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Do You Know The Critical First Step In Making Positive Permanent Changes?

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“Would you like to be happier? Do you want better heath? Want to perform better in your career, sports, life and relationships? How do you transform you for the better? How do you get started making personal changes? If you are curious we’ll explore in a short series.

Awareness is the first step. At some point on some day for whatever reason you notice something isn’t as wonderful as you hope it would be. You notice a glitch or a disaster. You see someone else being doing or having something you want and you think, ‘that’s for me’.

Somehow at sometime, somewhere you become aware that what you are doing isn’t working. You become aware that something you are doing could be done better. You become aware of lack, of negativity, of the downside or of missing out on the upside.

The Best Way To Predict The Future Is To Create It

You become aware you need to change. You become aware that it might be possible to make changes. You can or could change so you can have more of what you desire. Without this AS a possibility you wouldn’t move forward. Awareness starts it all off. It is the trigger.

Often, you first become aware of what you don’t want before you become aware of what you want. It is as if you outgrow a pair of shoes and feel the pain. You think, ‘I need some new shoes’. Then you begin to decide what kind of new shoes you need or want.

The choice of what you WANT is up to you. You recognize there is a gulf between what you don’t want and what you do want. You realize you need something to be different. You imagine a better you or a better life. You dream of it. You begin to wonder and explore how.

Your Thoughts Create Your Future 

You don’t know yet how it might be possible. You don’t know what to do, for certain, to make it better. You may have an idea or you may be lost trying to figure out what to do next.It can be confusing. So stop. Look at all you don’t want and ask yourself, What do I want instead?’

People get stuck for many reasons. One of the first is when they become aware that life isn’t what they wanted and they get depressed and upset. They get frustrated and angry. They sit there. They stay rooted. They wallow and whine. They complain and blame.

Obviously, this isn’t good though It is normal. It is human. It is actually IS great to get angry. It is good to be SO angry YOU definitely DECIDE to make things different. You get angry enough to think and behave in new ways different.

You Become What You Think About – You Get What You Focus On

It is not so good to wallow and whine. However, anger can be and is a useful starting place because it can cause you to turn your back on the negative. You decided to  drop what is and move toward the positive desires you have. It is the impetus for making changes.

It is critical you turn from the negative and move into the positive. You need to change your focus from what you do not want and begin to entirely focus on what you DO want. You have to build, create or attract what you want and let go of what you don’t want.

Leave or let go of what you don’t want, completely! Use it only to clarify what you want. Get precision and focus on your positive goal. Unfortunately, too many people get stuck in creating more of what they don’t want because they don’t turn towards the positive.

Your Habits Determine Your Present

You must focus on what you want. The anger, and negativity, and knowing what you don’t want is absolutely valuable to help you specify what you do want. You must get clear about what you want and where you want to head. Then you must head there.

You can’t drive forward safely with all your attention in the rearview mirror. When you go on a vacation you need to know your destination.  BUT some exclaim, ‘what if I just want to wander around taking in everything?’ That is the problem with most people.

They wander, they don’t know what they want or where they want to end up. They drift aimlessly. They aren’t focused. They don’t have a plan. They don’t have a road map to get from points A to Z. You need to know where you are going in order to get there.

If You Want A New Better Future – Create New Better Habits

If they would set their site of the end goal they will know when they get there. This is an important point not to miss! Know what you want. Focus on it so you can create it. Build what you want rather than fighting the old.  Once it is built party. Celebrate along the way.

In the next blog posts I’ll share some move. Meanwhile explore. Determine hat do you truly want. Clarify it. Be specific. Visualize it. See it, hear it, feel it, smell it, taste it. Make it as real as you can for yourself. Be glad you are being concise.

Be glad you know what you want. Be glad you are becoming more aware. Feel grateful for the opportunity to make your dream come true. Many people miss out because they never wake up to the fake that destiny is within their reach. It is in their grasp. YOUR destiny is in your hands. What will you do about it? Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Make it a point to feel awesome today!

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What To Do With The Important People In Your Life?

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“Tonight I am at a film festival. It is good to see some old friends. It is good to meet new friends. For the blog today,  I encourage you to catch up with family and friends. Nurture your relationships. Celebrate the people you know. Stop and listen and learn from them.

Take a moment to really connect. Enjoy the people who make up your life. Business, while important, is not that important. I grew up, for the most part, surrounded by filmmakers. Many whose heads were planted firmly planted up the rectal canal.  Vision limited.

I mean no disrespect. However, while film is important people are more important. I know some will disagree. I am writing tonight to remind you to connect and enjoy. Celebrate and love. Make time to savor your family and friends and support each other.

Take The Time To Tell Someone Why They Are Special To You

Take a moment and list out what you appreciate about each of your children, your siblings, your parents, you partners in life, your closest friends. Really think about what makes them special and what you like about them. Appreciate them. Sometime, perhaps, tell them.

Tell them why they are so important to you. Look them in the eye and let them know you care. It is one thing to say ‘I love you’ and it is another to tell them what you like and admire about them and why. Be grateful. Live, laugh, love and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Get in touch with a loved one today!

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Today I Found 35 cents! Celebrate! Hooray!

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“Your brain doesn’t know positive from negative. You do, a part of you does,  but a large portion of you doesn’t. It doesn’t know good from bad or a million dollars from a penny. You subconscious knows threats to your safety, and habits. It operates the same continuously.

It doesn’t know the difference between a perceived threat or a real one. It only knows threats. It could be likened to a machine or a shark. It does what it does and is ongoing. It has some basic instinctual programming, keep the human alive. Its conditioning

Evolution or or a creator or both built in a survival mechanism, which causes, fear, flight, freeze or fight. This topic we will save for another time. I have mentioned it in previous posts. It works brilliantly. It did from the dawn of human time through to today.

What You Think You Become – You Get What You Focus On

Today, however, few of us, at fewer times, encounter the real life physical threat of danger. Some of us do for certain, but we live in a modern world. Our brain doesn’t know that yet. So it doesn’t recognize the difference between a perceived threat and a real one.

It just doesn’t. It evolved or was designed to act quick. Now days, our threats tend to be emotional and/or perceived threats to our safety. Still out brain responds as it did years ago. We may be scared of meeting someone so we freeze or we flee. We feel afraid WHAM!

The brain kicks in. Your spouse argues with you. You feel threatened and you fight! Instantly, the body responds for fighting. Adrenaline pumps, we turn red, get hot etc., etc., etc. Our brain works to keep us alive by squirting chemicals to make us act in certain ways quickly!

You Attract What You Feel – What You Imagine You Create

Positive and negative are the domain of the conscious mind. Your developed the habit of smoking, biting your nails, drinking, over eating, being afraid of meeting new people and you decide you want to change it, your brain feels threatened. The status quo is changing.

It does everything it can to keep you the same. That is the job it has. It doesn’t care if you smoke or what you smoke. If it is a habit it will endeavor to keep you doing it. That is why to change behaviors you must learn new habits. You re-condition yourself to new behavior.

Your brain doesn’t know the difference between an imagined image and a real image. So when you visualize your brain and body respond squirting chemicals. You are afraid to talk in front of others and make internal images of being embarrassed. Your brain reacts.

You Can’t Have A Better Tomorrow Thinking About Yesterday

It pumps chemicals in you. You freeze or want to flee. Over time you become habituated to not talking and the feelings of fear when you think about it. To change you need to re-condition yourself to new habits. You need to learn new ways of behaving as you would like.

Your brain doesn’t know the difference between one penny and one million dollars. It doesn’t know or care. You do. Your brain will respond to what you care about because when you are filled with emotions your brain takes notice. Especially the fearful ones.

However, it takes notice of really positive, cheerful ones too. Strong emotion signals the brain to pay attention and respond. This is why when we are worried about things, people, events, circumstances, bills, and more we seem to keep perpetuating them.

When You Feel Alive, Vital, Wealthy You Attract More Of These

The brain reinforces and reacts to the strong emotion. The Reticular Activating System that scouts for danger also finds internal and external matches for what you are experiencing. If you feel afraid it provides you with more to fear, in associations or memories.

So, if you say to yourself, ‘I am such a klutz’, your brain finds more times when you behaved that way. If you say,’I am so stupid’, your brain has examples ready for you. If you say, ‘I’ll never get out of debt’ your brain will reenforce difficulty and failure or debt.

It isn’t really working against you it is working FOR you! It thinks that is what you want. It doesn’t know any better it just does what it is conditioned to do. It is a loyal, reliable, consistent servant and it is reacting in the only way it knows how. So if you want to change it…

Be The Energy You Want More Of – Be It And You Will Attract It

Here is what you must do. ‘I found thirty five cents today! Hooray! How incredible. WoW! I love finding money. Fantastic! Yes, Yes YES!!’ And do a happy dance. Celebrate. Make a big positive emotional deal about it. Have fun. Sing, skip, dance! Enjoy! Enjoy!

Make a big deal about what you want more of! Really celebrate. All it knows is you are thrilled with finding money. It isn’t concerned with the amount. It just notes the feelings! Because you are thrilled it gets the signal to find more money. It begins looking for matches.

I did this today! I found 35 cents while looking for something in my car. I celebrate. I celebrate finding a penny. When good things happen make a big deal about them. Delight in everything! Have fun. Even if it never worked you had a happy moment. BUT it does work!

Happiness Is A Conscious Choice – Not An Automatic Response

It is the same process that you already use when you get mad and fearful, but in reverse. We switch from the dark side to the ‘force’ side to create or attract more of what we want. Whatever you want more of in life, focus on it and feel fantastic about it. You will get it.

You get whatever you focus on and feel most strongly about anyway. So make sure you use good taste and aim it toward those things that improve you and your life. Focus on finding more love, joy and happiness. Find more good will and opportunity. Friendship and fun!

Celebrate and make a big deal. That is why gratitude plays such an important role in opening the doorway for more. Your RAS finds matches for what you most strongly pay attention to and feel strongly about. So imagine it, visualize what you want and feel great!

Your Positive Energy Vibrations Is What Attracts Things To You

This is how you begin to easily recondition yourself. Sometimes change is instant. Sometimes it takes awhile. Celebrate all of it. Be grateful and glad for the little changes. Exaggerate and delight in them and you will find yourself having more. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Revel in curiosity today!

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The Problem Is Lies Lies Lies Then More Lies And Excuses

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“What is wrong in the world today? What is wrong in families? What is wrong in business? It seems everyone wants to pass the buck. No one wants to take responsibility. Politicians lie and blame each other. So do families, corporations and we blame each other on Facebook.

There is so much lost, wasted time focused on what is wrong, who is wrong, why they are wrong,  and what they did that screwed it up. It is never ‘my fault’ it is always someone else’s fault. Seems ‘the buck never stops here, at ‘me’. We need to rethink what is occurring.

We need to own up. ‘Man’ up. We need to use those balls for good reason. We need to be accountable. Be responsible. We need to act with integrity and steel will. Enough with the reasons, the excuses, the pointing fingers. Time to say, ‘what happens is always up to me.’

Do What Is Right – Not  What Is Easy – Act With Integrity

I wrote about keeping your word. Your word should be enough. People should know you are a person of integrity and that you always follow through on what you say you will do. Why did I write about that? Because it is an important topic especially at this time.

Politicians make promises but it appears we have become so jaded we don’t expect them to actually carry the promises out. In fact, we say, ‘all politicians lie and can’t be trusted’. WOW that is a sad state of affairs. Why do we even tolerate that for a second? But we do.

I believe all politicians should be held accountable for the representations they make, on or off camera, in ads and elsewhere. There should be consequences for misleading. We should have zero tolerance for lying. The same applies to our fellow man and woman.

Integrity Is Measured By Conduct Not By Promises – Talk Is Cheap

We should be held to our word. No excuses. No complaints. No cop-outs, blames or whines allowed. We should all be accountable and responsible. We should hold ourselves to a higher standard not a lessor one. We should walk the high road, less traveled. Few do.

We should keep our verbal contracts. We should operate with integrity. We should be honest and forthright. We should go the extra mile. Do what few others do! That would sets us apart in this day and age. You want to be valued and deemed worthy?

Then make yourself valuable and worthy. Stay positive. Be optimistic. Be responsible and be accountable. Be true to who you are and be true to the word you give. Don’t play politics. Let go of blaming others and the world. End the excuses and complaints.

Integrity Is When What You Say And What You Do Are Aligned

Start owning up. Start taking action. Start making good things happen for you and others. Develop the reputation for honesty, integrity, loyalty and great service. Help others. Be generous. Give of yourself. Help make the world better. If you do, you too will get back.

What goes around comes around. You will find yourself attracting a higher caliber of people. The right people will flock to you. What you sow you will reap. You will begin attracting better people, events and circumstances. Your life will improve when you improve on you.

It works that way. Be glad. Be happy. Become filled with gratitude. You will delight more and discover more. When your word is law you will find the Red Sea parting for you. Not because of luck but because of your will and your attitude. You become unstoppable!

People Of Good Character Keep Their Promises – Keep Your Word

When you have backbone and will and followthrough. When you take action. When you believe in yourself enough to keep your commitments you become invincible. Your word becomes THE law. You begin to change things. You rock your world! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Make each moment magical!

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You Suck If You Can’t Keep This! You Really Do!

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“Want to ruin a romance fast? What to destroy a business relationship? Are you tired of keeping family and friends around? Want to lose a few? Do this and you will. Many have already? It is simple to drive people away. Harder if you want to keep them.

Do you ever make promises? Do you keep your commitments? Are you known as a trustworthy and reliable person? I am sure you’d like to think so, but are you? Do you stand by your word? Is your word your bond? Is your word law? If not, you absolutely want it to be.

I don’t have to point out how aggravating it is to receive promises from family, friends or businesses and expect them to honor their word only to have them not deliver on it. I don’t have to do that, do I? It sucks, right? Does it make you like them better? I bet not! Right?

People Of Good Character Keep Their Promises – Stay True

Do you feel like believing them the next time? How many times have you been repeatedly burned by the same person or business? What do you ultimately do? Are they gaining any good will from you? Have you cut some off. Have you said, ‘never again!’ Maybe to some, right.

‘My word is my bond. My word is law’. You are only as good a person and reliable as you word is true.  Your promise is your word. It is your commitment. Your word is a contract. You and I make verbal contracts all day long. Do you honor them is the question? Do you?

If you say you will be somewhere or do something, do you? If you promise to deliver then do it. Keep your agreement. If you say Friday you will do it or have it done that is a promise that you will have it done on Friday. If you don’t deliver on Friday your word is not good!

Never Make A Promise You’re Not 100% Committed To Fulfill

You are only as good and as valuable to others as the agreements you keep. Most people, want the people they associate with, in their family, friends, relationships, business and elsewhere to be honest, loyal, trustworthy and reliable or dependable. We value these!

We want to be able to take you at your word and hold you to your it. If we can’t count on you, if we aren’t able to rely on you, if you fail to come through and deliver as you say you will, of what use or value are you to us? No use! Because you betray the trust we place in you.

If you say you will do something. DO IT! That is the honorable thing to do. Your word is your bond. Your word should be law. Your word should actually mean something. If it doesn’t I don’t want much to do with you. I may like you but I can’t count on you. I don’t trust you.

Respect My Time – Match My Effort – Keep Your Word – Be Honest

So I may like you but you aren’t anyone I could recommend to others. Think business. Think networking. Think jobs. Do you want to refer someone to others who you know will let them down. Of course, you don’t! It would bite you in the ass. It would reflect poorly on you.

You may have a family member like this. You love them with your whole heart and soul but you can’t count on them for anything. What to do about them? Nothing. You can’t do anything until they begin to value their commitments, their word and their relationships.

If you state ‘I’ll try to get it done by Friday’ you are wishy-washy and not deserving of the trust of anyone. Yes,I know this is hard-core. The point is your word is your bond. Your word is either 100% valid or not. If it’s only 50% valid or 8o% valid who can rely on you?

You Lose Credibility When You Don’t Keep Your Word 

If you don’t honor your word why should anyone else? Why should anyone trust or rely or think you will deliver? They shouldn’t. We shouldn’t! Yes, I know there are times when you are over extended and you don’t want to commit to anything. It’d be better if you don’t.

Don’t say you will try only to disappoint someone else. Better to not say anything at all. Of course, that is difficult, but if you can’t keep your word don’t act as if you will. Better to pick a time when you know you can and will deliver and give them that date and time.

There are two people in the world most important to keep your word with. The first is YOU! You should always do what you say you will do. Keep your promise to yourself. If you say you are going to clean your desk Monday morning then do it. Keep your word!

A Promise Means Everything Once Broken Sorry Means Nothing

You are worth keeping your word with. You deserve respect. You are worthy of following through on your own promises to yourself. Make intentions. Keep them clear and simple and commit to them. Don’t say you will do things and then not follow through.

That is bad practice. Develop good habits. Make the task bite size if you must but do it. The second person absolutely critical to keep your word with is THE OTHER PERSON. Whomever you give your word to, friend, foe or stranger KEEP IT! Keep your promises.

Don’t be childish. Some people will argue that ‘I said I would do it but I didn’t promise’.  Because they didn’t utter the word promise they think that lets them off the hook. It doesn’t. Your word IS your verbal contract. If you say, ‘I will’ you promised you will. Not maybe but will.

Integrity Is The Most Valued And Respected Quality Of Leadership

Your word is either valuable or worthless to yourself and others. Keep your commitments. Keep your appointments. Be on time. Get  known as a person who delivers. Become known as someone who can be relied on.  Develop that reputation. Treat yourself well!

Because when you do you become a person of great value to others. You become indispensable in business. You stand out from all the rest. Your word is law. You are known to keep it. You are trustworthy. You make yourself indispensable. You are valuable!

Remember your word is gold. Every promise you make is a verbal contract. Keep it with yourself and others. If you can’t keep your word don’t give your word. Build the habit of being reliable. Great things can come about when you truly begin to value your own word! Practice keeping it and succeed! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Fill each moment with fun.

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How To Give Up Old Unproductive Ways And Become New!

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“Life challenges us sometimes. Sometimes it’s snaps and breaks us. It isn’t the size of the problems. It’s not because the challenges are so large, the obstacles so overwhelming, or the problem so insurmountable that we break. It is because we are so rigid.

We are not flexible.  We don’t give and take and roll with the punches. That is why we break. If we were like the tall reed, we would bend this way and that. Because we are rigid stress cracks us. It breaks us.  Sometimes that is just the way it is or the way it was.

Sometimes we break. No use crying about water over the damn. That’s what was. That is what it is.  So get up dust off and move forward again.  Yes, it may be hard but do it anyway. Here’s the lesson:  sometimes you break and sometimes you bend.

A Storm Breaks Trees – It Only Bends Grass

Sometimes you’ll apply the lessons you’ve been learning in maintaining a positive attitude, being happy, staying centered, in a challenging situation and you will surprise yourself. You may have resolved to stay calm and centered during life’s toughest moments.

That’s how it works. It goes from being really hard applying what your learning to easier and easier. Ultimately, you learn to do new things. The old habits give way to the new habits you acquire. Once the new habits take hold it is much different. Until then…

In the midst of turmoil you might find that you’re not as agitated as you would have been in the past. You discover you are  much more centered. Calmer. Perhaps, not as much is you hoped, but more than you might otherwise have been in dealing with a huge issue.

The Reed Bends With The Wind – Stands Straight After The Storm

You stayed calmer than you would have in your past. You remained more centered. That is huge! That is a big awareness. That is good! Whenever you find yourself behaving along the lines of the direction you’re moving toward, celebrate! Acknowledge it! Become aware.

Make a point of treating it as something special! Pat yourself on the back. Give your self a hug. Gift yourself in someway for doing that. Celebrate doing that which you want to be doing more of. Be grateful you did it because you open the door to do it again  more.

When you gift yourself now for behaving as you want to you’ll get more in the future. That which you focus on expands. Be grateful for the little you do now because you’ll do a lot more later! That’s  how you learn! First it seems all up hill, you struggle. Later, you coast.

Baby Steps Are Better Than  No Steps – Keep Moving Forward

You move forward, you grow and evolve, by emphasizing and exaggerating those positive things you do. You put your energy and attention into it so that in the future you will continue to behave in these productive ways. Praise yourself when you notice. Practice!

Acknowledge and appreciate. Feel grateful for any tiny movement in the right direction. Nurture and encourage. One day in the not too distant future you will be doing more of the same positive productive behaviors. Keep at it. Don’t quit. You’ll develop the habit.

You will make it much easier on yourself and move forward more rapidly if you don’t berate yourself for screwing up but instead praise yourself for moving forward. Ignore the mistakes, except to learn from them. Correct and continue. Praise when you do well.

What We Want To Do With Ease We Must First Do With Diligence

Then, soon, you will wire in the new behaviors. Correct repetition over a long enough period of time will become habit. The easier you make it on yourself the more quickly you are able to change. The more you resist the more the old way persists. Stop resisting.

Start nurturing. Start welcoming. Stop worrying. Stop obsessive monitoring. Stop unnecessary commentary. Start acknowledging. Start encouraging. Start affirming.  You will move forward faster and easier. Be thankful. Delight in all and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Be kind to a stranger today.

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Gratitude Is More Than Enough Power For You: Don’t Miss Out!

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“I had my topic in mind for today’s blog. Then I thought, I have written about it quite frequently, what else might I want to discuss? As I pondered, I got a message on my Facebook wall, that reinforced my original selection. I was very happy and grateful to receive it.

Here is the comment: ‘It’s always inspiring to see people who are constant living demonstrations of a certain ideal or principle – and you are such a consistent living example of gratitude. I tip my hat to you, sir!’ I appreciate the gentleman for sharing this with me!

Whether or not that is accurate I do attempt to live in gratitude throughout each moment of the day. I do this because I have found tremendous value and power in being grateful. Yes, overall, I am happier and healthier. So, today my topic is, again, gratitude!

It Is Not Happy People Who Are Thankful …

Here is why I was going to write about it today. I posted on my Facebook wall ‘dang, my life has just taken a fabulous turn for the incredible!’ I suppose naturally people were curious. They asked why. I had written it, just because, it is true. I felt wonderful.

Nothing out of the ordinary occurred, There was no new good news. By all accounts it’s just another day but each day IS incredible. As I am always learning if you want miracles expect miracles. If you want blessings, expect blessings! Make happen what you want to happen.

I answered the Facebook comments with, ‘Every day is a blessing.  What you say is what you get. What you focus on expands. Say what you want. Expect miracles and get miracles.’  It  works! Be grateful and you open a door for more of what you are grateful about.

… It Is Thankful People Who Are Happy

Feel wonderful about what  you already have. No matter how little or how much. I have learned to become thrilled over finding a penny! I do stop and celebrate it! Yes, it seems crazy to most people. It is a penny. To the subconscious mind it is money! I just found money!

The brain doesn’t know or care if it is a million or a penny. It only knows how I feel. I feel ecstatic when I find money or any good thing. Then my brain is primed and prompted to look for more. More what? More of whatever I got thrilled about! I get more good as a result.

You get what you focus on! I focus on being excited by little things. I focus on being excited by big things. I focus on feeling glad for moments and declaring them special. Declaring them sacred. I savor the simple, the tiny as well as the big, good news. Every moment!

Gratitude Is The Open Door To Abundance – Be Thankful

Each moment is an opportunity to be thrilled or not. Positive or not. Happy or not. I prefer to live with as much delight as possible. In order to get more good things I have to give more. I feel gratitude and so I discover more to feel grateful about. It fills up my life.

So today, I write again about gratitude. I can’t express enough about it. Do I forget? Sure. Do I get caught up? Sure. Do I lose it at times? Sure. The key is in the return to gratitude. The return to positive thinking. The return muscles is the one I exercise. I build that up.

Find anything and everything you can be thankful for. List it. Enjoy it. Remember why you are grateful. Experience the feelings. Live in these feelings as long and as often as you are able and your life will transform beyond anything you can presently imagine! It will!

Gratitude Is One Of The Most Medicinal Emotions We Can Feel

Find moments! Find memories! Find the time to do it. My first stint with gratitude came during meditation when I was 25 years old and I realized my feet had carried me through life for 25 years. It had never occurred to me, prior to then, to be thankful. It blew me away!

I started thanking my feet and then everything I could about me. It became an immensely incredible and rewarding practice. I would forget, get caught up, and return to many times. I taught it in seminars and shared it around the world. It is a profound experience.

What isn’t profound is the concept. What is profound is when the gratitude grabs hold of you and your entire being swells in appreciation and gladness. When every atom, cell and neuron feels alive and blessed. It is bliss! It is incredible! Live it and declare it!

The More We Do The More We Can Do – Begin Today – Continue

What you say IS what you get! So declare what you want. Make it yours by feeling grateful about it. Find a penny. Celebrate! Shout ‘I am blessed! I always find money! It feels so good! I love finding money! Thank you, Thank You!’ Or something similar. Be happy!

Make it a big deal. Speak more good things into being. Declare it good and it will be good! You attract back what you put out. What you focus expands. Feel grateful. Be grateful. Live in gratitude. More good will come your way. Delight and enjoy!  Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Smile and delight yourself and a loved one.

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Imagine What You Could Do If You Were God: Try This!

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“Do you like to pretend? Actors do. Actors pretend for wages or they pretend for fun. I like to pretend, too. Yes, I am an actor, but beyond that I enjoy pretending. I pretend I am great at things I want to master. I pretend there are answers when there may not be.

I don’t care. I pretend. It helps me navigate the world. I pretend I am god. Yup, god. The big one. Now, I don’t mean no disrespect or nuttin’. I ain’t trying to usurp da big guys role. I just mean I act as if I were god. I think, ‘What would I do?’  What would I have done?’

I pretend I am god and every single person I meet during this lifetime I placed in my life to teach me to be a better me. Every last one of them from the briefest encounter to the most lengthy, unending, excruciatingly painful ones. All of them! I chose just for me. I did!

The Only Difference Between You And God … 

They are a blessing. These people are opportunities to help me grow. Whether through bliss or through challenge I – god – put them there for me to encounter and learn from. Sometimes, I have had incredible struggles with these blessed ones. Do you know why?

Because I am a -god – with an incredible sense of humor. I decided to put all these people there for me to learn and grow from. I put them there as opportunities and blessings. AND then, are YOU ready for this? AND THEN I gave myself amnesia for all of it. I Forgot it all!

So this lifetime I get to discover who I am and why I am here; Who these are people are for me, THEY help me evolve, and help me remember who I actually am. They are here to remind me through a myriad of ways that I am a divine presence pretending to be human.

… You Have Forgotten You Are Divine

I am pretending to be a meat sack of bones with everyday life issues that for some reason I take far too seriously. Why? I don’t know. Perhaps, it is because I can’t yet see the bigger scheme of things because I forgot. I forgot it is all a divine game I am playing. I forgot!

It is my game. I invented it. I added the rules and the players. I create situations and events all designed to help me grow by becoming aware of who I am and what a blessing each of these others are. AND that all circumstances, no matter what, are blessings too.

I like to pretend this because it makes each day much more fun, far less stressful and I learn so much more about me and my place in the world. It helps me create or manifest with glee and attract more cool things into my life. I stop judging and let go far more frequently.

Difficult People Are The Greatest Teachers

It is easier to understand when someone else is ‘MAKING MY LIFE UNBEARABLE!!!’ how it is my projections on their behaviors. Life is, after all, what we make it. What we think about we bring about. I much prefer to pretend that all the ‘bad’ is actually good.

It doesn’t have to be that way in reality but these mind frames make life so much more fun and interesting. They allow me so much room to grow, to fall, to get back up and to remember, ‘hey I am divine’. We all are. We are all made of the same stardust. We are all one species.

The toughest person is my biggest blessing because they inspire me to grow the most. The ones who never let up continue to remind me to grow, grow, grow. That is as long as I remember that I am pretending that is why they are in my life. They are here to help me.

Experience The Most Brutal Of Teachers – But My God You Learn

I like pretending. How about you? I like real gratitude. I like to feel the feelings being thankful bring me. I like finding all the blessings there are, and then discovering some new ones and some old ones I may have missed. How about you? I say, celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Become even more delighted.

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Mindset Matters: How Not To Turn Mole Hills Into Mountains

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“How we view things often determines how we go through things. If you perceive something as a problem it certainly is. If you can perceive it as an opportunity it can be. Our mindset is powerful. Some would argue problems are problems and nothing changes.

Oh, but it does. You’ve heard the expression, ‘don’t make mountains out of mole hills’. That expression encourages us not to make big things from little things. Sometimes, that is just what we do. We exaggerate our difficulties and make them larger than they are.

The ideal mindset is, ‘I am bigger than any obstacle or challenge’. You are. You certainly are if you believe you are. Our mind is a wonderful resource, that has been conditioned to oppose us, since birth. We need to claim it back and make it work for us, how we want it to.

Perception Right Or Wrong Influences Everything You Do

It works perfectly, doing what it learned to do. It is on channel 7 and we need to change it to channel 2. We simply are watching the wrong programs. We don’t believe we are enough. We think our problems insurmountable. We worry about money. On and on!

Most of the way we learn to think we inherited from others while we were to young to know any better. We didn’t choose our thoughts. NOW, we can. Now we must if we want to be free from chronic old conditioning that limits us and causes us pain.

Anything can be viewed from multiple angles. Our point of view is only one of many. There are differing opinions on everything possible to discuss. Yet, typically, we think our version of reality is the one true version of reality. It isn’t. AND in some ways it is.

Positive Mind – Positive Vibes – Positive Life – It’s A Reflection

If we are locked into it then, yes, it is the only choice we know and act from. It is not the only choice there is. Waking up to other choices means we can begin to think, feel, speak and act differently. We can begin to get different results when we think differently.

When we choose differently we get different outcomes. It is more desirable to be flexible than inflexible. A tall strong reed bends with the wind while those too rigid snap. It is in our best interests to learn to adopt mindsets that serve us and allow us to evolve flexibly.

If you could begin to view all difficulties as opportunities your life would radically improve. If you chose to look at all opportunities as blessings that you chose to help you grow your life would improve beyond belief. Why don’t you do that? Because of prior conditioning.

Facts Matter Not At All – Perception Is Everything – It’s Certainty

You have your reasons and excuses. I have mine. We all do. The fact of the matter is none of them are real. We only think they are. Our points of view, our beliefs are interchangeable only most of don’t think that they are. We don’t think differently is the issue. We can.

We can think differently. However, now it is a choice. We aren’t being unconsciously programmed as we once were. We’re no longer growing up assimilating beliefs, values, reasons, excuses and blames. Now we consciously choose and consciously implement.

It is different now that it is a choice. It is simple but not always easy. We are choosing the program instead of being programmed. Once we do we learn we have amazing strengths we didn’t know we had. There is a huge upside to choosing what to think, today.

Your Life Is What Your Thoughts Make It – Attitude Is Everything

I hope you will. Put on the point of view that everything you experience is your choice and you choose to think of it as a blessing and opportunity. If you have been following my blog for awhile you know that I don’t care whether it is ‘true’ or not. We act as if it is.

It is your mindset, your mental filter. It is your adopted point of view or new belief. You choose it to guide you in thinking and being. You stop viewing problems as obstacles and problems and view them as lessons, blessings and opportunities you choose for your own good.

Pretend you have a higher wisdom that knows better than you what you actually need. Your life is designed to bring you great joy when you evolve to higher, more aware, levels. Each opportunity, whether tough or easy is designed for that purpose. To help you evolve more.

Mindset Is Everything – What You Think You Become 

It is there to serve you, make you a better person and help you to have a better life because of it. If the opportunity were not there you would be missing out on many important things. All of it is to serve you. You deserve the best. Yet, I know some will object.

I am suggesting consciously choosing to imagine how things might be, how they can be. I am suggesting you utilize a different filter to think about problems and issues. The choice to do is yours completely. However, if you always do what you always did…

You will always get what you always got. Nothing will change unless and until you change it. Find the frames that serve you best. Find the mindset that makes you invincible and unstoppable. Find the thoughts that make you feel wonderful and the most joy, most often.

If You Think You Can Or Your Think You Can’t – You Are Right

Choose to make your life what it can be. Don’t settle for less than the best for yourself. Learn to be and stay positive. Become powerful and don’t quit. Make your dreams come true. Transform difficulty into opportunity and become richer in mind, heart and deed. Find gratitude for all events and circumstances. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Become delighted.

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How To Quickly And Easily Feel Inspired And Motivated Any Time!

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“You want to feel inspired? Would you like to feel more motivated? What can you do to get your dreams easier and more quickly? How can you unleash your own power to go after the career, the love, the life that you want? What is something you can do right now?

The answer is easy and simple. Inspire someone else. Use your words, your feelings and you actions to inspire someone who needs it. Use your words, feelings and actions to motivate someone who feels unmotivated. Put your power and presence into action.

Don’t wait for the right time. Begin sharing what you know today. Begin sharing what you feel from your heart. Help someone else get ahead. It is one of the quickest ways to learn what you need to know. It is one of the fastest ways to move yourself forward, too.

Help Others Achieve Their Dreams And You Will Achieve Yours

When you give of yourself, to help another person in need, you use your personal resources, your knowledge and your experience, your thoughts, words, feelings and actions to come to their aid. You use everything you know and everything you are learning.

You apply all of this to assisting a person in need. You share lovingly, you instruct, you question, you understand and you lead them gently. You might use some tough love and some loving kindness. Everything you use for another you could benefit from yourself.

Because you are helping another it is easier to ‘get’ what you need to do. Your helping them will help you. You will learn much from sharing with them. You will become aware of so many things. You may hear reasons or excuses, complaints or blames and answer those.

We Rise By Lifting Others – Be The Reason Someone Smiles Today

Many may be the same you have in other circumstances. After all, as people we are far more similar, most of the time, than we are actually different. Teaching is one of the best ways to learn what you need to learn. Don’t ‘act like a teacher’ simply share what you know.

Sharing is wonderful. There is no stress or burden if you ask, ‘mind if I share with you something I have recently learned?’ If they answer ‘yes’ they have given your permission to share. Don’t abuse their permission, share, let them decide to do with what you offer.

If they reject it, that is what they do. You still shared. You still had the experience. Whether they understand today or tomorrow isn’t your concern, your part is sharing. You plant a seed then the universe decides if it grows. Allow them latitude to agree or disagree. Let go.

Power Is The Ability To Do Good Things For Others

Simply share. Let them accept or reject. JUST share. When done, you are done. The value for you is in what you did. The value for you is you helped another. You sought to use what you knew to inspire and motivate. You attempted to help another person feel better.

How else might it benefit you. You did something kind for someone. They may reciprocate in the future when you need some uplifting. They may reciprocate in other ways as well. Let them decide whether they respond in this way or not. You didn’t do it for reward.

You did it because you wanted to help another person. You did it because you know by sharing and helping it helps you to learn the lessons you need to know better. It really does. You can be your own best teacher by helping many others one by one. It truly works!

By Learning You Will Teach – By Teaching You Will Learn

Delight in sharing. Have fun. Allow yourself to be great at it or to suck at it. It doesn’t matter when your heart is in the right place. Allow yourself to appreciate the difficulty the other person may have. Appreciate their difficulty in possibly accepting your help.

Appreciate every aspect of this process. Don’t judge. Do not label. Let go of all assumptions and be open to discovering many knew learnings. Be gentle and lead from the heart. It is about connection and trust. It is about well-being and compassion.

It IS about relationship. It is about nurturing and encouraging. Everything about this process can be a blessing. Enjoy it. Delight in it. Let go, allow, and accept. Be free to give and to receive. Stay open and Be sure to celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Thrill yourself today in positive ways.

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