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Beliefs, Habit Formation, Intentional Thinking, Persistence

Whatever Your Excuse Doesn’t Matter: Change It Part 5

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“Some people have the belief that change is difficult. Some think that change is easy for others but difficult for them. Some people believe without pain there is no gain and it must hurt to change. Others believe you must wallow around in your pain and hurt endlessly.

Some believe you must understand why you are the way you. Whole schools of therapy arose for this purpose. Uncover why you are broken. Some people believe they are broken; that they sabotage themselves; that they are afraid of failure; or afraid of success.

Whatever one believes you can divide the beliefs into two groups; support beliefs and non-supportive beliefs. Either they support you, uplift you and help you move forward or they limit you pull you down and inhibit your movement. Increase or decrease – that’s it!

Belief Creates The Actual Fact – Positive Or Negative

It doesn’t matter why you have limiting beliefs. You know you have them. You were born. You grew up. It is as simple as that. Accept it! Move on. Learn new beliefs! Learn to respond to triggers instead of reacting to them and your life will improve immensely. It will!

Stop trying, stop  wallowing and trying to figure out why things are they way they are. Decide this is the moment when you change and move forward. Beliefs are either about increase, can do and will do, what is possible. They are positive and you feel good thinking them.

There are those that are about decrease, can’t do, won’t do and what you think is impossible. These are mostly negative and you feel less than glorious or down right bad when you think these. Neither beliefs are true. Either they are useful and serve a purpose or not.

In The Sky There Is No Distinctions Of East And West …

If you believe your beliefs are true, gospel, and unadulterated reality THAT is the first belief you might wish to examine and change. Otherwise, you probably aren’t going to bother doing anything because your beliefs dictate you instead of you dictating them.

You are a victim of your beliefs instead of their master. The most desirable outcome is to learn to become the master of your thoughts. YOU think them, Thoughts SHOULD NOT think you. You can learn to be the master of your thinking and your destiny.

The beliefs you currently hold are habits of thought. You thought these over and over again at one time until they became automatic. Triggers from the outside initiate the process. Some external or internal stimulus occurs and you react out of habit. Pretty much it!

… People Create Distinctions In Their Own Mind And Believe Them

Thoughts arise, feelings follow. What you think determines how you feel. Then what you feel determines your next thoughts. This is how we spiral into negativity. We could have spiraled into positivity the same way by thinking positive thoughts.  So we want to change this.

We want to end the old limiting belief habits and adopt new ones. We make new habits the same way we did the original ones. This time, however, we are doing it consciously. We decide we want to change them. Earlier, we just wired them in without choosing.

Now we choose. When we do, guess what. The old habits arise and it feels tough. Our decision is the stimulus. The old beliefs come rushing in reliably as they always do. The new ones will rush to your support just as reliably. Once you train them to. New for old!

You Can Have Anything You Want If You Quit Believing You Can’t

We must condition our mind to accept the new positive beliefs and wire them in. We replace the old habits with new ones the same way we learn to go to a new address when we move homes or workplace. At first we may find ourselves going to the old address. It’s normal!

Eventually, our brain learns NOT THAT address but THIS ADDRESS and we now reliably go to the new one. The old one isn’t lost we don’t go there any longer UNLESS we choose to. The same applies to changing our beliefs. We don’t lose anything. We exchange them.

We replace old beliefs that don’t support us with new ones. Once replaced they work automatically instead of the old ones. We laid down new neural path way habits. We actually altered the structure of our brains too. We evolved in positive ways. All great benefits.

Believing In Yourself Is The First Secret To Success

The point of these recent posts is for you to examine the limitations you think you have and neutralize them. Then build new positive beliefs by repeating them over and over with strong positive emotions. It is the positive powerful emotions that lock them in.

Feeling good when chanting affirmations often is how we wire in the new beliefs. You can write them out too. It is great. There will be times when you don’t. Times when you backslide. That is all part of the process. Step forward a couple steps, back step, forward again.

As long as you consistently and persistently continue to move forward you will arrive at your destination. Detours and all. While traveling your old beliefs will rise up and your new ones will be challenged. All part of the process of trading in the old for the new.

Always Believe Something Wonderful Is Going To Happen

It is simple but not always easy. You need to use will power from time to time. Some moments will breeze by others seem to take forever. All part of the conditioning, rewiring process. Brains learn from emotion, repetition, over time. You train them like a pet.

You make your brain the servant instead of it being your master. Gain control over your thoughts and beliefs and you will discover a most wonderful and amazing world. You will create, attract and manifest more and more of what you want to include in your life.

You will become the person you always wanted to be, if you choose to. Life gets better and better. There will always be challenges but you play a different game now. You play to win and you love a good challenge. It works this way. Don’t delay begin today! Enjoy it and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Imagine being the change you want to become and smile!

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This Too Will Pass: Here Is Why And What To Do!

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“No matter how bad it gets it will pass. Everything is temporary. Everything is in flux. Things change. When conditions turn sour it is important to ‘keep the faith’ that ultimately everything will work out for the best. It helps you get through the tough times.

Times will be tough. Accept it. Times will be good. Accept that. The only reason you can’t see the good coming is you can’t see around the bend in the road. It can seem as if nothing will ever change but it will and it does. Your attitude helps you see it through.

A defeatist attitude, a negative attitude prevents you from seeing and finding change and opportunity. Your brain is designed to find the negative and what is wrong, what is out of whack, as an evolutionary protective measure. It is a good thing too that it does.

Overcoming Difficulty Begins With A Positive Attitude And Faith

It is overused in the modern day and age but our brains ability to do this is a positive, good thing. We can see trouble and work to eliminate it. To eliminate it more readily and easily we should be focused on the positive and on solutions not on the issues.

Our brain, when we train it to be positive, looks for opportunities and advantages in the same way it looks for troubles. Our reticular activating system (RAS) finds matches for us from memories and in the outer world for our beliefs and thoughts. It seeks proofs for us.

If we think we’re broken or stupid our brain will look for past prior examples from our experience, and present examples from reality that match that belief about ourselves. It will find the good and the advantages and opportunities if we believe and focus on those too.

Your Hardest Times In Life Often Lead To Your Greatest Moments

Whatever we feed our brains is what they grow on. If we feed it crap we get crap, if we feed it good stuff we get the good stuff. Keep this in mind. Our reality is a direct result of our past and current thinking. If we want different positive results we need to think positive.

We need to think differently! Before moving on I wanted to give readers an opportunity to go back and complete the exercises from the three previous posts. If you have done them, you may wish to repeat each again. Every few weeks you may wish to repeat as well.

The exercises are an opportunity to examine your thinking processes and your beliefs. It is an opportunity to discover and clear out limited thinking and un-supportive beliefs and create new positive ones that you wire in by correct repetition. New habits.

Difficulties Help You Realize Your Hidden Potential

Be sure to do the exercises. Be sure to keep the faith. How you do that is part of doing the exercises and one of the reasons why you want to. Another tried and true method is to maintain a state of gratitude. Focus on what you appreciate and let go of the rest.

Remember, none of the suggestions made here, are to ignore anything that requires attention. If you ignored your bills it wouldn’t get better. You still need to take care of anything and everything that requires being taken care of. Be diligent. Don’t neglect.

The key is learning the positive way to do  it. Dropping it or letting it go means you keep doing whatever it is you are required to do but with a change of attitude, focus and energy. You learn to respond differently instead of having a knee jerk reaction. Learn to let go!

Never Let A Stumble Be Then End Of Your Journey – Get Up Go On

Find solutions. Welcome challenges so you learn and evolve. The kite rises against the wind. Take daily inventory. Seek and find people, places, things, and activities, events, circumstances to be grateful for. Appreciate yourself. Enjoy! Delight and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Whatever Your Excuse Doesn’t Matter: Change It Part 4

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“The only limitations that exist, exist in the human mind. If you think you can or you think you can’t you are right. So what is it? Can you or can’t you? Will you or will you not? It is all up to you and what you believe is or isn’t possible. You decide and that becomes your reality.

By changing your beliefs, and your thinking, by adopting supportive ones and creating new neural pathways you will be able to turn mountains into mole hills, or at least, you will begin to appreciate the beauty of the mountains. Everything changes. Your brain changes!

You will find opportunities you literally could not see or find before. Your chronic old habits of thought prevented you. By adopting new positive thoughts and feelings your brain structure changes, your RAS ramps up and looks for supporting evidence. It finds it too!

Nothing Is Impossible If You Have Discipline And Determination

Eliminate the negative, accentuate the positive. When you change your thinking you see and experience things differently. You talk differently to yourself and others. You feel differently in positive ways. Everything changes. Some things quickly. Some in time.

At first, it may seem difficult to change because your excuse thinking is habit. It will woo you back. Persist! Take 100% responsibility for yourself and circumstances. Stop blaming others and events and making excuses. Take charge of your thoughts and actions.

Most of us believe our reasons and blames and excuses are true. They are not. That isn’t the point. The point is, ARE they helpful? While having them may keep you safe, what else do they do for you? Do they support you and make you feel good? How so?

Excuses Are Lies Wrapped Up In Reason

Do the reasons why you can’t be rich, happy or pursue your dreams support you? Do they move you forward? What are they doing for you? If they aren’t supportive and helpful, perhaps, it is time to let them go. Drop them. It is time for you to change, don’t you think?

You must turn your back on what you do not want. Focus on what you DO want. You can work your way up to it. In my seminars and workshops I give you an easy and entire process that is amazing. For now, do this one powerful thing. Change your thoughts and beliefs.

Write these out. Provide the supportive reasons for:

I can be happy because

The reason I am rich is

I am successful because I

I can do it because

I will do it because

Fill in the blank. Answer the questions. Keep going. Find all the reasons why you can be happy, rich and able to do what you want. Dig deep. Notice the ones you easily believe and accept. Notice if there are ones you aren’t completely positive about.

Determination Is Power – Stick With It

Keep going. How do you feel? Do you like what you feel? This is an opportunity to notice whatever it is you notice. Reflect on these. Think back on the earlier exercises. Notice how you now think and feel different. Have you examined these thoughts for the truth?

Examine the positive thoughts; the ‘I can’ and the ‘I will’ thinking. It may or may not feel familiar. The question, is are these thoughts helpful or supportive of you. You may not believe them yet, but if you could, or if you did, would you feel better and move forward more?

Reflect on your thoughts, your answers, your feelings. Consider this: if something holds you back, brings you down and  doesn’t get you closer to what you want why think about it, talk about it and relive it over and over again? Drop it! Drop that story. Drop the negativity.’

When You Really Want To – You Find A Way …

Drop what you don’t want. Shift your focus to that which makes you feel better, makes you a little more hopeful and optimistic. Focus on that which makes you move closer to what you want. Think and speak about this. Feel this over and over. Re-live the  positive good.

Tell the story about how you are shifting. You may have challenges but you look for opportunities. Perhaps, you used to think you couldn’t but you know realize you are able to when you take tiny enough steps. You seek the good in all situations. You enjoy life.

When challenges arise focus on what you can find that is opportune. Perhaps, it tests you, gives you an opportunity to develop your will power and persistence. It gives you ‘good game. Bring it!’ attitude. Discover the positive elements to focus on and appreciate.

… When You Don’t Want To You Find An Excuse

Focus on the good. Remove focus from the not so good. You don’t have to be ecstatic. Just move forward with a positive mindset. Ask yourself; are your thoughts and feelings supporting you and moving you forward? Are you speaking what you want and living from that?

Compare and contrast. Adjust accordingly. Learn to be positive most of the time. Learn to think, feel and act in your own best interests. Positive thoughts lead to positive results. Move closer to your goals when you speak by speaking positively about what you want.

Instead of keeping them away with negativey, blames and excuses. Draw them closer. Begin to create the life you want to live. Determine that you will! Enjoy life, delight in it all and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Whatever Your Excuse Doesn’t Matter Part 3

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“Happiness and success is based on some very simple principles or steps. The results you get in life is based on your thoughts, your actions and your habits. Most people have difficulty making their dreams come true because they don’t take responsibility for these.

In the past few blog posts we have explored identifying limiting beliefs and negative thoughts. Typically, these are expressed as blames, excuses, reasons ‘why’ you can’t be happy or successful. The first step is awareness, the uncovering process.

If you haven’t yet done this, go back a couple posts and do the exercises. Once we become aware of how we think we are limited we can begin to change it . From awareness we move into understanding. We can begin to see how these old beliefs limit us.

Right Awareness And Understanding Leads To Positive Changes

At this point, we may realize we need to make a change. As Andrew Carnegie, Napoleon Hill and others have stated, ‘the only limitations humans have is in their thinking’. The only limitations that exist for us are the ones we THINK we have. We must change our thinking.

Instead of remaining stuck with limited thinking we make the decision to take responsibility for everything in our life, the good and the not so good. This gives us choice as to how we view our circumstances. Everything can become an opportunity for us.

When we decide to take responsibility for everything we take charge, we determine the meaning of each event without assigning blame. If we created it we must be doing it for a useful reason. We can look for the seed of opportunity within adversity.

As Our Awareness Grows – We Grow

Yes, it is an arbitrary assignment of meaning. Instead, of blaming and excusing we re-frame circumstances, events, disappointments and look for the possible positive intent. We chose to be optimistic about all of our life circumstances and maintain a positive slant or position.

Make sure you have done the second exercise in replacing ‘I can’t’ thinking with ‘I won’t’. This clearly places the responsibility on your shoulders. You may not like the feelings that accompany this but understand the liberation that can occur. Ultimately, it is freeing!

It begins with awareness! You become aware of limitations, and then you become aware of your reluctance or resistance to accept FULL responsibility. If you explore it you may see that these limiting thoughts loop round and round. Some people quickly dismiss it all.

When You Take Responsibility For Everything Everything Changes

It is more comfortable to dismiss and remain the same than to face ourselves courageously.  I do it, you do it, we all have. It keeps things status quo. Though the status quo may be uncomfortable, at least is is not as uncomfortable as having to change it.

If you are astute in your awareness you will recognize this as an opportunity to state ‘I will not change’ instead of running the same old thinking patterns again. Every moment is a opportunity to become aware of what you think and how it affects you.

In all of it you have the possibility to discover your incredible resourcefulness and creativity. You can begin to look at yourself and your circumstances in an entirely new positive light. You can begin to see there is nothing holding you back but your limited thoughts.

People Would Learn From Mistakes – If They Didn’t Deny Them

Great news. You can change your limited thoughts. You may not be able to change, and typically can’t, the weather, the economy, events, and other people but you can change your thinking and your reactions to these.

You can liberate yourself and choose to respond instead. It is in the process of recognizing a limitation or problem or what you don’t want and turning away from it and shifting your attention to what you can and will do to make it better that transformation occurs.

You can determine how you WILL make things different for yourself because you CAN and WILL. You can and will take charge of how you think, feel, and act. You will develop new habits of successful thought, feeling and actions that lead to new positive results.

I Can – I Will – End Of Story – Period

None of us will ever do it if we don’t change where we put the control for our lives. If others and circumstances dictate we are like a cork bobbing in the water going wherever the current takes us. We are puppets. If we take charge we have a mighty say in all of it.

In my next post I’ll add a new exercise designed to help continue to dissolve the limitations and build new positive, powerful beliefs. There is no need to rush. Be thorough in your exploration. Take your time. Repeat the exercises now prior to adding in the new ones.

Explore, discover, find and become aware. Understand how limited thinking holds you back from your goals and dreams to be, do and have the life you want. Become aware and understand how changing your beliefs and locus of power can make everything better for you.

Create The Life You Can’t Wait To Wake Up To

Assume the control for your thoughts,feelings, actions, habits and the results you get. Once in charge you can adapt and adopt, you can change as needed. You become more flexible and much more able. It is a great advantage to live with positive power and optimism.

Everything can be wonderfully different. It can begin right now. Take a moment to feel grateful for everything; for learning about limitations that held you back, for all the disappointments and each moment that led you to right now. You can look back, connect dots.

Everything has a way of working together. Ultimately, it all works out and works out for good, you just can’t see it yet. IF just NOW you went off and thought BS, not true, etc. that is a belief you may wish to address. Instead of believing limiting beliefs you get to choose.

Wake Up With Determination – Go To Bed With Satisfaction

You pick the beliefs you want to live from that support you. You determine how you are going to play this game of life. You make the rules. You are in charge. You can decide that everything always works out and that you are blessed! You can be grateful for it all.

Begin to find everything you can think of that is a blessing and feel how wonderful it is. Write them out. List them daily. Most importantly, savor the feelings that arise from appreciation. It is the feelings that are most important. Feel these fully! Enjoy them!

You can and will transform yourself and your life for the better as you do these things. Do these consistently, repeatedly, for long enough and you will develop new neural pathways. Your brain will make you new success habits to live from. It will become automatic.

I Will Either Find A Way – Or I Will Make One

Everything improves. You can handle disappointment better! Wouldn’t you like that? You can accomplish much more and can achieve your goals? You can make positive things happen in your life and feel wonderful much more of the time. It can become incredible!

Look for and discover more and more to be grateful for. Life changes when you do! Fill your moments and your thoughts with gratitude. Feel blessed. Act blessed and more blessings come your way. It works! It really does. Look for the good in all. Find it and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Whatever Your Excuse Doesn’t Matter! Part 2

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“Have you noticed you can feel stopped by all sorts of things? What we think and say to ourselves has a great impact. Some people never get going for this reason. Instead of making their dreams come true they live life as a victim. Do you? Do you have victim mentality?

If you honestly ended up answering yes, you can change it. That’s good news! You don’t have to live as a victim of excuses and blames. You can become free and begin to make marvelous positive changes that are meaningful and powerful. Let’s begin to explore how!

Start changing all your ‘I can’t’ and ‘I don’t’ to ‘I won’t’ or ‘I will not’. Take complete responsibility for being in charge. Example; I won’t make enough money because I will not. I won’t make enough money because I won’t do the things I have to. ACCEPT responsibility!

Awareness Is The First Step

I won’t be happy because I won’t think positive thoughts. OR I am not going to get healthier, any time soon, because I refuse to eat right. I will not get a raise because I will not do what is expected of me at work. I will not be good at basketball because I won’t practice.

Take FULL responsibility for not being, doing and not having. Accept that it won’t happen because YOU won’t make it happen. No blames, no excuses simply shoulder the responsibility. Convert all your can’ts and don’t’s to won’t and will not. If YOU won’t then YOU won’t.

I can’t be rich because I won’t work at it. I won’t be rich because I will not do what is necessary. I am not going to be happy because I will not take control of my mind. I will not be healthy because I will not eat right, exercise right or sleep right. I am not going to ___________.

The Second Step Is Understanding

OWN up to not being, doing or having what it is you want! Understand if you want to be, do or have anything in life it is up to YOU. It is not going to happen without YOU making it happen. YOU are the one who determines your own happiness and success.

Take all your excuses and blames and reasons why YOU can’t be, do or have, why life isn’t grand, and convert them to ‘I won’t’ or ‘I will not’ statements and notice what is different.  WRITE these out. Notice what happens when you change them. Notice how you feel.

Notice if and how things shift. It may feel very foreign or uncomfortable. You may fight or resist trying these statements on but do it anyway. If YOU can’t do it then you must! Realize you must put yourself in the driver’s seat if you want to get anywhere.

Beliefs Create What Seem Like Facts – They Are Beliefs

Besides, the only way you couldn’t write these is if someone tied your arms down or removed all writing implements and locked you up so you couldn’t write them out. Otherwise, you are more than capable to make these adjustments to your excuses list.

Of course, there are those of you who didn’t do the exercise from my last post, to begin with. Why not? Didn’t want to. Seemed silly. I already know it. Didn’t have time. What was the reason you didn’t do it fully? Why not? Own up to it.

The bottom line is you chose not to for whatever reason. Own your decision. Each second we have a choice. Each second we come up with  reasons for the choices we make. Whether they are valid or not is a separate issue. We believe they are. Hence, believing is seeing.

If You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t – You Are Right

We act as if these limiting beliefs are the truth. They aren’t but we think they are. As long as we maintain limiting beliefs we will be limited. Don’t you think it is time to change them? Do the exercises and we’ll discuss more in the next blog post.

Once you convert your I can’t, or I am not able to, or this is what prevents me to I won’t or I will not THEN hang in there. It can be upsetting or it can be liberating. You are challenging assumptions and beliefs you have held for a while. It takes a bit of time to adjust.

Realize this, whatever you discover can be wonderful. Even if it is painful at first. Look at it and understand you don’t have to be limited. You have the opportunity to change in wonderful ways. Sit with it, even if it is uneasy. Relief is coming!

Be Willing To Explore Discover Become Aware And Understand

You will discover how marvelous you truly are. You are marvelous with imperfections and flaws. Embrace yourself and be gentle with yourself. Understand it is only old conditioning, it ISN’T YOU who are limited. Beliefs either support us or they don’t. It’s the beliefs!

Most of us weren’t brought up told we can choose. We were brought up believing we had to be the way we were. We had to accept what we think and believe as the truth. The TRUTH is we aren’t our beliefs but we operated from them as if we were. We can change them!

As we choose more supportive and productive and positive beliefs we transform delightfully. As we accept responsibility for everything, without blaming ourselves or outside ourselves, it frees up our energy to find opportunities so we make good things happen.

Always Believe Something Wonderful Is About To Happen

This is a journey of discovery and exploration. This is all about becoming aware. Great changes can occur and you can get anything your heart desires. Let’s clean some house and make room for the new, good stuff. Do the exercise. Learn what you learn. Be grateful, enjoy and delight. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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Whatever Your Excuse It Doesn’t Matter!

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“Do you want to be happier? Would you like to be healthier? Want to book more work? Are you seeking the career of your dreams? Do you want fame, fortune and success? How about love? Wouldn’t you enjoy a deep loving relationship? Whatever it is, what do you want?

Okay, great. How come you don’t have it yet? Why aren’t you experiencing it right now? I bet you know. I bet you have already answered that question in your mind. What was your answer? Go ahead write it down. Write all the reasons down. Part 1.

Let’s do an exercise. Let’s do something that will reveal a lot about you and help you aim your thoughts and efforts toward success and what you want to accomplish in your life. Write down all those reasons why not; why you don’t have what you want.

As Our Awareness Grows – So We Grow

I can’t be successful because I don’t have enough money. I can’t be happy because I don’t know how. I can’t be successful because I am not educated. I can’t become successful because I don’t have the right connections. I can’t make it because I am not pretty enough.

I can’t become rich because I am not smart enough. I can do what I want because I am a single parent with responsibilities. I can’t be healthy because I like sugar too much. I can’t go to the party because I don’t have nice clothes. I can’t learn because I have a disability. I can’t concentrate because I have ADD. I can’t, I can’t I don’t, I don’t!

Continue this exercise fill in the blanks:

The reason I’m not rich –

I can’t be happy because –

I can’t do it because –

Awareness Like The Sun Shines On Things – They’re Transformed

Go on. Answer. Keep answering. I bet you have multiple answers for each. Dig deep. Keep going until you exhaust the possibilities. Notice what you find and how it makes you feel. Do you like what you feel? Notice what you notice. This is an opportunity to become aware.

Did you get some answers? I bet most of your answers are one’s you have told or said to yourself and others many times over and over during your lifetime. These reasons are excuses and blames for why you aren’t where you want to be yet. These reasons are your story.

These answers are the stories you have been telling and believing and creating over again and again in your life. It is comfortable even if it hurts. You are used to these. These are thought habits. Chronic, old thought habits which may or may not have originated with you.

Awareness Allows Us To Observe Ourselves In Action And Change

This is the very thinking you must stop and change. This is the very negative thinking you must switch to positive. You must eliminate the why’s you are not able, the blames and the excuses and all the reasons for why not and begin to emphasize what you can do.

In the next post I’ll share with you some of the powerful approaches you can take to eliminate the negative, focus on the positive and make your goals and dreams come true. Meanwhile, do the exercise. Discover your excuses. Dig deep. Enjoy the process of illumination.

Turn the light on in a closed shuttered room and the darkness flees. Turn the light on your negative reasoning and it can flee too. Stop making excuses and blames and start making positive declarations and mantras. Enjoy, delight and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Make today most enjoyable!

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Expectations, Faith, Patience, Persistence

If You Don’t Keep The Faith And Persist You Will Lose!

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“Sometimes you think right and do all the right things, yet, nothing seems to happen. What you want still seems far off, removed from you. Will it happen? You begin to worry, doubt or fear it may not. After all, you don’t see any results from your efforts? What gives?

There is the Chinese bamboo plant. Once planted, it is watered and nurtured for up to 6 years. The plant remains underground with no evidence of growth. In the 7th year the plant sprouts and grows 90 feet within 2 months.

Can you imagine? Nothing all that while, then suddenly! So when did it grow the 90 feet? Did it not grow at all during the first many years and then suddenly grow 90 feet? OR was it growing the entire time? Obviously, it must have been growing the entire time.

Be Positive Patient And Persistent And You Will Get It

If it wasn’t watered or taken care of, in any given year, it would have died. It was always growing even when you couldn’t see it. The same is true of your goals. When you do the right things consistently and for long enough they will come about. Even though invisible now.

You must have faith. Expect good things to come to you. Even though you cannot see it. Even while it is invisible maintain the faith that something good is about to happen. It may not be right away. It could take years. Keep the faith. It will happen. Believe in yourself.

Ancient texts, historical records, are full of examples of people who kept going when it seemed pointless. There are countless stories of people who persevere against seemingly insurmountable odds.Odds give way to a new reality. For 7 years the plant grows underground.

Do The Right Things Consistently For Long Enough – You’ll Get It

Then one day it sprouts and grows to over 90 feet in a short period of time. The invisible becomes visible. Once your results start coming, look out. They may come faster than you can imagine. So don’t give up just because you don’t see any results, yet. Persist.

Stop comparing where you are to where you want to be. Be patient. Be steadfast. Maintain a positive attitude. Continue your due diligence in thought, feeling and right inspired actions. Be grateful and enjoy, Your day is coming. Expect it with certainty. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Delight in the day and discover what is good and new.

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To Enjoy Greater Happiness And Success You Must Be A Positive Flexible Thinker

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“What does it mean to be a positive thinker? Seems many people today are under the wrong assumptions. Maintaining a positive mental attitude is one of the top indicators of potential success. Without the right attitude and dedication few get very far.

My recent post discussed the benefits of positive thinking on the brain and the detrimental effects of negative thinking. Today, we realize it is not just a cheery, greeting card, rosy glasses type of facade. It is a potent power that actually changes brain structure.

Some have cautioned people to not think positive because if they do and then they don’t get what they wish for they might be more disappointed than if they hadn’t thought positive about it first. That is negative thinking. Better not do it because it might not work.

Positive Results Never Come From Negative Thoughts

Hogwash at its best. Don’t do anything, don’t think about it, don’t try because if you don’t succeed you’ll be worse off. Better you do nothing than disappoint yourself. How sad is this line of thought. Stay stuck. Rely on psychologists OR WORSE psychiatrists.

A useful definition of positive thinking is this statement by Napoleon Hill.  ‘Flexibility, perhaps, can best be described as the ability to survey and assess a given situation swiftly and react to it on the basis of logic and reason with a minimum of emotion.’

‘By developing flexibility you are prepared to take prompt action in seizing opportunity or problem solving. It can help you become decisive.’ That’s a pretty accurate description of positive thinking. The ability to asses, take right action, for solutions or opportunity.

Believe You Can And You Are Half Way There

Hill maintained, as others have, that you can control your own mind. He felt it imperative that all people learn to do this. He emphasized the ability to direct your mind productively without getting caught up in less than glorious emotions that might drive or influence you.

A PMA is desirable in taking advantage of opportunity and problem solving. One focuses on the advantage or the solution not the problem. The problem helps you define what is needed, then your attention is turned to the solution. It is about what you CAN DO!

Drop the problem. If you are broke, okay you know that, now focus on what you need to do to make money. Stop concentrating on broke and stop complaining about it. Stop thinking about what you can’t do. Move on. Move forward. Stop staying stuck and focused on past.

We Are Shaped By Our Thoughts – We Become What We Think

Think what you can do. Think about what you want. Work to make that happen. Don’t just sit and wish for a change. Be active in bringing change about. That is positive thinking. Positive thinking leads to inspired action because you FEEL like you can do it.

Thoughts lead to feelings – so chose the best thoughts and get the best feelings. Feelings lead to actions. Actions lead to habits when repeated over time. Actions lead to results. If you want great results you begin with great thoughts. THINK and grow rich! Remember!

Hill went on to say, ‘flexibility is the one trait that softens poverty and adorns riches, for it helps you be grateful for your blessings and unabashed by misfortune. It can also help you to make beneficial use of every experience of life, whether pleasant or unpleasant.’

Positive Thoughts And Actions – Produce Positive Results

As Henry Ford said, ‘whether you think you can or you can’t, you are right.’ YOU determine what will be. Think positive and you will get further faster than if you think negative. Your brain will help look for those opportunities and solutions. It is designed to do this.

You grow new neural pathways and develop success habits that support you. It is a win to learn how to control and condition your mind positively. The secret to success is to learn to be successful at managing your thoughts and feelings. Learn this kind of self-control. When you do, the world can be your oyster. Take charge, delight in all, and celebrate everything.” Rex Sikes

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How You Talk To Yourself And Others Physically Changes Your Brain

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“What you say silently and out loud to yourself, and others, has a physiological effect on your brain structure and density. You grow new neural pathways on the left side or the right side of the prefrontal cortex according to research. Positively or negatively.

According to various researchers, Doldge, Merzenich and others, plus research conducted at UCLA by Schwartz and Gladding, what you say and how you say it dramatically affects you, your behaviors and the results you can get while physically reshaping your brain.

Research demonstrates that negative thinking, your thoughts, images and words, negatively grow more neurons (neural pathways) in the front right part of the brain known as the right prefrontal cortex. Negative thinking closes one off to discovering opportunity.

What You See – Imagine – Is What You Get – Replace the Negative

People who think negatively literally close off possibilities, ideas, opportunities and slow down brain processing speeds. The brain slows down because it has to deal with fight, flight or freeze instead of focusing on advantages and solutions. It is a literal drag.

Negative thinking has a physical and operational effect on the brain. Whereas, people who think positively reshape and stimulate their brain on the left prefrontal cortex making it more likely they will notice advantages, solutions and opportunity. Beneficial results!

People who think positive tend to make better choices. When you think and talk positively to yourself you wire in the neural pathways that positively alters the structure of your  brain. This causes you to look at life more positively, feel better and increases your options.

What You Say – Declare – Is What You Get – Replace The Negative

When you look at life optimistically, feel good and have more possibilities you tend to be happier and more successful. Remember, thoughts lead to feelings, feelings lead to actions, actions lead to habits and habits lead to results. You create neural pathways.

Either you create neural pathways that support you and become successful habits through inspired right action or you lay down less than glorious neural pathways that tend to slow you down and keep you stuck. It is your choice. Which you will do more of? Your choice!

If you want things in your life to change you must change how you think. Taking control of your mind means you stop old habits and begin new positive ones. You steer your mind to do what you want it to do. You train it to think how you want it to think. You are master.

What You Feel Is What You Get – Replace Negative With Positive

Withdraw energy from the negative and put it into the positive. If you stop supporting negative habits AND you encourage and support new positive habits you can make the changes you desire. It is a conditioning process. Persist all the way through and you’ll do it.

You will bring about the changes if you keep going until you get here. Don’t quit because it might be tough at times. Push on through. It is far easier than most people think it is prior to trying it out. Dive in. Change your thinking and change your life! The process is simple!

It won’t change if you don’t. It will change if YOU do! Begin with gratitude. Find things you appreciate about yourself, others and the world. Count your blessings often throughout each day. Delight in it all.  A new world can and open up to you when you take charge.

Always Believe Something Wonderful Is About To Happen – It Will

Fill your mind with positivity. Read and listen to inspired materials. Stay focused. Speak only to bless, heal and prosper yourself and others. Keep the stories of your life that you speak about to others positive. Do this and soon you will discover your life improving.

Keep reading these posts to find out what you can do to make a real difference in the results you are getting. Share them with others. Find positive like minded people to hang with. Support each other. Enjoy, delight and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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2 Reasons You Are Stuck And Can’t Get Anywhere

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“Why don’t some people make things happen fast enough? Why aren’t they creating or manifesting what they want? If the Law Of Attraction worked how come some people, perhaps even you, are struggling and not getting what you want? What is up with that?

Two simple reasons. Excuses and blames rule the day for some. Those people unfortunately never get too far. When you make excuses for yourself and or blame yourself, or anyone or anything outside yourself, you don’t help yourself. You keep things away.

When you whine and complain, excuse and blame you get more of the same back. Bird of a feather flock together. Like attracts like. It is simple. You must be what it is you want to attract FIRST. For some people this concept is difficult to wrap one’s head around.

Quit Beating Yourself Up You Are Not A Finished Product

How do I become something I am not presently but that I want in the future? You must become its essence. This is why you act ‘as if’ you already have it. This is exactly the reason you live with gratitude now. This is why mindset, attitude and feelings are so important.

Become it, now, in your mind and someday you will have it in reality. Most likely not overnight because everything takes some time. Plants take time to grow from seeds. Keep the faith and know with certainty it is yours and you will make it happen. Be certain!

Thoughts precede feelings. Feelings precede right inspired actions. Right inspired actions precede success habits. Successful habits precede the results you want. Keep in mind, YOU are making happen what you want rather than attracting it. Get it? You are doing it!

You Are A Work In Progress – Celebrate And Delight

People who hope or rely on luck don’t make it either. We make our own breaks. Attitude is everything. Luck and hope comes from the outside. If you hope to get it you most likely never will. You must be certain you will make it happen not luck into it. It is all your doing!

The second reason is comparison. People compare the distance between where they are and where they want to be. Stop it! Stop it right now. Keep your eye on your purpose while simultaneously focusing on the right inspired actions step that gets you there.

One inspired step at a time. When hiking or mountain climbing it is advised you not look at the peak but at your feet and each step you take. When you look at the peak you notice how far away it seems. Your steps are immediate and you can control each. Focus on steps.

Losers Fix The Blame Winners Fix What Caused The Problem

Inspired right action comes from having the right mindset and the positive wonderful feelings. Then your brain, your intuition, you inner resourcefulness kicks in. Your Reticular Activating System works to find matches on the outside for the good going on inside.

Your RAS is working anyway. Either finding matches for how far away things are, for blames and excuses, whines and complaints or for the positive ‘life is wonderful I can do it’ thoughts. You are in charge of which it looks for by what you focus on repeatedly.

You inform your own brain what you want to create and attract more of by what you presently think and feel. It is all your doing. Don’t blame yourself if you aren’t where you want to be, change yourself. You can make it happen. Learn how by doing it.

A Flower Doesn’t Compete With Others Or Try – It Just Blooms

Focus on the positive. Fill your mind with positive, wonderful thoughts. Fill yourself with feelings of gratitude. Author your story to include what you want more of and imagine it ‘as if’ you already have it. Speak only to bless, heal, prosper and further your story.

If we don’t have will and persist positively, others who do will prevail. Success comes from having a successful mindset first and then going the distance. Everything takes some time so be patient and enjoy each moment along the way. Delight and feel marvelous!

Stop whining, complaining, excusing and blaming. Stop hoping and relying on luck. Stop comparing and being frustrated. Instead, live with passion, enthusiasm and certainty that YOU can make your dreams come true. Then you can if you keep going until you do! Do this now. Live your dreams. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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