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Creating The Future, Focus, Rehearsal And Practice, Visualization

The First Powerful Way Of Seeing You Must Utilize And Why

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“Do you spend time purposefully visualizing ? If not, it is a practice you will want to embrace. It is so important that you do. Deliberately imagining what you want and how you want it sets your creative mind working  to get it. It opens up your imagination and abilities.

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There a couple ways to imagine things. One is to see yourself in the image as if you were watching yourself in a movie or video. This is a great way to see how you look, move, sound and interact with others. You see yourself where you want to be and with whom.

Whether You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You Are Right

You can be artistic and add vivid color. You can make the size of your mental movie screen larger, much, much bigger, as when you are in a movie theater. You can put it in surround sound or add music. Anything you can do with a TV you can do inside your mind theater.

You can enhance the image and boost your good feelings. You can improve on this movie in your mind so it is even more appealing and makes the feelings stronger. In Neuro Linguistic Programming we call the components you can adjust Submodalities. For example:

Visual: size, shape, color or black and white, hue, tint, light, shadow, location, near or far away and more. Sound: volume, location, timber, tone, pitch, rate (fast or slow) and more. Feelings: touch, rough, smooth, heavy, soft, pressure, a tickle, location in body, and more.

What You Feel Is What You Get – Feelings Are Important

You can vary any and all of these and make any mental experience less intense or more intense. Taste and smells can be important too. Add in anything that makes it more wonderful.  Construct it so it is appealing, inspiring, and motivating for you. Make it incredible!

Make your dreams and goals more desirable, intense and immediate. Movie directors and symphony conductors play with these components.  They utilize them to create feelings in the viewer, or listener; the experiencer. You can too. You don’t have to but you can.

Sports coaches direct players to perform in certain ways.  Be your own coach, your own conductor and director.  Deliberately make the adjustments. Watch your mind movie. Do you like it better? Does it feel stronger? If yes, cool. If not, change it until you do. Get it?

Imagine A Bright Future – In Your Mind Now – And It Can Be Yours

More coming in next post. Take charge. Assume control. Tailor it for the greatest return. Make it wonderful. As you progress you may continue to improve on it. It is your movie make it most appealing. You can always change it back. Just DO IT!

Make it outstanding, lock it in, and visualize it daily! Bless, nurture and encourage yourself as you engage daily. Stick with it through rough spots or times when nothing seems to be improving or happening. You’ll breakthrough as long as you persist. You will!

Delight all along the way. Enjoy it and be grateful. Have fun, practice in the spirit of play. As it has been said, ‘ You can pretend anything and master it.’ Allow yourself to easily grow. Your skills develop faster and you go further when you celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Have a fantastic day!

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Celebration, Emotions, Expectations, Focus

Science Puts Mind Power To Work: It’s Time You Did Too!

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“You know thoughts are things, right? Today, a human can run certain machines by mind power alone. There are toys kids can learn to lift a ball or run computer images in a race by thought power alone. Thoughts are energy. They can be measured.

They can be put to physical work. Isn’t that amazing? Yes.  Then again, no. From early times on sage men and women have told us thoughts are things. What we think becomes the results we get. Today, science helps us realize this through certain applications.

I think we are still far more incredible than the current scientific applications. We are able to do far more than fly jet planes with our brain power, but it is a start. Having said this, realize your thoughts carry weight and power. They do create results!

Thoughts Are Things – You Get What You Focus On

You have, at your disposal, an incredible ability to change yourself and your life for the better by managing your thoughts.

SO today, imagine you are unstoppable. You are invincible. You are powerful to do what you want that is good for you and others; and that is kind, and cool. You are able to pursue your goals and dreams with tenacity and complete commitment. You persist. You go for it.

AND nothing can stop you! Whatever you put your mind to IN A POSITIVE WAY you follow through on. Imagine in your mind’s mental movie theater going for and accomplishing your biggest life goal and dream. Really savor how that feels to make it happen.

Imagine people congratulating you. Hear what they say. Feel the pats on the back, hugs, and the handshakes. See the look in their eyes as they tell you how wonderful it is and how happy they are for you. Take it in. Feel how good this feels. Embrace it. Enjoy it. Feel it!

Congratulations – You Did It – Excellent Job – Well Done – Bravo

You did it! That is because YOU ARE the kind of person who CAN do it. You did it because you willed to do it. You kept going and you did not let anything stop you. You decided what you wanted and you went for it. You helped others along the way AND made it happen.

You can look back over time and notice that through every obstacle you found a way. With each difficulty you learned something you benefited from and applied. Every challenge was actually a stepping stone to making your dream happen and you used each.

You overcame and you completed your pursuit. You got what you wanted. You are now enjoying it. This is incredible and you are invincible. You are magnificent. You are ecstatic! Delight in this. Wrap these feelings around you. Feel them through and through!

Notice How Good It Feels To Make Your Dreams Come True

Feel how wonderful to achieve your dreams. Take pride in that sense of accomplishment. Feel the confidence that you gained by making it happen. Really take the time to see and feel all of this because this or something better is how it can be. THIS is waiting for you.

Create your future. Move into your future by feeling what you would feel then, right now. Become these feelings. Feel successful because you are successful, you did it. You are invincible and magnificent. Celebrate the goodness. Appreciate all of it. Delight and celebrate everything right now!” Rex Sikes

Today, live your dreams!

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Awareness, Choice, Conditioning, Focus

Never Let Circumstances Bring You Down – Learn To Live Triumphantly

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“Have you ever been on a roll and then excrement hits the fan? What’s up with that? Have you wondered, ‘WTF?’ You are riding high and then something comes along and levels the field or worse. It might suck, right? What if it didn’t have to? What would that be like?

Yesterday was a very different day from Monday’s blissful day. Some might say, the day presented some challenges. Certainly, there were numerous situations. For the purposes of illustration I’ll call them challenges. Still, the days WAS blissful and wonderful. One example.

Everywhere I drove during rush hour was jammed up. Each road I took, for the span over an hour, was a dead end, no outlet road, and detours to nowhere. It was amazing. I never before experienced anything quite like this. It was a twilight zone like.

Words Are Seeds – Be Careful What You Plant

I drove around trying to get out of a certain section that bounded a freeway and had construction, road and building, all around. After driving and trying each turn only to find it ultimately blocked I found one back road open! Hooray! Except it was closed by an accident!

There was no getting around it. I backed up, tried going back the way I came, to look for other avenues of escape. Finally, I found a way out. Once I got out I turned onto a major road which went up and over a bridge. As I got onto the bridge all traffic stopped. I was stuck.

I couldn’t go forward or turn back around. A truck broke down on the bridge shutting it down to one lane. Traffic was slowly merging right to go around. It was a good long while. I had never seen the traffic this congested, in this area, as far back as I can remember.

All That We Are Is The Result Of Our Thoughts

It was a different sort of busy driving day. After about an hour I managed to drive on into much more heavier bumper to bumper traffic. In my teen years in L A I’d have had road rage to the max. It was pretty tempting yesterday to let go and get angry about it.

Fortunately, I had the presence of mind to realize getting upset wouldn’t have changed the situations. I’d be stuck in traffic and mad, instead of stuck in traffic. Plus, as I have often pointed out, traffic is a fantastic place to learn to surrender and let go. So walk the talk, Rex.

I relax, and let go. I decided to assume I had created all this JUST especially for me. This is my mental construct, my fantasy. I wanted to discover, IF I had engineered this, or god or universe or whatever, why, what lesson might I take from it? Multiple lessons o’plenty!

Change Your Thinking And You Change Your Life

I examined and reflected. I gleaned insights for myself that I think are useful. Most importantly, the trite aphorism comes to mind, when life gives you lemons make lemonade. How do you make the best of a bad situation? If you label it bad to begin with, it’s tougher.

It is better not to label it anything at all. Don’t call it a problem or a challenge or an obstacle. It just is. Why start one down? It is what it is. The less we label the better off we are sometimes. Perhaps, we call it a situation or an opportunity. Yes, call it an opportunity.

Some think I must be mad. An opportunity! I can almost here them exclaim it. What are you outta your mind? Yes, I absolutely hope so. I hope I am out of the conditioning that says, if you have a hammer you treat everything as a nail. Problems do not make you feel good.

Thoughts Create Your Reality – Choose Your Thoughts Wisely

Opportunity may make you feel good. So it is an opportunity to relax, let go, enjoy sitting still, reflect, people watch, take a breather, learn from the situation. It IS whatever you decide it is. You determine whether it is good or bad. It is ALWAYS  YOUR choice.

Whether others agree isn’t the point. You can find plenty for whom misery loves company. You can band together and complain long and hard and it won’t change anything except your emotional state for the worse. Fewer will choose to look at it as a blessing. Yet, it is.

IF YOU decide it is. Everything IS as it is. You decide whether it is a blessing or not. As for me, I prefer that there are more blessings and opportunities than problems and obstacles. I want my blessing ration high so I declare more things blessings than otherwise.

Once You Become Aware Of How Powerful Your Thoughts Are …

You want to learn mental control? You want to be more resourceful?You want to live a better life? THEN live blessed and filled with gratitude! Enjoy everything. I point this out, this happening yesterday for a reason.  Some think, well it’s easy if your life is easy.

Some think, positive thinking is wearing rose tinted glasses. Some think, easy for you to say if you don’t have any challenges or face everyday constraints like the rest of us. I do, you do, we all do. Few lived charmed lives and aren’t touch by hurt or despair. Few, maybe.

Most everyone has to live with the day to day situations. Ups and downs, highs and lows, goods and bads. Most people have grown up learning to complain about circumstances and to long or wish for other circumstances. There are preferences and habits.

… You’ll Realize Everything In Your Life Is How You Allow It To Be

Habit has most people whining and complaining, excusing and blaming. Stop living your life dictated by circumstances. Instead dictate how you respond to the circumstances. Be larger than the problems. Call them anything but problems. Call them opportunities.

Practice this correctly long enough and you can get pretty good at it. Get good at letting go, living well and enjoying all events and circumstances as much as possible. Then as speed bumps occur you can find yourself at ease instead of getting bent out of shape.

You change habits with awareness and understanding. You change habits through correct repetition. You change habits by willpower and persistence. You change  by being committed to changing no matter what. As you change, what is difficult at first, becomes easier.

You Create Your Own Reality For Goodness Sake Have Good Taste

Awareness is the key. Whenever you realize you are thinking or feeling less than glorious make a purposeful, deliberate move to shift from the not glorious to the more glorious. Shift from negative to positive. Deliberately, with intention, as often as necessary.

Sometimes, you just have to do it a lot, over and over again. Other times it is easier. Just as with my two blog posts, sometimes it is wonderful sometime’s it ain’t. HOWEVER, it will always be whatever you make it. It will always be whatever you declare it to be.

You either affirm it as a problem or affirm it as a blessing. The choice is yours. The decision is yours. Learn to make new decisions and consider more and more in your life blessings and you will create, attract and re-frame more things as blessings.

What You Think Is What You Get – What You Say Is What You Get

You and your life will become richer and more blessed. The trade off is marvelous. It is! It can be beyond glorious. You only find out, however, by putting these principles into action. To know and not do is to not know. You life becomes glorious WHEN you take action!

Enjoy and delight more. Get hooked into trauma drama and crap less, regardless of what is occurring. Refuse to name things as problems but look at them as opportunities to discover cool things and they will be. It ain’t over till the fat lady sings! It is never done.

What you SAY is what YOU GET! Say what you want it to be and it will be that! YOU ARE THE AUTHORITY – you are responsible. No one else is. Make your life the life you want! Delight in everything. Enjoy everything. Feel blessed more often and you will be. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Have a day filled with blessings!

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Awareness, Conditioning, Focus, Living In The Moment

Another Reason Why You Are Suffering And How To Stop

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“Some people, maybe most all people, worry about the future. We have been trained and conditioned to try to solve future happenings. We think if we think it through enough maybe it will change. Some people can’t seem to stop thinking about it. They worry and fear.

Others drag the past around with them endlessly sifting through painful past moments. They have yet to let go. These people are weighted down by past experiences and spend much of their time reliving the hurt and disappointment. They regret so much.

Fewer live right now. It’s true most aren’t encouraged to do this. The present seems to always be sacrificed for some other moment. The difference with the present, from the past and the future, is the present is all we have. How we spend it IS how we live.

Do Not Look Back In Anger – Do Not Look Forward In Fear 

We can be present right now, in the here and now, or we can be sort of here now thinking about and feeling about other times. We have learned to rob ourselves of the pleasure of now. Right now there is no pain from the past and there is no anxiety about the future.

Those feelings are for other times. Right now, focused on right now, is all there is. Be right where you are. This moment. You can be happy right now. Mentally be where you are. It is perfect. The future has a not arrived, the past is over, there is nothing to worry about.

There is nothing to regret. Be here now. This moment is perfect. This moment you can be happy. This moment you can feel bliss. Gurus and sages have told you through the ages that now is when ALL IS available. That, this moment is perfect as it is.

Be Here Now In Awareness – Be Present

True, we have habits of thought, feeling and behavior. Shifting our focus from what we chronically do may not be the easiest thing to do but it is simple to do. The gurus say simply be here now. DROP the past and present. Bring your awareness to this moment.

What is going on right now? Can you feel the wind? What is the sensation? What are the smells? The sounds you hear? What are you seeing? Bring your attention to this moment and pay attention to whatever is going on. THIS we can learn to do. Shift our attention.

We must shift from the other times to pay attention to this time! Notice your breathing? Notice how the activity you are engaged in feels. If you are eating notice the flavor of your food as you chew. Put your attention on right this moment. Let go of all else.

The First Step To Changing Your Life Is Awareness

It is similar to how you learn to be a positive person. You shift your attention from the less than glorious to the glorious. You focus on what you have to be grateful for. You can shift to what is wonderful and you can be grateful for right now. YOU can do THIS! You can!

If you’re focused on right this instant you won’t be worrying about what’s coming.  You’re not concerned with what was.  Here and now is what your focus is on now. Some people will bother to concern themselves with thinking, how will they do anything in the future.

It will take care of it self.  Believe that, trust that for now. Don’t rob yourself of another moment with an excuse or a reason to put off what is good for you. You will encounter many thought red herrings that will take your attention away. Shift it back gently. Do it now.

The Mind Has Skill – Functionality – It Is A Robot – You Must Run It

Stay present. Begin the day, end the day focused on now. Whenever you can through the day draw your attention to now. It develops in increments. It develops in practice. It is done habitually as all else is. Learn to live now. Learn to focus and enjoy now. Learn to let go.

When the moment arrives to plan, you will plan in the here and now about the future without feeling anxiety about something that hasn’t happened yet. You do not know what will happen. You can’t see it yet. Enjoy the journey, notice where you are and step forward.

If it is around the bend you aren’t able to see around the bend so focus on where you are at.  The point of this discussion is, YOU always live from your conditioning. So to change you must change what you are conditioned to do. Stop feeling bad. Start feeling good.

Life Should Not Be Lived – Life Should Be Celebrated

To have change you must be change. You must do it. You must cease some things and initiate other things. The question of what you want for yourself will determine what you decide to do or not. It isn’t easy to learn to shift your focus but it isn’t easy to live in pain either.

It may be more comfortable to live in pain than to change it. That is because it is habit. If you change it one day living free from pain will be habit and comfortable too. It is your choice. Your decision right now determines what you have now and later. The power of choice!

If you put it off you put it off. You can begin this moment to live with greater awareness. You can begin to live life meditatively, more joyfully. You can ease your burdens and your worries and begin to find your bliss.  The power is In your decision.

Here And Now – That Is All There Is – Celebrate – Be Here Now

Work, whine and worry, fear, fret and despair OR live, love and laugh. Your choice. What you do next is completely up to you. My suggestion, if you struggle with this concept and practice, is do the least you can. Make one percent change your goal.

One percent, done correctly, repeatedly, consistently for enough time will result in  great change. It will result in incredible change! Do that, but don’t do nothing. Invest in yourself. Bring your attention to now. Deliberately delight. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Have a delightful day!

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Blessings, Celebration, Expectations, Focus

Beer Film Editing Parents And Breakfast

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“Who can say when anything actually begins. I could point back to a week ago or many years ago. I’ll start with editing a feature film. I just love synchronicity and life’s little blessings. You never know when or how but you can always expect to be pleasantly surprised.

Over a week ago I contacted my film editor to meet with me. We chose today. An early coffee shop meeting to discuss his vision for the film he is editing. He has been cataloging footage and reading and re-reading the script. I love his ideas. It was a wonderful.

Let me back track. I had been out of town for the past four days. A very good friend of mind was celebrating her birthday with her parents and friends on Sunday. I haven’t seen her parents in 20 years and some of the friends in about 5. I wasn’t sure I’d be able to go.

You Can Always Find Something Good Without Looking For It

She had the celebration for Sunday from 3 to 7. The conference I was at was to let out at 5pm on Sunday. Then I had a two hour drive back. If it was still going I might be able to stop by at the end. I did want to meet back up with her parents.

Fortunately, the conference ended early. I got back about 6 called and was told where they were. A wonderful Beirgarten I had never been to. I met up with her parents, our old friends, some new ones I did not know and spent a couple wonderful hours with them.

This morning I went to meet the editor. I texted my friend told her I enjoyed seeing her parents. Wished I could say good bye and tell them to have a safe trip home. Meeting the editor he said the coffee shop he picked wouldn’t open for another hour. There was another.

Synchronicity: The Universe Telling You – You Are Getting Warmer

Just up the street. We had to go around the block because we were south of the restaurant on a one way street. We went around, found another coffee shop and stopped to pull in there. However, it was metered parking, change only, and I didn’t want the hassle.

We pulled around and headed back to his first suggestion. They had a parking lot. We got the last empty spot. Went in and had some wonderful food and good conversation about the feature film. Over coffee our conversation turned to positive expectations.

We discussed how sometimes we miss good things because we are focused on the not so good. Suddenly as I was talking I realized I was looking right at my friend and her parents. They were in the same shop. She faced me but hadn’t seen me, yet, either. WOW! Cool!

Everything You Need Comes At A Perfect Time – It Always Does

I went over and said hi and they were as surprised as I was. We had ten or so minutes of very pleasant conversation and marveled at how fortunate we were to meet up again, since we had wished to. My friend mentioned she had looked for my car upon arriving.

It was from habit. Often we meet at a lake of for food and she seeks to find where I am parked. She stated she realized she was looking for my car when she should have been looking for her parent’s car. Anyway, we got to see each other again and send off well wishes.

It was a wonderful surprise. I returned to the table and told my editor friend about the Biergarten and this fortuitous meeting today. Oddly, he had been to the Biergarten a day earlier for the very first time. We both discovered a great new place to hang. Hmmmm….

Live – Learn – Love – Laugh – Celebrate Everything – You Are Blessed

The universe provides. I don’t care to believe or not believe in anything. Everyone chooses their own beliefs and rationale.I just enjoy it. I simply know good things come to those who expect good things to come to them. We get what we focus on.

Life is filled with blessings. There were countless decisions made by the 3 parties, my friend, my editor and me. Yet, we all ended up at the same place, at the same time, out of hundreds of possibilities. Coincidence, luck, serendipity, fate, whatever, it is good. I enjoyed.

I think the more we are grateful and they more we feel blessed in the little things the more room we make for more of them. This is a simple story about part of my day. I felt like sharing. I’m not sure why, but, perhaps, it will resonate with some readers. I hope you enjoy.

Expect A Miracle – Allow It To Happen – Then Celebrate Again

Meanwhile, find your blessings and the magical moments. Enjoy and savor them. Have fun, delight and expect more each day. In fact, expect a miracle. After all, why not? Keep the faith. Who knows when it might happen. May be a while, or not. Enjoy and in the meantime, celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Have a blessed day today!

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Focus, Intentional Thinking, Living In The Moment, Responsibility

Do This To Feel Better And Get What You Want

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“What is it that holds people back from happiness and success? Predominantly, it is not specifying what they want and focusing on it. People drift instead of focusing.  Most don’t take responsibility but complain and blame.  They lack of focus and don’t go for it

How did you do on the questions exercise? If you haven’t done it I hope you will. If you did it what did you discover? Repeat it every so often. It can be immensely helpful. Search my blog for questions, directed questions, and well-formed outcomes too. There is more!

What You Focus On Expands – You Get What You Focus On

Using questions is so powerful. We ask questions of ourselves all the time without realizing it. At other times we should be asking questions instead of making less than glorious affirmations or negative statements we accept as fact. Check into it.

As for the rest of the post today consider this:

Stop complaining. Do the best you can to change the situation. Know the direction you want to head in and head into it. Build what you want instead of tearing down what you don’t want. Direct yourself in positive ways. Learn to enjoy now for no reason.

It Is All About Focus – Focus Is What It Is All About – Focus

Go after your goals positively. Feel your best. Be optimistic and enjoy all life offers.  Explore the positive ways to feel good. Ask positive questions and maintain positive thoughts. Go for a walk, take a bath, do some form of physical activity. Something you enjoy!

Spend time with positive people. Read or listen to some inspirational material. Listen to some positive music. Dance, skip, get a massage, sauna, steam, take a bath. Have a wonderful meal. Whatever makes you enjoy more of life, do it. Concentrate on it and delight.

What Are You Focused On – It Is All About What You Focus On

Spend time feeling grateful. Count your blessings. Appreciate yourself, others and events that are pleasing to you. Meditate and reflect on the good in your life. Relax, take a nap, get some rest. Take a moment to enjoy yourself and celebrate everything.” Rex Sikes

Make today a day to smile about!

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Do You Know The 3 Power Questions For Clarity And Goal Getting?

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“Questions divide the world and help you to focus. You can direct your mind to what you want it to search for and find by using a question. Hopefully, you did the exercise from yesterday. If not, stop now, and read or re-read the previous post. Then continue on.

First question, did you answer what you wanted or didn’t want? Did you say ‘I want to be rich’ or ‘I don’t want to be broke’? It matters. Which words do you focus on in each question? Either rich or broke, right? If you are focused on broke you ‘ain’t gonna git rich!’ Git it?

Knowing what you don’t want is important to help you clarify what you do want. You focus must be on what you do want. If you said, ‘I don’t want to be broke’. Then the next step is Okay, what do you want? If you can’t answer that is a problem.

Learn To Ask Yourself Better Questions 

If you come back with another, ‘I don’t want so many bills’ then you are still focused on what you don’t want. OKAY then write out all the ‘I DON’T WANTS and get them out of your system. Then with each shift your attention to your wants.

I don’t want to be broke – may become – I want to be rich. I don’t want bills – may become – I want all my bills paid for easily. I don’t want to be fat – may become – I want to be my ideal weight. I don’t want a smoker – may become – I want someone health conscious.

Get it? What you focus on is what you get. If you have been primarily focused on what you don’t want that is what you will keep getting, creating or attracting. We become what we think about most often. What do you put your time, energy and attention into most often?

Questions Direct The Mind

The second question is why do you want it? Answering this will clarify what is important to you. It will shed light on the needs behind your goals and dreams. You may discover there are other productive ways to get what you want more easily and readily.

Sometimes these needs and wants are called our values. We want to feel important or significant. We want freedom or fun. We want to be relaxed or at ease or feel peace. We want to feel accomplished or creative. These are drivers behind the goal we are trying to fulfill.

We may fulfill these through what we want or in discovering other positive ways. YOU may find your wants changing during this process of self discovery. That is absolutely okay. Get clear about what you want, what is important to you and what stops you.

Stop Asking Why You Are Stupid Or Unlucky Or Broke

The third is WHY DON”T YOU HAVE IT? Your answer is the story, the reason, the excuse, the blames for why you aren’t making what you want happen. It is okay, we all have them. Just consider it. Why don’t you have what you want right now?

This answer, this story, this reason, this excuse is the WHY you don’t have it that you tell yourself over again and again. Your time, energy and attention is going into why it doesn’t happen or what is preventing and stopping you. Do you understand this? It is all focus!

You put more credence on the reasons why you don’t have it than you put energy into making it happen. Consider that. STOP! For goodness sake. STOP and actually consider this, Energy flows where your focus goes.

Learn To Ask Yourself Better Questions 

If you think, ‘I am broke because … You ain’t gonna get rich thinking broke and why you are. You aren’t going to create, attract and make happen what you want if your concentrated attention is on why you don’t have it. You are reinforcing not having and not getting it.

If you want to get it you will have to change your story. You must do things differently! You have to come up with all the reasons WHY you CAN HAVE IT – right NOW! You should write out a new story that reflects what you want to have. Be detailed and take your time.

What you say is what you get. What you say is based on your mental images and feelings. When you think to yourself or tell others the same story you perpetuate it. You keep it active. If you aren’t getting what you want, yet, then you must withdraw your energy.

You Get What You Focus On – You Become What You Think About

You must change what you talk about.Construct the story you want to live out. You are the author of your life, write the pages and chapters to be what you want. Remember, what you say is what you get. Choose and use your words wisely. Focus on what you want.

Focus on the good things in your life. Put your energy into what is good and what is right. Focus on solutions and on being  champion and victor. Focus on using your resourcefulness to make changes within yourself that result in changes in your outer world.

If you did these exercises honestly and thoroughly you will have gotten some valuable information for yourself to put into practice. If you blame others and make them responsible you have missed the point. If you blame others that is your excuse and gets you nowhere.

Ask Questions That Direct Your Mind In Useful Positive Ways

Each of us has to take responsibility for making our life the good life we want. Blaming others and circumstances is not the solution to getting what you want. Taking responsibility taking positive, inspired action steps that benefit you and everyone else will help you.

Blaming excuses you from getting your dreams by putting the responsibility on others or circumstances but doesn’t get you closer. Determining what you must think, feel and do will. Developing the habits that get you where you want to go will. Results begin within.

The results you get are directly tied to your thinking. So change your thinking. Change your story. Keep this in mind. You get what you focus on. You become what you think about. Once you know what you want and why you don’t have it put your attention elsewhere.

Get Clear About What You Want And Why You Want It

Put your attention on why you do have it! Imagine yourself to be the kind of positive person who does have it. What are you like? What do you think and feel and do? What does it feel like to be living the dream? Imagine all the good things.

During this process you may have discovered many beneficial things. Some may sting, some may be freeing. I encourage you to visit this again and again in coming weeks and months. Some people do it all their lives. It can be a valuable process to do on your wants.

Meanwhile, find ways to be thankful and appreciative for your new awarenesses. Be grateful for whatever you have come to understand. Learn from it. If you got better insight into these areas be happy. Learn from it. Extract the lessons. Apply the information.

To Know And Not To Do – Is To Not Know – Take Action

Apply the information to make your life and those lives around you a little easier and better. Enjoy this adventure and all of your journey. When you do you are truly blessed because you recognize each step and each obstacle IS a blessing. WOW! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Have a blessed day!

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3 Power Questions To Get You What You Don’t Yet Have

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“You could be living your goals and dreams right now! You do have dreams and goals, right? Perhaps, you want that perfect career or job.  Maybe you want to be rich and famous. You want the ‘right’ relationship with a partner or with your family.

You want a lifestyle that allows you to do what you want when you want it. Right? What do you want? Specify it. Elaborate. Be detailed. What are you focused on? Describe your desire. Write it down. Take your time. What do you want?  This is the first question.

STOP! Don’t read on until you answer the question.

Okay, if you did what is asked of you, proceed. Many people gloss over actually doing anything. They think if they just have the right information and know enough it will change them. It won’t. Applying the information is how you change. You must do in order to know.

Why do you want it? Variations on this question are – what will having it do for you or allow you to feel and do? Why is it important to you? Why must you have that? If you say it makes me feel good then ask why do you want to feel good? What does that do for you?

Keep asking the question. Be diligent. Specific. Elaborate. Take your time. STOP and answer thoroughly. What will being rich do for you? Why is being rich important? Ask until you can get no further. Push yourself through to discover the important WHY behind your want.

STOP! Don’t read on until you answer the question.

Why don’t you have it? WHY do YOU NOT have your DREAMS right now? Why don’t you have it yet? You know what you want but you don’t have it? Write down why not. Be specific. Elaborate. Be detailed. Take your time. DO IT! Don’t read on until you do.

I MEAN STOP! Don’t read on until you answer the question.

I know some of you blew past anyway.

Three simple, yet, powerful questions. If you genuinely ask these of yourself it will reveal much and you will learn a lot. Specify what you want. Discover why you must have it, how it is important to you. Then answer, why you don’t have it, yet. Your answers are important.

This IS a process of self discovery. Important things can come up for you and shed light on what is going on. You can discover much that is illuminating and helpful for moving forward. It can refresh you as each new day can if you allow it to. Increase your awareness. Enjoy.

Sit with your answers. Think about them. Go back over each and be absolutely diligent and honest. Next blog post I’ll share more on this process and what these questions and answers can do for you. In the meantime, reflect, learn, appreciate yourself and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Make your day AND someone else’s day marvelous!

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Do You Know How To Stop Suffering And Start Living?

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“Why do many people suffer and feel in pain? Often, it is something we do. If you suffer or are frustrated would you like to learn a new way to be, think and do? Would you like to end most of your suffering and begin to feel much better more often.

Much suffering is caused by how we use our minds. It is what we focus on. We can put an end to lots of personal suffering by changing how we use or mind and what we focus on. We can create new thought habits. There are those who can shut out pain and suffering.

Certain meditators and spiritual practitioners learn to control their focus of attention to such a degree that they can withstand much physical pain. They train so they can also endure mental and emotional pain and overcome it. They gain control, they take charge.

Why Am I Happy – I Feel Grateful Thankful And Blessed Every Day

We use correct repetition. What is correct repetition? It is doing the right thing, the right way, over again. We repeat it. We can practice the piano or a golf swing, for example, correctly or incorrectly. If we want to get good we need to do it the correct way each time.

By using correct repetition, consistently, we engage in the practice for a long enough time to make it a new reliable habit. That is how habits are born or acquired. It takes about a month to begin to form a new habit. 30 days from now you can be wonderfully different!

That is a guideline time for forming new habits. It depends on you. If you do the right thing consistently for a long enough period of time you will wire it in. Once the new habit begins to form it gets easier and easier. You enjoy it more and more! Okay, now, back to the pain.

The Smile On My Face Means I Appreciate My Blessings

Comparison creates pain. We compare ourselves to others; how tall or short; fat or thin we are; how good looking or not good looking; how rich or poor or what kind of things they have that we don’t. We try to keep up with the Jones. We hurt because we compare.

We compare where we are to where we want to be. We decided we want to work with the Law of Attraction, then we compare how fast or slow we got what we are working on. If it is not fast enough we suffer. If we don’t yet have it we complain it isn’t working.

We compare time frames.  We compare where we are today to  how far we have yet to go. If it is a long way off we suffer or get frustrated Most often, what we compare causes our suffering. It can be used it to find out how you are better off. You can us it to feel better too.

A Beautiful Day Begins With A Beautiful Mindset

Compare today to how you were before. Notice how you have evolved. Determine how far you have moved ahead and how blessed you have become. Look back and connect the dots with what you didn’t have to what you now do have. Feel fortunate. Use it wisely.

Make comparison work for you instead of against you. Live, laugh love and celebrate.  Drop painful comparison, let it go. Begin appreciating where you are. Be filled with gratitude for who you are, what you are, how you are, when you are, and where you are.

If you can come to understand that everything is perfect right at this moment you will always feel blessed. Yes, you weren’t brought up believing that, most likely. You were probably brought up to strive to get ahead and complain about circumstances not to your liking.

Every New Day Is An Opportunity To Feel Blessed For All Of It

I was. If you are able to adopt the mindset that everything is perfect then you are always blessed. It doesn’t mean you can’t change it, it means changing it is part of being perfect. Challenges are blessings. It means there is always something good about it right now.

You can find a lesson to learn from, or the seed of an opportunity that might germinate and take hold if you allow it and nurture it. Nothing is over, we are always in a process. We are always right where we are in this process. Let go, accept and enjoy it all.

It is a journey and wherever we are along the way is an exploration and an adventure. Adventures have ups and downs. It is what makes many carnival rides fun. Life can be fun too. Stop suffering by comparing and start living large by accepting.

The Situation Will Ultimately Be To Your Benefit – So Be Happy

The moment you start acting like like is a blessing is the moment it will start to feel like one. Discover the thousands of reasons you have to feel blessed. Choose to feel blessed! Choose to feel happy. Choose to feel exited. Choose to feel grateful and appreciative. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Bring a smile to your lips more often!

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Inside Your Room Without Windows You Can’t See The Blue Sky But It’s There!

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“You know there is a vast blue sky above you. Beyond that the infinite span of universe. Where planets, stars and astral bodies are countless. Vast, great, immense, wealthy is the universe. Abundant beyond our imagination. We cannot begin to  conceive all there is.

Now imagine you are lying in bed in a room. 4 walls a floor plus ceiling. You look up and around and you think that is all there is. There is only as much room from wall to wall and from floor to ceiling. This is your known space. You can’t see the sky outside.

You aren’t aware of the vast blue sky beyond the ceiling. You only know what you see in front of you.  You are certain that is all it is because that is all you have ever experienced. The walls and ceiling are your known limits. That is all there is. Yet, outside, the sky.

The Only Limitations You Will Ever Have Are Ones You Allow

Just because you experience limits doesn’t mean you have to remain limited. It doesn’t mean there isn’t more available. It only means you’ve go as far as have and not beyond. The only limitations that exist are the ones inside our own minds.

The universe is abundant. It is rich. The world we live in has more than enough for all. Limits are created by humans, by cartels. People restrict the flow. Consider money. There are trillions and trillions and trillions of dollars circulating, changing hands, every minute.

Yet, many of us live as paupers in all areas of our life. Finances, fun, romance, family, leisure, work and career, health and happiness. We aren’t limited but we don’t know the sky exists. We only see the walls before us. To be free we must see beyond what is in front of us.

There Are No Limits Only Plateaus – You Must Go Beyond Them

More people don’t experience abundance because they are preoccupied with only what they know. Their problems and disappointments, their frustrations and their bills. Their lack of time and happiness to enjoy the wonderful life we all our blessed to have.

Most people miss it. Don’t. Seek and you shall find. The truth shall set you free. Create a window in your walls and ceiling so you can begin to move beyond what you know into the limitless possibilities that are there for you. Stop being limited by the visible boundaries.

Start feeling gratitude for all there is that you can know and experience. Feel gratitude for the good that is coming your way that you can’t see yet. Allow yourself to feel free and know you can have access to all of it. Life offers everything to you. Take hold of it.

Don’t Limit Your Challenges – Challenge Your Limits

Don’t live with the delusion that there isn’t more, or that there isn’t enough. There is plenty. Abundance is what you and I were born into. Claim it. Demand it. Accept it and allow it. Don’t live as a pauper when you can live as an emperor. Awareness is the beginning.

Begin to think as one who is abundant in all areas of life. Act as if and affirm it. See it, feel it, speak it, hear it, taste and smell it. Don’t deny yourself all that there is available. Think it. As Napoleon Hill said, ‘whatever you can conceive and believe you can achieve’.

Focus your thoughts for positive success and create the life you want to have. Go beyond the limits in your mind. Take control of your thoughts and create the life you can imagine having. You can be, do and have anything when you put your mind to it. Delight, enjoy and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Enjoy, delight and celebrate today.

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