholding in any way? Are you open to taking your relationship to a higher more positive level? Are you connecting well with others?

Some People Create Storms Then Get Mad When It Rains

Much of the time we think we are doing everything we can. Many of us think we are not the problem it is the other person or  life events and circumstances. The opportunity before us is to adjust our thinking, emotions and actions to more successfully get our wants.

Examine your attitudes and beliefs. Examine what you are putting out. Be sure you give love, acceptance and respect without reservation. Wish them well no matter what. Bless them. Forgive them and yourself. Accept them without any judgement.

To assist you affirm it. Decide that you are open and more loving and accepting. Declare it. ‘I love myself. I love my family. I love who they are and how they are. I allow people to be who they are. I accept and respect my family. I easily connect with them. I have a great family.’

Think Good Thoughts – Say Good Words – Do Good Deeds

Use those or create positive similar ones tailored for your specific needs. Ask yourself how you can be more loving and accepting. Wonder what you can do to help them know they are loved and appreciated. Visualize yourself behaving positively with them.

Don’t visualize them changing. Visualize yourself changing and them responding to your changes. Do not try to control or manipulate them to be different. You need to change what you are thinking, feeling and doing. If you attempt to control them that is the problem.

Remember what you resist persists. If you push back you get more push back. If you accept and love and allow instead, you get more back. Don’t expect overnight changes but expect that seeds you plant will grow to fruition as long as you continue to nurture them.

What Goes Around Comes Around – Keep The Circle Positive

Whatever you put out, think about most and how you feel, your energy, is what is returned. Remember birds of a feather flock together. If you aren’t getting what you want that is information you need in order to be able to change it. Get it? You change then it does.

You get back what you put out. Put out unconditional love, acceptance, respect, liking, getting along, delight in each other so that you get that in return. Be grateful for who they are and appreciate them in your life. Celebrate them. Celebrate everything.” Rex Sikes

Make someone you love feel good today.

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Don’t Be A Moron You Can’t Fly Like Superman! Unless, Of Course You Can!

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“Reality is our making. We create reality. Our perceptions, and beliefs, and neurological filters determine what we notice, pay attention to and miss. What we believe makes it so. Whether we think we can or we think we can’t we are correct. Said Henry Ford.

Does that mean we can fly like Superman? My first answer is no we cannot violate the laws of physics. Unless of course we can. So my second answer would be perhaps we can. Who knows? Just because no one has isn’t a good answer. Tell that to Roger Banniseter.

He broke the 4 minute mile record. Tell that to Edison or the Wright Brothers when people told them they were insane for trying. There are plenty of reason why we might be able to fly even if we have never yet done it. I honestly don’t know if it is possible or not.

You Create Your Own Reality – Thoughts Become Things

I do know this. It took Edison 10,000 attempts to get the light bulb right. If you go to a roof top and jump off trying to fly you may only get one attempt. Makes it hard to prove your theorem that way. Start on the sidewalk and attempt to rise up. That is smarter; wiser.

It might take 10,000 trials. Personally, I’m not that interest. So I haven’t tried but a few times in my young life. It doesn’t mean it is impossible even if we think it is. Our thoughts prevent us more than reality from behaving in our own best interests. Really, they do.

For example. You need to make more sales but you let fear prevent you from walking over and talking to the client. The same is true of meeting new people and friends at parties. Some people hug the walls and the bar or buffet table. Consider this next example.

Create The Highest Grandest Vision Possible For Your Life

The number one fear of most people is public speaking. SPEAKING TO STRANGERS!!! People you don’t know and are probably never going to see ever again. People fear that. WOW! I’d be more afraid of speaking in front of my family who loves me than strangers.

Yet, people fear public speaking. THAT is THOUGHTS preventing someone from acting. I guess it all depends on how much you want it. If I told you I’d give you 5 million dollars to give a speech before  10,000 people would you do it? Would it be worth it to try?

If you answer yes, then for goodness sakes why not just do it anyway? I mean come on now! If the reward is large enough then you will do it means there is nothing actually there to be afraid of. You are only stopping yourself from acting because you think poorly.

You Become What You Believe – Thoughts Create Reality

You think thoughts that prevent you and weaken you instead of ones that make you strong and support you. THAT really is all that is going on. You think thoughts that make you feel scared or bad or depressed and so you do not do good things for yourself. I say wow!

I get it though. I have been there and done that too. We all have or at least most of us have over something. Still, we can learn that we don’t have to let our thoughts prevent us. We can think better, stronger more powerful thoughts and become invincible. Powerful.

What you don’t believe that? See, right there IS the issue. If YOU don’t believe it SO WHAT? Big f’n deal. Who died and made you god. What kind of authority are you? Are you an expert in this. I think not since you can’t even do it. Maybe, then you ought to give it a try.

What We See And Find Depends On What We Look For

Don’t let a mental packet of energy prevent you from being more of who you are. Stop letting your thoughts keep you down, insecure, broke and unhappy. Stop worrying and start living. For goodness sake! Consider this next thought very carefully. It may push buttons.

Right now. This moment. Wealth, enormous, incredible wealth and abundance are available to you. Right now massive wealth and power are available to you. You can choose to feel worthy or not. You can choose to accept this. You can choose to accept the best.

You can feel as if you deserve it. I mean, why not? If you answer with why not THAT is your limiting belief or beliefs. Right there! Your answer is what prevents you. Get it? It was automatic. It came right up. I proposed it and you thought, ‘nah. nope’. Not true or whatever.

You Create Your Thoughts – Your Thoughts Create Your Reality

That’s the issue. Consider this. WHAT is the very WORST THING THAT COULD, WOULD, EVER, EVER, EVER HAPPEN if you were to believe 100% that massive wealth, abundance and power were yours right now? How would your life suck? Well,? How would it?

Again, if you have an answer, THAT is the issue for you to resolve. You can, you know. WHAT?  You don’t believe that either? See how persnickety those limiting beliefs can be. Hey, there’s nothing wrong with them. They are just there to keep you the same ole reliable you.

They come up to keep you consistent. Still, you can change them if you want to. See for me, I don’t have to fly like Superman in the air but I want to live like a king on the earth. I want to feel my best and be my best. I want to do and have things. I want my thoughts great!

Hey Wake Up – It Is You Thinking Those Thoughts – Wake Up

I want my thoughts and feelings to serve me. I feel better believing I deserve riches and that I can work for and attain them because there is plenty to go around MORE THAN I like thinking about lack and how things suck and why I’d never amount to anything.

I call it good taste. I choose my thoughts. You can too. Actually, we all have each and every moment. Every moment a we encounter an opportunity we either think positive and take it or think negative and pass it up. Every second we have choices about how we feel.

We don’t live as if we have choice BUT WE HAVE CHOICE. What now, another negative limiting belief poking its head up? Tame it for goodness sake. Choose how you are going to spend your time. It is completely up to you. Pain or pleasure. Negative or Positive.

No One Is Forcing Or Choosing For You – You  Are Choosing

Which is it? You are either growing or dying. Good taste in my book is opting to live to the fullest. Choose your thoughts. Deliberately put your attention on good things. Be thankful. Be grateful. Be filled with thoughts of I CAN instead of I can’t. CHOOSE! Be wise! Be smart. Make your life the life you want! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Make someone feel good today. You!

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